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September 23, 2020
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Marriage isn’t an institution to be taken lightly; instead; it’s an opportunity to align with a clear mission and effect change in the Earth. Beware; for the enemy seeks to divide us as the Holy Spirit reigns in our agreement.

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  • Bishop Jakes: The power ofagreement releases a level
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  • of anointing that you cannot getany other way.
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  • You can't control the terrainbut you can control your balance
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  • and if you control your balanceyou're gonna ride through this
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  • and you're going through that,and you're gonna ride through
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  • the other and if you just keepon riding you're gonna ride it
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  • all away through to the end.
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  • For somebody, that ought to bea moment of praise
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  • and thanksgiving to God.
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • ♪ The Potter's TouchThe Potter's Touch ♪♪
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  • Bishop Jakes: My walk with Godis my walk with God.
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  • That really is not up for yourcommentary or assessment,
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  • you can be a witness by yourwalk with God but you can't,
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  • and we don't get in each other'swalk with God.
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  • If I walk in a room and she'spraying--and I often do walk in
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  • the room and she's in therepraying, tears running down her
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  • face, and she and God are havinga moment--I generally back out
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  • because I don't know whatshe's talking to God about,
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  • I don't need to know whatshe's talking to God about.
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  • She might be talking to himabout me, whatever it is,
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  • her walk with God is her walkwith God.
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  • How she relates to theHoly Spirit versus how I relate
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  • to the Holy Spirit is asdifferent as the difference
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  • in the way we're dressed.
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  • Just because we got marrieddoesn't mean we merge our
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  • spirituality to the degree thatI must be you in order to be
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  • validated as a Christian, youhave to understand that I have
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  • my own walk with God.
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  • Serita Jakes: Absolutely.
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  • Bishop Jakes: So when we startedtalking about agreement, we're
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  • not talking about--and this isthe problem with our country in
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  • my view--we think thatagreement, in order for us to
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  • have unity we must havesameness.
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  • So we end up in all of thesebattles trying to make
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  • each other, each group likethe other group.
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  • You can have unity aroundcore values and still
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  • have distinctions.
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  • Serita Jakes: Absolutely,absolutely.
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  • Bishop Jakes: If that's not truethen we should give up
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  • on marriage becausewe are not same.
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  • Serita Jakes: No.
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  • Bishop Jakes: We are not same,we are not homo, we are not
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  • same, we are heteros, whichmeans we are different...
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  • Serita Jakes: Yes.
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  • Bishop Jakes: But we can haveunity and become one flesh,
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  • "And they shall become oneflesh," but that still doesn't
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  • mean that she doesn't get to bean individual with our own walk
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  • with God and her ownpersonality, and her own dreams,
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  • and her own goals.
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  • Some women in this room arescared to get married right now
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  • because they don't want theirgoals to be swallowed up,
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  • but a man who knows who he is,is not afraid to let the woman
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  • be who she is.
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  • Serita Jakes: That's good,good, good.
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  • Bishop Jakes: Isn't that right?
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  • And you have to understand thatand what I was explaining to
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  • another couple because wheneverthey do anything, the problem is
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  • whatever he's in charge of she'srunning it, and whenever she's
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  • in charge of something he's gothis mouth and the first thing
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  • I told him is,"That's women's stuff,
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  • what are you doing into that?"
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  • I don't get into no girls stuff,y'all can have a disagreement, a
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  • cat fight, she thinks she's cutefight, I just listen and grunt.
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  • I don't get into that becauseyou understand things about each
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  • other that we don't understandabout each other, and so I'm not
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  • getting into that.
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  • By the same token, I don't wantyou in my stuff choosing who my
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  • friends are, where I go, how Iexpress myself, what I do,
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  • 'cause I had a female like thatbut that was my mama.
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  • And even though I might call youmama sometime I really don't
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  • mean it like that, and you mightcall me daddy sometime but
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  • you really don't mean it like--come on.
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  • What I'm trying to get you tosee is just because you're a
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  • professional and an intellectualdoesn't mean that you have
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  • to marry an intellectual, justbecause you're a fashion model
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  • doesn't mean your spouse has tobe a fashion model, just because
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  • you're an athlete doesn't meanthat you have to marry
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  • an athlete.
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  • You can have distinctions andstill have unity if you have
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  • a mission, what is your mission?
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  • Woe be unto the couple who hasno idea of a mission, of a goal,
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  • of where you're trying to gowith your life.
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  • And God help the children whoare born into the house of a
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  • family that doesn't have a brandbecause that means that if me
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  • and her don't figure out whowe are, then we birth children
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  • who don't know who they are.
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  • And all of us are sharing thesame space and we have nothing
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  • to agree on because we don'thave a mission, that nobody has
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  • any submission, which leaves uswith division.
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  • Serita Jakes:Yes-yes-yes-yes-yes-yes-yes-yes.
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  • Bishop Jakes: Every personin this room, daughter, son,
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  • husband, wife, single person,divorced person,
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  • you need a mission.
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  • Serita Jakes: Amen.
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  • Bishop Jakes: You need amission, I think you age more
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  • quickly without a mission.
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  • Serita Jakes: 'Cause you justrambling around, just aimlessly.
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  • Bishop Jakes: Aimlessly.
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  • Serita Jakes: No target,just beating the air
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  • and wasting all of your effortdoing nothing.
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  • Bishop Jakes: Absolutely.
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  • Serita Jakes: I mean your mindis just full of nothingness.
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  • When we were in college, we usedto say that, "Excuses are
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  • the tools of incompetence, theybuild monuments of nothing,
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  • and those that are accustomed touse them rarely do anything else
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  • but make excuses."
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  • Bishop Jakes: Say that again.
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  • Excuses are tools ofincompetence, they build
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  • monuments of nothing and thosethat specialize in using them
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  • are seldom good for anythingelse, excuses.
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  • Bishop Jakes: Mhmm, wow.
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  • So what you need to do is tomove away from the excuses
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  • and get down to the mission.
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  • I don't care if your mission isto go to the cancer ward once
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  • a week and hand out cookies,you need to have some mission,
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  • something to care about,something to work on, something
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  • to fuss about, something to beupset about, something
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  • that drives you to get you outthe bed in the "morning.
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  • Well I don't have a mission,I don't know what my mission
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  • should be," I'm going to helpyou find your mission.
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  • Your mission should be builtaround the things that when
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  • you think about them or do themyou get energized.
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  • Serita Jakes: Yes.
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  • Bishop Jakes: Your missionshould not drain you, your
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  • purpose should not drain you,you get tired but it shouldn't
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  • drain you to do it, itshould invigorate you.
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  • If you're getting ideas andcreativity and you get
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  • energized, that thing that givesyou the most energy and
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  • the most power is your mission.
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  • Serita Jakes: My!
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  • Bishop Jakes: Now we're nottaught we have, we all have,
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  • a great commission...
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  • Serita Jakes: True.
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  • Bishop Jakes: To win souls forthe kingdom, but the reason
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  • they call it the greatcommission because it's not
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  • the only mission.
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  • And if you're not careful,whether you use words like
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  • retire, or maybe you don't havea job right now and you're going
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  • through a period whereyou just got out of school
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  • and you don't have a job,you still need a mission.
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  • If you start waking up in themiddle of the day and you have
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  • no reason to get dressed and youhave no reason to go out, it
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  • weakens you, it dumbs you down,you stop being hungry, you stop
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  • being alive, you stop beingeffective.
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  • Somebody shout, "Lord,give me a mission."
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  • Serita Jakes: Lord,give me a mission.
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  • Bishop Jakes: Because if you'regoing to have agreement,
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  • I think you have to haveagreement around the mission.
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  • Serita Jakes: Absolutely.
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  • Bishop Jakes: And it's not justwhere the woman is submitted to
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  • the mission, the man also hasto submit to the mission
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  • and the children have to submitto the mission,
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  • or the family doesn't goforward.
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  • Now once you get out on yourown, you can develop your own
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  • mission statement, but as longas you sit down up in here and
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  • put your feet up under my table,this is, yeah, this who we are,
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  • this is what we do, this is whatwe're about, these are the core.
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  • Now you can express yourselfuniquely in some other way,
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  • but when it comes down to whatwe are about,
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  • You cannot have agreement if youcannot agree around, or coalesce
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  • around, certain goalsthat we have in common.
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  • Still being unique.
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  • Serita Jakes: Yes.
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  • Bishop Jakes: Still having my metime, still being my own person
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  • with my own personality, butwhen it when it comes to these
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  • core values we have agreement.
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  • Serita Jakes: That's why everyyear I ask you, and maybe
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  • sometimes twice a year, I askyou, "What do you need
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  • from me now?
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  • Who do you need me to be now?"
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  • Because our relationship hasgrown from when I was your
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  • armor bearer and I drove youeverywhere, and I helped you
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  • change your wet clothes and wewere driving, and the boys were
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  • in the back.
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  • And then we came out of thatphase and you got started moving
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  • quickly and I was at home havingbabies, and so, when you
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  • introduced me back to the stage,I had been gone for so long
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  • that I could scarcely--
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  • Bishop Jakes: Let me showwhat they did, they put
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  • that picture up right there,you remember that?
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  • Serita Jakes: Yeah.
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  • Bishop Jakes: That's in Smithersand we had just bought this
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  • church in Smithers and we had nomoney, and it was a rat hole, it
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  • was raggedy, it was nothing.
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  • It was a condemned buildingand I was all excited.
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  • See how I'm grinning?
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  • I had just gotten off work'cause I worked every day, and I
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  • had gotten off work, we jumpedin the car, drove an hour and
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  • something up the road to gopaint, and she's up on
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  • the ladder.
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  • Serita Jakes: Yes,'cause I can paint.
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  • Bishop Jakes: Whatever I wasafter, she was supportive of it,
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  • she was supportive.
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  • If it was rolling a paintbrushor bringing hot bologna, she was
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  • in my corner; let me go further.
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  • What ever she is after,what ever she is after.
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  • Serita Jakes: Whoever.
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  • Bishop Jakes: I am support--wait a minute, what that mean?
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  • Hold up there, you went too far.
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  • No, no, I am also asking her,"What do you need from me?
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  • Do I need to be there?
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  • Do do you need help financiallyto do that?
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  • Can I make a phone callto help you?"
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  • Because we are in agreement,we are in agreement.
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  • We are in agreement, okay?
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  • The power, say that with me,"The power of agreement."
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  • "If any two of you agree astouching anything on earth,
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  • it shall be done unto you."
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  • If there were anything the devildid not want us to have is
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  • agreement because when we touchand agree, we are better
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  • together than we are apart.
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  • That means, stand behind me, Igot your back, I got your back,
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  • up or down, weak or strong,right or wrong, everybody runs
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  • away, I got your back.
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  • I may be fussing but I got yourback, I may think you're crazy
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  • but I got your back.
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  • The power of agreement releasesa level of anointing that
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  • you cannot get any other way.
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  • If you don't have a spouse, havea friend, have a sister, have
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  • a son, have a daughter, anytimetwo people come into agreement,
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  • God inhabits what you agree on.
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  • The reason the devil is at waragainst your home is not that he
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  • doesn't like you, he doesn'tlike agreement, so he uses petty
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  • things, hurt feelings,attitudes, feeling unloved
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  • to break the agreement,because if you touch and agree,
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  • you can release the power of Godlike something
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  • you have never seenin your life.
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  • Bishop Jakes: Some things canonly come from God,
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  • and she said, "I am a woman of asorrowful spirit but have poured
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  • out my soul before the Lord."
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  • She said, "I'm a praying woman,"God says, "The thing that brings
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  • peace to pain is making yourrequests made known unto God."
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • How is your prayer life lately?
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  • female announcer: Psalm 34:8,"Taste and see that the Lord
  • 00:15:25.174 --> 00:15:28.110
  • is good, blessed is the onewho takes refuge in him."
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  • Bishop Jakes: So ourrelationship, and the reason
  • 00:15:36.385 --> 00:15:39.788
  • I brought him up here is I wantto talk about all dimensions of
  • 00:15:39.822 --> 00:15:42.691
  • relationship, our relationshipis also updating too.
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  • Serita Jakes: True, true,very true.
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  • Downloads, updates,downloads, updates,
  • 00:15:51.500 --> 00:15:57.840
  • I get a download from God, I getan update, I get an update that
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  • affects how I download to him,which updates him as to what is
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  • required for where you areright now, talk to me.
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  • Thomas Jakes: We both functionbetter as a result of it.
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  • Bishop Jakes: Absolutely.
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  • Thomas Jakes: As a result ofthe agreement that we have
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  • between each other.
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  • Bishop Jakes: Absolutely.
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  • Thomas Jakes: Yeah.
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  • Bishop Jakes: How do you, atwhat point in your life did you
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  • really see the agreement, andwhat matters and what doesn't
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  • matter, and the substratumof what connects us
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  • as parents to you?
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  • Thomas Jakes: I think it waseasy to put you all on a
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  • pedestal at first because of whoyou are, not just as my parents
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  • but in society, but as you startto see the humanity of a person
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  • it starts to changeyour perspective.
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  • So you all were once in myshoes, 20 year-olds trying to
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  • make something out of nothing,but now we can have that
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  • conversation on how to bridgethe gap and do it in a mature
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  • manner, it's appropriate now.
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  • Bishop Jakes: It's appropriatenow, it's appropriate now,
  • 00:17:00.335 --> 00:17:02.337
  • exactly, everything init's own season.
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  • Let me say this to you, are yougetting something out of this?
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  • Okay, I have been a voyeur ofnot only my own life and raising
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  • five children and now havinggrandchildren and all of that,
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  • but I've also been a voyeur ofother people's lives because
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  • I get an opportunity to meetall kinds of people, counsel
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  • all kinds of people; from thevery top of life, from the White
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  • House to the crack house, I havebeen there and done that
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  • and got the t-shirt.
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  • And let me tell you something,the people who do the best,
  • 00:17:36.205 --> 00:17:39.141
  • and best is not about moneynecessarily, I'm talking about
  • 00:17:39.174 --> 00:17:42.478
  • happy, fulfilled, gratified inlife, are the people who learn
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  • how to function in unstableenvironments.
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  • We've been through everything,as soon as we got here,
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  • her mother died.
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  • We hadn't even learned our wayaround, her mother got sick,
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  • two weeks later, she was dead,she had never been sick,
  • 00:18:05.534 --> 00:18:08.737
  • nothing, she died.
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  • Her best friend, the person whowould keep the kids, that you
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  • could really trust, the personwho was a confidant, the person
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  • who was with you ride-or-die,and I was one of the people
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  • who happened to lovetheir mother-in-law.
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  • My mother-in-law stayed in ourhouse half the time that I was
  • 00:18:28.290 --> 00:18:30.792
  • glad, so I didn't have any kindof mother-in-laws stories to
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  • tell you, now we're in anunstable city in a new place
  • 00:18:34.396 --> 00:18:38.834
  • meeting new people in a newchurch, have bet the farm
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  • on this word from God, and partof the stability changes,
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  • her mother dies.
  • 00:18:47.009 --> 00:18:50.345
  • And you're in an unstableenvironment and the art of life
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  • is to survive the instability.
  • 00:18:55.717 --> 00:19:00.489
  • Well, we survived it as much asyou survive losing somebody that
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  • you love, because everybodywho's ever done that know that
  • 00:19:03.959 --> 00:19:06.128
  • you always miss those people ina way that you can't even
  • 00:19:06.161 --> 00:19:09.932
  • articulate, but before we couldget to some semblance
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  • of normalcy my mother got sickand died.
  • 00:19:14.836 --> 00:19:20.309
  • In a new place, in a newenvironment, with adolescent
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  • children, and life moving,and changes, in the public eye.
  • 00:19:24.179 --> 00:19:34.189
  • You cannot wait for lifeto stabilize to grow.
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  • It is--please, please stay withme 'cause I'm gonna need you
  • 00:19:43.665 --> 00:19:48.170
  • in a minute, I need to come downhere for a minute.
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  • Please understand, it is nevergoing to stabilize, everything's
  • 00:19:50.539 --> 00:19:57.012
  • never going to be right,everything's never gonna
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  • be perfect.
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  • Whatever you're going to do andbe and grow into, you got to be
  • 00:20:01.850 --> 00:20:05.220
  • able to do it in an unstableenvironment.
  • 00:20:05.254 --> 00:20:07.456
  • What are they doing?
  • 00:20:07.489 --> 00:20:09.625
  • You're trying to go?
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  • Okay, go ahead, yeah, yeah,yeah, that's his way of escaping
  • 00:20:11.026 --> 00:20:13.895
  • being on stage, I'm gonnakill him later.
  • 00:20:13.929 --> 00:20:17.933
  • Yeah, but do you understandwhat I'm saying?
  • 00:20:17.966 --> 00:20:21.370
  • It's never going to be ideal,the people who do the best
  • 00:20:21.403 --> 00:20:27.376
  • in their lives are peoplewho function effectively in
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  • instability, how much have youhad to change over the years as
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  • our world change and as wewalked through, I don't mean
  • 00:20:37.586 --> 00:20:41.790
  • progress, but throughthe storms?
  • 00:20:41.823 --> 00:20:47.562
  • How, as a woman, how did youmake it through the storms?
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  • Serita Jakes: You know, babe,it's kind of hard to articulate
  • 00:20:53.568 --> 00:20:58.273
  • because the storms kept right oncoming, and so at one point I
  • 00:20:58.307 --> 00:21:03.712
  • felt like someone was walking, Iwas walking around and there was
  • 00:21:03.745 --> 00:21:07.916
  • a water balloon over my head andI didn't know who had the pin,
  • 00:21:07.949 --> 00:21:12.654
  • and I had gotten so used to,from Mother passing to surgery
  • 00:21:12.688 --> 00:21:18.293
  • after surgery after surgery,and everything was shaking,
  • 00:21:18.327 --> 00:21:24.833
  • but I held onto my faith,I held onto my faith.
  • 00:21:24.866 --> 00:21:31.573
  • And I'm not being superspiritual because sometimes it
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  • wasn't easy.
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  • Bishop Jakes: Right.
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  • Serita Jakes: To hold on,sometimes I thought it would be
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  • easier to just, you know, countit all joy and be done with it,
  • 00:21:40.482 --> 00:21:46.254
  • you know?
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  • So I had to hold onto my faithand then I had to learn how
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  • to have private problemsin public places.
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  • Bishop Jakes: You've gotta beable to ride the wave and
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  • balance yourself, balance,that's a big word.
  • 00:22:02.738 --> 00:22:06.208
  • Serita Jakes: Balance.
  • 00:22:06.241 --> 00:22:07.542
  • Bishop Jakes: That's a huge wordright there.
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  • Serita Jakes: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
  • 00:22:09.945 --> 00:22:11.246
  • Bishop Jakes: Balance, what doesthat mean to you?
  • 00:22:11.279 --> 00:22:12.581
  • Serita Jakes: To me it means,when you're riding a bicycle the
  • 00:22:12.614 --> 00:22:15.016
  • main thing you have to do ishold your balance.
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  • No matter what the terrain islike, no matter what the weather
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  • is like, if you maintain yourbalance you can keep
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  • the bike moving.
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  • But as soon as you lose yourbalance, the bike's gonna go one
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  • way and you're gonna go theother way, and you're gonna get
  • 00:22:31.133 --> 00:22:33.969
  • scarred and marred and beat up.
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  • But if you can holdyour balance...
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  • Bishop Jakes: Woo, that's apreacher right there, "If you
  • 00:22:40.375 --> 00:22:43.745
  • can hold your balance," how manypeople are going through
  • 00:22:43.779 --> 00:22:47.482
  • some rough terrain right now?
  • 00:22:47.516 --> 00:22:50.819
  • Do you understand that God istelling you to hold
  • 00:22:50.852 --> 00:22:53.355
  • your balance?
  • 00:22:53.388 --> 00:22:54.990
  • You can't control the terrainbut you can control your
  • 00:22:55.023 --> 00:22:58.894
  • balance, and if you control yourbalance you're gonna ride
  • 00:22:58.927 --> 00:23:02.631
  • through this and you're gonnaride through that.
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  • Serita Jakes: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
  • 00:23:05.133 --> 00:23:06.435
  • Bishop Jakes: And you're gonnaride through the other.
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  • Serita Jakes: Yes, yes, yes.
  • 00:23:07.803 --> 00:23:09.171
  • Bishop Jakes: And if you justkeep on riding, you're gonna
  • 00:23:09.204 --> 00:23:10.772
  • ride it all away throughto the end.
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  • For somebody that ought to bea moment of praise and
  • 00:23:13.308 --> 00:23:16.144
  • thanksgiving to God.
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  • Serita Jakes: Yes sir,steady yourself.
  • 00:23:25.921 --> 00:23:28.023
  • Bishop Jakes: Steady yourself.
  • 00:23:28.056 --> 00:23:29.357
  • Serita Jakes: Steady yourself.
  • 00:23:29.391 --> 00:23:30.692
  • Bishop Jakes: Steady yourself.
  • 00:23:30.725 --> 00:23:32.494
  • To me balance means get outof the fire when you can.
  • 00:23:32.527 --> 00:23:41.369
  • If you're going through a seasonof distress and you get a chance
  • 00:23:41.403 --> 00:23:46.308
  • to laugh, take that exit,go right off that exit ramp.
  • 00:23:46.341 --> 00:23:50.946
  • Serita Jakes: Ah, yes sir.
  • 00:23:50.979 --> 00:23:52.481
  • Bishop Jakes: Go, "Hahahahaha,hahaha, ha, haha-haha."
  • 00:23:52.514 --> 00:23:58.019
  • If you get a chance to be happy30 minutes, if you get a chance
  • 00:23:58.053 --> 00:24:04.559
  • to have a three-day furlough outof prison.
  • 00:24:04.593 --> 00:24:06.528
  • Serita Jakes: Yes, Lord.
  • 00:24:06.561 --> 00:24:07.896
  • Bishop Jakes: If you get a24-hour pass for just a little
  • 00:24:07.929 --> 00:24:10.699
  • while, I know it's going to bethere when you get back, I know
  • 00:24:10.732 --> 00:24:13.668
  • you're gonna have to put on thewhole armor and jump back
  • 00:24:13.702 --> 00:24:16.805
  • in the fight again.
  • 00:24:16.838 --> 00:24:18.139
  • "But he giveth his belovedrest," and if God gives you a
  • 00:24:18.173 --> 00:24:23.044
  • chance to rest from what you'regoing through, I don't know,
  • 00:24:23.078 --> 00:24:27.249
  • I feel like I'm talking tosomebody, I don't even know
  • 00:24:27.282 --> 00:24:30.418
  • who it is.
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  • Since it is not goingto change.
  • 00:24:37.125 --> 00:24:40.395
  • Serita Jakes: It's not gonnachange.
  • 00:24:40.428 --> 00:24:42.197
  • "If the storms don't cease..."
  • 00:24:42.230 --> 00:24:43.899
  • Bishop Jakes: If the stormsdon't cease.
  • 00:24:43.932 --> 00:24:45.233
  • Serita Jakes: "And the windkeeps blowing, thy soul has got
  • 00:24:45.267 --> 00:24:48.570
  • to be anchored."
  • 00:24:48.603 --> 00:24:49.938
  • Bishop Jakes: Yes, glory,my soul is anchored.
  • 00:24:49.971 --> 00:24:55.110
  • Serita Jakes: My soul has gotto be anchored.
  • 00:24:55.143 --> 00:24:56.478
  • Bishop Jakes: My soul isanchored, my soul is anchored,
  • 00:24:56.511 --> 00:24:59.247
  • my job might not be anchored, myfriends might not be anchored
  • 00:24:59.281 --> 00:25:03.585
  • but my soul is anchored.
  • 00:25:03.618 --> 00:25:05.921
  • My circumstances aren'tanchored, my house isn't
  • 00:25:05.954 --> 00:25:09.291
  • anchored but my soul.
  • 00:25:09.324 --> 00:25:13.094
  • Serita Jakes: Yes God, Yes God.
  • 00:25:13.128 --> 00:25:17.132
  • Bishop Jakes: Hallelujah, I feelthe spirit of God in this place
  • 00:25:17.165 --> 00:25:21.937
  • right now, somebody give him 30seconds of praise in this place.
  • 00:25:21.970 --> 00:25:26.975
  • [congregation cheering]
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  • Serita Jakes: Yep, yep, yep.
  • 00:25:48.496 --> 00:25:51.499
  • Bishop Jakes: High five somebodyand say, "I'm going to make it
  • 00:25:51.533 --> 00:25:53.201
  • through this."
  • 00:25:53.234 --> 00:25:54.569
  • Serita Jakes: I'm gonna make it.
  • 00:25:54.603 --> 00:25:55.904
  • Bishop Jakes: I'm going to makeit through this.
  • 00:25:55.937 --> 00:25:59.641
  • I gotta balance myself.
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  • Serita Jakes: I got to.
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  • Bishop Jakes: You got me?Serita Jakes: I got you.
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