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Leave it in the Garage

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September 21, 2019
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Fully Alive with Daniel Floyd

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  • - HI, WELCOME TO FULLY ALIVE.
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  • IT'S OUR HOPE THAT
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  • THROUGH TODAY'S PROGRAM,
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  • YOU'LL FIND THE TOOLS
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  • THAT WILL HELP YOU
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  • BUILD YOUR FAITH,
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  • BUILD YOUR LIFE,
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  • AND WE PRAY
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  • THAT YOU MAY FIND THE HOPE
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  • AND THE HEALING THAT YOU NEED.
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  • CHECK OUT THIS CLIP
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  • - BOUNDARIES ALLOW US TO KNOW
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  • THIS IS WHAT
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  • I WILL LET IN TO MY LIFE,
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  • AND THIS IS WHAT
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  • I WON'T LET IN TO MY LIFE.
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  • IT'S NOT ABOUT REJECTING PEOPLE,
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  • BUT IT'S ABOUT SAYING,
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  • YOUR BEHAVIOR --
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  • YOU CAN COME,
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  • YOU CAN COME IN;
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  • THE BEHAVIOR
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  • CAN'T COME WITH YOU.
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  • YOU CAN COME,
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  • BUT THE UNDERHANDED COMMENTS
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  • IF I NEVER SET BOUNDARIES
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  • IN MY LIFE THAT COULD
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  • CAUSE HURT TO SOMEBODY ELSE --
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  • YES, THEY MAY,
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  • BUT THAT HURT MAY BE
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  • THE VERY THING THAT HELPS THEM
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  • TO GET TO A PLACE OF
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  • HEALING IN THEIR LIFE.
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  • AND WHILE YOU ARE IN THE EARTH,
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  • YOU HAVE A STEWARDSHIP
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  • RESPONSIBILITY
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  • TO STEWARD YOUR LIFE
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  • IN A WAY SO THAT YOU CAN BE
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  • A HEALTHY 'ME' IN THE 'WE'
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  • OF THE RELATIONSHIPS,
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  • - WE BELIEVE
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  • THAT AS YOU INVEST
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  • THE NEXT FEW MOMENTS
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  • IN LISTENING TO TODAY'S SERMON,
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  • THAT YOUR LIFE
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  • WILL BE CHANGED FOREVER.
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  • SO LET'S LEAN IN TOGETHER,
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  • AND HEAR ALL THAT GOD
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  • - WE HAVE BOUNDARIES
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  • IN ALL KINDS OF
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  • AREAS IN OUR LIFE.
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  • IF YOU THINK ABOUT IT,
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  • A BUDGET IS A BOUNDARY,
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  • A HOME BUDGET
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  • SETS A BOUNDARY
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  • AND TELLS YOU
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  • WHAT YOU WILL SPEND,
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  • WHAT YOU WON'T SPEND,
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  • KINDA TELLS YOU
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  • THE HALLWAY
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  • OR THE LANE THAT
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  • YOU'LL RIDE IN
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  • IN THAT AREA,
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  • A SCHEDULE, THEORETICALLY,
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  • IF YOU FOLLOW YOUR SCHEDULE,
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  • A SCHEDULE IS A BOUNDARY.
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  • IT KINDA TELLS YOU
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  • HOW YOU'RE GONNA
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  • SPEND YOUR TIME,
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  • WHAT EXTENT YOU WILL GO,
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  • WHAT YOU WON'T GO,
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  • IT CREATES SOME GUARDRAILS
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  • AROUND YOUR LIFE, RIGHT?
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  • AND, SO, WE PUT BOUNDARIES
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  • IN ALL KINDS OF AREAS
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  • OF OUR LIFE
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  • BUT I THINK THE ONE AREA
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  • WE FAIL TO PUT BOUNDARIES IN,
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  • OFTEN IS IN THE AREA
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  • OF OUR RELATIONSHIPS.
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  • IN THE AREA OF
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  • OUR RELATIONSHIPS.
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  • WE DON'T SET UP
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  • HEALTHY BOUNDARIES
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  • AND I WANNA GIVE US
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  • A WORKING DEFINITION TODAY
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  • AND IT'S GONNA BE --
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  • I'MMA TRY TO PUT A WHOLE LOT,
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  • IN A FEW MINUTES,
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  • 'CAUSE I THINK THIS WILL
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  • REALLY, REALLY HELP YOU.
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  • SO, I WANNA GIVE YOU
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  • A WORKING DEFINITION,
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  • AND IF YOU'RE A NOTE-TAKER,
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  • WRITE IT DOWN, IF YOU'RE NOT,
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  • START TODAY, AND WRITE THIS DOWN
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  • 'CAUSE THIS COULD
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  • HELP YOU A LOT.
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  • IF YOU'RE WITH ME, SAY, "AMEN."
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  • ALRIGHT.
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  • LET ME GIVE YOU A DEFINITION
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  • OF 'BOUNDARIES' IS THIS,
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  • A BOUNDARY DEFINES OWNERSHIP.
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  • SOMEBODY SHOUT, "OWNERSHIP."
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  • IT SHOWS ME WHERE I END,
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  • AND WHERE YOU BEGIN.
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  • IT SHOWS ME WHERE I END,
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  • AND WHERE YOU BEGIN.
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  • SO, ONCE I KNOW WHERE I END,
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  • THEN I KNOW WHERE
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  • MY OWNERSHIP IS
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  • AND WHAT I'M RESPONSIBLE FOR.
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  • AND SO, WHEN WE DON'T SET
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  • HEALTHY BOUNDARIES,
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  • WE SAID, LAST WEEK, THAT
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  • THERE CAN'T BE A HEALTHY
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  • 'WE' IN A RELATIONSHIP,
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  • UNLESS THERE'S A HEALTHY 'ME',
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  • RIGHT?
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  • AND SO, I'VE GOT TO KNOW
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  • WHERE I END
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  • AND WHERE YOU BEGIN.
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  • SEE, THE PROBLEM IN SOME
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  • OF OUR RELATIONSHIPS IS THIS,
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  • IS OTHER PEOPLE ARE TRYING
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  • TO OWN OUR PROPERTY
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  • AND WE'RE BUSY TRYING
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  • TO OWN OTHER PEOPLE'S PROPERTY.
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  • WE'RE TRYING TO
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  • OWN THEIR MISTAKES.
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  • SOME OF YOU ARE GUILT-RIDDEN
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  • ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE'S DECISION.
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  • YOU'RE OWNING PROPERTY
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  • THAT DOESN'T BELONG TO YOU.
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  • AND, SO, WE SET UP
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  • HEALTHY BOUNDARIES.
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  • WE SAY BOUNDARIES
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  • ALLOW US TO KNOW
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  • THIS IS WHAT I WILL
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  • LET IN TO MY LIFE
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  • AND THIS IS WHAT
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  • I WON'T LET IN TO MY LIFE.
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  • NOT EVERYBODY --
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  • AND SOME OF YOU --
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  • LEMME GIVE A TIME OUT,
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  • REAL QUICK --
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  • SOME OF YOU, WHEN YOU HEAR
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  • THE WORD 'BOUNDARIES'
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  • OR EVEN AS I'M TALKING
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  • ABOUT IT TO YOU NOW,
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  • YOU THINK, "OH, WELL,
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  • THIS ISN'T CHRISTIAN,
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  • THIS ISN'T GODLY."
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  • WELL, TIME OUT FOR A MINUTE,
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  • JESUS HAD SOME BOUNDARIES
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  • IN HIS LIFE, RIGHT?
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  • JESUS HAD 72 DISCIPLES.
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  • SOME OF Y'ALL I JUST
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  • BLEW YOUR MIND,
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  • 'CAUSE YOU'RE LIKE,
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  • "NO, HE HAD 12;
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  • I'VE SEEN THEM IN THE PAINTING."
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  • [LAUGHTER]
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  • READ YOUR NEW TESTAMENT.
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  • HE HAD 72 DISCIPLES,
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  • BUT HE HAD 12 --
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  • HE HAD A LINE DRAWN
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  • WHERE 12 COULD COME IN CLOSE
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  • AND THEN EVEN OF THOSE 12
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  • HE HAD THREE MORE;
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  • PETER, JAMES, AND JOHN
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  • THAT KINDA GOT
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  • THE ALL ACCESS TOUR
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  • ON THE THREE YEARS THAT
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  • JESUS WAS ON THE [INDISCERNIBLE]
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  • 72 DISCIPLES,
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  • 12 MADE INSTAGRAM,
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  • DOES THAT HELP YOU?
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  • ARE YOU FOLLOWING ME?
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  • LIKE THAT'S HOW IT ROLLED.
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  • HE HAD LIKE THE 12 AND THEN
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  • HE HAD PETER, JAMES, AND JOHN
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  • AND PETER, JAMES, AND JOHN
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  • HE WOULD GO DO SOMETHING COOL
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  • AND BE LIKE, HEY,
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  • Y'ALL STAY HERE,
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  • PETER, JAMES, AND JOHN,
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  • COME WITH ME.
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  • ARE Y'ALL FOLLOWING ME?
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  • HE WOULD TEACH THE MASSES
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  • OF PEOPLE THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE
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  • THAT HE WOULD TEACH
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  • AND THEN HE WOULD PULL
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  • THE 12 ASIDE AND GO,
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  • THEY'RE PROBABLY NOT
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  • GONNA UNDERSTAND IT,
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  • LET ME BREAK IT DOWN FOR YOU.
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  • SO, HE HAD LEVELS OF ACCESS
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  • THAT HE ALLOWED INTO HIS LIFE.
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  • NOT EVERYBODY IN YOUR LIFE
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  • DESERVES AN ALL BACKSTAGE PASS.
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  • THERE'S SOME PEOPLE THAT NEED
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  • LIKE ONLY A PARKING PASS.
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  • THEY DON'T EVEN NEED A TICKET
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  • INTO THE BUILDING OF YOUR LIFE,
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  • Y'ALL WITH ME?
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  • SOME PEOPLE NEED
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  • A LITTLE CLOSER --
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  • SOME PEOPLE CAN HAVE
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  • ALL ACCESS INTO YOUR LIFE,
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  • BUT YOU HAVE TO KNOW
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  • WHERE YOU END,
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  • AND WHERE OTHERS BEGIN.
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  • LET ME SAY TO YOU LIKE THIS.
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  • IN PROVERBS IT SAYS THIS,
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  • "ABOVE ALL ELSE..."
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  • IN OTHER WORDS,
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  • THE TOP THING IN YOUR LIFE,
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  • "GUARD YOUR HEART."
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  • LOOK AT YOUR NEIGHBOR AND SAY,
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  • GUARD YOUR HEART.
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  • LOOK AT YOUR SECOND CHOICE SAY,
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  • GUARD YOUR HEART.
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  • GUARD YOUR HEART, WHY?
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  • "FOR IT IS
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  • THE WELLSPRING OF LIFE."
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  • IT'S THE WELLSPRING OF LIFE.
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  • GUARD YOUR HEART, WHY?
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  • BECAUSE WHAT YOU LET INTO
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  • YOUR HEART WILL EVENTUALLY
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  • COME BACK OUT IN YOUR LIFE.
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  • SO, IF YOU LET PRIDEFUL PEOPLE
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  • CONTINUE TO SPEAK INTO YOUR LIFE
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  • EVENTUALLY AT SOME POINT
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  • PRIDE HAS GOT TO BEGIN
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  • COMING OUT OF YOUR LIFE.
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  • LEMME BREAK IT DOWN
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  • FOR YOU, REAL LOW,
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  • LIKE MY MOM USED TO SAY,
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  • "DANIEL, IF YOU GET
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  • WITH THE PIGS,
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  • YOU'RE GONNA GET MUDDY."
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  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
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  • YOU'VE GOT TO SET SOME
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  • KINDA BOUNDARY IN YOUR LIFE.
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  • AND NOW FOR SOME OF YOU
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  • YOU'RE LIKE, NO, NO,
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  • THIS SOUNDS SO SELFISH.
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  • AND LAST WEEK YOU SAID
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  • THAT WE'RE NOT
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  • GONNA BE SELFISH.
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  • NO, LISTEN TO ME.
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  • THIS IS IMPORTANT,
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  • WRITE THIS DOWN.
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  • THERE IS A DIFFERENCE
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  • BETWEEN SELFISHNESS
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  • AND STEWARDSHIP.
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  • WHILE YOU ARE IN THE EARTH
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  • YOU HAVE A STEWARDSHIP
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  • RESPONSIBILITY TO STEWARD
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  • YOUR LIFE IN A WAY SO THAT
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  • YOU CAN BE HEALTHY ME
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  • IN THE WE OF THE RELATIONSHIPS
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  • IN YOUR LIFE.
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  • AND, SO, BOUNDARIES IN OUR LIFE
  • 00:06:14.220 --> 00:06:16.150
  • ARE NOT SO WE CAN REJECT PEOPLE,
  • 00:06:16.150 --> 00:06:18.250
  • IT'S THAT WE REJECT BEHAVIOR.
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  • LET ME GIVE YOU AN EXAMPLE,
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  • ARE Y'ALL STILL WITH ME?
  • 00:06:23.160 --> 00:06:24.050
  • SAY AMEN.
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  • IF MY KIDS WERE TO COME
  • 00:06:25.000 --> 00:06:26.070
  • INTO THE HOUSE,
  • 00:06:26.070 --> 00:06:27.000
  • SAY OWEN WAS OUT IN THE WOODS
  • 00:06:27.000 --> 00:06:28.020
  • PARENTHETICALLY
  • 00:06:28.020 --> 00:06:28.290
  • WITH HIS BB GUN LOOKING
  • 00:06:28.290 --> 00:06:29.290
  • FOR SQUIRRELS THE OTHER DAY,
  • 00:06:29.290 --> 00:06:31.140
  • JUST HYPOTHETICALLY LET'S SAY
  • 00:06:31.140 --> 00:06:32.170
  • THIS WAS HAPPENING,
  • 00:06:33.080 --> 00:06:36.080
  • AND HE COMES IN BECAUSE MAYBE
  • 00:06:36.080 --> 00:06:38.090
  • IT'S BEEN RAINING
  • 00:06:38.090 --> 00:06:39.060
  • AND HE COMES IN WITH MUD
  • 00:06:39.060 --> 00:06:40.100
  • ALL OVER HIMSELF,
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  • I IMMEDIATELY WOULD GO,
  • 00:06:41.180 --> 00:06:43.190
  • "GET BACK IN THE GARAGE,"
  • 00:06:43.190 --> 00:06:45.260
  • BECAUSE I'M A LITTLE OCD,
  • 00:06:45.260 --> 00:06:47.020
  • I DON'T BELIEVE THE MUD ROOM
  • 00:06:47.020 --> 00:06:48.150
  • REALLY MEANS THAT.
  • 00:06:48.150 --> 00:06:51.130
  • I WANNA RENAME IT
  • 00:06:51.130 --> 00:06:52.030
  • THE CLEAN ROOM,
  • 00:06:52.030 --> 00:06:53.120
  • THE PRE-MUD ROOM,
  • 00:06:53.120 --> 00:06:55.040
  • THE GET OUT OF THE HOUSE
  • 00:06:55.040 --> 00:06:55.290
  • IF YOU'RE DIRTY ROOM,
  • 00:06:55.290 --> 00:06:57.090
  • IT WAS MY OPPORTUNITY
  • 00:06:57.090 --> 00:06:58.150
  • TO CATCH YOU BEFORE YOU GOT MUD
  • 00:06:58.150 --> 00:07:00.080
  • IN THE REST OF THE HOUSE ROOM,
  • 00:07:00.080 --> 00:07:01.260
  • ARE Y'ALL FOLLOWING ME?
  • 00:07:01.260 --> 00:07:02.250
  • COME ON, SOMEBODY, ANY PARENT?
  • 00:07:02.250 --> 00:07:04.280
  • SO, I WAS LIKE,
  • 00:07:04.280 --> 00:07:06.000
  • "GET BACK OUT IN THE GARAGE."
  • 00:07:06.000 --> 00:07:07.220
  • AND SO, I DIDN'T REJECT MY SON,
  • 00:07:07.220 --> 00:07:10.170
  • I WAS REJECTING
  • 00:07:10.170 --> 00:07:11.080
  • WHAT WAS ON HIM.
  • 00:07:11.080 --> 00:07:13.220
  • AS A MATTER OF FACT,
  • 00:07:13.220 --> 00:07:14.250
  • I WILL GO OUT IN THE GARAGE
  • 00:07:14.250 --> 00:07:16.080
  • AND HELP GET IT OFF HIM
  • 00:07:16.080 --> 00:07:18.030
  • BECAUSE I SO WANT HIM
  • 00:07:18.030 --> 00:07:19.110
  • TO COME BACK INTO THE HOUSE.
  • 00:07:19.110 --> 00:07:21.120
  • A BOUNDARY SAYS THIS,
  • 00:07:21.120 --> 00:07:22.260
  • "I'M NOT REJECTING YOU,
  • 00:07:22.260 --> 00:07:24.200
  • BUT I WILL REJECT
  • 00:07:24.200 --> 00:07:25.240
  • WHAT IS ON YOU
  • 00:07:25.240 --> 00:07:27.010
  • OR THE BEHAVIOR ON YOU,
  • 00:07:27.010 --> 00:07:28.110
  • BUT MATTER OF FACT,
  • 00:07:28.110 --> 00:07:28.290
  • I WILL GET OUT IN THE GARAGE
  • 00:07:28.290 --> 00:07:30.110
  • WITH YOU AND SERVE YOU
  • 00:07:30.110 --> 00:07:32.090
  • AND HELP GET IT OFF OF YOU
  • 00:07:32.090 --> 00:07:33.200
  • SO THAT I CAN BRING YOU
  • 00:07:33.200 --> 00:07:34.240
  • INTO THE HOUSE."
  • 00:07:34.240 --> 00:07:36.190
  • IT'S NOT ABOUT REJECTING PEOPLE,
  • 00:07:36.190 --> 00:07:37.230
  • BUT IT'S ABOUT SAYING,
  • 00:07:37.230 --> 00:07:39.000
  • YOUR BEHAVIOR --
  • 00:07:39.000 --> 00:07:39.280
  • YOU CAN COME,
  • 00:07:39.280 --> 00:07:41.220
  • YOU CAN COME IN,
  • 00:07:41.220 --> 00:07:43.100
  • THE BEHAVIOR
  • 00:07:43.100 --> 00:07:43.210
  • CAN'T COME WITH YOU.
  • 00:07:43.210 --> 00:07:46.200
  • YOU CAN COME,
  • 00:07:46.200 --> 00:07:47.240
  • BUT THE ARROGANCE
  • 00:07:47.240 --> 00:07:48.110
  • CAN'T COME WITH YOU.
  • 00:07:48.110 --> 00:07:49.170
  • YOU CAN COME,
  • 00:07:49.170 --> 00:07:50.230
  • BUT THE UNDERHANDED COMMENTS
  • 00:07:50.230 --> 00:07:52.050
  • TOLD YOU I'M GONNA GET UP
  • 00:07:59.170 --> 00:08:00.120
  • IN YOUR HOUSE TODAY.
  • 00:08:02.210 --> 00:08:05.210
  • SO, WE HAVE TO BE ABLE
  • 00:08:05.210 --> 00:08:06.130
  • TO SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES.
  • 00:08:06.130 --> 00:08:08.090
  • AND SO I WANNA GIVE YOU
  • 00:08:08.090 --> 00:08:09.010
  • WHAT I THINK ARE THREE REASONS
  • 00:08:09.010 --> 00:08:10.050
  • WHY WE DON'T SET BOUNDARIES
  • 00:08:10.050 --> 00:08:11.190
  • IN OUR LIFE AND THEN
  • 00:08:11.190 --> 00:08:13.090
  • I WANNA GIVE YOU
  • 00:08:13.090 --> 00:08:13.240
  • THREE BOUNDARIES
  • 00:08:13.240 --> 00:08:14.240
  • I THINK ARE A STARTING POINT,
  • 00:08:14.240 --> 00:08:16.080
  • THEY'RE NOT EXHAUSTIVE,
  • 00:08:16.080 --> 00:08:17.070
  • THEY'RE NOT EVERYTHING,
  • 00:08:17.070 --> 00:08:18.110
  • I THINK THEY'RE KINDA
  • 00:08:18.110 --> 00:08:19.010
  • A STARTING POINT
  • 00:08:19.010 --> 00:08:19.140
  • TO KINDA PRIME THE PUMP,
  • 00:08:19.140 --> 00:08:21.020
  • IF Y'ALL DON'T KNOW WHAT
  • 00:08:21.020 --> 00:08:21.280
  • THAT MEANS, MY CITY FOLK,
  • 00:08:21.280 --> 00:08:23.050
  • WHEN YOU PRIME THE PUMP,
  • 00:08:23.050 --> 00:08:24.080
  • ANYWAYS, Y'ALL
  • 00:08:24.080 --> 00:08:26.200
  • AIN'T HELPING ME TODAY.
  • 00:08:26.200 --> 00:08:29.010
  • NUMBER ONE IS
  • 00:08:29.010 --> 00:08:29.190
  • THE RESCUE SYNDROME.
  • 00:08:29.190 --> 00:08:31.270
  • THE RESCUE SYNDROME,
  • 00:08:31.270 --> 00:08:33.070
  • LET ME SHOW YOU WHAT
  • 00:08:33.070 --> 00:08:33.260
  • THE SCRIPTURE SAYS.
  • 00:08:33.260 --> 00:08:35.140
  • IT SAYS, "DON'T BE DECEIVED:
  • 00:08:35.140 --> 00:08:37.030
  • GOD CANNOT BE MOCKED.
  • 00:08:37.030 --> 00:08:39.220
  • A MAN REAPS WHAT HE SOWS."
  • 00:08:39.220 --> 00:08:42.210
  • "DON'T BE DECEIVED:
  • 00:08:42.210 --> 00:08:43.050
  • GOD CANNOT BE MOCKED.
  • 00:08:43.050 --> 00:08:43.250
  • A MAN REAPS WHAT HE SOWS."
  • 00:08:44.140 --> 00:08:47.140
  • YOU KNOW, THERE ARE NATURAL LAWS
  • 00:08:47.140 --> 00:08:49.170
  • THAT ARE IN EXISTENCE THAT
  • 00:08:49.170 --> 00:08:51.070
  • YOU CAN DO NOTHING ABOUT.
  • 00:08:51.070 --> 00:08:52.180
  • YOU CAN NOT LIKE THEM,
  • 00:08:52.180 --> 00:08:53.190
  • YOU CAN REJECT THEM,
  • 00:08:53.190 --> 00:08:55.120
  • YOU CAN NOT WANNA FOLLOW THEM,
  • 00:08:55.120 --> 00:08:56.120
  • BUT IT DOESN'T MATTER,
  • 00:08:56.120 --> 00:08:57.020
  • THEY'RE GONNA EXIST, ANYWAYS.
  • 00:08:57.020 --> 00:08:58.190
  • KINDA LIKE THE LAW --
  • 00:08:58.190 --> 00:08:59.070
  • LET'S GIVE ONE --
  • 00:08:59.070 --> 00:08:59.250
  • THE LAW OF GRAVITY, RIGHT?
  • 00:08:59.250 --> 00:09:02.130
  • YOU CAN NOT LIKE IT,
  • 00:09:02.130 --> 00:09:03.160
  • YOU CAN SAY,
  • 00:09:03.160 --> 00:09:04.230
  • "I JUST DON'T THINK IT'S THERE,"
  • 00:09:04.230 --> 00:09:06.110
  • YOU CAN GO JUMP OFF A BUILDING
  • 00:09:06.110 --> 00:09:07.140
  • AND FIND OUT IT'S THERE,
  • 00:09:07.140 --> 00:09:08.180
  • IT DOESN'T MATTER
  • 00:09:08.180 --> 00:09:09.010
  • WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT IT,
  • 00:09:09.010 --> 00:09:10.080
  • IT'S THERE, IT WILL HAPPEN,
  • 00:09:10.080 --> 00:09:12.030
  • EVERY TIME.
  • 00:09:12.030 --> 00:09:12.290
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:09:12.290 --> 00:09:13.210
  • THE SAME WAY
  • 00:09:13.210 --> 00:09:14.050
  • THERE'RE NATURAL LAWS,
  • 00:09:14.050 --> 00:09:15.050
  • THERE ARE SPIRITUAL LAWS.
  • 00:09:15.050 --> 00:09:16.180
  • DOESN'T MATTER
  • 00:09:16.180 --> 00:09:16.280
  • IF YOU BELIEVE IT,
  • 00:09:16.280 --> 00:09:17.150
  • DOESN'T MATTER
  • 00:09:17.150 --> 00:09:17.280
  • IF YOU DON'T BELIEVE IT,
  • 00:09:17.280 --> 00:09:18.220
  • IT DOESN'T MATTER
  • 00:09:18.220 --> 00:09:19.060
  • IF YOU LIKE IT,
  • 00:09:19.060 --> 00:09:19.220
  • DOESN'T MATTER
  • 00:09:19.220 --> 00:09:20.060
  • IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT,
  • 00:09:20.060 --> 00:09:21.020
  • THEY ARE IN OPERATION,
  • 00:09:21.020 --> 00:09:22.250
  • GOD SET THEM IN MOTION
  • 00:09:22.250 --> 00:09:24.130
  • AND EVERY TIME
  • 00:09:24.130 --> 00:09:25.050
  • YOU CAN TAKE IT TO THE BANK,
  • 00:09:25.050 --> 00:09:26.200
  • THEY WILL ALWAYS BE TRUE.
  • 00:09:26.200 --> 00:09:28.020
  • AND ONE OF THOSE IS THIS,
  • 00:09:28.020 --> 00:09:29.070
  • THAT AS LONG AS TIME REMAINS,
  • 00:09:29.070 --> 00:09:30.210
  • THERE WILL BE SEED,
  • 00:09:30.210 --> 00:09:31.170
  • THERE WILL BE TIME,
  • 00:09:31.170 --> 00:09:32.230
  • AND THERE WILL BE HARVEST.
  • 00:09:32.230 --> 00:09:34.050
  • AND WHATEVER YOU SOW, THAT --
  • 00:09:34.050 --> 00:09:36.060
  • I GREW UP ON KING JAMES --
  • 00:09:36.060 --> 00:09:37.060
  • THAT SHALL YOU ALSO REAP.
  • 00:09:38.020 --> 00:09:41.020
  • IT JUST PREACHES BETTER.
  • 00:09:41.020 --> 00:09:42.200
  • I MEAN, IT FEELS BETTER THAN,
  • 00:09:42.200 --> 00:09:43.270
  • "A MAN REAPS WHAT HE SOWS."
  • 00:09:43.270 --> 00:09:46.020
  • NO, THIS FEELS BETTER.
  • 00:09:46.020 --> 00:09:46.280
  • WHATEVER YOU SOW,
  • 00:09:46.280 --> 00:09:49.020
  • THAT SHALL YOU ALSO REAP.
  • 00:09:52.040 --> 00:09:55.040
  • IT JUST FEELS BETTER, ANYWAYS.
  • 00:09:55.040 --> 00:09:56.190
  • NO, DON'T DO THAT,
  • 00:09:56.190 --> 00:09:57.100
  • DON'T ENCOURAGE THAT BEHAVIOR.
  • 00:09:59.130 --> 00:10:02.130
  • AND SO, IT'S A NATURAL LAW
  • 00:10:02.130 --> 00:10:05.060
  • THAT YOU KNOW LIKE
  • 00:10:05.060 --> 00:10:06.040
  • IF YOU EVER PLANTED ANYTHING
  • 00:10:06.040 --> 00:10:07.110
  • THAT IF YOU SOW SOMETHING
  • 00:10:07.110 --> 00:10:08.150
  • THAT'S WHAT YOU ARE GONNA GET.
  • 00:10:08.150 --> 00:10:09.110
  • IF YOU SOW FOR OKRA,
  • 00:10:09.110 --> 00:10:10.080
  • YOU'RE GONNA GET OKRA,
  • 00:10:10.080 --> 00:10:11.050
  • COME ON SOMEBODY,
  • 00:10:11.050 --> 00:10:12.110
  • I DON'T LIKE THE SLIMY STUFF.
  • 00:10:12.110 --> 00:10:13.140
  • IF YOU SOW COLLARD GREENS,
  • 00:10:13.140 --> 00:10:14.190
  • YOU'RE GONNA GET COLLARD GREENS.
  • 00:10:14.190 --> 00:10:15.200
  • LIKE WHATEVER YOU SO --
  • 00:10:15.200 --> 00:10:16.240
  • YOU DON'T WAKE UP
  • 00:10:16.240 --> 00:10:17.110
  • ONE MORNING AND GO,
  • 00:10:17.110 --> 00:10:18.130
  • "OH MY GOODNESS I SOWED OKRA,
  • 00:10:18.130 --> 00:10:19.250
  • BUT I EXPECTED CORN,"
  • 00:10:19.250 --> 00:10:21.260
  • NOBODY DOES THAT
  • 00:10:21.260 --> 00:10:23.090
  • BECAUSE YOU UNDERSTAND
  • 00:10:23.090 --> 00:10:24.020
  • THE NATURAL LAW
  • 00:10:24.020 --> 00:10:24.250
  • AND THE SAME IS TRUE
  • 00:10:24.250 --> 00:10:25.270
  • IN THE SPIRIT.
  • 00:10:25.270 --> 00:10:26.170
  • THE BIBLE SAYS,
  • 00:10:26.170 --> 00:10:27.060
  • "IF YOU REAP," --
  • 00:10:27.060 --> 00:10:28.020
  • "IF YOU SOW TO THE REN
  • 00:10:28.020 --> 00:10:29.050
  • YOU REAP A WHIRLWIND,
  • 00:10:29.060 --> 00:10:32.060
  • BUT IF YOU SOW TO THE SPIRIT
  • 00:10:32.060 --> 00:10:33.050
  • YOU REAP LIFE."
  • 00:10:33.050 --> 00:10:35.170
  • AND, SO, IT'S NOT THAT
  • 00:10:35.170 --> 00:10:36.060
  • GOD IS OUT TO GET YOU
  • 00:10:36.060 --> 00:10:37.050
  • OR GOD'S AGAINST YOU,
  • 00:10:37.050 --> 00:10:38.070
  • YOU'RE JUST EXPERIENCING
  • 00:10:38.070 --> 00:10:39.230
  • THE SPIRITUAL LAW
  • 00:10:39.230 --> 00:10:40.280
  • OF SOWING AND REAPING.
  • 00:10:40.280 --> 00:10:42.200
  • AND, SO, SOME OF US
  • 00:10:42.200 --> 00:10:43.130
  • NEVER SET BOUNDARIES
  • 00:10:43.130 --> 00:10:44.140
  • IN OUR LIFE,
  • 00:10:44.140 --> 00:10:45.040
  • HOLD THE THOUGHT
  • 00:10:45.040 --> 00:10:46.000
  • FOR A MINUTE,
  • 00:10:46.000 --> 00:10:46.190
  • SOME OF US NEVER SET
  • 00:10:46.190 --> 00:10:47.140
  • HEALTHY BOUNDARIES IN OUR LIFE
  • 00:10:47.140 --> 00:10:49.000
  • BECAUSE WE WANNA SWOOP IN
  • 00:10:49.000 --> 00:10:50.180
  • AND RESCUE PEOPLE
  • 00:10:50.180 --> 00:10:51.190
  • FROM REAPING WHAT THEY SOW.
  • 00:10:52.050 --> 00:10:55.050
  • NOW, AS A CHILD,
  • 00:10:55.050 --> 00:10:56.120
  • A LITTLE CHILD,
  • 00:10:56.120 --> 00:10:57.050
  • THAT IS UNDERSTANDABLE,
  • 00:10:57.050 --> 00:10:58.030
  • AS A PARENT TO WANNA --
  • 00:10:58.030 --> 00:11:00.080
  • IF THEIR CHILD IS ABOUT
  • 00:11:00.080 --> 00:11:01.270
  • TO HIT OR IF THEY KNOCK OVER
  • 00:11:01.270 --> 00:11:03.000
  • SOMETHING THAT'S HOT,
  • 00:11:03.000 --> 00:11:03.240
  • WE WANNA RESCUE THEM OUT OF THAT
  • 00:11:03.240 --> 00:11:05.190
  • SO THAT THE HOT WATER
  • 00:11:05.190 --> 00:11:06.140
  • DOESN'T HIT THEM AND BURN
  • 00:11:06.140 --> 00:11:08.020
  • BECAUSE WE UNDERSTAND THAT
  • 00:11:08.020 --> 00:11:09.110
  • THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND
  • 00:11:09.110 --> 00:11:10.050
  • WHAT THEY WERE SOWING,
  • 00:11:10.050 --> 00:11:11.100
  • THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND
  • 00:11:11.100 --> 00:11:12.010
  • THE CONSEQUENCES
  • 00:11:12.010 --> 00:11:12.150
  • OF THEIR DECISIONS,
  • 00:11:12.150 --> 00:11:13.230
  • AND SO WE DO SWOOP IN
  • 00:11:13.230 --> 00:11:14.220
  • AND RESCUE THEM,
  • 00:11:14.220 --> 00:11:15.140
  • ARE YOU FOLLOWING ME SO FAR?
  • 00:11:15.140 --> 00:11:16.290
  • HOWEVER, WHEN THEY ARE
  • 00:11:16.290 --> 00:11:17.280
  • 30 YEARS OLD, I TOLD YOU,
  • 00:11:19.110 --> 00:11:22.110
  • I'M COMING INTO YOUR HOUSE NOW,
  • 00:11:22.110 --> 00:11:24.160
  • IF WE ARE STILL SWOOPING IN
  • 00:11:24.160 --> 00:11:26.120
  • AND RESCUING THEM
  • 00:11:26.120 --> 00:11:27.170
  • FROM THE DECISIONS THEY MADE,
  • 00:11:27.170 --> 00:11:29.020
  • FROM THE THINGS THEY ARE SOWING,
  • 00:11:29.020 --> 00:11:30.140
  • INSTEAD OF SETTING
  • 00:11:30.140 --> 00:11:31.030
  • A BOUNDARY AND SAYING,
  • 00:11:31.030 --> 00:11:32.100
  • I DON'T OWN
  • 00:11:32.100 --> 00:11:33.000
  • YOUR LIFE ANY LONGER,
  • 00:11:33.000 --> 00:11:34.210
  • I HAVE NOW RELEASED YOU,
  • 00:11:34.210 --> 00:11:36.130
  • I KNOW WHERE I END
  • 00:11:36.130 --> 00:11:37.270
  • AND WHERE YOU BEGIN
  • 00:11:37.270 --> 00:11:39.110
  • THEN I WILL NO LONGER
  • 00:11:39.110 --> 00:11:40.120
  • SWOOP IN AND RESCUE
  • 00:11:40.120 --> 00:11:42.150
  • FROM WHAT YOU HAVE SOWED.
  • 00:11:42.150 --> 00:11:44.160
  • BECAUSE HERE'S THE DEAL,
  • 00:11:44.160 --> 00:11:45.180
  • HERE'S HOW IT INJURES THEM,
  • 00:11:45.180 --> 00:11:47.120
  • WHEN WE SWOOP IN
  • 00:11:47.120 --> 00:11:48.120
  • AND RESCUE PEOPLE
  • 00:11:48.120 --> 00:11:49.100
  • FROM WHAT THEY HAVE SOWED
  • 00:11:49.100 --> 00:11:50.240
  • WE HAVE NEVER ALLOWED THEM
  • 00:11:50.240 --> 00:11:51.290
  • TO LEARN THE LESSON OF REAPING
  • 00:11:51.290 --> 00:11:54.010
  • FROM THE DECISION THEY MADE,
  • 00:11:54.010 --> 00:11:55.130
  • THEREFORE WE WONDER
  • 00:11:55.130 --> 00:11:56.240
  • WHY DO THEY KEEP
  • 00:11:56.240 --> 00:11:57.160
  • MAKING THE SAME DECISION
  • 00:11:57.160 --> 00:11:58.270
  • OVER AND OVER AND OVER?
  • 00:11:58.270 --> 00:11:59.290
  • BECAUSE THEY HAVE NEVER FELT
  • 00:11:59.290 --> 00:12:01.170
  • THE STING OF REAPING
  • 00:12:04.240 --> 00:12:07.240
  • FROM THE DECISION
  • 00:12:07.240 --> 00:12:08.100
  • THEY MADE THEY SOWED.
  • 00:12:08.100 --> 00:12:10.210
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:12:11.120 --> 00:12:14.120
  • "BUT THAT'S MY BABY BOY."
  • 00:12:14.200 --> 00:12:17.200
  • WELL, MOM, HOW ABOUT
  • 00:12:17.200 --> 00:12:18.210
  • HELP HIM BECOME A MAN?
  • 00:12:18.210 --> 00:12:20.250
  • STOP KEEP RELOADING
  • 00:12:20.250 --> 00:12:22.180
  • I GOT NOTHING AGAINST XBOX,
  • 00:12:32.170 --> 00:12:33.260
  • MY 12-YEAR-OLD HAS ONE,
  • 00:12:33.260 --> 00:12:34.290
  • I'LL KEEP GOING.
  • 00:12:40.110 --> 00:12:43.110
  • NUMBER TWO,
  • 00:12:46.250 --> 00:12:49.250
  • WE DON'T SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES
  • 00:12:49.250 --> 00:12:50.290
  • BECAUSE OF THE WHAT-IF QUESTION.
  • 00:12:50.290 --> 00:12:53.130
  • WELL, WHAT IF THEY REJECT ME?
  • 00:12:53.130 --> 00:12:56.040
  • WHAT IF THEY'RE MAD AT ME?
  • 00:12:56.040 --> 00:12:58.060
  • WHAT IF I HAVE THAT
  • 00:12:58.060 --> 00:12:58.250
  • CONVERSATION AND SAY,
  • 00:12:58.250 --> 00:13:00.090
  • HEY, I DON'T EVEN KNOW
  • 00:13:00.090 --> 00:13:01.080
  • IF YOU KNOW THIS,
  • 00:13:01.080 --> 00:13:02.180
  • BUT THAT BEHAVIOR AND I JUST -
  • 00:13:02.180 --> 00:13:05.050
  • I WANT YOU,
  • 00:13:05.050 --> 00:13:05.250
  • BUT THAT BEHAVIOR'S GOTTA
  • 00:13:05.250 --> 00:13:06.230
  • STAY IN THE GARAGE BECAUSE
  • 00:13:07.000 --> 00:13:10.000
  • I DON'T LET THAT --
  • 00:13:10.000 --> 00:13:10.250
  • WHAT IF THEY GET UPSET,
  • 00:13:10.250 --> 00:13:12.170
  • WHAT IF WHAT IF?
  • 00:13:12.170 --> 00:13:14.100
  • HERE'S WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS
  • 00:13:14.100 --> 00:13:15.280
  • IN PROVERBS IT SAYS,
  • 00:13:15.280 --> 00:13:16.260
  • "THE FEAR OF MAN
  • 00:13:16.260 --> 00:13:18.130
  • WILL PROVE TO BE A SNARE,
  • 00:13:18.130 --> 00:13:20.130
  • BUT WHOEVER TRUSTS
  • 00:13:20.130 --> 00:13:21.060
  • IN THE LORD IS KEPT SAFE."
  • 00:13:21.060 --> 00:13:22.210
  • FOR SOME OF US,
  • 00:13:22.210 --> 00:13:23.080
  • WE DON'T SET
  • 00:13:23.080 --> 00:13:23.220
  • HEALTHY BOUNDARIES
  • 00:13:23.220 --> 00:13:24.080
  • BECAUSE WE HAVE A FEAR OF MAN.
  • 00:13:24.080 --> 00:13:26.230
  • NOT A FEAR OF MAN LIKE
  • 00:13:26.230 --> 00:13:28.110
  • I'M AFRAID OF HIM, YOU KNOW,
  • 00:13:28.110 --> 00:13:29.210
  • BECAUSE SOME PEOPLE, MAYBE GUYS,
  • 00:13:29.210 --> 00:13:31.260
  • WE WOULD BE MORE PRONE
  • 00:13:31.260 --> 00:13:32.270
  • TO BE LIKE,
  • 00:13:32.270 --> 00:13:33.100
  • I AIN'T AFRAID OF NO MAN,
  • 00:13:33.100 --> 00:13:36.000
  • BUT I WOULD CHALLENGE YOU
  • 00:13:36.000 --> 00:13:36.210
  • ON THIS THOUGHT BECAUSE
  • 00:13:36.210 --> 00:13:37.120
  • SOME OF YOU HAVE PEOPLE
  • 00:13:37.120 --> 00:13:38.140
  • IN YOUR LIFE THAT
  • 00:13:38.140 --> 00:13:39.040
  • WHEN THE CALLER ID
  • 00:13:39.040 --> 00:13:39.270
  • POPS UP WITH THEIR NAME,
  • 00:13:39.270 --> 00:13:41.070
  • YOU DON'T WANT TO ANSWER IT,
  • 00:13:41.070 --> 00:13:42.060
  • BUT YOU ANSWER IT ANYWAY
  • 00:13:42.060 --> 00:13:43.080
  • BECAUSE YOU'RE AFRAID
  • 00:13:43.080 --> 00:13:43.230
  • OF WHAT YOU'LL GET AFTERWARDS.
  • 00:13:43.230 --> 00:13:45.240
  • YOU'RE AFRAID OF
  • 00:13:45.240 --> 00:13:46.120
  • THE EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION
  • 00:13:46.120 --> 00:13:47.270
  • THAT WILL COME ABOUT AFTERWARDS.
  • 00:13:47.270 --> 00:13:49.200
  • YOU'RE AFRAID OF --
  • 00:13:49.200 --> 00:13:51.080
  • ARE YOU FOLLOWING ME?
  • 00:13:51.080 --> 00:13:53.060
  • YOU'RE AFRAID OF
  • 00:13:53.060 --> 00:13:53.230
  • THE EMOTIONAL ONSLAUGHT
  • 00:13:53.230 --> 00:13:56.090
  • OR YOU'RE AFRAID OF
  • 00:13:56.090 --> 00:13:57.230
  • THE EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION
  • 00:13:57.230 --> 00:13:59.170
  • THAT WILL COME AS A RESULT
  • 00:13:59.170 --> 00:14:00.280
  • OF YOU NOT DOING IT.
  • 00:14:00.280 --> 00:14:01.270
  • AND, SO, IT'S FEAR OF MAN,
  • 00:14:02.270 --> 00:14:05.270
  • IT'S FEAR OF MAN.
  • 00:14:05.270 --> 00:14:06.180
  • IT'S WHEN YOU HAVE
  • 00:14:06.180 --> 00:14:08.030
  • SOMEONE IN YOUR LIFE
  • 00:14:08.030 --> 00:14:08.290
  • YOU CAN'T SAY NO TO.
  • 00:14:12.080 --> 00:14:15.080
  • IT'S ALRIGHT,
  • 00:14:15.080 --> 00:14:15.210
  • Y'ALL DON'T HAVE TO AMEN,
  • 00:14:15.210 --> 00:14:17.100
  • I'M HELPING YOU.
  • 00:14:17.100 --> 00:14:19.020
  • AND SO, WE LIVE WITH THIS
  • 00:14:19.020 --> 00:14:19.260
  • WHAT IF INSTEAD OF GOING,
  • 00:14:19.260 --> 00:14:22.070
  • NO, HEY, I LOVE YOU,
  • 00:14:22.070 --> 00:14:24.270
  • BUT I KNOW WHERE I END
  • 00:14:24.270 --> 00:14:26.210
  • AND WHERE YOU BEGIN
  • 00:14:26.210 --> 00:14:28.120
  • AND IF YOU WANNA COME IN
  • 00:14:28.120 --> 00:14:29.090
  • TO MY PROPERTY,
  • 00:14:29.090 --> 00:14:31.220
  • YOU'RE NOT BRINGING
  • 00:14:31.220 --> 00:14:32.290
  • THOSE OUTBURSTS OF ANGER
  • 00:14:32.290 --> 00:14:34.010
  • AROUND MY KIDS.
  • 00:14:35.280 --> 00:14:38.280
  • ARE Y'ALL WITH ME?
  • 00:14:40.170 --> 00:14:43.170
  • I'M NOT REJECTING YOU,
  • 00:14:43.170 --> 00:14:45.050
  • JUST THAT BEHAVIOR
  • 00:14:45.050 --> 00:14:46.280
  • DOESN'T PLAY WELL
  • 00:14:46.280 --> 00:14:47.240
  • IN MY PLAYGROUND.
  • 00:14:47.240 --> 00:14:49.260
  • ARE Y'ALL WITH ME?
  • 00:14:49.260 --> 00:14:51.200
  • BECAUSE I'VE GOTTA
  • 00:14:51.200 --> 00:14:52.050
  • STAY HEALTHY, WHY?
  • 00:14:52.050 --> 00:14:53.190
  • NOT BECAUSE LIFE
  • 00:14:53.190 --> 00:14:54.070
  • IS ABOUT ME,
  • 00:14:54.070 --> 00:14:55.140
  • BUT BECAUSE I WANNA BE
  • 00:14:55.140 --> 00:14:57.100
  • A HEALTHY ME
  • 00:14:57.100 --> 00:14:58.070
  • AND ALL THE RELATIONSHIPS
  • 00:14:58.070 --> 00:14:59.160
  • SURROUNDING ME.
  • 00:14:59.160 --> 00:15:01.020
  • I WANNA BRING A HEALTHY ME
  • 00:15:01.020 --> 00:15:02.080
  • TO SERVE YOU.
  • 00:15:02.080 --> 00:15:03.070
  • I WANNA BRING A HEALTHY ME
  • 00:15:03.070 --> 00:15:04.170
  • TO MY WIFE,
  • 00:15:04.170 --> 00:15:05.070
  • I WANNA BRING A HEALTHY ME
  • 00:15:05.070 --> 00:15:06.100
  • TO MY PARENTING,
  • 00:15:06.100 --> 00:15:09.000
  • AND I'VE GOTTA GUARD MY HEART
  • 00:15:09.140 --> 00:15:12.140
  • BECAUSE IF I LEFT THAT IN
  • 00:15:12.140 --> 00:15:13.260
  • EVENTUALLY THAT WILL BEGIN
  • 00:15:13.260 --> 00:15:15.010
  • TO COME OUT OF ME
  • 00:15:15.010 --> 00:15:17.030
  • AND I CAN'T LET THAT HAPPEN.
  • 00:15:17.030 --> 00:15:18.050
  • ARE Y'ALL WITH ME SO FAR?
  • 00:15:18.050 --> 00:15:19.010
  • SAY AMEN.
  • 00:15:19.010 --> 00:15:19.240
  • ALRIGHT, NUMBER THREE IS
  • 00:15:19.240 --> 00:15:22.020
  • A MISUNDERSTANDING OF THIS,
  • 00:15:22.020 --> 00:15:23.070
  • OF HURT VERSUS HARM,
  • 00:15:23.070 --> 00:15:25.050
  • OF HURT VERSUS HARM.
  • 00:15:25.050 --> 00:15:26.070
  • LOOK AT WHAT THE SCRIPTURE SAYS.
  • 00:15:26.070 --> 00:15:27.210
  • IT SAYS, "THE WOUNDS
  • 00:15:27.210 --> 00:15:28.190
  • FROM A FRIEND CAN BE TRUSTED,
  • 00:15:28.190 --> 00:15:30.250
  • BUT AN ENEMY MULTIPLIES KISSES."
  • 00:15:30.250 --> 00:15:33.180
  • IN OTHER WORDS,
  • 00:15:33.180 --> 00:15:34.100
  • SOLOMON IS SAYING,
  • 00:15:34.100 --> 00:15:35.010
  • BE CAREFUL OF THE PEOPLE
  • 00:15:35.010 --> 00:15:36.030
  • WHO ALL THEY DO IS FLATTER YOU.
  • 00:15:36.260 --> 00:15:39.260
  • BE CAREFUL OF THAT,
  • 00:15:39.260 --> 00:15:41.200
  • BE CAREFUL OF THE PEOPLE
  • 00:15:41.200 --> 00:15:42.110
  • THAT ALL THEY EVER DO
  • 00:15:42.110 --> 00:15:43.090
  • IS PAT YOU ON THE BACK.
  • 00:15:43.090 --> 00:15:44.120
  • THEY ARE NOT FOR YOU;
  • 00:15:44.120 --> 00:15:46.210
  • THEY ARE NOT FOR YOU.
  • 00:15:46.210 --> 00:15:48.100
  • THE WOUNDS OF A FRIEND.
  • 00:15:48.100 --> 00:15:50.000
  • SO, THE INSINUATION SOLOMON
  • 00:15:50.000 --> 00:15:51.090
  • IS MAKING HERE IS THAT
  • 00:15:51.090 --> 00:15:52.210
  • AT SOME POINT IN YOUR LIFE
  • 00:15:52.210 --> 00:15:54.000
  • A FRIEND, IF THEY'RE
  • 00:15:54.000 --> 00:15:54.240
  • REALLY A FRIEND,
  • 00:15:54.240 --> 00:15:56.000
  • WILL WOUND YOU.
  • 00:15:56.000 --> 00:15:58.200
  • AND SOME OF YOU ARE THINKING
  • 00:15:58.200 --> 00:15:59.120
  • THIS SOUNDS COUNTERINTUITIVE
  • 00:15:59.120 --> 00:16:00.230
  • BECAUSE I JUST WANT FRIENDS
  • 00:16:00.230 --> 00:16:02.000
  • THAT LOVE ME, ENCOURAGES ME,
  • 00:16:02.000 --> 00:16:04.010
  • SUPPORTS ME.
  • 00:16:04.010 --> 00:16:05.060
  • YEAH, BUT IF YOU HAVE
  • 00:16:05.060 --> 00:16:05.240
  • A REAL FRIEND AT SOME POINT
  • 00:16:05.240 --> 00:16:07.130
  • THEY'RE GONNA LOVE YOU
  • 00:16:07.130 --> 00:16:08.030
  • ENOUGH TO GO,
  • 00:16:08.030 --> 00:16:10.070
  • I DON'T KNOW
  • 00:16:10.070 --> 00:16:10.180
  • IF YOU KNOW YOU DO THIS,
  • 00:16:10.180 --> 00:16:12.160
  • I DON'T KNOW
  • 00:16:12.160 --> 00:16:12.290
  • IF YOU SEE THIS
  • 00:16:12.290 --> 00:16:13.220
  • IN YOUR LIFE,
  • 00:16:13.220 --> 00:16:15.110
  • BECAUSE A REAL FRIEND
  • 00:16:15.110 --> 00:16:16.060
  • WILL GO,
  • 00:16:16.060 --> 00:16:17.050
  • THAT ARROGANCE IN YOUR LIFE
  • 00:16:17.050 --> 00:16:18.210
  • COULD COST YOU YOUR JOB
  • 00:16:18.210 --> 00:16:21.140
  • AND I WON'T LET
  • 00:16:21.140 --> 00:16:22.000
  • THAT HAPPEN TO YOU.
  • 00:16:22.000 --> 00:16:24.190
  • A REAL FRIEND WILL GO,
  • 00:16:24.190 --> 00:16:26.060
  • THAT FLIRTATIOUS SPIRIT YOU HAVE
  • 00:16:26.060 --> 00:16:28.130
  • COULD HURT YOUR MARRIAGE
  • 00:16:28.130 --> 00:16:30.090
  • AND I WON'T LET YOU TO THAT.
  • 00:16:30.090 --> 00:16:33.000
  • A REAL FRIEND,
  • 00:16:33.000 --> 00:16:34.290
  • A REAL FRIEND WILL GO,
  • 00:16:34.290 --> 00:16:35.270
  • THAT ADDICTION THAT YOU HAVE
  • 00:16:35.270 --> 00:16:37.290
  • IS GONNA DESTROY YOUR LIFE
  • 00:16:37.290 --> 00:16:40.240
  • AND I'M GONNA COME
  • 00:16:40.240 --> 00:16:41.180
  • HELL OR HIGH WATER
  • 00:16:41.180 --> 00:16:43.000
  • HELP YOU GET OVER THAT THING,
  • 00:16:43.000 --> 00:16:44.280
  • IT MAY HURT FOR A MINUTE,
  • 00:16:44.280 --> 00:16:46.180
  • BUT THE WOUND OF A FRIEND
  • 00:16:46.180 --> 00:16:48.100
  • CAN BE TRUSTED.
  • 00:16:48.100 --> 00:16:49.260
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:16:49.260 --> 00:16:50.160
  • BUT WE HAVE A MISUNDERSTANDING
  • 00:16:50.160 --> 00:16:52.010
  • BETWEEN HURT AND HARM.
  • 00:16:52.010 --> 00:16:53.220
  • NOW, WHEN I GO TO THE DENTIST,
  • 00:16:53.220 --> 00:16:56.030
  • I'LL BE CAREFUL
  • 00:16:56.030 --> 00:16:56.160
  • WITH THIS ILLUSTRATION,
  • 00:16:56.160 --> 00:16:57.040
  • MY DENTIST GOES TO
  • 00:16:57.040 --> 00:16:57.190
  • THE CHURCH, WHOM I LOVE,
  • 00:16:59.160 --> 00:17:02.180
  • WHEN I GO TO THE DENTIST
  • 00:17:02.180 --> 00:17:03.190
  • SOMETIMES WHAT THEY'RE DOING
  • 00:17:03.190 --> 00:17:05.080
  • ON MY MOUTH
  • 00:17:05.080 --> 00:17:06.140
  • IS A BIT UNCOMFORTABLE.
  • 00:17:06.140 --> 00:17:08.130
  • WE CAN EVEN SAY IT HURTS,
  • 00:17:08.130 --> 00:17:10.190
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:17:10.190 --> 00:17:12.230
  • HOWEVER, IF I WASN'T
  • 00:17:12.230 --> 00:17:14.160
  • WILLING TO GO IN,
  • 00:17:14.160 --> 00:17:15.150
  • IF I LIVE, LET ME SAY THIS,
  • 00:17:15.150 --> 00:17:16.260
  • IF I LIVED IN A PLACE
  • 00:17:16.260 --> 00:17:17.230
  • OF SUPERFICIAL
  • 00:17:17.230 --> 00:17:18.290
  • OR ARTIFICIAL HARMONY
  • 00:17:19.090 --> 00:17:22.090
  • WHERE EVERYTHING IS FINE,
  • 00:17:22.090 --> 00:17:23.130
  • NO, EVERYTHING'S GOOD,
  • 00:17:23.130 --> 00:17:24.130
  • MY MOUTH IS GOOD,
  • 00:17:24.130 --> 00:17:25.030
  • MY TEETH GOOD, I MEAN,
  • 00:17:25.030 --> 00:17:26.020
  • THEY'RE TURNING BLACK,
  • 00:17:26.020 --> 00:17:26.220
  • BUT EVERYTHING'S GREAT.
  • 00:17:27.130 --> 00:17:30.130
  • LET'S SAY I WERE
  • 00:17:30.130 --> 00:17:31.000
  • TO LIVE THAT WAY
  • 00:17:31.000 --> 00:17:32.060
  • AND I WERE UNWILLING
  • 00:17:32.060 --> 00:17:33.020
  • TO GO THROUGH THE PAIN
  • 00:17:33.020 --> 00:17:34.050
  • OR THE DISCOMFORT OF
  • 00:17:34.050 --> 00:17:35.060
  • SEEING THE DENTIST ABOUT IT,
  • 00:17:35.060 --> 00:17:37.110
  • THEN I WOULD NEVER GET
  • 00:17:37.110 --> 00:17:38.120
  • TO A PLACE OF HEALING.
  • 00:17:38.120 --> 00:17:40.230
  • SO, IT'S ACTUALLY THE HURT
  • 00:17:40.230 --> 00:17:43.210
  • THAT IS HELPFUL
  • 00:17:43.210 --> 00:17:45.100
  • IN THE PROCESS OF HEALING.
  • 00:17:45.100 --> 00:17:47.200
  • BUT IF I REJECT THE HURT,
  • 00:17:47.200 --> 00:17:49.220
  • I NEVER GET HEALING.
  • 00:17:49.220 --> 00:17:51.080
  • SO, IF I NEVER SET
  • 00:17:51.080 --> 00:17:52.000
  • BOUNDARIES IN MY LIFE
  • 00:17:52.000 --> 00:17:53.160
  • THAT COULD CAUSE HURT
  • 00:17:53.160 --> 00:17:54.240
  • TO SOMEBODY ELSE,
  • 00:17:54.240 --> 00:17:55.210
  • YES, THEY MAY,
  • 00:17:55.210 --> 00:17:56.240
  • BUT THAT HURT MAY BE
  • 00:17:56.240 --> 00:17:58.100
  • THE VERY THING
  • 00:17:58.100 --> 00:17:59.040
  • THAT HELPS THEM
  • 00:17:59.040 --> 00:18:00.120
  • TO GET TO A PLACE OF
  • 00:18:00.120 --> 00:18:01.150
  • HEALING IN THEIR LIFE.
  • 00:18:01.150 --> 00:18:03.010
  • ARE YOU FOLLOWING ME?
  • 00:18:03.010 --> 00:18:04.190
  • THIS IS WHY I SAY
  • 00:18:04.190 --> 00:18:05.070
  • THERE'S A DIFFERENCE
  • 00:18:05.070 --> 00:18:05.250
  • BETWEEN HARM AND HURT.
  • 00:18:05.250 --> 00:18:08.110
  • HARM I HAVE NEVER EXPERIENCED
  • 00:18:08.110 --> 00:18:10.070
  • AT THE DENTIST.
  • 00:18:10.070 --> 00:18:12.050
  • THEY HAVE NEVER HARMED ME
  • 00:18:12.050 --> 00:18:13.150
  • ALTHOUGH I HAVE FELT
  • 00:18:13.150 --> 00:18:14.200
  • DISCOMFORT THERE.
  • 00:18:14.200 --> 00:18:16.120
  • ARE YOU FOLLOWING ME?
  • 00:18:16.120 --> 00:18:17.200
  • I HAVE FELT DISCOMFORT
  • 00:18:17.200 --> 00:18:19.010
  • IN DIFFERENT AREA, OTHER PLACES,
  • 00:18:19.010 --> 00:18:21.000
  • BUT THE DOCTORS
  • 00:18:21.000 --> 00:18:21.270
  • HAVE NEVER HARMED ME,
  • 00:18:21.270 --> 00:18:23.170
  • THE LITTLE BIT OF HURT
  • 00:18:23.170 --> 00:18:24.160
  • I WENT THROUGH WAS
  • 00:18:24.160 --> 00:18:25.080
  • FOR A MOMENTARY MOMENT
  • 00:18:25.080 --> 00:18:26.280
  • SO THAT I COULD GET TO A PLACE
  • 00:18:26.280 --> 00:18:28.100
  • OF HEALING IN MY LIFE.
  • 00:18:28.100 --> 00:18:29.240
  • AND SOME OF US
  • 00:18:29.240 --> 00:18:30.130
  • ARE AFRAID TO SET BOUNDARIES
  • 00:18:30.130 --> 00:18:31.130
  • BECAUSE WE'RE LIKE,
  • 00:18:31.130 --> 00:18:31.280
  • OH, WE DON'T WANNA HURT THEM,
  • 00:18:31.280 --> 00:18:33.020
  • BUT THE HURT MAY BE
  • 00:18:33.020 --> 00:18:34.050
  • THE VERY THING
  • 00:18:34.050 --> 00:18:35.040
  • THAT PRODUCES HEALING
  • 00:18:35.080 --> 00:18:38.080
  • AND THERE'S A DIFFERENCE
  • 00:18:38.080 --> 00:18:38.240
  • BETWEEN THAT AND HARMING THEM.
  • 00:18:38.240 --> 00:18:40.140
  • YOU'RE NOT HARM ANYBODY,
  • 00:18:40.140 --> 00:18:42.120
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:18:42.120 --> 00:18:44.180
  • CAN I TELL YOU AS ONE
  • 00:18:44.180 --> 00:18:47.020
  • WHO HAS SAT ON THE SIDE --
  • 00:18:47.020 --> 00:18:48.040
  • OTHER SIDE OF THE TABLE
  • 00:18:48.040 --> 00:18:49.120
  • WHERE SOMEONE HAS SAT DOWN
  • 00:18:49.120 --> 00:18:50.090
  • WITH ME IN COLLEGE,
  • 00:18:50.090 --> 00:18:51.040
  • A PROFESSOR WHO LOVED ME ENOUGH,
  • 00:18:51.040 --> 00:18:53.130
  • THE WOUND OF A FRIEND
  • 00:18:53.130 --> 00:18:54.290
  • AND SAID, "DANIEL,
  • 00:18:54.290 --> 00:18:55.220
  • GOD'S CALL IS ON YOUR LIFE,
  • 00:18:55.220 --> 00:18:56.290
  • THE HAND OF GOD
  • 00:18:56.290 --> 00:18:57.170
  • IS ON YOUR LIFE,
  • 00:18:57.170 --> 00:18:58.070
  • HE'S GONNA DO GREAT
  • 00:18:58.070 --> 00:18:58.240
  • THINGS IN YOUR LIFE,
  • 00:18:58.240 --> 00:18:59.260
  • BUT THERE IS ONE THING THAT
  • 00:18:59.260 --> 00:19:00.260
  • WILL KEEP THAT FROM HAPPENING
  • 00:19:00.260 --> 00:19:02.000
  • AND IT'S THAT
  • 00:19:02.000 --> 00:19:02.200
  • YOU ARE SO ARROGANT."
  • 00:19:02.270 --> 00:19:05.270
  • DO YOU THINK
  • 00:19:05.270 --> 00:19:06.100
  • THAT FELT WONDERFUL?
  • 00:19:06.100 --> 00:19:07.200
  • DO YOU THINK I WAS LIKE,
  • 00:19:07.200 --> 00:19:08.200
  • WELL, THANK YOU,
  • 00:19:08.200 --> 00:19:11.070
  • THAT FELT AMAZING?
  • 00:19:11.070 --> 00:19:13.090
  • IF HE DIDN'T CARE ABOUT ME
  • 00:19:13.090 --> 00:19:14.020
  • ENOUGH IN THAT MOMENT
  • 00:19:14.020 --> 00:19:15.070
  • TO HURT ME A LITTLE
  • 00:19:15.070 --> 00:19:17.140
  • SO THAT I COULD
  • 00:19:17.140 --> 00:19:17.290
  • GET TO HEALING A LOT
  • 00:19:17.290 --> 00:19:19.250
  • FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE
  • 00:19:19.250 --> 00:19:21.000
  • I WOULDN'T BE DOING
  • 00:19:21.000 --> 00:19:21.290
  • WHAT I'M DOING NOW
  • 00:19:21.290 --> 00:19:23.070
  • BECAUSE NO ONE WANTS
  • 00:19:23.070 --> 00:19:24.070
  • AN ARROGANT PASTOR,
  • 00:19:25.080 --> 00:19:28.080
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:19:28.140 --> 00:19:31.140
  • AND SO, DON'T LET
  • 00:19:31.140 --> 00:19:32.040
  • THE THOUGHT THAT
  • 00:19:32.040 --> 00:19:32.220
  • YOU MAY HURT THEM,
  • 00:19:32.220 --> 00:19:33.140
  • KEEP YOU FROM
  • 00:19:33.140 --> 00:19:33.290
  • SETTING BOUNDARIES.
  • 00:19:33.290 --> 00:19:34.210
  • THAT HURT MIGHT BE
  • 00:19:34.210 --> 00:19:35.110
  • THE VERY THING
  • 00:19:35.110 --> 00:19:36.020
  • THAT LEADS THEM TO HEALING.
  • 00:19:36.020 --> 00:19:38.130
  • WILL IT BE HARD?
  • 00:19:38.130 --> 00:19:39.100
  • SURE, IT WILL BE HARD,
  • 00:19:39.100 --> 00:19:40.120
  • WILL IT BE HARD
  • 00:19:40.120 --> 00:19:40.280
  • FOR THEM TO HEAR IT?
  • 00:19:40.280 --> 00:19:41.170
  • SURE, IT'LL BE HARD
  • 00:19:41.170 --> 00:19:42.060
  • FOR THEM TO HEAR.
  • 00:19:42.060 --> 00:19:44.260
  • BUT YOU MAY HOLD
  • 00:19:44.260 --> 00:19:45.170
  • THE KEY TO THEIR HEALING,
  • 00:19:45.170 --> 00:19:48.060
  • YOU MAY HOLD THE KEY
  • 00:19:48.060 --> 00:19:48.260
  • TO THEIR HEALING
  • 00:19:48.260 --> 00:19:49.260
  • AND GOD MAY HAVE PUT YOU
  • 00:19:49.260 --> 00:19:50.180
  • IN THEIR LIFE TO BE THE ONE
  • 00:19:50.180 --> 00:19:52.020
  • THAT WOULD FINALLY HAVE
  • 00:19:52.020 --> 00:19:52.210
  • THE CONVERSATION TO SAY,
  • 00:19:52.210 --> 00:19:54.080
  • THIS IS GONNA LEAD
  • 00:19:54.080 --> 00:19:54.290
  • YOU DOWN A BAD PATH
  • 00:19:54.290 --> 00:19:56.050
  • AND BECAUSE I LOVE HIM ENOUGH
  • 00:19:56.050 --> 00:19:57.090
  • I'M WILLING TO SAY
  • 00:19:57.090 --> 00:19:58.060
  • I'LL GET IN THE GARAGE WITH YOU
  • 00:19:58.060 --> 00:19:59.120
  • AND CLEAN IT OFF OF YOU
  • 00:19:59.120 --> 00:20:00.240
  • AND HELP YOU IN ANY WAY WE CAN,
  • 00:20:00.240 --> 00:20:02.030
  • BUT YOU'RE NOT BRINGING THAT
  • 00:20:02.030 --> 00:20:03.040
  • INTO MY HOUSE.
  • 00:20:03.240 --> 00:20:06.240
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:20:06.240 --> 00:20:07.240
  • AMEN?
  • 00:20:07.240 --> 00:20:08.250
  • ALRIGHT.
  • 00:20:08.250 --> 00:20:11.180
  • NUMBER ONE,
  • 00:20:11.180 --> 00:20:12.240
  • SOME BOUNDARIES I THINK
  • 00:20:12.240 --> 00:20:13.160
  • Y'ALL JUST SAID
  • 00:20:13.160 --> 00:20:14.030
  • IS THE BOUNDARY OF CONTROL,
  • 00:20:15.280 --> 00:20:18.280
  • LET ME GIVE YOU THE CLIFF NOTES.
  • 00:20:18.280 --> 00:20:21.030
  • CONTROL COMES IN
  • 00:20:21.030 --> 00:20:21.280
  • TWO DIFFERENT WAYS;
  • 00:20:21.280 --> 00:20:23.020
  • CONTROL COMES OVERTLY
  • 00:20:23.020 --> 00:20:24.100
  • AND IT COMES COVERTLY.
  • 00:20:24.100 --> 00:20:26.100
  • CONTROL COMES
  • 00:20:26.100 --> 00:20:26.260
  • IN THE FORM COVERTLY
  • 00:20:26.260 --> 00:20:28.120
  • OF UNDERHANDED COMMENTS,
  • 00:20:28.120 --> 00:20:30.010
  • PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE,
  • 00:20:30.010 --> 00:20:31.070
  • TRYING TO MAKE YOU FEEL GUILTY,
  • 00:20:31.070 --> 00:20:33.120
  • "OH, YOU'RE NOT COMING OVER
  • 00:20:33.120 --> 00:20:34.110
  • FOR THANKSGIVING, THAT'S FINE.
  • 00:20:37.120 --> 00:20:40.120
  • THAT'S COVERT MANIPULATION.
  • 00:20:51.140 --> 00:20:54.140
  • WHY DON'T YOU JUST SAY
  • 00:20:54.140 --> 00:20:55.020
  • WHAT'S ON YOUR MIND?
  • 00:20:55.020 --> 00:20:55.190
  • WHY DON'T YOU JUST SAY
  • 00:20:55.190 --> 00:20:56.070
  • YOU'RE DISAPPOINTED
  • 00:20:56.070 --> 00:20:56.220
  • THAT I'M NOT COMING
  • 00:20:56.220 --> 00:20:57.090
  • AND I'LL SAY WELL,
  • 00:20:57.090 --> 00:20:57.270
  • I'M SORRY YOU'RE DISAPPOINTED,
  • 00:20:57.270 --> 00:20:58.170
  • BUT I'M STILL NOT COMING.
  • 00:20:59.020 --> 00:21:02.040
  • BECAUSE I DON'T WANT
  • 00:21:02.040 --> 00:21:02.190
  • CONTROL IN MY PLAYGROUND.
  • 00:21:02.190 --> 00:21:04.250
  • ARE YOU FOLLOWING ME?
  • 00:21:04.250 --> 00:21:06.090
  • ANOTHER WAY CONTROL COMES
  • 00:21:06.090 --> 00:21:07.050
  • IS OVERTLY THROUGH WORDS.
  • 00:21:07.190 --> 00:21:10.190
  • SOMETIMES THROUGH
  • 00:21:10.190 --> 00:21:12.030
  • PHYSICAL ACTIONS
  • 00:21:12.030 --> 00:21:13.020
  • WHICH I WOULD JUST
  • 00:21:13.020 --> 00:21:13.190
  • SAY TO ANYONE TODAY
  • 00:21:13.190 --> 00:21:14.220
  • IF YOU FIND YOURSELF
  • 00:21:14.220 --> 00:21:15.090
  • IN THE PLACE,
  • 00:21:15.090 --> 00:21:16.030
  • THAT'S NOT OKAY,
  • 00:21:16.030 --> 00:21:16.280
  • IT'S NOT NORMAL,
  • 00:21:16.280 --> 00:21:17.290
  • AND IT'S NOT THE WAY
  • 00:21:17.290 --> 00:21:18.180
  • THINGS SHOULD BE.
  • 00:21:22.120 --> 00:21:25.120
  • THERE'S TWO WAYS OF CONTROL
  • 00:21:25.170 --> 00:21:28.170
  • AND SO YOU GOT TO BE
  • 00:21:28.170 --> 00:21:29.090
  • WILLING TO SAY, NO,
  • 00:21:29.090 --> 00:21:29.290
  • AND SETTING THAT BOUNDARY.
  • 00:21:29.290 --> 00:21:31.140
  • HEY, I LOVE YOU,
  • 00:21:31.140 --> 00:21:32.070
  • BUT I JUST WANT YOU TO KNOW
  • 00:21:32.070 --> 00:21:33.030
  • YOU WON'T CONTROL ME.
  • 00:21:33.040 --> 00:21:36.040
  • THIS IS THE CONVERSATION
  • 00:21:36.040 --> 00:21:37.010
  • THAT SOME OF YOU HAVE HAD,
  • 00:21:37.010 --> 00:21:38.060
  • YOU'RE NEWLY MARRIED
  • 00:21:38.060 --> 00:21:39.110
  • AND YOUR WIFE GOES,
  • 00:21:39.110 --> 00:21:40.060
  • "WILL YOU PLEASE
  • 00:21:40.060 --> 00:21:40.220
  • TALK TO YOUR MOM?"
  • 00:21:40.220 --> 00:21:42.280
  • WHAT SHE IS SAYING TO YOU, SIR,
  • 00:21:42.280 --> 00:21:45.180
  • IS, WILL YOU PLEASE
  • 00:21:45.180 --> 00:21:46.160
  • SET A BOUNDARY WITH YOUR MOM
  • 00:21:46.160 --> 00:21:49.000
  • BECAUSE HER NOSE
  • 00:21:49.000 --> 00:21:49.220
  • IS TOO MUCH
  • 00:21:49.220 --> 00:21:50.100
  • IN OUR MARRIAGE, RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:21:50.220 --> 00:21:53.220
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:21:54.280 --> 00:21:57.280
  • AND MAMA, CAN I SAY,
  • 00:21:57.280 --> 00:21:59.060
  • I KNOW YOU LOVE HIM
  • 00:21:59.060 --> 00:21:59.280
  • AND HE'S YOUR BABY BOY,
  • 00:22:01.130 --> 00:22:04.130
  • BUT I'VE SEEN SOME MARRIAGES
  • 00:22:04.130 --> 00:22:05.200
  • THAT WOULD HAVE MADE IT
  • 00:22:05.200 --> 00:22:08.160
  • IF SOME FAMILY MEMBERS
  • 00:22:08.160 --> 00:22:09.110
  • WOULD'VE KEPT
  • 00:22:09.110 --> 00:22:09.260
  • THEIR NOSE OUT OF IT.
  • 00:22:09.260 --> 00:22:12.100
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:22:12.100 --> 00:22:14.100
  • ALRIGHT.
  • 00:22:14.100 --> 00:22:15.220
  • SO, WE DON'T WANT CONTROL,
  • 00:22:15.220 --> 00:22:16.260
  • WE WANT EMPOWERMENT,
  • 00:22:16.260 --> 00:22:18.120
  • PHILIPPIANS 4:13 SAYS,
  • 00:22:18.120 --> 00:22:19.110
  • "I CAN DO ALL THINGS
  • 00:22:19.110 --> 00:22:20.030
  • THROUGH CHRIST."
  • 00:22:20.030 --> 00:22:20.290
  • YOU WANT THE KINDA PEOPLE
  • 00:22:20.290 --> 00:22:21.170
  • AND VOICES IN YOUR LIFE
  • 00:22:21.170 --> 00:22:23.030
  • THAT ARE EMPOWERING ARE YOU
  • 00:22:23.030 --> 00:22:24.170
  • TO BETTER AND BETTER THINGS
  • 00:22:24.170 --> 00:22:25.210
  • IN YOUR LIFE,
  • 00:22:25.210 --> 00:22:26.090
  • NOT JUST YES PEOPLE,
  • 00:22:26.090 --> 00:22:27.120
  • BUT PEOPLE THAT BELIEVE IN YOU,
  • 00:22:27.120 --> 00:22:28.160
  • THAT BELIEVE
  • 00:22:28.160 --> 00:22:28.280
  • GOD'S BEST FOR YOU,
  • 00:22:28.280 --> 00:22:30.040
  • THAT DON'T WANNA CONTROL YOU
  • 00:22:30.040 --> 00:22:31.100
  • AND LIMIT YOU,
  • 00:22:31.100 --> 00:22:32.010
  • BUT WANT TO ELEVATE YOU
  • 00:22:32.010 --> 00:22:32.270
  • AND ACCELERATE YOU.
  • 00:22:32.270 --> 00:22:34.070
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:22:34.070 --> 00:22:35.000
  • IT'S THE KINDA VOICES
  • 00:22:35.000 --> 00:22:35.180
  • YOU WANT IN YOUR LIFE.
  • 00:22:35.180 --> 00:22:36.120
  • NUMBER TWO,
  • 00:22:36.120 --> 00:22:36.260
  • I'M GONNA GET THROUGH THESE,
  • 00:22:36.260 --> 00:22:38.080
  • NEGATIVITY,
  • 00:22:38.080 --> 00:22:38.270
  • I CAN'T HAVE AROUND ME THE --
  • 00:22:38.270 --> 00:22:40.160
  • EVERY SENTENCE IS LIKE,
  • 00:22:40.160 --> 00:22:41.150
  • "WELL, THE PROBLEM
  • 00:22:41.150 --> 00:22:42.120
  • WITH DOING THAT IS,"
  • 00:22:42.120 --> 00:22:43.090
  • I KNOW ALL THE PROBLEMS,
  • 00:22:43.090 --> 00:22:44.090
  • COME ON,
  • 00:22:44.090 --> 00:22:44.220
  • I NEED SOME SOLUTIONS,
  • 00:22:44.220 --> 00:22:45.200
  • I NEED SOME POSITIVITY.
  • 00:22:45.200 --> 00:22:46.290
  • I NEED, WE CAN DO THIS,
  • 00:22:46.290 --> 00:22:48.020
  • ARE YOU FOLLOWING ME?
  • 00:22:48.020 --> 00:22:49.120
  • HERE'S THE PROBLEM,
  • 00:22:49.120 --> 00:22:50.190
  • SOME PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE
  • 00:22:50.190 --> 00:22:51.290
  • ARE EXPECTING YOU
  • 00:22:51.290 --> 00:22:52.160
  • TO STILL BE THE 2010 YOU
  • 00:22:52.160 --> 00:22:55.140
  • AND SO THEY WANNA COME IN
  • 00:22:55.140 --> 00:22:56.060
  • WITH NEGATIVITY
  • 00:22:56.060 --> 00:22:56.210
  • TO PULL YOU BACK
  • 00:22:56.210 --> 00:22:57.090
  • TO WHO YOU WERE
  • 00:22:57.090 --> 00:22:58.090
  • AND NOT TO WHO
  • 00:22:58.090 --> 00:22:58.260
  • GOD'S MAKING YOU TO BE.
  • 00:22:58.260 --> 00:23:00.140
  • YOU CAN'T BEAT --
  • 00:23:00.140 --> 00:23:01.010
  • I CAN'T BE THE 2018 ME.
  • 00:23:01.010 --> 00:23:02.200
  • GODS TAKEN ME TO GREATER
  • 00:23:02.200 --> 00:23:03.110
  • AND GREATER THINGS,
  • 00:23:03.110 --> 00:23:04.210
  • TO HIGHER AND HIGHER
  • 00:23:04.210 --> 00:23:05.150
  • HEIGHTS AND I'VE GOT TO MOVE ON.
  • 00:23:05.150 --> 00:23:07.130
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:23:07.130 --> 00:23:08.260
  • YOU'VE GOT TO
  • 00:23:08.260 --> 00:23:09.070
  • KEEP MOVING FORWARD.
  • 00:23:09.070 --> 00:23:10.010
  • AND SO, WHAT DO WE WANT?
  • 00:23:10.010 --> 00:23:12.130
  • WE WANT PEOPLE IN OUR LIVES
  • 00:23:12.130 --> 00:23:13.150
  • THAT WON'T LET
  • 00:23:13.150 --> 00:23:14.010
  • ANY UNWHOLESOME TALK
  • 00:23:14.010 --> 00:23:14.260
  • COME OUT OF THEIR MOUTHS,
  • 00:23:14.260 --> 00:23:16.000
  • BUT BE HELPFUL FOR BUILDING
  • 00:23:16.000 --> 00:23:17.260
  • OTHERS UP ACCORDING
  • 00:23:17.260 --> 00:23:18.210
  • TO THEIR NEEDS AND THIS MEANS
  • 00:23:18.210 --> 00:23:20.220
  • YOU HAVE TO BE IN
  • 00:23:20.220 --> 00:23:21.140
  • RELATIONSHIP WITH PEOPLE.
  • 00:23:21.140 --> 00:23:23.060
  • YOU'VE GOT TO BE IN
  • 00:23:23.060 --> 00:23:23.260
  • RELATIONSHIP WITH PEOPLE
  • 00:23:23.260 --> 00:23:25.010
  • TO KNOW THEIR NEEDS.
  • 00:23:25.010 --> 00:23:26.100
  • I CAN'T BUILD UP OWEN
  • 00:23:26.100 --> 00:23:27.270
  • THE SAME WAY I BUILD UP FAITH,
  • 00:23:27.270 --> 00:23:29.150
  • THEY ARE TWO DIFFERENT KIDS,
  • 00:23:29.150 --> 00:23:30.240
  • TWO DIFFERENT PERSONALITIES,
  • 00:23:30.240 --> 00:23:31.290
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:23:31.290 --> 00:23:33.050
  • AND SO, YOU GOT TO
  • 00:23:33.050 --> 00:23:33.240
  • KNOW THEIR NEEDS
  • 00:23:33.240 --> 00:23:34.130
  • AND WHY DO WE DO THIS?
  • 00:23:34.130 --> 00:23:35.050
  • BECAUSE IT WILL BENEFIT
  • 00:23:35.050 --> 00:23:36.050
  • THOSE WHO ARE LISTENING.
  • 00:23:36.050 --> 00:23:37.290
  • SO, AS PEOPLE HEAR YOU
  • 00:23:37.290 --> 00:23:39.070
  • BUILDING PEOPLE UP
  • 00:23:39.070 --> 00:23:40.070
  • IT'S GONNA BENEFIT PEOPLE
  • 00:23:40.070 --> 00:23:41.100
  • EVEN OUTSIDE OF THOSE
  • 00:23:41.100 --> 00:23:43.100
  • WHO ARE DIRECTLY LISTENING.
  • 00:23:43.100 --> 00:23:44.070
  • ARE YOU WITH ME, SAY AMEN?
  • 00:23:44.070 --> 00:23:45.170
  • ALRIGHT.
  • 00:23:45.170 --> 00:23:46.090
  • FINALLY, IS FEAR.
  • 00:23:46.090 --> 00:23:49.080
  • OBVIOUSLY THIS IS
  • 00:23:49.080 --> 00:23:49.210
  • AN EXHAUSTIVE LIST,
  • 00:23:49.210 --> 00:23:50.280
  • THIS ISN'T THE END ALL BE ALL,
  • 00:23:50.280 --> 00:23:52.030
  • I JUST WANTED
  • 00:23:52.030 --> 00:23:52.140
  • TO GET YOU STARTED,
  • 00:23:52.140 --> 00:23:54.230
  • THAT FEAR, FEAR,
  • 00:23:54.230 --> 00:23:57.060
  • YOU'VE MET THOSE PEOPLE
  • 00:23:57.060 --> 00:23:59.010
  • THAT MAYBE YOU LET
  • 00:23:59.010 --> 00:24:00.060
  • A LITTLE TOO MUCH
  • 00:24:00.060 --> 00:24:00.270
  • INTO YOUR LIFE BECAUSE
  • 00:24:00.270 --> 00:24:01.230
  • IF YOU LET THEM IN,
  • 00:24:01.230 --> 00:24:02.140
  • THEN YOU DON'T GUARD YOUR HEART
  • 00:24:02.140 --> 00:24:03.260
  • AND FROM THE WELLSPRING
  • 00:24:03.260 --> 00:24:04.140
  • OF YOUR LIFE
  • 00:24:04.140 --> 00:24:04.280
  • BEGINS TO COME OUT
  • 00:24:04.280 --> 00:24:05.140
  • OF YOUR HEART.
  • 00:24:05.140 --> 00:24:06.230
  • YOU CAN TELL THEM
  • 00:24:06.230 --> 00:24:07.090
  • YOU'RE GOING ON VACATION
  • 00:24:07.090 --> 00:24:08.050
  • AND THEY'LL LET YOU KNOW
  • 00:24:08.050 --> 00:24:08.230
  • EVERYTHING THAT
  • 00:24:08.230 --> 00:24:09.080
  • COULD GO WRONG, ALRIGHT?
  • 00:24:10.080 --> 00:24:13.080
  • "HEY, WE'RE GOING
  • 00:24:13.080 --> 00:24:13.200
  • TO THE CARIBBEAN."
  • 00:24:13.200 --> 00:24:14.060
  • "YOU FLYING?"
  • 00:24:14.060 --> 00:24:14.230
  • "YEAH, WE'RE FLYING."
  • 00:24:14.230 --> 00:24:15.160
  • "YOU KNOW IT CAN CRASH."
  • 00:24:15.220 --> 00:24:18.220
  • I WANNA CALL IT LIKE
  • 00:24:18.220 --> 00:24:19.120
  • THE BIBLE CALLS IT,
  • 00:24:19.120 --> 00:24:22.000
  • IT'S A SPIRIT OF FEAR,
  • 00:24:22.000 --> 00:24:24.260
  • SPIRIT OF FEAR
  • 00:24:24.260 --> 00:24:26.170
  • THAT ATTACHES ITSELF
  • 00:24:26.170 --> 00:24:27.120
  • AND IF YOU LET THAT IN
  • 00:24:27.120 --> 00:24:29.050
  • THEN THAT BECOMES
  • 00:24:29.050 --> 00:24:31.180
  • THE FILTER THROUGH WHICH
  • 00:24:31.180 --> 00:24:32.250
  • YOU BEGIN TO SEE THINGS
  • 00:24:32.250 --> 00:24:34.280
  • IF YOU DON'T GUARD YOUR HEART.
  • 00:24:34.280 --> 00:24:36.040
  • IF I'M NOT GONNA LET FEAR IT,
  • 00:24:36.040 --> 00:24:37.030
  • I'M GONNA LET FAITH IN.
  • 00:24:37.030 --> 00:24:38.270
  • PEOPLE THAT'LL SPEAK LIFE,
  • 00:24:38.270 --> 00:24:40.100
  • THAT'LL BELIEVE GREAT THINGS
  • 00:24:40.100 --> 00:24:41.110
  • BECAUSE I WOULD SAY
  • 00:24:41.110 --> 00:24:42.230
  • FOR YOU YOU'VE GOT TOO MUCH
  • 00:24:42.230 --> 00:24:43.200
  • GOING ON IN YOUR LIFE
  • 00:24:43.200 --> 00:24:44.190
  • TO LIVE IN FEAR,
  • 00:24:44.190 --> 00:24:45.280
  • YOU GOT TOO MANY
  • 00:24:45.280 --> 00:24:46.130
  • RESPONSIBILITIES,
  • 00:24:46.130 --> 00:24:48.170
  • YOU GOT THE PRESSURE
  • 00:24:48.170 --> 00:24:49.030
  • OF TOO MANY THINGS
  • 00:24:49.030 --> 00:24:49.210
  • IN YOUR LIFE,
  • 00:24:49.210 --> 00:24:50.070
  • AND YOU HAVE
  • 00:24:50.070 --> 00:24:50.280
  • TOO GREAT A DESTINY.
  • 00:24:50.280 --> 00:24:52.260
  • GOD'S GOT TOO MUCH FOR YOU
  • 00:24:52.260 --> 00:24:54.010
  • IN YOUR LIFE TO LIVE IN FEAR.
  • 00:24:54.010 --> 00:24:55.190
  • I WANT SOME PEOPLE AROUND ME
  • 00:24:55.190 --> 00:24:56.250
  • LIKE THIS THAT WHEN I CALL
  • 00:24:56.250 --> 00:24:58.280
  • OR WHEN THEY CALL ME
  • 00:24:58.280 --> 00:25:00.080
  • AND I'M NEEDING SOME FEAR,
  • 00:25:00.080 --> 00:25:02.080
  • SOME FEAR TO BE DRIVEN OUT,
  • 00:25:02.080 --> 00:25:03.170
  • AND SOME FAITH TO BE
  • 00:25:03.170 --> 00:25:04.080
  • BUILT UP WILL BE LIKE,
  • 00:25:04.080 --> 00:25:05.140
  • BE STRONG AND COURAGEOUS,
  • 00:25:05.140 --> 00:25:07.040
  • DON'T BE AFRAID OR TERRIFIED,
  • 00:25:07.040 --> 00:25:09.010
  • THE LORD IS WITH YOU,
  • 00:25:09.010 --> 00:25:10.160
  • HE'LL NEVER LEAVE YOU.
  • 00:25:10.160 --> 00:25:12.110
  • I WANT SOME PEOPLE
  • 00:25:12.110 --> 00:25:12.260
  • LIKE THIS THAT'LL SAY,
  • 00:25:12.260 --> 00:25:13.240
  • HEY, NO WEAPON FORMED
  • 00:25:13.240 --> 00:25:14.120
  • AGAINST YOU WILL PROSPER.
  • 00:25:14.120 --> 00:25:17.000
  • YOU KNOW, YOU'LL REFUTE
  • 00:25:17.000 --> 00:25:17.220
  • EVERY TONGUE THAT ACCUSES YOU.
  • 00:25:17.220 --> 00:25:19.060
  • THIS IS THE HERITAGE
  • 00:25:19.060 --> 00:25:19.290
  • OF THE LORD.
  • 00:25:19.290 --> 00:25:20.190
  • I WANT SOME FAITH PEOPLE
  • 00:25:20.190 --> 00:25:21.260
  • IN MY LIFE
  • 00:25:21.260 --> 00:25:23.240
  • THAT WILL BUILD ME UP.
  • 00:25:23.240 --> 00:25:24.260
  • I'M NOT REJECTING PEOPLE;
  • 00:25:25.020 --> 00:25:28.020
  • I'M JUST DRAWING
  • 00:25:28.020 --> 00:25:28.200
  • THE LINE ON BEHAVIOR.
  • 00:25:28.230 --> 00:25:31.230
  • YOU CAN COME IN THE HOUSE,
  • 00:25:31.230 --> 00:25:34.020
  • BUT LET'S GO OUT IN THE GARAGE
  • 00:25:34.020 --> 00:25:35.100
  • AND I'VE GOT TO GET SOME THINGS
  • 00:25:35.100 --> 00:25:38.000
  • CLEANED OFF OF YOU,
  • 00:25:38.000 --> 00:25:38.190
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:25:38.190 --> 00:25:39.210
  • THERE ARE SOME CONVERSATIONS
  • 00:25:39.210 --> 00:25:40.220
  • YOU KNOW RIGHT NOW
  • 00:25:40.220 --> 00:25:41.150
  • AS I'M TALKING,
  • 00:25:41.150 --> 00:25:42.050
  • YOU'RE LIKE I NEED TO
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  • HAVE THE CONVERSATION
  • 00:25:43.220 --> 00:25:45.270
  • AND THAT CONVERSATION
  • 00:25:45.270 --> 00:25:46.260
  • COULD BE TRANSFORMATIONAL
  • 00:25:46.260 --> 00:25:48.080
  • FOR YOU AND THE OTHER PERSON.
  • 00:25:48.080 --> 00:25:50.070
  • YOU NEED TO GET AROUND
  • 00:25:50.070 --> 00:25:50.260
  • SOME GODLY PEOPLE
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  • IN YOUR LIFE, LET THEM IN,
  • 00:25:51.180 --> 00:25:53.090
  • LET THEM SPEAK LIFE INTO YOU,
  • 00:25:53.090 --> 00:25:54.250
  • - THANKS SO MUCH
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  • FOR JOINING US TODAY.
  • 00:26:01.240 --> 00:26:02.230
  • I HOPE TODAY'S MESSAGE
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  • WAS HELPFUL,
  • 00:26:03.130 --> 00:26:04.190
  • ENCOURAGING IN YOUR LIFE.
  • 00:26:04.190 --> 00:26:05.260
  • YOU KNOW, WE ALL NEED BOUNDARIES
  • 00:26:05.260 --> 00:26:07.270
  • IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS.
  • 00:26:07.270 --> 00:26:09.100
  • WE NEED TO HAVE A LINE
  • 00:26:09.100 --> 00:26:10.090
  • WHERE WE SAY
  • 00:26:10.090 --> 00:26:10.250
  • THIS IS WHAT CAN ENTER
  • 00:26:10.250 --> 00:26:12.090
  • AND THIS IS WHAT CANNOT ENTER.
  • 00:26:12.090 --> 00:26:14.000
  • YOU KNOW, WITH MY SON
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  • I WASN'T GOING TO LEAVE HIM
  • 00:26:15.060 --> 00:26:15.280
  • OUT IN THE GARAGE,
  • 00:26:15.280 --> 00:26:16.240
  • BUT I DEFINITELY WAS
  • 00:26:16.240 --> 00:26:17.210
  • GOING TO LEAVE
  • 00:26:17.210 --> 00:26:18.160
  • ALL THE MUD AND MESS
  • 00:26:18.160 --> 00:26:19.220
  • THAT WAS ON HIM IN THE GARAGE.
  • 00:26:19.220 --> 00:26:21.120
  • I DIDN'T WANT THAT IN THE HOUSE.
  • 00:26:21.120 --> 00:26:22.260
  • I DIDN'T WANT THAT
  • 00:26:22.260 --> 00:26:23.170
  • DIRT TRACKING INTO THE HOUSE
  • 00:26:23.170 --> 00:26:25.050
  • AND HERE'S THE DEAL,
  • 00:26:25.050 --> 00:26:26.060
  • SOME OF THE RELATIONSHIPS
  • 00:26:26.060 --> 00:26:27.020
  • IN OUR LIFE WE HAVEN'T
  • 00:26:27.020 --> 00:26:28.000
  • SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES.
  • 00:26:28.000 --> 00:26:29.110
  • DOESN'T MEAN THAT
  • 00:26:29.110 --> 00:26:29.280
  • WE DON'T LOVE PEOPLE,
  • 00:26:29.280 --> 00:26:30.230
  • IT DOESN'T MEAN THAT
  • 00:26:30.230 --> 00:26:31.130
  • WE DON'T EMBRACE AND COURAGE
  • 00:26:31.130 --> 00:26:33.220
  • THAT WE'RE NOT THERE FOR PEOPLE,
  • 00:26:33.220 --> 00:26:34.200
  • IT JUST MEANS THAT WE PUT
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  • SOME HEALTHY BOUNDARIES TO SAY
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  • YOU CAN COME,
  • 00:26:37.160 --> 00:26:38.160
  • BUT I'M NOT LETTING FEAR COME.
  • 00:26:38.160 --> 00:26:39.270
  • YOU CAN COME,
  • 00:26:39.270 --> 00:26:40.220
  • BUT I'M NOT LETTING PAIN COME,
  • 00:26:40.220 --> 00:26:42.060
  • YOU CAN COME,
  • 00:26:42.060 --> 00:26:42.250
  • I'M NOT LETTING DOUBT COME,
  • 00:26:42.250 --> 00:26:43.240
  • BUT HERE'S WHAT YOU DO NEED
  • 00:26:43.240 --> 00:26:44.170
  • TO LET INTO YOUR LIFE IS FAITH.
  • 00:26:44.170 --> 00:26:46.210
  • THE REASON YOU NEED TO
  • 00:26:46.210 --> 00:26:47.130
  • LET FAITH INTO YOUR LIFE,
  • 00:26:47.130 --> 00:26:48.230
  • YOU NEED TO HAVE PEOPLE THAT
  • 00:26:48.230 --> 00:26:49.220
  • SPEAK LIFE AND SPEAK HOPE
  • 00:26:49.220 --> 00:26:51.070
  • AND SPEAK ENCOURAGEMENT
  • 00:26:51.070 --> 00:26:52.180
  • INTO YOUR LIFE
  • 00:26:52.180 --> 00:26:53.090
  • BECAUSE GOD HAS TOO MUCH
  • 00:26:53.090 --> 00:26:55.150
  • IN STORE FOR YOUR LIFE,
  • 00:26:55.150 --> 00:26:56.240
  • HAS A PURPOSE FOR YOU,
  • 00:26:56.240 --> 00:26:57.250
  • HAS A PLAN FOR YOU,
  • 00:26:57.250 --> 00:26:58.290
  • HAS SOMETHING INCREDIBLE
  • 00:26:58.290 --> 00:27:00.170
  • FOR YOU TO ACCOMPLISH
  • 00:27:00.170 --> 00:27:01.190
  • SO YOU NEED TO KNOW
  • 00:27:01.190 --> 00:27:02.220
  • WHAT AM I GONNA ALLOW IN
  • 00:27:02.220 --> 00:27:04.080
  • AND WHAT AM I NOT
  • 00:27:04.080 --> 00:27:04.260
  • GONNA ALLOW IN.
  • 00:27:04.260 --> 00:27:06.000
  • SO, I PRAY THIS WEEK
  • 00:27:06.000 --> 00:27:06.270
  • THAT YOU TAKE SOME TIME
  • 00:27:06.270 --> 00:27:08.100
  • TO EVALUATE
  • 00:27:08.100 --> 00:27:09.110
  • HOW ARE MY BOUNDARIES?
  • 00:27:09.110 --> 00:27:10.240
  • IF THEY'RE NOT GOOD
  • 00:27:10.240 --> 00:27:11.150
  • SET SOME HEALTHY BOUNDARIES
  • 00:27:11.150 --> 00:27:13.110
  • IN YOUR LIFE
  • 00:27:13.110 --> 00:27:14.090
  • SO THAT YOU CAN BECOME,
  • 00:27:14.090 --> 00:27:15.170
  • AND YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
  • 00:27:15.170 --> 00:27:16.180
  • CAN BECOME EVERYTHING
  • 00:27:16.180 --> 00:27:18.040
  • THAT GOD INTENDED THEM TO BE.
  • 00:27:18.040 --> 00:27:19.200
  • THANKS AGAIN FOR JOINING US,
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  • I HOPE TO SEE YOU
  • 00:27:20.290 --> 00:27:21.170