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  • and friends ofCreflo Dollar Ministries.
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  • male announcer: Coming up nexton "Changing Your World."
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  • Creflo Dollar: Sometimes we getto wandering way far away from
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  • the will of God for our lives,and brokenness can be used
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  • as a tool to bring you backinto his loving arms.
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  • I don't know about you, but youknow, in life sometimes,
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  • you know, you take a detour awayfrom the plan and the purpose
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  • of God for your life.
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  • And in the middle of that, youmay experience some brokenness.
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  • That's just God saying, Hey,"I'm getting you back on
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  • the path.
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  • You're wandering right now.
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  • There is still a willfor your life.
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  • There is still a planfor your life.
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  • There is still an anointing thatI've given you for your life and
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  • so I'm gonna use brokenness,although I may not send it, but
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  • I will use it to bring you backinto my loving "arms.
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  • So there's a beauty ofbrokenness because
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  • of where you end up.
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  • Creflo Dollar: If you haveyour Bibles, go with me
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  • to the book of Psalms,the book of Psalms 147.
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  • I'm going to use two Scripturesfor our text and I want to talk
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  • to you about a serious subject.
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  • It's--you know, I'd go back andforth on whether or not I was
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  • ready to present this and Ibelieve that this is time.
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  • Today, I'm gonna talk to youabout brokenness and I'm gonna
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  • talk to you about how toovercome brokenness.
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  • Because I don't think peopleunderstand that a lot of things
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  • that we do in our life, it maybe a result of unresolved
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  • brokenness in your life.
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  • This conference this week hasbeen about worth, value, the
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  • search for significance.
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  • And you have to understand thatif God values you, he says
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  • you're the apple of his eye, ifGod values you, you're gonna
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  • have to learn how to valueyourself.
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  • You know, you're talkin' aboutloving somebody, it's gonna be
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  • you understanding how to loveyourself, and so it's important
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  • for you to valuewhat God values.
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  • God values you and it'simportant for you to not let
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  • somebody devalue you becauseGod values you.
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  • You are worth everything tothe kingdom of God
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  • and God put you here.
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  • You have a purpose.
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  • You have a plan.
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  • You have a job.
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  • You have things that you'resupposed to do.
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  • But one of the things that Iwant you to see is if you can
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  • understand this issue ofbrokenness, brokenness is a root
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  • that will give birth to fruit.
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  • And sometimes that fruit in ourcharacter and fruit in our life,
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  • sometimes we say, "Well,that's just how I am,"
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  • and really it's not.
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  • It's just the fruit ofbrokenness developing
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  • and growing more and morein your life.
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  • And I want to show you how toidentify those areas, and then
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  • if we have time show you how tobreak free from it so that you
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  • can achieve everything that Godhas purposed for your life.
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  • In Psalms 147, verse 3, and thenwe're gonna go to Psalms 34.
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  • Psalms 147, verse 3 says, "Hehealeth the broken in heart,
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  • and bindeth up their wounds."
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  • He healeth the broken in heartand bindeth up their wounds.
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  • And then if you'll go to Psalms34, Psalms 34, verse 17 through
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  • 19, and in verse 17 he says,"The righteous cry, and the Lord
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  • heareth and delivereth them outof all their troubles."
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  • Verse 18, "The Lord is nigh untothem that are of a broken heart;
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  • and saveth such as be of acontrite spirit."
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  • Verse 19, "Many are theafflictions of the righteous:
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  • but the Lord delivereth him outof them all."
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  • Praise God.
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  • Many are the afflictionsof the righteous.
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  • So if you're born again andyou're the righteousness of God,
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  • you should not be surprised.
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  • Many are the afflictions ofthe righteous, but the Lord
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  • delivereth you from all of them.
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  • Now, let's begin.
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  • What is brokenness?
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  • How would we define brokenness?
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  • Brokenness is the flawedcondition of humanity that
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  • creates a tendency for peopleto hurt themselves
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  • and to hurt others.
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  • Let me say that again.
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  • Brokenness is the flawedcondition of humanity that
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  • creates a tendency for peopleto hurt themselves
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  • and to hurt others.
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  • You see, one of the facts ofbeing human is that we don't
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  • always get things right.
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  • One of the truths of being ahuman being is that we mess up.
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  • And if you begin to understandthat, you know,
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  • you don't beat yourself up.
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  • This is something that, being ahuman, it happens because of
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  • your humanity.
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  • Look at Romans chapter 3:10.
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  • And sometimes Christians don'tthink that this is something
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  • that will happen to them becauseyou're Christians and you
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  • know God.
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  • Well, I mean, I just read youtwo Scriptures where God is
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  • committed to the brokenhearted,where God has made a decision to
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  • be there for those who arebroken, so even those who are
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  • of Jesus Christ will experiencetimes of brokenness.
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  • David experienced a timeof brokenness.
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  • And so it's something that wegot to talk about because we
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  • can't just kind of blow it awayand act like, "Well, this is not
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  • going to happen to me becauseI pray and I fast."
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  • And all that stuff is good,but brokenness is a reality
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  • and hopefully I'll getto showing you
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  • a graceful brokenness, how Goduses it to really bring you
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  • to a place of accomplishinghis will for your life.
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  • Romans 3:10 says, "As it iswritten, There is none
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  • righteous, no, not one."
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  • Boy, that's somethin'.
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  • If it were not for Jesus Christ,there's none righteous.
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  • If it were not for Jesus Christ,we wouldn't even be the
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  • righteousness of God right now.
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  • We're righteous becauseof his righteousness,
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  • not because of ours.
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  • So he says, "There's not onerighteous, no, not one."
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  • So true brokenness is a tool bywhich God brings his work.
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  • He brings his sheep that arewandering back into his
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  • loving arms.
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  • Now, listen to that.
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  • It's a tool that God can use tobring his wandering sheep back
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  • into his loving arms.
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  • Sometimes we get to wanderingway far away from the will of
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  • God for our lives and brokennesscan be used as a tool to bring
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  • you back into his loving arms.
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  • I don't know about you, but youknow, in life sometimes,
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  • you know, you take a detour awayfrom the plan and the purpose
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  • of God for your life.
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  • And in the middle of that, youmay experience some brokenness.
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  • That's just God saying,"Hey, I'm getting you back
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  • on the path.
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  • You're wandering right now.
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  • There is still a willfor your life.
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  • There is still a planfor your life.
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  • There is still an anointing thatI've given you for your life.
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  • And so I'm gonna use brokenness,although I may not send it, but
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  • I will use it to bring you backinto my loving arms."
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  • So there's a beauty ofbrokenness because
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  • of where you end up.
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  • And maybe it was rough, andmaybe it hurt, and maybe it was
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  • painful, maybe somebody else washurt and it was painful, but at
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  • the end of the day I want you totrust that God can even use your
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  • brokenness to bring you backinto the loving arms of the
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  • Heavenly Father.
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  • And so let's look at Romanschapter 7, and verse 15.
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  • And you know, I'm tryin' tostart off just really chilled
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  • and not get too excited beforeyou understand where
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  • we're going.
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  • Romans 7:15 says, "For that--"this is Paul talking,
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  • "For that which I do I allownot: for what I would,
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  • that do I not; but what I hate,that do I."
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  • Did you catch what happens here?
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  • Paul says that he's doingthe things that he knew
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  • he wasn't supposed to do.
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  • Paul is saying that Paul wantedto do what was right,
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  • but he didn't.
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  • He still did the thing he hated.
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  • He wanted to do what was right,but he didn't.
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  • He still did the thing he hated.
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  • Some of you can relate to that,that you're wanting to do right,
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  • but you're ending up still doingthe thing you hated.
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  • You don't even like it.
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  • You know the danger of it.
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  • You know what happens.
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  • And so brokenness in your life,you have to understand, that has
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  • never been resolved, brokennessin your life that has never been
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  • dealt with, you've neverresolved it may be infiltrating
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  • your life and it may beinfiltrating your relationships.
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  • Brokenness in your life that'sunresolved, brokenness in your
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  • life that you've not dealt with,it may somehow be infiltrating
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  • your life.
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  • It may somehow be infiltratingyour relationships.
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  • Now, let me say this.
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  • You will not be able to makeprogress above the level
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  • of your unresolved brokenness.
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  • You will not be able to besuccessful above the level of
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  • your unresolved brokenness.
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  • And so it's important right now.
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  • It's a key thing that if we canbegin to deal with it--first of
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  • all, if we can start recognizingit and then we start dealing
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  • with it, then we can locatewhere it's come into our lives,
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  • and so that's what I want todeal with this morning.
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  • So what is it about yourcharacter, what is it about
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  • your life that may be a resultof brokenness?
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  • What is it about how you carryyourself that may be a result
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  • of brokenness?
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  • What is it about--you know,people may say that, you know,
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  • you're a complainer, or they maysay that you're selfish
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  • and all of those things.
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  • It's a fruit of brokenness, andso could it be true that how you
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  • carry yourself may be a resultof your brokenness?
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  • You know, sometimes we like toput the blame on other things
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  • and blaming people for thingsmay be a result of
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  • your brokenness.
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  • So I'm gonna cover severalthings, several fruits of
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  • brokenness, if you will, and Iwant you to listen to 'em to at
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  • least identify those fruits ofbrokenness so you can leave
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  • from here sayin', "Ahh,yeah, that's me.
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  • That's me.
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  • I need to resolve that."
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  • And so the first fruit ofbrokenness is something
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  • called defensiveness.
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  • If you are a defensive person,it's probably something that has
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  • infiltrated your life.
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  • It's something that has becomea part and infiltrated
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  • your relationships.
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  • Defensiveness.
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  • Look at your life and seeif you are defensive.
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  • You know, this is so true.
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  • Acceptance is the first stepto recovery.
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  • Until you come to the point ofaccepting, "Okay, that's my
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  • issue," until you come to thepoint of accepting,
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  • "Okay, I have that in my life,"acceptance is the first step
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  • to recovering.
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  • So if we can't admit that we'vemessed up, we're going to never
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  • be able to changefor the better.
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  • If we just kinda keep coveringup because, oh, it makes me feel
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  • bad or it makes me feel sad thenyou're never going to change
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  • for the better.
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  • So we've got to admit,"Hey, I messed up.
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  • I admit, I'm defensive," okay,and then you take ownership of
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  • the tension rather than gettingdefensive and blaming everyone
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  • and everything else instead.
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  • By taking ownership of it,by accepting it, then you're
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  • gonna be in a place where youcan really overcome
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  • this area of being defensive.
  • 00:13:40.266 --> 00:13:41.567
  • But you're defensive, why?
  • 00:13:41.600 --> 00:13:42.935
  • Because of an area of brokennessin your life.
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  • You know, the thing about beingbroken is that God already knows
  • 00:13:46.972 --> 00:13:49.909
  • how to put you back togetheragain.
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  • You're not destroyed.
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  • If something is destroyed,you can't put it back
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  • together again.
  • 00:13:55.347 --> 00:13:56.649
  • But if you're broken, you can beput back together again and God
  • 00:13:56.682 --> 00:13:59.418
  • is committed to putting brokenpeople back together again.
  • 00:13:59.451 --> 00:14:05.357
  • But if you don't acceptresponsibility for being
  • 00:14:05.391 --> 00:14:09.862
  • defensive and saying, "Well, youknow, I'm a person that's
  • 00:14:09.895 --> 00:14:14.967
  • defensive because of somebrokenness in my life."
  • 00:14:15.000 --> 00:14:17.670
  • So examine those area ofbrokenness in your life and ask
  • 00:14:17.703 --> 00:14:20.339
  • yourself, "Has that produced mebeing a defensive person in
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  • my life?"
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  • That's number one.
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  • Number two, you know, sometimesin relationships you give people
  • 00:14:26.979 --> 00:14:30.416
  • the quiet treatment.
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  • Sometimes in a relationship,you put up that stone wall.
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  • What is it that causes you togive people the quiet treatment?
  • 00:14:35.921 --> 00:14:40.392
  • You know, if someone has indeedwronged you, talking to them
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  • about it is the best first step.
  • 00:14:45.297 --> 00:14:47.666
  • Somebody's done something toyou, it's not goin' around, and
  • 00:14:47.700 --> 00:14:51.370
  • giving them the quiet treatment,and putting up a wall, and I'm
  • 00:14:51.403 --> 00:14:55.040
  • just not gonna say anything.
  • 00:14:55.074 --> 00:14:56.375
  • That's not how you do it.
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  • The very best first step is totalk about it and to get it out
  • 00:14:57.743 --> 00:15:02.047
  • in the opening.
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  • And so giving someone the coldshoulder, it just makes the
  • 00:15:03.415 --> 00:15:08.387
  • situation worse.
  • 00:15:08.420 --> 00:15:10.856
  • And if you begin to look atpeople, and you may know
  • 00:15:10.889 --> 00:15:13.058
  • somebody that, you know, theygive the quiet treatment.
  • 00:15:13.092 --> 00:15:17.629
  • Every time something happens intheir life, they get quiet.
  • 00:15:17.663 --> 00:15:20.933
  • I'm not gonna say anythingto anybody.
  • 00:15:20.966 --> 00:15:22.768
  • And sometimes you're actuallythinking that's resolving it.
  • 00:15:22.801 --> 00:15:25.137
  • No, it's not.
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  • The very best first step you cando is learn how to confront the
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  • situation, learn how to talkabout the situation.
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  • Now, I use the word"confrontation."
  • 00:15:32.745 --> 00:15:34.179
  • Confrontation doesn't have to bea negative word.
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  • Confrontation, it'll bring aboutgrowth for the person who was
  • 00:15:37.016 --> 00:15:41.020
  • doing the confronting and theperson who's being confronted.
  • 00:15:41.053 --> 00:15:44.156
  • But sometimes, man, we thinksomehow that something
  • 00:15:44.189 --> 00:15:47.659
  • beneficial comes out of beingquiet, that somethin' beneficial
  • 00:15:47.693 --> 00:15:51.797
  • happens after--you know, as aresult of stonewalling.
  • 00:15:51.830 --> 00:15:55.000
  • I'll say it once, I'll say itagain, if someone has indeed
  • 00:15:55.034 --> 00:15:58.637
  • wronged you, talking to themabout it is the best first step.
  • 00:15:58.670 --> 00:16:04.143
  • Somebody says, "I hear whatyou're saying, but I don't know
  • 00:16:04.176 --> 00:16:06.378
  • if I want to do something likethat."
  • 00:16:06.412 --> 00:16:07.913
  • Well, there's an area ofbrokenness that has produced
  • 00:16:07.946 --> 00:16:10.849
  • this fruit in your life.
  • 00:16:10.883 --> 00:16:12.184
  • Let's look at the next one.
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  • Criticism.
  • 00:16:14.653 --> 00:16:15.954
  • Criticism is a fruit ofbrokenness.
  • 00:16:15.988 --> 00:16:19.425
  • You know, one of the ways peopletry to pry attention away from
  • 00:16:19.458 --> 00:16:23.962
  • their mistakes is to point outthe faults of other people.
  • 00:16:23.996 --> 00:16:29.068
  • And so you have to ask yourself,"Why am I so critical?
  • 00:16:29.101 --> 00:16:33.439
  • Why am I always finding myselfcriticizing other people?"
  • 00:16:33.472 --> 00:16:37.910
  • Well, maybe you're trying to,you know, move the attention
  • 00:16:37.943 --> 00:16:40.746
  • away from your mistakes andpoint out the faults of
  • 00:16:40.779 --> 00:16:44.216
  • somebody else.
  • 00:16:44.249 --> 00:16:45.551
  • I mean, we all know peoplewho do that.
  • 00:16:45.584 --> 00:16:48.320
  • And if you're doing that, thething I would do is, like, "What
  • 00:16:48.353 --> 00:16:52.891
  • is it in my life that's happenedwhere I feel so bad about, you
  • 00:16:52.925 --> 00:16:58.664
  • know, the things that I've done,I feel so bad about my mistakes
  • 00:16:58.697 --> 00:17:03.936
  • that the answer to it is, 'Letme just see if I can, you know,
  • 00:17:03.969 --> 00:17:09.374
  • get some--look at what somebodyelse is doing and make them
  • 00:17:09.408 --> 00:17:11.877
  • look bad?'"
  • 00:17:11.910 --> 00:17:13.212
  • A broken spirit, a broken heartis the reason why that happens.
  • 00:17:13.245 --> 00:17:18.584
  • You're gonna find out today thata lot of conduct that people
  • 00:17:18.617 --> 00:17:24.022
  • display, if they will takethe time to deal with
  • 00:17:24.056 --> 00:17:28.227
  • their brokenness, all of thesethings will go away as well.
  • 00:17:28.260 --> 00:17:32.431
  • Let's look at this.
  • 00:17:32.464 --> 00:17:33.765
  • Number four, contempt.
  • 00:17:33.799 --> 00:17:35.367
  • What do I mean when I usethe word "contempt"?
  • 00:17:35.400 --> 00:17:37.302
  • It's a state of being mean,despised, disgraced, dishonored.
  • 00:17:37.336 --> 00:17:44.042
  • You see, disregarding someonegives the impression that even
  • 00:17:44.076 --> 00:17:47.779
  • if they did do what was right inyour eyes, it still wouldn't
  • 00:17:47.813 --> 00:17:51.717
  • be enough.
  • 00:17:51.750 --> 00:17:53.051
  • Think about that.
  • 00:17:53.085 --> 00:17:54.386
  • That's bondage.
  • 00:17:54.419 --> 00:17:55.721
  • You know, even if I did dosomething right, it still
  • 00:17:55.754 --> 00:17:59.858
  • wouldn't be enough.
  • 00:17:59.892 --> 00:18:01.193
  • Comments in a loving tone willalways go a lot further than
  • 00:18:01.226 --> 00:18:04.530
  • anything said in rudenessand sarcasm.
  • 00:18:04.563 --> 00:18:07.699
  • Why is it that you can findyourself continuing to be
  • 00:18:07.733 --> 00:18:10.269
  • sarcastic and rudeto other people?
  • 00:18:10.302 --> 00:18:12.804
  • What is it that causes youto be a mean person?
  • 00:18:12.838 --> 00:18:15.541
  • There's brokenness in your life.
  • 00:18:15.574 --> 00:18:16.875
  • You're mean to everybody thatcomes around you because maybe
  • 00:18:16.909 --> 00:18:19.845
  • in a relationship it didn't workout, or maybe somebody said
  • 00:18:19.878 --> 00:18:23.048
  • something that really made youfeel bad about, you know,
  • 00:18:23.081 --> 00:18:27.186
  • who you are and insignificant.
  • 00:18:27.219 --> 00:18:29.454
  • Brokenness will be the reasonwhy you can carry on this kind
  • 00:18:29.488 --> 00:18:34.293
  • of thing and you're just mean,you're rude, you're sarcastic.
  • 00:18:34.326 --> 00:18:38.163
  • And here's another thing,somebody says, "Well, that's
  • 00:18:38.197 --> 00:18:40.899
  • just me and I'm not gonna changefor anybody."
  • 00:18:40.933 --> 00:18:43.135
  • No, that's not you.
  • 00:18:43.168 --> 00:18:44.469
  • That's the fruit of brokenness.
  • 00:18:44.503 --> 00:18:45.804
  • That's the broken you.
  • 00:18:45.837 --> 00:18:47.139
  • That's not you.
  • 00:18:47.172 --> 00:18:48.473
  • And sometimes when people makeexcuses for not wanting to
  • 00:18:48.507 --> 00:18:53.145
  • change, they're just--that'sjust their reason for not
  • 00:18:53.178 --> 00:18:56.348
  • wanting to do it.
  • 00:18:56.381 --> 00:18:57.683
  • And so hopefully just byidentifying these things that
  • 00:18:57.716 --> 00:19:01.587
  • you can just kinda reallysee it, "Oh wow, I didn't--
  • 00:19:01.620 --> 00:19:04.523
  • I've never related that to mybrokenness," that it'll cause
  • 00:19:04.556 --> 00:19:07.859
  • you to want to just dosomething about it.
  • 00:19:07.893 --> 00:19:09.628
  • Number five, and I realizeI'm runnin' out of time,
  • 00:19:09.661 --> 00:19:14.099
  • negative assumptions.
  • 00:19:14.132 --> 00:19:16.268
  • We've probably done that, allof us, negative assumptions.
  • 00:19:16.301 --> 00:19:19.738
  • You know, not everyone hasearned perfect trust.
  • 00:19:19.771 --> 00:19:23.508
  • That's true, but most of us alsodon't deserve to have the
  • 00:19:23.542 --> 00:19:29.348
  • motives questioned.
  • 00:19:29.381 --> 00:19:32.417
  • I mean, every time you lookaround, you're questioning
  • 00:19:32.451 --> 00:19:34.052
  • my motives.
  • 00:19:34.086 --> 00:19:35.387
  • I have not earned perfect trust,but do I deserve to have every
  • 00:19:35.420 --> 00:19:40.092
  • time I do something have itto be questioned?
  • 00:19:40.125 --> 00:19:43.662
  • Negative assumptions.
  • 00:19:43.695 --> 00:19:45.530
  • Why are you always havingnegative assumptions
  • 00:19:45.564 --> 00:19:48.133
  • about everybody?
  • 00:19:48.166 --> 00:19:49.468
  • Why is it so important to youto, you know, the fact that you
  • 00:19:49.501 --> 00:19:55.641
  • know you can't earn perfecttrust, but I'm just not willing
  • 00:19:55.674 --> 00:20:00.712
  • to deal with it at all 'causeI just--I don't know,
  • 00:20:00.746 --> 00:20:04.249
  • I just don't.
  • 00:20:04.283 --> 00:20:05.617
  • I just don't.
  • 00:20:06.618 --> 00:20:07.919
  • I don't trust you.
  • 00:20:07.953 --> 00:20:09.288
  • I've heard people say that,"I just don't trust you."
  • 00:20:09.321 --> 00:20:11.790
  • Well, it's going to be real hardfor you have relationship with
  • 00:20:11.823 --> 00:20:13.558
  • people because nobody's gonnawant to be around somebody that
  • 00:20:13.592 --> 00:20:18.864
  • they feel, you know, alwaysgonna question their motives.
  • 00:20:18.897 --> 00:20:24.069
  • And every time you look around,"Well, I'm questioning
  • 00:20:24.102 --> 00:20:26.305
  • your motive.
  • 00:20:26.338 --> 00:20:27.639
  • I'm questioning youyour motive."
  • 00:20:27.673 --> 00:20:28.974
  • That's negative assumption.
  • 00:20:29.007 --> 00:20:30.309
  • And if you do not deal withthat, that makes it very
  • 00:20:30.342 --> 00:20:33.111
  • difficult for you to haverelationship with people.
  • 00:20:33.145 --> 00:20:35.747
  • Relationships are supposedto bless you.
  • 00:20:35.781 --> 00:20:38.917
  • They're supposed to help youto get across certain things.
  • 00:20:38.950 --> 00:20:41.586
  • There's something aboutthe power of relationship
  • 00:20:41.620 --> 00:20:43.889
  • that God wants to happenin a person's life.
  • 00:20:43.922 --> 00:20:46.658
  • And when you have been devalued,when you have been hurt, when
  • 00:20:46.692 --> 00:20:52.464
  • you have been betrayed, all ofthat is a part of brokenness,
  • 00:20:52.497 --> 00:20:59.638
  • then you're probably going to bea person that has a bunch of
  • 00:20:59.671 --> 00:21:02.407
  • negative assumptions.
  • 00:21:02.441 --> 00:21:03.742
  • Now, Am I saying to just trusteverybody?
  • 00:21:03.775 --> 00:21:06.011
  • No, I'm not saying that.
  • 00:21:06.044 --> 00:21:07.346
  • I'm saying maybe this is a fruitof brokenness.
  • 00:21:07.379 --> 00:21:12.384
  • Let's look at the next one,invalidating opinions.
  • 00:21:12.417 --> 00:21:17.989
  • Invalidating opinions.
  • 00:21:18.023 --> 00:21:19.791
  • Now, this person is the only onewho is ever allowed to be right.
  • 00:21:19.825 --> 00:21:24.463
  • You ever met somebody like that?
  • 00:21:24.496 --> 00:21:26.365
  • He's the only one that's everallowed to be right.
  • 00:21:26.398 --> 00:21:29.201
  • Anyone else who disagrees withthem, you're stupid and
  • 00:21:29.234 --> 00:21:32.404
  • you're foolish.
  • 00:21:32.437 --> 00:21:33.739
  • What is it that makes you thinkthat you're the only one that
  • 00:21:33.772 --> 00:21:37.042
  • can be right?
  • 00:21:37.075 --> 00:21:38.377
  • Can't nobody--I mean, you know,I don't know if you've ever been
  • 00:21:38.410 --> 00:21:41.279
  • around--that's frustratingbeing around somebody who
  • 00:21:41.313 --> 00:21:43.482
  • thinks, "I'm the only one that'sright and ain't no--
  • 00:21:43.515 --> 00:21:47.886
  • and if you don't agree with me,you stupid."
  • 00:21:47.919 --> 00:21:50.589
  • And I know you want to say,"Your mama," but you can't do
  • 00:21:50.622 --> 00:21:53.859
  • that because you know that'sprobably brokenness too.
  • 00:21:53.892 --> 00:21:56.094
  • But you gotta make sure thatin relationships,
  • 00:21:56.128 --> 00:22:02.567
  • you can't do that.
  • 00:22:02.601 --> 00:22:04.102
  • You're not perfect.
  • 00:22:04.136 --> 00:22:06.605
  • How do--what is it that causesyou to think you're the only one
  • 00:22:06.638 --> 00:22:10.208
  • that's right?
  • 00:22:10.242 --> 00:22:11.543
  • Brokenness.
  • 00:22:11.576 --> 00:22:14.012
  • That's what caused--see, youmay be checking people out and
  • 00:22:14.045 --> 00:22:18.250
  • you're tryin' to wonder,you know,
  • 00:22:18.283 --> 00:22:19.584
  • whether they're bad personor not.
  • 00:22:19.618 --> 00:22:21.686
  • I'm telling you, there's a rootto what you see.
  • 00:22:21.720 --> 00:22:24.356
  • There's a root to what youexperience.
  • 00:22:24.389 --> 00:22:27.325
  • And there's so many people thatare trying to gain success with
  • 00:22:27.359 --> 00:22:33.331
  • unresolved brokenness.
  • 00:22:33.365 --> 00:22:35.734
  • So many people who have a woundsthat they would rather cover up
  • 00:22:35.767 --> 00:22:41.206
  • and produce a false identitythan to uncover and to deal and
  • 00:22:41.239 --> 00:22:46.445
  • to get--and to heal that woundand then those characteristics
  • 00:22:46.478 --> 00:22:51.149
  • won't be there.
  • 00:22:51.183 --> 00:22:52.484
  • But this is how serious this is.
  • 00:22:52.517 --> 00:22:54.586
  • I thought, "You know what?
  • 00:22:54.619 --> 00:22:55.921
  • Maybe if I just give a list ofthings that people need to do,
  • 00:22:55.954 --> 00:22:58.557
  • it'll get their attention tosay, 'Dude, I need to deal with
  • 00:22:58.590 --> 00:23:02.894
  • these broken areas of my life.'"
  • 00:23:02.928 --> 00:23:04.496
  • A broken person that was brokenat 7, and now you're 25, you are
  • 00:23:04.529 --> 00:23:10.268
  • allowing the 7-year-old to tryto live in that body of a
  • 00:23:10.302 --> 00:23:14.372
  • 25-year-old because it's notbeen resolved.
  • 00:23:14.406 --> 00:23:17.809
  • Let's move to the next one,escalating vengeance.
  • 00:23:17.843 --> 00:23:22.280
  • Escalating vengeance.
  • 00:23:22.314 --> 00:23:23.849
  • What does that mean?
  • 00:23:23.882 --> 00:23:25.183
  • There isn't much satisfaction inthe revenge business and
  • 00:23:25.217 --> 00:23:30.789
  • retaliating after a fight isnever the right way to go.
  • 00:23:30.822 --> 00:23:35.961
  • So it might feel natural to lashout at things that have hurt us
  • 00:23:35.994 --> 00:23:42.000
  • or made us angry, but it's nothow God wants things to be.
  • 00:23:42.033 --> 00:23:48.406
  • So somebody's done something toyou, somebody said something
  • 00:23:48.440 --> 00:23:51.109
  • about you, somebody dishonoredyou and disgraced you in some
  • 00:23:51.142 --> 00:23:55.113
  • kind of way, and escalatingvengeance, and tryin' to get
  • 00:23:55.146 --> 00:23:58.383
  • revenge, and tryin' to retaliateafterwards, dude, that's not the
  • 00:23:58.416 --> 00:24:02.921
  • thing to do.
  • 00:24:02.954 --> 00:24:04.256
  • And we live in a generationwhere people are, like, so
  • 00:24:04.289 --> 00:24:07.225
  • broken that they'll do all kindsof maybe violent things because
  • 00:24:07.259 --> 00:24:12.230
  • I'm not gonna let you do that tome and get away with it.
  • 00:24:12.264 --> 00:24:14.933
  • I'm gonna get you back.
  • 00:24:14.966 --> 00:24:16.801
  • And what happens when you arearound a society of a bunch of
  • 00:24:16.835 --> 00:24:19.638
  • broken people and they areescalating vengeance?
  • 00:24:19.671 --> 00:24:23.642
  • All they're doing is thinkingabout, "How am I gonna get
  • 00:24:23.675 --> 00:24:26.144
  • you back?"
  • 00:24:26.177 --> 00:24:27.479
  • And somehow you never reallyfeel satisfied when
  • 00:24:27.512 --> 00:24:31.583
  • you do something like that.
  • 00:24:31.616 --> 00:24:33.118
  • You think you will,but you're not.
  • 00:24:33.151 --> 00:24:34.452
  • It really takes a bigger personto know that somebody has
  • 00:24:34.486 --> 00:24:38.189
  • wronged me and I can justforgive them, and I can just
  • 00:24:38.223 --> 00:24:42.627
  • walk away, and I'm not gonnaretaliate.
  • 00:24:42.661 --> 00:24:45.463
  • I just trust God and I'm notgonna, you know, rent space in
  • 00:24:45.497 --> 00:24:50.969
  • my mind where you're concerned.
  • 00:24:51.002 --> 00:24:52.671
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  • 00:24:52.704 --> 00:24:54.039
  • Peace is my most valuable asset.
  • 00:24:54.072 --> 00:24:55.373
  • I'm not gonna spend iton your drama.
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  • Creflo: I think you wouldbe amazed at what Creflo Dollar
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  • Ministry does everyday around the world.
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  • Testimonies come in from allover about the impact we have,
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  • Their lives are changed andimpacted for the better because
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  • The seeds you sow into thisministry make a mark that can
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  • never be erased, and I wantto thank you so much for your
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  • financial contributions intothe kingdom of God
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  • and into this ministry.
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  • announcer: If God has placedit on your heart to support the
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  • vision of this ministry to reachthe world with the Gospel of
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  • God from pastors CrefloDollar and Taffi Dollar.
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  • Creflo: Because of you,Creflo Dollar Ministries
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  • is providing a new understandingof grace and empowering change
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  • in the lives of millionsof people every day.
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  • Your love and financial supportmakes it possible to bring
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  • this message into millions ofhomes all across the globe.
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  • ♪♪♪
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