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The Lifestyle Change: Nyjah's Story Part 3

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May 30, 2017
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The Lifestyle Change: Nyjah's Story Part 3

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  • Today, on Living by Faith...
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  • - I had my first sexual encounter with a woman
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  • - [Voiceover] Okay.
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  • - when I was young at the babysitter.
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  • It was like a teenage girl
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  • that she kept after school,
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  • and you know, she would help her
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  • with the little ones after school.
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  • - [Voiceover] Oh my.
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  • - So we spent a lot of time together.
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  • We went out together.
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  • But she knew that I was not about that lifestyle.
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  • - [Voiceover] But was she?
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  • - Yeah but she was.
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  • - [Voiceover] Okay.
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  • - She was.
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  • - Oh so she turned you out?
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  • - At the very beginning was probably the hardest
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  • was because I was still very new within the lifestyle
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  • and Holy Spirit the entire time was talking to me.
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  • So I knew that I was making a bad decision
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  • or something that I knew better than.
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  • My mom was very emotional.
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  • - She said her dreams were being shattered
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  • as it relates to your life
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  • and what she raised you to become,
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  • a wife, a grandmother.
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  • You're going to enjoy every bit of this.
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  • - Welcome to Living By Faith broadcast.
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  • DeeDee and I are elated--
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  • - Yes we are.
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  • - To have this opportunity to share with you
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  • again on another Living By Faith broadcast.
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  • We've had exciting guests with us
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  • and they are back with us.
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  • And we're just gonna pick it right back up
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  • with Joe and Nyjah Rollins.
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  • And they are just exciting people.
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  • And we have enjoyed their testimony immensely.
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  • So Joe, I was with you,
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  • we were talking about last time we were together.
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  • We were talking about your parents reactions.
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  • Talk about that a bit.
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  • - So when me and Nyjah actually decided
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  • to be together, that was a thought that came into my mind.
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  • Was I gonna bring it up to my parents?
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  • Was I not gonna mention it all?
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  • Was it important to bring up?
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  • And honestly, it's not.
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  • Like my mindset was that if it doesn't relate to now,
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  • and it's something that was in the past,
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  • to not bring it up. - [Mike] Wow, yeah.
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  • - [Joe] So it's never been something that we've brought up.
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  • Or I've talked to them about.
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  • - Okay.
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  • Well do they know?
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  • - Umm, today, they'll know
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  • when they tune in.
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  • - Surprise!
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  • - Hi mom and dad!
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  • - No, I don't want any parts of this.
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  • How about that, yeah.
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  • - So they haven't known at all.
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  • So this will be their introduction.
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  • - We've had conversations about different things
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  • like stories or Facebook things
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  • and I've said input about things.
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  • Like little nuggets about things.
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  • But it's never been a conversation like,
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  • we sat down or they ask something
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  • or something where he actually sat down
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  • and talked to his parents about it.
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  • - Well now, I have to go here now.
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  • Why now?
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  • You're so public now.
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  • I mean, the world
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  • will potentially know.
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  • - They didn't know I had a studio.
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  • - What's the objective?
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  • I mean, is there a reason or purpose behind
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  • your telling your story?
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  • - Well as a believer to glorify God,
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  • it's something that we know can help other people.
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  • I mean this is definitely something that
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  • around the world people are dealing with this problem
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  • where kids don't understand how to communicate
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  • with their parents
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  • and parents don't have the opportunity to communicate
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  • with their kids. - [DeeDee] This is good.
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  • - [Joe] Or understand that sometimes
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  • it's very simple to just talk about what's going on
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  • or say how you feel.
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  • But a lot of people are blocked off emotionally
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  • where they don't wanna be hurt
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  • so they won't go to their kid and tell their
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  • child how they really feel.
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  • Or their child definitely doesn't feel like
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  • they can go to their parents and talk to their parents
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  • about what they're going through.
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  • But if the chance is there that we can
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  • actually help other people because we got through it--
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  • - There we go, there we go.
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  • - I mean it's a blessing.
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  • - Come on, come on, come on, come on.
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  • - So we always think of ways - [Mike] That's good stuff.
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  • to take our situation
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  • and help as many people as we can with it.
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  • And this is definitely a great opportunity.
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  • - So as it relates to or germane to your parents,
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  • it wasn't even an issue as far as you all were concerned.
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  • You were out of it, you were moving on.
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  • So at this particular time,
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  • you just wanna help others.
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  • - Absolutely, I mean the past is the past.
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  • - I love it.
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  • - So if it's something that we're looking forward to
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  • or looking at our future with each other,
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  • I mean like we may have spent
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  • not even 10 minutes talking about Nyjah being a lesbian.
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  • - But dig this Joe, I gotta throw this in.
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  • She stated earlier, before you came on with us
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  • that there were some fears that she possessed
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  • about you know, how this would play into
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  • her marriage, you know.
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  • She's out of the lifestyle,
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  • her future relationship.
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  • I mean, you obviously are a great guy
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  • which I totally believe.
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  • But how have you believed you've
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  • assisted her in overcoming?
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  • And obviously there'll be other men
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  • and women who will have these same fears.
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  • Have you all had to address them?
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  • You've made it so comfortable for her
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  • and she's never brought it to your attention.
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  • - Well I think in the beginning there was a time
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  • where Nyjah hinted to talk about it.
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  • And basically let me know that before now,
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  • years back she was exploring with women.
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  • And it was around the time she had her school.
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  • And I asked her, "Are you passed that now?"
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  • And she said, "Yes."
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  • I said, "Well then that's all we care about."
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  • If her folks know in the future
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  • then we don't need to get into the past.
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  • - And just like that.
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  • I was prepared to share as many details
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  • or whatever he asked.
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  • But, it was like just kinda cut and dry like,
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  • you don't have to tell me anything.
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  • You don't have to go into
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  • or really like relive that entire experience again.
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  • And that was really like a sigh of relief for me
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  • because as we were still getting to
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  • know more about each other,
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  • there is some type of fear of feeling
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  • like you may be judged.
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  • You know what I mean?
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  • Because it's like, well I can tell he really likes me
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  • and I really like him, - [Mike] Yeah, right.
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  • - [Nyjah] and it seems like things are going well.
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  • And if I said something that could cause
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  • any type of fear for him,
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  • you know, your fear for that.
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  • But I just prepared.
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  • I said, well I wanna have a clean slate.
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  • And whatever he asks, I'm willing to be able
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  • to open and talk about that.
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  • And that was something that even
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  • my parents brought to my concern.
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  • My dad was like, "Are you gonna feel comfortable
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  • "talking to him about this?"
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  • I said "Yeah."
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  • So when it was time for us to talk about it,
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  • I was expecting like this long drawn out
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  • you know, spotlight meeting.
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  • And he was like, you know,
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  • basically it's the past.
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  • If you're telling me that that's not
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  • the direction you're moving in--
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  • - Just like that.
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  • - Just like that and that was it.
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  • - Just like that?
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  • - It was simple. - [Mike] Just like that.
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  • - Just like that.
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  • - Well listen, you are so fine anyway.
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  • (everyone laughs)
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  • - Sweetheart.
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  • - We gotta get back, we gotta get back
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  • 'cause we're out of time.
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  • We gotta go to a break.
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  • We're gonna come back, show you some of the
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  • footage from--
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  • - From the wedding.
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  • - The actual wedding.
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  • And then there's more good news,
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  • you gotta stay tuned.
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  • I know I've been holding out about it,
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  • but you're about to get it in a moment.
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  • Stay tuned.
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  • - The institution of marriage is a good thing.
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  • The vow between whatever couples
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  • regarding the sex of a couple or a gender
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  • is between the love that they share,
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  • and it should be validated.
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  • - I agree, we have a great marriage.
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  • - [Voiceover] You guys are married?
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  • - Yep we are. - Yeah.
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  • - [Voiceover] Okay.
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  • - We even do like communication exercises
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  • to just make sure that we're always in sync
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  • and that we're always thinking about
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  • how we're going to grow as a couple,
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  • what we need to work on, so yeah.
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  • - These guys are actually one of my marriage role models
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  • along with my parents, so I think I can learn a lot
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  • from them as well as my parents
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  • on what makes a marriage work
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  • and hopefully succeed at it.
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  • - But you were considered like the
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  • - [Female Speaker] I was the dominant female.
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  • - The dominant female.
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  • You were like the male - In the relationship.
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  • - In relationship.
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  • It still baffles me
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  • why you want a woman
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  • but you want a woman with a man tendencies.
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  • So you were supposed to take care of the woman?
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  • - Yes.
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  • And in taking care or trying to take care
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  • of woman, I was broke.
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  • I was real broke.
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  • (audience laughs)
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  • - [Host] What?
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  • - I was broke.
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  • - [Host] You was. (audience laughs)
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  • So she had her a broke chick?
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  • - [Female Speaker] I was broke.
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  • - You were broke.
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  • But you said something quite intriguing,
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  • that you were never designed as a woman
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  • to take care of another woman.
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  • - Yes, after having gone through a lot of what,
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  • we all here have been through a lot of things
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  • dealing with the lifestyle homosexuality
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  • that we probably never saw ourselves dealing with.
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  • I came to grips with myself and realized that God
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  • never ordained me and He never equipped for me
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  • to take care of a woman.
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  • - He never equipped you to take care of a woman.
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  • - [Female Speaker] Yes. - Isn't that awesome.
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  • But you were like a few steps away
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  • from having a total sex change.
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  • - That is true.
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  • - [Host] Talk to me.
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  • - Well, it started back when I was a kid.
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  • I grew up in a broken home where I saw my family
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  • fight pretty much every day,
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  • so domestic violence was very real to me.
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  • - [Host] That's your mom and dad?
  • 00:10:17.020 --> 00:10:18.000
  • - My mom and dad.
  • 00:10:18.000 --> 00:10:19.270
  • When it got to the point to where,
  • 00:10:19.270 --> 00:10:21.220
  • - So it does matter what the parents are doing in the home?
  • 00:10:21.220 --> 00:10:24.040
  • - It does matter, it do.
  • 00:10:24.040 --> 00:10:26.050
  • So the family broke up.
  • 00:10:26.050 --> 00:10:27.240
  • My sister and I, we went to go live with my grandparents.
  • 00:10:27.240 --> 00:10:30.190
  • There was a older cousin in the home, and my older cousin,
  • 00:10:30.190 --> 00:10:35.090
  • every night, would sexually abuse me.
  • 00:10:35.090 --> 00:10:37.210
  • He would try to have sex with me
  • 00:10:37.210 --> 00:10:39.090
  • and then I got to the point to where
  • 00:10:39.090 --> 00:10:41.100
  • I couldn't take it no more and I tried to fight him off.
  • 00:10:41.100 --> 00:10:45.140
  • So when I finally fought him off,
  • 00:10:45.140 --> 00:10:48.230
  • I caught him one day on top of my little sister,
  • 00:10:48.230 --> 00:10:50.240
  • and I've always been a protector of my little sister.
  • 00:10:50.240 --> 00:10:52.270
  • - [Host] Wow, wow, wow.
  • 00:10:52.270 --> 00:10:53.250
  • - And so, his words to me were,
  • 00:10:53.250 --> 00:10:56.080
  • "If I can't have you, I'll have her."
  • 00:10:56.080 --> 00:10:59.090
  • So I gave myself to him to protect my little sister.
  • 00:10:59.090 --> 00:11:03.020
  • So I was already dealing with those issues as a young kid.
  • 00:11:03.020 --> 00:11:07.070
  • And then, I've always, you know,
  • 00:11:08.060 --> 00:11:10.100
  • as I got older, I dated girls.
  • 00:11:10.100 --> 00:11:12.060
  • I always had an ex,
  • 00:11:12.060 --> 00:11:13.210
  • - Why couldn't you tell anyone what was going on?
  • 00:11:13.210 --> 00:11:17.010
  • I mean, - [Male Speaker] Fear, shame.
  • 00:11:17.010 --> 00:11:18.040
  • - Fear, shame.
  • 00:11:18.040 --> 00:11:19.190
  • - I mean I was like, maybe eight or nine-years-old.
  • 00:11:19.190 --> 00:11:22.020
  • - What would you tell a child today
  • 00:11:22.020 --> 00:11:24.070
  • who's possibly going through that?
  • 00:11:24.070 --> 00:11:26.080
  • What do they do?
  • 00:11:26.080 --> 00:11:28.040
  • - Run, tell it.
  • 00:11:28.040 --> 00:11:29.290
  • - [Host] Run and tell it.
  • 00:11:29.290 --> 00:11:30.250
  • - Tell it to anyone.
  • 00:11:30.250 --> 00:11:32.020
  • - [Host] They're going to be okay.
  • 00:11:32.020 --> 00:11:32.260
  • - They're gonna be okay.
  • 00:11:32.260 --> 00:11:34.030
  • Trust me, you will be okay.
  • 00:11:34.030 --> 00:11:36.250
  • You will be okay.
  • 00:11:36.250 --> 00:11:38.080
  • So, you know, dealing with all of that,
  • 00:11:39.140 --> 00:11:42.000
  • and just kind of confused in who I am or who I was,
  • 00:11:42.000 --> 00:11:46.220
  • not knowing my true identity,
  • 00:11:46.220 --> 00:11:49.090
  • that my true identity was in Christ Jesus.
  • 00:11:49.090 --> 00:11:51.130
  • So, you know, I got to a point to where
  • 00:11:51.130 --> 00:11:54.140
  • I couldn't take the lifestyle no more.
  • 00:11:54.140 --> 00:11:55.250
  • I didn't want the lifestyle anymore.
  • 00:11:55.250 --> 00:11:58.250
  • I reached out, I found a church,
  • 00:12:00.260 --> 00:12:03.000
  • and the discipling piece that you've been teaching on
  • 00:12:03.000 --> 00:12:06.060
  • is so important because there was a lady
  • 00:12:06.060 --> 00:12:08.190
  • who identified me, who knew where I was at,
  • 00:12:08.190 --> 00:12:11.240
  • and she invited me into her home and I'm just like,
  • 00:12:11.240 --> 00:12:15.130
  • "You know, who do that? Who invite a total stranger
  • 00:12:15.130 --> 00:12:18.270
  • "into their home and expose them to their kids
  • 00:12:18.270 --> 00:12:21.070
  • "and to their whole family?"
  • 00:12:21.070 --> 00:12:23.120
  • But she saw something greater in me
  • 00:12:23.120 --> 00:12:25.070
  • than I even saw in myself.
  • 00:12:25.070 --> 00:12:27.200
  • - So, a woman at church recognizes
  • 00:12:27.200 --> 00:12:30.170
  • that you're going through what you're going through.
  • 00:12:31.210 --> 00:12:35.120
  • Is she related, a complete stranger
  • 00:12:35.120 --> 00:12:38.140
  • and she brings you into her home
  • 00:12:38.140 --> 00:12:40.150
  • and begins to disciple you and love you?
  • 00:12:40.150 --> 00:12:43.070
  • and beings to disciple you and love you?
  • 00:12:43.080 --> 00:12:45.120
  • - Exactly.
  • 00:12:45.260 --> 00:12:47.010
  • And I didn't share it at 8 o'clock but
  • 00:12:47.170 --> 00:12:51.000
  • that lady now today is standing on the same words
  • 00:12:51.000 --> 00:12:55.080
  • that she spoke into my life.
  • 00:12:55.080 --> 00:12:56.280
  • Because years after I've been delivered set free,
  • 00:12:56.280 --> 00:12:59.250
  • her daughter now is in the lifestyle
  • 00:12:59.250 --> 00:13:01.280
  • and has been married.
  • 00:13:01.280 --> 00:13:03.090
  • So she has to every day renew her hope
  • 00:13:03.090 --> 00:13:06.210
  • because she know that the same words
  • 00:13:07.040 --> 00:13:10.120
  • that she spoke over my life are gonna
  • 00:13:10.120 --> 00:13:12.170
  • manifest in her own daughter's life.
  • 00:13:12.170 --> 00:13:14.280
  • - Today is an answered prayer.
  • 00:13:19.280 --> 00:13:21.200
  • - Yes.
  • 00:13:21.200 --> 00:13:22.180
  • - And my wife and I are just
  • 00:13:22.180 --> 00:13:25.230
  • so grateful to God.
  • 00:13:25.230 --> 00:13:27.270
  • And truly God is awesome,
  • 00:13:27.270 --> 00:13:30.220
  • more powerful than them all.
  • 00:13:30.220 --> 00:13:32.270
  • So this is an answered prayer.
  • 00:13:32.270 --> 00:13:34.110
  • - Yes.
  • 00:13:34.110 --> 00:13:34.270
  • - Yes.
  • 00:13:34.270 --> 00:13:36.050
  • - This is something that we prayed for,
  • 00:13:36.050 --> 00:13:37.140
  • we stood strong for, we knew what we
  • 00:13:37.140 --> 00:13:40.220
  • had prayed over her life.
  • 00:13:40.220 --> 00:13:42.200
  • It's been 10.219 days today
  • 00:13:42.200 --> 00:13:46.170
  • that my husband, when she was born,
  • 00:13:46.170 --> 00:13:49.220
  • he wanted to walk my daughter down the aisle.
  • 00:13:49.220 --> 00:13:53.230
  • And we will not stop.
  • 00:13:53.230 --> 00:13:56.090
  • You can't give up on these kids.
  • 00:13:56.090 --> 00:13:58.220
  • Whatever phase that they're going through,
  • 00:13:58.220 --> 00:14:00.170
  • love them through it.
  • 00:14:00.170 --> 00:14:02.120
  • Because they're gonna find their way,
  • 00:14:02.120 --> 00:14:04.210
  • because of something that you set in them.
  • 00:14:04.210 --> 00:14:07.050
  • Do not give up.
  • 00:14:07.050 --> 00:14:08.230
  • Don't give up.
  • 00:14:08.230 --> 00:14:10.010
  • One second, one minute, one hour.
  • 00:14:10.010 --> 00:14:12.150
  • Do you get upset?
  • 00:14:12.150 --> 00:14:13.150
  • Absolutely.
  • 00:14:13.150 --> 00:14:15.160
  • But, in the end,
  • 00:14:15.160 --> 00:14:17.210
  • you know what you prayed,
  • 00:14:17.210 --> 00:14:19.090
  • have faith, stand on it.
  • 00:14:19.090 --> 00:14:21.110
  • They're gonna come through.
  • 00:14:21.110 --> 00:14:22.270
  • Don't give up on them.
  • 00:14:22.270 --> 00:14:24.160
  • (lips smooch)
  • 00:14:25.190 --> 00:14:26.140
  • (piano music)
  • 00:14:27.110 --> 00:14:30.190
  • (uplifting music)
  • 00:15:01.240 --> 00:15:05.290
  • - God not only gave me a wife and a love
  • 00:16:11.250 --> 00:16:13.160
  • but he also gave me a best friend and a partner.
  • 00:16:13.160 --> 00:16:15.180
  • I love you.
  • 00:16:15.180 --> 00:16:17.040
  • - [Officiant] From this moment forth.
  • 00:16:17.040 --> 00:16:18.150
  • - From this moment forth.
  • 00:16:18.150 --> 00:16:19.270
  • - [Officiant] We shall be one.
  • 00:16:19.270 --> 00:16:21.060
  • - We shall be one.
  • 00:16:21.060 --> 00:16:22.140
  • - [Officiant] In the name of the Father.
  • 00:16:22.140 --> 00:16:23.170
  • - In the name of the Father.
  • 00:16:23.170 --> 00:16:24.190
  • - [Officiant] And of the Son.
  • 00:16:24.190 --> 00:16:25.230
  • - And of the Son.
  • 00:16:25.230 --> 00:16:27.000
  • - [Officiant] And of Holy Spirit.
  • 00:16:27.000 --> 00:16:28.050
  • - And of the Holy Spirit.
  • 00:16:28.050 --> 00:16:29.140
  • - [Officiant] Amen.
  • 00:16:29.140 --> 00:16:30.240
  • (uplifting music)
  • 00:16:30.240 --> 00:16:35.050
  • - Now you may kiss,
  • 00:16:44.120 --> 00:16:46.180
  • the bone of your bone,
  • 00:16:46.180 --> 00:16:47.290
  • and the flesh of your flesh.
  • 00:16:47.290 --> 00:16:50.090
  • Go ahead, take your time.
  • 00:16:50.090 --> 00:16:51.280
  • (laughter)
  • 00:16:51.280 --> 00:16:54.200
  • (man cheers)
  • 00:16:54.200 --> 00:16:57.010
  • (crowd cheers)
  • 00:16:57.010 --> 00:17:00.110
  • What an absolute awesome, covenant ceremony.
  • 00:17:13.020 --> 00:17:16.220
  • - That was beautiful.
  • 00:17:16.220 --> 00:17:18.040
  • It was hot though.
  • 00:17:18.040 --> 00:17:19.020
  • - It was hot, it was hot.
  • 00:17:19.020 --> 00:17:22.080
  • - It was beautiful.
  • 00:17:22.080 --> 00:17:23.170
  • - But what was going through your minds then?
  • 00:17:23.170 --> 00:17:27.170
  • You know, was it all erased?
  • 00:17:28.160 --> 00:17:31.000
  • Are you moving forward because,
  • 00:17:31.000 --> 00:17:33.040
  • when you walked down the isle,
  • 00:17:33.040 --> 00:17:35.240
  • up the isle, I hate saying walk down
  • 00:17:35.240 --> 00:17:39.050
  • because you're walking up.
  • 00:17:39.050 --> 00:17:41.070
  • I was thinking "Wow, what a journey."
  • 00:17:42.080 --> 00:17:45.160
  • And look where we are today.
  • 00:17:45.160 --> 00:17:47.000
  • - And I was crying so hard.
  • 00:17:47.000 --> 00:17:48.090
  • I mean, I almost had that ugly cry.
  • 00:17:48.090 --> 00:17:51.010
  • (DeeDee gasps)
  • 00:17:51.010 --> 00:17:52.140
  • And I had to catch myself.
  • 00:17:52.140 --> 00:17:54.110
  • - Well what were you thinking?
  • 00:17:54.110 --> 00:17:56.070
  • - I was excited.
  • 00:17:56.070 --> 00:17:58.190
  • And I felt really proud.
  • 00:17:59.180 --> 00:18:04.060
  • I felt really really accomplished.
  • 00:18:04.060 --> 00:18:06.150
  • - Come on girl, come on.
  • 00:18:06.150 --> 00:18:07.290
  • - And I felt happy,
  • 00:18:07.290 --> 00:18:11.070
  • like in my soul.
  • 00:18:11.070 --> 00:18:12.150
  • - Victorious.
  • 00:18:12.150 --> 00:18:13.130
  • - Yeah, victorious.
  • 00:18:13.130 --> 00:18:14.130
  • It was like--
  • 00:18:14.130 --> 00:18:15.140
  • - In your soul you said.
  • 00:18:15.140 --> 00:18:16.260
  • - Yeah, it was.
  • 00:18:16.260 --> 00:18:18.000
  • It was so many different emotions
  • 00:18:18.000 --> 00:18:19.050
  • and having the opportunity to have
  • 00:18:19.050 --> 00:18:21.070
  • my father to walk me down the isle.
  • 00:18:21.070 --> 00:18:24.140
  • He always says that right before I had this look
  • 00:18:25.170 --> 00:18:29.060
  • towards him, you know,
  • 00:18:29.060 --> 00:18:31.070
  • like dad are you proud?
  • 00:18:31.070 --> 00:18:33.010
  • - You make me wanna cry right here.
  • 00:18:33.010 --> 00:18:35.120
  • That got me again.
  • 00:18:36.210 --> 00:18:37.270
  • - So being able to have that day.
  • 00:18:37.270 --> 00:18:40.230
  • I mean just as you imagine as a little girl
  • 00:18:41.240 --> 00:18:44.080
  • when you think of like what your day is gonna be like
  • 00:18:44.080 --> 00:18:46.060
  • and how it will feel like
  • 00:18:46.060 --> 00:18:47.200
  • and being able to be in that moment and experience that.
  • 00:18:47.200 --> 00:18:50.020
  • It's a day that I will always remember.
  • 00:18:50.020 --> 00:18:54.080
  • - Absolutely.
  • 00:18:54.080 --> 00:18:55.150
  • - And always reflect back on that feeling.
  • 00:18:55.150 --> 00:18:58.090
  • And knowing that I was marrying
  • 00:18:58.090 --> 00:19:01.170
  • the person that God created for me.
  • 00:19:02.270 --> 00:19:04.240
  • - Come on, come on.
  • 00:19:04.240 --> 00:19:06.000
  • - And knowing this is the best thing,
  • 00:19:06.000 --> 00:19:07.250
  • the right thing. - [Mike] He is the bomb.
  • 00:19:07.250 --> 00:19:09.050
  • - [Mike] No, I mean that - [DeeDee] He is, he is.
  • 00:19:09.050 --> 00:19:10.180
  • - [Mike] from my heart Joe.
  • 00:19:10.180 --> 00:19:13.030
  • You are just a great guy man.
  • 00:19:13.030 --> 00:19:15.000
  • - And you're cute too!
  • 00:19:15.000 --> 00:19:16.080
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:19:16.080 --> 00:19:17.140
  • I mean from day one when I met you
  • 00:19:17.140 --> 00:19:19.140
  • in sitting and talking with you.
  • 00:19:19.140 --> 00:19:21.000
  • I don't know if you remember that
  • 00:19:21.000 --> 00:19:23.070
  • but we were at an event in the chapel
  • 00:19:23.070 --> 00:19:25.220
  • and we sat down at the table together.
  • 00:19:25.220 --> 00:19:27.280
  • - I remember.
  • 00:19:27.280 --> 00:19:28.250
  • - I said this guy has it.
  • 00:19:28.250 --> 00:19:31.030
  • I was just so honored man.
  • 00:19:32.050 --> 00:19:33.290
  • - So let's tell the good news.
  • 00:19:33.290 --> 00:19:35.210
  • - Here's the news you've been waiting for.
  • 00:19:35.210 --> 00:19:38.050
  • Guess what?
  • 00:19:38.050 --> 00:19:39.090
  • - Guess what?
  • 00:19:39.090 --> 00:19:40.060
  • - Tell them baby.
  • 00:19:40.060 --> 00:19:41.060
  • They are.
  • 00:19:41.060 --> 00:19:42.140
  • - Having twins.
  • 00:19:42.140 --> 00:19:45.070
  • Not one baby, but twins!
  • 00:19:45.070 --> 00:19:48.150
  • Two babies!
  • 00:19:48.150 --> 00:19:50.120
  • Who does that?!
  • 00:19:50.120 --> 00:19:52.050
  • That is double for your trouble!
  • 00:19:52.050 --> 00:19:54.280
  • You know.
  • 00:19:54.280 --> 00:19:56.030
  • Man, your parents are so excited.
  • 00:19:56.030 --> 00:19:58.210
  • I feel like they're my babies you know.
  • 00:19:58.210 --> 00:20:00.260
  • - Oh we gonna treat 'em like that.
  • 00:20:00.260 --> 00:20:02.010
  • - Yes we are.
  • 00:20:02.010 --> 00:20:02.290
  • - I got the college fund set up.
  • 00:20:02.290 --> 00:20:04.280
  • The car expenses.
  • 00:20:04.280 --> 00:20:06.170
  • (everyone laughs)
  • 00:20:06.170 --> 00:20:08.010
  • - Mike keep it up.
  • 00:20:08.010 --> 00:20:09.110
  • - Keep it up, keep it up.
  • 00:20:09.110 --> 00:20:11.020
  • Man we're so excited.
  • 00:20:11.020 --> 00:20:12.120
  • - So what does that mean?
  • 00:20:12.120 --> 00:20:13.210
  • I mean, and such a short time
  • 00:20:13.210 --> 00:20:18.150
  • and now twins, where are you guys?
  • 00:20:18.150 --> 00:20:22.160
  • I mean, how high are you?
  • 00:20:22.160 --> 00:20:25.040
  • - We are blessed, we are blessed.
  • 00:20:25.040 --> 00:20:27.180
  • I mean, in life I've prayed
  • 00:20:27.180 --> 00:20:30.240
  • so many times about having the perfect woman,
  • 00:20:30.240 --> 00:20:33.050
  • the perfect wife, the perfect friend,
  • 00:20:33.050 --> 00:20:35.080
  • the perfect everything - [Mike] Come on.
  • 00:20:35.080 --> 00:20:37.040
  • in one person.
  • 00:20:37.040 --> 00:20:38.130
  • 'Cause you always find different people that,
  • 00:20:38.130 --> 00:20:40.180
  • but no one is just like that one
  • 00:20:40.180 --> 00:20:42.090
  • until you find that one.
  • 00:20:42.090 --> 00:20:44.010
  • And after praying and moving in faith
  • 00:20:44.010 --> 00:20:46.120
  • and speaking in faith and letting my
  • 00:20:46.120 --> 00:20:47.280
  • actions and my words correlate.
  • 00:20:47.280 --> 00:20:50.010
  • - Absolutely.
  • 00:20:50.010 --> 00:20:51.130
  • - It's a blessing.
  • 00:20:51.130 --> 00:20:52.220
  • And before we had twins it was funny.
  • 00:20:52.220 --> 00:20:54.040
  • I told Nyjah, I said, "We're gonna have twins."
  • 00:20:54.040 --> 00:20:56.290
  • She was like, "Oh no we're not."
  • 00:20:56.290 --> 00:20:58.120
  • And then the doctor's there--
  • 00:20:58.120 --> 00:21:00.080
  • - So you said that before she conceived.
  • 00:21:00.080 --> 00:21:01.230
  • - Absolutely, I told her we were gonna have twins.
  • 00:21:01.230 --> 00:21:04.060
  • And we're in there--
  • 00:21:04.060 --> 00:21:05.140
  • - Man, I want you on our team!
  • 00:21:05.140 --> 00:21:09.160
  • 'Cause you believe God for this woman
  • 00:21:10.180 --> 00:21:12.180
  • who wasn't even thinking about men.
  • 00:21:12.180 --> 00:21:14.200
  • And then you gonna believe God to have twins
  • 00:21:14.200 --> 00:21:16.260
  • and you have it?
  • 00:21:16.260 --> 00:21:18.040
  • You will be my prayer partner.
  • 00:21:18.040 --> 00:21:19.250
  • (everyone laughs)
  • 00:21:19.250 --> 00:21:22.210
  • - But it was a blessing.
  • 00:21:22.210 --> 00:21:24.170
  • And when we were actually at the--
  • 00:21:24.170 --> 00:21:28.050
  • - The doctor's office.
  • 00:21:28.050 --> 00:21:29.130
  • - First he had a superman sweatshirt on.
  • 00:21:29.130 --> 00:21:31.100
  • - Oh you did.
  • 00:21:31.100 --> 00:21:32.140
  • - I had on a Superman hoodie.
  • 00:21:32.140 --> 00:21:33.150
  • - Yes, he was already pumped,
  • 00:21:33.150 --> 00:21:34.270
  • expecting for them to say it was gonna be twins.
  • 00:21:34.270 --> 00:21:37.070
  • And not that I didn't agree with him,
  • 00:21:37.070 --> 00:21:38.290
  • but in my mind it was like,
  • 00:21:38.290 --> 00:21:40.090
  • well you don't know - [DeeDee] You didn't wanna
  • 00:21:40.090 --> 00:21:41.160
  • and we don't have twins - [DeeDee] disappoint.
  • 00:21:41.160 --> 00:21:42.230
  • - [Nyjah] on either side of our families.
  • 00:21:42.230 --> 00:21:43.290
  • So if it's twins, great, but I just wanted to
  • 00:21:43.290 --> 00:21:45.280
  • you know, see a nice healthy baby on the screen.
  • 00:21:45.280 --> 00:21:48.240
  • And go ahead.
  • 00:21:48.240 --> 00:21:50.120
  • - So I was moving in faith.
  • 00:21:50.120 --> 00:21:51.260
  • I was like look, I know what it is that we're gonna have.
  • 00:21:51.260 --> 00:21:54.040
  • And we're sitting there and the doctor's there,
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  • and she's like (gasps).
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  • So immediately I'm like "Oh no, there's something wrong."
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  • And she said, "You're having twins."
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  • And me and mama Easton, we both screamed.
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  • We were so happy.
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  • Nyjah was like.
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  • - In shock. - [Nyjah] I was in shock.
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  • - She didn't know how to act.
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  • - And I was in shock.
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  • - It was a blessing. - [Mike] Two babies.
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  • - [Joe] It was a blessing.
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  • - And the doctor was just saying like
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  • the chances of that happening
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  • and how fast, you know,
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  • how sometimes it takes couples some time.
  • 00:22:19.140 --> 00:22:21.260
  • - Yeah yeah, multiple times. - [DeeDee] This is it.
  • 00:22:21.260 --> 00:22:23.090
  • - And we had just gone to the doctor
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  • not long before that and she was like
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  • "Oh my goodness you're pregnant already."
  • 00:22:27.250 --> 00:22:29.200
  • And we was like yes, and then she was like,
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  • "And you're having twins."
  • 00:22:31.020 --> 00:22:32.180
  • - Wow. - [DeeDee] This is it.
  • 00:22:32.180 --> 00:22:34.000
  • - Nyjah is in the process, I gotta tell you this.
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  • She's in the process of writing
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  • a book about this story to help
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  • parents know how to deal
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  • and how to help your children.
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  • And we're gonna be making sure that
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  • you get that information
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  • to know how to purchase that book.
  • 00:22:50.160 --> 00:22:52.060
  • - We;re praying that you have been blessed
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  • really by all three episodes of this show.
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  • Because we know that this has blessed our lives.
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  • Really, I mean it has taught us how to
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  • believe God even further for other things.
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  • And so we pray that this story has really
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  • blessed your lives.
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  • Buy these DVD's so you can continue
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  • to be a blessing to everybody else.
  • 00:23:11.260 --> 00:23:13.270
  • - They have some final comments though
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  • they need to share.
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  • There's your camera, go ahead.
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  • Talk to 'em, give 'em the closing words.
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  • - I wanted to piggyback off of
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  • something Joseph said earlier.
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  • Which is about the importance of communication.
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  • And I think as for parents it's important
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  • that you're always communicating with your child
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  • and you actually build a relationship with them.
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  • Not that when you feel that something is wrong,
  • 00:23:36.160 --> 00:23:39.030
  • or there could be an issue,
  • 00:23:39.030 --> 00:23:40.130
  • now you try to have a conversation with them
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  • and see what's going on.
  • 00:23:42.260 --> 00:23:44.090
  • It's important to have that relationship
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  • where it's not the general questions like
  • 00:23:46.230 --> 00:23:48.050
  • well how was school or
  • 00:23:48.050 --> 00:23:50.190
  • just the very surface questions that we can
  • 00:23:50.190 --> 00:23:53.240
  • sometimes get in the habit of asking.
  • 00:23:53.240 --> 00:23:55.230
  • I think it's important that you build a relationship
  • 00:23:55.230 --> 00:23:58.010
  • with them and that you are
  • 00:23:58.010 --> 00:24:01.260
  • finding out exactly what's going on
  • 00:24:01.260 --> 00:24:03.260
  • where your child now will trust you.
  • 00:24:03.260 --> 00:24:05.020
  • - Don't tell them everything Nyjah.
  • 00:24:05.020 --> 00:24:06.040
  • We gonna put it in the book.
  • 00:24:06.040 --> 00:24:07.050
  • - It's gonna be in the book.
  • 00:24:07.050 --> 00:24:08.090
  • - Okay, read the book, read the book.
  • 00:24:08.090 --> 00:24:10.020
  • - And Joe?
  • 00:24:10.020 --> 00:24:11.000
  • - And I just wanted to add,
  • 00:24:11.000 --> 00:24:13.010
  • everyone needs to be mindful of
  • 00:24:13.010 --> 00:24:15.130
  • when you actually find someone that you care about
  • 00:24:15.130 --> 00:24:18.010
  • and that you want a future with.
  • 00:24:18.010 --> 00:24:19.170
  • Whether it's marriage or just a regular relationship,
  • 00:24:19.170 --> 00:24:21.230
  • either way, you always need to accept them for who they are
  • 00:24:21.230 --> 00:24:25.050
  • in terms of whatever happened in their past
  • 00:24:25.050 --> 00:24:27.170
  • be mindful that they are who they are
  • 00:24:27.170 --> 00:24:29.250
  • from what their past created for them.
  • 00:24:29.250 --> 00:24:31.180
  • - Wow.
  • 00:24:31.180 --> 00:24:32.250
  • - So even though Nyjah went through things
  • 00:24:32.250 --> 00:24:33.290
  • that she went through in her past,
  • 00:24:33.290 --> 00:24:35.060
  • I accepted her for who she is now
  • 00:24:35.060 --> 00:24:38.040
  • and let her past be her past
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  • and created a future with her.
  • 00:24:39.270 --> 00:24:41.190
  • And that's what's important.
  • 00:24:41.190 --> 00:24:42.240
  • You accept them for what they are,
  • 00:24:42.240 --> 00:24:44.030
  • who they are, how they are,
  • 00:24:44.030 --> 00:24:45.250
  • what they believe in, what they stand for,
  • 00:24:45.250 --> 00:24:47.120
  • then grow together.
  • 00:24:47.120 --> 00:24:48.170
  • And don't get into a marriage
  • 00:24:48.170 --> 00:24:50.160
  • or get into a relationship but then make them
  • 00:24:50.160 --> 00:24:52.130
  • relive a past that they're trying to get away from.
  • 00:24:52.130 --> 00:24:55.070
  • - And we gotta jump in right there
  • 00:24:55.070 --> 00:24:56.250
  • 'cause we are way out of time.
  • 00:24:56.250 --> 00:24:58.190
  • That's good.
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  • Remember, life is better,
  • 00:24:59.170 --> 00:25:01.020
  • - [Mike and DeeDee] when you're living by faith.
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  • - [Mike] You got it.
  • 00:25:03.070 --> 00:25:04.090
  • It's received through your revelation and understanding.
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  • One second, one minute, one hour.
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  • Absolutely.
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  • But, in the end,
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  • you know what you prayed,
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  • have faith, stand on it.
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