The Principle of Intimacy
July 23, 2020
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Pastor Robert warns us against adultery in body; soul; and spirit.
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The Principle of Intimacy
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- ROBERT MORRIS: And I'm going totell you something that might
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- even shock you.
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- God actually designed youto live a fantasy with a person,
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- your spouse.
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- ♪ ♪
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- ROBERT: We're in a seriescalled, "Relationship Through
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- God's Top Ten."
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- And so, we're on the seventhcommandment,
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- and I'm calling it "ThePrinciple of Intimacy".
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- I believe this tells us howto have intimacy with God
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- and with each other, andespecially in marriage,
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- because of whatit refers to.
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- So we're on the seventhcommandment,
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- and it's Exodus 20:14, "Youshall not commit adultery."
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- Five simple words, "Youshall not commit adultery."
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- I want to share with youthree ways that people
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- commit adultery, notjust one, but three ways.
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- And if you remember, we'rethree parts, body, soul,
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- and spirit, so that's actuallygoing to be my three points,
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- is we're going to talk aboutyour body, your soul,
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- and then your spirit, and manypeople don't realize
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- that it could affect yourspirit, but I'm going to show
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- you in Scripture how itcan, all right?
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- So, number one is the body.
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- Now, you can commitadultery in your body.
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- This seems self-explanatory,but I want to show it to you
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- in Scripture, all right?
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- 1 Corinthians 6:18, "Fleesexual immorality."
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- Flee, run from it.
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- "Every", noticethe word every.
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- "Every sin that a man doesis outside the body,
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- but he who commits sexualimmorality sins against
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- his own body.
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- Or do you not know that yourbody" it didn't say soul
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- or spirit here.
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- "Your body is the temple ofthe Holy Spirit, who is in you,
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- whom you have from God,and you are not your own?
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- For you were bought at aprice, therefore glorify
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- God in your body andin your spirit."
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- It doesn't saythe Holy Spirit.
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- "In your spirit", so again,I'm going to say how this
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- affects your spirit as well,because it's talking about
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- sexual immorality,"which are God's."
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- So first of all,did God create sex?
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- He did.
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- We didn't mutate from somegob of gloop somewhere.
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- Or goop or glob, I don'tknow how you say it,
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- but we didn't mutate fromsomething, God created us.
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- So I'm going to surprise youa little bit, all right?
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- God actually formedyour sexual parts.
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- You'd better be carefulabout the Amens today.
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- It might throw meoff a little bit.
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- [Laughter]
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- Amen?
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- Okay.
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- I knew this was goingto be a tough message!
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- All right, so.
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- So, God formed your sexualparts, and listen,
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- God formed you to have pleasure.
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- That was His idea.
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- But, did it go awry on Him?
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- In other words, did thesexual urges become a little
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- more than what Hethought they would?
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- Did He do too goodof a job, you know?
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- Was this not in the plan, or didHe actually form -- listen.
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- God formed male andfemale to fit together.
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- He designed that.
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- That didn't just happen.
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- God formed male and femaleto fit perfectly,
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- and He formed it for you toenjoy yourself,
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- and have pleasure and intimacy.
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- But we don't thinkof it in a good way.
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- We only think ofit in a bad way.
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- I remember attending apastor's conference one time,
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- and this pastor, hepreached a message
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- on this to other pastors.
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- And what he was trying to dowas say enjoy your sex life
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- with your spouse, so thatyou're not tempted
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- to go do something else.
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- It was a great message forpastors, because there's almost
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- a feeling in the church that youhave to be a prude
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- if you're going to serve God,and yet I'm trying to tell you
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- that God actually created you tohave fun, in marriage.
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- Here's the reason I'm sayingthis, is because we think,
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- well, a pastor, he couldn'tunderstand this, but I can.
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- But, let me tell you someoneelse we think,
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- you just couldn't understandthis, Jesus.
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- We think, Lord, you don'tunderstand how strong
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- this urge is.
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- Well, let me explaintwo things to you.
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- Number one, He created it.
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- He designed it to work.
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- Number two, He was a human.
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- He became a human.
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- He lived through puberty.
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- He lived through teenageyears, through His 20s,
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- and into His 30s, andHe did it pure.
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- And don't ever, don't everbelieve -- there's a humongous
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- lie that neither Scripture norany historical document
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- would support that there wassomething between
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- Him and Mary Magdalene.
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- And all history reports andall evidence shows
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- Mary Magdalene was olderthan His mother.
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- But first of all,He never,
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- it never would have happened.
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- It makes me mad that someoneeven suggests something
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- like that about our Lord.
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- But, He understands.
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- So you can commit adulteryin your body,
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- but God designed you to havefull pleasure in marriage.
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- So you can also commitadultery, is number two,
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- in your soul, in your soul.
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- Proverbs 6:32 says, "Whoevercommits adultery
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- with a woman lacksunderstanding.
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- He who does so", watch,"destroys his own soul."
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- Destroys his soul.
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- Now this word, destroy, I'mputting the definition up
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- so you can see it,from the Hebrew.
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- It means corrupts.
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- He corrupts his soul.
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- He ruins it, spoils it,injures it, wastes, batters,
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- and rots.
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- The soul begins to rot.
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- It's ruined.
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- Now, I understand God canredeem, but if any of you
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- had a mistake in this area,you understand how much you
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- spoiled your lifein this area.
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- I understand that.
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- The soul is made up of themind, will, and emotions.
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- Mind, will, emotions, howyou think about things,
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- how you feel about things, andthen, the decisions you make.
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- Now, listen to me carefully.
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- You can commit adulteryin your mind,
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- and you can commit adulteryin your emotions.
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- You can have a wrongrelationship in your mind
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- with someone, and you canhave a wrong relationship
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- in your emotions with someone.
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- And Jesus backs this up, andit's all through Scripture,
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- that adultery, any thoughtor feeling toward another person
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- that is inappropriateoutside of marriage, is wrong.
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- You can do this as you'remarried,
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- you can do this before you'remarried.
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- Song of Solomon 3:5, "Donot stir up nor awaken love
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- until it pleases."
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- Until it's time that it'spleasurable to God,
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- and it will be pleasurableto you in marriage.
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- Let me show you a word thatmaybe you never thought of.
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- I love words, and I love tolook at the root, and I can see
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- the root of most wordsjust by looking at them.
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- But let me show you this,and you might get ahead
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- of me on this, butthe word fantastic.
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- Fantastic is appearing as ifconceived
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- by an unrestrained imagination.
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- I want you to noticethe word unrestrained.
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- And, maybe you didn'trealize this,
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- but here's the root of thisword.
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- Are you ready?
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- Fantasy.
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- Imagination, especiallywhen extravagant
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- and unrestrained.
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- See, the unrestrained partis what I'm concerned about.
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- And I'm going to tell yousomething that might
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- even shock you.
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- God actually designed youto live a fantasy with a person,
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- your spouse.
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- For you to say what wehave is like a fantasy.
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- It's fantastic.
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- This is why I'm saying this isthe principle of intimacy.
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- I'll keep takingyou back to this.
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- You can't imagine theintimacy that you can experience
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- with one personwhen you keep the Lord
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- in that relationship.
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- It's phenomenal.
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- So, affairs start in the soul,before they ever get
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- to the body.
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- Let me show youwhat precedes lust.
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- See, lust precedes adultery.
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- Let me show youwhat precedes lust.
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- Look.
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- "You have heard it said of old,you shall not commit adultery,
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- but I say to youthat whoever looks --
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- whoever looks at a woman tolust has already
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- committed adultery."
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- So, lust precedes adultery,but let me tell you,
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- this is such a simple thing.
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- Looking precedes lust.
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- You cannot imagine how manytimes I'm driving down
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- the street and there is anathletic woman jogging,
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- and I'm not going to look,because I know
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- what that leads to.
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- I'm just going tolook the other way.
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- I've had to trainmyself to do this.
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- Potiphar's wife, the Bible says,cast longing eyes on Joseph.
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- She looked beforeshe lusted.
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- David saw Bathshebafrom his balcony.
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- He looked, and that stirredup lust, which caused adultery.
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- Job 31:1, "I've made acovenant with my eyes",
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- and I've literallysaid and done this.
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- I've done this personally.
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- "I've made a covenantwith my eyes.
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- Why then should I lookupon a young woman?"
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- You have to make a covenant.
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- When I was a young man, andGod began dealing with me
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- about this, I heard PastorOlen share something
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- like this that he did.
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- And so, I said to Debbie, Isaid, I need to talk to you
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- about something.
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- So she said, okay.
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- I said, I have aproblem looking.
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- You know what she said?
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- You think?
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- You might think you'rebeing sly, sir,
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- but it's noticeable.
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- So I said, well, Idon't want to do it.
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- So I said, if you see melooking, I said,
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- I want you to confront meand pray for me.
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- Confront me and pray for me.
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- Now, here's the problem.
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- I didn't definehow to confront me.
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- [Laughter]
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- So a few months later, wewere on vacation
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- and we were seated at the pool,
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- which is like being seated at abar for an alcoholic,
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- you know?
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- It's just, you know, apool's not a good place
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- if you've ever had aproblem in this area.
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- So you know, we're readingmagazines and I'm looking
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- over the top ofthe magazine.
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- And this girl walks by,and I made a mistake.
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- Men, you know, when you'vegot sunglasses on,
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- you can move your eyes,don't move your head.
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- Because thenthey know, okay?
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- So, I followedher like this.
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- All of a sudden, I feltthis excruciating pain!
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- Debbie reached over andstarted pinching me.
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- This, by the way, is theeleventh commandment,
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- thou shalt not pinch thy husbandon the back of his arm!
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- She started pinching righthere, and she said,
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- do I need to pray for you?
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- [Applause]
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- So, adultery can happenin the body,
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- but it can also happenin the soul.
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- But I'm concerned, becausehere's point number three,
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- the spirit.
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- Something happens in thespirit that most of you
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- do not realize withadultery, most of you, most.
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- Genesis 2:24, when marriagebegan, says, "Therefore a man
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- shall leave his fatherand mother and be joined
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- to his wife, and they shallbecome one flesh."
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- Now, I want you to noticea couple of things very
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- important here.
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- Flesh, so one body.
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- "They shall be joined", I'mtelling you again,
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- God created the male and femaleparts to fit together.
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- They'll be joined together.
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- They become oneflesh, it says.
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- It doesn't sayone spirit here.
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- It says one flesh.
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- They'll come together, theybecome one, and a man will leave
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- his father and mother,and be joined to his wife.
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- Do any of you remember theOld King James word
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- for joined here?
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- A man will leaveand cleave, right.
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- It used to be inthe marriage vows.
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- Do you commit to cleave onlyto this woman, you know,
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- till death do you part?
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- Cleave.
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- Okay, leave and cleave.
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- Okay, so there's aleaving and a cleaving.
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- So, this Scripture isrepeated in the New Testament
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- four times.
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- Jesus says itand Paul says it.
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- Three times it refersto marriage, but one time,
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- it's in 1 Corinthians 6, where Itold you to turn,
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- and I want toshow it to you.
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- Watch this, 1Corinthians 6:15.
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- "Do you not know that yourbodies are members of Christ?"
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- Your bodies aremembers of Christ.
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- I wish you could think aboutthat all week,
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- about how you treat your body.
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- Your bodies aremembers of Christ.
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- "Shall I then take themembers of Christ
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- and make them membersof a harlot?
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- Certainly not!"
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- Or, an immoral person.
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- "Or do you not know that hewho is joined to a harlot
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- is one body with her?
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- For "the two", He says,"shall become one flesh."
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- Okay, so this Scripture,that's about marriage,
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- that a man leaves his father andmother and is jointed
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- to his wife, says but if thatsame man then joins himself
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- to another woman, he nowbecomes one with her.
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- There's a leavingand a cleaving,
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- and there's a onenessthat happens.
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- And we're talking about inthe body, but we're about
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- to show you how it happensin the spirit, also.
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- Okay.
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- Here's the problem.
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- There's a leaving.
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- I have actually had parentstell me, we could tell you
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- within a few weeks when ourson began having sex
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- with his girlfriend,because he left us.
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- We could feel it.
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- Okay.
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- So, that's not, that wasn'tin the body, even though he
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- joined himself in the body.
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- Something in thespirit realm happened.
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- How else wouldthey know that?
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- I've had couples tellme, the offended party
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- in an adulterous affair, theoffended party,
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- the one that was innocent, say,
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- I've had this happen many times,
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- I can tell you within a fewweeks, or even sometimes even
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- within a few days, whenmy husband began having
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- an affair, because I could feelsomething change
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- in our relationship.
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- Here's what she felt.
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- He left her.
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- Maybe not physically, inother words, of the sense
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- of leaving the home,but he left.
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- Because in order tocleave, you have to leave.
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- Are you all following me?
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- In order to join yourselfwith someone else,
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- you have to leave someone.
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- Now, we're talking about inthe body, and in the soul,
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- in the mind, or theemotions, because you can
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- leave emotionally, too.
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- But I'm telling you,something happens in the spirit.
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- Okay, we stoppedat Verse 16.
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- Look at Verse 17.
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- "But he who is joined", sameword, "to the Lord
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- is one spirit with Him."
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- Remember we read that first,down in Verse 19, it says,
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- "Glorify God in your bodyand in your spirit."
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- You have a spirit.
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- And when you join yourselfwith the Lord, you become
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- one spirit with Him.
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- Okay, but when you commitadultery, listen.
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- In order to become joined tosomeone else,
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- you have to leave someone.
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- Do you really think that youcan take the members of your
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- body, the members of Christ,and join those
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- with the members of a harlot?
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- Do you really thinkyou can do that?
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- Do you think everything'sokay in your relationship
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- with God when you'recommitting adultery in your
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- body or your soul?
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- You have to leave the Lord.
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- Now, I'm not saying youlose your salvation.
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- Your salvation's based ongrace, and thank God it is.
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- But, you lose yourintimacy with God.
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- Don't every try to convinceyourself that you're in a vital,
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- ongoing, passionate,intimate relationship
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- with Jesus when you'rehaving an affair on Him.
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- Don't ever think you canconvince yourself of that.
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- But here's whatyou need to know.
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- You leave Him in the spirit.
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- There's a leaving.
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- There's also a cleaving, anddo you know
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- what you join yourself to?
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- A demonic spirit.
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- I was speaking to a youthgroup one time,
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- and one of the young ladiessaid, and this was a young lady,
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- and we were talking, so we weretalking very honestly
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- and openly.
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- And she said, I'm a littleembarrassed to ask
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- this question, but I don't knowwhy, I don't understand.
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- She said, if we're twoChristians and we're going
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- to get married anyway, welove the Lord,
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- and we're trying to finish ourdegrees first before
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- we get married, our parentshave told us, by the way.
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- By the way, we never toldour children that,
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- because we thought enteringmarriage pure was much better
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- than entering marriagewith a degree.
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- Personally.
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- And we told our kids,because most people say,
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- we won't pay for it.
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- We've told our kids, and theones that married into our
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- family, we'll payfor your education.
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- We'll keep paying for it.
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- Because we know there'sa strong desire.
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- If you think you can gotwo or three years
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- and not fulfill that strongdesire, I doubt it.
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- You're a lot stronger thanI am, I can guarantee you.
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- So we told them, you getmarried and then we'll take
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- care of the schooling.
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- All right.
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- So, in order though tohave, she asked this question.
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- If we really love each otherand we're going to get married
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- anyway, what difference does apiece of paper make?
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- I said, none.
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- None, zero.
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- The piece of papermakes no difference.
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- That's not whatmakes the difference.
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- It's the blessing of God.
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- It's the principleof God's Word.
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- So I said, but let meexplain to you why,
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- and I said to her, I said,I want to explain.
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- This is your boyfriendsitting beside you, right?
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- Right.
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- Yep.
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- You love each other?
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- Yep.
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- You're asking a reallyhonest question.
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- I'm glad, but I want to tellyou how you will ruin
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- your message if you give himwhat he wants right now,
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- and he wants it, I just know.
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- But I'm going to tell you,young lady, how you will destroy
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- your marriage if you give it tohim before marriage.
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- In order to have premarital sex,you have to sneak around
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- to do it.
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- You don't just say, thisis what I told this youth group.
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- You don't say, your parentssay, where are you all
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- going tonight?
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- Going to have sex!
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- Great, have a good time!
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- You have to lie.
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- We went to Suzie'shouse, we went bowling.
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- You have to lie.
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- You have to be deceptive.
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- You start developing ahabit, and lots of habits
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- that you shouldn't developand God never intended
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- you to develop.
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- And, you have to sneakaround to do it.
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- So, you actually developan appetite that God
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- never intended you to develop.
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- Listen to theappetite you develop.
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- You develop an appetitefor sneaking around sex.
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- And He never intendedyou to develop that.
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- So, you develop an appetitefor sneaking around sex,
- 00:21:06.390 --> 00:21:10.161
- but then you get married,and guess what happens?
- 00:21:10.261 --> 00:21:14.699
- You don't have to sneakaround anymore,
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- until you have kids.
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- But, you don't have tosneak around anymore.
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- You don't haveto sneak around.
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- This is why, and I said tothis young lady, this is why,
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- if you develop this appetite inhim, once you get married,
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- you'll neverbe able to satisfy it.
- 00:21:31.115 --> 00:21:34.952
- And this is why he'll starttalking to an administrative
- 00:21:35.052 --> 00:21:37.955
- assistant or a co-worker atthe office, and this is why
- 00:21:38.055 --> 00:21:42.793
- you might actually startdeveloping some emotional
- 00:21:42.893 --> 00:21:45.796
- feelings toward someone,because he listens to you.
- 00:21:45.896 --> 00:21:51.168
- But let's just takeit with the man.
- 00:21:51.268 --> 00:21:52.436
- He'll begin talking withsomeone and flirting,
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- and you know what he's doing?
- 00:21:54.939 --> 00:21:57.308
- He's sneaking around.
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- He's not even doing anythingin the physical yet,
- 00:21:59.043 --> 00:22:00.678
- but maybe some texts, or maybean internet chat room
- 00:22:00.778 --> 00:22:02.980
- or something, and he'llstart flirting around.
- 00:22:03.080 --> 00:22:05.483
- He'll start fuelingthat appetite,
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- satisfying this appetite thatyou, young lady, created in him,
- 00:22:08.619 --> 00:22:15.159
- but God said don't do this,and He had a reason.
- 00:22:15.259 --> 00:22:19.630
- And so, pretty soon he'll beginto think that he loves her,
- 00:22:19.730 --> 00:22:23.234
- and not you, because he feelsthe same way now when
- 00:22:23.334 --> 00:22:26.103
- he's with her as he used tofeel when he was with you,
- 00:22:26.203 --> 00:22:31.075
- before you got married.
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- Now, listen how unbelievablyfoolish Satan is to get us
- 00:22:33.411 --> 00:22:36.981
- to believe this, becausehere's what'll happen.
- 00:22:37.081 --> 00:22:39.216
- Then he'll divorce you, andmarry her,
- 00:22:39.316 --> 00:22:42.386
- and guess what happens?
- 00:22:42.486 --> 00:22:46.257
- He doesn't have tosneak around anymore.
- 00:22:46.357 --> 00:22:51.061
- So, he doesn't feel now thesame way with her
- 00:22:51.162 --> 00:22:53.264
- that he used to feel before.
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- This is literally why somepeople say we'd rather just
- 00:22:55.499 --> 00:22:57.268
- live together than getmarried, because when you
- 00:22:57.368 --> 00:22:59.370
- get married, it ruins it.
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- Because they know, deep downin their hearts,
- 00:23:01.505 --> 00:23:03.240
- even if they don't know theBible, that they're doing
- 00:23:03.340 --> 00:23:04.708
- something wrong.
- 00:23:04.809 --> 00:23:09.146
- This is why some people havebeen married three,
- 00:23:09.246 --> 00:23:10.848
- and four, and five, and sixtimes, because they created
- 00:23:10.948 --> 00:23:15.286
- an appetite thatcannot be satisfied.
- 00:23:15.386 --> 00:23:19.824
- It can't be satisfied.
- 00:23:19.924 --> 00:23:22.059
- So, what do you do?
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- What do you do if you hadpremarital sex,
- 00:23:25.396 --> 00:23:28.265
- or you have had sex after yougot married with someone else?
- 00:23:28.365 --> 00:23:32.336
- You repent.
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- You confess and repent.
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- You bring it outin the light.
- 00:23:36.207 --> 00:23:37.041
- You say, why confess it?
- 00:23:37.141 --> 00:23:38.742
- Because Satan worksin the darkness.
- 00:23:38.843 --> 00:23:41.212
- And every time I preach amessage like this,
- 00:23:41.312 --> 00:23:43.214
- we have many confessions.
- 00:23:43.314 --> 00:23:45.082
- You say, does thatbother you, Pastor?
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- No, because I know, I canjust tell you, let me tell you
- 00:23:46.517 --> 00:23:49.487
- who falls in this area.
- 00:23:49.587 --> 00:23:51.155
- Humans.
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- And I pastor humans.
- 00:23:53.657 --> 00:23:56.527
- So, it doesn't bother me that wehave many confessions,
- 00:23:56.627 --> 00:23:58.496
- because it actually excites mewe can finally get it out
- 00:23:58.596 --> 00:24:00.865
- of the darkness into the light.
- 00:24:00.965 --> 00:24:04.134
- So, we may have someconfessions this week.
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- We'll help you.
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- We'll help you.
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- But, to the offended party,please let me say something.
- 00:24:09.240 --> 00:24:13.878
- It may be very tough to hearit, but you're on the first step
- 00:24:13.978 --> 00:24:17.915
- to God doing something very,very wonderful in your life,
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- very wonderful.
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- Please, please understand,if you violate this commandment,
- 00:24:23.954 --> 00:24:30.261
- you will not have an intimaterelationship with your spouse
- 00:24:30.361 --> 00:24:33.330
- that God intended,
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- and you will not be allowedan intimate relationship
- 00:24:34.598 --> 00:24:36.233
- with the Lord.
- 00:24:36.333 --> 00:24:38.402
- God gave us these TenCommandments as ten principles,
- 00:24:38.502 --> 00:24:42.706
- and each principle allows us tohave a deeper relationship
- 00:24:42.806 --> 00:24:46.577
- with God, and a deeperrelationship with someone else.
- 00:24:46.677 --> 00:24:50.180
- In the same way, theprinciple of intimacy allows us
- 00:24:50.281 --> 00:24:53.450
- to have intimacy with Godand intimacy with others,
- 00:24:53.551 --> 00:24:57.187
- and especially our spouse.
- 00:24:57.288 --> 00:24:59.590
- So I want to encourage you, ifyou've messed up in this area,
- 00:24:59.690 --> 00:25:02.493
- turn back to the Lord.
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- Let the Lord restore thatintimacy with Himself
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- and with others.
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- Hey, thanks somuch for watching.
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- I want to encourage you towatch next time,
- 00:25:11.201 --> 00:25:13.037
- because I'm going to continuethis series,
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- "Relationship ThroughGod's Top Ten".
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- ANNOUNCER: Thank you for joiningus for today's program
- 00:25:18.876 --> 00:25:21.412
- as Pastor Robert shares amessage from his series
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- "Relationship".
- 00:25:23.847 --> 00:25:25.549
- God really loves you and wantsto have a closer relationship
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- with you, however, when we thinkof the ten commandments,
- 00:25:28.385 --> 00:25:31.288
- many of us think of a list ofrules telling us what not to do.
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- But the truth is, God designedthe ten commandments as a way
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- for us to have a relationshipwith Him.
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- You are so valuable to God,and His plan for your life
- 00:25:41.031 --> 00:25:43.667
- has always been for you tothrive in your relationship
- 00:25:43.767 --> 00:25:46.236
- with Him, and in therelationships with people
- 00:25:46.337 --> 00:25:48.839
- around you.
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- In fact, relationship with youhas always been,
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- and always will be His numberone priority.
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- Throughout this in-depthteaching series, Pastor Robert
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- will walk you through the tencommandments,
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- and help you discover how eachcommandment is actually
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- a principle that draws us into adeeper relationship with Him.
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- As you find relationship throughGod's top ten,
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- your relationship with the Lordwill begin to grow to new
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- depths, and you'll learn moreabout His heart
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- in designing these principleswith you in mind.
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- ANNOUNCER: You feel it.
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- Inside you beats aheart for ministry.
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- A sense that you're calledto serve God in a greater way.
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- But perhaps, you feel stuck,not knowing how to get
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- from where you are to thatenvisioned place.
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- Let The King's University Onlinebe the bridge to your calling.
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- through the powerof the Holy Spirit.
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- Imagine what could happenif you took the first step.
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