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When The Battle Seems Lost | Better Together

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March 4, 2020
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  • - Does it feel like you've losta few battles along the way?
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  • How can we turndefeat into triumph?
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  • Come on, let's talk about it.
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  • (upbeat music)
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  • - When Paris was in elementaryschool, junior high,
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  • she had a really good friend
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  • and like besties.
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  • Paris was kindathe trouble maker
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  • in the two of them,
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  • but like the spunky one.
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  • And then this little girlgets diagnosed with leukemia.
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  • But she was in our life
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  • and she was goingthrough treatments,
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  • and went into remission,and things were going great.
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  • And maybe it was freshmanyear of high school
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  • or the end of junior high,
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  • she relapsed again.
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  • And it just was brutal.
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  • And they're doing bonemarrow transplants.
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  • And they found the donorand she sort of came back.
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  • But Paris is learning to pray
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  • and really believe God fora miracle in her friend.
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  • But then she just keptgetting sicker and sicker.
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  • And Paris is in thehospital with her,
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  • taking her on wheeliesdown the aisles.
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  • Then we get the call thatno parent wants to give
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  • or get that herfriend passed away
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  • as a 14-year-old, 15-year-old.
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  • Paris was devastated.
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  • I mean, it was just...
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  • We'd never dealt withsomething like this.
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  • From that, it's interesting.
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  • Now looking back, I cansee it was from that moment
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  • that my daughter, she'strying to process this,
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  • and she's angry at God,
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  • and, "Why? And I prayed."
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  • So, I'm having, as the parent,
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  • to answer some ofthose questions,
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  • about trusting God anyway,
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  • and that we don't win everybattle, but we do win the war,
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  • all the stuff that we would say.
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  • But as a parent, I startedwatching my daughter from...
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  • I think that was thetrigger, when I look back,
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  • like making some decisionsthat weren't great.
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  • It's as if she felt like shehad to get as much life in.
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  • - Wow. Yeah.
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  • - Had to do as muchas she could because
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  • who knew what would happen?
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  • And I remember, so she's now 17,
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  • a few years down theroad and I'm just,
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  • "Oh, some of thedecisions are not great."
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  • And 18,
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  • and I remember goingin my little office
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  • and shutting the doorand falling on my knees
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  • and just praying for her,as we do for our kids,
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  • and just like praying God.
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  • This is when I felt theSpirit of God say to me,
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  • "Will you trust me with her?"
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  • (Holly sighs)
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  • - Woo.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - [Holly] Well, yeah.
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  • - Gotta get the tissueout on that one.
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  • (all laugh)
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  • - It was just like, "Willyou trust me with her?"
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  • To me, that let me knowthat we weren't done yet,
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  • that there wasgonna be some stuff.
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  • And so, then, evenfast-forward some years,
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  • then she startsdating this guy who...
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  • Now, she's told some ofthis, so I can tell it.
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  • - It's okay.
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  • - You won't get in trouble.
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  • - Yeah, well, I mightstill, but anyway...
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  • (all laugh)
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  • She's starts dating thisguy who's not great for her.
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  • Is not.
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  • And he could put ona good show, but--
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  • - You knew.
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  • - I knew.
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  • So then she justkinda pushes it,
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  • decides to get married.
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  • And so then wehave this wedding.
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  • And I know this is not--
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  • - [Laurie] Wow.
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  • - But again, I think inher, it was this need to,
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  • "Okay, I gotta marriedearly 'cause...
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  • It was just likeall of that in her.
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  • So then, within sixmonths, that there's abuse.
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  • I mean, it gets very not good.
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  • And so she end, so then it ends.
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  • And again, I'm prayingfor my daughter,
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  • and God saying, "Willyou trust me with her?"
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  • I'm like, "Oh."
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  • And then, when thiswas all happening,
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  • was also whenPhilip and I were...
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  • Philip gets diagnosedwith cancer.
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  • And so, we're...
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  • And our savingsaccount gets stolen,
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  • which I've already told on here.
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  • So, it's like all that,
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  • and my daughter's in
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  • that really challengingmarriage situation,
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  • and then all the battlesare coming in us.
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  • And I just remember thinking,
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  • "Well, I got nothing."
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  • It's just like, "How do I...
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  • "count it all joy?"
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  • That's what the Bible says.
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  • I was like, "How do I do that?"
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  • How do I do that when it feelslike I couldn't get a win?
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  • There's so much coming at you,
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  • betrayals from people,
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  • and fighting for Philips healthand speaking Life over him.
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  • I felt like, "God,
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  • "they say that you're notgiven more than you can handle,
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  • "thank, God, youthink a lot of me
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  • "because this is a lot."
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  • - [Nicole] Yeah.
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  • - I would start to worry,
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  • and instead, I wouldimmediately decide to pray.
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  • It became a discipline.
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  • It's not that I never,
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  • because as soon as the worrywould come, I would go,
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  • "No, no, no,
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  • "I'm trusting her to Him.
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  • "I'm trusting her tothe presence of God.
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  • "He's gonna lead her."
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  • And then worry wouldtry to come, I go,
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  • "No, no, no."
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  • And I just prayed for her.
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  • Do you know what?
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  • Many of you are parent.
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  • Your kids can resist your words,
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  • they can resist your wisdom,
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  • they can resist your thoughts,
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  • they can resist your intentions,
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  • but they can resist your prayer.
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  • They just can't.
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  • So, if I could justencourage you to switch
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  • from worrying to praying.
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  • And maybe that sounds likesome super spiritual thing,
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  • and I don't mean itto, but it's just
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  • that's the practical thing,
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  • that's how you do it.
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  • So, if you're going toreally trust your kids,
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  • to trust them to thefaithfulness of God,
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  • then it's praying for them,
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  • and doing your partto rebuke the enemy,
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  • doing your part to surroundthem with other wise counselors,
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  • create environments,
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  • and just be careful the wordsthat come out of your mouth
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  • during the hard,challenging situations.
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  • Let your kids see thatyou're trusting God,
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  • not in this weird religious way,
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  • but just genuine.
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  • We brought this jarinto our kitchen
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  • and we call thema gratitude jar.
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  • And every day, wewould write on a piece
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  • of paper somethingwe're grateful for
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  • and putting in that jar.
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  • For days, I wouldgo in that kitchen.
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  • I know this, Philip broughtthe jar he's the Christian.
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  • (Nicole laughs)
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  • And I know that he's gonna look
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  • to see if I've puta piece in there.
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  • (Laurie laughs)
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  • And so, for days, all I couldwrite on there was coffee.
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  • (all laugh)
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  • - Are you grateful for coffee?
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  • - Well, aren't you?
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  • - [Laurie] Hey, yes, I am.
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  • - Were you gratefulthis morning?
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  • - I was grateful for my coffee.
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  • - I mean, so you juststart somewhere, right?
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  • So I was grateful for coffee.
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  • Then it was gratefulfor my home,
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  • and then my oven,
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  • and then freedom,
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  • then my daughter's future.
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  • It's like, so thenit became like...
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  • But for me, that'show I got out of it.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • It's just like, whenthe battle was raging,
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  • and it was raging,
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  • so I'm fighting for mydaughter and my husband,
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  • and deal with peoplewho betrayed...
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  • Like all the stuffthat was going on.
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  • So, the only way
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  • that I could find my feet andtrust God through this was
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  • to be grateful forwhat He has done,
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  • and be grateful for who He is,
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  • grateful that I am forgiven.
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  • And whatever it would be,I just put stuff on there.
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  • And so, I mean, I don'tknow how you deal with it
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  • when there's stuffthat comes at you,
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  • but that was it for me.
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  • And so, to this day,
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  • it's still, you trust Godwith your family, right?
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  • So I have to trust God with him.
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  • And now,
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  • fast-forward, she'smarried to a great guy
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  • and I have a grandchildand he's my favorite human.
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  • Amazing.
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  • But man,
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  • there were moments in therewhen I didn't see the end yet.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - Or I didn't seewhat was coming.
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  • The best of beauty inthis whole faith walk.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - You don't alwayssee the whole process.
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  • I remember, when Mikewas in the hospital,
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  • and the doctors cameto me and they said
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  • how things were good.
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  • And then they came backlike a few days later
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  • and said, "Well,we see a little...
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  • "Progression is in the positive.
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  • "Everything's lookinga little bit better
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  • "and we want to start doing all
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  • "of these different treatments."
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  • And I looked at thedoctors and I told 'em,
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  • I said,
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  • "I don't care what youhave to do to get him
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  • "in the end zone.
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  • "It could be a lot of littleplays or one Hail Mary.
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  • "Just get me in the end zone.
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  • Because a lot of times--
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  • - I thought you'dmissed football, girl.
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  • (laughs)
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  • I'm not even football.
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  • (Nicole laughs)
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  • - That was probably the HolyGhost that gave me that.
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  • (Nicole laughs)
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  • - But so many times, we getso concerned or consumed
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  • with the process that weforget all about the promise.
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  • And it's like, "God, Ican just stay focused
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  • "on this promise, this iswhat you have promised me.
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  • "So, whatever processI go through to getto the other side,
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  • "I'm good with it."
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  • And that's what we haveto all settle with.
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  • A lot of times, theuneasiness comes
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  • in not seeing our way out.
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  • And for me, I don'thave to see my way out,
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  • I just need to see myself out.
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  • - Right, right.
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  • - You got me?
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  • If I can just see myself out,
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  • that's the wholebeauty of vision.
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  • When he tell us towrite the vision,
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  • make it plain sowe can run with it
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  • and others can run withit and they read it.
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  • So, I can get avision of better,
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  • and I can stay focusedon that vision,
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  • and lock in on where Godhas promised to take me.
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  • It's like, the other stuffcan be like whatever.
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  • "Okay, I feel like I'mloosing my mind today,
  • 00:10:00.078 --> 00:10:01.613
  • "but I see better."
  • 00:10:01.613 --> 00:10:02.981
  • "I know he's notspeaking to me right now,
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  • "but I do see him loving methe way you love your church."
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  • In the beginning, it wasa little rough for me
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  • on being able to stay focusedon the promises of God.
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  • I didn't know whatthat literally meant,
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  • "Stay focused on His promises?"
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  • But I remember, when myhusband was in a hospital,
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  • I heard God Himself tell me,
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  • "Deedee, I need you tofocus on the promise
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  • "and not the process."
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  • It's always easierto focus on things
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  • that are going onaround you opposed
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  • to what is ahead of you.
  • 00:10:37.148 --> 00:10:39.284
  • And so, when I heard his voice,
  • 00:10:39.284 --> 00:10:41.252
  • I literally heard thevoice of God tell me
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  • to focus on the promiseand not the process.
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  • I believe that was adefining moment in my life
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  • and in my faithjourney, if you will,
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  • to know that God's promisesare truly yes and amen.
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  • If He said it, He'sgonna make it good.
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  • - You know, Romans 8:28 says,
  • 00:11:01.406 --> 00:11:02.874
  • "Then we can know that allthings work together for good
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  • "to those who love God, calledaccording to His purpose."
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  • Well,
  • 00:11:08.046 --> 00:11:09.380
  • yes,
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  • and we have to be carefulthat that's not some walk up
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  • to somebody in pain and go,
  • 00:11:14.352 --> 00:11:15.487
  • "Hey,
  • 00:11:15.487 --> 00:11:16.721
  • (claps) "all thingwork together."
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  • So there's like a pah!
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  • - Yeah, that's not good work.
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  • - But for me, Ihad to know that.
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  • And so, for me, in that season,it's just like a tapestry.
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  • God works from the backside.
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  • We want the front,
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  • but he's putting allthose threads together.
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  • So, He will work itall together for good,
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  • and so that'swhere trusting Him,
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  • trusting He has, inmy life, worked it,
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  • He will work together forgood in this situation, too,
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  • and I just have to trust Him.
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  • And it's not somereligious panacea
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  • that you can just throw out.
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  • - Circumstance were overwhelmingfor me about 20 years ago.
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  • And I was fighting thegood fight of faith.
  • 00:12:04.669 --> 00:12:06.738
  • I mean, I wasraised a faith girl.
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  • And I was like,
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  • "God, if this isn't faith, I'mnot sure I know what it is."
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  • And just believingGod, and knowing
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  • that destiny is strongerthan anything in the world,
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  • it's more powerful, the destinyof God in someone's life.
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  • And just putting all mybelief and just seeing things,
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  • just not doing good.
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  • And I remember,
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  • I just walked outsideand I was just...
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  • I was just done, I was drained.
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  • I was tired.
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  • And didn't have any more fight.
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  • And I remember, Iwalked outside...
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  • and I had all my dogs andthey're just all outside,
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  • and I walk to the edge of theproperty and I just sat down.
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  • And I was looking overLA and I said, "God,"
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  • I said, "If you could just keepus from struggling so hard,"
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  • I said, "I'd be doingso much more for you."
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  • And I was trying to say that,
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  • that if you just keepus from struggling,
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  • look at all that wecould be doing for you.
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  • - Right.
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  • - And I'll never forget,
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  • and I've told thisstory many times,
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  • before I got the...
  • 00:13:29.187 --> 00:13:31.055
  • I was physically talking.
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  • And when I started saying,
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  • "Look at all that wecould be doing for you
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  • "if you'd just takeoff the pressure,"
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  • it was like God took thebiggest, most loving two-by-four
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  • (Deedee laughs)
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  • and just knocked me in the gut.
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  • And I'll never forget, I justleaned over and I thought,
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  • I said, "My God, that'sthe most arrogant thing
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  • "I've ever heardanyone ever say."
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  • Yep.
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  • And it came out of my mouth.
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  • And the Lord said,
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  • "Don't ever think it'sanything that you do for me,
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  • "but what I can do onthe inside of you."
  • 00:14:10.662 --> 00:14:13.464
  • - Right.
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  • - And that completelychanged my life.
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  • Because, all of a sudden, Ifelt that was a pure heart.
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  • "God, I'll serve youthe rest of my days,
  • 00:14:23.942 --> 00:14:26.210
  • "I'll keep doing it.
  • 00:14:26.210 --> 00:14:27.312
  • "But if you just takethe pressure off."
  • 00:14:28.980 --> 00:14:31.349
  • - Yeah.
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  • It was like, "Thisis what's molding you
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  • "and making you intowhat I want you to be.
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  • "So, don't ever think it'sanything you do for me,
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  • "it's all the workthat I can do in you."
  • 00:14:42.694 --> 00:14:45.697
  • And I think that thestruggle, and the hard times,
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  • and the seasons of just painful,
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  • lonely,
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  • mad,
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  • gut-wrenching times,
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  • is God with us,
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  • making us into somethingabsolutely beautiful for Him.
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  • - A friend of minerecently said,
  • 00:15:07.552 --> 00:15:08.820
  • "I learned far more frommy pain than I ever did
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  • "from my pleasure."
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  • - Yeah, it's so true.
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  • - "Ah, man, I don't likethat, but it's true."
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  • - Yeah.
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  • I think sometimes, when we feel
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  • that we're going after whatGod has called us to do,
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  • and you're reaching out,
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  • you're taking steps of faith,
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  • and you're not seeing theresults the way you think
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  • that they should be going,
  • 00:15:30.675 --> 00:15:32.377
  • "Things should be going better,
  • 00:15:32.377 --> 00:15:33.811
  • "we should be more productive,
  • 00:15:33.811 --> 00:15:35.546
  • "we should be making more money
  • 00:15:35.546 --> 00:15:38.149
  • "so we can start doingmore stuff for God,"
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  • I think sometimes thatcan get you in a trap,
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  • where you're kinda tryingto do it on your own,
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  • (laughs)
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  • and it can wear you out.
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  • And I'm not sure if Iwas just worn out or...
  • 00:15:50.895 --> 00:15:55.500
  • But I was doing everythingin faith, I was...
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  • I just think thatsometimes we just have
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  • to maybe let go sooner
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  • and give it to God quicker
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  • (laughs)
  • 00:16:09.514 --> 00:16:10.348
  • for our own sake,
  • 00:16:10.348 --> 00:16:11.282
  • for our own health,
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  • for our own peace of mind.
  • 00:16:12.283 --> 00:16:15.286
  • Give it all to God.
  • 00:16:15.286 --> 00:16:16.988
  • God knows what you need,
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  • and that productivity of rest,
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  • and trusting, and believing,
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  • and walking in thatpurpose and destiny
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  • that He has planned for you.
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  • He wants us to take his yoke.
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  • And it's easy and it's light.
  • 00:16:29.133 --> 00:16:31.436
  • - There's this verse inJeremiah 31, it says,
  • 00:16:31.436 --> 00:16:33.805
  • "Set up road signs,put up guideposts.
  • 00:16:33.805 --> 00:16:37.275
  • "Mark well the pathby which you've come."
  • 00:16:37.275 --> 00:16:40.311
  • And so, for me and you,we're some of the oldies
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  • at around this table,
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  • that I have an obligation then
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  • to mark the trail
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  • that I've walked.
  • 00:16:50.288 --> 00:16:51.556
  • And so, I can mark itwith faith, and trust,
  • 00:16:51.556 --> 00:16:54.725
  • and confidence inwho God says he is,
  • 00:16:54.725 --> 00:16:57.562
  • and believing and seeingthe end zone and doing.
  • 00:16:57.562 --> 00:16:59.897
  • I can mark it that way.
  • 00:16:59.897 --> 00:17:01.199
  • Or I can market with fear,
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  • and doubt,
  • 00:17:04.268 --> 00:17:05.403
  • and entitlement,
  • 00:17:05.403 --> 00:17:06.370
  • and bitterness.
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  • Because if we're all goingto go through the stuff,
  • 00:17:08.206 --> 00:17:12.243
  • and we all will,
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  • our stuff might be different,we're all gonna go through it.
  • 00:17:13.778 --> 00:17:14.712
  • - Yep.
  • 00:17:14.712 --> 00:17:15.646
  • You can't really control that.
  • 00:17:15.646 --> 00:17:16.848
  • But you can just controlwhat you're gonna do
  • 00:17:16.848 --> 00:17:18.716
  • and how you're gonna trustGod and believe God in it.
  • 00:17:18.716 --> 00:17:22.520
  • And that's the struggle, becausewe think we can do better.
  • 00:17:22.520 --> 00:17:25.623
  • So that's the struggle.
  • 00:17:26.824 --> 00:17:27.925
  • But for me, I think,
  • 00:17:27.925 --> 00:17:29.127
  • even in that seasonof really hard,
  • 00:17:29.127 --> 00:17:30.428
  • I just had to remind myself
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  • that this walk isnot just for me,
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  • I'm actually marking a trail
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  • that there is a generationwho will follow.
  • 00:17:36.834 --> 00:17:39.670
  • So, you are believingand fighting
  • 00:17:39.670 --> 00:17:42.340
  • for your husband's life, right?
  • 00:17:42.340 --> 00:17:43.975
  • So, as a young person, theywill go through some stuffs,
  • 00:17:43.975 --> 00:17:47.044
  • they will have their battles.
  • 00:17:47.044 --> 00:17:48.212
  • But they're going to say,
  • 00:17:48.212 --> 00:17:49.046
  • "I saw Deedee.
  • 00:17:49.046 --> 00:17:50.348
  • "I saw Deedee trust Godin the middle of it.
  • 00:17:50.348 --> 00:17:53.417
  • "She didn't collapse,she didn't fall down,
  • 00:17:53.417 --> 00:17:56.020
  • "she trusted God inthe middle of it."
  • 00:17:56.020 --> 00:17:58.489
  • - Or, "I watchedKayla go through this
  • 00:17:58.489 --> 00:18:00.925
  • "and look at where she is now."
  • 00:18:00.925 --> 00:18:02.727
  • - A year later.
  • 00:18:02.727 --> 00:18:03.928
  • She didn't just collapseand give up on God.
  • 00:18:03.928 --> 00:18:07.231
  • - And she's stillgoing through it.
  • 00:18:07.231 --> 00:18:08.399
  • - [Holly] Andshe's still, right.
  • 00:18:08.399 --> 00:18:09.600
  • And so, I thinkthat's what I need.
  • 00:18:09.600 --> 00:18:11.068
  • - Because everybodyis gonna have trouble.
  • 00:18:11.068 --> 00:18:13.905
  • You know everybody,so that not right.
  • 00:18:13.905 --> 00:18:15.406
  • - This is how wefight our battle.
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  • When I'm going through a battle,
  • 00:18:17.575 --> 00:18:19.644
  • a struggle that I havenever faced before,
  • 00:18:19.644 --> 00:18:22.413
  • I often lean on,
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  • or not often,
  • 00:18:27.652 --> 00:18:28.486
  • every time,
  • 00:18:28.486 --> 00:18:29.954
  • I lean on other people of faith.
  • 00:18:29.954 --> 00:18:32.423
  • It might be someone alittle bit older than me
  • 00:18:32.423 --> 00:18:34.692
  • or someone who has gonethrough a similar situation
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  • and can speak into...
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  • They've walked througha victoriously,
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  • that's important,
  • 00:18:43.034 --> 00:18:44.001
  • that I...
  • 00:18:45.269 --> 00:18:47.605
  • I come to them and I say,
  • 00:18:47.605 --> 00:18:49.040
  • "I seek guidance
  • 00:18:49.040 --> 00:18:52.543
  • "and I seek wisdomfrom their experience."
  • 00:18:52.543 --> 00:18:55.780
  • I think sometimes wedon't want to do that.
  • 00:18:55.780 --> 00:18:57.248
  • Sometimes we thinkwe're an island and,
  • 00:18:57.248 --> 00:18:58.549
  • "I got this, I can getthrough this on my own."
  • 00:18:58.549 --> 00:19:01.018
  • But the body of Christ,
  • 00:19:01.018 --> 00:19:03.087
  • we need each other.
  • 00:19:04.956 --> 00:19:06.390
  • And we don't winthese battles alone.
  • 00:19:06.390 --> 00:19:09.760
  • We win them together.
  • 00:19:09.760 --> 00:19:12.563
  • And so, I can't stressenough how important it is
  • 00:19:12.563 --> 00:19:15.933
  • to reach out.
  • 00:19:15.933 --> 00:19:17.435
  • Don't be an island, butreach out to someone else
  • 00:19:17.435 --> 00:19:19.437
  • who has come through a situation
  • 00:19:19.437 --> 00:19:22.106
  • and let them speakinto your life.
  • 00:19:22.106 --> 00:19:24.242
  • - I know how to believe well.
  • 00:19:24.242 --> 00:19:26.244
  • I know how to fight well.
  • 00:19:26.244 --> 00:19:27.845
  • I think your everyseed is a deed
  • 00:19:29.213 --> 00:19:31.816
  • for the next generation.
  • 00:19:31.816 --> 00:19:33.651
  • And man, little eyesare watching everything.
  • 00:19:33.651 --> 00:19:37.989
  • - Yeah, it's just like this.
  • 00:19:37.989 --> 00:19:39.557
  • Wait, Kate, come her.
  • 00:19:39.557 --> 00:19:40.925
  • So, it's just like,
  • 00:19:40.925 --> 00:19:42.560
  • so, for me as likethe old person,
  • 00:19:42.560 --> 00:19:44.262
  • so it's just me going,
  • 00:19:44.262 --> 00:19:46.163
  • if the Word of God is our sword,
  • 00:19:46.163 --> 00:19:49.133
  • so it's me...
  • 00:19:49.133 --> 00:19:50.801
  • So, I navigated cancer.
  • 00:19:50.801 --> 00:19:52.370
  • So then it's me saying,
  • 00:19:52.370 --> 00:19:54.338
  • 1 Peter 2:24 says,
  • 00:19:54.338 --> 00:19:55.573
  • "By his stripes, thathe went to the cross
  • 00:19:55.573 --> 00:19:58.342
  • "and paid the price,
  • 00:19:58.342 --> 00:19:59.277
  • "so by his wounds, I'm healed."
  • 00:19:59.277 --> 00:20:00.511
  • So, I'm gonna put yourhands on the sword too.
  • 00:20:00.511 --> 00:20:02.013
  • So, together, we're gonnawield this sword, right?
  • 00:20:02.013 --> 00:20:04.882
  • So that's what I mean,like marking the trail
  • 00:20:04.882 --> 00:20:06.484
  • is like together, right?
  • 00:20:06.484 --> 00:20:08.552
  • It's me doing it.
  • 00:20:08.552 --> 00:20:09.887
  • So then, eventually,
  • 00:20:09.887 --> 00:20:11.055
  • when I'm with Jesus,
  • 00:20:11.055 --> 00:20:12.223
  • you are lifting a sword.
  • 00:20:12.223 --> 00:20:14.692
  • Then you're equippingthe next one.
  • 00:20:15.760 --> 00:20:16.627
  • - You're passing it on.
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  • - [Kayla] Yeah, it's so good.
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  • - Now that's, to me,that's the picture.
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  • So, for me, when I'mnavigating the hard stuff,
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  • it's because,
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  • in the middle ofall the battles,
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  • the thing that was the soberingpart for me in a good way,
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  • that kept me grounded, was,
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  • "I'm not justdoing this for me."
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - There is a generationthat's coming up
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  • that's going to need toknow how we fight this.
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  • To me, that's not theoverwhelming part,
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  • that's the partthat gives me hope
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  • that I'm doing this 'causepeople are watching.
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  • People are watching you.
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  • - Absolutely.
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  • My son's wife had ababy and they told him
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  • he was gonna need heartsurgery right away.
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  • And he said,
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  • all he could do,
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  • because he wasn'tas developed in
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  • his walk with God at that time,
  • 00:21:00.371 --> 00:21:02.440
  • he said, he just said,
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  • "I call them theGod of my father."
  • 00:21:03.774 --> 00:21:05.843
  • - That's right.
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  • - And so, it doesmake a difference.
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  • When people can see your journey
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  • and see how you've hadvictory over the years
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  • in your life, in your walk,
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  • it does bring comfort.
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  • - Pass down thefaithfulness of God
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  • tell the stories.
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  • Tell the stories.
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  • - Tell the stories, right?
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  • - And just modeling, like"What do we do with our pain?"
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  • Because we're allgonna have pain
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  • and no one's exempt from pain.
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  • So, how do you handle whenyou get dished the pain?
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  • How do you handle it?
  • 00:21:31.168 --> 00:21:32.403
  • And I think it canbe passed down.
  • 00:21:32.403 --> 00:21:33.804
  • If I don't handle my pain well,
  • 00:21:33.804 --> 00:21:35.239
  • it's gonna be passeddown to my kids.
  • 00:21:35.239 --> 00:21:36.907
  • - [Holly] That'sright, exactly right.
  • 00:21:36.907 --> 00:21:38.142
  • - I heard a beautiful quote,
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  • "Pain will travelthrough families
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  • "until someone is braveenough to feel it."
  • 00:21:41.912 --> 00:21:44.749
  • And so, it's allowingyourself to sit,
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  • it's so uncomfortable,
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  • but to sit in the pain,
  • 00:21:48.085 --> 00:21:49.720
  • and to sit with the emotion,
  • 00:21:49.720 --> 00:21:51.322
  • and to sit in theprocess with God,
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  • and just show up for your story,
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  • and to sit in thesuffering and say,
  • 00:21:55.626 --> 00:21:57.261
  • "Okay, God, show me whatyou have for me here.
  • 00:21:57.261 --> 00:21:59.930
  • "Show me what you'redoing on the inside here.
  • 00:21:59.930 --> 00:22:02.133
  • "Show me who youwant me to be here."
  • 00:22:02.133 --> 00:22:05.169
  • And I think, modeling that,
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  • especially for me, for my boys.
  • 00:22:06.437 --> 00:22:08.372
  • "Okay, mom went throughthis really hard thing,
  • 00:22:08.372 --> 00:22:10.741
  • "but what did she do with it?
  • 00:22:10.741 --> 00:22:13.144
  • "What did God do?
  • 00:22:13.144 --> 00:22:14.612
  • "And how did God show up, too?"
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  • It's an interweavingof me and God,
  • 00:22:16.180 --> 00:22:18.516
  • writing this beautifulstory together.
  • 00:22:18.516 --> 00:22:21.252
  • And so, it's this desperatecrying out for God
  • 00:22:21.252 --> 00:22:24.855
  • and this desperate need for God.
  • 00:22:24.855 --> 00:22:27.091
  • And I truly haveexperienced that,
  • 00:22:27.091 --> 00:22:30.895
  • "that when I get upearly in the morning
  • 00:22:30.895 --> 00:22:33.664
  • and spend time in the word,
  • 00:22:33.664 --> 00:22:34.965
  • or when I go to bed
  • 00:22:34.965 --> 00:22:36.667
  • and spend time in theword before I go to sleep,
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  • when I cry out toGod in those moments,
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  • He really does come through,
  • 00:22:41.772 --> 00:22:43.808
  • And I really do feel likeHe invades the darkness
  • 00:22:43.808 --> 00:22:47.511
  • that I'm sittingin with the light.
  • 00:22:47.511 --> 00:22:49.680
  • I really am remindedthat I'm not alone.
  • 00:22:50.915 --> 00:22:53.984
  • And I really do feel atsuch a deep soul level
  • 00:22:53.984 --> 00:22:57.188
  • that He's with me and thatI can get through this
  • 00:22:57.188 --> 00:22:59.390
  • and I'm filled with hope again.
  • 00:22:59.390 --> 00:23:01.692
  • When I'm sitting in that darkspace, it's like I'm hopeless,
  • 00:23:01.692 --> 00:23:04.895
  • and I don't see a future,
  • 00:23:04.895 --> 00:23:06.363
  • and I don't see clearly,
  • 00:23:06.363 --> 00:23:07.665
  • and I don't know how I'mgoing to make it through
  • 00:23:07.665 --> 00:23:10.701
  • that day or the nextday or the next week
  • 00:23:10.701 --> 00:23:12.837
  • or the next monthor the next year.
  • 00:23:12.837 --> 00:23:14.171
  • The future is terrifying
  • 00:23:14.171 --> 00:23:15.406
  • when I'm sittingin that dark space.
  • 00:23:15.406 --> 00:23:18.075
  • But when I cry out for God,
  • 00:23:18.075 --> 00:23:20.211
  • and when I sit with God,
  • 00:23:20.211 --> 00:23:21.645
  • and when I seek Him,
  • 00:23:21.645 --> 00:23:23.180
  • I truly have found Him inthose really dark places,
  • 00:23:23.180 --> 00:23:26.450
  • and He really has scoopedme up out of the darkness
  • 00:23:26.450 --> 00:23:28.853
  • and reminded me thatthere's more ahead.
  • 00:23:28.853 --> 00:23:30.988
  • - Can we just pray?
  • 00:23:30.988 --> 00:23:32.823
  • Let's just takea moment and pray
  • 00:23:32.823 --> 00:23:34.325
  • because I just think thereare people fighting battles.
  • 00:23:34.325 --> 00:23:38.429
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:23:38.429 --> 00:23:39.897
  • - And I'm believing thatthey got some encouragement
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  • from things that we said.
  • 00:23:43.467 --> 00:23:44.401
  • But maybe we just take a moment
  • 00:23:44.401 --> 00:23:45.569
  • and let God dosomething in people.
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  • - [Holly] Should we comeand hold hands and stuff?
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  • - [Deedee] Let's do it.
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  • Thank you, Jesus.
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  • - Father,
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  • we're so grateful foryour faithfulness.
  • 00:23:53.210 --> 00:23:57.848
  • And as I just hear the stories
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  • of my friends in the circle,
  • 00:24:00.885 --> 00:24:02.620
  • I seen evidence, afterevidence, after evidence
  • 00:24:02.620 --> 00:24:05.222
  • of your faithfulness.
  • 00:24:05.222 --> 00:24:07.057
  • And I'm so grateful, God.
  • 00:24:07.057 --> 00:24:09.126
  • And I know that there arepeople watching this show
  • 00:24:09.126 --> 00:24:12.596
  • who are fightingoverwhelming battles,
  • 00:24:12.596 --> 00:24:16.233
  • who are wrestling withfeelings and fear and doubt.
  • 00:24:16.233 --> 00:24:20.738
  • And I just pray God thatthey will be encouraged
  • 00:24:20.738 --> 00:24:24.408
  • by the evidence of thefaithfulness of Deedee,
  • 00:24:24.408 --> 00:24:26.911
  • by the faithfulness of Kayla,
  • 00:24:26.911 --> 00:24:28.879
  • by the faithfulness of Nicole,
  • 00:24:28.879 --> 00:24:31.148
  • and Laurie, and me, thatthey will be encouraged
  • 00:24:31.148 --> 00:24:33.884
  • to continue to trust you inthe middle of their own fight.
  • 00:24:33.884 --> 00:24:38.222
  • And I thank you, Father, foryour promise that no weapon,
  • 00:24:38.222 --> 00:24:42.092
  • no weapon formedagainst us will prosper.
  • 00:24:42.092 --> 00:24:45.429
  • They will form,
  • 00:24:45.429 --> 00:24:47.331
  • but they won't prosper.
  • 00:24:47.331 --> 00:24:48.766
  • And so, I just speak that
  • 00:24:48.766 --> 00:24:50.067
  • over the peoplewatching right now.
  • 00:24:50.067 --> 00:24:52.937
  • I thank you that whatyou have begun in them,
  • 00:24:52.937 --> 00:24:55.839
  • you will finish.
  • 00:24:55.839 --> 00:24:57.708
  • You will finish.
  • 00:24:57.708 --> 00:24:59.009
  • You are the alpha and the omega,
  • 00:24:59.009 --> 00:25:01.245
  • the beginning and the end,
  • 00:25:01.245 --> 00:25:02.846
  • you will finish it.
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  • - Thank you, Father.
  • 00:25:03.781 --> 00:25:05.249
  • - I thank you, Father.
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  • In Jesus' name.
  • 00:25:07.117 --> 00:25:07.952
  • - In in Jesus' name.
  • 00:25:07.952 --> 00:25:09.286
  • - Amen.
  • 00:25:09.286 --> 00:25:10.321
  • Amen.
  • 00:25:10.321 --> 00:25:11.522
  • - Ooh, His feelingvirtue, right?
  • 00:25:11.522 --> 00:25:12.756
  • - [Holly] Amen.
  • 00:25:12.756 --> 00:25:13.691
  • - The healing virtue of God.
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