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March 16, 2019
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  • Lookin' for a ray of light, lookin' for
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  • somethin' better than this.
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  • Oh so tired of the black and white,
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  • longing for a prism light.
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  • Oh, the bliss.
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  • Flowin' in the speed of life
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  • towards the color and the light.
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  • Moving at the speed of life
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  • towards the color and the light.
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  • Joy unspeakable and full of colors.
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  • Found a hope so bright and clear, whoa.
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  • Living in the realm of grace so vivid.
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  • Our Savior's radiance so very near to me.
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  • - male announcer: Someone once said, one of the great illusions
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  • of our time is that love is self-sustaining, it is not.
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  • Love must be fed and nurtured.
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  • Today on "Connect With Skip Heitzig," Skip dives into the
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  • Book of Philippians to show you the priority love should have in
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  • your life and how your love can be abounding.
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  • Now, we're in Philippians chapter 1, as Skip starts
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  • today's study.
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  • - Skip Heitzig: Most people never associate prayer with pop
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  • music, but there is an interesting country song that's
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  • been around for a few years by a guy named Jaron Lowenstein.
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  • He goes by Jaron, and it's a song called "I Pray For You."
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  • It's a song based upon the bitter breakup that he had with
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  • his girlfriend, and he puts an interesting twist on prayer.
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  • He said, "I haven't been to church since I don't remember
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  • when.
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  • Things were going great, till they fell apart again.
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  • So, I listened to the preacher, he told me what to do.
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  • He said, you can go hatin' others who have done wrong to
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  • you.
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  • Sometimes we get angry, but we must not condemn.
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  • Let the good Lord do his job and you just pray for them."
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  • So, his chorus is, "I pray your brakes go out running down a
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  • hill.
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  • I pray a flower pot falls from a window sill and knocks you in
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  • the head like I'd like to.
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  • I pray your birthday comes and nobody calls.
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  • I pray you're flying high when your engine stalls.
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  • I pray all your dreams never come true.
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  • Just know wherever you are, honey, I pray for you."
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  • I think we can do much better than that, and Paul does better
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  • than that.
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  • In the Book of Philippians, you'll notice in chapter 1,
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  • verse 4 that he mentions that he prays for them.
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  • In verse 3 he says, "I thank my God upon every remembrance of
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  • you, always in every prayer of mine making request
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  • for you all with joy."
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  • Now, if you know anything about Paul, you know that in many of
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  • his letters, he includes his prayer for his audience.
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  • When he writes the Book of Ephesians, he includes a prayer.
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  • When he writes the Book of Philippines, when he writes the
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  • Book of Colossians, he includes a prayer.
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  • When he writes the Book of Thessalonians, he includes a
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  • prayer in 1 Thessalonians.
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  • When he writes to Timothy, he includes a prayer.
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  • To Philemon, he includes a prayer.
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  • That is a part of Paul's life.
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  • He prayed for people, and he did it regularly, and he told them
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  • what he prayed for.
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  • And I think it's safe to say that nothing really defines a
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  • person's spiritual life more so than that person's prayer life,
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  • and Paul had a deep and abiding one.
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  • Now, just an interesting note about that.
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  • Whenever you read Paul's prayers for people, he never once prays
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  • for anything physical.
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  • I'm not saying he never did.
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  • It's just never recorded that he did.
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  • What he prays for are things that he thought were much more
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  • important than just a general blessing for the church or a
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  • physical ailment, but what he wrote down were the really heart
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  • issues that matter the most.
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  • And in this case, we find out that he prays for love.
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  • In verse 9 he says, "And this I pray."
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  • So, here's the main request.
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  • "This I pray that your love may abound still more and more in
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  • knowledge and all discernment, that you may approve the things
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  • that are excellent, that you may be sincere and without a fence
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  • until the day of Christ, being filled with the fruits of
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  • righteousness, which are by Jesus Christ, to the glory and
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  • the praise of God."
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  • Now, Paul has one thing that he's praying for, one specific
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  • thing above all else, and that is love.
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  • That is the sum of his prayer.
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  • He's praying for their love.
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  • All of the other phrases beyond that in verse 9, 10, and 11
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  • support that one main thought.
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  • Now, why would Paul pray for their love?
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  • Well, because that is the hallmark of their faith, right?
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  • He said, "Now abide faith, hope, and love, and the greatest of
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  • these is love."
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  • Jesus said, "By this, all men will know you're my disciples,
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  • by the love you have for one another."
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  • So, he prays for the most important expression of their
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  • Christian faith and that is the expression of love.
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  • By the way, Paul also mentions the idea of love, not only here,
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  • but also in those other books that I just mentioned,
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  • Colossians, Ephesians, Thessalonians, and others.
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  • We're not surprised because faith is important and hope is
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  • vital, but love is the culminating hallmark.
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  • Now, Dwight L.
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  • Moody once said something interesting.
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  • He said, "You know, a man can be a good doctor without loving his
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  • patients, or a good lawyer without loving his clients, or a
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  • good geologists without loving rocks or science.
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  • But a man cannot be a good Christian without love."
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  • And I'm really glad it's Mother's Day because of all the
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  • people that I think set the standard for selfless living
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  • and unselfish love, it's a mother, at least
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  • I can say that in my family.
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  • You've heard the old saying, "He has a face only a mother can
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  • love," that says more about a mother than a face.
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  • It says that a mom's love is always there.
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  • It's always steadfast.
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  • No matter who you are, what you've done, you can always
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  • count on a mother's love, and I found that to be very, very true
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  • in my own situation.
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  • The Jews used to have a saying that God couldn't be everywhere
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  • and so he created mothers.
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  • I think it's more of a statement, rather than an
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  • absolute theological statement.
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  • It's a way of saying the way God expresses his presence is so
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  • often through the life of a godly mother.
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  • So, we're so thankful today that it's Mother's Day, and we can
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  • express that to you.
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  • Well, what I want to show you in Philippians 1, verses 9, 10, and
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  • 11 in Paul's prayer are four attributes of mature love, four
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  • attributes of mature love.
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  • Now, as we go through these four attributes, what I'd like you to
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  • do is to be comparing your own expressions of love to what Paul
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  • praised for theirs ought to be, four attitudes, four attributes
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  • of mature love.
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  • The first is this, our love should be plentiful.
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  • Look at verse 9 and notice, "In this I pray that your love may
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  • abound, still more and more."
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  • The word "abound" means to superabound or to exceed a fixed
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  • number or a fixed measure.
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  • Now, it's evident that they already loved one another.
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  • Paul felt their love, and Paul makes note of it in this book.
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  • You'll notice in verse 9, "I pray that your love may abound,"
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  • notice this, "still more and more.
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  • In other words, that implies they already do it, he just
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  • doesn't want them to do it less.
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  • He wants them to continue to do it, and to do it more, that your
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  • love would abound still more and more.
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  • Now, how do you increase something that's already
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  • overflowing?
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  • It's pretty easy, you just turn on the hose and walk away, let
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  • it run.
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  • This is a mistake I've made in my own yard.
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  • I have inadvertently watered my neighbors' yards from time to
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  • time by trying to fill a little pond, or water an area of my
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  • grass, or a tree and I forgot, and two hours later, it's like,
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  • oh, there's water everywhere.
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  • Now, when Paul says, "I'm praying for your love to
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  • abound," what is he's speaking of specifically?
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  • It's possible that he is praying that their love would be the
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  • kind of love that goes out of the boundaries of loving just
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  • the church and loving different kinds of people in the world.
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  • That certainly would be in line with what Jesus was all about.
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  • He said, "For God so loved the world that He gave His only
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  • begotten Son."
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  • A few years ago when I went to Iraq for the first time, I told
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  • you that I brought shoe boxes with me, 20.000 shoe boxes that
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  • many of you packed, and we brought them into Baghdad.
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  • The most striking thing about that trip is what one of the
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  • Iraqi officials said to me.
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  • He made a statement that was shocking.
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  • He said, "Up to this point in my mind," he said, "I always
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  • thought, we always thought, that it was the Christian West that
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  • hated us, but I can see by this token of your love that it's the
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  • Christians that love us."
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  • Your simple shoe box expressions were like overflowing love into
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  • another culture that never experienced something like that
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  • before.
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  • However, I believe that Paul is referring to this specific
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  • demonstration of love to one another within the church.
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  • I don't think he's speaking of loving God.
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  • I don't think he's speaking of loving God's world.
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  • I think he is specifically speaking of loving God's people,
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  • the church.
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  • Why do I say this?
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  • Because he writes the same thing, almost in 1 Thessalonians
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  • chapter 3, verse 12.
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  • Let me read it to you.
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  • "May the Lord make your love increase and overflow for each
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  • other."
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  • Why is that important?
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  • I think it's important because sometimes it's easier to love
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  • people you never see than people you see every day.
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  • The easiest thing is talking about, "I love the world.
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  • Oh, I love the world."
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  • But the people in your own home, or in your own world space, it's
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  • sometimes more difficult.
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  • It's like a cartoon I want saw and the main character said,
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  • "Oh, I love the world, it's just the people I can't stand."
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  • It's easy to say, "I love people I never see."
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  • But people you do see and work with, it's different.
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  • It's different.
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  • So, I think he is praying that their love for one another would
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  • overflow, would abound more and more, that that hose of love
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  • would keep on running.
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  • Interesting, one of the church historians named Tertullian made
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  • mention in his writings that when the church started growing
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  • rapidly in the Roman Empire, that the government sent spies
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  • into different congregations because they were afraid that
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  • this new group of citizens, these Christians, would be very
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  • disloyal to the Roman government.
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  • So, one of the spies went into a church, came back and wrote this
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  • report.
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  • "These Christians are very strange people, they speak of
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  • one by the name of Jesus who is absent but whom they seem to be
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  • expecting it anytime, and my how they love him, and my how they
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  • love one another."
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  • Interesting that an unbelieving spy in a Christian congregation
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  • made note of the fact that they loved one another so intensely.
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  • So, take that little test in your mind right now and ask
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  • yourself this, "Does your own love abound?"
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  • Would that be a word that describes the expression of your
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  • love?
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  • Think about your marriage, is your love toward your spouse an
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  • abounding love, or in your home toward your children, or toward
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  • your parents, or among your friends?
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  • Would you say that that is a good description of your own
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  • love experience in your life?
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  • You're the kind of a person that love just keeps growing and
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  • growing and abounding more and more.
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  • You say, "Is that even possible?"
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  • Well, yes, it is possible.
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  • It is possible because in Romans chapter 5 Paul said, "The love
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  • of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit."
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  • The love of God has been poured out, or literally it gushes out,
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  • it implies there is no limit to it at all.
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  • What that means then is that we have an unlimited capacity to
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  • love.
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  • If you're one of those type of people, and I've met a few, who
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  • say, "I'm just fresh out of love.
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  • I've loved all the love out.
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  • I've got no more love to give.
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  • It's all gone now," I'd say, well, you need a better
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  • connection because the love of God gushes out, is poured out by
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  • the Holy Spirit.
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  • Last time I checked, he never ran out.
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  • So, what this implies is, is it God's love flows into your life
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  • it oughta what?
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  • Flow out of your life.
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  • If God flows in, it must flow through to others.
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  • Malcolm Muggeridge, a British journalist, once wrote, "The
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  • biggest disease today is not leprosy, or tuberculosis, or any
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  • other disease, but rather the feeling of being unwanted,
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  • uncared for, and deserted by everybody.
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  • The greatest evil is the lack of love, that terrible indifference
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  • toward one's neighbor who lives at the roadside assaulted by
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  • exploitation, corruption, poverty, and disease."
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  • Now, what all of this tells me is that if I have such a
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  • capacity that the Bible tells me that I have to love people, that
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  • nobody around me should ever feel love starved.
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  • They should never feel love starved.
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  • They should feel love saturated, love soaked, but not love
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  • starved because if the love of God is poured out by his Holy
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  • Spirit into me, then it can then be poured out through me.
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  • I have to receive it so that I can give it.
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  • Our love then should be plentiful.
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  • That's the first attribute of a mature love.
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  • Second, our love should be perceptive.
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  • Now, watch what he does.
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  • You know, Paul could have just said, "And this I pray that your
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  • love may abound still more and more," period.
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  • But he doesn't do that.
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  • He says, "That your love may abound, still more and more in
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  • knowledge, and all discernment."
  • 00:16:31.250 --> 00:16:36.090
  • Now, this is important because now Paul is qualifying what
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  • overflowing love is to look like by adding these parameters of
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  • knowledge and discernment.
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  • You see, Paul is not naive.
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  • He's not throwing out love like some cliche is tolerate anything
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  • except everything kind of love.
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  • He says, "No, the overflowing love that I am speaking about to
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  • one another needs banks just like a river has banks.
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  • And one bank is called knowledge and the other bank is called
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  • discernment.
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  • And your love needs to flow within those banks to be safe."
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  • You see, overflowing love sounds really great, but it is like a
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  • river.
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  • And if that water has free flow without any direction or
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  • discretion, it can kill people.
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  • A few years ago, I was in Honduras.
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  • They had just had a flood, and I was in a helicopter going over
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  • these villages.
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  • The homes were washed out, schools, hospitals were gone.
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  • People were huddled masses in the jungles trying to find a
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  • place for shelter.
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  • And it was all because of a river that overflowed its banks.
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  • Water's a blessing, but that much water that just flows
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  • wherever it wants to can destroy people's lives.
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  • And so too with love.
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  • If our love is just pure emotion without discretion or direction,
  • 00:17:57.080 --> 00:18:02.120
  • it can bring devastation.
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  • It needs those banks in which to flow.
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  • So, let's look at them.
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  • Let's look at them one by one.
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  • The first bank is called knowledge, that your love may
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  • still abound more and more in knowledge.
  • 00:18:14.290 --> 00:18:18.170
  • What does that mean?
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  • The word "epignosis," the Greek word for knowledge here means an
  • 00:18:21.050 --> 00:18:26.070
  • expert knowledge, a mature knowledge, brought on by
  • 00:18:26.080 --> 00:18:29.180
  • experience.
  • 00:18:29.190 --> 00:18:31.290
  • If you know anything about Paul's writing, you know that
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  • Paul will often take love and knowledge and combine them.
  • 00:18:34.130 --> 00:18:39.120
  • Sometimes he'll oppose them, he'll show the difference
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  • between them.
  • 00:18:42.130 --> 00:18:43.200
  • For example, in 1 Corinthians chapter 8 he says, "Knowledge
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  • puffs up, but love builds up."
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  • He's contrasting love and knowledge.
  • 00:18:52.150 --> 00:18:54.020
  • Or 1 Corinthians chapter 13, "Though I speak with a tongue of
  • 00:18:54.030 --> 00:18:58.260
  • men, angels, but I have not love I become like a clanging cymbal
  • 00:18:58.270 --> 00:19:05.000
  • sounding brass.
  • 00:19:05.010 --> 00:19:06.050
  • And though I can understand all mysteries and have all
  • 00:19:06.060 --> 00:19:09.060
  • knowledge, but I have not love, I have become nothing."
  • 00:19:09.070 --> 00:19:15.140
  • So, he says, knowledge needs love but he also says love needs
  • 00:19:15.150 --> 00:19:20.100
  • knowledge for that love to be responsible love.
  • 00:19:20.110 --> 00:19:25.190
  • Remember, when Paul spoke about a zealous group of religious
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  • brethren of his?
  • 00:19:30.170 --> 00:19:31.240
  • He said, "They have a zeal for God, but it's not according to
  • 00:19:31.250 --> 00:19:35.060
  • knowledge."
  • 00:19:35.070 --> 00:19:36.020
  • And he faulted them for that.
  • 00:19:36.030 --> 00:19:38.150
  • It's pure emotion, but no knowledge.
  • 00:19:38.160 --> 00:19:41.280
  • Now, if you diminish your need for knowledge, and you place
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  • feeling above knowledge, like so many people do.
  • 00:19:48.230 --> 00:19:52.010
  • "Just do what's in your heart, man, whatever you feel like
  • 00:19:52.020 --> 00:19:54.230
  • doing."
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  • That is the most dangerous, irresponsible thing you could
  • 00:19:56.020 --> 00:19:59.040
  • ever do.
  • 00:19:59.050 --> 00:20:00.180
  • And you would be a dangerous person to live that way.
  • 00:20:00.190 --> 00:20:03.250
  • Why do I say that?
  • 00:20:03.260 --> 00:20:05.020
  • Well, you can feel out of love with your spouse and feel in
  • 00:20:05.030 --> 00:20:11.150
  • love with somebody who's not your spouse.
  • 00:20:11.160 --> 00:20:14.270
  • A parent can feel they ought to give something, whatever
  • 00:20:14.280 --> 00:20:18.070
  • they--the child wants to their child.
  • 00:20:18.080 --> 00:20:20.120
  • Just, "I'm gonna give it because I feel that that's the loving
  • 00:20:20.130 --> 00:20:24.030
  • thing to do."
  • 00:20:24.040 --> 00:20:25.080
  • Well, that could be the worst thing to do to give them
  • 00:20:25.090 --> 00:20:26.240
  • whatever they want.
  • 00:20:26.250 --> 00:20:29.130
  • You may feel that love is letting another Christian do
  • 00:20:29.140 --> 00:20:33.010
  • whatever he or she wants to do.
  • 00:20:33.020 --> 00:20:35.250
  • That's where you need knowledge, the knowledge of Matthew chapter
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  • 18 where Jesus said, "Sometimes the most loving thing you can do
  • 00:20:39.160 --> 00:20:43.190
  • is to confront another brother or sister."
  • 00:20:43.200 --> 00:20:47.080
  • And that's love.
  • 00:20:47.090 --> 00:20:48.150
  • So, mature love is not sentimentality, nor is it
  • 00:20:48.160 --> 00:20:53.020
  • emotion.
  • 00:20:53.030 --> 00:20:54.000
  • It has banks.
  • 00:20:54.010 --> 00:20:55.040
  • The first bank is knowledge.
  • 00:20:55.050 --> 00:20:57.150
  • 2 Peter chapter 1 he's says, "Make every effort to add to
  • 00:20:57.160 --> 00:21:02.020
  • your faith goodness, and to goodness knowledge."
  • 00:21:02.030 --> 00:21:06.260
  • So, follow me.
  • 00:21:06.270 --> 00:21:08.040
  • Our love should be growing, but our love should also be knowing.
  • 00:21:08.050 --> 00:21:12.100
  • Knowledge is one of the banks that allows the free flow of
  • 00:21:14.120 --> 00:21:18.230
  • love.
  • 00:21:18.240 --> 00:21:20.000
  • There's another bank I want you to notice also in verse 9, and
  • 00:21:20.010 --> 00:21:23.100
  • that is discernment.
  • 00:21:23.110 --> 00:21:25.110
  • "That your love may abound still more and more in knowledge and
  • 00:21:25.120 --> 00:21:28.200
  • all discernment."
  • 00:21:28.210 --> 00:21:31.180
  • Discernment means insight, mature insight, or sensitive
  • 00:21:31.190 --> 00:21:36.080
  • moral perception.
  • 00:21:36.090 --> 00:21:39.060
  • Allow me to explain, we might have an affection for somebody
  • 00:21:39.070 --> 00:21:43.190
  • else, but that doesn't mean we have the right to express that
  • 00:21:43.200 --> 00:21:47.060
  • affection any way we see fit.
  • 00:21:47.070 --> 00:21:50.190
  • We need to bring discernment into it.
  • 00:21:50.200 --> 00:21:53.130
  • See, there are moral and ethical considerations that are to
  • 00:21:53.140 --> 00:21:57.090
  • govern the overflowing expression of our love to
  • 00:21:57.100 --> 00:22:01.150
  • people.
  • 00:22:01.160 --> 00:22:03.040
  • To discern something is to distinguish, to make a
  • 00:22:03.050 --> 00:22:06.160
  • difference.
  • 00:22:06.170 --> 00:22:08.100
  • And so, every parent knows this, that love is expressed in
  • 00:22:08.110 --> 00:22:13.280
  • different ways at different times to the same child.
  • 00:22:13.290 --> 00:22:19.110
  • One day a parent will give a gift to a child.
  • 00:22:19.120 --> 00:22:22.090
  • Another day, a parent will spank a child.
  • 00:22:22.100 --> 00:22:25.090
  • Both are legitimate expressions of love.
  • 00:22:25.100 --> 00:22:28.200
  • Another example is that of Jesus Christ.
  • 00:22:32.060 --> 00:22:35.000
  • Sometimes he'd heal a person, another day he would overturn
  • 00:22:35.010 --> 00:22:39.040
  • the tables in the temple and with a whip drive out the
  • 00:22:39.050 --> 00:22:41.130
  • moneychangers.
  • 00:22:41.140 --> 00:22:42.210
  • Both are expressions of love, but in two different contexts.
  • 00:22:42.220 --> 00:22:46.150
  • Or one day Jesus would say to the crowd, "You are blessed,
  • 00:22:46.160 --> 00:22:49.070
  • blessed are you."
  • 00:22:49.080 --> 00:22:51.070
  • Another day he'd look at another crowd filled with Pharisees and
  • 00:22:51.080 --> 00:22:53.240
  • say, "You whitewashed sepulchres."
  • 00:22:53.250 --> 00:22:56.030
  • Both are expressions of love from the one who is the author
  • 00:22:56.040 --> 00:22:59.200
  • of love himself.
  • 00:22:59.210 --> 00:23:02.050
  • Now, most of us know that the most frequently used Greek word
  • 00:23:02.060 --> 00:23:07.060
  • for love in the New Testament is what?
  • 00:23:07.070 --> 00:23:09.040
  • Tell me.
  • 00:23:09.050 --> 00:23:10.060
  • Shout it out.
  • 00:23:10.070 --> 00:23:11.140
  • Agape, agape is the Greek word for love that expresses God's
  • 00:23:11.150 --> 00:23:17.030
  • love for us, generally love for one another as to be at that
  • 00:23:17.040 --> 00:23:20.280
  • supreme superior, that's what we aspire to, agape love.
  • 00:23:20.290 --> 00:23:24.050
  • Well, make sure that you're agape isn't sloppy.
  • 00:23:24.060 --> 00:23:28.260
  • Don't love with sloppy agape.
  • 00:23:31.150 --> 00:23:32.250
  • Sloppy agape is saying you love somebody, but it's really a
  • 00:23:32.260 --> 00:23:39.090
  • selfish love.
  • 00:23:39.100 --> 00:23:40.200
  • "I'm gonna do something or say something 'cause I don't want to
  • 00:23:40.210 --> 00:23:42.240
  • be disliked by that person."
  • 00:23:42.250 --> 00:23:44.150
  • That's sloppy agape.
  • 00:23:44.160 --> 00:23:45.160
  • 1 Corinthians chapter 13, verse 6 sums it up.
  • 00:23:45.170 --> 00:23:51.010
  • "Love does not rejoice in iniquity, but it rejoices in the
  • 00:23:51.020 --> 00:23:57.020
  • truth."
  • 00:23:57.030 --> 00:23:58.240
  • So, our love should be abounding plentiful love, but it should
  • 00:23:58.250 --> 00:24:03.110
  • also be perceptive, having run within the banks of knowledge
  • 00:24:03.120 --> 00:24:08.290
  • and discernment.
  • 00:24:09.000 --> 00:24:10.130
  • Now, look at verse 10.
  • 00:24:10.140 --> 00:24:13.090
  • That you may approve the things that are excellent, that you may
  • 00:24:13.100 --> 00:24:18.180
  • be sincere and without offense till the day of Christ.
  • 00:24:18.190 --> 00:24:23.010
  • You see where it begins the sentence with the word, "that."
  • 00:24:23.020 --> 00:24:27.030
  • Everything that follows is a purpose clause, it is called, a
  • 00:24:27.040 --> 00:24:30.180
  • purpose clause.
  • 00:24:30.190 --> 00:24:32.090
  • In other words, it means so that, or in order that, or Paul
  • 00:24:32.100 --> 00:24:38.270
  • is saying, "Here's the reason you need these two riverbanks of
  • 00:24:38.280 --> 00:24:43.200
  • knowledge and discernment.
  • 00:24:43.210 --> 00:24:45.210
  • Here's why.
  • 00:24:45.220 --> 00:24:46.220
  • Here's the purpose for it.
  • 00:24:46.230 --> 00:24:48.090
  • It's so that you can approve the things that are excellent."
  • 00:24:48.100 --> 00:24:54.200
  • Now, that little word "approve" was a word used in ancient times
  • 00:24:54.210 --> 00:25:00.120
  • to test metals, to approve metals, to take a coin and
  • 00:25:00.130 --> 00:25:04.170
  • determine how much real metal versus alloys in it.
  • 00:25:04.180 --> 00:25:08.220
  • You would you would examine it, you would test it, and you would
  • 00:25:08.230 --> 00:25:12.180
  • test it for purity.
  • 00:25:12.190 --> 00:25:14.200
  • - announcer: Love isn't a feeling or letting someone do
  • 00:25:17.150 --> 00:25:19.230
  • whatever they want.
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  • 00:25:21.020 --> 00:25:23.260
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  • to extend love to others through your service to Christ.
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