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Marriage Made EZ: The Mary Mary Family Story

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July 3, 2017
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Living by Faith with Mike & DeeDee Freeman

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Marriage Made EZ: The Mary Mary Family Story

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  • (audience laughs) You know.
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  • I would come to church
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  • and I would say, will somebody see somethin' or say
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  • somethin' so he could get help.
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  • Or so I could get help. - And I was praying,
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  • (audience laughs)
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  • see what we going through.
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  • - [Erica] I think many women pray that prayer.
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  • - I think many women. - Yeah, especially women.
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  • - [Erica] Especially women up front.
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  • - [Dee Dee] Exactly, exactly,
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  • exactly. - Because how can I be a
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  • first lady and come in and come cry on the altar?
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  • Today, on Living by Faith...
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  • - Guess what, Pastor, that wasn't even my vision.
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  • I didn't even know to think that great.
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  • I watched shame and pride tear my mother and father apart.
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  • My mother and father was married to each other three times
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  • and divorced to each other three times.
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  • - Wait, wait, wait, wait, - Yeah, yeah.
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  • - [Erica] Take a minute, let him soak it in.
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  • They married each other (audience laughs)
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  • then divorced
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  • and then got they got married again.
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  • - Then divorced. - Then got divorced.
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  • - And then my mama had - And did it again.
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  • - Some sisters who said Honey, you need to marry somebody
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  • that's gone take care of you these kids so this man comes
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  • and my mama was not in love with him and she said, "Mm-mm.
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  • "I love Eddy Atkins."
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  • So they got married again.
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  • Now at the last wedding all the kids sat them down and said,
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  • "Y'all gone have to make up y'all mind 'cause we confused."
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  • - We tired of this foolishness.
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  • (audience laughs)
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  • - And they even got a divorce the last time but my mom's
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  • heart was for my dad, and my dad's heart for my mom.
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  • It's something that I probably need to go to therapy about
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  • - It's still messin' with you, E?
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  • - Yeah it's still messing with me.
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  • Even in death... - No, I took that to
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  • the Lord in prayer.
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  • I couldn't do it.
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  • Sorry, I couldn't.
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  • - I love how you...
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  • - Even in death, my father,
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  • - [Teddy] Like a tennis match up here.
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  • - My father passed in 2013. - Yeah.
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  • - And he had married somebody else but he kept talkin' to my
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  • mama the whole time that he's in the hospital room.
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  • All nine of the children around, cousins and
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  • everybody's there and
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  • my daddy's wife,
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  • what was her name?
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  • (audience laughs)
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  • - That's irrelevant.
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  • Irrelevant.
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  • They wasn't even married a year, she just
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  • came and went. - Y'all not helping me.
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  • - Oh, I'm not helping you? - She was just
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  • occupying time since.
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  • - And my daddy kept going, "Tommy, let's talk
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  • "to the doctor."
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  • - And we kept going, "Daddy, you got another wife."
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  • - It's her, she's the one.
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  • - Tommy was your mom then? - Yeah, Tommy my mama.
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  • Tommy we gotta talk to the doctor, it was like.
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  • It's that lady now.
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  • - But the bottom line of mama and daddy being married and
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  • divorced several times is
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  • we do realize that they were trying.
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  • - Absolutely. - They couldn't
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  • get that thing right.
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  • They taught us how to fight. - I love that.
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  • - They taught us how to try.
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  • - But because of the shame and embarrassment because of all
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  • of the stuff that they had been through, I watched that
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  • stuff eat at my mother and father.
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  • And I said, shame and embarrassment ain't gone kill me.
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  • I'mma be as shamed and as embarrassed as I could possibly be
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  • and then I'mma get over it.
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  • How long y'all gone laugh?
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  • Laugh at me.
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  • "You got played?"
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  • I show did.
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  • "Girl I knew it was."
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  • You right.
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  • Just agree with your adversary and guess what?
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  • People can say whatever they wanna say.
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  • It don't bother me at all.
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  • First of all, I don't know you and when I leave you I'm not
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  • going to even remember that you exist.
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  • So why does your opinion matter to me?
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  • No disrespect.
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  • (audience clapping)
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  • And then even if you're someone that I know.
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  • Everybody got issues,
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  • everybody got fault. - Everybody.
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  • Everybody has issues.
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  • - Things go wrong.
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  • How long can I be embarrassed?
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  • What I'mma do, hold my head down forever?
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  • I said I'mma be as embarrassed and shamed.
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  • I'mma just feel like just a dog and a nothing and them I'mma
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  • just get over it 'cause this is stupid.
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  • I can't be sad.
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  • If I didn't let it go openly, it would've had me.
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  • So holding on to it meant it was holding me.
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  • I didn't want nothin' holding me.
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  • - [Pastor Freeman] I get that.
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  • - It's easy to go about too. - I get that.
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  • - It's easy to go back to it too.
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  • If it's not out.
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  • - Pardon me? - It's easy to go
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  • back to that lifestyle if it's not out.
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  • - [Dee Dee] He's not talking about as it relates to
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  • husband and wife.
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  • Your platform is different. - That's what I'm saying.
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  • Oh, no, yeah. - Like he said.
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  • So we think you should you know, talk with each other and
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  • share those types of things and I think
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  • that's what he wanted. - And that's a very personal
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  • decision - Right.
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  • - But across the board, once we bring
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  • all
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  • of our
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  • inadequacies to Jesus - Yes, sir.
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  • - We don't need to have everybody else validating
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  • our deliverance. - I did.
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  • - That's right and that's where I would like to keep it.
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  • - It's not for anybody to validate my deliverance.
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  • Jesus did it, you don't have see
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  • it, agree with it, - Absolutely that's my point.
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  • - Think about it.
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  • It's mine and I believe it no matter what.
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  • For me.
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  • - [Pastor Freeman] Yes.
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  • - I didn't wanna live thinkin', if I don't tell it what if
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  • it comes out?
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  • That's got me hostage.
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  • - Absolutely. - That's in a trick bad.
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  • I'm a public figure.
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  • If it comes out am I gonna have to deal with it 50 million,
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  • thousand years later when we're healing, when my
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  • children are gone.
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  • When we're over it.
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  • Now it's back resurfacing.
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  • I said, every way that this can be exposed and the devil
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  • could use this - Crush it.
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  • - I'mma just let it all and whatever you gone do devil,
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  • pull out all stops.
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  • And I'mma call on God if it the devil, if you don't get me
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  • Satan, I'mma call on God and he gone smash you and that's
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  • just what he did.
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  • And he did it public.
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  • - And mine is the same way.
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  • Basically for me it was personal for me that I needed.
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  • I needed deliverance.
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  • I need to be set free from a lifestyle that I had learned.
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  • You know, what I was doin' I had been doing since I was
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  • in sixth grade.
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  • You know what I mean?
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  • So for me,
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  • again, this me. - Wait, wait a minute Teddy.
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  • Did you say sixth grade?
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  • (laughs) - Yeah, sixth grade.
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  • Yeah, I was messed up.
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  • - What you doin' at sixth grade?
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  • - [Teddy] Havin' sex.
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  • - Oh, you know.
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  • - At sixth grade?
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  • - [Teddy] Yeah.
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  • - I ain't know nothin' 'bout no...
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  • I ain't know 'bout no...
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  • - I saw the best of 'em do it. - I'm 10, 11 years old.
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  • - [Teddy] Yeah.
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  • - I ain't know nothin' 'bout no sex in the sixth grade.
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  • - I mean, and that's what I was doing.
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  • So for me
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  • I needed...
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  • I wanted to be free of that.
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  • And however that freedom looked like I was, sign me up.
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  • You wanna tell everybody?
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  • Please tell them.
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  • 'Cause I don't want it.
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  • So again, that's me and my wife's personal testimony.
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  • Y'all ain't gotta do that. - Right, absolutely.
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  • - Yeah, no, no.
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  • That's very good.
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  • Really you helping some people right now.
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  • - Absolutely.
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  • - Because there are some people that may not be dealing with
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  • your situation but may be dealing with some other stuff.
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  • Maybe like pornography.
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  • And you know, they live in shame and they never come out
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  • and tell anybody so they can get the help.
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  • And it's they have been strugglin' for years.
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  • We know that personally from
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  • you know, testimony. - From you.
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  • Your testimony.
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  • (audience laughs)
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  • - I didn't go there.
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  • That's your testimony.
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  • I ain't look at that.
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  • He is stupid.
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  • He is stupid.
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  • - [Tina] She put that envelope in the room and forgot it.
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  • - Man, we gotta get it out, baby.
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  • (audience laughs)
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  • Be free!
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  • - Don't you mess up my hair!
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  • Come on, stop playing.
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  • That's you, that's you.
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  • No, but really, so I think this is really good.
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  • You know, they might (laughs).
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  • That was not me, okay?
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  • No but really, I think it's good because a lot of times
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  • people live in so much shame. - Yes.
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  • - And it's like, we don't have to live in shame because
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  • again, everybody have some type of struggle, or some
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  • type of issue.
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  • - Absolutely. - It may not be like that
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  • but it is something.
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  • And if we can talk to somebody.
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  • 'Cause the scripture wouldn't be in there, "Confess your
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  • "faults to one another. - "One to another."
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  • - "That you can be healed."
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  • That's there for our benefit.
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  • That's there for our protection.
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  • So we don't have to have the struggle.
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  • That's why we tell our story.
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  • We talk about - We do, we really do.
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  • - You know, our struggles.
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  • We talk about the things that we went through you know,
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  • early on in our marriage 'cause we've been married
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  • for 31 years. - Wow.
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  • - The first seven or eight years...
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  • Yeah, amen.
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  • (audience claps)
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  • - I know, I deserve a clap for that,
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  • praise the Lord. - Clap for me.
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  • - No, for me.
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  • - [Tina] I deserve a clap for that too.
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  • - [Pastor Freeman] Clap for me.
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  • That's 31 years. - And so,
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  • you know those first seven or eight years was a struggle
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  • and they was a struggle - Seven or eight years.
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  • - Okay and we struggled in silent.
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  • - Struggled in silence.
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  • - I used to pray
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  • that a prophet would come
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  • and tell our business so I could get help.
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  • So he could get help, really.
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  • (audience laughs) You know.
  • 00:08:06.070 --> 00:08:07.260
  • I would come to church
  • 00:08:07.260 --> 00:08:10.010
  • and I would say, will somebody see somethin' or say
  • 00:08:10.010 --> 00:08:14.120
  • somethin' so he could get help.
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  • Or so I could get help. - And I was praying,
  • 00:08:17.130 --> 00:08:18.200
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:08:20.250 --> 00:08:22.230
  • see what we going through.
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  • - [Erica] I think many women pray that prayer.
  • 00:08:24.250 --> 00:08:26.290
  • - I think many women. - Yeah, especially women.
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  • - [Erica] Especially women up front.
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  • - [Dee Dee] Exactly, exactly,
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  • exactly. - Because how can I be a
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  • first lady and come in and come cry on the altar?
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  • first lady and come in and come cry on the altar?
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  • How can I go to the women and say, (crying) my
  • 00:08:35.050 --> 00:08:37.030
  • heart is broken.
  • 00:08:37.030 --> 00:08:38.030
  • How can I do that?
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  • - Exactly, exactly.
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  • Now
  • 00:08:40.060 --> 00:08:41.080
  • wife but most of these days I have had days as a pastor's
  • 00:08:41.170 --> 00:08:41.210
  • I have had days as a pastor's wife but most of these days
  • 00:08:42.240 --> 00:08:44.290
  • were like before we started pastoring.
  • 00:08:44.290 --> 00:08:48.050
  • I have had pastor days where I have not liked him.
  • 00:08:48.050 --> 00:08:51.080
  • And y'all know that we tell that stuff.
  • 00:08:51.080 --> 00:08:52.230
  • It's like, you gotta come to church and you gotta do what,
  • 00:08:52.230 --> 00:08:55.130
  • you know, oh yeah, you know it, come on.
  • 00:08:55.130 --> 00:08:58.010
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:08:58.010 --> 00:09:01.010
  • It's funny but it's like you grow up in it and you know
  • 00:09:01.010 --> 00:09:03.250
  • how to handle.
  • 00:09:03.250 --> 00:09:05.100
  • It's like, just because I don't like you right now, I still
  • 00:09:05.100 --> 00:09:07.180
  • love you and I know what I'm called to do.
  • 00:09:07.180 --> 00:09:10.050
  • And so I'm not gonna let any of those things control me or
  • 00:09:10.050 --> 00:09:13.020
  • dictate to me now. - Wisdom.
  • 00:09:13.020 --> 00:09:14.100
  • - But again, I struggled in silence.
  • 00:09:14.100 --> 00:09:17.040
  • And I said I would never allow anybody
  • 00:09:17.040 --> 00:09:20.060
  • - Yeah, Jesus. - Around me to have to
  • 00:09:20.060 --> 00:09:21.100
  • go through that, you know, alone.
  • 00:09:21.100 --> 00:09:24.050
  • So that's why we tell it.
  • 00:09:24.050 --> 00:09:25.190
  • It's like, come on, if I can help you, if I can tell
  • 00:09:25.190 --> 00:09:27.230
  • something to help set you free or get you out of your
  • 00:09:27.230 --> 00:09:30.240
  • situation, that's what we wanna do.
  • 00:09:30.240 --> 00:09:33.020
  • We all are not here just to tell our business just because
  • 00:09:33.020 --> 00:09:36.220
  • we want you to know our business.
  • 00:09:36.220 --> 00:09:38.030
  • If we had a choice
  • 00:09:38.030 --> 00:09:39.230
  • you know, really, we could just
  • 00:09:39.230 --> 00:09:42.150
  • not tell you anything and let you figure it out for
  • 00:09:42.150 --> 00:09:45.000
  • yourself but because - Can I ask a question?
  • 00:09:45.000 --> 00:09:46.280
  • - Our heart - Absolutely.
  • 00:09:46.280 --> 00:09:48.120
  • - Is to see you have better, that's why we tell what
  • 00:09:48.120 --> 00:09:51.250
  • what we tell, amen. (audience claps)
  • 00:09:51.250 --> 00:09:53.120
  • - Do you believe that we should tell each other?
  • 00:09:53.120 --> 00:09:55.170
  • Like if I was struggling with something in my marriage that
  • 00:09:55.170 --> 00:09:59.110
  • I had personally that I was ashamed of and I...
  • 00:09:59.110 --> 00:10:02.050
  • Do you believe I should tell my wife that?
  • 00:10:02.050 --> 00:10:04.220
  • - If she your friend, I think so.
  • 00:10:04.220 --> 00:10:06.250
  • - I'm one with you.
  • 00:10:06.250 --> 00:10:08.050
  • If you got a struggle, I got it.
  • 00:10:08.050 --> 00:10:09.200
  • Even if I don't know I got it.
  • 00:10:09.200 --> 00:10:11.010
  • And if it's yours you done
  • 00:10:11.010 --> 00:10:12.080
  • gave it to me. Most people, most
  • 00:10:12.080 --> 00:10:13.030
  • marriages, most guys
  • 00:10:13.030 --> 00:10:14.100
  • don't believe that. - Won't tell it.
  • 00:10:14.100 --> 00:10:15.050
  • They won't tell it.
  • 00:10:15.050 --> 00:10:16.000
  • - They don't believe it.
  • 00:10:16.000 --> 00:10:17.150
  • - I have a married friend who told her husband,
  • 00:10:17.150 --> 00:10:20.100
  • "If you cheat,
  • 00:10:20.100 --> 00:10:21.150
  • "but you ain't leavin' me,
  • 00:10:22.130 --> 00:10:23.280
  • "don't tell me."
  • 00:10:23.280 --> 00:10:25.050
  • - [Tina] What kind of fool is that?
  • 00:10:25.050 --> 00:10:27.160
  • That's a fool.
  • 00:10:27.160 --> 00:10:28.180
  • That's a fool
  • 00:10:28.180 --> 00:10:29.200
  • - [Erica] (laughs) You said that's a fool.
  • 00:10:30.250 --> 00:10:32.280
  • She said that their practice.
  • 00:10:32.280 --> 00:10:34.190
  • I don't think you can live - How do people feel about
  • 00:10:34.190 --> 00:10:35.210
  • It though? - In freedom in God's
  • 00:10:35.210 --> 00:10:37.160
  • design for love that way.
  • 00:10:37.160 --> 00:10:39.160
  • - No.
  • 00:10:39.160 --> 00:10:40.110
  • - Hooked up to a machine 'cause he dealin' with the stress
  • 00:10:42.010 --> 00:10:44.100
  • of what if it come out and what if she find out.
  • 00:10:44.100 --> 00:10:48.160
  • This is personal.
  • 00:10:48.160 --> 00:10:49.290
  • I looked at a picture, recently I was looking at pictures
  • 00:10:49.290 --> 00:10:51.090
  • of my kids, right?
  • 00:10:51.090 --> 00:10:52.220
  • And I saw a picture of my husband about four months before
  • 00:10:52.220 --> 00:10:55.050
  • I found out.
  • 00:10:55.050 --> 00:10:56.200
  • He was hooked all up to a machine and it reminded me.
  • 00:10:56.200 --> 00:10:59.010
  • Teddy was having all kinda internal issues.
  • 00:10:59.010 --> 00:11:01.270
  • We didn't know what it was.
  • 00:11:01.270 --> 00:11:03.110
  • - It was a stress test 'cause I was stressed out.
  • 00:11:03.110 --> 00:11:04.230
  • - He was having all kinda issues.
  • 00:11:04.230 --> 00:11:06.220
  • He was hooked up to machines, he had done CAT scans and all
  • 00:11:06.220 --> 00:11:09.010
  • of this kind of stuff.
  • 00:11:09.010 --> 00:11:10.140
  • They had all of these things all over him, he was
  • 00:11:10.140 --> 00:11:12.070
  • all wired up.
  • 00:11:12.070 --> 00:11:13.090
  • If I wouldn't have found out what was going on inside of him
  • 00:11:15.050 --> 00:11:17.290
  • that internal struggle probably would've killed my husband.
  • 00:11:17.290 --> 00:11:20.210
  • Because he didn't know how to get it out.
  • 00:11:20.210 --> 00:11:22.290
  • So when he had an opportunity to be free he was like, tell
  • 00:11:22.290 --> 00:11:24.290
  • the whole world.
  • 00:11:24.290 --> 00:11:26.150
  • I was gonna die anyway, maybe I could just take a chance on
  • 00:11:26.150 --> 00:11:27.240
  • you not killing me and God restore us.
  • 00:11:27.240 --> 00:11:29.250
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:11:29.250 --> 00:11:32.040
  • And God restore us. - It was a chance too.
  • 00:11:32.040 --> 00:11:34.050
  • I was taking a chance.
  • 00:11:34.050 --> 00:11:35.240
  • - Man, 'cause, listen.
  • 00:11:35.240 --> 00:11:37.020
  • - [Erica] Tina Campbell ain't no joke.
  • 00:11:37.020 --> 00:11:39.210
  • - [Pastor Freeman] Gangsta over here.
  • 00:11:39.210 --> 00:11:41.270
  • I'm lovin' this. - Super thug, super thug.
  • 00:11:41.270 --> 00:11:43.130
  • - It's in me for a reason but you know what, God gave that
  • 00:11:43.130 --> 00:11:45.160
  • to me to ride on the devil not my husband.
  • 00:11:45.160 --> 00:11:47.290
  • This is my home, I'm not supposed to be fighting against
  • 00:11:47.290 --> 00:11:50.040
  • him, fighting against my sister that I'm in ministry with.
  • 00:11:50.040 --> 00:11:53.040
  • He gave me that heart and that, whatever that is that I have
  • 00:11:53.040 --> 00:11:55.160
  • to go ride on the devil.
  • 00:11:55.160 --> 00:11:56.250
  • He's the enemy.
  • 00:11:56.250 --> 00:11:58.100
  • You know what I mean, the enemy is not my husband
  • 00:11:58.100 --> 00:11:59.230
  • if my husband is acting a fool - Come on.
  • 00:11:59.230 --> 00:12:01.010
  • - [Tina] Devil has gotten in him.
  • 00:12:01.010 --> 00:12:02.180
  • Why am I gone go after the accomplice?
  • 00:12:02.180 --> 00:12:04.210
  • Why don't I go after the actual suspect?
  • 00:12:04.210 --> 00:12:06.270
  • - "We wrestle not
  • 00:12:06.270 --> 00:12:08.170
  • "against flesh and blood."
  • 00:12:08.170 --> 00:12:10.100
  • - Come on.
  • 00:12:10.100 --> 00:12:11.260
  • - So it took us going through all kind of devastation for me
  • 00:12:11.260 --> 00:12:14.060
  • to realize the devil is the enemy.
  • 00:12:14.060 --> 00:12:15.280
  • Whenever I fight against him I'm helping my enemy.
  • 00:12:15.280 --> 00:12:18.160
  • I'm helping the one that wants to kill me, wants to destroy
  • 00:12:18.160 --> 00:12:20.160
  • me, wants to ruin my life.
  • 00:12:20.160 --> 00:12:21.260
  • - [Pastor Freeman] Wait, say that again.
  • 00:12:21.260 --> 00:12:23.120
  • - [Warryn] Come on.
  • 00:12:23.120 --> 00:12:24.260
  • - Whenever I fight with him I'm helping the one who wants to
  • 00:12:24.260 --> 00:12:27.000
  • kill me, who wants to destroy me.
  • 00:12:27.000 --> 00:12:29.170
  • First of all, the bible ain't said nowhere else other than
  • 00:12:29.170 --> 00:12:33.060
  • in James, "Where there is envy and strife, where there is
  • 00:12:33.060 --> 00:12:36.150
  • "rivalry, competition, disharmony, disunity, there is
  • 00:12:36.150 --> 00:12:40.170
  • "confusion and every evil work."
  • 00:12:40.170 --> 00:12:43.210
  • - [Pastor Freeman] Right.
  • 00:12:43.210 --> 00:12:45.060
  • - You don't necessarily get that from adultery, you don't
  • 00:12:45.060 --> 00:12:46.270
  • necessarily get that from stealing from the church, whatever
  • 00:12:46.270 --> 00:12:48.260
  • it is that you could do, murder.
  • 00:12:48.260 --> 00:12:50.040
  • It says where there is envy and strife.
  • 00:12:50.040 --> 00:12:52.110
  • So when there's disunity in your home you open the door to
  • 00:12:52.110 --> 00:12:55.110
  • the devil and every one of his demons and utter confusion.
  • 00:12:55.110 --> 00:12:59.140
  • That's why before we worked this out I was schizophrenic.
  • 00:12:59.140 --> 00:13:02.180
  • Happy, sad, fulfilled, unfulfilled, love my children, hate
  • 00:13:02.180 --> 00:13:05.050
  • them, love him, wanna kill him, love Mary Mary,
  • 00:13:05.050 --> 00:13:07.110
  • can't stand it.
  • 00:13:07.110 --> 00:13:08.090
  • Just utter schizophrenic.
  • 00:13:08.090 --> 00:13:10.010
  • Because I had opened the door to confusion and
  • 00:13:10.010 --> 00:13:13.130
  • every evil work.
  • 00:13:13.130 --> 00:13:15.070
  • So it does me good to agree with him.
  • 00:13:15.070 --> 00:13:18.000
  • It does me good to get along with him.
  • 00:13:18.000 --> 00:13:20.100
  • It does me good to forgive him.
  • 00:13:20.100 --> 00:13:22.170
  • Otherwise the devil gone come in and destroy us,
  • 00:13:22.170 --> 00:13:24.160
  • the kids, everybody.
  • 00:13:24.160 --> 00:13:25.280
  • - That's good.
  • 00:13:25.280 --> 00:13:26.230
  • That's very good.
  • 00:13:26.230 --> 00:13:28.020
  • (audience claps)
  • 00:13:28.020 --> 00:13:30.250
  • - [Teddy] Come on, Pastor.
  • 00:13:32.170 --> 00:13:34.220
  • - My wife said something about a friend of ours who said
  • 00:13:37.050 --> 00:13:41.050
  • that
  • 00:13:41.050 --> 00:13:42.170
  • she told her husband
  • 00:13:42.170 --> 00:13:44.080
  • "If you cheat on me,
  • 00:13:44.080 --> 00:13:45.200
  • "don't tell me."
  • 00:13:45.200 --> 00:13:47.050
  • Now, I can identify with that because I felt the same way.
  • 00:13:47.050 --> 00:13:50.100
  • I was like, I don't wanna know.
  • 00:13:50.100 --> 00:13:52.020
  • I don't wanna know.
  • 00:13:52.020 --> 00:13:53.140
  • I didn't wanna know because I didn't wanna tell.
  • 00:13:53.140 --> 00:13:56.240
  • Understand what I'm saying.
  • 00:13:56.240 --> 00:13:58.160
  • So,
  • 00:13:58.160 --> 00:13:59.200
  • like my brother said,
  • 00:13:59.200 --> 00:14:01.190
  • the stress
  • 00:14:01.190 --> 00:14:03.060
  • would eat at you.
  • 00:14:03.060 --> 00:14:04.080
  • 2008
  • 00:14:04.080 --> 00:14:05.030
  • the doctor diagnosed me with kidney cancer.
  • 00:14:06.080 --> 00:14:09.240
  • Diagnosed with cancer on a Friday.
  • 00:14:09.240 --> 00:14:12.190
  • Cancer free the next Friday.
  • 00:14:13.180 --> 00:14:16.010
  • That's a whole other testimony.
  • 00:14:16.010 --> 00:14:18.070
  • But how it happened, I was holding so much stuff that
  • 00:14:18.070 --> 00:14:21.060
  • I had did.
  • 00:14:21.060 --> 00:14:22.140
  • When me and my wife first got married,
  • 00:14:22.140 --> 00:14:24.280
  • tell you how crazy it was, she would have to
  • 00:14:24.280 --> 00:14:27.240
  • come home
  • 00:14:27.240 --> 00:14:28.190
  • from tour.
  • 00:14:29.180 --> 00:14:30.130
  • And that's back, y'all remember the little two way pagers
  • 00:14:31.240 --> 00:14:33.290
  • everybody had, the little flip?
  • 00:14:33.290 --> 00:14:35.150
  • I would get a text of the, "Hey baby, I'm home."
  • 00:14:35.150 --> 00:14:38.080
  • And I say, hey baby, I'm at the strip club.
  • 00:14:38.080 --> 00:14:42.050
  • She would have to find me at the strip club.
  • 00:14:42.050 --> 00:14:44.230
  • And I said, well I'll be home, you know.
  • 00:14:44.230 --> 00:14:46.180
  • I'll see you when I see you.
  • 00:14:46.180 --> 00:14:48.010
  • I wouldn't even leave.
  • 00:14:48.010 --> 00:14:50.000
  • This is what she had to deal with.
  • 00:14:50.000 --> 00:14:51.150
  • When we first opened our church I had to...
  • 00:14:51.150 --> 00:14:53.010
  • I realized I hadn't even apologized for it.
  • 00:14:53.010 --> 00:14:57.060
  • So in front of the church I said, baby I'm sorry for every
  • 00:14:57.060 --> 00:14:59.100
  • night that I came home smelling like
  • 00:14:59.100 --> 00:15:02.220
  • the stripper.
  • 00:15:02.220 --> 00:15:03.290
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:15:03.290 --> 00:15:05.060
  • - [Pastor Freeman] Smellin' like what?
  • 00:15:05.060 --> 00:15:06.000
  • - Stripper.
  • 00:15:06.000 --> 00:15:07.100
  • - [Dee Dee] Victoria's Secret.
  • 00:15:07.100 --> 00:15:08.250
  • - You know what it is, I'mma tell you what it is, what
  • 00:15:08.250 --> 00:15:11.270
  • is it called?
  • 00:15:11.270 --> 00:15:12.220
  • - Stripper?
  • 00:15:12.220 --> 00:15:14.050
  • How does a stripper smell?
  • 00:15:14.050 --> 00:15:15.220
  • - [Warryn] Like Bath and Body Works.
  • 00:15:15.220 --> 00:15:17.020
  • - [Teddy] Like Victoria's Secret lotion.
  • 00:15:17.020 --> 00:15:18.220
  • - Victoria's Secret lotion.
  • 00:15:18.220 --> 00:15:20.010
  • - Now, how you know?
  • 00:15:20.010 --> 00:15:21.160
  • - [Warryn] Apple pear.
  • 00:15:21.160 --> 00:15:22.230
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:15:22.230 --> 00:15:24.080
  • - [Teddy] 'Cause I had to go in there and get him
  • 00:15:24.080 --> 00:15:24.280
  • out of there.
  • 00:15:24.280 --> 00:15:25.260
  • Call Warryn out of there!
  • 00:15:25.260 --> 00:15:27.250
  • - I love it.
  • 00:15:28.220 --> 00:15:30.060
  • Teddy you had to go get him. - I had so many secrets
  • 00:15:30.060 --> 00:15:33.210
  • all piled on top of stuff, piled on top of stuff.
  • 00:15:33.210 --> 00:15:36.070
  • And the doctor says, "Man, there's something
  • 00:15:36.070 --> 00:15:38.150
  • "wrong with you.
  • 00:15:38.150 --> 00:15:39.290
  • "You got a big mass on your kidney that's been there
  • 00:15:39.290 --> 00:15:42.110
  • "for a while."
  • 00:15:42.110 --> 00:15:43.160
  • And I guess I might as well,
  • 00:15:44.120 --> 00:15:46.100
  • since everybody done talked for a while, let me say.
  • 00:15:46.100 --> 00:15:48.040
  • Let me finish my testimony.
  • 00:15:48.040 --> 00:15:50.020
  • So,
  • 00:15:50.020 --> 00:15:51.140
  • cancer.
  • 00:15:51.140 --> 00:15:52.200
  • Diagnosed with cancer Friday,
  • 00:15:52.200 --> 00:15:54.220
  • had a operation.
  • 00:15:54.220 --> 00:15:56.060
  • I don't wanna gross nobody out but how they found it was,
  • 00:15:56.060 --> 00:15:58.130
  • there was some blood.
  • 00:15:58.130 --> 00:15:59.130
  • Now,
  • 00:15:59.130 --> 00:16:00.210
  • they took the cancer and took it out.
  • 00:16:00.210 --> 00:16:02.070
  • And they had to butterfly it to even see if it was cancer
  • 00:16:02.070 --> 00:16:03.200
  • and it was.
  • 00:16:03.200 --> 00:16:05.030
  • Post-op
  • 00:16:05.030 --> 00:16:06.130
  • check up.
  • 00:16:06.130 --> 00:16:07.140
  • The doctor, says, "Well,
  • 00:16:07.140 --> 00:16:09.140
  • "this was a serious, serious thing because I've been doing
  • 00:16:09.140 --> 00:16:13.030
  • "this 20 years and we've never caught it this way."
  • 00:16:13.030 --> 00:16:15.240
  • Renal Cell Carcinoma.
  • 00:16:15.240 --> 00:16:17.280
  • He says, "I've never found it through blood."
  • 00:16:17.280 --> 00:16:20.190
  • He said, "This is a silent killer.
  • 00:16:20.190 --> 00:16:23.130
  • "You could've been walking along and just dropped dead."
  • 00:16:23.130 --> 00:16:27.040
  • Now, this is for my real churchy folk here.
  • 00:16:27.040 --> 00:16:29.170
  • This is what this Muslim doctor tells me now.
  • 00:16:29.170 --> 00:16:31.170
  • He says, "It's a good thing you bled.
  • 00:16:31.170 --> 00:16:33.280
  • "Because the blood saved your life."
  • 00:16:33.280 --> 00:16:35.250
  • (audience cheers) (audience claps)
  • 00:16:35.250 --> 00:16:40.000
  • Yeah.
  • 00:16:43.030 --> 00:16:44.160
  • - [Pastor Freeman] I love it.
  • 00:16:44.160 --> 00:16:46.080
  • - But secrets will make sickness take form and shape
  • 00:16:46.080 --> 00:16:49.250
  • in your body.
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  • - That's when I got my healing.
  • 00:16:52.210 --> 00:16:55.250
  • There's a difference between a cure and a healing.
  • 00:16:55.250 --> 00:16:59.060
  • 'Cause when God heals you it's from the inside out.
  • 00:16:59.060 --> 00:17:01.100
  • - [Audience] Yeah. - [Woman] Come on now.
  • 00:17:01.100 --> 00:17:02.260
  • - See we can go to the store and the drugstore and we can
  • 00:17:02.260 --> 00:17:04.190
  • buy a cure but you can't buy the healing.
  • 00:17:04.190 --> 00:17:07.090
  • And so
  • 00:17:07.090 --> 00:17:08.270
  • he had to do the work on the inside.
  • 00:17:08.270 --> 00:17:10.240
  • And matter fact, he was dealing with me with the church.
  • 00:17:10.240 --> 00:17:12.280
  • By the time I got off that table I was saying, yes Lord, yes
  • 00:17:12.280 --> 00:17:15.280
  • Lord, yes Lord.
  • 00:17:15.280 --> 00:17:17.020
  • Yes Lord, yes wife, yes wife.
  • 00:17:17.020 --> 00:17:19.090
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:17:19.090 --> 00:17:20.240
  • And you know, God just began to deal with me and start
  • 00:17:20.240 --> 00:17:22.150
  • stripping stuff away from me.
  • 00:17:22.150 --> 00:17:23.180
  • And it still took time.
  • 00:17:23.180 --> 00:17:25.150
  • It still took time but over time I just, you know,
  • 00:17:25.150 --> 00:17:27.250
  • the weights fell off and I was able to tell my wife things
  • 00:17:27.250 --> 00:17:30.280
  • that I thought I would never tell her because, here's the
  • 00:17:30.280 --> 00:17:33.040
  • thing, I didn't trust her.
  • 00:17:33.040 --> 00:17:35.090
  • I didn't trust her.
  • 00:17:36.250 --> 00:17:37.230
  • I just knew if I exposed it,
  • 00:17:37.230 --> 00:17:40.000
  • she was gone leave.
  • 00:17:40.270 --> 00:17:42.210
  • If I exposed it I'd never see my kids again.
  • 00:17:42.210 --> 00:17:46.020
  • So when I told her she says, "You really didn't
  • 00:17:46.020 --> 00:17:48.030
  • "know me then."
  • 00:17:48.030 --> 00:17:49.110
  • - [Pastor Freeman] Okay, okay, Pastor, help me, help me.
  • 00:17:50.230 --> 00:17:52.200
  • - Yes, sir, yes, sir.
  • 00:17:52.200 --> 00:17:53.150
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:17:53.150 --> 00:17:56.100
  • - Because if some of these people are hearing you correctly,
  • 00:18:00.220 --> 00:18:04.270
  • they may get right in the car
  • 00:18:07.240 --> 00:18:10.070
  • - [Warryn] And go to the strip club?
  • 00:18:13.170 --> 00:18:15.140
  • - No, I can't go to (laughs).
  • 00:18:15.140 --> 00:18:17.220
  • - [Dee Dee] He said go to the strip club.
  • 00:18:17.220 --> 00:18:19.150
  • - Out of control, sir.
  • 00:18:19.150 --> 00:18:21.100
  • - They may get right in the car...
  • 00:18:22.130 --> 00:18:25.120
  • - And try to tell something?
  • 00:18:25.120 --> 00:18:26.270
  • - And say, baby I've been feelin' bad
  • 00:18:26.270 --> 00:18:30.000
  • and I don't know what's been goin' on with me.
  • 00:18:31.290 --> 00:18:36.170
  • And
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  • tonight
  • 00:18:37.120 --> 00:18:38.070
  • I heard
  • 00:18:39.090 --> 00:18:40.040
  • them talking about
  • 00:18:41.260 --> 00:18:43.110
  • confessing what they've been doing.
  • 00:18:44.180 --> 00:18:47.150
  • It's gone get 'bout that quiet in the car.
  • 00:18:50.110 --> 00:18:52.050
  • - Super quiet. - Listen.
  • 00:18:52.050 --> 00:18:53.200
  • - But you know, I had...
  • 00:18:53.200 --> 00:18:55.140
  • - So.
  • 00:18:55.140 --> 00:18:56.090
  • - Give us some wisdom and some insight and some direction.
  • 00:19:00.080 --> 00:19:05.070
  • - See, Marcus Lamb and he probably won't have a problem with
  • 00:19:05.070 --> 00:19:08.240
  • me sharing this at all.
  • 00:19:08.240 --> 00:19:10.180
  • It's public, we've talked about it privately.
  • 00:19:10.180 --> 00:19:13.010
  • Marcus Lamb got in a jam.
  • 00:19:13.010 --> 00:19:15.040
  • I don't know if you all are familiar with it.
  • 00:19:16.100 --> 00:19:18.140
  • But the chick that he was with was hittin' him up hard.
  • 00:19:18.140 --> 00:19:22.190
  • "You gone pay me for the rest of your life."
  • 00:19:23.270 --> 00:19:26.100
  • He said,
  • 00:19:26.100 --> 00:19:27.250
  • "I know how to fix this devil, I'm gone tell it."
  • 00:19:27.250 --> 00:19:31.100
  • And if I tell it, I take away from her
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  • - The power. - The power.
  • 00:19:35.030 --> 00:19:36.190
  • - All the power.
  • 00:19:36.190 --> 00:19:37.140
  • - Take the power.
  • 00:19:37.140 --> 00:19:39.000
  • - They were already in counsel sessions.
  • 00:19:39.000 --> 00:19:42.040
  • He had already shared it with his wife.
  • 00:19:42.040 --> 00:19:45.110
  • But when his chick began to blackmail him,
  • 00:19:46.140 --> 00:19:49.290
  • his wife and him both stood together and said, "Okay, we're
  • 00:19:49.290 --> 00:19:53.210
  • "not gonna let this chick have anymore power.
  • 00:19:53.210 --> 00:19:56.230
  • "We gone go out here together and we gone share this
  • 00:19:56.230 --> 00:19:59.090
  • "with the world."
  • 00:19:59.090 --> 00:20:00.090
  • Which ultimately
  • 00:20:00.090 --> 00:20:01.190
  • transformed
  • 00:20:02.160 --> 00:20:03.140
  • into a lot of individuals lives being helped.
  • 00:20:05.200 --> 00:20:09.130
  • But he was well on his way
  • 00:20:11.230 --> 00:20:13.280
  • to healing and recovering in his marriage quietly and if
  • 00:20:15.130 --> 00:20:19.030
  • this girl wouldn't have come up, they would've just kept
  • 00:20:19.030 --> 00:20:22.180
  • that and lived happily ever after.
  • 00:20:22.180 --> 00:20:25.110
  • Are you suggesting to them, because
  • 00:20:26.220 --> 00:20:30.060
  • God, look at,
  • 00:20:30.060 --> 00:20:31.010
  • can you see 'em?
  • 00:20:31.010 --> 00:20:31.280
  • Take a look. - Yes.
  • 00:20:31.280 --> 00:20:33.050
  • - It's a lot of secrets out there.
  • 00:20:33.050 --> 00:20:34.170
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:20:34.170 --> 00:20:35.120
  • - You can tell the body language and posture.
  • 00:20:37.230 --> 00:20:40.160
  • - Yeah and some of 'em looked down.
  • 00:20:40.160 --> 00:20:42.030
  • The church in them said you don't wanna look down right now.
  • 00:20:42.030 --> 00:20:44.120
  • - [Tina] Don't look down.
  • 00:20:44.120 --> 00:20:45.260
  • Just look straight ahead. - Look straight ahead.
  • 00:20:45.260 --> 00:20:46.260
  • Smile. - Look straight ahead.
  • 00:20:46.260 --> 00:20:48.010
  • Straight ahead. - Just look straight.
  • 00:20:48.010 --> 00:20:49.280
  • - I have a question.
  • 00:20:49.280 --> 00:20:51.050
  • - Let me just say this one last thing.
  • 00:20:51.050 --> 00:20:52.190
  • I'm not suggesting.
  • 00:20:52.190 --> 00:20:54.070
  • Let me let you in on a secret.
  • 00:20:55.210 --> 00:20:57.050
  • This is the first time I've ever said that ever.
  • 00:20:57.050 --> 00:20:59.200
  • - [Tina] Openly, yeah.
  • 00:20:59.200 --> 00:21:00.270
  • - Right here. - Marriage Made Easy
  • 00:21:00.270 --> 00:21:01.250
  • brings out the best in you.
  • 00:21:01.250 --> 00:21:03.200
  • (audience claps)
  • 00:21:03.200 --> 00:21:05.190
  • We talk about whatever but that's the liberty.
  • 00:21:05.190 --> 00:21:09.030
  • "And where the spirit of the Lord is
  • 00:21:09.030 --> 00:21:12.030
  • - [Tina] There is liberty.
  • 00:21:13.100 --> 00:21:14.290
  • - "There is liberty."
  • 00:21:14.290 --> 00:21:16.080
  • - It's totally not easy.
  • 00:21:16.080 --> 00:21:17.200
  • - It's totally not. - Because for women
  • 00:21:17.200 --> 00:21:19.040
  • you go,
  • 00:21:19.040 --> 00:21:20.070
  • I'm cute.
  • 00:21:20.070 --> 00:21:21.090
  • I make money.
  • 00:21:21.090 --> 00:21:22.120
  • I'm famous.
  • 00:21:22.120 --> 00:21:23.190
  • Why would he want anybody other than me?
  • 00:21:23.190 --> 00:21:25.250
  • - I heard that.
  • 00:21:25.250 --> 00:21:27.020
  • - Why would he look at somebody else?
  • 00:21:27.020 --> 00:21:27.260
  • I'm fine, I'm the bomb.
  • 00:21:27.260 --> 00:21:29.050
  • A lot of people want me. - That is so shallow.
  • 00:21:29.050 --> 00:21:30.120
  • - It is shallow. - Fine is passing.
  • 00:21:30.120 --> 00:21:31.240
  • - But listen, it is shallow but it is a reality.
  • 00:21:31.240 --> 00:21:34.220
  • - But yeah, she fine though. - Here is the deal.
  • 00:21:34.220 --> 00:21:36.040
  • - She is fine. - I'm fine too.
  • 00:21:36.040 --> 00:21:37.230
  • - You fine too. - What we don't realize is...
  • 00:21:37.230 --> 00:21:40.010
  • - I'm just sayin'.
  • 00:21:40.010 --> 00:21:41.070
  • I'm just acknowledging what...
  • 00:21:41.070 --> 00:21:42.230
  • - What people don't realize is husbands and wives have a lot
  • 00:21:42.230 --> 00:21:45.150
  • of sexual inventory that you had before you got married.
  • 00:21:45.150 --> 00:21:49.160
  • And especially in today's culture.
  • 00:21:49.160 --> 00:21:51.240
  • - Sexual inventory.
  • 00:21:51.240 --> 00:21:54.030
  • - Unpack that, unpack that. - So say you're 16 years old.
  • 00:21:54.030 --> 00:21:56.050
  • Say you're 16 years old.
  • 00:21:56.050 --> 00:21:58.060
  • - No, say you're in the sixth grade.
  • 00:21:58.060 --> 00:21:59.250
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:21:59.250 --> 00:22:03.120
  • - [Tina] That's a mess.
  • 00:22:03.120 --> 00:22:05.010
  • - [Teddy] Hey, they doin' it way younger than that now.
  • 00:22:05.010 --> 00:22:07.240
  • - [Tina] They dealin' with this in fifth grade.
  • 00:22:07.240 --> 00:22:10.030
  • - Now, question.
  • 00:22:10.030 --> 00:22:11.070
  • That's real. - Sexual inventory.
  • 00:22:11.070 --> 00:22:12.290
  • - [Tina] At 10 and 11.
  • 00:22:12.290 --> 00:22:14.120
  • - You 16.
  • 00:22:14.120 --> 00:22:15.070
  • You sleep with sweet black Sally.
  • 00:22:16.110 --> 00:22:17.260
  • Right? - Right, right.
  • 00:22:17.260 --> 00:22:18.210
  • - You get married at 22.
  • 00:22:18.210 --> 00:22:21.050
  • But sweet black Sally blew your mind.
  • 00:22:21.050 --> 00:22:23.280
  • So you get married to nice sweet Patty.
  • 00:22:23.280 --> 00:22:26.280
  • Nice sweet Patty was a virgin, she don't know much.
  • 00:22:26.280 --> 00:22:29.090
  • You got all the thoughts of sweet black Sally and then all
  • 00:22:29.090 --> 00:22:31.270
  • the porno that you watch, then all their super sexual music,
  • 00:22:31.270 --> 00:22:34.040
  • then all the videos that you watch 'cause you watch the
  • 00:22:34.040 --> 00:22:36.160
  • beautiful sexy R 'n' B singers bounce all around.
  • 00:22:36.160 --> 00:22:40.130
  • You don't think it's in there but it's getting in there.
  • 00:22:40.130 --> 00:22:44.000
  • And so you spend your first wonderful night with your
  • 00:22:44.000 --> 00:22:46.030
  • husband or your wife and your mind is supposed to be on her
  • 00:22:46.030 --> 00:22:49.040
  • but the sexual inventory that you didn't get delivered from
  • 00:22:49.040 --> 00:22:51.100
  • is still there.
  • 00:22:51.100 --> 00:22:52.200
  • And so a woman goes, "He's just a dog."
  • 00:22:52.200 --> 00:22:54.200
  • I don't think anybody gets married and go, I'mma cheat and
  • 00:22:54.200 --> 00:22:57.010
  • break up my marriage.
  • 00:22:57.010 --> 00:22:57.290
  • - [Tina] Interject, Erica.
  • 00:22:57.290 --> 00:22:59.190
  • Erica?
  • 00:22:59.190 --> 00:23:00.160
  • - Yes.
  • 00:23:00.160 --> 00:23:02.010
  • - You gotta let me interject on that but don't lose it.
  • 00:23:02.010 --> 00:23:03.070
  • - [Erica] Don't throw me off.
  • 00:23:03.070 --> 00:23:04.150
  • - So you can't even miss the blessing that you in
  • 00:23:04.150 --> 00:23:07.050
  • 'cause your mind is on the blessing that you, the supposed
  • 00:23:07.050 --> 00:23:10.230
  • blessing, that you saw.
  • 00:23:10.230 --> 00:23:12.180
  • You can't even appreciate
  • 00:23:12.180 --> 00:23:13.270
  • let you in them. - See, that wasn't a blessing
  • 00:23:13.270 --> 00:23:15.030
  • it was a trick.
  • 00:23:15.030 --> 00:23:16.180
  • The enemy knew that at 27 you was gone meet a man or woman
  • 00:23:16.180 --> 00:23:19.200
  • of God that was gone bless your life.
  • 00:23:19.200 --> 00:23:21.060
  • So he says, "How do we stop them?"
  • 00:23:21.060 --> 00:23:22.260
  • Let them see a real fast tail girl that's gone introduce
  • 00:23:22.260 --> 00:23:25.020
  • them to sex way too early.
  • 00:23:25.020 --> 00:23:26.220
  • Let he meet a guy that's gone blow her mind and she ain't
  • 00:23:26.220 --> 00:23:29.030
  • gone never get delivered.
  • 00:23:29.030 --> 00:23:30.100
  • She gone break up but she ain't gone never get
  • 00:23:30.100 --> 00:23:31.040
  • delivered from him.
  • 00:23:31.040 --> 00:23:32.100
  • She's always comparing everybody to him.
  • 00:23:32.100 --> 00:23:33.250
  • So she meets a man of God but she's still comparing him to
  • 00:23:33.250 --> 00:23:36.060
  • the thug that was on the street 'cause he blew her mind.
  • 00:23:36.060 --> 00:23:38.110
  • You've got to get delivered from the people that you been
  • 00:23:38.110 --> 00:23:40.200
  • with before you been married.
  • 00:23:40.200 --> 00:23:42.020
  • I finally realized
  • 00:23:42.020 --> 00:23:43.170
  • that them preaching don't have sex before marriage was not
  • 00:23:45.000 --> 00:23:47.130
  • because they didn't want you to have a baby and
  • 00:23:47.130 --> 00:23:49.050
  • get a disease.
  • 00:23:49.050 --> 00:23:50.250
  • That's what I, oh I don't wanna disease, I don't wanna come
  • 00:23:50.250 --> 00:23:53.030
  • in here pregnant.
  • 00:23:53.030 --> 00:23:54.170
  • But what I realized is the enemy wants to captivate your
  • 00:23:54.170 --> 00:23:57.180
  • mind so when you are with the one person you're supposed to,
  • 00:23:57.180 --> 00:24:01.060
  • it's a set up to mess you up.
  • 00:24:01.060 --> 00:24:03.220
  • I wanna focus on you but I got four five guys that I never
  • 00:24:03.220 --> 00:24:07.070
  • got out of my spirit.
  • 00:24:07.070 --> 00:24:09.220
  • I got six seven eight women that still my friend, and still
  • 00:24:09.220 --> 00:24:12.050
  • go to my church and still come over our house and we ain't
  • 00:24:12.050 --> 00:24:14.180
  • never told nobody that we slept together.
  • 00:24:14.180 --> 00:24:16.280
  • - Okay, deal with the antidote.
  • 00:24:16.280 --> 00:24:18.190
  • Deal with the remedy.
  • 00:24:18.190 --> 00:24:19.270
  • - The answer is being honest and seeking God
  • 00:24:19.270 --> 00:24:21.270
  • for real deliverance.
  • 00:24:21.270 --> 00:24:22.280
  • It's that black box.
  • 00:24:22.280 --> 00:24:24.180
  • My mama used to say something when she would speak all time.
  • 00:24:24.180 --> 00:24:28.060
  • She would go, "That right there, Jesus."
  • 00:24:28.060 --> 00:24:30.040
  • You know you got a attitude with somebody, you say,
  • 00:24:30.040 --> 00:24:31.190
  • I forgive you, God bless you but when you come in your roll
  • 00:24:31.190 --> 00:24:33.200
  • your eyes to yourself?
  • 00:24:33.200 --> 00:24:35.080
  • - [Pastor Freeman] That right there.
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  • - I sure hope that Bishop T.D. Jakes doesn't mind me
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  • using a page out of his book, and tell you
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  • to get ready, get ready, get ready,
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  • because God's Glamorous Girls, GGG, is coming in July,
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  • July 11th, at the Baltimore Convention Center.
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  • My wife is preparing for you ladies all over the world.
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  • Ya gotta be there.
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  • One of the most exciting woman's conferences
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  • in this entire world.
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  • You won't want to miss it.
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  • It's gonna bless your life.
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  • In addition, men, hear me, hear me good,
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  • I'm meeting with all of the men
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  • while the ladies are doing their thing.
  • 00:25:41.150 --> 00:25:45.030
  • I want to share with you, all of the pastors,
  • 00:25:45.030 --> 00:25:48.070
  • come along with your wife.
  • 00:25:48.070 --> 00:25:49.150
  • You didn't think there was anything for you,
  • 00:25:49.150 --> 00:25:52.080
  • but there're some things that I am feverishly
  • 00:25:52.080 --> 00:25:56.040
  • planning at this particular time
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  • to make sure I can speak to you.
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  • It's a very laid back setting.
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  • You won't have to dress up or be
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  • prepared as we would for conferences.
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  • I just want to sit there with you,
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  • share some things that I've learned over the years,
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  • to cause your ministry to have
  • 00:26:13.240 --> 00:26:15.200
  • the excitement that we have here at
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  • Spirit of Faith Christian Center.
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  • But GGG, you won't want to miss it, I promise you.
  • 00:26:19.250 --> 00:26:23.070
  • Don't be like one of those who were saying after the fact,
  • 00:26:23.070 --> 00:26:26.290
  • "Man, I knew I should have been there."
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  • Be there.
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  • (dramatic tone)
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  • (dramatic music)
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  • (cheering)
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  • (dramatic music)
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  • - [Narrator] Coming to the Baltimore Convention Center,
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  • July 11th through the 13th,
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  • The Fellowship presents Pink Rain,
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  • a God's Glamorous Girls production.
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  • Featuring DeeDee Freeman,
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  • Shun Strickland, R.A. Vernon,
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  • Brelyn Bowman, RealTalk Kim, Sheryl Brady,
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  • with performances by MaryMary.
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  • I get it
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