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Marriage Made EZ: Derek & Sophia Luke's Story

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October 30, 2017
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Living by Faith with Mike & DeeDee Freeman

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Marriage Made EZ: Derek & Sophia Luke's Story

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  • so I'm like, Hmm, so he's riding with me?
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  • And then another guy was riding with me too,
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  • and so I'm like, cool, he's riding with me.
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  • So we get in the car and Derek is just as quiet
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  • as he is right now, sitting in the back seat,
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  • and this other guy in the passenger seat.
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  • - Oh, the other guy's up front?
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  • - He's like, I'm putting in my application.
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  • I just want you to know, sister.
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  • And I'm like...
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  • (audience laughter)
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  • what does that mean exactly? (laughter)
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  • What does that mean?
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  • And he's like, you're fine and you're a sister in the Lord
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  • and this, and Derek's in the back like...
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  • (audience laughter)
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  • And I'm like why doesn't the guy in the back say anything?
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  • So I'm like, what, is he prejudice?
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  • Like, I'm Latin, is it weird?
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  • (laughter)
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  • No, I'm just being really real.
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  • Today, on Living by Faith...
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  • worshiping the Lord for my birthday, just thanking him.
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  • And all of a sudden, he just tapped into my heart,
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  • and he said, I am your first love.
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  • And any time your relationship system is out of whack,
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  • it's cause your system is not in its proper order
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  • because you've made Derek your
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  • first love, but the system of marriage is--
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  • (audience cheering and applauding)
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  • What is happening right now?
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  • - I told you.
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  • - That's the system, she's been teaching on systems
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  • for a while.
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  • - Whoo, girl, keep at it, keep at it.
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  • - It's good.
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  • - Welcome to the Sophia Luke Show.
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  • (audience laughing)
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  • - I told you.
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  • - I'm saying, I'm just saying.
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  • - [Sophia] Glory to God.
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  • - Are y'all getting ministered to?
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  • (audience answering affirmatively)
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  • - So the system of marriage is God first.
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  • He's my primary, my ultimate, my Alpha, my Omega,
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  • the one that I get my juice from.
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  • If He was an orange I'm squeezing him,
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  • and He's providing that nutritious Vitamin C.
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  • That then I pour onto my husband,
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  • but if I'm putting him first, he gets dry
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  • and brittle kind of like the Mojave Desert,
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  • and I can't, and things start freezing up
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  • in my relationship, so whenever things are starting
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  • to go wrong in our marriage, I'm like,
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  • oh, wait a second, I need to do a systems check.
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  • (audience cheering)
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  • And just get back in.
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  • Did I say something that you've been saying?
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  • Has he been saying systems check?
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  • He's got the stinky face on right now, ooh.
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  • (audience laughing)
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  • - Stinky face (laughs).
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  • - He's got that when someone's doing
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  • a good break dance move?
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  • So, I got saved, the guy seven days, great,
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  • ended up moving away, went to California,
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  • said I'm going to stop having relationships, period,
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  • that I'm totally going to focus on God
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  • and it's all about me and God 100%.
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  • And then I said, God, look, I've had the guys
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  • with the whole lot of money.
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  • I've had the jerk-faces, I've had x y z's,
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  • but I want a man of God.
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  • Like I don't care, get this guys.
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  • I don't care, and this was my prayer, literally,
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  • I don't care if he doesn't have any money,
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  • if he doesn't have a car, if he doesn't have a job,
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  • if he doesn't have this, I don't care, Lord.
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  • (audience laughter)
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  • - No, no, no, no, no, no.
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  • - I'm just being 100 with you, like, this was my heart.
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  • I said, all I want is two things.
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  • Number one, I want a man of God.
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  • I want him to love you more than anybody.
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  • I want him to love you more than he loves me.
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  • Now I'm just a baby Christian, so all this
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  • has gotta be coming by the Holy Spirit, right?
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  • - [DeeDee] It's good. - [Mike] It's good.
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  • - So then I said, and number two, he's gotta have a vision
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  • that I can pour into, and again, I'm just a baby Christian,
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  • so that's gotta be the Holy Spirit, his unction,
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  • just asking me to pray this prayer.
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  • So fast forward--
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  • - Can I stick a finger?
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  • - Yes, please, please.
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  • - Why was vision important, man of God and vision?
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  • Why did you make that right under,
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  • why did he have to have vision?
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  • - To me he had to have vision
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  • because I needed something to pour into.
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  • I couldn't be
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  • like an abyss, something dark
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  • that just consumes and there's no ending, but--
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  • - Are wives pouring into something that has no vision?
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  • - [DeeDee] Yes, all the time.
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  • - Container, are we just pouring and
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  • there's nothing being filled?
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  • - We want something to help with.
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  • It's like, give it to us, we'll take it.
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  • - Men, if you don't have vision, and your wife
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  • can't clearly articulate your vision back to you,
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  • that's an assignment tonight.
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  • - Yes.
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  • - You're doing great, continue.
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  • God and vision?
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  • - Yeah, a man of God and vision,
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  • and I just believe that
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  • if he has a vision, number one, I can pour into it.
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  • Number two, I know he's focused, and I know,
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  • number three, that because if he loves God first
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  • then that vision is going to be orchestrated by God.
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  • So then I'm safe, so fast forward, I get a movie.
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  • It's my first movie, like going to these Vertical Leaps
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  • every month, they still have these Vertical Leaps
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  • every month for now 30 years, and they teach you
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  • about discipline, focus, vision, how to receive a vision,
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  • how to start a business with no money, I mean,
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  • like doing the supernatural, natural.
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  • - Doing the supernatural natural.
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  • - Yes, oh that's good, he's just pulling
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  • all the nuggets out.
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  • - I'm a listener, I love it.
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  • - And I'll try not to be the consumer of the conversation.
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  • - No, take it.
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  • - No, it's good.
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  • - Derek has nothing to say, he's just here.
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  • (audience laughing)
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  • - He's just gonna see her look good.
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  • - He's the broke guy that came along,
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  • that came along, that loved God, that had vision.
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  • (audience laughing)
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  • - Yes.
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  • - So, he's just your husband tonight.
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  • - Oh, honey, I love you.
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  • So I go to the seminar.
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  • I get this movie, and it's my first audition,
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  • and I'm just thinking that I'm just going to do amazing.
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  • So I start going to these seminars.
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  • It's month one, it's amazing.
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  • Month two, thank you Holy Spirit, supernatural
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  • God is supernatural, there's no toil in finding somebody.
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  • There's no toil in relationship, keeping the relationship.
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  • There's no toil, you know?
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  • So I go to the seminar--
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  • - [Mike] There's no toil.
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  • - No toil, like that trying to constantly
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  • make it work, but there's just this element
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  • of toil; that's the system, again,
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  • the system of the world.
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  • - [DeeDee] That was some word that
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  • was just interjected.
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  • - Yeah, and some see that prior to saying, I do.
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  • Toiling, prior to, premarriage,
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  • toiling, and still forging through it.
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  • Seven days with God is going to resolve all of that.
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  • Come on, come on.
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  • - Yes sir, so toiling.
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  • So where was I at?
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  • - No, that was a word interjected there
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  • by the spirit of God, so she offered toiling,
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  • so now she's back to going to those workshops.
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  • - Going to those seminars.
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  • - [DeeDee] The seminars.
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  • - And again, I'm just talking about the supernatural,
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  • so I get a word from three different people
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  • on three different occasions, and I don't tell anybody this.
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  • So nobody knows that this person had given me a word.
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  • That three words before I went to the second month
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  • of this seminar, this Christian seminar, was,
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  • did you know your husband is just around the corner?
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  • And I was like, in the name of Jesus, yes,
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  • I'm gonna believe it, I want a husband so bad!
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  • And I was trying to be this Proverbs 31 woman,
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  • like I was reading Proverbs 31 every morning.
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  • In the name of Jesus, I'm a virtuous woman.
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  • In the name of Jesus, I open my hands to the poor.
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  • In the name of Jesus, like, and I felt like
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  • I gotta try.
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  • I was toiling again to be this Proverbs 31 woman,
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  • and God was like, were you born a woman?
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  • I said, yes.
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  • He said, did you have to toil?
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  • I said, no.
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  • He said, do you have to toil to even think
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  • about whether you're a woman or not, and I said no.
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  • - [Mike] Just be.
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  • - And he was like, when you got born again,
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  • you became that Proverbs 31 woman.
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  • (audience cheering) Now you are it.
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  • And I'm like, I'm it, I don't have to work for it?
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  • Like, really, like, but then I needed to be developed.
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  • - That's right.
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  • - So, that was just a sidebar, thank you Holy Spirit.
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  • So then those three words come.
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  • Now month two.
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  • Are you guys tracking with me?
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  • Am I talking too much? - Yeah, we're with you.
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  • - Are you tracking with me? - [Mike] Oh yeah.
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  • - So I go to this seminar and now it's month two.
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  • I had received those three prophetic words,
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  • again, the supernatural, no toil.
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  • So I'm just standing and holding on to that word,
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  • and then all of a sudden, we're here at the seminar.
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  • And it's day one, mid-way through it,
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  • and there's a huge massive group of people inside the room
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  • and all of a sudden, I sense this light in the corner.
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  • And I'm like, there's a glow in the corner,
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  • and I look over and Derek is sitting there on his stool
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  • and I'm like
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  • Ahhhhhhhhh (laughter)
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  • (audience applause)
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  • Literally, and I'm like, in the name of Jesus,
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  • Satan, I rebuke you.
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  • Because I was in the zone like, no relationships,
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  • no looking at men. - Yeah, God, sprit-filled.
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  • - It's me and you God, I'm in the zone.
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  • (laughter)
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  • - Supernatural, it's natural. - And I'm like, Ooh, yes,
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  • supernatural is natural and that was no toil at all.
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  • That was eye-candy.
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  • (audience laughter) And I had made a husband list
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  • because my spiritual mom said
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  • now that you're born again, make a husband list.
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  • Number one, he's a man of God, number two,
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  • and the Holy Spirit will start highlighting attributes of
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  • characteristics that you find in different friends and men,
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  • and now you put that on your list,
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  • but the Holy Spirit will bring it out
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  • and you'll know so you won't have to toil for that either.
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  • So I had my long list,
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  • and the last portion was what's his ethnic background?
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  • I was like, pssht, I don't care.
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  • He can be Asian, Mexican, Black, I don't care,
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  • but then when I saw Derek, I was like,
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  • and I would like him to look exactly like that guy.
  • 00:10:36.120 --> 00:10:38.250
  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:10:38.250 --> 00:10:40.090
  • And he was gorgeous, and he had this glow about him.
  • 00:10:40.090 --> 00:10:44.050
  • So then,
  • 00:10:44.050 --> 00:10:45.240
  • I rebuked Satan and I got back in the zone,
  • 00:10:45.240 --> 00:10:48.190
  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:10:48.190 --> 00:10:50.260
  • and then shortly after an hour or two later,
  • 00:10:50.260 --> 00:10:54.150
  • the leaders instructed us to sit next to somebody
  • 00:10:54.150 --> 00:10:57.190
  • you know the least, and I'm like great, okay, cool.
  • 00:10:57.190 --> 00:11:00.140
  • I was over the whole ahhhhh thing,
  • 00:11:00.140 --> 00:11:03.050
  • so I get my books and I say...
  • 00:11:03.050 --> 00:11:05.170
  • You know when you feel that energy of people liking you,
  • 00:11:05.170 --> 00:11:07.290
  • like guys checking you out or something?
  • 00:11:07.290 --> 00:11:09.220
  • You kinda feel weird and I'm like I need to go
  • 00:11:09.220 --> 00:11:11.220
  • to a safe space because that's how I felt at that seminar.
  • 00:11:11.220 --> 00:11:15.130
  • So I said this to God, again, supernatural.
  • 00:11:15.130 --> 00:11:18.130
  • I had my books underneath my chair
  • 00:11:18.130 --> 00:11:21.060
  • and I reached under and as I'm reaching under,
  • 00:11:21.060 --> 00:11:23.020
  • I said, Lord, I'm gonna look up and when I look up,
  • 00:11:23.020 --> 00:11:27.190
  • and everybody's moving,
  • 00:11:27.190 --> 00:11:29.230
  • wherever I look-- - [Mike] Oh man, come on.
  • 00:11:29.230 --> 00:11:31.230
  • - No I'm telling you, this was supernatural.
  • 00:11:31.230 --> 00:11:33.070
  • - [Mike] Alright, okay, okay.
  • 00:11:33.070 --> 00:11:34.120
  • - Wherever I look Lord,
  • 00:11:34.120 --> 00:11:36.080
  • I'm gonna sit there.
  • 00:11:36.080 --> 00:11:38.060
  • And so I'm spinning around in my head, not physically.
  • 00:11:38.060 --> 00:11:41.160
  • So I pick up my books and I go,
  • 00:11:41.160 --> 00:11:43.080
  • hmm, hmm, hmm.
  • 00:11:43.080 --> 00:11:44.130
  • And I look and Derek is sitting right there,
  • 00:11:46.030 --> 00:11:48.050
  • and I said, I said I was gonna sit there
  • 00:11:48.050 --> 00:11:49.250
  • but that's not the reason God, you know my heart.
  • 00:11:49.250 --> 00:11:51.280
  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:11:51.280 --> 00:11:53.140
  • So I pick up my books and I sit down, and I'm cool.
  • 00:11:53.140 --> 00:11:57.260
  • I'm good, I'm thinking he's cute,
  • 00:11:57.260 --> 00:11:59.190
  • but I rebuked him in the name of Jesus, so I'm good.
  • 00:11:59.190 --> 00:12:01.260
  • (audience laughter) So I sit down,
  • 00:12:01.260 --> 00:12:03.160
  • and all of a sudden I'm like
  • 00:12:03.160 --> 00:12:05.050
  • (sniff, sniff)
  • 00:12:05.050 --> 00:12:06.000
  • he smells good.
  • 00:12:06.000 --> 00:12:07.120
  • (audience laughter) And I look over at his hands
  • 00:12:07.120 --> 00:12:08.270
  • and I say, Oh my gosh, he's got clean hands and nails!
  • 00:12:08.270 --> 00:12:10.080
  • I love clean hands and nails! (audience laughter)
  • 00:12:10.080 --> 00:12:12.250
  • Oh God, maybe I need to move Lord, in the name of Jesus.
  • 00:12:12.250 --> 00:12:14.290
  • But then it started, and I'm like, stay focused,
  • 00:12:14.290 --> 00:12:16.250
  • stay focused, and I said, "Hi" and he said, "Hi."
  • 00:12:16.250 --> 00:12:19.130
  • And I said (whimper).
  • 00:12:19.130 --> 00:12:20.260
  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:12:20.260 --> 00:12:22.250
  • So then I focus and then all of a sudden, supernatural.
  • 00:12:22.250 --> 00:12:25.220
  • The Holy Spirit starts telling me,
  • 00:12:25.220 --> 00:12:28.110
  • he's an actor, he's this, he's that.
  • 00:12:28.110 --> 00:12:30.270
  • He's this, he's that, and just starts going down the line,
  • 00:12:30.270 --> 00:12:33.000
  • and I'm like, Whoa!
  • 00:12:33.000 --> 00:12:35.060
  • And then the leader of the seminar calls Derek up
  • 00:12:35.060 --> 00:12:38.090
  • and says, Derek, why don't you come on up
  • 00:12:38.090 --> 00:12:39.260
  • and tell us a little bit about yourself.
  • 00:12:39.260 --> 00:12:42.040
  • - And the majority of the things--
  • 00:12:42.040 --> 00:12:44.100
  • - So you didn't know...
  • 00:12:44.100 --> 00:12:45.210
  • - I didn't know.
  • 00:12:45.210 --> 00:12:47.070
  • I hadn't said, Hi, how are you doing, what do you do?
  • 00:12:47.070 --> 00:12:48.150
  • So Derek stands up, and he starts saying
  • 00:12:48.150 --> 00:12:50.270
  • what the Holy Spirit had just got done telling me,
  • 00:12:50.270 --> 00:12:53.070
  • and I'm like, Wow, maybe I'm supposed to like,
  • 00:12:53.070 --> 00:12:56.040
  • pray for him or something.
  • 00:12:56.040 --> 00:12:57.210
  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:12:57.210 --> 00:12:59.110
  • I don't know, I thought maybe
  • 00:12:59.110 --> 00:13:00.270
  • that's why God was telling me that, I don't know.
  • 00:13:00.270 --> 00:13:02.080
  • - Oh, she prayed alright.
  • 00:13:02.080 --> 00:13:03.240
  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:13:03.240 --> 00:13:05.190
  • Da-Do do-de-do-dup-do
  • 00:13:05.190 --> 00:13:08.060
  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:13:08.060 --> 00:13:10.240
  • - So then I...
  • 00:13:10.240 --> 00:13:11.290
  • I was like okay, this is great, he's gorgeous,
  • 00:13:13.040 --> 00:13:15.170
  • he smells delicious, just stay in the zone.
  • 00:13:15.170 --> 00:13:17.130
  • And I just kept staying focused.
  • 00:13:17.130 --> 00:13:19.190
  • Then the people asked, that run the seminar,
  • 00:13:19.190 --> 00:13:23.190
  • asked if there was people who had vehicles
  • 00:13:23.190 --> 00:13:27.230
  • that could take other people home.
  • 00:13:27.230 --> 00:13:29.180
  • - [Mike] Come on, come on.
  • 00:13:29.180 --> 00:13:30.260
  • - In the area, and I was like, sure.
  • 00:13:30.260 --> 00:13:32.130
  • They were like, Whoever has vehicles in these three areas,
  • 00:13:32.130 --> 00:13:34.240
  • raise your hand and meet us up at the top floor.
  • 00:13:34.240 --> 00:13:36.240
  • And so I'm like, okay, I'll help because I have a truck
  • 00:13:36.240 --> 00:13:38.170
  • and I'll do that.
  • 00:13:38.170 --> 00:13:39.130
  • And so then,
  • 00:13:39.130 --> 00:13:40.110
  • people who needed a ride, they go up there.
  • 00:13:41.190 --> 00:13:43.200
  • So Derek happened to be a person that needed a ride.
  • 00:13:43.200 --> 00:13:47.140
  • - [Mike] Whooo Jesus.
  • 00:13:47.140 --> 00:13:49.050
  • Come on!
  • 00:13:49.050 --> 00:13:50.120
  • - So I'm like, Wow, I wonder where he's going.
  • 00:13:50.120 --> 00:13:52.250
  • Well, he happens to live near me in the Pasadena area,
  • 00:13:52.250 --> 00:13:57.020
  • so I'm like, Hmm, so he's riding with me?
  • 00:13:57.020 --> 00:13:59.230
  • And then another guy was riding with me too,
  • 00:13:59.230 --> 00:14:01.270
  • and so I'm like, cool, he's riding with me.
  • 00:14:01.270 --> 00:14:03.200
  • So we get in the car and Derek is just as quiet
  • 00:14:03.200 --> 00:14:07.040
  • as he is right now, sitting in the back seat,
  • 00:14:07.040 --> 00:14:09.100
  • and this other guy in the passenger seat.
  • 00:14:09.100 --> 00:14:11.080
  • - Oh, the other guy's up front?
  • 00:14:11.080 --> 00:14:12.130
  • - He's like, I'm putting in my application.
  • 00:14:12.130 --> 00:14:13.110
  • I just want you to know, sister.
  • 00:14:13.110 --> 00:14:14.160
  • And I'm like...
  • 00:14:14.160 --> 00:14:15.260
  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:14:15.260 --> 00:14:17.150
  • what does that mean exactly? (laughter)
  • 00:14:17.150 --> 00:14:19.100
  • What does that mean?
  • 00:14:19.100 --> 00:14:20.250
  • And he's like, you're fine and you're a sister in the Lord
  • 00:14:20.250 --> 00:14:22.100
  • and this, and Derek's in the back like...
  • 00:14:22.100 --> 00:14:25.180
  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:14:26.050 --> 00:14:26.070
  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:14:26.210 --> 00:14:27.030
  • And I'm like why doesn't the guy in the back say anything?
  • 00:14:27.280 --> 00:14:29.060
  • So I'm like, what, is he prejudice?
  • 00:14:29.060 --> 00:14:32.070
  • Like, I'm Latin, is it weird?
  • 00:14:32.070 --> 00:14:33.230
  • (laughter)
  • 00:14:33.230 --> 00:14:36.200
  • No, I'm just being really real.
  • 00:14:36.200 --> 00:14:38.090
  • No, I'm just being really real.
  • 00:14:38.090 --> 00:14:39.180
  • And that's, all these questions, so then,
  • 00:14:39.180 --> 00:14:42.220
  • guess what?
  • 00:14:42.220 --> 00:14:43.190
  • So we're driving home, and this guy in the passenger seat
  • 00:14:45.010 --> 00:14:47.090
  • is just talking, talking, but guess where Derek lives.
  • 00:14:47.090 --> 00:14:51.140
  • - Ohhhhh.
  • 00:14:53.170 --> 00:14:54.120
  • Around the corner.
  • 00:14:55.110 --> 00:14:57.120
  • - Just around the corner.
  • 00:14:57.120 --> 00:15:00.020
  • - [Mike] Oh snap!
  • 00:15:00.020 --> 00:15:01.120
  • - From my house.
  • 00:15:01.120 --> 00:15:02.220
  • Doesn't take but three minutes to get there.
  • 00:15:03.280 --> 00:15:07.010
  • And I'm like...
  • 00:15:07.010 --> 00:15:09.020
  • - So that word was literal.
  • 00:15:09.020 --> 00:15:11.090
  • It wasn't figurative.
  • 00:15:12.070 --> 00:15:14.000
  • I'm thinking he's right around the corner.
  • 00:15:14.000 --> 00:15:15.230
  • - [DeeDee] It just went right on it.
  • 00:15:15.230 --> 00:15:17.180
  • - [Sophia] Supernatural.
  • 00:15:17.180 --> 00:15:18.220
  • So, that was the...
  • 00:15:18.220 --> 00:15:21.040
  • - So when you dropped him off,
  • 00:15:21.040 --> 00:15:22.130
  • are you hearing this word?
  • 00:15:22.130 --> 00:15:23.200
  • - I'm thinking, am I hearing something, Lord?
  • 00:15:23.200 --> 00:15:26.070
  • Are you talking to me, like tell me what's going on.
  • 00:15:26.070 --> 00:15:28.170
  • Cause I was so excited and anxious to have a husband...
  • 00:15:28.170 --> 00:15:31.210
  • - So I'll take over.
  • 00:15:31.210 --> 00:15:32.250
  • - Yeah, take over, honey.
  • 00:15:32.250 --> 00:15:33.270
  • Go, take over, take over, D-Lib.
  • 00:15:33.270 --> 00:15:35.180
  • - Yeah, so what happened?
  • 00:15:35.180 --> 00:15:37.080
  • What were you thinking?
  • 00:15:37.080 --> 00:15:38.230
  • - So what I'm thinking, I never ever consecrated.
  • 00:15:38.230 --> 00:15:41.160
  • I had never fasted.
  • 00:15:41.160 --> 00:15:43.100
  • I grew up in the church, around the church.
  • 00:15:43.100 --> 00:15:47.030
  • I knew the Word.
  • 00:15:47.030 --> 00:15:48.130
  • I was familiar with the Word
  • 00:15:50.020 --> 00:15:51.240
  • but I had never put it in action.
  • 00:15:51.240 --> 00:15:54.010
  • It was like the Word was more like accessories,
  • 00:15:54.010 --> 00:15:56.260
  • it was more like furniture.
  • 00:15:56.260 --> 00:15:59.080
  • Like the front room, you see it,
  • 00:15:59.080 --> 00:16:01.030
  • but you never go and sit there.
  • 00:16:01.030 --> 00:16:02.240
  • - Ohhh.
  • 00:16:02.240 --> 00:16:04.100
  • (audience murmurs)
  • 00:16:04.100 --> 00:16:07.080
  • - So basically, thank you Holy Spirit,
  • 00:16:10.090 --> 00:16:13.190
  • so basically,
  • 00:16:13.190 --> 00:16:14.210
  • I'm here at the seminar and the way they're describing it,
  • 00:16:17.090 --> 00:16:21.190
  • backing up for me, I was dating someone as well.
  • 00:16:21.190 --> 00:16:25.190
  • - She dropped him off, by the way.
  • 00:16:27.070 --> 00:16:28.290
  • - Yeah, she dropped me off.
  • 00:16:28.290 --> 00:16:30.050
  • - The girl he was dating dropped him off.
  • 00:16:30.050 --> 00:16:31.260
  • - [DeeDee] Oh, she should've stayed.
  • 00:16:31.260 --> 00:16:33.170
  • (laughter)
  • 00:16:33.170 --> 00:16:35.190
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:16:35.190 --> 00:16:36.280
  • I tried to selfishly to tell her to stay
  • 00:16:36.280 --> 00:16:39.250
  • because I didn't have a car, I was from the East Coast,
  • 00:16:41.080 --> 00:16:43.090
  • and public transportation wasn't the same in Cali
  • 00:16:43.090 --> 00:16:46.190
  • as it is in Jersey and New York,
  • 00:16:46.190 --> 00:16:48.290
  • and so she drops me off,
  • 00:16:48.290 --> 00:16:51.120
  • and I just had this image of what fasting would do.
  • 00:16:51.120 --> 00:16:55.170
  • Well, fasting did everything opposite of what I
  • 00:16:58.010 --> 00:17:02.110
  • thought it would
  • 00:17:02.110 --> 00:17:03.180
  • because I found out that there's two appetites.
  • 00:17:03.180 --> 00:17:06.280
  • There's a spiritual one, and then there's a natural one.
  • 00:17:06.280 --> 00:17:11.030
  • There's nothing like when you find out
  • 00:17:11.030 --> 00:17:12.270
  • oppose to people telling you about it.
  • 00:17:12.270 --> 00:17:15.170
  • And so my mouth was close, but my spirit was eating
  • 00:17:15.170 --> 00:17:19.220
  • like hands over feet.
  • 00:17:20.200 --> 00:17:22.060
  • And so that night, I think it was the first night,
  • 00:17:22.060 --> 00:17:26.290
  • second night, finally, because it's like a 21
  • 00:17:26.290 --> 00:17:29.020
  • 21-hour seminar, and I'm like, Man, this is brutal.
  • 00:17:29.020 --> 00:17:33.240
  • But I get to a point where I get my second wind,
  • 00:17:33.240 --> 00:17:37.240
  • and I don't recall the part where Sophia...
  • 00:17:37.240 --> 00:17:41.140
  • I don't think I saw her until she sat.
  • 00:17:41.140 --> 00:17:44.110
  • And then she sat next to me after the speaker said sit...
  • 00:17:44.110 --> 00:17:48.250
  • - Should I reenact it?
  • 00:17:48.250 --> 00:17:50.020
  • - Huh?
  • 00:17:50.020 --> 00:17:50.270
  • - Should I reenact it?
  • 00:17:50.270 --> 00:17:51.220
  • - Ahh, okay.
  • 00:17:51.220 --> 00:17:52.250
  • - I'm gonna reenact it.
  • 00:17:52.250 --> 00:17:54.020
  • - [Mike] Okay.
  • 00:17:54.020 --> 00:17:55.150
  • Do-Da doo do da doo - [Mike] This is
  • 00:17:55.150 --> 00:17:57.060
  • the reenactment.
  • 00:17:57.060 --> 00:17:58.050
  • - So...
  • 00:17:58.050 --> 00:17:59.160
  • - And I sat down like.
  • 00:17:59.160 --> 00:18:00.130
  • - And then boom.
  • 00:18:00.130 --> 00:18:01.220
  • That's your wife.
  • 00:18:01.220 --> 00:18:03.010
  • - Noooo! (audience oohing)
  • 00:18:03.010 --> 00:18:06.060
  • - First of all, I never heard
  • 00:18:06.060 --> 00:18:09.070
  • an audible voice.
  • 00:18:09.070 --> 00:18:10.190
  • And I didn't know to respond to either the audible voice
  • 00:18:12.080 --> 00:18:15.080
  • or to her.
  • 00:18:15.080 --> 00:18:16.120
  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:18:16.120 --> 00:18:18.000
  • Because it was so loud,
  • 00:18:18.000 --> 00:18:20.140
  • and it was like, Man, that was the voice of your spirit,
  • 00:18:20.140 --> 00:18:24.040
  • but without clutter.
  • 00:18:24.040 --> 00:18:26.150
  • And so the seven days
  • 00:18:26.150 --> 00:18:27.200
  • is not to punish you. - [Mike] Jesus!
  • 00:18:27.200 --> 00:18:30.100
  • It's not to handcuff you, it's to deliver you.
  • 00:18:31.220 --> 00:18:35.130
  • (cheering and applause)
  • 00:18:35.130 --> 00:18:36.210
  • - [Mike] Say that again, say that again.
  • 00:18:36.210 --> 00:18:37.290
  • - It's not to punish or handcuff you, and yes.
  • 00:18:37.290 --> 00:18:41.020
  • We are delivered.
  • 00:18:41.020 --> 00:18:42.140
  • But some of us need to be delivered from the kitchen,
  • 00:18:43.270 --> 00:18:46.050
  • from time to time.
  • 00:18:46.050 --> 00:18:47.290
  • From our routine.
  • 00:18:47.290 --> 00:18:49.000
  • - Raise your hand, Dee.
  • 00:18:49.000 --> 00:18:50.180
  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:18:50.180 --> 00:18:52.020
  • - And so it was monumental because I didn't know
  • 00:18:52.020 --> 00:18:55.270
  • that the Lord just needed that little bit of time,
  • 00:18:55.270 --> 00:18:58.220
  • to change my mind, change my circumstance,
  • 00:18:58.220 --> 00:19:02.090
  • just that little--that's your wife.
  • 00:19:02.090 --> 00:19:05.060
  • It changed it for me because you can hear from the Lord.
  • 00:19:06.220 --> 00:19:10.260
  • And I know He speaks other than audible voice, but
  • 00:19:10.260 --> 00:19:14.110
  • it was like at that moment for me,
  • 00:19:14.110 --> 00:19:17.010
  • I became a son
  • 00:19:17.010 --> 00:19:18.060
  • because I knew about the Lord,
  • 00:19:19.190 --> 00:19:22.020
  • but it was the first time I heard.
  • 00:19:22.020 --> 00:19:25.130
  • - You became a son.
  • 00:19:25.130 --> 00:19:27.120
  • - Yeah, it was like...
  • 00:19:27.120 --> 00:19:28.270
  • That was the sense that I heard his voice
  • 00:19:28.270 --> 00:19:32.100
  • as oppose to hearing others and my voice.
  • 00:19:33.160 --> 00:19:36.120
  • It was like Him.
  • 00:19:36.120 --> 00:19:37.210
  • I heard from Him, and it was like identity came.
  • 00:19:37.210 --> 00:19:41.010
  • - And those who are led by the Spirit of God
  • 00:19:41.010 --> 00:19:43.020
  • are truly sons.
  • 00:19:43.020 --> 00:19:44.150
  • - Those are sons.
  • 00:19:44.150 --> 00:19:45.290
  • - And it will establish that position in you
  • 00:19:45.290 --> 00:19:48.160
  • when you know his voice as such.
  • 00:19:48.160 --> 00:19:50.240
  • So many men are born again and don't even know
  • 00:19:50.240 --> 00:19:53.060
  • that they are sons.
  • 00:19:53.060 --> 00:19:55.150
  • Go on.
  • 00:19:55.150 --> 00:19:56.100
  • - [Derrick] No, that's... - That's powerful.
  • 00:19:57.200 --> 00:20:00.250
  • - I didn't even know that I needed a Father's love
  • 00:20:00.250 --> 00:20:05.230
  • or to know my Father's voice.
  • 00:20:05.230 --> 00:20:08.110
  • Because I had been searching for that father image on TV,
  • 00:20:08.110 --> 00:20:13.050
  • through music.
  • 00:20:13.050 --> 00:20:14.100
  • I really liked Pac and Biggy and I thought
  • 00:20:15.150 --> 00:20:19.070
  • hip-hop was very masculine.
  • 00:20:19.070 --> 00:20:21.090
  • I thought where I lived, the Nation of Islam was there too
  • 00:20:21.090 --> 00:20:24.270
  • and you had them, and then in the church,
  • 00:20:24.270 --> 00:20:28.020
  • you had mostly women, but then on the corner,
  • 00:20:28.020 --> 00:20:30.230
  • you had mostly men, but they were the Nation of Islam.
  • 00:20:30.230 --> 00:20:33.220
  • And you know, you get in those conversations:
  • 00:20:33.220 --> 00:20:35.060
  • What's up, brother.
  • 00:20:35.060 --> 00:20:36.210
  • You a Christian, I'm a Muslim, why can't we talk, brother?
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  • You know what I'm saying, you get in those
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  • (audience laughter)
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  • you get in those conversations, you know what I'm saying?
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  • It's just the devil is trying to keep us apart, brother.
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  • (audience laughter) But the truth, man.
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  • So I was just like, yeah, yeah, yeah.
  • 00:20:48.280 --> 00:20:51.160
  • - He getting in character.
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  • - And I was like yeah man, that's how I feel.
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  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:20:54.280 --> 00:20:57.020
  • And then he was like, bean pie, my brother?
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  • Just a $1.50 for you.
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  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:20:59.290 --> 00:21:01.230
  • So the Lord, He began to
  • 00:21:01.230 --> 00:21:03.230
  • talk to me about surrendering, and I got to a place,
  • 00:21:06.270 --> 00:21:11.010
  • just before I met Sophia, and it may sound funny,
  • 00:21:11.010 --> 00:21:14.120
  • but in maybe about a week or two weeks,
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  • and I got to this bliss where
  • 00:21:17.120 --> 00:21:19.000
  • I wasn't needing a ride from a girl
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  • or trying to get anything from an individual.
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  • It was like I was trying to get something
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  • to God and I just was available.
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  • And just within those two weeks,
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  • I remember the Lord began to minister to me
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  • because I would walk where I was staying.
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  • I was staying on a bunk-bed of my buddy in California and
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  • I would have to walk to work.
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  • And I remember the key when I would walk to work
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  • was this bank.
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  • And the Lord was even teaching me about saving money.
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  • And I remember him, the Lord said to me,
  • 00:21:58.180 --> 00:22:02.010
  • Derrick, you can deposit into your wife's account,
  • 00:22:02.010 --> 00:22:05.200
  • like you deposit money into your bank account.
  • 00:22:05.200 --> 00:22:08.230
  • And He said, One, you can begin to curfew yourself
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  • as if your wife is at home.
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  • - [Mike] Ahh, Jesus.
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  • - You can begin to have conversations as if
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  • she's in your presence, and so I would get home,
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  • and my roommate and his mom wouldn't be there,
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  • so I would sit around the table.
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  • And all of a sudden, there would be just this unction.
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  • And it was...
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  • I probably took a little of my wife from Clair Huxtable,
  • 00:22:34.280 --> 00:22:39.130
  • but... (audience laughter)
  • 00:22:39.130 --> 00:22:41.150
  • I had this sense.
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  • I would sit around the table,
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  • and it was almost like I would feel the temperature
  • 00:22:45.030 --> 00:22:47.180
  • of her spirit,
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  • and I would begin to just
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  • talk to her and then talk to my kids,
  • 00:22:51.160 --> 00:22:54.190
  • and the most thing I could sense was peace.
  • 00:22:55.240 --> 00:22:58.190
  • And when I was looking at girls,
  • 00:22:58.190 --> 00:23:01.110
  • and the Lord, He would correct me.
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  • He was like, No, Derek, see, you can love her,
  • 00:23:04.260 --> 00:23:08.030
  • but I can't.
  • 00:23:08.030 --> 00:23:09.030
  • - Okay, so say that again.
  • 00:23:09.290 --> 00:23:11.280
  • - Like, you can love her, but I can't.
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  • Like, I was looking at outward appearances only.
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  • - Ohhhhh.
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  • - And I'm gonna be real.
  • 00:23:20.280 --> 00:23:22.190
  • When I met Soph, and I got fired for this one time.
  • 00:23:22.190 --> 00:23:26.010
  • - You got fired?
  • 00:23:26.010 --> 00:23:27.110
  • - I got fired.
  • 00:23:28.150 --> 00:23:29.210
  • I used to get fire for this...
  • 00:23:29.210 --> 00:23:31.220
  • - [DeeDee] Fire. - [Mike] Oh, okay, fire.
  • 00:23:31.220 --> 00:23:33.150
  • - So the comment was, don't get made at me.
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  • Alright? (audience laughter)
  • 00:23:36.200 --> 00:23:38.100
  • Was that I grew up in a predominantly Black neighborhood.
  • 00:23:38.100 --> 00:23:41.040
  • And so I wasn't racist, but I wasn't familiar
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  • with other cultures.
  • 00:23:46.160 --> 00:23:48.270
  • And I began to tell people when we first got married,
  • 00:23:48.270 --> 00:23:51.170
  • that hey, you know...
  • 00:23:51.170 --> 00:23:53.100
  • Like a brochure, like this is my first time
  • 00:23:54.180 --> 00:23:57.150
  • dating outside my race.
  • 00:23:57.150 --> 00:23:58.250
  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:23:58.250 --> 00:24:01.210
  • I'm like, yo, this was pre-Kim Kardashian.
  • 00:24:01.210 --> 00:24:05.060
  • And so I was like, yeah, you know...
  • 00:24:07.110 --> 00:24:10.110
  • Cause you would see people give you like the eye,
  • 00:24:11.260 --> 00:24:13.260
  • and I'm like, yo, it just...
  • 00:24:13.260 --> 00:24:15.010
  • It just happened, you know.
  • 00:24:15.010 --> 00:24:15.290
  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:24:15.290 --> 00:24:19.110
  • And I remember, and then the Lord, like He dealt with me
  • 00:24:19.110 --> 00:24:23.090
  • in such a fatherly way,
  • 00:24:23.090 --> 00:24:25.070
  • and He said to me, Derek, stop telling people
  • 00:24:26.180 --> 00:24:29.250
  • this is the first time you dated out of your race.
  • 00:24:29.250 --> 00:24:33.020
  • You've always dated out of your race
  • 00:24:33.020 --> 00:24:34.280
  • because none of them was mine.
  • 00:24:34.280 --> 00:24:36.120
  • - [Audience] Oh! (applause)
  • 00:24:36.120 --> 00:24:38.210
  • - And He was like, I don't look
  • 00:24:38.210 --> 00:24:41.070
  • at it that way, Derek, man does.
  • 00:24:42.160 --> 00:24:45.060
  • I look at the qualifications through the kingdom,
  • 00:24:46.160 --> 00:24:49.000
  • not through your...
  • 00:24:49.000 --> 00:24:50.180
  • Instinct, male instinct, and just natural.
  • 00:24:53.000 --> 00:24:56.150
  • And that kinda cured me
  • 00:24:58.140 --> 00:25:00.140
  • because it was uncomfortable, and what was ill...
  • 00:25:01.230 --> 00:25:04.280
  • Ill is a slang.
  • 00:25:04.280 --> 00:25:07.000
  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:25:07.000 --> 00:25:08.130
  • What was ill, you got more eyes in church
  • 00:25:08.130 --> 00:25:11.210
  • than we did outside.
  • 00:25:11.210 --> 00:25:13.110
  • And so I knew that later on,
  • 00:25:14.070 --> 00:25:16.040
  • that God would be doing something,
  • 00:25:16.040 --> 00:25:19.140
  • not just in us, but He would be doing
  • 00:25:19.140 --> 00:25:21.280
  • something in the church of what we call the color of love,
  • 00:25:21.280 --> 00:25:25.100
  • you know what I'm saying?
  • 00:25:25.100 --> 00:25:27.110
  • (audience applause) Because there's a lot of
  • 00:25:27.110 --> 00:25:28.260
  • advertisement about it, but I aing't going no further.
  • 00:25:28.260 --> 00:25:30.140
  • That's just my personal story.
  • 00:25:30.140 --> 00:25:32.050
  • - [Mike] Yeah, that's good.
  • 00:25:32.050 --> 00:25:33.290
  • - And so,
  • 00:25:33.290 --> 00:25:35.170
  • I sit on the couch, she sits down,
  • 00:25:35.170 --> 00:25:38.010
  • I hear the Lord say she's my wife.
  • 00:25:38.010 --> 00:25:40.260
  • I'm riding in the back of the car,
  • 00:25:40.260 --> 00:25:43.290
  • and I'm just processing the night that I heard from the Lord
  • 00:25:43.290 --> 00:25:47.240
  • like I literally didn't know what to do with that.
  • 00:25:47.240 --> 00:25:50.020
  • But that moment shifted my life, because
  • 00:25:50.020 --> 00:25:53.120
  • like, I knew Him.
  • 00:25:55.280 --> 00:25:57.100
  • I couldn't deny that voice.
  • 00:25:58.210 --> 00:26:01.050
  • - Come on.
  • 00:26:01.050 --> 00:26:02.210
  • - And so, later on down the line when movies would come
  • 00:26:02.210 --> 00:26:06.230
  • and you would get different choices,
  • 00:26:06.230 --> 00:26:09.230
  • but you would remember that moment
  • 00:26:12.290 --> 00:26:15.070
  • when you heard from the Lord.
  • 00:26:15.070 --> 00:26:16.180
  • You're like, But I heard Him.
  • 00:26:16.180 --> 00:26:19.210
  • I know there's some struggles,
  • 00:26:19.210 --> 00:26:22.130
  • and I know that saying you're fly now,
  • 00:26:22.130 --> 00:26:25.000
  • but I remember when He said that's your wife.
  • 00:26:25.000 --> 00:26:29.060
  • He didn't give me an Option B,
  • 00:26:29.060 --> 00:26:31.070
  • He didn't give me an Option C,
  • 00:26:31.070 --> 00:26:33.060
  • and as matter of fact,
  • 00:26:33.060 --> 00:26:34.190
  • He didn't even audibly call me an actor.
  • 00:26:34.190 --> 00:26:37.010
  • I know He chose me as one, but He was audible with my wife,
  • 00:26:37.010 --> 00:26:40.160
  • you know what I'm saying?
  • 00:26:40.160 --> 00:26:41.140
  • I know that I'm married to her
  • 00:26:41.140 --> 00:26:43.230
  • more than I am an actor.
  • 00:26:43.230 --> 00:26:45.130
  • So you wanna take it from here?
  • 00:26:45.130 --> 00:26:47.290
  • - That was good!
  • 00:26:47.290 --> 00:26:49.100
  • - Well, wait a minute because
  • 00:26:49.100 --> 00:26:50.270
  • because okay, you're in the back of the car.
  • 00:26:50.270 --> 00:26:53.030
  • Boom, this my wife.
  • 00:26:53.030 --> 00:26:54.170
  • Main man is putting in his application up front.
  • 00:26:54.170 --> 00:26:57.020
  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:26:57.020 --> 00:26:58.080
  • - Yeah, yeah.
  • 00:26:58.080 --> 00:26:59.250
  • - [Mike] (chuckle) You know what,
  • 00:26:59.250 --> 00:27:02.000
  • well what are you thinking?
  • 00:27:02.000 --> 00:27:03.050
  • God, that wasn't you.
  • 00:27:03.050 --> 00:27:04.050
  • You were quiet.
  • 00:27:04.050 --> 00:27:05.080
  • - Yeah, and I'm still...
  • 00:27:05.080 --> 00:27:07.080
  • I was just sitting back there and I can just
  • 00:27:08.260 --> 00:27:12.180
  • sense--
  • 00:27:12.180 --> 00:27:13.210
  • - [Mike] This is it.
  • 00:27:13.210 --> 00:27:15.040
  • - This is it, but it's almost like I'm having a...
  • 00:27:15.040 --> 00:27:19.030
  • God's peace is so
  • 00:27:19.030 --> 00:27:20.160
  • on me because at that time, I'm staying on the bunk bed.
  • 00:27:22.180 --> 00:27:27.060
  • I have a BMX bike that's not mine.
  • 00:27:27.060 --> 00:27:29.290
  • - And remember I said I didn't care if he had a job.
  • 00:27:29.290 --> 00:27:32.090
  • - And that's right. - I didn't care
  • 00:27:32.090 --> 00:27:33.040
  • if he had a car.
  • 00:27:33.040 --> 00:27:34.120
  • He did have a job, it was minimum wage,
  • 00:27:34.120 --> 00:27:36.210
  • but he loved God and he had a dream and a vision.
  • 00:27:36.210 --> 00:27:39.010
  • And he used to come and visit me.
  • 00:27:39.010 --> 00:27:40.240
  • He would ride his friend's BMX bike to come and visit me.
  • 00:27:40.240 --> 00:27:43.190
  • (laughter) Isn't that cute?
  • 00:27:43.190 --> 00:27:45.080
  • (audience laughter)
  • 00:27:45.080 --> 00:27:46.220
  • It's so cute.
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