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  • - I thought about Moses, who --
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  • - I thought about Moses, who --Moses was certainly
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  • Moses was certainlyvery passionate,
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  • very passionate,and God used him to fulfill
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  • and God used him to fulfilla great purpose.
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  • a great purpose.In fact, God showed up
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  • in a burning bush in Exodus 3.
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  • in a burning bush in Exodus 3.But 40 years before
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  • But 40 years beforethat burning bush,
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  • that burning bush,which is where many people
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  • which is where many peoplethink the story of Moses' life
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  • think the story of Moses' lifebegan, when God called him
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  • began, when God called himto be a deliverer
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  • to be a delivererof the Israelites
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  • of the Israelitesout of Egyptian slavery --
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  • out of Egyptian slavery --40 years before this,
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  • 40 years before this,Moses had an incident
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  • Moses had an incidentthat was the result
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  • that was the resultof mismanaged passion.
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  • Exodus 2:11.
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  • Exodus 2:11.It says one day,
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  • It says one day,after Moses had grown up,
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  • after Moses had grown up,he went out to where
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  • he went out to wherehis own people were
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  • his own people wereand watched them
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  • and watched themat their hard labor.
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  • at their hard labor.Now Moses was conflicted
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  • Now Moses was conflictedbecause he grew up as a Hebrew,
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  • because he grew up as a Hebrew,but he grew up
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  • but he grew upbeing raised as Egyptians.
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  • being raised as Egyptians.He was from the Hebrew people,
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  • He was from the Hebrew people,but he was raised
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  • but he was raisedin an Egyptian society,
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  • in an Egyptian society,so he was torn.
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  • so he was torn.He was conflicted by this.
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  • He was conflicted by this.And one day, he goes out,
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  • And one day, he goes out,and he's grown up
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  • and he's grown upa little bit now,
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  • a little bit now,and he sees something.
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  • and he sees something.He sees an Egyptian beating
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  • He sees an Egyptian beatinga Hebrew, one of his own people,
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  • a Hebrew, one of his own people,and it stirs up
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  • and it stirs upa passion in him.
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  • a passion in him.And it says that
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  • And it says thathe looked this way,
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  • he looked this way,and that way,
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  • and that way,and it looked like
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  • and it looked likethe coast was clear.
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  • the coast was clear.So he didn't see anybody,
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  • So he didn't see anybody,and he killed the Egyptian,
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  • and he killed the Egyptian,and hid him in the sand.
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  • and hid him in the sand.Well, the next day he went out
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  • Well, the next day he went outand saw two Hebrews fighting,
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  • and saw two Hebrews fighting,and he asked the one
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  • and he asked the onein the wrong -- hey, man,
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  • in the wrong -- hey, man,why are you hitting
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  • why are you hittingyour fellow Hebrew?
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  • your fellow Hebrew?And the man said
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  • And the man saidwho made you ruler
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  • who made you rulerand judge over us?
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  • and judge over us?Are you thinking of killing me
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  • Are you thinking of killing meas you killed the Egyptian?
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  • as you killed the Egyptian?Uh oh.
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  • Uh oh.Just because you hide something
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  • Just because you hide somethingin the sand doesn't mean
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  • in the sand doesn't meanit went away.
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  • it went away.I'll stand here for a moment.
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  • I'll stand here for a moment.[applause]
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  • [applause]It bears repeating.
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  • It bears repeating.Just because you covered
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  • Just because you coveredsomething up in the sand
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  • something up in the sanddoesn't mean
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  • doesn't meanit won't come back up.
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  • it won't come back up.Because the thing
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  • Because the thingthat Moses did --
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  • that Moses did --nobody else saw it,
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  • nobody else saw it,so he thought,
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  • so he thought,but then his past catches up
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  • but then his past catches upwith him rather quickly.
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  • with him rather quickly.And it says that
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  • And it says thatwhen he heard this,
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  • when he heard this,Moses was afraid and he thought,
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  • Moses was afraid and he thought,what I did must have
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  • what I did must havebecome known.
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  • become known.Now he's exposed.
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  • Now he's exposed.And so Pharaoh hears of this,
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  • And so Pharaoh hears of this,and he tries to kill Moses.
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  • and he tries to kill Moses.But Moses fled from Pharaoh
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  • But Moses fled from Pharaohand went to live in Midian,
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  • and went to live in Midian,where he sat down by a well.
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  • where he sat down by a well.And he ends up on the run
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  • And he ends up on the runfor 40 years because
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  • for 40 years becauseof a mismanaged passion.
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  • of a mismanaged passion.You see, what Moses felt --
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  • You see, what Moses felt --follow me -- was a good passion.
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  • follow me -- was a good passion.He saw one of his people
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  • He saw one of his peoplebeing taken advantage of,
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  • being taken advantage of,and God had put
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  • and God had puta passion in Moses.
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  • a passion in Moses.Moses was called to deliver
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  • Moses was called to deliverthe Hebrew people
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  • the Hebrew peopleout of Egyptian slavery.
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  • out of Egyptian slavery.So he sees this going down,
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  • So he sees this going down,and he thinks this isn't right,
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  • and he thinks this isn't right,and it lights
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  • and it lightsa fire inside of him.
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  • a fire inside of him.And so Moses just goes off.
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  • And so Moses just goes off.But it's one thing to have
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  • But it's one thing to havethe right passion.
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  • the right passion.It's another thing to act
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  • It's another thing to acton it in the right way.
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  • on it in the right way.Did you know you can have
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  • Did you know you can havethe right passion
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  • the right passionbut have the wrong expression
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  • but have the wrong expressionof the right passion,
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  • of the right passion,and it'll create
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  • and it'll createa terrible result in your life?
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  • a terrible result in your life?I can't get any help
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  • I can't get any helpin this sermon, man.
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  • in this sermon, man.Let me ask it another way.
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  • Let me ask it another way.Did you know that the thing
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  • Did you know that the thingthat God put inside of you
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  • that God put inside of youthat can make you really great
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  • that can make you really greatand can lead you
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  • and can lead youinto your purpose can also bring
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  • into your purpose can also bringyou great pain
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  • you great painif it's not managed correctly?
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  • if it's not managed correctly?I'm teaching this
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  • I'm teaching thisto our oldest son right now.
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  • to our oldest son right now.He has a gift
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  • He has a giftfor being argumentative.
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  • for being argumentative.And it's a gift.
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  • And it's a gift.Never seen
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  • Never seenanything quite like it.
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  • anything quite like it.I'm told that he got it
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  • I'm told that he got itfrom somewhere.
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  • from somewhere.[laughter]
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  • [laughter]And he will
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  • And he willverbally assassinate you.
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  • verbally assassinate you.He will take you apart
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  • And I'm teaching him
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  • And I'm teaching himthis could be
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  • this could beyour greatest asset
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  • your greatest assetbecause, boy, I could see
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  • because, boy, I could seeyou one day on stage preaching
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  • you one day on stage preachingto people, and God's gonna
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  • to people, and God's gonnatake this gift that you have
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  • take this gift that you haveto kind of go through stuff
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  • to kind of go through stuffand just take it apart.
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  • and just take it apart.And you can take it apart,
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  • And you can take it apart,and I see how
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  • and I see howGod could really use that.
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  • God could really use that.You might be three times,
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  • You might be three times,ten times, a hundred times
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  • ten times, a hundred timesthe preacher that I ever am.
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  • the preacher that I ever am.But if you don't learn
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  • and you think that that gift is
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  • and you think that that gift isgiven to you so that you can
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  • given to you so that you canargue with your mom
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  • argue with your momabout the cleanliness
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  • about the cleanlinessof your room,
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  • of your room,you're not going to live
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  • you're not going to livelong enough to see
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  • long enough to seewhether or not --
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  • whether or not --You know,
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  • You know,God could really use this.
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  • God could really use this.This is a good thing.
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  • This is a good thing.I see it in you, boy.
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  • I see it in you, boy.I think it's awesome.
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  • I think it's awesome.I think it's amazing.
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  • I think it's amazing.But you better learn
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  • But you better learnwhen to use it and how to use it
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  • when to use it and how to use it'cause you can win the argument
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  • 'cause you can win the argumentand still lose
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  • and still loseyour video game time
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  • your video game timefor the next month
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  • for the next monthif you don't shut
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  • if you don't shutyour mouth right now.
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  • your mouth right now.It's a good thing
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  • It's a good thingthat you can do this,
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  • that you can do this,but you better learn to do it.
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  • but you better learn to do it.You can do a good thing
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  • You can do a good thingin the wrong way,
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  • in the wrong way,and it becomes a bad thing.
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  • and it becomes a bad thing.Sex is a good thing.
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  • Sex is a good thing.Sex is a good thing.
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  • Sex is a good thing.[applause]
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  • [applause]You'd think if I could
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  • You'd think if I couldever get an amen,
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  • ever get an amen,that'd get an amen.
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  • that'd get an amen.Sex is a good thing.
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  • Sex is a good thing.- CONGREGATION: Amen.
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  • - CONGREGATION: Amen.- But we don't teach
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  • - But we don't teachthat in the church.
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  • that in the church.We teach, you know,
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  • We teach, you know,sex is dirty.
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  • sex is dirty.Sex is gross.
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  • Sex is gross.Sex is disgusting,
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  • Sex is disgusting,so save it for your husband.
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  • so save it for your husband.[laughter]
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  • [laughter]But the passion is pure.
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  • But the passion is pure.However, the passion
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  • However, the passionneeds parameters
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  • needs parametersif it is to serve
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  • if it is to servethe correct purpose.
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  • the correct purpose.And what's gotten
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  • And what's gottena lot of us in trouble
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  • a lot of us in troublein our lives is
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  • in our lives iswe had a good passion,
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  • we had a good passion,but no parameters.
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  • but no parameters.So rather than building purpose,
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  • So rather than building purpose,it destroyed purpose.
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  • what happened to Moses.
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  • what happened to Moses.He had the right passion,
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  • He had the right passion,but he put it in the wrong place
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  • but he put it in the wrong placeand acted on it
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  • and acted on itin the wrong way.
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  • in the wrong way.Right passion,
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  • Right passion,wrong expression.
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  • wrong expression.Look -- bring me
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  • Look -- bring memy sermon illustration.
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  • my sermon illustration.So like I was just
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  • that I could show you this.
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  • that I could show you this.A simple way to show you this.
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  • A simple way to show you this.And it's like imagine right now
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  • And it's like imagine right nowthat at this point
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  • that at this pointin my sermon --
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  • in my sermon --I know this is simple.
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  • I know this is simple.Just go with me.
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  • Just go with me.I'm like hey, I got an idea.
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  • I'm like hey, I got an idea.Let's build a fire
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  • Let's build a fireon the stage.
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  • on the stage.I just think it'd be cool
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  • I just think it'd be coolto build a fire on the stage.
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  • to build a fire on the stage.I'm stacking wood to build
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  • I'm stacking wood to builda fire on the stage.
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  • a fire on the stage.I actually thought about
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  • I actually thought abouthow far should I take
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  • how far should I takethis sermon illustration?
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  • this sermon illustration?And I thought about gasoline,
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  • And I thought about gasoline,and I thought I would see
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  • and I thought I would seehow far I could go before
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  • how far I could go beforepeople started leaving.
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  • people started leaving.Exiting the building.
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  • Exiting the building.[laughter]
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  • [laughter]But I think it --
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  • But I think it --suffice it just to say that,
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  • suffice it just to say that,you know, everybody
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  • you know, everybodyin the room understands
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  • in the room understandsthe problem
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  • the problemwith this proposition.
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  • with this proposition.And the problem is
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  • And the problem isthat building a fire --
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  • that building a fire --the problem is building
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  • the problem is buildinga fire in a place
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  • a fire in a placewhere there's nothing
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  • where there's nothingto contain the fire.
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  • to contain the fire.It's fine if you wanna build
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  • It's fine if you wanna builda fire, but building a fire
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  • a fire, but building a firewithout any parameters
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  • without any parameterswould be to unleash --
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  • would be to unleash --see the same substance
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  • see the same substancethat warms your home
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  • that warms your homewhen it's in a fireplace
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  • when it's in a fireplaceis the same substance
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  • is the same substancethat burns a forest in Colorado
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  • that burns a forest in Coloradoin the summer.
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  • in the summer.The difference is
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  • The difference iswhether it's contained.
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  • whether it's contained.And when you release passions
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  • And when you release passionsthat were intended for marriage
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  • that were intended for marriageoutside of marriage,
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  • outside of marriage,you're building a fire
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  • you're building a firewith nothing to contain it.
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  • with nothing to contain it.And God says
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  • And God saysthe fire's a good thing.
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  • the fire's a good thing.Fire purifies.
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  • Fire purifies.Fire brings warmth.
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  • Fire brings warmth.Fire is the source of life.
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  • Fire is the source of life.There's nothing wrong with fire.
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  • There's nothing wrong with fire.But if you build the fire
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  • But if you build the firein the wrong place,
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  • in the wrong place,if you put the passion
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  • if you put the passionin the wrong place,
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  • in the wrong place,it will burn your home
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  • it will burn your hometo the ground.
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  • to the ground.It's a misplaced passion.
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  • It's a misplaced passion.It's a good thing
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  • It's a good thingin a bad place.
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  • in a bad place.And I wonder how many of you
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  • And I wonder how many of youwould have avoided
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  • would have avoidedsome serious pain in your life
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  • some serious pain in your lifeif somebody would have
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  • if somebody would haveshowed you --
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  • showed you --before you build a fire,
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  • before you build a fire,you need somewhere to put it?
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  • you need somewhere to put it?[applause]
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  • [applause]And the only human relationship
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  • And the only human relationshipthat can sustain this force
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  • that can sustain this forceof passion is a covenant
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  • of passion is a covenantrelationship called marriage.
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  • in other relationships
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  • in other relationshipsthat aren't built to contain
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  • that aren't built to containthe power of passion,
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  • the power of passion,it's gonna spread to places
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  • it's gonna spread to placesyou don't intend
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  • you don't intendfor it to spread,
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  • for it to spread,and it's gonna destroy things
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  • and it's gonna destroy thingsthat God gave you as a gift.
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  • that God gave you as a gift.And so Paul is not saying
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  • And so Paul is not sayingput the fire out.
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  • put the fire out.He's saying find the right place
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  • He's saying find the right placeto build the fire.
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  • to build the fire.Make sure you have
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  • Make sure you havethe right place for the passion
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  • or you'll get burned.
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  • or you'll get burned.And I'm seeing so many people
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  • And I'm seeing so many peopleand so many families get burned
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  • and so many families get burnedbecause they were
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  • because they weretrying to get warm.
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  • trying to get warm.Because it's cold out there,
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  • Because it's cold out there,and because I need relationship,
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  • and because I need relationship,and because I need somebody,
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  • and because I need somebody,so I think I'll stand up
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  • so I think I'll stand upnext to this fire.
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  • next to this fire.I did a word study this week.
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  • I did a word study this week.I studied the word intimacy,
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  • all truly longing for.
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  • all truly longing for.It's really what we all want.
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  • It's really what we all want.That's what all
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  • That's what allof our sexual expression,
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  • of our sexual expression,emotional expression is about.
  • 00:09:46.738 --> 00:09:48.306
  • emotional expression is about.We want intimacy.
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  • We want intimacy.That's what we want.
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  • That's what we want.That's what we desire
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  • That's what we desirefrom God and from others.
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  • from God and from others.We wanna be known.
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  • We wanna be known.We wanna be accepted.
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  • We wanna be accepted.We want intimacy.
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  • We want intimacy.But then I studied
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  • But then I studiedthe word infatuation.
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  • to find out that in Latin --
  • 00:10:02.554 --> 00:10:03.221
  • to find out that in Latin --this'll make you sound
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  • this'll make you soundso smart at lunch this week.
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  • so smart at lunch this week.In Latin, infatuation
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  • In Latin, infatuationliterally means false fire.
  • 00:10:11.630 --> 00:10:13.365
  • literally means false fire.Looks like fire,
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  • Looks like fire,but really can't warm you.
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  • but really can't warm you.Looks like fire,
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  • Looks like fire,but really can't empower you.
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  • but really can't empower you.Looks like fire.
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  • Looks like fire.And that's
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  • And that'swhat the world offers
  • 00:10:21.740 --> 00:10:22.907
  • what the world offersis an infatuation
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  • is an infatuationwith images of sexuality.
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  • with images of sexuality.But it won't really warm you.
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  • But it won't really warm you.In fact, it can actually run
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  • In fact, it can actually runaway from you and burn
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  • away from you and burnyour house down.
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  • your house down.And some preacher needs
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  • And some preacher needsto get up in front of you,
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  • to get up in front of you,and just have the guts
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  • and just have the gutsto care two cents worth
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  • to care two cents worthof nothing what you think
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  • of nothing what you thinkabout it,
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  • about it,and say if you're building
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  • and say if you're buildingthese fires in the wrong place,
  • 00:10:43.962 --> 00:10:46.731
  • these fires in the wrong place,it's gonna burn you.
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  • it's gonna burn you.It's gonna burn you.
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  • It's gonna burn you.[applause]
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  • [applause]So it's mismanaged passions.
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  • So it's mismanaged passions.Passion is pure.
  • 00:11:00.679 --> 00:11:02.914
  • Passion is pure.The enemy wants to pervert it
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  • The enemy wants to pervert itand use what God wanted to use
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  • and use what God wanted to useto develop intimacy in your life
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  • to develop intimacy in your lifeto destroy your capacity
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  • to destroy your capacityfor intimacy.
  • 00:11:08.386 --> 00:11:09.521
  • for intimacy.So that he gets a boy looking
  • 00:11:09.521 --> 00:11:11.322
  • So that he gets a boy lookingat pornography at age 10
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  • at pornography at age 10so he can begin to rewire
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  • so he can begin to rewirehis brain and his standard
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  • his brain and his standardof beauty so that
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  • of beauty so thatwhen he's having sex
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  • when he's having sexwith his wife one day,
  • 00:11:15.894 --> 00:11:16.795
  • with his wife one day,he won't be able to do it
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  • he won't be able to do itwithout conjuring up images
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  • without conjuring up imagesthat he saw before he even knew
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  • that he saw before he even knewwhat was developing in his life
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  • what was developing in his lifeand in his heart --
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  • and in his heart --'cause a fire got built,
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  • 'cause a fire got built,but there was nothing
  • 00:11:24.002 --> 00:11:25.970
  • but there was nothingto contain it.
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  • to contain it.[applause]
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  • [applause]I say this not to condemn you.
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  • I say this not to condemn you.I say this not to bring
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  • I say this not to bringall your mistakes up before you.
  • 00:11:38.750 --> 00:11:39.617
  • all your mistakes up before you.But there are some of you
  • 00:11:39.617 --> 00:11:40.452
  • But there are some of youthat are building fires
  • 00:11:40.452 --> 00:11:43.221
  • that are building firesin bad places right now.
  • 00:11:43.221 --> 00:11:43.955
  • in bad places right now.Sending text messages
  • 00:11:43.955 --> 00:11:47.325
  • Sending text messagesto the wrong person right now.
  • 00:11:47.325 --> 00:11:47.792
  • to the wrong person right now.Visiting some
  • 00:11:47.792 --> 00:11:50.228
  • Visiting someof the wrong sites right now.
  • 00:11:50.228 --> 00:11:51.096
  • of the wrong sites right now.Filling your minds with
  • 00:11:51.096 --> 00:11:52.997
  • Filling your minds withthe wrong kinds of images.
  • 00:11:52.997 --> 00:11:53.565
  • the wrong kinds of images.Indulging in
  • 00:11:53.565 --> 00:11:55.700
  • Indulging inthe wrong conversations.
  • 00:11:55.700 --> 00:11:56.434
  • the wrong conversations.There's nothing wrong
  • 00:11:56.434 --> 00:11:58.503
  • There's nothing wrongwith the fire.
  • 00:11:58.503 --> 00:12:04.442
  • with the fire.It's just where you put it.
  • 00:12:04.442 --> 00:12:05.210
  • It's just where you put it.And let's close talking
  • 00:12:05.210 --> 00:12:07.912
  • And let's close talkingabout something positive.
  • 00:12:07.912 --> 00:12:08.480
  • about something positive.Let's talk about
  • 00:12:08.480 --> 00:12:10.715
  • Let's talk aboutshameless solutions.
  • 00:12:10.715 --> 00:12:17.722
  • shameless solutions.Shameless solutions.
  • 00:12:17.722 --> 00:12:18.490
  • Shameless solutions.So when me and Holly were
  • 00:12:18.490 --> 00:12:21.059
  • So when me and Holly werebuilding our home last year --
  • 00:12:21.059 --> 00:12:21.593
  • building our home last year --by the way, Holly
  • 00:12:21.593 --> 00:12:23.328
  • by the way, Hollyand I built a house last year.
  • 00:12:23.328 --> 00:12:24.195
  • and I built a house last year.[laughter]
  • 00:12:24.195 --> 00:12:29.934
  • [laughter]I'm gonna share that with you.
  • 00:12:29.934 --> 00:12:31.035
  • I'm gonna share that with you.There were all these selections
  • 00:12:31.035 --> 00:12:32.370
  • There were all these selectionsthat you have to make,
  • 00:12:32.370 --> 00:12:33.204
  • that you have to make,and for the most part,
  • 00:12:33.204 --> 00:12:35.273
  • and for the most part,I never got involved.
  • 00:12:35.273 --> 00:12:36.875
  • I never got involved.But she would bring
  • 00:12:36.875 --> 00:12:37.442
  • But she would bringcertain things to me
  • 00:12:37.442 --> 00:12:38.409
  • certain things to methat she thought I might wanna
  • 00:12:38.409 --> 00:12:41.646
  • what kind of fireplace
  • 00:12:42.247 --> 00:12:44.215
  • what kind of fireplacewe would have in the house.
  • 00:12:44.215 --> 00:12:46.084
  • we would have in the house.I love sitting by a fireplace.
  • 00:12:46.084 --> 00:12:47.852
  • I love sitting by a fireplace.I don't know why.
  • 00:12:47.852 --> 00:12:50.088
  • I don't know why.But I like the gas log fireplace
  • 00:12:50.088 --> 00:12:50.722
  • But I like the gas log fireplace'cause this is about
  • 00:12:50.722 --> 00:12:53.057
  • 'cause this is aboutas much work as I wanna do
  • 00:12:53.057 --> 00:12:54.159
  • as much work as I wanna doto start the fire.
  • 00:12:54.159 --> 00:12:57.495
  • to start the fire.Like to me, that's my version
  • 00:12:57.495 --> 00:12:59.330
  • Like to me, that's my versionof roughing it.
  • 00:12:59.330 --> 00:13:01.132
  • right there.
  • 00:13:02.367 --> 00:13:03.535
  • right there.Just flip that little switch,
  • 00:13:03.535 --> 00:13:04.202
  • Just flip that little switch,and a fire comes on.
  • 00:13:04.202 --> 00:13:04.736
  • and a fire comes on.She said no, no.
  • 00:13:04.736 --> 00:13:05.603
  • She said no, no.For this house, we need to have
  • 00:13:05.603 --> 00:13:06.137
  • For this house, we need to havea real fireplace with
  • 00:13:06.137 --> 00:13:07.639
  • a real fireplace withlike real logs and stuff.
  • 00:13:07.639 --> 00:13:09.040
  • like real logs and stuff.And I'm like oh God, no.
  • 00:13:09.040 --> 00:13:09.974
  • And I'm like oh God, no.I mean, I'm gonna have to go
  • 00:13:09.974 --> 00:13:12.110
  • I mean, I'm gonna have to gochop wood, and I'm gonna have
  • 00:13:12.110 --> 00:13:13.511
  • chop wood, and I'm gonna haveto go buy a flannel shirt
  • 00:13:13.511 --> 00:13:14.612
  • to go buy a flannel shirtfrom Old Navy and have
  • 00:13:14.612 --> 00:13:15.914
  • from Old Navy and haveone in the closet.
  • 00:13:15.914 --> 00:13:17.682
  • one in the closet.And she's like no,
  • 00:13:17.682 --> 00:13:18.616
  • And she's like no,it'll be great.
  • 00:13:18.616 --> 00:13:20.852
  • it'll be great.It'll be a gas-start fireplace,
  • 00:13:20.852 --> 00:13:23.087
  • It'll be a gas-start fireplace,but it'll have real wood.
  • 00:13:23.087 --> 00:13:24.222
  • you know, I trust you.
  • 00:13:25.890 --> 00:13:26.624
  • you know, I trust you.Whatever.
  • 00:13:26.624 --> 00:13:28.059
  • Whatever.And she said trust me,
  • 00:13:28.059 --> 00:13:28.760
  • And she said trust me,you'll love it.
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  • you'll love it.I said go ahead.
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  • I said go ahead.We can do it.
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  • We can do it.But nobody showed me
  • 00:13:32.230 --> 00:13:32.864
  • But nobody showed mehow to use it.
  • 00:13:32.864 --> 00:13:33.598
  • how to use it.So the first time I went
  • 00:13:33.598 --> 00:13:35.033
  • So the first time I wentto go build a fire
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  • to go build a firein the gas-start fireplace,
  • 00:13:36.901 --> 00:13:37.902
  • in the gas-start fireplace,which -- let me see.
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  • which -- let me see.I'm gonna give you
  • 00:13:38.670 --> 00:13:39.537
  • I'm gonna give youthe technical explanation
  • 00:13:39.537 --> 00:13:40.572
  • the technical explanationfor this.
  • 00:13:40.572 --> 00:13:41.873
  • for this.There's a little thingy
  • 00:13:41.873 --> 00:13:44.876
  • there's a thing
  • 00:13:45.743 --> 00:13:46.744
  • there's a thingon the side of the fireplace,
  • 00:13:46.744 --> 00:13:47.579
  • on the side of the fireplace,and you turn that on,
  • 00:13:47.579 --> 00:13:48.746
  • and you turn that on,and then it opens
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  • and then it opensthe gas valves,
  • 00:13:49.681 --> 00:13:51.015
  • the gas valves,and so then you can light
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  • and so then you can lightthe fire.
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  • the fire.At least that's what I thought
  • 00:13:52.183 --> 00:13:53.084
  • At least that's what I thoughtyou were supposed to do is
  • 00:13:53.084 --> 00:13:54.219
  • you were supposed to do isturn on the gas,
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  • turn on the gas,and then light the fire
  • 00:13:55.820 --> 00:13:57.222
  • and then light the firein the fireplace.
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  • in the fireplace.So I was so excited to have
  • 00:13:59.090 --> 00:14:00.258
  • So I was so excited to haveour first fire
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  • our first fireof the year last year,
  • 00:14:01.826 --> 00:14:03.494
  • of the year last year,and so I turned on the gas
  • 00:14:03.494 --> 00:14:05.063
  • and so I turned on the gasto give it plenty of time.
  • 00:14:05.063 --> 00:14:05.630
  • to give it plenty of time.Like, you know,
  • 00:14:05.630 --> 00:14:06.397
  • Like, you know,if you're turning on your car
  • 00:14:06.397 --> 00:14:07.365
  • if you're turning on your carin the cold?
  • 00:14:07.365 --> 00:14:08.132
  • in the cold?So give it sometime
  • 00:14:08.132 --> 00:14:10.201
  • So give it sometimeto warm up, right?
  • 00:14:10.201 --> 00:14:11.803
  • to warm up, right?And so I went to go get my kids
  • 00:14:11.803 --> 00:14:12.337
  • And so I went to go get my kids'cause I wanted them
  • 00:14:12.337 --> 00:14:13.738
  • 'cause I wanted themto see the first fire.
  • 00:14:13.738 --> 00:14:14.372
  • to see the first fire.[laughter]
  • 00:14:14.372 --> 00:14:15.039
  • [laughter]And I bring 'em in
  • 00:14:15.039 --> 00:14:15.773
  • And I bring 'em inbecause it's like getting
  • 00:14:15.773 --> 00:14:16.407
  • because it's like gettingclose to Christmas time,
  • 00:14:16.407 --> 00:14:17.208
  • close to Christmas time,and there are stockings up,
  • 00:14:17.208 --> 00:14:18.076
  • and there are stockings up,and I thought this was gonna be
  • 00:14:18.076 --> 00:14:19.944
  • and I thought this was gonna bea picture-perfect scene.
  • 00:14:19.944 --> 00:14:20.612
  • a picture-perfect scene.And so I went --
  • 00:14:20.612 --> 00:14:21.646
  • And so I went --I go and get a drink,
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  • I go and get a drink,and get the kids,
  • 00:14:22.280 --> 00:14:23.114
  • and get the kids,and I gather them around.
  • 00:14:23.114 --> 00:14:24.082
  • and I gather them around.And I went and got the wood.
  • 00:14:24.082 --> 00:14:24.983
  • And I went and got the wood.Not the wood that I chopped,
  • 00:14:24.983 --> 00:14:26.251
  • Not the wood that I chopped,but the wood that the man
  • 00:14:26.251 --> 00:14:27.719
  • but the wood that the manwho sold the wood to me
  • 00:14:27.719 --> 00:14:28.453
  • who sold the wood to meon the side of the road
  • 00:14:28.453 --> 00:14:29.654
  • on the side of the roadchopped at some point.
  • 00:14:29.654 --> 00:14:30.922
  • chopped at some point.And I took that wood,
  • 00:14:30.922 --> 00:14:31.789
  • And I took that wood,and I stacked it up high because
  • 00:14:31.789 --> 00:14:33.358
  • and I stacked it up high becauseI wanted it to be a good fire.
  • 00:14:33.358 --> 00:14:34.058
  • I wanted it to be a good fire.I wanted to make sure
  • 00:14:34.058 --> 00:14:35.793
  • I wanted to make sureour first fire was a good fire.
  • 00:14:35.793 --> 00:14:36.294
  • our first fire was a good fire.And now I figure
  • 00:14:36.294 --> 00:14:37.262
  • And now I figurewe're warmed up.
  • 00:14:37.262 --> 00:14:38.730
  • we're warmed up.And so what happened
  • 00:14:38.730 --> 00:14:40.131
  • And so what happenedwhen I put the match --
  • 00:14:40.131 --> 00:14:42.700
  • when I put the match --and so like now when I give
  • 00:14:42.700 --> 00:14:43.268
  • and so like now when I givean invitation
  • 00:14:43.268 --> 00:14:45.103
  • an invitationfor people to receive Christ,
  • 00:14:45.103 --> 00:14:45.904
  • for people to receive Christ,I give it with
  • 00:14:45.904 --> 00:14:46.771
  • I give it withso much more passion because
  • 00:14:46.771 --> 00:14:48.606
  • so much more passion becauseI feel like I have seen
  • 00:14:48.606 --> 00:14:50.475
  • I feel like I have seenwhat Hell is going to be like.
  • 00:14:50.475 --> 00:14:51.576
  • what Hell is going to be like.[laughter]
  • 00:14:51.576 --> 00:14:52.710
  • [laughter]Because when the flames
  • 00:14:52.710 --> 00:14:55.480
  • Because when the flamescame out, it was traumatic.
  • 00:14:55.480 --> 00:14:56.781
  • came out, it was traumatic.It was traumatic for Graham.
  • 00:14:56.781 --> 00:14:58.249
  • It was traumatic for Graham.Graham was crying.
  • 00:14:58.249 --> 00:15:01.452
  • Graham was crying.I was calling on Jesus Christ.
  • 00:15:01.452 --> 00:15:02.253
  • I was calling on Jesus Christ.I was calling on
  • 00:15:02.253 --> 00:15:03.288
  • I was calling onSmokey the Bear.
  • 00:15:03.288 --> 00:15:04.122
  • Smokey the Bear.I was stopping,
  • 00:15:04.122 --> 00:15:05.423
  • I was stopping,and dropping, and rolling.
  • 00:15:05.423 --> 00:15:06.424
  • and dropping, and rolling.It was everything.
  • 00:15:06.424 --> 00:15:06.991
  • It was everything.I was checking
  • 00:15:06.991 --> 00:15:08.426
  • I was checkingfor eyebrows in the mirror.
  • 00:15:08.426 --> 00:15:13.231
  • for eyebrows in the mirror.[laughter]
  • 00:15:13.231 --> 00:15:16.935
  • [laughter]Lesson learned.
  • 00:15:16.935 --> 00:15:19.904
  • Lesson learned.Start the fire in the fireplace,
  • 00:15:19.904 --> 00:15:22.407
  • Start the fire in the fireplace,and then turn on the gas.
  • 00:15:22.407 --> 00:15:24.943
  • and then turn on the gas.Not the other way around.
  • 00:15:24.943 --> 00:15:27.245
  • Not the other way around.The difference between a fire
  • 00:15:27.245 --> 00:15:29.514
  • The difference between a firethat will warm your house
  • 00:15:29.514 --> 00:15:31.582
  • that will warm your houseand a fire that will
  • 00:15:31.582 --> 00:15:35.320
  • and a fire that willburn off your face
  • 00:15:35.320 --> 00:15:36.788
  • burn off your facehas to do with the order
  • 00:15:36.788 --> 00:15:40.158
  • has to do with the orderin which you turn on the gas
  • 00:15:40.158 --> 00:15:42.293
  • in which you turn on the gasand light the flame.
  • 00:15:42.293 --> 00:15:43.394
  • and light the flame.And that's what Paul is
  • 00:15:43.394 --> 00:15:45.129
  • And that's what Paul issaying, church.
  • 00:15:45.129 --> 00:15:47.198
  • saying, church.And that's what God is saying.
  • 00:15:47.198 --> 00:15:48.933
  • And that's what God is saying.He's saying some of you are
  • 00:15:48.933 --> 00:15:51.069
  • He's saying some of you arerunning the gas valve wide
  • 00:15:51.069 --> 00:15:53.438
  • running the gas valve wideopen in your thought life.
  • 00:15:53.438 --> 00:15:54.739
  • open in your thought life.And you're running
  • 00:15:54.739 --> 00:15:56.107
  • And you're runningthe gas valve wide open
  • 00:15:56.107 --> 00:15:57.942
  • the gas valve wide openin your conversations.
  • 00:15:57.942 --> 00:15:58.776
  • in your conversations.And you're running
  • 00:15:58.776 --> 00:16:00.645
  • And you're runningthe gas valve wide open,
  • 00:16:00.645 --> 00:16:02.046
  • the gas valve wide open,and so you're getting hit
  • 00:16:02.046 --> 00:16:03.915
  • and so you're getting hitby all these flames
  • 00:16:03.915 --> 00:16:04.916
  • by all these flamesthat are consuming you
  • 00:16:04.916 --> 00:16:06.117
  • that are consuming youand burning you alive.
  • 00:16:06.117 --> 00:16:08.886
  • and burning you alive.What do you expect
  • 00:16:08.886 --> 00:16:10.488
  • What do you expectwhen you turn the gas on,
  • 00:16:10.488 --> 00:16:11.689
  • when you turn the gas on,and leave it on,
  • 00:16:11.689 --> 00:16:12.390
  • and leave it on,and let it build up,
  • 00:16:12.390 --> 00:16:13.391
  • and let it build up,and just think what you want,
  • 00:16:13.391 --> 00:16:14.592
  • and just think what you want,and say what you want,
  • 00:16:14.592 --> 00:16:15.560
  • and say what you want,and you don't control
  • 00:16:15.560 --> 00:16:16.928
  • and you don't controlany of this?
  • 00:16:16.928 --> 00:16:17.996
  • any of this?Like how did you think
  • 00:16:17.996 --> 00:16:21.032
  • Like how did you thinkthis was gonna end?
  • 00:16:21.032 --> 00:16:22.834
  • this was gonna end?When you let the gas build up,
  • 00:16:22.834 --> 00:16:24.302
  • When you let the gas build up,and you never got any help
  • 00:16:24.302 --> 00:16:25.403
  • and you never got any helpwith those issues,
  • 00:16:25.403 --> 00:16:26.504
  • with those issues,and you never found
  • 00:16:26.504 --> 00:16:27.472
  • and you never foundany place to discuss 'em,
  • 00:16:27.472 --> 00:16:28.239
  • any place to discuss 'em,and then you --
  • 00:16:28.239 --> 00:16:28.940
  • and then you --well, where did you think
  • 00:16:28.940 --> 00:16:31.609
  • well, where did you thinkthis was gonna end?
  • 00:16:31.609 --> 00:16:35.780
  • this was gonna end?He said first marriage,
  • 00:16:35.780 --> 00:16:38.282
  • He said first marriage,then fire.
  • 00:16:38.282 --> 00:16:42.086
  • then fire.Context is everything.
  • 00:16:42.086 --> 00:16:43.588
  • Context is everything.And some of you --
  • 00:16:43.588 --> 00:16:45.089
  • And some of you --I'm not trying to be hateful.
  • 00:16:45.089 --> 00:16:47.325
  • I'm not trying to be hateful.I'm just trying to be helpful.
  • 00:16:47.325 --> 00:16:48.826
  • I'm just trying to be helpful.You're sitting here feeding
  • 00:16:48.826 --> 00:16:53.264
  • You're sitting here feedingthe fire of lust
  • 00:16:53.264 --> 00:16:54.899
  • the fire of lustand discontentment,
  • 00:16:54.899 --> 00:16:55.967
  • and discontentment,and wondering why the flames
  • 00:16:55.967 --> 00:16:58.703
  • and wondering why the flamesare burning so high.
  • 00:16:58.703 --> 00:16:59.070
  • are burning so high.You say well,
  • 00:16:59.070 --> 00:17:00.204
  • You say well,I just can't control myself.
  • 00:17:00.204 --> 00:17:00.872
  • I just can't control myself.You know, that's kind of
  • 00:17:00.872 --> 00:17:01.906
  • You know, that's kind ofwhat Paul says in the passage.
  • 00:17:01.906 --> 00:17:02.740
  • what Paul says in the passage.He says for those
  • 00:17:02.740 --> 00:17:03.941
  • He says for thosewho can't control themselves,
  • 00:17:03.941 --> 00:17:04.675
  • who can't control themselves,you should get married.
  • 00:17:04.675 --> 00:17:05.309
  • you should get married.You know, that's actually
  • 00:17:05.309 --> 00:17:06.444
  • You know, that's actuallya poor interpretation
  • 00:17:06.444 --> 00:17:07.678
  • a poor interpretationof the original language
  • 00:17:07.678 --> 00:17:07.979
  • of the original languagein Greek.
  • 00:17:07.979 --> 00:17:09.480
  • in Greek.He didn't actually say for those
  • 00:17:09.480 --> 00:17:10.681
  • He didn't actually say for thosewho can't control themselves.
  • 00:17:10.681 --> 00:17:11.682
  • who can't control themselves.He said for those who are
  • 00:17:11.682 --> 00:17:15.019
  • He said for those who arenot controlling themselves.
  • 00:17:15.019 --> 00:17:15.686
  • not controlling themselves.See because he said
  • 00:17:15.686 --> 00:17:16.821
  • See because he saidthat the fruit of the spirit is
  • 00:17:16.821 --> 00:17:17.655
  • that the fruit of the spirit islove, joy, peace, patience,
  • 00:17:17.655 --> 00:17:18.289
  • love, joy, peace, patience,kindness, goodness,
  • 00:17:18.289 --> 00:17:18.890
  • kindness, goodness,faithfulness, gentleness,
  • 00:17:18.890 --> 00:17:21.192
  • faithfulness, gentleness,and self-control.
  • 00:17:21.192 --> 00:17:22.927
  • and self-control.So you have self-control,
  • 00:17:22.927 --> 00:17:23.995
  • the wrong fires all the time --
  • 00:17:25.663 --> 00:17:27.331
  • the wrong fires all the time --like some of you are just
  • 00:17:27.331 --> 00:17:27.799
  • like some of you are justthrowing logs
  • 00:17:27.799 --> 00:17:30.301
  • throwing logson the fire all the time.
  • 00:17:30.301 --> 00:17:32.837
  • on the fire all the time.And you're miserable
  • 00:17:32.837 --> 00:17:33.504
  • And you're miserablebecause you're watching
  • 00:17:33.504 --> 00:17:34.739
  • because you're watching"The Bachelor."
  • 00:17:34.739 --> 00:17:39.110
  • "The Bachelor."[laughter]
  • 00:17:39.110 --> 00:17:41.412
  • [laughter]No man will ever be able
  • 00:17:41.412 --> 00:17:42.947
  • No man will ever be ableto live up to your standard
  • 00:17:42.947 --> 00:17:44.382
  • to live up to your standardbecause you're watching
  • 00:17:44.382 --> 00:17:45.883
  • on a network budget.
  • 00:17:49.120 --> 00:17:51.989
  • on a network budget.Your man might drive a Hyundai.
  • 00:17:51.989 --> 00:17:54.358
  • Your man might drive a Hyundai.And it may be a good car,
  • 00:17:54.358 --> 00:17:55.159
  • And it may be a good car,but you're feeding
  • 00:17:55.159 --> 00:17:57.195
  • but you're feedingthe fire of all of these ideals.
  • 00:17:57.195 --> 00:17:58.930
  • the fire of all of these ideals.Some of you men have gotten
  • 00:17:58.930 --> 00:18:00.064
  • Some of you men have gottenyour standard of beauty
  • 00:18:00.064 --> 00:18:01.833
  • your standard of beautyfrom people who are airbrushed.
  • 00:18:01.833 --> 00:18:02.800
  • from people who are airbrushed.No wonder your wife
  • 00:18:02.800 --> 00:18:04.001
  • No wonder your wifecan't satisfy you.
  • 00:18:04.001 --> 00:18:05.470
  • can't satisfy you.You're feeding the wrong fire.
  • 00:18:05.470 --> 00:18:08.339
  • You're feeding the wrong fire.[applause]
  • 00:18:08.339 --> 00:18:09.874
  • [applause]It's flaming up, and blazing up,
  • 00:18:09.874 --> 00:18:10.942
  • It's flaming up, and blazing up,and you're running the gas,
  • 00:18:10.942 --> 00:18:12.443
  • and you're running the gas,and you talk how you wanna talk,
  • 00:18:12.443 --> 00:18:13.611
  • and you talk how you wanna talk,and do what you wanna do,
  • 00:18:13.611 --> 00:18:14.812
  • and do what you wanna do,and say what you wanna say,
  • 00:18:14.812 --> 00:18:15.680
  • and say what you wanna say,and now you're wondering,
  • 00:18:15.680 --> 00:18:19.016
  • and now you're wondering,why can't I control this?
  • 00:18:19.016 --> 00:18:25.723
  • why can't I control this?Because you didn't control it.
  • 00:18:25.723 --> 00:18:26.691
  • Because you didn't control it.So what do we need?
  • 00:18:26.691 --> 00:18:33.064
  • So what do we need?We need a big ol' ice bucket.
  • 00:18:33.064 --> 00:18:33.698
  • We need a big ol' ice bucket.I thought about calling
  • 00:18:33.698 --> 00:18:37.502
  • I thought about callinga single person up here
  • 00:18:37.502 --> 00:18:38.636
  • a single person up hereand having our own little ice
  • 00:18:38.636 --> 00:18:40.204
  • and having our own little icebucket challenge.
  • 00:18:40.204 --> 00:18:42.907
  • bucket challenge.[laughter]
  • 00:18:42.907 --> 00:18:44.308
  • [laughter]You know, what the church does
  • 00:18:44.308 --> 00:18:45.309
  • You know, what the church doesand what I used to do
  • 00:18:45.309 --> 00:18:45.843
  • and what I used to doa lot of times
  • 00:18:45.843 --> 00:18:46.544
  • a lot of timeswhen I would preach about
  • 00:18:46.544 --> 00:18:48.012
  • when I would preach aboutthese topics --
  • 00:18:48.012 --> 00:18:49.046
  • these topics --I would think that the solution
  • 00:18:49.046 --> 00:18:50.515
  • I would think that the solutionfor sexual sin is
  • 00:18:50.515 --> 00:18:53.851
  • for sexual sin isa big ol' bucket of shame,
  • 00:18:53.851 --> 00:18:54.952
  • a big ol' bucket of shame,you know?
  • 00:18:54.952 --> 00:18:55.720
  • you know?So we'd just,
  • 00:18:55.720 --> 00:18:57.355
  • So we'd just,[hail sound]
  • 00:18:57.355 --> 00:19:00.558
  • [hail sound]you know -- something like that.
  • 00:19:00.558 --> 00:19:01.592
  • you know -- something like that.And all the sermons are
  • 00:19:01.592 --> 00:19:02.460
  • And all the sermons arebased around shame.
  • 00:19:02.460 --> 00:19:04.629
  • based around shame.It's like... [hail sound]
  • 00:19:04.629 --> 00:19:06.731
  • It's like... [hail sound]And that's effective
  • 00:19:06.731 --> 00:19:10.234
  • And that's effectivefor like three days.
  • 00:19:10.234 --> 00:19:11.602
  • for like three days.But then it flares
  • 00:19:11.602 --> 00:19:14.772
  • But then it flaresright back up.
  • 00:19:14.772 --> 00:19:15.740
  • right back up.Most of the time
  • 00:19:15.740 --> 00:19:16.641
  • Most of the timein our sexuality,
  • 00:19:16.641 --> 00:19:17.141
  • in our sexuality,shame is the source
  • 00:19:17.141 --> 00:19:18.709
  • shame is the sourceof our problem,
  • 00:19:18.709 --> 00:19:20.111
  • of our problem,so it can't be our solution.
  • 00:19:20.111 --> 00:19:29.320
  • so it can't be our solution.[applause]
  • 00:19:29.320 --> 00:19:30.021
  • [applause]Paul doesn't shame
  • 00:19:30.021 --> 00:19:31.389
  • He doesn't shame --
  • 00:19:32.557 --> 00:19:33.457
  • He doesn't shame --God doesn't shame you
  • 00:19:33.457 --> 00:19:36.227
  • God doesn't shame youfor your struggles.
  • 00:19:36.227 --> 00:19:38.729
  • for your struggles.For your passions.
  • 00:19:38.729 --> 00:19:39.830
  • For your passions.He simply wants you to get 'em
  • 00:19:39.830 --> 00:19:44.468
  • He simply wants you to get 'emin the right place.
  • 00:19:44.468 --> 00:19:46.170
  • in the right place.And see, we talked about Moses.
  • 00:19:46.170 --> 00:19:46.904
  • And see, we talked about Moses.How he misplaced
  • 00:19:46.904 --> 00:19:49.574
  • but check this out.
  • 00:19:51.075 --> 00:19:54.178
  • but check this out.Forty years later, Exodus 3:1.
  • 00:19:54.178 --> 00:19:55.713
  • Forty years later, Exodus 3:1.It says that one day Moses was
  • 00:19:55.713 --> 00:19:57.682
  • It says that one day Moses wastending the flock of Jethro,
  • 00:19:57.682 --> 00:19:59.517
  • tending the flock of Jethro,his father-in-law,
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  • his father-in-law,the priest of Midian.
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  • the priest of Midian.So he was just doing
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  • So he was just doinghis basic responsibility.
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  • his basic responsibility.He had gone on about his life.
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  • He had gone on about his life.And he led the flock
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  • And he led the flockto the far side
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  • to the far sideof the wilderness
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  • of the wildernessand came to Horeb,
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  • and came to Horeb,the mountain of God.
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  • the mountain of God.So he was out
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  • So he was outin a lonely place.
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  • in a lonely place.And God shows up
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  • And God shows upand appears to Moses,
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  • and appears to Moses,but He did it in a lonely place
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  • but He did it in a lonely placewhile Moses was simply
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  • while Moses was simplydoing his job.
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  • doing his job.Would that not be a good word
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  • Would that not be a good wordfor a single person
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  • for a single personin this church today?
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  • in this church today?You tend the flock
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  • You tend the flockthat God has given you?
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  • that God has given you?Be faithful in the place
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  • Be faithful in the placewhere He's positioned you?
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  • where He's positioned you?And watch what God did.
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  • And watch what God did.It said then the angel
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  • It said then the angelof the Lord appeared to him
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  • of the Lord appeared to himin flames of fire
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  • in flames of firefrom within a bush.
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  • from within a bush.So Moses saw -- remember
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  • So Moses saw -- rememberwhen he looked the first time
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  • when he looked the first timeafter he'd killed the Egyptian,
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  • after he'd killed the Egyptian,and he looked, and he saw,
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  • and he looked, and he saw,and nobody was there?
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  • and nobody was there?And so he thought
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  • And so he thoughthe got away with it,
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  • he got away with it,but he really didn't
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  • but he really didn't'cause he tried to fulfill
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  • 'cause he tried to fulfillthe right passion
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  • the right passionin the wrong way?
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  • in the wrong way?But watch this.
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  • But watch this.This time he saw
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  • This time he sawthat though the bush was
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  • that though the bush wason fire, it did not burn up.
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  • on fire, it did not burn up.And so he thought, I'll go over
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  • And so he thought, I'll go overand see this strange sight --
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  • and see this strange sight --why the bush does not burn up.
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  • why the bush does not burn up.And when the Lord saw
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  • And when the Lord sawhe had gone over to look,
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  • he had gone over to look,God called to him
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  • God called to himfrom within the bush:
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  • from within the bush:Moses, Moses!
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  • Moses, Moses!And Moses said, here I am.
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  • And Moses said, here I am.Now here's what
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  • Now here's whatthe Lord spoke to me.
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  • the Lord spoke to me.He said when I am the center
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  • He said when I am the centerof your passion,
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  • of your passion,your life will burn,
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  • your life will burn,but it won't burn up.
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  • but it won't burn up.When I am the center
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  • When I am the centerof a relationship, it'll burn,
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  • of a relationship, it'll burn,but it won't burn up.
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  • but it won't burn up.See, lust can set you on fire,
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  • See, lust can set you on fire,but only God can set you on fire
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  • but only God can set you on fireand keep you on fire.
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  • and keep you on fire.[applause]
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  • [applause]Anybody can light
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  • Anybody can lighta bush on fire, but only God
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  • a bush on fire, but only Godcan get in the middle of a bush,
  • 00:21:57.335 --> 00:21:59.270
  • can get in the middle of a bush,and light it on fire,
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  • and light it on fire,but although it's on fire --
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  • but although it's on fire --and what we want in this church,
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  • and what we want in this church,and what God wants
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  • and what God wantsfor your life is a passion
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  • for your life is a passionthat stays on fire.
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  • that stays on fire.Not this little cheap,
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  • Not this little cheap,imitation infatuation,
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  • imitation infatuation,false flame garbage
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  • false flame garbagethat burns you out,
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  • that burns you out,and creates new patterns
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  • and creates new patternsof processing information
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  • of processing informationin your brain that
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  • in your brain thatwill cause you trouble
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  • will cause you troublefor the rest of your life.
  • 00:22:22.159 --> 00:22:25.029
  • for the rest of your life.The enemy wants to burn you out,
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  • The enemy wants to burn you out,but God wants to set passion
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  • but God wants to set passionon fire in your life,
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  • on fire in your life,and put it in a place
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  • and put it in a placewhere it will burn,
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  • where it will burn,but not burn out.
  • 00:22:34.305 --> 00:22:35.439
  • but not burn out.How many of you want
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  • How many of you wanta holy passion
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  • a holy passionthat doesn't burn out?
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  • that doesn't burn out?[applause]
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  • [applause]Relationships that
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  • Relationships thatdon't burn out?
  • 00:22:43.647 --> 00:22:45.549
  • don't burn out?Fires and pursuits
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  • Fires and pursuitsthat don't burn out?
  • 00:22:47.151 --> 00:22:48.386
  • that don't burn out?That burn up --
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  • That burn up --that are alive and lighting,
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  • that are alive and lighting,but grow brighter and brighter
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  • but grow brighter and brighteras the seasons go by?
  • 00:22:53.424 --> 00:22:54.759
  • as the seasons go by?God's desire for you isn't
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  • God's desire for you isn'tjust that you would have
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  • just that you would havethe passing pleasure of sin
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  • the passing pleasure of sinfor a season, but that you would
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  • for a season, but that you wouldknow the pleasure of passion
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  • know the pleasure of passionthat comes from His purpose.
  • 00:23:02.666 --> 00:23:04.335
  • that comes from His purpose.That it would burn from within,
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  • That it would burn from within,and not burn out.
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  • and not burn out.[applause]
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  • [applause]Some of you been feeding
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  • Some of you been feedingthe wrong fires, see?
  • 00:23:17.281 --> 00:23:18.716
  • the wrong fires, see?And yet it's not enough
  • 00:23:18.716 --> 00:23:22.420
  • And yet it's not enoughjust to starve the wrong fires,
  • 00:23:22.420 --> 00:23:23.888
  • just to starve the wrong fires,but God told me --
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  • but God told me --I said God, well, if shame
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  • I said God, well, if shameisn't the solution to this,
  • 00:23:26.457 --> 00:23:28.626
  • isn't the solution to this,then what is?
  • 00:23:28.626 --> 00:23:29.393
  • then what is?And He said I want you
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  • And He said I want youto tell everybody
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  • to tell everybodywho's struggling
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  • who's strugglingwith their desires
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  • with their desiresthat are burning a hole inside
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  • that are burning a hole insideof them today --
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  • of them today --I want you to tell 'em
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  • I want you to tell 'emthat they need
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  • that they needto fight fire with fire.
  • 00:23:40.938 --> 00:23:45.209
  • to fight fire with fire.Fight fire with fire.
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  • Fight fire with fire.Not with shame.
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  • Not with shame.Shame isn't gonna help this.
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  • Shame isn't gonna help this.You've tried that.
  • 00:23:48.779 --> 00:23:49.447
  • You've tried that.Shame doesn't
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  • Shame doesn'tmake you any better.
  • 00:23:50.181 --> 00:23:50.915
  • make you any better.It just drives you deeper
  • 00:23:50.915 --> 00:23:53.417
  • It just drives you deeperinto your own dysfunction
  • 00:23:53.417 --> 00:23:54.218
  • into your own dysfunctionand isolates you
  • 00:23:54.218 --> 00:23:57.888
  • and isolates youfrom people who could help you.
  • 00:23:57.888 --> 00:23:59.657
  • from people who could help you.But the scripture says --
  • 00:23:59.657 --> 00:24:00.291
  • But the scripture says --watch this.
  • 00:24:00.291 --> 00:24:06.030
  • watch this.Our God is a consuming fire.
  • 00:24:06.030 --> 00:24:06.664
  • Our God is a consuming fire.So what do you do
  • 00:24:06.664 --> 00:24:07.331
  • So what do you doif you're consumed
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  • if you're consumedwith the wrong passions?
  • 00:24:08.899 --> 00:24:10.601
  • with the wrong passions?Here's an idea.
  • 00:24:10.601 --> 00:24:12.102
  • Here's an idea.Get more consumed
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  • Get more consumedwith the right ones.
  • 00:24:13.471 --> 00:24:14.839
  • with the right ones.
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  • - I hear a phrase sometimes,
  • 00:24:15.973 --> 00:24:17.675
  • - I hear a phrase sometimes,the phrase is "meant to be."
  • 00:24:17.675 --> 00:24:18.976
  • the phrase is "meant to be."You know, I just know
  • 00:24:18.976 --> 00:24:20.644
  • You know, I just knowme and Holly were meant to be.
  • 00:24:20.644 --> 00:24:21.278
  • me and Holly were meant to be.- Or it wasn't
  • 00:24:21.278 --> 00:24:22.213
  • - Or it wasn'tjust meant to be.
  • 00:24:22.213 --> 00:24:22.780
  • just meant to be.- Yea.
  • 00:24:22.780 --> 00:24:24.448
  • - Yea."Was it meant to be,"
  • 00:24:24.448 --> 00:24:25.950
  • "Was it meant to be,""God is this meant to be?
  • 00:24:25.950 --> 00:24:26.517
  • "God is this meant to be?Let him call me
  • 00:24:26.517 --> 00:24:27.952
  • Let him call meif it's meant to be."
  • 00:24:27.952 --> 00:24:29.653
  • if it's meant to be."Are you meant to be single?
  • 00:24:29.653 --> 00:24:31.822
  • Are you meant to be single?Is there really only one person
  • 00:24:31.822 --> 00:24:33.991
  • Is there really only one personout there who is meant for you,
  • 00:24:33.991 --> 00:24:35.292
  • out there who is meant for you,the right one?
  • 00:24:35.292 --> 00:24:36.260
  • the right one?Well, a lot of people
  • 00:24:36.260 --> 00:24:37.595
  • Well, a lot of peoplehave a lot of opinions
  • 00:24:37.595 --> 00:24:38.762
  • have a lot of opinionson this topic,
  • 00:24:38.762 --> 00:24:40.164
  • on this topic,but the Bible
  • 00:24:40.164 --> 00:24:41.198
  • but the Biblehas scriptural truths
  • 00:24:41.198 --> 00:24:42.500
  • has scriptural truthson the matter as well.
  • 00:24:42.500 --> 00:24:43.334
  • on the matter as well.- Which is why we have
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  • - Which is why we havea special series
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  • a special seriesfor you today called,
  • 00:24:45.569 --> 00:24:46.604
  • for you today called,"Meant to Be",
  • 00:24:46.604 --> 00:24:47.304
  • "Meant to Be",that will show you
  • 00:24:47.304 --> 00:24:48.072
  • that will show youwhat the Bible says
  • 00:24:48.072 --> 00:24:49.106
  • what the Bible saysabout experiencing
  • 00:24:49.106 --> 00:24:51.141
  • about experiencinghealthy relationships.
  • 00:24:51.141 --> 00:24:52.309
  • healthy relationships.That's right, you don't have
  • 00:24:52.309 --> 00:24:54.745
  • That's right, you don't haveto turn to articles in magazines
  • 00:24:54.745 --> 00:24:55.713
  • to turn to articles in magazinesto find tips
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  • to find tipsand secrets to success
  • 00:24:57.381 --> 00:24:59.350
  • and secrets to successin your sex life, your marriage,
  • 00:24:59.350 --> 00:25:00.618
  • in your sex life, your marriage,or your singleness.
  • 00:25:00.618 --> 00:25:01.919
  • or your singleness.God has a lot to say
  • 00:25:01.919 --> 00:25:02.953
  • God has a lot to sayon the topic.
  • 00:25:02.953 --> 00:25:03.721
  • is a five part series
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  • is a five part seriesthat includes sermons like
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  • that includes sermons like"How to Save Your Husband",
  • 00:25:08.459 --> 00:25:10.895
  • "How to Save Your Husband",or "Marry or Burn,"
  • 00:25:10.895 --> 00:25:11.929
  • or "Marry or Burn,"and you'll discover
  • 00:25:11.929 --> 00:25:14.865
  • and you'll discoverhow to navigate the conflict
  • 00:25:14.865 --> 00:25:16.600
  • how to navigate the conflictand the conflicts of interest.
  • 00:25:16.600 --> 00:25:17.067
  • and the conflicts of interest.These are part
  • 00:25:17.067 --> 00:25:18.135
  • These are partof all relationships,
  • 00:25:18.135 --> 00:25:20.538
  • of all relationships,and marriage or a relationship
  • 00:25:20.538 --> 00:25:22.406
  • and marriage or a relationshipis a special assignment
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  • is a special assignmentand you need
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  • and you needspecial assistance.
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  • special assistance.So, if you or someone
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  • So, if you or someonethat you know
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  • that you knowneeds this message series,
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  • needs this message series,"Meant to Be",
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  • "Meant to Be",I want you to call
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  • I want you to callor go online right now.
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  • or go online right now."I'll do it later."
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  • "I'll do it later."No, you won't.
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  • No, you won't.Right now, request your copy
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  • Right now, request your copyof "Meant to Be" with your gift
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  • of "Meant to Be" with your giftto the ministry of any amount
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  • to the ministry of any amountwe're going to get this message
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  • we're going to get this messageseries to you;
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  • series to you;and your support
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  • and your supportwill help us continue
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  • will help us continueto reach people with the Gospel.
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  • to reach people with the Gospel.- Right.
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  • - Right.- And I believe this series
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  • - And I believe this serieswill have a profound impact
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  • will have a profound impacton your life.
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  • on your life.I can't wait to hear
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  • I can't wait to hearhow God uses
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  • how God usesthe "Meant to Be" series.
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  • the "Meant to Be" series.So don't wait, respond now,
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  • - ANNOUNCER: When it comes
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  • to seeking advice
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  • about relationships, marriage,
  • 00:26:01.211 --> 00:26:02.646
  • and sex, we tend to look
  • 00:26:02.646 --> 00:26:04.648
  • in all the wrong places.
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  • The world claims
  • 00:26:05.182 --> 00:26:06.283
  • to have the answers,
  • 00:26:06.283 --> 00:26:07.318
  • but maybe we've been focusing
  • 00:26:07.318 --> 00:26:09.787
  • on the wrong problem all along.
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  • In our series, "Meant to Be",
  • 00:26:11.488 --> 00:26:12.556
  • Pastor Steven Furtick
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  • has open conversations
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  • to help us uncover
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  • the Bible's best kept secrets
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  • about sex, marriage,
  • 00:26:18.062 --> 00:26:19.430
  • and being single.
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  • - Most of the emphasis,
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  • when you talk about dating,
  • 00:26:22.166 --> 00:26:23.534
  • and marriage, and singleness,
  • 00:26:23.534 --> 00:26:24.602
  • in culture seems to be
  • 00:26:24.602 --> 00:26:26.737
  • on finding the right one.
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  • Most of the emphasis,
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  • when you come to the scripture,
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  • tends to be on being
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  • the right one.
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  • - For your gift of any amount
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  • the five-part
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  • Meant To Be series,
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  • which includes a message
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  • with Pastor Steven
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  • and his wife Holly,
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  • where they share
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  • personal examples
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  • and scriptural insight on how
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  • we can invite God to work
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  • in our everyday
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  • relationship challenges.
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  • Pastor Steven also explains
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  • the unnecessary complications
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  • that sidetrack us
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  • in relationships,
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  • and he shows us
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  • what is truly meant to be
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  • in our lives
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  • when we have Jesus
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  • as our foundation.
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  • - I've been told all my life
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  • to put Jesus first,
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  • but that doesn't work,
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  • because that separates him out
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  • from everything else.
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  • Live as if Jesus
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  • was not first on your list,
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  • but that He was
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  • the center of your world.
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  • - Visit us online
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  • ♪ ♪
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