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Better Together LIVE | Episode 145

November 13, 2020

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Singles can be fulfilled and purpose-driven! We are talking how to stay focused and Christ-centered while remaining open to new relationships. | TBN Prayer Line: 714-731-1000

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Better Together LIVE | Episode 145

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- LAURIE CROUCH: LIVING WITH
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- LAURIE CROUCH: LIVING WITHOUR PURPOSE IN MIND KEEPS US
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OUR PURPOSE IN MIND KEEPS USREADY TO RECEIVE GOD'S BEST.
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READY TO RECEIVE GOD'S BEST.TODAY, WE'RE TALKING ABOUT HOW
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TODAY, WE'RE TALKING ABOUT HOWSINGLES CAN BE FOCUSED AND
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SINGLES CAN BE FOCUSED ANDPURPOSE DRIVEN, WHILE REMAINING
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PURPOSE DRIVEN, WHILE REMAININGOPEN TO NEW RELATIONSHIPS.
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OPEN TO NEW RELATIONSHIPS.COME ON!
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COME ON!LET'S TALK ABOUT IT.
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LET'S TALK ABOUT IT.[MUSIC]
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[MUSIC][MUSIC]
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[MUSIC][OUTRO WITH VOCALIZATIONS]
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[OUTRO WITH VOCALIZATIONS]- JANICE GAINES: YOU KNOW, YOU
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- JANICE GAINES: YOU KNOW, YOUGUYS, WE WERE TALKING EARLIER
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GUYS, WE WERE TALKING EARLIERTHIS WEEK, BUT I TOLD YOU BY
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THIS WEEK, BUT I TOLD YOU BYTHE TIME I DID GET MARRIED, I
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THE TIME I DID GET MARRIED, IWAS FOCUSED ON, AS WE SAY,
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WAS FOCUSED ON, AS WE SAY,DOING ME.
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DOING ME.YOU KNOW?
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YOU KNOW?I WAS FINISHING SEMINARY AND I
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I WAS FINISHING SEMINARY AND IHAD BECOME PASSIONATE ABOUT
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HAD BECOME PASSIONATE ABOUTTHIS IDEA OF HOW WE LIVE AS THE
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THIS IDEA OF HOW WE LIVE AS THECHURCH, COMPARED TO WHAT THE
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CHURCH, COMPARED TO WHAT THEBIBLE SAYS.
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BIBLE SAYS.AND, I WAS LIKE: YOU KNOW WHAT?
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AND, I WAS LIKE: YOU KNOW WHAT?I WANNA GO GET ANOTHER DEGREE
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I WANNA GO GET ANOTHER DEGREEABOUT THIS.
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ABOUT THIS.AND, EVENTUALLY, I WANNA BE A
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AND, EVENTUALLY, I WANNA BE APROFESSOR.
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PROFESSOR.AND I WANNA TEACH THESE THINGS!
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AND I WANNA TEACH THESE THINGS!AND, RIGHT AROUND THAT TIME, MY
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AND, RIGHT AROUND THAT TIME, MYHUSBAND AND I KNEW THAT THE
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HUSBAND AND I KNEW THAT THELORD WAS CALLING US TO BE
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LORD WAS CALLING US TO BEMARRIED.
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MARRIED.AND, I WAS FINISHING SEMINARY.
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AND, I WAS FINISHING SEMINARY.HE WAS FINISHING LAW SCHOOL AT
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HE WAS FINISHING LAW SCHOOL ATTHE EXACT SAME TIME.
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THE EXACT SAME TIME.AND, HE LIVED IN NEW YORK, AND
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AND, HE LIVED IN NEW YORK, ANDHE HAD A BOMB JOB ON WALL
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HE HAD A BOMB JOB ON WALLSTREET THAT, YOU KNOW, I
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STREET THAT, YOU KNOW, ICOULDN'T, EVEN IN CONVERSATION,
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COULDN'T, EVEN IN CONVERSATION,COMPETE WITH.
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COMPETE WITH.[LAUGHS]
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[LAUGHS]I WAS LIKE: "NO, LET'S NOT TAKE
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I WAS LIKE: "NO, LET'S NOT TAKETHAT JOB.
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THAT JOB.LET'S GO...UM...HMM, I DON'T
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LET'S GO...UM...HMM, I DON'TKNOW.
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KNOW.LET'S GO SOMEWHERE WHERE I'M
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LET'S GO SOMEWHERE WHERE I'MGONNA BE IN SCHOOL AND WE'RE
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GONNA BE IN SCHOOL AND WE'RENOT GONNA HAVE THE SAME KIND OF
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NOT GONNA HAVE THE SAME KIND OFJOB."
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JOB."AND SO, IT WAS ONE OF THOSE
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AND SO, IT WAS ONE OF THOSETHINGS WHERE I KNEW I HAD TO
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THINGS WHERE I KNEW I HAD TOEITHER GO FORWARD IN DOING ME,
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EITHER GO FORWARD IN DOING ME,OR, SUBMIT TO THE SEASON THAT
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OR, SUBMIT TO THE SEASON THATGOD HAD FOR ME TO BE MARRIED.
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GOD HAD FOR ME TO BE MARRIED.AND I HAD A CONVERSATION WITH A
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AND I HAD A CONVERSATION WITH AFRIEND OF MINE -- SINGLE WOMAN
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FRIEND OF MINE -- SINGLE WOMANWHO WAS OLDER THAN ME -- AND
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WHO WAS OLDER THAN ME -- ANDSHE GAVE ME SOME WISDOM.
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SHE GAVE ME SOME WISDOM.'CAUSE I WENT TO HER AND I JUST
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'CAUSE I WENT TO HER AND I JUSTSAID, "WELL, I'M NOT THE TYPE
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SAID, "WELL, I'M NOT THE TYPEOF GIRL WHO FOLLOWS SOME MAN."
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OF GIRL WHO FOLLOWS SOME MAN."AND SHE LOOKED AT ME AND SHE
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AND SHE LOOKED AT ME AND SHESAID, "WHY NOT?"
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SAID, "WHY NOT?"- MANDISA: OOH!
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- MANDISA: OOH!- JANICE: AND I SAID:
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- JANICE: AND I SAID:"(STAMMERING) I...YOU KNOW,
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"(STAMMERING) I...YOU KNOW,I'VE JUST NEVER BEEN HER!
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I'VE JUST NEVER BEEN HER!I DON'T KNOW!
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I DON'T KNOW!I DON'T THINK I WANNA BE HER!"
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I DON'T THINK I WANNA BE HER!"[LAUGHTER]
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[LAUGHTER]AND SHE SAID, "WELL, DO YOU
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AND SHE SAID, "WELL, DO YOULOVE THIS MAN?"
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LOVE THIS MAN?"I SAID, "VERY MUCH."
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I SAID, "VERY MUCH."SHE SAID, "IS THE LORD CALLING
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SHE SAID, "IS THE LORD CALLINGYOU TO MARRY THIS MAN?"
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YOU TO MARRY THIS MAN?""YES, HE IS."
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"YES, HE IS."SHE SAID, "WELL, THEN...?"
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SHE SAID, "WELL, THEN...?"AND SHE CHUCKLED LIKE: WHAT'S
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AND SHE CHUCKLED LIKE: WHAT'STHE PROBLEM?
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THE PROBLEM?AND I THINK IT WAS THEN THAT I
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AND I THINK IT WAS THEN THAT IREALIZED THAT I WAS JUST SO
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REALIZED THAT I WAS JUST SOSTUCK IN MY IDEA OF WHAT IT
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STUCK IN MY IDEA OF WHAT ITMEANT TO BE MOVING FORWARD,
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MEANT TO BE MOVING FORWARD,THAT I WAS ABOUT TO-- I'M A
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THAT I WAS ABOUT TO-- I'M ATODDLER'S MOM, SO: I WAS ABOUT
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TODDLER'S MOM, SO: I WAS ABOUTTO POOH-POOH THE SEASON THAT
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TO POOH-POOH THE SEASON THATTHE LORD WAS CALLING ME INTO,
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THE LORD WAS CALLING ME INTO,RIGHT?
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RIGHT?YOU KNOW.
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YOU KNOW.AND SO, I REALLY HAD TO TAKE TO
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AND SO, I REALLY HAD TO TAKE TOHEART PHILIPPIANS 1:6, WHEN IT
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HEART PHILIPPIANS 1:6, WHEN ITSAYS, "AND I AM CERTAIN THAT
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SAYS, "AND I AM CERTAIN THATGOD, WHO BEGAN THE GOOD WORK
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GOD, WHO BEGAN THE GOOD WORKWITHIN YOU, WILL CONTINUE HIS
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WITHIN YOU, WILL CONTINUE HISWORK UNTIL IT IS FINALLY
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WORK UNTIL IT IS FINALLYFINISHED ON THE DAY WHEN CHRIST
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FINISHED ON THE DAY WHEN CHRISTJESUS RETURNS"; THAT IS THAT:
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JESUS RETURNS"; THAT IS THAT:GOD, I AM CHRIST'S WORKMANSHIP.
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GOD, I AM CHRIST'S WORKMANSHIP.RIGHT?
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RIGHT?I AM GOD'S WORKMANSHIP.
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I AM GOD'S WORKMANSHIP.AND HE WHO CREATED ME, HE
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AND HE WHO CREATED ME, HECREATED ME TO DO GOOD THINGS
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CREATED ME TO DO GOOD THINGSTHAT I'M SUPPOSED TO DO, BUT HE
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THAT I'M SUPPOSED TO DO, BUT HEPREPARED THEM BEFOREHAND, AND I
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PREPARED THEM BEFOREHAND, AND IAM FOLLOWING IN HIS WAY.
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AM FOLLOWING IN HIS WAY.AND, WHAT MY SWEET PASTOR'S
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AND, WHAT MY SWEET PASTOR'SWIFE, SARAH BERGER, HAS TAUGHT
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WIFE, SARAH BERGER, HAS TAUGHTME-- ACTUALLY, SHE'S TAUGHT ME
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ME-- ACTUALLY, SHE'S TAUGHT MESOMETHING VERY IMPORTANT.
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SOMETHING VERY IMPORTANT.SHE SAYS, "YOU KNOW, EVERY
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SHE SAYS, "YOU KNOW, EVERYSEASON THAT I COME TO,
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SEASON THAT I COME TO,EVERYTHING THAT THE LORD GIVES
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EVERYTHING THAT THE LORD GIVESME, I HOLD IT WITH CARE, BUT I
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ME, I HOLD IT WITH CARE, BUT IDON'T CLENCH IT.
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DON'T CLENCH IT.BECAUSE WHO KNOWS WHAT THE LORD
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BECAUSE WHO KNOWS WHAT THE LORDIS GOING TO DO?"
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IS GOING TO DO?"AND SO, THAT'S WHAT I'M COME TO
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AND SO, THAT'S WHAT I'M COME TOLEARN.
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LEARN.I HAD TO LEARN IT IN
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I HAD TO LEARN IT INSINGLENESS; I'VE COME TO LEARN
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SINGLENESS; I'VE COME TO LEARNIT IN MARRIAGE, WHEN THE LORD
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IT IN MARRIAGE, WHEN THE LORDCHANGES OUR SEASON, EVEN IN
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CHANGES OUR SEASON, EVEN INJOBS, SO THAT I HOLD EVERYTHING
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JOBS, SO THAT I HOLD EVERYTHINGTHAT THE LORD GIVES ME WITH
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THAT THE LORD GIVES ME WITHCARE.
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CARE.BUT I CAN'T CLENCH TOO TIGHTLY
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BUT I CAN'T CLENCH TOO TIGHTLYBECAUSE THESE SEASONS BELONG TO
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BECAUSE THESE SEASONS BELONG TOTHE LORD.
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THE LORD.AND WHEREVER HE'S LEADING, I
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AND WHEREVER HE'S LEADING, IHAVE TO BE ABLE TO GO.
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HAVE TO BE ABLE TO GO.I DON'T KNOW.
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I DON'T KNOW.WHAT ABOUT YOU, DISA?
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WHAT ABOUT YOU, DISA?LIKE, HAVE YOU EVER FELT THAT
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LIKE, HAVE YOU EVER FELT THATTUG?
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TUG?EVER FELT LIKE YOU WERE BEING
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EVER FELT LIKE YOU WERE BEINGPULLED AWAY FROM DOING YOU,
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PULLED AWAY FROM DOING YOU,BUT, THE LORD WAS ACTUALLY
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BUT, THE LORD WAS ACTUALLYCALLING YOU?
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CALLING YOU?- MANDISA: IT'S FUNNY -- I
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- MANDISA: IT'S FUNNY -- ISOMETIMES WONDER IF, BECAUSE
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SOMETIMES WONDER IF, BECAUSEI'M SINGLE, I DON'T FEEL LIKE
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I'M SINGLE, I DON'T FEEL LIKEI'M BEING PULLED AWAY FROM
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I'M BEING PULLED AWAY FROMBEING ME.
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BEING ME.LIKE, I ACTUALLY THINK THAT'S
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LIKE, I ACTUALLY THINK THAT'SONE OF THE GIFTS OF BEING
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ONE OF THE GIFTS OF BEINGSINGLE IS THAT: I CAN DO ME!
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SINGLE IS THAT: I CAN DO ME!I CAN BE ME, ALL BY MYSELF!
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I CAN BE ME, ALL BY MYSELF![LAUGHTER]
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[LAUGHTER]BUT, HERE'S WHAT I REALIZED:
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BUT, HERE'S WHAT I REALIZED:THAT I CAN JUST AIMLESSLY WALK
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THAT I CAN JUST AIMLESSLY WALKIN A BUNCH OF DIFFERENT
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IN A BUNCH OF DIFFERENTDIRECTIONS, OR, I CAN REALLY
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DIRECTIONS, OR, I CAN REALLYCULTIVATE MY TIME WITH THE
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CULTIVATE MY TIME WITH THELORD, SAYING: OKAY, WHAT
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LORD, SAYING: OKAY, WHATDIRECTION DO YOU WANT ME TO
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DIRECTION DO YOU WANT ME TOWALK IN?
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WALK IN?I DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOU ALL, BUT
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I DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOU ALL, BUTTHIS COVID SEASON THAT WE'VE
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THIS COVID SEASON THAT WE'VEBEEN IN -- I'M DOING A LOT.
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BEEN IN -- I'M DOING A LOT.LIKE, I'M WORKING ON A LOT OF
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LIKE, I'M WORKING ON A LOT OFDIFFERENT THINGS.
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DIFFERENT THINGS.AND I FIND MYSELF-- IT'S EASY
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AND I FIND MYSELF-- IT'S EASYFOR ME TO GET SCATTERED,
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FOR ME TO GET SCATTERED,BECAUSE I'M SO FOCUSED OVER
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BECAUSE I'M SO FOCUSED OVERHERE, AND I'M MISSING WHAT I'M
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HERE, AND I'M MISSING WHAT I'MDOING OVER HERE, AND THERE'S SO
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DOING OVER HERE, AND THERE'S SOMANY DIFFERENT PROJECTS THAT
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MANY DIFFERENT PROJECTS THATARE, YOU KNOW, BECOMING
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ARE, YOU KNOW, BECOMINGAVAILABLE.
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AVAILABLE.AND SO, I THINK, FOR ME,
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AND SO, I THINK, FOR ME,WHETHER YOU'RE MARRIED OR
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WHETHER YOU'RE MARRIED ORSINGLE, I THINK, FOR ME, THE
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SINGLE, I THINK, FOR ME, THETHING IS: OKAY, GOD, WHAT IS MY
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THING IS: OKAY, GOD, WHAT IS MYBEST YES?
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BEST YES?LIKE, WHAT IS IT THAT YOU ARE
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LIKE, WHAT IS IT THAT YOU ARECALLING ME TO WALK IN?
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CALLING ME TO WALK IN?AND, FOR ME, WHEN I THINK ABOUT
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AND, FOR ME, WHEN I THINK ABOUTTHAT AND THE THINGS THAT I FEEL
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THAT AND THE THINGS THAT I FEELLIKE GOD IS SAYING TO ME, IT'S
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LIKE GOD IS SAYING TO ME, IT'SINTERESTING HOW THE MESS CAN
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INTERESTING HOW THE MESS CANBECOME THE MESSAGE.
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BECOME THE MESSAGE.BECAUSE I AM AN OLDER SINGLE
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BECAUSE I AM AN OLDER SINGLEWOMAN, I LOVE TALKING ABOUT
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WOMAN, I LOVE TALKING ABOUTTHIS.
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THIS.AS A MATTER OF FACT, WHEN
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AS A MATTER OF FACT, WHEN"BETTER TOGETHER" WAS TALKING
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"BETTER TOGETHER" WAS TALKINGABOUT DIFFERENT TOPICS, I WAS
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ABOUT DIFFERENT TOPICS, I WASLIKE: CAN WE PLEASE TALK ABOUT
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LIKE: CAN WE PLEASE TALK ABOUTSINGLENESS?
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SINGLENESS?BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE WE ARE THE
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BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE WE ARE THESTEPCHILDREN, SOMETIMES, IN THE
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STEPCHILDREN, SOMETIMES, IN THEBODY OF CHRIST.
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BODY OF CHRIST.AND SO, THIS IS A PASSION FOR
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AND SO, THIS IS A PASSION FORME.
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ME.AND SO, THAT HAS BECOME A PART
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AND SO, THAT HAS BECOME A PARTOF MY MESSAGE.
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OF MY MESSAGE.ANOTHER PART OF MY MESSAGE IS
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ANOTHER PART OF MY MESSAGE ISMENTAL HEALTH!
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MENTAL HEALTH!NOT BECAUSE I HAVE IT ALL
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NOT BECAUSE I HAVE IT ALLFIGURED OUT, BUT BECAUSE I AM
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FIGURED OUT, BUT BECAUSE I AMFIGURING IT OUT.
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FIGURING IT OUT.I AM IN COUNSELING, I AM
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I AM IN COUNSELING, I AMTALKING TO THE GREAT COUNSELOR
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TALKING TO THE GREAT COUNSELORABOUT ALL OF THESE THINGS.
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ABOUT ALL OF THESE THINGS.AND SO, I LOVE THAT, AS A
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AND SO, I LOVE THAT, AS ASINGLE WOMAN, THAT I CAN DIVIDE
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SINGLE WOMAN, THAT I CAN DIVIDEMY TIME SPECIFICALLY WITH JUST
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MY TIME SPECIFICALLY WITH JUSTTHE THINGS THAT GOD IS SAYING:
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THE THINGS THAT GOD IS SAYING:THIS IS YOUR MESSAGE.
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THIS IS YOUR MESSAGE.THIS IS WHAT I WANT YOU TO DO.
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THIS IS WHAT I WANT YOU TO DO.SO, I GUESS I FEEL LIKE THAT IS
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SO, I GUESS I FEEL LIKE THAT ISSOMETHING WE SHOULD DO, NO
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SOMETHING WE SHOULD DO, NOMATTER WHAT STATUS OF LIFE THAT
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MATTER WHAT STATUS OF LIFE THATWE ARE IN, IS: WHAT IS GOD
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WE ARE IN, IS: WHAT IS GODCALLING ME TO DO?
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CALLING ME TO DO?AND HOW CAN I TAKE THE NEXT
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AND HOW CAN I TAKE THE NEXTSTEP?
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STEP?I FIND THAT HE DOESN'T OFTEN
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I FIND THAT HE DOESN'T OFTENTELL ME THE ENTIRE FUTURE PLAN.
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TELL ME THE ENTIRE FUTURE PLAN.HE JUST SAYS: THIS IS YOUR NEXT
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HE JUST SAYS: THIS IS YOUR NEXTSTEP.
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STEP.AFTER I TAKE THAT NEXT STEP OF
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AFTER I TAKE THAT NEXT STEP OFOBEDIENCE, HE'LL REVEAL THE
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OBEDIENCE, HE'LL REVEAL THENEXT STEP AFTER THAT, BUT HE
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NEXT STEP AFTER THAT, BUT HEVERY RARELY WILL TELL ME THE
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VERY RARELY WILL TELL ME THEENTIRE PLAN -- WHICH WOULD BE
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ENTIRE PLAN -- WHICH WOULD BEMY PREFERENCE.
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MY PREFERENCE.BUT I WONDER: AS A MARRIED
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BUT I WONDER: AS A MARRIEDWOMAN, DR. ROBYN, IS THAT
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WOMAN, DR. ROBYN, IS THATSOMETHING THAT RESONATES WITH
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SOMETHING THAT RESONATES WITHYOU IS LIVING, ON PURPOSE?
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YOU IS LIVING, ON PURPOSE?I LOVE THAT HAVILAH SAID THAT
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I LOVE THAT HAVILAH SAID THATIS WE CAN BE SINGLE, ON
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IS WE CAN BE SINGLE, ONPURPOSE, OR SINGLE WITH
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PURPOSE, OR SINGLE WITHPURPOSE.
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PURPOSE.AND I WONDER: CAN YOU DO THAT,
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AND I WONDER: CAN YOU DO THAT,AS A MARRIED WOMAN, TOO?
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AS A MARRIED WOMAN, TOO?LIKE, HOW IS IT DIFFERENT FOR
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LIKE, HOW IS IT DIFFERENT FORYOU TO LIVE WITH PURPOSE, AS A
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YOU TO LIVE WITH PURPOSE, AS AMARRIED WOMAN, AS OPPOSED TO A
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MARRIED WOMAN, AS OPPOSED TO ASINGLE WOMAN, LIKE ME?
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SINGLE WOMAN, LIKE ME?- DR. ROBYN WILKERSON: WELL,
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- DR. ROBYN WILKERSON: WELL,FIRST OF ALL, LET ME TELL YOU,
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FIRST OF ALL, LET ME TELL YOU,GIRLFRIEND: YOU ARE NOT OLD!
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GIRLFRIEND: YOU ARE NOT OLD!- MANDISA: WELL...!
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- MANDISA: WELL...!- DR. ROBYN: SO, DON'T SAY
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- DR. ROBYN: SO, DON'T SAYTHAT, ANYMORE.
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THAT, ANYMORE.- MANDISA: (LAUGHING) OKAY,
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- MANDISA: (LAUGHING) OKAY,OKAY.
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OKAY.- DR. ROBYN: OKAY?
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- DR. ROBYN: OKAY?- MELINDA DOOLITTLE: AMEN.
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- MELINDA DOOLITTLE: AMEN.- DR. ROBYN: YOU ARE FAR FROM
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- DR. ROBYN: YOU ARE FAR FROMOLD.
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OLD.AND I LOVED EVERYTHING YOU
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AND I LOVED EVERYTHING YOUSAID.
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SAID.I LOVED WHAT JANICE SAID, AND
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I LOVED WHAT JANICE SAID, ANDWHAT SHE REFERRED TO -- SHE
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WHAT SHE REFERRED TO -- SHEREFERRED TO THE VERSE -- I JUST
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REFERRED TO THE VERSE -- I JUSTLOOKED IT UP -- SHE WAS TALKING
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LOOKED IT UP -- SHE WAS TALKINGABOUT HAVING A DESTINY.
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ABOUT HAVING A DESTINY.SHE REFERRED TO THIS VERSE
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SHE REFERRED TO THIS VERSEABOUT BEING GOD'S HANDIWORK.
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ABOUT BEING GOD'S HANDIWORK.AND HERE IT IS IN EPHESIANS
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AND HERE IT IS IN EPHESIANS2:10.
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2:10.WE ARE GOD'S MASTERPIECES.
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WE ARE GOD'S MASTERPIECES.THIS NEW LIVING TRANSLATION:
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THIS NEW LIVING TRANSLATION:"...WE ARE GOD'S MASTERPIECE."
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"...WE ARE GOD'S MASTERPIECE."I LOVE THAT.
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I LOVE THAT."HE HAS CREATED US ANEW IN
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"HE HAS CREATED US ANEW INCHRIST JESUS, SO WE CAN DO..."
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CHRIST JESUS, SO WE CAN DO..."HERE IT IS!
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HERE IT IS!WE ALL WANNA DO STUFF, RIGHT?
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WE ALL WANNA DO STUFF, RIGHT?"...WE CAN DO THE GOOD THINGS
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"...WE CAN DO THE GOOD THINGSHE PLANNED FOR US, LONG AGO."
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HE PLANNED FOR US, LONG AGO."NOW, JANICE WAS REFERRING TO
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NOW, JANICE WAS REFERRING TOTHE FACT THAT SHE WANTED TO
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THE FACT THAT SHE WANTED TOGRADUATE, AND SHE WANTED TO
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GRADUATE, AND SHE WANTED TOTEACH...
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TEACH...AND, EARLIER IN THE WEEK, I
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AND, EARLIER IN THE WEEK, ITALKED ABOUT HOW WHEN I WAS
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TALKED ABOUT HOW WHEN I WASTHIS TEENAGER, HIGH-SCHOOLER, I
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THIS TEENAGER, HIGH-SCHOOLER, INEVER WANTED TO GET MARRIED.
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NEVER WANTED TO GET MARRIED.AND I WANTED TO BE A LAWYER,
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AND I WANTED TO BE A LAWYER,LIKE HER HUSBAND.
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LIKE HER HUSBAND.AND I WANTED TO GROW UP, AND GO
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AND I WANTED TO GROW UP, AND GOTO COLLEGE, AND BE A DOCTORATE,
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TO COLLEGE, AND BE A DOCTORATE,AND GET MY DOCTORATE, AND I
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AND GET MY DOCTORATE, AND IWANTED TO BE MAYBE THE
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WANTED TO BE MAYBE THEPRESIDENT, RIGHT?
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PRESIDENT, RIGHT?I HAD ALL THESE BIG IDEAS.
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I HAD ALL THESE BIG IDEAS.AND, INSTEAD, I FELL IN LOVE AT
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AND, INSTEAD, I FELL IN LOVE AT17.
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17.I GOT MARRIED, JUST AROUND MY
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I GOT MARRIED, JUST AROUND MY19TH BIRTHDAY.
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19TH BIRTHDAY.AND I NEVER FINISHED COLLEGE!
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AND I NEVER FINISHED COLLEGE!AND, I GO BACK TO THAT VERSE:
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AND, I GO BACK TO THAT VERSE:WE ARE GOD'S MASTERPIECE.
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WE ARE GOD'S MASTERPIECE.HE CREATED US.
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HE CREATED US.AND HE HAD SOME GOOD THINGS
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AND HE HAD SOME GOOD THINGSPLANNED, LONG AGO.
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PLANNED, LONG AGO.AND WHAT I DID WAS I GOT
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AND WHAT I DID WAS I GOTMARRIED, AND I'VE BEEN MARRIED,
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MARRIED, AND I'VE BEEN MARRIED,NOW, 48 YEARS.
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NOW, 48 YEARS.AND, ALONG THE WAY, I GOT OFF
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AND, ALONG THE WAY, I GOT OFFTRACK!
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TRACK!I RAISED THESE FOUR SONS; I'VE
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I RAISED THESE FOUR SONS; I'VEBEEN MARRIED TO RICH WILKERSON,
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BEEN MARRIED TO RICH WILKERSON,ALL THAT TIME; AND THERE WAS
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ALL THAT TIME; AND THERE WASMONEY FOR ALL THESE KIDS TO GO
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MONEY FOR ALL THESE KIDS TO GOTO COLLEGE AND DO ALL THESE
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TO COLLEGE AND DO ALL THESEAMAZING THINGS.
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AMAZING THINGS.WE TRAVELED THE WORLD, WE
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WE TRAVELED THE WORLD, WEPASTORED CHURCHES -- WE DID ALL
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PASTORED CHURCHES -- WE DID ALLTHIS STUFF -- BUT, THERE WAS
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THIS STUFF -- BUT, THERE WASJUST NEVER ANY TIME.
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JUST NEVER ANY TIME.AND I REMEMBER I WAS TALKING TO
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AND I REMEMBER I WAS TALKING TOMY HUSBAND, AND HE SAID, "YOU
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MY HUSBAND, AND HE SAID, "YOUKNOW, NOW THAT THE KIDS HAVE
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KNOW, NOW THAT THE KIDS HAVEGRADUATED AND DONE ALL THAT
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GRADUATED AND DONE ALL THATSTUFF, WHY DON'T YOU GO BACK
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STUFF, WHY DON'T YOU GO BACKAND FINISH YOUR SCHOOL?"
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AND FINISH YOUR SCHOOL?"- MANDISA: AWESOME. SWEET.
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- MANDISA: AWESOME. SWEET.- DR. ROBYN: AND I SAID:
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- DR. ROBYN: AND I SAID:"WELL, HONEY, DO YOU KNOW HOW
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"WELL, HONEY, DO YOU KNOW HOWOLD I'LL BE WHEN I FINISH?
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OLD I'LL BE WHEN I FINISH?DO YOU KNOW HOW OLD I'LL BE!?"
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DO YOU KNOW HOW OLD I'LL BE!?"AND HE COUNTED IT UP ON HIS
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AND HE COUNTED IT UP ON HISHAND AND HE SAID, "WELL, HOW
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HAND AND HE SAID, "WELL, HOWOLD WILL YOU BE IF YOU DON'T
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OLD WILL YOU BE IF YOU DON'TFINISH?"
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FINISH?"[LADIES OOHING]
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[LADIES OOHING]AND I SAID, "WELL, I GUESS I'LL
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AND I SAID, "WELL, I GUESS I'LLBE EXACTLY THE SAME."
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BE EXACTLY THE SAME."AND, HE WAS RIGHT.
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AND, HE WAS RIGHT.[LAUGHTER]
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[LAUGHTER]HE WAS RIGHT.
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HE WAS RIGHT.HE WAS RIGHT.
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HE WAS RIGHT.SO, THE POINT WAS: I WENT AHEAD
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SO, THE POINT WAS: I WENT AHEAD-- AND I WAS PAST 60 -- AND I
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-- AND I WAS PAST 60 -- AND IGOT MY DOCTORATE.
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GOT MY DOCTORATE.FINISHED COLLEGE, GOT MY
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FINISHED COLLEGE, GOT MYDOCTORATE.
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DOCTORATE.AND THE POINT THAT I WANNA MAKE
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AND THE POINT THAT I WANNA MAKETO ALL THE SINGLE OR ALL THE
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TO ALL THE SINGLE OR ALL THEMARRIED WOMEN IS THAT...THERE'S
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MARRIED WOMEN IS THAT...THERE'SSTILL TIME!
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STILL TIME!THERE'S STILL TIME TO FULFILL
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THERE'S STILL TIME TO FULFILLTHE DREAM THAT YOU HAD, MAYBE
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THE DREAM THAT YOU HAD, MAYBEWHEN YOU WERE A LITTLE GIRL, OR
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WHEN YOU WERE A LITTLE GIRL, ORWHEN YOU WERE THAT YOUNG
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WHEN YOU WERE THAT YOUNGPERSON, OR WHATEVER IT IS.
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PERSON, OR WHATEVER IT IS.BECAUSE, AS JANICE WAS SAYING,
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BECAUSE, AS JANICE WAS SAYING,FORWARD LIVING, RIGHT?
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FORWARD LIVING, RIGHT?YOUR PASSION IS YOUR POWER.
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YOUR PASSION IS YOUR POWER.AND THAT POWER IS WHAT KEEPS
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AND THAT POWER IS WHAT KEEPSYOU MOVING FORWARD.
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YOU MOVING FORWARD.AND THE BIBLE SAYS, IN JEREMIAH
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AND THE BIBLE SAYS, IN JEREMIAH29:11, THAT HE HAS PLANS FOR
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29:11, THAT HE HAS PLANS FORUS.
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US.AND, REALLY, I GUESS WHAT I
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AND, REALLY, I GUESS WHAT IWOULD SAY, NOW, GRANDMOTHER --
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WOULD SAY, NOW, GRANDMOTHER --AND I AM OLD -- AND THAT IS
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AND I AM OLD -- AND THAT ISTHAT AS WE MOVE FORWARD, IT IS
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THAT AS WE MOVE FORWARD, IT ISOUR PASSION THAT BRINGS US THIS
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OUR PASSION THAT BRINGS US THISLEGACY, THAT BRINGS PURPOSE TO
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LEGACY, THAT BRINGS PURPOSE TOOUR LIVES.
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OUR LIVES.AND I GUESS I'M JUST GONNA SAY:
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AND I GUESS I'M JUST GONNA SAY:WHO CARES HOW OLD YOU ARE!
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WHO CARES HOW OLD YOU ARE!I'M JUST GONNA GO AHEAD AND
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I'M JUST GONNA GO AHEAD ANDLIVE UNTIL I DIE!
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LIVE UNTIL I DIE![LAUGHTER]
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[LAUGHTER]WHO CARES HOW OLD YOU ARE?
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WHO CARES HOW OLD YOU ARE?- MANDISA: YEAH.
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- MANDISA: YEAH.- DR. ROBYN: WE'RE JUST GONNA
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- DR. ROBYN: WE'RE JUST GONNAGO AHEAD AND ENJOY WHAT GOD HAS
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GO AHEAD AND ENJOY WHAT GOD HASFOR US.
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FOR US.AND THAT DREAM, THAT PROMISE --
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AND THAT DREAM, THAT PROMISE --I BELIEVE THAT GOD WILL WORK IT
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I BELIEVE THAT GOD WILL WORK ITOUT, AS WE PURSUE HIM.
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OUT, AS WE PURSUE HIM.AND I LOVE THE FACT THAT I GET
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AND I LOVE THE FACT THAT I GETTO BE ON HERE AND HAVE A
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TO BE ON HERE AND HAVE ACONVERSATION WITH YOUNG WOMEN
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CONVERSATION WITH YOUNG WOMENAND WIVES WHO ARE PURSUING THAT
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AND WIVES WHO ARE PURSUING THATPASSION THAT GOD PUT IN HIS
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PASSION THAT GOD PUT IN HISHEART.
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HEART.WE'RE DESIGNED TO FULFILL THAT
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WE'RE DESIGNED TO FULFILL THATPASSION -- ESPECIALLY SOMEBODY
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PASSION -- ESPECIALLY SOMEBODYLIKE MISS MELINDA DOOLITTLE.
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LIKE MISS MELINDA DOOLITTLE.HAVE YOU HEARD HER?
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HAVE YOU HEARD HER?I MEAN, SHE'S GOT SOME PASSION!
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I MEAN, SHE'S GOT SOME PASSION!- MELINDA: I AM A VERY
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- MELINDA: I AM A VERYPASSIONATE PERSON, AND YOUR
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PASSIONATE PERSON, AND YOURSTORY, DR. ROBYN, IS SO
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STORY, DR. ROBYN, IS SOPOWERFUL TO ME, BECAUSE IT GOES
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POWERFUL TO ME, BECAUSE IT GOESBACK TO EARLIER IN THE WEEK
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BACK TO EARLIER IN THE WEEKWHEN WE WERE TALKING ABOUT
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WHEN WE WERE TALKING ABOUTGOD'S TIMING.
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GOD'S TIMING.AND I THINK IT'S SO BEAUTIFUL
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AND I THINK IT'S SO BEAUTIFULTHAT HE DOESN'T LET OUR PASSION
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THAT HE DOESN'T LET OUR PASSIONGO TO WASTE, THAT YOU WERE
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GO TO WASTE, THAT YOU WERESTILL ABLE TO PURSUE THAT
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STILL ABLE TO PURSUE THATPASSION LATER IN LIFE, AND, IT
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PASSION LATER IN LIFE, AND, ITPROBABLY HAS EVEN MORE WEIGHT,
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PROBABLY HAS EVEN MORE WEIGHT,NOW, BECAUSE OF THE WAIT TO GET
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NOW, BECAUSE OF THE WAIT TO GETTHERE.
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THERE.YOU KNOW? AND SO, I THINK...I
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YOU KNOW? AND SO, I THINK...ITHINK THAT THAT'S SO BEAUTIFUL.
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THINK THAT THAT'S SO BEAUTIFUL.AND, AS A SINGLE PERSON KIND OF
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AND, AS A SINGLE PERSON KIND OFTRYING TO...FIGURE OUT HOW TO
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TRYING TO...FIGURE OUT HOW TOHONESTLY LIVE LIFE WITH
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HONESTLY LIVE LIFE WITHPURPOSE-- BECAUSE, SOMETIMES, I
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PURPOSE-- BECAUSE, SOMETIMES, IDON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT MY PASSION
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DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT MY PASSIONIS.
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IS.I LIKE A LOT OF THINGS.
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I LIKE A LOT OF THINGS.I JUST ENJOY DOING STUFF.
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I JUST ENJOY DOING STUFF.AND I DON'T WANNA DO THINGS
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AND I DON'T WANNA DO THINGSJUST FOR THE SAKE OF DOING IT,
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JUST FOR THE SAKE OF DOING IT,YOU KNOW?
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YOU KNOW?AND SO, I'VE...LITERALLY JUST
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AND SO, I'VE...LITERALLY JUSTASKED THE LORD: OKAY, WHERE
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ASKED THE LORD: OKAY, WHERECOULD I BE HELPFUL?
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COULD I BE HELPFUL?AND I ENDED UP IN THE NURSERY
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AND I ENDED UP IN THE NURSERYAT MY CHURCH, BECAUSE MOMS
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AT MY CHURCH, BECAUSE MOMSNEEDS A BREAK.
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NEEDS A BREAK.AND I'M LIKE: OH, I'M SINGLE!
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AND I'M LIKE: OH, I'M SINGLE!I COULD JUST HOLD THEIR BABY
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I COULD JUST HOLD THEIR BABYFOR A COUPLE HOURS AND THEN
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FOR A COUPLE HOURS AND THENGIVE IT BACK.
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GIVE IT BACK.- MANDISA: GIVE 'EM BACK!
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- MANDISA: GIVE 'EM BACK![LAUGHTER]
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[LAUGHTER]- MELINDA: GO AHEAD, NOW.
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- MELINDA: GO AHEAD, NOW.YOU KNOW.
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YOU KNOW.AND I WAS LIKE: THAT IS A
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AND I WAS LIKE: THAT IS ABEAUTIFUL PURPOSE, WHILE I'M
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BEAUTIFUL PURPOSE, WHILE I'MLOOKING FOR WHAT ELSE I MIGHT
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LOOKING FOR WHAT ELSE I MIGHTBE DOING OR WHAT ELSE THE LORD
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BE DOING OR WHAT ELSE THE LORDMIGHT HAVE FOR ME, WHAT OTHER
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MIGHT HAVE FOR ME, WHAT OTHERPASSION HE MIGHT BRING UP IN
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PASSION HE MIGHT BRING UP INME.
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ME.THERE ARE PLACES THAT WE CAN
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THERE ARE PLACES THAT WE CANPLANT OURSELVES, EVEN IN THE
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PLANT OURSELVES, EVEN IN THEMEANTIME, TO REALLY BE AN ASSET
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MEANTIME, TO REALLY BE AN ASSETTO THE CHURCH, TO OUR FRIENDS,
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TO THE CHURCH, TO OUR FRIENDS,TO THE PEOPLE AROUND US.
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TO THE PEOPLE AROUND US.I THINK THAT I'VE LEARNED SO
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I THINK THAT I'VE LEARNED SOMUCH IN JUST THE HOLDING OF A
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MUCH IN JUST THE HOLDING OF AMAMA'S BABY, YOU KNOW?
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MAMA'S BABY, YOU KNOW?I HAD ONE MOM COME TO ME.
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I HAD ONE MOM COME TO ME.THAT BABY CRIED THE ENTIRE TWO
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THAT BABY CRIED THE ENTIRE TWOHOURS.
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HOURS.AND SHE CAME TO ME, AFTERWARDS,
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AND SHE CAME TO ME, AFTERWARDS,WITH TEARS IN HER EYES, AND SHE
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WITH TEARS IN HER EYES, AND SHESAID, "THIS IS THE FIRST TWO
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SAID, "THIS IS THE FIRST TWOHOURS OF SILENCE I'VE HAD IN 48
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HOURS OF SILENCE I'VE HAD IN 48HOURS."
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HOURS."AND I THOUGHT: OH!
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AND I THOUGHT: OH!THANK YOU, LORD, THAT THAT'S
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THANK YOU, LORD, THAT THAT'SWHAT I GET TO DO, AS A SINGLE
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WHAT I GET TO DO, AS A SINGLEWOMAN -- TO PROVIDE JUST THAT
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WOMAN -- TO PROVIDE JUST THATMOMENT OF RELIEF.
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MOMENT OF RELIEF.AND I'M STILL GONNA GIVE THIS
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AND I'M STILL GONNA GIVE THISCRYING BABY BACK TO YOU, BUT, I
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CRYING BABY BACK TO YOU, BUT, IAM SO GRATEFUL THAT I WAS ABLE
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AM SO GRATEFUL THAT I WAS ABLETO BE A PART OF THAT.
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TO BE A PART OF THAT.AND I THINK, SOMETIMES, WHEN
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AND I THINK, SOMETIMES, WHENWE'RE SEARCHING SO MUCH FOR
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WE'RE SEARCHING SO MUCH FOR"WHAT IS MY TRUE PURPOSE?" WE
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"WHAT IS MY TRUE PURPOSE?" WEMISS SOME THINGS ALONG THE WAY
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MISS SOME THINGS ALONG THE WAYTHAT WE COULD BE DOING -- JUST
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THAT WE COULD BE DOING -- JUSTSOME PRACTICAL THINGS THAT WE
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SOME PRACTICAL THINGS THAT WECOULD BE USING OUR SINGLENESS
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COULD BE USING OUR SINGLENESSFOR -- OR OUR MARRIAGE FOR.
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FOR -- OR OUR MARRIAGE FOR.YOU KNOW? AND I'M...LOVING
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YOU KNOW? AND I'M...LOVINGSEEING HOW THE MARRIED WOMEN ON
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SEEING HOW THE MARRIED WOMEN ONTHIS PANEL ARE USING THEIR
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THIS PANEL ARE USING THEIRMARRIAGE IN SUCH A BEAUTIFUL
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MARRIAGE IN SUCH A BEAUTIFULWAY TO SPEAK TO OUR SINGLENESS.
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WAY TO SPEAK TO OUR SINGLENESS.LIKE, EVEN IF THAT IS NOT WHAT
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LIKE, EVEN IF THAT IS NOT WHATYOU THOUGHT YOUR PURPOSE WAS,
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YOU THOUGHT YOUR PURPOSE WAS,IT HAS SPOKEN TO OUR SINGLENESS
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IT HAS SPOKEN TO OUR SINGLENESS-- SO BEAUTIFUL.
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-- SO BEAUTIFUL.HAVILAH, YOU HAVE THIS AMAZING
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HAVILAH, YOU HAVE THIS AMAZINGWAY OF SPEAKING TO US AND
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WAY OF SPEAKING TO US ANDSHOWING US THE BEAUTY OF WHAT
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SHOWING US THE BEAUTY OF WHATWE ARE IN AND THE BEAUTY OF
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WE ARE IN AND THE BEAUTY OFWHAT IS POSSIBLE.
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WHAT IS POSSIBLE.AND, I WONDER, LIKE, WITH YOUR
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AND, I WONDER, LIKE, WITH YOURPURPOSE, LIKE, HOW DOES THAT
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PURPOSE, LIKE, HOW DOES THATTIE IN FOR YOU?
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TIE IN FOR YOU?- HAVILAH: EXCELLENT QUESTION.
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- HAVILAH: EXCELLENT QUESTION.I LOVE THAT YOU HELD SOMEONE'S
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I LOVE THAT YOU HELD SOMEONE'SBABY.
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BABY.I'M TELLING YOU, AS A MOM OF
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I'M TELLING YOU, AS A MOM OFFOUR LITTLES, THAT WOULD HAVE
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FOUR LITTLES, THAT WOULD HAVEBEEN LIKE: GO INTO ALL THE
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BEEN LIKE: GO INTO ALL THEEARTH, AND REACH AND MAKE
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EARTH, AND REACH AND MAKEDISCIPLES.
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DISCIPLES.THAT WOULD HAVE BEEN DISCIPLING
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THAT WOULD HAVE BEEN DISCIPLINGME, AS A MOTHER --
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ME, AS A MOTHER --HOLDING MY BABY.
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HOLDING MY BABY.WHEN I FIRST MET BEN,
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WHEN I FIRST MET BEN,I DIDN'T THINK THAT HE WOULD BE
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I DIDN'T THINK THAT HE WOULD BEMY HUSBAND, AT ALL.
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MY HUSBAND, AT ALL.IN FACT, I LIKED HIM AS A
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IN FACT, I LIKED HIM AS APERSON, BUT I DID NOT SEE HIM
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PERSON, BUT I DID NOT SEE HIMAS MY FUTURE SPOUSE.
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AS MY FUTURE SPOUSE.YOU KNOW, I WAS A CHURCH GIRL.
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YOU KNOW, I WAS A CHURCH GIRL.SO, THERE WAS A LOT OF STORY
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SO, THERE WAS A LOT OF STORYBEHIND WHO YOU WERE GONNA MARRY
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BEHIND WHO YOU WERE GONNA MARRYAND WHAT THAT PERSON WAS GONNA
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AND WHAT THAT PERSON WAS GONNABE LIKE.
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BE LIKE.AND I REMEMBER HIM AND I
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AND I REMEMBER HIM AND IGETTING CLOSER AND CLOSER, AND
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GETTING CLOSER AND CLOSER, ANDWE STARTED TO DATE, AND I'M
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WE STARTED TO DATE, AND I'MLIKE: OKAY, GOD, IS THIS THE
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LIKE: OKAY, GOD, IS THIS THERIGHT ONE FOR ME?
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RIGHT ONE FOR ME?AND, I EVEN, AT ONE POINT,
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AND, I EVEN, AT ONE POINT,BROKE UP WITH HIM.
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BROKE UP WITH HIM.BECAUSE I SAID: "I'M CALLED TO
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BECAUSE I SAID: "I'M CALLED TOGO TO THE NATIONS AND PREACH
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GO TO THE NATIONS AND PREACHAND PROPHESY AND DO ALL THESE
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AND PROPHESY AND DO ALL THESETHINGS, AND THAT'S NOT ON YOUR
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THINGS, AND THAT'S NOT ON YOURLIFE.
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LIFE.I MEAN, YOU PROBABLY HAVE
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I MEAN, YOU PROBABLY HAVESOMETHING -- YOU'RE GONNA DO
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SOMETHING -- YOU'RE GONNA DOSOMETHING FOR GOD.
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SOMETHING FOR GOD.BUT I DON'T THINK I'M THE GIRL
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BUT I DON'T THINK I'M THE GIRLFOR YOU, BECAUSE I'M GONNA GO
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FOR YOU, BECAUSE I'M GONNA GODO THIS, AND IF YOU CAN'T SEE
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DO THIS, AND IF YOU CAN'T SEEYOURSELF DOING THAT, THEN WE
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YOURSELF DOING THAT, THEN WESHOULDN'T BE TOGETHER."
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SHOULDN'T BE TOGETHER."I MEAN, I WAS ULTIMATUMS, HERE
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I MEAN, I WAS ULTIMATUMS, HEREAND THERE.
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AND THERE.I WAS NOT THE MOST MATURE
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I WAS NOT THE MOST MATUREPERSON.
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PERSON.BUT WHAT I FOUND WAS-- I CALLED
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BUT WHAT I FOUND WAS-- I CALLEDMY SISTER UP, I SAID: "HOW DO I
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MY SISTER UP, I SAID: "HOW DO IKNOW?
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KNOW?LIKE, I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO,
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LIKE, I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO,BECAUSE BEN ISN'T THE KIND OF
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BECAUSE BEN ISN'T THE KIND OFGUY THAT I THOUGHT I WOULD
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GUY THAT I THOUGHT I WOULDMARRY."
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MARRY."AND I HAD DATED AND EVEN BEEN
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AND I HAD DATED AND EVEN BEENPROPOSED TO TWICE BEFORE WITH
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PROPOSED TO TWICE BEFORE WITHGUYS THAT HAD THAT CALLING!
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GUYS THAT HAD THAT CALLING!AND, SHE SAID, "YOU KNOW,
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AND, SHE SAID, "YOU KNOW,HAVILAH, TYPE-A GUYS ARE FUN TO
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HAVILAH, TYPE-A GUYS ARE FUN TOWORK WITH, BUT THEY'RE NOT
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WORK WITH, BUT THEY'RE NOTALWAYS FUN TO LIVE WITH."
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ALWAYS FUN TO LIVE WITH."AND WHEN SHE SAID IT, IT WAS
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AND WHEN SHE SAID IT, IT WASLIKE, ALL OF A SUDDEN -- THIS
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LIKE, ALL OF A SUDDEN -- THISWAS FOR ME SPECIFICALLY -- I
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WAS FOR ME SPECIFICALLY -- IREALIZED I WASN'T MARRYING
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REALIZED I WASN'T MARRYINGSOMEBODY FOR THE MINISTRY; I
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SOMEBODY FOR THE MINISTRY; IWAS MARRYING SOMEONE TO DO LIFE
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WAS MARRYING SOMEONE TO DO LIFEWITH.
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WITH.AND IT WAS LIKE: THE LIGHT WENT
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AND IT WAS LIKE: THE LIGHT WENTON.
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ON.AND I REALIZED: I'VE GOT TO BE
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AND I REALIZED: I'VE GOT TO BELOOKING AT WHO I WANNA SPEND MY
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LOOKING AT WHO I WANNA SPEND MYLIFE WITH -- NOT JUST SOMEBODY
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LIFE WITH -- NOT JUST SOMEBODYTHAT IS ANOTHER NOTCH IN MY
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THAT IS ANOTHER NOTCH IN MYBELT FOR, LIKE, ACHIEVEMENT AND
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BELT FOR, LIKE, ACHIEVEMENT ANDSUCCESS AND PURPOSE.
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SUCCESS AND PURPOSE.AND, ONE OF OUR PASTORS USED TO
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AND, ONE OF OUR PASTORS USED TOSAY, "HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU
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SAY, "HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOUSHOULD MARRY SOMEBODY?"
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SHOULD MARRY SOMEBODY?"HE GOES: "IT'S REALLY SIMPLE.
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HE GOES: "IT'S REALLY SIMPLE.DO YOU LIKE THEM?
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DO YOU LIKE THEM?DO YOU ENJOY THEM?
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DO YOU ENJOY THEM?YES.
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YES.DO THEY LOVE GOD?
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DO THEY LOVE GOD?YES.
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YES.WILL YOU ALWAYS BE SECOND IN
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WILL YOU ALWAYS BE SECOND INTHEIR LIFE?
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THEIR LIFE?ABSOLUTELY.
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ABSOLUTELY.AND, THEN, LASTLY, ARE YOU
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AND, THEN, LASTLY, ARE YOUATTRACTED TO THEM?
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ATTRACTED TO THEM?BECAUSE YOU'RE GONNA HAVE TO
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BECAUSE YOU'RE GONNA HAVE TOLOOK AT THEM A LOT AND BE WITH
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LOOK AT THEM A LOT AND BE WITHTHEM A LOT.
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THEM A LOT.AND SO, IF THOSE ARE THE THREE
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AND SO, IF THOSE ARE THE THREETHINGS, AND THOSE ARE ALL GOOD,
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THINGS, AND THOSE ARE ALL GOOD,THEN, YOU KNOW, I WOULD PURSUE
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THEN, YOU KNOW, I WOULD PURSUEMARRIAGE."
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MARRIAGE."AND IT WASN'T THAT HE WAS
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AND IT WASN'T THAT HE WASOVERSIMPLIFYING SOMETHING THAT
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OVERSIMPLIFYING SOMETHING THATWE SHOULD BE ALIVE IN AND
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WE SHOULD BE ALIVE IN ANDAWARE.
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AWARE.BUT, I THINK, SOMETIMES, WE
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BUT, I THINK, SOMETIMES, WEJUST GET SO FIXATED ON THE
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JUST GET SO FIXATED ON THEPERFECT PICTURE IN OUR HEARTS
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PERFECT PICTURE IN OUR HEARTSAND LIVES.
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AND LIVES.AND SO, I WOULD SAY: LIVE WITH
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AND SO, I WOULD SAY: LIVE WITHPURPOSE.
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PURPOSE.DON'T GET CAUGHT UP IN THE
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DON'T GET CAUGHT UP IN THEPICTURE OF SOMEBODY THAT
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PICTURE OF SOMEBODY THATIT NEEDS TO BE A CERTAIN WAY.
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IT NEEDS TO BE A CERTAIN WAY.AND IF GOD BRINGS SOMEBODY
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AND IF GOD BRINGS SOMEBODYALONG, REALIZE IT'S AN
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ALONG, REALIZE IT'S ANEARTHLY SPOUSE.
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EARTHLY SPOUSE.IT'S NOT A HEAVENLY SPOUSE.
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IT'S NOT A HEAVENLY SPOUSE.YOU WILL GET MARRIED TO THE
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YOU WILL GET MARRIED TO THEPERFECT HEAVENLY FATHER.
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PERFECT HEAVENLY FATHER.HE'S YOUR HUSBAND.
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HE'S YOUR HUSBAND.HE'S AWESOME.
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HE'S AWESOME.HE DOES IT ALL, RIGHT.
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HE DOES IT ALL, RIGHT.YOUR SPOUSE IS SOMEBODY THAT
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YOUR SPOUSE IS SOMEBODY THATYOU LIVE WITH AND LOVE AND YOU
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YOU LIVE WITH AND LOVE AND YOUSERVE AND YOU BUILD A LIFE
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SERVE AND YOU BUILD A LIFEWITH, BUT, YOU ARE MORE THAN
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WITH, BUT, YOU ARE MORE THANTHAT.
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THAT.AND YOU ARE MORE THAN WHAT YOU
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AND YOU ARE MORE THAN WHAT YOUHAVE NEXT TO YOU, IN BED.
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HAVE NEXT TO YOU, IN BED.AND SO, REALLY, I THINK LIVING
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AND SO, REALLY, I THINK LIVINGON PURPOSE IS MOSTLY ABOUT
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ON PURPOSE IS MOSTLY ABOUTLIVING OUT THAT STORY --
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LIVING OUT THAT STORY --WHETHER IT'S MARRIED OR NOT
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WHETHER IT'S MARRIED OR NOTMARRIED.
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MARRIED.SO, LIKE I SAID, IF YOU THINK
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SO, LIKE I SAID, IF YOU THINKTHEY'RE CUTE, THEY LOVE GOD,
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THEY'RE CUTE, THEY LOVE GOD,AND YOU ENJOY EACH OTHER,
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AND YOU ENJOY EACH OTHER,CONSIDER MOVING INTO THE NEXT
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CONSIDER MOVING INTO THE NEXTSEASON OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
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SEASON OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP.- JANICE: THAT IS SO GOOD,
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- JANICE: THAT IS SO GOOD,HAVILAH.
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HAVILAH.I'M NOT QUITE OVER WHAT YOU
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I'M NOT QUITE OVER WHAT YOUSAID.
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SAID.I'M STILL LAUGHING IN MY HEART
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I'M STILL LAUGHING IN MY HEARTAT THIS.
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AT THIS.- HAVILAH: (LAUGHING) I'M
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- HAVILAH: (LAUGHING) I'MSORRY.
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SORRY.- JANICE: YOU KNOW, THEY DON'T
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- JANICE: YOU KNOW, THEY DON'TNEED ALL THAT LAUGHTER.
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NEED ALL THAT LAUGHTER.- HAVILAH: I FEEL LIKE YOU
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- HAVILAH: I FEEL LIKE YOUGUYS CAN HANDLE IT.
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GUYS CAN HANDLE IT.- JANICE: WE CAN HANDLE IT.
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- JANICE: WE CAN HANDLE IT.- HAVILAH: I FEEL LIKE YOU CAN
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- HAVILAH: I FEEL LIKE YOU CANHANDLE IT.
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HANDLE IT.- JANICE: I MEAN, I'VE TUCKED
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- JANICE: I MEAN, I'VE TUCKEDIT AWAY, AND, LATER ON, I'M
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IT AWAY, AND, LATER ON, I'MGONNA PULL IT OUT AND I'M GONNA
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GONNA PULL IT OUT AND I'M GONNALAUGH AGAIN.
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LAUGH AGAIN.- MANDISA: YEAH, YEAH.
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- MANDISA: YEAH, YEAH.- JANICE: BUT, I TOTALLY AGREE
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- JANICE: BUT, I TOTALLY AGREEWITH YOU.
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WITH YOU.IT REALLY IS ABOUT LIVING ON
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IT REALLY IS ABOUT LIVING ONPURPOSE.
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PURPOSE.AND, IT'S ONE OF THOSE
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AND, IT'S ONE OF THOSETHINGS -- DR. ROBYN HAS SAID
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THINGS -- DR. ROBYN HAS SAIDIT; IT'S ABOUT BEING IN THE
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IT; IT'S ABOUT BEING IN THESEASON, AND YOUR MISSION
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SEASON, AND YOUR MISSIONCREATING MOVEMENT, AND YOUR
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CREATING MOVEMENT, AND YOURPURPOSE CREATING POWER.
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PURPOSE CREATING POWER.AND, THAT'S REALLY WHAT THIS IS
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AND, THAT'S REALLY WHAT THIS ISABOUT.
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ABOUT.NO MATTER WHAT SEASON YOU'RE
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NO MATTER WHAT SEASON YOU'REIN, IT'S ABOUT DOING THOSE
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IN, IT'S ABOUT DOING THOSETHINGS -- AND, IT ALWAYS COME
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THINGS -- AND, IT ALWAYS COMEBACK TO THIS, FOR ME -- DOING
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BACK TO THIS, FOR ME -- DOINGTHOSE THINGS THAT WE KNOW WE
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THOSE THINGS THAT WE KNOW WESHOULD DO.
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SHOULD DO.FOR ME, THEY'RE STUDYING THE
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FOR ME, THEY'RE STUDYING THEWORD, WORSHIPPING, AND PRAYING,
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WORD, WORSHIPPING, AND PRAYING,THOSE THINGS THAT CULTIVATE A
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THOSE THINGS THAT CULTIVATE ARELATIONSHIP WITH THE LORD SO
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RELATIONSHIP WITH THE LORD SOTHAT YOU KNOW WHAT HE'S CALLING
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THAT YOU KNOW WHAT HE'S CALLINGTO.
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TO.YOU KNOW WHAT THAT PURPOSE IS.
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YOU KNOW WHAT THAT PURPOSE IS.YOU KNOW WHAT THAT MISSION IS
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YOU KNOW WHAT THAT MISSION ISIN THIS MOMENT.
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IN THIS MOMENT.AND, IT'S JUST LIKE: WHAT ARE
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AND, IT'S JUST LIKE: WHAT ARETHOSE, YOU KNOW, NUTS AND BOLTS
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THOSE, YOU KNOW, NUTS AND BOLTSOF "HOW DO I GET INTO THE
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OF "HOW DO I GET INTO THEPRESENCE OF THE LORD TO EVEN
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PRESENCE OF THE LORD TO EVENKNOW WHAT THAT IS?"
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KNOW WHAT THAT IS?"WELL, IT'S THE THINGS WE'VE
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WELL, IT'S THE THINGS WE'VEHEARD OF: STUDYING THE WORD,
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HEARD OF: STUDYING THE WORD,PRAYING, AND WORSHIPING, GOING
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PRAYING, AND WORSHIPING, GOINGBEFORE THE LORD'S FEET, AND
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BEFORE THE LORD'S FEET, ANDBEING IN RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM,
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BEING IN RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM,SO THAT, NO MATTER WHAT, YOU
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SO THAT, NO MATTER WHAT, YOUCAN PIVOT, BASED ON WHAT HE
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CAN PIVOT, BASED ON WHAT HESAYS; IF IT'S IN THE SEASON OF
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SAYS; IF IT'S IN THE SEASON OFBEING SINGLE THAT YOU'RE LIVING
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BEING SINGLE THAT YOU'RE LIVINGTHAT SINGLE LIFE -- WITH
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THAT SINGLE LIFE -- WITHPURPOSE, UNASHAMED, AND
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PURPOSE, UNASHAMED, ANDUNHINDERED; AND THEN, WHETHER
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UNHINDERED; AND THEN, WHETHERYOU'RE MARRIED OR NOT.
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YOU'RE MARRIED OR NOT.I MEAN, IF YOU ARE MARRIED,
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I MEAN, IF YOU ARE MARRIED,THEN IT'S MOVING IN THAT, AND
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THEN IT'S MOVING IN THAT, ANDTHAT'S GOING TO BE TIED TO YOUR
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THAT'S GOING TO BE TIED TO YOURHUSBAND.
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HUSBAND.YOU KNOW, LIKE HAVILAH SAID,
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YOU KNOW, LIKE HAVILAH SAID,THIS IS AN EARTHLY TIE.
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THIS IS AN EARTHLY TIE.SO, THERE ARE THINGS THAT
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SO, THERE ARE THINGS THATHAVILAH AND I AND DR. ROBYN
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HAVILAH AND I AND DR. ROBYNHAVE TO CONSIDER WHEN IT COMES
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HAVE TO CONSIDER WHEN IT COMESTIME TO HOP ON A PLANE, OR GO
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TIME TO HOP ON A PLANE, OR GOTEACH, OR GO SING.
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TEACH, OR GO SING.IT'S LIKE: OKAY, NOW, WE'RE
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IT'S LIKE: OKAY, NOW, WE'REGONNA NEED A EXTRA ROOM.
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GONNA NEED A EXTRA ROOM.AND THAT'S JUST FOR SOMEBODY TO
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AND THAT'S JUST FOR SOMEBODY TOCOME AND WATCH THESE BABIES.
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COME AND WATCH THESE BABIES.YOU KNOW WHAT I'M SAYIN'?
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YOU KNOW WHAT I'M SAYIN'?AND, IT'S A BLESSING AND
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AND, IT'S A BLESSING ANDSOMETHING TO CONSIDER.
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SOMETHING TO CONSIDER.BUT IT'S STILL ALL ABOUT THAT
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BUT IT'S STILL ALL ABOUT THATI CAN'T EVEN DO THAT, AS A
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I CAN'T EVEN DO THAT, AS AMARRIED WOMAN, UNLESS I KNOW
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MARRIED WOMAN, UNLESS I KNOWTHAT THE LORD HAS SAID: THIS IS
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THAT THE LORD HAS SAID: THIS ISTHE PURPOSE I HAVE FOR YOU.
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THE PURPOSE I HAVE FOR YOU.'CAUSE, TRUST ME, LUGGING
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'CAUSE, TRUST ME, LUGGINGA 3-1/2-YEAR-OLD AND A
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A 3-1/2-YEAR-OLD AND A10-MONTH-OLD IS NOT FUN, IF THE
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10-MONTH-OLD IS NOT FUN, IF THELORD HAS NOT TOLD YOU TO DO IT.
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LORD HAS NOT TOLD YOU TO DO IT.- HAVILAH: (LAUGHING) IT'S
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- HAVILAH: (LAUGHING) IT'SNOT.
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NOT.- JANICE: IT'S LIKE: NO!
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- JANICE: IT'S LIKE: NO!YOU SIT DOWN, YOU RELAX.
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YOU SIT DOWN, YOU RELAX.[LAUGHTER]
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[LAUGHTER]BUT WHEN YOU DO KNOW WHAT HE'S
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BUT WHEN YOU DO KNOW WHAT HE'SCALLED YOU TO DO, THAT'S HOW
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CALLED YOU TO DO, THAT'S HOWYOU KNOW HOW TO MOVE.
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YOU KNOW HOW TO MOVE.AND SO, FOR ANYBODY WATCHING, I
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AND SO, FOR ANYBODY WATCHING, IWOULD JUST ENCOURAGE YOU TO
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WOULD JUST ENCOURAGE YOU TOFOCUS ON THOSE WAYS OF
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FOCUS ON THOSE WAYS OFCULTIVATING RELATIONSHIP WITH
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CULTIVATING RELATIONSHIP WITHTHE LORD.
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THE LORD.BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT'S GOING TO
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BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT'S GOING TOHIGHLIGHT FOR YOU YOUR PURPOSE
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HIGHLIGHT FOR YOU YOUR PURPOSEAND YOUR MISSION, AND GIVE YOU
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AND YOUR MISSION, AND GIVE YOUTHAT MOVEMENT, GIVE YOU THAT
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THAT MOVEMENT, GIVE YOU THATPOWER TO BE MOVING, ON PURPOSE,
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POWER TO BE MOVING, ON PURPOSE,FOR THE LORD.
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FOR THE LORD.- DR. ROBYN: WE ARE GONNA LIVE
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- DR. ROBYN: WE ARE GONNA LIVEFOREVER, BUT THE POINT IS IS
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FOREVER, BUT THE POINT IS ISTHAT, RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW,
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THAT, RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW,WE'VE BEEN CALLED TO LEAVE A
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WE'VE BEEN CALLED TO LEAVE ALEGACY.
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LEGACY.WE'VE BEEN CALLED TO MAKE A
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WE'VE BEEN CALLED TO MAKE ADIFFERENCE.
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DIFFERENCE.WE'VE BEEN CALLED.
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WE'VE BEEN CALLED.JESUS SAID THAT WHEN WE BECOME
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JESUS SAID THAT WHEN WE BECOMECHRISTIANS, WE'RE SUPPOSED TO
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CHRISTIANS, WE'RE SUPPOSED TOPICK UP OUR CROSS -- RIGHT? --
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PICK UP OUR CROSS -- RIGHT? --AND FOLLOW HIM.
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AND FOLLOW HIM.SO, THIS EARTHLY LIFE IS ABOUT
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SO, THIS EARTHLY LIFE IS ABOUTMAKING A DIFFERENCE AND LEAVING
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MAKING A DIFFERENCE AND LEAVINGA MARK.
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A MARK.AND, I LOVE TO THINK ABOUT THE
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AND, I LOVE TO THINK ABOUT THEFACT THAT OUR HAND IS A ONE...
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FACT THAT OUR HAND IS A ONE...OF A KIND, RIGHT?
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OF A KIND, RIGHT?WE ARE THE MASTERPIECE.
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WE ARE THE MASTERPIECE.HIS MASTERPIECE.
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HIS MASTERPIECE.AND WE'VE GOT THIS IMPRINT,
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AND WE'VE GOT THIS IMPRINT,THIS FINGERPRINT THAT CAN LEAVE
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THIS FINGERPRINT THAT CAN LEAVEAN IMPRINT THAT ONLY WE CAN
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AN IMPRINT THAT ONLY WE CANLEAVE.
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LEAVE.SO, GOD HAS A SPECIFIC PURPOSE
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SO, GOD HAS A SPECIFIC PURPOSEFOR US TO LEAVE THIS IMPRINT ON
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FOR US TO LEAVE THIS IMPRINT ONMANKIND THAT ONLY WE WERE MEANT
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MANKIND THAT ONLY WE WERE MEANTTO LEAVE.
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TO LEAVE.SO, I AM SO EXCITED TO KNOW
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SO, I AM SO EXCITED TO KNOWTHAT GOD HAS A PURPOSE FOR ME,
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THAT GOD HAS A PURPOSE FOR ME,AND HE HAS A PURPOSE FOR
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AND HE HAS A PURPOSE FOREVERYONE WATCHING, WHETHER
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EVERYONE WATCHING, WHETHERSINGLE OR MARRIED.
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SINGLE OR MARRIED.MANDISA, DON'T YOU AGREE?
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MANDISA, DON'T YOU AGREE?- MANDISA: YEAH...I THINK
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- MANDISA: YEAH...I THINKTHAT'S WHAT IT'S ABOUT: LIVING
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THAT'S WHAT IT'S ABOUT: LIVINGWITH PURPOSE, TO GLORIFY GOD,
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WITH PURPOSE, TO GLORIFY GOD,IN ALL THAT WE ARE DOING,
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IN ALL THAT WE ARE DOING,WHETHER SINGLE OR MARRIED.
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WHETHER SINGLE OR MARRIED.AND, ONE OF THE SCRIPTURES
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AND, ONE OF THE SCRIPTURESTHAT'S REALLY MEANT A LOT TO
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THAT'S REALLY MEANT A LOT TOME, IN THIS COVID SEASON THAT
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ME, IN THIS COVID SEASON THATI'M IN, IS ISAIAH 54.
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I'M IN, IS ISAIAH 54.IN VERSES 4 THROUGH 5, IT SAYS:
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IN VERSES 4 THROUGH 5, IT SAYS:DO NOT BE AFRAID; YOU WILL NOT
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DO NOT BE AFRAID; YOU WILL NOTBE PUT TO SHAME.
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BE PUT TO SHAME.DO NOT FEAR DISGRACE; YOU WILL
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DO NOT FEAR DISGRACE; YOU WILLNOT BE HUMILIATED.
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NOT BE HUMILIATED.YOU WILL FORGET THE SHAME OF
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YOU WILL FORGET THE SHAME OFYOUR YOUTH AND REMEMBER NO MORE
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YOUR YOUTH AND REMEMBER NO MORETHE REPROACH OF YOUR
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THE REPROACH OF YOURWIDOWHOOD."
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WIDOWHOOD."VERSE 5 IS MY FAVORITE: "FOR
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VERSE 5 IS MY FAVORITE: "FORYOUR MAKER IS YOUR HUSBAND --
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YOUR MAKER IS YOUR HUSBAND --THE LORD ALMIGHTY IS HIS
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THE LORD ALMIGHTY IS HISNAME -- THE HOLY ONE OF ISRAEL
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NAME -- THE HOLY ONE OF ISRAELIS YOUR REDEEMER..."
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IS YOUR REDEEMER..."SINGLE LADIES: OUR MAKER IS OUR
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SINGLE LADIES: OUR MAKER IS OURHUSBAND.
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HUSBAND.AND WHEN WE FEEL LONELY, WHEN
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AND WHEN WE FEEL LONELY, WHENWE FEEL LIKE, "WHAT'S WRONG
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WE FEEL LIKE, "WHAT'S WRONGWITH ME?" "WHY DOES THIS PERSON
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WITH ME?" "WHY DOES THIS PERSONHAVE THE HUSBAND?" OR "I
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HAVE THE HUSBAND?" OR "IDON'T," I WANT US TO CLING TO
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DON'T," I WANT US TO CLING TOTHE TRUTH THAT WE ARE MARRIED
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THE TRUTH THAT WE ARE MARRIEDTO OUR MAKER.
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TO OUR MAKER.I'M STARTING TO TELL MY
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I'M STARTING TO TELL MYFRIENDS: "YOU CAN CALL ME MRS.
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FRIENDS: "YOU CAN CALL ME MRS.LORD ALMIGHTY, BECAUSE THE NAME
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LORD ALMIGHTY, BECAUSE THE NAMEOF MY HUSBAND IS LORD ALMIGHTY.
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OF MY HUSBAND IS LORD ALMIGHTY.SO, DON'T GET IT TWISTED."
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SO, DON'T GET IT TWISTED."[LAUGHTER]
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[LAUGHTER]I WANT TO ENCOURAGE YOU WITH
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I WANT TO ENCOURAGE YOU WITHTHIS: YOU ARE ENOUGH.
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THIS: YOU ARE ENOUGH.[MUSIC]
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[MUSIC]YOU ARE RIGHT WHERE YOU ARE
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YOU ARE RIGHT WHERE YOU ARESUPPOSED TO BE.
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SUPPOSED TO BE.GOD'S TIMING IS PERFECT, AND
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GOD'S TIMING IS PERFECT, ANDYOUR MAKER IS YOUR HUSBAND.
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YOUR MAKER IS YOUR HUSBAND.LET ME PRAY THIS OVER YOU.
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LET ME PRAY THIS OVER YOU.HEAVENLY FATHER, I LOVE THAT
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HEAVENLY FATHER, I LOVE THATYOU ARE BOTH FATHER AND THAT
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YOU ARE BOTH FATHER AND THATYOU ARE MY BIG BROTHER, JESUS;
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YOU ARE MY BIG BROTHER, JESUS;HOLY SPIRIT; YOU ARE COMFORTER;
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HOLY SPIRIT; YOU ARE COMFORTER;AND I LOVE THINKING OF YOU AS
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AND I LOVE THINKING OF YOU ASMY HUSBAND.
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MY HUSBAND.'CAUSE YOU ARE ENOUGH.
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'CAUSE YOU ARE ENOUGH.YOU COMPLETE ME.
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YOU COMPLETE ME.AND I PRAY THIS OVER MY FELLOW
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AND I PRAY THIS OVER MY FELLOWSINGLE SISTERS, OUT THERE.
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SINGLE SISTERS, OUT THERE.WOULD YOU HELP US TO REALLY SEE
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WOULD YOU HELP US TO REALLY SEEYOU AS OUR HUSBAND, AS ENOUGH
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YOU AS OUR HUSBAND, AS ENOUGHFOR US, AS SOMEBODY WHO LOVES
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FOR US, AS SOMEBODY WHO LOVESSPENDING TIME WITH US?
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SPENDING TIME WITH US?WOULD YOU HELP US TO SEE YOU AS
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WOULD YOU HELP US TO SEE YOU ASSOMEBODY WHO YOU NEVER GET
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SOMEBODY WHO YOU NEVER GETTIRED OF US?
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TIRED OF US?WE DON'T GET ON YOUR NERVES.
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WE DON'T GET ON YOUR NERVES.WHEN WE SPEND TIME IN YOUR
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WHEN WE SPEND TIME IN YOURPRESENCE, YOU SAY, "OH,
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PRESENCE, YOU SAY, "OH,HONEY...I'VE BEEN WANTING THIS
00:22:53.862 --> 00:22:55.730
HONEY...I'VE BEEN WANTING THISTIME WITH YOU."
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TIME WITH YOU."I PRAY THAT WE WOULD FALL SO IN
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I PRAY THAT WE WOULD FALL SO INLOVE WITH YOU, GOD, THAT WHEN
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LOVE WITH YOU, GOD, THAT WHENYOU BRING THE MAN THAT YOU HAVE
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YOU BRING THE MAN THAT YOU HAVEFOR US, IF YOU HAVE CALLED US
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FOR US, IF YOU HAVE CALLED USTO MARRIAGE, THAT THEY WOULD
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TO MARRIAGE, THAT THEY WOULDHAVE TO SEARCH YOU SO DEEP, IN
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HAVE TO SEARCH YOU SO DEEP, INORDER TO FIND US; THAT THEY
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ORDER TO FIND US; THAT THEYWOULD HAVE TO KNOW YOU, BECAUSE
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WOULD HAVE TO KNOW YOU, BECAUSEWE ARE SO WRAPPED IN YOUR ARMS.
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WE ARE SO WRAPPED IN YOUR ARMS.WOULD YOU HELP US TO GO ON
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WOULD YOU HELP US TO GO ONDATES WITH YOU AND TO JUST
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DATES WITH YOU AND TO JUSTENJOY YOUR PRESENCE IN A REAL,
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ENJOY YOUR PRESENCE IN A REAL,TANGIBLE WAY?
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TANGIBLE WAY?'CAUSE A FACT OF THE MATTER IS
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'CAUSE A FACT OF THE MATTER ISNO ONE WILL EVER LOVE US THE
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NO ONE WILL EVER LOVE US THEWAY THAT YOU LOVE US.
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WAY THAT YOU LOVE US.NO ONE WILL EVER CARE FOR US
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NO ONE WILL EVER CARE FOR USTHE WAY THAT YOU DO, JESUS.
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THE WAY THAT YOU DO, JESUS.WE LOVE YOU AND WE LONG TO BE
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WE LOVE YOU AND WE LONG TO BEFULFILLED AND SATISFIED IN YOU,
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FULFILLED AND SATISFIED IN YOU,ABOVE ALL ELSE.
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ABOVE ALL ELSE.SO, WOULD YOU HELP US TO DO
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SO, WOULD YOU HELP US TO DOTHAT EVERY SINGLE DAY OF OUR
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THAT EVERY SINGLE DAY OF OURLIVES?
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LIVES?THANK YOU FOR THESE
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THANK YOU FOR THESECONVERSATIONS THAT WE'VE HAD
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CONVERSATIONS THAT WE'VE HADTHIS WEEK.
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THIS WEEK.AND I PRAY THAT WE WOULD WALK
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AND I PRAY THAT WE WOULD WALKIN THE TRUTH: THAT YOU STARTED
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IN THE TRUTH: THAT YOU STARTEDSOMETHING GOOD AND YOU'RE GONNA
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SOMETHING GOOD AND YOU'RE GONNACOMPLETE IT, JUST LIKE YOU SAY
00:23:51.786 --> 00:23:53.588
COMPLETE IT, JUST LIKE YOU SAYIN PHILIPPIANS 1:6.
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IN PHILIPPIANS 1:6.IN JESUS' NAME, I PRAY...AMEN.
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IN JESUS' NAME, I PRAY...AMEN.- ALL: AMEN.
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- ALL: AMEN.- LAURIE: CONNECT WITH US ON
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- LAURIE: CONNECT WITH US ONSOCIAL MEDIA AND LET US KNOW
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SOCIAL MEDIA AND LET US KNOWHOW OUR TEAM CAN PRAY FOR YOU.
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HOW OUR TEAM CAN PRAY FOR YOU.GIVE THANKS TO THE LORD, FOR HE
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GIVE THANKS TO THE LORD, FOR HEIS GOOD.
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IS GOOD.WE PRAISE HIM IN ALL SEASONS
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WE PRAISE HIM IN ALL SEASONSAND IN EVERY CIRCUMSTANCE --
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AND IN EVERY CIRCUMSTANCE --EVEN 2020.
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EVEN 2020.NEXT WEEK, WE'RE GATHERING
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NEXT WEEK, WE'RE GATHERINGTOGETHER TO GIVE THANKS.
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TOGETHER TO GIVE THANKS.WE'LL SEE YOU ON MONDAY, RIGHT
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WE'LL SEE YOU ON MONDAY, RIGHTHERE ON TBN.
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Better Together LIVE | Episode 145

Better Together LIVE | Episode 145

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Better Together LIVE | Episode 145

Better Together LIVE | Episode 145

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