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The Prison of Offense Part 1

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May 27, 2020
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Pastor Steven Furtick shares important tools needed to build healthier relationships.

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The Prison of Offense Part 1

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  • - I want to pick up
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  • - I want to pick upin Matthew 5:21-26.
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  • in Matthew 5:21-26.And I know you're excited
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  • And I know you're excitedto study God's word today
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  • to study God's word todayand I'm excited to preach.
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  • and I'm excited to preach.I want to talk to you about
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  • I want to talk to you about"The Prison of Offense."
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  • "The Prison of Offense."And I believe God is going
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  • And I believe God is goingto set some people free today
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  • to set some people free todayfrom the prison of offense.
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  • from the prison of offense.And I ask that you pray for me
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  • And I ask that you pray for meas I speak, that I might speak
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  • as I speak, that I might speakwith accuracy in a way
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  • with accuracy in a waythat would liberate people.
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  • that would liberate people.Jesus says, "You have heard
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  • Jesus says, "You have heardthat it was said to the people
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  • that it was said to the peoplelong ago,
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  • long ago,'You shall not murder...'"
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  • 'You shall not murder...'"This begins a series
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  • This begins a seriesof six theological upgrades
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  • of six theological upgradesthat Jesus Christ
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  • that Jesus Christhas come to reveal.
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  • has come to reveal.He's taking some wisdom
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  • He's taking some wisdomthat was passed down and diluted
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  • that was passed down and dilutedfrom the law of Moses,
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  • from the law of Moses,and He is showing how
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  • and He is showing howHis perfect wisdom
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  • His perfect wisdomis the fulfillment
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  • is the fulfillmentof what began in Moses.
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  • of what began in Moses.And He begins with this idea
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  • And He begins with this ideathat long before something
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  • that long before somethinghappens in our lives,
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  • happens in our lives,it happened in our heart.
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  • it happened in our heart.I said long before something
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  • I said long before somethinghappens in your life,
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  • happens in your life,it happened in your heart.
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  • it happened in your heart.And He says that
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  • And He says thatthere's this command,
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  • there's this command,"'You shall not murder,
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  • "'You shall not murder,and anyone who murders
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  • and anyone who murderswill be subject to judgment.'
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  • will be subject to judgment.'But I tell you that anyone
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  • But I tell you that anyonewho is angry with a brother
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  • who is angry with a brotheror sister will be
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  • or sister will besubject to judgment.
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  • subject to judgment.Again, anyone who says
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  • Again, anyone who saysto a brother or sister,
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  • to a brother or sister,Raca...'"
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  • Raca...'"I don't even know
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  • I don't even knowwhat that means,
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  • what that means,but that sounds
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  • but that soundslike a cuss word.
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  • like a cuss word.It's got that hard consonant
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  • It's got that hard consonantin the middle.
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  • in the middle.If you say that
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  • If you say thatto your brother and sister,
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  • to your brother and sister,"you are answerable
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  • "you are answerableto the court" or the Sanhedrin.
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  • to the court" or the Sanhedrin."'And anyone who says
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  • "'And anyone who saysto a brother or sister,
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  • to a brother or sister,'You fool,' will be in danger
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  • 'You fool,' will be in dangerof the fire of hell."
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  • of the fire of hell."That kind of scares me
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  • That kind of scares me'cause I've said
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  • 'cause I've saidsome worse things than "raca"
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  • some worse things than "raca"and "you fool,"
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  • and "you fool,"and I don't want to go to hell.
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  • and I don't want to go to hell.But watch this.
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  • But watch this.He said, in the knowledge
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  • He said, in the knowledgeof this, that what starts
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  • of this, that what startsin the heart
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  • in the heartdoesn't stay in the heart.
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  • doesn't stay in the heart.What starts as a thought
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  • What starts as a thoughtand turns into a word
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  • and turns into a wordcan actually create
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  • can actually createa living hell in your life.
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  • a living hell in your life.Do you know you can turn
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  • Do you know you can turnyour home into a living hell
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  • your home into a living helljust by what you allow
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  • just by what you allowto access your heart?
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  • to access your heart?You really can.
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  • You really can.You can turn
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  • You can turna beautiful relationship
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  • a beautiful relationshipinto a garbage dump.
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  • into a garbage dump.In fact, when Jesus says
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  • In fact, when Jesus saysthat you'll be in danger
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  • that you'll be in dangerof the fires of hell,
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  • of the fires of hell,He's not so much speaking
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  • He's not so much speakingof something abstract
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  • of something abstractand theoretical.
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  • and theoretical.He's referring to Gehenna,
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  • He's referring to Gehenna,which the Jewish people
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  • which the Jewish peoplewould have been familiar with.
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  • would have been familiar with.It was a like a place where
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  • It was a like a place wherethey used to sacrifice humans.
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  • they used to sacrifice humans.They would sacrifice
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  • They would sacrificetheir babies
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  • their babiesto the false god Moloch.
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  • to the false god Moloch.And they abandoned
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  • And they abandonedthat practice, but they
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  • that practice, but theykept it as a garbage dump.
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  • kept it as a garbage dump.And it said that
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  • And it said thatthe fires of Gehenna never,
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  • the fires of Gehenna never,never actually went out.
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  • never actually went out.And so there was always
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  • And so there was alwaysa smoldering fire in Gehenna.
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  • a smoldering fire in Gehenna.And He's bringing up this place
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  • And He's bringing up this placeand He's saying that anger
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  • and He's saying that angerwithin your heart
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  • within your heartand unresolved conflict
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  • and unresolved conflictin your relationships,
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  • in your relationships,it can make your heart
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  • it can make your hearta living hell.
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  • a living hell.I hope you guys enjoyed
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  • I hope you guys enjoyedthe sermon last week.
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  • the sermon last week.This one's going to be
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  • This one's going to bea little different this week.
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  • a little different this week.So I hope you were --
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  • So I hope you were --But there's a reality
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  • But there's a realityto be examined here
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  • to be examined hereabout the progression
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  • about the progressionof offenses in our lives.
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  • of offenses in our lives.Have you noticed
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  • Have you noticedthat we live in an age
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  • that we live in an ageof perpetual offense?
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  • of perpetual offense?I mean, everybody is offended
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  • I mean, everybody is offendedabout everything all the time.
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  • about everything all the time.No, I'm serious.
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  • No, I'm serious.I have to pray for 20 minutes
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  • I have to pray for 20 minutesbefore I post anything
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  • before I post anythingon Instagram or Facebook,
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  • on Instagram or Facebook,just to think about
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  • just to think about"how can I possibly phrase this
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  • "how can I possibly phrase thiswhere I won't offend somebody."
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  • where I won't offend somebody."I remember, a couple
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  • I remember, a coupleof years ago, that I put --
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  • of years ago, that I put --And this is years ago,
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  • And this is years ago,and I still remember it.
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  • and I still remember it.I put something on Twitter
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  • I put something on Twitterthat I thought was
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  • that I thought wasvery clever because
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  • very clever becauseI was studying a sermon
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  • I was studying a sermonon sanctification
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  • on sanctificationand I was trying to find
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  • and I was trying to finda way to preach about
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  • a way to preach aboutsanctification that wouldn't
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  • sanctification that wouldn'tput the people to sleep.
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  • put the people to sleep.'Cause if I just stand up
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  • 'Cause if I just stand upand say, "I'm going to talk
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  • and say, "I'm going to talkto you today about
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  • to you today aboutsanctification," I would lose
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  • sanctification," I would losea lot of my audience
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  • a lot of my audiencethat isn't as spiritual as Brad.
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  • that isn't as spiritual as Brad.So I was trying to just
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  • So I was trying to justput it in real terms.
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  • put it in real terms.And God gave me this phrase.
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  • And God gave me this phrase.He said, "You should live
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  • He said, "You should livein your sermon."
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  • in your sermon."People don't need sermons
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  • People don't need sermonsthat smell like a library.
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  • that smell like a library.They need sermons
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  • They need sermonsthat smell like real life.
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  • that smell like real life.And I was so impressed
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  • And I was so impressedwith that thought,
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  • with that thought,I put it on Twitter.
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  • I put it on Twitter.I said, "Sermons should smell
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  • I said, "Sermons should smellless like a library
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  • less like a libraryand more like real life."
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  • and more like real life."And this lady tweeted me back;
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  • And this lady tweeted me back;she was a librarian.
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  • she was a librarian.She wanted me to know
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  • She wanted me to knowshe was highly offended.
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  • she was highly offended.She said, "Great;
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  • She said, "Great;just what I needed.
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  • just what I needed.My pastor taking shots
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  • My pastor taking shotsat my chosen career
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  • at my chosen careerand profession.
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  • and profession.How would you feel
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  • How would you feelif you were a librarian?"
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  • if you were a librarian?"Well lady, I didn't mean it
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  • Well lady, I didn't mean itlike all that.
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  • like all that.Just offendable.
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  • Just offendable.Christians are the most
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  • Christians are the mostoffendable people
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  • offendable peopleon the planet, which is kind
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  • on the planet, which is kindof ironic considering
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  • of ironic consideringthat our whole religion revolves
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  • that our whole religion revolvesaround a relationship
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  • around a relationshipwith somebody that dropped
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  • with somebody that droppedevery offense that we have
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  • every offense that we havecommitted against Him.
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  • committed against Him.That's kind of weird to me.
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  • That's kind of weird to me.I'm serious, man.
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  • I'm serious, man.You have to be really careful.
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  • You have to be really careful.People just get offended.
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  • People just get offended.I know, I'm easily offended.
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  • I know, I'm easily offended.God's working with me on this.
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  • God's working with me on this.He spoke to me a while back.
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  • He spoke to me a while back.He said, "The reason
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  • He said, "The reasonit's so hard for you
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  • it's so hard for youto stay happy is because
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  • to stay happy is becauseit's so easy for you
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  • it's so easy for youto get offended."
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  • to get offended."If you want to make it easier
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  • If you want to make it easierto stay happy, make it harder
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  • to stay happy, make it harderfor you to get offended.
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  • for you to get offended.So I'm working on this
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  • So I'm working on thisbecoming unoffendable project,
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  • becoming unoffendable project,and I want to invite you
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  • and I want to invite youin on it because
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  • in on it becauseJesus says that this offense,
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  • Jesus says that this offense,however it started,
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  • however it started,with your brother and sister,
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  • with your brother and sister,if you entertain it,
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  • if you entertain it,it creates a living hell.
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  • it creates a living hell.It spirals out of control.
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  • It spirals out of control.Things can spin out of control
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  • Things can spin out of controlso quick you don't even know
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  • so quick you don't even knowit's happening.
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  • it's happening.And the enemy's agenda
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  • And the enemy's agendain your life is destruction.
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  • in your life is destruction.The thief comes to kill,
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  • The thief comes to kill,steal, and destroy.
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  • steal, and destroy.That's John 10:10, note takers.
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  • That's John 10:10, note takers.And his agenda is destruction.
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  • And his agenda is destruction."Every good and perfect gift
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  • "Every good and perfect giftcomes from above..."
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  • comes from above..."God's a giver; enemy's a taker.
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  • God's a giver; enemy's a taker.He wants to destroy
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  • He wants to destroyevery good thing
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  • every good thingthat God puts in your life.
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  • that God puts in your life.Okay, that's his agenda.
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  • Okay, that's his agenda.His strategy is division.
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  • His strategy is division.Jesus shared with us
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  • Jesus shared with usin Matthew 12:25 that
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  • in Matthew 12:25 that"a house divided against itself
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  • "a house divided against itselfcan't stand."
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  • can't stand."Abraham Lincoln
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  • Abraham Lincolndidn't say that.
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  • didn't say that.Jesus said it.
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  • Jesus said it.Jesus said that if the enemy
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  • Jesus said that if the enemywants to destroy your house,
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  • wants to destroy your house,the first thing he must do
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  • the first thing he must doto destroy your house
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  • to destroy your houseis to divide your house.
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  • is to divide your house.Are there any newly married
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  • Are there any newly marriedcouples in church today?
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  • couples in church today?Newly married?
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  • Newly married?Why are you clapping for them?
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  • Why are you clapping for them?They haven't proven
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  • They haven't provenanything yet.
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  • anything yet.Is that pity applause?
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  • Is that pity applause?Newly married couples,
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  • Newly married couples,just one more time, let's see.
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  • just one more time, let's see.Raise your -- I'm saying like,
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  • Raise your -- I'm saying like,maybe like you're --
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  • maybe like you're --Newly married?
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  • Newly married?How new?
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  • How new?A year?
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  • A year?That counts.
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  • That counts.Would you come on the stage?
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  • Would you come on the stage?Do you mind?
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  • Do you mind?I don't want to embarrass you
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  • I don't want to embarrass youin any way.
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  • in any way.Is your wife here?
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  • Is your wife here?She's not here?
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  • She's not here?You've got to sit down.
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  • You've got to sit down.You would have been great, too.
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  • You would have been great, too.Anybody here with your wife
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  • Anybody here with your wifethat's newly married
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  • that's newly marriedand you guys actually made it
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  • and you guys actually made itto church together today?
  • 00:08:00.309 --> 00:08:01.143
  • to church together today?I'm just kidding.
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  • I'm just kidding.I'm sure she's serving in eKids.
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  • I'm sure she's serving in eKids.Would you -- Two years?
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  • Would you -- Two years?Two years; yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  • Two years; yeah, yeah, yeah.Come on, if you don't mind.
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  • Come on, if you don't mind.Come on.
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  • Come on.Let's give 'em a hand.
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  • Let's give 'em a hand.Come on, guys.
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  • Come on, guys.Give 'em a hand.
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  • Give 'em a hand.This is brave.
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  • This is brave.They have no idea
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  • They have no ideawhat they're getting into.
  • 00:08:13.990 --> 00:08:14.657
  • what they're getting into.I'm not just going
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  • I'm not just goingto preach about
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  • to preach aboutmarriage coach day
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  • marriage coach daybut I figure if I use
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  • but I figure if I usea marriage illustration,
  • 00:08:17.760 --> 00:08:18.261
  • a marriage illustration,it'll apply to
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  • it'll apply toevery relationship.
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  • every relationship.Keep clapping while
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  • Keep clapping whilethey come up.
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  • they come up.Come on, guys.
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  • Come on, guys.Keep clapping.
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  • Keep clapping.Hi.
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  • Hi.Your name?
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  • Your name?- Stephanie.
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  • - Stephanie.- Stephanie, and --
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  • - Stephanie, and --- Dan.
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  • - Dan.- Dan.
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  • - Dan.Good to have you guys.
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  • Good to have you guys.Yeah, yeah.
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  • Yeah, yeah.Come on, all the way up.
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  • Come on, all the way up.That would be great.
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  • That would be great.Let me show you what
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  • Let me show you whatthe devil wants to do in
  • 00:08:31.707 --> 00:08:32.108
  • the devil wants to do inyour relationship,
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  • your relationship,because God said
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  • because God saidthat the two shall become one.
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  • that the two shall become one.This is exactly
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  • This is exactlywhat the enemy wants.
  • 00:08:37.680 --> 00:08:38.447
  • what the enemy wants.So every battle you're going
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  • So every battle you're goingto fight, every argument
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  • to fight, every argumentabout the dishes, really it's --
  • 00:08:41.951 --> 00:08:44.654
  • about the dishes, really it's --The enemy's agenda
  • 00:08:44.654 --> 00:08:46.422
  • The enemy's agendais destruction
  • 00:08:46.422 --> 00:08:51.494
  • is destructionand so his strategy is division.
  • 00:08:51.494 --> 00:08:52.361
  • and so his strategy is division.And the enemy -- I don't know
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  • And the enemy -- I don't knowif you believe in the devil
  • 00:08:53.329 --> 00:08:54.330
  • if you believe in the devilor not, but the enemy,
  • 00:08:54.330 --> 00:08:54.931
  • or not, but the enemy,Stephanie, is not going
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  • Stephanie, is not goingto be happy until
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  • to be happy untilhe sees you like this.
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  • he sees you like this.And what I just showed you,
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  • And what I just showed you,the Bible says that marriage
  • 00:08:59.902 --> 00:09:01.170
  • the Bible says that marriageis even a picture of Christ
  • 00:09:01.170 --> 00:09:01.771
  • is even a picture of Christand the church,
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  • and the church,so what he wants to do to them
  • 00:09:02.972 --> 00:09:03.573
  • so what he wants to do to themhe wants to do
  • 00:09:03.573 --> 00:09:06.208
  • he wants to doto this whole church.
  • 00:09:06.208 --> 00:09:07.176
  • to this whole church.And what he wants to do to them
  • 00:09:07.176 --> 00:09:08.077
  • And what he wants to do to themhe wants to do to you
  • 00:09:08.077 --> 00:09:12.982
  • he wants to do to youand your teenager --
  • 00:09:12.982 --> 00:09:14.951
  • and your teenager --And so his agenda
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  • And so his agendais destruction.
  • 00:09:16.018 --> 00:09:16.719
  • is destruction.He comes to kill, steal,
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  • He comes to kill, steal,and destroy.
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  • and destroy.His strategy is division.
  • 00:09:20.323 --> 00:09:21.090
  • His strategy is division.And here's his tactic,
  • 00:09:21.090 --> 00:09:21.724
  • And here's his tactic,and this is the part
  • 00:09:21.724 --> 00:09:22.925
  • and this is the partI want to preach about.
  • 00:09:22.925 --> 00:09:23.826
  • I want to preach about.And I appreciate you helping me,
  • 00:09:23.826 --> 00:09:24.527
  • And I appreciate you helping me,'cause you guys are going
  • 00:09:24.527 --> 00:09:25.127
  • 'cause you guys are goingto help me preach
  • 00:09:25.127 --> 00:09:28.064
  • to help me preachthis sermon today.
  • 00:09:28.064 --> 00:09:31.567
  • this sermon today.His tactic is offense.
  • 00:09:31.567 --> 00:09:34.203
  • His tactic is offense.Satan has an offensive strategy,
  • 00:09:34.203 --> 00:09:35.071
  • Satan has an offensive strategy,because if he walked up
  • 00:09:35.071 --> 00:09:36.205
  • because if he walked upto you -- I don't know how
  • 00:09:36.205 --> 00:09:36.872
  • to you -- I don't know howI forgot your name already.
  • 00:09:36.872 --> 00:09:37.640
  • I forgot your name already.Tell me one more time.
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  • Tell me one more time.- Dan.
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  • - Dan.- Dan.
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  • - Dan.Dan the man.
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  • Dan the man.Come on, it's Dan the man,
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  • Come on, it's Dan the man,everybody.
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  • everybody.Dan.
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  • Dan.If the devil were not subtle,
  • 00:09:48.117 --> 00:09:49.118
  • If the devil were not subtle,Dan wouldn't stand
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  • Dan wouldn't standfor his schemes.
  • 00:09:50.920 --> 00:09:51.520
  • for his schemes.But the enemy
  • 00:09:51.520 --> 00:09:54.457
  • But the enemyis very strategic.
  • 00:09:54.457 --> 00:09:55.691
  • is very strategic.And Jesus is giving us,
  • 00:09:55.691 --> 00:09:57.059
  • And Jesus is giving us,really, in Matthew 5 kind
  • 00:09:57.059 --> 00:09:59.195
  • really, in Matthew 5 kindof a playbook of how the enemy
  • 00:09:59.195 --> 00:10:00.129
  • of a playbook of how the enemywants to work
  • 00:10:00.129 --> 00:10:00.863
  • wants to workin your relationship.
  • 00:10:00.863 --> 00:10:01.664
  • in your relationship.And I know Dan's not going
  • 00:10:01.664 --> 00:10:03.232
  • And I know Dan's not goingto let him,
  • 00:10:03.232 --> 00:10:03.866
  • to let him,but he's going to try.
  • 00:10:03.866 --> 00:10:04.934
  • but he's going to try.Now, he won't make
  • 00:10:04.934 --> 00:10:06.802
  • Now, he won't makean announcement, "Hey,
  • 00:10:06.802 --> 00:10:08.104
  • an announcement, "Hey,I'm coming to kill
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  • I'm coming to killand steal and destroy,"
  • 00:10:10.239 --> 00:10:11.040
  • and steal and destroy,"you know, because right now
  • 00:10:11.040 --> 00:10:12.174
  • you know, because right nowyou just spent all that money
  • 00:10:12.174 --> 00:10:14.710
  • you just spent all that moneyon the flowers and the dresses
  • 00:10:14.710 --> 00:10:15.878
  • on the flowers and the dressesand all the groomsmen
  • 00:10:15.878 --> 00:10:16.746
  • and all the groomsmenand all that stuff.
  • 00:10:16.746 --> 00:10:17.913
  • and all that stuff.And I know it's been
  • 00:10:17.913 --> 00:10:18.514
  • And I know it's beena couple of years
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  • a couple of yearsand that's good because
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  • and that's good becausewhat you see in those
  • 00:10:21.083 --> 00:10:21.984
  • what you see in thosefirst couple of years
  • 00:10:21.984 --> 00:10:23.552
  • first couple of yearsis you see that the enemy
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  • is you see that the enemywill usually start
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  • will usually startin a small way,
  • 00:10:27.690 --> 00:10:28.624
  • in a small way,because if he announced,
  • 00:10:28.624 --> 00:10:29.358
  • because if he announced,"I've come to divide..."
  • 00:10:29.358 --> 00:10:30.626
  • "I've come to divide..."Dan the man wouldn't stand
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  • Dan the man wouldn't standfor that, if the devil
  • 00:10:31.961 --> 00:10:33.796
  • for that, if the devilcame in to divide.
  • 00:10:33.796 --> 00:10:34.463
  • came in to divide.Come on, stick your
  • 00:10:34.463 --> 00:10:35.631
  • Come on, stick yourchest out, Dan.
  • 00:10:35.631 --> 00:10:37.633
  • chest out, Dan.Dan isn't having it.
  • 00:10:37.633 --> 00:10:40.369
  • Dan isn't having it.Dan isn't having it.
  • 00:10:40.369 --> 00:10:41.504
  • Dan isn't having it.But if the enemy can just --
  • 00:10:41.504 --> 00:10:42.772
  • But if the enemy can just --What he'll do, he'll just
  • 00:10:42.772 --> 00:10:47.243
  • What he'll do, he'll justuse the littlest offense.
  • 00:10:47.243 --> 00:10:48.277
  • use the littlest offense.And what Jesus is doing
  • 00:10:48.277 --> 00:10:50.279
  • And what Jesus is doingin Matthew 5, He's showing us
  • 00:10:50.279 --> 00:10:53.249
  • in Matthew 5, He's showing ushow to deal with the offense
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  • how to deal with the offenseso we can keep
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  • so we can keepthe devil on defense.
  • 00:10:56.385 --> 00:10:57.620
  • the devil on defense.How many want to keep the devil
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  • How many want to keep the devilon defense in your life
  • 00:11:00.156 --> 00:11:01.290
  • on defense in your lifeand in your family?
  • 00:11:01.290 --> 00:11:04.527
  • and in your family?Come on, church.
  • 00:11:04.527 --> 00:11:05.728
  • Come on, church.So you guys,
  • 00:11:05.728 --> 00:11:06.662
  • So you guys,if you'd sit back down.
  • 00:11:06.662 --> 00:11:07.596
  • if you'd sit back down.I'll bring you back in a minute,
  • 00:11:07.596 --> 00:11:08.531
  • I'll bring you back in a minute,but I don't want you to have
  • 00:11:08.531 --> 00:11:09.565
  • but I don't want you to haveto stay up here the whole time.
  • 00:11:09.565 --> 00:11:10.433
  • to stay up here the whole time.But just stay ready, okay?
  • 00:11:10.433 --> 00:11:10.933
  • But just stay ready, okay?- Okay.
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  • - Okay.- Alright.
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  • - Alright.We're going to come back
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  • We're going to come backto here.
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  • to here.Last week when I was preaching,
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  • Last week when I was preaching,I don't know
  • 00:11:14.336 --> 00:11:15.538
  • I don't knowif you remembered --
  • 00:11:15.538 --> 00:11:16.372
  • if you remembered --How many of you were here
  • 00:11:16.372 --> 00:11:16.939
  • How many of you were herelast week?
  • 00:11:16.939 --> 00:11:21.377
  • last week?Make some noise.
  • 00:11:21.377 --> 00:11:22.311
  • Make some noise.If the person next to you
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  • If the person next to youisn't making noise,
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  • isn't making noise,touch 'em and say,
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  • touch 'em and say,"You really missed it.
  • 00:11:25.347 --> 00:11:27.149
  • "You really missed it.You really missed it."
  • 00:11:27.149 --> 00:11:29.585
  • You really missed it."I ended, remember, talking about
  • 00:11:29.585 --> 00:11:30.586
  • I ended, remember, talking aboutyou've got this plank
  • 00:11:30.586 --> 00:11:33.589
  • you've got this plankin your eye
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  • in your eyeand you're so concerned
  • 00:11:34.690 --> 00:11:35.691
  • and you're so concernedabout the little speck
  • 00:11:35.691 --> 00:11:37.159
  • about the little speckin my eye.
  • 00:11:37.159 --> 00:11:37.927
  • in my eye.Meanwhile,
  • 00:11:37.927 --> 00:11:38.828
  • Meanwhile,you're walking around,
  • 00:11:38.828 --> 00:11:40.996
  • you're walking around,your big ol' plank,
  • 00:11:40.996 --> 00:11:43.332
  • your big ol' plank,just whacking 'em on the head,
  • 00:11:43.332 --> 00:11:44.600
  • just whacking 'em on the head,just causing distraction,
  • 00:11:44.600 --> 00:11:47.002
  • just causing distraction,division, and all this stuff.
  • 00:11:47.002 --> 00:11:48.537
  • division, and all this stuff.And it's the contrast between
  • 00:11:48.537 --> 00:11:49.271
  • And it's the contrast betweenthe small things
  • 00:11:49.271 --> 00:11:50.272
  • the small thingsand the big things.
  • 00:11:50.272 --> 00:11:51.607
  • and the big things.and there are times
  • 00:11:51.607 --> 00:11:52.808
  • and there are timesthat a big offense --
  • 00:11:52.808 --> 00:11:53.709
  • that a big offense --I mean, there's not a week
  • 00:11:53.709 --> 00:11:54.844
  • I mean, there's not a weekthat goes by, Holly,
  • 00:11:54.844 --> 00:11:55.678
  • that goes by, Holly,would you agree,
  • 00:11:55.678 --> 00:11:56.679
  • would you agree,that somebody doesn't call me
  • 00:11:56.679 --> 00:11:57.580
  • that somebody doesn't call mefor counsel that's going
  • 00:11:57.580 --> 00:11:59.381
  • for counsel that's goingthrough a marriage situation,
  • 00:11:59.381 --> 00:12:00.983
  • through a marriage situation,like a divorce, a separation.
  • 00:12:00.983 --> 00:12:02.051
  • like a divorce, a separation.But this is true.
  • 00:12:02.051 --> 00:12:03.385
  • But this is true.There's not a week that goes by.
  • 00:12:03.385 --> 00:12:04.720
  • There's not a week that goes by.It'll be another pastor,
  • 00:12:04.720 --> 00:12:06.756
  • It'll be another pastor,maybe a situation in the church.
  • 00:12:06.756 --> 00:12:07.890
  • maybe a situation in the church.And I get to talking to them
  • 00:12:07.890 --> 00:12:09.191
  • And I get to talking to themabout what happened
  • 00:12:09.191 --> 00:12:09.925
  • about what happenedand if you can go back
  • 00:12:09.925 --> 00:12:11.060
  • and if you can go backfar enough, you find
  • 00:12:11.060 --> 00:12:12.828
  • far enough, you findthat every plank is made up
  • 00:12:12.828 --> 00:12:17.399
  • that every plank is made upof a lot of specks.
  • 00:12:17.399 --> 00:12:18.901
  • of a lot of specks.And to me, that's the heart
  • 00:12:18.901 --> 00:12:19.969
  • And to me, that's the heartof Jesus' teaching.
  • 00:12:19.969 --> 00:12:21.070
  • of Jesus' teaching.I really didn't read you
  • 00:12:21.070 --> 00:12:22.171
  • I really didn't read youthe whole passage because
  • 00:12:22.171 --> 00:12:23.005
  • the whole passage becauseI want to break it down
  • 00:12:23.005 --> 00:12:24.907
  • I want to break it downand show you how it happens.
  • 00:12:24.907 --> 00:12:25.841
  • and show you how it happens.He said it could be something
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  • He said it could be somethingas small as a word.
  • 00:12:29.445 --> 00:12:30.412
  • as small as a word.Now, write this down.
  • 00:12:30.412 --> 00:12:32.448
  • Now, write this down.The closer the relationship,
  • 00:12:32.448 --> 00:12:36.285
  • The closer the relationship,the greater the opportunity.
  • 00:12:36.285 --> 00:12:39.522
  • the greater the opportunity.And that goes both ways.
  • 00:12:39.522 --> 00:12:40.856
  • And that goes both ways.The closer the relationship,
  • 00:12:40.856 --> 00:12:42.024
  • The closer the relationship,the greater the opportunity
  • 00:12:42.024 --> 00:12:45.795
  • the greater the opportunityfor intimacy.
  • 00:12:45.795 --> 00:12:46.295
  • for intimacy.However, the closer
  • 00:12:46.295 --> 00:12:47.396
  • However, the closerthe relationship,
  • 00:12:47.396 --> 00:12:48.164
  • the relationship,the greater the opportunity
  • 00:12:48.164 --> 00:12:50.966
  • the greater the opportunityfor offense.
  • 00:12:50.966 --> 00:12:52.535
  • for offense.That's why nobody can make you
  • 00:12:52.535 --> 00:12:53.602
  • That's why nobody can make youreally mad like
  • 00:12:53.602 --> 00:12:57.173
  • really mad likesomebody you really love.
  • 00:12:57.173 --> 00:12:59.708
  • somebody you really love.Really.
  • 00:12:59.708 --> 00:13:00.810
  • Really.Nobody can hurt you
  • 00:13:00.810 --> 00:13:01.243
  • Nobody can hurt youlike somebody
  • 00:13:01.243 --> 00:13:04.680
  • like somebodythat you've given your heart to.
  • 00:13:04.680 --> 00:13:06.816
  • that you've given your heart to.Nobody.
  • 00:13:06.816 --> 00:13:07.583
  • Nobody.And I've asked the question
  • 00:13:07.583 --> 00:13:10.452
  • And I've asked the questiona lot of times of people,
  • 00:13:10.452 --> 00:13:11.520
  • a lot of times of people,and really, in my own mind,
  • 00:13:11.520 --> 00:13:12.721
  • and really, in my own mind,I've seen people that
  • 00:13:12.721 --> 00:13:13.722
  • I've seen people thatwere still loyal to each other
  • 00:13:13.722 --> 00:13:14.623
  • were still loyal to each otherand if you would have asked me
  • 00:13:14.623 --> 00:13:16.425
  • and if you would have asked meten years ago who is most likely
  • 00:13:16.425 --> 00:13:17.960
  • ten years ago who is most likelyto ever have kind of
  • 00:13:17.960 --> 00:13:20.663
  • to ever have kind ofan enemy relationship
  • 00:13:20.663 --> 00:13:21.597
  • an enemy relationshipor who's most likely
  • 00:13:21.597 --> 00:13:22.698
  • or who's most likelyto be a divorce
  • 00:13:22.698 --> 00:13:24.099
  • to be a divorceor who's most likely to not be
  • 00:13:24.099 --> 00:13:25.034
  • or who's most likely to not bespeaking to each other --
  • 00:13:25.034 --> 00:13:26.569
  • speaking to each other --And some of those
  • 00:13:26.569 --> 00:13:28.704
  • And some of thosevery same people,
  • 00:13:28.704 --> 00:13:29.939
  • very same people,just in the last year
  • 00:13:29.939 --> 00:13:30.739
  • just in the last yearof my life even,
  • 00:13:30.739 --> 00:13:31.907
  • of my life even,I've watched some things
  • 00:13:31.907 --> 00:13:33.342
  • I've watched some thingshappen that surprised me.
  • 00:13:33.342 --> 00:13:33.976
  • happen that surprised me.You kind of, every time
  • 00:13:33.976 --> 00:13:35.477
  • You kind of, every timeyou see it, you ask
  • 00:13:35.477 --> 00:13:37.112
  • you see it, you askthe question,
  • 00:13:37.112 --> 00:13:40.816
  • the question,"How did we get here?"
  • 00:13:40.816 --> 00:13:42.084
  • "How did we get here?"Did you see how big Dan was
  • 00:13:42.084 --> 00:13:45.221
  • Did you see how big Dan wassmiling over Stephanie?
  • 00:13:45.221 --> 00:13:45.888
  • smiling over Stephanie?Now, they're going to have
  • 00:13:45.888 --> 00:13:46.555
  • Now, they're going to havea great marriage
  • 00:13:46.555 --> 00:13:47.456
  • a great marriageand all of that.
  • 00:13:47.456 --> 00:13:48.490
  • and all of that.It's going to be awesome.
  • 00:13:48.490 --> 00:13:50.326
  • It's going to be awesome.But you ask the question,
  • 00:13:50.326 --> 00:13:51.026
  • But you ask the question,"How could somebody
  • 00:13:51.026 --> 00:13:51.794
  • "How could somebodythat had that same hope,
  • 00:13:51.794 --> 00:13:54.230
  • that had that same hope,that same smile,
  • 00:13:54.230 --> 00:13:54.897
  • that same smile,barely stand to be
  • 00:13:54.897 --> 00:13:56.999
  • barely stand to bein the room with somebody
  • 00:13:56.999 --> 00:13:58.634
  • in the room with somebodytwo kids later?"
  • 00:13:58.634 --> 00:13:59.201
  • two kids later?"And it happens.
  • 00:13:59.201 --> 00:13:59.735
  • And it happens.And there's all kinds
  • 00:13:59.735 --> 00:14:00.903
  • And there's all kindsof ways that it happens.
  • 00:14:00.903 --> 00:14:01.904
  • of ways that it happens.I know there's compatibility
  • 00:14:01.904 --> 00:14:02.438
  • I know there's compatibilityand I know that
  • 00:14:02.438 --> 00:14:04.139
  • and I know thatit's not always something
  • 00:14:04.139 --> 00:14:05.040
  • it's not always somethingthat you can fix
  • 00:14:05.040 --> 00:14:07.843
  • that you can fixbecause it takes one to forgive,
  • 00:14:07.843 --> 00:14:08.577
  • because it takes one to forgive,but it takes two
  • 00:14:08.577 --> 00:14:11.180
  • but it takes twoto be reconciled.
  • 00:14:11.180 --> 00:14:12.147
  • to be reconciled.I guess I want you to know
  • 00:14:12.147 --> 00:14:13.382
  • I guess I want you to knowthat my goal today
  • 00:14:13.382 --> 00:14:15.251
  • that my goal todayisn't to so much do
  • 00:14:15.251 --> 00:14:16.852
  • isn't to so much doan autopsy of anybody's mistakes
  • 00:14:16.852 --> 00:14:18.120
  • an autopsy of anybody's mistakesbut just to show you
  • 00:14:18.120 --> 00:14:19.088
  • but just to show yousomething that happens.
  • 00:14:19.088 --> 00:14:20.923
  • something that happens.It always happens
  • 00:14:20.923 --> 00:14:25.027
  • It always happensone offense at a time.
  • 00:14:25.027 --> 00:14:26.495
  • one offense at a time.Yes, there are betrayals
  • 00:14:26.495 --> 00:14:27.963
  • Yes, there are betrayalsand yes, there's adultery
  • 00:14:27.963 --> 00:14:29.531
  • and yes, there's adulteryand yes, there's abuse.
  • 00:14:29.531 --> 00:14:30.466
  • and yes, there's abuse.I'm not really talking
  • 00:14:30.466 --> 00:14:31.700
  • I'm not really talkingabout those big things
  • 00:14:31.700 --> 00:14:32.668
  • about those big thingsso much today
  • 00:14:32.668 --> 00:14:33.502
  • so much todayas I am what Jesus
  • 00:14:33.502 --> 00:14:34.103
  • as I am what Jesuswas talking about.
  • 00:14:34.103 --> 00:14:35.504
  • was talking about.He said, "If you get something
  • 00:14:35.504 --> 00:14:36.639
  • He said, "If you get somethingin your heart against
  • 00:14:36.639 --> 00:14:38.140
  • in your heart againstyour brother or sister
  • 00:14:38.140 --> 00:14:39.408
  • your brother or sisterand then you nurse it
  • 00:14:39.408 --> 00:14:40.976
  • and then you nurse itand rehearse it long enough,
  • 00:14:40.976 --> 00:14:42.978
  • and rehearse it long enough,it will literally create
  • 00:14:42.978 --> 00:14:44.914
  • it will literally createa smoldering garbage dump
  • 00:14:44.914 --> 00:14:47.283
  • a smoldering garbage dumpof fire in the very relationship
  • 00:14:47.283 --> 00:14:48.284
  • of fire in the very relationshipthat was once
  • 00:14:48.284 --> 00:14:50.920
  • that was oncea garden of potential and love.
  • 00:14:50.920 --> 00:14:51.987
  • a garden of potential and love.How does this happen?
  • 00:14:51.987 --> 00:14:53.756
  • How does this happen?It happens one offense
  • 00:14:53.756 --> 00:14:54.990
  • It happens one offenseat a time.
  • 00:14:54.990 --> 00:14:57.359
  • at a time.How did we get here,
  • 00:14:57.359 --> 00:14:58.494
  • How did we get here,where we're smiling like
  • 00:14:58.494 --> 00:15:00.195
  • where we're smiling likeeverything is okay
  • 00:15:00.195 --> 00:15:01.730
  • everything is okaybut deep down in my heart,
  • 00:15:01.730 --> 00:15:02.131
  • but deep down in my heart,you know --
  • 00:15:02.131 --> 00:15:03.532
  • you know --And we come to church, man,
  • 00:15:03.532 --> 00:15:04.566
  • And we come to church, man,nobody sees this stuff
  • 00:15:04.566 --> 00:15:05.567
  • nobody sees this stuffwhen we come to church.
  • 00:15:05.567 --> 00:15:06.235
  • when we come to church.Watch this.
  • 00:15:06.235 --> 00:15:08.003
  • Watch this.Jesus says in verse 23, He says,
  • 00:15:08.003 --> 00:15:09.672
  • Jesus says in verse 23, He says,"If you are offering your gift
  • 00:15:09.672 --> 00:15:12.174
  • "If you are offering your giftat the altar, and there remember
  • 00:15:12.174 --> 00:15:13.509
  • at the altar, and there rememberthat your brother or sister
  • 00:15:13.509 --> 00:15:15.177
  • that your brother or sisterhas something against you,
  • 00:15:15.177 --> 00:15:16.512
  • has something against you,leave your gift there
  • 00:15:16.512 --> 00:15:17.980
  • leave your gift therein front of the altar,"
  • 00:15:17.980 --> 00:15:20.449
  • in front of the altar,"and get it right with the person
  • 00:15:20.449 --> 00:15:21.617
  • and get it right with the personthat it's not right with
  • 00:15:21.617 --> 00:15:23.152
  • that it's not right withbefore you sing a song
  • 00:15:23.152 --> 00:15:24.320
  • before you sing a songor pray a prayer
  • 00:15:24.320 --> 00:15:26.255
  • or pray a prayerto try to cover up the fact
  • 00:15:26.255 --> 00:15:29.058
  • to try to cover up the factthat your relationships
  • 00:15:29.058 --> 00:15:31.860
  • that your relationshipsare under attack.
  • 00:15:31.860 --> 00:15:32.928
  • are under attack.We were singing today
  • 00:15:32.928 --> 00:15:34.530
  • We were singing todayin church this song,
  • 00:15:34.530 --> 00:15:36.265
  • in church this song,this beautiful worship song.
  • 00:15:36.265 --> 00:15:36.999
  • this beautiful worship song.Man, you should have seen
  • 00:15:36.999 --> 00:15:37.900
  • Man, you should have seenthe people singing it.
  • 00:15:37.900 --> 00:15:38.867
  • the people singing it.And people had
  • 00:15:38.867 --> 00:15:39.802
  • And people hadtheir hands lifted.
  • 00:15:39.802 --> 00:15:46.108
  • their hands lifted."Mercy is falling, falling..."
  • 00:15:46.108 --> 00:15:46.875
  • "Mercy is falling, falling..."And that's what was coming out
  • 00:15:46.875 --> 00:15:48.143
  • And that's what was coming outof some people's mouths.
  • 00:15:48.143 --> 00:15:49.211
  • of some people's mouths.But if you could see what's
  • 00:15:49.211 --> 00:15:51.547
  • But if you could see what'sgoing on in their heart --
  • 00:15:51.547 --> 00:15:52.614
  • going on in their heart --Jesus said it's possible for you
  • 00:15:52.614 --> 00:15:53.582
  • Jesus said it's possible for youto be doing something
  • 00:15:53.582 --> 00:15:55.985
  • to be doing somethingin the outward level
  • 00:15:55.985 --> 00:15:57.386
  • in the outward leveland at an inward level
  • 00:15:57.386 --> 00:15:59.188
  • and at an inward levelyou're full of anger
  • 00:15:59.188 --> 00:16:01.857
  • you're full of angerand resentment.
  • 00:16:01.857 --> 00:16:08.130
  • and resentment.♪ Mercy is falling, falling ♪
  • 00:16:08.130 --> 00:16:11.967
  • ♪ Mercy is falling, falling ♪♪ Except on my husband ♪
  • 00:16:11.967 --> 00:16:15.404
  • ♪ Except on my husband ♪♪ He's a jerk ♪
  • 00:16:15.404 --> 00:16:23.879
  • ♪ He's a jerk ♪[laughter]
  • 00:16:23.879 --> 00:16:25.614
  • [laughter]If you could hear
  • 00:16:25.614 --> 00:16:27.850
  • If you could hearwhat was happening
  • 00:16:27.850 --> 00:16:30.986
  • what was happeningin the hearts of people --
  • 00:16:30.986 --> 00:16:33.889
  • in the hearts of people --How do we get here?
  • 00:16:33.889 --> 00:16:36.425
  • How do we get here?Jesus says it starts small
  • 00:16:36.425 --> 00:16:38.227
  • Jesus says it starts smallbut one offense at a time,
  • 00:16:38.227 --> 00:16:39.928
  • but one offense at a time,the devil wants to tear
  • 00:16:39.928 --> 00:16:41.063
  • the devil wants to tearDan's heart
  • 00:16:41.063 --> 00:16:42.297
  • Dan's heartfrom Stephanie's heart.
  • 00:16:42.297 --> 00:16:43.599
  • from Stephanie's heart.You know, God takes
  • 00:16:43.599 --> 00:16:45.034
  • You know, God takesthe two and makes 'em one.
  • 00:16:45.034 --> 00:16:46.068
  • the two and makes 'em one.The enemy takes the one
  • 00:16:46.068 --> 00:16:47.603
  • The enemy takes the oneand makes them two.
  • 00:16:47.603 --> 00:16:48.737
  • and makes them two.How does he do it?
  • 00:16:48.737 --> 00:16:52.041
  • How does he do it?One offense at a time.
  • 00:16:52.041 --> 00:16:53.175
  • One offense at a time.And God knows
  • 00:16:53.175 --> 00:16:54.676
  • And God knowsI need this message, man,
  • 00:16:54.676 --> 00:16:55.644
  • I need this message, man,because I'm not
  • 00:16:55.644 --> 00:16:56.512
  • because I'm nota perfect husband.
  • 00:16:56.512 --> 00:16:59.348
  • a perfect husband.I give 97% of the credit
  • 00:16:59.348 --> 00:17:00.049
  • I give 97% of the creditfor the happiness
  • 00:17:00.049 --> 00:17:01.450
  • for the happinessof that exists in my marriage
  • 00:17:01.450 --> 00:17:03.419
  • of that exists in my marriageto my wife.
  • 00:17:03.419 --> 00:17:04.787
  • to my wife.Three percent is me.
  • 00:17:04.787 --> 00:17:07.956
  • Three percent is me.I'm pretty proud of that three.
  • 00:17:07.956 --> 00:17:08.657
  • I'm pretty proud of that three.But if you put me
  • 00:17:08.657 --> 00:17:09.825
  • But if you put mein the wrong situation,
  • 00:17:09.825 --> 00:17:11.860
  • in the wrong situation,I can get offended so quick.
  • 00:17:11.860 --> 00:17:13.095
  • I can get offended so quick.Just like on Twitter.
  • 00:17:13.095 --> 00:17:14.830
  • Just like on Twitter.There was one woman that
  • 00:17:14.830 --> 00:17:16.565
  • There was one woman thatwent off on me and I still
  • 00:17:16.565 --> 00:17:18.267
  • went off on me and I stillremember what she said
  • 00:17:18.267 --> 00:17:19.468
  • remember what she saidthree years later.
  • 00:17:19.468 --> 00:17:20.702
  • three years later.You know, thousands of people
  • 00:17:20.702 --> 00:17:24.773
  • You know, thousands of peoplehave said nice things to me,
  • 00:17:24.773 --> 00:17:25.474
  • have said nice things to me,but I'm quick
  • 00:17:25.474 --> 00:17:28.377
  • but I'm quickto find the offense.
  • 00:17:28.377 --> 00:17:29.144
  • to find the offense.We can train ourselves
  • 00:17:29.144 --> 00:17:30.746
  • We can train ourselvesto find the offense
  • 00:17:30.746 --> 00:17:32.414
  • to find the offenseand then just overreact, man.
  • 00:17:32.414 --> 00:17:33.148
  • and then just overreact, man.It starts off as,
  • 00:17:33.148 --> 00:17:35.084
  • It starts off as,"Raca, you fool."
  • 00:17:35.084 --> 00:17:35.584
  • "Raca, you fool."Next thing you know,
  • 00:17:35.584 --> 00:17:37.319
  • Next thing you know,I'm in a living hell.
  • 00:17:37.319 --> 00:17:38.220
  • I'm in a living hell.And watch how bad it gets.
  • 00:17:38.220 --> 00:17:40.389
  • And watch how bad it gets.Jesus said it can get so bad,
  • 00:17:40.389 --> 00:17:42.224
  • Jesus said it can get so bad,if you don't deal with it,
  • 00:17:42.224 --> 00:17:42.758
  • if you don't deal with it,if you don't learn
  • 00:17:42.758 --> 00:17:44.693
  • if you don't learnhow to deal with this, Dan,
  • 00:17:44.693 --> 00:17:45.627
  • how to deal with this, Dan,if you don't deal
  • 00:17:45.627 --> 00:17:46.495
  • if you don't dealwith the little things,
  • 00:17:46.495 --> 00:17:47.563
  • with the little things,the little foxes,
  • 00:17:47.563 --> 00:17:48.831
  • the little foxes,He says "if you don't settle
  • 00:17:48.831 --> 00:17:50.899
  • He says "if you don't settlematters quickly," verse 25,
  • 00:17:50.899 --> 00:17:52.768
  • matters quickly," verse 25,"with your adversary,
  • 00:17:52.768 --> 00:17:53.802
  • "with your adversary,who is taking you to court..."
  • 00:17:53.802 --> 00:17:54.603
  • who is taking you to court..."Now, that confused me,
  • 00:17:54.603 --> 00:17:55.604
  • Now, that confused me,'cause in verse 21
  • 00:17:55.604 --> 00:17:56.371
  • 'cause in verse 21we were talking about
  • 00:17:56.371 --> 00:17:57.139
  • we were talking aboutyour brother or sister, right?
  • 00:17:57.139 --> 00:17:57.906
  • your brother or sister, right?We're talking about somebody
  • 00:17:57.906 --> 00:17:58.474
  • We're talking about somebodyyou're close to.
  • 00:17:58.474 --> 00:17:59.608
  • you're close to.In verse 25, we're talking
  • 00:17:59.608 --> 00:18:00.375
  • In verse 25, we're talkingabout your adversary.
  • 00:18:00.375 --> 00:18:01.276
  • about your adversary.I always assumed these
  • 00:18:01.276 --> 00:18:02.177
  • I always assumed theseare two different people.
  • 00:18:02.177 --> 00:18:04.480
  • are two different people.What if it's not?
  • 00:18:04.480 --> 00:18:05.514
  • What if it's not?What if the same person
  • 00:18:05.514 --> 00:18:06.415
  • What if the same personwho you called brother
  • 00:18:06.415 --> 00:18:07.983
  • who you called brotherand sister in 21
  • 00:18:07.983 --> 00:18:09.151
  • and sister in 21is the same person
  • 00:18:09.151 --> 00:18:10.819
  • is the same personwho will be your enemy in 25
  • 00:18:10.819 --> 00:18:11.987
  • who will be your enemy in 25if you don't learn
  • 00:18:11.987 --> 00:18:14.423
  • if you don't learnhow to deal with offense?
  • 00:18:14.423 --> 00:18:19.294
  • how to deal with offense?It happens.
  • 00:18:19.294 --> 00:18:21.463
  • It happens.You ever thought about that?
  • 00:18:21.463 --> 00:18:23.165
  • You ever thought about that?That the person who --
  • 00:18:23.165 --> 00:18:24.366
  • That the person who --He says the person
  • 00:18:24.366 --> 00:18:27.102
  • He says the personwho doesn't deal
  • 00:18:27.102 --> 00:18:28.070
  • who doesn't dealwith the offense,
  • 00:18:28.070 --> 00:18:28.804
  • with the offense,and it's interesting
  • 00:18:28.804 --> 00:18:29.438
  • and it's interestinghow He says it,
  • 00:18:29.438 --> 00:18:30.572
  • how He says it,if you don't settle
  • 00:18:30.572 --> 00:18:32.241
  • if you don't settlematters quickly --
  • 00:18:32.241 --> 00:18:33.175
  • matters quickly --That's so powerful.
  • 00:18:33.175 --> 00:18:35.110
  • That's so powerful.Settle matters quickly
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  • Settle matters quicklywith your adversary
  • 00:18:35.944 --> 00:18:38.080
  • with your adversarywho's taken you to court,
  • 00:18:38.080 --> 00:18:40.015
  • who's taken you to court,do what you can while
  • 00:18:40.015 --> 00:18:41.350
  • do what you can whileyou are still together
  • 00:18:41.350 --> 00:18:43.719
  • you are still togetheron the way or your adversary
  • 00:18:43.719 --> 00:18:45.254
  • on the way or your adversarymay hand you over to the judge
  • 00:18:45.254 --> 00:18:46.488
  • may hand you over to the judgeand the judge may hand you over
  • 00:18:46.488 --> 00:18:48.590
  • and the judge may hand you overto the officer
  • 00:18:48.590 --> 00:18:49.291
  • to the officerand you may be thrown
  • 00:18:49.291 --> 00:18:49.791
  • and you may be throwninto prison.
  • 00:18:49.791 --> 00:18:50.325
  • into prison."Truly, I tell you,
  • 00:18:50.325 --> 00:18:50.993
  • "Truly, I tell you,you will not get out
  • 00:18:50.993 --> 00:18:51.760
  • you will not get outuntil you've paid
  • 00:18:51.760 --> 00:18:53.428
  • until you've paidthe last penny."
  • 00:18:53.428 --> 00:18:54.997
  • the last penny."The prison of offense.
  • 00:18:54.997 --> 00:18:58.800
  • The prison of offense.And it all started with, "Raca."
  • 00:18:58.800 --> 00:19:01.637
  • And it all started with, "Raca."It all started with, "Raca,"
  • 00:19:01.637 --> 00:19:03.539
  • It all started with, "Raca,"and a small offense.
  • 00:19:03.539 --> 00:19:04.306
  • and a small offense.It all started
  • 00:19:04.306 --> 00:19:06.208
  • It all startedin the parking lot.
  • 00:19:06.208 --> 00:19:08.310
  • in the parking lot.I was backing out
  • 00:19:08.310 --> 00:19:10.345
  • I was backing outand this guy's honking his horn
  • 00:19:10.345 --> 00:19:12.114
  • and this guy's honking his hornat me in his pickup truck,
  • 00:19:12.114 --> 00:19:13.649
  • at me in his pickup truck,just a couple months ago.
  • 00:19:13.649 --> 00:19:14.516
  • just a couple months ago.I took the boys to see
  • 00:19:14.516 --> 00:19:15.817
  • I took the boys to seethat football movie,
  • 00:19:15.817 --> 00:19:17.586
  • that football movie,the Christian football movie.
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  • the Christian football movie.Okay?
  • 00:19:18.620 --> 00:19:21.690
  • Okay?Woodlawn.
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  • Woodlawn.We went and saw Woodlawn.
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  • We went and saw Woodlawn.Made a deep impression on them.
  • 00:19:26.161 --> 00:19:29.264
  • Made a deep impression on them.We're leaving the movie
  • 00:19:29.264 --> 00:19:32.868
  • We're leaving the movieand this guy, he's hollering
  • 00:19:32.868 --> 00:19:35.037
  • and this guy, he's holleringat me because his wife
  • 00:19:35.037 --> 00:19:37.739
  • at me because his wifewants my parking spot.
  • 00:19:37.739 --> 00:19:38.840
  • wants my parking spot.The problem with his wife
  • 00:19:38.840 --> 00:19:40.175
  • The problem with his wifewanting my parking spot
  • 00:19:40.175 --> 00:19:41.210
  • wanting my parking spotis she has pulled up
  • 00:19:41.210 --> 00:19:43.245
  • is she has pulled upso close on my parking spot
  • 00:19:43.245 --> 00:19:43.845
  • so close on my parking spotI can't get out
  • 00:19:43.845 --> 00:19:45.714
  • I can't get outto give it to her.
  • 00:19:45.714 --> 00:19:46.982
  • to give it to her.And now that's somehow my fault
  • 00:19:46.982 --> 00:19:49.384
  • And now that's somehow my faultto this guy in the pickup truck.
  • 00:19:49.384 --> 00:19:51.653
  • to this guy in the pickup truck.So he says to me, or offers
  • 00:19:51.653 --> 00:19:53.689
  • So he says to me, or offersa course of action to me.
  • 00:19:53.689 --> 00:19:55.791
  • a course of action to me."Hey, get out of her way.
  • 00:19:55.791 --> 00:19:58.093
  • "Hey, get out of her way.She's waiting on your spot."
  • 00:19:58.093 --> 00:19:59.595
  • She's waiting on your spot."And I'm like --
  • 00:19:59.595 --> 00:20:00.295
  • And I'm like --And then I figure out
  • 00:20:00.295 --> 00:20:01.096
  • And then I figure outthat this is his wife
  • 00:20:01.096 --> 00:20:01.997
  • that this is his wife'cause I'm putting it
  • 00:20:01.997 --> 00:20:02.931
  • 'cause I'm putting itall together.
  • 00:20:02.931 --> 00:20:04.600
  • all together.And I rolled down my window
  • 00:20:04.600 --> 00:20:05.167
  • And I rolled down my windowand I said
  • 00:20:05.167 --> 00:20:08.937
  • and I saidsomething back to him.
  • 00:20:08.937 --> 00:20:10.205
  • something back to him.No, there wasn't any profanity
  • 00:20:10.205 --> 00:20:12.441
  • No, there wasn't any profanityor anything like that,
  • 00:20:12.441 --> 00:20:14.343
  • or anything like that,but it was a "raca" type thing
  • 00:20:14.343 --> 00:20:18.313
  • but it was a "raca" type thingthat I said; something about
  • 00:20:18.313 --> 00:20:19.781
  • that I said; something abouthis wife's driving skills
  • 00:20:19.781 --> 00:20:20.482
  • his wife's driving skillsor something.
  • 00:20:20.482 --> 00:20:21.450
  • or something.You know, something like that.
  • 00:20:21.450 --> 00:20:25.187
  • You know, something like that.Just something insinuating.
  • 00:20:25.187 --> 00:20:26.255
  • Just something insinuating.But then he wants to get out
  • 00:20:26.255 --> 00:20:28.590
  • But then he wants to get outof his truck
  • 00:20:28.590 --> 00:20:30.993
  • of his truckand he's not bigger than me.
  • 00:20:30.993 --> 00:20:32.160
  • and he's not bigger than me.So now I've got to get out
  • 00:20:32.160 --> 00:20:33.862
  • So now I've got to get outof my Maxima 'cause
  • 00:20:33.862 --> 00:20:35.764
  • of my Maxima 'causeI've got to, 'cause my boys
  • 00:20:35.764 --> 00:20:37.165
  • I've got to, 'cause my boysare watching this and I need
  • 00:20:37.165 --> 00:20:38.934
  • are watching this and I needto be a good example that
  • 00:20:38.934 --> 00:20:39.835
  • to be a good example thatif a man gets
  • 00:20:39.835 --> 00:20:41.236
  • if a man getsout of his pickup truck
  • 00:20:41.236 --> 00:20:43.005
  • out of his pickup truckand challenges you,
  • 00:20:43.005 --> 00:20:44.139
  • and challenges you,it doesn't matter
  • 00:20:44.139 --> 00:20:44.673
  • it doesn't matterwhether you have
  • 00:20:44.673 --> 00:20:46.041
  • whether you havean Elevation sticker
  • 00:20:46.041 --> 00:20:47.109
  • an Elevation stickeron your car,
  • 00:20:47.109 --> 00:20:52.781
  • on your car,you've got to handle it.
  • 00:20:52.781 --> 00:20:54.950
  • you've got to handle it.Why are you clapping for me?
  • 00:20:54.950 --> 00:20:59.554
  • Why are you clapping for me?I'm so bewildered.
  • 00:20:59.554 --> 00:21:02.324
  • I'm so bewildered.And I got out and I said,
  • 00:21:02.324 --> 00:21:04.326
  • And I got out and I said,"What are we going to do?"
  • 00:21:04.326 --> 00:21:06.128
  • "What are we going to do?"Just a question.
  • 00:21:06.128 --> 00:21:08.563
  • Just a question.Just a question.
  • 00:21:08.563 --> 00:21:10.399
  • Just a question.It was just a question.
  • 00:21:10.399 --> 00:21:10.999
  • It was just a question.And I don't know
  • 00:21:10.999 --> 00:21:12.134
  • And I don't knowwhat happened next.
  • 00:21:12.134 --> 00:21:13.468
  • what happened next.I think -- To this day,
  • 00:21:13.468 --> 00:21:14.436
  • I think -- To this day,I still don't know 'cause
  • 00:21:14.436 --> 00:21:15.904
  • I still don't know 'causehis tone changed dramatically.
  • 00:21:15.904 --> 00:21:16.371
  • his tone changed dramatically.I don't think
  • 00:21:16.371 --> 00:21:17.072
  • I don't thinkhe was intimidated by me.
  • 00:21:17.072 --> 00:21:19.975
  • he was intimidated by me.I think he realized who I was,
  • 00:21:19.975 --> 00:21:20.842
  • I think he realized who I was,'cause it was right here
  • 00:21:20.842 --> 00:21:21.910
  • 'cause it was right herein town.
  • 00:21:21.910 --> 00:21:22.778
  • in town.And so I think he --
  • 00:21:22.778 --> 00:21:23.612
  • And so I think he --'Cause I think he put
  • 00:21:23.612 --> 00:21:24.913
  • 'Cause I think he putthe sticker and the thing
  • 00:21:24.913 --> 00:21:25.714
  • the sticker and the thingall together, because
  • 00:21:25.714 --> 00:21:26.515
  • all together, becauseall of a sudden,
  • 00:21:26.515 --> 00:21:28.517
  • all of a sudden,he turned real spiritual.
  • 00:21:28.517 --> 00:21:29.251
  • he turned real spiritual.He was like,
  • 00:21:29.251 --> 00:21:29.985
  • He was like,"Well, God bless you, man.
  • 00:21:29.985 --> 00:21:30.952
  • "Well, God bless you, man.We're just all trying to get
  • 00:21:30.952 --> 00:21:33.722
  • We're just all trying to getwhere we're trying to go."
  • 00:21:33.722 --> 00:21:37.192
  • where we're trying to go."And I was like, "Yeah, we are."
  • 00:21:37.192 --> 00:21:38.126
  • And I was like, "Yeah, we are."And around this time,
  • 00:21:38.126 --> 00:21:39.494
  • And around this time,Graham comes out of the car.
  • 00:21:39.494 --> 00:21:40.162
  • Graham comes out of the car.He's eight.
  • 00:21:40.162 --> 00:21:40.829
  • He's eight.You know, he comes over
  • 00:21:40.829 --> 00:21:43.899
  • You know, he comes overand stands by me and he said,
  • 00:21:43.899 --> 00:21:45.067
  • and stands by me and he said,"You've got your boys
  • 00:21:45.067 --> 00:21:45.801
  • "You've got your boysand I've got my wife."
  • 00:21:45.801 --> 00:21:46.568
  • and I've got my wife."I said, "It's cool, man."
  • 00:21:46.568 --> 00:21:47.202
  • I said, "It's cool, man."We got over it.
  • 00:21:47.202 --> 00:21:47.969
  • We got over it.He got back in the car
  • 00:21:47.969 --> 00:21:49.104
  • He got back in the carand I said,
  • 00:21:49.104 --> 00:21:49.905
  • and I said,when Graham got in the car,
  • 00:21:49.905 --> 00:21:51.139
  • when Graham got in the car,I said, "Graham," I said,
  • 00:21:51.139 --> 00:21:55.043
  • I said, "Graham," I said,"what were you going to do?"
  • 00:21:55.043 --> 00:21:56.044
  • "what were you going to do?"And Graham said,
  • 00:21:56.044 --> 00:21:57.045
  • And Graham said,"I was going to kick him
  • 00:21:57.045 --> 00:22:04.453
  • "I was going to kick himin the shin if I had to."
  • 00:22:04.453 --> 00:22:05.854
  • in the shin if I had to."And Elijah, my older son,
  • 00:22:05.854 --> 00:22:07.856
  • And Elijah, my older son,he speaks up and says, "Daddy,
  • 00:22:07.856 --> 00:22:09.191
  • he speaks up and says, "Daddy,a better question is
  • 00:22:09.191 --> 00:22:11.526
  • a better question iswhat were you going to do?"
  • 00:22:11.526 --> 00:22:17.532
  • what were you going to do?"[laughter]
  • 00:22:17.532 --> 00:22:18.533
  • [laughter]I said, "Whatever needed
  • 00:22:18.533 --> 00:22:21.236
  • I said, "Whatever neededto be done, son.
  • 00:22:21.236 --> 00:22:21.837
  • to be done, son.I hadn't thought
  • 00:22:21.837 --> 00:22:24.039
  • I hadn't thoughtthat far about it."
  • 00:22:24.039 --> 00:22:24.873
  • that far about it."And he said, "Well,
  • 00:22:24.873 --> 00:22:26.241
  • And he said, "Well,think about it.
  • 00:22:26.241 --> 00:22:27.275
  • think about it.I mean, let's say you get
  • 00:22:27.275 --> 00:22:28.677
  • I mean, let's say you getin a fight in the parking lot
  • 00:22:28.677 --> 00:22:30.512
  • in a fight in the parking lotof the movie theater.
  • 00:22:30.512 --> 00:22:31.913
  • of the movie theater.Not only are the news people
  • 00:22:31.913 --> 00:22:33.849
  • Not only are the news peoplegoing to put you on the news,
  • 00:22:33.849 --> 00:22:35.250
  • going to put you on the news,but they might not even,
  • 00:22:35.250 --> 00:22:36.051
  • but they might not even,we might not even
  • 00:22:36.051 --> 00:22:37.619
  • we might not evenever see you again.
  • 00:22:37.619 --> 00:22:38.520
  • ever see you again.We're in the back of the car
  • 00:22:38.520 --> 00:22:40.155
  • We're in the back of the carand maybe they leave us
  • 00:22:40.155 --> 00:22:41.289
  • and maybe they leave usand then maybe you end up
  • 00:22:41.289 --> 00:22:42.491
  • and then maybe you end upin prison and maybe
  • 00:22:42.491 --> 00:22:43.425
  • in prison and maybewe don't have a dad.
  • 00:22:43.425 --> 00:22:49.731
  • we don't have a dad.Did you think about that?"
  • 00:22:49.731 --> 00:22:50.732
  • Did you think about that?"And I said, "That's right, son.
  • 00:22:50.732 --> 00:22:54.703
  • And I said, "That's right, son.I'm giving you an example
  • 00:22:54.703 --> 00:22:55.504
  • I'm giving you an exampleof how not to handle
  • 00:22:55.504 --> 00:23:00.709
  • of how not to handlea situation."
  • 00:23:00.709 --> 00:23:01.076
  • a situation."And we went
  • 00:23:01.076 --> 00:23:02.144
  • And we wentand ate some Mexican food.
  • 00:23:02.144 --> 00:23:02.944
  • and ate some Mexican food.And here's why I told you
  • 00:23:02.944 --> 00:23:06.948
  • And here's why I told youthat story.
  • 00:23:06.948 --> 00:23:08.683
  • that story.When you are in these moments --
  • 00:23:08.683 --> 00:23:09.518
  • When you are in these moments --I'm talking about,
  • 00:23:09.518 --> 00:23:09.985
  • I'm talking about,not with somebody
  • 00:23:09.985 --> 00:23:10.752
  • not with somebodyin a parking lot, I'm talking
  • 00:23:10.752 --> 00:23:12.621
  • in a parking lot, I'm talkingabout with somebody you love.
  • 00:23:12.621 --> 00:23:13.388
  • about with somebody you love.You're not thinking through
  • 00:23:13.388 --> 00:23:14.656
  • You're not thinking throughthe fact that this is
  • 00:23:14.656 --> 00:23:17.692
  • the fact that this isgoing to end up with me and you
  • 00:23:17.692 --> 00:23:18.827
  • going to end up with me and youand an attorney sitting down,
  • 00:23:18.827 --> 00:23:19.861
  • and an attorney sitting down,talking about dividing
  • 00:23:19.861 --> 00:23:21.029
  • talking about dividingour assets.
  • 00:23:21.029 --> 00:23:22.597
  • our assets.That's not how division happens,
  • 00:23:22.597 --> 00:23:24.800
  • That's not how division happens,because the enemy's agenda
  • 00:23:24.800 --> 00:23:25.867
  • because the enemy's agendais destruction,
  • 00:23:25.867 --> 00:23:27.969
  • is destruction,his strategy is division,
  • 00:23:27.969 --> 00:23:30.172
  • his strategy is division,but his tactic
  • 00:23:30.172 --> 00:23:31.773
  • but his tacticis those little offenses.
  • 00:23:31.773 --> 00:23:32.841
  • is those little offenses.
  • 00:23:32.841 --> 00:23:33.508
  • - Well, I thank God
  • 00:23:33.508 --> 00:23:34.443
  • - Well, I thank Godfor the opportunity
  • 00:23:34.443 --> 00:23:35.177
  • for the opportunityduring this time
  • 00:23:35.177 --> 00:23:36.745
  • during this timeto come alongside churches
  • 00:23:36.745 --> 00:23:38.213
  • to come alongside churchesall over the country
  • 00:23:38.213 --> 00:23:39.080
  • all over the countryand make sure the Gospel
  • 00:23:39.080 --> 00:23:40.382
  • and make sure the Gospelstill goes out,
  • 00:23:40.382 --> 00:23:41.483
  • still goes out,and as difficult
  • 00:23:41.483 --> 00:23:43.452
  • and as difficultas this season has been,
  • 00:23:43.452 --> 00:23:44.786
  • as this season has been,seeing how the church
  • 00:23:44.786 --> 00:23:45.954
  • seeing how the churchof Jesus Christ
  • 00:23:45.954 --> 00:23:46.888
  • of Jesus Christrallies together
  • 00:23:46.888 --> 00:23:48.990
  • rallies togetherto continue moving forward
  • 00:23:48.990 --> 00:23:50.158
  • to continue moving forwardthe Kingdom of God
  • 00:23:50.158 --> 00:23:50.892
  • the Kingdom of Godwith the Good News
  • 00:23:50.892 --> 00:23:53.995
  • with the Good Newsof Jesus Christ inspires me.
  • 00:23:53.995 --> 00:23:55.697
  • of Jesus Christ inspires me.And maybe, as you were watching,
  • 00:23:55.697 --> 00:23:56.865
  • And maybe, as you were watching,you've realized that you've
  • 00:23:56.865 --> 00:23:58.900
  • you've realized that you'vebeen allowing fear to block
  • 00:23:58.900 --> 00:24:01.970
  • been allowing fear to blockyour perspective of your God,
  • 00:24:01.970 --> 00:24:02.604
  • your perspective of your God,and you really want
  • 00:24:02.604 --> 00:24:03.405
  • and you really wantto experience His presence
  • 00:24:03.405 --> 00:24:05.140
  • to experience His presencein your life.
  • 00:24:05.140 --> 00:24:05.907
  • in your life.The fear you may be feeling
  • 00:24:05.907 --> 00:24:07.309
  • The fear you may be feelingis no match for
  • 00:24:07.309 --> 00:24:08.810
  • is no match forthe presence of Christ,
  • 00:24:08.810 --> 00:24:10.745
  • the presence of Christ,and we have a team standing by
  • 00:24:10.745 --> 00:24:12.914
  • and we have a team standing bythat is ready to pray with you.
  • 00:24:12.914 --> 00:24:13.515
  • that is ready to pray with you.If you'll just call
  • 00:24:13.515 --> 00:24:14.483
  • If you'll just callthe number on your screen,
  • 00:24:14.483 --> 00:24:15.183
  • the number on your screen,you remember how to use
  • 00:24:15.183 --> 00:24:16.318
  • you remember how to usea telephone, right?
  • 00:24:16.318 --> 00:24:17.619
  • a telephone, right?Okay, so just call
  • 00:24:17.619 --> 00:24:19.588
  • Okay, so just callthe number right now,
  • 00:24:19.588 --> 00:24:20.388
  • the number right now,and on the other side
  • 00:24:20.388 --> 00:24:21.756
  • and on the other sideof that phone call,
  • 00:24:21.756 --> 00:24:22.591
  • of that phone call,there is a voice
  • 00:24:22.591 --> 00:24:23.558
  • there is a voicethat can lead you into
  • 00:24:23.558 --> 00:24:24.993
  • that can lead you intoa relationship with Christ,
  • 00:24:24.993 --> 00:24:25.927
  • a relationship with Christ,they're ready to pray with you
  • 00:24:25.927 --> 00:24:27.095
  • they're ready to pray with youright now,
  • 00:24:27.095 --> 00:24:28.196
  • right now,as you take your next step
  • 00:24:28.196 --> 00:24:29.698
  • as you take your next stepforward in faith.
  • 00:24:29.698 --> 00:24:30.966
  • - ANNOUNCER: Have you ever
  • 00:24:32.968 --> 00:24:34.035
  • stopped to think about
  • 00:24:34.035 --> 00:24:35.437
  • how many people you connect
  • 00:24:35.437 --> 00:24:38.039
  • with on a daily basis?
  • 00:24:38.039 --> 00:24:41.510
  • Your spouse, your kids,
  • 00:24:41.510 --> 00:24:44.913
  • the barista, coworkers,
  • 00:24:44.913 --> 00:24:46.982
  • neighbors,
  • 00:24:46.982 --> 00:24:49.017
  • the clerk at the grocery store,
  • 00:24:49.017 --> 00:24:51.052
  • an old friend,
  • 00:24:51.052 --> 00:24:52.954
  • the list goes on and on.
  • 00:24:52.954 --> 00:24:53.755
  • Relationships are
  • 00:24:53.755 --> 00:24:55.857
  • in integral part of our lives,
  • 00:24:55.857 --> 00:24:56.358
  • but they're not
  • 00:24:56.358 --> 00:24:58.393
  • all so easy to maintain.
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  • Today's resource
  • 00:24:59.327 --> 00:25:00.328
  • "The Other Half"
  • 00:25:00.328 --> 00:25:01.663
  • will give you the important
  • 00:25:01.663 --> 00:25:02.731
  • tools you need to build
  • 00:25:02.731 --> 00:25:03.965
  • healthier relationships
  • 00:25:03.965 --> 00:25:05.500
  • with the people in your life
  • 00:25:05.500 --> 00:25:07.135
  • and with God.
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  • This brand new four part series
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  • from pastor Steven Furtick
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  • will guide you through
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  • practical ways
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  • to change your focus
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  • in relationships to help you
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  • see what matters most.
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  • You'll even learn
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  • how to release offenses
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  • that are preventing
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  • your relationships from reaching
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  • their full potential.
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  • - The enemy wants you
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  • to drive it down deep, ya know,
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  • think about it and miss
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  • all the reasons the person
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  • has worked their way
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  • into your life
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  • and miss all the things
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  • they've done for you
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  • and he wants to drive it,
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  • but God says drop it.
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  • - It also includes
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  • a bonus message
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  • from Pastor Steven's wife,
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  • Holly.
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  • - All along, I'd been wanting
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  • the people in my life
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  • to give back to me, you know?
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  • I'm doing this for you,
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  • won't you reciprocate
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  • and do something for me?
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  • But what I found in my life
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  • is that true fulfillment
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  • doesn't come from
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  • my relationship with others,
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  • it comes from my relationship
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  • - And an exclusive interview
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  • - ♪ Oh, there's nothing ♪
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  • ♪ better than You ♪
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  • ♪ There's nothing ♪
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  • ♪ better than You ♪
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  • ♪ Oh, there's nothing ♪
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  • ♪ nothing is ♪
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  • ♪ better than You ♪
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  • ♪ Oh, yes I know ♪
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  • ♪ it's true ♪
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  • - Come on, tell 'em.
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  • - ♪ I'm not afraid ♪
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  • ♪ To show You ♪
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  • ♪ my weakness ♪
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  • ♪ My failures and flaws ♪
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  • ♪ Lord, You've seen them all ♪
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  • ♪ And You still call me friend ♪
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  • ♪ 'cause the God of ♪
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  • ♪ the mountain ♪
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