Better Together LIVE | Episode 137
November 3, 2020
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We’re talking about how to “agree to disagree” with your friends in love and grace. Join us! | TBN Prayer Line: 714-731-1000
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Better Together LIVE | Episode 137
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- - Although you maybe feeling like
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- you're being pulled tothe right, or to the left,
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- today on Better Together,
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- we're talking abouttaking God's side.
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- He commands us tolove one another,
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- even if we're not amember of the same church,
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- or political party, ordisagree on hot button issues.
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- Come on, we needto talk about this
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- because God's grace is theanswer to all conflict.
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- (gentle music)
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- - You know have youever had to learn
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- to agree to disagree with afriend or a family member?
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- (laughs)
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- You know, I thinkabout every time,
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- this season rolls around,
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- in different families,there's conflict,
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- different viewpoints,
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- in different thingsthat we believe in.
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- And I remember
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- my dad had astrong political view
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- that was verydifferent from my own.
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- And we would disagree,and he was very dogmatic
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- about the way that he felt,
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- and he had his reasonsfor being that way.
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- And he was forceful abouthis political affiliation
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- and what he felt likethat we should support.
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- But, I have found thatin all of that difficulty
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- the best thing that I could do,
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- would be respectfulof a different opinion
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- that was different than mine.
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- And, when there's conflict
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- and you have to disagree, youcan disagree with respect.
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- I think that's one ofthe greatest things that,
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- we can give to one another.
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- And there's tworeasons for that,
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- to respect.
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- Number one is I believethat every person,
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- on this earth isworthy of respect.
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- And number two, I believe that
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- if I'm going toinfluence somebody, Ihave to respect them.
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- And if I walk away from thetable out of disrespect,
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- or I treat somebodydisrespectful
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- because they don'tbelieve the way that I do,
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- or they don't see thingsthe way that I do,
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- then all I do is hurt my ability
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- to influence them for good,
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- and the good that I haveinside me to influence them
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- is lost in that process.
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- So, I believe that in seasons
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- where we find ourselves inconflict with one another,
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- and we don't see eye to eye,
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- we can still love andrespect the other person.
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- And by doing that,
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- we have a place at the table
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- to either be changedby their thought,
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- or, to influence themwith our thought.
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- But that's the only way I think
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- that we get through the process
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- and come out on theother side, feeling good
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- about where we've been,and where we're going.
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- - That's amazing.
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- You know, you said,every person is worthy,
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- and I was thinking,there's a story
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- my dad always tells of,
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- way back when Gateway started,
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- my dad had juststarted the church
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- and he had just acouple people on staff.
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- And one day he went and said,
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- "Hey guys, there'sa lady in the lobby
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- that would really liketo receive prayer,
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- and I'm not gonnatell you who she is,
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- but I want you to knowshe's worth a lot."
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- And so, you know, andso they just all like,
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- just over lavishthemselves on this lady,
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- just gave themtheir phone numbers,
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- just was like, "We'll prayfor you anything you need."
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- The lady walked outand they all said,
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- "So who is she?
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- How much is she worth?"
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- And he said, "Thesame thing as you,
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- the blood of the lamb."
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- And every single one ofthem dropped everything,
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- and it was like one ofthese like aha moments of,
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- we are all worth the same.
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- So yes, we're gonnadisagree on things.
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- But part of our differencesis what makes us who we are,
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- it makes us the body of Christ.
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- We can learn from one another,
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- we can grow from one another.
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- And so, I am I'm young,
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- but I'm not too oldto learn from anybody.
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- And I'll learn from anybodybecause I'm ready to learn.
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- And so, I think that's a heart
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- that we carry respectand it to say,
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- "Hey, I'm open to this,
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- I'm open to learning."
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- And I just love that if we were
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- to follow the model of Jesus,
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- it says his kindnessled them to repentance.
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- And I just think thatkindness is the way
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- that we can walk in this season.
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- You know, and Ithink about my life,
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- and I think about my momentwhere I met the Lord,
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- it wasn't because hehad judged me and said,
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- "Oh you are a sinner,sinner, sinner."
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- Yeah, those wereall true statements.
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- It wasn't because, you know,
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- and when I turned Iwanted to find Jesus,
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- who did I turn to?
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- I turned to my familythat had been kind to me,
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- through all of my loss,and through all of my junk.
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- And I turned to thepeople that loved me,
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- not the people thatcontinually told me,
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- "You're wrong, you'rewrong, you're wrong."
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- I turned to thepeople that were kind,
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- and I think that'sthe reality of it.
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- It's like, it was his kindnessthat led my heart to say,
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- "I want to live a better way."
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- And I think that's the reality,
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- is there are some thingswhere, we disagree or some...
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- And they might be true thingsthat are very, very important.
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- But I think our kindness isgonna be where people turn.
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- I think the personthey're gonna call
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- when they're ready to change,
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- is the person that'sbeen kind to them
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- through the entire journey.
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- That's loved them throughthe whole process,
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- and that hasn't satthere and just said,
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- "Let me correct youin everything you do."
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- They said, "Let me loveyou in every way I can."
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- And then I know that
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- there might be a betterway, but one day you'll ask,
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- "Hey, what's the better way?"
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- I mean, that's themoment I'll speak it.
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- That's the moment.I'll show you my story.
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- I'll tell you, where I can.
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- But I'm going to love you,
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- I'm going to respect you,
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- and I'm going to be kind to you,
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- through the entire journey,as we walk this together,
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- Because we're both a progress,
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- we are in progressto the father,
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- and that's where we are.
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- So we're gonna restin the fact that,
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- we are both in progress,
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- I'm not better than you,we're worth the same.
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- I love you, andI'll be kind to you,
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- because we're on ajourney together.
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- - Yeah, that is so good Elaine.
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- I think if we justsee each other
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- as brother and sisters inthe Lord, across the board,
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- you know, I've got two boys,
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- I don't love onemore than the other.
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- They're all the same to me.
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- I am going to help,
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- I am going to be there for,
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- I'm going to treat bothof them with as much love
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- as I have in my heart.
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- And I think that's how Godsees us, we're all the same.
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- We're all on the same level.
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- We all are indesperate need for God.
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- We're all hypocritesbasically (laughs),
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- and we all just needhim, our need for him.
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- You know Jesus loves us so much,
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- but he also ishere to change us.
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- He's here to mold and to makeus, and we're all on that.
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- And I love that Jesus wasalways of that gentle answer.
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- He's meek and he's lowly.
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- He's everything thatthe beatitudes is.
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- What he preached,he embodied that.
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- That humble meekand lowly of heart.
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- And I think that lovetrumps being right,
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- every single time,
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- and I think that if we canjust show that respect,
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- not always have to be right.
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- Just love people,love never fails.
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- And that's the thing Chrystal
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- that I think we all havereally get good at right now,
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- because it seems likeit's almost getting harder
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- in this day and age, becauseI think we're, you know...
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- The longer time goes, themore we're into the last days.
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- So whatever your belief on that,
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- I'm just saying that the longertime goes,(laughs), right?
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- We're entering intothe end of days.
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- And it says it'sgonna get worse.
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- People are gonna belovers of themselves
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- and lovers of money,
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- and lovers of...
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- And thinking that theirway is right every time,
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- and it's gonnaprobably get harder,
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- to walk in love in that grace.
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- But if we just remember
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- how much we need thatlove and grace from God,
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- I think that's what makesus feel a little more free
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- to give that loveand grace to others.
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- - Yeah, and I thinkalso remembering that
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- our love is not conditional,on whether or not we agree.
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- Our love is not conditional
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- on whether or not weeven really like you.
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- It's kind of like,love is conditional,
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- (laughs)
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- on the mandate, thatGod gave us to do it.
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- - [Laurie] Yeah.
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- You know, in Romans12:18, the Bible says,
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- "If possible, so faras it depends on you,
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- be at peace with all men."
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- But really there'sa lot of scriptures
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- in that chapter of Romans 12,
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- that talk abouttreating other people
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- and how we should do that.
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- Verse 10 says,
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- "Be devoted to one anotherin brotherly love."
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- Verse 20 says, "If yourenemy is hungry, feed them."
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- There's a lot ofpractical scriptures here.
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- "Don't pay back evil forevil," verse 17 says.
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- Verse nine, "Let lovebe without hypocrisy."
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- And this whole ideais based in Romans 12,
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- where it's saying,"Hey, we're different.
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- we're different, we don'tall have the same gifts.
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- We don't all have the same mind,
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- but what is key is that,
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- just like Christ loved uswhen we weren't on his page,
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- he wants us to love other people
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- whether or notthey're on our page."
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- And that can be communicated
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- in how we discusswhat we disagree on.
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- It's not just that,you can just show love
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- and, you know, bringsomebody something to eat,
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- but then you're gonna, youknow, have a knock down drag out
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- on some point ofdifference that you have
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- in terms of philosophyof politics or religion,
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- or anything else.
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- It's that I show you Ilove you across the board,
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- which is if I don'tagree with you,
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- I can communicatethat to you in a way,
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- where my difference of opinion
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- is still communicatedin a loving way.
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- And I have to tell youin this season of 2020,
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- because it's an election year,
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- there have been alot of conversations,
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- where I'm just looking at people
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- that I know are believers,
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- and I'm just like,
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- "For real, is thathow gonna come to me?"
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- You know, just comeand I'm even...
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- And I try to be sweet, Itry to be nice but you know,
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- even sometimes peoplewill slide into my demons,
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- and they'll say things to me.
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- And my thing is, Irespect your opinion,
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- but you don't have tocome at me like that.
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- And I feel like, especiallyif we're believers,
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- and I think that'sa big key of our...
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- A big mark of us loving Jesus,
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- is how we showlove to each other,
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- and do that in the waythat we communicate.
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- You know, I don't thinkwe have to all agree,
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- I do think that we all allneed to speak and act in love,
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- and the Bible tellsus to do that.
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- And here's what Ihave to remind myself,
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- in seasons where me and myhusband and I don't agree,
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- my adult children,that's a whole thing.
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- They don't agree with me.
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- You know?
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- (laughs)
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- I mean, you know, and thenI have to look at the Bible
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- and it says, you know,
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- the last verse in thatchapter it says...
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- This is next to the last.
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- "If your enemy ishungry, feed him.
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- If your enemy is hungry,give them a drink."
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- And the way to effectivelyminister to somebody else,
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- is by doing whatever you'regonna do, with kindness.
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- Kindness and love.
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- And so I think in thisseason, at least for me,
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- that's the thing to remember.
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- Is I can look at you, andshake my head and say,
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- "I don't think so."
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- (laughs)
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- But I can do it with a smilewithout ripping your head off.
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- And I think, you know,that's a big part for me
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- of not only watchingmy communication
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- and being a believer,
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- but also it's a point forme in watching my friends
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- and the people that I'm incommunity with that, you know,
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- that I can applaud themfor how they responded.
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- Or say, "Girl listen,
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- I know that they were wrong,
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- but, you know theway you came at them,
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- that really wasn't right."
- 00:11:33.415 --> 00:11:34.717
- And I think that we needto look at each other
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- in this season particularly,
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- and remind each other,that all of these things,
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- but out of the greatest ofthese things, it's love,
- 00:11:42.124 --> 00:11:44.994
- it's love.
- 00:11:44.994 --> 00:11:46.295
- - I love how yousaid that so well.
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- No matter what you do,
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- do it in kindness and love.
- 00:11:49.698 --> 00:11:51.600
- Like you do what you gotta do,
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- but there is aJesus way to do it.
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- And I love that you said that.
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- One of my favoritethings about Jesus,
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- is that he did not haveto agree with somebody
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- to hang out with them,or to eat with them.
- 00:12:05.514 --> 00:12:07.516
- He was constantly saying,
- 00:12:07.516 --> 00:12:08.818
- "Hey you, I'm goingto your house.
- 00:12:08.818 --> 00:12:10.219
- You don't agree withme, but we're gonna eat.
- 00:12:10.219 --> 00:12:12.021
- You don't like me,but we're gonna hang.
- 00:12:12.021 --> 00:12:13.722
- Hey, you I'm gettinginto your boat.
- 00:12:13.722 --> 00:12:15.424
- You, you're leaving your boat."
- 00:12:15.424 --> 00:12:16.725
- Like he was constantlyhanging out with people
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- that didn't agree with him,
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- and he was having all theserelationships with people,
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- who did not see theworld the same way
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- that he saw the world.
- 00:12:23.699 --> 00:12:25.501
- And so, I think aboutthat a lot this year,
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- when I see how other Christiansspeak to other Christians.
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- And when I see how peoplespeak to other people,
- 00:12:31.407 --> 00:12:34.510
- man, if the Bible tells us,
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- if Jesus says,"Love your enemies,"
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- then we must show respect,
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- at the very least to peoplewe merely disagreed with.
- 00:12:43.719 --> 00:12:47.923
- Like if we are commandedto love our enemies,
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- then why are we havingtrouble loving people
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- that just have variedopinions from us?
- 00:12:52.795 --> 00:12:54.897
- And I don't know whoseexample we are following,
- 00:12:54.897 --> 00:12:57.900
- but it is certainly not theexample of Jesus Christ.
- 00:12:57.900 --> 00:13:00.603
- Because JesusChrist did not say,
- 00:13:00.603 --> 00:13:02.004
- "Hey, if you disagree withme, get out of my way.
- 00:13:02.004 --> 00:13:03.906
- If you disagree with me,you can leave the room.
- 00:13:03.906 --> 00:13:05.608
- If you disagree with me,click that unfollow button."
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- He didn't.
- 00:13:08.110 --> 00:13:09.311
- He said, "Let'shave a conversation.
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- Let's have a relationship."
- 00:13:10.312 --> 00:13:11.814
- How are we going to reach aworld that we don't even like?
- 00:13:11.814 --> 00:13:14.717
- How are we going toshow the love of Jesus
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- to a world that wedon't even wanna know?
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- What is the plan?
- 00:13:20.723 --> 00:13:22.224
- And I'm nervous that there is...
- 00:13:22.224 --> 00:13:23.792
- - The world thatdoesn't know Jesus,
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- that is looking at us Christians
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- and how we talk to each other
- 00:13:28.898 --> 00:13:30.699
- and how we speak to each other.
- 00:13:30.699 --> 00:13:32.401
- And we're saying, come join us.
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- Isn't this great?
- 00:13:34.803 --> 00:13:36.305
- Don't you wannabe a part of this?
- 00:13:36.305 --> 00:13:38.407
- They want to see thetruth about Jesus
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- which would be thelove and kindness
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- and welcoming of Jesus Christ.
- 00:13:43.212 --> 00:13:45.414
- So that is my hope for us,
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- that whatever we do,whatever we feel called to do
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- that we're doing itin the Jesus way.
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- Welcoming, inviting
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- saying it in love
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- speaking in love, speakingin kindness and saying
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- hey, you don't agree with me?
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- We're still gonna havea meal together and talk
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- and have a relationship.
- 00:14:00.696 --> 00:14:01.897
- Hey, you don't like me?
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- - Right.
- 00:14:02.998 --> 00:14:04.300
- - We're still gonnaget to know each other.
- 00:14:04.300 --> 00:14:05.801
- We have to know the worldthat we want to reach.
- 00:14:05.801 --> 00:14:09.905
- So hopefully we canshow the love of Jesus
- 00:14:09.905 --> 00:14:12.508
- - Hosanna, that's really good.
- 00:14:12.508 --> 00:14:14.410
- I think about the seasonthat we're in right now.
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- And I think that everythingfeels so out of control
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- and people want asense of control
- 00:14:18.747 --> 00:14:20.149
- and when thingsare out of control,
- 00:14:20.149 --> 00:14:22.351
- then we become fearful.
- 00:14:22.351 --> 00:14:24.053
- Well the oppositeof love is not hate.
- 00:14:24.053 --> 00:14:27.122
- The opposite of love is fear.
- 00:14:27.122 --> 00:14:29.525
- And so what we can do aschildren of the most high
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- is to love people.
- 00:14:35.331 --> 00:14:36.532
- You know, love neverfails. It doesn't.
- 00:14:36.532 --> 00:14:38.233
- Sometimes love is hard becauseyou don't feel very loving.
- 00:14:38.233 --> 00:14:42.438
- But the greatest test of grace
- 00:14:42.438 --> 00:14:44.840
- is to love somebodyand to give them grace
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- when they don't evenknow that they need it.
- 00:14:48.243 --> 00:14:50.846
- Instead you'd like totell them a thing or two,
- 00:14:50.846 --> 00:14:53.148
- but that doesn't work.
- 00:14:53.148 --> 00:14:54.450
- And it goes back again to
- 00:14:54.450 --> 00:14:56.452
- how am I going to influencepeople towards the message
- 00:14:56.452 --> 00:15:00.923
- and the hope of Christ?
- 00:15:00.923 --> 00:15:02.524
- And you can only influence them
- 00:15:02.524 --> 00:15:04.626
- if you've got arelationship with them,
- 00:15:04.626 --> 00:15:06.428
- if you're at thetable with them.
- 00:15:06.428 --> 00:15:08.030
- So you say, I will havegrace for an individual.
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- I will love this individualbecause basically
- 00:15:12.334 --> 00:15:15.537
- they are perhapsmaybe hateful or
- 00:15:15.537 --> 00:15:19.541
- full of strife and stress.
- 00:15:20.943 --> 00:15:23.045
- How do I help alleviate that?
- 00:15:23.045 --> 00:15:25.647
- I think oftentimes we needto go into a situation
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- and look at how we candiffuse the atmosphere.
- 00:15:28.350 --> 00:15:32.421
- You know, again, I'm sucha believer in atmosphere
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- and we're in an atmospherethat feels uncertain
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- and we feel out of control.
- 00:15:38.127 --> 00:15:39.828
- So how do we createan atmosphere
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- that brings peaceinto the situation.
- 00:15:42.531 --> 00:15:44.833
- That makes people feelthey're loved in spite of
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- with their opinion or inspite of what we think
- 00:15:48.637 --> 00:15:51.340
- and how they should believe,or how they should think
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- or how they shouldexpress themselves
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- or if they've expressedthemselves way too much
- 00:15:55.444 --> 00:15:58.047
- for our comfort, we canstill love those people.
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- Love never fails.
- 00:16:01.850 --> 00:16:03.152
- And I think that'skind of a thing
- 00:16:03.152 --> 00:16:04.720
- that we've gotgoing through here.
- 00:16:04.720 --> 00:16:06.221
- But love will cast out fear.
- 00:16:06.221 --> 00:16:09.124
- If you love an individual
- 00:16:09.124 --> 00:16:10.726
- you can push back thefear that they're feeling
- 00:16:10.726 --> 00:16:12.928
- and their out of controland it's that they feel.
- 00:16:12.928 --> 00:16:15.431
- So I say love, love, love,
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- love till it hurts.
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- Love till it's, you know it'sinconvenient you keep loving
- 00:16:18.934 --> 00:16:21.537
- and then God steps inand he does the miracle
- 00:16:21.537 --> 00:16:24.440
- of bringing the relationships
- 00:16:24.440 --> 00:16:25.741
- to where they need to be.
- 00:16:25.741 --> 00:16:27.042
- - Beautiful.- That is true.
- 00:16:27.042 --> 00:16:28.644
- I realized that I givewhat I have overflow of.
- 00:16:28.744 --> 00:16:31.447
- You know we've talked about
- 00:16:31.447 --> 00:16:32.648
- taking inventoryof our heart space.
- 00:16:32.648 --> 00:16:34.149
- So I realized that it'shard for me to give grace
- 00:16:34.149 --> 00:16:36.819
- when I don't remember howmuch grace I've received.
- 00:16:36.819 --> 00:16:39.721
- And so I think inthis season too
- 00:16:39.721 --> 00:16:41.723
- it's a season wherewe're reminding ourselves
- 00:16:41.723 --> 00:16:44.126
- who we are and what God hasdone for us and how he loves us
- 00:16:44.126 --> 00:16:47.830
- and he cares for us.
- 00:16:47.830 --> 00:16:49.331
- And so I thinkthis is a moment to
- 00:16:49.331 --> 00:16:52.034
- this is me personally, okay.
- 00:16:52.034 --> 00:16:53.435
- Just in the lastcouple of weeks,
- 00:16:53.435 --> 00:16:55.237
- I was texting andtalking to my husband
- 00:16:55.237 --> 00:16:57.339
- and I was kinda ventingabout what was going on.
- 00:16:57.339 --> 00:17:00.042
- I was venting about my season.
- 00:17:00.042 --> 00:17:01.643
- I was venting about life.
- 00:17:01.643 --> 00:17:03.445
- I was venting that I thoughtsomebody got promoted
- 00:17:03.445 --> 00:17:05.647
- more than they should have.
- 00:17:05.647 --> 00:17:07.449
- And maybe I should be there
- 00:17:07.449 --> 00:17:08.851
- and all the differentthings, right.
- 00:17:08.851 --> 00:17:10.319
- And I was judging them.
- 00:17:10.319 --> 00:17:12.121
- And my husband justso sweetly asked
- 00:17:12.121 --> 00:17:14.022
- why do you feel like youcan judge the situation?
- 00:17:14.022 --> 00:17:17.826
- And I just satthere for a moment.
- 00:17:17.826 --> 00:17:19.628
- And then I satback just a thought
- 00:17:19.628 --> 00:17:21.330
- and I said becausesomewhere along the line,
- 00:17:21.330 --> 00:17:25.134
- I thought I'm God.
- 00:17:25.134 --> 00:17:27.436
- And I have the rightto judge this moment.
- 00:17:27.436 --> 00:17:30.139
- And it just rockedmy world to realize
- 00:17:30.139 --> 00:17:33.342
- I cannot believe I everput myself in that spot.
- 00:17:33.342 --> 00:17:37.045
- And so I think I'vebeen in this journey
- 00:17:37.045 --> 00:17:39.047
- when I feel like I needto prove something to you.
- 00:17:39.047 --> 00:17:42.451
- I need to teach you something.
- 00:17:42.451 --> 00:17:43.919
- I need to show you something
- 00:17:43.919 --> 00:17:45.420
- there's a betterway and I know it.
- 00:17:45.420 --> 00:17:47.122
- And I get this realcocky, prideful attitude.
- 00:17:47.122 --> 00:17:50.125
- I sat back and I ask myself
- 00:17:50.125 --> 00:17:52.327
- did I put myself in a place that
- 00:17:52.327 --> 00:17:54.329
- I'm actually notworthy to be in?
- 00:17:54.329 --> 00:17:56.732
- I'm not God, I'm not theone to judge this situation.
- 00:17:56.732 --> 00:18:00.335
- I'm not the one todetermine the right or wrong
- 00:18:00.335 --> 00:18:03.038
- of this moment orthat person's heart
- 00:18:03.038 --> 00:18:04.940
- or where they should beor where they shouldn't be
- 00:18:04.940 --> 00:18:06.842
- or what they should believeor what they shouldn't believe
- 00:18:06.842 --> 00:18:09.244
- how far along in theirjourney they should be.
- 00:18:09.244 --> 00:18:11.146
- I'm not that person,I'm called to love.
- 00:18:11.146 --> 00:18:14.750
- I'm called to make disciples.
- 00:18:14.750 --> 00:18:16.618
- I called to lean in
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- and recruit them tothe love of the Father
- 00:18:18.120 --> 00:18:20.722
- not to prove thembetter or wrong.
- 00:18:20.722 --> 00:18:23.625
- And I think that's beenthis huge thing in my heart.
- 00:18:23.625 --> 00:18:26.128
- And this is me walkingthrough this journey.
- 00:18:26.128 --> 00:18:28.130
- I'm not past this.
- 00:18:28.130 --> 00:18:29.531
- This is me everyday saying
- 00:18:29.531 --> 00:18:31.333
- man, you feel veryprideful in that.
- 00:18:31.333 --> 00:18:33.535
- Do you need to relieve yourselfof a role that is not yours?
- 00:18:33.535 --> 00:18:37.039
- Because if I will says, donot judge lest you be judged.
- 00:18:37.039 --> 00:18:40.042
- The Bible says youare not in that place.
- 00:18:40.042 --> 00:18:42.144
- And so for me, I'vehad to humble my heart.
- 00:18:42.144 --> 00:18:45.147
- I've had to humble my mind
- 00:18:45.147 --> 00:18:46.648
- and say no, Iremember where I was
- 00:18:46.648 --> 00:18:49.051
- and how God saved me
- 00:18:49.051 --> 00:18:50.519
- and the grace thatI've received.
- 00:18:50.519 --> 00:18:52.221
- And so with, Iremember that grace
- 00:18:52.221 --> 00:18:54.223
- and I remember the lovethat was extended to me.
- 00:18:54.223 --> 00:18:56.725
- Then I can give it to you
- 00:18:56.725 --> 00:18:58.026
- because I know we'reon a journey together.
- 00:18:58.026 --> 00:19:00.729
- And I am not anymore worthy than you
- 00:19:00.729 --> 00:19:03.131
- to even put myself ina place to judge you
- 00:19:03.131 --> 00:19:06.134
- or to tell you where youshould be in your journey
- 00:19:06.134 --> 00:19:08.737
- or what you should believe.
- 00:19:08.737 --> 00:19:10.339
- Because I know God is faithfulto meet you where you are
- 00:19:10.339 --> 00:19:13.542
- because he wasfaithful to meet me
- 00:19:13.542 --> 00:19:15.544
- every single day where I am.
- 00:19:15.544 --> 00:19:17.746
- - Right. You know, and Ithink that's so good Elaine.
- 00:19:17.746 --> 00:19:21.250
- That God changes thehearts of minds in men.
- 00:19:21.250 --> 00:19:24.720
- And I love thescripture that says
- 00:19:24.720 --> 00:19:27.923
- to pursue peace, itmeans go after peace.
- 00:19:27.923 --> 00:19:31.627
- So when you're ina hot button topic
- 00:19:31.627 --> 00:19:35.130
- or whatever you're talkingto someone that you don't
- 00:19:35.130 --> 00:19:37.633
- you can either dropit in love and go on
- 00:19:37.633 --> 00:19:40.836
- stop talking about it.
- 00:19:40.836 --> 00:19:42.337
- Just shut it off and stop.
- 00:19:42.337 --> 00:19:44.840
- But to pursue peace.
- 00:19:44.840 --> 00:19:47.042
- And the scripture actually says
- 00:19:47.042 --> 00:19:49.144
- let us therefore pursue peace
- 00:19:49.144 --> 00:19:52.147
- in the things whichmake for peace
- 00:19:52.147 --> 00:19:54.449
- and the thingsthat make for peace
- 00:19:54.449 --> 00:19:56.718
- and the things by whichone may edify each other.
- 00:19:56.718 --> 00:20:01.423
- So even if you're disagreeing
- 00:20:01.423 --> 00:20:03.425
- you need to find somethingthat you can, that edify.
- 00:20:03.425 --> 00:20:07.029
- You know, a lot oftimes, even with our kids
- 00:20:07.029 --> 00:20:08.930
- this is just the thought.
- 00:20:08.930 --> 00:20:10.332
- When your children are
- 00:20:10.332 --> 00:20:12.534
- out of control or being ugly,
- 00:20:13.635 --> 00:20:16.738
- and you're tryingto settle them down.
- 00:20:16.738 --> 00:20:18.240
- I don't know crystal, ifyou've ever had to do this
- 00:20:18.240 --> 00:20:20.542
- but sometimes youjust have to stop,
- 00:20:20.542 --> 00:20:23.145
- reset for a secondand then just go,
- 00:20:23.145 --> 00:20:25.547
- you know what? You are so good.
- 00:20:25.547 --> 00:20:27.549
- I remember one day, I'lltell just a little story.
- 00:20:27.549 --> 00:20:30.118
- I was railing at mylittle two year old
- 00:20:30.118 --> 00:20:33.422
- for riding on a bunch ofreally important papers.
- 00:20:33.422 --> 00:20:36.425
- He would alwaysjust pick up his pen
- 00:20:36.425 --> 00:20:39.027
- and any paper hewould see on the desk
- 00:20:39.027 --> 00:20:42.030
- he would just start drawingthese amazing little art pieces.
- 00:20:42.030 --> 00:20:46.535
- And he had grabbed some ofdaddy's important papers one day
- 00:20:46.535 --> 00:20:49.838
- and he's just writing them.
- 00:20:49.838 --> 00:20:51.039
- And I was like,Cody, what the heck?
- 00:20:51.039 --> 00:20:52.641
- What are you doing?
- 00:20:52.641 --> 00:20:53.942
- And I just start intomy mommy thing, you know
- 00:20:53.942 --> 00:20:56.345
- and he's just sittingthere looking at me
- 00:20:56.345 --> 00:20:59.247
- and he's in this little onesie
- 00:20:59.247 --> 00:21:01.850
- and he's sitting there justlooking at me, just let me rail.
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- And finally he starts going
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- you
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- you.
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- And I'm finally what?
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- He goes, you are areally good teacher.
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- And I think sometimeswe just have to stop
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- and see something that God hasput on the inside of somebody
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- and go you knowwhat? You are so good
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- at trying to find the truthand going after truth.
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- And I admire thatin you, you know
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- and maybe bless your enemies.
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- Those are people.
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- Not necessarily, you'renot necessarily my enemy.
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- You might consider me an enemy.
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- So Jesus just says to blessyour enemies, to pray for them.
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- I think the first thing Crystal
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- that happens when you startpraying for your enemies
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- is I think that the first thingthat comes to them is truth.
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- Light on the subject,truth from God
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- for blessing those thatmight not agree with you.
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- And you know what I think
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- we all need to laydown our opinions
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- and all need to gainthe mind of Christ.
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- And maybe we would stop lashingout so hard at one another.
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- Maybe we did. I don'tknow, just a suggestion.
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- - Well you know, I thinkyou were asking Lori
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- if I've ever had tosplit the kids up.
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- I mean, yes, thereare five of them
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- so I get to do that quite often.
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- (laughs)
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- But you know, one ofthe things I will say,
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- there's one of mychildren in particular,
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- that is when he gets worked up
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- you know, it's awhole situation.
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- And so I just say, youknow, go to your room
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- you just get yourself together.
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- And he hates that.
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- He doesn't wanna be alone.
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- He starts saying, Ican do it. I can do it.
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- I can get myself together.
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- I'm like go to your roomand get yourself together.
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- Like, there is a certaincontrol of faculty
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- that you are learningand that's okay.
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- So take a minute.
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- And because if you can'tthink of anything good to say
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- and you've got to learnnot to say anything at all
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- because if you are here
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- in the midst of everybody else,
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- not seeking peaceand being intentional
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- about choosing your words
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- and looking forsomething to get into say
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- then everything elsethat you're saying
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- its stirring upanimosity instead.
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- And that's not Jean likeyou were talking about
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- earlier this week
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- that's not the atmospherethat we want here.
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- And so often it'sa matter of faculty
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- and we understand whenwe're teaching our children
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- that they have to learn control.
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- Well as an adult we mayneed to learn control
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- and to use choice words.
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- Pursuing peace andwalking in kindness means
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- watching our tongues.
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- Power life and death(indistinct) tells us
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- that power of life anddeath is in your tongue.
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- So what you say really matters
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- and how you say it canframe the atmosphere.
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- Almost every morningI turn on music,
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- it may be radio, it maybe (indistinct) or spotify
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- sometimes it's YouTube.
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- And I just want my home flooded
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- with a certain atmosphere.
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- And my kids are like why dohave to listen to that everyday?
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- And I'm like, if its notfor you honey, its for me.
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- So I can operate undera certain faculty today
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- and remind myself that Iget to life into your day.
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- I need life pouring to me.
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- Like you said Iwill be able to give
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- what I have an overflow of.
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- And I just think Hossana thatsome of our viewers today
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- could use prayer in this arena
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- of a praying of justwalking in peace and love.
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- Would you pray forour viewers today?
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- - I'd love that.
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- Yes, absolutely.
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- Jesus, we just pray thatwe will follow your example
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- on how to love people.
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- Would you help us fight forpeople and not against people.
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- Would you help us seeyour truths in your way
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- with compassion,love, understandingwith hears to hear.
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- Ultimately we wannashow your love
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- not our agenda.
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- Ultimately we wannashow your ways, not ours
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- so I just pray thatyou remind us everyday
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- that we represent you.
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- That you will giveus ideas every day
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- of how to speak yourtruths in your ways
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- to the people right next to us.
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- And we just pray thatwe would be a church
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- that represents you andyour love really well.
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- Help us to expose thetruth of who you are
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- and how we speak to people,in the name of Jesus.
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- Amen.
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- - Amen.- Amen
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- - Amen.
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- A quiet and gentle spirit.
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- Thank you for joining us.
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- If you have a prayer request
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- please connect withus on social media.
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- Our Better Togethercommunity is always praying
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- and is ready to standin agreement with you.
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- Tomorrow on Better Togetherwe'll be talking about
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- how God has alreadywon the race for us.
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- His truth will prevail
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- and help us filter out allthe other noise of this world.
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- We'll see you then, we love you.
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- Bye-bye.
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- (gentle music)
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