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Marriage Made EZ: Derek & Sophia Luke

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October 31, 2017
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Living by Faith with Mike & DeeDee Freeman

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Marriage Made EZ: Derek & Sophia Luke

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  • - You said even knowing them--
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  • - We know them.
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  • - Not getting... - To familiar, having that
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  • spirit of familiarity could just quench the anointing
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  • and the wisdom you draw from the people that are appointed.
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  • I mean, we go in our house, we clean it.
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  • When we go in to serve and I walk through the door,
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  • I'm like, okay, what needs to be done?
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  • Does my First Lady's cabinets need to be organized?
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  • She lets me in her cabinets.
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  • She knows that's my flow and my anointing.
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  • - You're talking about Hollywood here.
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  • Notoriety,
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  • fame, wealth.
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  • Coming under like that,
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  • Today, on Living by Faith...
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  • I know that I'm married to her
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  • more than I am an actor.
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  • So you wanna take it from here?
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  • - That was good!
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  • - Well, wait a minute because
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  • because okay, you're in the back of the car.
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  • Boom, this my wife.
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  • Main man is putting in his application up front.
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  • (audience laughter)
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  • - Yeah, yeah.
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  • - [Mike] (chuckle) You know what,
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  • well what are you thinking?
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  • God, that wasn't you.
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  • You were quiet.
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  • - Yeah, and I'm still...
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  • I was just sitting back there and I can just
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  • sense--
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  • - [Mike] This is it.
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  • - This is it, but it's almost like I'm having a...
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  • God's peace is so
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  • on me because at that time, I'm staying on the bunk bed.
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  • I have a BMX bike that's not mine.
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  • - And remember I said I didn't care if he had a job.
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  • - And that's right. - I didn't care
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  • if he had a car.
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  • He did have a job, it was minimum wage,
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  • but he loved God and he had a dream and a vision.
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  • And he used to come and visit me.
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  • He would ride his friend's BMX bike to come and visit me.
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  • (laughter) Isn't that cute?
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  • (audience laughter)
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  • It's so cute.
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  • - [Derek] I was trying.
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  • - But he not only had vision, he had...
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  • How do you sit around the house, and nobody's there,
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  • and you're treating your wife and your child
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  • as though they're there and you're going...
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  • You talking about vision?
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  • - Yeah, atmosphere is everything, and my mom,
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  • she did a lot raising three boys.
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  • And during that, we got to stay with different
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  • sitters, babysitters,
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  • and my mom didn't always know, but some of the babysitters,
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  • the husband and wife, they would be fighting.
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  • And it would create this chaotic environment.
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  • - [Mike] Wow. - And so, I always knew
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  • that I wasn't just marrying a woman,
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  • but I was marrying an environment.
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  • And environment is essential, you know?
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  • - Ahhh....
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  • - So it wasn't just the lady.
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  • It wasn't just the woman,
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  • but it was what she brought to the table.
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  • And so when I would sit around, the most important--
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  • - You were marrying an environment.
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  • - Yeah, yeah.
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  • Praise God, amen.
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  • Yeah.
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  • - And your potential babies' mama.
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  • - And I had some potential situations in the past.
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  • - We're gonna talk about that in a minute.
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  • - [DeeDee] I want you to go back and talk about--
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  • - Wait a minute, one second, one second.
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  • Because you've got to be even careful
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  • who you drop your children off with.
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  • - [Audience] That's right.
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  • - No, I hear it all.
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  • And that environment is working diametrically opposed
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  • to your environment,
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  • and you dropping that baby off in that environment
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  • because it's a cheaper deal.
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  • It doesn't cause more than that environment
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  • that's whole.
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  • You're just blessing me.
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  • I don't know if anybody else is getting anything.
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  • (cheering and applause)
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  • So go ahead sweetie, I apologize.
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  • - No, I just want him to go back to the car.
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  • - Help yourself.
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  • - Go back to the car.
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  • How were you feeling, what were you thinking,
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  • and what happened after she dropped you off?
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  • - And then I have something after the car.
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  • Because you talked about options.
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  • You started getting work where I can choose.
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  • And inside of that, there were a lot of women
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  • that came along with that.
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  • - Yeah, and just to even,
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  • not to just confirm but,
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  • I heard the same thing when he came over my house.
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  • He was in my house when I came home.
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  • We were not in a relationship.
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  • He was just sitting in there talking to my mom,
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  • but as soon as I walked through that door,
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  • I heard, that's your husband.
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  • You're gonna marry him.
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  • I was like, what?
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  • That's my friend.
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  • We're not getting married.
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  • And 30 minutes later, my girlfriend had dropped me off.
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  • By the time she walked in her house, I told him, Excuse me.
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  • I ran upstairs and I called her and I said,
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  • I'm gonna marry him.
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  • She said, Girl, no you not.
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  • I said, I am.
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  • I'll tell you later, and I hung up the phone.
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  • I never said anything to him.
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  • I think three months later (chuckle), he was proposing.
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  • - Yeah, and I said, come on, do it now.
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  • Because I already knew she was my wife.
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  • All I wanted to know was, can you be a First Lady?
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  • She said, Sure, I can wear hats.
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  • (audience laughter)
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  • - And I hate hats.
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  • I can't believe I even told you yes.
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  • - I just knew the call of God on my life.
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  • I knew she was gonna be...
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  • But come on, we can talk about us any time.
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  • We have them here.
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  • So you got the part she wanted to know,
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  • and then the part I wanted to.
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  • - Okay, so, uhm...
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  • In the back of the car, I was pretty
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  • pretty numb, or as we say now, I was woke.
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  • (audience laughter)
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  • I was woke.
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  • - Is that slang too?
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  • You gotta help us.
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  • - Yeah, like it's time to get woke.
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  • - Ill, woke, okay.
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  • - You know what I'm saying?
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  • - It's time to get woke? - [Derek] Get woke.
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  • - It's time to get woke.
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  • - Get conscious, like - [Mike] It's time to get
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  • conscious. - Pay attention.
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  • - [Mike] Yeah, yeah, pay attention.
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  • (audience laughter)
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  • - Yeah (chuckle).
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  • So I'm literally like numb
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  • in the back of the car because
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  • it was like you reading Scripture, but it came alive
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  • for me that day.
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  • And up to that point, it was just like I had been
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  • in life for a part of life,
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  • but I had not been enjoying it or conquering it.
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  • And it was like God's voice shifted reality for me.
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  • And so I'm sitting in the back, and I'm hearing my man,
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  • and he's putting his bid in. - He's going in.
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  • - And I'm sizing him up.
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  • I'm like, he's light-skinned and all that.
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  • (laughter) You know what I'm saying?
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  • But at the same time, it was a peace
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  • and I wasn't sure what was happening with her and him.
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  • All I knew that presently I didn't have
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  • a lot, but I knew as a kid from growing up
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  • in the environment that I did,
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  • the Lord began to show me my future.
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  • What's easy to talk about now
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  • has not always been easy to talk about
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  • on interviews because
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  • on interviews, it was this portrait of humility.
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  • I would call it false humility.
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  • - [Mike] Okay.
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  • - But being here with family,
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  • we're talking about true humility because the Lord
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  • began to show me parts of my life.
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  • And it never fit until I heard his voice.
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  • It was like, Ahh, that's it.
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  • So the end of the seminar, it was a two-day seminar, right?
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  • Or a three day.
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  • - It was three-day then.
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  • - It was three-day. - Friday night, Saturday,
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  • then half a Sunday.
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  • - Then half a Sunday. - And this day two?
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  • When she's taking you home?
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  • - [Sophia] Yes. - Yeah, this is day two.
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  • - Night two, so you've got another session.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - Okay.
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  • - And so... - Okay, but girlfriend just
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  • dropped you off, main man.
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  • - She dropped me off, so I went back.
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  • - But you got this chick.
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  • I got another woman.
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  • - I got another woman.
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  • - [Mike] You cheating.
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  • - Yeah, pretty much.
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  • (audience laughter)
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  • So Sophia calls me.
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  • She calls me and asks me a question,
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  • and I happen to be at my girlfriend's house,
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  • and I have to kind of like, you know...
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  • (audience laughter)
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  • You know like...
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  • I'm like, well, just put on worship, then just...
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  • - So because I was new to the things of the Lord,
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  • after that seminar, I was opened up to a whole lot of things
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  • spiritually, meaning that,
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  • well, you know when you go through a really great,
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  • say it's a marriage seminar, and afterwards,
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  • an attack will try to come,
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  • especially with the baby Christian.
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  • For me,
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  • this was my first time fasting.
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  • And fasting and going to a seminar at this level,
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  • and this couple is very anointed.
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  • We've been going to their seminars
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  • for the last 18 and 1/2 years.
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  • - Oh, I love it.
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  • - You would just love it.
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  • We have to put you guys in contact, for sure.
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  • - [Mike] Definitely, definitely.
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  • - But I went home--
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  • - Which has been, if I may sneak up in,
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  • don't forget about fasting first time,
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  • which has been possibly
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  • one of the anchors for your success and marriage now,
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  • your continuation of going back to that same foundation
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  • and the same place that's been pouring into you
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  • concerning marriage.
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  • - Yes, definitely.
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  • - Feeding your marriage.
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  • Go ahead. - Yes, absolutely.
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  • So I went home that night and all of a sudden,
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  • I just sensed darkness.
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  • I didn't know it was a demonic attack.
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  • I just sensed darkness and I just--
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  • I'm not trying to freak anybody out or anything.
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  • I just sensed darkness.
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  • Has anybody ever sensed darkness?
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  • - [Mike] Absolutely.
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  • - Has anybody ever had your bed shaking
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  • and you're like, what is going on?
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  • Well, that's happened.
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  • - Not quite the bed shaking.
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  • (audience laughter)
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  • - Not that night, but that's happened
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  • and that was years before,
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  • but I'm just being very transparent.
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  • - You're scaring me now (chuckle).
  • 00:10:30.120 --> 00:10:31.230
  • - Aye, listen, let me tell you something.
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  • Let me jump in.
  • 00:10:35.090 --> 00:10:36.240
  • You remember when she was talking about the whole
  • 00:10:36.240 --> 00:10:38.010
  • New Mexico, thing?
  • 00:10:38.010 --> 00:10:39.250
  • So Soph, so gangsta in faith,
  • 00:10:39.250 --> 00:10:42.270
  • takes me up to this place, to this house,
  • 00:10:42.270 --> 00:10:46.230
  • and we're married at this time,
  • 00:10:46.230 --> 00:10:47.250
  • but y'all have to hear this.
  • 00:10:47.250 --> 00:10:49.200
  • She takes me up to this house, and she's like,
  • 00:10:49.200 --> 00:10:52.130
  • Okay, nobody lives here, but somebody owns it.
  • 00:10:52.130 --> 00:10:55.190
  • And so we're just running around the house seven times.
  • 00:10:55.190 --> 00:10:58.080
  • I'm like, oh shoot, okay.
  • 00:10:58.080 --> 00:10:59.280
  • And this chick pulls out some little...
  • 00:10:59.280 --> 00:11:03.080
  • David and Goliath small sack and starts sprinkling sage,
  • 00:11:06.060 --> 00:11:10.230
  • and I said, Oh shoot, oh no!
  • 00:11:10.230 --> 00:11:13.060
  • (audience laughter) Oh no, oh no!
  • 00:11:13.060 --> 00:11:15.250
  • No, no, no, no! (audience laughter)
  • 00:11:15.250 --> 00:11:17.110
  • We will not do this! (audience laughter)
  • 00:11:17.110 --> 00:11:21.200
  • No! (chuckle)
  • 00:11:21.200 --> 00:11:23.160
  • I said, What is that?
  • 00:11:23.160 --> 00:11:25.230
  • She was like, it's just sage.
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  • Sage?
  • 00:11:27.290 --> 00:11:29.020
  • You don't need no sage.
  • 00:11:29.020 --> 00:11:31.060
  • You don't. (audience laughter)
  • 00:11:31.060 --> 00:11:33.040
  • Go ahead.
  • 00:11:33.040 --> 00:11:33.290
  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:11:33.290 --> 00:11:36.290
  • - That's when I was a baby Christian.
  • 00:11:38.240 --> 00:11:40.100
  • This was year one that we were married, by the way.
  • 00:11:40.100 --> 00:11:44.010
  • In Native American culture,
  • 00:11:44.010 --> 00:11:45.240
  • and we went to counseling for that,
  • 00:11:45.240 --> 00:11:47.130
  • and our pastors straightened me out.
  • 00:11:47.130 --> 00:11:48.260
  • (audience laughter) We did, we did!
  • 00:11:48.260 --> 00:11:51.080
  • - Fam, look...
  • 00:11:51.080 --> 00:11:52.080
  • Another slang, fam, I was out!
  • 00:11:52.080 --> 00:11:55.020
  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:11:55.020 --> 00:11:56.090
  • I was like, Yo, I'm an actor anyway.
  • 00:11:56.090 --> 00:11:58.140
  • I don't need to be going through this.
  • 00:11:58.140 --> 00:12:00.030
  • Babe, go ahead, go ahead.
  • 00:12:00.030 --> 00:12:02.140
  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:12:02.140 --> 00:12:04.000
  • - So in counseling, that was year one that we were married
  • 00:12:04.000 --> 00:12:05.150
  • by the way, and when my bed shook,
  • 00:12:05.150 --> 00:12:07.190
  • it was probably like 15--
  • 00:12:07.190 --> 00:12:10.100
  • no wait, because we've been married 18 years.
  • 00:12:10.100 --> 00:12:12.020
  • My gosh, time went by so quick.
  • 00:12:12.020 --> 00:12:13.250
  • - Yeah, it does. - It would've had to been like
  • 00:12:13.250 --> 00:12:16.000
  • maybe, could I say...
  • 00:12:16.000 --> 00:12:18.080
  • If it's 18, that had to have been like 25 years ago
  • 00:12:18.080 --> 00:12:21.090
  • or something, that happened once.
  • 00:12:21.090 --> 00:12:22.200
  • I wasn't saved and I was
  • 00:12:22.200 --> 00:12:25.050
  • in all kinds of different religious stuff, so...
  • 00:12:25.050 --> 00:12:28.280
  • But in the Native American church,
  • 00:12:28.280 --> 00:12:30.230
  • the way that you bless somebody,
  • 00:12:30.230 --> 00:12:33.040
  • you have Mother Earth, you have the elements,
  • 00:12:33.040 --> 00:12:35.230
  • you have sage.
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  • You get the sage and you sprinkle the sage.
  • 00:12:37.070 --> 00:12:39.180
  • It's not saying voodoo, judy-booty, you know?
  • 00:12:39.180 --> 00:12:42.150
  • It's just saying, Mother Nature, bless this home.
  • 00:12:42.150 --> 00:12:45.130
  • So that's the heart that it was coming from.
  • 00:12:45.130 --> 00:12:48.140
  • - This is something you guys should use.
  • 00:12:48.140 --> 00:12:49.220
  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:12:49.220 --> 00:12:51.040
  • - But we went to counseling, and mind you,
  • 00:12:51.040 --> 00:12:52.220
  • we went to counseling for the first six to eight years,
  • 00:12:52.220 --> 00:12:55.160
  • like every other month, constantly going to counseling.
  • 00:12:55.160 --> 00:12:59.200
  • - Is this post or pre?
  • 00:12:59.200 --> 00:13:01.220
  • - This is after we got married.
  • 00:13:01.220 --> 00:13:03.170
  • Because there was a lot of things that, for me,
  • 00:13:03.170 --> 00:13:05.280
  • that I needed to work out in me.
  • 00:13:05.280 --> 00:13:07.100
  • That atmosphere that I was brought up in,
  • 00:13:07.100 --> 00:13:09.190
  • I needed to know the Word of God
  • 00:13:09.190 --> 00:13:11.040
  • so our pastor and First Lady just made themselves available.
  • 00:13:11.040 --> 00:13:13.250
  • We were in counseling for four to six hours.
  • 00:13:13.250 --> 00:13:16.120
  • I needed to get everything out,
  • 00:13:16.120 --> 00:13:18.280
  • and I needed to know the Word, and I was hungry.
  • 00:13:18.280 --> 00:13:21.080
  • I just wanted to know the truth.
  • 00:13:21.080 --> 00:13:22.150
  • I just wanted to live right, and my heart was,
  • 00:13:22.150 --> 00:13:25.070
  • If I'm doing something not right according to the Word,
  • 00:13:25.070 --> 00:13:27.290
  • just correct me and I'll do what the Word says.
  • 00:13:27.290 --> 00:13:30.280
  • And that was my heart.
  • 00:13:30.280 --> 00:13:32.140
  • Even though my pastor would give us wisdom in the Word,
  • 00:13:32.140 --> 00:13:36.020
  • it didn't make sense, and I was like,
  • 00:13:36.020 --> 00:13:38.010
  • Well, I don't want to do that.
  • 00:13:38.010 --> 00:13:39.160
  • That's not okay, but it was the Word and I always thought,
  • 00:13:39.160 --> 00:13:43.010
  • Well, you know what?
  • 00:13:43.010 --> 00:13:45.000
  • If I'm here and God has appointed these people over me,
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  • I'm going to trust and take their word
  • 00:13:48.020 --> 00:13:50.190
  • whether I feel like it or think about it,
  • 00:13:50.190 --> 00:13:52.210
  • or no matter what I feel or think,
  • 00:13:52.210 --> 00:13:55.050
  • I'm putting all of that to the side.
  • 00:13:55.050 --> 00:13:56.210
  • - Say that part again.
  • 00:13:56.210 --> 00:13:59.110
  • - And that's how Derek and I purposed in our heart to do,
  • 00:13:59.110 --> 00:14:04.120
  • and it wasn't anything that came out of anything
  • 00:14:04.120 --> 00:14:06.110
  • I was taught growing up, but it was just
  • 00:14:06.110 --> 00:14:08.050
  • my heart was hungry to know the Word,
  • 00:14:08.050 --> 00:14:10.090
  • and the Holy Spirit gave me this image,
  • 00:14:10.090 --> 00:14:12.260
  • and He said, if your pastor and First Lady
  • 00:14:12.260 --> 00:14:16.040
  • are at the top, top, top, top, top of a city
  • 00:14:16.040 --> 00:14:19.120
  • on the highest building on the whole earth,
  • 00:14:19.120 --> 00:14:21.210
  • and then you are on corner in the midst of the city,
  • 00:14:21.210 --> 00:14:26.030
  • would you look to your own wisdom
  • 00:14:26.030 --> 00:14:28.000
  • to look on the left and the right to see how far
  • 00:14:28.000 --> 00:14:31.100
  • you can go before you make the next left or right turn,
  • 00:14:31.100 --> 00:14:35.010
  • and would I just start walking blindly, or would you say,
  • 00:14:35.010 --> 00:14:37.280
  • what do you see from up there down there?
  • 00:14:37.280 --> 00:14:40.200
  • And they'll be like, don't go here, go here, go here,
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  • go this way, go this way,
  • 00:14:43.270 --> 00:14:45.110
  • and all these detours that were put there for us,
  • 00:14:45.110 --> 00:14:49.080
  • the no toil detours from our pastor and First Lady,
  • 00:14:49.080 --> 00:14:53.280
  • we just yielded it.
  • 00:14:53.280 --> 00:14:56.050
  • And it didn't feel good, and I cried, but we did it.
  • 00:14:56.050 --> 00:14:59.030
  • And that's why the pillars of wisdom that we have,
  • 00:14:59.030 --> 00:15:01.250
  • we've had our pastor...
  • 00:15:01.250 --> 00:15:03.190
  • There was days when I was like,
  • 00:15:03.190 --> 00:15:04.180
  • Well, I don't agree with this,
  • 00:15:04.180 --> 00:15:06.010
  • but it doesn't matter because the Word says pray.
  • 00:15:06.010 --> 00:15:07.170
  • Pray for him.
  • 00:15:07.170 --> 00:15:09.140
  • And I'm like, In the name of Jesus,
  • 00:15:09.140 --> 00:15:11.030
  • I'll do what the Word says.
  • 00:15:11.030 --> 00:15:12.210
  • And because we've been under their ministry
  • 00:15:12.210 --> 00:15:15.040
  • for 18 and 1/2 years, we've helped charter their church,
  • 00:15:15.040 --> 00:15:17.260
  • we've been serving in their church.
  • 00:15:17.260 --> 00:15:19.190
  • Prayer, intercessory prayer, choir, and just continuing.
  • 00:15:19.190 --> 00:15:24.170
  • And even now, we know them for so long,
  • 00:15:24.170 --> 00:15:26.130
  • we go to their house.
  • 00:15:26.130 --> 00:15:27.270
  • We do everything together, but even knowing them,
  • 00:15:27.270 --> 00:15:31.070
  • not getting familiar with them,
  • 00:15:31.070 --> 00:15:34.120
  • because that is such a sin.
  • 00:15:34.120 --> 00:15:36.010
  • (audience applause)
  • 00:15:36.010 --> 00:15:37.160
  • - You said even knowing them--
  • 00:15:37.160 --> 00:15:40.060
  • - We know them.
  • 00:15:40.060 --> 00:15:42.010
  • - Not getting... - To familiar, having that
  • 00:15:42.010 --> 00:15:45.120
  • spirit of familiarity could just quench the anointing
  • 00:15:45.120 --> 00:15:48.140
  • and the wisdom you draw from the people that are appointed.
  • 00:15:51.190 --> 00:15:51.210
  • I mean, we go in our house, we clean it.
  • 00:15:52.240 --> 00:15:55.040
  • When we go in to serve and I walk through the door,
  • 00:15:55.040 --> 00:15:57.180
  • I'm like, okay, what needs to be done?
  • 00:15:57.180 --> 00:15:59.050
  • Does my First Lady's cabinets need to be organized?
  • 00:15:59.050 --> 00:16:02.080
  • She lets me in her cabinets.
  • 00:16:02.080 --> 00:16:03.230
  • She knows that's my flow and my anointing.
  • 00:16:03.230 --> 00:16:05.140
  • - You're talking about Hollywood here.
  • 00:16:05.140 --> 00:16:08.140
  • Notoriety,
  • 00:16:08.140 --> 00:16:09.090
  • fame, wealth.
  • 00:16:11.040 --> 00:16:12.070
  • Coming under like that,
  • 00:16:13.280 --> 00:16:15.250
  • and then the continual counsel sessions.
  • 00:16:19.030 --> 00:16:22.130
  • - It's God.
  • 00:16:26.260 --> 00:16:28.030
  • - This atmosphere is so liberating, you
  • 00:16:28.030 --> 00:16:31.180
  • both have shared so much.
  • 00:16:31.180 --> 00:16:33.210
  • Are you all...?
  • 00:16:36.200 --> 00:16:37.280
  • (cheering and applause)
  • 00:16:37.280 --> 00:16:41.080
  • From various angles,
  • 00:16:44.150 --> 00:16:46.120
  • from various angles and aspects of the whole covenant,
  • 00:16:46.120 --> 00:16:50.170
  • the union,
  • 00:16:53.040 --> 00:16:53.290
  • how this is complimenting this
  • 00:16:54.260 --> 00:16:56.100
  • and how that establishes this.
  • 00:16:56.100 --> 00:16:58.260
  • You play golf?
  • 00:16:58.260 --> 00:17:00.140
  • - No.
  • 00:17:00.140 --> 00:17:01.220
  • - There's so many different kinds of
  • 00:17:01.220 --> 00:17:04.140
  • things in the swing.
  • 00:17:06.030 --> 00:17:07.230
  • Look down, keep your head down,
  • 00:17:08.270 --> 00:17:10.040
  • keep your arm straight, legs...
  • 00:17:10.040 --> 00:17:13.060
  • You are formulating for us
  • 00:17:13.060 --> 00:17:15.110
  • in such a magnificent way.
  • 00:17:18.080 --> 00:17:20.130
  • I'm so glad you're here.
  • 00:17:25.010 --> 00:17:27.010
  • (audience applause)
  • 00:17:28.030 --> 00:17:29.240
  • I'm so glad you're here.
  • 00:17:29.240 --> 00:17:31.240
  • - I'm glad to be here.
  • 00:17:33.250 --> 00:17:35.240
  • You know, Dr. Dee, there are three things
  • 00:17:35.240 --> 00:17:38.090
  • that are coming to my spirit real clear right now.
  • 00:17:38.090 --> 00:17:40.090
  • One is the size of the ring, and the ring issue.
  • 00:17:40.090 --> 00:17:44.250
  • When Derek and I got married, we didn't have any money.
  • 00:17:44.250 --> 00:17:47.240
  • We were homeless, we were living in my car.
  • 00:17:47.240 --> 00:17:50.210
  • And we started to get wealth when we learned
  • 00:17:50.210 --> 00:17:53.000
  • how to use our faith.
  • 00:17:53.000 --> 00:17:54.130
  • But I always thought it was like, Well,
  • 00:17:54.130 --> 00:17:56.060
  • we'll do it in a year's time, and Derek was like,
  • 00:17:56.060 --> 00:17:58.130
  • No, faith does things now,
  • 00:17:58.130 --> 00:18:00.060
  • but we just attach our faith on to it.
  • 00:18:00.060 --> 00:18:02.140
  • But our pastor said this because I was in debt
  • 00:18:02.140 --> 00:18:05.200
  • when we got married.
  • 00:18:05.200 --> 00:18:06.260
  • I was like $40.000 in debt.
  • 00:18:06.260 --> 00:18:09.180
  • And Derek had his issues.
  • 00:18:09.180 --> 00:18:11.140
  • He wanted to, I want a house, I want this,
  • 00:18:11.140 --> 00:18:13.110
  • I want to be established before we get married.
  • 00:18:13.110 --> 00:18:15.230
  • And we went to counseling with our pastor and he said,
  • 00:18:15.230 --> 00:18:20.020
  • Sophia, will you stay with Derek
  • 00:18:20.020 --> 00:18:22.180
  • as he's establishing himself, wanting to get you a house,
  • 00:18:22.180 --> 00:18:25.250
  • etc., etc.?
  • 00:18:25.250 --> 00:18:27.080
  • And I said, Yes, I will.
  • 00:18:27.080 --> 00:18:28.240
  • And he said, Derek, will you stay with Sophia
  • 00:18:28.240 --> 00:18:32.030
  • as she's working her way out of this debt situation?
  • 00:18:32.030 --> 00:18:35.030
  • And Derek said, Yes, I will.
  • 00:18:35.030 --> 00:18:37.250
  • Then he said, Then why don't y'all get married,
  • 00:18:37.250 --> 00:18:40.140
  • save money, do this thing together?
  • 00:18:40.140 --> 00:18:43.010
  • We thought we had to do this big huge
  • 00:18:43.010 --> 00:18:46.040
  • painting before we took the step into being married,
  • 00:18:47.160 --> 00:18:50.160
  • and we didn't have that much money.
  • 00:18:50.160 --> 00:18:52.180
  • I don't think we had any money that day
  • 00:18:52.180 --> 00:18:55.040
  • that we went to counseling.
  • 00:18:55.040 --> 00:18:56.170
  • As a matter of fact, our pastor blessed us with 20 bucks,
  • 00:18:56.170 --> 00:18:58.090
  • and we were like, Thank you, Jesus!
  • 00:18:58.090 --> 00:18:59.200
  • We can get some food! (audience laughter)
  • 00:18:59.200 --> 00:19:01.230
  • But the ring issue.
  • 00:19:01.230 --> 00:19:03.100
  • The ring, God told me,
  • 00:19:05.190 --> 00:19:07.140
  • it is not about the size of the ring.
  • 00:19:08.210 --> 00:19:11.120
  • It's about the significance, what it means, the covenant.
  • 00:19:11.120 --> 00:19:15.000
  • And our pastor said, If God has told you
  • 00:19:15.000 --> 00:19:17.240
  • that you are to be together and that you love each other,
  • 00:19:17.240 --> 00:19:20.080
  • and that this is his purpose,
  • 00:19:20.080 --> 00:19:22.070
  • all of that's going to work out.
  • 00:19:22.070 --> 00:19:24.140
  • And people are staying away from getting married,
  • 00:19:24.140 --> 00:19:26.100
  • but still living in sin and expecting God to bless it,
  • 00:19:26.100 --> 00:19:28.220
  • but you can't.
  • 00:19:28.220 --> 00:19:30.120
  • So when you get married and you do what God tells you to do,
  • 00:19:30.120 --> 00:19:33.090
  • the blessing follow you and the anointing in the marriage
  • 00:19:33.090 --> 00:19:37.020
  • will bring in the increase,
  • 00:19:37.020 --> 00:19:38.270
  • and the supernatural debt cancellation
  • 00:19:38.270 --> 00:19:40.120
  • and the ring in its time.
  • 00:19:40.120 --> 00:19:43.010
  • So Derek and I got married with $13 rings,
  • 00:19:43.010 --> 00:19:45.110
  • and we had to keep trading them in,
  • 00:19:45.110 --> 00:19:46.270
  • because you got them at that little...
  • 00:19:46.270 --> 00:19:48.170
  • You know, those little round markets...
  • 00:19:48.170 --> 00:19:49.260
  • What's those little...
  • 00:19:49.260 --> 00:19:51.030
  • In the mall, they have those little stands.
  • 00:19:51.030 --> 00:19:53.120
  • - Oh, little kiosks. - Kiosks.
  • 00:19:53.120 --> 00:19:54.080
  • - Little kiosks, yes.
  • 00:19:54.080 --> 00:19:55.240
  • Santa Monica, we went and got $13 rings at a kiosk,
  • 00:19:55.240 --> 00:19:57.210
  • and they turned green and we just get another one.
  • 00:19:57.210 --> 00:19:59.170
  • We kept getting another one but God said don't ever...
  • 00:19:59.170 --> 00:20:03.050
  • Don't ever deal with his manhood based on the size
  • 00:20:03.050 --> 00:20:06.020
  • of this rock because you had men give you big rocks,
  • 00:20:06.020 --> 00:20:09.000
  • and they were cheating like dogs,
  • 00:20:09.000 --> 00:20:11.080
  • and they weren't men of God.
  • 00:20:11.080 --> 00:20:12.220
  • So it was never that issue for me,
  • 00:20:12.220 --> 00:20:15.030
  • and three years after we were married,
  • 00:20:15.030 --> 00:20:16.290
  • Derek got me a single band with little diamonds,
  • 00:20:16.290 --> 00:20:20.070
  • but I knew his whole heart was--I was like,
  • 00:20:20.070 --> 00:20:21.280
  • where did you get the money to do that, honey?
  • 00:20:21.280 --> 00:20:24.060
  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:20:24.060 --> 00:20:25.190
  • And he was like, I've been saving and my faith is working,
  • 00:20:25.190 --> 00:20:27.100
  • and I'm like, hallelujah!
  • 00:20:27.100 --> 00:20:28.250
  • (audience laughter) And eight years later,
  • 00:20:28.250 --> 00:20:30.250
  • he gets this, and so, you know, if it comes again, Great!
  • 00:20:30.250 --> 00:20:35.040
  • If it doesn't, it doesn't,
  • 00:20:35.040 --> 00:20:36.200
  • but God knows my heart
  • 00:20:36.200 --> 00:20:38.040
  • and the covenant is far more important than material things.
  • 00:20:38.040 --> 00:20:42.030
  • Material things will come.
  • 00:20:42.030 --> 00:20:44.180
  • They will come, but don't base your yea or nay on that.
  • 00:20:44.180 --> 00:20:47.040
  • And I tell you what, when we said yes,
  • 00:20:47.040 --> 00:20:49.230
  • that we're gonna do things God's way,
  • 00:20:49.230 --> 00:20:51.110
  • and we're gonna get married, and we're gonna
  • 00:20:51.110 --> 00:20:52.170
  • make this covenant happen,
  • 00:20:52.170 --> 00:20:54.220
  • people started sowing into our marriage
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  • like that marriage feast, turning water into wine.
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  • I paid $250 for my dress.
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  • I got it handmaid and it was gorgeous.
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  • His amazing family, they flew us to Jersey City,
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  • gave us a wedding.
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  • We got a dollar-dance--oh no, not the dollar-dance.
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  • Was it the dollar-dance?
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  • Yeah, it was the dollar-dance (chuckle),
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  • and with that dollar-dance,
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  • we were able to put a deposit down for our apartment.
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  • - I don't know, slap me and call me silly.
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  • - [Sophia] What?
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  • - What is the dollar dance?
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  • - You know when you dance at the wedding
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  • - [DeeDee] It's like the Africans do.
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  • - and it's the money, you have the purse.
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  • - Oh the dollar-dance.
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  • - [Sophia] Yeah, not the dollar-dance.
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  • - That dollar dance, oh! - Yeah, yeah (chuckle).
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  • (audience laughter)
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  • Hey, hey, hey, hey.
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  • (laughter)
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  • - Okay, the dollar-dance, I know that.
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  • - Yeah, the money dance, so with that
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  • we got blessed, like the blessings just started pouring in.
  • 00:21:43.230 --> 00:21:46.290
  • So that was point one, the ring thing,
  • 00:21:46.290 --> 00:21:49.180
  • and the other thing was,
  • 00:21:49.180 --> 00:21:51.010
  • we were in counseling a lot because I was like,
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  • I'm ready to get out of this marriage.
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  • I'm waiting for him to make a mistake.
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  • Because marriage was new, I came from a divorced family.
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  • I just saw strife, and another point,
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  • I didn't change my last name until four years later.
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  • That's a whole other point.
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  • I remember Derek came home,
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  • and thank God for the $0.99 store.
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  • We were living at the $0.99 store, man.
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  • I would make some deliciousness in there.
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  • (laughter)
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  • And I cooked really healthy,
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  • and Derek wasn't used to that kind of cooking.
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  • So one day he comes home, and I'm so excited.
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  • I made my dry chicken with my
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  • with my broccoli, which is salt and pepper
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  • cause that's how I ate, I worked out a lot.
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  • I was extremely healthy, and I sat down and I'm like,
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  • oh, I'm so excited, I'm playing the wife thing.
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  • And Derek sits down next to me,
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  • and I'm just getting in my chicken
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  • and I look over and he's literally like this.
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  • But he was pissed off.
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  • And I'm like, what's going on, and he's like,
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  • this food...
  • 00:22:51.180 --> 00:22:53.030
  • I mean, he didn't say much, but this food,
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  • and I'm like, Ah, I just can't believe he's acting like this
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  • because I'm a woman of God, like come on!
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  • Like, I've cooked you chicken,
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  • my heart is in this chicken.
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  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:23:03.080 --> 00:23:05.280
  • And so I called my pastor, called him instantly.
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  • And I'm like, I want a divorce.
  • 00:23:08.150 --> 00:23:10.110
  • He's like, What's going on?
  • 00:23:10.110 --> 00:23:11.270
  • Derek doesn't like my cooking, he doesn't like my chicken,
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  • it's over, it's over.
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  • I mean, and I was like (chuckle),
  • 00:23:16.040 --> 00:23:17.280
  • and this is the truth you guys.
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  • And he was like, Alright, come into counseling.
  • 00:23:19.120 --> 00:23:21.120
  • So we sat in the counseling.
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  • But I wanted to be vulnerable to our man and woman of God,
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  • because I was like a little baby,
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  • and it says when you come, come as a little child,
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  • and I was like that little child.
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  • If it said, do not do this, I said, Oh, don't do this.
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  • Like, okay, don't do that.
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  • And I wanted to keep that pure heart,
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  • and to this day, that's my heart's desire,
  • 00:23:40.190 --> 00:23:42.250
  • keep the pureness, you know?
  • 00:23:42.250 --> 00:23:45.060
  • So we go to counseling.
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  • He sits down and he says, What's going on?
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  • I tell him the problem and I'm crying,
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  • tissues just, and you think that's so small,
  • 00:23:50.250 --> 00:23:53.050
  • but it was really big to me.
  • 00:23:53.050 --> 00:23:55.250
  • So he says, Okay.
  • 00:23:55.250 --> 00:23:57.170
  • Derek, do you know how to cook?
  • 00:23:57.170 --> 00:24:00.170
  • And Derek said, Pfft, yeah, I know how to cook.
  • 00:24:00.170 --> 00:24:02.260
  • He's like, Then you cook.
  • 00:24:02.260 --> 00:24:04.240
  • (audience laughter) And I was like,
  • 00:24:04.240 --> 00:24:07.020
  • that's great, hallelujah!
  • 00:24:07.020 --> 00:24:08.220
  • (audience laughter) We're gonna stay married!
  • 00:24:08.220 --> 00:24:12.010
  • And then he said, like wherever the flow
  • 00:24:12.010 --> 00:24:14.280
  • - That was a quick session.
  • 00:24:14.280 --> 00:24:15.230
  • - Yeah, that was easy.
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  • Wherever the flow is in your marriage,
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  • let that be your flow.
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  • He loves to vacuum.
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  • This is funny, Derek Luke.
  • 00:24:20.180 --> 00:24:22.230
  • I'm at our house, alright everybody be there with me.
  • 00:24:22.230 --> 00:24:25.170
  • I'm in the living room, I'm vacuuming, right?
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  • Derek's on the other side of the house.
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  • He hears that vacuum, all of a sudden you hear
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  • (humming)
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  • He walks into the room and takes the vacuum from me.
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  • I don't know what it is about vacuuming
  • 00:24:34.240 --> 00:24:36.170
  • that you love, honey, but this dude vacuums.
  • 00:24:36.170 --> 00:24:38.070
  • He loves it. - He like lines?
  • 00:24:38.070 --> 00:24:39.230
  • - Well, he practiced at home when you weren't there
  • 00:24:39.230 --> 00:24:42.210
  • for a lot of time. - [Sophia] That's right,
  • 00:24:42.210 --> 00:24:44.030
  • that's right. (audience laughter)
  • 00:24:44.030 --> 00:24:45.110
  • - He was taking care of business,
  • 00:24:45.110 --> 00:24:47.290
  • long before you came along.
  • 00:24:47.290 --> 00:24:50.280
  • This is so impressive to me.
  • 00:24:50.280 --> 00:24:53.010
  • It seems like the most successful couples,
  • 00:24:53.010 --> 00:24:57.050
  • are doing things that the couples
  • 00:24:57.050 --> 00:24:59.090
  • who aren't so successful won't.
  • 00:24:59.090 --> 00:25:02.110
  • - Yes, that's true.
  • 00:25:02.110 --> 00:25:03.200
  • - I'm sitting here listening to you all,
  • 00:25:03.200 --> 00:25:07.100
  • and there's a reason why your relationship is where it is.
  • 00:25:07.100 --> 00:25:11.140
  • There's a reason why our relationship...
  • 00:25:11.140 --> 00:25:14.120
  • And then you got those who just totally
  • 00:25:14.120 --> 00:25:17.180
  • go against everything that the system has required.
  • 00:25:19.010 --> 00:25:22.270
  • And wonder why they are having system malfunctions.
  • 00:25:24.220 --> 00:25:28.270
  • This has been rich for us.
  • 00:25:32.200 --> 00:25:34.250
  • (audience applause)
  • 00:25:35.270 --> 00:25:37.210
  • I don't know...
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  • Do you think they have,
  • 00:25:42.120 --> 00:25:44.150
  • you gotta have some idea of how informative this night
  • 00:25:44.150 --> 00:25:48.200
  • has been.
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  • By the Spirit of God, please know
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  • that you have come in and
  • 00:25:57.150 --> 00:25:59.180
  • have complemented what we have been doing here for years.
  • 00:26:02.000 --> 00:26:06.050
  • You've put another
  • 00:26:08.050 --> 00:26:09.200
  • slant and accent
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  • on what we try to project and portray.
  • 00:26:14.140 --> 00:26:17.170
  • And sometimes hearing it from people
  • 00:26:19.070 --> 00:26:22.030
  • we see on the movie screen,
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  • it has even a greater impact.
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  • We see you always in another venue,
  • 00:26:31.100 --> 00:26:34.070
  • but to have you here,
  • 00:26:36.110 --> 00:26:38.240
  • and to hear the basics of your faith,
  • 00:26:38.240 --> 00:26:41.270
  • the foundations of your faith and love,
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  • it's so encouraging.
  • 00:26:47.030 --> 00:26:48.230
  • - [DeeDee] It really is.
  • 00:26:49.280 --> 00:26:51.280
  • - Hollywood already has...
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  • You're transitioning now.
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  • Are you back in Jersey or you're in both locations?
  • 00:27:01.100 --> 00:27:05.080
  • How are you...?
  • 00:27:05.080 --> 00:27:06.150
  • - We're literally four months from...
  • 00:27:07.200 --> 00:27:09.290
  • We were in Jersey since February.
  • 00:27:09.290 --> 00:27:12.160
  • We literally just flew here yesterday,
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  • and we're going back to California tomorrow.
  • 00:27:14.190 --> 00:27:16.080
  • He'll be in
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  • filming more in San Francisco, so
  • 00:27:17.250 --> 00:27:20.240
  • our home-base is in California, and then we just go
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  • to where God has us to go.
  • 00:27:23.140 --> 00:27:25.140
  • - Yeah, I know, you've been moving around a lot.
  • 00:27:25.140 --> 00:27:27.150
  • - [Sophia] Yeah, yeah.
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  • - How does Hollywood affect your relationship?
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  • You know, I saw you with Cookie.
  • 00:27:35.210 --> 00:27:37.210
  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:27:37.210 --> 00:27:40.210
  • I saw you with Cookie, I saw you in some other scenes.
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