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Mental & Emotional Health

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September 19, 2020
27:29

Pastor Paul Daugherty and his wife Ashley lead a new generation with a practical; life-transforming message; a message of love; hope; healing and forgiveness.

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  • - Your spirituality is soconnected to your mental health
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  • and your emotional health
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  • because what you thinkabout and what you fester
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  • and what you let cook inthe oven of your heart
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  • will literallydetermine whether or not
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  • you ever forgive thepeople that hurt you.
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  • And that bitterness, man,it's poison to your destiny.
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  • Hi, I'm Paul.
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  • Almost 10 years ago,my dad, my hero,
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  • my pastor passedaway unexpectedly.
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  • He built a big Church
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  • and left some prettylarge shoes to fill.
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  • When he died, I didn'tjust lose my dad.
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  • I lost my faith,I lost my purpose
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  • and my future.
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  • But God showed up andrestored my faith,
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  • and he gave me a messageof hope to share with you.
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  • You're here on purpose.
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  • God's not finished with you yet.
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  • Your best days areright in front of you
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  • and you havevictory in your life
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  • because Jesus lives in you.
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  • (applause)
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  • This weekend, Iam going to preach
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  • on mental and emotional health.
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  • Because as a Church, weneed to talk about things
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  • that people aren'ttalking about in Churches.
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  • And the Church has beensilent on mental health
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  • for a long time, andwe're at a place right now
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  • where we cannot besilent any longer.
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  • - C'mon, now.- It is at the forefront
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  • of the Church.
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  • Is it possible to be a fullydevoted follower of Christ
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  • and still strugglewith depression?
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  • And the answer is yes.
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  • You can know Jesus,follow Jesus,
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  • and still battle with mentalhealth and emotional health.
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  • In fact, if you were tosay no, it's not possible,
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  • you would exclude halfthe books in the Bible
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  • because half thepeople in the Bible
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  • that God used dealtwith depression,
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  • struggled with mental illness,
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  • struggled withemotional toxicity.
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  • But it is not God's will forus to live our whole life
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  • depressed, oppressed,anxious, stressed, with PTSD.
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  • God's will is for us to behealed of mental disorders,
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  • emotional disorders.(congregation applauding)
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  • It is not a normal thing foryou to stay in that state
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  • of being checked outemotionally and mentally.
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  • God did not create us to beasleep in front of everyone,
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  • to be physically there,but not mentally there.
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  • There's a lot of people inthe Church that are there,
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  • but not there, and the onlyreason I could talk about this
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  • with the boldness I'm gonnatalk about it this weekend
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  • is 'cause I'vewalked through this.
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  • As a man thinketh in his heart,
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  • as a woman thinkethin her heart,
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  • where the mind goes,the life follows.
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  • If you think defeated,you start living defeated.
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  • Your thoughts takeyou somewhere.
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  • Your feelings takeyou somewhere.
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  • We're gonna talk abouttoday who's in charge
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  • of our thoughts, who's incharge of our feelings,
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  • who's in charge of our heart.
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  • But before we getinto this message,
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  • I've gotta tell youthis, that I found myself
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  • in a very dark place years ago.
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  • A very dark, sunken,depressed state
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  • in my mind and my heart.
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  • And it was a nightthat I'll never forget.
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  • It was a night thatI was standing,
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  • looking over a tallhighway bridge,
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  • and I could hear the shouts
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  • from the enemy goingon in my heart.
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  • And I think it's importantthat we take a step back
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  • in these situations andwe don't immediately go,
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  • why did he do that?
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  • What a selfishact that they did.
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  • And we have to dig beneathand go, what was going on?
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  • What led to this,
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  • and how do we look outfor it for one another,
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  • because we do wanna bethere for each other.
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  • That's what theChurch is here for.
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  • We are not just herefor personal development
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  • and personal growth.
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  • We are here to carry eachother's burdens together,
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  • and I don't wantanyone in this Church
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  • feeling like they arealone in this battle.
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  • I think the first thing Iwanna just get out right now
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  • is you're not alone.
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  • If you're battling withdepression, anxiety,
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  • post-traumaticstress disorder,
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  • if you're battling withsome emotional toxicity,
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  • you're not alone.
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  • There are millions ofpeople in the Church
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  • that are dealing with this.
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  • But the enemy loves to whisper,
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  • you're the only one in yourChurch that's dealing with this.
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  • You're the only pastorthat feels depressed.
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  • There's no otherpastors out there.
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  • You're the only believer,
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  • you're the onlyconnect group leader
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  • that's dealing with this
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  • and you gotta keep a smile.
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  • And depressed peoplecan keep a public smile
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  • while they're spiralingon the inside.
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  • Depression can hidefor a long time.
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  • But people who are close,they start to notice it.
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  • They start to sensesomething's off,
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  • something's not going right.
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  • You can go to Church
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  • and people who don'tknow you that well,
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  • they can think,oh, they're fine.
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  • What happened?I thought they were good,
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  • and they were smiling,all their Instagram
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  • pictures looked happy.
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  • And we hide a lot on Instagram.
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  • We don't post our problems.
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  • We don't post what'sreally going on.
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  • And the enemy whispers,you're all alone.
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  • And here's what happenswhen you believe the lie
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  • that I'm alone in this, youstart isolating yourself.
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  • You start thinking,I'll go to Church,
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  • but I'm getting in and out
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  • and I'm not talking to nobody,
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  • and I'm not goingto any altar call
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  • 'cause I don't want anyone toknow what I'm going through
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  • 'cause I'm the onlyone going through this.
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  • And I'm not goingto a connect group,
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  • and even if I do goto a connect group,
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  • I'm not gonna speak up,
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  • and I'm not getting closeto my friends anymore,
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  • and I'm gonna stay home,and I'm binging on Netflix
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  • because that's theonly friend I have.
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  • Or I'm binging on pornor I'm binging on food
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  • because those are my friends.
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  • We start making addictionsour friendships.
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  • We stop having actualhuman relationships
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  • the more we startbelieving the lie,
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  • I'm all alone inthis depression.
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  • I'm all alone with this anxiety.
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  • When Elijah was battlingwith depression in the Bible,
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  • 1 Kings 19, God doesn't showup and go, I'm done with you.
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  • We're not gonna use you onthe worship team anymore.
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  • You're excommunicatedfrom the Church, Elijah.
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  • You're kicked out ofthe connect group,
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  • there's no space fordepressed maniacs over here.
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  • God didn't say that.
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  • And Elijah, with his depression,God says, "Come closer."
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  • Look at 1 Kings 19.
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  • You don't have to read itright now, but later this week,
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  • God says, "Come closer, Elijah,I still have a plan for you,
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  • "I still love you, I still havea hope and a future for you,
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  • "and I'm gonna walk yououtta this depression."
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  • And fourthly, you needto know that depression
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  • is not just a spiritual issue,
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  • and I think sometimes inthe Church we're notorious
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  • for just over-spiritualizingproblems,
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  • and saying, well, they justneed more of the Bible.
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  • They just need more of Jesus.
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  • The first thingGod tells Elijah
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  • when he's suicidal and depressedis not go read your Bible.
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  • He actually says, "Get upand get something to eat."
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  • 1 Kings 19, the firstremedy to his depression
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  • is go eat some food,
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  • and all theover-spiritualized people go,
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  • yeah, but it wasspiritual angel food.
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  • It was angel cakes.(congregation laughing)
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  • It was the bread of life.
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  • No, it was actually,like, Zio's bread,
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  • it was, like, Panera bread,it was better than that.
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  • Like it was real food.
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  • That's natural because evennon-Christians eat food.
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  • If you are related tosomeone who's battling
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  • with depression, theworst thing you can say
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  • is just get more of Jesus.
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  • Like yes, Jesus is part of it,
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  • but they also need togo out and go exercise.
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  • And they need to eat some food,
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  • and they need to have somefriendships in their life,
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  • and they need to have some fun,
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  • and they might needto go on a vacation,
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  • and they might need to go
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  • to a Christiancounselor every week,
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  • and they might need someother natural remedies
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  • besides just reading the Bible,
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  • and I think evenJesus would say that
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  • because God said it to Elijah.
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  • And when Peter was depressed,
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  • Jesus told theangels to tell Mary,
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  • you can read this in Mark 16,
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  • "Go tell Peter I still have aplan for him, go tell Peter."
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  • In other words, one of thenatural remedies for depression
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  • is just affirmation.
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  • That's why our wordsare so important
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  • for people who arebattling mental illness.
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  • Be careful what you say.
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  • I preached a messagelast week on the mouth.
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  • Our words can impact someone'smind and heart and emotions.
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  • It doesn't mean thatwe're the ones to blame
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  • if someone makes a baddecision with their life,
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  • but we gotta be carefulwhen someone is on the edge
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  • that we don't push 'emover with our words.
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  • We live in asociety where people
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  • are just saying meanthings on a daily basis
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  • on Twitter and Instagram
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  • and all the differentsocial media outlets.
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  • Guys, we gotta becareful with that.
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  • We gotta watch out for that.
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  • Sticks and stonesmay break my bones,
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  • but words will never hurt me.
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  • Baloney, it hurts.
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  • Words hurt,
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  • and we gotta watch what we say.
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  • So Proverbs 4:23 says, guardyour heart above all else,
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  • for out of it flowsthe issues of life.
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  • It determines thecourse of your life.
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  • Your emotional health,your mental health
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  • will literally impactwhere your life goes.
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  • Your spirituality is soconnected to your mental health
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  • and your emotional health
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  • because what you thinkabout and what you fester
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  • and what you let cook inthe oven of your heart
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  • will literallydetermine whether or not
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  • you ever forgive thepeople that hurt you.
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  • And that bitterness, man,it's poison to your destiny.
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  • And that internalshame of what you did
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  • and those people forgave you
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  • but you didn't forgive yourself?
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  • That guilt that you carryabout the secret sin
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  • that you committed that you say
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  • I would rather die than letthat secret be found out,
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  • I can't face it, it's too hard.
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  • You've got to guardyour mind and heart
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  • 'cause it affectswhere your life goes.
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  • The problem is we're goodat guarding everything else
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  • except our heart.
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  • We've got this verse backwards.
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  • We are guarding everythingelse above our heart.
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  • We're good atguarding our houses.
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  • We've got alarmsystems and locks,
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  • and we're good atguarding our cars,
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  • we take good care of our car.
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  • We get our car cleaned.
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  • Guys are so good atprotecting their cars.
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  • We get manicures and pedicures,
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  • and we've gotproducts for our hair.
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  • We guard our hair, wegotta get our hair to grow,
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  • we take products for our hair,
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  • we gotta get our hairto shine and shimmer,
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  • and we wanna make itlook thick and strong.
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  • We got all kinds ofstuff for the exterior.
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  • Our society is consumedwith guarding the exterior.
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  • I gotta guard how I lookin the eyes of people.
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  • I wanna appear impressive,
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  • I gotta guard myInstagram account.
  • 00:10:00.716 --> 00:10:02.451
  • I wanna make sure allthe pictures match
  • 00:10:02.451 --> 00:10:04.053
  • and they all line up, andthey got the same colors,
  • 00:10:04.053 --> 00:10:05.955
  • and I got a color schemefor my social media plan
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  • because the externalis so important.
  • 00:10:08.290 --> 00:10:10.292
  • And God's going, what?
  • 00:10:10.292 --> 00:10:13.062
  • (congregation laughing)
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  • God cares more about ourinside than our outside.
  • 00:10:17.199 --> 00:10:22.171
  • (congregation applauding)
  • 00:10:22.171 --> 00:10:25.408
  • What profit is it togain the whole world
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  • and lose your soul?
  • 00:10:30.413 --> 00:10:32.114
  • Celebrities are startingto speak up on this
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  • because accordingto one celebrity,
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  • 90% of celebrities right noware battling with depression.
  • 00:10:39.055 --> 00:10:42.425
  • One of the key songwriters,
  • 00:10:43.659 --> 00:10:46.529
  • culture shapers of our timeright now, very well known.
  • 00:10:46.529 --> 00:10:50.466
  • He spoke out on mentalillness and it was really big
  • 00:10:50.466 --> 00:10:53.536
  • because no one else wasspeaking out, and he goes,
  • 00:10:53.536 --> 00:10:55.171
  • "Hey, something is wrong.
  • 00:10:55.171 --> 00:10:57.139
  • "Like, something is messedup 'cause we pay big money
  • 00:10:57.606 --> 00:11:01.477
  • "to get a cleaner tocome and clean our house.
  • 00:11:01.477 --> 00:11:03.446
  • "We pay big money forbodyguards and a private jet.
  • 00:11:03.446 --> 00:11:06.215
  • "We pay big money to haveall kinds of passwords
  • 00:11:06.215 --> 00:11:09.351
  • "and security on everything,gates and gated neighborhoods,
  • 00:11:09.351 --> 00:11:12.822
  • "and yet we stink atguarding our hearts."
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  • They're understanding it.
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  • They're starting to see it.
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  • They're waking up to it.
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  • This one celebrity, he said,
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  • "I've got everythingto protect me.
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  • "I've got everything to protect.
  • 00:11:26.502 --> 00:11:27.436
  • "I've got all the money,got all the fame,
  • 00:11:27.436 --> 00:11:28.504
  • "everything to protect me."
  • 00:11:28.504 --> 00:11:29.572
  • But he said, "In onemoment, I opened my phone,
  • 00:11:29.572 --> 00:11:31.907
  • "I opened my laptop, and Istart reading the comments
  • 00:11:31.907 --> 00:11:34.477
  • "about my latestwork as an artist.
  • 00:11:34.477 --> 00:11:36.812
  • "And the second I seeone negative comment,
  • 00:11:37.646 --> 00:11:39.148
  • "it has pierced throughall my alarm systems,
  • 00:11:39.148 --> 00:11:42.184
  • "the locks on mydoors, my bodyguards,
  • 00:11:42.184 --> 00:11:44.520
  • "my gated neighborhood.
  • 00:11:44.520 --> 00:11:45.855
  • "That one comment just brokethrough all the security
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  • "and I'm spiralinginto depression."
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  • Because we are not goodat guarding our hearts.
  • 00:11:51.861 --> 00:11:54.663
  • And we guard our kids betterthan we guard our hearts.
  • 00:11:54.663 --> 00:11:57.500
  • Some of us, we'reoverprotective of our kids.
  • 00:11:57.500 --> 00:12:00.069
  • We don't want them toexperience any pain,
  • 00:12:00.069 --> 00:12:02.104
  • and I think there'ssomething wrong there
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  • because at some point,
  • 00:12:04.373 --> 00:12:05.374
  • they will move out ofmommy and daddy's house
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  • and they will face pain.
  • 00:12:07.209 --> 00:12:08.477
  • And if they've never learnedhow to cope with pain
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  • and deal with pain,then they will grow up
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  • (congregation applauding)crippled by pain.
  • 00:12:12.515 --> 00:12:13.849
  • We've got to teach childrenthat pain is part of life.
  • 00:12:13.849 --> 00:12:17.686
  • Disappointment, youwill lose some games
  • 00:12:17.686 --> 00:12:19.955
  • and you will win some games,
  • 00:12:19.955 --> 00:12:21.257
  • but you do not haveto lose your identity
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  • just because you losta basketball game,
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  • or couldn't get out of a pool,
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  • or whatever it is that'sbothering and hurting you.
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  • And I'm saying this becauseI've been there before.
  • 00:12:30.566 --> 00:12:33.235
  • I've been therewhere I wanted my dad
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  • to rescue me out of pain.
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  • I just wanted him tocome to my rescue.
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  • We protect each other so well
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  • and we've gotta learn tobecome personally responsible
  • 00:12:42.344 --> 00:12:44.847
  • to protect our own hearts.
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  • God wants to hear what'sgoing on in your thoughts.
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  • He wants you talk tohim, how you're feeling,
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  • what's going on, the crazythoughts you've been having.
  • 00:12:52.454 --> 00:12:55.291
  • Even some of those murderousthoughts you've had.
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  • God says, no, no, no,talk to me about that
  • 00:12:57.660 --> 00:12:59.595
  • because we need to pullthat outta your mind.
  • 00:12:59.595 --> 00:13:01.530
  • The thoughts aboutbringing a baseball bat
  • 00:13:01.530 --> 00:13:03.065
  • and hittin' his truck, weneed to talk about that,
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  • Carrie Underwood.
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  • (upbeat music)
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  • - Who's responsiblefor your heart?
  • 00:14:11.400 --> 00:14:13.068
  • Who's responsiblefor your thoughts?
  • 00:14:15.537 --> 00:14:17.606
  • Some of us mightsay, well, it's God
  • 00:14:19.141 --> 00:14:20.509
  • because I sing the song,
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  • ♪ Lord, I give you my heart
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  • ♪ I give you my soul
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  • But here's the thing.
  • 00:14:25.180 --> 00:14:26.649
  • God's a gentleman and hewill not control or dictate
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  • or try to dominatewhat you want.
  • 00:14:30.786 --> 00:14:32.488
  • He gives you a thingcalled free will,
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  • the power of choice, whichmeans you choose everyday
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  • whether you'regoing to be bitter
  • 00:14:37.126 --> 00:14:38.527
  • or whether you'regonna forgive somebody.
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  • God can't slip in there
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  • and incept yourbrain like Inception,
  • 00:14:41.997 --> 00:14:44.366
  • and sneak in there and go,
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  • I'm gonna teach themhow to forgive someone.
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  • God's saying it's your choice,
  • 00:14:47.736 --> 00:14:49.204
  • just like he put Adamand Eve in the garden
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  • and said, listen, youcan eat from that tree
  • 00:14:51.073 --> 00:14:52.775
  • or you can eat from thistree, it's your choice.
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  • You eat from that tree,that's where your life goes.
  • 00:14:54.510 --> 00:14:56.312
  • You eat from this tree,that's where your life goes.
  • 00:14:56.312 --> 00:14:58.414
  • God created us with a choice.
  • 00:14:58.414 --> 00:15:00.316
  • So my heart is not evenGod's responsibility,
  • 00:15:00.316 --> 00:15:03.585
  • it's my responsibility.
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  • I gotta take ownership
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  • because I can't guardsomething I don't own.
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  • (congregation applauding)
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  • In order to guard your heart,
  • 00:15:10.225 --> 00:15:11.527
  • you've gotta startowning your emotions.
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  • My emotions aremy responsibility.
  • 00:15:14.563 --> 00:15:16.932
  • It is not my wife'sjob to make me happy.
  • 00:15:16.932 --> 00:15:19.535
  • Well, they just made me so mad.
  • 00:15:20.202 --> 00:15:22.237
  • Oh, they ticked me off.
  • 00:15:22.237 --> 00:15:24.206
  • Oh, well he justmakes me so depressed.
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  • Really, you've handed thetitle deed of your heart
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  • to a person and you're gonnalock yourself in a prison
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  • and hope they bring thekey and let you out?
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  • Hello, Prison Break.
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  • Get your hand aroundthere, you have the key,
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  • and get out of there,Michael Scofield.
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  • (congregationapplauding and cheering)
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  • C'mon, Prison Break.
  • 00:15:44.660 --> 00:15:45.761
  • (congregationapplauding and cheering)
  • 00:15:45.761 --> 00:15:47.663
  • Some of us are locking ourselves
  • 00:15:47.663 --> 00:15:49.264
  • in our own prisons of depression
  • 00:15:49.264 --> 00:15:51.033
  • and hoping that somebody else
  • 00:15:51.033 --> 00:15:52.301
  • is gonna be responsiblefor our heart.
  • 00:15:52.301 --> 00:15:54.136
  • We have delegated theresponsibility for our emotions
  • 00:15:54.837 --> 00:15:57.506
  • and our feelings and ouremotional and mental health
  • 00:15:57.506 --> 00:16:00.342
  • to Joel Osteen, or Pastor Paul,
  • 00:16:00.342 --> 00:16:04.113
  • to our husband, to our wife,to our kids, to our parents,
  • 00:16:04.113 --> 00:16:06.448
  • to our teacher, to ourboss, to our employer.
  • 00:16:06.448 --> 00:16:08.450
  • It's someone else'sresponsibility
  • 00:16:08.450 --> 00:16:09.785
  • to make sure I havea good day today.
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  • Most people are as happyas they've decided to be.
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  • My joy is my job.
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  • - [Congregation Member] Yes.
  • 00:16:19.061 --> 00:16:20.062
  • - Let's say that together,
  • 00:16:20.062 --> 00:16:20.963
  • my joy is my job.- My joy is my job.
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  • - This could be your bestschool year yet, students,
  • 00:16:24.466 --> 00:16:27.202
  • teenagers, this could beyour best school year yet.
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  • But you gotta fightfor your heart.
  • 00:16:30.506 --> 00:16:32.307
  • I wanna give yousix ways to fight
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  • for mental and emotional health.
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  • Number one, you've gottafight for your heart.
  • 00:16:36.211 --> 00:16:37.980
  • You've gotta wake up andfight for your heart.
  • 00:16:38.914 --> 00:16:41.784
  • You've gotta fight for it, why?
  • 00:16:42.718 --> 00:16:44.653
  • Because your life is valuable.
  • 00:16:45.120 --> 00:16:47.222
  • Your life is important.
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  • You wouldn't be alive today
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  • if God didn't have aplan for your life.
  • 00:16:51.126 --> 00:16:54.463
  • You escaped that caraccident, that house fire,
  • 00:16:54.463 --> 00:16:57.833
  • that sickness, thatdisease, you got outta that
  • 00:16:57.833 --> 00:17:00.903
  • because God still hasa plan for your life.
  • 00:17:00.903 --> 00:17:03.405
  • (congregation applauding)But you gotta fight for it.
  • 00:17:03.405 --> 00:17:05.240
  • He gives you the choice.
  • 00:17:05.240 --> 00:17:06.208
  • Everyday we wake up withtwo handles to choose.
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  • Either the handle of hopeor the handle of despair.
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  • The handle of joy or thehandle of discouragement.
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  • The handle of peace orthe handle of confusion.
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  • Everyday we wake up
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  • and God's not gonnalift your arm up and go,
  • 00:17:18.220 --> 00:17:20.089
  • choose this handle.
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  • He gives us the choice.
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  • So I have to choose.
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  • I didn't come to Church todaybecause God forced me to,
  • 00:17:24.126 --> 00:17:26.929
  • I came because I chose to.
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  • (congregation affirms)
  • 00:17:28.430 --> 00:17:29.531
  • I don't spend time with mykids because God forces me to,
  • 00:17:29.631 --> 00:17:32.434
  • I do it because I chose to.
  • 00:17:32.434 --> 00:17:34.069
  • I don't read my Biblebecause God forced me
  • 00:17:34.703 --> 00:17:37.106
  • to open my eyes and openmy Bible, it was my choice.
  • 00:17:37.106 --> 00:17:39.741
  • I think some of usare delegating
  • 00:17:39.741 --> 00:17:41.677
  • so many spiritual choices
  • 00:17:41.677 --> 00:17:43.245
  • to God and God's going, I gaveyou free will to choose that.
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  • You wanna know whyyou're spiraling?
  • 00:17:47.783 --> 00:17:49.051
  • It's 'cause you have nottaken ownership of your heart,
  • 00:17:49.051 --> 00:17:51.954
  • and you have to.
  • 00:17:52.221 --> 00:17:53.755
  • You have to, I have to.
  • 00:17:53.755 --> 00:17:55.023
  • David said in Psalm 42:5,why am I discouraged?
  • 00:17:55.457 --> 00:17:59.394
  • Scientists have nowcaught up with the Bible.
  • 00:17:59.394 --> 00:18:01.497
  • They're finally discoveringthat talking to yourself works.
  • 00:18:01.497 --> 00:18:04.500
  • The Bible taught us this.
  • 00:18:05.367 --> 00:18:06.969
  • And you gotta talk toyourself the right way,
  • 00:18:08.670 --> 00:18:10.372
  • just like you could talkyourself into depression,
  • 00:18:11.473 --> 00:18:13.308
  • you could talk yourself out.
  • 00:18:13.308 --> 00:18:14.676
  • David starts talking to himself.
  • 00:18:15.210 --> 00:18:16.478
  • He goes, "Man, whyam I discouraged?"
  • 00:18:16.478 --> 00:18:19.047
  • He's fighting forhis heart here.
  • 00:18:19.047 --> 00:18:21.083
  • Heart, you don't own my destiny.
  • 00:18:21.083 --> 00:18:25.554
  • Feelings, you willnot control my future.
  • 00:18:26.488 --> 00:18:29.091
  • My faith will not bedictated by my emotions,
  • 00:18:29.558 --> 00:18:32.060
  • my faith willdictate my emotions.
  • 00:18:32.060 --> 00:18:34.630
  • So what David says here isI know I feel discouraged
  • 00:18:34.630 --> 00:18:37.266
  • and I'm gonna stopblaming it on Bathsheba.
  • 00:18:37.266 --> 00:18:39.168
  • And I might feel depressed
  • 00:18:40.869 --> 00:18:42.037
  • and I'm gonna stop blamingit on my daddy
  • 00:18:42.037 --> 00:18:43.772
  • who talked about all of hisother sons except for me.
  • 00:18:44.540 --> 00:18:46.742
  • I was the youngest, thelittle sheep boy out there
  • 00:18:46.742 --> 00:18:48.944
  • that he neverthought had a future.
  • 00:18:48.944 --> 00:18:50.679
  • I'm gonna stop blaming allof my current mental
  • 00:18:50.679 --> 00:18:53.282
  • and emotional issues onDaddy, on Mommy, on brothers,
  • 00:18:53.282 --> 00:18:56.685
  • on sisters, on KingSaul, my father-in-law,
  • 00:18:56.685 --> 00:18:58.921
  • on Bathsheba, my wife, I'mtaking personal responsibility.
  • 00:18:58.921 --> 00:19:02.157
  • I feel angry and it's my fault
  • 00:19:02.157 --> 00:19:04.626
  • because I have allowedsome hurts and wounds
  • 00:19:04.626 --> 00:19:06.995
  • to build up inside of me.
  • 00:19:06.995 --> 00:19:08.463
  • People might've saidsome things to me,
  • 00:19:08.463 --> 00:19:09.932
  • people might've donesome things to me,
  • 00:19:09.932 --> 00:19:11.567
  • and you know what, I can'tcontrol what they did to me,
  • 00:19:11.567 --> 00:19:13.468
  • but I can controlwhere my soul goes.
  • 00:19:13.468 --> 00:19:15.204
  • - C'mon, now.- And I am not gonna let
  • 00:19:15.204 --> 00:19:16.805
  • my soul stay bitter andtoxic and poisonous.
  • 00:19:16.805 --> 00:19:19.608
  • It's okay to have one day
  • 00:19:19.608 --> 00:19:20.943
  • where you feel hurtand frustrated,
  • 00:19:20.943 --> 00:19:22.978
  • but at the end of that day,
  • 00:19:22.978 --> 00:19:24.046
  • don't let the sun godown on your wrath.
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  • Just go out there andgo, I forgive them,
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  • I'm letting itgo, I'm moving on.
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  • If you need to separate yourself
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  • from some abusive people, do it,
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  • (congregation applauding)
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  • 'cause your soulis too important
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  • to stay in a toxic environment.
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  • - [Congregation] Yes.
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  • - But if we are justconstantly feeling
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  • like we're allowed to play thepity party on a daily basis,
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  • we've gotta do what David did.
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  • Okay, soul, I'mchanging the nature.
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  • I'm changing what's going on.
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  • Why am I discouraged?
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  • Why is my heart so sad?
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  • And he chose tofight against it.
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  • He said, okay, I'm going totake personal responsibility.
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  • I feel discouraged, butI'm putting my hope in God.
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  • I'm down in this pit,
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  • but I'm gonna liftmy eyes up to the one
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  • who can lift me out of this pit.
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  • I will praise him again.
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  • Praise is a weaponagainst depression.
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  • You've gotta fightfor your heart
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  • and you've gotta fight(congregation applauding)
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  • not to allow yourself tostay in that pit of despair.
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  • You cannot delegatethe responsibility
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  • on everyone else topull you out of the pit.
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  • You've gotta look up to God
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  • and you gotta start puttingyour hope in him again.
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  • No one can force you totrust in God except for you.
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  • You gotta choose it.
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  • I think sometimes wenormalize depression
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  • because we think most of oursociety is feeling this way,
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  • and we have to come back towhat is God's will for my life,
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  • not what is America's normaltoday for depressed people.
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  • (congregation applauding)
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  • Emotionally unhealthypeople run from problems,
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  • run from conflict, ignoreanger, ignore sadness,
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  • deny the impact ofsomeone's hurt towards them.
  • 00:20:45.160 --> 00:20:47.663
  • We get so busy with lifethat if someone hurts us,
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  • we don't even wanna confront it,
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  • we just wanna sweepit under the rug
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  • and keep spiritualizingaway conflict,
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  • and we act like Jesusjust wants us not to deal
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  • with any hurts or wounds,
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  • that he just wants us toforget it and move on,
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  • and he's going,that's not normal.
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  • It's healthy to talk it out.
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  • Matthew 18 says you needto go to the person,
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  • you actually needto talk things out
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  • because at some point,the lid is going to pop,
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  • and you're gonna explodewith some hurt, some anger,
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  • and some wounds becauseyou grew up in a family
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  • that doesn't talk about issues.
  • 00:21:14.289 --> 00:21:15.857
  • And you feel likesomeone else is crazy
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  • 'cause they alwayswanna talk about issues.
  • 00:21:19.628 --> 00:21:21.330
  • No, they're normal.
  • 00:21:21.330 --> 00:21:22.964
  • They're wantingto confront things
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  • that need to be confronted.
  • 00:21:25.167 --> 00:21:26.435
  • It's emotionally healthyto actually talk out pain
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  • that you're feeling, you'refighting for your heart.
  • 00:21:30.339 --> 00:21:32.107
  • Some people haveallowed their hearts
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  • to become so coldwe can force a smile
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  • and be cold to people thatGod's called us to be warm with.
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  • (congregation affirms)
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  • - 'Cause we're notfighting for our heart.
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  • We're not fighting to guardour heart, our emotions.
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  • My joy is my job, my peaceis God's calling on my life.
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  • Number two, you've gottafight for your mind.
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  • Philippians 4:6-8 gives usa remedy for our thoughts.
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  • Be anxious for nothing,but in everything
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  • with prayer and supplicationand thanksgiving,
  • 00:22:01.169 --> 00:22:03.605
  • bring your requests to God.
  • 00:22:03.605 --> 00:22:05.540
  • In other words, God wantsto hear what's going on
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  • in your thoughts.
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  • He wants you to talk to him,
  • 00:22:09.010 --> 00:22:10.245
  • how you're feeling,what's going on,
  • 00:22:10.245 --> 00:22:11.980
  • the crazy thoughtsyou've been having.
  • 00:22:11.980 --> 00:22:14.015
  • Even some of those murderousthoughts you've had.
  • 00:22:14.015 --> 00:22:16.418
  • God says, no, no, no,talk to me about that
  • 00:22:16.418 --> 00:22:18.220
  • because we need to pullthat outta your mind.
  • 00:22:18.220 --> 00:22:19.721
  • The thoughts aboutbringing a baseball bat
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  • and hittin' his truck, weneed to talk about that,
  • 00:22:21.690 --> 00:22:24.426
  • Carrie Underwood.
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  • (congregation laughing)
  • 00:22:25.193 --> 00:22:27.462
  • ♪ I took a Louisvilleslugger to na-na-na ♪
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  • Like, that's not normal.
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  • (congregation laughing)
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  • Mental and emotionalhealth means you
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  • are going to get connectedin relationships.
  • 00:22:36.505 --> 00:22:38.874
  • A sign of depressionis isolation.
  • 00:22:39.674 --> 00:22:42.411
  • When someone's all bythemself, they need you.
  • 00:22:43.311 --> 00:22:45.914
  • If you're in theirlife, reach out,
  • 00:22:45.914 --> 00:22:47.482
  • invite them to sit withyou at the lunch table,
  • 00:22:47.482 --> 00:22:49.284
  • you might save their life.
  • 00:22:49.284 --> 00:22:50.485
  • If they're someone you work with
  • 00:22:51.420 --> 00:22:52.554
  • that isolatesherself or himself,
  • 00:22:52.554 --> 00:22:54.589
  • pull them in somehow, pullthem into relationship.
  • 00:22:54.589 --> 00:22:57.359
  • If you're battling withdepression right now,
  • 00:22:57.359 --> 00:22:59.060
  • I know it's the lastthing you wanna do,
  • 00:22:59.060 --> 00:23:00.762
  • but you need to goand be with people.
  • 00:23:00.762 --> 00:23:02.264
  • The church iscalled to community.
  • 00:23:03.031 --> 00:23:05.434
  • We are called todo this together.
  • 00:23:05.434 --> 00:23:07.702
  • The devil wantsyou to be isolated.
  • 00:23:07.702 --> 00:23:09.871
  • You've gotta fightagainst isolation.
  • 00:23:09.871 --> 00:23:12.340
  • Fight for friendships.
  • 00:23:12.340 --> 00:23:13.775
  • Your mental health
  • 00:23:13.775 --> 00:23:14.776
  • and your emotional healthneeds relationships.
  • 00:23:14.776 --> 00:23:17.212
  • Number four, you gottafight for servanthood.
  • 00:23:17.312 --> 00:23:19.514
  • I'm almost done, you gottafight for servanthood.
  • 00:23:19.514 --> 00:23:21.917
  • Because what happens isthe suicidal thoughts.
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  • We don't realize it,but they are selfish.
  • 00:23:26.221 --> 00:23:29.224
  • (gentle ambient music)
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  • Servanthood is a remedyagainst suicidal thoughts.
  • 00:23:30.559 --> 00:23:36.164
  • Servanthood is a remedyagainst depression.
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  • Showing up at the DreamCenter, a homeless shelter,
  • 00:23:38.733 --> 00:23:41.236
  • and just giving soup,helping other people,
  • 00:23:41.236 --> 00:23:43.905
  • no strings attached,it's good for the soul.
  • 00:23:43.905 --> 00:23:45.874
  • It's good for the soul tobe an usher, a greeter,
  • 00:23:46.675 --> 00:23:48.743
  • to serve, to have an outletwhere you're giving out,
  • 00:23:48.743 --> 00:23:51.913
  • where you're livingwith generosity,
  • 00:23:51.913 --> 00:23:53.682
  • where you're taking thespotlight off of your own hurts
  • 00:23:53.682 --> 00:23:56.418
  • and wounds and pains andfeelings of people let you down
  • 00:23:56.418 --> 00:23:59.588
  • and they disappointed you.
  • 00:23:59.588 --> 00:24:00.856
  • Just shift it for a moment,start serving people.
  • 00:24:00.856 --> 00:24:02.958
  • Man, it was for me, it was abreakthrough for my depression
  • 00:24:03.725 --> 00:24:06.394
  • when I stopped just lookingat what's wrong in me
  • 00:24:06.828 --> 00:24:09.531
  • and I started looking, howcan I help more people.
  • 00:24:09.531 --> 00:24:11.867
  • Hey, I pray that sermonministered to you,
  • 00:24:13.435 --> 00:24:15.570
  • encouraged you,
  • 00:24:15.570 --> 00:24:16.838
  • and now it's time foryou to make a decision.
  • 00:24:16.838 --> 00:24:18.840
  • Maybe you're watching right now
  • 00:24:18.840 --> 00:24:20.275
  • and you're not right with God.
  • 00:24:20.275 --> 00:24:21.643
  • Or maybe you were right withGod, but you've kinda drifted.
  • 00:24:21.643 --> 00:24:24.779
  • Maybe you're watching
  • 00:24:25.347 --> 00:24:26.014
  • and you've never let Jesustruly be Lord of your life.
  • 00:24:26.515 --> 00:24:29.451
  • Today's a great day tomake that step and say,
  • 00:24:29.451 --> 00:24:31.853
  • Lord, I surrender.
  • 00:24:31.853 --> 00:24:33.221
  • I'll tell you this, no matterhow dark things may look
  • 00:24:33.221 --> 00:24:35.257
  • in your life, when youinvite Jesus Christ
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  • to be Lord of your heart,
  • 00:24:37.759 --> 00:24:39.561
  • whether you've drifted from him
  • 00:24:39.561 --> 00:24:40.962
  • or whether you'venever known him,
  • 00:24:40.962 --> 00:24:42.631
  • he can change the darknessthat's happening around you.
  • 00:24:42.631 --> 00:24:45.867
  • He can bring hope and lifeand joy and rescue you
  • 00:24:45.867 --> 00:24:49.271
  • from that pit of depression
  • 00:24:49.271 --> 00:24:51.106
  • that maybe yourheart has sunk into.
  • 00:24:51.106 --> 00:24:53.408
  • Today's a great day to surrenderyour whole life to Christ.
  • 00:24:53.408 --> 00:24:56.912
  • Say this prayerwith me right now.
  • 00:24:56.912 --> 00:24:58.313
  • Jesus, I surrender to you.
  • 00:24:58.313 --> 00:25:00.949
  • Lord, I'm all yours.
  • 00:25:00.949 --> 00:25:02.551
  • I repent of sin and Ireceive your forgiveness.
  • 00:25:02.551 --> 00:25:05.954
  • God, I choose to followyou the rest of my life.
  • 00:25:05.954 --> 00:25:09.124
  • In Jesus' name, amen.
  • 00:25:09.124 --> 00:25:11.326
  • Hey, if you justprayed that prayer,
  • 00:25:11.326 --> 00:25:12.561
  • I'm celebrating with you.
  • 00:25:12.561 --> 00:25:14.195
  • That is one of the bestdecisions you can make
  • 00:25:14.195 --> 00:25:16.565
  • with your life, tosurrender to Jesus.
  • 00:25:16.565 --> 00:25:19.134
  • Now it's time to get pluggedinto a life-giving Church.
  • 00:25:19.134 --> 00:25:22.304
  • I wanna invite youto Victory right here
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  • We have Churchhappening every week,
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  • Wednesday night, Saturdaynight, Sunday morning,
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  • and we would lovefor you to come
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  • and be a part ofthe Victory family.
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  • We'll make youfeel right at home.
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  • We have kid services if youwanna bring your children,
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  • We'd love for you to justcome and sit with us,
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  • So come and join usanytime here at Victory.
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  • Every week we're havingservices right here.
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  • Your best days areright in front of you.
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  • Saturdays at 5pm,
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  • There's something for everyoneat Victory.
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