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Kill Yourself: The Family Meeting

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November 2, 2016
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Living by Faith with Mike & DeeDee Freeman

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  • spend some time with everybody together.
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  • - "What do you do when a spouse does more
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  • "for their family members than they do for you?"
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  • (indistinct chatter from audience)
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  • Oh Jesus.
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  • - Right, and so after I got passed myself,
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  • I was like okay.
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  • - You know that's the prerequisite of following Christ?
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  • Get past yourself.
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  • - Why is your wife getting on your nerve?
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  • Or why is your husband getting on your nerve?
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  • I promise you, you don't wanna miss
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  • this upcoming table talk discussion
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  • with Dr. Dee Dee.
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  • It's a reason why each other
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  • are getting on each others nerves
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  • and we're gon fix that today.
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  • Don't leave from where you are.
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  • a level of control implemented there.
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  • And I never wanted her or even you in that respect
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  • to feel like there's any control that I am
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  • enforcing in your relationship.
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  • That's why I've always made it clear to Keisha
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  • and also Kevin that you're your own people.
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  • And you have the right to make whatever decisions.
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  • I on the other hand knowing some things
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  • about life, and ministry, and handling domestic
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  • issues and so forth and so on.
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  • I can just share with you my two cent.
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  • Advise is for two things to take or to leave.
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  • And it would be entirely up to you
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  • and I'm glad you made that clear.
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  • Because I stand in the same premise with you in that.
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  • I don't wanna just say do this and you do this.
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  • But as one who's been under my authority,
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  • as it relates to her destiny and her future,
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  • I had her best interests at heart at that particular time.
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  • When I give her hand to you in marriage, guess what?
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  • That is cut off, you be the man at that time.
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  • But I'll kill you if you mess up.
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  • (audience laughs)
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  • Now dig this, dig this.
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  • We gotta also understand the weight of a man
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  • and the weight of a man's voice.
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  • And that's where you father's play such significant role
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  • in the relationship because the weight of a woman
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  • is like about 25 pounds compared to the weight
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  • of a man who is about 500 pounds.
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  • When a man speaks in an environment
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  • it's more weightier than a woman speaking.
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  • I promise you that.
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  • My mama used to really exercise and enforce that,
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  • and it registered in us.
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  • She would just say "Wait til your daddy get home."
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  • She coupled her weight with his weight
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  • and it literally caused something to stand up in us
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  • to respect and honor in a greater magnitude.
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  • You two coming together with the weight that you possess
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  • and what you say and do, it's gonna be an unstoppable force.
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  • And it's not much I'm gonna have to tell ya.
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  • But what I am saying to you,
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  • like I would suggest to everybody here,
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  • if you ever need me son, I'm right here with you
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  • to give you my best.
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  • Cause all mine is thine.
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  • Everything I'm working for at this particular point
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  • is for these people and their offsprings.
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  • I rest my case.
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  • - I receive that. (audience applauds)
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  • - That's my dude.
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  • Come on Keisha, talk to me.
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  • Keisha hasn't said a thing over there.
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  • - [Keisha] Can you repeat - [Pastor] What your mama
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  • - [Keisha] the question? - [Pastor] say about Josh.
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  • - [Pastor] What did your mama say about Josh?
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  • Was she opposed to him?
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  • I mean or did you have the kind of relationship
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  • with mama that she would
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  • have the impact?
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  • What kind of weight did she possess in your life?
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  • Relative to your decision.
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  • - Well Josh knows, it's been like me
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  • and my mom my whole life.
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  • So, she has impact in my choice.
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  • So my mom did love Josh in the beginning.
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  • She still does but. - [Pastor] In the beginning.
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  • (everyone laughs)
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  • - You know before you get married everything gets peachy,
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  • and then you know you get married and you go through things,
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  • but you make it through.
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  • And yeah, she likes Josh she loves Josh.
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  • - So, if she woulda said "Keisha, I don't think
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  • "that's a good choice for you."
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  • - [Josh] Tell the truth.
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  • - I would of had to respect it.
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  • But...
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  • I may have tried to "Well ma you know
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  • "he such and such." - [Pastor] Okay talk it.
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  • That's typical, right right.
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  • - So, I didn't have that problem but,
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  • he's my choice.
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  • I'm happy I made that choice.
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  • - [Pastor] You sound so happy about it.
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  • "He's my choice, I guess I gotta."
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  • - [DeeDee] She said she happy with that choice.
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  • - I know, I'm just playing.
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  • Can't I play?
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  • You know, I recently met with a young man,
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  • and I don't mean to dominate this time.
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  • Y'all jump in there.
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  • But I recently met this young man he's 15 years old.
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  • His mother just married a guy six years ago
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  • and he can't stand his mother's choice.
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  • What do you do?
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  • Cause now you got a blended deal coming on.
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  • And I sat and talked with her.
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  • And she did not methodically, there was no strategy,
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  • there was no plan.
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  • She digged this dude, got involved with him,
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  • didn't incorporate this cat
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  • into her baby's flow.
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  • And now he doesn't have much
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  • to do with his stepfather.
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  • I don't personally like the term stepfather.
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  • I just like dad or whatever they choose
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  • to call them, but stepfather.
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  • (Pastor stutters)
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  • Let's talk about that for a moment.
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  • How do you get some one who's.
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  • Because there are more blended families now
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  • than the traditional.
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  • - [DeeDee] Of course, and we gonna address
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  • some of that kind of stuff probably in the family series.
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  • But it's too many different dynamics for it.
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  • That's too broad of a thing right there.
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  • Because I need to know okay,
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  • how's the mother treating the son now?
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  • How is the stepfather treating the son.
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  • You know, what kind of--
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  • - She's guarding the son now.
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  • - Yeah, so it's like why don't he like him?
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  • You know, there's so many other things--
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  • - I tell you what, you can narrow all of what I ask
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  • by giving us some pointers for those who
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  • are marrying people who have had kids
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  • prior to them getting married.
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  • - I think they should develop relationships
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  • with the kids as well.
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  • I do, I think--
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  • - How?
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  • - I don't know, spending time with each other.
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  • - How?
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  • - Go to the movies do something.
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  • Go to dinner, sit down, have a family meeting.
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  • You know involve them, because they are a part of it now.
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  • Like you said, you're not just marrying the mom now.
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  • You're marrying into this family
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  • and you're becoming one unit.
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  • I do believe that sometimes,
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  • you as the adult though have to be the one
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  • to decide or determine whether or not the child
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  • is just having some kind of personal issues
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  • and just not wanting you to be in a relationship.
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  • Because they want you to be in a relationship
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  • with the other parent.
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  • You know, opposed to being in a relationship
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  • with somebody new.
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  • So it's just so many different dynamics in that to me.
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  • I think that's so broad, but I do personally would say
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  • spend some time with everybody together.
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  • - "What do you do when a spouse does more
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  • "for their family members than they do for you?"
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  • (indistinct chatter from audience)
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  • Oh Jesus.
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  • Y'all are kinda one sided in that respect.
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  • Yeah, you're one sided.
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  • Because I always try to encourage you,
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  • especially you Britney to go and to take
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  • the baby's to Kevin's mom and dad's house.
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  • And you always over at my house.
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  • And I kinda feel like there's
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  • no equality or balance in that.
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  • And I don't know how his parents may feel about that.
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  • So you may be doing more for your family
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  • with respect to having your children around
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  • in our environment and not giving them
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  • the same kind of love.
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  • - You know while you were making that point about
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  • how now, I no longer get on your nerves
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  • because you have made some decisions
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  • to change and I love that.
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  • I mean because that's evident.
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  • You have definitely changed your position,
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  • your disposition towards me
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  • and with everybody in that regard.
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  • But I was thinking, you know how we're always
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  • talking about when your spouse has something
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  • that they're encountering that you disagree with
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  • or you are having challenges with,
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  • how I can just pray about it and leave it alone.
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  • There is something that I pray about you everyday.
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  • That you would be even tempered,
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  • that you would love me the way Christ loves the church,
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  • and that you would be affectionate towards me,
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  • that you would understand me.
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  • These are things that I pray
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  • and even when you are irritated with something that I do,
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  • it would change your position on how you would treat me
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  • and how you would feel.
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  • - So, you're responsible for this change
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  • that has taken place?
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  • - Of course, I would like to say that you know women
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  • - Pride
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  • - Pride, pride, call it what you may
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  • - How in God's name are you gonna take credit for that?
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  • - However this transpired.
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  • - Yeah, I'm not taking credit for that,
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  • my whole point is this, it's like
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  • you don't have to murmur and complain,
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  • you don't have to get worked up,
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  • you don't have to loose it,
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  • all you have to do is trust God through this whole process.
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  • - And watch and pray that, yeah.
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  • You know because, it's like I can pray about some things
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  • and I can leave it alone,
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  • walk away from it and allow God to minister to your heart.
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  • So, regardless of how you got there
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  • - Right.
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  • - You know, you've gotten there
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  • and I wanted to use that as a point
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  • to say OK, we don't have to just loose it all the time
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  • when we don't agree, or when we get on each others nerves
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  • or when we do stuff that irritate each other.
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  • We can pray about it, leave it alone,
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  • walk away from it and allow
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  • Holy Spirit to do the work because ultimately
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  • the Holy Spirit is the one.
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  • - Well, if your prayers are that potent
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  • and that powerful, why haven't you prayed about
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  • not doing what you do to get on my nerves?
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  • - Because
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  • - We coulda reversed this two ways.
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  • - Totally.
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  • - God change his heart, no,
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  • you pray about your own heart so that
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  • you won't do the things you do
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  • that were getting on my nerves.
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  • - No, but it's not necessarily things that I was doing
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  • that was getting on your nerves
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  • it was the things that you expect to be done.
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  • - And allowed.
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  • - And allowed.
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  • - Yeah
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  • Because, just because somebody put the toothpaste
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  • in a different spot doesn't mean that it was wrong
  • 00:12:42.260 --> 00:12:47.030
  • it was just that it irritated you
  • 00:12:47.030 --> 00:12:48.220
  • because that's not what you're accustomed too.
  • 00:12:48.220 --> 00:12:50.120
  • - And it's not my spot.
  • 00:12:50.120 --> 00:12:51.180
  • - And it's not your spot.
  • 00:12:51.180 --> 00:12:52.230
  • - Right.
  • 00:12:52.230 --> 00:12:53.280
  • - And so that's the whole pride thing
  • 00:12:53.280 --> 00:12:55.030
  • so it's like, OK, God let me just pray
  • 00:12:55.030 --> 00:12:57.220
  • that we can come together and get along
  • 00:12:57.220 --> 00:13:00.020
  • and have some type of agreement.
  • 00:13:00.020 --> 00:13:02.220
  • - And all you had to do was pray
  • 00:13:02.220 --> 00:13:05.010
  • for God to remind you to put the toothpaste in my spot.
  • 00:13:05.010 --> 00:13:07.160
  • - (laughing)
  • 00:13:07.160 --> 00:13:08.110
  • - (laughing)
  • 00:13:08.110 --> 00:13:09.230
  • - Well I don't know what got you there,
  • 00:13:09.230 --> 00:13:11.240
  • but I thank God that you're there.
  • 00:13:11.240 --> 00:13:13.250
  • - I am here.
  • 00:13:13.250 --> 00:13:14.230
  • - And you too can get there.
  • 00:13:14.230 --> 00:13:16.210
  • - Yeah, however you get there
  • 00:13:16.210 --> 00:13:18.030
  • whether you're praying about a situation
  • 00:13:18.030 --> 00:13:20.170
  • that your husband is doing
  • 00:13:20.170 --> 00:13:22.180
  • or you're praying about a situation for yourself.
  • 00:13:22.180 --> 00:13:26.110
  • Just like she mentioned, prayer will assist you
  • 00:13:26.110 --> 00:13:30.290
  • in changing everything you need to have changed.
  • 00:13:30.290 --> 00:13:34.120
  • It's just amazing and your lives will never be the same.
  • 00:13:34.120 --> 00:13:37.250
  • - It takes the struggle out.
  • 00:13:37.250 --> 00:13:39.210
  • - That's how marriage is made easy.
  • 00:13:39.210 --> 00:13:41.120
  • You gotta get our book too, it'll bless your life.
  • 00:13:41.120 --> 00:13:43.130
  • Amen.
  • 00:13:43.130 --> 00:13:43.210
  • in our environment and not giving them
  • 00:13:50.200 --> 00:13:53.100
  • the same kind of love.
  • 00:13:53.100 --> 00:13:54.270
  • Come on speak up lady.
  • 00:13:56.010 --> 00:13:57.190
  • Cause we used to do that.
  • 00:13:58.160 --> 00:13:59.290
  • My mom used to get real upset sometimes
  • 00:14:00.050 --> 00:14:04.110
  • because I was always over your house
  • 00:14:04.110 --> 00:14:06.270
  • with your family doing family things, holidays.
  • 00:14:06.270 --> 00:14:10.050
  • - [DeeDee] Well my mama would say
  • 00:14:10.050 --> 00:14:12.220
  • "Okay go to Mrs. Freeman house.
  • 00:14:12.220 --> 00:14:14.180
  • "Y'all get on outta here."
  • 00:14:14.180 --> 00:14:16.020
  • - Well you didn't listen to your mother that much.
  • 00:14:16.020 --> 00:14:17.170
  • - [DeeDee] Yes I did.
  • 00:14:17.170 --> 00:14:18.200
  • - No, we felt that way as well.
  • 00:14:20.160 --> 00:14:24.060
  • And because I am believe in God
  • 00:14:24.060 --> 00:14:27.070
  • for more family togetherness.
  • 00:14:27.070 --> 00:14:29.130
  • That's why we started going over there
  • 00:14:29.130 --> 00:14:31.170
  • at least two Sundays a month.
  • 00:14:31.260 --> 00:14:33.110
  • Like we alternate Sundays.
  • 00:14:33.110 --> 00:14:35.030
  • - I can't stand it but I understand.
  • 00:14:35.090 --> 00:14:37.070
  • - Right.
  • 00:14:37.090 --> 00:14:38.160
  • I was about to say cause you say go over there.
  • 00:14:38.160 --> 00:14:39.280
  • Then I'll be like "Well you know this their Sunday.
  • 00:14:39.280 --> 00:14:42.030
  • "What?!
  • 00:14:42.030 --> 00:14:43.000
  • "You just was with them!"
  • 00:14:43.000 --> 00:14:44.210
  • (everyone laughs)
  • 00:14:44.210 --> 00:14:47.090
  • But in doing that it has started to create
  • 00:14:54.270 --> 00:14:59.210
  • more family togetherness.
  • 00:15:01.050 --> 00:15:02.260
  • Like his mom is talking to me.
  • 00:15:02.260 --> 00:15:04.200
  • She smile when she see me now.
  • 00:15:04.220 --> 00:15:06.160
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:15:06.160 --> 00:15:08.090
  • - Oh she was giving you some--
  • 00:15:08.090 --> 00:15:09.190
  • - [DeeDee] She's gonna see this show!
  • 00:15:09.190 --> 00:15:11.120
  • - No, she smile when she see me.
  • 00:15:12.180 --> 00:15:14.140
  • We play volleyball together Sunday.
  • 00:15:14.140 --> 00:15:17.020
  • And I binged the ball at her head
  • 00:15:18.040 --> 00:15:20.010
  • cause she's very competitive.
  • 00:15:20.010 --> 00:15:21.290
  • Wait, let me rewind this in case she see.
  • 00:15:21.290 --> 00:15:24.170
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:15:24.170 --> 00:15:25.160
  • - She's competitive and so am I.
  • 00:15:26.220 --> 00:15:29.020
  • And she was on the opposing team and she.
  • 00:15:29.020 --> 00:15:31.130
  • Have you ever played something with somebody
  • 00:15:31.130 --> 00:15:33.230
  • who talks so much trash that you just,
  • 00:15:33.230 --> 00:15:36.210
  • you wanted to win with everything in you.
  • 00:15:37.010 --> 00:15:39.270
  • - That's that boys mother baby.
  • 00:15:39.270 --> 00:15:41.280
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:15:41.280 --> 00:15:43.240
  • - [Britney] Listen, anybody can get it okay.
  • 00:15:43.240 --> 00:15:46.140
  • His nephew was over there one time.
  • 00:15:46.250 --> 00:15:49.000
  • His nephew and his mother and I'm like
  • 00:15:49.000 --> 00:15:50.270
  • "I'm coming for both of y'all."
  • 00:15:50.270 --> 00:15:52.200
  • But no we had a lot of fun.
  • 00:15:53.120 --> 00:15:54.230
  • She squatted down, she looked at me
  • 00:15:54.230 --> 00:15:57.080
  • and she's like "I got you."
  • 00:15:57.080 --> 00:15:58.110
  • She got me a couple of times.
  • 00:15:58.110 --> 00:15:59.170
  • I was on the floor and she kinda laughed.
  • 00:15:59.170 --> 00:16:01.170
  • And was like "Girl all I hear is excuses
  • 00:16:01.170 --> 00:16:03.140
  • "coming out your mouth."
  • 00:16:03.140 --> 00:16:05.010
  • (everyone laughs)
  • 00:16:05.010 --> 00:16:07.260
  • But it was fun, it was fun.
  • 00:16:09.070 --> 00:16:11.110
  • She beat me.
  • 00:16:11.110 --> 00:16:13.010
  • - She beat you?
  • 00:16:13.010 --> 00:16:14.000
  • - She won.
  • 00:16:14.000 --> 00:16:15.030
  • Kevin was on her team.
  • 00:16:15.210 --> 00:16:17.080
  • He carried this.
  • 00:16:18.040 --> 00:16:19.130
  • I know right?
  • 00:16:19.190 --> 00:16:20.270
  • - Maybe he was taking it out on you in the game?
  • 00:16:20.270 --> 00:16:23.190
  • Because Kevin how do you feel? - [Britney] I know.
  • 00:16:23.290 --> 00:16:25.140
  • - [Pastor] I mean cause you are always over at our place.
  • 00:16:25.140 --> 00:16:29.270
  • There's some balance now being implemented.
  • 00:16:29.270 --> 00:16:32.230
  • But did you feel like she always wanted to do things
  • 00:16:33.000 --> 00:16:36.250
  • for her family and never yours?
  • 00:16:36.250 --> 00:16:38.260
  • Did that ever create an issue?
  • 00:16:38.260 --> 00:16:40.260
  • - No, cause I kinda felt like how,
  • 00:16:40.260 --> 00:16:44.160
  • well I wouldn't say how she did but I wanted
  • 00:16:44.160 --> 00:16:47.090
  • to be over at your guys house because, no.
  • 00:16:47.090 --> 00:16:50.100
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:16:50.100 --> 00:16:52.170
  • - [Pastor] I got ya, I got ya.
  • 00:16:54.080 --> 00:16:55.200
  • I'm gonna hook you up. - [Kevin] I mean because,
  • 00:16:55.200 --> 00:16:56.250
  • - [Kevin] you know, in the (mumbles).
  • 00:16:56.250 --> 00:16:58.090
  • Because in the beginning things did not transpire
  • 00:16:59.270 --> 00:17:02.140
  • with my family as smoothly as we would've liked
  • 00:17:02.140 --> 00:17:05.270
  • for it to have happened.
  • 00:17:05.270 --> 00:17:08.120
  • So I took the position, "Okay you don't like her,
  • 00:17:08.220 --> 00:17:11.290
  • "you don't like me."
  • 00:17:11.290 --> 00:17:13.060
  • And so I'm rolling with it you know.
  • 00:17:13.160 --> 00:17:15.030
  • - Your family didn't like Britney?
  • 00:17:15.030 --> 00:17:16.290
  • - I wouldn't say didn't like, just.
  • 00:17:17.250 --> 00:17:19.230
  • (audience and DeeDee laugh)
  • 00:17:19.230 --> 00:17:22.230
  • That's such a strong term - [Pastor] Did you know
  • 00:17:23.040 --> 00:17:24.200
  • to use and you know. - [Pastor] about that?
  • 00:17:24.200 --> 00:17:26.030
  • - [DeeDee] Yeah, you knew.
  • 00:17:26.030 --> 00:17:27.050
  • - I didn't know nothing--
  • 00:17:27.050 --> 00:17:28.060
  • - [DeeDee] Yes you did.
  • 00:17:28.060 --> 00:17:28.290
  • - I did not know--
  • 00:17:28.290 --> 00:17:29.230
  • - It was new to them.
  • 00:17:29.230 --> 00:17:31.030
  • And you know being--
  • 00:17:31.030 --> 00:17:32.100
  • - Are you the baby boy?
  • 00:17:32.100 --> 00:17:33.230
  • - No, I'm the oldest boy. - [DeeDee] No, but he's
  • 00:17:33.230 --> 00:17:34.210
  • - [DeeDee] like the one that--
  • 00:17:34.210 --> 00:17:36.170
  • - But I was like the golden child to them if you will.
  • 00:17:36.170 --> 00:17:38.190
  • And so--
  • 00:17:38.190 --> 00:17:39.160
  • - You are a little light.
  • 00:17:39.160 --> 00:17:40.190
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:17:40.190 --> 00:17:42.290
  • - [DeeDee] This is how it goes in our family meetings.
  • 00:17:47.080 --> 00:17:50.060
  • - I got a tan, I'm just saying, y'all can't tell.
  • 00:17:51.150 --> 00:17:53.130
  • - Welcome to the family meeting Tim.
  • 00:17:53.130 --> 00:17:54.260
  • - [Brelyn] Tan?!
  • 00:17:54.280 --> 00:17:56.060
  • - [Kevin] Come on man, look at me (mumbles).
  • 00:17:56.060 --> 00:17:57.050
  • - [Brelyn] No. - [Kevin] No oh.
  • 00:17:57.050 --> 00:17:58.120
  • - [Kevin] So it kind of pushed me away a bit.
  • 00:17:59.100 --> 00:18:02.270
  • Being that they did not, - [Pastor] Wow.
  • 00:18:02.270 --> 00:18:05.100
  • - [Kevin] immediately accept the relationship
  • 00:18:05.150 --> 00:18:07.020
  • that I decided to be in.
  • 00:18:07.020 --> 00:18:08.130
  • But, like Britney said we worked on some things
  • 00:18:09.170 --> 00:18:12.130
  • and we noticed the trend that was happening
  • 00:18:12.130 --> 00:18:14.180
  • in conversations with my parents and even my siblings.
  • 00:18:14.180 --> 00:18:18.100
  • They would drop hints and things.
  • 00:18:18.100 --> 00:18:20.260
  • Let me know like "Okay we don't see you that much."
  • 00:18:20.260 --> 00:18:23.250
  • And they would take it out in frustration
  • 00:18:23.250 --> 00:18:25.220
  • but they were really hurting.
  • 00:18:25.220 --> 00:18:27.030
  • And so. - [Pastor] Wow.
  • 00:18:27.150 --> 00:18:28.230
  • - [Kevin] And it hurt me cause that's my family.
  • 00:18:29.100 --> 00:18:31.030
  • - [Pastor] Absolutely.
  • 00:18:31.030 --> 00:18:32.090
  • - And so I've always wanted them to like her.
  • 00:18:32.090 --> 00:18:35.290
  • And so once they would've jumped on board
  • 00:18:35.290 --> 00:18:39.000
  • and build a relationship with her.
  • 00:18:39.000 --> 00:18:41.010
  • Then the next one jumped on board
  • 00:18:41.010 --> 00:18:42.080
  • and they built a relationship.
  • 00:18:42.080 --> 00:18:43.130
  • So it was like my parents, like okay.
  • 00:18:43.130 --> 00:18:45.120
  • And so we just started to go over there more.
  • 00:18:46.010 --> 00:18:48.010
  • - [Pastor] I love it.
  • 00:18:48.010 --> 00:18:49.130
  • - I started to call them more and talk to them more.
  • 00:18:49.130 --> 00:18:50.180
  • - Because you identified what was going on.
  • 00:18:50.180 --> 00:18:52.190
  • - Yes, yes.
  • 00:18:52.190 --> 00:18:53.220
  • - And you made the adjustments.
  • 00:18:53.220 --> 00:18:54.260
  • - Absolutely.
  • 00:18:54.260 --> 00:18:55.200
  • - I would like to say--
  • 00:18:55.200 --> 00:18:56.130
  • - Go ahead sweetie.
  • 00:18:56.130 --> 00:18:57.070
  • - Because let me see.
  • 00:18:57.070 --> 00:18:58.090
  • Sorry, I'm gonna let you talk.
  • 00:18:58.090 --> 00:18:59.270
  • I was at first waiting on them to reach out to me.
  • 00:19:00.280 --> 00:19:05.030
  • - [Pastor] Wow!
  • 00:19:05.030 --> 00:19:06.110
  • - But then it was kind of like "I want this,
  • 00:19:06.110 --> 00:19:08.250
  • "I want this family.
  • 00:19:08.250 --> 00:19:10.000
  • "You know this means the world to him.
  • 00:19:10.000 --> 00:19:12.270
  • "I want my kids to know."
  • 00:19:12.270 --> 00:19:14.160
  • So I started going after them.
  • 00:19:15.040 --> 00:19:16.290
  • And I would send his mom pictures or send her texts.
  • 00:19:16.290 --> 00:19:21.100
  • Reach out to her. - [Pastor] What did you,
  • 00:19:21.100 --> 00:19:22.170
  • - [Pastor] say that again, say that again.
  • 00:19:22.170 --> 00:19:24.010
  • You started going?
  • 00:19:24.100 --> 00:19:26.090
  • - After them.
  • 00:19:26.260 --> 00:19:28.040
  • Mmm hmm, I started going after them.
  • 00:19:28.110 --> 00:19:29.160
  • - One more time.
  • 00:19:29.160 --> 00:19:30.140
  • - I started going after them.
  • 00:19:30.140 --> 00:19:32.070
  • - Cause you could've said, "Oh they don't like me I ain't."
  • 00:19:32.070 --> 00:19:35.200
  • - Yup.
  • 00:19:36.230 --> 00:19:37.170
  • - But you started to.
  • 00:19:37.170 --> 00:19:38.230
  • - I started to go after them.
  • 00:19:39.210 --> 00:19:41.050
  • Cause I mean it hurt me at first cause I had never been.
  • 00:19:41.050 --> 00:19:45.000
  • I mean my family is so like. - [Pastor] We ain't used
  • 00:19:45.070 --> 00:19:46.210
  • - [Pastor] to that, right, absolutely.
  • 00:19:46.210 --> 00:19:48.120
  • - All of the in-laws.
  • 00:19:48.120 --> 00:19:49.180
  • So when I experienced it I was like
  • 00:19:49.180 --> 00:19:51.230
  • "I only see this on TV."
  • 00:19:51.230 --> 00:19:53.180
  • Like what's wrong with these people, people like me.
  • 00:19:54.160 --> 00:19:57.000
  • - Cause you're used to family.
  • 00:19:59.200 --> 00:20:00.280
  • - Right.
  • 00:20:00.280 --> 00:20:02.030
  • - And if you get out of your flow,
  • 00:20:02.030 --> 00:20:02.270
  • you select someone from
  • 00:20:02.270 --> 00:20:05.140
  • a family that isn't that.
  • 00:20:05.140 --> 00:20:08.100
  • - [DeeDee] But it wasn't even about Britney.
  • 00:20:09.040 --> 00:20:11.110
  • - I was about to say I hadn't realized
  • 00:20:11.110 --> 00:20:12.220
  • it wasn't about me. - [DeeDee] It would've been
  • 00:20:12.220 --> 00:20:13.270
  • - [DeeDee] like that with anybody.
  • 00:20:13.270 --> 00:20:14.190
  • - Oh absolutely.
  • 00:20:14.190 --> 00:20:15.290
  • - [DeeDee] Right, because they wanted Kevin.
  • 00:20:15.290 --> 00:20:17.230
  • They wanted Kevin around.
  • 00:20:17.230 --> 00:20:19.040
  • They wanted Kevin involved in different things.
  • 00:20:19.040 --> 00:20:21.090
  • And Britney was just, you know,
  • 00:20:21.090 --> 00:20:23.030
  • the object of their you know.
  • 00:20:23.030 --> 00:20:26.040
  • - They thought I was
  • 00:20:26.240 --> 00:20:28.030
  • taking him away. - [DeeDee] That face that
  • 00:20:28.030 --> 00:20:29.070
  • - [DeeDee] was taking him away yeah.
  • 00:20:29.070 --> 00:20:30.140
  • - Right, and so after I got passed myself,
  • 00:20:30.160 --> 00:20:34.100
  • I was like okay.
  • 00:20:35.140 --> 00:20:37.010
  • - You know that's the prerequisite of following Christ?
  • 00:20:37.010 --> 00:20:39.240
  • Get past yourself.
  • 00:20:41.130 --> 00:20:42.270
  • It's so powerful for you to deny yourself.
  • 00:20:44.250 --> 00:20:49.190
  • That's how you follow Christ.
  • 00:20:50.150 --> 00:20:52.010
  • Get past yourself.
  • 00:20:52.010 --> 00:20:53.190
  • And the minute you did that,
  • 00:20:54.060 --> 00:20:55.130
  • look what is being established.
  • 00:20:55.130 --> 00:20:57.090
  • - Yeah, and it's fun we really have a good time.
  • 00:20:57.090 --> 00:20:59.110
  • - Isn't it fun?
  • 00:20:59.110 --> 00:21:00.190
  • - Yeah, we really have a good time.
  • 00:21:00.190 --> 00:21:02.120
  • - It's so much better when families are together.
  • 00:21:02.120 --> 00:21:06.180
  • - Yes, cause I love that his mom will go out
  • 00:21:06.180 --> 00:21:08.290
  • and play baseball and stuff.
  • 00:21:08.290 --> 00:21:10.210
  • Where she's like still really sporty.
  • 00:21:10.210 --> 00:21:12.210
  • So for her, I love that kind of stuff.
  • 00:21:12.210 --> 00:21:15.050
  • I'm like we playing out here together,
  • 00:21:15.050 --> 00:21:16.240
  • the girls are riding on the lawnmower with his dad.
  • 00:21:16.240 --> 00:21:19.140
  • Although I was like "You better not tear my baby's."
  • 00:21:19.140 --> 00:21:22.150
  • But it was fun.
  • 00:21:22.290 --> 00:21:24.160
  • I mean and I love it.
  • 00:21:25.070 --> 00:21:27.120
  • So I'm happy that. - [Pastor] It's come a
  • 00:21:27.190 --> 00:21:29.130
  • - [Pastor] long way huh?
  • 00:21:29.130 --> 00:21:30.150
  • - A long way.
  • 00:21:30.150 --> 00:21:31.080
  • - But you did that.
  • 00:21:31.080 --> 00:21:32.140
  • Huh, you did that.
  • 00:21:33.240 --> 00:21:36.030
  • People will say, "Look what God has done."
  • 00:21:36.160 --> 00:21:37.290
  • God has already done everything he's gonna do.
  • 00:21:37.290 --> 00:21:41.100
  • And let me let you in on another bit of information.
  • 00:21:41.100 --> 00:21:44.060
  • Time has not been given the authority to heal anything.
  • 00:21:44.170 --> 00:21:48.280
  • "Well we just need to give it time."
  • 00:21:53.240 --> 00:21:55.140
  • Where'd you get that from?
  • 00:21:55.140 --> 00:21:56.290
  • Time has never been given the authority to heal anything.
  • 00:21:59.250 --> 00:22:03.060
  • "We just need to take some time."
  • 00:22:03.060 --> 00:22:04.190
  • It doesn't take time, it takes a choice.
  • 00:22:04.190 --> 00:22:07.050
  • It takes a choice for you to exercise the authority
  • 00:22:07.230 --> 00:22:11.090
  • that you possess in Christ Jesus.
  • 00:22:11.090 --> 00:22:13.290
  • "Oh they just need a little time."
  • 00:22:13.290 --> 00:22:15.120
  • Or "He just needs a little time."
  • 00:22:15.120 --> 00:22:17.030
  • Now there is some wisdom and balance in timing,
  • 00:22:17.030 --> 00:22:20.260
  • but it doesn't take time.
  • 00:22:20.260 --> 00:22:22.180
  • It took all this time.
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  • Dr. I.V. Hilliard and I are connected, it took all that time
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  • when it could've been done a long time ago
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  • if in fact both of us would've made a mutual choice.
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  • And all we had to do was both decide.
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  • In spite of the differences that we have encountered
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  • with one another.
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  • In spite of the differences you encounter with each other.
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  • It doesn't take time, it takes two spirit filled,
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  • mature individuals who can come together,
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  • who are saturated in the love of God
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  • that's willing to overcome evil with good
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  • and get on with the business of the Body of Christ.
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  • - [DeeDee] Amen.
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  • - Did I say something good?
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  • Well treat me like you do DeeDee.
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  • (audience applauds and cheers)
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  • - [DeeDee] Asked us down here,
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  • - [DeeDee and Pastor] what's the most important lesson
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  • - [Pastor] you have learned from watching
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  • your parents marriage?
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  • - [Audience member] Everybody got an answer.
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  • - [DeeDee and Pastor] Everybody got an answer.
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  • - [Pastor] Okay. - [DeeDee] They should.
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  • - [DeeDee] I think.
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  • - [Male audience member] Start with Josh first.
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  • - Huh? (audience laughs)
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  • Start with Josh.
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  • Josh the people love you. - [DeeDee] Keep your mike on.
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  • - [Pastor] And then we're gonna open the floor up
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  • for any questions that you may have cause--
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  • - Man, I still need to.
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  • Can y'all hear me?
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  • - [Pastor] No, just get a microphone.
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  • - Oh there it go.
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  • I still kinda need to think.
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  • It's a lot of stuff.
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  • I mean it's--
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  • - [DeeDee] I know, cause they didn't know their question.
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  • - [Pastor] The most important lesson.
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  • - [DeeDee] Yeah.
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  • - At this point. - [DeeDee] It's a lot.
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  • - [Pastor] I mean I know there's so many.
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  • I've taught you a lot of most important lessons.
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  • - Are you ready, are y'all ready?
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  • Britney's ready. - [Joshua] And it's not even
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  • She could come back. - [Joshua] so many important
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  • - [Joshua] lessons that they have said out their mouth,
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  • but just how they say more is caught than taught.
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  • Like stuff that you see, you know what to do,
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  • what not to do.
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  • You know, if they didn't tie their shoe when they fell
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  • then that means that you need to tie your
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  • shoes so you don't fall.
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  • You know, stuff like that.
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  • But other than that I can't really think of one thing
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  • that you have like really said to me,
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  • that kind of stuff with me.
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  • - [DeeDee] Okay, what one thing you may have caught?
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  • - [Pastor] That's really relevant or significant
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  • to you in your relationship marriage.
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  • - My biggest thing is--
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  • - It had to come from my side.
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  • You've noticed that - [Joshua] Is to stay calm.
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  • - [Pastor] I've done a lot of things.
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  • - Yeah yeah, I mean but my biggest thing is to stay calm.
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  • Like I've always seen--
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  • - [Pastor] Like your father.
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  • (audience laughs)
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  • - Now.
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  • - [DeeDee and Pastor] Now.
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  • (Audience and Pastor laugh)
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  • - But then I mean you know,
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  • back in the day.
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  • You know he is a spaz artist.
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  • You know what I'm saying?
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  • Like any little thing man.
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  • It can go from zero to 100 real quick.
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  • - In zero seconds.
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  • - In zero seconds.
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  • So I've seen a lot of those traits in me
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  • where I kind of just pop off or just go off.
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  • And I think that's like my biggest thing
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  • to like relax, just to calm down, kinda breathe.
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  • Make marriage easy.
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  • I don't think it's always bad, because sometimes people
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  • just have to really understand
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  • how you feel about a certain thing.
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  • But you shouldn't just spaz for no reason.
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  • You shouldn't just trip out for no reason.
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  • Like my dad used to just trip out for no reason.
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  • So I had to kinda and I (audience laughs)
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  • would watch (laughs). (DeeDee laughs loudly)
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  • - [DeeDee] Cut his Mike.
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  • - You don't know which mike I got.
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  • to get on the road again.
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  • DeeDee and I are taking Marriage Made EZ
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  • back on the road, how about that.
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  • And we want to come to
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  • your ministry.
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  • You have to call a pastor,
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  • or have your pastor to call,
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  • let us know that your facility
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  • is available for us to come in.
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  • We're not asking you for a dime
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  • we just want to use your place
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  • well, actually, His place
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  • that you have been assigned over,
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  • so that we can come and enrich marriages.
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  • I just ran into a young lady the other night, and she said,
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  • "Pastor Freeman, you, with all due respect,
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  • you are a fool,
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  • you and that Dr. DeeDee."
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  • She called me a fool, can you imagine that?
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  • But then she concluded by saying,
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  • "My marriage is
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  • so much better
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  • because of your transparency,
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  • your candor, and your humor."
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  • I don't know where this humor has come from, I really don't.
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  • It's not even something I want.
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  • I recall Jesse Duplantis saying the same thing,
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  • that God had just made it a part of my ministry.
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  • And we have a good time, we have an exciting time,
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  • and I'm just that enriched, I'm just that fulfilled.
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  • And I want some of this to get on you and your area.
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  • So, contact my office, we're ready to get back on the road.
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  • You know the Devil has shot us a blow
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  • and literally try
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  • to destroy
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  • and even kill the Ministry of Mike and DeeDee Freeman,
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  • but we're up again, we're strong,
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  • we're fired up, we're ready to go,
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  • and all we need to know is that you want us
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  • to come to your area.
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  • We've been to L.A., we've been to Chicago,
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  • we've been to Atlanta, we've been to New York,
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  • we've been to Detroit, we're ready to go.
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  • North Carolina, we've been to the Bahamas,
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  • we're ready to fire up that jet and come wherever
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  • we got to come to be a part
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  • of transforming the marriages in your area.
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  • Call us, we're waiting for you.
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