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Better Together LIVE | Episode 122

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October 13, 2020
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What are the warning signs of a toxic relationship? If we embrace God's truth; we can break free and set healthy boundaries. | TBN Prayer Line: 1-888-731-1000

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Better Together LIVE | Episode 122

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  • - LAURIE CROUCH: GOD COMMANDS
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  • - LAURIE CROUCH: GOD COMMANDSUS TO LOVE ONE ANOTHER.
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  • US TO LOVE ONE ANOTHER.BUT WHAT IF A RELATIONSHIP HAS
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  • BUT WHAT IF A RELATIONSHIP HASTURNED TOXIC?
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  • TURNED TOXIC?DOES FORGIVING MEAN WE HAVE TO
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  • DOES FORGIVING MEAN WE HAVE TOFORGET?
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  • FORGET?LET'S TALK ABOUT HOW TO CREATE
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  • LET'S TALK ABOUT HOW TO CREATEHEALTHY BOUNDARIES.
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  • [MUSIC]
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  • [MUSIC][MUSIC]
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  • - ELISABETH HASSELBECK: I LOVE
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  • - ELISABETH HASSELBECK: I LOVETHE IDEA OF DETOXING MY LIFE.
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  • THE IDEA OF DETOXING MY LIFE.I'M SURE, LIKE, WE ALL DO.
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  • I'M SURE, LIKE, WE ALL DO.IT'S SUCH A HARD TIME WITH
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  • IT'S SUCH A HARD TIME WITHTHE DAILY DISCIPLINE OF THAT
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  • THE DAILY DISCIPLINE OF THATAND RECOGNIZING WHAT I KINDA
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  • AND RECOGNIZING WHAT I KINDANEED TO STICK OUT AND WHAT I
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  • NEED TO STICK OUT AND WHAT INEED TO TAKE OUT.
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  • NEED TO TAKE OUT.AND I THINK THAT'S A
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  • AND I THINK THAT'S ACHALLENGE FOR ME.
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  • CHALLENGE FOR ME.'CAUSE I REALLY LIKE HARD
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  • 'CAUSE I REALLY LIKE HARDTHINGS.
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  • THINGS.IN THE SCRIPTURE, IT SAID:
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  • IN THE SCRIPTURE, IT SAID:"DON'T LET ANYONE DECEIVE YOU.
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  • "DON'T LET ANYONE DECEIVE YOU.ASSOCIATING WITH BAD PEOPLE
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  • ASSOCIATING WITH BAD PEOPLEWILL RUIN DECENT PEOPLE."
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  • WILL RUIN DECENT PEOPLE."AND IT'S LIKE: OKAY, IN
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  • AND IT'S LIKE: OKAY, IN1 CORINTHIANS.
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  • 1 CORINTHIANS.AND THE BIBLE ALSO SAYS,
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  • AND THE BIBLE ALSO SAYS,LIKE, "BAD COMPANY CORRUPTS
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  • LIKE, "BAD COMPANY CORRUPTSGOOD CHARACTER."
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  • GOOD CHARACTER."BUT THEN, I WEIGH THAT AGAINST,
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  • BUT THEN, I WEIGH THAT AGAINST,LIKE, WHAT CHRIST SAYS:
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  • LIKE, WHAT CHRIST SAYS:LOVE ONE ANOTHER,
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  • LOVE ONE ANOTHER,LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR,
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  • LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR,I LIKE TO STAY IN SITUATIONS.
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  • I LIKE TO STAY IN SITUATIONS.I'M A STAYER.
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  • I'M A STAYER.LIKE, I WILL PUT MYSELF IN
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  • LIKE, I WILL PUT MYSELF INDIFFICULT, UNCOMFORTABLE
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  • DIFFICULT, UNCOMFORTABLESITUATIONS ON PURPOSE.
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  • SITUATIONS ON PURPOSE.AND THEN, I LIKE TO STAY THERE.
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  • AND THEN, I LIKE TO STAY THERE."SURVIVOR" --
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  • "SURVIVOR" --39 DAYS IN THE AUSTRALIAN
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  • 39 DAYS IN THE AUSTRALIANOUTBACK -- LIMITED,
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  • OUTBACK -- LIMITED,BUT IT WAS HARD.
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  • BUT IT WAS HARD.STANDING THERE ON A LOG FOR
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  • STANDING THERE ON A LOG FOR8 1/2 HOURS -- I ENJOYED THAT.
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  • 8 1/2 HOURS -- I ENJOYED THAT.LIKE, THERE'S A PART OF ME THAT
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  • LIKE, THERE'S A PART OF ME THATLIKES STICKING--
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  • LIKES STICKING--- LAURIE: THERE'S A PART
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  • - LAURIE: THERE'S A PARTOF HER THAT'S WRONG.
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  • OF HER THAT'S WRONG.[LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]- JOYCE MEYER: YEAH, I THINK
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  • - JOYCE MEYER: YEAH, I THINKYOU'RE RIGHT WITH THAT.
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  • YOU'RE RIGHT WITH THAT.- ELISABETH: "THE VIEW" FOR 10
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  • - ELISABETH: "THE VIEW" FOR 10YEARS!
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  • YEARS![LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]- JOYCE: I THINK WE NEED A
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  • - JOYCE: I THINK WE NEED ALITTLE OIL.
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  • LITTLE OIL.- LISA HARPER: I THINK WE NEED
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  • - LISA HARPER: I THINK WE NEEDA LITTLE OIL ON THIS ONE.
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  • A LITTLE OIL ON THIS ONE.WE NEED TO PRAY.
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  • WE NEED TO PRAY.- JOYCE: FOR THE LOG FOR 8 1/2
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  • - JOYCE: FOR THE LOG FOR 8 1/2HOURS?
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  • HOURS?[LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]- ELISABETH: ON "THE VIEW" FOR
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  • - ELISABETH: ON "THE VIEW" FOR10 YEARS.
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  • 10 YEARS.THAT WAS LIKE-- I LIKED IT!
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  • THAT WAS LIKE-- I LIKED IT!I LOVED THE CHALLENGE.
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  • I LOVED THE CHALLENGE.I FELT LIKE IT WAS A BLESSING
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  • I FELT LIKE IT WAS A BLESSINGTO BE THERE.
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  • TO BE THERE.I LOVED EVERY DAY.
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  • I LOVED EVERY DAY.- LAURIE: YOU DID SO GOOD.
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  • - LAURIE: YOU DID SO GOOD.- ELISABETH: NOT ALL DAYS.
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  • - ELISABETH: NOT ALL DAYS.I MEAN, I HAD SOME WEAK
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  • I MEAN, I HAD SOME WEAKMOMENTS, TOO.
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  • MOMENTS, TOO.[LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]AND I'M SO THANKFUL TO TALK
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  • AND I'M SO THANKFUL TO TALKABOUT THIS, BECAUSE I REMEMBER,
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  • ABOUT THIS, BECAUSE I REMEMBER,I LIKE RUNNING.
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  • I LIKE RUNNING.AND I TALKED A LITTLE BIT ABOUT
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  • AND I TALKED A LITTLE BIT ABOUTIT THE LAST TIME.
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  • IT THE LAST TIME.I REALLY LIKE RUNNING.
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  • I REALLY LIKE RUNNING.AND I DON'T MIND THE PAIN OF IT,
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  • AND I DON'T MIND THE PAIN OF IT,BECAUSE I REALLY LOVE THE
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  • BECAUSE I REALLY LOVE THEBENEFITS OF IT.
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  • BENEFITS OF IT.BUT, THERE WAS A TIME WHEN THIS
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  • BUT, THERE WAS A TIME WHEN THISPAIN IN MY HEEL WAS HURTING ME
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  • PAIN IN MY HEEL WAS HURTING MESO MUCH.
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  • SO MUCH.AND I'M LIKE: GOSH, MY HEEL
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  • AND I'M LIKE: GOSH, MY HEELHURTS EVERY TIME!
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  • HURTS EVERY TIME!I DON'T EVEN WANNA WALK.
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  • I DON'T EVEN WANNA WALK.BUT I KNOW I'M A BETTER PERSON
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  • BUT I KNOW I'M A BETTER PERSONON THIS PATH.
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  • ON THIS PATH.I KNOW I'M SUPPOSED TO MOVE.
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  • I KNOW I'M SUPPOSED TO MOVE.AND EVEN IF IT'S A WALK, WHY
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  • AND EVEN IF IT'S A WALK, WHYCAN'T I TAKE A STEP WITHOUT
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  • CAN'T I TAKE A STEP WITHOUTPAIN?
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  • PAIN?WHERE IS THE PAIN COMING FROM?
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  • WHERE IS THE PAIN COMING FROM?AND, LAST TIME, I TALKED ABOUT
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  • AND, LAST TIME, I TALKED ABOUTTHIS SHOE.
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  • THIS SHOE.- CECE WINANS: OH...
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  • - CECE WINANS: OH...- ELISABETH: AND SO, I
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  • - ELISABETH: AND SO, ITHOUGHT: DO I JUST STOP MOVING?
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  • THOUGHT: DO I JUST STOP MOVING?OR DO I JUST STOP WALKING?
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  • OR DO I JUST STOP WALKING?OR DO I JUST TAKE A DIFFERENT
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  • OR DO I JUST TAKE A DIFFERENTPAIR OF SHOES AND TAKE THIS ONE
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  • PAIR OF SHOES AND TAKE THIS ONECOMPLETELY OFF?
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  • COMPLETELY OFF?OR CAN I GET PRECISE ABOUT
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  • OR CAN I GET PRECISE ABOUTWHERE THE PAIN IS COMING FROM?
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  • WHERE THE PAIN IS COMING FROM?AND SO, WHEN THE SCRIPTURE SAID
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  • AND SO, WHEN THE SCRIPTURE SAIDTO ME--
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  • TO ME--THIS IS WHAT GOD GAVE ME.
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  • THIS IS WHAT GOD GAVE ME.IT'S LIKE: "ASSOCIATING WITH
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  • IT'S LIKE: "ASSOCIATING WITHBAD PEOPLE WILL RUIN DECENT
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  • BAD PEOPLE WILL RUIN DECENTPEOPLE."
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  • PEOPLE."AND WHO WE'VE ASSOCIATING WITH
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  • AND WHO WE'VE ASSOCIATING WITHNOW...ON SOCIAL MEDIA, AND THE
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  • NOW...ON SOCIAL MEDIA, AND THEAMOUNT OF INFLUENCE IN OUR
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  • AMOUNT OF INFLUENCE IN OURLIVES, RIGHT NOW, STRUCK ME.
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  • LIVES, RIGHT NOW, STRUCK ME.'CAUSE I'M LIKE: I AM
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  • 'CAUSE I'M LIKE: I AMASSOCIATING WITH MORE PEOPLE
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  • ASSOCIATING WITH MORE PEOPLETHAN EVER.
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  • THAN EVER.I AM ASSOCIATING GETTING CLOSE
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  • I AM ASSOCIATING GETTING CLOSETO AND ALLOWING PROXIMITY AND
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  • TO AND ALLOWING PROXIMITY ANDFREQUENCY OF SO MANY VOICES ON
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  • FREQUENCY OF SO MANY VOICES ONMY HEART.
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  • MY HEART.AND MUCH LIKE THIS SHOE, I HAD
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  • AND MUCH LIKE THIS SHOE, I HADTO FIGURE OUT WHERE THE PAIN
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  • TO FIGURE OUT WHERE THE PAINWAS COMING FROM.
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  • WAS COMING FROM.IT WAS PRESSING RIGHT ON MY
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  • IT WAS PRESSING RIGHT ON MYHEEL.
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  • HEEL.AND IT WAS THIS LITTLE HARD
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  • AND IT WAS THIS LITTLE HARDPART IN THE SHOE.
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  • PART IN THE SHOE.SO, I JUST CUT OUT THAT PART.
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  • SO, I JUST CUT OUT THAT PART.[LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]I DID NOT TAKE THE WHOLE SHOE
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  • I DID NOT TAKE THE WHOLE SHOEOFF, I DID NOT STOP MOVING;
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  • OFF, I DID NOT STOP MOVING;I DECIDED TO FIGURE OUT EXACTLY
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  • I DECIDED TO FIGURE OUT EXACTLYWHERE THE PAIN WAS COMING,
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  • WHERE THE PAIN WAS COMING,BUT I REALLY THOUGHT ABOUT...
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  • BUT I REALLY THOUGHT ABOUT...ASKING, BY THE POWER OF THE
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  • ASKING, BY THE POWER OF THESPIRIT, TO REVEAL WHERE WE NEED
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  • SPIRIT, TO REVEAL WHERE WE NEEDTO CUT OUT ASSOCIATIONS THAT
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  • TO CUT OUT ASSOCIATIONS THATARE PRESSING ON US, NOT WITH
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  • ARE PRESSING ON US, NOT WITHINFLUENCE BUT SINFLUENCE.
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  • INFLUENCE BUT SINFLUENCE.NOT THE WHOLE DAY.
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  • NOT THE WHOLE DAY.I'M NOT GONNA STEP OUT THE
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  • I'M NOT GONNA STEP OUT THEWHOLE DAY.
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  • WHOLE DAY.IS IT 2 HOURS IN THE DAY?
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  • IS IT 2 HOURS IN THE DAY?IS IT THREE ACCOUNTS ON
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  • IS IT THREE ACCOUNTS ONINSTAGRAM THAT I JUST NEED
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  • INSTAGRAM THAT I JUST NEEDTO DO A LITTLE SURGERY...
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  • TO DO A LITTLE SURGERY...RIGHT HERE?
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  • RIGHT HERE?IT'S NOT THE WHOLE...APP.
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  • IT'S NOT THE WHOLE...APP.IT'S JUST THREE ACCOUNTS THAT
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  • IT'S JUST THREE ACCOUNTS THATMAKE ME QUESTION WHO I AM EVERY
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  • MAKE ME QUESTION WHO I AM EVERYSINGLE DAY...AND DON'T POINT ME
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  • SINGLE DAY...AND DON'T POINT METO GOD AND WHO HE SAYS I AM.
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  • TO GOD AND WHO HE SAYS I AM.SO, WHERE DO-- WHERE DO WE NEED
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  • SO, WHERE DO-- WHERE DO WE NEEDTO CUT OUT AND HOW CAN WE ASK
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  • TO CUT OUT AND HOW CAN WE ASKTHIS-- THE GREAT MASTER
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  • THIS-- THE GREAT MASTERSURGEON, OUR GOD, TO GUIDE OUR
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  • SURGEON, OUR GOD, TO GUIDE OURHEARTS TO FIGURE OUT WHAT NEEDS
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  • HEARTS TO FIGURE OUT WHAT NEEDSTO JUST PRECISELY COME OUT?
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  • TO JUST PRECISELY COME OUT?BECAUSE NO ONE DESERVES THIS
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  • BECAUSE NO ONE DESERVES THISPROXIMITY AND CLOSENESS
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  • PROXIMITY AND CLOSENESSTO YOUR HEART IF IT'S
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  • TO YOUR HEART IF IT'SACTUALLY A SOURCE OF
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  • ACTUALLY A SOURCE OFSINFLUENCE.
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  • SINFLUENCE.BUT THAT'S HARD FOR ME.
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  • BUT THAT'S HARD FOR ME.'CAUSE I WILL RUN THROUGH PAIN.
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  • 'CAUSE I WILL RUN THROUGH PAIN.I'VE RUN ON BROKEN LEGS...
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  • I'VE RUN ON BROKEN LEGS...I JUST-- I CAN PURSUE THINGS
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  • I JUST-- I CAN PURSUE THINGSTHAT ARE DIFFICULT.
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  • THAT ARE DIFFICULT.BUT, I GUESS MY QUESTION TO ALL
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  • BUT, I GUESS MY QUESTION TO ALLOF YOU IS: WHAT HAS HELPED YOU,
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  • OF YOU IS: WHAT HAS HELPED YOU,IN YOUR TIME, IDENTIFY A SOURCE
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  • IN YOUR TIME, IDENTIFY A SOURCEOF SINFLUENCE, PAIN,
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  • OF SINFLUENCE, PAIN,ASSOCIATION THAT'S POINTING YOU
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  • ASSOCIATION THAT'S POINTING YOUAWAY FROM WHO GOD SAYS YOU ARE?
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  • AWAY FROM WHO GOD SAYS YOU ARE?AND WHAT DID YOU DO ABOUT IT?
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  • AND WHAT DID YOU DO ABOUT IT?- JOYCE: WELL, ONE OF THE
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  • - JOYCE: WELL, ONE OF THETHINGS THAT I KNOW THAT I JUST
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  • THINGS THAT I KNOW THAT I JUSTCANNOT STAND IS TO BE AROUND
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  • CANNOT STAND IS TO BE AROUNDSOMEBODY THAT IS CONSTANTLY
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  • SOMEBODY THAT IS CONSTANTLYNEGATIVE.
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  • NEGATIVE.AND, IN THE CLIMATE THAT WE
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  • AND, IN THE CLIMATE THAT WELIVE IN TODAY, I MEAN, ALMOST
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  • LIVE IN TODAY, I MEAN, ALMOSTLITERALLY EVERYBODY COMPLAINS
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  • LITERALLY EVERYBODY COMPLAINSABOUT THE GOVERNMENT, COVID...
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  • ABOUT THE GOVERNMENT, COVID...(LAUGHING) YOU KNOW, THIS AND
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  • (LAUGHING) YOU KNOW, THIS ANDTHAT AND SOMETHIN' ELSE.
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  • THAT AND SOMETHIN' ELSE.AND, EVERYBODY'S LIKE:
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  • AND, EVERYBODY'S LIKE:"WELL, I THINK..."
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  • "WELL, I THINK...""WELL, I THINK..."
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  • "WELL, I THINK..."WELL... WHO KNOWS
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  • WELL... WHO KNOWSANYTHING...TODAY?
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  • ANYTHING...TODAY?AND, IT'S JUST LIKE: THE NEWS
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  • AND, IT'S JUST LIKE: THE NEWSIS NEGATIVE, AND PEOPLE ARE
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  • IS NEGATIVE, AND PEOPLE ARENEGATIVE, AND...I DON'T THINK
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  • NEGATIVE, AND...I DON'T THINKPEOPLE REALIZE HOW MUCH ALL THE
  • 00:05:00.723 --> 00:05:03.760
  • PEOPLE REALIZE HOW MUCH ALL THESTRIFE, ALL THE PROBLEMS...
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  • STRIFE, ALL THE PROBLEMS...AND SO, I'LL JUST TELL YOU: I
  • 00:05:07.630 --> 00:05:09.065
  • AND SO, I'LL JUST TELL YOU: IWILL NOT HANG OUT WITH SOMEBODY
  • 00:05:09.065 --> 00:05:10.066
  • WILL NOT HANG OUT WITH SOMEBODYTHAT IS CONSTANTLY NEGATIVE.
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  • THAT IS CONSTANTLY NEGATIVE.I CAN'T STAND IT.
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  • I CAN'T STAND IT.I MEAN, IT'S JUST LIKE: I WAS
  • 00:05:14.303 --> 00:05:17.407
  • I MEAN, IT'S JUST LIKE: I WASSO NEGATIVE WHEN I WAS A CHILD,
  • 00:05:17.407 --> 00:05:18.007
  • SO NEGATIVE WHEN I WAS A CHILD,AND, REALLY, UP UNTIL I WAS
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  • AND, REALLY, UP UNTIL I WASABOUT IN MY MID-40s.
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  • ABOUT IN MY MID-40s.I MEAN, I ALWAYS SAY: IF I
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  • I MEAN, I ALWAYS SAY: IF ITHOUGHT TWO POSITIVE THOUGHTS
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  • THOUGHT TWO POSITIVE THOUGHTSIN A ROW, MY BRAIN GOT IN A
  • 00:05:23.679 --> 00:05:24.580
  • IN A ROW, MY BRAIN GOT IN ACRAMP.
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  • CRAMP.I MEAN, I WAS JUST LIKE...
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  • I MEAN, I WAS JUST LIKE...[LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]IF ANYBODY COULD GET OVER BEING
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  • IF ANYBODY COULD GET OVER BEINGNEGATIVE...
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  • NEGATIVE...IF I COULD GET OVER IT, ANYBODY
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  • IF I COULD GET OVER IT, ANYBODYCAN GET OVER IT.
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  • CAN GET OVER IT.AND I DON'T THINK WE REALIZE...
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  • AND I DON'T THINK WE REALIZE...HOW DANGEROUS COMPLAINING IS.
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  • HOW DANGEROUS COMPLAINING IS.IT ACTUALLY OPENS A DOOR FOR
  • 00:05:41.731 --> 00:05:42.932
  • IT ACTUALLY OPENS A DOOR FORTHE DEVIL.
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  • THE DEVIL.AND IT'S PROVEN IN SCRIPTURE.
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  • AND IT'S PROVEN IN SCRIPTURE.AND I THINK IT'S SOMETHING
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  • AND I THINK IT'S SOMETHINGTHAT...WE NEED TO START TALKIN'
  • 00:05:47.970 --> 00:05:49.372
  • THAT...WE NEED TO START TALKIN'ABOUT MORE.
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  • ABOUT MORE.WE NEED TO START TELLIN'
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  • WE NEED TO START TELLIN'PEOPLE...YOU KNOW...
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  • PEOPLE...YOU KNOW...AND YOU NEED TO PROTECT
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  • AND YOU NEED TO PROTECTYOURSELF.
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  • YOURSELF.YOU KNOW?
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  • YOU KNOW?IT'S LIKE: WE WANNA LOVE
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  • IT'S LIKE: WE WANNA LOVEEVERYBODY, AND WE WANNA BE
  • 00:05:59.949 --> 00:06:00.850
  • EVERYBODY, AND WE WANNA BEFRIENDS WITH EVERYBODY, AND SO,
  • 00:06:00.850 --> 00:06:02.084
  • FRIENDS WITH EVERYBODY, AND SO,MAYBE YOU'VE GOT A NEGATIVE
  • 00:06:02.084 --> 00:06:03.453
  • MAYBE YOU'VE GOT A NEGATIVEFRIEND THAT YOU'RE GONNA--
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  • FRIEND THAT YOU'RE GONNA--YOU'RE TRYING TO HELP OR YOU'RE
  • 00:06:04.987 --> 00:06:05.922
  • YOU'RE TRYING TO HELP OR YOU'REGONNA SPEND SOME TIME WITH HER.
  • 00:06:05.922 --> 00:06:07.623
  • GONNA SPEND SOME TIME WITH HER.BUT, ONCE IT STARTS HURTING
  • 00:06:07.623 --> 00:06:11.427
  • BUT, ONCE IT STARTS HURTINGYOU, OR IRRITATING YOU, OR
  • 00:06:11.427 --> 00:06:14.397
  • YOU, OR IRRITATING YOU, ORSTARTING TO AFFECT YOU--
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  • STARTING TO AFFECT YOU--BECAUSE YOU DO BECOME LIKE WHAT
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  • BECAUSE YOU DO BECOME LIKE WHATYOU'RE AROUND, SO YOU HAVE TO
  • 00:06:16.132 --> 00:06:19.435
  • YOU'RE AROUND, SO YOU HAVE TOPROTECT YOURSELF.
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  • PROTECT YOURSELF.AND...YOU KNOW, I DON'T THINK
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  • AND...YOU KNOW, I DON'T THINKWE'RE AS GOOD AS WE SHOULD BE,
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  • WE'RE AS GOOD AS WE SHOULD BE,SOMETIMES, ABOUT CONFRONTING
  • 00:06:24.340 --> 00:06:26.776
  • SOMETIMES, ABOUT CONFRONTINGONE ANOTHER IN LOVE.
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  • ONE ANOTHER IN LOVE.I THINK A LOT OF TIMES WE'RE SO
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  • I THINK A LOT OF TIMES WE'RE SOCONCERNED ABOUT HURTING THE
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  • CONCERNED ABOUT HURTING THEOTHER PEOPLE'S--
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  • OTHER PEOPLE'S--"WELL, I DON'T WANNA HURT THEIR
  • 00:06:32.281 --> 00:06:33.816
  • "WELL, I DON'T WANNA HURT THEIRFEELINGS."
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  • FEELINGS."BUT, YOU DON'T WANNA STAND BY,
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  • BUT, YOU DON'T WANNA STAND BY,EITHER, AND WATCH 'EM GO TO
  • 00:06:35.852 --> 00:06:36.152
  • EITHER, AND WATCH 'EM GO TOHELL.
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  • HELL.- CECE: YOU'RE REALLY HURTIN'
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  • - CECE: YOU'RE REALLY HURTIN''EM, THEN -- DEFINITELY.
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  • 'EM, THEN -- DEFINITELY.THAT'S GOOD.
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  • THAT'S GOOD.- JOYCE: I THINK THAT WE
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  • - JOYCE: I THINK THAT WEHAVE TO BE VERY CAREFUL ABOUT
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  • HAVE TO BE VERY CAREFUL ABOUTWHO WE SPEND A LOT OF TIME
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  • WHO WE SPEND A LOT OF TIMEWITH.
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  • WITH.- ELISABETH: THAT PROXIMITY
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  • - ELISABETH: THAT PROXIMITYAND FREQUENCY.
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  • AND FREQUENCY.SO, YOU'VE BEEN ABLE TO
  • 00:06:47.163 --> 00:06:48.664
  • SO, YOU'VE BEEN ABLE TOIDENTIFY AND TAKE THAT OUT.
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  • IDENTIFY AND TAKE THAT OUT.I THINK IT'S HARD, TOO, TO SAY
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  • I THINK IT'S HARD, TOO, TO SAYTO A FRIEND, "I LOVE YOU --
  • 00:06:51.434 --> 00:06:52.368
  • TO A FRIEND, "I LOVE YOU --THAT'S A BAD IDEA,
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  • THAT'S A BAD IDEA,BUT I LOVE YOU."
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  • BUT I LOVE YOU."(LAUGHING) YOU KNOW WHAT I
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  • (LAUGHING) YOU KNOW WHAT IMEAN?
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  • MEAN?- CECE: THAT'S A REAL FRIEND,
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  • - CECE: THAT'S A REAL FRIEND,THOUGH.
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  • THOUGH.- ELISABETH: I LOVE YOU --
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  • - ELISABETH: I LOVE YOU --THAT IS A BAD IDEA.
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  • THAT IS A BAD IDEA.I LOVE YOU, BUT...
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  • I LOVE YOU, BUT...DON'T DO THAT.
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  • DON'T DO THAT.- CECE: YEAH.
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  • - CECE: YEAH.- ELISABETH: BECAUSE I LOVE
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  • - ELISABETH: BECAUSE I LOVEYOU.
  • 00:07:02.211 --> 00:07:03.045
  • YOU.BUT IT'S HARD BECAUSE YOU RISK
  • 00:07:03.045 --> 00:07:04.814
  • BUT IT'S HARD BECAUSE YOU RISKRELATIONSHIP THAT YOU HAVE, AS
  • 00:07:04.814 --> 00:07:07.350
  • RELATIONSHIP THAT YOU HAVE, ASIT STANDS, AND IT PUTS-- IT
  • 00:07:07.350 --> 00:07:08.584
  • IT STANDS, AND IT PUTS-- ITPUTS YOU OUT THERE A LITTLE
  • 00:07:08.584 --> 00:07:09.218
  • PUTS YOU OUT THERE A LITTLEBIT.
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  • BIT.BUT I THINK THE LOVING THING
  • 00:07:10.419 --> 00:07:11.721
  • BUT I THINK THE LOVING THINGTO DO IS TO SAY IT.
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  • TO DO IS TO SAY IT.- JOYCE: BUT DO YOU WANT THE
  • 00:07:12.722 --> 00:07:15.024
  • - JOYCE: BUT DO YOU WANT THERELATIONSHIP THE WAY IT STANDS?
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  • RELATIONSHIP THE WAY IT STANDS?- LISA: YEAH, THAT'S WHAT I
  • 00:07:16.492 --> 00:07:17.026
  • - LISA: YEAH, THAT'S WHAT IWAS GONNA SAY.
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  • WAS GONNA SAY.- JOYCE: SO, YOU REALLY DON'T.
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  • - JOYCE: SO, YOU REALLY DON'T.- LAURIE: THAT'S GOOD.
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  • - LAURIE: THAT'S GOOD.- LISA: RIGHT.
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  • - LISA: RIGHT.YOU RISK RELATIONSHIPS THAT
  • 00:07:20.930 --> 00:07:22.164
  • YOU RISK RELATIONSHIPS THATAREN'T AS DEEP AS YOU THOUGHT
  • 00:07:22.164 --> 00:07:22.832
  • AREN'T AS DEEP AS YOU THOUGHTTHEY WERE.
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  • THEY WERE.- ELISABETH: THAT'S TRUE.
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  • - ELISABETH: THAT'S TRUE.- LISA: BUT YOU ACTUALLY RISK
  • 00:07:24.200 --> 00:07:24.934
  • - LISA: BUT YOU ACTUALLY RISKTHE POSSIBILITY OF MUCH GREATER
  • 00:07:24.934 --> 00:07:26.202
  • THE POSSIBILITY OF MUCH GREATERRELATIONSHIPS.
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  • RELATIONSHIPS.SO, FOR YEARS, I WOULDN'T BE
  • 00:07:27.670 --> 00:07:28.971
  • SO, FOR YEARS, I WOULDN'T BEHONEST WITH MY CLOSEST FRIENDS
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  • HONEST WITH MY CLOSEST FRIENDSUNTIL I HAD A VERY, VERY DEAR
  • 00:07:31.908 --> 00:07:32.608
  • UNTIL I HAD A VERY, VERY DEARFRIEND SAY, "LISA, YOU ARE SO
  • 00:07:32.608 --> 00:07:34.210
  • FRIEND SAY, "LISA, YOU ARE SODISRESPECTFUL TO ME."
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  • DISRESPECTFUL TO ME."AND I WAS LIKE:
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  • AND I WAS LIKE:["SHOCKED" BREATHING]
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  • ["SHOCKED" BREATHING]'CAUSE I WOULD HAVE DONE
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  • 'CAUSE I WOULD HAVE DONEANYTHING.
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  • ANYTHING.I WOULDA GIVEN HER BOTH MY
  • 00:07:38.381 --> 00:07:39.148
  • I WOULDA GIVEN HER BOTH MYKIDNEYS.
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  • KIDNEYS.I WAS LIKE, "HOW HAVE I BEEN
  • 00:07:39.749 --> 00:07:40.816
  • I WAS LIKE, "HOW HAVE I BEENDISRESPECTFUL?"
  • 00:07:40.816 --> 00:07:41.517
  • DISRESPECTFUL?"AND SHE SAID: "YOU'RE DISHONEST
  • 00:07:41.517 --> 00:07:43.286
  • AND SHE SAID: "YOU'RE DISHONESTWITH ME.
  • 00:07:43.286 --> 00:07:44.620
  • WITH ME.AND I FEEL LIKE YOU THINK I
  • 00:07:44.620 --> 00:07:45.955
  • AND I FEEL LIKE YOU THINK IMUST BE REALLY IMMATURE
  • 00:07:45.955 --> 00:07:48.224
  • MUST BE REALLY IMMATURESPIRITUALLY THAT YOU CAN'T TALK
  • 00:07:48.224 --> 00:07:49.992
  • SPIRITUALLY THAT YOU CAN'T TALKTO ME ABOUT REAL THINGS."
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  • TO ME ABOUT REAL THINGS."- ELISABETH: THAT'S RIGHT.
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  • - ELISABETH: THAT'S RIGHT.- LISA: AND I THOUGHT: SHE'S
  • 00:07:51.827 --> 00:07:54.196
  • - LISA: AND I THOUGHT: SHE'SEXACTLY RIGHT.
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  • EXACTLY RIGHT.I AM BEING DISRESPECTFUL IN
  • 00:07:55.097 --> 00:07:57.233
  • I AM BEING DISRESPECTFUL INPRESUMING THAT SHE WOULDN'T BE
  • 00:07:57.233 --> 00:07:59.835
  • PRESUMING THAT SHE WOULDN'T BEWILLING TO WRESTLE WITH THIS.
  • 00:07:59.835 --> 00:08:01.470
  • WILLING TO WRESTLE WITH THIS.I CAME HOME LAST CHRISTMAS, AND
  • 00:08:01.470 --> 00:08:03.406
  • I CAME HOME LAST CHRISTMAS, ANDI HAVE A NEPHEW WHO'S
  • 00:08:03.406 --> 00:08:05.141
  • I HAVE A NEPHEW WHO'SLIVING WITH US...FOR A WHILE.
  • 00:08:05.141 --> 00:08:07.310
  • LIVING WITH US...FOR A WHILE.AND, TO PLEASE ME, HE HAS THAT
  • 00:08:07.310 --> 00:08:10.379
  • AND, TO PLEASE ME, HE HAS THATSAME PREDISPOSITION TO SIN.
  • 00:08:10.379 --> 00:08:11.981
  • SAME PREDISPOSITION TO SIN.SO, I'M BEATIN' IT OUTTA HIM.
  • 00:08:11.981 --> 00:08:14.016
  • SO, I'M BEATIN' IT OUTTA HIM.[LAURIE LAUGHS]
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  • [LAURIE LAUGHS]BUT HE HAD DECORATED, OR TRIED
  • 00:08:14.984 --> 00:08:16.319
  • BUT HE HAD DECORATED, OR TRIEDTO DECORATE, THE WHOLE HOUSE.
  • 00:08:16.319 --> 00:08:16.919
  • TO DECORATE, THE WHOLE HOUSE.I WAS AWAY THAT WEEKEND FOR
  • 00:08:16.919 --> 00:08:19.155
  • I WAS AWAY THAT WEEKEND FORCHRISTMAS.
  • 00:08:19.155 --> 00:08:19.755
  • CHRISTMAS.SO, I DRIVE UP.
  • 00:08:19.755 --> 00:08:21.524
  • SO, I DRIVE UP.HE KNOWS SO MUCH I LIKE LIGHTS
  • 00:08:21.524 --> 00:08:22.692
  • HE KNOWS SO MUCH I LIKE LIGHTS-- WE LIVE OUT IN THE COUNTRY;
  • 00:08:22.692 --> 00:08:23.826
  • -- WE LIVE OUT IN THE COUNTRY;I'M SURPRISED SMALL PLANES
  • 00:08:23.826 --> 00:08:24.427
  • I'M SURPRISED SMALL PLANESDON'T LAND AT OUR HOUSE, WE
  • 00:08:24.427 --> 00:08:25.861
  • DON'T LAND AT OUR HOUSE, WEHAVE SO MANY LIGHTS.
  • 00:08:25.861 --> 00:08:26.829
  • HAVE SO MANY LIGHTS.BUT, HE HAD NOT BEEN ABLE TO
  • 00:08:26.829 --> 00:08:27.964
  • BUT, HE HAD NOT BEEN ABLE TOFIGURE OUT ALL THE EXTENSION
  • 00:08:27.964 --> 00:08:30.266
  • FIGURE OUT ALL THE EXTENSIONCORDS.
  • 00:08:30.266 --> 00:08:31.000
  • CORDS.AND SO, IT WAS JUST A MESS.
  • 00:08:31.000 --> 00:08:32.201
  • AND SO, IT WAS JUST A MESS.HE BLEW OUT A MASTER THING ON
  • 00:08:32.201 --> 00:08:33.569
  • HE BLEW OUT A MASTER THING ONTHE POOL.
  • 00:08:33.569 --> 00:08:34.837
  • THE POOL.IT ENDED UP-- HIS TRYING
  • 00:08:34.837 --> 00:08:35.938
  • IT ENDED UP-- HIS TRYINGTO PLEASE ME ENDED UP COSTING
  • 00:08:35.938 --> 00:08:37.506
  • TO PLEASE ME ENDED UP COSTINGME ABOUT 2500 DOLLARS.
  • 00:08:37.506 --> 00:08:38.975
  • ME ABOUT 2500 DOLLARS.'CAUSE I SAID, "WHAT YOU'VE
  • 00:08:38.975 --> 00:08:40.076
  • 'CAUSE I SAID, "WHAT YOU'VEDONE IS YOU'VE GOT ALL THESE
  • 00:08:40.076 --> 00:08:41.510
  • DONE IS YOU'VE GOT ALL THESEEXTENSION CORDS THAT DON'T PLUG
  • 00:08:41.510 --> 00:08:42.979
  • EXTENSION CORDS THAT DON'T PLUGINTO ANYTHING -- ALL THEY HAVE
  • 00:08:42.979 --> 00:08:45.047
  • INTO ANYTHING -- ALL THEY HAVEIS RECEPTACLES ON EITHER END,
  • 00:08:45.047 --> 00:08:46.215
  • IS RECEPTACLES ON EITHER END,AND THAT'S WHAT MESSED YOU UP."
  • 00:08:46.215 --> 00:08:47.717
  • AND THAT'S WHAT MESSED YOU UP."AND I THOUGHT: BOY, ISN'T THAT
  • 00:08:47.717 --> 00:08:48.250
  • AND I THOUGHT: BOY, ISN'T THATWHAT WE DO SOMETIMES IN
  • 00:08:48.250 --> 00:08:49.352
  • WHAT WE DO SOMETIMES INFRIENDSHIPS?
  • 00:08:49.352 --> 00:08:51.520
  • FRIENDSHIPS?ESPECIALLY GET A BUNCHA
  • 00:08:51.520 --> 00:08:53.289
  • ESPECIALLY GET A BUNCHACOMPLAINING, WHINY WOMEN
  • 00:08:53.289 --> 00:08:54.657
  • COMPLAINING, WHINY WOMENTOGETHER, AND, ALL OF A SUDDEN,
  • 00:08:54.657 --> 00:08:55.458
  • TOGETHER, AND, ALL OF A SUDDEN,WE'RE ALL TRYING TO GET OUR
  • 00:08:55.458 --> 00:08:56.626
  • WE'RE ALL TRYING TO GET OURENERGY FROM EACH OTHER INSTEAD
  • 00:08:56.626 --> 00:08:58.694
  • ENERGY FROM EACH OTHER INSTEADOF GOING: I HAVE GOT TO PLUG
  • 00:08:58.694 --> 00:08:59.895
  • OF GOING: I HAVE GOT TO PLUGINTO JESUS, AND THEN, I'M
  • 00:08:59.895 --> 00:09:02.198
  • INTO JESUS, AND THEN, I'MWILLING TO GO: "LAURIE, CAN WE
  • 00:09:02.198 --> 00:09:03.165
  • WILLING TO GO: "LAURIE, CAN WETALK ABOUT THIS?
  • 00:09:03.165 --> 00:09:04.166
  • TALK ABOUT THIS?IT'S KINDA HARD."
  • 00:09:04.166 --> 00:09:05.735
  • IT'S KINDA HARD."BECAUSE EVEN IF THERE'S A SLIP
  • 00:09:05.735 --> 00:09:07.103
  • BECAUSE EVEN IF THERE'S A SLIPIN OUR RELATIONSHIP, MY POWER
  • 00:09:07.103 --> 00:09:08.771
  • IN OUR RELATIONSHIP, MY POWERCOMES FROM JESUS.
  • 00:09:08.771 --> 00:09:09.672
  • COMES FROM JESUS.MY SECURITY, MY IDENTITY.
  • 00:09:09.672 --> 00:09:11.674
  • MY SECURITY, MY IDENTITY.AND SO, HE AND I HAVE A
  • 00:09:11.674 --> 00:09:14.577
  • AND SO, HE AND I HAVE ARECIPROCAL SPIRITUAL MATURITY.
  • 00:09:14.577 --> 00:09:16.812
  • RECIPROCAL SPIRITUAL MATURITY.- CECE: YEAH, AND I-I JUST
  • 00:09:16.812 --> 00:09:17.947
  • - CECE: YEAH, AND I-I JUSTTHINK IT'S IMPORTANT THAT WE
  • 00:09:17.947 --> 00:09:20.750
  • THINK IT'S IMPORTANT THAT WEREALLY KNOW WHAT LOVE IS.
  • 00:09:20.750 --> 00:09:22.184
  • REALLY KNOW WHAT LOVE IS.YOU KNOW, I THINK WE TAKE OUR
  • 00:09:22.184 --> 00:09:25.121
  • YOU KNOW, I THINK WE TAKE OURCUES FROM THE WORLD -- WHAT
  • 00:09:25.121 --> 00:09:26.188
  • CUES FROM THE WORLD -- WHATLOVING PEOPLE REALLY LOOKS
  • 00:09:26.188 --> 00:09:28.024
  • LOVING PEOPLE REALLY LOOKSLIKE.
  • 00:09:28.024 --> 00:09:28.791
  • LIKE.YOU KNOW?
  • 00:09:28.791 --> 00:09:30.159
  • YOU KNOW?AND, LOVING PEOPLE IS NOT LYING
  • 00:09:30.159 --> 00:09:30.893
  • AND, LOVING PEOPLE IS NOT LYINGTO 'EM...YOU KNOW, TO BE LIKED
  • 00:09:30.893 --> 00:09:32.094
  • TO 'EM...YOU KNOW, TO BE LIKEDBY THEM.
  • 00:09:32.094 --> 00:09:34.664
  • BY THEM.YOU KNOW?
  • 00:09:34.664 --> 00:09:36.465
  • YOU KNOW?AND I THINK IT'S-- IT'S JUST
  • 00:09:36.465 --> 00:09:37.366
  • AND I THINK IT'S-- IT'S JUSTTIME FOR US-- AGAIN, YOU GO
  • 00:09:37.366 --> 00:09:40.970
  • TIME FOR US-- AGAIN, YOU GOBACK TO THE WORD OF GOD.
  • 00:09:40.970 --> 00:09:43.139
  • BACK TO THE WORD OF GOD.AND, WHEN WE...DO WHAT THE WORD
  • 00:09:43.139 --> 00:09:45.174
  • AND, WHEN WE...DO WHAT THE WORDTELLS US TO DO, AND
  • 00:09:45.174 --> 00:09:46.375
  • TELLS US TO DO, ANDUNDERSTANDING, LIKE YOU SAID,
  • 00:09:46.375 --> 00:09:47.410
  • UNDERSTANDING, LIKE YOU SAID,THE RELATIONSHIP WITH JESUS IS
  • 00:09:47.410 --> 00:09:48.511
  • THE RELATIONSHIP WITH JESUS ISTHE MOST IMPORTANT THING.
  • 00:09:48.511 --> 00:09:50.112
  • THE MOST IMPORTANT THING.THAT RELATIONSHIP STRENGTHENS
  • 00:09:50.112 --> 00:09:52.682
  • THAT RELATIONSHIP STRENGTHENSEVERY OTHER RELATIONSHIP.
  • 00:09:52.682 --> 00:09:53.182
  • EVERY OTHER RELATIONSHIP.- LISA: THAT'S RIGHT.
  • 00:09:53.182 --> 00:09:54.417
  • - LISA: THAT'S RIGHT.THAT'S RIGHT.
  • 00:09:54.417 --> 00:09:55.051
  • THAT'S RIGHT.- CECE: THAT RELATIONSHIP
  • 00:09:55.051 --> 00:09:56.052
  • - CECE: THAT RELATIONSHIPTEACHES YOU HOW TO BE A FRIEND,
  • 00:09:56.052 --> 00:09:56.485
  • TEACHES YOU HOW TO BE A FRIEND,HOW TO--
  • 00:09:56.485 --> 00:09:57.853
  • HOW TO--AND EVERYTHING HAS TO BE DONE
  • 00:09:57.853 --> 00:09:59.622
  • AND EVERYTHING HAS TO BE DONEIN LOVE.
  • 00:09:59.622 --> 00:10:00.256
  • IN LOVE.AND LIKE JOYCE SAID EARLIER,
  • 00:10:00.256 --> 00:10:00.990
  • AND LIKE JOYCE SAID EARLIER,IT'S SO IMPORTANT TO BE LED BY
  • 00:10:00.990 --> 00:10:04.026
  • IT'S SO IMPORTANT TO BE LED BYTHE HOLY SPIRIT, OF WHEN TO SAY
  • 00:10:04.026 --> 00:10:04.760
  • THE HOLY SPIRIT, OF WHEN TO SAYSOMETHING AND--
  • 00:10:04.760 --> 00:10:07.163
  • SOMETHING AND--THERE'S A TIME AND PLACE.
  • 00:10:07.163 --> 00:10:08.130
  • THERE'S A TIME AND PLACE.- ELISABETH: THERE'S A TIME.
  • 00:10:08.130 --> 00:10:09.532
  • - ELISABETH: THERE'S A TIME.- CECE: YEAH.
  • 00:10:09.532 --> 00:10:10.132
  • - CECE: YEAH.- JOYCE: AND YOU NEVER-- YOU
  • 00:10:10.132 --> 00:10:11.000
  • - JOYCE: AND YOU NEVER-- YOUDON'T EVER WANNA CONFRONT
  • 00:10:11.000 --> 00:10:11.734
  • DON'T EVER WANNA CONFRONTSOMEBODY UNLESS YOU HAVE PRAYED
  • 00:10:11.734 --> 00:10:12.334
  • SOMEBODY UNLESS YOU HAVE PRAYEDFOR THEM.
  • 00:10:12.334 --> 00:10:13.035
  • FOR THEM.- CECE: THAT'S RIGHT.
  • 00:10:13.035 --> 00:10:14.870
  • - CECE: THAT'S RIGHT.THERE YOU GO.
  • 00:10:14.870 --> 00:10:15.771
  • THERE YOU GO.- JOYCE: YOU KNOW, YOU
  • 00:10:15.771 --> 00:10:16.405
  • - JOYCE: YOU KNOW, YOUALWAYS...PRAY FIRST,
  • 00:10:16.405 --> 00:10:17.406
  • ALWAYS...PRAY FIRST,- CECE: ALWAYS.
  • 00:10:17.406 --> 00:10:18.007
  • - CECE: ALWAYS.- ELISABETH: ALWAYS.
  • 00:10:18.007 --> 00:10:20.042
  • - ELISABETH: ALWAYS.- LAURIE: YOU KNOW, IT FEELS
  • 00:10:20.042 --> 00:10:22.311
  • - LAURIE: YOU KNOW, IT FEELSLIKE NOBODY'S PRAYING BEFORE
  • 00:10:22.311 --> 00:10:24.080
  • LIKE NOBODY'S PRAYING BEFORETHEY RESPOND TO SOMETHIN'.
  • 00:10:24.080 --> 00:10:26.015
  • THEY RESPOND TO SOMETHIN'.IT'S SO-- I WAS TRYING TO
  • 00:10:26.015 --> 00:10:26.649
  • IT'S SO-- I WAS TRYING TOTHINK, THE OTHER DAY-- I MEAN,
  • 00:10:26.649 --> 00:10:28.317
  • THINK, THE OTHER DAY-- I MEAN,JUST THE VITRIOL STUFF THAT:
  • 00:10:28.317 --> 00:10:29.118
  • JUST THE VITRIOL STUFF THAT:IF YOU DON'T AGREE WITH ME,
  • 00:10:29.118 --> 00:10:31.487
  • IF YOU DON'T AGREE WITH ME,THEN YOU'RE A HATER AND YOU
  • 00:10:31.487 --> 00:10:34.690
  • THEN YOU'RE A HATER AND YOUHATE ME.
  • 00:10:34.690 --> 00:10:35.357
  • HATE ME.YOU KNOW, AND I WAS LIKE: TAKE
  • 00:10:35.357 --> 00:10:36.425
  • YOU KNOW, AND I WAS LIKE: TAKEALL THE BOXES AWAY.
  • 00:10:36.425 --> 00:10:37.593
  • ALL THE BOXES AWAY.TAKE THE POLITICAL BOXES AWAY.
  • 00:10:37.593 --> 00:10:39.729
  • TAKE THE POLITICAL BOXES AWAY.TAKE-- TAKE ALL THE RACE BOXES
  • 00:10:39.729 --> 00:10:40.730
  • TAKE-- TAKE ALL THE RACE BOXESAWAY.
  • 00:10:40.730 --> 00:10:42.264
  • AWAY.THERE'S ONE BOX AND IT'S CALLED
  • 00:10:42.264 --> 00:10:45.568
  • THERE'S ONE BOX AND IT'S CALLEDTHE LOVE BOX.
  • 00:10:45.568 --> 00:10:46.502
  • THE LOVE BOX.AND YOU'RE EITHER IN THAT OR
  • 00:10:46.502 --> 00:10:47.403
  • AND YOU'RE EITHER IN THAT ORNOT.
  • 00:10:47.403 --> 00:10:48.437
  • NOT.SO, IF YOU DON'T AGREE WITH ME,
  • 00:10:48.437 --> 00:10:51.407
  • SO, IF YOU DON'T AGREE WITH ME,THEN YOU'RE MY ENEMY.
  • 00:10:51.407 --> 00:10:52.041
  • THEN YOU'RE MY ENEMY.WELL, WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY
  • 00:10:52.041 --> 00:10:53.442
  • WELL, WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAYABOUT ENEMIES?
  • 00:10:53.442 --> 00:10:53.876
  • ABOUT ENEMIES?- CECE: [CHUCKLES]
  • 00:10:53.876 --> 00:10:54.510
  • - CECE: [CHUCKLES]LOVE THEM.
  • 00:10:54.510 --> 00:10:55.211
  • LOVE THEM.PRAY FOR 'EM.
  • 00:10:55.211 --> 00:10:55.911
  • PRAY FOR 'EM.- LAURIE: LOVE YOUR ENEMIES.
  • 00:10:55.911 --> 00:10:56.946
  • - LAURIE: LOVE YOUR ENEMIES.PRAY FOR YOUR ENEMIES.
  • 00:10:56.946 --> 00:10:57.613
  • PRAY FOR YOUR ENEMIES.- JOYCE: FORGIVE 'EM, PRAY FOR
  • 00:10:57.613 --> 00:10:58.514
  • - JOYCE: FORGIVE 'EM, PRAY FORTHOSE WHO--
  • 00:10:58.514 --> 00:10:59.281
  • THOSE WHO--- LAURIE: FORGIVE 'EM, PRAY
  • 00:10:59.281 --> 00:11:00.049
  • - LAURIE: FORGIVE 'EM, PRAYFOR 'EM -- NOT SAY: IF YOU
  • 00:11:00.049 --> 00:11:02.752
  • FOR 'EM -- NOT SAY: IF YOUDON'T--
  • 00:11:02.752 --> 00:11:03.352
  • DON'T--AND IT'S SO NARCISSISTIC.
  • 00:11:03.352 --> 00:11:04.186
  • AND IT'S SO NARCISSISTIC.- LISA: IT'S NARCISSISTIC, BUT
  • 00:11:04.186 --> 00:11:04.954
  • - LISA: IT'S NARCISSISTIC, BUTIT GOES BACK TO WHAT CECE JUST
  • 00:11:04.954 --> 00:11:06.789
  • IT GOES BACK TO WHAT CECE JUSTSAID.
  • 00:11:06.789 --> 00:11:07.857
  • SAID.WE HAVE CONFLICT BASED-- UH,
  • 00:11:07.857 --> 00:11:10.726
  • WE HAVE CONFLICT BASED-- UH,FROM PEOPLE BECAUSE OF THEIR
  • 00:11:10.726 --> 00:11:11.393
  • FROM PEOPLE BECAUSE OF THEIRVIEWPOINTS, NOT BECAUSE OF THEIR
  • 00:11:11.393 --> 00:11:12.294
  • VIEWPOINTS, NOT BECAUSE OF THEIRRELATIONSHIP, NOT BECAUSE OF A
  • 00:11:12.294 --> 00:11:12.828
  • RELATIONSHIP, NOT BECAUSE OF ASHARES AFFINITY FOR ONE
  • 00:11:12.828 --> 00:11:14.130
  • SHARES AFFINITY FOR ONEANOTHER.
  • 00:11:14.130 --> 00:11:15.297
  • ANOTHER.IF YOU HAVE REAL RELATIONSHIP
  • 00:11:15.297 --> 00:11:17.433
  • IF YOU HAVE REAL RELATIONSHIPWITH SOMEBODY, YOU CAN GET UP
  • 00:11:17.433 --> 00:11:18.601
  • WITH SOMEBODY, YOU CAN GET UPCLOSE AND GO, "THIS IS REALLY
  • 00:11:18.601 --> 00:11:20.703
  • CLOSE AND GO, "THIS IS REALLYHARD FOR ME."
  • 00:11:20.703 --> 00:11:22.404
  • HARD FOR ME."OR: "I'M SORRY."
  • 00:11:22.404 --> 00:11:23.506
  • OR: "I'M SORRY."BUT WE HAVE AAAAALL THIS
  • 00:11:23.506 --> 00:11:25.474
  • BUT WE HAVE AAAAALL THISVITRIOL BECAUSE PEOPLE
  • 00:11:25.474 --> 00:11:26.275
  • VITRIOL BECAUSE PEOPLEDON'T HAVE RELATIONSHIP.
  • 00:11:26.275 --> 00:11:27.143
  • DON'T HAVE RELATIONSHIP.- CECE: THAT'S RIGHT.
  • 00:11:27.143 --> 00:11:27.710
  • - CECE: THAT'S RIGHT.- LISA: AND THEY'VE GOT A
  • 00:11:27.710 --> 00:11:28.444
  • - LISA: AND THEY'VE GOT ALAPTOP AND NO ACCOUNTABILITY,
  • 00:11:28.444 --> 00:11:29.044
  • LAPTOP AND NO ACCOUNTABILITY,AND SO, THEY CAN EVISCERATE
  • 00:11:29.044 --> 00:11:30.045
  • AND SO, THEY CAN EVISCERATESOMEBODY.
  • 00:11:30.045 --> 00:11:31.580
  • SOMEBODY.AND THERE'S NO CONSEQUENCE FOR
  • 00:11:31.580 --> 00:11:32.681
  • AND THERE'S NO CONSEQUENCE FOREVISCERATING SOMEBODY, UM,
  • 00:11:32.681 --> 00:11:34.049
  • EVISCERATING SOMEBODY, UM,EXCEPT YOU WOUNDED THE OTHER
  • 00:11:34.049 --> 00:11:36.252
  • EXCEPT YOU WOUNDED THE OTHERPERSON.
  • 00:11:36.252 --> 00:11:37.186
  • PERSON.AND SO, I THINK WHAT WE CALL
  • 00:11:37.186 --> 00:11:39.088
  • AND SO, I THINK WHAT WE CALLRELATIONSHIP I IN OUR
  • 00:11:39.088 --> 00:11:41.524
  • RELATIONSHIP I IN OURCULTURE IS VASTLY DIFFERENT
  • 00:11:41.524 --> 00:11:42.825
  • CULTURE IS VASTLY DIFFERENTFROM WHAT GOD CALLS
  • 00:11:42.825 --> 00:11:43.793
  • FROM WHAT GOD CALLSRELATIONSHIP IN SCRIPTURE.
  • 00:11:43.793 --> 00:11:46.028
  • RELATIONSHIP IN SCRIPTURE.AND THE PARAMETERS HE SETS
  • 00:11:46.028 --> 00:11:49.165
  • AND THE PARAMETERS HE SETSFOR...SPEAKING THE TRUTH IN
  • 00:11:49.165 --> 00:11:50.599
  • FOR...SPEAKING THE TRUTH INLOVE -- THE PARAMETERS HE SETS
  • 00:11:50.599 --> 00:11:52.034
  • LOVE -- THE PARAMETERS HE SETSARE BASED ON RELATIONSHIP, NOT
  • 00:11:52.034 --> 00:11:53.435
  • ARE BASED ON RELATIONSHIP, NOTWHAT WE HAVE NOWADAYS, WHICH IS
  • 00:11:53.435 --> 00:11:57.239
  • WHAT WE HAVE NOWADAYS, WHICH ISJUST...SOCIAL...MANIA.
  • 00:11:57.239 --> 00:11:58.440
  • JUST...SOCIAL...MANIA.- ELISABETH: --* I LOVE HOW
  • 00:11:58.440 --> 00:11:59.875
  • - ELISABETH: --* I LOVE HOWYOU CALL IT "SOCIAL MANIA,"
  • 00:11:59.875 --> 00:12:00.476
  • YOU CALL IT "SOCIAL MANIA,"'CAUSE SOCIAL MEDIA CAN FEEL
  • 00:12:00.476 --> 00:12:01.043
  • 'CAUSE SOCIAL MEDIA CAN FEELLIKE SOCIAL MANIA.
  • 00:12:01.043 --> 00:12:02.645
  • LIKE SOCIAL MANIA.IT'S BUILDING UP THESE WALLS,
  • 00:12:02.645 --> 00:12:03.379
  • IT'S BUILDING UP THESE WALLS,RIGHT?
  • 00:12:03.379 --> 00:12:04.146
  • RIGHT?AND WE HAVE A GOD WHO WANTS TO
  • 00:12:04.146 --> 00:12:05.114
  • AND WE HAVE A GOD WHO WANTS TOTEAR THEM DOWN AND BRING US
  • 00:12:05.114 --> 00:12:05.514
  • TEAR THEM DOWN AND BRING USTOGETHER.
  • 00:12:05.514 --> 00:12:06.282
  • TOGETHER.WE HAVE A GOD OF CLOSENESS AND
  • 00:12:06.282 --> 00:12:07.883
  • WE HAVE A GOD OF CLOSENESS ANDRELATIONSHIP.
  • 00:12:07.883 --> 00:12:09.485
  • RELATIONSHIP.AND, TOGETHER, UM...
  • 00:12:09.485 --> 00:12:10.085
  • AND, TOGETHER, UM...AND I THINK THE MORE WE HAVE
  • 00:12:10.085 --> 00:12:10.986
  • AND I THINK THE MORE WE HAVEOUR EYES ON THINGS THAT ARE
  • 00:12:10.986 --> 00:12:12.988
  • OUR EYES ON THINGS THAT AREBUILDING LAYERS OF BRICKS
  • 00:12:12.988 --> 00:12:15.057
  • BUILDING LAYERS OF BRICKSBETWEEN US, WE HAVE TO
  • 00:12:15.057 --> 00:12:17.393
  • BETWEEN US, WE HAVE TOREALLY...ASK FOR THE HOLY AND
  • 00:12:17.393 --> 00:12:19.395
  • REALLY...ASK FOR THE HOLY ANDDIVINE EDIT ON WHAT WE ARE
  • 00:12:19.395 --> 00:12:23.465
  • DIVINE EDIT ON WHAT WE ARESPENDING OUR TIME WITH AND HOW
  • 00:12:23.465 --> 00:12:24.099
  • SPENDING OUR TIME WITH AND HOWWE'RE ALLOWING THINGS TO BE OF
  • 00:12:24.099 --> 00:12:26.669
  • WE'RE ALLOWING THINGS TO BE OFSINFLUENCE IN OUR HEARTS.
  • 00:12:26.669 --> 00:12:28.003
  • SINFLUENCE IN OUR HEARTS.BECAUSE THAT'S THE ONE WAY THE
  • 00:12:28.003 --> 00:12:29.205
  • BECAUSE THAT'S THE ONE WAY THEENEMY, I THINK, JUST WANTS TO
  • 00:12:29.205 --> 00:12:30.706
  • ENEMY, I THINK, JUST WANTS TOCONTINUE TO BUILD A WALL OF
  • 00:12:30.706 --> 00:12:31.740
  • CONTINUE TO BUILD A WALL OFBRICKS, RIGHT HERE, TILL I
  • 00:12:31.740 --> 00:12:33.342
  • BRICKS, RIGHT HERE, TILL ICAN'T EVEN SEE MY SISTERS IN
  • 00:12:33.342 --> 00:12:36.512
  • CAN'T EVEN SEE MY SISTERS INCHRIST.
  • 00:12:36.512 --> 00:12:37.112
  • CHRIST.LIKE, THAT'S WHAT THE ENEMY
  • 00:12:37.112 --> 00:12:37.813
  • LIKE, THAT'S WHAT THE ENEMYWANTS.
  • 00:12:37.813 --> 00:12:38.848
  • WANTS.SO, IT'S A MATTER OF TAKING
  • 00:12:38.848 --> 00:12:39.682
  • SO, IT'S A MATTER OF TAKINGOUT, IN ORDER TO MAKE ROOM.
  • 00:12:39.682 --> 00:12:40.749
  • OUT, IN ORDER TO MAKE ROOM.I'M NOT ABOUT TAKING OUT
  • 00:12:40.749 --> 00:12:41.917
  • I'M NOT ABOUT TAKING OUTWITHOUT FILLING IN 'CAUSE I
  • 00:12:41.917 --> 00:12:42.585
  • WITHOUT FILLING IN 'CAUSE IDON'T LIKE A VACUUM.
  • 00:12:42.585 --> 00:12:43.185
  • DON'T LIKE A VACUUM.I KNOW WHAT HAPPENS WITH THE
  • 00:12:43.185 --> 00:12:44.353
  • I KNOW WHAT HAPPENS WITH THEVACUUM.
  • 00:12:44.353 --> 00:12:44.920
  • VACUUM.(LAUGHING) I DON'T LIKE A
  • 00:12:44.920 --> 00:12:45.554
  • (LAUGHING) I DON'T LIKE AVACUUM.
  • 00:12:45.554 --> 00:12:46.488
  • VACUUM.I LIKE TO FILL IN WHEN IT'S--
  • 00:12:46.488 --> 00:12:50.092
  • I LIKE TO FILL IN WHEN IT'S--WHAT I TRY TO-- WHAT I NEED TO
  • 00:12:50.092 --> 00:12:51.026
  • WHAT I TRY TO-- WHAT I NEED TODO.
  • 00:12:51.026 --> 00:12:52.194
  • DO.I NEED TO GET BETTER AT THIS,
  • 00:12:52.194 --> 00:12:53.028
  • I NEED TO GET BETTER AT THIS,UM, BETTER TOGETHER AT THIS.
  • 00:12:53.028 --> 00:12:54.496
  • UM, BETTER TOGETHER AT THIS.IT'S A FILLING -- MY HEART AND
  • 00:12:54.496 --> 00:12:56.232
  • IT'S A FILLING -- MY HEART ANDMY MIND -- WITH INFLUENCES
  • 00:12:56.232 --> 00:12:59.134
  • MY MIND -- WITH INFLUENCESTHAT POINT ME TO TRUTH.
  • 00:12:59.134 --> 00:12:59.969
  • THAT POINT ME TO TRUTH.- LISA: BECAUSE THEY'RE GOOD.
  • 00:12:59.969 --> 00:13:00.636
  • - LISA: BECAUSE THEY'RE GOOD.- ELISABETH: BECAUSE YOU GOTTA
  • 00:13:00.636 --> 00:13:00.970
  • - ELISABETH: BECAUSE YOU GOTTASTAY READY.
  • 00:13:00.970 --> 00:13:01.570
  • STAY READY.LIKE, WE'RE GONNA NEED EACH
  • 00:13:01.570 --> 00:13:02.104
  • LIKE, WE'RE GONNA NEED EACHOTHER.
  • 00:13:02.104 --> 00:13:02.738
  • OTHER.YOU HAVE TO STAY READY SO THAT
  • 00:13:02.738 --> 00:13:03.806
  • YOU HAVE TO STAY READY SO THATWE'RE-- WE'RE TAKIN' OUT THE
  • 00:13:03.806 --> 00:13:05.307
  • WE'RE-- WE'RE TAKIN' OUT THETHINGS THAT ARE POINTING US
  • 00:13:05.307 --> 00:13:06.408
  • THINGS THAT ARE POINTING USELSEWHERE TO STAY READY FOR A
  • 00:13:06.408 --> 00:13:07.810
  • ELSEWHERE TO STAY READY FOR AFRIEND, WHO MAY NEED YOUR WISE,
  • 00:13:07.810 --> 00:13:10.479
  • FRIEND, WHO MAY NEED YOUR WISE,SPIRIT-LED WORDS, AT THE TIME.
  • 00:13:10.479 --> 00:13:11.480
  • SPIRIT-LED WORDS, AT THE TIME.LIKE, WE HAVE ACCOUNTABILITY TO
  • 00:13:11.480 --> 00:13:12.581
  • LIKE, WE HAVE ACCOUNTABILITY TOONE ANOTHER.
  • 00:13:12.581 --> 00:13:13.582
  • ONE ANOTHER.AND SO, IF YOU'RE NOT DOING
  • 00:13:13.582 --> 00:13:14.884
  • AND SO, IF YOU'RE NOT DOINGWHAT YOU NEED TO DO--
  • 00:13:14.884 --> 00:13:16.318
  • WHAT YOU NEED TO DO--I'M A FIRM BELIEVER IN, LIKE,
  • 00:13:16.318 --> 00:13:17.319
  • I'M A FIRM BELIEVER IN, LIKE,YOU HAVE TO-- YOU HAVE TO
  • 00:13:17.319 --> 00:13:18.354
  • YOU HAVE TO-- YOU HAVE TONURTURE YOUR OWN GARDEN.
  • 00:13:18.354 --> 00:13:19.922
  • NURTURE YOUR OWN GARDEN.AND IF, BY THE POWER OF GOD,
  • 00:13:19.922 --> 00:13:21.523
  • AND IF, BY THE POWER OF GOD,YOU'RE DOING THAT, YOU CAN STAY
  • 00:13:21.523 --> 00:13:23.359
  • YOU'RE DOING THAT, YOU CAN STAYREADY FOR A SISTER OR A BROTHER
  • 00:13:23.359 --> 00:13:26.962
  • READY FOR A SISTER OR A BROTHERWHO WILL NEED THAT.
  • 00:13:26.962 --> 00:13:27.696
  • WHO WILL NEED THAT.- LISA: ELISABETH, WHAT DID
  • 00:13:27.696 --> 00:13:28.097
  • - LISA: ELISABETH, WHAT DIDYOU SAY?
  • 00:13:28.097 --> 00:13:28.731
  • YOU SAY?YOU SAID, PROXIMITY AND...?
  • 00:13:28.731 --> 00:13:29.632
  • YOU SAID, PROXIMITY AND...?- ELISABETH: FREQUENCY.
  • 00:13:29.632 --> 00:13:30.165
  • - ELISABETH: FREQUENCY.- LISA: FREQUENCY.
  • 00:13:30.165 --> 00:13:31.000
  • - LISA: FREQUENCY.WHEN YOU SAID THAT, I THOUGHT:
  • 00:13:31.000 --> 00:13:31.867
  • WHEN YOU SAID THAT, I THOUGHT:I KNOW I'M NOT THE SHARPEST
  • 00:13:31.867 --> 00:13:32.835
  • I KNOW I'M NOT THE SHARPESTTOOL IN THE SHED.
  • 00:13:32.835 --> 00:13:33.502
  • TOOL IN THE SHED.I ALWAYS GETS THINGS KIND OF AT
  • 00:13:33.502 --> 00:13:36.538
  • I ALWAYS GETS THINGS KIND OF ATA LOWER...LEVEL.
  • 00:13:36.538 --> 00:13:37.206
  • A LOWER...LEVEL.- ELISABETH: I THINK I SPELLED
  • 00:13:37.206 --> 00:13:37.840
  • - ELISABETH: I THINK I SPELLEDIT WRONG, IF IT MAKES YOU FEEL
  • 00:13:37.840 --> 00:13:38.407
  • IT WRONG, IF IT MAKES YOU FEELANY BETTER.
  • 00:13:38.407 --> 00:13:38.841
  • ANY BETTER.- LISA: NO, NO.
  • 00:13:38.841 --> 00:13:39.808
  • - LISA: NO, NO.[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:13:39.808 --> 00:13:40.409
  • [LAUGHTER]BUT WHAT I THOUGHT WHEN YOU
  • 00:13:40.409 --> 00:13:40.809
  • BUT WHAT I THOUGHT WHEN YOUSAID THAT--
  • 00:13:40.809 --> 00:13:44.914
  • SAID THAT--- ELISABETH: BUT IT'S THERE.
  • 00:13:44.914 --> 00:13:45.681
  • - ELISABETH: BUT IT'S THERE.- LISA: --IS I THOUGHT: YOU
  • 00:13:45.681 --> 00:13:46.348
  • - LISA: --IS I THOUGHT: YOUKNOW, PROBABLY THE MOST
  • 00:13:46.348 --> 00:13:47.816
  • KNOW, PROBABLY THE MOSTEFFECTIVE THING I'VE DONE --
  • 00:13:47.816 --> 00:13:48.651
  • EFFECTIVE THING I'VE DONE --JUST PRACTICALLY, COOKIES ON
  • 00:13:48.651 --> 00:13:49.718
  • JUST PRACTICALLY, COOKIES ONTHE LOWER SHELF, IN REGARDS TO
  • 00:13:49.718 --> 00:13:50.586
  • THE LOWER SHELF, IN REGARDS TOWHAT WE'RE TALKING TO AND
  • 00:13:50.586 --> 00:13:51.854
  • WHAT WE'RE TALKING TO ANDDETOXING OUR LIVES -- IS, UM, I
  • 00:13:51.854 --> 00:13:55.391
  • DETOXING OUR LIVES -- IS, UM, ICHANGE MY PHONE IN THE MORNING.
  • 00:13:55.391 --> 00:13:56.592
  • CHANGE MY PHONE IN THE MORNING.- ELISABETH: YEAH!
  • 00:13:56.592 --> 00:13:57.259
  • - ELISABETH: YEAH!- LISA: SO, I PUT LIMITS ON MY
  • 00:13:57.259 --> 00:13:57.693
  • - LISA: SO, I PUT LIMITS ON MYPHONE.
  • 00:13:57.693 --> 00:13:58.527
  • PHONE.SO, THE FIRST THING I DO WHEN I
  • 00:13:58.527 --> 00:13:59.795
  • SO, THE FIRST THING I DO WHEN IROLL OUT OF BED IS I DO NOT
  • 00:13:59.795 --> 00:14:00.763
  • ROLL OUT OF BED IS I DO NOTLOOK AT THE NEWS OR THE SOCIAL
  • 00:14:00.763 --> 00:14:01.463
  • LOOK AT THE NEWS OR THE SOCIALMEDIA.
  • 00:14:01.463 --> 00:14:03.499
  • MEDIA.THE FIRST THING THAT HAPPENS IS
  • 00:14:03.499 --> 00:14:04.800
  • THE FIRST THING THAT HAPPENS ISSONOS STARTS PLAYING WORSHIP
  • 00:14:04.800 --> 00:14:05.634
  • SONOS STARTS PLAYING WORSHIPMUSIC IN OUR HOUSE.
  • 00:14:05.634 --> 00:14:07.369
  • MUSIC IN OUR HOUSE.AND IT'S A REAL SIMPLE THING.
  • 00:14:07.369 --> 00:14:10.272
  • AND IT'S A REAL SIMPLE THING.- CECE: YEAH, BUT IT WORKS.
  • 00:14:10.272 --> 00:14:10.906
  • - CECE: YEAH, BUT IT WORKS.- LISA: BUT, REMEMBER IN-- I
  • 00:14:10.906 --> 00:14:11.807
  • - LISA: BUT, REMEMBER IN-- IMEAN, A MILLION YEARS AGO, I
  • 00:14:11.807 --> 00:14:12.708
  • MEAN, A MILLION YEARS AGO, IREMEMBER IT WAS GARBAGE IN,
  • 00:14:12.708 --> 00:14:13.509
  • REMEMBER IT WAS GARBAGE IN,GARBAGE OUT -- JUST THIS REAL
  • 00:14:13.509 --> 00:14:14.510
  • GARBAGE OUT -- JUST THIS REALSIMPLE COLLOQUIALISM.
  • 00:14:14.510 --> 00:14:15.744
  • SIMPLE COLLOQUIALISM.AND I REMEMBER YOUTH PASTORS
  • 00:14:15.744 --> 00:14:18.213
  • AND I REMEMBER YOUTH PASTORSYELLING THAT, SWINGING THEIR
  • 00:14:18.213 --> 00:14:18.847
  • YELLING THAT, SWINGING THEIRBIBLES AROUND.
  • 00:14:18.847 --> 00:14:19.715
  • BIBLES AROUND.UM...BUT IT'S TRUE.
  • 00:14:19.715 --> 00:14:21.750
  • UM...BUT IT'S TRUE.WHATEVER I PUT BEFORE ME, WHEN
  • 00:14:21.750 --> 00:14:23.619
  • WHATEVER I PUT BEFORE ME, WHENI SET GOD'S TRUTH, WHEN
  • 00:14:23.619 --> 00:14:28.490
  • I SET GOD'S TRUTH, WHENI SET HIS WORD BEFORE ME, IN
  • 00:14:28.490 --> 00:14:29.625
  • I SET HIS WORD BEFORE ME, INTHE MORNING, THEN I HAVE THE
  • 00:14:29.625 --> 00:14:30.826
  • THE MORNING, THEN I HAVE THEWISDOM...WITH REGARDS TO
  • 00:14:30.826 --> 00:14:33.362
  • WISDOM...WITH REGARDS TOFREQUENCY AND PROXIMITY, AS TO
  • 00:14:33.362 --> 00:14:35.030
  • FREQUENCY AND PROXIMITY, AS TOWHAT I SHOULD ALLOW IN MY LIFE.
  • 00:14:35.030 --> 00:14:37.099
  • WHAT I SHOULD ALLOW IN MY LIFE.THERE ARE PEOPLE THAT I'M
  • 00:14:37.099 --> 00:14:38.000
  • THERE ARE PEOPLE THAT I'MSHARING CHRIST WITH WHO ARE
  • 00:14:38.000 --> 00:14:39.768
  • SHARING CHRIST WITH WHO ARETOXIC, WHO SLING ALL KINDS OF
  • 00:14:39.768 --> 00:14:40.903
  • TOXIC, WHO SLING ALL KINDS OFWORDS THAT AREN'T IN THE BIBLE
  • 00:14:40.903 --> 00:14:41.337
  • WORDS THAT AREN'T IN THE BIBLEAROUND.
  • 00:14:41.337 --> 00:14:43.339
  • AROUND.BUT I'M READY FOR THEM, IF I'VE
  • 00:14:43.339 --> 00:14:45.541
  • BUT I'M READY FOR THEM, IF I'VESPENT TIME FIRST IN THE LORD
  • 00:14:45.541 --> 00:14:47.076
  • SPENT TIME FIRST IN THE LORDAND I'M WISE REGARDING HOW
  • 00:14:47.076 --> 00:14:48.911
  • AND I'M WISE REGARDING HOWCLOSE THEY GET TO ME.
  • 00:14:48.911 --> 00:14:50.779
  • CLOSE THEY GET TO ME.I THINK WE TEND TO, SOMETIMES,
  • 00:14:50.779 --> 00:14:53.215
  • I THINK WE TEND TO, SOMETIMES,AS BELIEVERS, THINK THAT, YOU
  • 00:14:53.215 --> 00:14:54.850
  • AS BELIEVERS, THINK THAT, YOUKNOW, THE INNERMOST ACCESS TO
  • 00:14:54.850 --> 00:14:57.086
  • KNOW, THE INNERMOST ACCESS TOMY SOUL IS OPEN AT ALL TIMES.
  • 00:14:57.086 --> 00:14:58.988
  • MY SOUL IS OPEN AT ALL TIMES.I'M LIKE KRISPY KREME.
  • 00:14:58.988 --> 00:14:59.922
  • I'M LIKE KRISPY KREME."HOT" SIGN IS ON ALL THE TIME.
  • 00:14:59.922 --> 00:15:00.956
  • "HOT" SIGN IS ON ALL THE TIME.YOU CAN TELL WHERE MY MIND
  • 00:15:00.956 --> 00:15:02.024
  • YOU CAN TELL WHERE MY MINDGOES.
  • 00:15:02.024 --> 00:15:03.058
  • GOES.[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:15:03.058 --> 00:15:04.026
  • [LAUGHTER]UM...BUT GOD SAYS NO.
  • 00:15:04.026 --> 00:15:05.794
  • UM...BUT GOD SAYS NO.YOU DON'T LET EVERYBODY HAVE
  • 00:15:05.794 --> 00:15:07.296
  • YOU DON'T LET EVERYBODY HAVEACCESS TO YOUR SOUL ALL THE
  • 00:15:07.296 --> 00:15:07.830
  • ACCESS TO YOUR SOUL ALL THETIME.
  • 00:15:07.830 --> 00:15:10.265
  • TIME.YOU USE WISDOM AS TO GUARDING
  • 00:15:10.265 --> 00:15:11.800
  • YOU USE WISDOM AS TO GUARDINGYOUR HEART.
  • 00:15:11.800 --> 00:15:12.368
  • YOUR HEART.YOU RAISE AND LOWER THE
  • 00:15:12.368 --> 00:15:14.737
  • YOU RAISE AND LOWER THEDRAWBRIDGE.
  • 00:15:14.737 --> 00:15:15.838
  • DRAWBRIDGE.UM, BUT IF I DON'T START BY
  • 00:15:15.838 --> 00:15:17.773
  • UM, BUT IF I DON'T START BYSETTING MY MIND ON THE THINGS
  • 00:15:17.773 --> 00:15:18.640
  • SETTING MY MIND ON THE THINGSOF GOD, THEN USUALLY MY DAY
  • 00:15:18.640 --> 00:15:19.975
  • OF GOD, THEN USUALLY MY DAYGOES CROOKED PRETTY FAST.
  • 00:15:19.975 --> 00:15:20.576
  • GOES CROOKED PRETTY FAST.- CECE: YEAH.
  • 00:15:20.576 --> 00:15:21.810
  • - CECE: YEAH.AND HOW CAN TWO WALK TOGETHER
  • 00:15:21.810 --> 00:15:23.112
  • AND HOW CAN TWO WALK TOGETHERUNLESS THEY AGREE?
  • 00:15:23.112 --> 00:15:23.812
  • UNLESS THEY AGREE?- LISA: THAT'S RIGHT.
  • 00:15:23.812 --> 00:15:24.713
  • - LISA: THAT'S RIGHT.- CECE: YOU KNOW?
  • 00:15:24.713 --> 00:15:25.314
  • - CECE: YOU KNOW?EVERYBODY'S NOT MEANT TO BE
  • 00:15:25.314 --> 00:15:25.614
  • EVERYBODY'S NOT MEANT TO BEYOUR FRIEND.
  • 00:15:25.614 --> 00:15:26.115
  • YOUR FRIEND.- LISA: THAT'S RIGHT.
  • 00:15:26.115 --> 00:15:27.316
  • - LISA: THAT'S RIGHT.TRUE.
  • 00:15:27.316 --> 00:15:27.983
  • TRUE.- ELISABETH: (LAUGHING) I LOVE
  • 00:15:27.983 --> 00:15:28.283
  • - ELISABETH: (LAUGHING) I LOVEYOU, CECE.
  • 00:15:28.283 --> 00:15:28.784
  • YOU, CECE.- LISA: THAT'S RIGHT.
  • 00:15:28.784 --> 00:15:29.284
  • - LISA: THAT'S RIGHT.- LAURIE: RIGHT HERE.
  • 00:15:29.284 --> 00:15:29.752
  • - LAURIE: RIGHT HERE.- CECE: YOU KNOW?
  • 00:15:29.752 --> 00:15:30.285
  • - CECE: YOU KNOW?YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO LOVE
  • 00:15:30.285 --> 00:15:34.757
  • YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO LOVEEVERYBODY...RIGHT?
  • 00:15:34.757 --> 00:15:35.457
  • EVERYBODY...RIGHT?BUT EVERYBODY'S NOT THE PERSON
  • 00:15:35.457 --> 00:15:37.459
  • BUT EVERYBODY'S NOT THE PERSONYOU'RE SUPPOSED TO WALK WITH.
  • 00:15:37.459 --> 00:15:37.926
  • YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO WALK WITH.- ELISABETH: WOW...
  • 00:15:37.926 --> 00:15:38.861
  • - ELISABETH: WOW...- CECE: IF THEY'RE NOT PUSHING
  • 00:15:38.861 --> 00:15:39.294
  • - CECE: IF THEY'RE NOT PUSHINGYOU TOWARDS GOD.
  • 00:15:39.294 --> 00:15:39.962
  • YOU TOWARDS GOD.- JOYCE: BUT WE NEED-- WE NEED
  • 00:15:39.962 --> 00:15:41.597
  • - JOYCE: BUT WE NEED-- WE NEEDTO BE AROUND PEOPLE THAT...
  • 00:15:41.597 --> 00:15:42.398
  • TO BE AROUND PEOPLE THAT...BUILD US UP...OR MAKE US
  • 00:15:42.398 --> 00:15:45.334
  • BUILD US UP...OR MAKE USBETTER...
  • 00:15:45.334 --> 00:15:46.101
  • BETTER...- CECE: MAKE US BETTER.
  • 00:15:46.101 --> 00:15:46.702
  • - CECE: MAKE US BETTER.- JOYCE: ...NOT BE AROUND
  • 00:15:46.702 --> 00:15:48.237
  • - JOYCE: ...NOT BE AROUNDSOMEBODY THAT'S GOING TO DRAG
  • 00:15:48.237 --> 00:15:51.006
  • SOMEBODY THAT'S GOING TO DRAGYOU DOWN OR BRING YOU DOWN TO A
  • 00:15:51.006 --> 00:15:52.841
  • YOU DOWN OR BRING YOU DOWN TO ALEVEL THAT YOU THOUGHT YOU GOT
  • 00:15:52.841 --> 00:15:53.709
  • LEVEL THAT YOU THOUGHT YOU GOTRID OF.
  • 00:15:53.709 --> 00:15:55.444
  • RID OF.AND, I JUST...I FEEL A REAL
  • 00:15:55.444 --> 00:15:57.246
  • AND, I JUST...I FEEL A REALURGENCY TO SAY THIS: THERE ARE
  • 00:15:57.246 --> 00:15:59.681
  • URGENCY TO SAY THIS: THERE AREHUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE
  • 00:15:59.681 --> 00:16:02.484
  • HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS OF PEOPLEWATCHING, RIGHT NOW, THAT YOU
  • 00:16:02.484 --> 00:16:03.852
  • WATCHING, RIGHT NOW, THAT YOUCOULD CHANGE YOUR LIFE BY JUST
  • 00:16:03.852 --> 00:16:07.356
  • COULD CHANGE YOUR LIFE BY JUSTCHANGING WHO YOU HANG OUT WITH.
  • 00:16:07.356 --> 00:16:08.524
  • CHANGING WHO YOU HANG OUT WITH.- ELISABETH: I JUST GOT A
  • 00:16:08.524 --> 00:16:09.224
  • - ELISABETH: I JUST GOT ACHILL.
  • 00:16:09.224 --> 00:16:10.325
  • CHILL.- CECE: OOH...
  • 00:16:10.325 --> 00:16:10.926
  • - CECE: OOH...- JOYCE: I MEAN, LITERALLY,
  • 00:16:10.926 --> 00:16:12.961
  • - JOYCE: I MEAN, LITERALLY,JUST BY...JUST--
  • 00:16:12.961 --> 00:16:14.129
  • JUST BY...JUST--- LISA: RIGHT.
  • 00:16:14.129 --> 00:16:14.930
  • - LISA: RIGHT.- JOYCE: BECAUSE YOU'RE--
  • 00:16:14.930 --> 00:16:15.564
  • - JOYCE: BECAUSE YOU'RE--- CECE: SO TRUE.
  • 00:16:15.564 --> 00:16:16.231
  • - CECE: SO TRUE.- JOYCE: I JUST KNOW THERE ARE
  • 00:16:16.231 --> 00:16:17.066
  • - JOYCE: I JUST KNOW THERE AREPEOPLE WATCHIN' AND YOU'RE--
  • 00:16:17.066 --> 00:16:18.300
  • PEOPLE WATCHIN' AND YOU'RE--YOU'RE SPENDING TIME WITH
  • 00:16:18.300 --> 00:16:18.867
  • YOU'RE SPENDING TIME WITHPEOPLE THAT ARE ABSOLUTELY
  • 00:16:18.867 --> 00:16:20.436
  • PEOPLE THAT ARE ABSOLUTELYPOISONING YOUR ATTITUDE,
  • 00:16:20.436 --> 00:16:23.405
  • POISONING YOUR ATTITUDE,POISONING YOUR THOUGHT LIFE,
  • 00:16:23.405 --> 00:16:25.774
  • POISONING YOUR THOUGHT LIFE,THEY'RE POISONING YOU AGAINST
  • 00:16:25.774 --> 00:16:27.609
  • THEY'RE POISONING YOU AGAINSTOTHER PEOPLE THAT THEY DON'T
  • 00:16:27.609 --> 00:16:28.744
  • OTHER PEOPLE THAT THEY DON'TLIKE THAT YOU DON'T EVEN
  • 00:16:28.744 --> 00:16:32.848
  • LIKE THAT YOU DON'T EVENKNOW...
  • 00:16:32.848 --> 00:16:33.515
  • KNOW...AND, YOU KNOW, I FOUND OUT IN--
  • 00:16:33.515 --> 00:16:34.616
  • AND, YOU KNOW, I FOUND OUT IN--YOU CAN TELL ME IF YOU'RE LIKE
  • 00:16:34.616 --> 00:16:35.884
  • YOU CAN TELL ME IF YOU'RE LIKETHIS -- IF SOMEBODY TELLS YOU
  • 00:16:35.884 --> 00:16:37.453
  • THIS -- IF SOMEBODY TELLS YOUSOMETHING BAD ABOUT SOMEBODY
  • 00:16:37.453 --> 00:16:40.689
  • SOMETHING BAD ABOUT SOMEBODYELSE, I'M AT THE POINT
  • 00:16:40.689 --> 00:16:42.091
  • ELSE, I'M AT THE POINTSPIRITUALLY WHERE I'M LIKE:
  • 00:16:42.091 --> 00:16:43.358
  • SPIRITUALLY WHERE I'M LIKE:NOPE, I'M NOT-- I'M NOT
  • 00:16:43.358 --> 00:16:44.827
  • NOPE, I'M NOT-- I'M NOTBELIEVING THAT.
  • 00:16:44.827 --> 00:16:46.662
  • BELIEVING THAT.BUT IT STILL AFFECTS YOU.
  • 00:16:46.662 --> 00:16:47.596
  • BUT IT STILL AFFECTS YOU.WHEN SOMEBODY TELLS YOU
  • 00:16:47.596 --> 00:16:48.630
  • WHEN SOMEBODY TELLS YOUSOMETHING BAD ABOUT SOMEBODY,
  • 00:16:48.630 --> 00:16:50.566
  • SOMETHING BAD ABOUT SOMEBODY,IT MAKES YOU LOOK AT THEM...A
  • 00:16:50.566 --> 00:16:54.703
  • IT MAKES YOU LOOK AT THEM...ALITTLE BIT MORE SUSPICIOUSLY.
  • 00:16:54.703 --> 00:16:55.938
  • LITTLE BIT MORE SUSPICIOUSLY.LIKE, YOU KNOW, I JUST...I
  • 00:16:55.938 --> 00:16:57.940
  • LIKE, YOU KNOW, I JUST...IREALLY LOVE TO BE AROUND PEOPLE
  • 00:16:57.940 --> 00:17:00.976
  • REALLY LOVE TO BE AROUND PEOPLETHAT MAKE ME WANNA BE LIKE THEY
  • 00:17:00.976 --> 00:17:02.644
  • THAT MAKE ME WANNA BE LIKE THEYARE.
  • 00:17:02.644 --> 00:17:05.280
  • ARE.LIKE, I LOVE TO BE AROUND
  • 00:17:05.280 --> 00:17:07.082
  • LIKE, I LOVE TO BE AROUNDPEOPLE THAT ARE GENEROUS,
  • 00:17:07.082 --> 00:17:08.951
  • PEOPLE THAT ARE GENEROUS,YOU KNOW, RATHER THAN SOMEBODY
  • 00:17:08.951 --> 00:17:12.821
  • YOU KNOW, RATHER THAN SOMEBODYTHAT'S STINGY AND ALWAYS
  • 00:17:12.821 --> 00:17:14.423
  • THAT'S STINGY AND ALWAYSHANGING OUT TILL THE LAST
  • 00:17:14.423 --> 00:17:15.190
  • HANGING OUT TILL THE LASTSECOND, HOPIN' YOU PAY FOR
  • 00:17:15.190 --> 00:17:17.392
  • SECOND, HOPIN' YOU PAY FOREVERYTHING.
  • 00:17:17.392 --> 00:17:18.026
  • EVERYTHING.I MADE A DECISION, I DON'T
  • 00:17:18.026 --> 00:17:18.594
  • I MADE A DECISION, I DON'TKNOW, MAYBE CLOSE TO 10
  • 00:17:18.594 --> 00:17:19.895
  • KNOW, MAYBE CLOSE TO 10YEARS AGO, NOW.
  • 00:17:19.895 --> 00:17:21.296
  • YEARS AGO, NOW.I HAD A LOT OF ONE-SIDED
  • 00:17:21.296 --> 00:17:23.499
  • I HAD A LOT OF ONE-SIDEDRELATIONSHIPS...
  • 00:17:23.499 --> 00:17:25.167
  • RELATIONSHIPS...RELATIONSHIPS WHERE PEOPLE
  • 00:17:25.167 --> 00:17:27.636
  • RELATIONSHIPS WHERE PEOPLEALWAYS WANTED ME TO DO
  • 00:17:27.636 --> 00:17:29.271
  • ALWAYS WANTED ME TO DOSOMETHING FOR THEM.
  • 00:17:29.271 --> 00:17:30.472
  • SOMETHING FOR THEM.BUT, THEY WERE NEVER THERE FOR
  • 00:17:30.472 --> 00:17:33.809
  • BUT, THEY WERE NEVER THERE FORME.
  • 00:17:33.809 --> 00:17:35.177
  • ME.AND I JUST-- I FINALLY GOT,
  • 00:17:35.177 --> 00:17:36.578
  • AND I JUST-- I FINALLY GOT,LIKE, SPIRITUALLY ANGRY ABOUT
  • 00:17:36.578 --> 00:17:38.647
  • LIKE, SPIRITUALLY ANGRY ABOUTIT.
  • 00:17:38.647 --> 00:17:39.615
  • IT.IT WASN'T LIKE A...A WRONG
  • 00:17:39.615 --> 00:17:40.749
  • IT WASN'T LIKE A...A WRONGANGER.
  • 00:17:40.749 --> 00:17:41.717
  • ANGER.I MEAN, I JUST KINDA, LIKE,
  • 00:17:41.717 --> 00:17:42.651
  • I MEAN, I JUST KINDA, LIKE,KNEW IT WAS FROM GOD, AND I
  • 00:17:42.651 --> 00:17:43.685
  • KNEW IT WAS FROM GOD, AND IJUST SAID: I AM NO LONGER GONNA
  • 00:17:43.685 --> 00:17:47.289
  • JUST SAID: I AM NO LONGER GONNAHAVE ONE-SIDED RELATIONSHIPS.
  • 00:17:47.289 --> 00:17:48.056
  • HAVE ONE-SIDED RELATIONSHIPS.I MEAN, I'LL HELP PEOPLE IN
  • 00:17:48.056 --> 00:17:48.490
  • I MEAN, I'LL HELP PEOPLE INTROUBLE.
  • 00:17:48.490 --> 00:17:51.994
  • TROUBLE.I WANT RELATIONSHIPS THAT...
  • 00:17:51.994 --> 00:17:54.062
  • I WANT RELATIONSHIPS THAT...- CECE: HEALTHY -- HEALTHY,
  • 00:17:54.062 --> 00:17:54.930
  • - CECE: HEALTHY -- HEALTHY,YEAH.
  • 00:17:54.930 --> 00:17:55.597
  • YEAH.- JOYCE: ...I'M DOIN' FOR YOU,
  • 00:17:55.597 --> 00:17:57.132
  • - JOYCE: ...I'M DOIN' FOR YOU,YOU'RE DOIN' FOR ME.
  • 00:17:57.132 --> 00:17:57.699
  • YOU'RE DOIN' FOR ME.- LAURIE: BEING AN ASSET,
  • 00:17:57.699 --> 00:17:58.100
  • - LAURIE: BEING AN ASSET,NOT A LIABILITY.
  • 00:17:58.100 --> 00:17:58.600
  • NOT A LIABILITY.- CECE: THAT'S WHAT A
  • 00:17:58.600 --> 00:17:59.101
  • - CECE: THAT'S WHAT ARELATIONSHIP IS ABOUT.
  • 00:17:59.101 --> 00:17:59.735
  • RELATIONSHIP IS ABOUT.- LISA: YEAH, THAT'S EXACTLY
  • 00:17:59.735 --> 00:17:59.968
  • - LISA: YEAH, THAT'S EXACTLYRIGHT.
  • 00:17:59.968 --> 00:18:00.636
  • RIGHT.- CECE: NO RELATIONSHIP SHOULD
  • 00:18:00.636 --> 00:18:01.036
  • - CECE: NO RELATIONSHIP SHOULDBE ONE-SIDED.
  • 00:18:01.036 --> 00:18:01.770
  • BE ONE-SIDED.- JOYCE: AND THERE'S NOTHIN'
  • 00:18:01.770 --> 00:18:02.604
  • - JOYCE: AND THERE'S NOTHIN'WRONG WITH THAT.
  • 00:18:02.604 --> 00:18:03.639
  • WRONG WITH THAT.I MEAN, WHAT KIND OF
  • 00:18:03.639 --> 00:18:04.840
  • I MEAN, WHAT KIND OFRELATIONSHIP WOULD WE HAVE
  • 00:18:04.840 --> 00:18:06.008
  • RELATIONSHIP WOULD WE HAVEWITH GOD, EVEN, IF IT WAS ALL
  • 00:18:06.008 --> 00:18:07.609
  • WITH GOD, EVEN, IF IT WAS ALLONE-SIDED?
  • 00:18:07.609 --> 00:18:08.243
  • ONE-SIDED?- CECE: THERE YOU GO...THERE
  • 00:18:08.243 --> 00:18:08.477
  • - CECE: THERE YOU GO...THEREYOU GO.
  • 00:18:08.477 --> 00:18:09.077
  • YOU GO.- JOYCE: I MEAN, YOU KNOW,
  • 00:18:09.077 --> 00:18:09.511
  • - JOYCE: I MEAN, YOU KNOW,THERE HAS TO BE...
  • 00:18:09.511 --> 00:18:10.045
  • THERE HAS TO BE...- CECE: GIVE AND TAKE.
  • 00:18:10.045 --> 00:18:10.646
  • - CECE: GIVE AND TAKE.- JOYCE: ...GIVE AND TAKE.
  • 00:18:10.646 --> 00:18:11.580
  • - JOYCE: ...GIVE AND TAKE.- ELISABETH: THAT'S RIGHT!
  • 00:18:11.580 --> 00:18:12.381
  • - ELISABETH: THAT'S RIGHT!- LISA: THAT'S RIGHT.
  • 00:18:12.381 --> 00:18:13.749
  • - LISA: THAT'S RIGHT.- JOYCE: AND, UH...ONCE AGAIN,
  • 00:18:13.749 --> 00:18:14.616
  • - JOYCE: AND, UH...ONCE AGAIN,I JUST WANNA SAY: SOME OF YOU
  • 00:18:14.616 --> 00:18:16.018
  • I JUST WANNA SAY: SOME OF YOUWATCHING...YOU'VE GOT SOME
  • 00:18:16.018 --> 00:18:17.452
  • WATCHING...YOU'VE GOT SOMEMESSES GOING ON IN YOUR LIFE.
  • 00:18:17.452 --> 00:18:19.888
  • MESSES GOING ON IN YOUR LIFE.AND YOU COULD SOLVE A LOT OF
  • 00:18:19.888 --> 00:18:21.089
  • AND YOU COULD SOLVE A LOT OFTHEM JUST BY GETTING A BATCH OF
  • 00:18:21.089 --> 00:18:22.724
  • THEM JUST BY GETTING A BATCH OFNEW FRIENDS.
  • 00:18:22.724 --> 00:18:23.592
  • NEW FRIENDS.- CECE: MM-HMM.
  • 00:18:23.592 --> 00:18:24.159
  • - CECE: MM-HMM.- ELISABETH: WHAT IF IT'S
  • 00:18:24.159 --> 00:18:25.160
  • - ELISABETH: WHAT IF IT'SFAMILY?
  • 00:18:25.160 --> 00:18:26.161
  • FAMILY?- JOYCE: WELL, YOU KNOW WHAT I
  • 00:18:26.161 --> 00:18:28.163
  • - JOYCE: WELL, YOU KNOW WHAT ITHINK ABOUT THAT?
  • 00:18:28.163 --> 00:18:28.764
  • THINK ABOUT THAT?- ELISABETH: (LAUGHING) I'M
  • 00:18:28.764 --> 00:18:29.264
  • - ELISABETH: (LAUGHING) I'MCRACKING UP.
  • 00:18:29.264 --> 00:18:29.665
  • CRACKING UP.I CAN'T HELP IT.
  • 00:18:29.665 --> 00:18:30.165
  • I CAN'T HELP IT.- LISA: THAT'S GREAT!
  • 00:18:30.165 --> 00:18:30.632
  • - LISA: THAT'S GREAT!- JOYCE: THANK YOU.
  • 00:18:30.632 --> 00:18:30.966
  • - JOYCE: THANK YOU.- LISA: NO.
  • 00:18:30.966 --> 00:18:31.400
  • - LISA: NO.- CECE: THANK YOU.
  • 00:18:31.400 --> 00:18:32.000
  • - CECE: THANK YOU.I HAVE A LOT OF FAMILY.
  • 00:18:32.000 --> 00:18:32.668
  • I HAVE A LOT OF FAMILY.[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:18:32.668 --> 00:18:33.268
  • [LAUGHTER]- ELISABETH: WHAT DO WE DO,
  • 00:18:33.268 --> 00:18:34.069
  • - ELISABETH: WHAT DO WE DO,JOYCE?
  • 00:18:34.069 --> 00:18:34.970
  • JOYCE?- JOYCE: WELL, THERE ARE
  • 00:18:34.970 --> 00:18:35.904
  • - JOYCE: WELL, THERE AREPEOPLE THAT YOU HAVE TO BE
  • 00:18:35.904 --> 00:18:38.607
  • PEOPLE THAT YOU HAVE TO BEAROUND...BECAUSE OF FAMILY.
  • 00:18:38.607 --> 00:18:39.374
  • AROUND...BECAUSE OF FAMILY.BUT I-- I TELL--
  • 00:18:39.374 --> 00:18:40.909
  • BUT I-- I TELL--LIKE...A WOMAN SAYS TO ME:
  • 00:18:40.909 --> 00:18:42.778
  • LIKE...A WOMAN SAYS TO ME:"WELL, YOU TALK ABOUT NOT BEING
  • 00:18:42.778 --> 00:18:44.179
  • "WELL, YOU TALK ABOUT NOT BEINGAROUND NEGATIVE PEOPLE.
  • 00:18:44.179 --> 00:18:47.316
  • AROUND NEGATIVE PEOPLE.I'M MARRIED TO MR. NEGATIVE."
  • 00:18:47.316 --> 00:18:48.984
  • I'M MARRIED TO MR. NEGATIVE."SO, I JUST TELL HER, THEN:
  • 00:18:48.984 --> 00:18:51.220
  • SO, I JUST TELL HER, THEN:"MAKE SURE THAT YOU
  • 00:18:51.220 --> 00:18:53.388
  • "MAKE SURE THAT YOUCOUNTERBALANCE IT BY BEING
  • 00:18:53.388 --> 00:18:55.757
  • COUNTERBALANCE IT BY BEINGAROUND PLENTY OF OTHER PEOPLE
  • 00:18:55.757 --> 00:18:57.125
  • AROUND PLENTY OF OTHER PEOPLETHAT ARE REALLY POSITIVE AND
  • 00:18:57.125 --> 00:19:00.596
  • THAT ARE REALLY POSITIVE ANDWHO BUILD YOU UP."
  • 00:19:00.596 --> 00:19:01.663
  • WHO BUILD YOU UP."YOU KNOW, YOU CAN'T WALK
  • 00:19:01.663 --> 00:19:02.231
  • YOU KNOW, YOU CAN'T WALKOUT ON A MARRIAGE BECAUSE
  • 00:19:02.231 --> 00:19:02.898
  • OUT ON A MARRIAGE BECAUSESOMEBODY'S...NEGATIVE.
  • 00:19:02.898 --> 00:19:04.132
  • SOMEBODY'S...NEGATIVE.AND THERE ARE PARENTS OR
  • 00:19:04.132 --> 00:19:05.167
  • AND THERE ARE PARENTS ORWHATEVER THAT YOU DO...HAVE TO
  • 00:19:05.167 --> 00:19:06.301
  • WHATEVER THAT YOU DO...HAVE TOBE AROUND.
  • 00:19:06.301 --> 00:19:08.503
  • BE AROUND.BUT, LIMIT THE TIME, AS MUCH AS
  • 00:19:08.503 --> 00:19:11.607
  • BUT, LIMIT THE TIME, AS MUCH ASPOSSIBLE, AND THEN...COVER
  • 00:19:11.607 --> 00:19:15.844
  • POSSIBLE, AND THEN...COVERYOURSELF BY BEING AROUND OTHER
  • 00:19:15.844 --> 00:19:17.145
  • YOURSELF BY BEING AROUND OTHERPEOPLE THAT ARE GONNA BUILD YOU
  • 00:19:17.145 --> 00:19:18.013
  • PEOPLE THAT ARE GONNA BUILD YOUUP.
  • 00:19:18.013 --> 00:19:18.480
  • UP.- CECE: THAT'S GOOD.
  • 00:19:18.480 --> 00:19:19.948
  • - CECE: THAT'S GOOD.THAT'S REAL.
  • 00:19:19.948 --> 00:19:20.549
  • THAT'S REAL.- LAURIE: IT WOULD BE LIKE
  • 00:19:20.549 --> 00:19:21.149
  • - LAURIE: IT WOULD BE LIKECHILDREN...LIKE: WHAT AM I
  • 00:19:21.149 --> 00:19:22.251
  • CHILDREN...LIKE: WHAT AM IGONNA DO WITH-- FOR MY CHILD?
  • 00:19:22.251 --> 00:19:23.585
  • GONNA DO WITH-- FOR MY CHILD?SO, MY CHILD GOES...UH, TO CAMP
  • 00:19:23.585 --> 00:19:25.053
  • SO, MY CHILD GOES...UH, TO CAMPOR SOMETHING AND BRINGS HOME
  • 00:19:25.053 --> 00:19:27.055
  • OR SOMETHING AND BRINGS HOMETHIS FRIEND.
  • 00:19:27.055 --> 00:19:29.224
  • THIS FRIEND.MY DAD BEAT THE SNARF OUT OF MY
  • 00:19:29.224 --> 00:19:32.160
  • MY DAD BEAT THE SNARF OUT OF MYBROTHER AND I, ONE TIME,
  • 00:19:32.160 --> 00:19:33.028
  • BROTHER AND I, ONE TIME,BECAUSE WE HAD THIS LITTLE GIRL
  • 00:19:33.028 --> 00:19:36.665
  • BECAUSE WE HAD THIS LITTLE GIRLCOME SPEND THE NIGHT.
  • 00:19:36.665 --> 00:19:38.200
  • COME SPEND THE NIGHT.AND, WE HAD SO MANY BEAUTIFUL
  • 00:19:38.200 --> 00:19:40.202
  • AND, WE HAD SO MANY BEAUTIFULGIFTS.
  • 00:19:40.202 --> 00:19:41.370
  • GIFTS.MY PARENTS ALWAYS MADE SURE WE
  • 00:19:41.370 --> 00:19:43.272
  • MY PARENTS ALWAYS MADE SURE WEHAD ENOUGH THINGS TO DO THAT
  • 00:19:43.272 --> 00:19:43.905
  • HAD ENOUGH THINGS TO DO THATEVERYBODY LIKED TO COME TO OUR
  • 00:19:43.905 --> 00:19:44.773
  • EVERYBODY LIKED TO COME TO OURHOUSE.
  • 00:19:44.773 --> 00:19:46.275
  • HOUSE.AND, THIS LITTLE GIRL CAME OVER
  • 00:19:46.275 --> 00:19:46.908
  • AND, THIS LITTLE GIRL CAME OVERTO SPEND THE NIGHT WITH US.
  • 00:19:46.908 --> 00:19:48.477
  • TO SPEND THE NIGHT WITH US.AND...
  • 00:19:48.477 --> 00:19:50.479
  • AND...[SWALLOWS HARD, CLICKS TONGUE]
  • 00:19:50.479 --> 00:19:51.380
  • [SWALLOWS HARD, CLICKS TONGUE]...WE HAD JUST...DRAINED
  • 00:19:51.380 --> 00:19:55.050
  • ...WE HAD JUST...DRAINEDEVERYTHING.
  • 00:19:55.050 --> 00:19:55.617
  • EVERYTHING.WE HAD PLAYED POOL, WE HAD
  • 00:19:55.617 --> 00:19:56.618
  • WE HAD PLAYED POOL, WE HADPLAYED PING-PONG, WE HAD DONE
  • 00:19:56.618 --> 00:19:57.853
  • PLAYED PING-PONG, WE HAD DONETHIS, WE HAD PUT PLAYS ON...WE
  • 00:19:57.853 --> 00:19:59.021
  • THIS, WE HAD PUT PLAYS ON...WEHAD JUST...
  • 00:19:59.021 --> 00:19:59.655
  • HAD JUST...AND THEN, SHE JUST WENT, "I'M
  • 00:19:59.655 --> 00:20:00.255
  • AND THEN, SHE JUST WENT, "I'MBORED."
  • 00:20:00.255 --> 00:20:00.722
  • BORED."[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:20:00.722 --> 00:20:01.857
  • [LAUGHTER]SO, MY BROTHER AND I WENT INTO
  • 00:20:01.857 --> 00:20:02.924
  • SO, MY BROTHER AND I WENT INTOMY MOM AND DAD AND SAID, "WE'RE
  • 00:20:02.924 --> 00:20:03.725
  • MY MOM AND DAD AND SAID, "WE'REBORED."
  • 00:20:03.725 --> 00:20:05.827
  • BORED."MY DAD PICKED ME UP BY THE SEAT
  • 00:20:05.827 --> 00:20:07.195
  • MY DAD PICKED ME UP BY THE SEATOF MY PANTS...
  • 00:20:07.195 --> 00:20:09.464
  • OF MY PANTS...[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:20:09.464 --> 00:20:10.232
  • [LAUGHTER]HE'S PASSED AWAY, SO
  • 00:20:10.232 --> 00:20:11.566
  • HE'S PASSED AWAY, SOI CAN SAY "BORED," NOW.
  • 00:20:11.566 --> 00:20:13.869
  • I CAN SAY "BORED," NOW.I NEVER SAID THE WORD "BORED"
  • 00:20:13.869 --> 00:20:14.736
  • I NEVER SAID THE WORD "BORED"IN FRONT OF MY FATHER, EVER
  • 00:20:14.736 --> 00:20:15.304
  • IN FRONT OF MY FATHER, EVERAGAIN.
  • 00:20:15.304 --> 00:20:16.438
  • AGAIN.[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:20:16.438 --> 00:20:17.773
  • [LAUGHTER]BORING PEOPLE ARE BORED, YOU
  • 00:20:17.773 --> 00:20:18.240
  • BORING PEOPLE ARE BORED, YOUKNOW?
  • 00:20:18.240 --> 00:20:19.474
  • KNOW?AND IT WAS: "DON'T YOU EVER SAY
  • 00:20:19.474 --> 00:20:22.077
  • AND IT WAS: "DON'T YOU EVER SAYTHAT YOU'RE BORED."
  • 00:20:22.077 --> 00:20:23.745
  • THAT YOU'RE BORED."SO, I KNOW THAT WE GUARD OUR
  • 00:20:23.745 --> 00:20:24.780
  • SO, I KNOW THAT WE GUARD OURCHILDREN FROM KIDS THAT HAVE
  • 00:20:24.780 --> 00:20:26.114
  • CHILDREN FROM KIDS THAT HAVEBAD ATTITUDES.
  • 00:20:26.114 --> 00:20:27.683
  • BAD ATTITUDES.AND THEY COME HOME, AND, ALL OF
  • 00:20:27.683 --> 00:20:29.051
  • AND THEY COME HOME, AND, ALL OFA SUDDEN, YOU'RE HEARIN'
  • 00:20:29.051 --> 00:20:30.218
  • A SUDDEN, YOU'RE HEARIN'THAT...THING IN THE ATMOSPHERE,
  • 00:20:30.218 --> 00:20:31.620
  • THAT...THING IN THE ATMOSPHERE,AND THEN GO, "AW, WE'RE NOT
  • 00:20:31.620 --> 00:20:32.521
  • AND THEN GO, "AW, WE'RE NOTGONNA DO THAT," YOU KNOW?
  • 00:20:32.521 --> 00:20:34.423
  • GONNA DO THAT," YOU KNOW?SO, WE-- WE CHASTEN OUR OWN
  • 00:20:34.423 --> 00:20:35.957
  • SO, WE-- WE CHASTEN OUR OWNCHILDREN FOR PICKING UP THE
  • 00:20:35.957 --> 00:20:39.728
  • CHILDREN FOR PICKING UP THENEGATIVE AROUND THEM.
  • 00:20:39.728 --> 00:20:41.096
  • NEGATIVE AROUND THEM.- ELISABETH: THAT'S RIGHT.
  • 00:20:41.096 --> 00:20:42.230
  • - ELISABETH: THAT'S RIGHT.- LISA: BUT I'VE LEARNED
  • 00:20:42.230 --> 00:20:44.266
  • - LISA: BUT I'VE LEARNEDWITH SOME MEMBERS IN MY OWN
  • 00:20:44.266 --> 00:20:45.934
  • WITH SOME MEMBERS IN MY OWNFAMILY -- I WOULD ALWAYS STAY
  • 00:20:45.934 --> 00:20:47.436
  • FAMILY -- I WOULD ALWAYS STAYIN THEIR HOME -- AND I WOULD
  • 00:20:47.436 --> 00:20:48.704
  • IN THEIR HOME -- AND I WOULDFEEL LIKE-- I JUST FEEL LIKE
  • 00:20:48.704 --> 00:20:51.707
  • FEEL LIKE-- I JUST FEEL LIKEPEOPLE ARE JABBING STUFF INTO
  • 00:20:51.707 --> 00:20:52.474
  • PEOPLE ARE JABBING STUFF INTOME AND I'M BE-- ALL THE LIFE IS
  • 00:20:52.474 --> 00:20:53.809
  • ME AND I'M BE-- ALL THE LIFE ISBEING SUCKED OUT OF ME.
  • 00:20:53.809 --> 00:20:55.444
  • BEING SUCKED OUT OF ME.AND I WAS TALKIN' TO MY
  • 00:20:55.444 --> 00:20:56.645
  • AND I WAS TALKIN' TO MYCOUNSELOR ONE DAY, AND I SAID:
  • 00:20:56.645 --> 00:20:59.581
  • COUNSELOR ONE DAY, AND I SAID:["CRYING"]
  • 00:20:59.581 --> 00:21:00.215
  • ["CRYING"]"I JUST FEEL LIKE I'M A PIECE
  • 00:21:00.215 --> 00:21:01.083
  • "I JUST FEEL LIKE I'M A PIECEOF BREAD, THROWN INTO A POND
  • 00:21:01.083 --> 00:21:01.750
  • OF BREAD, THROWN INTO A PONDFULL OF HUNGRY FISH."
  • 00:21:01.750 --> 00:21:02.884
  • FULL OF HUNGRY FISH."[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:21:02.884 --> 00:21:03.852
  • [LAUGHTER]AND SHE WENT, "WHY DON'T YOU
  • 00:21:03.852 --> 00:21:05.253
  • AND SHE WENT, "WHY DON'T YOUSWIM TO THE DOCK?"
  • 00:21:05.253 --> 00:21:07.122
  • SWIM TO THE DOCK?"AND I WAS LIKE...
  • 00:21:07.122 --> 00:21:07.823
  • AND I WAS LIKE...IT HAD NEVER OCCURRED TO ME
  • 00:21:07.823 --> 00:21:09.191
  • IT HAD NEVER OCCURRED TO METHERE WAS A DOCK.
  • 00:21:09.191 --> 00:21:10.359
  • THERE WAS A DOCK.GOD ALWAYS PROVIDES A DOCK.
  • 00:21:10.359 --> 00:21:12.160
  • GOD ALWAYS PROVIDES A DOCK.NOW, THERE'S SOME PEOPLE THAT I
  • 00:21:12.160 --> 00:21:16.598
  • NOW, THERE'S SOME PEOPLE THAT IDON'T STAY IN THEIR HOMES.
  • 00:21:16.598 --> 00:21:17.332
  • DON'T STAY IN THEIR HOMES.I CAN GO TO A HOTEL.
  • 00:21:17.332 --> 00:21:17.999
  • I CAN GO TO A HOTEL.IT'S NO BIG DEAL.
  • 00:21:17.999 --> 00:21:18.633
  • IT'S NO BIG DEAL.THEY'RE HAPPY THEY DON'T HAVE
  • 00:21:18.633 --> 00:21:19.334
  • THEY'RE HAPPY THEY DON'T HAVETO MAKE MY BED.
  • 00:21:19.334 --> 00:21:20.369
  • TO MAKE MY BED.THERE'S PLACES-- THERE'S A
  • 00:21:20.369 --> 00:21:21.002
  • THERE'S PLACES-- THERE'S ACOUPLE OF WOMEN IN MY LIFE THAT
  • 00:21:21.002 --> 00:21:22.404
  • COUPLE OF WOMEN IN MY LIFE THATGOD HAS CALLED US TO WALK
  • 00:21:22.404 --> 00:21:22.971
  • GOD HAS CALLED US TO WALKALONGSIDE FOR MINISTRY, BUT
  • 00:21:22.971 --> 00:21:24.873
  • ALONGSIDE FOR MINISTRY, BUTTHEY DRAIN THE LIFE OUT OF ME.
  • 00:21:24.873 --> 00:21:26.475
  • THEY DRAIN THE LIFE OUT OF ME.SO, I DON'T GO TO DINNER WITH
  • 00:21:26.475 --> 00:21:27.342
  • SO, I DON'T GO TO DINNER WITHTHEM EVERY TIME THEY ASK ME TO
  • 00:21:27.342 --> 00:21:27.843
  • THEM EVERY TIME THEY ASK ME TOGO TO DINNER.
  • 00:21:27.843 --> 00:21:29.010
  • GO TO DINNER.I BACK IT UP.
  • 00:21:29.010 --> 00:21:30.245
  • I BACK IT UP.AND SO, I FOUND MYSELF GOING:
  • 00:21:30.245 --> 00:21:32.114
  • AND SO, I FOUND MYSELF GOING:MAN, I WAS WHINY ABOUT "I CAN'T
  • 00:21:32.114 --> 00:21:32.748
  • MAN, I WAS WHINY ABOUT "I CAN'TCONTROL THIS," AND THE LORD WAS
  • 00:21:32.748 --> 00:21:33.815
  • CONTROL THIS," AND THE LORD WASLIKE--
  • 00:21:33.815 --> 00:21:35.016
  • LIKE--- CECE: YOU CAN CONTROL IT.
  • 00:21:35.016 --> 00:21:35.784
  • - CECE: YOU CAN CONTROL IT.- LISA: --YOU ACTUALLY HAVE A
  • 00:21:35.784 --> 00:21:37.486
  • - LISA: --YOU ACTUALLY HAVE ALITTLE MORE...WAYS.
  • 00:21:37.486 --> 00:21:38.687
  • LITTLE MORE...WAYS.YOU KNOW -- THINK, LISA.
  • 00:21:38.687 --> 00:21:39.521
  • YOU KNOW -- THINK, LISA.YOU'RE SMARTER THAN THIS.
  • 00:21:39.521 --> 00:21:41.189
  • YOU'RE SMARTER THAN THIS.THERE'S SOME WAYS THAT YOU CAN
  • 00:21:41.189 --> 00:21:42.591
  • THERE'S SOME WAYS THAT YOU CANFRAME THIS TO WHERE IT HONORS
  • 00:21:42.591 --> 00:21:44.159
  • FRAME THIS TO WHERE IT HONORSME AND WHERE IT GUARDS YOUR
  • 00:21:44.159 --> 00:21:44.626
  • ME AND WHERE IT GUARDS YOURHEART.
  • 00:21:44.626 --> 00:21:47.062
  • HEART.- JOYCE: YOU KNOW, WE-- WE
  • 00:21:47.062 --> 00:21:48.697
  • - JOYCE: YOU KNOW, WE-- WETALK SO MUCH ABOUT NOT BEING
  • 00:21:48.697 --> 00:21:49.931
  • TALK SO MUCH ABOUT NOT BEINGSELFISH, AS A CHRISTIAN, AND
  • 00:21:49.931 --> 00:21:51.600
  • SELFISH, AS A CHRISTIAN, ANDABOUT WALKING IN LOVE.
  • 00:21:51.600 --> 00:21:53.201
  • ABOUT WALKING IN LOVE.BUT, YOU STILL HAVE TO HAVE
  • 00:21:53.201 --> 00:21:53.935
  • BUT, YOU STILL HAVE TO HAVESOME BOUNDARIES AROUND YOUR
  • 00:21:53.935 --> 00:21:57.572
  • SOME BOUNDARIES AROUND YOURLIFE.
  • 00:21:57.572 --> 00:21:58.240
  • LIFE.AND YOU...YOU HAVE A GOD-GIVEN
  • 00:21:58.240 --> 00:21:59.608
  • AND YOU...YOU HAVE A GOD-GIVENRESPONSIBILITY TO PROTECT
  • 00:21:59.608 --> 00:22:01.710
  • RESPONSIBILITY TO PROTECTYOURSELF SO YOU'RE GOOD FOR
  • 00:22:01.710 --> 00:22:05.180
  • YOURSELF SO YOU'RE GOOD FORWHAT GOD...HAS FOR YOU TO DO.
  • 00:22:05.180 --> 00:22:06.448
  • WHAT GOD...HAS FOR YOU TO DO.YOU CAN'T JUST LET--
  • 00:22:06.448 --> 00:22:07.115
  • YOU CAN'T JUST LET--- CECE: YOU HAVE TO GUARD YOUR
  • 00:22:07.115 --> 00:22:07.849
  • - CECE: YOU HAVE TO GUARD YOURANOINTING.
  • 00:22:07.849 --> 00:22:08.583
  • ANOINTING.- JOYCE: YEAH.
  • 00:22:08.583 --> 00:22:10.285
  • - JOYCE: YEAH.YOU CAN'T LET THE WORLD JUST
  • 00:22:10.285 --> 00:22:12.020
  • YOU CAN'T LET THE WORLD JUSTWEAR YOU OUT AND DRAIN YOU
  • 00:22:12.020 --> 00:22:12.687
  • WEAR YOU OUT AND DRAIN YOUOF...OF EVERYTHING.
  • 00:22:12.687 --> 00:22:13.555
  • OF...OF EVERYTHING.YOU KNOW WHY I'M HERE, TODAY?
  • 00:22:13.555 --> 00:22:14.756
  • YOU KNOW WHY I'M HERE, TODAY?I'LL TELL YOU EXACTLY WHY I'M
  • 00:22:14.756 --> 00:22:15.690
  • I'LL TELL YOU EXACTLY WHY I'MHERE, TODAY.
  • 00:22:15.690 --> 00:22:17.125
  • HERE, TODAY.BECAUSE YOU GUYS WILL ALWAYS DO
  • 00:22:17.125 --> 00:22:20.061
  • BECAUSE YOU GUYS WILL ALWAYS DOANYTHING THAT I ASK YOU TO DO.
  • 00:22:20.061 --> 00:22:20.796
  • ANYTHING THAT I ASK YOU TO DO.ANYTHING THAT I'VE EVER ASKED
  • 00:22:20.796 --> 00:22:21.463
  • ANYTHING THAT I'VE EVER ASKEDTHEM TO DO FOR ME TO HELP ME...
  • 00:22:21.463 --> 00:22:22.798
  • THEM TO DO FOR ME TO HELP ME...- CECE: MM-HMM...THEY'LL BE
  • 00:22:22.798 --> 00:22:24.299
  • - CECE: MM-HMM...THEY'LL BETHERE.
  • 00:22:24.299 --> 00:22:24.900
  • THERE.- JOYCE: ...WITH A BOOK OR
  • 00:22:24.900 --> 00:22:27.369
  • - JOYCE: ...WITH A BOOK ORANYTHING, THEY'LL ALWAYS DO IT.
  • 00:22:27.369 --> 00:22:28.036
  • ANYTHING, THEY'LL ALWAYS DO IT.AND, I JUST SAID: I AM GOING TO
  • 00:22:28.036 --> 00:22:29.137
  • AND, I JUST SAID: I AM GOING TOGO DO THAT FOR HER BECAUSE...
  • 00:22:29.137 --> 00:22:32.441
  • GO DO THAT FOR HER BECAUSE...THERE'S A RELATIONSHIP.
  • 00:22:32.441 --> 00:22:32.941
  • THERE'S A RELATIONSHIP.- ELISABETH: THERE'S A
  • 00:22:32.941 --> 00:22:33.742
  • - ELISABETH: THERE'S ARELATIONSHIP.
  • 00:22:33.742 --> 00:22:34.409
  • RELATIONSHIP.- JOYCE: IT'S NOT LIKE THEY'RE
  • 00:22:34.409 --> 00:22:35.710
  • - JOYCE: IT'S NOT LIKE THEY'REALWAYS JUST WANTING ME TO COME
  • 00:22:35.710 --> 00:22:36.778
  • ALWAYS JUST WANTING ME TO COMEAND DO SOMETHING FOR THEM, BUT
  • 00:22:36.778 --> 00:22:37.779
  • AND DO SOMETHING FOR THEM, BUTTHEN THEY WON'T EVER DO
  • 00:22:37.779 --> 00:22:38.880
  • THEN THEY WON'T EVER DOANYTHING FOR ME.
  • 00:22:38.880 --> 00:22:40.315
  • ANYTHING FOR ME.- CECE: THAT'S RIGHT.
  • 00:22:40.315 --> 00:22:41.082
  • - CECE: THAT'S RIGHT.- ELISABETH: I LIKE THAT.
  • 00:22:41.082 --> 00:22:41.783
  • - ELISABETH: I LIKE THAT.- JOYCE: AND, YOU ONLY HAVE
  • 00:22:41.783 --> 00:22:42.851
  • - JOYCE: AND, YOU ONLY HAVEROOM IN YOUR LIFE FOR SO MANY
  • 00:22:42.851 --> 00:22:44.586
  • ROOM IN YOUR LIFE FOR SO MANYREAL FRIENDS.
  • 00:22:44.586 --> 00:22:47.322
  • REAL FRIENDS.AND, YOU-- YOU CAN HAVE A LOT
  • 00:22:47.322 --> 00:22:49.324
  • AND, YOU-- YOU CAN HAVE A LOTOF ACQUAINTANCES, BUT YOU CAN
  • 00:22:49.324 --> 00:22:51.159
  • OF ACQUAINTANCES, BUT YOU CANONLY HAVE SO MANY FRIENDS.
  • 00:22:51.159 --> 00:22:51.827
  • ONLY HAVE SO MANY FRIENDS.- CECE: FRIENDS.
  • 00:22:51.827 --> 00:22:53.361
  • - CECE: FRIENDS.SO TRUE.
  • 00:22:53.361 --> 00:22:54.429
  • SO TRUE.- JOYCE: AND, WE HAVE TO BE A
  • 00:22:54.429 --> 00:22:56.164
  • - JOYCE: AND, WE HAVE TO BE ALITTLE MORE CAREFUL AND PICKY
  • 00:22:56.164 --> 00:22:57.566
  • LITTLE MORE CAREFUL AND PICKYABOUT WHO THEY ARE, BECAUSE I
  • 00:22:57.566 --> 00:22:58.567
  • ABOUT WHO THEY ARE, BECAUSE IDON'T WANNA JUST BE YOUR
  • 00:22:58.567 --> 00:22:59.768
  • DON'T WANNA JUST BE YOURFRIEND; I WANT YOU TO BE MY
  • 00:22:59.768 --> 00:23:00.702
  • FRIEND; I WANT YOU TO BE MYFRIEND.
  • 00:23:00.702 --> 00:23:01.169
  • FRIEND.- CECE: THAT'S GOOD!
  • 00:23:01.169 --> 00:23:01.770
  • - CECE: THAT'S GOOD!- ELISABETH: AND YOU WANT A
  • 00:23:01.770 --> 00:23:03.405
  • - ELISABETH: AND YOU WANT AFRIEND WHO HAS THE DESIRE TO
  • 00:23:03.405 --> 00:23:04.539
  • FRIEND WHO HAS THE DESIRE TOCARE FOR YOUR HEART, AS YOUR
  • 00:23:04.539 --> 00:23:05.407
  • CARE FOR YOUR HEART, AS YOURSISTER.
  • 00:23:05.407 --> 00:23:06.107
  • SISTER.- JOYCE: RIGHT.
  • 00:23:06.107 --> 00:23:06.541
  • - JOYCE: RIGHT.- ELISABETH: RIGHT?
  • 00:23:06.541 --> 00:23:07.375
  • - ELISABETH: RIGHT?AND SO YOU CAN FEEL -- I THINK
  • 00:23:07.375 --> 00:23:09.344
  • AND SO YOU CAN FEEL -- I THINKWHAT I HEARD YOU EXPRESS: IT'S
  • 00:23:09.344 --> 00:23:10.579
  • WHAT I HEARD YOU EXPRESS: IT'SA DESIRE TO HAVE...FRIENDS
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  • A DESIRE TO HAVE...FRIENDSAROUND YOU WHO CARE FOR YOUR
  • 00:23:11.346 --> 00:23:12.848
  • AROUND YOU WHO CARE FOR YOURHEART, WHO WILL, UM...SPUR YOU
  • 00:23:12.848 --> 00:23:16.618
  • HEART, WHO WILL, UM...SPUR YOUON TO BE BETTER.
  • 00:23:16.618 --> 00:23:17.152
  • ON TO BE BETTER.AND, I JUST...I FEEL IN MY
  • 00:23:17.152 --> 00:23:18.286
  • AND, I JUST...I FEEL IN MYHEART JUST TO PRAY.
  • 00:23:18.286 --> 00:23:19.287
  • HEART JUST TO PRAY.BECAUSE I KNOW THERE'S A GIRL,
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  • BECAUSE I KNOW THERE'S A GIRL,THERE'S A WOMAN OUT THERE WHO'S
  • 00:23:20.322 --> 00:23:21.890
  • THERE'S A WOMAN OUT THERE WHO'SLISTENING AND HEARD YOU SAY
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  • LISTENING AND HEARD YOU SAYTHAT, JOYCE, AND HEARD ALL OF
  • 00:23:22.991 --> 00:23:23.959
  • THAT, JOYCE, AND HEARD ALL OFOUR STORIES HERE TODAY, AND
  • 00:23:23.959 --> 00:23:25.126
  • OUR STORIES HERE TODAY, ANDFEEL-- THEY'RE FEELING, OUT
  • 00:23:25.126 --> 00:23:26.328
  • FEEL-- THEY'RE FEELING, OUTTHERE, RIGHT NOW, PERMISSION.
  • 00:23:26.328 --> 00:23:27.329
  • THERE, RIGHT NOW, PERMISSION.AND IT'S LIKE A HOLY PERMISSION
  • 00:23:27.329 --> 00:23:29.998
  • AND IT'S LIKE A HOLY PERMISSIONTO SAY: YES, YOUR HEART IS
  • 00:23:29.998 --> 00:23:30.999
  • TO SAY: YES, YOUR HEART ISWORTH GUARDING.
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  • WORTH GUARDING.- JOYCE: RIGHT.
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  • - JOYCE: RIGHT.- ELISABETH: WHAT'S PRESSING
  • 00:23:33.034 --> 00:23:34.469
  • - ELISABETH: WHAT'S PRESSINGCLOSEST TO YOU, OVER AND OVER
  • 00:23:34.469 --> 00:23:35.804
  • CLOSEST TO YOU, OVER AND OVERAGAIN, EVERY DAY, IS IMPORTANT.
  • 00:23:35.804 --> 00:23:37.806
  • AGAIN, EVERY DAY, IS IMPORTANT.AND SO, TAKE IT-- TAKE THAT
  • 00:23:37.806 --> 00:23:39.107
  • AND SO, TAKE IT-- TAKE THATEXAMINATION.
  • 00:23:39.107 --> 00:23:40.342
  • EXAMINATION.AND I JUST FEEL LIKE I NEED
  • 00:23:40.342 --> 00:23:41.076
  • AND I JUST FEEL LIKE I NEEDTHAT IN MY OWN LIFE, SO,
  • 00:23:41.076 --> 00:23:41.877
  • THAT IN MY OWN LIFE, SO,THANK YOU.
  • 00:23:41.877 --> 00:23:44.012
  • THANK YOU.THANK YOU ALL FOR THAT.
  • 00:23:44.012 --> 00:23:44.613
  • THANK YOU ALL FOR THAT.AND I JUST SAY: DEAR GOD...
  • 00:23:44.613 --> 00:23:45.080
  • AND I JUST SAY: DEAR GOD...- CECE: DEAR GOD...
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  • - CECE: DEAR GOD...- ELISABETH: ...WE INVITE ALL
  • 00:23:46.214 --> 00:23:48.016
  • - ELISABETH: ...WE INVITE ALLTHE WOMEN -- AND MEN --
  • 00:23:48.016 --> 00:23:49.451
  • THE WOMEN -- AND MEN --WATCHING, TODAY, WHO ARE
  • 00:23:49.451 --> 00:23:51.419
  • WATCHING, TODAY, WHO ARESITTING HERE FEELING WHAT THEY
  • 00:23:51.419 --> 00:23:52.821
  • SITTING HERE FEELING WHAT THEYWERE FEELING GUILT, GOD, FOR
  • 00:23:52.821 --> 00:23:54.890
  • WERE FEELING GUILT, GOD, FORTHE NO's OR THE REMOVAL OF
  • 00:23:54.890 --> 00:23:56.324
  • THE NO's OR THE REMOVAL OFSOMETHING IN THEIR LIVES, OR
  • 00:23:56.324 --> 00:23:58.660
  • SOMETHING IN THEIR LIVES, ORMAKING MORE SPACE, GOD.
  • 00:23:58.660 --> 00:23:59.761
  • MAKING MORE SPACE, GOD.GOD, YOU SAY: IT'S OKAY TO
  • 00:23:59.761 --> 00:24:00.662
  • GOD, YOU SAY: IT'S OKAY TOGUARD YOUR HEART AND I AM HERE
  • 00:24:00.662 --> 00:24:01.830
  • GUARD YOUR HEART AND I AM HEREAS YOUR ULTIMATE GUARDIAN, UM,
  • 00:24:01.830 --> 00:24:03.665
  • AS YOUR ULTIMATE GUARDIAN, UM,I'M HERE TO NUDGE YOU, I'M HERE
  • 00:24:03.665 --> 00:24:04.799
  • I'M HERE TO NUDGE YOU, I'M HERETO GUIDE YOU, BY THE POWER OF
  • 00:24:04.799 --> 00:24:08.737
  • TO GUIDE YOU, BY THE POWER OFMY SPIRIT.
  • 00:24:08.737 --> 00:24:09.371
  • MY SPIRIT.LORD GOD, I ASK TODAY THAT YOU
  • 00:24:09.371 --> 00:24:09.971
  • LORD GOD, I ASK TODAY THAT YOUJUST CONTINUE TO PURIFY OUR
  • 00:24:09.971 --> 00:24:12.007
  • JUST CONTINUE TO PURIFY OURHEART SO THAT WE CAN BE, UM,
  • 00:24:12.007 --> 00:24:13.275
  • HEART SO THAT WE CAN BE, UM,NON-TOXIC TO THOSE AROUND US;
  • 00:24:13.275 --> 00:24:15.877
  • NON-TOXIC TO THOSE AROUND US;GOD, THAT YOU HAVE USED OUR
  • 00:24:15.877 --> 00:24:16.511
  • GOD, THAT YOU HAVE USED OUREXPERIENCES IN THE TRIALS AND
  • 00:24:16.511 --> 00:24:18.046
  • EXPERIENCES IN THE TRIALS ANDFIRES WE'VE WALKED THROUGH TO
  • 00:24:18.046 --> 00:24:19.481
  • FIRES WE'VE WALKED THROUGH TOPURIFY US, OVER AND OVER AGAIN,
  • 00:24:19.481 --> 00:24:21.716
  • PURIFY US, OVER AND OVER AGAIN,SO THAT WE MAY NOT INFECT THOSE
  • 00:24:21.716 --> 00:24:23.718
  • SO THAT WE MAY NOT INFECT THOSEWHO ARE CLOSEST TO US; GOD,
  • 00:24:23.718 --> 00:24:25.020
  • WHO ARE CLOSEST TO US; GOD,THAT OUR PROXIMITY AND OUR
  • 00:24:25.020 --> 00:24:26.521
  • THAT OUR PROXIMITY AND OURFREQUENCY TO OTHERS, UM, IS
  • 00:24:26.521 --> 00:24:29.291
  • FREQUENCY TO OTHERS, UM, ISGOOD, IS NOT, UM...SINFUL.
  • 00:24:29.291 --> 00:24:32.227
  • GOOD, IS NOT, UM...SINFUL.AND SO, I ASK FIRST FOR THE
  • 00:24:32.227 --> 00:24:33.762
  • AND SO, I ASK FIRST FOR THEACCOUNTABILITY TO JUST CONTINUE
  • 00:24:33.762 --> 00:24:34.963
  • ACCOUNTABILITY TO JUST CONTINUETO JUST MOLD US, LORD GOD, AND
  • 00:24:34.963 --> 00:24:36.364
  • TO JUST MOLD US, LORD GOD, ANDTO PURIFY OUR HEARTS ON THE
  • 00:24:36.364 --> 00:24:37.632
  • TO PURIFY OUR HEARTS ON THEDAY.
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  • DAY.UM...AND, LORD GOD, I JUST
  • 00:24:39.067 --> 00:24:40.502
  • UM...AND, LORD GOD, I JUSTCONTINUE TO ASK THAT WE ARE
  • 00:24:40.502 --> 00:24:41.503
  • CONTINUE TO ASK THAT WE AREABLE TO MAKE ROOM.
  • 00:24:41.503 --> 00:24:42.771
  • ABLE TO MAKE ROOM.WE HAVE THE STRENGTH BY YOUR
  • 00:24:42.771 --> 00:24:44.439
  • WE HAVE THE STRENGTH BY YOURPOWER TO CARVE CERTAIN THINGS
  • 00:24:44.439 --> 00:24:45.807
  • POWER TO CARVE CERTAIN THINGSOUT, TO CUT CERTAIN THINGS OUT,
  • 00:24:45.807 --> 00:24:48.176
  • OUT, TO CUT CERTAIN THINGS OUT,TO, UM, EDIT OUR DAYS, OUR
  • 00:24:48.176 --> 00:24:51.479
  • TO, UM, EDIT OUR DAYS, OUREYES, OUR HEARTS, UM, OUR EARS,
  • 00:24:51.479 --> 00:24:54.282
  • EYES, OUR HEARTS, UM, OUR EARS,OUR HOURS, OUR STEPS SO THAT...
  • 00:24:54.282 --> 00:24:57.352
  • OUR HOURS, OUR STEPS SO THAT...WE CAN MAKE MORE ROOM FOR YOU,
  • 00:24:57.352 --> 00:24:58.987
  • WE CAN MAKE MORE ROOM FOR YOU,SO THAT WE CAN STAY READY WHEN
  • 00:24:58.987 --> 00:25:00.355
  • SO THAT WE CAN STAY READY WHENOUR FRIENDS DO NEED US, GOD,
  • 00:25:00.355 --> 00:25:02.557
  • OUR FRIENDS DO NEED US, GOD,AND SO THAT WE CAN, UM, GIVE--
  • 00:25:02.557 --> 00:25:03.758
  • AND SO THAT WE CAN, UM, GIVE--GIVE YOU ALL THE GLORY, UM, IN
  • 00:25:03.758 --> 00:25:05.093
  • GIVE YOU ALL THE GLORY, UM, INOUR WALK, GOD.
  • 00:25:05.093 --> 00:25:06.761
  • OUR WALK, GOD.LET US REMOVE THE THINGS THAT
  • 00:25:06.761 --> 00:25:08.930
  • LET US REMOVE THE THINGS THATARE CAUSING US PAIN, CREATING
  • 00:25:08.930 --> 00:25:09.965
  • ARE CAUSING US PAIN, CREATINGFOOTHOLDS, UM...AND A
  • 00:25:09.965 --> 00:25:11.333
  • FOOTHOLDS, UM...AND ASTRONGHOLD, UM, WHICH WE KNOW
  • 00:25:11.333 --> 00:25:13.068
  • STRONGHOLD, UM, WHICH WE KNOWTHAT THE ENEMY DESIRES, GOD,
  • 00:25:13.068 --> 00:25:14.436
  • THAT THE ENEMY DESIRES, GOD,BUT YOU ABOVE THAT ENEMY.
  • 00:25:14.436 --> 00:25:16.605
  • BUT YOU ABOVE THAT ENEMY.WE TRUST YOUR SOVEREIGNTY OVER
  • 00:25:16.605 --> 00:25:18.006
  • WE TRUST YOUR SOVEREIGNTY OVEROUR LIVES, GOD, AND WE INVITE
  • 00:25:18.006 --> 00:25:19.107
  • OUR LIVES, GOD, AND WE INVITEANYONE TODAY TO JUST CONFESS
  • 00:25:19.107 --> 00:25:19.908
  • ANYONE TODAY TO JUST CONFESSYOU.
  • 00:25:19.908 --> 00:25:21.443
  • YOU.I'VE BEEN LETTING SOMETHING IN
  • 00:25:21.443 --> 00:25:22.611
  • I'VE BEEN LETTING SOMETHING INTOO CLOSE TOO MANY TIMES EACH
  • 00:25:22.611 --> 00:25:24.279
  • TOO CLOSE TOO MANY TIMES EACHDAY, GOD, SO, WE'RE GONNA
  • 00:25:24.279 --> 00:25:25.447
  • DAY, GOD, SO, WE'RE GONNASURRENDER THAT AND LET IT GO
  • 00:25:25.447 --> 00:25:26.081
  • SURRENDER THAT AND LET IT GOAND LET YOU HOLD IT, GOD, AND
  • 00:25:26.081 --> 00:25:27.949
  • AND LET YOU HOLD IT, GOD, ANDLET YOU SORT IT OUT.
  • 00:25:27.949 --> 00:25:29.084
  • LET YOU SORT IT OUT.IN JESUS' NAME, I THANK YOU FOR
  • 00:25:29.084 --> 00:25:31.186
  • IN JESUS' NAME, I THANK YOU FORALL THIS.
  • 00:25:31.186 --> 00:25:32.120
  • ALL THIS.AMEN.
  • 00:25:32.120 --> 00:25:32.520
  • AMEN.- CECE: AMEN.
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  • - CECE: AMEN.- JOYCE: AMEN.
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  • - JOYCE: AMEN.- CECE: AMEN.
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  • - CECE: AMEN.- LAURIE: CONNECT WITH US ON
  • 00:25:35.724 --> 00:25:36.625
  • - LAURIE: CONNECT WITH US ONSOCIAL MEDIA AND LET US KNOW
  • 00:25:36.625 --> 00:25:38.059
  • SOCIAL MEDIA AND LET US KNOWHOW OUR TEAM CAN PRAY FOR YOU.
  • 00:25:38.059 --> 00:25:41.930
  • HOW OUR TEAM CAN PRAY FOR YOU.NEXT TIME ON "BETTER TOGETHER":
  • 00:25:41.930 --> 00:25:43.331
  • NEXT TIME ON "BETTER TOGETHER":- LISA: I REALIZED IN THAT
  • 00:25:43.331 --> 00:25:45.400
  • - LISA: I REALIZED IN THATMOMENT THAT THE REASON I WAS
  • 00:25:45.400 --> 00:25:47.202
  • MOMENT THAT THE REASON I WASSTILL HOLDING ONTO THE OFFENSE
  • 00:25:47.202 --> 00:25:49.304
  • STILL HOLDING ONTO THE OFFENSEWAS I WAS TRYING TO CONTROL HOW
  • 00:25:49.304 --> 00:25:51.006
  • WAS I WAS TRYING TO CONTROL HOWGOD CONVICTED HER AND
  • 00:25:51.006 --> 00:25:52.240
  • GOD CONVICTED HER ANDDISCIPLINED HER.
  • 00:25:52.240 --> 00:25:54.542
  • DISCIPLINED HER.- LAURIE: WATCH
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  • - LAURIE: WATCH"BETTER TOGETHER"
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  • "BETTER TOGETHER"WEEKDAYS AND TUESDAY
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