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September 5, 2017
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Living by Faith with Mike & DeeDee Freeman

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Marriage Made EZ: The Donnie and Pam Simpson Story Part 2

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  • And so even though, say, you get married,
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  • some in here may be saying, well,
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  • I'm glad I'm not 22.
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  • Yeah, but you 33 and still never been married,
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  • or you 50 and never been married.
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  • And so now you're entering into something new
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  • for the very first time.
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  • It's like, who told you
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  • that this is what it was really gonna be like?
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  • You come in here, we canwas only give you instructions,
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  • You come in here, we can only give you instructions,
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  • but everybody's home is different.
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  • - And what wife or husband wouldn't be worth the wait?
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  • - Oh, I agree.
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  • - That's Jerry Springer.
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  • - That's when Millie comes out
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  • and they start fighting, right?
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  • - Here's Millie!
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  • - Ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding!
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  • (laughter)
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  • - Come on out, Millie.
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  • - I'm sorry.
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  • So friendship.
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  • Third would be just respect.
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  • Respect.
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  • And that's for me, Pam,
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  • that's respect of myself, respect of you,
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  • people that I meet,
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  • just respect in general is so important.
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  • I have tremendous respect for Pam, as you can see.
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  • And so those would probably be my three.
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  • - Did that evolve?
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  • Where was that before the split-up?
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  • Did you lose sight of that?
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  • - I hadn't learned it, I don't think, at that point.
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  • I didn't know that early.
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  • I mean, I had respect for her, - After 19 years?
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  • - but not like I do now.
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  • - Right. - Yeah.
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  • - Yeah, I mean it was a different thing.
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  • Wow.
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  • Like I told you, when I read that book,
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  • that that was part of learning that,
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  • that different level of respect.
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  • I don't know.
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  • It's hard to explain.
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  • - I'm so thrilled you-- - I love it, because--
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  • - Go ahead, sweetie.
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  • - Well, I wanted to say because there's something
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  • that I've kind of studied over time
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  • and gone through some things,
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  • like I've learned that there's four powers
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  • that every relationships needs.
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  • Four powers.
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  • The first one is willpower.
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  • When you first get together it's like I have willpower,
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  • I have the power in me to do it, to make it happen.
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  • And then there's wait power.
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  • W-A-I-T.
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  • Wait until, give 'em time to grow up.
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  • Most people aren't willing to allow others to mature,
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  • to grow up in the relationship.
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  • They expect you to, when you say I do,
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  • then you immediately know how to handle--
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  • - Are we talking about pre- or post-marriage?
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  • - I'm talking about post-marriage.
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  • - Post-marriage? - Yeah, because--
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  • - Wait. - Wait.
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  • - Give them to grow up and evolve.
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  • - I guarantee you--
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  • - But he is driving me crazy!
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  • - I know, but you have the willpower to make it happen.
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  • - So you go back to the will when you don't want to wait?
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  • - You go back to the will because you have the willpower.
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  • - I gotta wait for him to speak to me in the mornings?
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  • I mean, he should know that by now!
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  • - Yeah, but he may not,
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  • 'cause his parents didn't speak to him
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  • when he left out the house.
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  • (applause)
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  • And so now you're expecting him to come in a relationship
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  • and know exactly what to do when he doesn't always
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  • know what to do.
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  • So there's willpower.
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  • - There's wait, W-A-I-T.
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  • - W-A-I-T.
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  • I'mma do the last wait later.
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  • And then there's way.
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  • - Way. - Right.
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  • Give way.
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  • - I like the alliteration.
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  • - Uh-uh, you give way.
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  • - Will, wait, and way.
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  • - Way. - Give way.
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  • - Give way. - Yield.
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  • - Yield, submit.
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  • And Ephesians 5:21 talks about submitting to one another.
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  • It's like honoring each other.
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  • And then that weight power, the last one,
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  • W-E-I-G-H-T, weight.
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  • Give honor. - That's what I have, weight.
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  • (laughter)
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  • Can't stand this weight.
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  • - But this weight, weight power,
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  • is giving honor in the relationship.
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  • And I believe if you keep--
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  • - Oh, that's the weight.
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  • - That's the weight.
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  • - Giving her that weight.
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  • - Giving her that weight and giving him that weight.
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  • - That honor. - Giving them that honor,
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  • because most people don't know how to do all those things
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  • when they first enter into a relationship.
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  • And you expect them to know,
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  • like evolve overnight.
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  • I've never done this before.
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  • I said, I do, and I didn't go in it
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  • with clear understanding.
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  • 'Cause we got married young, too.
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  • 21, 22, no different than 19 and 20, really.
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  • - I was 23.
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  • - Okay, still stupid. - 23 years old.
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  • (laughter)
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  • - Okay, give me all mine.
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  • - Still stupid.
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  • You know,
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  • they were the worst dumb days--
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  • - She says, "Still stupid."
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  • - Still stupid, yeah.
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  • - So much to learn. - 22, 23.
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  • - That's that communication I was talking about.
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  • Don't listen.
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  • - But listen.
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  • Age does not determine maturity.
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  • - Oh, isn't that the truth.
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  • - [DeeDee] And you know that.
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  • - I know some 54-year-old 19-year-olds.
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  • - Some old fools, right?
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  • - Exactly.
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  • And so even though, say, you get married,
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  • some in here may be saying, well,
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  • I'm glad I'm not 22.
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  • Yeah, but you 33 and still never been married,
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  • or you 50 and never been married.
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  • And so now you're entering into something new
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  • for the very first time.
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  • It's like, who told you
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  • that this is what it was really gonna be like?
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  • You come in here, we canwas only give you instructions,
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  • You come in here, we can only give you instructions,
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  • but everybody's home is different.
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  • - And what wife or husband wouldn't be worth the wait?
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  • - And what wife or husband wouldn't be worth the wait?
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  • - Oh, I agree.
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  • - The wait: let me evolve.
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  • - Yep. - Give me that time.
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  • - But most of us aren't told that in the beginning.
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  • - You didn't know how to cook.
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  • - I waited.
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  • - And you waited.
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  • And you're still waiting.
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  • - It was the tuner fish casserole
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  • that I saw every night.
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  • - It's all I knew how to make.
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  • - Then we graduated to chicken, rice, and broccoli.
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  • Then the kids came along.
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  • We used to sit around the table.
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  • I'd say, "What we having?"
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  • They'd say, "Same thing."
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  • - That was a family joke.
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  • "Same thing."
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  • (laughter)
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  • - Is my daughter Brittany here?
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  • 'Cause this is full circle.
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  • Britt, you here?
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  • Britt was, she told me this.
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  • There's something you say when you are on...
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  • I must admit, I don't know when you're on right now.
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  • That's not a station I really kinda most, yeah.
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  • But you say, get up, something.
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  • - Maybe you're talking about my jingle.
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  • - [Mike] What's the jingle?
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  • Donnie Simpson Show, Donnie Simpson Show
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  • Donnie in the morning
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  • - Get up!
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  • - That's it, yeah, get up.
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  • - Everybody get up. - Yeah, everybody get up.
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  • And she was up in her room, turned up.
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  • I said, "Girl, if you don't turn that junk off
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  • "in my house!"
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  • And she said, when she found you were coming, she said,
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  • "Dad, you invited the same guy
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  • "you told me not to listen to."
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  • But let me tell you what I love the most.
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  • I would tune in around 9:58.
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  • Father
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  • Bless your children
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  • Talk about what inspired,
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  • you could play whatever.
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  • But that's what you rolled out with.
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  • - And they said you still play that.
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  • - Yeah, I still play it.
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  • Not every night, 'cause I played it for so long,
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  • you just feel like, maybe I need to change.
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  • And so I did, and phones were ringing off the hook.
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  • - Some things you don't need to change.
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  • - I know.
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  • Phones were ringing off the hook.
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  • But there are other great messages
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  • that I wanted to pose with, too.
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  • But I still keep that one.
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  • We played it tonight.
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  • But for me, when the Commodores came out with that album,
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  • and I'm sitting there listening to that album
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  • the night it came out,
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  • and it ended with that song,
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  • and I just thought, wow.
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  • How cool is this?
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  • This is Lionel Richie and the Commodores.
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  • We've been Brick House-ing and Slippery When it's Wet
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  • and all this other stuff.
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  • (laughter)
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  • - I forgot that one, I forgot that one.
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  • - All this other stuff.
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  • But at the end, to give it back.
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  • Yeah, to give it back like that
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  • just meant so much to me, to end that album like that.
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  • And I just felt like, wow,
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  • if the Commodores can do that,
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  • with all the stuff that I played
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  • during the course of a show,
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  • but at the end, give it back just like they did.
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  • It was just that simple, and I played it the next morning,
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  • and it was like that for the next 20 years.
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  • - And what kind of feedback...
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  • Did people have the same kind of feeling or effect
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  • that I'm conveying at this particular time?
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  • - Oh yeah. - Like you said,
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  • we just came out of,
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  • Slippery when it's wet
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  • And then... - They loved it.
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  • Jesus is love
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  • - People would tune into it every morning.
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  • As a matter of fact, at one point they had
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  • three of my competitors were playing it at 9:55,
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  • just like I was.
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  • Try to fool their listeners, you know,
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  • 'cause it was that popular.
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  • And I remember being asked about it
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  • by, I don't know, some newspaper.
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  • It was like, "Does that upset you?"
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  • "Not at all, man.
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  • "To spread that word?
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  • "How does that upset me?
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  • "I love that.
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  • "Everybody should play it."
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  • - Absolutely.
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  • It's so powerful to me because if Jesus is not in it,
  • 00:10:25.200 --> 00:10:29.130
  • you're not going to win it.
  • 00:10:31.130 --> 00:10:33.120
  • - There you go. - I mean, bottom line.
  • 00:10:33.120 --> 00:10:36.040
  • And I wanna personally thank the both of you
  • 00:10:36.040 --> 00:10:39.290
  • for being here with us tonight.
  • 00:10:39.290 --> 00:10:41.060
  • - Thank you for having us.
  • 00:10:41.060 --> 00:10:43.200
  • - I am certain that the things you have shared
  • 00:10:43.200 --> 00:10:47.150
  • has made an indelible impact
  • 00:10:49.030 --> 00:10:51.130
  • on couples in here.
  • 00:10:52.240 --> 00:10:54.110
  • Would you agree to that?
  • 00:10:55.220 --> 00:10:57.000
  • (applause)
  • 00:10:57.000 --> 00:10:58.050
  • - Well, thank you. - Thank you.
  • 00:10:58.050 --> 00:11:00.220
  • - DeeDee and I, we are set to present the best,
  • 00:11:03.290 --> 00:11:07.270
  • to assist, come alongside of marriages,
  • 00:11:11.110 --> 00:11:14.190
  • and give them the boost or the energy
  • 00:11:17.130 --> 00:11:21.070
  • or the information.
  • 00:11:21.070 --> 00:11:22.150
  • That's what I so love about her.
  • 00:11:22.150 --> 00:11:25.130
  • She's always prepared to give a word,
  • 00:11:25.130 --> 00:11:28.140
  • the will, the wait, the why.
  • 00:11:28.140 --> 00:11:31.090
  • - No, way and weight. - The way and the weight.
  • 00:11:31.090 --> 00:11:34.080
  • I mean, just simple things like that
  • 00:11:34.080 --> 00:11:37.060
  • that we want to implement, convey.
  • 00:11:38.110 --> 00:11:41.050
  • God has taken our relationship as a trophy in His hand
  • 00:11:43.030 --> 00:11:47.290
  • to show the world what He intended
  • 00:11:47.290 --> 00:11:49.280
  • for marriage to look like.
  • 00:11:49.280 --> 00:11:51.260
  • 43 years.
  • 00:11:51.260 --> 00:11:52.210
  • You understand what I'm saying?
  • 00:11:55.110 --> 00:11:56.250
  • That is so powerful,
  • 00:11:56.250 --> 00:11:59.010
  • and we wanted to highlight those
  • 00:11:59.010 --> 00:12:01.150
  • who have not done it perfectly,
  • 00:12:01.150 --> 00:12:04.020
  • but look at the results now.
  • 00:12:06.240 --> 00:12:09.260
  • You know what I mean?
  • 00:12:09.260 --> 00:12:10.260
  • (applause)
  • 00:12:10.260 --> 00:12:12.140
  • And we're grateful, go ahead.
  • 00:12:12.140 --> 00:12:15.020
  • - Well, I just wanna say two things
  • 00:12:15.020 --> 00:12:17.050
  • in closing for me.
  • 00:12:17.050 --> 00:12:18.240
  • And that is that I've always looked at marriage
  • 00:12:18.240 --> 00:12:21.000
  • as a tennis match.
  • 00:12:21.000 --> 00:12:23.000
  • You can lose a point and not lose the game.
  • 00:12:23.000 --> 00:12:26.010
  • You can lose a game and not lose the set.
  • 00:12:26.010 --> 00:12:28.220
  • You can lose a set and not lose the match.
  • 00:12:28.220 --> 00:12:31.120
  • So you got to keep playing.
  • 00:12:31.120 --> 00:12:34.100
  • So that's one,
  • 00:12:34.100 --> 00:12:35.160
  • and the other thing that I wanna say
  • 00:12:35.160 --> 00:12:36.180
  • is you talk about the blessing
  • 00:12:36.180 --> 00:12:39.100
  • that we may bring to you guys.
  • 00:12:39.100 --> 00:12:40.260
  • I just want you to know that you've also brought
  • 00:12:40.260 --> 00:12:43.210
  • a blessing to us tonight.
  • 00:12:43.210 --> 00:12:45.240
  • We were in the back watching earlier and,
  • 00:12:47.090 --> 00:12:49.090
  • for real.
  • 00:12:49.090 --> 00:12:50.040
  • I love people, I love stories,
  • 00:12:53.010 --> 00:12:54.290
  • and to hear your stories and to feel the love
  • 00:12:54.290 --> 00:12:58.000
  • that's in this church tonight
  • 00:12:58.000 --> 00:12:59.240
  • is a blessing for us, too.
  • 00:12:59.240 --> 00:13:01.090
  • So thank you for what you've given us tonight.
  • 00:13:01.090 --> 00:13:03.250
  • Appreciate you.
  • 00:13:03.250 --> 00:13:04.200
  • (applause)
  • 00:13:04.200 --> 00:13:07.180
  • - That's right!
  • 00:13:07.180 --> 00:13:08.250
  • - [Mike] Awesome, awesome, awesome, awesome.
  • 00:13:15.220 --> 00:13:17.290
  • - [Donnie] Thank you.
  • 00:13:17.290 --> 00:13:19.220
  • - That book is a must.
  • 00:13:29.080 --> 00:13:31.070
  • - [Donnie] Yeah, it's coming!
  • 00:13:31.070 --> 00:13:33.200
  • Been working on it for three years.
  • 00:13:33.200 --> 00:13:34.250
  • I hope it's coming.
  • 00:13:34.250 --> 00:13:36.110
  • - And we're grateful.
  • 00:13:38.030 --> 00:13:39.280
  • Anything in closing, Pam?
  • 00:13:39.280 --> 00:13:42.020
  • - I just wanna say thank you so much
  • 00:13:42.020 --> 00:13:43.200
  • for having us here, and I really appreciate it,
  • 00:13:43.200 --> 00:13:46.150
  • and what a beautiful group of people that you have
  • 00:13:46.150 --> 00:13:48.280
  • and what you guys are doing is amazing.
  • 00:13:48.280 --> 00:13:51.120
  • And thank you for letting us share our story
  • 00:13:51.120 --> 00:13:53.160
  • and being a part of it.
  • 00:13:53.160 --> 00:13:54.260
  • So thank you.
  • 00:13:54.260 --> 00:13:56.040
  • - Your story is awesome. - It's wonderful to us.
  • 00:13:56.040 --> 00:13:58.070
  • Sweetie. - Oh, I'm just excited.
  • 00:13:58.070 --> 00:14:01.140
  • You know, we do these marriage meetings every other month,
  • 00:14:01.140 --> 00:14:04.100
  • and we know that this part of our ministry thrust.
  • 00:14:04.100 --> 00:14:08.150
  • This is one thing that is just like on our heart,
  • 00:14:09.280 --> 00:14:13.120
  • really in the forefront of our heart,
  • 00:14:13.120 --> 00:14:15.180
  • trying to impact the lives
  • 00:14:15.180 --> 00:14:18.060
  • of the couples that are here in this ministry,
  • 00:14:18.060 --> 00:14:21.020
  • and also across this world, really.
  • 00:14:21.020 --> 00:14:23.290
  • People tune into our broadcast all the time
  • 00:14:23.290 --> 00:14:27.070
  • and they're always giving us
  • 00:14:27.070 --> 00:14:28.240
  • the statistics on,
  • 00:14:28.240 --> 00:14:30.090
  • or the ratings.
  • 00:14:31.280 --> 00:14:33.090
  • Our marriage show has the top ratings
  • 00:14:33.090 --> 00:14:36.100
  • out of all of the shows that we put on
  • 00:14:38.000 --> 00:14:41.010
  • because we know that relationships,
  • 00:14:41.010 --> 00:14:43.130
  • they need the word, they need help some.
  • 00:14:43.130 --> 00:14:46.220
  • Or they need just some kinda reinforcement
  • 00:14:46.220 --> 00:14:49.060
  • so they can be better.
  • 00:14:49.060 --> 00:14:50.240
  • I encourage you not to become weary of well-doing.
  • 00:14:50.240 --> 00:14:54.120
  • Don't throw in the towel.
  • 00:14:54.120 --> 00:14:55.270
  • Keep the fight going.
  • 00:14:55.270 --> 00:14:57.240
  • Stand because it's a good fight.
  • 00:14:57.240 --> 00:14:59.230
  • And the thing about it,
  • 00:14:59.230 --> 00:15:01.020
  • it's a good fight because we win.
  • 00:15:01.020 --> 00:15:03.120
  • It may not look like you're winning in the beginning,
  • 00:15:03.120 --> 00:15:06.000
  • but if you just keep at it,
  • 00:15:06.000 --> 00:15:08.030
  • I guarantee you you're gonna see a better day.
  • 00:15:08.030 --> 00:15:10.280
  • Encourage others to continue to come to Marriage Made EZ.
  • 00:15:10.280 --> 00:15:14.100
  • Don't pick and choose and decide which ones you gonna have.
  • 00:15:14.100 --> 00:15:17.250
  • That's why sometimes we don't have meetings in here
  • 00:15:17.250 --> 00:15:21.160
  • all the time, like I don't have women's meetings
  • 00:15:21.160 --> 00:15:25.000
  • every week or every month or whatever
  • 00:15:25.000 --> 00:15:26.200
  • because people become desensitized, I guess, to it
  • 00:15:26.200 --> 00:15:31.090
  • and think, oh, I'll just go next time.
  • 00:15:31.090 --> 00:15:34.180
  • Whatever, I ain't gotta go.
  • 00:15:34.180 --> 00:15:35.160
  • No.
  • 00:15:35.160 --> 00:15:36.110
  • I don't care how many times you hear the same information.
  • 00:15:37.240 --> 00:15:41.090
  • Keep coming.
  • 00:15:41.090 --> 00:15:42.280
  • You drive the same car
  • 00:15:42.280 --> 00:15:44.140
  • and you put the same gas in it every day.
  • 00:15:44.140 --> 00:15:47.070
  • - Like Dr. Price used to say,
  • 00:15:47.070 --> 00:15:48.260
  • "You use the same H20 every day to water your grass.
  • 00:15:48.260 --> 00:15:53.080
  • "You don't switch up, use diesel fuel one day,
  • 00:15:53.080 --> 00:15:56.150
  • "milk the next day.
  • 00:15:56.150 --> 00:15:58.020
  • "It's the same water that you're putting
  • 00:15:58.020 --> 00:16:00.060
  • "on your grass that's keeping it as--"
  • 00:16:00.060 --> 00:16:02.280
  • - But that's why the scripture says,
  • 00:16:02.280 --> 00:16:04.140
  • take, give heed to the word that you have heard before,
  • 00:16:04.140 --> 00:16:07.290
  • lest you let it slip.
  • 00:16:07.290 --> 00:16:09.210
  • The word is written aforetime for our learning,
  • 00:16:11.010 --> 00:16:13.170
  • that we can have hope through the scripture.
  • 00:16:13.170 --> 00:16:15.150
  • And so there's nothing new under the sun,
  • 00:16:15.150 --> 00:16:17.270
  • there's no new word, but it's inexhaustible.
  • 00:16:17.270 --> 00:16:20.190
  • You can always get more out of it, so stay constant
  • 00:16:20.190 --> 00:16:25.100
  • and continue to come to these marriage meetings
  • 00:16:25.100 --> 00:16:27.070
  • and bring somebody with you, alright?
  • 00:16:27.070 --> 00:16:29.180
  • - Examine your relationship.
  • 00:16:29.180 --> 00:16:32.000
  • Evaluate it.
  • 00:16:32.000 --> 00:16:33.060
  • Make sure you're on course.
  • 00:16:33.060 --> 00:16:35.120
  • Just maybe, just maybe you have drifted off the mark.
  • 00:16:36.260 --> 00:16:40.180
  • One of you may be aware of it,
  • 00:16:41.270 --> 00:16:44.020
  • and the other is clueless.
  • 00:16:44.020 --> 00:16:46.160
  • You gotta look back into this relationship intently
  • 00:16:46.160 --> 00:16:50.280
  • to make sure that you are on course, alright?
  • 00:16:50.280 --> 00:16:55.060
  • I'm gonna use that, I promise you, Donnie,
  • 00:16:55.060 --> 00:16:57.240
  • about that tennis match.
  • 00:16:57.240 --> 00:16:59.240
  • Because just because, how's it go, set?
  • 00:17:01.160 --> 00:17:04.290
  • How's it go, game, the match? - No, point first.
  • 00:17:04.290 --> 00:17:07.100
  • - Point. - Point.
  • 00:17:07.100 --> 00:17:08.220
  • - Game, set, match.
  • 00:17:08.220 --> 00:17:09.250
  • - You may lose a point--
  • 00:17:09.250 --> 00:17:12.050
  • - [Donnie] And not lose the game.
  • 00:17:12.050 --> 00:17:13.050
  • - And not lose the game.
  • 00:17:13.050 --> 00:17:14.270
  • - You can lose the game and not lose the set.
  • 00:17:14.270 --> 00:17:16.080
  • - [Mike] Lose the game and not lose the set.
  • 00:17:16.080 --> 00:17:18.160
  • - You can lose the set and not lose the match.
  • 00:17:18.160 --> 00:17:22.060
  • - [Pam] You want him to write it down?
  • 00:17:22.060 --> 00:17:23.070
  • - And right now,
  • 00:17:23.070 --> 00:17:24.130
  • it appears - We got it on tape.
  • 00:17:24.130 --> 00:17:26.110
  • - that you are losing
  • 00:17:26.110 --> 00:17:28.250
  • in one of those areas.
  • 00:17:28.250 --> 00:17:30.200
  • But the match is still going.
  • 00:17:32.150 --> 00:17:34.270
  • Don't throw in the racket.
  • 00:17:37.290 --> 00:17:40.290
  • (laughter)
  • 00:17:40.290 --> 00:17:43.060
  • Come on, class.
  • 00:17:46.260 --> 00:17:48.040
  • - [Mike] That's copyrighted, by the way.
  • 00:17:52.040 --> 00:17:53.070
  • - Yeah, that's copyrighted.
  • 00:17:53.070 --> 00:17:54.100
  • (laughing)
  • 00:17:54.100 --> 00:17:56.100
  • - [Mike] Just kidding.
  • 00:17:56.100 --> 00:17:57.050
  • - Was that in your book?
  • 00:17:57.050 --> 00:17:59.250
  • - Here's the doozy right here
  • 00:17:59.250 --> 00:18:01.180
  • before we allow them to depart.
  • 00:18:01.180 --> 00:18:04.050
  • I have here on my card,
  • 00:18:08.140 --> 00:18:10.110
  • pray for couples who are separated
  • 00:18:11.210 --> 00:18:14.150
  • and/or contemplating divorce.
  • 00:18:16.030 --> 00:18:20.030
  • Man, that's a big one.
  • 00:18:20.030 --> 00:18:21.280
  • And it's under the heading, Archer Call.
  • 00:18:23.120 --> 00:18:26.220
  • But I want to give you an opportunity if you're here
  • 00:18:30.230 --> 00:18:33.270
  • to ask whatever questions you may have.
  • 00:18:33.270 --> 00:18:36.170
  • If that's you, just wave at me.
  • 00:18:36.170 --> 00:18:38.260
  • Say, Pastor, I have a question.
  • 00:18:38.260 --> 00:18:40.120
  • Yeah, talk to me.
  • 00:18:40.120 --> 00:18:41.250
  • You're probably gonna have to come to the mic or...
  • 00:18:43.150 --> 00:18:47.200
  • And if there are other questions, please come right now
  • 00:18:49.260 --> 00:18:53.040
  • so we won't have any gap
  • 00:18:53.040 --> 00:18:55.040
  • in our time of answering questions.
  • 00:18:56.120 --> 00:18:59.080
  • Yes, ma'am.
  • 00:18:59.080 --> 00:19:00.070
  • - Thanks for having me this evening.
  • 00:19:02.040 --> 00:19:04.170
  • My question is regarding therapy.
  • 00:19:04.170 --> 00:19:07.090
  • - [Mike] Your question is--
  • 00:19:08.230 --> 00:19:10.060
  • - Regarding therapy. - Regarding therapy, okay.
  • 00:19:10.060 --> 00:19:12.220
  • - So I believe in therapy as well, but my husband does not.
  • 00:19:12.220 --> 00:19:17.180
  • We've had some issues.
  • 00:19:17.180 --> 00:19:19.190
  • If he doesn't wanna go, should I go alone?
  • 00:19:19.190 --> 00:19:22.290
  • - [DeeDee] Totally.
  • 00:19:22.290 --> 00:19:24.290
  • Yes, you go get help.
  • 00:19:24.290 --> 00:19:26.220
  • - [Mike] Therapy is...
  • 00:19:28.010 --> 00:19:29.260
  • How about counseling?
  • 00:19:34.150 --> 00:19:36.220
  • - It depends on who it's with or what kind of help.
  • 00:19:36.220 --> 00:19:39.200
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:19:39.200 --> 00:19:40.280
  • Talk to him about coming to see us.
  • 00:19:40.280 --> 00:19:43.120
  • We just want to talk.
  • 00:19:43.120 --> 00:19:44.180
  • Maybe that doesn't have the same connotation
  • 00:19:44.180 --> 00:19:48.050
  • as therapy.
  • 00:19:48.050 --> 00:19:49.190
  • You're going to therapy!
  • 00:19:49.190 --> 00:19:51.140
  • (laughter)
  • 00:19:51.140 --> 00:19:54.100
  • Come on, does that sound like...
  • 00:19:54.100 --> 00:19:56.250
  • But baby, let's go talk to--
  • 00:19:56.250 --> 00:19:59.010
  • - But that's the word.
  • 00:19:59.010 --> 00:20:00.200
  • That's the word, and that--
  • 00:20:00.200 --> 00:20:01.270
  • - I understand. - I know, I know.
  • 00:20:01.270 --> 00:20:03.080
  • But that right there stigmatizes it all over again
  • 00:20:03.080 --> 00:20:06.160
  • because there's nothing wrong with therapy.
  • 00:20:06.160 --> 00:20:08.280
  • You go to knee therapy.
  • 00:20:08.280 --> 00:20:11.130
  • You go to all kind of other therapy,
  • 00:20:11.130 --> 00:20:13.280
  • so it's not like that's a bad thing.
  • 00:20:13.280 --> 00:20:16.000
  • But he don't wanna come get help at all, sounds like.
  • 00:20:16.000 --> 00:20:20.210
  • - No, no, I wouldn't say,
  • 00:20:20.210 --> 00:20:22.240
  • I wouldn't say that.
  • 00:20:24.150 --> 00:20:25.210
  • Huh?
  • 00:20:25.210 --> 00:20:26.200
  • - [Woman] He's not open or so,
  • 00:20:26.200 --> 00:20:29.030
  • when you say come to you guys, he's not open to--
  • 00:20:29.030 --> 00:20:31.200
  • - You gonna have to step into the mic, sweetie.
  • 00:20:31.200 --> 00:20:33.180
  • - He say he's not...
  • 00:20:33.180 --> 00:20:36.000
  • He's willing to get help, but not help in church either.
  • 00:20:36.000 --> 00:20:39.050
  • So when he said come to counseling with you guys,
  • 00:20:39.050 --> 00:20:42.100
  • it'll be my honor to be there,
  • 00:20:42.100 --> 00:20:44.040
  • but for him, he shuts down in church.
  • 00:20:44.040 --> 00:20:46.250
  • - Well, where he go?
  • 00:20:46.250 --> 00:20:48.080
  • Does he know Terry? - That's what I'm saying.
  • 00:20:48.080 --> 00:20:50.120
  • (laughter)
  • 00:20:50.120 --> 00:20:52.190
  • - Terry seems like he was...
  • 00:20:54.040 --> 00:20:56.240
  • - Terry was-- - A good counselor.
  • 00:20:56.240 --> 00:20:58.000
  • - Was giving good help.
  • 00:20:58.000 --> 00:20:59.280
  • - Where would he go?
  • 00:20:59.280 --> 00:21:01.200
  • - That's what I'm saying.
  • 00:21:04.060 --> 00:21:05.250
  • - But she's saying he's willing
  • 00:21:05.250 --> 00:21:07.100
  • but he just doesn't wanna receive it from the church.
  • 00:21:07.100 --> 00:21:10.240
  • (sniffs)
  • 00:21:10.240 --> 00:21:12.000
  • - [Woman] He thinks that he's okay.
  • 00:21:12.000 --> 00:21:14.100
  • He's an older gentleman, so a lot of men,
  • 00:21:14.100 --> 00:21:17.040
  • or this particular man, he just feels
  • 00:21:17.040 --> 00:21:20.140
  • like we'll go through it with time.
  • 00:21:20.140 --> 00:21:22.180
  • Or you know, no help--
  • 00:21:22.180 --> 00:21:24.090
  • - That's what I'm saying.
  • 00:21:24.090 --> 00:21:25.100
  • So he don't wanna go get help.
  • 00:21:25.100 --> 00:21:26.110
  • He feel like he's okay.
  • 00:21:26.110 --> 00:21:28.090
  • - [Woman] Okay.
  • 00:21:29.080 --> 00:21:30.150
  • Thank you.
  • 00:21:31.240 --> 00:21:32.220
  • - Mm-hmm, but you could go.
  • 00:21:32.220 --> 00:21:33.220
  • - I don't know what for.
  • 00:21:33.220 --> 00:21:34.290
  • (laughter)
  • 00:21:34.290 --> 00:21:36.250
  • - No, 'cause her first question,
  • 00:21:36.250 --> 00:21:38.150
  • I think you should go alone.
  • 00:21:38.150 --> 00:21:41.050
  • You come see me.
  • 00:21:41.050 --> 00:21:42.200
  • Go see somebody to sit down and talk to
  • 00:21:42.200 --> 00:21:44.140
  • so they can help walk you through some things.
  • 00:21:44.140 --> 00:21:46.240
  • - You remember when Boris Kodjoe was here,
  • 00:21:46.240 --> 00:21:49.090
  • and he talked about having
  • 00:21:49.090 --> 00:21:51.000
  • international research pride to marriage?
  • 00:21:51.000 --> 00:21:54.130
  • He was all over the place.
  • 00:21:55.210 --> 00:21:57.220
  • I mean, been with woman after woman after woman.
  • 00:21:57.220 --> 00:22:00.270
  • And he said, before he got married,
  • 00:22:00.270 --> 00:22:03.070
  • he knew he needed to go to therapy.
  • 00:22:03.070 --> 00:22:06.090
  • I thought that was so strong.
  • 00:22:06.090 --> 00:22:08.220
  • Yes, ma'am.
  • 00:22:08.220 --> 00:22:09.200
  • - I don't have a question.
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  • I just wanted to say--
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  • - Well, this is Q and A.
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  • What are you doing here?
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  • I mean, come on, lady.
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  • What's wrong with you?
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  • Your hair looks fly and we can see it,
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  • but you don't have a question.
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  • - No, I just wanted to say, you all said earlier
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  • that the first seven or eight years
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  • was really hard for you all in your marriage,
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  • and the gentleman,
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  • you all said that, he said that earlier, too,
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  • about him and his wife the first two years--
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  • - [Mike] Who said that?
  • 00:22:37.020 --> 00:22:38.080
  • - The gentleman when they renewed their vows?
  • 00:22:38.080 --> 00:22:39.290
  • - [Mike] Oh yeah, yeah.
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  • - So I just wanted to say
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  • that a lot of newly married couples
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  • get poor advice saying,
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  • oh, this is supposed to be the honeymoon stage,
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  • and you all aren't supposed to be butting heads
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  • or going at it, and they don't understand how hard it is
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  • to fully become one in a marriage.
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  • It's a lot of work.
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  • - [Mike] How long you been married?
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  • Where's your husband?
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  • Stand up if you don't mind
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  • owning up to this woman.
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  • (laughter)
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  • How long you been married?
  • 00:23:23.080 --> 00:23:25.030
  • - We have been married since August of last year.
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  • But we were together for four years--
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  • - [Mike] Bye, Felicia.
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  • (laughter)
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  • No, no.
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  • I'm just playing, I'm having fun.
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  • August of last year,
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  • and you want to come and offer advice--
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  • - No, I'm thanking you all for saying
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  • it's harder in the beginning,
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  • and we have to work together for it to be easier.
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  • And people on the outside that aren't married
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  • are telling us it's not supposed to be this hard already,
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  • and that's not how to--
  • 00:24:02.030 --> 00:24:03.250
  • - I will agree that there is some adjusting
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  • that has to be made,
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  • but that's why I always encourage premarital counseling.
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  • Did you all have an extensive time in that?
  • 00:24:21.280 --> 00:24:25.190
  • - [Woman] We went briefly.
  • 00:24:25.190 --> 00:24:27.110
  • - You went briefly? - Briefly.
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  • (Mike laughs)
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  • - [Mike] You went briefly.
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  • I love you, girl.
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  • And she's the life of the party at home?
  • 00:24:36.010 --> 00:24:40.000
  • Yeah, obviously.
  • 00:24:40.000 --> 00:24:41.100
  • So there were a lot of things that were not eliminated
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  • in our premarital times.
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  • Like I got a couple right here,
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  • how long y'all been married?
  • 00:24:57.080 --> 00:24:58.240
  • - 10 years-- - 10 years.
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  • What is she talking about,
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  • about the hard stuff?
  • 00:25:02.000 --> 00:25:04.050
  • - [Man] I don't know nothing about the hard stuff.
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  • - [Mike] They've never argued.
  • 00:25:05.150 --> 00:25:07.050
  • - Really?
  • 00:25:07.050 --> 00:25:08.100
  • - See, in 10 years.
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  • But they've been sitting in this ministry the entire time,
  • 00:25:10.050 --> 00:25:14.100
  • prior to even getting married.
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  • So what I think--
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  • - [DeeDee] But they worked the principles.
  • 00:25:20.170 --> 00:25:21.270
  • - Wait a minute, lady.
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  • - [DeeDee] Just adding.
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  • - Wait a minute.
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  • Most don't prepare.
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  • Don't prepare for the different dynamics or nuances
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  • in a relationship.
  • 00:25:38.180 --> 00:25:40.030
  • And so what they are encountering are things
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  • that they never discussed
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  • that they should have discussed prior to.
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  • Not to say that that's going to eliminate the challenge.
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  • That just creates the fortitude
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  • to undergird you, knowing, I knew this day was coming
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  • to challenge us in our relationship.
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  • Here's what we've been taught to do.
  • 00:26:04.270 --> 00:26:07.270
  • So I would have to concur to some degree
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  • with those who say,
  • 00:26:14.080 --> 00:26:15.150
  • yeah, you are supposed to be on your honeymoon.
  • 00:26:15.150 --> 00:26:17.090
  • What are you doing?
  • 00:26:17.090 --> 00:26:18.090
  • This is ridiculous.
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  • Don't let our testimony justify the time you had
  • 00:26:20.070 --> 00:26:24.070
  • to make it okay.
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  • Don't use a negative testimony to say, see?
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  • Look at them.
  • 00:26:33.190 --> 00:26:34.260
  • No, you use somebody who's doing it right,
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  • and say, see?
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  • Look at them.
  • 00:26:39.250 --> 00:26:41.080
  • You can't look at DeeDee and I.
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  • Thank God-- - Look at us and say,
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  • we don't wanna do that.
  • 00:26:43.260 --> 00:26:45.040
  • - Am I still talking?
  • 00:26:45.040 --> 00:26:46.070
  • (laughter)
  • 00:26:46.070 --> 00:26:48.210
  • You hear what she said?
  • 00:26:48.210 --> 00:26:50.030
  • She said, "Look at us and say,
  • 00:26:50.030 --> 00:26:52.010
  • "that's what you don't wanna do."
  • 00:26:52.010 --> 00:26:55.160
  • So I appreciate your input
  • 00:26:55.160 --> 00:26:58.080
  • because it allowed time for this exchange.
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  • And I'm certain that someone has learned something,
  • 00:27:02.120 --> 00:27:05.260
  • even you.
  • 00:27:05.260 --> 00:27:06.210
  • (laughter)
  • 00:27:07.250 --> 00:27:10.060
  • Hey, hey, but I'm not gonna let you back empty-handed,
  • 00:27:10.060 --> 00:27:13.280
  • because I have not given away the night out to Ruth Chris
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  • and the Ritz-Carlton.
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  • (applause)
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  • And you are like a newlywed, girl.
  • 00:27:21.070 --> 00:27:23.170
  • And honeymooners should be going to the Ritz-Carlton
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  • and Ruth Chris.
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  • So you got...
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  • On the behalf of Spirit of Faith Christian Center,
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  • you're gonna take your man out, girl!
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