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June 27, 2017
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Matt & Laurie Crouch host Joel & Victoria Osteen, John & Aventer Gray and Clayton & Ashlee Hurst.

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  • COMING UP ON PRAISE...
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  • IF I WANT TO SLOW DANCE WITH MY
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  • WIFE I DON'T WANT TO HEAR JESUS
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  • WILL FIX IT
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  • JOEL OSTEEN: WHEN YOU GET UP
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  • TOMORROW MORNING, GIVE YOUR
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  • HUSBAND A BIG HUG AND SAY, I'M
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  • PROUD OF YOU, YOU GOOD LOOKING
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  • THING!
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  • ANNOUNCER: MARRIAGE MOMENTS
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  • WITH JOHN & AVENTER GRAY,
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  • JOEL & VICTORIA OSTEEN,
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  • AND THE DIRECTORS OF LAKEWOOD'S
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  • MARRIAGE AND PARENTING MINISTRY,
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  • CLAYTON AND ASHLEE HURST.
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  • [CHEERS & APPLAUSE]
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  • - CHEER FOR MY WIFE!
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  • TODAY, RIGHT HERE FROM STUDIO C
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  • IN TUSTIN, CALIFORNIA, WE ARE
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  • TALKING ABOUT MARRIAGE TODAY,
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  • JOEL AND VICTORIA, YOU HAVE A
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  • BIG CONFERENCE COMING CALLED
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  • SPARK.
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  • LET'S TALK ABOUT SOME SPARKS
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  • GOING ON HERE.
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  • GET US STARTED.
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  • - THE NUMBER ONE REQUEST WE GET
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  • IN OUR MINISTRY IS HELPING
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  • RELATIONSHIPS.
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  • EVERYWHERE WE GO IT SEEMS A LOT
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  • OF THINGS COME AGAINST THE
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  • FAMILY.
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  • WE HAVE GREAT PEOPLE WITH US
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  • TODAY TO ENCOURAGE US IN OUR
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  • RELATIONSHIPS.
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  • IT CAN BE DIFFICULT AT TIMES,
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  • WHEN YOU STAY COMMITTED AND YOU
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  • DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO GOD WILL
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  • HELP YOU KEEP YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
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  • TOGETHER.
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  • THAT IS WHAT TONIGHT IS ABOUT
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  • AND WHAT THE SPARK CONFERENCE IS
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  • ABOUT.
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  • - PEOPLE NEED TO USE RESOURCES
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  • THEY HAVE TO ENRICH THEIR
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  • MARRIAGE, HAVE TOOLS TO HAVE
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  • BETTER MARRIAGES.
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  • IF YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE
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  • SOMETHING GOOD YOU HAVE TO WORK
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  • AT IT.
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  • YOU CANNOT JUST PUSH THE
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  • MARRIAGE ON PUSH CONTROL, WE
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  • WILL DO THE SAME THING ALL THE
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  • TIME.
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  • WE ALWAYS HAVE TO BE GETTING
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  • BETTER.
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  • I LOVE THE SCRIPTURE THAT SAYS
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  • OUR LOVE IS TO ABOUND IN
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  • KNOWLEDGE AND DEPTH OF INSIGHT.
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  • TO GROW AND ABOUND IN KNOWLEDGE
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  • AND DEPTH OF INSIGHT.
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  • THAT SPEAKS TO MY HEART.
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  • I'M NOT SUPPOSED TO LOVE JOEL
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  • THE SAME WAY I DID WHEN WE FIRST
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  • GOT MARRIED 30 YEARS AGO.
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  • [APPLAUSE]
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  • THIRTY YEARS.
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  • WE GO THROUGH DIFFERENT SEASONS,
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  • YOU HAVE CHILDREN, YOUR CHILDREN
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  • GROW, YOU GET NEW JOBS, NEW
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  • RESPONSIBILITIES, YOU HAVE TO
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  • ADAPT TO ONE ANOTHER.
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  • A CONFERENCE LIKE THIS HELPS
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  • PEOPLE LEARN HOW TO LOVE ONE
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  • ANOTHER, RESPECT ONE ANOTHER.
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  • ONE OF THE KEY THINGS IN
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  • MARRIAGE IS RESPECT.
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  • - I THINK THE MOST IMPORTANT
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  • THING IS TO DETERMINE, HAVE YOU
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  • GUYS EVER HAD A FIGHT?
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  • - I DON'T WANT TO SOUND
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  • SUPERFICIAL.
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  • YOU HAVE TO AGREE TO DISAGREE
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  • RESPECTFULLY.
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  • I THINK IF YOU CAN KEEP RESPECT
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  • IN THE RELATIONSHIP, THAT IS
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  • WHERE I SEE-- I'M NOT AN EXPERT
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  • BUT WHEN I SEE PEOPLE DRIFTING
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  • APART LOSING RESPECT SAYING
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  • THINGS THEY SHOULD NOT SAY, WHEN
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  • YOU LET YOUR GUARD DOWN LIKE
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  • THAT YOU CAN BEGIN TO GROW
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  • APART.
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  • I BELIEVE WITH GOD'S HELP WE CAN
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  • TREAT EACH OTHER WITH RESPECT
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  • AND RISE ABOVE IT AND BE AN
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  • EAGLE AND OVERLOOK THINGS.
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  • MOST PEOPLE KNOW LOVE OVER LOOKS
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  • OFFENSES AND MAKES ALLOWANCES
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  • FOR PEOPLE'S MISTAKES.
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  • NO ONE IS PERFECT.
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  • I WAS TALKING TO THE CHURCH
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  • RECENTLY ABOUT STAYING
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  • COMMITTED.
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  • BEING WITH PEOPLE IN LIFE BEING
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  • A PASTOR FOR THESE LAST 16 YEARS
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  • GROWING UP A PASTOR'S KID,
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  • SOMETIMES GOOD PEOPLE CAN MAKE
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  • MISTAKES.
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  • PEOPLE THAT LOVE YOU CAN LET YOU
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  • DOWN.
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  • IT IS THE PEOPLE THAT CAN SAY
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  • I'M IN THIS FOR THE LONG HAUL,
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  • WE COMMITTED TO EACH OTHER WE
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  • ARE COMMITTED TO GOD WE WILL
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  • BOUNCE THROUGH THESE BUMPY
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  • TIMES.
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  • I SAW THAT WITH MY PARENTS,
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  • VICTORIA AND I, YOU HAVE BUMPS
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  • IN THE ROAD BUT YOU MAKE A
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  • COMMITMENT LEAVING IS NOT AN
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  • OPTION, I'M COMMITTED TO YOU AND
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  • LOVING YOU IN THE GOOD TIMES AND
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  • THE TOUGH TIMES.
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  • - WE ARE TALKING ABOUT
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  • MARRIAGE.
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  • WE ARE THE SCENE I DON'T
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  • REMEMBERS HERE.
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  • WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED 32 YEARS.
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  • [CHEERS & APPLAUSE]
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  • SWEE HAVWE HAVE A CLIP.
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  • LOOK AT THIS.
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  • - WHEN YOU WERE DATING THAT
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  • PERSON YOU ONLY FOCUSED ON THEIR
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  • GOOD QUALITIES, SHE IS
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  • BEAUTIFUL.
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  • SHE IS FUN, SHE HAS A GREAT
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  • SENSE OF STYLE.
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  • HE IS SO SMART AND TALENTED.
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  • I LOVE HIS SENSE OF HUMOR.
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  • THAT PERSON HAD THE SAME
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  • NEGATIVE QUALITIES BACK THEN AS
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  • THEY HAVE RIGHT NOW, YOU JUST
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  • DID NOT FOCUS ON IT.
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  • LADIES, THINK ABOUT THIS.
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  • WHEN YOU WERE DATING THAT MAN
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  • YOU KNOW HE WATCHED BALL GAMES
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  • EVERY SUNDAY AFTERNOON DRESSED
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  • UP LIKE A TEAM MASCOT.
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  • (LAUGHTER).
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  • HAD 12 FRIENDS OVER, DID NOT
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  • ACKNOWLEDGE YOU FOR 3 AND A HALF
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  • HOURS.
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  • YOU KNEW WHEN YOU WERE DATING
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  • HIM HE WORE THE SAME PAIR OF
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  • SHORTS 7 YEARS.
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  • YOU KNEW WHEN YOU WERE DATING
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  • HIS BREATH WAS A WEAPONS OF MASS
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  • DESTRUCTION.
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  • YOU KNEW HIS 40-INCH WAISTLINE
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  • WAS BIGGER.
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  • YOU KNEW SHE WOULD BUY THE SHOES
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  • AND NOT PAY THE RENT AND SHE HAD
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  • A DIRECT PHONE LINE WITH HER
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  • MOTHER.
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  • YOU WERE SO IN LOVE IT DID NOT
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  • BOTHER YOU.
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  • TOO OFTEN WE FALL OUT OF LOVE
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  • AND START NOTICING.
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  • LITTLE ANNOYANCES BECOME
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  • MAGNIFIED.
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  • WHAT IS THE SOLUTION?
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  • WE HAVE TO FALL BACK IN LOVE.
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  • START REMEMBERING THE REASONS
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  • WHY YOU COULD NOT LIVE WITHOUT
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  • THAT PERSON, MAGNIFY THEIR GOOD
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  • QUALITIES OVERLOOK THE THINGS
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  • THAT BOTHER YOU, BRING FRESHNESS
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  • INTO THE RELATIONSHIP.
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  • LAUGH MORE OFTEN.
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  • TAKE MORE WALKS, DO SOMETHING
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  • OUT OF THE ROUTINE.
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  • THAT PERSON GOD HAS GIVEN YOU IS
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  • A GIFT.
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  • [APPLAUSE]
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  • FIRST OF ALL, WE WANT TO WELCOME
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  • YOU AGAIN, IF YOU JUST TUNED IN
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  • WE ARE TALKING ABOUT MARRIAGE
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  • TODAY.
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  • WE HAVE A WHOLE BUNCH OF THE
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  • LAKEWOOD FOLK.
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  • JOHN AND AVENTER WE ARE TALKING
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  • ABOUT MARRIAGE, HOW DOES IT WORK
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  • FOR YOU GUYS?
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  • HOW DO YOU WANT TO GET THIS
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  • STARTED?
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  • - WE ARE SIX WHOLE YEARS.
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  • - YEAH!
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  • - WE ARE THE BABIES, THE
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  • FRESHMEN.
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  • WHAT I LEARNED, MARRIAGE IS
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  • GOD'S ASSAULT ON SELFISHNESS.
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  • WHAT GOD IS SEEKING TO DO IS NOT
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  • TO BUILD SOMETHING WITH TWO
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  • PEOPLE HE IS MAKING ONE THING
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  • AND HE IS PRUNING THE TWO
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  • INDIVIDUALS UNTIL THEY BECOME
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  • ONE.
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  • I DON'T GET TO CEEM ALL OF W S
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  • WHEN I WAS SINGLE.
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  • I WAS AVERSE TO CHANGE.
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  • GOD SAYS I HAVE A TRICK FOR YOU.
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  • I'M GOING TO BRING SOMETHING
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  • SOFT TO SHARPEN YOU.
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  • HE BRINGS THIS BRILLIANT WOMAN
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  • WITH ALL THIS LOVE AND GRACE AND
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  • ALL THESE GIFTS.
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  • I FALL IN LOVE AND NOW WITHOUT
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  • ASKING AND WITHOUT WANTING TO
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  • I'M BEGINNING TO MATURE AND
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  • GROW.
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  • MY HEART IS BEGINNING TO EXPAND.
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  • I SEE LIFE THROUGH A DIFFERENT
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  • LENS.
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  • FOR ME IT WAS GOD SAYING IT IS
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  • TIME TO GROW UP AND THINK ABOUT
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  • LEGACY AND TIME TO BUILD
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  • SOMETHING THAT OUTLASTS YOU.
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  • THAT IS WHAT MARRIAGE IS.
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  • A GLIMPSE INTO HEAVEN THROUGH
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  • THE LENS OF COVENANT.
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  • [APPLAUSE]
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  • - WHAT DO YOU WANT TO SAY ABOUT
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  • MARRIAGE, AVENTER?
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  • - IT IS IMPORTANT TO UNDERSTAND
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  • YOU NOT BECOME ONE THE MOMENT
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  • YOU SAY I DO.
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  • IT IS A CONSTANT STATE OF
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  • BECOMING BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE.
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  • YOU ARE ALWAYS BECOMING.
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  • THE FRESHNESS OF A RELATIONSHIP
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  • THAT LASTS FOR A LONG TIME IS
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  • WAKING UP SAYING, WHAT CAN I
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  • LEARN NO KNE NEW ABOUT THIS PERI
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  • CHOSE?
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  • WE ARE EVOLVING LEADING EACH
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  • OTHER WHERE WE ARE.
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  • STAYING CONSISTENT IN THE WORD
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  • TO MAKE SURE THE MARRIAGE LASTS,
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  • FOR SURE.
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  • HE CAN BECOME MULTIPLE PEOPLE AT
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  • ANY GIVEN MOMENT.
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  • IT IS A CHALLENGE.
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  • IT IS A BEAUTIFUL ONE I HAVE
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  • EMBRACED.
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  • YOU HAVE TO EMBRACE THE PERSON
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  • GOD TRUSTS YOU WITH AND ALL THE
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  • FACTORS THEY ARE BLESSED WITH
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  • YOU HAVE TO BE ABLE TO BRING
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  • THEM IN AND ENJOY THEM.
  • 00:09:47.150 --> 00:09:50.150
  • BECAUSE SOMETIMES JOHN GETS ON
  • 00:09:50.150 --> 00:09:51.260
  • MY NERVES A LOT.
  • 00:09:54.050 --> 00:09:57.050
  • I CAN'T STAY MAD TOO LONG.
  • 00:09:57.050 --> 00:09:59.050
  • IT IS SO UNFAIR HE CAN JOKE HIS
  • 00:09:59.150 --> 00:10:02.150
  • WAY OUT OF ANYTHING.
  • 00:10:02.150 --> 00:10:03.150
  • THAT IS HOW GOD MADE HIM.
  • 00:10:03.150 --> 00:10:05.100
  • I LOVE HIM.
  • 00:10:05.100 --> 00:10:07.070
  • I HAVE TO REMEMBER IN THOSE
  • 00:10:07.070 --> 00:10:09.020
  • MOMENTS WHERE WE BUMP HEADS WHY
  • 00:10:09.020 --> 00:10:11.090
  • WE CAME TOGETHER IN THE
  • 00:10:11.090 --> 00:10:12.220
  • BEGINNING.
  • 00:10:12.220 --> 00:10:13.110
  • IF WE CAN ALWAYS REMEMBER WHY WE
  • 00:10:13.110 --> 00:10:15.150
  • CAME TOGETHER, IT SHOULD BE EASY
  • 00:10:15.150 --> 00:10:17.180
  • TO GET BACK TO THAT PLACE WHEN
  • 00:10:19.070 --> 00:10:22.070
  • HARDSHIPS ARISE.
  • 00:10:22.070 --> 00:10:23.010
  • - THE PERSON YOU CHOSE, IN
  • 00:10:23.010 --> 00:10:25.280
  • CERTAIN SEGMENTS OF CHRISTIAN
  • 00:10:25.280 --> 00:10:27.290
  • THOUGHT THE IDEA GETS IN MY HEAD
  • 00:10:27.290 --> 00:10:30.150
  • WE SAY SHOW ME THE ONE.
  • 00:10:30.150 --> 00:10:31.270
  • WHEN YOU ARE SINGLE YOU HAVE I
  • 00:10:31.270 --> 00:10:34.050
  • LONG LIST.
  • 00:10:34.050 --> 00:10:35.040
  • THEY HAVE TO BE X.Y.Z., 6, 3,
  • 00:10:39.140 --> 00:10:42.140
  • HAVE THOUSANDS IN THE BANK, THEN
  • 00:10:42.190 --> 00:10:45.190
  • YOU GET LET THEM HAVE ONE GOOD
  • 00:10:47.180 --> 00:10:50.180
  • LEG.
  • 00:10:50.200 --> 00:10:53.200
  • JESUS,.
  • 00:10:53.200 --> 00:10:55.190
  • - THE IDEA IS, I CHOSE HER.
  • 00:10:55.220 --> 00:10:58.220
  • WHAT HAPPENED IN THE GARDEN,
  • 00:10:58.220 --> 00:11:00.290
  • THIS WOMAN YOU GAVE AS OPPOSED
  • 00:11:00.290 --> 00:11:03.200
  • TO SAYING THIS IS THE CHOICE I
  • 00:11:03.200 --> 00:11:05.100
  • MADE.
  • 00:11:05.100 --> 00:11:05.190
  • WHAT I REALIZED, WE ARE NOT
  • 00:11:05.190 --> 00:11:07.210
  • GOING TO AGREE GOD DOES NOT WANT
  • 00:11:07.210 --> 00:11:09.190
  • ME TO AGREE.
  • 00:11:09.190 --> 00:11:10.250
  • HE GAVE ME SOMEONE DIFFERENT TO
  • 00:11:11.100 --> 00:11:14.100
  • BUILD ME INTO THE MAN HE WANTS
  • 00:11:14.100 --> 00:11:16.010
  • ME TO BE.
  • 00:11:16.050 --> 00:11:19.050
  • HE KNEW WHAT HE WAS DOING WHEN
  • 00:11:19.050 --> 00:11:21.080
  • HE PUT HER IN MY VISION.
  • 00:11:24.120 --> 00:11:27.120
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:11:29.200 --> 00:11:32.200
  • - WHEN PASTOR VICTORIA ASKED US
  • 00:11:32.200 --> 00:11:34.250
  • TO STEP IN WITH MARRIAGE AND
  • 00:11:34.250 --> 00:11:37.090
  • PARENTING WE DID NOT WANT TO
  • 00:11:37.090 --> 00:11:39.110
  • ASSUME PEOPLE WERE HAVING
  • 00:11:39.110 --> 00:11:41.030
  • CHALLENGES LIKE WE WERE.
  • 00:11:41.030 --> 00:11:42.170
  • WE WERE MARRIED 21 YEARS.
  • 00:11:45.060 --> 00:11:48.060
  • WE STRUGGLED THE FIRST FIVE
  • 00:11:48.060 --> 00:11:50.000
  • YEARS OF OUR MARRIAGE.
  • 00:11:50.000 --> 00:11:52.080
  • IT WAS COMMUNE CAUTION.
  • 00:11:53.110 --> 00:11:56.110
  • COMMUNICATION.
  • 00:11:56.110 --> 00:11:56.250
  • WE SENT OUT AN E-MAIL FOR THE
  • 00:11:56.250 --> 00:11:59.230
  • CHURCH WE WERE MARRIED.
  • 00:11:59.230 --> 00:12:01.070
  • WE ASKED QUESTIONS.
  • 00:12:01.070 --> 00:12:02.110
  • WHAT ARE YOU STRUGGLING WITH AND
  • 00:12:02.110 --> 00:12:04.060
  • CHALLENGES YOU ARE FACING?
  • 00:12:04.060 --> 00:12:05.210
  • THE NUMBER ONE 98 PERCENT PEOPLE
  • 00:12:06.040 --> 00:12:09.040
  • RESPONDED WAS COMMUNICATION WAS
  • 00:12:09.040 --> 00:12:10.210
  • NUMBER ONE, WE ARE CONSTANTLY
  • 00:12:10.210 --> 00:12:13.130
  • LEARNING HOW TO COMMUNICATE WITH
  • 00:12:13.130 --> 00:12:14.250
  • EACH OTHER.
  • 00:12:14.250 --> 00:12:15.240
  • IT IS A CHOICE EVERY DAY.
  • 00:12:15.240 --> 00:12:18.050
  • I CHOOSE TO LOVE HER EVERY DAY.
  • 00:12:18.050 --> 00:12:20.130
  • I CHOOSE TO CHERISH HER EVERY
  • 00:12:20.130 --> 00:12:22.270
  • DAY.
  • 00:12:22.270 --> 00:12:23.050
  • WE WORK ON COMMUNICATION
  • 00:12:23.050 --> 00:12:25.210
  • CONSTANTLY.
  • 00:12:25.210 --> 00:12:26.030
  • - PEOPLE THINK LOVE IS A
  • 00:12:26.030 --> 00:12:28.030
  • FEELING BUT IT IS A CHOICE.
  • 00:12:28.030 --> 00:12:30.000
  • JESUS TOLD US TO LOVE ONE
  • 00:12:30.000 --> 00:12:31.200
  • ANOTHER, IT IS A COMMAND FROM
  • 00:12:31.200 --> 00:12:33.150
  • GOD.
  • 00:12:33.150 --> 00:12:33.230
  • ONE THING I LEARNED OVER THE
  • 00:12:33.230 --> 00:12:35.290
  • YEARS, MARRIAGE IS NOT ABOUT
  • 00:12:35.290 --> 00:12:38.130
  • HAPPINESS IT IS ABOUT HOLINESS.
  • 00:12:38.130 --> 00:12:40.100
  • WHEN WE FIRST GOT MARRIED, YOU
  • 00:12:41.090 --> 00:12:44.090
  • FEEL SECURE.
  • 00:12:44.090 --> 00:12:46.170
  • FIVE YEARS INTO MARRIAGE I WAS
  • 00:12:46.170 --> 00:12:48.250
  • NOT ALWAYS HAPPY.
  • 00:12:48.250 --> 00:12:50.020
  • HE DID NOT MAKE ME HAPPY
  • 00:12:50.020 --> 00:12:51.270
  • SOMETIMES.
  • 00:12:51.270 --> 00:12:52.080
  • I FELT INSECURE ABOUT MYSELF AND
  • 00:12:52.080 --> 00:12:54.230
  • OUR MARRIAGE WHA. DO .
  • 00:12:55.060 --> 00:12:58.060
  • WHAT DO I DO NOW?
  • 00:12:58.060 --> 00:13:00.160
  • WE FOUND PEOPLE TO HELP US AND
  • 00:13:00.170 --> 00:13:03.170
  • GREAT BOOKS.
  • 00:13:03.170 --> 00:13:04.160
  • IT IS ABOUT HOLINESS, ABOUT GOD
  • 00:13:04.160 --> 00:13:07.100
  • BRINGING TWO PEOPLE TOGETHER TO
  • 00:13:07.100 --> 00:13:08.210
  • MAKE YOU ONE AND THE THINGS YOU
  • 00:13:11.000 --> 00:13:14.000
  • NEED TO GET RID OF.
  • 00:13:14.000 --> 00:13:15.060
  • WHO BETTER TO GET YOU TO THAT
  • 00:13:15.060 --> 00:13:17.040
  • PLACE BUT YOUR SPOUSE.
  • 00:13:17.040 --> 00:13:18.120
  • YOU CAN EXPOSE EVERYTHING IN YOU
  • 00:13:18.120 --> 00:13:20.210
  • THAT GOD WANTS TO GET RID OF.
  • 00:13:20.210 --> 00:13:23.030
  • OVER THE LAST 21 YEARS, IT IS ON
  • 00:13:23.030 --> 00:13:25.200
  • GOING, WE THINK MARRIAGE IS AN
  • 00:13:25.200 --> 00:13:27.050
  • ON GOING EDUCATION CLASS, YOU
  • 00:13:27.050 --> 00:13:30.020
  • CANNOT STOP LEARNING ABOUT
  • 00:13:30.020 --> 00:13:33.020
  • MARRIAGE.
  • 00:13:33.020 --> 00:13:33.220
  • IT BRINGS US CLOSER TO THE
  • 00:13:33.230 --> 00:13:36.230
  • PLAIFPLACEOF HOLINESS WITH GOD.
  • 00:13:37.230 --> 00:13:40.230
  • - I WANT TO KNOW WHAT YOU THINK
  • 00:13:40.230 --> 00:13:42.150
  • ABOUT MARRIAGE, I THINK.
  • 00:13:42.170 --> 00:13:45.170
  • LET ME HAVE THIS BIG GINORMOUS
  • 00:13:47.040 --> 00:13:50.040
  • WIDE SHOT.
  • 00:13:50.040 --> 00:13:52.180
  • I DON'T KNOW HOW MANY PEOPLE IN
  • 00:13:52.180 --> 00:13:54.050
  • THE STUDIO, 3 OR 400 PEOPLE.
  • 00:13:54.050 --> 00:13:57.050
  • MARRIED PEOPLE, LIFT YOUR HAND,
  • 00:13:57.050 --> 00:13:59.210
  • WASTWAVE IT.
  • 00:14:00.170 --> 00:14:03.170
  • SINGLE PEOPLE, BIG WAVE.
  • 00:14:03.170 --> 00:14:06.120
  • OF THE SINGLE PEOPLE, HOW MANY
  • 00:14:06.120 --> 00:14:09.020
  • WANT TO BE MARRIED, YOU ARE
  • 00:14:09.020 --> 00:14:11.060
  • SINGLE AND WANT TO BE MARRIED?
  • 00:14:14.210 --> 00:14:17.210
  • YOU SEE THE ONE LADY GOING--
  • 00:14:19.210 --> 00:14:22.210
  • (LAUGHTER).
  • 00:14:24.150 --> 00:14:27.150
  • BASICALLY, THIS ISSUE IS, YOU
  • 00:14:27.160 --> 00:14:30.160
  • ARE EITHER SINGLE AND WANTING TO
  • 00:14:30.160 --> 00:14:32.180
  • BE MARRIED OR MARRIED TRYING TO
  • 00:14:32.180 --> 00:14:34.200
  • FIGURE THIS THING OUT.
  • 00:14:37.290 --> 00:14:40.290
  • THERE IS A LOT OF THAT GOING ON.
  • 00:14:41.150 --> 00:14:44.150
  • STATISTICS OUR STAFF FOUND IN
  • 00:14:45.230 --> 00:14:48.230
  • 1960, 72 PERCENT OF PEOPLE WERE
  • 00:14:48.230 --> 00:14:51.010
  • MARRIED.
  • 00:14:51.010 --> 00:14:52.220
  • IN 2015 ONLY 50 PERCENT OF
  • 00:14:52.220 --> 00:14:53.210
  • PEOPLE ARE MARRIED.
  • 00:14:53.210 --> 00:14:55.140
  • THERE'S A LOT OF CHANGE GOING ON
  • 00:14:55.140 --> 00:14:58.060
  • IN THIS MATTER.
  • 00:14:59.220 --> 00:15:02.240
  • THE STATS WERE 215.
  • 00:15:02.240 --> 00:15:05.120
  • I KNOW IT IS 217 NOW.
  • 00:15:05.120 --> 00:15:07.240
  • I DID KNOW THAT.
  • 00:15:07.240 --> 00:15:10.180
  • BASICALLY THIS SUBJECT MATTER IS
  • 00:15:10.180 --> 00:15:12.230
  • GINORMOUS IT AFFECTS VIRTUALLY
  • 00:15:12.260 --> 00:15:15.260
  • EVERYBODY.
  • 00:15:15.260 --> 00:15:16.070
  • I HAD A FAMILY THAT WHEN I GREW
  • 00:15:16.070 --> 00:15:18.070
  • UP MY PARENTS WERE MARRIED ONCE.
  • 00:15:18.070 --> 00:15:20.140
  • THEY WERE MARRIED UNTIL THEY
  • 00:15:20.140 --> 00:15:22.040
  • PASSED AWAY.
  • 00:15:22.040 --> 00:15:23.030
  • YOUR PARENTS WERE MARRIED UNTIL
  • 00:15:23.030 --> 00:15:24.220
  • YOUR FATHER PASSED AWAY.
  • 00:15:24.220 --> 00:15:26.100
  • WE HAD THIS KIND OF-- WE HAD TO
  • 00:15:27.250 --> 00:15:30.250
  • LOOK AT WHAT MARRIAGE COULD BE.
  • 00:15:32.230 --> 00:15:35.230
  • - GRANDPARENTS.
  • 00:15:35.230 --> 00:15:36.090
  • - WE DON'T HAVE A LOT OF
  • 00:15:36.090 --> 00:15:37.220
  • DIVORCE IN OUR UP LINE.
  • 00:15:38.050 --> 00:15:41.050
  • WE HAD MARRIAGE MODELED TO US.
  • 00:15:42.140 --> 00:15:45.140
  • MY MOM WOULD SAY SOMETHING TO
  • 00:15:45.140 --> 00:15:47.000
  • LAURIE AND I, SHE FOUND LAURIE
  • 00:15:47.230 --> 00:15:50.230
  • IN AN ELEVATOR LITERALLY IN AN
  • 00:15:50.230 --> 00:15:53.230
  • ELEVATOR, GOT ON AN ELEVATOR AND
  • 00:15:53.230 --> 00:15:55.280
  • SAID DO YOU MIND IF I ASK HOW
  • 00:15:55.280 --> 00:15:58.210
  • OLD YOU ARE?
  • 00:15:58.210 --> 00:15:59.230
  • I WOULD LIKE YOU TO MEET MY SON.
  • 00:15:59.230 --> 00:16:02.070
  • I TOTALLY AM GOOD WITH ARRANGED
  • 00:16:03.120 --> 00:16:06.120
  • MARRIAGES, BY THE WAY.
  • 00:16:06.120 --> 00:16:08.230
  • - SHE SAID I HAVE TWO SONS NOT
  • 00:16:08.230 --> 00:16:11.210
  • MARRIED.
  • 00:16:11.210 --> 00:16:13.240
  • - WE ARE.
  • 00:16:13.240 --> 00:16:15.170
  • - I HAVE TWO SONS NOT MARRIED.
  • 00:16:15.170 --> 00:16:18.000
  • CODY, WHERE ARE YOU?
  • 00:16:18.000 --> 00:16:20.110
  • - WE BASICALLY, WE GOT MARRIAGE
  • 00:16:22.030 --> 00:16:25.030
  • MODELED FOR US.
  • 00:16:25.030 --> 00:16:25.290
  • MY MOM SAID TO HER ONE TIME, IT
  • 00:16:25.290 --> 00:16:28.290
  • STUCK ON BOTH OF US.
  • 00:16:28.290 --> 00:16:30.180
  • SHE SAID, YOU WON'T EVEN
  • 00:16:30.180 --> 00:16:33.020
  • UNDERSTAND WHAT LOVE IS UNTIL
  • 00:16:33.020 --> 00:16:35.000
  • YOU'VE BEEN MARRIED 25 YEARS.
  • 00:16:36.070 --> 00:16:39.070
  • - I REALIZED THAT WHEN WE
  • 00:16:39.070 --> 00:16:41.170
  • STARTED GETTING CLOSE TO 25.
  • 00:16:43.040 --> 00:16:46.040
  • I UNDERSTAND WHAT MOM WAS
  • 00:16:46.040 --> 00:16:48.290
  • TALKING ABOUT.
  • 00:16:48.290 --> 00:16:49.200
  • THERE ARE SO MANY MARRIAGES THAT
  • 00:16:49.200 --> 00:16:51.230
  • WILL NEVER SEE THAT.
  • 00:16:51.230 --> 00:16:53.270
  • THERE IS DIVORCE.
  • 00:16:53.270 --> 00:16:55.120
  • I PERSONALLY, I LOVE TO LISTEN
  • 00:16:55.120 --> 00:16:57.200
  • TO PEOPLE THAT HAVE BEEN MARRIED
  • 00:16:57.200 --> 00:16:59.090
  • FOR YEARS.
  • 00:16:59.090 --> 00:17:00.190
  • IT GIVES ME GIGGLES ON THE
  • 00:17:00.190 --> 00:17:02.250
  • INSIDE BECAUSE YOU'VE COME
  • 00:17:02.250 --> 00:17:04.040
  • THROUGH SO MUCH.
  • 00:17:04.040 --> 00:17:06.070
  • YOU LEARN SO MUCH ABOUT WHAT GOD
  • 00:17:08.090 --> 00:17:11.090
  • SAYS ABOUT YOU LEARN HOW TO BE
  • 00:17:12.220 --> 00:17:15.220
  • GODLY IN YOUR MARRIAGE, HOLY.
  • 00:17:15.220 --> 00:17:18.070
  • NOT TO BE HAPPY BUT HOLY.
  • 00:17:18.070 --> 00:17:21.060
  • I LOVE WHAT JENNY EVANS WHO WILL
  • 00:17:22.090 --> 00:17:25.090
  • BE PART OF THE SPARK CONFERENCE,
  • 00:17:25.290 --> 00:17:28.290
  • YOU GET MARRIED AND YOU CREATE
  • 00:17:31.270 --> 00:17:34.270
  • SOULMATES.
  • 00:17:34.270 --> 00:17:37.090
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:17:37.090 --> 00:17:40.040
  • WE ARE ONE, WE BECOME ONE.
  • 00:17:40.040 --> 00:17:42.250
  • I THINK THAT DOES TAKE MAYBE
  • 00:17:45.070 --> 00:17:48.070
  • AWHILE.
  • 00:17:48.070 --> 00:17:49.010
  • I THINK THE MOST DIFFICULT THING
  • 00:17:49.010 --> 00:17:51.260
  • ABOUT MARRIAGE IS STAYING
  • 00:17:51.260 --> 00:17:54.130
  • TOGETHER.
  • 00:17:54.130 --> 00:17:54.240
  • - WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?
  • 00:17:54.240 --> 00:17:56.110
  • - IT IS EASY TO LEAVE.
  • 00:17:56.110 --> 00:17:59.080
  • - EASY TO LEAVE ME?
  • 00:18:01.220 --> 00:18:04.220
  • - I THINK THAT IS THE EASY
  • 00:18:04.220 --> 00:18:06.230
  • PART, GIVING UP AND LEAVING AND
  • 00:18:06.230 --> 00:18:08.280
  • WALKING OUT.
  • 00:18:08.280 --> 00:18:11.200
  • MY DADDY SAID ONCE YOU WALK YOU
  • 00:18:11.200 --> 00:18:14.170
  • DOWN THE AISLE, BABY, YOU ARE
  • 00:18:14.170 --> 00:18:16.090
  • NEVER COMING HOME.
  • 00:18:16.090 --> 00:18:18.040
  • MY DADDY TOLD ME THAT AT THE
  • 00:18:18.040 --> 00:18:19.190
  • BACK OF THE AISLE BEFORE WALKING
  • 00:18:19.190 --> 00:18:22.070
  • DOWN.
  • 00:18:22.070 --> 00:18:22.160
  • I'M DADDY'S GIRL.
  • 00:18:22.160 --> 00:18:24.070
  • HE SAID BABY GIRL IF YOU WANT TO
  • 00:18:24.070 --> 00:18:26.180
  • GO NOW I WILL RUN YOU TO THE CAR
  • 00:18:26.180 --> 00:18:28.170
  • AND WE ARE OUT OF HERE.
  • 00:18:28.170 --> 00:18:30.060
  • ONCE YOU WALK YOU DOWN THAT
  • 00:18:30.060 --> 00:18:32.040
  • AISLE AND GIVE YOU TO HIM, YOU
  • 00:18:32.040 --> 00:18:33.220
  • ARE NEVER COMING HOME.
  • 00:18:35.280 --> 00:18:38.280
  • I WAS LIKE, DROPPED TO MY KNEES
  • 00:18:39.160 --> 00:18:42.160
  • AND SAID CAN WE PRAY ONE MORE
  • 00:18:42.160 --> 00:18:44.080
  • TIME ABOUT THIS?
  • 00:18:44.080 --> 00:18:45.230
  • I THINK THE ENCOURAGEMENT AS
  • 00:18:47.100 --> 00:18:50.100
  • PARENTS ENCOURAGING KIDS TO STAY
  • 00:18:51.120 --> 00:18:54.120
  • WITH IT A LOT OF PARENTS SAY YOU
  • 00:18:54.120 --> 00:18:56.170
  • DON'T NEED THAT, BABY, COME ON
  • 00:18:56.200 --> 00:18:59.200
  • HOME.
  • 00:18:59.200 --> 00:18:59.290
  • I DIDN'T HAVE THAT.
  • 00:18:59.290 --> 00:19:00.290
  • IT WAS LIKE, YOU GET IN WITH
  • 00:19:00.290 --> 00:19:03.200
  • THAT FAMILY GOD HAS GIVEN YOU,
  • 00:19:03.200 --> 00:19:05.120
  • YOU STAND BEHIND THAT FAMILY.
  • 00:19:05.120 --> 00:19:06.250
  • YOU LOVE AND SUPPORT YOUR MAN.
  • 00:19:06.250 --> 00:19:09.220
  • SO, I HAD THE WHAT FOR.
  • 00:19:12.150 --> 00:19:15.150
  • BUT I JUST LOVE YOU AND I'M
  • 00:19:15.150 --> 00:19:18.030
  • THANKFUL FOR YOU, 32 YEARS.
  • 00:19:22.190 --> 00:19:25.190
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:19:25.190 --> 00:19:27.140
  • - MEN THAT DO THE RIGHT THING,
  • 00:19:27.140 --> 00:19:29.250
  • I APPRECIATE MEN THAT DO THE
  • 00:19:29.250 --> 00:19:31.100
  • RIGHT THING.
  • 00:19:31.100 --> 00:19:32.000
  • - WHEN YOU WERE TALKING ABOUT
  • 00:19:32.000 --> 00:19:33.270
  • STATISTICS ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED
  • 00:19:33.270 --> 00:19:35.090
  • IN 72 AND THE MOST RECENT
  • 00:19:36.150 --> 00:19:39.150
  • STATISTICS IN 2015, THERE IS A
  • 00:19:39.150 --> 00:19:42.080
  • GENERATION NOT RAISED TO HONOR
  • 00:19:42.080 --> 00:19:45.050
  • AND REVERENCE MARRIAGE.
  • 00:19:45.110 --> 00:19:48.110
  • THE DEFINITION HAS CHANGED OF
  • 00:19:48.110 --> 00:19:49.280
  • WHAT IS IMPORTANT IN OUR
  • 00:19:49.280 --> 00:19:52.080
  • SOCIETY.
  • 00:19:52.080 --> 00:19:54.180
  • MATERIALISM, CAPITALISM.
  • 00:19:54.180 --> 00:19:55.220
  • DO WHAT YOU WANT, LIVE HOW YOU
  • 00:19:55.250 --> 00:19:58.250
  • WANT.
  • 00:19:58.250 --> 00:19:59.040
  • LIVE AND SLEEP WITH WHO YOU
  • 00:19:59.040 --> 00:20:01.010
  • WANT.
  • 00:20:01.010 --> 00:20:01.100
  • NO CONSEQUENCES.
  • 00:20:01.100 --> 00:20:02.220
  • FAITH IS A DINOSAUR, MARRIAGE IS
  • 00:20:02.220 --> 00:20:05.220
  • A DINOSAUR, COVENANT IS A
  • 00:20:05.220 --> 00:20:08.020
  • DINOSAUR.
  • 00:20:08.020 --> 00:20:08.130
  • THESE ARE AFTER THOUGHTS, IF IT
  • 00:20:08.130 --> 00:20:10.070
  • DOES NOT WORK OUT WITH ONE, GET
  • 00:20:10.070 --> 00:20:12.010
  • ANOTHER ONE, YOU CHANGE MATES
  • 00:20:12.010 --> 00:20:14.230
  • LIKE TIRES.
  • 00:20:14.230 --> 00:20:17.010
  • THE WHOLE IDEA THAT FOR WHATEVER
  • 00:20:17.110 --> 00:20:20.110
  • REASON, IF SOMEBODY DOES NOT
  • 00:20:20.110 --> 00:20:21.200
  • PLEASE YOU YOU CAN WALK AWAY.
  • 00:20:21.200 --> 00:20:23.270
  • THIS IS WHY THE CHURCH MUST
  • 00:20:23.270 --> 00:20:26.090
  • RECLAIM THE FOUNDATION OF
  • 00:20:26.090 --> 00:20:28.190
  • MARRIAGE.
  • 00:20:28.190 --> 00:20:29.000
  • BECAUSE GOD IS MARRIED TO THE
  • 00:20:29.000 --> 00:20:30.180
  • CHURCH.
  • 00:20:30.180 --> 00:20:30.280
  • HE SHOULD HAVE WALKED AWAY EVERY
  • 00:20:31.050 --> 00:20:34.050
  • SINGLE DAY BASED ON THE BEHAVIOR
  • 00:20:34.050 --> 00:20:36.060
  • OF PEOPLE INSIDE.
  • 00:20:36.060 --> 00:20:37.100
  • HE MADE A COVENANT DECISION TO
  • 00:20:37.100 --> 00:20:39.110
  • CALL US HIS BRIDE.
  • 00:20:39.110 --> 00:20:41.280
  • THE DEPICTION OF MARRIAGE IS A
  • 00:20:41.280 --> 00:20:44.160
  • PICTURE OF CHRIST AND THE CHURCH
  • 00:20:44.160 --> 00:20:46.140
  • ON THE EARTH.
  • 00:20:46.140 --> 00:20:47.290
  • WHAT I HAD TO UNDERSTAND, MY
  • 00:20:47.290 --> 00:20:50.100
  • WIFE'S LAST NAME WAS NOT CHRIST.
  • 00:20:50.100 --> 00:20:52.080
  • SHE COULD NOT SAVE ME.
  • 00:20:52.080 --> 00:20:53.290
  • SHE COULD NOT FILL EVERY PLACE.
  • 00:20:53.290 --> 00:20:56.040
  • SHE WAS NOT DESIGNED TO FILL
  • 00:20:56.040 --> 00:20:57.290
  • EVERY PLACE.
  • 00:20:57.290 --> 00:20:58.230
  • SHE WAS DESIGNED TO BE A
  • 00:20:58.230 --> 00:21:00.230
  • COMPLEMENT TO MY DESTINY.
  • 00:21:00.230 --> 00:21:01.290
  • IF I MADE HER GOD AND PUT HER ON
  • 00:21:01.290 --> 00:21:04.120
  • THE THRONE ONLY GOD COULD SIT ON
  • 00:21:04.120 --> 00:21:06.150
  • SHE WOULD FAIL ME AND I WOULD
  • 00:21:06.150 --> 00:21:08.060
  • FAIL HER.
  • 00:21:08.060 --> 00:21:08.250
  • MARRIAGE IS DESIGNED TO SHOW ME
  • 00:21:08.250 --> 00:21:11.160
  • THE HOLE ONLY GOD CAN FILL.
  • 00:21:11.160 --> 00:21:13.030
  • THAT IS THE KEY.
  • 00:21:13.030 --> 00:21:15.050
  • MANY TIMES WHEN I HAVE BEEN
  • 00:21:15.050 --> 00:21:17.270
  • FRUSTRATED, YOU ARE NOT MEETING
  • 00:21:17.270 --> 00:21:19.110
  • MY NEEDS WHEN I GO DEEP I
  • 00:21:19.110 --> 00:21:21.260
  • REALIZE SHE WAS NEVER CALLED TO
  • 00:21:21.260 --> 00:21:23.170
  • MEET THOSE PARTICULAR AREAS OF
  • 00:21:23.170 --> 00:21:24.260
  • NEED.
  • 00:21:24.260 --> 00:21:25.050
  • IT WAS A PLACE ONLY GOD CAN
  • 00:21:25.050 --> 00:21:28.000
  • FILL.
  • 00:21:28.000 --> 00:21:28.090
  • WHAT WE ARE NOT RESOURCING AND
  • 00:21:28.090 --> 00:21:30.270
  • GIVING TO MARRIED COUPLES NOW IS
  • 00:21:30.270 --> 00:21:32.250
  • THE ABILITY TO BE OKAY WITH
  • 00:21:33.140 --> 00:21:36.140
  • THEIR HUMANITY AND PRE WIRED
  • 00:21:36.140 --> 00:21:38.130
  • THOUGHTS AND FLAWS.
  • 00:21:38.130 --> 00:21:40.110
  • NOTHING EXPOSES YOUR BROKENNESS
  • 00:21:40.110 --> 00:21:42.090
  • LIKE A PERSON WHO WILL NOT LEAVE
  • 00:21:42.090 --> 00:21:45.040
  • YOUR HOUSE.
  • 00:21:45.040 --> 00:21:47.100
  • I WAKE UP, SHE IS STILL HERE?
  • 00:21:48.010 --> 00:21:51.010
  • AND I'M LIKE SHE SHOULD HAVE
  • 00:21:51.010 --> 00:21:52.290
  • LEFT BECAUSE I WOULD HAVE LEFT.
  • 00:21:52.290 --> 00:21:54.270
  • WHEN I REALIZED I SAID THIS MANY
  • 00:21:54.270 --> 00:21:57.180
  • TIMES, I DON'T KNOW WHY YOU LOVE
  • 00:21:57.180 --> 00:21:59.010
  • ME.
  • 00:21:59.010 --> 00:21:59.100
  • THERE ARE AREAS OF ME I DON'T
  • 00:21:59.100 --> 00:22:02.010
  • LOVE AND I'M WALKING INTO A
  • 00:22:02.010 --> 00:22:03.180
  • PLACE OF EMBRACING THAT.
  • 00:22:03.180 --> 00:22:05.030
  • I LOVE YOU SO MUCH, I SAID IF
  • 00:22:05.240 --> 00:22:08.240
  • YOU LEAVE ME I'M LEAVING ME.
  • 00:22:10.170 --> 00:22:13.170
  • WHERE ARE WE MOVING?
  • 00:22:13.170 --> 00:22:15.060
  • I'M MOVING WITH YOU AND THE
  • 00:22:15.100 --> 00:22:18.100
  • KIDS.
  • 00:22:18.100 --> 00:22:18.190
  • IF YOU GET REMARRIED I'M GOING
  • 00:22:18.190 --> 00:22:20.250
  • TO BE THERE TOO TOO.
  • 00:22:21.110 --> 00:22:24.110
  • WHAT ARE WE EATING FOR DINNER.
  • 00:22:27.060 --> 00:22:30.060
  • - WE NEED TO HAVE MORE
  • 00:22:33.270 --> 00:22:36.270
  • LAUGHTER.
  • 00:22:36.270 --> 00:22:37.080
  • - WE ARE TALKING ABOUT
  • 00:22:37.080 --> 00:22:38.220
  • MARRIAGE.
  • 00:22:38.220 --> 00:22:39.030
  • THERE IS LITERALLY NOTHING MORE
  • 00:22:39.030 --> 00:22:41.160
  • IMPORTANT.
  • 00:22:41.160 --> 00:22:42.140
  • IT IS WHAT CAUSES HUMANITY TO
  • 00:22:42.140 --> 00:22:45.020
  • KEEP GOING.
  • 00:22:45.020 --> 00:22:46.230
  • MARRIAGE, PRO CREATION, A MAN
  • 00:22:46.230 --> 00:22:48.270
  • AND A WOMAN.
  • 00:22:48.270 --> 00:22:49.270
  • WE ARE TALKING ABOUT-- LET ME
  • 00:22:49.270 --> 00:22:52.020
  • TELL YOU, THE WIDE SHOT OF THIS
  • 00:22:52.020 --> 00:22:54.160
  • STAGE HERE WITH THIS GROUP, WHAT
  • 00:22:55.110 --> 00:22:58.110
  • IS THE COMMON THREAD HERE, THESE
  • 00:22:58.270 --> 00:23:01.290
  • ARE ALL PASTORS OF LAKEWOOD
  • 00:23:01.290 --> 00:23:04.030
  • CHURCH, THE SCENE I DON'T
  • 00:23:04.030 --> 00:23:04.220
  • REMEMBETHE SENIOR PASTORS,ASSOCD
  • 00:23:12.230 --> 00:23:15.230
  • PARENTING, THEY ARE PUTTING ON A
  • 00:23:15.230 --> 00:23:18.160
  • SPARK CONFERENCE 2017.
  • 00:23:18.160 --> 00:23:21.130
  • AUGUST 18 AND 19.
  • 00:23:21.130 --> 00:23:23.040
  • THERE'S INFORMATION ON THE
  • 00:23:23.040 --> 00:23:24.070
  • SCREEN.
  • 00:23:24.070 --> 00:23:24.170
  • WE WANT YOU TO KNOW ABOUT IT.
  • 00:23:24.170 --> 00:23:26.200
  • ALL THAT CONTENT WILL BE
  • 00:23:26.200 --> 00:23:28.230
  • CAPTURED.
  • 00:23:28.230 --> 00:23:29.040
  • WE WILL PUT IT ONLY TBN.
  • 00:23:29.040 --> 00:23:30.280
  • WE WANTED TO COME TO YOU NOW AND
  • 00:23:30.280 --> 00:23:32.210
  • LET YOU KNOW WHEREVER YOU ARE
  • 00:23:32.210 --> 00:23:34.100
  • WATCHING AROUND THE WORLD AN
  • 00:23:34.100 --> 00:23:36.120
  • AMAZING CONFERENCE IS COMING.
  • 00:23:36.160 --> 00:23:39.160
  • WE WANT TO SHOW YOU A CLIP.
  • 00:23:39.280 --> 00:23:42.280
  • A CONFERENCE CLIP TO SHOW WHAT
  • 00:23:42.280 --> 00:23:44.070
  • WE ARE TALKING ABOUT.
  • 00:23:44.110 --> 00:23:47.110
  • SPARK 2017 AT LAKEWOOD CHURCH.
  • 00:23:47.110 --> 00:23:48.230
  • - WE ARE EXCITED ABOUT THE
  • 00:23:48.230 --> 00:23:50.270
  • SPARK MARRIAGE CONFERENCE COMING
  • 00:23:50.270 --> 00:23:52.060
  • UP HERE AT LAKEWOOD.
  • 00:23:52.270 --> 00:23:55.270
  • OUR FRIEND JIMMY EVANS, GARY
  • 00:23:56.140 --> 00:23:59.140
  • CHAPMAN, ASHLEE AND CLAY TOP
  • 00:24:02.290 --> 00:24:05.290
  • HURST, A GREAT WAY TO STREP THEN
  • 00:24:09.220 --> 00:24:12.220
  • YOUR MARRIAGE.
  • 00:24:12.220 --> 00:24:13.200
  • - IT WILL BE A WONDERFUL NIGHT
  • 00:24:13.200 --> 00:24:15.140
  • OF INSPIRATION AND JOY.
  • 00:24:15.140 --> 00:24:16.270
  • YOU WILL MEET PEOPLE JUST LIKE
  • 00:24:16.270 --> 00:24:18.210
  • YOU, MAKE NEW FRIEND, IT IS WELL
  • 00:24:18.210 --> 00:24:21.120
  • WORTH YOUR TIME.
  • 00:24:21.120 --> 00:24:22.040
  • WE ARE EXCITED ABOUT WHAT IS
  • 00:24:23.000 --> 00:24:26.000
  • HAPPENING AT LAKEWOOD CHURCH
  • 00:24:26.000 --> 00:24:28.100
  • SPARK CONFERENCE.
  • 00:24:28.100 --> 00:24:30.190
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:24:30.210 --> 00:24:33.210
  • WOO.
  • 00:24:36.070 --> 00:24:39.070
  • - I LOVE THE IDEA THAT ALL OF
  • 00:24:39.070 --> 00:24:42.030
  • THAT CONTENT CAN BE CAPTURED.
  • 00:24:42.030 --> 00:24:43.250
  • GO TO HOUSTON AUGUST IN HOUSTON
  • 00:24:43.250 --> 00:24:46.240
  • IS AWESOME.
  • 00:24:47.140 --> 00:24:50.140
  • BE SURE TO DO THAT.
  • 00:24:52.120 --> 00:24:55.120
  • THE CHURCH, FORMER COMPAQ CENTER
  • 00:24:57.030 --> 00:25:00.050
  • FULLY AIR CONDITIONED.
  • 00:25:00.050 --> 00:25:01.140
  • IF IT WAS NOT I WOULD ADVIC ADVU
  • 00:25:02.250 --> 00:25:05.250
  • NOT TO GO BUT IT IS.
  • 00:25:05.250 --> 00:25:07.150
  • THE SPARK CONFERENCE 2017.
  • 00:25:07.150 --> 00:25:09.060
  • WE ARE LIVE TODAY.
  • 00:25:09.120 --> 00:25:12.120
  • JUNE 27.
  • 00:25:12.120 --> 00:25:12.220
  • - MY BIRTHDAY.
  • 00:25:12.220 --> 00:25:13.220
  • - HAPPY BIRTHDAY, JOHN GRAY.
  • 00:25:19.090 --> 00:25:22.090
  • - I BELIEVE IN THE SPARK
  • 00:25:22.090 --> 00:25:24.130
  • CONFERENCE.
  • 00:25:24.130 --> 00:25:24.250
  • I BELIEVE IN MARRIAGE.
  • 00:25:24.250 --> 00:25:27.090
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:25:27.090 --> 00:25:29.010
  • - I WANT BIRTHDAY CAKE.
  • 00:25:29.010 --> 00:25:31.210
  • I CAME HERE TO GET A SPARK.
  • 00:25:32.250 --> 00:25:35.250
  • HELLO.
  • 00:25:43.060 --> 00:25:46.060
  • - WE ARE NOT PASTORS.
  • 00:25:46.060 --> 00:25:49.040
  • YOU ARE ALL PASTORS.
  • 00:25:49.040 --> 00:25:52.010
  • WE WILL NOT WEIGH IN WITH A
  • 00:25:52.010 --> 00:25:54.070
  • BUNCH OF MARRIAGE ADVICE AND
  • 00:25:54.070 --> 00:25:56.160
  • COUNSEL FOR OTHER PEOPLE.
  • 00:25:56.160 --> 00:25:58.180
  • THERE WAS ONE SIMPLE THING THAT
  • 00:25:58.180 --> 00:26:00.240
  • HAPPENED TO ME, THIS LITTLE GIRL
  • 00:26:00.240 --> 00:26:03.140
  • FIRST TIME I SAW HER I ABOUT
  • 00:26:03.180 --> 00:26:06.180
  • FAINTED.
  • 00:26:06.180 --> 00:26:06.280
  • AND SO SHE HAS NEVER BEEN HARD
  • 00:26:07.060 --> 00:26:10.060
  • TO LOVE.
  • 00:26:10.060 --> 00:26:11.230
  • WE WERE MARRIED, WE WERE NEVER--
  • 00:26:13.210 --> 00:26:16.210
  • I DON'T REMEMBER FIGHTING A LOT
  • 00:26:16.210 --> 00:26:18.240
  • AND ALL THAT STUFF.
  • 00:26:18.280 --> 00:26:21.280
  • LITERALLY, I DON'T REALLY
  • 00:26:21.280 --> 00:26:23.140
  • REMEMBER MUCH.
  • 00:26:23.140 --> 00:26:25.000
  • A UNIQUE THING HAPPENED TO ME.
  • 00:26:26.230 --> 00:26:29.230
  • - A BLESSING FROM THE LORD.
  • 00:26:30.270 --> 00:26:33.270
  • AMNESIA.
  • 00:26:33.270 --> 00:26:35.200
  • (LAUGHTER).
  • 00:26:35.200 --> 00:26:36.020
  • - PASTOR JOEL'S HERE.
  • 00:26:36.130 --> 00:26:39.130
  • SOMETHING DID HAPPEN, A UNIQUE
  • 00:26:39.130 --> 00:26:42.100
  • EXPERIENCE FOR ME.
  • 00:26:42.100 --> 00:26:44.010
  • ALL I CAN DO IS TELL YOU, IT IS
  • 00:26:44.010 --> 00:26:46.110
  • LIKE A DAY DREAM.
  • 00:26:46.110 --> 00:26:47.150
  • I WAS RUNNING ON MULLHOLLAND.
  • 00:26:47.160 --> 00:26:50.160
  • WE USED TO LIVE IN LOS ANGELES.
  • 00:26:50.160 --> 00:26:52.120
  • I WAS RUNNING.
  • 00:26:52.120 --> 00:26:54.090
  • IT FELT LIKE THE LORD JUST SAID
  • 00:26:54.090 --> 00:26:56.070
  • TO ME, I DIDN'T CALL YOU.
  • 00:26:57.190 --> 00:27:00.210
  • AGAIN, I DON'T KNOW HOW TO
  • 00:27:00.210 --> 00:27:01.270
  • EXPLAIN A DAY DREAM.
  • 00:27:01.270 --> 00:27:03.210
  • IT IS LIKE, I DID NOT CALL YOU.
  • 00:27:04.210 --> 00:27:07.210
  • HE SAID I CALLED YOU.
  • 00:27:08.060 --> 00:27:11.060
  • I DIDN'T CALL YOU, I CALLED YOU.
  • 00:27:11.060 --> 00:27:13.070
  • IN THE DA DAY DREAM LAURIE WAS T
  • 00:27:17.130 --> 00:27:20.130
  • TO ME.
  • 00:27:20.130 --> 00:27:21.150
  • IT WAS AS IF TO SAY YOUR DESTINY
  • 00:27:21.200 --> 00:27:24.200
  • IS NOT JUST ABOUT YOU, YOUR
  • 00:27:24.200 --> 00:27:27.080
  • DESTINY IS ABOUT YOU.
  • 00:27:27.080 --> 00:27:28.200
  • SO I WOULD NOT BE THE PERSON I
  • 00:27:29.170 --> 00:27:32.170
  • AM WITHOUT HER.
  • 00:27:32.170 --> 00:27:34.050
  • SO NOW WHEN YOU THINK OF THAT,
  • 00:27:34.050 --> 00:27:36.230
  • AND WHEN YOU THINK OF HOW
  • 00:27:36.230 --> 00:27:39.010
  • IMPORTANT GOD GOT MY ATTENTION,
  • 00:27:39.010 --> 00:27:40.260
  • WE WERE NOT HAVING MARRIAGE
  • 00:27:40.260 --> 00:27:43.210
  • TROUBLE.
  • 00:27:43.210 --> 00:27:44.130
  • WE NEVER THOUGHT ABOUT
  • 00:27:44.130 --> 00:27:47.080
  • DIVORCING.
  • 00:27:47.080 --> 00:27:47.190
  • SO THIS WAS LIKE AN ADDED BONUS
  • 00:27:47.190 --> 00:27:50.090
  • KIND OF THING.
  • 00:27:50.090 --> 00:27:51.030
  • I DIDN'T CALL YOU, I CALLED YOU.
  • 00:27:51.030 --> 00:27:53.060
  • THINK OF NOW A FIGHT OVER WHAT
  • 00:27:53.290 --> 00:27:56.290
  • RESTAURANT OR YOU DID NOT DO
  • 00:27:57.110 --> 00:28:00.130
  • SOMETHING, THE OTHER DAY I
  • 00:28:00.140 --> 00:28:03.140
  • NOTICED SHE PUT THIS RACK THING.
  • 00:28:07.090 --> 00:28:10.090
  • - HERE WE GO.
  • 00:28:10.090 --> 00:28:11.160
  • - IT WAS A RACK APPARENTLY I
  • 00:28:11.170 --> 00:28:14.170
  • WAS SUPPOSED TO INSTALL UNDER
  • 00:28:14.170 --> 00:28:16.170
  • THE KITCHEN SINK.
  • 00:28:16.170 --> 00:28:18.050
  • YOU PUT THE RACK THERE, LIKE I
  • 00:28:18.050 --> 00:28:20.100
  • HAD TO TRIP OVER IT AS A HINT.
  • 00:28:20.200 --> 00:28:23.200
  • - I REMEMBER THAT.
  • 00:28:23.200 --> 00:28:25.110
  • - THEN I DIDN'T DO IT.
  • 00:28:25.110 --> 00:28:28.070
  • I SAW SHE PUT IT SOMEWHERE ELSE
  • 00:28:28.070 --> 00:28:30.020
  • IN THE HOUSE.
  • 00:28:30.020 --> 00:28:31.010
  • I FORGOT TO DO IT.
  • 00:28:31.010 --> 00:28:32.230
  • I CAME BACK AND SOMEBODY ELSE
  • 00:28:32.230 --> 00:28:34.290
  • HAD DONE IT.
  • 00:28:34.290 --> 00:28:36.130
  • THE IDEA--
  • 00:28:36.130 --> 00:28:37.240
  • - DID YOU ACTUALLY DO THAT?
  • 00:28:37.240 --> 00:28:40.240
  • - I PUT THE TRACK IN THE CORNER
  • 00:28:40.240 --> 00:28:43.200
  • WAITING FOR YOU TO DO THAT.
  • 00:28:43.200 --> 00:28:45.210
  • - SO THE IDEA OF THE LITTLE
  • 00:28:45.210 --> 00:28:47.100
  • THINGS YOU MIGHT GET IRRITATED
  • 00:28:47.100 --> 00:28:49.140
  • OR FIGHT OVER, IN CONNECTION TO
  • 00:28:49.140 --> 00:28:51.180
  • MY DESTINY IS NOT ABOUT ME, IT
  • 00:28:51.180 --> 00:28:54.080
  • IS ABOUT US.
  • 00:28:54.080 --> 00:28:56.220
  • EVERYTHING PALES IN COMPARISON.
  • 00:28:56.270 --> 00:28:59.270
  • IF I WAS GOES TO DIVORCE HER, I
  • 00:29:00.030 --> 00:29:03.030
  • WOULD NOT BE DIVORCING HER I
  • 00:29:03.030 --> 00:29:05.080
  • WOULD BE DIVORCING MY DESTINY.
  • 00:29:05.080 --> 00:29:07.030
  • THAT IS WHAT GOD THINKS ABOUT
  • 00:29:07.030 --> 00:29:09.060
  • MARRIAGE.
  • 00:29:09.060 --> 00:29:09.210
  • YOU ARE NODDING, JOEL.
  • 00:29:09.210 --> 00:29:12.020
  • - IT IS EASY TO FOCUS ON LITTLE
  • 00:29:12.020 --> 00:29:14.260
  • THINGS, YOU CAN FORGET WHY YOU
  • 00:29:14.260 --> 00:29:16.260
  • FELL IN LOVE.
  • 00:29:16.260 --> 00:29:17.260
  • WHEN WE WERE FIRST MARRIED THE
  • 00:29:17.260 --> 00:29:20.060
  • FIRST FIVE YEARS VICTORIA
  • 00:29:20.060 --> 00:29:22.170
  • DRIVERS DIFFERENTLDRIVESDIFFERE.
  • 00:29:24.240 --> 00:29:27.240
  • WHEN I RODE WITH HER, SHE LIKES
  • 00:29:27.240 --> 00:29:30.080
  • TO PUT HER-- ON THE LINE ON THE
  • 00:29:37.110 --> 00:29:40.110
  • FREEWAY.
  • 00:29:40.110 --> 00:29:40.210
  • YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO STAY INSIDE
  • 00:29:40.260 --> 00:29:43.260
  • THE LINE BECAUSE THE TRUCK IS
  • 00:29:43.260 --> 00:29:45.080
  • OVER BY ME.
  • 00:29:45.080 --> 00:29:47.090
  • DRIVE IN THE MIDDLE OF THE LANE.
  • 00:29:47.090 --> 00:29:50.090
  • ONE DAY I REALIZED SHE NEVER HAD
  • 00:29:50.090 --> 00:29:52.150
  • A WRECK, AN ACCIDENT, SHE DRIVES
  • 00:29:52.270 --> 00:29:55.270
  • BETTER THAN ME.
  • 00:29:55.270 --> 00:29:56.190
  • I PUT ON MY HELMET AND GO
  • 00:29:57.120 --> 00:30:00.120
  • WHEREVER WE GO.
  • 00:30:00.120 --> 00:30:02.060
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:30:02.290 --> 00:30:05.290
  • BETWEEN THAT AND, I'M SAYING
  • 00:30:06.290 --> 00:30:09.290
  • THOSE LITTLE THINGS, WHEN
  • 00:30:10.250 --> 00:30:13.250
  • VICTORIA WE WOULD GET READY TO
  • 00:30:13.250 --> 00:30:15.220
  • GO TO CHURCH.
  • 00:30:15.220 --> 00:30:16.240
  • SHE WOULD SAY I'M READY, LET'S
  • 00:30:16.240 --> 00:30:19.060
  • GO.
  • 00:30:19.060 --> 00:30:19.280
  • HER READY IS NOT THE SAME AS MY
  • 00:30:19.280 --> 00:30:22.220
  • READY.
  • 00:30:22.220 --> 00:30:23.010
  • I DON'T MEAN IT WRONG, OKAY, I
  • 00:30:23.010 --> 00:30:25.190
  • WILL MAKE ADJUSTMENT.
  • 00:30:25.190 --> 00:30:27.020
  • SHE SAID SHE IS READY, RELAX FOR
  • 00:30:27.020 --> 00:30:29.260
  • A LITTLE WHILE.
  • 00:30:29.260 --> 00:30:31.170
  • DON'T MAKE BIG THINGS OUT OF
  • 00:30:31.170 --> 00:30:33.240
  • LITTLE THINGS, BECAUSE REALLY,
  • 00:30:33.240 --> 00:30:36.150
  • TWO ARE BETTER THAN ONE.
  • 00:30:36.150 --> 00:30:38.190
  • WHEN THERE IS UNITY IN THE
  • 00:30:38.190 --> 00:30:40.110
  • HOUSE, UNITY WITH YOUR SPOUSE,
  • 00:30:40.110 --> 00:30:43.050
  • SCRIPTURE SAYS ONE CAN PLACE A
  • 00:30:45.160 --> 00:30:48.160
  • THOUSAND, PUT TEN THOUSAND TO
  • 00:30:48.240 --> 00:30:51.240
  • FLIGHT.
  • 00:30:51.240 --> 00:30:52.100
  • I'M TEN TIMES MORE STRONGER IN
  • 00:30:52.100 --> 00:30:54.270
  • UNITY WITH HER.
  • 00:30:54.270 --> 00:30:56.110
  • CAN I OVERLOOK SOMETHING TO BE
  • 00:30:58.030 --> 00:31:01.050
  • STRONGER, TO NOT RUN AWAY FROM
  • 00:31:01.050 --> 00:31:02.260
  • YOUR DESTINY.
  • 00:31:02.260 --> 00:31:03.260
  • I SEE GOOD PEOPLE LETTING SMALL
  • 00:31:03.260 --> 00:31:06.170
  • THINGS IRRITATE THEM.
  • 00:31:06.170 --> 00:31:08.260
  • YOU NEED TO MAKE ALLOWANCES, I
  • 00:31:08.260 --> 00:31:11.110
  • LOVE THIS PERSON.
  • 00:31:11.110 --> 00:31:13.100
  • YOU LET THEM BECOME-- LET THEM
  • 00:31:13.100 --> 00:31:16.070
  • BE WHO THEY ARE.
  • 00:31:16.070 --> 00:31:17.100
  • GOD DID NOT CALL ME TO CHANGE
  • 00:31:17.100 --> 00:31:20.000
  • VICTOR YA. HE CALVICTORIA.
  • 00:31:20.040 --> 00:31:23.040
  • HE CALLED ME TO LOVE VICTORIA.
  • 00:31:23.040 --> 00:31:25.220
  • THE OTHER THING IS, ANY TIME YOU
  • 00:31:25.220 --> 00:31:28.160
  • PRAY FOR GOD TO CHANGE YOUR
  • 00:31:28.160 --> 00:31:30.170
  • SPOUSE ASK FOR HIM TO CHANGE YOU
  • 00:31:30.170 --> 00:31:32.090
  • AS WELL.
  • 00:31:35.270 --> 00:31:38.270
  • SO, ANOTHER THING, I'M HOGGING
  • 00:31:39.120 --> 00:31:42.120
  • THE TIME NOW, ANOTHER THING, I
  • 00:31:45.010 --> 00:31:48.010
  • SAY THIS.
  • 00:31:48.010 --> 00:31:49.130
  • TRUTHFULLY, I WOULD NOT BE HALF
  • 00:31:49.130 --> 00:31:50.280
  • OF WHO I AM WITHOUT VICTORIA
  • 00:31:50.280 --> 00:31:53.020
  • BECAUSE SHE HAS SPOKEN SEEDS
  • 00:31:53.020 --> 00:31:55.150
  • INTO MY LIFE AND DESTINY.
  • 00:31:57.120 --> 00:32:00.140
  • YEARS BEFORE MY DAD WENT TO BE
  • 00:32:00.140 --> 00:32:02.180
  • WITH THE LORD.
  • 00:32:02.190 --> 00:32:05.190
  • AND WE WOULD WATCH MY DAD
  • 00:32:05.290 --> 00:32:08.290
  • MINISTERING.
  • 00:32:08.290 --> 00:32:09.120
  • VICTORIA NUDGED ME AND SAID JOEL
  • 00:32:09.120 --> 00:32:11.010
  • ONE DAY YOU WILL PASTOR THE
  • 00:32:11.010 --> 00:32:12.170
  • CHURCH.
  • 00:32:12.170 --> 00:32:12.270
  • THAT WOULD MAKE ME MAD.
  • 00:32:12.270 --> 00:32:14.070
  • I DIDN'T KNOW HOW TO PREACH.
  • 00:32:14.070 --> 00:32:17.010
  • SHE TOLD-- SHE SAW THINGS IN ME
  • 00:32:17.010 --> 00:32:19.110
  • I DIDN'T SEE.
  • 00:32:19.110 --> 00:32:21.070
  • I RAN CAMERA ALL MY LIFE.
  • 00:32:21.070 --> 00:32:23.220
  • I LOVED DOING IT.
  • 00:32:23.220 --> 00:32:26.190
  • I WAS ALWAYS HEARING HER TELL ME
  • 00:32:26.190 --> 00:32:28.260
  • I COULD DO THINGS I DIDN'T THINK
  • 00:32:28.260 --> 00:32:30.240
  • I COULD DO.
  • 00:32:30.240 --> 00:32:31.230
  • SHE SAW THINGS I DIDN'T SEE IN
  • 00:32:31.230 --> 00:32:34.220
  • MYSELF.
  • 00:32:34.220 --> 00:32:36.230
  • IT TAKES-- A PRINCIPLE WE SHOULD
  • 00:32:36.230 --> 00:32:39.020
  • ALL LEARN, CALL OUT THE SEEDS OF
  • 00:32:39.020 --> 00:32:41.270
  • GREATNESS IN YOUR SPOUSE, CALL
  • 00:32:41.270 --> 00:32:43.120
  • OUT WHAT THEY CANNOT SEE IN
  • 00:32:43.120 --> 00:32:46.030
  • THEMSELVES.
  • 00:32:46.030 --> 00:32:46.150
  • WHEN MY DAD WENT TO BE WITH THE
  • 00:32:46.150 --> 00:32:48.050
  • LORD IN 1999 I HAD NOT
  • 00:32:48.050 --> 00:32:51.050
  • MINISTERED BEFORE.
  • 00:32:51.050 --> 00:32:51.220
  • I KNEW I WAS SUPPOSED TO.
  • 00:32:51.220 --> 00:32:53.270
  • I HAD INTERIOR VOICES SAYING YOU
  • 00:32:53.270 --> 00:32:56.190
  • CAN'T DO IT.
  • 00:32:56.190 --> 00:32:57.070
  • YOU CANNOT GET UP IN FRONT OF
  • 00:32:57.070 --> 00:32:59.220
  • PEOPLE.
  • 00:32:59.220 --> 00:33:00.070
  • VICTORIA REMINDED ME SO MANY
  • 00:33:00.070 --> 00:33:01.190
  • TIMES I COULD BECOME A PASTOR.
  • 00:33:01.190 --> 00:33:03.170
  • I THINK THAT IS ONE REASON I
  • 00:33:03.170 --> 00:33:05.290
  • COULD STEP UP AND BE WHAT GOD
  • 00:33:05.290 --> 00:33:08.190
  • HELP IMMEDIATE BECOMHELPED ME B.
  • 00:33:11.210 --> 00:33:14.210
  • YOU CAN SOW NEGATIVE SEEDS, YOU
  • 00:33:14.210 --> 00:33:17.180
  • ARE ALWAYS LATE.
  • 00:33:17.180 --> 00:33:19.180
  • WHY CANT BE ON TIME?
  • 00:33:19.180 --> 00:33:21.190
  • THEY HAVE ENOUGH PEOPLE PUSHING
  • 00:33:21.190 --> 00:33:23.050
  • THEM DOWN.
  • 00:33:23.050 --> 00:33:24.230
  • I ENCOURAGE YOU TO LIFT PEOPLE
  • 00:33:24.230 --> 00:33:27.190
  • OUT.
  • 00:33:27.190 --> 00:33:28.030
  • ESPECIALLY YOUR SPOUSE.
  • 00:33:28.030 --> 00:33:31.030
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:33:31.030 --> 00:33:31.170
  • I'M ON A ROLL.
  • 00:33:31.250 --> 00:33:34.250
  • THE LAST THING.
  • 00:33:34.250 --> 00:33:35.210
  • I HAVE SEEN PEOPLE THAT TREAT
  • 00:33:35.210 --> 00:33:38.150
  • STRANGERS BETTER THAN THEY TREAT
  • 00:33:38.150 --> 00:33:40.110
  • THEIR SPOUSE.
  • 00:33:40.110 --> 00:33:41.040
  • WE HAVE ALL SEEN IT.
  • 00:33:41.040 --> 00:33:43.080
  • WHAT CAN I DO, YOU GO HOME AND
  • 00:33:43.140 --> 00:33:46.140
  • IT IS A DIFFERENT STORY.
  • 00:33:46.140 --> 00:33:48.140
  • WE OUGHT TO TREAT THE BEST IS
  • 00:33:48.140 --> 00:33:50.210
  • OUR OWN FAMILY.
  • 00:33:50.210 --> 00:33:52.130
  • START WITH YOUR OWN FAMILY TO
  • 00:33:52.130 --> 00:33:55.030
  • HONOR AND UPLIFT AND COMPLIMENT.
  • 00:33:55.030 --> 00:33:57.260
  • DON'T TREAT SOMEBODY AT WORK
  • 00:33:57.260 --> 00:33:59.040
  • BETTER THAN YOU TREAT YOUR
  • 00:33:59.040 --> 00:34:01.140
  • SPOUSE.
  • 00:34:01.140 --> 00:34:02.160
  • TREAT EVERYBODY GOOD BUT START
  • 00:34:02.160 --> 00:34:04.000
  • AT HOME.
  • 00:34:07.050 --> 00:34:10.050
  • - MAYBE IN OUR FAMILIES,
  • 00:34:10.250 --> 00:34:13.250
  • EVERYBODY ELSE SEES IT, YOU ARE
  • 00:34:15.030 --> 00:34:18.030
  • MARRIED TO SOMEONE WHO SQUASHES
  • 00:34:18.270 --> 00:34:21.270
  • THAT.
  • 00:34:21.270 --> 00:34:22.250
  • MAN, THEY COULD BE SO WONDERFUL
  • 00:34:22.250 --> 00:34:25.000
  • AND HAVE SUCH GOOD SUCCESS WITH
  • 00:34:25.060 --> 00:34:28.060
  • THEIR WIVES AND HUSBANDS WOULD
  • 00:34:28.060 --> 00:34:29.170
  • SEE THAT AND VALUE THAT.
  • 00:34:29.170 --> 00:34:31.090
  • IT IS SO IMPORTANT.
  • 00:34:31.090 --> 00:34:33.030
  • - I DON'T IF I CAN QUOTE IT
  • 00:34:33.030 --> 00:34:35.260
  • EXACTLY, THE WIFE IS THE
  • 00:34:35.260 --> 00:34:37.200
  • HUSBAND'S GLORY.
  • 00:34:39.120 --> 00:34:42.120
  • HERE IS THE POINT.
  • 00:34:46.220 --> 00:34:49.220
  • IF VICTORIA IS NOT SHINING, IT
  • 00:34:49.220 --> 00:34:52.160
  • IS MY FAULT.
  • 00:34:52.160 --> 00:34:53.220
  • MY POINT IS, I RELATE TO WHAT
  • 00:34:53.220 --> 00:34:56.200
  • YOU ARE SAYING, LAURIE.
  • 00:34:56.200 --> 00:34:59.050
  • THERE ARE HUSBANDS WHO PUSH
  • 00:35:00.190 --> 00:35:03.190
  • THEIR WIVES DOWN.
  • 00:35:03.190 --> 00:35:05.040
  • THE MOST VICTORIA SHINES, THE
  • 00:35:06.150 --> 00:35:09.150
  • BETTER IT MAKES THE HUSBAND
  • 00:35:09.150 --> 00:35:10.270
  • LOOK.
  • 00:35:10.270 --> 00:35:11.060
  • IT GOES BOTH WAYS.
  • 00:35:11.060 --> 00:35:13.040
  • MAN ALIVE, I THINK THE
  • 00:35:13.040 --> 00:35:15.280
  • RELATIONSHIP WHERE THERE IS
  • 00:35:15.280 --> 00:35:17.290
  • COMPETITION I WOULD RATHER
  • 00:35:17.290 --> 00:35:20.000
  • VICTORIA SHINE IT MAKES THE MAN
  • 00:35:20.000 --> 00:35:21.130
  • LOOK BETTER.
  • 00:35:21.130 --> 00:35:22.080
  • YOU FLIP IT AROUND AND SAY IF
  • 00:35:22.080 --> 00:35:24.180
  • YOUR WIFE IS DEPRESSED,
  • 00:35:24.180 --> 00:35:27.070
  • DISCOURAGED, TUNNE TURN IT AROU.
  • 00:35:27.080 --> 00:35:30.080
  • DO BETTER.
  • 00:35:30.080 --> 00:35:31.130
  • WE CANNOT MAKE EVERYTHING BE
  • 00:35:31.130 --> 00:35:33.180
  • HAPPY, BUT I THINK WHEN WE GET
  • 00:35:33.180 --> 00:35:36.110
  • JIMMY EVANS SAYS IT, WHEN YOU
  • 00:35:36.190 --> 00:35:39.190
  • GET TO HEAVEN GOD WILL SAY WHAT
  • 00:35:39.190 --> 00:35:41.150
  • DID YOU DO WITH THE GIFT I GAVE
  • 00:35:41.150 --> 00:35:43.220
  • YOU, YOUR SUPPOSE DI YOUR SPOUSE
  • 00:35:47.180 --> 00:35:50.180
  • THEM BETTER?
  • 00:35:50.180 --> 00:35:51.250
  • AND NOT PUSH THEM DOWN?
  • 00:35:51.250 --> 00:35:53.210
  • - IT IS INTERESTING, THE THINGS
  • 00:35:53.230 --> 00:35:56.230
  • JOEL IS STRONG, HIS STRENGTHS
  • 00:35:57.070 --> 00:36:00.090
  • ARE MY WEAKNESSES.
  • 00:36:00.090 --> 00:36:01.220
  • MY STRENGTHS ARE HIS WEAKNESSES.
  • 00:36:01.220 --> 00:36:04.170
  • I THINK SOMETIMES WHEN WE LOOK
  • 00:36:04.170 --> 00:36:06.080
  • AT OURSELVES AND WE SEE OUR OWN
  • 00:36:06.090 --> 00:36:09.090
  • WEAKNESS BECAUSE THEY ARE
  • 00:36:09.090 --> 00:36:10.240
  • STRONG, IT DOES SOMETHING TO THE
  • 00:36:10.240 --> 00:36:12.090
  • INSIDE OF US, WHEN WE SHOULD BE
  • 00:36:12.090 --> 00:36:15.090
  • SAYING, YOU BRING OUT THE BEST
  • 00:36:15.090 --> 00:36:16.240
  • IN ME.
  • 00:36:16.240 --> 00:36:18.020
  • WE GET MAD AT OURSELVES BECAUSE
  • 00:36:18.020 --> 00:36:20.010
  • WE ARE NOT THAT PERSON AND WE
  • 00:36:20.010 --> 00:36:22.080
  • BEGIN TO CRITICIZE THAT ABOUT
  • 00:36:22.080 --> 00:36:23.270
  • THEM.
  • 00:36:23.270 --> 00:36:24.060
  • IF WE CAN LOOK AT THIS AND
  • 00:36:24.070 --> 00:36:27.070
  • REALIZE, AND SAY, I WANT TO BE
  • 00:36:27.070 --> 00:36:29.050
  • MORE LIKE THAT AND BRING OUT THE
  • 00:36:29.050 --> 00:36:31.030
  • BEST IN EACH OTHER.
  • 00:36:31.030 --> 00:36:32.250
  • I KNOW AREAS JOEL HAS HELPED ME
  • 00:36:32.250 --> 00:36:35.230
  • IN SO MUCH IN MY LIFE.
  • 00:36:35.230 --> 00:36:38.000
  • I HAVE ALWAYS LIKED I HAD TO
  • 00:36:38.000 --> 00:36:39.270
  • WORK ON THOSE AREAS?
  • 00:36:39.270 --> 00:36:41.160
  • NO.
  • 00:36:41.160 --> 00:36:42.180
  • WHEN I RESPECT THAT IS WHO HE
  • 00:36:42.180 --> 00:36:45.120
  • IS, AND I VALUE THAT HOW IT CAN
  • 00:36:45.120 --> 00:36:48.030
  • MAKE ME BETTER SO WE CAN
  • 00:36:48.030 --> 00:36:50.010
  • BECOME-- THE TRUTH IS, IT DOES
  • 00:36:50.010 --> 00:36:51.250
  • NOT MATTER IF YOU ARE MARRIED OR
  • 00:36:51.250 --> 00:36:54.020
  • SINGLE.
  • 00:36:54.020 --> 00:36:54.120
  • IF YOU ARE NOT GETTING BETTER IN
  • 00:36:54.120 --> 00:36:56.160
  • YOUR LIFE, YOU ARE JUST
  • 00:36:56.220 --> 00:36:59.220
  • STAGNANT.
  • 00:36:59.220 --> 00:37:00.050
  • SO ALL OF LIFE IS ABOUT GETTING
  • 00:37:00.050 --> 00:37:02.090
  • BETTER, GETTING BETTER IN EVERY
  • 00:37:02.090 --> 00:37:04.100
  • AREA.
  • 00:37:04.100 --> 00:37:04.200
  • IT IS MORE CHALLENGING WHEN YOU
  • 00:37:04.200 --> 00:37:07.010
  • TRY TO DO IT WITH SOMEONE.
  • 00:37:07.010 --> 00:37:09.170
  • WHEN WE REALIZE THAT IS WHERE WE
  • 00:37:09.170 --> 00:37:12.010
  • SHOULD BE GOING, MOVING FORWARD.
  • 00:37:12.010 --> 00:37:14.160
  • IT JUST HAPPENS TO BE IN
  • 00:37:14.160 --> 00:37:16.110
  • MARRIAGE IT IS A LITTLE MORE
  • 00:37:16.110 --> 00:37:18.180
  • STRUGGLE SOMETIMES.
  • 00:37:18.180 --> 00:37:19.230
  • I ALWAYS VALUE JOEL BECAUSE I
  • 00:37:19.230 --> 00:37:21.160
  • SEE THE BEST IN HIM.
  • 00:37:21.160 --> 00:37:22.290
  • I DO.
  • 00:37:22.290 --> 00:37:24.140
  • I TRAIN MYSELF TO SEE THE BEST
  • 00:37:24.140 --> 00:37:26.120
  • IN HIM.
  • 00:37:26.120 --> 00:37:28.000
  • YOU ASKED EARLIER IF WE ARGUE.
  • 00:37:28.000 --> 00:37:30.040
  • WE DO ARGUE.
  • 00:37:30.040 --> 00:37:31.170
  • - ABOUT WHAT?
  • 00:37:33.040 --> 00:37:36.040
  • - WE WORK TOGETHER.
  • 00:37:36.040 --> 00:37:37.220
  • JUST LIKE YOU AND LAURIE.
  • 00:37:37.220 --> 00:37:40.120
  • WE BUILT THINGS ALL OUR LIFE
  • 00:37:40.120 --> 00:37:43.040
  • TOGETHER.
  • 00:37:43.040 --> 00:37:43.270
  • THERE IS MORE CONTENTION WHEN
  • 00:37:43.270 --> 00:37:45.260
  • YOU TRY TO BUILD SOMETHING
  • 00:37:45.260 --> 00:37:48.070
  • BESIDES BUILDING A MARRIAGE, YOU
  • 00:37:48.070 --> 00:37:50.100
  • ARE TRYING TO BUILD A CHURCH OR
  • 00:37:50.100 --> 00:37:51.290
  • A TV STATION OR THE HOMES OR
  • 00:37:52.160 --> 00:37:55.160
  • THINGS WE HAVE DONE.
  • 00:37:55.160 --> 00:37:57.010
  • WE HAD TO REALIZE WE ARE IN
  • 00:37:57.020 --> 00:38:00.040
  • CONSTANT COMMUNICATION WITH EACH
  • 00:38:00.040 --> 00:38:02.050
  • OTHER.
  • 00:38:02.050 --> 00:38:02.140
  • I THINK WHAT WE HAVE DONE, WE
  • 00:38:02.140 --> 00:38:04.260
  • LOOKED AT THE VALUE WE HAVE FOR
  • 00:38:04.260 --> 00:38:06.170
  • EACH OTHER.
  • 00:38:06.170 --> 00:38:07.080
  • I SAY IT LIKE THIS.
  • 00:38:07.080 --> 00:38:09.060
  • VALUE EQUALS RESPECT.
  • 00:38:09.060 --> 00:38:10.210
  • IF YOU HAD SOMETHING VERY
  • 00:38:10.210 --> 00:38:12.220
  • VALUABLE YOU WERE GIVEN, YOU
  • 00:38:12.220 --> 00:38:15.040
  • WOULD RESPECT IT.
  • 00:38:15.040 --> 00:38:16.030
  • YOU WOULD PLACE IT SOMEWHERE
  • 00:38:16.030 --> 00:38:17.240
  • VERY NICE.
  • 00:38:17.240 --> 00:38:18.150
  • YOU WOULD TAKE CARE OF IT.
  • 00:38:18.150 --> 00:38:21.060
  • THE MORE VALUABLE IT IS THE MORE
  • 00:38:21.060 --> 00:38:23.140
  • YOU RESPECT IT.
  • 00:38:23.140 --> 00:38:24.270
  • SOMETIME WE DON'T LOOK AT OUR
  • 00:38:24.270 --> 00:38:27.230
  • MARRIAGE AS BEING VALUABLE.
  • 00:38:27.230 --> 00:38:28.250
  • WE DON'T LOOK AT WHAT WE CAN
  • 00:38:28.250 --> 00:38:30.150
  • LEARN FROM OUR MARRIAGE WHAT WE
  • 00:38:30.150 --> 00:38:32.030
  • CAN BUILD FROW FROM OUR MARRIAGD
  • 00:38:32.110 --> 00:38:35.110
  • THE EXAMPLE WE CAN BE FOR OUR
  • 00:38:35.110 --> 00:38:37.160
  • CHILDREN.
  • 00:38:37.160 --> 00:38:37.290
  • WE LEARNED OVER THIS 30 YEARS,
  • 00:38:38.090 --> 00:38:41.090
  • THIS IS A VALUABLE COMMODITY WE
  • 00:38:44.040 --> 00:38:47.040
  • HAVE TO RESPECT IT IN THE EYES
  • 00:38:47.040 --> 00:38:49.050
  • OF GOD.
  • 00:38:49.050 --> 00:38:50.030
  • IT WOULD BE LIKE ANYTHING YOU
  • 00:38:50.030 --> 00:38:52.100
  • WOULD NOT THROW IT IN THE JUNK
  • 00:38:52.200 --> 00:38:55.200
  • DRAW, YOU CANNOT THROW YOUR
  • 00:38:55.200 --> 00:38:57.210
  • WORDS AROUND.
  • 00:38:57.210 --> 00:38:58.130
  • YOU CANNOT THROW YOUR ACTION
  • 00:38:58.130 --> 00:39:01.000
  • AROUND.
  • 00:39:01.000 --> 00:39:01.100
  • YOU STRANGES HAVE TO SAY WE AREG
  • 00:39:02.150 --> 00:39:05.150
  • SOMETHING AND IT IS VALUABLE.
  • 00:39:05.150 --> 00:39:07.160
  • - THE NUMBER ONE THINGS YOU RUN
  • 00:39:07.160 --> 00:39:09.270
  • INTO IS COMMUNICATION.
  • 00:39:09.270 --> 00:39:11.030
  • HELP US WITH THAT.
  • 00:39:11.030 --> 00:39:13.200
  • - I'M HEARING EVERYBODY, I WISH
  • 00:39:13.200 --> 00:39:15.150
  • I WOULD HAVE TUNED INTO THIS
  • 00:39:16.050 --> 00:39:19.050
  • PROGRAM YEARS AGO.
  • 00:39:19.050 --> 00:39:20.090
  • I THINK I WAS THE ONE THAT MADE
  • 00:39:20.090 --> 00:39:22.210
  • MISTAKES NOBODY ELSE MADE.
  • 00:39:22.210 --> 00:39:24.090
  • - BOTH OF US.
  • 00:39:24.090 --> 00:39:26.060
  • - WHAT WE TALKED ABOUT IS BEING
  • 00:39:26.060 --> 00:39:28.240
  • VULNERABLE.
  • 00:39:28.240 --> 00:39:29.060
  • I DON'T THINK ANYONE TOLD ME AS
  • 00:39:29.060 --> 00:39:30.180
  • A MAN AND HUSBAND, I HAD TO
  • 00:39:30.180 --> 00:39:32.140
  • LEARN HOW TO ENTRUST HER AND BE
  • 00:39:32.170 --> 00:39:35.170
  • VULNERABLE WITH HER.
  • 00:39:35.170 --> 00:39:36.260
  • IT IS LIKE I TOLD ASHLEE THE
  • 00:39:36.260 --> 00:39:39.250
  • OTHER DAY, WHEN NOAH GOT OFF THE
  • 00:39:39.250 --> 00:39:42.210
  • ARK HE PLANTED THE VINEYARD AND
  • 00:39:42.210 --> 00:39:44.160
  • HAD TOO MUCH TO DELINQUENT INTOT
  • 00:39:48.050 --> 00:39:51.050
  • INTO HIS TENT.
  • 00:39:51.050 --> 00:39:53.000
  • SOMEONE SAW HIM VULNERABLE, IN
  • 00:39:53.000 --> 00:39:55.110
  • NOT A GOOD STATE.
  • 00:39:55.110 --> 00:39:56.190
  • HE TURNED AND RAN.
  • 00:39:56.190 --> 00:39:58.230
  • TWO SONS COVERED HIM THEY SAW
  • 00:39:58.280 --> 00:40:01.280
  • THE VUL ABILITY F VULNERABILITYR
  • 00:40:09.000 --> 00:40:12.000
  • WAY.
  • 00:40:12.000 --> 00:40:12.080
  • TO COVER HER IN EVERYTHING WE
  • 00:40:12.080 --> 00:40:13.180
  • SAY AND DO AND VICE VERSA.
  • 00:40:13.180 --> 00:40:15.200
  • I THINK THAT IS PART OF BECOMING
  • 00:40:15.200 --> 00:40:17.200
  • ONE.
  • 00:40:17.200 --> 00:40:18.000
  • YOU LEARN HOW TO COVER EACH
  • 00:40:18.000 --> 00:40:19.210
  • OTHER.
  • 00:40:19.210 --> 00:40:20.010
  • YOU LEARN HOW TO LOVE EACH OTHER
  • 00:40:20.010 --> 00:40:21.200
  • MORE THAN YOU DID THE DAY
  • 00:40:21.200 --> 00:40:23.120
  • BEFORE.
  • 00:40:23.120 --> 00:40:25.090
  • YOU COVER THAT.
  • 00:40:25.090 --> 00:40:26.080
  • - THAT IS SO GOOD.
  • 00:40:26.080 --> 00:40:29.050
  • - COMMUNICATION IS ONE OF THE
  • 00:40:29.050 --> 00:40:31.030
  • HARDEST THINGS WE WENT THROUGH
  • 00:40:31.030 --> 00:40:32.200
  • WHEN WE GOT MARRIED.
  • 00:40:37.190 --> 00:40:40.190
  • FIFTY-FIV55-GALLON TRASH CAN INR
  • 00:40:44.010 --> 00:40:47.010
  • KITCHEN, YOU ONLY HAVE TO TAKE
  • 00:40:47.010 --> 00:40:48.200
  • IT OUT ONCE A WEEK.
  • 00:40:48.200 --> 00:40:50.120
  • - I DON'T SEE ANYTHING WRONG
  • 00:40:50.120 --> 00:40:51.170
  • WITH THAT.
  • 00:40:51.170 --> 00:40:52.220
  • - MY COLLEGE DORM ROOM, IT
  • 00:40:52.220 --> 00:40:54.150
  • WORKED FOR US.
  • 00:40:54.150 --> 00:40:56.090
  • - WHEN WE GOT MARRIED, IT WAS
  • 00:40:56.090 --> 00:40:58.180
  • ABSOLUTELY NOT, WE ARE NOT GOING
  • 00:40:58.180 --> 00:41:00.090
  • TO DO THAT.
  • 00:41:00.090 --> 00:41:01.110
  • HE TOOK MY HAND CUP--
  • 00:41:01.110 --> 00:41:04.040
  • - DON'T TELL THE STORY IN FRONT
  • 00:41:04.040 --> 00:41:05.220
  • OF EVERYBODY.
  • 00:41:05.220 --> 00:41:07.270
  • - HE DECIDED HE WAS GOING TO
  • 00:41:08.110 --> 00:41:11.110
  • USE IT CUP AS A GOLF CUP HE HAD
  • 00:41:13.130 --> 00:41:16.130
  • THE TOWEL HANGING IT WAS SO
  • 00:41:16.130 --> 00:41:19.100
  • DIRTY.
  • 00:41:19.100 --> 00:41:19.190
  • IT WAS THOSE THINGS WE HAD TO
  • 00:41:19.190 --> 00:41:22.100
  • WORK THROUGH IN OUR MARRIAGE.
  • 00:41:22.100 --> 00:41:23.230
  • MEN AND WOMEN ARE SO DIFFERENT
  • 00:41:23.230 --> 00:41:25.120
  • THAT IS THE OTHER BIG THING
  • 00:41:25.120 --> 00:41:27.200
  • COMMUNICATION WISE.
  • 00:41:27.200 --> 00:41:28.120
  • ONE THING WE HAD TO WORK ON, FOR
  • 00:41:28.120 --> 00:41:30.210
  • ME, WHEN I WANT TO TELL HIM MY
  • 00:41:30.210 --> 00:41:32.270
  • PROBLEMS I DON'T WANT HIM TO FIX
  • 00:41:32.270 --> 00:41:34.130
  • IT I JUST WANT HIM TO LISTEN TO
  • 00:41:34.130 --> 00:41:36.180
  • ME.
  • 00:41:36.180 --> 00:41:36.260
  • HE TRIED TO FIX MY PROBLEMS.
  • 00:41:36.260 --> 00:41:38.230
  • I WOULD GET FRUSTRATED.
  • 00:41:42.100 --> 00:41:45.100
  • - CLAYTON, GIVE ME A MINUTE--
  • 00:41:47.010 --> 00:41:50.010
  • - I WAS BROUGHT UP TO BE--
  • 00:41:52.070 --> 00:41:55.070
  • (LAUGHTER).
  • 00:41:55.070 --> 00:41:57.120
  • - YOU WANT TO BE THIS MAN IN
  • 00:41:57.230 --> 00:42:00.250
  • SHINING ARMOR, MY WIFE WOULD
  • 00:42:01.130 --> 00:42:04.130
  • SAY, NO ONE TOLD ME SHE JUST
  • 00:42:04.130 --> 00:42:06.190
  • WANTS YOU TO LISTEN AND
  • 00:42:06.190 --> 00:42:08.040
  • EVERYTHING WILL BE OKAY.
  • 00:42:08.040 --> 00:42:10.110
  • - I'M NOT SURE I KNEW THAT
  • 00:42:10.110 --> 00:42:12.090
  • UNTIL NOW.
  • 00:42:12.090 --> 00:42:13.200
  • - ONE OF THE BIGGEST SECRETS.
  • 00:42:13.200 --> 00:42:15.240
  • - WE WERE DRIVING DOWN THE
  • 00:42:15.240 --> 00:42:17.260
  • ROAD.
  • 00:42:17.260 --> 00:42:18.050
  • SHE WAS TEACHING AT HIGH SCHOOL.
  • 00:42:18.050 --> 00:42:20.200
  • SHE TOLD ME ISSUES AND PROBLEMS
  • 00:42:20.200 --> 00:42:22.260
  • SHE WAS FACING.
  • 00:42:22.260 --> 00:42:24.070
  • I SAID TOMORROW, YOU ARE WALKING
  • 00:42:24.070 --> 00:42:26.130
  • IN THE PRINCIPALS OFFICE AND
  • 00:42:26.130 --> 00:42:28.160
  • QUIT.
  • 00:42:28.160 --> 00:42:28.250
  • WE WILL MAKE SOMETHING RIGHT.
  • 00:42:28.250 --> 00:42:31.120
  • SHE SAID WILL YOU STOP TRYING TO
  • 00:42:31.120 --> 00:42:33.010
  • FIX MY PROBLEMS.
  • 00:42:33.010 --> 00:42:34.280
  • I JUST WANT YOU TO LISTEN TO ME.
  • 00:42:34.280 --> 00:42:36.280
  • NOT THAT LOUD.
  • 00:42:36.280 --> 00:42:38.250
  • WE WOULD ARGUE BUT ONE OF THOSE
  • 00:42:39.250 --> 00:42:42.250
  • THINGS CAN YOU TELL ME THE NEXT
  • 00:42:42.250 --> 00:42:44.140
  • TIME YOU JUST WANT ME TO LISTEN?
  • 00:42:48.110 --> 00:42:51.110
  • - TWENTY-ONE YEARS LATER BEFORE
  • 00:42:51.110 --> 00:42:52.250
  • I TELL HIM AN ISSUE I SAY I WANT
  • 00:42:52.250 --> 00:42:55.060
  • YOU TO LISTEN.
  • 00:42:55.060 --> 00:42:56.270
  • - I'M LIKE, I KNEW THAT.
  • 00:42:56.270 --> 00:42:59.160
  • - YEAH, YEAH, YEAH.
  • 00:42:59.270 --> 00:43:02.290
  • - THE DEVIL WANTS YOU TO GET
  • 00:43:02.290 --> 00:43:05.160
  • INSIDE YOUR OWN MIND CREATE OUR
  • 00:43:05.160 --> 00:43:07.230
  • OWN STORIES BY THE TIME IT BLOWS
  • 00:43:07.230 --> 00:43:10.110
  • UP IT IS SOMETHING THAT STARTED
  • 00:43:10.280 --> 00:43:13.280
  • REALLY SMALL.
  • 00:43:13.280 --> 00:43:15.080
  • THEN IT BUILDS INTO A TORNADO
  • 00:43:15.150 --> 00:43:18.150
  • REALLY QUICKLY WHEN YOU DON'T
  • 00:43:19.070 --> 00:43:22.070
  • START WITH THE OBJECTIVITY OF
  • 00:43:22.070 --> 00:43:24.280
  • UNDERSTANDING FROM THE
  • 00:43:24.280 --> 00:43:25.260
  • BEGINNING.
  • 00:43:25.260 --> 00:43:26.070
  • BECAUSE THE PERSON THAT IS
  • 00:43:26.070 --> 00:43:28.040
  • CLOSEST TO YOU IS THE ONE YOU
  • 00:43:28.040 --> 00:43:30.090
  • DUMP ALL YOUR FEELINGS OUT ON.
  • 00:43:30.090 --> 00:43:33.030
  • JOHN IS EASY TO DO THAT WITH.
  • 00:43:33.050 --> 00:43:36.050
  • I SEE HIM EVERY DAY, HE IS
  • 00:43:36.050 --> 00:43:38.230
  • ALWAYS THERE.
  • 00:43:38.230 --> 00:43:39.190
  • IF I DON'T SEE HIM I'M TEXTING
  • 00:43:40.100 --> 00:43:43.100
  • HIM, BABE, WHAT ARE YOU DOING?
  • 00:43:43.280 --> 00:43:46.280
  • - I'M IN THE NEXT ROOM, WHAT DO
  • 00:43:46.280 --> 00:43:48.220
  • YOU THINK I'M DOING, LOVE YOU.
  • 00:43:48.220 --> 00:43:51.060
  • - IT IS SO EASY TO SEND HIM A
  • 00:43:51.290 --> 00:43:54.290
  • D.M. I KNOW HE WOULD LOOK AT
  • 00:43:54.290 --> 00:43:57.260
  • THEM.
  • 00:43:57.260 --> 00:43:58.050
  • I FIND OTHER WAYS TO COMMUNICATE
  • 00:43:58.150 --> 00:44:01.170
  • OTHER THAN VERBALLY TALKING TO
  • 00:44:01.200 --> 00:44:04.200
  • HIM.
  • 00:44:04.200 --> 00:44:04.280
  • BUT IT IS A GREAT WAY TO GET HIS
  • 00:44:04.280 --> 00:44:07.270
  • ATTENTION.
  • 00:44:07.270 --> 00:44:08.080
  • YOU GOT MY MESSAGE BECAUSE YOU
  • 00:44:08.080 --> 00:44:10.250
  • CHECKED THE D. M.
  • 00:44:10.250 --> 00:44:12.040
  • THE DEVIL LOVES IT WHEN YOU
  • 00:44:12.040 --> 00:44:15.010
  • CREATE YOUR OWN STORIES INSTEAD
  • 00:44:15.010 --> 00:44:17.090
  • OF JUST IN YOUR HEAD.
  • 00:44:17.090 --> 00:44:19.250
  • WHAT YOUR SPOUSE IS TRYING TO
  • 00:44:19.250 --> 00:44:22.000
  • CONVEY TO YOU.
  • 00:44:22.000 --> 00:44:22.210
  • HE WANTS YOU TO BELIEVE THE
  • 00:44:22.210 --> 00:44:25.020
  • WORST ABOUT THE PERSON CLOSEST
  • 00:44:25.020 --> 00:44:26.210
  • TO YOU.
  • 00:44:26.210 --> 00:44:27.120
  • EVEN IN YOUR SINGLENESS, LIKE,
  • 00:44:27.120 --> 00:44:30.050
  • WHEN YOU WANT TO BE MARRIED, YOU
  • 00:44:30.050 --> 00:44:32.030
  • WANT TO MAKE SURE YOU ARE
  • 00:44:32.030 --> 00:44:33.170
  • PREPARED FOR WHAT YOU THINK YOU
  • 00:44:33.170 --> 00:44:34.250
  • ARE ASKING GOD FOR.
  • 00:44:34.250 --> 00:44:36.070
  • YOU DON'T WANT TO PREMATURELY
  • 00:44:36.070 --> 00:44:39.040
  • ENTER INTO SOMETHING AND HAVE
  • 00:44:39.040 --> 00:44:40.140
  • THE DEVIL HIJACK YOUR DESTINY
  • 00:44:40.140 --> 00:44:42.050
  • BECAUSE YOU WERE NOT PREPARED
  • 00:44:42.050 --> 00:44:43.210
  • FOR WHAT YOU THOUGHT YOU WERE.
  • 00:44:43.210 --> 00:44:45.020
  • YOU WANT TO MAKE SURE YOU HAVE
  • 00:44:45.020 --> 00:44:46.280
  • ENOUGH WORD INSIDE OF YOU YOU
  • 00:44:46.280 --> 00:44:48.290
  • CAN REFERENCE IT SO WHEN THE
  • 00:44:48.290 --> 00:44:50.280
  • BLOW UP COMES YOU HAVE SOMETHING
  • 00:44:50.280 --> 00:44:52.280
  • TO PULL ON.
  • 00:44:53.090 --> 00:44:56.090
  • BECAUSE EVERYBODY IS YELLING AND
  • 00:44:56.090 --> 00:44:57.250
  • LOUD NOTHING GETS ACCOMPLISHED.
  • 00:44:57.250 --> 00:44:59.260
  • THE COMMUNICATION FACTOR IS ONE
  • 00:44:59.260 --> 00:45:01.130
  • OF THE MOST SIGNIFICANT AND
  • 00:45:01.130 --> 00:45:04.030
  • FINANCES ARE TWO OF THE
  • 00:45:04.030 --> 00:45:06.120
  • HARDSHIPS THAT WRECK MARRIAGES.
  • 00:45:06.120 --> 00:45:08.010
  • THE DEVIL USES THOSE THINGS
  • 00:45:08.010 --> 00:45:09.220
  • AGAINST US.
  • 00:45:09.220 --> 00:45:10.270
  • SOMETIMES WE DON'T SEE IT WE GET
  • 00:45:10.270 --> 00:45:13.240
  • BLINDSIDED BY IT.
  • 00:45:13.240 --> 00:45:15.090
  • - WE EXIST IN A CULTURE OF
  • 00:45:15.090 --> 00:45:18.020
  • CASUAL.
  • 00:45:18.020 --> 00:45:18.120
  • WE TREAT THE PERSON CLOSEST TO
  • 00:45:18.120 --> 00:45:20.250
  • US COMMON, IT IS A DANGER WHEN
  • 00:45:21.290 --> 00:45:24.290
  • THE PERSON GOD SEPTEMBER SENT R
  • 00:45:27.020 --> 00:45:30.020
  • MARRIAGE WE TREAT AS COMMON.
  • 00:45:30.020 --> 00:45:32.110
  • IN THE 6 AND A HALF YEARS THERE
  • 00:45:32.150 --> 00:45:35.150
  • ARE TIMES I GET UPSET WITH HER
  • 00:45:35.150 --> 00:45:37.200
  • AND SAY GOD, SHE DOES NOT
  • 00:45:37.200 --> 00:45:39.190
  • UNDERSTAND ME.
  • 00:45:39.190 --> 00:45:40.280
  • YOU DID NOT READ THE SCRIPTURE
  • 00:45:45.110 --> 00:45:48.110
  • HUSBANDS, IT TOLD ME TO
  • 00:45:48.110 --> 00:45:50.220
  • UNDERSTAND HER.
  • 00:45:50.220 --> 00:45:51.210
  • SHE IS X.X. I'M X.Y. SHE DOES
  • 00:45:51.210 --> 00:45:54.180
  • NOT HAVE A Y. CHROMOSOME, GOD
  • 00:45:55.070 --> 00:45:58.070
  • CALLED ME TO UNDERSTAND HER AND
  • 00:45:58.070 --> 00:46:00.230
  • DISCERN HER ISSUES, HE HER
  • 00:46:04.290 --> 00:46:07.290
  • METHODOLOGY.
  • 00:46:07.290 --> 00:46:08.210
  • WHEN THE BIBLE TELLS THE WOMAN
  • 00:46:08.210 --> 00:46:10.130
  • LOVE YOUR HUSBAND OR MAN TO LOVE
  • 00:46:10.130 --> 00:46:13.090
  • YOUR WIFE AS CHRIST LOVED THE
  • 00:46:13.090 --> 00:46:15.270
  • CHURCH AND THE WIFE TO SUBMIT.
  • 00:46:15.270 --> 00:46:18.040
  • WHY WOULD CHRIST SAY THAT?
  • 00:46:18.040 --> 00:46:20.040
  • BECAUSE WE ARE NOT NATURALLY
  • 00:46:20.040 --> 00:46:22.250
  • INCLINED TO DO THAT.
  • 00:46:25.270 --> 00:46:28.270
  • SO, FOR ME, THE IDEA, SHE DID
  • 00:46:29.130 --> 00:46:32.130
  • NOT SAY THAT, BUT THE IDEA THAT
  • 00:46:32.280 --> 00:46:35.280
  • GOD WANTS TO TEACH ME HOW TO SEE
  • 00:46:36.160 --> 00:46:39.160
  • HER AS A GLIMPSE OF THE CHURCH,
  • 00:46:39.160 --> 00:46:41.270
  • IF I'M THE HIGH PRIEST, IF I'M
  • 00:46:41.270 --> 00:46:44.150
  • THE PROTECTOR AND THE PROPHET IN
  • 00:46:44.150 --> 00:46:46.100
  • MY HOME, I NEED TO DWELL WITH
  • 00:46:46.110 --> 00:46:49.110
  • HER IN UNDERSTANDING.
  • 00:46:49.290 --> 00:46:52.290
  • A MAN 37 STARTS OFF, DID NOT SEE
  • 00:46:54.070 --> 00:46:57.070
  • MARRIAGE, I DON'T KNOW HOW TO
  • 00:46:57.070 --> 00:46:58.250
  • STAY, I KNOW HOW TO LEAD.
  • 00:46:58.250 --> 00:47:01.010
  • WHEN I PRAY FOR MY KIDS IT IS A
  • 00:47:01.010 --> 00:47:03.250
  • MARRIAGE.
  • 00:47:03.250 --> 00:47:04.060
  • WHEN WE HAVE A SPIRIT OF
  • 00:47:04.060 --> 00:47:06.060
  • DISAGREEMENT, I STAY, THAT IS A
  • 00:47:06.060 --> 00:47:08.200
  • MIRACLE.
  • 00:47:08.200 --> 00:47:09.010
  • EVERY TIME THE ENEMY THOUGHT I
  • 00:47:09.010 --> 00:47:10.160
  • WOULD LEAVE THE ANSWER IS NO.
  • 00:47:10.160 --> 00:47:12.230
  • THERE ARE TIMES I'M GOING CRAZY.
  • 00:47:12.230 --> 00:47:15.190
  • I DON'T AGREE, THAT IS WRONG, I
  • 00:47:15.190 --> 00:47:17.250
  • LOVE YOU AND I AIN'T GOING NO
  • 00:47:18.110 --> 00:47:21.110
  • WHERE.
  • 00:47:21.110 --> 00:47:21.200
  • BECAUSE I WANT THE DEVIL TO KNOW
  • 00:47:21.200 --> 00:47:23.240
  • I'M NOT LEAVING MY HOUSE.
  • 00:47:23.240 --> 00:47:26.020
  • HE SAYS HE WANT TO BREAK US UP
  • 00:47:26.020 --> 00:47:28.120
  • TO GET TO MY KIDS, YOU CANNOT
  • 00:47:28.120 --> 00:47:30.180
  • HAVE MY KIDS, YOU CANNOT HAVE MY
  • 00:47:30.180 --> 00:47:33.030
  • LEGACY AND YOU WON'T HAVE MY
  • 00:47:33.030 --> 00:47:35.290
  • FUTURE.
  • 00:47:35.290 --> 00:47:36.220
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:47:36.220 --> 00:47:37.030
  • - WE ARE TALKING ABOUT
  • 00:47:37.030 --> 00:47:38.170
  • MARRIAGE.
  • 00:47:38.170 --> 00:47:40.180
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:47:41.200 --> 00:47:44.200
  • - OUT OF THIS ENTIRE PROGRAM
  • 00:47:44.200 --> 00:47:46.180
  • I'M STUCK ON THE 55-GALLON DRUM
  • 00:47:47.120 --> 00:47:50.120
  • TRASH CAN.
  • 00:47:50.120 --> 00:47:52.140
  • I THINK THAT IS A GREAT IDEA.
  • 00:47:53.070 --> 00:47:56.070
  • I'M GOING TO GO GET ONE.
  • 00:47:57.010 --> 00:48:00.030
  • LET ME JUST SAY, EVERYONE--
  • 00:48:03.220 --> 00:48:06.220
  • EVERYONE ON THIS STAGE EXCEPT
  • 00:48:06.220 --> 00:48:08.270
  • LAURIE AND ME ARE PASTORS AT
  • 00:48:08.270 --> 00:48:11.100
  • LAKEWOOD CHURCH.
  • 00:48:11.100 --> 00:48:12.000
  • THEY ARE DOING A MARRIAGE
  • 00:48:12.000 --> 00:48:14.050
  • SEMINAR CALLED SPARK.
  • 00:48:14.050 --> 00:48:14.280
  • IT IS THIS AUGUST.
  • 00:48:14.280 --> 00:48:16.090
  • GO TO IT.
  • 00:48:16.090 --> 00:48:17.020
  • THERE IS A PROMO THAT TELLS MORE
  • 00:48:17.020 --> 00:48:19.280
  • ABOUT IT.
  • 00:48:19.280 --> 00:48:21.010
  • - VICTORIA AND I ARE EXCITED
  • 00:48:21.010 --> 00:48:22.270
  • ABOUT SPARK MARRIAGE CONFERENCE
  • 00:48:22.270 --> 00:48:24.100
  • COMING UP AT LAKEWOOD.
  • 00:48:24.100 --> 00:48:26.150
  • WHAT OUTSTANDING PREACHERS,
  • 00:48:26.150 --> 00:48:28.100
  • JIMMY EVANS, GARY CHAPMAN, OUR
  • 00:48:28.100 --> 00:48:30.280
  • OWN ASHLEE AND CLAYTON HURST, I
  • 00:48:31.130 --> 00:48:34.130
  • HOPE YOU ARE PART OF IT A GREAT
  • 00:48:34.130 --> 00:48:36.080
  • WAY TO STRENGTHEN YOUR MARRIAGE
  • 00:48:36.080 --> 00:48:38.000
  • AND MEET OTHER PEOPLE AS WELL.
  • 00:48:38.000 --> 00:48:39.170
  • WE LOOK FORWARD SEEING YOU AT
  • 00:48:39.170 --> 00:48:42.100
  • SPARK CONFERENCE.
  • 00:48:42.100 --> 00:48:44.150
  • - INVEST IN YOUR MARRIAGE A
  • 00:48:44.150 --> 00:48:45.220
  • WONDERFUL NIGHT OF INSPIRATION
  • 00:48:45.220 --> 00:48:47.080
  • AND JOY.
  • 00:48:47.080 --> 00:48:48.030
  • YOU WILL MEET PEOPLE JUST LIKE
  • 00:48:48.030 --> 00:48:49.220
  • YOU MAKE NEW FRIENDS.
  • 00:48:49.220 --> 00:48:51.080
  • IT IS WELL WORTH YOUR TIME.
  • 00:48:51.080 --> 00:48:52.270
  • WE ARE EXCITED ABOUT WHAT IS
  • 00:48:52.270 --> 00:48:54.250
  • HAPPENING AT LAKEWOOD CHURCH
  • 00:48:54.250 --> 00:48:56.200
  • SPARK CONFERENCE.
  • 00:48:56.200 --> 00:48:58.100
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:48:59.180 --> 00:49:02.200
  • - SPARK CONFERENCE 2017 IS
  • 00:49:05.050 --> 00:49:08.050
  • AUGUST 18, 19.
  • 00:49:08.050 --> 00:49:09.250
  • AND AT LAKEWOOD CHURCH HOUSTON
  • 00:49:09.250 --> 00:49:11.200
  • IN AUGUST IS AWESOME.
  • 00:49:12.060 --> 00:49:15.060
  • BUT A LAKEWOOD CHURCH IS AIR
  • 00:49:15.060 --> 00:49:16.180
  • CONDITIONED.
  • 00:49:16.180 --> 00:49:17.010
  • YOU WILL BE FINE.
  • 00:49:17.010 --> 00:49:18.190
  • THAT WILL BE A TWO DAY
  • 00:49:18.190 --> 00:49:21.050
  • CONFERENCE.
  • 00:49:21.050 --> 00:49:21.180
  • I'M THINKING ABOUT SOMETHING-- I
  • 00:49:21.180 --> 00:49:24.130
  • HAVE BEEN PRODUCING TV PROGRAMS
  • 00:49:24.130 --> 00:49:26.080
  • FOR A LONG TIME.
  • 00:49:26.080 --> 00:49:28.080
  • COACH BILL MC CARTNEY, REMEMBER
  • 00:49:28.080 --> 00:49:31.020
  • HIM?
  • 00:49:31.020 --> 00:49:31.100
  • HE WON A NATIONAL CHAMPIONSHIP.
  • 00:49:31.140 --> 00:49:34.140
  • THE PROMISE KEEPER MOVEMENT CAME
  • 00:49:34.140 --> 00:49:36.120
  • OUT OF THAT.
  • 00:49:36.120 --> 00:49:38.210
  • I DID TV PRODUCTION FOR HIM BACK
  • 00:49:38.210 --> 00:49:41.000
  • IN THE DAY.
  • 00:49:41.000 --> 00:49:43.230
  • LET ME SHOW YOU THE WORLD'S
  • 00:49:43.230 --> 00:49:46.070
  • SHORTEST MARRIAGE CONFERENCE.
  • 00:49:46.070 --> 00:49:47.180
  • WE WILL DO IT RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:49:47.180 --> 00:49:49.160
  • THIS IS THE WORLD'S SHORTEST.
  • 00:49:49.160 --> 00:49:52.140
  • IT IS TWO DAYS COMING UP AT
  • 00:49:52.160 --> 00:49:55.160
  • LAKEWOOD CHURCH.
  • 00:49:55.160 --> 00:49:56.130
  • THIS IS TWO SECONDS.
  • 00:49:56.130 --> 00:49:58.050
  • IF YOU ARE SITTING WITH YOUR
  • 00:49:58.050 --> 00:50:00.250
  • SPOUSE, LOOK AT YOUR SPOUSE.
  • 00:50:01.150 --> 00:50:04.150
  • I HAVE TO TALK TO THE CAMERA.
  • 00:50:04.150 --> 00:50:06.190
  • I WILL GIVE YOU A CHANCE.
  • 00:50:06.190 --> 00:50:09.010
  • - WE HAVE DONE THIS BEFORE.
  • 00:50:09.010 --> 00:50:10.180
  • - IF YOU ARE SITTING WITH YOUR
  • 00:50:10.260 --> 00:50:13.260
  • SPOUSE IN THE STUDIO LOOK THEM
  • 00:50:13.260 --> 00:50:15.080
  • IN THE FACE.
  • 00:50:15.080 --> 00:50:18.060
  • MEN, YOUR VALUE AS A MAN NOW
  • 00:50:18.060 --> 00:50:20.240
  • SHOW SES UP ON THE COUNTENANCE F
  • 00:50:22.140 --> 00:50:25.140
  • YOUR WIFE'S FACE.
  • 00:50:31.150 --> 00:50:34.150
  • SO BILL MC CARTNEY SAID WHEN
  • 00:50:34.150 --> 00:50:36.040
  • THAT HAPPENED TO HIM WHEN THAT
  • 00:50:36.040 --> 00:50:37.280
  • MOMENT HAPPENED AT A CHURCH HE
  • 00:50:37.280 --> 00:50:40.080
  • ATTENDED, HE WAS LOOKING INTO
  • 00:50:40.080 --> 00:50:41.250
  • THE FACE OF A SUICIDAL MANICKED
  • 00:50:42.180 --> 00:50:45.180
  • DEPRESSED WIFE.
  • 00:50:45.180 --> 00:50:46.070
  • HE KNEW HE COULD WIN NATIONAL
  • 00:50:46.070 --> 00:50:49.010
  • CHAMPIONSHIPS BUT HIS WIFE WAS
  • 00:50:49.010 --> 00:50:50.230
  • FALLING APART.
  • 00:50:50.230 --> 00:50:51.180
  • THAT WAS THE BEGINNING OF WHAT
  • 00:50:51.180 --> 00:50:54.090
  • CHANGED COACH BILL AND LINDY MC
  • 00:50:54.120 --> 00:50:57.120
  • CARTNEY.
  • 00:50:57.120 --> 00:50:57.220
  • THEIR BOOK SOLD OUT IS STUNNING.
  • 00:51:01.070 --> 00:51:04.070
  • - THERE ARE MARRIAGES ALL OVER
  • 00:51:04.070 --> 00:51:05.120
  • THE WORLD THAT NEED GOD TO
  • 00:51:05.120 --> 00:51:07.240
  • INTERVENE INSIDE WHERE YOU ARE
  • 00:51:07.240 --> 00:51:09.020
  • AT.
  • 00:51:09.020 --> 00:51:09.160
  • I HAVE GOOD NEWS FOR YOU.
  • 00:51:09.160 --> 00:51:11.220
  • HE WILL DO THAT FOR YOU.
  • 00:51:11.220 --> 00:51:14.010
  • HE WILL SHOW UP WHERE YOU NEED
  • 00:51:14.010 --> 00:51:15.290
  • HIM THE MOST.
  • 00:51:15.290 --> 00:51:17.230
  • BECAUSE ONLY GOD CAN HELP YOU.
  • 00:51:18.050 --> 00:51:21.050
  • GOD CAN HELP YOUR SPOUSE TOO.
  • 00:51:23.230 --> 00:51:26.230
  • GOD CAN HELP YOU.
  • 00:51:26.230 --> 00:51:27.230
  • WE HAVE AMAZING PASTORS HERE
  • 00:51:27.230 --> 00:51:29.260
  • TONIGHT THAT CAN MINISTER TO
  • 00:51:29.260 --> 00:51:32.000
  • YOU.
  • 00:51:32.000 --> 00:51:32.080
  • LET'S PRAY FOR THE PEOPLE.
  • 00:51:32.080 --> 00:51:33.250
  • THERE IS SUCH A NEED, I BELIEVE.
  • 00:51:33.250 --> 00:51:36.100
  • I BELIEVE THERE IS A FIGHT FOR
  • 00:51:36.100 --> 00:51:37.280
  • OUR CHILDREN AND OUR FAMILY.
  • 00:51:37.280 --> 00:51:40.210
  • - ABSOLUTELY.
  • 00:51:40.210 --> 00:51:42.230
  • - JOHN,.
  • 00:51:42.230 --> 00:51:44.110
  • - I WILL TAKE A FEW MOMENTS I'M
  • 00:51:44.110 --> 00:51:47.010
  • PRAYING FOR YOUNG MARRIED, THAT
  • 00:51:47.010 --> 00:51:49.170
  • YOU L WILL PAY FOR PERSEVERANCE,
  • 00:51:52.030 --> 00:51:55.030
  • STAYING POWER.
  • 00:51:55.140 --> 00:51:58.140
  • ISSUES PASTOR JOEL TALKED ABOUT
  • 00:51:58.140 --> 00:52:00.260
  • WILL NOT BECOME BIG THINGS, THAT
  • 00:52:01.180 --> 00:52:04.180
  • THEY TEAR UP EVERYTHING IN YOUR
  • 00:52:04.180 --> 00:52:06.190
  • LIFE.
  • 00:52:06.190 --> 00:52:07.050
  • THE COVENANT YOU MADE WAS THE
  • 00:52:07.050 --> 00:52:09.040
  • INTENTION OF GOD TO GET THE
  • 00:52:09.040 --> 00:52:10.200
  • ATTENTION OF THE EARTH.
  • 00:52:10.200 --> 00:52:12.210
  • GOD WANTS YOUR MARRIAGE TO
  • 00:52:12.210 --> 00:52:14.170
  • REFLECT THE GLORY OF GOD IN YOUR
  • 00:52:14.170 --> 00:52:16.120
  • MARRIAGE.
  • 00:52:16.120 --> 00:52:16.250
  • HOLD ON AND FIGHT AND STAY AT
  • 00:52:16.250 --> 00:52:18.290
  • YOUR HOUSE, THE GRASS LOOKS
  • 00:52:19.120 --> 00:52:22.120
  • GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE BUT
  • 00:52:22.120 --> 00:52:24.000
  • THE DOG IS MEANER.
  • 00:52:24.000 --> 00:52:25.190
  • STAY HOME.
  • 00:52:25.190 --> 00:52:26.230
  • THE ENEMY WILL CAUSE YOU TO LOOK
  • 00:52:26.230 --> 00:52:28.200
  • THROUGH A FALSE LENS TO THINK
  • 00:52:28.200 --> 00:52:30.170
  • THERE IS RELIEF ON THE OTHER
  • 00:52:30.170 --> 00:52:33.040
  • SIDE.
  • 00:52:33.040 --> 00:52:34.190
  • WHEREVER YOU GO THERE YOU ARE.
  • 00:52:34.190 --> 00:52:36.100
  • THE BROKENNESS YOU HAVE NOW YOU
  • 00:52:36.100 --> 00:52:38.090
  • WILL CARRY WITH YOU.
  • 00:52:38.090 --> 00:52:39.090
  • I PRAY YOU WILL STAY AND FIGHT,
  • 00:52:39.090 --> 00:52:42.050
  • NOT ONLY FOR THE COVENANT YOU
  • 00:52:42.050 --> 00:52:43.210
  • ARE IN BUT FOR THE CHILDREN AND
  • 00:52:43.210 --> 00:52:45.290
  • LEGACY THAT IS TO BE BUILT.
  • 00:52:45.290 --> 00:52:48.100
  • I PRAY STRENGTH AND JOY AND LONG
  • 00:52:49.140 --> 00:52:52.140
  • LIFE.
  • 00:52:52.140 --> 00:52:53.020
  • - DOCTOR CLAYTON?
  • 00:52:53.020 --> 00:52:54.240
  • - THERE IS HOPE FOR YOUR
  • 00:52:54.240 --> 00:52:56.260
  • MARRIAGE.
  • 00:52:56.260 --> 00:52:57.070
  • IT DOE THOUGH DOES NOT MATTER HW
  • 00:52:59.070 --> 00:53:02.090
  • LONG YOU HAVE BEEN MARRIED THERE
  • 00:53:02.090 --> 00:53:04.120
  • IS HOPE.
  • 00:53:04.120 --> 00:53:05.220
  • DECLARE THINGS OVER YOUR
  • 00:53:05.220 --> 00:53:07.220
  • MARRIAGE.
  • 00:53:07.220 --> 00:53:08.030
  • DECLARE LIFE AND HOPE.
  • 00:53:08.030 --> 00:53:09.150
  • WHEN GOD GAVE ZEK EZEKIEL VISIOF
  • 00:53:11.200 --> 00:53:14.200
  • THE DRY BOA BOAP BONES HE SAID Y
  • 00:53:19.040 --> 00:53:22.040
  • YOU KNOW THAT.
  • 00:53:22.040 --> 00:53:22.280
  • HE PRAYED OVER THE DRY BONES,
  • 00:53:23.010 --> 00:53:26.010
  • DECLARE LIFE OVER YOUR MARRIAGE,
  • 00:53:26.010 --> 00:53:27.160
  • THERE IS HOPE FOR YOUR MARRIAGE.
  • 00:53:27.160 --> 00:53:29.280
  • - PASTOR JOEL, TIME THOUGHTS?
  • 00:53:29.280 --> 00:53:32.030
  • AND PRAY FOR THE FOLKINGS THAT E
  • 00:53:34.280 --> 00:53:37.280
  • WHAT THEY ARE SEEING.
  • 00:53:37.280 --> 00:53:39.090
  • WE ARE ALL MARRIED, THE FOUR OF
  • 00:53:39.090 --> 00:53:41.120
  • US WILL HAVE ISSUES, FOR SOME
  • 00:53:41.120 --> 00:53:43.240
  • REASON THEY THINK PEOPLE ON
  • 00:53:43.240 --> 00:53:45.150
  • TELEVISION DON'T HAVE ISSUES.
  • 00:53:45.160 --> 00:53:48.160
  • - I WOULD LOVE TO.
  • 00:53:48.160 --> 00:53:50.140
  • LORD, THANK YOU FOR THE
  • 00:53:50.140 --> 00:53:51.100
  • OPPORTUNITY TO BE HERE TONIGHT.
  • 00:53:51.100 --> 00:53:53.050
  • LORD, WE KNOW THERE ARE PEOPLE
  • 00:53:53.050 --> 00:53:55.000
  • WATCHING STRUGGLING IN THEIR
  • 00:53:55.000 --> 00:53:56.180
  • MARRIAGE, IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP.
  • 00:53:56.180 --> 00:53:58.110
  • I PRAY TONIGHT IT WILL BE A NEW
  • 00:53:58.110 --> 00:54:01.070
  • BEGINNING, HOPE WILL FILL THEIR
  • 00:54:01.070 --> 00:54:03.050
  • HEART, FATHER, YOU HEAL HURTS OF
  • 00:54:04.180 --> 00:54:07.180
  • THE PAST.
  • 00:54:07.180 --> 00:54:09.110
  • YOU SAID YOU GIVE BEAUTY FOR
  • 00:54:09.180 --> 00:54:12.180
  • ASHES, I PRAY HEALING AND HOPE
  • 00:54:12.180 --> 00:54:14.160
  • AND FRESH VISION FOR THEIR
  • 00:54:14.160 --> 00:54:16.200
  • MARRIAGE, THAT THEY FALL BACK IN
  • 00:54:16.200 --> 00:54:18.130
  • LOVE, THAT THEY REMEMBER THE
  • 00:54:18.130 --> 00:54:19.280
  • REASONS THEY FELL IN LOVE IN THE
  • 00:54:19.280 --> 00:54:21.140
  • FIRST PLACE, I PRAY YOU GIVE
  • 00:54:21.140 --> 00:54:23.150
  • THEM THE STRENGTH TO LET GO OF
  • 00:54:23.150 --> 00:54:25.200
  • THE OLD AND SEE THIS AS A NEW
  • 00:54:25.200 --> 00:54:27.280
  • BEGINNING IN THEIR MARRIAGE.
  • 00:54:27.280 --> 00:54:29.290
  • WE SPEAK LIFE, STRENGTH, PEACE,
  • 00:54:30.030 --> 00:54:33.030
  • HARMONY, JOY AND LAUGHTER IN
  • 00:54:33.030 --> 00:54:35.080
  • YOUR HOME ONCE AGAIN, IN THE
  • 00:54:35.080 --> 00:54:36.260
  • NAME OF JESUS, WE PRAY.
  • 00:54:36.260 --> 00:54:39.010
  • - WOW! WE ARE TALKING ABOUT
  • 00:54:39.010 --> 00:54:40.250
  • MARRIAGE.
  • 00:54:40.250 --> 00:54:41.110
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:54:44.060 --> 00:54:47.060
  • I AM GOING TO GIVE YOU A HEADS
  • 00:54:49.080 --> 00:54:52.080
  • UP.
  • 00:54:52.080 --> 00:54:52.240
  • THIS GUY STANDING IN THE
  • 00:54:52.240 --> 00:54:54.250
  • AUDIENCE, I HAVE KNOWN.
  • 00:54:54.250 --> 00:54:56.230
  • I WAS WITH JAY IN A HOTEL ROOM,
  • 00:54:57.150 --> 00:55:00.170
  • WE WERE CREW MEMBERS BACK IN THE
  • 00:55:00.170 --> 00:55:02.230
  • DAY.
  • 00:55:02.230 --> 00:55:03.050
  • HE IS A LOT OLDER THAN I AM.
  • 00:55:03.050 --> 00:55:05.080
  • HE LOOKS LIKE MY DAD.
  • 00:55:05.080 --> 00:55:07.250
  • WE WERE TOGETHER THE DAY WE MET.
  • 00:55:07.250 --> 00:55:10.150
  • I'M LOOKING AT JAY HERE.
  • 00:55:11.230 --> 00:55:14.230
  • RIGHT BEFORE-- I'M GOING TO
  • 00:55:14.230 --> 00:55:16.080
  • STAND UP AND COME OVER TO YOU
  • 00:55:16.080 --> 00:55:18.050
  • FOR A SECOND.
  • 00:55:18.100 --> 00:55:21.100
  • YOU SAID YOU HAVE BEEN MARRIED
  • 00:55:21.120 --> 00:55:24.120
  • 52 YEARS.
  • 00:55:24.120 --> 00:55:26.020
  • THERE IS A CAMERA RIGHT THERE.
  • 00:55:33.110 --> 00:55:36.110
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:55:36.110 --> 00:55:36.220
  • - FOR SOMEBODY MARRIED 52
  • 00:55:36.220 --> 00:55:39.040
  • YEARS, IS THERE A KEY TO IT?
  • 00:55:39.040 --> 00:55:41.140
  • FROM YOUR PERSPECTIVE?
  • 00:55:41.140 --> 00:55:43.190
  • NOT EVERY MARRIAGE IS THE SAME.
  • 00:55:43.190 --> 00:55:45.180
  • I KNOW MARALEE.
  • 00:55:46.120 --> 00:55:49.120
  • YOU HAVE BEEN MARRIED 52 YEARS
  • 00:55:50.040 --> 00:55:53.040
  • YOU STILL LOVE EACH OTHER.
  • 00:55:54.060 --> 00:55:57.060
  • - YES.
  • 00:55:58.030 --> 00:56:01.050
  • FORGIVENESS AND COMPLETE TRUST
  • 00:56:02.040 --> 00:56:05.040
  • GOD HAS GIVEN ME TO DO.
  • 00:56:05.040 --> 00:56:07.110
  • IT WORKS, YOU HAVE ISSUES BUT
  • 00:56:07.110 --> 00:56:10.010
  • GOD IS THERE WITH YOU, AS LONG
  • 00:56:10.010 --> 00:56:12.020
  • AS HE IS IN THE PART IT ALMS ALS
  • 00:56:15.240 --> 00:56:18.240
  • COUNTS, GOD IN THE MIDDLE OF IT.
  • 00:56:18.240 --> 00:56:21.070
  • - DO YOU AND MARALEE FIGHT?
  • 00:56:23.210 --> 00:56:26.210
  • - BACK IN 1987 WE HAD A
  • 00:56:29.120 --> 00:56:32.120
  • DISAGREEMENT.
  • 00:56:32.120 --> 00:56:32.250
  • - I LOVE YOU, JAY.
  • 00:56:32.250 --> 00:56:34.160
  • - HE HAS BEEN AROUND FOREVER.
  • 00:56:36.200 --> 00:56:39.200
  • - JOHN GRAY.
  • 00:56:41.120 --> 00:56:44.120
  • - GET TO THE SPARK CONFERENCE.
  • 00:56:44.120 --> 00:56:47.040
  • - YOU HAVE 20 SECONDS, TD JAMES
  • 00:56:47.230 --> 00:56:50.230
  • WAS GOING TO DO A PRO MOME PROM.
  • 00:56:53.280 --> 00:56:56.280
  • - GET TO THE SPARK CONFERENCE
  • 00:56:57.090 --> 00:57:00.110
  • IN TEXAS.
  • 00:57:00.110 --> 00:57:01.280
  • - OUR MARRIAGES CAN BE
  • 00:57:01.280 --> 00:57:03.160
  • STRENGTHENED, WE CAN BE BLESSED,
  • 00:57:03.160 --> 00:57:05.190
  • AND W RESTORED.
  • 00:57:06.250 --> 00:57:09.250
  • COVER YOUR SPOUSE AND LOVE HER.
  • 00:57:11.070 --> 00:57:14.070
  • GOD BLESS.
  • 00:57:14.070 --> 00:57:15.280