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Marriage Made EZ: The Mary Mary Story

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July 4, 2017
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Living by Faith with Mike & DeeDee Freeman

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Marriage Made EZ: The Mary Mary Story

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  • I had another cousin to tell me, "Girl, get your own money,
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  • "need to have your own."
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  • She's no longer married.
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  • Marriage is togetherness.
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  • And it is honesty, (audience claps)
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  • and trust needs to be built.
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  • Trust takes time.
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  • It's hard
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  • because going to church you hear who God'll forgive
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  • all the time.
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  • God will forgive.
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  • God will forgive.
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  • And I sat in church going, well I didn't do nothin'.
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  • This message is only for him.
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  • This message is only for him.
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  • What about me?
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  • My heart is broken.
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  • and she repented to you and we ain't gone tell nobody but
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  • you know he gone come to church today so you wear the best
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  • dress that you got?
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  • That right there, God.
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  • It ain't gone, I'm not delivered.
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  • - [Pastor Freeman] Right, right.
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  • - Something come on the radio, Let's Get It On come on the
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  • radio and you got a shift in your speech 'cause your spirit
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  • is all wrong?
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  • You ain't delivered yet.
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  • That right there, Jesus, - You gotta confess Jesus.
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  • - Take that out. - You gotta
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  • confess those things.
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  • - Yes. - I had to,
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  • we had to walk through the process of deliverance.
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  • I said, now it's me and you and 50 other people so the two
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  • of us can't become one 'cause the two of us is a squad.
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  • So we gotta get rid of this squad.
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  • - [Erica] I don't like sharing.
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  • - Oh Lord, and I was just like, I can't.
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  • And the reason why I was like, I can't do this, I got all
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  • these people in my story, I'm common, I'm Walmart?
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  • I thought I was like Neiman Marcus, now I'm Walmart.
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  • Me and all them, we all the same?
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  • So I had to take this stuff to the Lord in prayer.
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  • - [Erica] You gotta say that again,
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  • Tina that went too fast. - Yeah I know!
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  • I know!
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  • I know! - Going too fast.
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  • - I was like, you done came over here and took Neiman Marcus
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  • and you done made me Walmart.
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  • I'm 98 cents now.
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  • 'Cause I'm just one of them.
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  • I'm the six panties in the one bag now.
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  • I was special. - Six panties.
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  • You the the 3.99 pack of panties?
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  • - [Tina] 'Cause you can get that at Walmart.
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  • You get all the Fruit of the Loom is 16 pairs, they all got
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  • squares and stars on 'em and you just grab 'em.
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  • - The women, y'all know what we talkin' 'bout.
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  • You got to the back, you get the discount panties and it
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  • six of 'em in the bad? - I was like, no, no, no.
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  • No, I'm over here in lace and special.
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  • - I'm specialty.
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  • - I said, God, if I don't let them out of me they gone
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  • always be in me.
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  • I said God, I give her to you and everything that he
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  • did with her.
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  • And then I had to bless them.
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  • If I didn't bless them I was gone curse 'em.
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  • And my husband told me that.
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  • He was like, "Gotta bless 'em, baby.
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  • "You gotta bless 'em."
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  • He didn't tell me to go, he didn't necessarily say go bless
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  • everybody that I did but he was like, "Those who you got
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  • "an ought again and you got feelings, you gotta bless 'em
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  • "'cause if you don't bless 'em you gone curse 'em.
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  • "You gone criticize, you gone find fault in 'em."
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  • So I had to.
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  • I said, God, I don't really know how to cast these cares and
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  • lay these burdens down, I think I'll be taking 'em back,
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  • so I wanna give her to you.
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  • And everything I thought that she did to me and everything
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  • I think that he did to her. - That right there.
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  • - And the intent.
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  • That right there.
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  • Her, her, her, her,
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  • her, her,
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  • business stuff, him, him, him.
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  • Bad negotiations, them.
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  • I had to go lay every single thing specifically I was like,
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  • devil, I will not give you space.
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  • The bible says, "Give no space to the devil."
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  • I'm not going to give you a leg in because I'm still,
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  • I got over everybody except that one 'cause she was too
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  • close to me.
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  • I got over everybody but they sued me and embarrassed me
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  • and took all my money.
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  • I said I don't want it.
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  • I have to let go of it.
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  • And when I let go of the stuff,
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  • what God gave me in return,
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  • compassion, understanding, joy,
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  • not circumstantial happiness, confidence.
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  • And let me tell you how God can change your name.
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  • - [Pastor Freeman] Tell me, tell me.
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  • - Three and a half years ago, here we are sittin' up here
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  • embarrassed humiliated, and all of this kind of stuff, now
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  • all of a sudden we heroes of marriage.
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  • Huh?
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  • That's what God does!
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  • You ain't got to rebuild your name.
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  • You ain't got to fix your reputation.
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  • People callin' this man, pastors and everything saying,
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  • "Man, how do I get my wife back?
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  • "What do I do?
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  • "How did you do that so unashamed?"
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  • And all that kind of stuff.
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  • People were calling me and
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  • telling us everywhere we go, "Because of you, you guys
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  • "save our marriage."
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  • I said, because we humiliated ourself in the
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  • whole wide world?
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  • So instead of being that girl that I should go around and
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  • hang my head down and he should run around feeling ashamed
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  • thinkin' all the fans gone kill him.
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  • God changed our name and gave us a new name.
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  • Who could've came up with that strategy?
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  • Because we embarrassed
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  • ourself? - Okay, okay.
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  • - You were saying something about helping.
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  • I just want to really answer this really quickly 'cause you
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  • were saying something about helping the people in this
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  • audience that feel like they may wanna come clean.
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  • Alright, I wanna get back to that because I think that's
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  • very, very important.
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  • And it's important for you personally.
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  • 'Cause this coming clean thing ain't for nobody
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  • else but you.
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  • I would say if you feel like there's something that you
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  • wanna say and get off your heart, your mind,
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  • that you pray and you ask the Holy Spirit to give you
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  • strength - Yes, sir.
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  • - First, you need to pray and ask the Holy Spirit to give
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  • you strength first and give you that boldness that you need
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  • 'cause ultimately you're in a covenant.
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  • This relationship,
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  • if you understand marriage.
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  • Marriage has nothing to do with you.
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  • I'm sorry, it just doesn't.
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  • It has nothing to do with you and all the fulfillment
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  • that you want, all the things that you want.
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  • I wanna husband and wife to do this XYZ for me, no.
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  • Because the bible starts with a marriage and it
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  • ends with one.
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  • It's all about Jesus.
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  • If your marriage does not reflect Jesus it is
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  • not a covenant.
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  • - I agree. - It's not a covenant.
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  • - I agree.
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  • - So you need to ask the Holy Spirit to help you.
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  • If this is his covenant and this is how he sees you,
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  • the church, his bride, you need to ask the groom
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  • how to do this.
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  • You get the Holy Spirit to give you this boldness and this
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  • confidence and man
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  • you gotta fall.
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  • You gotta fall.
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  • You gotta fall into just faith and just hope, you know what
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  • Lord, if this is,
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  • I'm in this covenant with this woman or I'm in this covenant
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  • with this man, if this is your desire for me to be one with
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  • this person, they need to know who I am.
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  • I had no clue that that's what I was supposed to do.
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  • I didn't know that I was supposed to tell
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  • my wife everything.
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  • I thought that was stupid.
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  • But when I told her, when I told her who I was I literally
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  • wanted a friend in my wife but we never had that until
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  • I opened up.
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  • When I opened up and told her who I was she was like,
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  • "You been hiding all this from and you been trying to get
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  • "help and all of this kind of stuff you've been needin'?
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  • "And you didn't tell me?
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  • "I could help you.
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  • My wife helps me now. - That's what she's called.
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  • (laughs)
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  • - That's what I'm here for. - But I didn't give her the
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  • opportunity to help me.
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  • So I'm saying, give your wife,
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  • wives give your husband an opportunity to cover you,
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  • to be in a covenant with you.
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  • And trust the fact, look man, she gone be pissed off, he
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  • gone be pissed off, they gone be mad, they might do some
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  • crazy stuff in the beginning 'cause they just mad and they
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  • in their feelings and in their emotion.
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  • But if that woman or man that you married has the same
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  • belief that you have and y'all serve the same God and y'all
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  • got the same Holy Ghost inside y'all, if it take a year,
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  • if it take two, if it take a few months, if it takes a few
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  • weeks, the Holy Spirit is gone convict their heart and it's
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  • going to work.
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  • You gotta give God an opportunity to work his covenant.
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  • (audience claps)
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  • - I gotta say, if God can keep us through,
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  • I'mma just give it all to y'all, if I God could keep us
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  • thought 10 folks in 10 years and having to find out about
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  • eight of 'em publicly while I'm trying to heal and just
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  • maybe tell my story so somebody out there can get over their
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  • stuff while I get over these two chicks that he had a run
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  • with two different times very far apart.
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  • Now I got to find out about eight more folks and all these
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  • extra years, if God could do it for us, you think he love
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  • us more than he love you?
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  • You think we're more special to him than he is to you?
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  • My husband was terrified 'cause I told him everyday of his
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  • life, if I ever find out, I'mma leave you then
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  • I'mma kill you.
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  • Bam, that's what it is.
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  • (audience laughs)
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  • So this is what this man, he had in his mind, she's going
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  • to leave me and she's going to kill me 'cause that's what
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  • she's been saying since the day
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  • we got. - That's thug life,
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  • that's thug life.
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  • - But that's what I had been saying.
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  • - But how you gone leave and then kill, you gotta kill
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  • and then leave.
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  • - No, no.
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  • No, I said we gone leave and then we gone, you know.
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  • I gave him every reason not to trust me.
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  • I gave him every reason to believe that he could not be
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  • one with me.
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  • I gave him every reason to believe he couldn't be
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  • vulnerable with me.
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  • I gave him every reason to feel like he could not bare his
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  • soul and give me everything.
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  • And then I was wonder why he didn't give it to me.
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  • Well it was - My turn.
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  • - That part was a little bit, I take responsibility for that
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  • not for cheating but I take responsibility for not being
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  • help to him.
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  • For not being that safe place for him.
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  • When I stood up at the altar talkin' 'bout better or worse,
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  • richer and poorer, lyin'.
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  • When I know I meant better, rich, all good.
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  • So it was my responsibility to do what I told God I
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  • was gonna do and deal with that.
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  • - [Erica] I know a woman who wouldn't say that at the altar.
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  • I went to a wedding where the woman, they said, "For richer
  • 00:09:09.060 --> 00:09:12.080
  • "or for poor", she said, "Richer."
  • 00:09:12.080 --> 00:09:14.210
  • "In sickness and in health."
  • 00:09:14.210 --> 00:09:16.010
  • "Health."
  • 00:09:16.010 --> 00:09:16.260
  • - [Tina] That's a fool.
  • 00:09:16.260 --> 00:09:18.120
  • - That's what she said and they just laughed hahaha.
  • 00:09:18.120 --> 00:09:19.150
  • They weren't married very long.
  • 00:09:19.150 --> 00:09:22.070
  • I had a cousin to tell me, "Girl, when you get married make
  • 00:09:22.070 --> 00:09:24.220
  • "sure you live close to your mama in case he trip."
  • 00:09:24.220 --> 00:09:27.110
  • She's no longer married.
  • 00:09:27.110 --> 00:09:29.110
  • I had another cousin to tell me, "Girl, get your own money,
  • 00:09:29.110 --> 00:09:31.200
  • "put your own stuff in yourl own bank account 'cause youey,
  • 00:09:31.200 --> 00:09:31.210
  • "put your own stuff in your own bank account 'cause you
  • 00:09:32.260 --> 00:09:33.220
  • "need to have your own."
  • 00:09:33.220 --> 00:09:34.210
  • She's no longer married.
  • 00:09:37.020 --> 00:09:37.060
  • Marriage is togetherness.
  • 00:09:37.210 --> 00:09:38.290
  • And it is honesty, (audience claps)
  • 00:09:38.290 --> 00:09:41.200
  • and trust needs to be built.
  • 00:09:41.200 --> 00:09:42.290
  • Trust takes time.
  • 00:09:42.290 --> 00:09:45.030
  • It's hard
  • 00:09:45.030 --> 00:09:46.170
  • because going to church you hear who God'll forgive
  • 00:09:46.170 --> 00:09:48.290
  • all the time.
  • 00:09:48.290 --> 00:09:50.000
  • God will forgive.
  • 00:09:50.000 --> 00:09:51.170
  • God will forgive.
  • 00:09:51.170 --> 00:09:53.030
  • And I sat in church going, well I didn't do nothin'.
  • 00:09:53.030 --> 00:09:53.060
  • And I sat in church going, well I didn't do nothin'.
  • 00:09:54.070 --> 00:09:56.180
  • This message is only for him.
  • 00:09:56.180 --> 00:09:58.180
  • What about me?
  • 00:09:58.180 --> 00:09:59.160
  • My heart is broken.
  • 00:09:59.160 --> 00:10:00.190
  • My heart is broken.
  • 00:10:00.190 --> 00:10:01.030
  • She's in church, I gotta look at her a few rows up.
  • 00:10:01.220 --> 00:10:03.120
  • I wanna go fight her, Jesus.
  • 00:10:03.120 --> 00:10:06.110
  • I sat in praise and worship and I was like, I'm trying to
  • 00:10:06.110 --> 00:10:08.250
  • worship you but this ain't fair.
  • 00:10:08.250 --> 00:10:11.000
  • Now, I had told him I'mma forgive him
  • 00:10:11.000 --> 00:10:13.020
  • and I said I was fine.
  • 00:10:13.020 --> 00:10:14.190
  • And in my heart I thought I forgave her
  • 00:10:14.190 --> 00:10:17.250
  • but I didn't.
  • 00:10:17.250 --> 00:10:19.020
  • And I don't know how my eyes would find her.
  • 00:10:19.020 --> 00:10:20.260
  • The church was bigger than this.
  • 00:10:20.260 --> 00:10:22.240
  • And somehow my eyes would find her.
  • 00:10:22.240 --> 00:10:24.160
  • Every single time in service.
  • 00:10:24.160 --> 00:10:26.280
  • And I'd be like, God just let me not see her today, please
  • 00:10:28.110 --> 00:10:29.180
  • can you send her back where she came from?
  • 00:10:29.180 --> 00:10:31.130
  • Can she move away?
  • 00:10:31.130 --> 00:10:32.190
  • Give her a really great job somewhere else.
  • 00:10:32.190 --> 00:10:34.060
  • - Did you know, I could see you looking at her.
  • 00:10:34.060 --> 00:10:36.060
  • 'Cause I used to be sittin' on the organ
  • 00:10:36.060 --> 00:10:38.190
  • and I'm like, oh my god, she's looking over there, she's
  • 00:10:38.190 --> 00:10:40.090
  • looking over there.
  • 00:10:40.090 --> 00:10:41.220
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:10:41.220 --> 00:10:44.290
  • But the application of scripture.
  • 00:10:44.290 --> 00:10:48.050
  • The application.
  • 00:10:48.050 --> 00:10:49.120
  • The bless those who spitefully misuse you.
  • 00:10:49.120 --> 00:10:52.150
  • I saw my wife, I was sittin' on the organ, I saw her walk
  • 00:10:52.150 --> 00:10:55.180
  • up, get up and walk over to the woman and was
  • 00:10:55.180 --> 00:10:57.170
  • talking to her.
  • 00:10:57.170 --> 00:10:58.250
  • And I'm losing my mind going...
  • 00:11:00.120 --> 00:11:02.100
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:11:02.100 --> 00:11:03.170
  • - [Tina] (laughs) Chest tight and everything.
  • 00:11:03.170 --> 00:11:05.290
  • - After service we were driving home she said, "I went and
  • 00:11:05.290 --> 00:11:08.240
  • "told her that I'm not mad and I forgive her."
  • 00:11:08.240 --> 00:11:11.270
  • - 'Cause I knew I wasn't gone be free if I didn't do that.
  • 00:11:11.270 --> 00:11:13.280
  • - Do you know that girl moved away?
  • 00:11:13.280 --> 00:11:15.100
  • - Thank you, see what God did for me, huh?
  • 00:11:15.100 --> 00:11:17.280
  • Come on here somebody.
  • 00:11:17.280 --> 00:11:19.040
  • - [Tina] Hallelujah!
  • 00:11:19.040 --> 00:11:20.110
  • - God worked that out. - And she ain't seen
  • 00:11:20.110 --> 00:11:21.010
  • her no more.
  • 00:11:21.010 --> 00:11:22.160
  • - But before we even got the forgiveness, I wanna tell this
  • 00:11:22.160 --> 00:11:24.260
  • part of the story.
  • 00:11:24.260 --> 00:11:26.100
  • Our Bishop walked us, Bishop Olmer walked us through
  • 00:11:26.100 --> 00:11:28.010
  • the situation. - Yeah, yeah.
  • 00:11:28.010 --> 00:11:29.160
  • - He text us everyday, "You gone be alright, you gone
  • 00:11:29.160 --> 00:11:31.080
  • "make it through this.
  • 00:11:31.080 --> 00:11:32.030
  • "Are you okay?
  • 00:11:32.030 --> 00:11:32.280
  • "How you doin'?"
  • 00:11:32.280 --> 00:11:34.140
  • Made us sit down and talk with me him and the girl.
  • 00:11:34.140 --> 00:11:36.280
  • - [Pastor Freeman] Yeah.
  • 00:11:36.280 --> 00:11:38.280
  • - That was a real interesting meeting.
  • 00:11:40.030 --> 00:11:42.190
  • - [Tina] That was early in the game.
  • 00:11:42.190 --> 00:11:43.200
  • - That was early.
  • 00:11:43.200 --> 00:11:45.030
  • - Boy, that would've never worked out for Tina.
  • 00:11:45.030 --> 00:11:46.190
  • But I'm different today though.
  • 00:11:46.190 --> 00:11:48.120
  • - So we're sitting there.
  • 00:11:48.120 --> 00:11:50.050
  • Me and Warryn and she's sitting across.
  • 00:11:50.050 --> 00:11:53.130
  • Her body language is this.
  • 00:11:53.130 --> 00:11:55.210
  • So I'm already irritated.
  • 00:11:55.210 --> 00:11:57.090
  • Her body language is.
  • 00:11:57.090 --> 00:11:58.250
  • - [Tina] Oh, Lord Jesus.
  • 00:11:58.250 --> 00:12:00.240
  • - So I said, I asked, I said, why were you attracted to him?
  • 00:12:00.240 --> 00:12:03.240
  • Did you know what he did?
  • 00:12:03.240 --> 00:12:04.270
  • "I didn't know what he did."
  • 00:12:04.270 --> 00:12:07.190
  • Do you know what he did for a living?
  • 00:12:07.190 --> 00:12:09.070
  • "I didn't know what he did."
  • 00:12:09.070 --> 00:12:10.200
  • I said, baby, if he was a construction worker and drove a
  • 00:12:10.200 --> 00:12:14.000
  • raggedy truck we wouldn't be sitting here.
  • 00:12:14.000 --> 00:12:16.110
  • We're sitting here because he's a producer, he drives a nice
  • 00:12:16.110 --> 00:12:18.270
  • car and you knew who he was.
  • 00:12:18.270 --> 00:12:21.040
  • So then we keep going, we keep talking and
  • 00:12:21.040 --> 00:12:24.190
  • I asked her, I said, do you love him?
  • 00:12:25.230 --> 00:12:28.250
  • And she said, "Well I mean,
  • 00:12:29.280 --> 00:12:31.250
  • "I mean, yeah."
  • 00:12:31.250 --> 00:12:33.100
  • I said if you loved him and you believe that this was God,
  • 00:12:33.100 --> 00:12:35.210
  • why won't you say, won't you divorce your wife first
  • 00:12:35.210 --> 00:12:39.060
  • 'Cause I don't wanna.
  • 00:12:39.060 --> 00:12:40.220
  • If you feel like this is somethin' real, which, God don't
  • 00:12:40.220 --> 00:12:42.220
  • work like that,
  • 00:12:42.220 --> 00:12:44.110
  • God ain't gone give you somebody that's with somebody else
  • 00:12:44.110 --> 00:12:45.210
  • in the first place. - Amen.
  • 00:12:45.210 --> 00:12:47.070
  • - If you believe that, why didn't you say, I want it
  • 00:12:47.070 --> 00:12:49.170
  • to start right?
  • 00:12:49.170 --> 00:12:51.100
  • So let me disconnect myself from you.
  • 00:12:51.100 --> 00:12:53.280
  • - Right.
  • 00:12:53.280 --> 00:12:55.040
  • - So I don't feel this that I'm feeling.
  • 00:12:55.040 --> 00:12:58.270
  • She gave me a look that I didn't really enjoy so
  • 00:12:58.270 --> 00:13:02.220
  • I looked at my Bishop I said, I don't enjoy her body
  • 00:13:02.220 --> 00:13:04.210
  • language and she's gonna shift it or this meeting is gonna
  • 00:13:04.210 --> 00:13:07.010
  • come to an end.
  • 00:13:07.010 --> 00:13:08.080
  • But
  • 00:13:09.280 --> 00:13:10.230
  • I told her, I said, (laughs) when you wanna be with right,
  • 00:13:12.060 --> 00:13:15.270
  • for real, you'll start right.
  • 00:13:15.270 --> 00:13:18.100
  • And you won't have a attitude with somebody else.
  • 00:13:18.100 --> 00:13:21.070
  • And as I said, I had to sit there and watch her in church
  • 00:13:21.070 --> 00:13:24.250
  • and you know,
  • 00:13:24.250 --> 00:13:25.260
  • and I told him I forgive.
  • 00:13:25.260 --> 00:13:27.020
  • And we worked towards forgiveness.
  • 00:13:27.020 --> 00:13:28.110
  • We went to counseling, we went to therapy.
  • 00:13:28.110 --> 00:13:30.170
  • I was fasting and praying.
  • 00:13:30.170 --> 00:13:32.040
  • - You know for me on my side, of course, fellas you know I
  • 00:13:32.040 --> 00:13:35.260
  • was super uncomfortable in that meeting.
  • 00:13:35.260 --> 00:13:39.050
  • But one of the things before we even got there, Bishop he
  • 00:13:39.050 --> 00:13:42.180
  • says,
  • 00:13:42.180 --> 00:13:43.130
  • "We gone get through this.
  • 00:13:44.290 --> 00:13:46.170
  • "It's not a matter of if we gone get through it.
  • 00:13:46.170 --> 00:13:49.040
  • - Right, right, that's me.
  • 00:13:49.040 --> 00:13:50.200
  • - He said, "It's a matter of can you endure the squeeze."
  • 00:13:50.200 --> 00:13:54.240
  • - The squeeze?
  • 00:13:54.240 --> 00:13:55.220
  • - The squeeze. - Squeeze.
  • 00:13:55.220 --> 00:13:56.290
  • - You gone think people talkin' about you and
  • 00:13:56.290 --> 00:13:58.210
  • they probably are.
  • 00:13:58.210 --> 00:14:00.080
  • Gone think people lookin' at you and they probably are.
  • 00:14:01.210 --> 00:14:03.090
  • You gone have to go through it, you got to
  • 00:14:03.090 --> 00:14:05.160
  • endure the squeeze.
  • 00:14:05.160 --> 00:14:06.160
  • You just gotta go through.
  • 00:14:06.160 --> 00:14:07.280
  • And I said, you know what?
  • 00:14:07.280 --> 00:14:09.050
  • I love her so much, my wife is my friend.
  • 00:14:09.050 --> 00:14:11.280
  • Because she could've just left.
  • 00:14:11.280 --> 00:14:13.120
  • When I told her, she told me, she said, "I'm super mad,
  • 00:14:13.120 --> 00:14:15.150
  • "I'm really mad but I'm not leaving."
  • 00:14:15.150 --> 00:14:16.220
  • That was the first thing she said.
  • 00:14:16.220 --> 00:14:17.270
  • - [Tina] Woo, that's cold blooded.
  • 00:14:17.270 --> 00:14:20.100
  • - [Pastor Freeman] Right.
  • 00:14:20.100 --> 00:14:21.240
  • - Hello.
  • 00:14:21.240 --> 00:14:23.070
  • - [Tina] That ain't the first thing I said.
  • 00:14:23.070 --> 00:14:26.250
  • - Sometime I feel like I'm too saved.
  • 00:14:28.080 --> 00:14:30.100
  • Like can I be real real honest?
  • 00:14:30.100 --> 00:14:31.200
  • - Is there such thing as too saved?
  • 00:14:31.200 --> 00:14:33.050
  • - No. - No, no.
  • 00:14:33.050 --> 00:14:34.150
  • Be too saved, be real saved. - Be too saved.
  • 00:14:34.150 --> 00:14:35.210
  • - Because listen, you grow up in church.
  • 00:14:35.210 --> 00:14:38.200
  • I grew up in a church, a COGIC church where they told me if
  • 00:14:38.200 --> 00:14:42.000
  • you live right, and you do this, and you don't do nobody
  • 00:14:42.000 --> 00:14:44.160
  • wrong this is what you get.
  • 00:14:44.160 --> 00:14:46.180
  • - Absolutely. - God's gone give you
  • 00:14:46.180 --> 00:14:47.250
  • a godly man, y'all gone be blessed.
  • 00:14:47.250 --> 00:14:49.180
  • So you live right, you get married and you get your heart
  • 00:14:49.180 --> 00:14:51.210
  • broke and I was mad.
  • 00:14:51.210 --> 00:14:53.260
  • I said, y'all lied to me.
  • 00:14:53.260 --> 00:14:55.100
  • I went to my mother and I said, Mama, why didn't you tell
  • 00:14:55.100 --> 00:14:57.050
  • me the truth?
  • 00:14:57.050 --> 00:14:58.030
  • - [Pastor Freeman] Right.
  • 00:14:58.030 --> 00:14:59.110
  • - Why didn't you tell me their potential to
  • 00:14:59.110 --> 00:15:00.070
  • break your heart?
  • 00:15:00.070 --> 00:15:01.210
  • Why did you not tell us that that stuff was going on
  • 00:15:01.210 --> 00:15:03.070
  • in your marriage?
  • 00:15:03.070 --> 00:15:04.130
  • She said, "'Cause baby, you were too young.
  • 00:15:04.130 --> 00:15:05.070
  • "You couldn't handle it.
  • 00:15:05.070 --> 00:15:06.180
  • "I had to let you grow into that.
  • 00:15:06.180 --> 00:15:09.030
  • "But if I'm teaching you Jesus and I'm teaching you
  • 00:15:09.030 --> 00:15:10.290
  • "forgiveness and I'm teaching you grace and I'm teaching
  • 00:15:10.290 --> 00:15:13.220
  • "you love, when you get to your struggles you're not
  • 00:15:13.220 --> 00:15:15.110
  • "Gonna forget that."
  • 00:15:15.110 --> 00:15:16.260
  • "Train up a child in a way he should go and when he is old
  • 00:15:16.260 --> 00:15:19.140
  • "he will not depart." - Come on.
  • 00:15:19.140 --> 00:15:20.280
  • - That mean, the part that was left out, when he is young
  • 00:15:20.280 --> 00:15:22.210
  • he gone act a fool.
  • 00:15:22.210 --> 00:15:24.050
  • - Absolutely.
  • 00:15:24.050 --> 00:15:25.140
  • - It says when he's old he won't depart.
  • 00:15:25.140 --> 00:15:27.000
  • So in my younger time I was irrational and I was angry and
  • 00:15:27.000 --> 00:15:30.070
  • I'm a kinda laid back person, I could be real pissed at you
  • 00:15:30.070 --> 00:15:33.030
  • and still smile at you.
  • 00:15:33.030 --> 00:15:34.250
  • I can not like you and still cook dinner for you.
  • 00:15:34.250 --> 00:15:37.210
  • I think my husband thought I was gone kill him.
  • 00:15:37.210 --> 00:15:39.130
  • You need anything?
  • 00:15:39.130 --> 00:15:40.080
  • Are you thirsty?
  • 00:15:40.080 --> 00:15:41.040
  • And he would go, "No."
  • 00:15:41.040 --> 00:15:43.080
  • - No, I'll go,
  • 00:15:43.080 --> 00:15:44.170
  • I'mma go to McDonald's tonight.
  • 00:15:44.170 --> 00:15:46.020
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:15:46.020 --> 00:15:48.260
  • - I was still cooking and I was still, but I was
  • 00:15:50.080 --> 00:15:52.070
  • hurt and angry.
  • 00:15:52.070 --> 00:15:54.000
  • And I was so conflicted 'cause I was like, I know I'm
  • 00:15:54.000 --> 00:15:55.220
  • supposed to be doing this. - I'm sorry.
  • 00:15:55.220 --> 00:15:57.030
  • I'm sorry.
  • 00:15:57.030 --> 00:15:58.180
  • - I forgive you.
  • 00:15:58.180 --> 00:16:00.040
  • - How you still feel the need to apologize everyday too.
  • 00:16:00.040 --> 00:16:02.020
  • And I'm free, yes but I'm sorry.
  • 00:16:02.020 --> 00:16:04.220
  • - I forgive you, husband.
  • 00:16:06.170 --> 00:16:08.010
  • But I know a lot of women will, after tonight somebody gone
  • 00:16:08.010 --> 00:16:10.220
  • confess somethin' and you're gonna have to walk through it
  • 00:16:10.220 --> 00:16:13.040
  • and I want you to take your time.
  • 00:16:13.040 --> 00:16:14.220
  • And I've had a lot of friends be like, "You know what?
  • 00:16:14.220 --> 00:16:16.290
  • "I just can't do this, I'm leaving."
  • 00:16:16.290 --> 00:16:18.120
  • And you don't really wanna leave 'cause you really love 'em
  • 00:16:18.120 --> 00:16:20.050
  • you just mad and you hurt.
  • 00:16:20.050 --> 00:16:21.220
  • But you have to surrender that to Jesus.
  • 00:16:21.220 --> 00:16:23.200
  • I'm sorry. - And what I want them to be
  • 00:16:23.200 --> 00:16:25.220
  • cautious and careful of
  • 00:16:25.220 --> 00:16:28.130
  • because you just talked about
  • 00:16:28.130 --> 00:16:31.120
  • your mama preventing certain things to get to you
  • 00:16:31.120 --> 00:16:36.080
  • because of where you happen to be.
  • 00:16:36.080 --> 00:16:39.030
  • That's every parent's responsibility.
  • 00:16:40.070 --> 00:16:42.110
  • - [Erica] My mom never told us the stuff my dad did.
  • 00:16:42.110 --> 00:16:44.280
  • I didn't find out 'til I was grown and old.
  • 00:16:44.280 --> 00:16:47.040
  • She said, "I didn't wanna damage y'all.
  • 00:16:47.040 --> 00:16:49.040
  • "She said, I'm not gone scandalize this man's name."
  • 00:16:49.040 --> 00:16:51.110
  • - So dig this.
  • 00:16:51.110 --> 00:16:52.140
  • As your spiritual parent,
  • 00:16:52.140 --> 00:16:54.160
  • some of y'all quite frankly aren't in the position.
  • 00:16:57.060 --> 00:17:00.290
  • You hear what they have done
  • 00:17:00.290 --> 00:17:03.050
  • but they got years
  • 00:17:03.050 --> 00:17:05.020
  • of ministry established in them.
  • 00:17:05.020 --> 00:17:07.200
  • And you run home
  • 00:17:07.200 --> 00:17:09.090
  • and run your mouth
  • 00:17:09.090 --> 00:17:11.020
  • without inquiring of God first.
  • 00:17:11.020 --> 00:17:14.150
  • - Talkin' right.
  • 00:17:14.150 --> 00:17:15.200
  • - No, I'm just trying to help you.
  • 00:17:15.200 --> 00:17:18.000
  • - [Teddy] First thing you have to talk to the Holy Ghost.
  • 00:17:18.000 --> 00:17:21.060
  • - That was perfect, Teddy.
  • 00:17:21.060 --> 00:17:24.000
  • The strength piece you're going to need.
  • 00:17:24.000 --> 00:17:26.270
  • But more than even strength, you gone need wisdom.
  • 00:17:26.270 --> 00:17:29.170
  • - [Tina] Yes, you are.
  • 00:17:29.170 --> 00:17:31.190
  • - And you considering all of this
  • 00:17:31.190 --> 00:17:34.090
  • and
  • 00:17:34.090 --> 00:17:35.040
  • you really don't have to.
  • 00:17:36.160 --> 00:17:38.190
  • Their position on it
  • 00:17:41.060 --> 00:17:42.260
  • is quite clear.
  • 00:17:43.260 --> 00:17:45.030
  • And that's what you get in the multitude of counsel.
  • 00:17:46.180 --> 00:17:49.240
  • Safety.
  • 00:17:49.240 --> 00:17:51.090
  • They got an angle, I have an angle about this because,
  • 00:17:51.090 --> 00:17:54.290
  • there are certain things Dee Dee could've just
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  • kept to herself.
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  • It was her.
  • 00:18:01.050 --> 00:18:02.150
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:18:02.150 --> 00:18:04.200
  • - [Dee Dee] I tell it, I tell it, I tell it.
  • 00:18:04.200 --> 00:18:06.070
  • - Yeah, she tells it all.
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  • But you can take your stuff
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  • straight to God
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  • and God will heal you right where you are.
  • 00:18:14.120 --> 00:18:17.270
  • "If any man be in Christ,"
  • 00:18:18.290 --> 00:18:21.270
  • I'm talkin' 'bout in Christ and this is perpetual.
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  • This ain't no one time shot.
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  • Any man be in Christ, Christ the anointing
  • 00:18:28.050 --> 00:18:31.160
  • and the anointed one.
  • 00:18:31.160 --> 00:18:33.090
  • "Old things are past away."
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  • And you walk away from it.
  • 00:18:38.010 --> 00:18:39.190
  • Now, if it's perpetual,
  • 00:18:39.190 --> 00:18:41.130
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:18:41.130 --> 00:18:42.110
  • - It's gone come out anyways.
  • 00:18:42.110 --> 00:18:44.210
  • And it won't be God exposing you because Satan.
  • 00:18:47.030 --> 00:18:50.210
  • God wants to cover you.
  • 00:18:50.210 --> 00:18:51.240
  • He said his love covers
  • 00:18:51.240 --> 00:18:53.210
  • a multitude of sin.
  • 00:18:55.040 --> 00:18:56.210
  • And so
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  • don't get in that car (cries) Dee Dee.
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  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:19:05.240 --> 00:19:08.190
  • (cries) - It ain't wisdom.
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  • - (cries) I gotta tell you somethin'.
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  • (audience laughs)
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  • They had their Bishop with them.
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  • - [Warryn] And my father.
  • 00:19:27.100 --> 00:19:28.110
  • - And their father.
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  • They had wise counsel that guided some things through.
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  • You just hold
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  • your horses hoss.
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  • Slow down, son.
  • 00:19:37.010 --> 00:19:38.090
  • Son, slow down. - Telling you, the
  • 00:19:39.140 --> 00:19:40.290
  • Holy Spirit will not allow you to do something irrational.
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  • And that's the thing that people have to understand.
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  • Especially with us as believers.
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  • Man, I was a, about a year ago.
  • 00:19:48.230 --> 00:19:51.250
  • I was like, I'mma preach a sermon.
  • 00:19:51.250 --> 00:19:53.100
  • I wasn't even preachin', I just was
  • 00:19:53.100 --> 00:19:54.180
  • so on fire. - No you do.
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  • You got something up on you.
  • 00:19:55.170 --> 00:19:57.020
  • No, no let me just say. - I was like, I'mma preach
  • 00:19:57.020 --> 00:19:58.080
  • a sermon. - Let me just interrupt that.
  • 00:19:58.080 --> 00:19:59.220
  • 'Cause you got somethin' up on you.
  • 00:19:59.220 --> 00:20:01.020
  • I'm sittin' here and I'm listenin' to this
  • 00:20:01.020 --> 00:20:03.020
  • out of your mouth and
  • 00:20:03.020 --> 00:20:04.250
  • a lot
  • 00:20:06.210 --> 00:20:07.190
  • of stuff on Teddy, quite frankly
  • 00:20:07.190 --> 00:20:11.010
  • could literally
  • 00:20:11.010 --> 00:20:12.080
  • come out of disobedience to your assignment.
  • 00:20:14.150 --> 00:20:18.050
  • I'm hearing from you
  • 00:20:21.170 --> 00:20:23.150
  • and I'm wondering first, who is the drum major
  • 00:20:23.150 --> 00:20:27.180
  • in this parade that y'all got?
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  • Parade not meaning anything negative.
  • 00:20:30.120 --> 00:20:33.230
  • Is Tina the one behind pushing this?
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  • Are you fully on board?
  • 00:20:36.160 --> 00:20:38.100
  • Are you out front with this message as well?
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  • You follow what I'm saying?
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  • 'Cause it's powerful and it's dynamic in many ways and God
  • 00:20:44.100 --> 00:20:47.260
  • can take this thing places
  • 00:20:47.260 --> 00:20:49.240
  • - Absolutely. - And literally
  • 00:20:49.240 --> 00:20:51.180
  • cause you
  • 00:20:51.180 --> 00:20:52.130
  • to shake your
  • 00:20:53.120 --> 00:20:54.290
  • I mean lose
  • 00:20:54.290 --> 00:20:56.090
  • your freakin',
  • 00:20:56.090 --> 00:20:57.220
  • can you say freakin' in church?
  • 00:20:57.220 --> 00:20:59.010
  • - [Tina] Sure.
  • 00:20:59.010 --> 00:20:59.290
  • - [Erica] It's your church.
  • 00:20:59.290 --> 00:21:00.230
  • - Yeah, yeah.
  • 00:21:00.230 --> 00:21:02.130
  • You can be in the place where you,
  • 00:21:02.130 --> 00:21:04.200
  • Eye
  • 00:21:04.200 --> 00:21:05.250
  • have not seen nor ear heard.
  • 00:21:05.250 --> 00:21:08.140
  • Neither has it entered into the heart of man the things that
  • 00:21:08.140 --> 00:21:12.020
  • God
  • 00:21:12.020 --> 00:21:12.270
  • has
  • 00:21:12.270 --> 00:21:13.220
  • in store for you.
  • 00:21:13.220 --> 00:21:14.250
  • But
  • 00:21:14.250 --> 00:21:16.020
  • he will reveal those things by his spirit.
  • 00:21:16.020 --> 00:21:19.140
  • Now, obedience is the covenant connector in
  • 00:21:19.140 --> 00:21:22.280
  • establishing assignments for you.
  • 00:21:22.280 --> 00:21:25.250
  • And I'm sitting here listening I'm saying, Lord this man
  • 00:21:25.250 --> 00:21:28.210
  • got something on him.
  • 00:21:28.210 --> 00:21:30.050
  • - Yes, sir. - Got a lot on him.
  • 00:21:30.050 --> 00:21:33.010
  • - That's just sidebar.
  • 00:21:33.010 --> 00:21:34.170
  • - [Tina] He walks in it.
  • 00:21:34.170 --> 00:21:35.170
  • - Yeah and it's obvious.
  • 00:21:35.170 --> 00:21:36.290
  • It's clear.
  • 00:21:36.290 --> 00:21:38.140
  • Because people can look at you and say stuff like,
  • 00:21:38.140 --> 00:21:41.250
  • well this what he gotta do
  • 00:21:41.250 --> 00:21:43.230
  • 'cause he busted. - Right, right, right.
  • 00:21:43.230 --> 00:21:46.240
  • - He busted, now he going along so
  • 00:21:46.240 --> 00:21:49.270
  • he don't mess up nothing.
  • 00:21:49.270 --> 00:21:51.160
  • - [Dee Dee] And then water down your testimony.
  • 00:21:51.160 --> 00:21:52.220
  • - [Tina] That's not it.
  • 00:21:52.220 --> 00:21:53.290
  • - I know, I know. - We know that.
  • 00:21:53.290 --> 00:21:55.130
  • - I know that.
  • 00:21:55.130 --> 00:21:56.270
  • And then at the same time, Tina addressed this like, because
  • 00:21:56.270 --> 00:22:00.250
  • do you go through
  • 00:22:00.250 --> 00:22:03.010
  • inadequacy that period of
  • 00:22:03.010 --> 00:22:05.040
  • was I less than? - Absolutely.
  • 00:22:07.040 --> 00:22:08.120
  • - 'Cause you lookin' at Erica talkin' 'bout, "I
  • 00:22:08.120 --> 00:22:10.190
  • "Know I'm fine."
  • 00:22:10.190 --> 00:22:12.050
  • - The devil torments you with all of that and I said, oh let
  • 00:22:12.050 --> 00:22:14.190
  • me tell you, 'cause I was cocky, ignorant.
  • 00:22:14.190 --> 00:22:16.190
  • Anybody that's arrogant is insecure.
  • 00:22:16.190 --> 00:22:19.010
  • Anybody who's cocky is insecure.
  • 00:22:19.010 --> 00:22:20.200
  • Confidence is quiet.
  • 00:22:20.200 --> 00:22:21.250
  • Insecurity is loud.
  • 00:22:21.250 --> 00:22:23.220
  • - [Erica] Say it again, say it again, you went too fast.
  • 00:22:23.220 --> 00:22:26.040
  • - Listen,
  • 00:22:26.040 --> 00:22:27.180
  • And I know I talk a lot so sometimes I be like, you talkin'
  • 00:22:27.180 --> 00:22:29.140
  • 'bout you but I'm a talker.
  • 00:22:29.140 --> 00:22:31.050
  • I just talk in the room with the bugs, I'm a talker, it's
  • 00:22:31.050 --> 00:22:34.060
  • what I do.
  • 00:22:34.060 --> 00:22:35.130
  • - [Erica] She don't need no help.
  • 00:22:35.130 --> 00:22:36.260
  • - I do, I just.
  • 00:22:36.260 --> 00:22:38.050
  • I don't know.
  • 00:22:38.050 --> 00:22:39.070
  • But confidence don't come and say, hey I'm confident, I'm
  • 00:22:40.200 --> 00:22:43.240
  • rich, I'm intelligent.
  • 00:22:43.240 --> 00:22:45.150
  • It just is.
  • 00:22:45.150 --> 00:22:46.130
  • Jesus is.
  • 00:22:46.130 --> 00:22:47.270
  • That's why he didn't have a marketing team that
  • 00:22:47.270 --> 00:22:48.260
  • went before him.
  • 00:22:48.260 --> 00:22:49.260
  • He is.
  • 00:22:49.260 --> 00:22:51.040
  • When I show up you know that I am because I am.
  • 00:22:51.040 --> 00:22:53.090
  • When you are confident you don't have to go sell it, you
  • 00:22:53.090 --> 00:22:53.180
  • When you are confident you don't have to go sell it, you
  • 00:22:54.150 --> 00:22:55.240
  • don't have to market it.
  • 00:22:55.240 --> 00:22:57.090
  • You don't have to go in the room, hey, the light just came
  • 00:22:57.090 --> 00:22:58.130
  • in 'cause I'm a Christian.
  • 00:22:58.130 --> 00:22:59.210
  • If you a Christian just be the light, the light
  • 00:22:59.210 --> 00:23:00.220
  • always dispels darkness.
  • 00:23:00.220 --> 00:23:01.290
  • (audience claps)
  • 00:23:01.290 --> 00:23:02.030
  • (audience claps)
  • 00:23:02.120 --> 00:23:05.070
  • - [Pastor Freeman] We should take this on the road.
  • 00:23:05.070 --> 00:23:07.040
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:23:07.040 --> 00:23:08.220
  • - [Erica] I'm in.
  • 00:23:08.220 --> 00:23:10.050
  • - I love this.
  • 00:23:11.170 --> 00:23:13.090
  • But when you have insecurity,
  • 00:23:13.090 --> 00:23:16.010
  • now I done been talkin' so much I lost my train, what were
  • 00:23:16.010 --> 00:23:17.260
  • we start, what was my?
  • 00:23:17.260 --> 00:23:19.020
  • - And insecurity. - Insecurity.
  • 00:23:19.020 --> 00:23:21.030
  • - Insecurity is, exactly.
  • 00:23:21.030 --> 00:23:22.210
  • So when you're insecure...
  • 00:23:22.210 --> 00:23:23.210
  • Say it again, Warryn.
  • 00:23:23.210 --> 00:23:24.190
  • - [Erica] Insecurity is loud.
  • 00:23:24.190 --> 00:23:25.270
  • Confidence is quiet. - Insecurity is and
  • 00:23:25.270 --> 00:23:26.210
  • confidence is quiet.
  • 00:23:26.210 --> 00:23:28.070
  • - You're just talking about... - Write that down, tweet that.
  • 00:23:28.070 --> 00:23:30.240
  • - It is. - He runnin', he
  • 00:23:30.240 --> 00:23:31.260
  • doing his thing.
  • 00:23:31.260 --> 00:23:33.100
  • - So I came and I used to have a attitude, that's right,
  • 00:23:33.100 --> 00:23:36.110
  • I used to have a attitude like, Google me.
  • 00:23:36.110 --> 00:23:38.100
  • Do you understand who I am?
  • 00:23:38.100 --> 00:23:39.220
  • Do you understand who I could get?
  • 00:23:39.220 --> 00:23:41.050
  • I'd just stand up and pause and be like bam, look
  • 00:23:41.050 --> 00:23:43.150
  • at that, what?
  • 00:23:43.150 --> 00:23:44.200
  • They can't touch me.
  • 00:23:44.200 --> 00:23:45.230
  • All of that was insecurity.
  • 00:23:45.230 --> 00:23:47.210
  • 'Cause I always saw everybody was cute that came in the
  • 00:23:47.210 --> 00:23:49.290
  • room, I always saw 'em before he saw 'em.
  • 00:23:49.290 --> 00:23:51.280
  • So what I want him to do, be blind?
  • 00:23:51.280 --> 00:23:53.140
  • He ain't gotta follow him but he saw 'em, I saw 'em.
  • 00:23:53.140 --> 00:23:55.110
  • I saw her butt, the girl is bad.
  • 00:23:55.110 --> 00:23:57.090
  • I saw her, she's amazing.
  • 00:23:57.090 --> 00:23:58.230
  • He's not supposed to see it?
  • 00:23:58.230 --> 00:24:00.020
  • Now I'm insecure because he saw it?
  • 00:24:00.020 --> 00:24:01.220
  • Not because he followed it because he saw it.
  • 00:24:01.220 --> 00:24:03.140
  • I was terribly, terribly insecure so when this happened it
  • 00:24:03.140 --> 00:24:06.020
  • was just magnified.
  • 00:24:06.020 --> 00:24:07.250
  • I was like,
  • 00:24:07.250 --> 00:24:08.210
  • I ain't nothin'.
  • 00:24:08.210 --> 00:24:10.140
  • I'm not smart, I don't have discernment,
  • 00:24:10.140 --> 00:24:13.280
  • I'm just, I'm not anything.
  • 00:24:13.280 --> 00:24:15.150
  • He didn't just cheat on me with one person, he cheated on me
  • 00:24:15.200 --> 00:24:17.150
  • with everybody in the whole world.
  • 00:24:17.150 --> 00:24:18.280
  • - [Erica] You asked why didn't I know.
  • 00:24:18.280 --> 00:24:20.020
  • Why didn't I see it.
  • 00:24:20.020 --> 00:24:21.030
  • - I was like, why didn't I.
  • 00:24:21.030 --> 00:24:22.210
  • I've talked about these women and I just got
  • 00:24:22.210 --> 00:24:23.280
  • played like them.
  • 00:24:23.280 --> 00:24:25.130
  • I'm these dumb basketball chicks, I'm like one of 'em.
  • 00:24:25.130 --> 00:24:27.110
  • All of these things was rippin' me.
  • 00:24:27.110 --> 00:24:30.200
  • Uh-oh, sorry.
  • 00:24:30.200 --> 00:24:31.180
  • - The dumb basketball chicks.
  • 00:24:31.180 --> 00:24:32.240
  • - I'm sorry.
  • 00:24:32.240 --> 00:24:33.190
  • God bless y'all women.
  • 00:24:33.190 --> 00:24:35.040
  • That's what I felt, you know what I'm saying?
  • 00:24:35.040 --> 00:24:36.170
  • I repented, I was judgin' y'all, my bad but that's what I
  • 00:24:36.170 --> 00:24:37.170
  • felt so I said it.
  • 00:24:38.130 --> 00:24:39.210
  • - [Dee Dee] They not here, they not here.
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  • - I sure hope that Bishop T.D. Jakes doesn't mind me
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  • using a page out of his book, and tell you
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  • to get ready, get ready, get ready,
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  • because God's Glamorous Girls, GGG, is coming in July,
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  • July 11th, at the Baltimore Convention Center.
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  • My wife is preparing for you ladies all over the world.
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  • Ya gotta be there.
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  • One of the most exciting woman's conferences
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  • in this entire world.
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  • It's gonna bless your life.
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  • In addition, men, hear me, hear me good,
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  • I'm meeting with all of the men
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  • while the ladies are doing their thing.
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  • I want to share with you, all of the pastors,
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  • come along with your wife.
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  • You didn't think there was anything for you,
  • 00:25:49.150 --> 00:25:52.080
  • but there're some things that I am feverishly
  • 00:25:52.080 --> 00:25:56.040
  • planning at this particular time
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  • to make sure I can speak to you.
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  • It's a very laid back setting.
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  • You won't have to dress up or be
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  • prepared as we would for conferences.
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  • I just want to sit there with you,
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  • share some things that I've learned over the years,
  • 00:26:10.210 --> 00:26:13.240
  • to cause your ministry to have
  • 00:26:13.240 --> 00:26:15.200
  • the excitement that we have here at
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  • Spirit of Faith Christian Center.
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  • But GGG, you won't want to miss it, I promise you.
  • 00:26:19.250 --> 00:26:23.070
  • Don't be like one of those who were saying after the fact,
  • 00:26:23.070 --> 00:26:26.290
  • "Man, I knew I should have been there."
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  • Be there.
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  • (dramatic tone)
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  • (dramatic music)
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  • (cheering)
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  • (dramatic music)
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  • - [Narrator] Coming to the Baltimore Convention Center,
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  • July 11th through the 13th,
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  • The Fellowship presents Pink Rain,
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  • a God's Glamorous Girls production.
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  • Featuring DeeDee Freeman,
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  • Shun Strickland, R.A. Vernon,
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  • Brelyn Bowman, RealTalk Kim, Sheryl Brady,
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  • with performances by MaryMary.
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  • I get it
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  • Go get it, go get it, go get it
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  • I'm good
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  • Good enough to love myself
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  • So good
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  • Jesus said yes
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  • Nobody can say no
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  • Curses ain't broken
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  • Still trying to hold me down
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