Joel Osteen

Joel Osteen - Fake Friends

May 4, 2025 | 27:29

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Joel Osteen | Joel Osteen - Fake Friends | May 4, 2025

Joke: god bless you. it's
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Joke: god bless you. it's great to be with you today.
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Great to be with you today. i hope you'll stay connected
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I hope you'll stay connected with us during the week,
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With us during the week, through our daily podcast,
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Through our daily podcast, our youtube channel, and
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Our youtube channel, and social media. and you can
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Social media. and you can come visit us in person.
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Come visit us in person. we'd love to have you
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We'd love to have you be a part of one of our
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Be a part of one of our services.
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I like to start with
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I like to start with something funny. i heard
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Something funny. i heard about these three sisters,
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About these three sisters, ages 96, 94, and 92 that
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Ages 96, 94, and 92 that lived together. one night,
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Lived together. one night, the 96-year-old draws a bath,
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The 96-year-old draws a bath, she puts one foot in and
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She puts one foot in and stops. she hollers
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Stops. she hollers downstairs, “i can't remember
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Downstairs, “i can't remember if i was getting in or
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If i was getting in or getting out.” the 94-year-old
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Getting out.” the 94-year-old says, “hang on. i'll come up
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Says, “hang on. i'll come up and help you.” she gets
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And help you.” she gets halfway up the stairs and
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Halfway up the stairs and stops, says, “i can't
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Stops, says, “i can't remember if i was going up or
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Remember if i was going up or coming down.” the 92-year-old
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Coming down.” the 92-year-old shook her head and said,
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Shook her head and said, “man, i hope i never get that
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“man, i hope i never get that forgetful,” and she knocked
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Forgetful,” and she knocked on wood for good luck. then
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On wood for good luck. then she said, “hang on, i'll come
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She said, “hang on, i'll come help both of you as soon as i
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Help both of you as soon as i see who's at the door.”
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See who's at the door.” (laughter) no, no, no, that's
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(laughter) no, no, no, that's not us. we're going to have
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Not us. we're going to have sound minds, clear minds, in
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Sound minds, clear minds, in jesus'name.
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Jesus'name. come on, say it like you mean
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Come on, say it like you mean it, y'all. this is my bible.
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It, y'all. this is my bible. i am what it says i am. i
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I am what it says i am. i have what it says i have. i
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Have what it says i have. i can do what it says i can do.
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Can do what it says i can do. today, i will be taught the
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Today, i will be taught the word of god. i boldly
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Word of god. i boldly confess: my mind is alert. my
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Confess: my mind is alert. my heart is receptive. i will
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Heart is receptive. i will never be the same in jesus'
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Never be the same in jesus' name. god bless you.
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Name. god bless you. i want to talk to you today
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I want to talk to you today about fake friends. there are
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About fake friends. there are people—i should say ‘ushers
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People—i should say ‘ushers lock the doors'—but there are
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Lock the doors'—but there are people that god brings into
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People that god brings into our lives that are amazing
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Our lives that are amazing people. they love us
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People. they love us unconditionally. they cheer
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Unconditionally. they cheer us on, celebrate our
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Us on, celebrate our victories, stick with us
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Victories, stick with us through thick and thin. but
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Through thick and thin. but in the midst of all these
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In the midst of all these great people will be some
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Great people will be some fake friends. people that
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Fake friends. people that have hidden agendas, ulterior
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Have hidden agendas, ulterior motives. they're not
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Motives. they're not concerned about you; they're
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Concerned about you; they're concerned about what you can
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Concerned about what you can do for them. they see you as
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Do for them. they see you as an opportunity. they'll use
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An opportunity. they'll use control and manipulation to
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Control and manipulation to get what they want. guilt you
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Get what they want. guilt you into doing things. make you
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Into doing things. make you feel bad because you can't
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Feel bad because you can't meet their expectations. a
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Meet their expectations. a fake friend is two faced.
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Fake friend is two faced. they clap when you succeed,
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They clap when you succeed, act like they're happy, but
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Act like they're happy, but down deep, they're jealous.
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Down deep, they're jealous. they were hoping you would
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They were hoping you would fail. they compliment you on
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Fail. they compliment you on that new outfit, act excited
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That new outfit, act excited about your promotion, but
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About your promotion, but behind your back they talk
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Behind your back they talk about how you didn't deserve
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About how you didn't deserve it, make derogatory remarks.
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It, make derogatory remarks. fake friends create
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Fake friends create unnecessary drama, stir
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Unnecessary drama, stir things up, bring confusion.
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Things up, bring confusion. they act like they're
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They act like they're watching after you, doing you
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Watching after you, doing you a favor, but their real
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A favor, but their real agenda is to get you upset
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Agenda is to get you upset and cause strife and turmoil.
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And cause strife and turmoil. if you don't have discernment
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If you don't have discernment and recognize who's a true
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And recognize who's a true friend, who has your best
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Friend, who has your best interest at heart, and who's
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Interest at heart, and who's a fake friend. who's just
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A fake friend. who's just here for what you can do for
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Here for what you can do for them, then life will be
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Them, then life will be frustrating.
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Frustrating. jesus said in matthew, “you
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Jesus said in matthew, “you will know them by their
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Will know them by their fruit.” it doesn't say you
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Fruit.” it doesn't say you will know them by their
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Will know them by their words. people can say one
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Words. people can say one thing. they can talk a good
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Thing. they can talk a good game, but they're not always
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Game, but they're not always who they say they are. their
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Who they say they are. their actions, how they treat you,
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Actions, how they treat you, what they do is who they are.
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What they do is who they are. you don't have to go up to an
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You don't have to go up to an apple tree and ask it, “what
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Apple tree and ask it, “what kind of tree are you.” you
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Kind of tree are you.” you look at the fruit. this is an
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Look at the fruit. this is an apple. i know it's an apple
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Apple. i know it's an apple tree. you've never gone to an
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Tree. you've never gone to an apple tree and found a lemon
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Apple tree and found a lemon growing on one of the
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Growing on one of the branches. never gone to an
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Branches. never gone to an orange tree and found a
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Orange tree and found a banana growing off of it. the
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Banana growing off of it. the tree will only produce the
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Tree will only produce the fruit of what it is. if
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Fruit of what it is. if someone is always telling you
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Someone is always telling you one thing, but the fruit is
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One thing, but the fruit is different, the fruit is not
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Different, the fruit is not lying. the fruit is who they
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Lying. the fruit is who they are. “i'm loyal, i'm
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Are. “i'm loyal, i'm faithful, i'm always going to
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Faithful, i'm always going to be there for you.” but they
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Be there for you.” but they never show up. they always
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Never show up. they always have an excuse. they're
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Have an excuse. they're always too busy. that's who
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Always too busy. that's who they are. if they're
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They are. if they're gossiping, talking bad about
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Gossiping, talking bad about people, stirring up trouble.
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People, stirring up trouble. that's showing their true
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That's showing their true colors. pay attention to
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Colors. pay attention to people's fruit. “joel they're
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People's fruit. “joel they're nice to me. they compliment
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Nice to me. they compliment me, they say kind things.”
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Me, they say kind things.” but behind your back, when
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But behind your back, when you're not around, you hear
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You're not around, you hear how they talk bad about you,
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How they talk bad about you, push you down, discredit you.
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Push you down, discredit you. i'm all for giving people the
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I'm all for giving people the benefit of the doubt. maybe
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Benefit of the doubt. maybe they were having a bad day.
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They were having a bad day. but if it happens again and
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But if it happens again and again, when it's a pattern,
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Again, when it's a pattern, their fruit is not lying.
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Their fruit is not lying. that's who they are.
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That's who they are. bottom line is you don't need
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Bottom line is you don't need fake friends. you don't need
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Fake friends. you don't need people you have to play up
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People you have to play up to, people that have hidden
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To, people that have hidden agendas, people that are two
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Agendas, people that are two faced. they're not helping
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Faced. they're not helping you move forward; they're
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You move forward; they're keeping you from your
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Keeping you from your destiny. if you'll get rid of
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Destiny. if you'll get rid of the wrong people, god will
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The wrong people, god will bring the right people.
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Bring the right people. sometimes the reason we're
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Sometimes the reason we're not seeing true friends, is
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Not seeing true friends, is we're holding on to the wrong
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We're holding on to the wrong friends. down deep we know
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Friends. down deep we know something is not right. our
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Something is not right. our discernment is going off.
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Discernment is going off. “they don't have integrity.
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“they don't have integrity. they just stir me up. they
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They just stir me up. they just want what i can do for
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Just want what i can do for them.” we try to defend them,
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Them.” we try to defend them, make excuses. you need to
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Make excuses. you need to make a change. you don't have
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Make a change. you don't have to make a big announcement.
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To make a big announcement. “you're fake. i'm done with
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“you're fake. i'm done with you.” just little by little,
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You.” just little by little, spend less and less time with
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Spend less and less time with them. the scripture says to
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Them. the scripture says to “redeem the time.” your time
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“redeem the time.” your time is too valuable to spend with
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Is too valuable to spend with people that are draining your
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People that are draining your energy, that have hidden
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Energy, that have hidden agendas, that don't really
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Agendas, that don't really care about you, but what you
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Care about you, but what you can do for them. life is
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Can do for them. life is flying by. the enemy would
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Flying by. the enemy would love for us to waste years,
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Love for us to waste years, distracted, confused, trying
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Distracted, confused, trying to figure out what they
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To figure out what they meant, controlled. do
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Meant, controlled. do yourself a favor, get rid of
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Yourself a favor, get rid of the fake friends. you have a
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The fake friends. you have a destiny to fulfill. there's a
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Destiny to fulfill. there's a calling on your life. we have
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Calling on your life. we have a responsibility to live with
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A responsibility to live with purpose and not be
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Purpose and not be sidetracked by people that
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Can pull us off course.hat
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Can pull us off course.hat this is what happened with
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This is what happened with samson. his birth was
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Samson. his birth was predicted by the prophets. he
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Predicted by the prophets. he was destined to save the
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Was destined to save the israelites. god gave him
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Israelites. god gave him supernatural strength. this
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Supernatural strength. this power to defeat his enemies.
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Power to defeat his enemies. but samson started hanging
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But samson started hanging around the wrong people. he
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Around the wrong people. he fell in love with a lady
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Named delilah. she was
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Named delilah. she was beautiful. he was so
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Beautiful. he was so infatuated, so caught up, he
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Infatuated, so caught up, he ignored what he was feeling
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Ignored what he was feeling inside. he didn't pay
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Inside. he didn't pay attention to the alarms that
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Attention to the alarms that were going off. god will
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Were going off. god will always give you a warning.
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Always give you a warning. there will be an uneasiness,
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There will be an uneasiness, an unrest. don't push it
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An unrest. don't push it down. that's god speaking to
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Down. that's god speaking to you. that's the spirit of
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You. that's the spirit of discernment telling you, “be
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Discernment telling you, “be careful. something is fake.
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Careful. something is fake. it's not what it looks like.”
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It's not what it looks like.” samson was a hebrew. the
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Samson was a hebrew. the philistines were trying to
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Philistines were trying to capture him, because he was
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Capture him, because he was so powerful. they couldn't
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So powerful. they couldn't defeat him by normal means,
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Defeat him by normal means, so they decided to try to
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So they decided to try to trick him. they told delilah
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Trick him. they told delilah to go seduce him and try to
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To go seduce him and try to find the secret of his
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Find the secret of his strength. they said in verse
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Strength. they said in verse 5, “if you'll do this, we'll
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5, “if you'll do this, we'll each pay you eleven hundred
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Each pay you eleven hundred pieces of silver.”
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Pieces of silver.” she got all dressed up. put
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Her fake eyelashes on, hert
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Her fake eyelashes on, hert hair extensions in, got her
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Hair extensions in, got her new louie vuitton bag,
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New louie vuitton bag, strutted in there to see
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Strutted in there to see samson. he looked up and saw
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Samson. he looked up and saw how beautiful she was, he
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How beautiful she was, he thought he was dreaming. he
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Thought he was dreaming. he was so caught up in how
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Was so caught up in how amazing she looked on the
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Amazing she looked on the outside, he didn't think
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Outside, he didn't think anything about what was
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Anything about what was happening on the inside. what
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Happening on the inside. what were her motives? why was she
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Were her motives? why was she there? who is this girl? she
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There? who is this girl? she was so nice, kind, and
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Was so nice, kind, and beautiful. samson thought,
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Beautiful. samson thought, “this must be the hand of
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God.” when in fact, it was
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God.” when in fact, it was the enemy at work. she wasn't
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The enemy at work. she wasn't there because she cared about
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There because she cared about samson. she was there because
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Samson. she was there because of what samson could do for
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Of what samson could do for her. she had a hidden agenda.
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Her. she had a hidden agenda. she could get paid a bunch of
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She could get paid a bunch of silver for just finding out a
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Silver for just finding out a secret. she acted so loving.
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Secret. she acted so loving. “samson, you're everything
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“samson, you're everything i've dreamed of. you're so
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I've dreamed of. you're so good looking. i want to spend
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Good looking. i want to spend my life with you.” all lies.
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My life with you.” all lies. don't believe everything you
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Don't believe everything you hear. the scripture says,
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Hear. the scripture says, “test the spirit.” dig down a
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“test the spirit.” dig down a little deeper. listen to what
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Little deeper. listen to what you're feeling inside. every
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You're feeling inside. every person is not who they say
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Person is not who they say they are. when there's a
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They are. when there's a hidden agenda, they'll say
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Hidden agenda, they'll say what you want to hear.
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What you want to hear. they'll use manipulation,
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They'll use manipulation, deception, flattery to try to
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Deception, flattery to try to get what they want.
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Get what they want. she had samson lay his head
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She had samson lay his head in her lap. she said, “now
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In her lap. she said, “now sammy boy, if you really love
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Sammy boy, if you really love me, please tell me the secret
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Me, please tell me the secret of your strength.” what's
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Of your strength.” what's amazing is samson knew she
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Amazing is samson knew she was trying to trick him. he
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Was trying to trick him. he knew she wasn't being
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Knew she wasn't being truthful, but he didn't take
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Truthful, but he didn't take it seriously. he thought he
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It seriously. he thought he could play around with it. he
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Could play around with it. he told her, “if you tie me up
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Told her, “if you tie me up with seven fresh bowstrings
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With seven fresh bowstrings that have never been dried,
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That have never been dried, then i will become weak, and
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Then i will become weak, and have the strength of an
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Have the strength of an ordinary man.” she snuck out
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Ordinary man.” she snuck out and told the philistines.
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And told the philistines. while he was sleeping, they
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While he was sleeping, they came in and tied him with
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Came in and tied him with seven fresh bowstrings.
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Seven fresh bowstrings. delilah woke him up, “samson,
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Delilah woke him up, “samson, samson, the philistines are
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Samson, the philistines are here.” he sat up and broke
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Here.” he sat up and broke those strings like they were
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Those strings like they were nothing. delilah was so
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Nothing. delilah was so upset. she came and said,
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Upset. she came and said, “samson, you lied to me. if
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“samson, you lied to me. if you loved me, you would tell
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You loved me, you would tell me the truth.” the whole
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Me the truth.” the whole time, she's been lying. she's
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Time, she's been lying. she's got an ulterior motive. she's
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Got an ulterior motive. she's working for the enemy. now
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Working for the enemy. now she's trying to make him feel
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She's trying to make him feel guilty for not telling this
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Guilty for not telling this secret. this happened two
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Secret. this happened two more times. samson made up
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More times. samson made up things where he could be
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Things where he could be captured, but it wasn't the
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Captured, but it wasn't the truth.
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You would think samson would
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You would think samson would see right through this. “man,
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See right through this. “man, this girl is not for me.
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This girl is not for me. she's in it for herself, for
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She's in it for herself, for what she can get out of me.”
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What she can get out of me.” that seemed obvious. she's a
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That seemed obvious. she's a fake. she's two faced. she's
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Fake. she's two faced. she's saying she loves samson to
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Saying she loves samson to his face, but behind his
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Back, she's telling the enemy
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Back, she's telling the enemy how to capture him. look at
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How to capture him. look at this pattern. three times
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This pattern. three times she's done something so
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She's done something so obvious to show her colors.
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Obvious to show her colors. she asks him the secret, then
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She asks him the secret, then runs and tells the
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Runs and tells the philistines. how could samson
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Philistines. how could samson not see that she was a phony.
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Not see that she was a phony. sometimes you need to step
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Sometimes you need to step back and examine
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Back and examine relationships. which ones
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Relationships. which ones have a pattern of causing you
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Have a pattern of causing you trouble, a pattern of
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Trouble, a pattern of bringing strife, drama, where
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Bringing strife, drama, where you feel guilty, used.
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You feel guilty, used. perhaps you have a delilah. a
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Perhaps you have a delilah. a person that's saying one
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Person that's saying one thing but meaning something
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Thing but meaning something else. a hidden agenda. using
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Else. a hidden agenda. using you for their gain. on the
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You for their gain. on the outside they may have great
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Outside they may have great qualities, looks, position,
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Qualities, looks, position, charm, but what's going on on
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Charm, but what's going on on the inside? what's happening
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The inside? what's happening behind the scenes?
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Behind the scenes? if there's a pattern of
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If there's a pattern of things that are not right,
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Things that are not right, lack of integrity. a pattern
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Lack of integrity. a pattern of feeling guilty, “it's
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Of feeling guilty, “it's always my fault. i'm not
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Always my fault. i'm not enough.” a pattern of
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Enough.” a pattern of manipulation, drama, you
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Manipulation, drama, you having to defend yourself.
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Having to defend yourself. recognize what's happening. a
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Recognize what's happening. a fake friend is going to drain
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Fake friend is going to drain your energy, take your peace,
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Your energy, take your peace, cloud your vision. the best
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Cloud your vision. the best thing you can do is put up
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Thing you can do is put up some boundaries. stop
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Some boundaries. stop allowing them to manipulate
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Allowing them to manipulate you. quit letting them get
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You. quit letting them get that close to you. don't
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That close to you. don't share those secrets, those
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Share those secrets, those hidden dreams, that you know
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Hidden dreams, that you know they're going to use against
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They're going to use against you. i'm not saying they're a
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You. i'm not saying they're a bad person. they just don't
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Bad person. they just don't have your best interest at
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Have your best interest at heart. they may be kind. they
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Heart. they may be kind. they tell you nice things. they
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Tell you nice things. they say they care about you. so
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Say they care about you. so did delilah. you have to
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Did delilah. you have to judge them by their actions,
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Judge them by their actions, not by what they say. look at
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Not by what they say. look at the track record. study the
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The track record. study the patterns. ask yourself, “why
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Patterns. ask yourself, “why do i always feel drained when
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Do i always feel drained when i spend time with them? why
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I spend time with them? why am i having to constantly
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Am i having to constantly defend myself with them? why
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Defend myself with them? why do what i tell them in
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Do what i tell them in confidence, three other
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Confidence, three other people ask me about?”
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People ask me about?” samson kept overriding all
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Samson kept overriding all these signs of a fake friend,
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These signs of a fake friend, of a hidden agenda. he had
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Of a hidden agenda. he had plenty of opportunities to
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Plenty of opportunities to make a change, but he didn't
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Make a change, but he didn't do it. delilah kept asking
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Do it. delilah kept asking and pleading, “samson you
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And pleading, “samson you know how much i love you. how
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Know how much i love you. how could you do me this way?
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Could you do me this way? tell me the secret of your
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Strength.” verse 17 says,r
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Strength.” verse 17 says,r “she pressed him hard with
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“she pressed him hard with her words day after day,
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Her words day after day, until his soul was vexed unto
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Until his soul was vexed unto death.” that means she nagged
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Death.” that means she nagged and nagged until he couldn't
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And nagged until he couldn't take it anymore. this time he
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Take it anymore. this time he told her the truth. “if you
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Told her the truth. “if you cut my hair, i'll lose my
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Cut my hair, i'll lose my strength.” they cut it and
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Strength.” they cut it and captured him. that was it.
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Captured him. that was it. she got her pieces of silver,
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She got her pieces of silver, and he ended up bound, missed
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And he ended up bound, missed his destiny. i realize not
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Every fake friend is going to
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Every fake friend is going to be this dramatic, but the
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Be this dramatic, but the principle is there. they
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Principle is there. they don't have your best interest
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Don't have your best interest at heart. it's all about what
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At heart. it's all about what you can do for them. they'll
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You can do for them. they'll pretend, charm, and try to
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Pretend, charm, and try to make you feel bad when you
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Make you feel bad when you don't do what they want.
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Don't do what they want. recognize what's happening. a
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Recognize what's happening. a true friend doesn't pressure
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True friend doesn't pressure you into doing things you
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You into doing things you don't want. they don't try to
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Don't want. they don't try to manipulate you into getting
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Manipulate you into getting their way. that's people with
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Their way. that's people with hidden agendas. ulterior
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Hidden agendas. ulterior motives. they play up to you
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Motives. they play up to you to get on your good side,
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To get on your good side, build your trust, because
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Build your trust, because eventually, they're going to
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Eventually, they're going to try to get something from
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Try to get something from you. i pray every day, “god
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You. i pray every day, “god give me discernment. help me
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Give me discernment. help me to see things for what they
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To see things for what they really are. help me to know
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Really are. help me to know who doesn't have good
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Who doesn't have good motives. who's trying to
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Motives. who's trying to manipulate? who's pretending?
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Manipulate? who's pretending? who's two faced?”
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Who's two faced?” i heard someone say, “i asked
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I heard someone say, “i asked god to protect me from my
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God to protect me from my enemies and i started losing
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Enemies and i started losing friends.” sometimes it's not
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Friends.” sometimes it's not the enemy holding us back,
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The enemy holding us back, it's fake friends. it's
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It's fake friends. it's delilah's, people that we're
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Delilah's, people that we're allowing in our lives that
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Allowing in our lives that don't have good motives. that
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Don't have good motives. that are only out for what we can
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Are only out for what we can do for them. if you're going
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Do for them. if you're going to fulfill your destiny, you
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To fulfill your destiny, you have to be strong and take
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Have to be strong and take control of your life. you
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Control of your life. you have a responsibility to
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Have a responsibility to redeem your time. to use the
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Redeem your time. to use the gifts god has given you, to
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Gifts god has given you, to make the most of each day,
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Make the most of each day, like the apostle paul tells
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Like the apostle paul tells us.
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Us. when my father went to be
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When my father went to be with the lord, and i stepped
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With the lord, and i stepped up to pastor. i was very
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Up to pastor. i was very insecure and didn't know if i
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Insecure and didn't know if i could do it. this was all new
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Could do it. this was all new to me. i had never ministered
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To me. i had never ministered before. there was a man that
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Before. there was a man that i had grown up with that was
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I had grown up with that was a part of the church and a
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A part of the church and a friend of our family. he was
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Friend of our family. he was a good man, and i believe had
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A good man, and i believe had good intentions. but he saw
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Good intentions. but he saw this as an opportunity to
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This as an opportunity to take the church where he
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Take the church where he wanted it to go. he would
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Wanted it to go. he would encourage me and tell me i
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Encourage me and tell me i was doing good, but there was
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Was doing good, but there was always this underlying
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Always this underlying message that i needed to do
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Message that i needed to do more of this and less of
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More of this and less of that. i felt this pressure
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That. i felt this pressure that i was being squeezed
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That i was being squeezed into a mold that i didn't
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Into a mold that i didn't want to be in. it wasn't
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Want to be in. it wasn't anything overtly critical or
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Anything overtly critical or negative, it was just the
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Negative, it was just the feeling i would get from him.
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Feeling i would get from him. little subtle innuendos. “you
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Little subtle innuendos. “you know joel it would really be
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Know joel it would really be good if you did it this way.
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Good if you did it this way. i think you'd be better off
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I think you'd be better off doing this other way.” and
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Doing this other way.” and i'm all for taking advice,
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I'm all for taking advice, getting good counsel, but
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Getting good counsel, but only you can hear what god is
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Only you can hear what god is saying to your spirit. god
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Saying to your spirit. god may confirm what he's saying
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May confirm what he's saying through other people, but god
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Through other people, but god is not going to tell someone
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Is not going to tell someone else what you need to do for
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Else what you need to do for your life. he's not going to
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Your life. he's not going to give them direction. he's
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Give them direction. he's going to come straight to you.
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Going to come straight to you. in the old testament, god
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In the old testament, god would speak to the prophet to
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Would speak to the prophet to tell the people what to do.
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Tell the people what to do. but since jesus came, the
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But since jesus came, the holy spirit lives on the
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Holy spirit lives on the inside of each one of us. you
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Inside of each one of us. you don't need a prophet to speak
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Don't need a prophet to speak to you, a priest, a rabbi, a
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To you, a priest, a rabbi, a pastor, a friend, god will
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Pastor, a friend, god will speak directly to you. yes,
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Speak directly to you. yes, he can use people, but deep
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He can use people, but deep down you know what bears
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Down you know what bears witness to your spirit.
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Witness to your spirit. nothing this man was telling
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Nothing this man was telling me felt right to me. over
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Me felt right to me. over time he got more and more
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Time he got more and more outspoken. i'm very nice and
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Outspoken. i'm very nice and i like to please people, but
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I like to please people, but something rose up in me so
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Something rose up in me so strongly. i thought to
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Strongly. i thought to myself, “i'm not going to be
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Myself, “i'm not going to be who you called me to be, i'm
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Who you called me to be, i'm going to be who god called me
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Going to be who god called me to be.” when we come to the
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To be.” when we come to the end of life, we're not going
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End of life, we're not going to answer to people, we're
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To answer to people, we're going to answer to god. i was
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Going to answer to god. i was nice, i was kind, but i
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Nice, i was kind, but i didn't let him pressure me
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Didn't let him pressure me into his mold. eventually he
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Into his mold. eventually he got upset and left the
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Got upset and left the church. we had a party. i
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Mean we were so upset. ii
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Mean we were so upset. ii don't mean this derogatory,
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Don't mean this derogatory, but he was a fake friend. he
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But he was a fake friend. he didn't want what was best for
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Didn't want what was best for me, he wanted me to
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Me, he wanted me to manipulate me into doing what
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Manipulate me into doing what he wanted. all those times he
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He wanted. all those times he was encouraging me; it wasn't
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Was encouraging me; it wasn't out of a pure spirit. there
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Out of a pure spirit. there was a hidden agenda. “i've
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Was a hidden agenda. “i've got to win joel over, so i
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Got to win joel over, so i can get my way.” i can tell
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Can get my way.” i can tell you this, if i had not been
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Strong and taken control of
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Strong and taken control of my life, i wouldn't be up
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My life, i wouldn't be up here today. if i had not
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Here today. if i had not listened to the discernment,
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Listened to the discernment, if i had pushed down that
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If i had pushed down that feeling that “this is not
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Feeling that “this is not right. it doesn't bear
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Right. it doesn't bear witness,” and just given in
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Witness,” and just given in to what he wanted, let him
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To what he wanted, let him control me, i would have
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Control me, i would have missed what god called me to
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Missed what god called me to do.
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Do. it's good to evaluate why we
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It's good to evaluate why we do things. am i doing this
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Do things. am i doing this out of guilt, because this
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Out of guilt, because this person is going to look down
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Person is going to look down on me if i don't? that's a
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On me if i don't? that's a fake friend. a true friend
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Fake friend. a true friend wants what's best for you. a
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Wants what's best for you. a true friend will get in
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True friend will get in agreement with what god put
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Agreement with what god put in your heart and cheer you
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In your heart and cheer you on even if it's not what they
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On even if it's not what they were hoping for. they may
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Were hoping for. they may challenge you. they may give
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Challenge you. they may give you good advice, but they're
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You good advice, but they're not going to pressure you,
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Not going to pressure you, try to make you feel bad if
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Try to make you feel bad if you don't do what they want.
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You don't do what they want. if not, it's manipulation.
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If not, it's manipulation. too many of us are letting
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Too many of us are letting other people run our lives.
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Other people run our lives. all the demands, the
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All the demands, the expectations. “if i don't
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Expectations. “if i don't stop by joel, they'll hurt
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Stop by joel, they'll hurt their feelings. if i don't
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Their feelings. if i don't call three times a week,
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Call three times a week, they're not going to be
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They're not going to be happy.” but here's a key,
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Happy.” but here's a key, you're not responsible to
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You're not responsible to keep everyone happy. your
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Keep everyone happy. your responsibility is to keep
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Responsibility is to keep yourself happy. keep yourself
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Yourself happy. keep yourself peaceful. keep yourself
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Peaceful. keep yourself focused. if you have a friend
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Focused. if you have a friend that always stirs things up,
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That always stirs things up, brings drama, gets you upset,
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Brings drama, gets you upset, “did you hear what they said
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“did you hear what they said about you. you shouldn't let
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About you. you shouldn't let that happen.” can i tell you;
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That happen.” can i tell you; you don't need that friend.
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You don't need that friend. they're a peace stealer.
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They're a peace stealer. they're a drama queen. you
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They're a drama queen. you have enough drama in your
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Have enough drama in your life. you don't need them
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Life. you don't need them bringing drama. some people's
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Bringing drama. some people's hidden agenda is to stir
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Hidden agenda is to stir things up. turn you against
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Things up. turn you against your coworker. get you
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Your coworker. get you jealous of your neighbor.
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Jealous of your neighbor. critical of your cousin. you
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Critical of your cousin. you don't have time for that.
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Don't have time for that. they don't have your best
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They don't have your best interest at heart. that's a
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Interest at heart. that's a fake friend. their goal is to
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Fake friend. their goal is to create chaos, discontentment.
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Create chaos, discontentment. when they're around, there's
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When they're around, there's always some kind of trouble.
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Always some kind of trouble. but god is not the author of
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But god is not the author of confusion. your friends
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Confusion. your friends shouldn't drain you, upset
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Shouldn't drain you, upset you. true friends bring
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You. true friends bring peace. true friends bring
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Peace. true friends bring joy. you're better when they
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Leave, not worse off.en they
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Leave, not worse off.en they we all know judas, the most
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We all know judas, the most famous fake friend. he was
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Famous fake friend. he was one of jesus' disciples. he
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One of jesus' disciples. he traveled with jesus, saw the
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Traveled with jesus, saw the miracles, saw lazarus come
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Miracles, saw lazarus come back to life, saw the food
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Back to life, saw the food multiplied. saw jesus going
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Multiplied. saw jesus going around being good to people,
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Around being good to people, all this love and compassion.
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All this love and compassion. you would think judas would
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You would think judas would be loyal and trustworthy;
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Be loyal and trustworthy; someone you could count on.
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Someone you could count on. but when jesus was in the
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But when jesus was in the garden of gethsemane about to
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Garden of gethsemane about to be crucified, judas came up
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Be crucified, judas came up with the roman soldiers to
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With the roman soldiers to betray him. when he saw
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Jesus, he said, “hello
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Jesus, he said, “hello rabbi,” and kissed jesus. it
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Rabbi,” and kissed jesus. it seemed like a friendly
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Seemed like a friendly greeting, a warm embrace. but
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Greeting, a warm embrace. but look at how people can be two
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Look at how people can be two faced. the kiss was a sign
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Faced. the kiss was a sign for the soldiers to arrest
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For the soldiers to arrest jesus. behind the friendly
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Jesus. behind the friendly greeting was a hidden agenda.
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Greeting was a hidden agenda. jesus knew all along what was
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Jesus knew all along what was going to happen. after the
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Going to happen. after the kiss, jesus said to judas in
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Kiss, jesus said to judas in verse 50, “do what you came
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Verse 50, “do what you came to do, friend.” he called
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To do, friend.” he called judas friend. he could have
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Judas friend. he could have called him enemy, betrayer,
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Called him enemy, betrayer, hypocrite. but he called him
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Hypocrite. but he called him friend. jesus was showing us
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Friend. jesus was showing us that not everyone that calls
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That not everyone that calls you friend is truly a friend.
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You friend is truly a friend. some people that seem like
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Some people that seem like they're for you, have hidden
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They're for you, have hidden agendas. they see all the
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Agendas. they see all the good you do. they see you
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Good you do. they see you loving your family, excelling
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Loving your family, excelling at work, being a blessing to
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At work, being a blessing to others. instead of
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Others. instead of celebrating you, cheering you
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Celebrating you, cheering you on, sometimes the enemy will
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On, sometimes the enemy will plant a seed of jealousy, a
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Plant a seed of jealousy, a seed of bitterness, a seed of
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Seed of bitterness, a seed of strife. we all have a few
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Strife. we all have a few enemies in life, people that
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Enemies in life, people that don't want us to succeed, but
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Don't want us to succeed, but sometimes the enemy is not
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Sometimes the enemy is not obvious. it's a fake friend.
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Obvious. it's a fake friend. it's a judas. someone that
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It's a judas. someone that greets us warmly but has
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Greets us warmly but has wrong motives. someone that
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Wrong motives. someone that gives us that friendly kiss,
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Gives us that friendly kiss, but not out of affection,
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But not out of affection, it's out of betrayal. pay
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It's out of betrayal. pay attention to your enemies but
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Attention to your enemies but stay aware of your friends.
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Stay aware of your friends. it may not be something so
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It may not be something so dramatic like judas betraying
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Dramatic like judas betraying jesus, but friends can get
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Jesus, but friends can get jealous, friends can be
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Jealous, friends can be manipulative, friends can
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Manipulative, friends can have wrong motives. again, it
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Have wrong motives. again, it doesn't mean they're a bad
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Doesn't mean they're a bad person; you have to cut them
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Person; you have to cut them off, never see them again. no
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Off, never see them again. no but you should be aware, so
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But you should be aware, so you don't open yourself up to
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You don't open yourself up to harm. the scripture says,
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Harm. the scripture says, “don't cast your pearls among
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“don't cast your pearls among swine.” your pearls are your
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Swine.” your pearls are your gifts, your dreams, your
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Gifts, your dreams, your personality.
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I've learned some people
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I've learned some people can't handle your success.
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Can't handle your success. they were fine as long as you
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They were fine as long as you were at the same level, in
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Were at the same level, in the same department, you're
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The same department, you're still single. but if you pass
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Still single. but if you pass them up, see more favor, you
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Them up, see more favor, you get married, you move into
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Get married, you move into that nicer house. that can
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That nicer house. that can stir them up. they may
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Stir them up. they may applaud you on the outside,
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Applaud you on the outside, but on the inside, they
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But on the inside, they think, “they don't deserve
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Think, “they don't deserve that promotion. i'm smarter
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That promotion. i'm smarter than they are.”
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Attractive.” a true friend
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Attractive.” a true friend will celebrate your success.
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Will celebrate your success. they're not competing with
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They're not competing with you, trying to outperform
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You, trying to outperform you. secretly hoping you'll
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You. secretly hoping you'll fail; you'll get left out.
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Fail; you'll get left out. you don't need people like
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You don't need people like that. if you see these signs
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That. if you see these signs of people critical, not for
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Of people critical, not for you, sometimes you just feel
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You, sometimes you just feel it on the inside, that
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It on the inside, that something's not right. don't
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Something's not right. don't make excuses for them. don't
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Make excuses for them. don't try to win them over. just
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Try to win them over. just move forward and god will
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Move forward and god will bring you friends that do
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Bring you friends that do celebrate you. friends that
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Celebrate you. friends that are happy when you succeed.
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Are happy when you succeed. i'm sure you have some of
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I'm sure you have some of those friends now. amazing
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Those friends now. amazing people, that you dearly love,
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People, that you dearly love, that you can always count on.
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That you can always count on. and i would guess that you
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And i would guess that you may have a few fake friends
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May have a few fake friends as well. the key is to know
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As well. the key is to know the difference. you need to
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The difference. you need to know when judas is among you.
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Know when judas is among you. jesus never got rid of him.
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Jesus never got rid of him. he was a part of his destiny,
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He was a part of his destiny, but he knew who he was. a
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But he knew who he was. a fake friend, you don't bring
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Fake friend, you don't bring into your inner circle. you
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Into your inner circle. you don't tell them things that
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Don't tell them things that are confidential, that you
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Are confidential, that you don't want repeated. you
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Don't want repeated. you don't let them control and
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Don't let them control and manipulate you. you set some
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Manipulate you. you set some boundaries. you don't play up
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Boundaries. you don't play up to them, waste your valuable
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To them, waste your valuable time trying to keep them
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Time trying to keep them happy. these may be coworkers
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Happy. these may be coworkers that are going to be there
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That are going to be there for the next ten years. it
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For the next ten years. it may be family members,
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May be family members, relatives, that you know have
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Relatives, that you know have hidden agendas. they act like
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Hidden agendas. they act like they like you, but you know
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They like you, but you know better. they don't want you
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Better. they don't want you to succeed. that's okay. you
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To succeed. that's okay. you have the grace to handle it.
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Have the grace to handle it. you don't let them upset you.
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You don't let them upset you. you don't take the bait when
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You don't take the bait when they try to stir you up. you
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They try to stir you up. you don't get offended when they
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Don't get offended when they leave you out. you stay in
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Leave you out. you stay in peace. you know who they are.
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Peace. you know who they are. they're just a fake friend.
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They're just a fake friend. jesus came riding into
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Jesus came riding into jerusalem on that donkey,
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Jerusalem on that donkey, palm sunday. people shouted,
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Palm sunday. people shouted, “hosanna, blessed is he who
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“hosanna, blessed is he who comes in the name of the
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Comes in the name of the lord.” celebrating his
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Lord.” celebrating his arrival. all this praise and
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Arrival. all this praise and people cheering him on. three
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People cheering him on. three days later, the same people
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Days later, the same people were shouting, “crucify him.
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Were shouting, “crucify him. he's not our king.” jesus had
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He's not our king.” jesus had a lot of fake friends to deal
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A lot of fake friends to deal with. in our journey, we're
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With. in our journey, we're going to have some fake
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Going to have some fake friends. you can't get rid of
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Friends. you can't get rid of them, but you need to be
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Them, but you need to be aware. are you spending time
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Aware. are you spending time and energy trying to keep
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And energy trying to keep people happy that have
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People happy that have ulterior motives. doing
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Ulterior motives. doing things out of guilt,
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Things out of guilt, pressure. if they don't meet
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Pressure. if they don't meet your demands, they get
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Your demands, they get upset. maybe you have some
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Upset. maybe you have some delilah's, people with hidden
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Delilah's, people with hidden agendas, trying to take
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Agendas, trying to take advantage of you, wanting
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Advantage of you, wanting only what you can do for
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Only what you can do for them. pay attention to who's
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Them. pay attention to who's in your life. listen to the
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In your life. listen to the warnings. don't override that
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Warnings. don't override that uneasiness. that's god
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Uneasiness. that's god speaking to you. remember you
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Speaking to you. remember you will know them by their
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Will know them by their fruit. not by their words,
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Fruit. not by their words, but by their actions. notice
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But by their actions. notice patterns that aren't right.
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Patterns that aren't right. things that don't ever
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Things that don't ever change. you don't have time
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Change. you don't have time to waste playing games, being
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To waste playing games, being distracted. that may have
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Distracted. that may have happened in the past, but
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Happened in the past, but this is a new day. god is
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This is a new day. god is going to show you people that
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Going to show you people that have hidden agendas. he's
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Have hidden agendas. he's going to reveal wrong
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Going to reveal wrong motives. you don't have to be
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Motives. you don't have to be rude to them, just quietly
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Rude to them, just quietly spend less and less time with
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Spend less and less time with them. if you'll weed out the
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Them. if you'll weed out the wrong people, i believe and
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Wrong people, i believe and declare, god is going to
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Declare, god is going to bring you true friends,
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Bring you true friends, people that want the best for
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People that want the best for you, that push you forward,
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You, that push you forward, that are loyal, trustworthy,
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That are loyal, trustworthy, that help you become all you
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That help you become all you were created to be, in jesus'
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Were created to be, in jesus' name. if you receive it, can
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Name. if you receive it, can you say amen? (applause)
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Each week, i stand on
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Each week, i stand on this stage
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This stage and remind you
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And remind you of what god says about you.
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Of what god says about you. because it's easy
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Because it's easy to be defined by
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To be defined by who people say we are,
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Who people say we are, or by our own
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Or by our own negative thoughts;
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Negative thoughts; that we're not talented,
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That we're not talented, our problems too big.
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Our problems too big. the key is to go back to
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The key is to go back to who god says you are.
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I'd love to send you
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I'd love to send you my new book, 101 great things
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My new book, 101 great things god says about you.
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God says about you. i'll help you discover
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I'll help you discover your true identity.
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Your true identity. god says you're blessed.
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God says you're blessed. you're chosen. you're forgiven.
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You're chosen. you're forgiven. you have seeds of greatness.
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You have seeds of greatness. your future is bright.
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Your future is bright. when you get in agreement
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When you get in agreement with god and declare
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With god and declare his promises,
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His promises, you'll rise higher
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You'll rise higher and become
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And become all you were created to be.
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All you were created to be. as our way of saying thank you
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As our way of saying thank you for your gift of any amount
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For your gift of any amount this month,
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This month, we would like to send you
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We would like to send you a copy of joel's brand
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A copy of joel's brand new resource,
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New resource, 101 great things
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101 great things god says about you:
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God says about you: faith reminders
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Faith reminders when you need them most.
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When you need them most. as you read and reflect,
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As you read and reflect, the story of your life, the way
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The story of your life, the way you see yourself,
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You see yourself, will radically change.
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Will radically change. it will become a reflection
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It will become a reflection of god himself
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Of god himself and what he says about you.
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And what he says about you. use this resource
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Use this resource to encourage your heart
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To encourage your heart and remind you
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And remind you of who you are in him.
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Of who you are in him. you are everything
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You are everything god says about you
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God says about you within these pages,
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Within these pages, so read it, experience it,
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So read it, experience it, and believe it.
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And believe it. as an added bonus,
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As an added bonus, you can detach
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You can detach the beautiful poster
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The beautiful poster at the back of the book to read
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At the back of the book to read and declare these reminders
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And declare these reminders every day.
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Every day. yes, you are
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Yes, you are who god says you are.
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Who god says you are. now is your time to start
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Now is your time to start believing it.
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Believing it. as you dwell on
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As you dwell on what god says about you,
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What god says about you, you're going to see yourself
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You're going to see yourself for who you really are: strong,
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For who you really are: strong, talented, valuable, a victor,
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Talented, valuable, a victor, never a victim.
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Never a victim. victoria
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Victoria and i want you to know
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And i want you to know that we love you
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That we love you and we pray for you every day.
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And we pray for you every day. thanks so much for your prayer
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Thanks so much for your prayer and support.
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And support. your generosity
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Your generosity is helping people
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Is helping people around the world.
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Around the world. special the world.
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Special the world. thank you to our champion
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Thank you to our champion of hope partners
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Of hope partners for your monthly support.
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For your monthly support. if you're not a partner,
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If you're not a partner, i hope you'll consider
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I hope you'll consider becoming one.
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Becoming one. remember,
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Remember, you can watch the services
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You can watch the services online every sunday
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Until we meet again, may the lord bless
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May the lord bless you and keep you.
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You and keep you. be sure to request
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Joel Osteen - Fake Friends

May 4, 2025 | 27:29

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