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Marriage Made EZ: Foundational Principles of Marriage

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July 31, 2017
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Living by Faith with Mike & DeeDee Freeman

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Marriage Made EZ: Foundational Principles of Marriage

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  • ("It Takes Two" by Rob Base & DJ EZ Rock)
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  • - [Narrator] Join us for Marriage Made EZ,
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  • with our special guests, Drs. Joseph and Renee Mills
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  • of Agape Embassy Ministries,
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  • as they share the secrets to their 51 year marriage.
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  • Friday August 4th 7pm
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  • at Spirit of Fath Christian Center in Brandywine, Maryland.
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  • ("It Takes Two" by Rob Base & DJ EZ Rock)
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  • instead of the proactive end to give it the direction.
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  • My life is going exactly where I want it to go.
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  • Because I'm directing it.
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  • Ooh, and in about six months,
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  • this thing is about to explode.
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  • I'm having possibilities introduced to me every single
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  • day because I'm positioning through my direction
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  • my relationship where it's supposed to be.
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  • (gentle music)
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  • You called me out upon the waters
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  • The great unknown
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  • - And we're on this campaign,
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  • to go throughout the nation, to release an anointing
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  • on couples, so that they can have the same thing
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  • up on their lives, and live a blessed life
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  • for the rest of your life!
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  • I decree it to be so, in the name of Jesus!
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  • - When I first came, I was told that I was not gonna
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  • leave the same way that I came in.
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  • And true to honest, I didn't.
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  • I mean, I really felt the presence of a superior being
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  • in this building.
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  • It's just, overwhelming more or less.
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  • It's hard to explain because it was new coming to me.
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  • And so, but it's just, thank you sweetheart.
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  • It's the best I can say, it's a wonderful feeling.
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  • - They are real, they showed us that couples could
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  • be real you know, as Christians,
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  • and they funny, you know, we just love that they
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  • are pastors and they have a loving marriage
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  • and that they showed us that the good example
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  • of what marriage is truly made of.
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  • - And I will have to say, I appreciate the spirit
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  • that sits over Marriage Made EZ.
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  • You know, there's a presence, from the time you step
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  • on the ground wherever it is, and walk into,
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  • that it sends a calmness.
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  • And this is a place, man, I've watched this three,
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  • four, five years now, and by all means,
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  • get here, wherever it is.
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  • And we drove six hours away, so you know,
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  • get here, there's a presence here that will break chains.
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  • All for marriages.
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  • - What I liked most about it was
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  • how real he was, the applications he gave us,
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  • the nuggets that he dropped, I love it.
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  • We were going through a divorce, we were,
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  • but after tonight, I'm gonna call him and tell him
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  • I'm done, 'cause my husband, I'm glad he brought me here.
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  • - I don't know if you were given one of these,
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  • but this really should not have been given to me.
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  • It should have been given to you.
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  • And I want to pin this on you because you
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  • were the super woman involved in making my life
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  • what it is today.
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  • (applause) (gentle music)
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  • I want my wife to be as strong as she can be in life.
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  • I sit around and watch her, her dedication and commitment
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  • to even improving her life and her life skills
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  • and her skill sets and her abilities.
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  • She's in school, and she's up two and 3:00 in the morning.
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  • And I don't get to see her sometimes until in the morning
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  • and I see her dedication towards that.
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  • Man I can sit around and murmur and complain
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  • about some things that I may not be getting
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  • in her quest to become better, but I get behind her.
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  • She's been behind me for years to encourage me
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  • and to strengthen me, and to see my dreams come true.
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  • Now it's time for me to get behind her and to push her.
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  • It's nothing wrong with getting behind your wife.
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  • I tell ya what.
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  • I tell ya what, I tell ya what.
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  • Getting behind her and letting her become,
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  • getting behind, I just got that.
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  • I just got that.
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  • Ya'll nasty, ya'll nasty.
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  • (bell dinging) (laughing)
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  • Ya'll are some nasty, this say ring for sex.
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  • Getting behind her--
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  • (bell dinging) (laughing)
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  • Getting behind her.
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  • I must be the slowest person in this room.
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  • (laughing)
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  • I gotta be the slowest dude in this room.
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  • Everybody laughin' but me.
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  • I'm just talking up, what are they laughing for?
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  • And then it hit me like, behind, yeah.
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  • All ya'll nasty.
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  • Did anybody else miss it but me?
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  • Everybody else was on board?
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  • Some of ya'll lying, you need to stop lying.
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  • So, getting behind your wife, brother,
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  • that is an empowering position.
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  • Stop being so nasty, I ain't talking about that now.
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  • No, no for real, it is a most empowering position.
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  • You ought to try--
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  • (laughing)
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  • Just say something, baby, take over.
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  • I never lost my crowd.
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  • Push the person in front of you, say (laughing).
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  • Say, "Get it together," push him, push him from behind.
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  • Say, "Somebody behind you, get yourself together."
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  • Yeah, I guess that'll sober you up.
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  • Especially them brothers like, all right.
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  • (laughing)
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  • It's so empowering to--
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  • (laughing)
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  • - [Audience Member] Back her up, back her up.
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  • - To encourage her, where I'm headed is that
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  • if I did not encourage her,
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  • there came a time when I myself needed her most.
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  • And had I not empowered her...
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  • And if your life depended upon the encouragement
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  • that you've given your wife.
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  • Would you live or would you die?
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  • New years bring about a certain level of reflection.
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  • A new year brings about a certain level of reflection.
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  • It causes all to reflect and to look back on
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  • where we really truly are in our lives,
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  • and we had to face ourselves with like a new year,
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  • new possibilities.
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  • New goals, new objectives.
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  • It had at least DeeDee and I, looking at our lives
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  • from what we have gone, or in the past,
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  • to what we are expecting for our futures.
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  • And thank you, very much, that's the same voice.
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  • (laughing)
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  • And it has called us to look at our lives
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  • to a point of scrutiny.
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  • If you don't scrutinize,
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  • if you don't, if you don't, come on help me out.
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  • - Just take a look at.
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  • - If you don't take a very--
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  • - Thorough look.
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  • - Very thorough, give me some other words.
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  • Huh?
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  • - Examine.
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  • - I know examination, but give me some adjectives
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  • so that, uh-huh.
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  • Very serious, very acute.
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  • Huh?
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  • - Intentional.
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  • - Intense.
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  • Evaluation and intentional evaluation of where you are.
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  • It's possible that you risk repeating some of the same
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  • things from the previous year for this year.
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  • What have you intentionally set yourselves,
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  • to become this year that you were not last year?
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  • How much commitment have you given towards this new
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  • year for new possibilities to be explored
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  • and to be examined?
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  • - And what are they gonna put in place
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  • to accomplish this?
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  • - What are you gonna put in place and what are you gonna
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  • put out--
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  • - Because it's easy to sit back and to evaluate
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  • where you are, a lot of us, we know how to look
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  • at where we are and we see it so clearly,
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  • but then, we don't really do anything that would
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  • you know, push us towards--
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  • - Advance, I like.
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  • - Yeah, advance, that's towards where we wanna go.
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  • And so ultimately we get stuck in the same vicious cycle,
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  • never gettin' to where we wanna be,
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  • 'cause we constantly look at where we are.
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  • - And you must be intentional this year.
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  • You must be intentional.
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  • Have you sat down at all this year?
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  • Have you sat down at all this year to say,
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  • here's what we're gonna do this year.
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  • Husbands, have you gathered your family to say,
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  • "Okay, in years passed, I had no plan for you.
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  • "But in 2017, this is the year of change,
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  • "and I will have a plan for this household.
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  • "And this household will accomplish A, B and C."
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  • I was being interviewed, Tim Bowman, where's my son in law?
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  • I love him so much.
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  • There's no greater son in law that I could ever ask for,
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  • for Brelyn.
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  • I have to distinguish, where is he?
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  • Tim, you around?
  • 00:13:01.130 --> 00:13:03.170
  • Somehow news for, News Channel four, they want to do
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  • a piece on him, and she wanted to do a little spot.
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  • So, she asked me, she said, "What do you think you can
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  • "give, considering that this is Black History Month,
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  • "as an African American man, what can you give?
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  • "What would your contribution be?"
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  • And without hesitation, without hesitation,
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  • the spirit of God began to speak to me about giving
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  • who I am, and making sure that there is the responsibility
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  • that's heightened in my psyche in my understanding.
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  • That I will present to the African American community
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  • what God intended for us to be like before the world.
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  • One good thing that comedian did say, he said,
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  • okay, one good thing.
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  • Ya'll stop playin' man, I'm serious now,
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  • I'm not talking about this, this is not shade.
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  • If it's just serious, I mean, I can look through
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  • anything and get a message out of it.
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  • But he said, "If in fact, these relationships
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  • "that are in the church are commercials for the kingdom,
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  • "these commercials are not very good."
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  • For the first time in history in my recollection,
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  • the superbowl commercials this year,
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  • they were kind of, they were kinda off.
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  • I mean would you agree?
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  • I mean, how many of ya'll sit back and wait for
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  • just the commercials?
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  • When you understand you're paying two million dollars
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  • for 60 seconds, you on the edge of your seat,
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  • and so is the kingdom of God.
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  • And so is the society on the edge of their seat
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  • looking for now the proper representation.
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  • - That's good.
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  • - Of marriages all I can offer the African American
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  • community man is what you're supposed to look like
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  • because there's an identity crisis that's going on
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  • in that particular people group where we're not
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  • seeing the right picture in masses.
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  • That's why I'm meeting with men tomorrow to pour out
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  • myself because there's a power of duplication
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  • that the spirit of God wants to show.
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  • And if I can get every last one of you married men
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  • to reflect what I have in my heart before society,
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  • we would rule this region in a lickity split.
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  • (applause)
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  • Rule this region.
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  • With all these men in this ministry, if we were of one mind.
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  • Concerning this covenant.
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  • She looked at me, she said, "You're so passionate
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  • "about that very thing."
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  • Because we see in the masses,
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  • by the droves, especially the African American man,
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  • being conveyed in such a negativity.
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  • Where there are no positive role models in abundance.
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  • Even looking into the church.
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  • We don't see the standard,
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  • that has become a commonality
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  • that has become common among all of us.
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  • Every last one of us men in this ministry
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  • should be of the same mind when it comes to that lady
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  • you're sittin' with.
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  • My thoughts about this lady, shouldn't be any
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  • different from your thoughts about your lady.
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  • There's nothing above this one.
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  • Nobody greater
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  • Nobody greater
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  • But why don't your wife know she's number one
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  • like DeeDee knows?
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  • Go ahead and lean over, whisper in her ear,
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  • say, "Baby, do you know you're number one?"
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  • Don't front him right here babe.
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  • Don't front him right here.
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  • Come on, man, gotta lean over to her say,
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  • "Baby, do you know you're number one in my life?"
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  • Some of you brothers ain't budged,
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  • you already know what she gonna say.
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  • You ain't budge.
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  • Okay, so, I asked DeeDee, if that's the case,
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  • what could we discuss tonight
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  • that would be memorable
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  • to launch, to, to...
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  • Ignite.
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  • And I wanted to just revisit and reflect on
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  • some foundational principles concerning your marriage.
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  • One of the most
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  • basic and critical element that we knew would be
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  • necessary in our relationship was our faith.
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  • And I thought it would be great if we would just
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  • remind you, as a matter of fact,
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  • throw up on the screen for me,
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  • I don't know if you prepared for this.
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  • I think it's 2 Peter 1:12.
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  • 2 Peter 1:12.
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  • Or, you pull it up there, sweetie.
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  • I didn't come prepared with this particular scripture
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  • in mind, are you all all right?
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  • Can I give you some homework?
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  • Can I encourage you, in particularly men,
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  • to sit down with your spouse by the end of next week
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  • and give them some instructions on the plan for this year?
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  • I asked you a question.
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  • - [Audience] Yes.
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  • - And all you wives, would you please snitch
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  • if, would you call my office, and let me know
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  • that your husband has not by the end of next week,
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  • Friday, you should have already had your meeting,
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  • and he should have already given you instructions.
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  • Now, what are you gonna do different here this year, Bubba?
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  • Bruno?
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  • I said that's homework.
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  • And wives, please don't, please don't, please don't harass.
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  • How many of you brothers feel like you've been harassed
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  • sometime by your wife?
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  • Lift your hand high.
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  • That's all right, you in trouble, you dumb.
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  • (laughing)
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  • Sometimes you feel you're being harassed because
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  • you're not doing what you're supposed to be doing.
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  • You feel harassed because of the incompetency
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  • that literally surfaces internally that causes
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  • you to feel less than, all she's trying
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  • to do is to help.
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  • And it can appear to be nagging.
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  • But I want you to, I want you to, I want you to encourage
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  • your man, especially if it gets along there like around
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  • Wednesday, and he doesn't even look like he has anything
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  • down on paper, or nothing's even on his mind.
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  • Especially if it's Thursday evening and you--
  • 00:22:19.040 --> 00:22:21.210
  • (laughing)
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  • So I want you to just kinda remind him,
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  • but come on man, what are we gonna do?
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  • Tomorrow morning I'm meeting with men and I want
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  • I want there to be a restoration of commitment.
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  • To God, to your family, and even to your local church.
  • 00:22:45.110 --> 00:22:49.160
  • One of the things that the Apostle Peter, here said,
  • 00:22:53.170 --> 00:22:57.220
  • in verse 12 he said, "For this reason, I will not be
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  • "negligent to remind you always of these things."
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  • Watch this, he says, "Though you know and are established
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  • "in the present truth," go to 13, he says,
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  • "Yes, I think it right."
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  • One translation says, I think it necessary as long
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  • as I'm in this tent or in this body, to stir you up by
  • 00:23:24.190 --> 00:23:28.080
  • doing what?
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  • - [DeeDee] Reminding you.
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  • - Reminding you.
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  • Now what are we gonna do this year,
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  • I want to stir you up.
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  • I need to remind you.
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  • Take your proper places.
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  • The strength of every nation is determined
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  • by its male population,
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  • and sometimes we are just going along with how
  • 00:23:50.060 --> 00:23:54.010
  • things are going.
  • 00:23:55.130 --> 00:23:57.010
  • We really aren't giving our future any directives.
  • 00:23:57.010 --> 00:24:01.080
  • I mean, I mean you're just living life without being
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  • at the helm of the thing.
  • 00:24:07.290 --> 00:24:10.030
  • Some people say, my how time flies.
  • 00:24:10.030 --> 00:24:13.160
  • Yeah, it flies but I don't mind it flying as long
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  • as I'm the pilot.
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  • As long as I'm in control of what I'm doing with my time
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  • and how I'm managing my time.
  • 00:24:24.140 --> 00:24:27.030
  • Some of you are just letting things just go in life
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  • and going with how things unfold in your life.
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  • You've gotta give your life direction.
  • 00:24:34.240 --> 00:24:37.290
  • A life with no direction will take a direction of its own.
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  • And then you find yourself on the reactionary end
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  • instead of the proactive end to give it the direction.
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  • My life is going exactly where I want it to go.
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  • Because I'm directing it.
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  • It's going exactly the way I want it to go.
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  • Ooh, and in about six months,
  • 00:25:09.230 --> 00:25:11.220
  • this thing is about to explode.
  • 00:25:11.220 --> 00:25:14.060
  • I'm having possibilities introduced to me every single
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  • I'm having possibilities introduced to me every single
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  • day because I'm positioning through my direction
  • 00:25:18.290 --> 00:25:23.100
  • my relationship where it's supposed to be.
  • 00:25:23.100 --> 00:25:26.040
  • my relationship where it's supposed to be.
  • 00:25:26.040 --> 00:25:26.070
  • These opportunities that you see come into my life
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  • are not haphazard.
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  • Nothing just happens, what are you doing with respect
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  • to your year?
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  • Have you given your year direction?
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  • Is your year telling you what you're gonna do
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  • if you waitin' to see what this year's gonna bring?
  • 00:25:45.190 --> 00:25:49.240
  • You can't sit back and wait and see what this year's
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  • gonna bring, you gotta go out and tell your year
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  • what is gonna bring to you!
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  • And what you're taking to it.
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  • - Hey if you knew that your harvest would come up today,
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  • what would you sow?
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  • And, let me ask you,
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  • what would that harvest look like
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  • that has literally been previously sown?
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  • You know, the Bible says
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  • whatever a man sows, that's what he's going to reap.
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  • Amos was talking about that harvester catching up
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  • with the sower so at the same time, both are in the field.
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  • And as fast as you can sow it,
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  • that's how fast it's going to come up in your life.
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  • You cannot delay, you cannot keep
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  • procrastinating and putting this off.
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  • Here's some good ground that's screaming out to you.
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  • So how many ways will God have
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  • to keep getting your attention?
  • 00:27:17.170 --> 00:27:19.290
  • How many times will it take for you to start this process?
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  • Child of God, I will never stand here
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  • and insult the promises of God or Holy Spirit
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  • by begging you for anything,
  • 00:27:31.230 --> 00:27:33.220
  • but I strongly beseech you by the mercies of God that you
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  • sow, even if it's not into this ministry, other ministries.
  • 00:27:38.000 --> 00:27:42.050
  • You gotta get the process started.
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  • Well, this is good ground.
  • 00:27:45.290 --> 00:27:47.220
  • Deena and I have been here on this station for years,
  • 00:27:47.220 --> 00:27:52.080
  • pouring out to you.
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  • Now, it's time for you to pour onto us.
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  • Consider partnering with us today.
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  • We would certainly appreciate it very much.
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  • Okay, until next time!
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  • Remember, life is better when you're living by faith.
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