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Keep it in the Elevator

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November 13, 2016
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Living by Faith with Mike & DeeDee Freeman

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  • Today, on Living by Faith...
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  • And when he says obey, it is the husbands responsibility
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  • to make sure that he is enforcing obedience in the home.
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  • Because I promise you, some of the demise
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  • that we are experiencing
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  • in our society is coming directly from
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  • the lack of enforcement of obedience in the home.
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  • - Family, all of us have one,
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  • and all of us come from one,
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  • and all of us want a good one, we really do,
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  • and this is one of the core values that we,
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  • Dee Dee and I, and this ministry focus upon.
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  • We focus upon family.
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  • It's so important.
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  • It's the heart of God.
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  • God wanted to extend his family,
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  • he made man.
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  • There's so many wonderful things that we're
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  • about to discuss concerning family.
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  • - Amen.
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  • - And you need to be a part of it.
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  • It's derived from this whole idea
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  • of kite, K-I-T-E,
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  • Keep It In The Elevator.
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  • It's quite interesting.
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  • - Quite interesting.
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  • - You may want to know about why and how
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  • we got to this KITE, but certain things have happened
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  • in the elevator, you remember a couple of celebrity
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  • families were in the elevator and something went on.
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  • Stay tuned, don't leave where you are.
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  • to have self-reflection.
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  • That we can, as humans, look at ourselves,
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  • look at our lives and say,
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  • okay, this is not how I wanna be.
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  • - This is not what I wanna be, this is not the product
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  • that I wanna present to the world or to the next generation
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  • or to my family, and so we have the opportunity to change
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  • what we have come out of. - [Male] Wow.
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  • - You know, even though we've come out in a certain family.
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  • - You may not like what you're family look like--
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  • - [DeeDee] Exactly. - But you have an opportunity
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  • to change what you - [DeeDee] The opportunity
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  • have come out of. - [DeeDee] and the ability.
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  • - [DeeDee] Exactly, because there are generational things
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  • that I would never wanna be a part of,
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  • and so I have the power - [Pastor] That your family
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  • that my family has been - [Pastor] has predisposed to.
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  • a part of. - [Pastor] Yeah okay.
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  • - [DeeDee] Um hmm, I have the power and the ability
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  • to change that, to fix that.
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  • Because we have all have made some adjustments
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  • in our family systems. - [Male] OK.
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  • - You know, depending on how your family was,
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  • how your mom may have been, or how your dad may have been.
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  • Like, your dad may have been an alcoholic
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  • and there has been adjustments that everybody in the family,
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  • because it's all interconnected. - [Male] OK.
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  • - You know we're all a part of one system, cause the family
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  • is a unit and so, everybody in that family has had to make
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  • some adjustments to adapt to whatever their family system
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  • has presented them. - Wow, whether good or bad.
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  • - Whether good or bad - Okay.
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  • - And, if it hasn't been good, we have the ability
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  • and the opportunity, thank God, to change that.
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  • - [Male] Amen. - We can fix that.
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  • - [Male] Amen.
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  • No, I'm enjoying this.
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  • - [DeeDee] Oh, ok, you looking at me like,
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  • we on the couch for real.
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  • - Yeah, I mean, cause you have this psychology degree now
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  • and I just thought you were just--
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  • - No, I mean it's a good thing because when you look at it,
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  • you know we all are, you think about,
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  • and well, before I say that, let me say this,
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  • that when we're talking about family here,
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  • we're not just talking about our biological families,
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  • but we're talking about our spiritual family as well,
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  • because we're still family.
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  • We're all a part of the Body of Christ
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  • and even though we have this, keep it in the elevator,
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  • we're not just talking about in our own personal family,
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  • we're talking about in the family of God.
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  • In the Body of Christ, there should be some things
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  • that we should be able to handle and maneuver ourselves
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  • within the body, without the world's system.
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  • You understand that?
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  • - God dog, that's so true man.
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  • - And so, we should be able to handle things right here,
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  • within ourselves.
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  • - And so, it's important that, even as family,
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  • we keep it in the elevator.
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  • Now, what's this concept about keeping it in the elevator.
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  • Will you explain why we have a replica of--
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  • - You probably can explain that a little better.
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  • You all remember that, little incident that Beyonce
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  • and them had in the elevator.
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  • - Jay Z and Solange, - [DeeDee] And Jay Z, Solange.
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  • - [Pastor] Is her name Solange?
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  • - [Male] Yeah. - [DeeDee] Solange,.
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  • They had in the elevator.
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  • You know, you didn't even know.
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  • - I was digging that though, because prior to the leak,
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  • - Mmm hmm.
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  • - Prior to the leak, where the guy got the tape
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  • off of the security system in the hotel,
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  • Jay Z and Beyonce and them, they walked outta that place
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  • like "What's up?"
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  • Sorta like we used to
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  • go to church. - [Deedee] We used to
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  • You know what I mean. - [DeeDee] go to church.
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  • - [Pastor] We used to be going to church.
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  • And I'm driving I'm like you mammy frammy.
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  • You blankety blank,
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  • I can't stand you. - [Deedee] You blank blank,
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  • I wish I never even married - [DeeDee] up blank blank blank
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  • your little nasty tail. - [DeeDee] up blank blank blank.
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  • You just get on my - [DeeDee] blank whatever.
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  • dog gone nerves. - [DeeDee] You get on my
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  • You understand. - [DeeDee] nerves too.
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  • - [Pastor] I mean on the way to church.
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  • It would normally start like Saturday night.
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  • - Saturday night, every Saturday night.
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  • - Every Saturday night. - [DeeDee] It seemed like
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  • - [DeeDee] every Sunday we argued
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  • on the way to church. - [Pastor] This one got on my
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  • You got on my nerve. - [Pastor] nerve every Saturday.
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  • - [DeeDee] Every Sunday.
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  • - And so Sunday morning we on and it hadn't subsided
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  • from Saturday night.
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  • Reg we on our way to church.
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  • I'm driving you understand.
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  • I said (stutters) "Get out the car, get out the car."
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  • - You get out, this my car.
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  • (audience laughs)
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  • I remember that
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  • stuff so clear. - [Pastor] Shawn you know I
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  • She know. - [Pastor] didn't own the car.
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  • - [Pastor] And then pop out part pop outta the car
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  • like "Praise the Lord.
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  • "God is good, isn't the Lord good?
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  • "This is the day that God has made."
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  • - [DeeDee] Uh huh, and then we looking at each other
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  • like "I ain't finished, when we get back
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  • "in that car I'm gonna get you."
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  • - But they were more focused--
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  • - And hate it when the Pastor would say
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  • - [DeeDee and Pastor] "Turn to your neighbor and tell"--
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  • - [DeeDee] We would always turn to the other person.
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  • (audience laughs)
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  • Y'all think we don't know them games, we know them games.
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  • That's we can know your stuff.
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  • You think we don't see certain things.
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  • We see stuff, you sitting here,
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  • you act like you got it all together
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  • until something happen or somebody say something you like.
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  • Your expressions sure give it away.
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  • - But that Jay Z and that Beyonce,
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  • boy they came, I think they are like
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  • the mystery misses of hip hop.
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  • You know for real they are the hip hop first family I think.
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  • I don't know too much about the hip hop world,
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  • but if there's a representation it appears that they are
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  • making a pretty decent one. - [DeeDee] They got it good.
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  • - [Pastor] But they were mindful of protecting that empire.
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  • When they got off we would have
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  • never known about that girl going at Jay Z like that
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  • if that tape had not gotten out.
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  • - But look how it has died.
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  • Even now.
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  • - The only ones talking about it is us.
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  • - Yeah, totally. (audience laughs)
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  • But we using it as an object lesson.
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  • - That's it, not to, - [DeeDee] That's it.
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  • - exploit anyone or demise or put them down.
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  • Because if they can do well in life then do well in life.
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  • - But we like that whole concept of how they kept it.
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  • I mean again, they didn't leak it.
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  • They didn't come out and say anything.
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  • But they would've dealt with it within their own family.
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  • - Dealt with it within their own family.
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  • That's what's hot about it.
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  • - But then we had another episode.
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  • - Yeah, yeah, but the elevator door opened
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  • and she fell right out.
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  • (audience laughs)
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  • Any Ravens fans in here, come on Ravens fan.
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  • Your running back at one time knocked his wife out.
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  • And we're not putting them down at all.
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  • I like the fact that they have been able to reconcile,
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  • and they appear to be going on with one another.
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  • And even though they have had that episode
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  • does not necessarily mean that they can't
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  • have a good relationship. - [DeeDee] It doesn't have to
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  • - [DeeDee] define who they are.
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  • - It does not have to define who they are.
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  • And for them to go on would say a mouthful
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  • to others about how you can overcome
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  • even domestic violence.
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  • Because some people who don't have the stuff that you have,
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  • they can't even fathom going on with someone who's
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  • had those kind of encounters.
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  • But we who are of the God kind of faith,
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  • we have the greater one that's in us.
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  • And sometimes you gotta take a licking
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  • and keep on ticking.
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  • And licking doesn't mean literally something physical.
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  • We've taken all kind of lickings from one another.
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  • But that episode kinda got out
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  • and it was exploited and now Ray's going
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  • through all different kind of things.
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  • but I believe they are overcoming.
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  • My prayer is that he gets his job back
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  • and they can continue to live happily ever after.
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  • That is not our purpose of
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  • this Keeping It In The Elevator.
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  • We use that title just because it would be,
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  • it would be relative to what's been taking place.
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  • - And elevator we're using as synonymous with family.
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  • So whenever we say elevator we're talking about family.
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  • - Now as far as the scripture is concerned,
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  • you can't find many good families
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  • depicted in the word of God.
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  • - I don't know if you found any.
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  • - I know, I know, even with Mary and Joseph
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  • they just had one kid and couldn't find him.
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  • He got lost at church.
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  • (audience laughs)
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  • - And had a smart mouth too didn't He?
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  • - And He had smart mouth.
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  • If Jesus was raised in my house,
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  • Jesus Bishop would of whooped Jesus.
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  • How you leave your child at church, for one.
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  • You got one child and you leave him at church?
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  • - You don't know your boy ain't with you?
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  • - Like your mother left one of her kids at the park.
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  • - Darnice, left Darnice on the picnic table.
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  • - Well she had seven, so.
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  • - Not at that time, she only had five.
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  • And she left one on the table, had to go back.
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  • - And then when they finally catch up with Jesus,
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  • Jesus says "Who is my mother?"
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  • (audience laughs)
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  • "Who is my father, except the ones that do the will of God."
  • 00:10:45.080 --> 00:10:49.060
  • Whatever, He would have been out like I was
  • 00:10:49.060 --> 00:10:54.030
  • in the hospital for about five weeks.
  • 00:10:54.030 --> 00:10:56.290
  • You got the first family.
  • 00:10:59.220 --> 00:11:01.140
  • - Yeah, from the very beginning.
  • 00:11:01.140 --> 00:11:03.020
  • - A man went for a woman and turned on God.
  • 00:11:03.020 --> 00:11:06.180
  • And subsequently, men are going for women
  • 00:11:06.290 --> 00:11:10.040
  • and turning from God even today.
  • 00:11:10.040 --> 00:11:12.180
  • The first recorded homicide,
  • 00:11:13.040 --> 00:11:15.180
  • happened in the first family.
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  • Came when that Abel took that boy out.
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  • You don't have many.
  • 00:11:20.100 --> 00:11:21.190
  • Abraham, he would've gotten the worst husband
  • 00:11:21.190 --> 00:11:24.110
  • of the year award if they were giving them out.
  • 00:11:24.110 --> 00:11:27.120
  • No really, cause he get in trouble he's talking about
  • 00:11:27.120 --> 00:11:29.230
  • "That ain't my wife that's my sister."
  • 00:11:29.230 --> 00:11:31.200
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:11:31.200 --> 00:11:32.260
  • - Not once but twice.
  • 00:11:32.260 --> 00:11:34.190
  • - It's some hilarious stuff in the Bible.
  • 00:11:36.120 --> 00:11:38.230
  • The first Civil War, David and his son, they went at it.
  • 00:11:39.150 --> 00:11:43.290
  • So when you see families in the scripture
  • 00:11:44.040 --> 00:11:46.210
  • you really don't see the kinda consistency
  • 00:11:46.210 --> 00:11:49.130
  • and continuity that God intended to have
  • 00:11:49.130 --> 00:11:52.090
  • from the very beginning when He said "Let us make man
  • 00:11:52.090 --> 00:11:55.080
  • "and let us give them the same kind of dominion
  • 00:11:55.080 --> 00:11:58.050
  • "that we have in the earth."
  • 00:11:58.050 --> 00:11:59.280
  • And then He describes where that dominion should be used.
  • 00:11:59.280 --> 00:12:03.290
  • - So dysfunction didn't get it's definition now,
  • 00:12:03.290 --> 00:12:07.190
  • but it got it's definition biblical times long ago.
  • 00:12:07.190 --> 00:12:11.260
  • - Long ago it got it's definition.
  • 00:12:11.260 --> 00:12:14.040
  • And so Paul comes along.
  • 00:12:14.040 --> 00:12:16.290
  • This cat has this Damascus road experience.
  • 00:12:16.290 --> 00:12:21.280
  • You all know about that, in Acts chapter nine.
  • 00:12:21.280 --> 00:12:25.050
  • And now he is given the task of going
  • 00:12:25.050 --> 00:12:28.290
  • and sharing principles concerning
  • 00:12:28.290 --> 00:12:31.080
  • what was in the mind of God from the very beginning.
  • 00:12:31.080 --> 00:12:34.190
  • So this cat now has introduced this cat.
  • 00:12:34.190 --> 00:12:37.210
  • The apostle Paul is now introduced to
  • 00:12:37.210 --> 00:12:41.010
  • the Greeks and the Romans, and those who are connected
  • 00:12:41.010 --> 00:12:44.200
  • there in the borders of the Mediterranean.
  • 00:12:44.200 --> 00:12:47.080
  • He's going up in Athens and going up in Greece
  • 00:12:47.080 --> 00:12:50.050
  • and going up in Rome.
  • 00:12:50.050 --> 00:12:51.230
  • And He's explaining some things to a culture
  • 00:12:51.230 --> 00:12:55.100
  • who is never heard some of the things that God
  • 00:12:55.100 --> 00:12:58.040
  • has revealed to him by revelation.
  • 00:12:58.040 --> 00:13:00.280
  • Now all of this is new simply because he's
  • 00:13:00.280 --> 00:13:04.060
  • elevating the status of a woman.
  • 00:13:04.060 --> 00:13:06.260
  • Because during that time.
  • 00:13:06.260 --> 00:13:08.140
  • And am I talking too fast? - [DeeDee] No this is good.
  • 00:13:08.140 --> 00:13:11.040
  • - [Pastor] Are you all getting what I'm saying?
  • 00:13:11.040 --> 00:13:12.190
  • Will you tell your neighbor say please pay attention.
  • 00:13:12.190 --> 00:13:15.090
  • Hunch em on the other side, say if you go to napping
  • 00:13:15.090 --> 00:13:17.250
  • I'm a go to slapping.
  • 00:13:17.250 --> 00:13:19.200
  • Come on, hunch them and say hashtag family flow.
  • 00:13:19.250 --> 00:13:23.140
  • (audience responds)
  • 00:13:23.140 --> 00:13:26.110
  • So Paul is tasked with this thing because
  • 00:13:26.110 --> 00:13:29.020
  • in the culture they didn't embrace a biblical
  • 00:13:29.020 --> 00:13:32.010
  • view of the intent of God, what was in the mind of God
  • 00:13:32.010 --> 00:13:35.060
  • concerning marriage because women were not equal with men.
  • 00:13:35.060 --> 00:13:39.230
  • They was no equality, they were subservient.
  • 00:13:39.230 --> 00:13:43.150
  • Even I've watched that even in my house.
  • 00:13:43.150 --> 00:13:46.070
  • I don't think that was Bishop's intent,
  • 00:13:46.070 --> 00:13:48.130
  • or he was deliberately going after
  • 00:13:48.130 --> 00:13:50.270
  • that kind of representation.
  • 00:13:50.270 --> 00:13:52.150
  • But momma looked so submitted and that's where I got
  • 00:13:52.150 --> 00:13:55.250
  • it twisted with you because I just thought something
  • 00:13:55.250 --> 00:13:58.020
  • was wrong with you
  • 00:13:58.020 --> 00:13:59.130
  • when I married you. - [DeeDee] I knew you had
  • 00:13:59.130 --> 00:14:00.260
  • Because I'm saying my momma. - [DeeDee] it twisted.
  • 00:14:00.260 --> 00:14:02.150
  • - It was kind of twisted. - [DeeDee] Oh it was twisted.
  • 00:14:02.250 --> 00:14:04.080
  • - But at least you could've been raised right
  • 00:14:04.080 --> 00:14:06.030
  • so I would of had a better.
  • 00:14:06.030 --> 00:14:07.150
  • - If you would of had the right definition
  • 00:14:08.060 --> 00:14:10.060
  • of what submission was we would've been okay.
  • 00:14:10.060 --> 00:14:12.220
  • - So Paul gets into this thing.
  • 00:14:12.220 --> 00:14:14.220
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:14:14.220 --> 00:14:17.030
  • So the apostle Paul, come on stay with me now.
  • 00:14:17.180 --> 00:14:20.160
  • So the apostle Paul, he goes into these regions
  • 00:14:20.160 --> 00:14:23.270
  • and he's talking about all these things concerning marriage.
  • 00:14:23.270 --> 00:14:27.180
  • And you gotta understand back in that day,
  • 00:14:27.180 --> 00:14:29.290
  • there were more arranged marriages.
  • 00:14:29.290 --> 00:14:32.090
  • You didn't meet the chick that you wanted to hook up with
  • 00:14:32.090 --> 00:14:34.260
  • like at the club and say "Give me your number
  • 00:14:34.260 --> 00:14:36.160
  • "and then we gonna go out," and that kind of stuff.
  • 00:14:36.160 --> 00:14:38.080
  • Naw, it wasn't that sort of thing.
  • 00:14:38.080 --> 00:14:40.000
  • That sort of thing was unheard of because the fathers
  • 00:14:40.000 --> 00:14:43.000
  • knew the daughters, and they knew the son.
  • 00:14:43.000 --> 00:14:45.010
  • And the fathers would know other fathers
  • 00:14:45.010 --> 00:14:47.070
  • who would have sons and daughter.
  • 00:14:47.070 --> 00:14:48.240
  • And they would get together and collaborate
  • 00:14:48.240 --> 00:14:50.290
  • and they would share, brother Ron,
  • 00:14:50.290 --> 00:14:52.150
  • they would share on okay, "Your baby boy gonna hook up
  • 00:14:52.150 --> 00:14:55.260
  • "with my baby girl.
  • 00:14:55.260 --> 00:14:57.120
  • "They look like they got some qualities that are similar."
  • 00:14:57.120 --> 00:14:59.210
  • So as it relates to my being with a wife,
  • 00:14:59.210 --> 00:15:03.190
  • my choice came solely from what my father said.
  • 00:15:04.070 --> 00:15:07.180
  • And so I may not even had like a
  • 00:15:07.180 --> 00:15:12.050
  • an attraction or an affection.
  • 00:15:13.130 --> 00:15:15.270
  • They just told us that's your wife and that's your husband.
  • 00:15:16.070 --> 00:15:19.080
  • And it was acceptable.
  • 00:15:19.080 --> 00:15:21.000
  • And so with respect to that there was
  • 00:15:21.000 --> 00:15:23.210
  • no consideration of our own that we have the authority
  • 00:15:23.210 --> 00:15:27.130
  • or the right to implement at that particular time.
  • 00:15:27.130 --> 00:15:30.280
  • And so when it came to being married in covenant,
  • 00:15:30.280 --> 00:15:34.130
  • the wives would not consider the way that they
  • 00:15:34.130 --> 00:15:37.130
  • ought to be considered because a man could put away
  • 00:15:37.130 --> 00:15:40.140
  • a woman at any time.
  • 00:15:40.140 --> 00:15:41.260
  • "Okay, you know what I've got enough of you.
  • 00:15:41.260 --> 00:15:43.230
  • "Matter of fact I didn't even select you,
  • 00:15:43.230 --> 00:15:45.210
  • "my father got it wrong.
  • 00:15:45.210 --> 00:15:46.270
  • "Here's this writ of divorce, get out,
  • 00:15:46.270 --> 00:15:49.040
  • "and take your children with you."
  • 00:15:49.040 --> 00:15:50.250
  • So subsequently children and women
  • 00:15:50.250 --> 00:15:53.150
  • were not on the same level and now Paul is coming in
  • 00:15:53.150 --> 00:15:57.110
  • and he's talking about equality
  • 00:15:57.110 --> 00:15:59.230
  • and submission towards one another.
  • 00:15:59.230 --> 00:16:02.160
  • He was inserting new ideas
  • 00:16:02.160 --> 00:16:05.250
  • of how families should work.
  • 00:16:05.250 --> 00:16:08.070
  • So new that people resisted it but those
  • 00:16:08.070 --> 00:16:11.210
  • who received it saw the benefit in it.
  • 00:16:11.210 --> 00:16:14.220
  • And even today cultures that have embraced
  • 00:16:14.220 --> 00:16:18.100
  • a Biblical view of how marriages should be,
  • 00:16:18.100 --> 00:16:21.280
  • do better than cultures who have not.
  • 00:16:21.280 --> 00:16:24.230
  • And you can see it in our society today.
  • 00:16:24.230 --> 00:16:28.010
  • Because the traditional family
  • 00:16:28.010 --> 00:16:30.040
  • is no longer the traditional family.
  • 00:16:30.040 --> 00:16:32.180
  • It has changed immensely, as a matter of fact,
  • 00:16:32.180 --> 00:16:35.280
  • this set up right here, a man and the woman.
  • 00:16:35.280 --> 00:16:39.110
  • - Nuclear family.
  • 00:16:39.110 --> 00:16:40.160
  • - The nuclear family is that the core?
  • 00:16:40.160 --> 00:16:42.100
  • The center? - [DeeDee] The nuclear family,
  • 00:16:42.100 --> 00:16:43.230
  • - [DeeDee] the center, this is what God had intended
  • 00:16:43.230 --> 00:16:46.150
  • from the very beginning.
  • 00:16:46.150 --> 00:16:47.150
  • - This was God's very best.
  • 00:16:47.150 --> 00:16:49.090
  • A woman never being married.
  • 00:16:49.090 --> 00:16:51.160
  • A man never being married.
  • 00:16:51.160 --> 00:16:53.170
  • They come together, they have children together
  • 00:16:53.170 --> 00:16:56.010
  • and they live together until death do us part.
  • 00:16:56.010 --> 00:16:59.070
  • Now the blended family has exceeded
  • 00:16:59.070 --> 00:17:02.210
  • the intent of God.
  • 00:17:02.210 --> 00:17:04.120
  • Because you have divorcees.
  • 00:17:04.120 --> 00:17:06.150
  • And just because you're divorced,
  • 00:17:06.150 --> 00:17:08.100
  • that's not a real big deal.
  • 00:17:08.100 --> 00:17:10.100
  • You go on set that family up based upon the word of God.
  • 00:17:10.100 --> 00:17:14.230
  • And you make sure you live according to the
  • 00:17:14.230 --> 00:17:17.100
  • principles that have been set up in the scripture.
  • 00:17:17.100 --> 00:17:20.100
  • And then your seed, that's that thing you just talked about
  • 00:17:20.100 --> 00:17:23.240
  • where if you didn't like something
  • 00:17:23.240 --> 00:17:26.000
  • in your family's system you fix it.
  • 00:17:26.000 --> 00:17:28.220
  • - You fix it.
  • 00:17:28.220 --> 00:17:29.290
  • - No longer do you have just blended families
  • 00:17:29.290 --> 00:17:32.290
  • but you have single parent family.
  • 00:17:32.290 --> 00:17:35.070
  • You got single moms and single dad.
  • 00:17:35.070 --> 00:17:37.150
  • It was never God's intent for a mom
  • 00:17:37.150 --> 00:17:40.280
  • to have to be left just with the children
  • 00:17:40.280 --> 00:17:43.290
  • to raise the children.
  • 00:17:43.290 --> 00:17:45.080
  • Nor the opposite is also so with the man
  • 00:17:45.080 --> 00:17:48.190
  • just left to raise the children himself.
  • 00:17:48.190 --> 00:17:51.220
  • And God forbid,
  • 00:17:51.220 --> 00:17:53.130
  • He never imagined same-sex marriages.
  • 00:17:54.280 --> 00:17:58.140
  • Never, it was never in the mind of God
  • 00:17:58.250 --> 00:18:01.110
  • as it relates to His intent.
  • 00:18:01.110 --> 00:18:03.270
  • God never intended for two men to get together.
  • 00:18:03.270 --> 00:18:07.250
  • Or two women to get together.
  • 00:18:07.250 --> 00:18:09.250
  • And then have children.
  • 00:18:09.250 --> 00:18:11.100
  • Well you can't have them, they gotta come from
  • 00:18:11.100 --> 00:18:13.210
  • a previous relationship or you adopt them.
  • 00:18:13.210 --> 00:18:16.140
  • But never the less we have these diversities
  • 00:18:16.140 --> 00:18:20.060
  • and dynamics in our society.
  • 00:18:20.060 --> 00:18:22.260
  • I just can't address the traditional family
  • 00:18:22.260 --> 00:18:25.160
  • and leave the blended family.
  • 00:18:25.160 --> 00:18:27.120
  • I can't address the single family
  • 00:18:27.120 --> 00:18:29.140
  • and dismiss the same-sex family.
  • 00:18:29.140 --> 00:18:31.280
  • I'm gonna talk about the same-sex family
  • 00:18:31.280 --> 00:18:34.030
  • because we're the same ones who have the propensity
  • 00:18:34.030 --> 00:18:37.090
  • to say come as you are.
  • 00:18:37.090 --> 00:18:39.040
  • But the minute two men coming in as married men
  • 00:18:39.040 --> 00:18:42.120
  • we turn up our nose.
  • 00:18:42.120 --> 00:18:43.270
  • There may be some situations in here.
  • 00:18:43.270 --> 00:18:46.110
  • I'm gonna address every area of what
  • 00:18:46.110 --> 00:18:49.210
  • marriage should look like in our society.
  • 00:18:49.210 --> 00:18:53.150
  • Every area.
  • 00:18:53.150 --> 00:18:54.120
  • Hunch your neighbor and say
  • 00:18:54.120 --> 00:18:55.180
  • don't even turn up your nose on this one.
  • 00:18:55.180 --> 00:18:58.060
  • (audience responds)
  • 00:18:58.060 --> 00:19:00.130
  • No, I have to, because if in fact
  • 00:19:00.130 --> 00:19:03.090
  • what she said is so, then maybe just maybe
  • 00:19:03.090 --> 00:19:06.200
  • if the parents are not willing to open up
  • 00:19:06.200 --> 00:19:09.250
  • to the plan and the principles of God's word
  • 00:19:09.250 --> 00:19:12.150
  • found in the word as it relates to marriage,
  • 00:19:12.150 --> 00:19:16.120
  • maybe those children that is with that husband and husband,
  • 00:19:16.120 --> 00:19:20.170
  • that don't even go together.
  • 00:19:20.170 --> 00:19:22.090
  • Ugh, yucky, but so is all of the adultery
  • 00:19:22.090 --> 00:19:26.010
  • and outside chicks on the side and all of that.
  • 00:19:26.010 --> 00:19:29.020
  • It's just as ugh as the rest of it.
  • 00:19:29.020 --> 00:19:31.290
  • So we have a, "Houston we have a problem."
  • 00:19:31.290 --> 00:19:35.080
  • We have challenges here relative to those areas
  • 00:19:35.240 --> 00:19:39.080
  • and it's my job as a man of God to address
  • 00:19:39.080 --> 00:19:42.270
  • the issues of our day.
  • 00:19:42.270 --> 00:19:44.280
  • Just like the apostle Paul did
  • 00:19:44.280 --> 00:19:46.180
  • and we're gonna talk about these areas.
  • 00:19:46.180 --> 00:19:48.200
  • Because what if I can get to that child,
  • 00:19:48.200 --> 00:19:51.230
  • and that child hears the word of God?
  • 00:19:51.230 --> 00:19:54.050
  • And that child realizes that a husband and husband deal
  • 00:19:54.050 --> 00:19:58.050
  • was never the will of God.
  • 00:19:58.050 --> 00:20:00.050
  • Come on I like that group over there, yeah yeah.
  • 00:20:00.050 --> 00:20:02.280
  • That was never the will of God
  • 00:20:02.280 --> 00:20:04.210
  • and then they turn this thing around.
  • 00:20:04.210 --> 00:20:06.120
  • I promise you man, based upon what I have seen
  • 00:20:06.120 --> 00:20:10.120
  • just in the last three generations
  • 00:20:10.120 --> 00:20:13.100
  • with my grandmother and grandfather.
  • 00:20:13.100 --> 00:20:15.230
  • They've been together having my aunt birthday,
  • 00:20:15.230 --> 00:20:18.170
  • my auntie birthday.
  • 00:20:18.170 --> 00:20:19.230
  • And then aunt Mar, and my father Bishop,
  • 00:20:19.230 --> 00:20:22.290
  • and all of them and they're coming together
  • 00:20:22.290 --> 00:20:24.250
  • and having these families.
  • 00:20:24.250 --> 00:20:26.140
  • And then from the union with my mom Carrie Bell Freeman.
  • 00:20:26.140 --> 00:20:30.050
  • Don't y'all laugh at my momma's name.
  • 00:20:30.050 --> 00:20:31.290
  • But Carrie Bell got together with Bishop
  • 00:20:31.290 --> 00:20:35.030
  • and they both came from deeply rooted religious backgrounds
  • 00:20:35.030 --> 00:20:39.090
  • that had a standard concerning marriage.
  • 00:20:39.090 --> 00:20:42.150
  • They get together and they are married now for 65 years.
  • 00:20:42.150 --> 00:20:46.220
  • Look, they give birth to us
  • 00:20:46.220 --> 00:20:50.080
  • and at the same time her parents hooked up and they too
  • 00:20:50.080 --> 00:20:54.150
  • have been married for 65 years and give birth to this one.
  • 00:20:54.150 --> 00:20:58.050
  • And then so on and so on.
  • 00:20:58.050 --> 00:21:00.120
  • And now you saw my children sitting up here
  • 00:21:00.120 --> 00:21:03.200
  • with their wife and their husbands
  • 00:21:03.200 --> 00:21:08.050
  • or their husband and fiance.
  • 00:21:08.050 --> 00:21:11.030
  • It ain't over until October 10th.
  • 00:21:11.130 --> 00:21:15.180
  • I still got time.
  • 00:21:16.260 --> 00:21:18.080
  • But look what we're starting even in our own family.
  • 00:21:20.190 --> 00:21:25.090
  • Where the 65 years established here.
  • 00:21:25.190 --> 00:21:28.160
  • 30 years tomorrow established here.
  • 00:21:28.160 --> 00:21:31.130
  • With my children they have established years already
  • 00:21:31.130 --> 00:21:35.060
  • as it relates to this understanding and what God intended.
  • 00:21:35.060 --> 00:21:39.060
  • Their children are gonna pick up from the same lineage.
  • 00:21:39.060 --> 00:21:42.230
  • Imagine if every last one of us were established.
  • 00:21:42.230 --> 00:21:46.090
  • Okay you are with whomever you are with right now,
  • 00:21:46.090 --> 00:21:50.080
  • just go ahead and hang out, build the thing.
  • 00:21:50.080 --> 00:21:53.020
  • Get the principles that's established from God's word
  • 00:21:53.020 --> 00:21:56.120
  • so you can turn around the next generation
  • 00:21:56.120 --> 00:21:59.200
  • and they too can live happily ever after.
  • 00:21:59.200 --> 00:22:04.050
  • Now go to Colossians for a moment.
  • 00:22:04.050 --> 00:22:06.190
  • Let's look at that.
  • 00:22:06.190 --> 00:22:07.180
  • - Before you go into Colossians,
  • 00:22:07.180 --> 00:22:10.040
  • you wanna talk about mutual submission.
  • 00:22:10.040 --> 00:22:12.040
  • Because that's our title for today.
  • 00:22:12.040 --> 00:22:14.100
  • We're talking about mutual submission.
  • 00:22:14.100 --> 00:22:16.160
  • And mutual submission - [Pastor] Oh that's good.
  • 00:22:16.160 --> 00:22:17.220
  • - [DeeDee] is not just for the spouses.
  • 00:22:17.220 --> 00:22:20.050
  • Not for husband and wife.
  • 00:22:20.050 --> 00:22:21.110
  • But as we're talking about in the family.
  • 00:22:21.110 --> 00:22:23.260
  • There should be mutual submission
  • 00:22:23.260 --> 00:22:25.110
  • between your children and you as well.
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  • Let's see how that goes.
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  • - Explain that again because I
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  • was focusing on something else.
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  • - Mutual submission, I didn't explain anything.
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  • I said we're not just talking about just husband and wife,
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  • we're talking about your children as well.
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  • - Okay, involved in this mutual submission.
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  • So now the apostle Paul begins this thing in Colossians.
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  • I think this is so fascinating because
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  • he begins to describe the role
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  • of each entity of the family.
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  • So in verse number 18, if you have it say you have it.
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  • Colossians 3:18.
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  • So verse 18 says what?
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  • Wives do what?
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  • - Submit. (audience responds)
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  • - Now that word submit, it is not clearly defined,
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  • it's not gonna be clearly understood.
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  • And so there is now a disdain
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  • towards that word, submit.
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  • As a matter of fact, some couples even request
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  • that it is removed from their vows.
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  • Well if you intend on having me
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  • to be a part of that covenant then you
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  • aren't gonna change what I've established
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  • as it relates to the vows when it comes to the word of God.
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  • It says "Wives do" what?
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  • Submit your?
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  • - Self.
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  • - Unto your who?
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  • - Own.
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  • - Go on sweetie.
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  • - "As it is fit in the Lord."
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  • - As it is fit in the Lord.
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  • So he starts to address the wife.
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  • And then guess what he does?
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  • Right here, now, he goes towards the husband.
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  • He said now "Husband, here is your role.
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  • "Love your wives.
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  • - "And be not bitter against them."
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  • - Because again, that woman was subservient to the man
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  • and there was no equality.
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  • And Jesus, well God Himself talked about
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  • the equality that should be demonstrated in the marriage
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  • from the very beginning.
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  • He didn't say "Well some men got it all wrong
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  • "and don't know that they are
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  • "to submit to their wives as well."
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  • Because when you see the apostle Paul addressing
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  • it over here, you think I'm just supposed to love her
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  • and I'm not supposed to submit to her.
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  • But hold on halls we gonna show you in a minute
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  • that there is a mutual submission in the household.
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  • Then he gets to the next part of it
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  • in verse 20 he says what?
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  • - "Children obey your parents in all things.
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  • "For this is well pleasing unto the Lord."
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  • - Now he says, first of all he says wives,
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  • and then he says husbands, and then he says children
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  • here's your role in this entire system.
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  • Here's your role in this set up.
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  • I want the wife to know that she has a responsibility.
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  • I want the husband to know that he has a responsibility
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  • as well as the children.
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  • And when he says obey, it is the husbands responsibility
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  • to make sure that he is enforcing obedience in the home.
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  • Because I promise you, some of the demise
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  • that we are experiencing
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  • in our society is coming directly from
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  • the lack of enforcement of obedience in the home.
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  • And subsequently, a lot of them are losing their lives
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  • long before they should.
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  • Because in this particular scripture the apostle Paul,
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  • he also refers to the promise that's connected to a child
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  • honoring his mother and father.
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  • - Dee Dee and I were really intrigued, and even astonished
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  • to some degree, about the reports that we have received
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  • from this series, about where some families are,
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  • and maybe you're watching.
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  • Today, your family is really not where it should be.
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  • You see other families, and they don't match up
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  • to what your family really looks like.
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  • First of all, we feel you. We have your heart.
  • 00:26:37.040 --> 00:26:40.030
  • We understand, and most of all, God understands.
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  • So at this particular time we want you to know
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  • that there is someone that's praying
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  • - Yes
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  • - for your family.
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  • As a matter of fact, in Jesus' name,
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  • - Yes.
  • 00:26:52.140 --> 00:26:53.090
  • - we call your family
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  • whole right now. - [Dee Dee] Yes.
  • 00:26:54.100 --> 00:26:56.030
  • - [Dr. Freeman] And these principles that you are hearing,
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  • you be the hero in your house.
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  • You be the one that will start all of these
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  • Different principles, - [Dee Dee] Principles. Yes.
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  • - [Dr. Freeman] and different kind of dispositions,
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  • and proclivities, I promise you,
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  • the God that you know has already turned it around,
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  • you're just waiting on the manifestation.
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  • Get this CD or get this DVD, it'll bless your life.
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  • We love you!
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  • - Bye!
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  • - Family!
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  • because I'm adding value to who they are.
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  • "Okay baby, let's get this spinach thing done.
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  • "But I also wanna make sure you will
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  • "at least get a scoop of ice cream."
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  • It was the value I had in my house
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  • that literally caused them to know
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  • that my role as your child is as equally
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  • as significant and important as your role as father.
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