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October 9, 2019
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  • - An act of sacrificial love saved your life and mine.
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  • How can we show selfless love to others?
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  • Let's talk about giving back.
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  • Ooooh
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  • Ooooh
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  • Ooooh
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  • Ooooh
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  • Ooooh
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  • - I was on a flight coming across the country
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  • sitting beside a Jewish rabbi.
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  • I had a glass of water and he said,
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  • "You know, everybody wants the more live,
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  • "the abundant life, they want more in their lives."
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  • And then he said, "Look at your cup, it's right full.
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  • "How would you put more into that cup?"
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  • And he picked up the cup and he poured the water out,
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  • and he said, "You can't put more in until you pour out."
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  • And I thought, oh what an image of who we are in Christ.
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  • If I have Christ, I have all the riches of Christ,
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  • I am full to the brim with Christ.
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  • The only way I can have the abundant life
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  • is if I pour my life out.
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  • - Right. - If I serve others.
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  • And if you look at Jesus, scripture tells us,
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  • "For God so loved the world," what did he do?
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  • - He gave. - He gave.
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  • Love lives given.
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  • I think give is one of the most powerful words in the world.
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  • How do we live forgiving others?
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  • How do we live in a posture of thanksgiving
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  • and caregiving to others, giving to others?
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  • Giving is the way that we actually receive the most.
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  • My 40th birthday, I was struggling hard.
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  • (women laughing)
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  • In the middle of sort of my own midlife crisis.
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  • And my husband said,
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  • "What do you want for your 40th birthday?"
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  • And research can only back up what scripture says,
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  • that the two most powerful ways to step into joy is,
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  • research will tell you, go ahead and write a gratitude list.
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  • And go ahead and, they would say, random acts of kindness.
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  • - Right.
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  • - Scripture would tell us live a life of thanksgiving
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  • and giving to others.
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  • So for me to deal with my depression
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  • around my 40th birthday,
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  • we decided to go into our little town
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  • and gift-Blitz the town.
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  • To go ahead and give.
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  • We took donuts down to the police station.
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  • We left dollars at the dollar store for kids.
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  • And at the end of that day, what the kids said,
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  • "Wasn't this the best day we ever had?"
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  • So I think, how do we practically think?
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  • I think if God has given us so much,
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  • gift upon gift upon gift. - Yeah.
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  • - How do we now then take those gifts
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  • and give them back out into the world?
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  • And for me, every day I write up, I have two lists,
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  • a gratefulness list and a given list,
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  • because love lives given,
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  • so I write out 10 things that I'm grateful for
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  • that the Lord has given me.
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  • And then I write out, Lord how did I take the gifts
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  • that you gave me today and passed them on?
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  • And I'm always embarrassed to say,
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  • that given list is always much shorter
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  • than the list of also, it is true.
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  • So as I pour out, he pours in so much more into my life.
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  • So what does that look like in your life,
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  • in your own communities, in your church communities?
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  • So live a life that is pouring out,
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  • that is giving, that is service.
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  • What does that look like?
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  • - I will tell you when you say gift-Blitz.
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  • - Yeah gift-Blitz your town.
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  • (all laughing)
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  • - That's so good. - Yes.
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  • - Because the best Thanksgiving I've ever had,
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  • we basically did that,
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  • but we did it with people who didn't have,
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  • I live in Nashville, Tennessee,
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  • people who didn't have the energy or the wherewithal
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  • to go to a homeless shelter.
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  • So it wasn't just
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  • the homeless community-- - Wow, right.
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  • - It was those that were not going to a shelter that day.
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  • And I was with some friends that I work with
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  • who are in Recovery Ministry
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  • who have their own stories of incarceration, homelessness.
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  • And so to be with them, and I'm just the woman
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  • who's never been in one of those situations, but who goes,
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  • what does it look like to meet them there?
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  • Not to be the great white hope,
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  • but to sit next to them on a curve and just to talk.
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  • And it was, I mean, I'll cry if,
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  • it was my favorite Thanksgiving ever,
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  • and I wasn't around the table
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  • with my loved ones eating pumpkin pie.
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  • It was-- - Being the gift back
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  • gives us the most. - But man, you get
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  • so much more, it was un-stinking-believable.
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  • - You have to pour out what you have
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  • in order to keep being filled.
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  • And, I mean, that is just how Jesus is with us.
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  • He gives us this overflow.
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  • Like I told my husband, he experiences the overflow of God.
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  • I am constantly pouring out to him and loving him
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  • and just trusting God to continuously fill up my cup.
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  • Sometimes I feel like if I give so much,
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  • there won't be any left.
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  • But there is always more left.
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  • God is always filling me.
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  • So I give selflessly and he continues to fill me up
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  • so that I can give more.
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  • - And then I see it all the time.
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  • I was at a church recently at a women's conference.
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  • And it was the end of the day,
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  • everybody's kind of leaving in the foyer and hugging
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  • and, well, look at what God did, this was incredible.
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  • And I just out of the corner of my eye was like,
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  • that's Pastor Jeff,
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  • who had opened the conference several hours earlier.
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  • He was walking out the women's bathroom
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  • with cleaning supplies,
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  • he was cleaning the women's bathroom.
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  • It's a church big enough
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  • for him to have plenty of volunteers
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  • or to hire a maintenance team to clean the bathroom.
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  • And he wasn't doing it like, "Look at me, I'm the pastor."
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  • It wasn't at all prideful.
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  • If I hadn't turned,
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  • he would have slipped in and out unnoticed.
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  • But I just pulled him aside and I said,
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  • "Jeff, do you always clean the restrooms?"
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  • And he said, "You know Lis, as our church has grown,"
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  • he said, "we had to, my wife and I,
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  • "when we planted the church,
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  • "'cause we couldn't afford to hire people."
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  • He said, "But I found that's the one place
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  • "I feel like people will talk to me
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  • "that they feel the separation.
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  • "If I'm in the pulpit, there's almost a line of demarcation.
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  • "But when they see me scrubbing in the bathroom,
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  • "it just kind of levels the playing field."
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  • And he said, "I don't wanna lose relationship
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  • "so I still clean the bathroom
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  • "'cause I feel like that makes me connect with everybody."
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  • And I thought again, yeah, it's a gift.
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  • It's not just, let me be a servant
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  • and add up my frequent flyer miles
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  • that I've sacrificed today.
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  • - You are naturally influencing other people to serve
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  • when they see you serve, so I think that it is contagious.
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  • You see someone you look up to do it, you wanna do it.
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  • People with influence, people that are popular,
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  • even if you don't think that you have influence
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  • or are popular, I promise you people are looking up to you.
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  • You doing it is contagious, like a sneeze, man.
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  • People wanna be a part of something bigger,
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  • people wanna help.
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  • They may not know the ways that they can so easily,
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  • but by you doing it and showing it, that's pretty cool,
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  • and people like to do that.
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  • Now I will say that I have no problem
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  • with people posting online when they're serving,
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  • when they go on missions trips,
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  • when they're at church doing the PowerPoint,
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  • I think that's cool.
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  • People post about their food,
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  • people post a lot of pictures of their cats.
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  • We must be allowed to post when we're proud of our church,
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  • proud of serving, and it shows other people
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  • opportunities for them to serve.
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  • It inspires other people, young people to do that as well.
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  • And you are in charge of your heart.
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  • If you're posting it for likes or for credit,
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  • or if you're truly posting it 'cause you're proud of it
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  • and you wanna show others how to do it.
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  • Your heart state is between you and God.
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  • No one else can judge that for you.
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  • So if your heart is pure in it, truly,
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  • I would encourage you to post about it.
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  • - I love you, I love that you talk about living cruciform.
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  • - It is, I think everything,
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  • for me, that cross, that's the shape and form of our lives.
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  • Can we take that vertical beam of the cross,
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  • all of the gifts come down
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  • and all of my thanksgiving rises up,
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  • and then those horizontal beams,
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  • how do I take those gifts
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  • and live broken and given out into the world?
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  • And I think so much of the time I am guilty.
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  • I'm saying, I don't have time to live given,
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  • I don't have time to sacrifice for somebody else.
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  • But if we live broken and given,
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  • God takes our little loaves and fishes
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  • and he multiplies our time and our joy back a thousandfold.
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  • Okay, so what does it mean to live cruciform,
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  • 'cause that's sort of where I come back, that's my center,
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  • because it's really the shape and form of the cross.
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  • How do I live formed like Jesus?
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  • How do I take captive every thought
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  • and make it obedient to Jesus?
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  • How do I incarnate and embody the words of Jesus,
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  • the gospel of Jesus, the Beatitudes?
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  • So as I write in one of my books, "The Broken Way,"
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  • I took the pen where I wrote down
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  • 1.000 things I was grateful for
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  • and I start to pick it up every day
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  • and draw a cross on my wrist.
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  • And now I actually have a tattoo on my wrist now.
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  • In Jerusalem, the last time I (mumbles)
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  • and I went and have it tattooed
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  • so that I would see it constantly
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  • that this would be the form and shape of my life.
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  • In everything, what does it look like to live cruciform?
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  • And I see it literally as that vertical beam,
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  • all of the gifts come down.
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  • Grace upon grace upon grace,
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  • mercy and forgiveness and common grace,
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  • daily everyday grace to meet all of my needs.
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  • And then all of my gratitude goes back up.
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  • God asks us to live giving thanks in all things
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  • for this his his will for us.
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  • When we don't know the next thing to do,
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  • there is always, always, always
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  • something to be thankful for.
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  • And then how do I take all the gifts that I've been given
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  • and live broken and given, like bread,
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  • out in a brokenhearted world?
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  • - When you said "Jesus, and there's not enough time,"
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  • I immediately thought I remember in Mark chapter 10
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  • where Jesus is on his way to Easter,
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  • he's headed to Jerusalem,
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  • and Bartimaeus, the blind man that everybody,
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  • lowest man on the social totem pole,
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  • he cries out to Jesus, the crowd shushes him,
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  • says, "Bart, hush, he's on his way to the cool city,
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  • "he's going to Easter, he's going to celebrate.
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  • "Don't bother Jesus."
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  • And it says that Bartimaeus cries out all the more
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  • and Jesus stops.
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  • And it's so unbelievable
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  • 'cause when you say we don't have time,
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  • Jesus is on his way to Easter,
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  • and he effectively pauses Easter for this one man
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  • whom nobody else will give the time of day, much less help.
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  • And he says, "Bring him to me."
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  • And there's the most beautiful encounter
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  • with Bartimaeus and Jesus when, humanly speaking,
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  • not only did Jesus not have time, he actually put something
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  • that is the most significant act in history
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  • on pause for one person.
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  • So I think it's not even biblically defensible to say
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  • we don't have time. - Exactly.
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  • And when you look all the way through the gospels, it says,
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  • Jesus says, "My time has come, my time has come."
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  • What is time for?
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  • Time is for that sacrifice, for the giving.
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  • So I think we need to do a total paradigm shift
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  • on what is time about.
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  • Time isn't about me climbing up some ladder.
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  • Time is about me showing up and bending down
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  • and serving somebody else.
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  • - My mom was a pastor's wife.
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  • I saw my mom serve people every day,
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  • sometimes 24 hours a day.
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  • I watched her serve my dad, serve our family,
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  • and serve others that came into our home and our church.
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  • And I think the love of a mother
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  • and the sacrifices that you, you know, my mom,
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  • man, if I need her, she's on a plane
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  • and she's right out there.
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  • She's helped me for years and years and years.
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  • And there's so many moms I know are watching today
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  • and you know what it is to sacrifice for your children,
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  • to maybe do without so that they can have some.
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  • And I just think that's a wonderful,
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  • a wonderful thing is a mother's love.
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  • - If you need some friends to lift you up,
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  • then you just found them right here.
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  • - Connect with us on social media
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  • and let us know how we can pray for you.
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  • - We all have been given different gifts
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  • and given different grace for different things.
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  • Because I was having a conversation with my uncle
  • 00:11:57.250 --> 00:12:01.090
  • and he was just saying,
  • 00:12:01.090 --> 00:12:02.260
  • "I think people miss the mark with serving
  • 00:12:02.260 --> 00:12:05.080
  • "because they try to serve in the capacity as others do,
  • 00:12:05.080 --> 00:12:09.060
  • "opposed to serving in the way that they're graced."
  • 00:12:09.060 --> 00:12:12.290
  • And for me, I love to do missions trips.
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  • I make sure I go every year, since I was 12 I've been going.
  • 00:12:16.240 --> 00:12:20.250
  • And I took my son with me for the first time last year,
  • 00:12:20.250 --> 00:12:24.180
  • and it was hilarious because he was like,
  • 00:12:24.180 --> 00:12:28.010
  • "Where are we sleeping?
  • 00:12:28.010 --> 00:12:29.080
  • "What is this?
  • 00:12:29.080 --> 00:12:30.030
  • "Do you smell that?
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  • "Where are we going?"
  • 00:12:31.180 --> 00:12:32.250
  • And I'm just kind of like, "You know, son,"
  • 00:12:32.250 --> 00:12:35.180
  • because I adopted him,
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  • and he came from a rough situation
  • 00:12:37.170 --> 00:12:42.170
  • and now he's living lavish.
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  • And I just wanted him to remember
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  • to always give back, to always serve.
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  • And I said, it might not look like what I do.
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  • It might not be going to the country
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  • and actually getting my hands dirty.
  • 00:12:57.190 --> 00:13:00.080
  • Your serving may be to raise awareness,
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  • your serving may be to pray fervently for these people,
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  • your serving may be to send money.
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  • There's so many different ways
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  • that God has graced different people
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  • so that we can be different pieces to a puzzle
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  • that come together and nothing is lacking
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  • because we're serving
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  • in the grace that God has given us in our capacity.
  • 00:13:23.210 --> 00:13:27.120
  • And when he was there, I prayed with the lady,
  • 00:13:27.120 --> 00:13:31.170
  • and he was just like,
  • 00:13:31.170 --> 00:13:33.060
  • "I don't even know what to do for her, I can't pray."
  • 00:13:33.060 --> 00:13:36.070
  • And I said, "Draw her a picture."
  • 00:13:36.070 --> 00:13:39.060
  • And he drew a picture and he found out what in her language
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  • what God loves you meant, or what it said, God loves you,
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  • and he gave it to her and she just cried.
  • 00:13:47.290 --> 00:13:51.100
  • And she hugged him and I said, "See, son,
  • 00:13:51.100 --> 00:13:54.020
  • "she's gonna remember this forever.
  • 00:13:54.020 --> 00:13:56.220
  • "When she's having low moments
  • 00:13:56.220 --> 00:13:58.160
  • "and she's feeling down on herself,
  • 00:13:58.160 --> 00:14:01.020
  • "she's gonna look at your picture and see that you said
  • 00:14:01.020 --> 00:14:04.240
  • "God loves her and she's gonna remember that.
  • 00:14:04.240 --> 00:14:07.120
  • "So no, you may not have prayed or did her hair
  • 00:14:07.120 --> 00:14:10.270
  • "or anything that I did,
  • 00:14:10.270 --> 00:14:12.290
  • "but you served in your capacity,
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  • "and look at how great it is for her."
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  • So I believe it all goes back to finding out
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  • what God has put in us,
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  • what God has graced and gift us,
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  • and then serve in that capacity.
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  • - Yeah, and to add on to what you're saying,
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  • 'cause I believe that and I love that,
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  • to try to help people be self-aware of the gifts they have.
  • 00:14:34.150 --> 00:14:38.010
  • And I also think that serving can be so simple,
  • 00:14:38.010 --> 00:14:42.000
  • and so practical,
  • 00:14:42.000 --> 00:14:43.080
  • and not always like what you're called to do
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  • in this season of your life with your family,
  • 00:14:45.230 --> 00:14:48.060
  • but today he needs you to help this other person,
  • 00:14:48.060 --> 00:14:50.240
  • or today our church needs someone to help
  • 00:14:50.240 --> 00:14:53.020
  • count the chairs in these rows,
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  • or today we need a greeter.
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  • I think for some people they hear you need to serve,
  • 00:14:56.150 --> 00:14:58.290
  • and they feel like, okay, I'm ready, what do I do?
  • 00:14:58.290 --> 00:15:01.110
  • And look online, what's the missions trip I can go to,
  • 00:15:01.110 --> 00:15:03.170
  • which are great,
  • 00:15:03.170 --> 00:15:05.020
  • and what's the ministry I can sign up for, which is great.
  • 00:15:05.020 --> 00:15:08.030
  • Please sign up for all the ministries and mission trips.
  • 00:15:08.030 --> 00:15:10.180
  • But they won't look at their local church
  • 00:15:10.180 --> 00:15:12.240
  • and see there's no one for kids ministry, anywhere.
  • 00:15:12.240 --> 00:15:15.160
  • Any church ever, there's never a surplus of people
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  • at kids ministry.
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  • If you're wondering if that's your church, it is.
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  • There's never enough greeters, there's never enough.
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  • And I used to think, I remember when I,
  • 00:15:23.150 --> 00:15:25.270
  • so my husband and I are local church pastors,
  • 00:15:25.270 --> 00:15:27.210
  • and I remember in the very beginning, I thought,
  • 00:15:27.210 --> 00:15:29.120
  • I'm gonna write a book and it's gonna to be called
  • 00:15:29.120 --> 00:15:31.040
  • "Stop Looking Cute in Church
  • 00:15:31.040 --> 00:15:32.170
  • "and Learn How to PowerPoint for Your Youth Group."
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  • Service requires awareness.
  • 00:15:34.120 --> 00:15:37.040
  • Where are the places that need a little extra help?
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  • Where are the gaps that you can be filling?
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  • Service doesn't have to be this grandiose,
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  • large, inaccessible, scary thing.
  • 00:15:45.160 --> 00:15:48.260
  • It could be paying attention to who in your community
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  • needs help right now.
  • 00:15:53.050 --> 00:15:54.210
  • Who has a family that just had a baby that needs some meals?
  • 00:15:54.210 --> 00:15:56.160
  • Who has a family that just lost a loved one
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  • that needs some meals?
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  • Where in your local church?
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  • Are they struggling with getting volunteers?
  • 00:16:01.130 --> 00:16:03.110
  • Which of your friends
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  • has been posting a lot on social media
  • 00:16:05.010 --> 00:16:06.100
  • that she's very lonely?
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  • Service can be big things.
  • 00:16:08.040 --> 00:16:10.110
  • You should do big things, I hope I do big things.
  • 00:16:10.110 --> 00:16:12.210
  • But it's also a daily awareness of where there are some gaps
  • 00:16:12.210 --> 00:16:17.140
  • that you can just practically choose to fill.
  • 00:16:17.140 --> 00:16:20.270
  • I do PowerPoint at my church.
  • 00:16:20.270 --> 00:16:22.150
  • I do.
  • 00:16:23.130 --> 00:16:24.280
  • Because I know all the worship songs, I'm very good at it,
  • 00:16:24.280 --> 00:16:26.160
  • and I will brag about that.
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  • I'm very, very good.
  • 00:16:27.250 --> 00:16:28.270
  • I know this song.
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  • "Hello Hillsong," "I Love Bethel," I'm ready, come on.
  • 00:16:30.120 --> 00:16:31.290
  • (women laugh)
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  • I'm very, very good.
  • 00:16:33.260 --> 00:16:35.110
  • But I have filled that gap, my husband's a worship leader,
  • 00:16:35.110 --> 00:16:38.070
  • because it has also been so hard to show people like,
  • 00:16:38.070 --> 00:16:41.090
  • "Did you feel called to do that?"
  • 00:16:41.090 --> 00:16:43.010
  • I'm like, I felt called to serve my local church
  • 00:16:43.010 --> 00:16:44.200
  • and I'm here that Sunday.
  • 00:16:44.200 --> 00:16:46.040
  • Why does it need to be this lightning bolt moment?
  • 00:16:46.040 --> 00:16:48.040
  • What about the local churches, the hope of the world?
  • 00:16:48.040 --> 00:16:49.210
  • And the hope of the world has gaps
  • 00:16:49.210 --> 00:16:51.020
  • on this Sunday, this Sunday, and that Sunday.
  • 00:16:51.020 --> 00:16:53.040
  • That's gotta be enough for some of us.
  • 00:16:53.040 --> 00:16:55.070
  • - Ranked, I think, calling from visibility to invisible.
  • 00:16:55.070 --> 00:17:00.070
  • And I'm like, actually that's inverted in the gospels.
  • 00:17:01.180 --> 00:17:03.170
  • Because it's those that were the least of these
  • 00:17:03.170 --> 00:17:05.130
  • that God honors.
  • 00:17:05.130 --> 00:17:06.260
  • And so I think sometimes we do think,
  • 00:17:06.260 --> 00:17:09.140
  • well, if I'm really mature and I'm really called,
  • 00:17:09.140 --> 00:17:11.180
  • I'm gonna be doing the-- - In front of everyone.
  • 00:17:11.180 --> 00:17:14.090
  • - In front of everyone.
  • 00:17:14.090 --> 00:17:15.250
  • And it's like, actually, if you'll just pick up a broom,
  • 00:17:15.250 --> 00:17:18.200
  • it'll probably really bless you in that place.
  • 00:17:18.200 --> 00:17:22.010
  • But I've started with Missy, just very practically,
  • 00:17:22.010 --> 00:17:25.100
  • I think one of the ways for us to learn how to be servants
  • 00:17:25.100 --> 00:17:29.290
  • is to make eye contact with servants,
  • 00:17:29.290 --> 00:17:33.140
  • with people who are in the service industry.
  • 00:17:33.140 --> 00:17:35.040
  • So I've taught Missy, hey, by the grace of God,
  • 00:17:35.040 --> 00:17:38.140
  • we're staying in the hotel, not cleaning it.
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  • When we leave the hotel
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  • and you see a woman with a with a serve cart,
  • 00:17:43.050 --> 00:17:45.290
  • I want you to make eye contact
  • 00:17:45.290 --> 00:17:47.150
  • and I want you to say thank you so much.
  • 00:17:47.150 --> 00:17:50.140
  • When my kid thinks the women with the carts
  • 00:17:50.140 --> 00:17:54.040
  • have the cool jobs,
  • 00:17:54.040 --> 00:17:55.130
  • and so many times those women, and a few men,
  • 00:17:55.130 --> 00:17:59.190
  • who are in the service industry, if you'll stop and go,
  • 00:17:59.190 --> 00:18:02.070
  • "How did you get into this?"
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  • I met a guy recently who was hired to drive me
  • 00:18:03.140 --> 00:18:07.010
  • from one place to an airport, busy town,
  • 00:18:07.010 --> 00:18:10.110
  • and there was nobody to drive me,
  • 00:18:10.110 --> 00:18:12.190
  • so he was driving me 40 minutes.
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  • This guy has two master's degrees,
  • 00:18:14.100 --> 00:18:16.220
  • he's supported three of his siblings
  • 00:18:16.220 --> 00:18:18.240
  • coming over to America from another country.
  • 00:18:18.240 --> 00:18:21.020
  • He's a boss.
  • 00:18:21.020 --> 00:18:23.200
  • But he was wearing a black hat and driving a black car
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  • in a service position.
  • 00:18:26.280 --> 00:18:28.170
  • This guy's much smarter than I am.
  • 00:18:28.170 --> 00:18:30.040
  • I basically interviewed him the whole way.
  • 00:18:30.040 --> 00:18:32.170
  • - I know, I had the same-- - I'm so blessed by him.
  • 00:18:32.170 --> 00:18:35.180
  • Because I think we tend to put people in categories
  • 00:18:35.180 --> 00:18:40.180
  • just like, well, you're missing the heroes.
  • 00:18:41.220 --> 00:18:43.160
  • So as simple as it is, make eye contact
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  • and speak with people who are serving.
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  • I don't know that we should all be in a vocation
  • 00:18:51.290 --> 00:18:55.040
  • that involves customer service.
  • 00:18:55.040 --> 00:18:58.020
  • Your vocation may be that you work in a cubicle
  • 00:18:58.020 --> 00:19:02.110
  • and a laptop is your closest friend.
  • 00:19:02.110 --> 00:19:04.210
  • So you're like, "Well, goodness,
  • 00:19:04.210 --> 00:19:06.000
  • "my job is actually data entry.
  • 00:19:06.000 --> 00:19:08.010
  • "How does that involve service?"
  • 00:19:08.010 --> 00:19:10.000
  • Well, it involves service
  • 00:19:10.000 --> 00:19:11.060
  • that every time you get up from your cubicle
  • 00:19:11.060 --> 00:19:13.020
  • and you go get a cup of coffee or you go to the restroom,
  • 00:19:13.020 --> 00:19:15.140
  • you make eye contact with the other people
  • 00:19:15.140 --> 00:19:17.160
  • who are sitting in cubicles around you.
  • 00:19:17.160 --> 00:19:19.170
  • So technically, your vocation might not involve service,
  • 00:19:19.170 --> 00:19:24.070
  • but your life should.
  • 00:19:24.070 --> 00:19:25.230
  • No matter how you draw your paycheck,
  • 00:19:25.230 --> 00:19:29.010
  • absolutely, our lives should be lives of service
  • 00:19:29.010 --> 00:19:32.060
  • and being God and others oriented.
  • 00:19:32.060 --> 00:19:34.220
  • After I got my degree and undergrad, I had three months
  • 00:19:34.220 --> 00:19:39.120
  • before I started my first real job
  • 00:19:39.120 --> 00:19:42.240
  • that required a college degree.
  • 00:19:42.240 --> 00:19:44.190
  • I worked at UPS.
  • 00:19:44.190 --> 00:19:46.060
  • I carried boxes, stacked boxes and ran boxes.
  • 00:19:46.060 --> 00:19:49.180
  • It was one of the best jobs I've ever had
  • 00:19:49.180 --> 00:19:51.270
  • because most people did not treat me with much respect
  • 00:19:51.270 --> 00:19:56.270
  • and you really learn sweat equity, you learn how to.
  • 00:19:58.110 --> 00:20:01.160
  • I probably learned more about relating and leading
  • 00:20:01.160 --> 00:20:06.160
  • from a position that a lot of people
  • 00:20:08.060 --> 00:20:09.230
  • would consider subservient.
  • 00:20:09.230 --> 00:20:11.020
  • And I think we've shortchanged ourself
  • 00:20:11.020 --> 00:20:14.130
  • to not dive right there. - Absolutely.
  • 00:20:14.130 --> 00:20:17.020
  • - And when scripture says,
  • 00:20:17.020 --> 00:20:18.190
  • "Whoever wants to be the greatest of these
  • 00:20:18.190 --> 00:20:20.140
  • "must learn to be a servant of all."
  • 00:20:20.140 --> 00:20:22.180
  • And do we really have that attitude
  • 00:20:22.180 --> 00:20:23.270
  • if someone treats us like a servant?
  • 00:20:23.270 --> 00:20:26.050
  • And I think that's where the switch comes around.
  • 00:20:26.050 --> 00:20:28.090
  • And I'm always saying to the kids, you know,
  • 00:20:28.090 --> 00:20:30.010
  • everybody wants to change the world
  • 00:20:30.010 --> 00:20:31.090
  • but nobody wants to help mom with the dishes.
  • 00:20:31.090 --> 00:20:32.270
  • - Right, right.
  • 00:20:32.270 --> 00:20:33.220
  • Nobody wants to change the sheets.
  • 00:20:34.280 --> 00:20:35.230
  • - Exactly, right?
  • 00:20:35.230 --> 00:20:37.080
  • But can we switch our paradigms and think about,
  • 00:20:37.080 --> 00:20:39.220
  • Jesus didn't have a platform, Jesus had an altar,
  • 00:20:41.020 --> 00:20:44.090
  • where he came and lived a living sacrifice
  • 00:20:44.090 --> 00:20:46.200
  • and laid down his life.
  • 00:20:46.200 --> 00:20:48.070
  • So how do we do that on a day-to-day basis
  • 00:20:48.070 --> 00:20:50.250
  • and have an understanding?
  • 00:20:50.250 --> 00:20:52.050
  • Oftentimes I think about the Dead Sea.
  • 00:20:52.050 --> 00:20:54.110
  • If there's a body of water, a river of water
  • 00:20:54.110 --> 00:20:57.090
  • coming into a stagnant space
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  • that doesn't flow on and pour out and pass on,
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  • it becomes dead.
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  • There is no living life in that,
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  • the water has to pass through.
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  • So can we think of all of the gifts
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  • and the grace that we've been given,
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  • and then pour those things out?
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  • Because if we're not pouring our lives out,
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  • we become stagnant dead space.
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  • And I think, how do we see ourselves
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  • as Esthers for such a time as now?
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  • You've been given so much, you are in the palace,
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  • there are those outside the gate who are counting on you
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  • to take the gifts and the grace that you've been given,
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  • risk it all and pour it out for those outside the gate
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  • so that they know more of Jesus.
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  • So I think every day the way we pour ourselves out,
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  • it's giving life to somebody else.
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  • - And a lot of times that is a sacrifice.
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  • - It is.
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  • - Like with foster care.
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  • I know with all my knowing that this is the area
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  • that I am called to serve in.
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  • However, if some of you tried to serve in this capacity,
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  • you might not necessarily have the grace that is needed
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  • to serve that way.
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  • So I really feel like, I really believe that you should find
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  • your area that God has graced you in to serve,
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  • whether that's, no, you might not be able
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  • to bring a child into your home,
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  • but you could take that child to basketball practice
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  • or you could donate into that child's life,
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  • or you can raise awareness or tell other people
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  • about that child.
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  • There's so many different ways that you can serve
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  • but that that doesn't mean to diminish how you serve.
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  • It just means to be your piece of the puzzle.
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  • - Jesus has loved us to death.
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  • Would we go ahead and sacrifice to him?
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  • And not see it, really, doing anything for somebody else
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  • is doing it for Jesus, so is that really a sacrifice?
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  • - And the Bible says taking a cup of water.
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  • - Right, visiting somebody in prison.
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  • - Yeah, visiting.
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  • He makes it simple, but it's the self-sacrifice of love.
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  • There's no greater love.
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  • And talking about it just makes you feel like
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  • the more love I have, man,
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  • the more I don't have any idea what it is.
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  • 'Cause if you can look at somebody that would be an outcast
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  • and say, "Man, Jesus loves you just as much as he loves me."
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  • I think when we give out of ourselves,
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  • that the repercussions of that
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  • and the things that come back to us because of that,
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  • is so beyond, you know, Jesus always is telling us to give,
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  • give and it'll be given.
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  • - It's not having a mentality of, I don't have to serve,
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  • I get to serve. - I get to serve.
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  • - We get the joy and the privilege of getting to serve.
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  • And I think shifting that paradigm
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  • that we have the privilege because it's doing it to Jesus
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  • and what greater grace could we ever have
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  • than to live for Jesus.
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  • - And the thing about it, "The Biggest Loser,"
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  • did you guys ever watch that
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  • on TV? - Oh yeah.
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  • - Cried dear in that one, too.
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  • (women laugh)
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  • - The more weight you lose, you become the winner.
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  • And that's kind of like the life in Christ.
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  • The more you give, the more you pour,
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  • the more you turn your cheek,
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  • the more you ask for your-- - Yes, yes.
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  • - And it's always pouring out
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  • because you can't ever out-give God.
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  • - Can we just go before the one who has served us
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  • so sacrificiously,
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  • the only one who has ever loved us to death,
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  • and just ask him, "Jesus, please help us
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  • "to have hearts after you to serve others in this world
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  • "so that they know more of Jesus."
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  • Heavenly Father, we just thank you, Jesus,
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  • for giving us grace upon grace upon grace
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  • and giving us the privilege of co-laboring with you
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  • that we now get to turn around and be the gift
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  • out to the brokenhearted world.
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  • Open the eyes of our hearts, Lord, to see somebody today
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  • that your Holy Spirit is laying their name
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  • right now in this moment on our hearts,
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  • to reach out to them in love, to live cruciform,
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  • and touch their brokenness with your grace, Lord.
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  • - [Laurie] You can call the number on your screen right now
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  • to talk to a prayer partner.
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  • We're here for you 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
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  • We love you and most importantly, God loves you.
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  • (gentle orchestral music)
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  • - We received this question
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  • from a really honest woman named Mary who asked,
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  • "What do you do when you feel
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  • "like your prayers aren't being answered?"
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  • - That is a big one.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - That is a big one because so often
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  • we can find ourselves there.
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  • And what I had to learn to do was
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  • to put all of the answered prayers in front of me
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  • to keep my heart right towards God.
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  • And that'll really help you to keep things into perspective.
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  • - How did you do that, practically?
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  • - To look at the little things like, look at my health,
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  • look at the fact that I'm still able to--
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  • - The kids' health. - Move around,
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  • look at my kids, look at the joy I receive.
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  • - And Mary, we would encourage you,
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  • when you feel like you can't hear God's voice
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  • with regards to your specific prayer,
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  • listen to his voice in other areas.
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  • Because sometimes when you feel
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  • like you're getting a no answer, or just no answer yet,
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  • to the prayer request you've laid before him,
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  • he's still speaking to you.
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  • So we would encourage you to be in the Psalms,
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  • listen to worship music,
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  • and sometimes you'll hear the answer that you go,
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  • oh my goodness, I didn't expect to find it in Psalm 23,
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  • but there it is.
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  • - I'll tell ya, I've learned so much about the fact
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  • that love is patient by being a relatively new adoptive mom.
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