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  • - The Bible tells us thatsome days Jesus was so busy.
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  • He didn't even have time to eat.
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  • Now , I rarely experience
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  • that kind of carblessbusy-ness but Jesus,
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  • the King of our Kingswent through seasons
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  • where he was so busythat he didn't eat.
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  • He told his disciples,
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  • "Let's go off by ourselvesto a quiet place,
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  • to rest a while."
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  • He actually neededto take breaks
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  • and in his incarnate self.
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  • And so if you're feeling likeyou need to rethink your pace,
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  • that you need to weave somemore breaks into your calendar,
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  • you are not alone.
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  • We're going to talkabout that today.
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  • (soft music)
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  • - Every single one of usfinds a moment in their lives
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  • where we realized thecurrent pay for living
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  • is just not going tocontinue to cut it.
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  • That at some point, somethingcomes into our lives
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  • that says, "You needto change things up.
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  • You need to mix it up.
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  • Things are going to needto slow down for you
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  • for a little bit."
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  • And that actually happenedfor me almost three years ago,
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  • we were about to celebrateour 20th anniversary.
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  • We had a son who was atthe time, 17, 15 and 13.
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  • So two boys and a girl.
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  • And essentially we thoughtwe were about five years out
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  • of being emptynesters completely.
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  • And instead God had somethingelse in store for us.
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  • The idea of adoption
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  • had kind of been a threeminute conversation,
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  • every five years.
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  • And it was kind of whensomething like this,
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  • like, could we,should we, maybe no,
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  • I think we're good.
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  • I mean, that wastypically how it went.
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  • We had spent some of that time,
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  • like I said, in New York city
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  • and so we had about 1100square feet for the five of us.
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  • And our three kids sharedthe master bedroom,
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  • like three bears,
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  • like just three twinbeds lined up in a row
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  • and then Gab and Ihad the second bedroom
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  • and then we would walk inthat room and fall into bed.
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  • So I don't even know
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  • where we thought wewould put a fourth child
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  • except maybe in the bathtub.
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  • So it just didn't seem possible
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  • to even fathom how addingto our family at this point
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  • could even happen.
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  • Couple that with the factthat I was, you know,
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  • traveling a good bit andjust didn't even understand
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  • how to make this work,
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  • but we moved to Nashville
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  • and a lot of people weretalking about adoption
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  • and because it hadbeen in my heart
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  • since my youngestdaughter was born,
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  • my basically, mylast biological,
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  • that's why I feel like itwas like sand in your shoe.
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  • It kind of just was an irritant
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  • that you couldn't shake.
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  • And so as a result, Iremember telling God one day,
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  • I just said, "If youwant this to happen,
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  • you're going to needto make it happen."
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  • And I need you toput her right here
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  • and I'll name her joy.
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  • And the idea behind that
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  • was just because Ihad walked through
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  • about a seven year stretch
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  • that began with a little bitof depression and anxiety.
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  • And I remember in thatseason, I kept saying,
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  • "Restore to me, thejoy of my salvation,
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  • restore to me thejoy of my salvation."
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  • And I claimed Psalm 126,
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  • where he says, "Thosewho sow in tears,
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  • burying the seedwill reap a harvest,
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  • carrying songs ofjoy with them."
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  • And so it was just kindof this idea of joy.
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  • I had thatconversation with Jesus
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  • in my minivan in the garage
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  • and then I went inside andkind of forgot all about it.
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  • And within a couple yearsI had a friend of mine,
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  • Meredith who texted mea photo of a little girl
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  • right here fromBeijing and I said,
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  • "She's adorable,what's her name?"
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  • And she said, Chara, C-H-A-R-A.
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  • And I said, "Oh, you meanthe Greek word for joy?"
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  • And she said, "Yes."
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  • And if that's notenough to convince you
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  • that you need to pay attention,
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  • I don't know what, what is.
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  • And I remembertelling my husband,
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  • whereas in thepast it was kind of
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  • a very quick conversation,
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  • but within two daysof that week, he said,
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  • "Text me, we need totalk about Chara."
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  • And his response as a father,
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  • just stepping intothis, he says,
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  • "I believe God is invitingus into something."
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  • And there's
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  • we have no idea what's on theother side of this surrender.
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  • Yes, this mightbe more important
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  • than anything we've everdone to the heart of God.
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  • We have no idea.
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  • So let's step into this andof course I was nervous,
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  • but I knew immediately likethis meant that my life,
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  • as I had it, as the freedomthat I thought that I had
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  • needed to shift.
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  • And I would need to Havea lot more time at home
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  • and I would actually needto have a lot more time
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  • just preparing for her.
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  • It was like a pregnancyin so many ways,
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  • we had about nine months
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  • before we would even havethe idea of getting to travel
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  • to to pick her up.
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  • And the the beautifulthing about Joyce story
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  • is that my oldest son, Cade,
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  • had a down syndrome diagnosis
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  • about six hours after hewas born when I was 26.
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  • And we always knew that wewanted to choose down syndrome
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  • if we ever got thatopportunity again.
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  • And so joy was a little girlwho was left at a hospital
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  • when she was four months oldby her family, supposedly.
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  • And so we really believe thatGod just preserved her life,
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  • got her in an orphanage,
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  • raised her up until shewas five and a half.
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  • By the time we got to herand the beautiful thing
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  • that I would havenever considered downsyndrome initially,
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  • but because God broughtCade, 17 years ago,
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  • it's because he also knewthat he would bring joy
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  • and that we wouldn't be asintimidated by that decision
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  • because we had walked it andour answer would be, "Yes."
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  • And so what thatlooked like for me
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  • in the rest categoryof changing my life
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  • that year preparingfor her to come home,
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  • Gab and I doubleddown on like marriage.
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  • Like we were like,
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  • "Are we worthy of her?
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  • Like, is our marriagein a healthy place?"
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  • And I remember calling ourfriend Emerson and saying,
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  • "We need to just come up andvisit and get, get a tuneup."
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  • And I remember him saying,
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  • "Is this is a tune up,or is this an intensive?"
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  • We're like, "Oh, it's just atune up, right. It'll be fine."
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  • And so we get up there andabout 21 hours into counseling,
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  • we're like, it might be alittle more than a tuneup.
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  • And the beautifulthing about rest is,
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  • sometimes there are thingsthat are left unsaid,
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  • because it's, we just don'treally want to go there.
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  • And I think arestful relationship,
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  • a restful marriageis just making sure
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  • that we're healthy and thatwe're communicating things.
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  • And like those deepestlongings of our hearts
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  • are being saidand received well.
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  • And then we doubleddown in parenting,
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  • like wanting to make surethat with our teams like
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  • that they felt ready,
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  • that they were in harmonywith each other, with us.
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  • And it felt like a realyear of just going like,
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  • this is how ourfamily is gonna slow.
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  • She's gonna enter a home offive adults, essentially.
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  • And we want to make roomfor slow, for Sabbath,
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  • for margin, becauseshe's going to adjust
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  • to the idea of siblings andparents for the very first time.
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  • And quite frankly,
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  • I'm really glad
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  • that the Lord allowedthat year to re posture
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  • kind of my mode of goingand doing and just said,
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  • "I need to go ahead and carveout those first nine months
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  • that she's home to be home."
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  • and to slow down the traveland to just be present for her
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  • and help her learn Englishbefore she starts school,
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  • about nine monthsafter she got home.
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  • And that was a kind of amidlife reset yet again.
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  • And I think God invitesus into those things.
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  • It doesn't have to bea story of adoption,
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  • but sometimes heinvites us into seasons
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  • that just requirea reset, a pause,
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  • a stillness that goes like,
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  • "I'm making a way I'm preparingyou for a new season."
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  • and a heart anda posture of rest
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  • is how you're going toneed to approach that.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - I love Rebecca that youassociate emotional wholeness
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  • with rest, because again,
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  • it's more about God'scompassion for us
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  • than it is our calendar.
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  • And I think it's a giftthat he gives us resets
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  • and he says,
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  • "I want you to, to thinkabout your priorities."
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  • That's part of what Sabbath is.
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  • It's being intentional
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  • about where we're spendingour time and our energy.
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  • And, you know, I can'tnot comment on adoption
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  • because I'm sucha pathologicallybiased about adoption
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  • because other than my salvation
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  • misses the greatestgift in my life.
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  • But I remember when Ibrought her home from Haiti,
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  • after a couple of weeks,
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  • she was a singlemom, old single mom.
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  • I went through motherhoodmenopause at the same time.
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  • And I remember callingsome friends, Chris,
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  • I remember I calledyou and I went,
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  • "Y'all I have got to apologize."
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  • Because I always thought
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  • moms who did not workoutside the home,
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  • Karen, you can punch mein the throat for this.
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  • But I thought theywere kind of lazy
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  • because I was like,"Goodness gracious,
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  • how hard can it be totake care of a child?"
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  • And about two weeks in,
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  • I thought I am tired tothe marrow of my bones.
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  • Cause you know, asan old adoptive mom,
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  • I wasn't sleepingthrough the night,
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  • and I was listening forevery little peep from Missy
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  • and God even used thatseason for me to go, okay.
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  • Part of me,
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  • part of the gift God hasgiven me is to use my brain
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  • to reprioritize howI'm living my life.
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  • Things are going tolook differently.
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  • I can't keep everythingon my schedule
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  • that I was dealing beforethis massive change
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  • and massive gift in my life.
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  • And Chris, you,
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  • one of the things Ilove the most about you
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  • is you run hard, butin the 10 or 15 years,
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  • I've done life with you.
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  • And, you know,
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  • I told my sisterrecently that Missy said
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  • in front of her that youwere her favorite aunt.
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  • That was a littleawkward moment,
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  • but you are able to run so hard
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  • because you are reallyintentional about what you do
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  • and what you don't do.
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  • And I think that'sone of the things
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  • we need to talk about with rest.
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  • There is an active partof learning to rest.
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  • - Absolutely.
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  • And in every differentseason it looks different.
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  • And so if you're not willingto change with the seasons,
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  • you can still be having atechnical one day off a week,
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  • but be totally exhaustedor anxious or frustrated
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  • or disappointed,
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  • which actually doesnot achieve the goal
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  • of what Sabbath restis, which is, you know,
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  • a peace in your heartand intimacy with God.
  • 00:10:15.337 --> 00:10:18.307
  • So I think for all of us,
  • 00:10:18.307 --> 00:10:19.608
  • if we're going to learnto practice this well,
  • 00:10:19.608 --> 00:10:21.544
  • you have to get intohabit of knowing,
  • 00:10:21.544 --> 00:10:24.213
  • if I'm going to keeppressing on for what God has,
  • 00:10:24.213 --> 00:10:26.849
  • which is why Sabbath rest isinstituted into our lives.
  • 00:10:26.849 --> 00:10:30.386
  • So we can keep pressing on,
  • 00:10:30.386 --> 00:10:31.821
  • you got to let go inorder to lay a hold of.
  • 00:10:31.821 --> 00:10:34.957
  • And a lot of us, we try tohold on and lay a hold off.
  • 00:10:34.957 --> 00:10:39.028
  • And then we have anemotional breakdown.
  • 00:10:39.028 --> 00:10:40.796
  • And then we go,
  • 00:10:40.796 --> 00:10:42.331
  • "Well, I tried to do Sabbathand I had a day off a week."
  • 00:10:42.331 --> 00:10:44.667
  • And I think, you know,
  • 00:10:44.667 --> 00:10:45.601
  • yesterday, Holly used the word
  • 00:10:45.601 --> 00:10:47.837
  • and I'm sure during the weekwe'll talk about it a lot more.
  • 00:10:47.837 --> 00:10:50.573
  • It's supposed to berest, not escape.
  • 00:10:50.573 --> 00:10:53.642
  • If we do not learn to letgo of things along the way,
  • 00:10:53.642 --> 00:10:57.847
  • we will end up escaping.
  • 00:10:57.847 --> 00:11:00.149
  • And that could looktotally different.
  • 00:11:00.149 --> 00:11:01.851
  • For some people escapingmight be shopping on Amazon
  • 00:11:01.851 --> 00:11:04.987
  • for, you know, endless hours
  • 00:11:04.987 --> 00:11:07.323
  • or for someone else watchingbinge watching Netflix.
  • 00:11:07.323 --> 00:11:10.326
  • And, and even itcould be PG shows,
  • 00:11:10.326 --> 00:11:13.095
  • but you just bingewatching the whole thing
  • 00:11:13.095 --> 00:11:14.830
  • and the whole day is gone
  • 00:11:14.830 --> 00:11:17.032
  • or it could be havingan extra glass of wine,
  • 00:11:17.032 --> 00:11:20.169
  • maybe something elseto do, you know,
  • 00:11:20.169 --> 00:11:22.238
  • prescription drugs or somethingthat you just kind of going,
  • 00:11:22.238 --> 00:11:24.974
  • I'm going overboardand overboard
  • 00:11:24.974 --> 00:11:27.710
  • because the Sabbath dayof rest is not achieving
  • 00:11:27.710 --> 00:11:30.679
  • what it's meant to achieve
  • 00:11:30.679 --> 00:11:31.881
  • because actuallyyou're not resting.
  • 00:11:31.881 --> 00:11:33.716
  • You're not trusting God.
  • 00:11:33.716 --> 00:11:34.984
  • You're trying to justadd more and more on.
  • 00:11:34.984 --> 00:11:37.353
  • And so I think for 30years by God's grace,
  • 00:11:37.353 --> 00:11:41.190
  • what has kept me going is notso much that I'm just driven.
  • 00:11:42.658 --> 00:11:46.796
  • God has put an internalget up and go in me that,
  • 00:11:46.796 --> 00:11:50.266
  • that that is you can'tfake this for 30 years.
  • 00:11:50.266 --> 00:11:52.835
  • So obviously the Lordhas wired me up that way.
  • 00:11:52.835 --> 00:11:55.738
  • It's part of who I am,
  • 00:11:55.738 --> 00:11:57.173
  • but I have learned andincreasingly to let go
  • 00:11:58.374 --> 00:12:02.578
  • as much as I lay a hold of.
  • 00:12:02.578 --> 00:12:04.180
  • Cause that meansI've constantly got
  • 00:12:04.180 --> 00:12:06.282
  • what I would term aSabbath margin in my life.
  • 00:12:06.282 --> 00:12:09.718
  • So if you don'tallow that margin
  • 00:12:09.718 --> 00:12:11.453
  • and you can insert the word,you know, Sabbath margin,
  • 00:12:11.453 --> 00:12:14.423
  • it's not going to happen.
  • 00:12:14.423 --> 00:12:15.891
  • And here we are in themidst of the COVID season
  • 00:12:15.891 --> 00:12:18.561
  • and I'm watchingpeople all around me
  • 00:12:18.561 --> 00:12:20.196
  • go into different ways.
  • 00:12:20.196 --> 00:12:22.097
  • Like you could still be
  • 00:12:22.097 --> 00:12:23.599
  • for someone to saythat does what I do.
  • 00:12:23.599 --> 00:12:25.801
  • I'm perhaps someone watchingthis program, you know,
  • 00:12:25.801 --> 00:12:29.071
  • your life has radicallyaltered as well.
  • 00:12:29.071 --> 00:12:31.240
  • Like I traveled extensively.
  • 00:12:31.240 --> 00:12:32.775
  • I did 300 days a year.
  • 00:12:32.775 --> 00:12:33.943
  • Well, you know,
  • 00:12:33.943 --> 00:12:35.477
  • I'm getting on a plane 300days a year at this point,
  • 00:12:35.477 --> 00:12:38.914
  • but I could have still beenstressed out during this season.
  • 00:12:38.914 --> 00:12:43.919
  • Like staying athome, not traveling,
  • 00:12:45.054 --> 00:12:46.055
  • being freaked out about
  • 00:12:46.055 --> 00:12:47.590
  • what is everythinggoing to look like?
  • 00:12:47.590 --> 00:12:49.191
  • Creating work that the Lordnever wanted me to create.
  • 00:12:49.191 --> 00:12:52.061
  • Like I could havejust in my case,
  • 00:12:52.061 --> 00:12:54.830
  • the Lord neverasked me to do like
  • 00:12:54.830 --> 00:12:57.299
  • Facebook live every dayor IG live every day
  • 00:12:57.299 --> 00:12:59.802
  • or some other thing every day.
  • 00:12:59.802 --> 00:13:01.670
  • It was like, keep doingwhat you're doing.
  • 00:13:01.670 --> 00:13:03.005
  • Do do these programs.
  • 00:13:03.005 --> 00:13:04.473
  • I had to hear fromthe Lord about
  • 00:13:04.473 --> 00:13:06.709
  • what should I beimplementing in this time?
  • 00:13:06.709 --> 00:13:09.445
  • And there was a lotthat I implemented
  • 00:13:09.445 --> 00:13:10.913
  • and a whole lot that I didn't.
  • 00:13:10.913 --> 00:13:12.314
  • And so it actuallycreated the Sabbath margin
  • 00:13:12.314 --> 00:13:16.685
  • that I had been lookingfor any way in my life.
  • 00:13:16.685 --> 00:13:19.321
  • And I had to just cope inmyself, going at times,
  • 00:13:19.321 --> 00:13:23.459
  • I'm a little bit bored,
  • 00:13:23.459 --> 00:13:24.960
  • but if I just start somethingfor the sake of starting it,
  • 00:13:24.960 --> 00:13:28.230
  • I'm going to godown a rabbit hole.
  • 00:13:28.230 --> 00:13:29.899
  • So my spiritual mum,
  • 00:13:29.899 --> 00:13:31.400
  • Joyce Meyer, I wouldcall her and she'd go,
  • 00:13:31.400 --> 00:13:33.102
  • "Chris, God's tryingto teach you something.
  • 00:13:33.102 --> 00:13:35.571
  • You have got to learn to sitin that boredom for a while
  • 00:13:35.571 --> 00:13:38.140
  • because God wants to dosomething on the inside of you."
  • 00:13:38.140 --> 00:13:40.609
  • Don't just start somethingbecause I'm a finisher.
  • 00:13:40.609 --> 00:13:43.145
  • And even if God never told meto start it, if I started it,
  • 00:13:43.145 --> 00:13:46.115
  • I would have to finish it.
  • 00:13:46.115 --> 00:13:47.349
  • And then I'm going tocreate more stress.
  • 00:13:47.349 --> 00:13:49.151
  • And I think sometimeswe do that in our lives.
  • 00:13:49.151 --> 00:13:51.086
  • We just start awhole lot of stuff
  • 00:13:51.086 --> 00:13:52.521
  • that the Lord neverasked us to start.
  • 00:13:52.521 --> 00:13:54.356
  • And then we feel anobligation to see it through.
  • 00:13:54.356 --> 00:13:56.959
  • And then we wonder why we'recollapsing at the end of it.
  • 00:13:56.959 --> 00:13:59.628
  • So even during a COVID season,
  • 00:13:59.628 --> 00:14:01.563
  • there's that navigation of like,
  • 00:14:01.563 --> 00:14:04.300
  • okay, what is rest?
  • 00:14:04.300 --> 00:14:06.268
  • What is escape?
  • 00:14:06.268 --> 00:14:08.037
  • What is frustration?
  • 00:14:08.037 --> 00:14:10.205
  • What maybe does God want meto implement in this time?
  • 00:14:10.205 --> 00:14:13.275
  • And what doesn't he want to?
  • 00:14:13.275 --> 00:14:15.144
  • So I'm used to getting in acar, driving to an airport,
  • 00:14:15.144 --> 00:14:19.048
  • getting on a schedule fordifferent planes, you know,
  • 00:14:19.048 --> 00:14:21.417
  • planes being canceled.
  • 00:14:21.417 --> 00:14:22.618
  • So my mind's alwaysgoing like this.
  • 00:14:22.618 --> 00:14:25.054
  • So I've had sixmonths of going, okay,
  • 00:14:25.054 --> 00:14:28.390
  • I've still got to do whatthe Lord's called me to do,
  • 00:14:28.390 --> 00:14:30.526
  • and then learn how tomanage my internal emotions
  • 00:14:30.526 --> 00:14:35.130
  • on how not to get out of whack
  • 00:14:35.130 --> 00:14:36.832
  • and find peace when thereare a lot of other things
  • 00:14:36.832 --> 00:14:40.235
  • that there's justa lot more ease.
  • 00:14:40.235 --> 00:14:42.604
  • And don't just create something
  • 00:14:42.604 --> 00:14:45.607
  • to try to numb thediscomfort or the boredom
  • 00:14:45.607 --> 00:14:49.178
  • or the frustration,
  • 00:14:49.178 --> 00:14:50.713
  • because I can'tsee the next thing
  • 00:14:50.713 --> 00:14:52.247
  • and God, what's itgoing to look like?
  • 00:14:52.247 --> 00:14:54.850
  • All of that is learning.
  • 00:14:54.850 --> 00:14:56.385
  • I've been learning Sabbath ina different way during COVID,
  • 00:14:56.385 --> 00:14:58.754
  • because I have been athome. And if I wanted to,
  • 00:14:58.754 --> 00:15:01.557
  • I could technically pull aseven day Sabbath and say,
  • 00:15:01.557 --> 00:15:04.626
  • "I'm going to catch upfor the last 30 years"
  • 00:15:04.626 --> 00:15:06.462
  • and still be as stressedby the end of it
  • 00:15:06.462 --> 00:15:09.465
  • and still be freaked out.
  • 00:15:09.465 --> 00:15:10.933
  • But because I've learned,
  • 00:15:10.933 --> 00:15:13.102
  • I think the processinternally of going
  • 00:15:13.102 --> 00:15:15.738
  • that Sabbath margin is indifferent seasons finding
  • 00:15:15.738 --> 00:15:18.907
  • what do I have to let go of?
  • 00:15:18.907 --> 00:15:20.042
  • What do I lay a hold of?
  • 00:15:20.042 --> 00:15:21.377
  • And where do I have to sit
  • 00:15:21.377 --> 00:15:23.012
  • with the discomfort toallow the Holy spirit to do
  • 00:15:23.012 --> 00:15:25.214
  • what he wants todo on the inside?
  • 00:15:25.214 --> 00:15:27.383
  • Well I can do thatwhile I'm catching,
  • 00:15:27.383 --> 00:15:29.885
  • while I'm on theroad 300 days a year
  • 00:15:29.885 --> 00:15:31.453
  • and I can do it while I'mstuck at home in quarantine,
  • 00:15:31.453 --> 00:15:33.989
  • during Covid as well.
  • 00:15:33.989 --> 00:15:35.491
  • You've got to still findthat same sub with margin.
  • 00:15:35.491 --> 00:15:37.893
  • So Holly, I'm kind of,
  • 00:15:37.893 --> 00:15:39.762
  • that's how it was working forme in this season. Anyway.
  • 00:15:39.762 --> 00:15:42.464
  • - To your point, I think COVIDhas been the reset, right?
  • 00:15:42.664 --> 00:15:45.768
  • For a lot of us,
  • 00:15:45.768 --> 00:15:47.036
  • it's pushed some buttonsand caused us to reframe
  • 00:15:47.036 --> 00:15:50.339
  • what we think is restful, right?
  • 00:15:50.339 --> 00:15:53.675
  • What truly is thatrest that rest,
  • 00:15:53.675 --> 00:15:56.979
  • because here's the thing,
  • 00:15:56.979 --> 00:15:57.913
  • it's like, there have been times
  • 00:15:57.913 --> 00:15:59.481
  • when I have laid in bed, right?
  • 00:15:59.481 --> 00:16:03.986
  • And so that's aposture of rest, right.
  • 00:16:03.986 --> 00:16:05.854
  • Laying in bed.
  • 00:16:05.854 --> 00:16:06.822
  • And so my body is laying there,
  • 00:16:06.822 --> 00:16:09.291
  • but my mind is going athousand miles an hour.
  • 00:16:09.291 --> 00:16:13.962
  • And my, it's like, I'mthinking about things,
  • 00:16:13.962 --> 00:16:16.298
  • I'm is this, am I,should I do this?
  • 00:16:16.298 --> 00:16:18.200
  • So my body's in rest,but my mind is not.
  • 00:16:18.200 --> 00:16:22.104
  • Right, my soul is not.
  • 00:16:22.104 --> 00:16:23.539
  • And so I think for me,it's really been the battle
  • 00:16:23.539 --> 00:16:28.010
  • and the journey to asoul that's at rest.
  • 00:16:28.010 --> 00:16:32.848
  • And that can happen.
  • 00:16:32.848 --> 00:16:35.184
  • I'm still going full speed.
  • 00:16:36.452 --> 00:16:38.487
  • It's like, there arepeople that will say to me,
  • 00:16:38.487 --> 00:16:40.589
  • I've had people and thisis why I think, you know,
  • 00:16:40.589 --> 00:16:42.991
  • just being mindfulabout the voices
  • 00:16:42.991 --> 00:16:45.427
  • that get to speak intoyour world, right?
  • 00:16:45.427 --> 00:16:47.830
  • So there are peoplewho can challenge me
  • 00:16:47.830 --> 00:16:50.032
  • and I'm open for correction.
  • 00:16:50.032 --> 00:16:51.667
  • I'm not, you know, Ithink there've been times
  • 00:16:51.667 --> 00:16:53.135
  • I've been a stubborn mule,
  • 00:16:53.135 --> 00:16:54.470
  • but I'm open forcorrection. So I allow that.
  • 00:16:54.470 --> 00:16:57.172
  • But I've also had to becareful because like, you know,
  • 00:16:57.172 --> 00:17:00.142
  • Chris just were speaking about,
  • 00:17:00.142 --> 00:17:01.577
  • I run hard and fast and thereare people who will say,
  • 00:17:01.577 --> 00:17:04.446
  • you're, you know, you'rejust doing too much.
  • 00:17:04.446 --> 00:17:06.248
  • You just need to slow down.
  • 00:17:06.248 --> 00:17:07.549
  • No, actually I'mat rest in this.
  • 00:17:07.549 --> 00:17:10.586
  • Like there I am graced forwhat I've been graced for.
  • 00:17:10.586 --> 00:17:14.523
  • And so that's, I thinkthe question that,
  • 00:17:14.523 --> 00:17:17.326
  • that probably people needto answer for themselves.
  • 00:17:17.326 --> 00:17:21.530
  • It's what, what isrestful for you?
  • 00:17:21.530 --> 00:17:24.566
  • Because you can be doingnothing laying in your bed
  • 00:17:24.566 --> 00:17:28.103
  • and freaking out.
  • 00:17:28.103 --> 00:17:29.705
  • We opened this session,
  • 00:17:29.705 --> 00:17:31.173
  • it was that scripture inMark about Jesus, you know,
  • 00:17:31.173 --> 00:17:34.176
  • saying, "Let us gooff to a quiet place."
  • 00:17:34.176 --> 00:17:36.712
  • Right, well, the thingabout Jesus is that
  • 00:17:36.712 --> 00:17:39.615
  • in that instance, he'sfinding rest with people
  • 00:17:39.615 --> 00:17:43.385
  • that he was close to.
  • 00:17:43.385 --> 00:17:44.786
  • - Right.
  • 00:17:44.786 --> 00:17:46.288
  • - Right. His homies, hisbuddies, he was close to,
  • 00:17:46.288 --> 00:17:48.557
  • but then he also spent alot of time by himself.
  • 00:17:48.557 --> 00:17:51.827
  • - Right.
  • 00:17:51.827 --> 00:17:53.061
  • - Right and that thetimes by himself,
  • 00:17:53.061 --> 00:17:54.696
  • he wasn't binging TV showshe wasn't off chain smoking.
  • 00:17:54.696 --> 00:17:58.333
  • Again, that's notjudgment on people.
  • 00:17:58.333 --> 00:17:59.935
  • It's just like he didwhat brought rest to him,
  • 00:17:59.935 --> 00:18:02.337
  • which was connectingwith God, right.
  • 00:18:02.337 --> 00:18:04.706
  • Having that momentto connect with God.
  • 00:18:04.706 --> 00:18:07.376
  • And so I, you know, I thinkthat at the core, right,
  • 00:18:07.376 --> 00:18:11.747
  • resting is knowingwe're at peace with God.
  • 00:18:11.747 --> 00:18:16.752
  • And I think that when weall get to that place,
  • 00:18:17.920 --> 00:18:19.788
  • when we know, and thoseof you watching, you know,
  • 00:18:19.788 --> 00:18:22.291
  • that's why it's the striveto enter the rest of God.
  • 00:18:22.291 --> 00:18:24.393
  • It's doing thework to understand
  • 00:18:24.393 --> 00:18:25.928
  • that you are at peace with God.
  • 00:18:25.928 --> 00:18:27.262
  • God is not mad at you, right.
  • 00:18:27.262 --> 00:18:29.798
  • And when you understand that,
  • 00:18:29.798 --> 00:18:31.233
  • when there's this peacebetween you and God,
  • 00:18:31.233 --> 00:18:33.268
  • then it doesn't matteralmost the work that you do
  • 00:18:33.268 --> 00:18:35.737
  • or how fast, because thereis a peace in your soul,
  • 00:18:35.737 --> 00:18:38.907
  • anyway, so that'sjust some thoughts.
  • 00:18:38.907 --> 00:18:40.108
  • Karen, what do you think?
  • 00:18:40.108 --> 00:18:41.343
  • - Well, yeah, I think I want,
  • 00:18:42.544 --> 00:18:44.046
  • I want to go back to whatyou guys were saying earlier
  • 00:18:44.046 --> 00:18:46.014
  • about how sometimeswe confuse rest
  • 00:18:46.014 --> 00:18:48.183
  • with just not doing anything.
  • 00:18:48.183 --> 00:18:50.018
  • I think sometimes inthat, the season of COVID,
  • 00:18:50.018 --> 00:18:52.487
  • especially when everythingwas being canceled
  • 00:18:52.487 --> 00:18:54.623
  • and we had like no activitieson the family calendar
  • 00:18:54.623 --> 00:18:58.427
  • and I was like,
  • 00:18:58.427 --> 00:18:59.361
  • "Oh yeah, we're arresting.
  • 00:18:59.361 --> 00:19:00.195
  • Like, this is great.
  • 00:19:00.195 --> 00:19:01.129
  • We've got nothing going on."
  • 00:19:01.129 --> 00:19:02.631
  • But it all kind of came toa head couple of months ago
  • 00:19:02.631 --> 00:19:05.767
  • and I'm sitting at the table,
  • 00:19:05.767 --> 00:19:07.102
  • homeschooling my little girl,
  • 00:19:07.102 --> 00:19:08.870
  • and we're going throughmath, which, you know,
  • 00:19:08.870 --> 00:19:10.405
  • this isn't going to go anywhere.
  • 00:19:10.405 --> 00:19:12.007
  • Good if I'm homeschooling math.
  • 00:19:12.007 --> 00:19:14.276
  • But anyway, we're doing math
  • 00:19:14.276 --> 00:19:15.811
  • and she continuously keptthis one problem wrong.
  • 00:19:15.811 --> 00:19:19.615
  • And she's like, the kid that'slike, "Well, I'm right."
  • 00:19:19.615 --> 00:19:22.951
  • It's the problem that's wrong.
  • 00:19:22.951 --> 00:19:24.386
  • And she just kept sayinglike, "But I'm right,
  • 00:19:24.386 --> 00:19:26.521
  • but I'm right, Iknow I'm right."
  • 00:19:26.521 --> 00:19:28.056
  • And it was probably aboutthe third or fourth time
  • 00:19:28.056 --> 00:19:30.492
  • and I just lost it.
  • 00:19:30.492 --> 00:19:33.128
  • I mean, something snapped.
  • 00:19:33.128 --> 00:19:35.030
  • And I pounded myhand on the table.
  • 00:19:35.030 --> 00:19:38.333
  • I pulled out the mom fingerand I just laid into her about
  • 00:19:38.333 --> 00:19:42.237
  • how she needed tobe more teachable.
  • 00:19:42.237 --> 00:19:44.139
  • She needs to lay down her pride.
  • 00:19:44.139 --> 00:19:46.141
  • Like she's not goingto get anywhere in life
  • 00:19:46.141 --> 00:19:47.776
  • unless she learns to do that.
  • 00:19:47.776 --> 00:19:48.677
  • I mean, I just went off
  • 00:19:48.677 --> 00:19:51.980
  • and she's sitting there
  • 00:19:51.980 --> 00:19:53.248
  • and she's like mytiny little thing
  • 00:19:53.248 --> 00:19:54.983
  • and share lip is quivering.
  • 00:19:54.983 --> 00:19:56.785
  • And these tears areflowing down her face
  • 00:19:56.785 --> 00:20:00.222
  • and I'm like, "Whatjust happened?"
  • 00:20:00.222 --> 00:20:03.492
  • Like I felt horrible.
  • 00:20:03.492 --> 00:20:06.194
  • So I wrapped her up inmy arms and I'm like,
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  • Baby, I am so, so sorry.I didn't mean to do that.
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  • Mommy is tired.
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  • Mommy is just overwhelmed."
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  • And like saying all this stuff.
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  • I apologize.
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  • Tell her how much I love her.
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  • Kind of get throughthe rest of our day.
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  • And I get to ourroom later that day
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  • and I just collapsedon the floor
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  • and I'm like,"Lord, what honor?"
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  • Like I know I'm not a normallylike normally patient person.
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  • Like that's not somethingthat is a gift of mine.
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  • Patience does not come easily.
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  • I have to work at it.
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  • But God, this was ona whole other level.
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  • And the bottom line was becauseI was just so overwhelmed.
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  • And I was just so exhausted
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  • that it was just soeasy for me to snap.
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  • And it's because we were inthis season of quarantine
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  • and nothing was going on.
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  • And so I'm mistaking thefact that my calendar is open
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  • for rest instead of going,
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  • "No, I need to kind ofsee the rhythms of rest
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  • and kind of continually havethis lifestyle of rest."
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  • Like physically, amI sleeping? Well.
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  • No, I'm staying up andI'm doing stupid things
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  • like binge watching shows,
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  • you know, in my, you know,mentally, am I resting?
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  • Like, is it I'm kindanot forgiving easily?
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  • I'm kind of holdingsome grudges.
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  • I'm entering into drama.
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  • I probably don'tneed to be a part of,
  • 00:21:19.701 --> 00:21:21.670
  • that's not mentally resting.
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  • You know, am I physicallyare spiritually resting?
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  • You know, I'm I spendingand making time with God,
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  • like alone time with him.
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  • Am I doing all of these thingsto be able to have that?
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  • So I'm not so overwhelmedin my day to day life.
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  • Cause I'm going to tellyou, I'm not as effective.
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  • I'm not as productive.
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  • I'm not as peace filled,
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  • if I don't live froma lifestyle of rest
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  • and not a lifestyle of stress.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • That's so good.
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  • Karen, I love that.
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  • And I love Holly,
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  • what you were sharinga minute ago about
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  • when you're still,
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  • sometimes that's when yourmind gets more and more active,
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  • because you actually don'thave the distractions
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  • of the going and thedoing and the busy-ness
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  • to let your mindjust be on autopilot.
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  • So it's often at thosehours at three and 4:00 AM
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  • that you've woken up.
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  • And every single thing
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  • that you didn't getdone the day prior
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  • is on the top of yourlist and your to do list
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  • and even the guilt or,unresolved conflict
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  • or anything sometimeskind of comes
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  • to the surface of your heart
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  • in those times where you'rejust trying to get rest.
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  • You're just trying to be still.
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  • And, and I do believethat COVID and quarantine
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  • was the opportunityfor us to be still.
  • 00:22:34.109 --> 00:22:36.978
  • And so that's when somethings did actually surface
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  • for a lot of us.
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  • Whether it's in homes ormarriages or kids or teens
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  • or parents, and everyone'smissing their people,
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  • everyone's missingtheir coping mechanisms
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  • or their distractions.
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  • And we're left withourselves and the Lord
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  • and we're left withthose closest to us.
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  • And sometimes we look ateach other and we realize
  • 00:22:59.768 --> 00:23:01.903
  • we love each other, but wedon't really like each other,
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  • right this second.
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  • And even just the honestyof saying those things
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  • allows you to kind ofdig beneath the surface.
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  • And so this has been a yearfor that for so many of us.
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  • And and if you'rewatching or listening,
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  • I'm sure that you've hadyour own version of that
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  • and just know that we arerestless when we rest less.
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  • And I believe that that reallycomes from the inside out,
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  • like that posture of restis, is my heart at rest.
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  • And sometimes wejust can't answer
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  • that question untilwe're being still.
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  • And so we had a year,
  • 00:23:40.909 --> 00:23:42.577
  • we've had a yearto go to our room.
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  • We've been sent to our room
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  • and I don't think it's likejust a slap on the hand.
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  • I think it's actually aninvitation to go like,
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  • how is your heart?
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  • How are thingsbelow the surface?
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  • And, and this is whereGod wants to meet us.
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  • So if you're listening
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  • and this feels likethis applies to you,
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  • let's just pray right nowthat God would meet us
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  • in this opportunity
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  • and this invitation tobe still before him,
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  • God, we love you.
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  • We praise you.
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  • And we thank you that youare our source of strength
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  • that you are ever present help,
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  • that when we draw near to you,
  • 00:24:15.544 --> 00:24:18.013
  • you draw near to usthat we can be still,
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  • we can truly be still and youcan reveal things to us that
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  • we might not be seen currently.
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  • And so I asked today thatanyone who's listening in
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  • would just sensethe Holy spirit,
  • 00:24:32.327 --> 00:24:34.763
  • just prompting their hearts.
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  • Maybe there's someonethey need to forgive.
  • 00:24:36.031 --> 00:24:37.866
  • Maybe there's someonethey need to reach out to
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  • and encourage.
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  • Maybe there's justreconciliation
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  • around the corner orencouragement or purpose,
  • 00:24:43.672 --> 00:24:46.007
  • maybe needing tostep into something
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  • that they're fearful of Lord.
  • 00:24:47.609 --> 00:24:49.544
  • I just pray that you comfortthem, that you've prompt them,
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  • that you'd urge them Lord,
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  • and that they would feelyou're near ness today.
  • 00:24:54.950 --> 00:24:58.219
  • They would feel youholding them, guiding them,
  • 00:24:58.219 --> 00:25:01.289
  • leading them,
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  • and that they would come tohave the peace and the strength
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  • that comes on the other sideof rest, in your mighty name.
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  • Jesus. Amen.
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  • - We hope you know that.
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  • and let us know howwe can pray for you.
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  • Thanks so much for carvingout the time to join us today.
  • 00:25:26.615 --> 00:25:30.218
  • If we are runninghard after Jesus,
  • 00:25:30.218 --> 00:25:33.755
  • then how do we find timeto just sit at his feet?
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  • Drawing healthy boundariesaround our cycles of work
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  • and rest is the key toour health and wellbeing
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  • and our productivity.
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  • You don't want to missour conversation tomorrow.
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  • That's what we're goingto be focusing on.
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