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The Principle of Intimacy

Pastor Robert Morris Ministries

July 23, 2020

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Pastor Robert warns us against adultery in body; soul; and spirit.

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The Principle of Intimacy

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ROBERT MORRIS: And I'm going totell you something that might
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even shock you.
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God actually designed youto live a fantasy with a person,
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your spouse.
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ROBERT: We're in a seriescalled, "Relationship Through
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God's Top Ten."
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And so, we're on the seventhcommandment,
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and I'm calling it "ThePrinciple of Intimacy".
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I believe this tells us howto have intimacy with God
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and with each other, andespecially in marriage,
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because of whatit refers to.
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So we're on the seventhcommandment,
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and it's Exodus 20:14, "Youshall not commit adultery."
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Five simple words, "Youshall not commit adultery."
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I want to share with youthree ways that people
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commit adultery, notjust one, but three ways.
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And if you remember, we'rethree parts, body, soul,
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and spirit, so that's actuallygoing to be my three points,
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is we're going to talk aboutyour body, your soul,
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and then your spirit, and manypeople don't realize
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that it could affect yourspirit, but I'm going to show
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you in Scripture how itcan, all right?
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So, number one is the body.
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Now, you can commitadultery in your body.
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This seems self-explanatory,but I want to show it to you
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in Scripture, all right?
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1 Corinthians 6:18, "Fleesexual immorality."
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Flee, run from it.
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"Every", noticethe word every.
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"Every sin that a man doesis outside the body,
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but he who commits sexualimmorality sins against
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his own body.
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Or do you not know that yourbody" it didn't say soul
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or spirit here.
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"Your body is the temple ofthe Holy Spirit, who is in you,
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whom you have from God,and you are not your own?
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For you were bought at aprice, therefore glorify
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God in your body andin your spirit."
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It doesn't saythe Holy Spirit.
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"In your spirit", so again,I'm going to say how this
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affects your spirit as well,because it's talking about
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sexual immorality,"which are God's."
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So first of all,did God create sex?
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He did.
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We didn't mutate from somegob of gloop somewhere.
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Or goop or glob, I don'tknow how you say it,
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but we didn't mutate fromsomething, God created us.
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So I'm going to surprise youa little bit, all right?
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God actually formedyour sexual parts.
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You'd better be carefulabout the Amens today.
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It might throw meoff a little bit.
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[Laughter]
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Amen?
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Okay.
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I knew this was goingto be a tough message!
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All right, so.
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So, God formed your sexualparts, and listen,
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God formed you to have pleasure.
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That was His idea.
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But, did it go awry on Him?
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In other words, did thesexual urges become a little
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more than what Hethought they would?
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Did He do too goodof a job, you know?
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Was this not in the plan, or didHe actually form -- listen.
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God formed male andfemale to fit together.
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He designed that.
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That didn't just happen.
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God formed male and femaleto fit perfectly,
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and He formed it for you toenjoy yourself,
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and have pleasure and intimacy.
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But we don't thinkof it in a good way.
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We only think ofit in a bad way.
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I remember attending apastor's conference one time,
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and this pastor, hepreached a message
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on this to other pastors.
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And what he was trying to dowas say enjoy your sex life
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with your spouse, so thatyou're not tempted
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to go do something else.
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It was a great message forpastors, because there's almost
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a feeling in the church that youhave to be a prude
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if you're going to serve God,and yet I'm trying to tell you
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that God actually created you tohave fun, in marriage.
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Here's the reason I'm sayingthis, is because we think,
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well, a pastor, he couldn'tunderstand this, but I can.
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But, let me tell you someoneelse we think,
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you just couldn't understandthis, Jesus.
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We think, Lord, you don'tunderstand how strong
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this urge is.
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Well, let me explaintwo things to you.
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Number one, He created it.
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He designed it to work.
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Number two, He was a human.
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He became a human.
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He lived through puberty.
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He lived through teenageyears, through His 20s,
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and into His 30s, andHe did it pure.
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And don't ever, don't everbelieve -- there's a humongous
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lie that neither Scripture norany historical document
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would support that there wassomething between
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Him and Mary Magdalene.
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And all history reports andall evidence shows
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Mary Magdalene was olderthan His mother.
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But first of all,He never,
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it never would have happened.
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It makes me mad that someoneeven suggests something
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like that about our Lord.
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But, He understands.
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So you can commit adulteryin your body,
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but God designed you to havefull pleasure in marriage.
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So you can also commitadultery, is number two,
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in your soul, in your soul.
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Proverbs 6:32 says, "Whoevercommits adultery
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with a woman lacksunderstanding.
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He who does so", watch,"destroys his own soul."
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Destroys his soul.
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Now this word, destroy, I'mputting the definition up
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so you can see it,from the Hebrew.
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It means corrupts.
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He corrupts his soul.
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He ruins it, spoils it,injures it, wastes, batters,
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and rots.
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The soul begins to rot.
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It's ruined.
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Now, I understand God canredeem, but if any of you
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had a mistake in this area,you understand how much you
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spoiled your lifein this area.
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I understand that.
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The soul is made up of themind, will, and emotions.
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Mind, will, emotions, howyou think about things,
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how you feel about things, andthen, the decisions you make.
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Now, listen to me carefully.
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You can commit adulteryin your mind,
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and you can commit adulteryin your emotions.
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You can have a wrongrelationship in your mind
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with someone, and you canhave a wrong relationship
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in your emotions with someone.
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And Jesus backs this up, andit's all through Scripture,
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that adultery, any thoughtor feeling toward another person
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that is inappropriateoutside of marriage, is wrong.
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You can do this as you'remarried,
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you can do this before you'remarried.
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Song of Solomon 3:5, "Donot stir up nor awaken love
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until it pleases."
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Until it's time that it'spleasurable to God,
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and it will be pleasurableto you in marriage.
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Let me show you a word thatmaybe you never thought of.
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I love words, and I love tolook at the root, and I can see
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the root of most wordsjust by looking at them.
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But let me show you this,and you might get ahead
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of me on this, butthe word fantastic.
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Fantastic is appearing as ifconceived
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by an unrestrained imagination.
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I want you to noticethe word unrestrained.
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And, maybe you didn'trealize this,
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but here's the root of thisword.
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Are you ready?
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Fantasy.
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Imagination, especiallywhen extravagant
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and unrestrained.
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See, the unrestrained partis what I'm concerned about.
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And I'm going to tell yousomething that might
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even shock you.
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God actually designed youto live a fantasy with a person,
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your spouse.
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For you to say what wehave is like a fantasy.
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It's fantastic.
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This is why I'm saying this isthe principle of intimacy.
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I'll keep takingyou back to this.
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You can't imagine theintimacy that you can experience
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with one personwhen you keep the Lord
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in that relationship.
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It's phenomenal.
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So, affairs start in the soul,before they ever get
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to the body.
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Let me show youwhat precedes lust.
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See, lust precedes adultery.
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Let me show youwhat precedes lust.
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Look.
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"You have heard it said of old,you shall not commit adultery,
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but I say to youthat whoever looks --
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whoever looks at a woman tolust has already
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committed adultery."
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So, lust precedes adultery,but let me tell you,
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this is such a simple thing.
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Looking precedes lust.
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You cannot imagine how manytimes I'm driving down
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the street and there is anathletic woman jogging,
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and I'm not going to look,because I know
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what that leads to.
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I'm just going tolook the other way.
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I've had to trainmyself to do this.
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Potiphar's wife, the Bible says,cast longing eyes on Joseph.
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She looked beforeshe lusted.
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David saw Bathshebafrom his balcony.
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He looked, and that stirredup lust, which caused adultery.
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Job 31:1, "I've made acovenant with my eyes",
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and I've literallysaid and done this.
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I've done this personally.
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"I've made a covenantwith my eyes.
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Why then should I lookupon a young woman?"
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You have to make a covenant.
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When I was a young man, andGod began dealing with me
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about this, I heard PastorOlen share something
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like this that he did.
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And so, I said to Debbie, Isaid, I need to talk to you
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about something.
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So she said, okay.
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I said, I have aproblem looking.
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You know what she said?
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You think?
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You might think you'rebeing sly, sir,
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but it's noticeable.
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So I said, well, Idon't want to do it.
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So I said, if you see melooking, I said,
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I want you to confront meand pray for me.
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Confront me and pray for me.
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Now, here's the problem.
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I didn't definehow to confront me.
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[Laughter]
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So a few months later, wewere on vacation
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and we were seated at the pool,
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which is like being seated at abar for an alcoholic,
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you know?
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It's just, you know, apool's not a good place
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if you've ever had aproblem in this area.
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So you know, we're readingmagazines and I'm looking
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over the top ofthe magazine.
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And this girl walks by,and I made a mistake.
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Men, you know, when you'vegot sunglasses on,
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you can move your eyes,don't move your head.
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Because thenthey know, okay?
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So, I followedher like this.
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All of a sudden, I feltthis excruciating pain!
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Debbie reached over andstarted pinching me.
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This, by the way, is theeleventh commandment,
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thou shalt not pinch thy husbandon the back of his arm!
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She started pinching righthere, and she said,
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do I need to pray for you?
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[Applause]
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So, adultery can happenin the body,
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but it can also happenin the soul.
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But I'm concerned, becausehere's point number three,
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the spirit.
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Something happens in thespirit that most of you
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do not realize withadultery, most of you, most.
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Genesis 2:24, when marriagebegan, says, "Therefore a man
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shall leave his fatherand mother and be joined
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to his wife, and they shallbecome one flesh."
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Now, I want you to noticea couple of things very
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important here.
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Flesh, so one body.
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"They shall be joined", I'mtelling you again,
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God created the male and femaleparts to fit together.
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They'll be joined together.
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They become oneflesh, it says.
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It doesn't sayone spirit here.
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It says one flesh.
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They'll come together, theybecome one, and a man will leave
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his father and mother,and be joined to his wife.
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Do any of you remember theOld King James word
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for joined here?
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A man will leaveand cleave, right.
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It used to be inthe marriage vows.
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Do you commit to cleave onlyto this woman, you know,
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till death do you part?
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Cleave.
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Okay, leave and cleave.
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Okay, so there's aleaving and a cleaving.
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So, this Scripture isrepeated in the New Testament
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four times.
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Jesus says itand Paul says it.
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Three times it refersto marriage, but one time,
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it's in 1 Corinthians 6, where Itold you to turn,
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and I want toshow it to you.
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Watch this, 1Corinthians 6:15.
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"Do you not know that yourbodies are members of Christ?"
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Your bodies aremembers of Christ.
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I wish you could think aboutthat all week,
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about how you treat your body.
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Your bodies aremembers of Christ.
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"Shall I then take themembers of Christ
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and make them membersof a harlot?
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Certainly not!"
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Or, an immoral person.
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"Or do you not know that hewho is joined to a harlot
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is one body with her?
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For "the two", He says,"shall become one flesh."
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Okay, so this Scripture,that's about marriage,
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that a man leaves his father andmother and is jointed
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to his wife, says but if thatsame man then joins himself
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to another woman, he nowbecomes one with her.
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There's a leavingand a cleaving,
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and there's a onenessthat happens.
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And we're talking about inthe body, but we're about
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to show you how it happensin the spirit, also.
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Okay.
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Here's the problem.
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There's a leaving.
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I have actually had parentstell me, we could tell you
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within a few weeks when ourson began having sex
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with his girlfriend,because he left us.
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We could feel it.
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Okay.
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So, that's not, that wasn'tin the body, even though he
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joined himself in the body.
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Something in thespirit realm happened.
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How else wouldthey know that?
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I've had couples tellme, the offended party
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in an adulterous affair, theoffended party,
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the one that was innocent, say,
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I've had this happen many times,
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I can tell you within a fewweeks, or even sometimes even
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within a few days, whenmy husband began having
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an affair, because I could feelsomething change
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in our relationship.
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Here's what she felt.
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He left her.
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Maybe not physically, inother words, of the sense
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of leaving the home,but he left.
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Because in order tocleave, you have to leave.
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Are you all following me?
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In order to join yourselfwith someone else,
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you have to leave someone.
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Now, we're talking about inthe body, and in the soul,
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in the mind, or theemotions, because you can
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leave emotionally, too.
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But I'm telling you,something happens in the spirit.
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Okay, we stoppedat Verse 16.
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Look at Verse 17.
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"But he who is joined", sameword, "to the Lord
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is one spirit with Him."
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Remember we read that first,down in Verse 19, it says,
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"Glorify God in your bodyand in your spirit."
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You have a spirit.
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And when you join yourselfwith the Lord, you become
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one spirit with Him.
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Okay, but when you commitadultery, listen.
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In order to become joined tosomeone else,
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you have to leave someone.
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Do you really think that youcan take the members of your
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body, the members of Christ,and join those
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with the members of a harlot?
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Do you really thinkyou can do that?
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Do you think everything'sokay in your relationship
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with God when you'recommitting adultery in your
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body or your soul?
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You have to leave the Lord.
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Now, I'm not saying youlose your salvation.
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Your salvation's based ongrace, and thank God it is.
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But, you lose yourintimacy with God.
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Don't every try to convinceyourself that you're in a vital,
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ongoing, passionate,intimate relationship
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with Jesus when you'rehaving an affair on Him.
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Don't ever think you canconvince yourself of that.
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But here's whatyou need to know.
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You leave Him in the spirit.
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There's a leaving.
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There's also a cleaving, anddo you know
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what you join yourself to?
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A demonic spirit.
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I was speaking to a youthgroup one time,
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and one of the young ladiessaid, and this was a young lady,
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and we were talking, so we weretalking very honestly
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and openly.
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And she said, I'm a littleembarrassed to ask
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this question, but I don't knowwhy, I don't understand.
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She said, if we're twoChristians and we're going
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to get married anyway, welove the Lord,
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and we're trying to finish ourdegrees first before
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we get married, our parentshave told us, by the way.
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By the way, we never toldour children that,
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because we thought enteringmarriage pure was much better
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than entering marriagewith a degree.
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Personally.
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And we told our kids,because most people say,
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we won't pay for it.
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We've told our kids, and theones that married into our
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family, we'll payfor your education.
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We'll keep paying for it.
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Because we know there'sa strong desire.
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If you think you can gotwo or three years
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and not fulfill that strongdesire, I doubt it.
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You're a lot stronger thanI am, I can guarantee you.
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So we told them, you getmarried and then we'll take
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care of the schooling.
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All right.
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So, in order though tohave, she asked this question.
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If we really love each otherand we're going to get married
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anyway, what difference does apiece of paper make?
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I said, none.
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None, zero.
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The piece of papermakes no difference.
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That's not whatmakes the difference.
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It's the blessing of God.
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It's the principleof God's Word.
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So I said, but let meexplain to you why,
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and I said to her, I said,I want to explain.
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This is your boyfriendsitting beside you, right?
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Right.
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Yep.
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You love each other?
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Yep.
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You're asking a reallyhonest question.
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I'm glad, but I want to tellyou how you will ruin
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your message if you give himwhat he wants right now,
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and he wants it, I just know.
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But I'm going to tell you,young lady, how you will destroy
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your marriage if you give it tohim before marriage.
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In order to have premarital sex,you have to sneak around
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to do it.
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You don't just say, thisis what I told this youth group.
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You don't say, your parentssay, where are you all
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going tonight?
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Going to have sex!
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Great, have a good time!
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You have to lie.
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We went to Suzie'shouse, we went bowling.
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You have to lie.
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You have to be deceptive.
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You start developing ahabit, and lots of habits
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that you shouldn't developand God never intended
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you to develop.
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And, you have to sneakaround to do it.
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So, you actually developan appetite that God
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never intended you to develop.
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Listen to theappetite you develop.
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You develop an appetitefor sneaking around sex.
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And He never intendedyou to develop that.
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So, you develop an appetitefor sneaking around sex,
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but then you get married,and guess what happens?
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You don't have to sneakaround anymore,
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until you have kids.
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But, you don't have tosneak around anymore.
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You don't haveto sneak around.
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This is why, and I said tothis young lady, this is why,
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if you develop this appetite inhim, once you get married,
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you'll neverbe able to satisfy it.
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And this is why he'll starttalking to an administrative
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assistant or a co-worker atthe office, and this is why
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you might actually startdeveloping some emotional
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feelings toward someone,because he listens to you.
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But let's just takeit with the man.
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He'll begin talking withsomeone and flirting,
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and you know what he's doing?
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He's sneaking around.
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He's not even doing anythingin the physical yet,
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but maybe some texts, or maybean internet chat room
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or something, and he'llstart flirting around.
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He'll start fuelingthat appetite,
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satisfying this appetite thatyou, young lady, created in him,
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but God said don't do this,and He had a reason.
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And so, pretty soon he'll beginto think that he loves her,
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and not you, because he feelsthe same way now when
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he's with her as he used tofeel when he was with you,
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before you got married.
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Now, listen how unbelievablyfoolish Satan is to get us
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to believe this, becausehere's what'll happen.
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Then he'll divorce you, andmarry her,
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and guess what happens?
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He doesn't have tosneak around anymore.
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So, he doesn't feel now thesame way with her
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that he used to feel before.
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This is literally why somepeople say we'd rather just
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live together than getmarried, because when you
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get married, it ruins it.
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Because they know, deep downin their hearts,
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even if they don't know theBible, that they're doing
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something wrong.
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This is why some people havebeen married three,
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and four, and five, and sixtimes, because they created
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an appetite thatcannot be satisfied.
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It can't be satisfied.
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So, what do you do?
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What do you do if you hadpremarital sex,
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or you have had sex after yougot married with someone else?
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You repent.
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You confess and repent.
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You bring it outin the light.
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You say, why confess it?
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Because Satan worksin the darkness.
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And every time I preach amessage like this,
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we have many confessions.
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You say, does thatbother you, Pastor?
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No, because I know, I canjust tell you, let me tell you
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who falls in this area.
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Humans.
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And I pastor humans.
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So, it doesn't bother me that wehave many confessions,
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because it actually excites mewe can finally get it out
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of the darkness into the light.
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So, we may have someconfessions this week.
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We'll help you.
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We'll help you.
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But, to the offended party,please let me say something.
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It may be very tough to hearit, but you're on the first step
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to God doing something very,very wonderful in your life,
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very wonderful.
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Please, please understand,if you violate this commandment,
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you will not have an intimaterelationship with your spouse
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that God intended,
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and you will not be allowedan intimate relationship
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with the Lord.
00:24:36.333 --> 00:24:38.402
God gave us these TenCommandments as ten principles,
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and each principle allows us tohave a deeper relationship
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with God, and a deeperrelationship with someone else.
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In the same way, theprinciple of intimacy allows us
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to have intimacy with Godand intimacy with others,
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and especially our spouse.
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So I want to encourage you, ifyou've messed up in this area,
00:24:59.690 --> 00:25:02.493
turn back to the Lord.
00:25:02.593 --> 00:25:04.128
Let the Lord restore thatintimacy with Himself
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and with others.
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Hey, thanks somuch for watching.
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I want to encourage you towatch next time,
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because I'm going to continuethis series,
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"Relationship ThroughGod's Top Ten".
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ANNOUNCER: Thank you for joiningus for today's program
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as Pastor Robert shares amessage from his series
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"Relationship".
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God really loves you and wantsto have a closer relationship
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with you, however, when we thinkof the ten commandments,
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many of us think of a list ofrules telling us what not to do.
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But the truth is, God designedthe ten commandments as a way
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for us to have a relationshipwith Him.
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You are so valuable to God,and His plan for your life
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with Him, and in therelationships with people
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around you.
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In fact, relationship with youhas always been,
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and always will be His numberone priority.
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Throughout this in-depthteaching series, Pastor Robert
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will walk you through the tencommandments,
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and help you discover how eachcommandment is actually
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a principle that draws us into adeeper relationship with Him.
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As you find relationship throughGod's top ten,
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your relationship with the Lordwill begin to grow to new
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depths, and you'll learn moreabout His heart
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