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December 22, 2018
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  • Pastor Skip Heitzig: Now, how do we get control of the tongue?
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  • James says no man can control the tongue, but God can, and
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  • because God lives in you, you can get control of the tongue.
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  • And there is one word that will do it: love.
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  • Love.
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  • You will love your neighbor as yourself.
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  • Love can control the tongue.
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  • Love can keep you from slander.
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  • Love will keep you from ruining somebody's reputation, if you
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  • love them.
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  • Skip: A tongue can be very destructive.
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  • Probably more sins have been committed by our mouths than all
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  • other body parts combined.
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  • I was listening to a radio talk show a while back, Christian
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  • program, where people would call in questions.
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  • They would be answered or discussed on the air, and I
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  • tuned in right at the time when they were talking about speaking
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  • in tongues, the controversy of that spiritual gift that is
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  • disputed by many different churches.
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  • And as they were going back and forth about is it okay to speak
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  • in tongues, is it not okay to speak in tongues, is it a
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  • legitimate gift or not, I thought, "Well, nobody seems to
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  • be really concerned about the real problem."
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  • And real problem isn't just speaking in tongues.
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  • It's speaking.
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  • It's using our tongues.
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  • Period.
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  • That's really what we have to watch and, in particular, it's
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  • speaking a certain way.
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  • It's using our tongues to form words for a specific purpose.
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  • Now, as I describe this vice to you, it is personified, and
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  • you'll be able to tell what it is.
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  • "I am more deadly than the screaming shell of a cannon.
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  • I win without killing.
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  • I tear down homes, break hearts, and wreck lives.
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  • I travel on the wings of the wind.
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  • No innocence is strong enough to intimidate me.
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  • No purity is pure enough to daunt me.
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  • I have no regard for truth, no respect for justice, no mercy
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  • for the defenseless.
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  • My victims are as numerous as the sands of the sea and often
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  • as innocent.
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  • I never forget, and I seldom forgive.
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  • My name is gossip."
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  • Now that we've named it, let's study it and to do so I've asked
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  • you to turn to Leviticus chapter 19.
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  • Now, the Bible does talk about gossip in a number of different
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  • passages from Genesis to Revelation, but the reason I've
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  • asked you to turn to this passage is because we are given
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  • a direct command from God not to do it.
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  • It's a hefty, unmistakable "thou shalt not" command and our
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  • anchor text is Leviticus 19.
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  • Go down to verse 16, where it simply says, "You shall not go
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  • about as a talebearer among your people."
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  • Doesn't get any more direct than that.
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  • "You shall not go about as a talebearer among your people."
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  • Now, let's just step back for a moment, 'cause we're looking at
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  • the book of Leviticus, and this book has a single theme.
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  • It could be summed up in one word: holiness.
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  • The book of Leviticus is about holiness, God's holiness, and I
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  • suppose that of all the attributes that God has holiness
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  • is God's least attractive attribute.
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  • If you just think about how people deal with God, holiness
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  • would be his least popular one.
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  • We love to make a lot of God's love.
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  • That's an important attribute to us.
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  • We wanna talk about God's mercy and God's grace.
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  • Important attributes to us.
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  • We wanna talk about the fact that God knows everything.
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  • He's omniscient.
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  • God's power is another attribute.
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  • He's omnipotent, but God's holiness probably
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  • takes lowest billing.
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  • It scares us and that's probably because, number one,
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  • we don't really know what it means.
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  • And, number two, we don't really know what it would mean to us,
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  • but here is what you need to know.
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  • Of all the attributes of God written about in Scripture,
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  • holiness is talked about more than all of them.
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  • In fact, God is called holy more than he is called loving
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  • or gracious or merciful or powerful.
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  • He is called holy, so it's obviously very important to him,
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  • and I share all that upfront information because you're gonna
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  • come across it in some of the verses we're gonna look at.
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  • So, the theme of this book is holiness, God's and yours, and
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  • the book of Leviticus could be divided simply by saying that
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  • the first half of the book is about approaching God's presence
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  • and the second half of the book is about
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  • accepting God's precepts.
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  • So, approaching God's presence, accepting God's precepts.
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  • Chapter 19 falls in the second portion of the book, so it's
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  • about accepting God's precepts, and you're
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  • gonna notice something.
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  • It's familiar to you as I read.
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  • What we are gonna look at are what you know as
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  • the Ten Commandments.
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  • They're repeated and then they're fleshed out.
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  • That is, they're explained in various life situations.
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  • So, for example, if you look at verse 1 of Leviticus 19.
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  • "And the Lord spoke to Moses, saying, 'Speak to all the
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  • congregation of the children of Israel, and say to them:
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  • "You shall be holy, for I the Lord your God am holy."
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  • Every one of you shall revere his mother and his father,
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  • and keep my Sabbaths: I am the Lord your God.
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  • Do not turn to idols, nor make yourselves molded gods:
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  • I am the Lord your God.'"
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  • So, just in the first four verses we have
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  • a repetition or a hint of the first five of
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  • the Ten Commandments.
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  • Then, in verse 11 he starts dealing with, among other
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  • things, what we say: our speech, our words.
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  • And what I'd like to do in verses 11 through 18 is look at
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  • four practical observations about our words, so here
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  • is what I'm gonna do.
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  • I'm gonna start wide and go narrow.
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  • That's the approach.
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  • I'm gonna go very general and then we'll get specific, or, if
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  • you like, I'm gonna start shallower and go deeper.
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  • So, the first observation about words is that
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  • words are personal.
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  • Words are personal.
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  • They personally convey who you are as a person to others,
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  • so notice a word as we go through a couple of verses.
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  • Look at verse 11. I'm gonna emphasize the word.
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  • You'll see why.
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  • "You shall not steal, nor deal falsely, nor lie to one another.
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  • And you shall not swear," verse 12, "by my name falsely, nor
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  • shall you profane the name of the Lord your God:
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  • I am the Lord."
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  • Verse 14, "You shall not curse the deaf, nor put a stumbling
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  • block before the blind," boy, you gotta be creepy to do that,
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  • "but you shall fear the Lord your God," or fear your God.
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  • "I am the Lord."
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  • Verse 16, "You shall not go about as a talebearer among your
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  • people; nor shall you take a stand against the life of your
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  • neighbor: I am the Lord."
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  • Now, I counted in this chapter the word "you" 54 times
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  • in this chapter alone.
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  • God is speaking through Moses to the people, telling them about
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  • their personal expression, their personal life, fleshing out
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  • the Ten Commandments to them personally.
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  • So, here is the theme.
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  • God has given us an incredible capacity to communicate who
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  • we are through the use of our words.
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  • We can communicate our thoughts, our feelings, our values, our
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  • ideas, our ideals to people, our desires, our dislikes through
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  • our words, and we do regularly.
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  • The average person will end up speaking one-fifth
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  • of their entire life.
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  • That's incredible.
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  • You will spend one-fifth of your life talking.
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  • Now, some will do much more than that, some will do
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  • much less than that.
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  • One-fifth of your life will be spent verbally
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  • communicating, talking.
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  • If you wanna know what that looks like, if you were to take
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  • the words you speak in a single day and translate them into
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  • published literature, a single day of your speech would produce
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  • a book that's 50 pages long, a 50-page book.
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  • In a single year that would be 132 volumes of 200 pages per
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  • volume, so that your whole lifetime would be upward of
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  • 3.000 volumes, or 1.500.000 pages.
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  • And that's the average.
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  • The average person speaks for one-fifth of his
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  • or her lifetime.
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  • Now, you also know there is a difference in the genders,
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  • between male and female, and I'll put this very delicately,
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  • but it would seem that females have a greater
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  • linguistic ability.
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  • Let's put it that way, a more developed linguistic ability,
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  • able to use words maybe better, maybe differently, so what the
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  • experts tell us--and you've probably read many of these
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  • kinds of things, but the average woman speaks 25.500 words a day.
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  • That's average.
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  • The average male speaks 12.500 words a day, so there is
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  • a big difference.
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  • Now, what does that mean?
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  • It means he comes home after eight days or eight hours of
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  • work, comes home, and he's already used up 12.495 words.
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  • He's got five left.
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  • She's just getting revved up.
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  • So, he's got five words left. What's he gonna say?
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  • Well, he's gonna say, "What's for dinner?"
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  • That's three.
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  • And, "Good night." He's done.
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  • That's five words. Now, here is the result.
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  • If you were to ask him, "Hey, how is everything at home?"
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  • He's gonna say, "Great."
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  • Ask her how everything is going at home, and she might say,
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  • "Well, he never really tells me anything."
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  • This is why I've always found it humorous in the Bible that when
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  • Zacharias the priest is burning incense in Jerusalem, in the
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  • temple, and an angel comes to him to announce that his wife
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  • Elizabeth is gonna have John the Baptist, Zacharias, who is
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  • talking to an angel--angel says, "This is gonna happen."
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  • Zacharias says, "Prove it."
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  • It's like, really, prove it?
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  • An angel is talking to you. Isn't that proof enough?
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  • No, he goes, "No, give me a sign that this is
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  • really gonna happen."
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  • So, the angel goes, "Really? You want a sign?
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  • All right, I'll give you a sign.
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  • You won't be able to talk till that baby is born."
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  • Now, how is that for him going home and he can't say anything
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  • or stop any conversation, but his wife is awfully excited
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  • about a miraculous birth?
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  • She's an old lady having a baby, and she's gonna be talking to
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  • him all day, and he can't say a word, and it's frustrating for
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  • her because he can't say a word.
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  • I've always thought that was just a humorous portion of the
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  • Bible, so words are personal.
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  • We use them to communicate who we are, but we are faced with a
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  • challenge in our day and age, because we not only speak words,
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  • but we write them down.
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  • We write them down on paper.
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  • We type them into our computer screens.
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  • We text them on our mobile devices.
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  • We post them on social media.
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  • And with each of those steps, our communication becomes more
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  • and more impersonal.
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  • We get less personal with all those stages, so written words
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  • or texted words are more difficult to understand because
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  • you're seeing the word and ascribing meaning to the word
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  • that you see, but you cannot hear the intonation
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  • or the voice inflection.
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  • And that would change everything.
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  • And so, a better form of communication than reading a
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  • text or an email would be to pick up the phone and talk to
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  • the person, because they might say that sentence a little bit
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  • differently than you read it to mean, because now you're getting
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  • a fuller communication.
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  • You're hearing tone and inflection, but even that isn't
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  • ideal because there is still a lot of the conversation that you
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  • don't pick up on because you don't see what experts have
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  • called for a longtime body language,
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  • which changes everything.
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  • So, a person might say something using the words that you would
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  • read in a text or using a voice inflection you would hear on a
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  • telephone, but when they say the sentence they raise an eyebrow.
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  • Well, that means something.
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  • Or they might say a word, but give a smirk.
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  • Well, that means something.
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  • Or they'll talk and as they talk they shift their posture.
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  • Well, all of that means something, so the fullest form
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  • of communication is to eye-to-eye have a conversation,
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  • where you are engaged in that conversation, hearing words
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  • and using words.
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  • Now, I say we have a challenge. What do I mean?
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  • Well, social media has revolutionized the way
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  • our culture communicates.
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  • Nobody will dispute that.
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  • Everybody who's been studying this for years
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  • would agree with that.
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  • That social media has revolutionized the way
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  • our culture communicates.
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  • For the first time in history it's possible to have friends
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  • you've never met, to follow people you don't even know,
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  • so our language itself is changing meaning by the way
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  • we communicate.
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  • We are cultivating what "Harvard Business Review"
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  • calls thin relationships.
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  • Thin relationships as opposed to full, rich relationships.
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  • Thin relationships.
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  • Gervase Markham, a Mozilla Foundation computer programmer,
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  • wrote this, and I quote, "Social networking encourages people
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  • to have a greater number of much shallower friendships.
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  • I know what 15 of my friends had for breakfast, but I don't know
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  • whether any of them is struggling with
  • 00:15:51.130 --> 00:15:52.270
  • a major life issue.
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  • If this trend continues," says Markham, "people in 2020 will
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  • have hundreds of acquaintances, but very few friends."
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  • So, you see, if fellowship is limited to 140 characters,
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  • it's not real fellowship.
  • 00:16:11.060 --> 00:16:13.070
  • So, words are personal.
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  • We use them to communicate who we are.
  • 00:16:15.020 --> 00:16:19.000
  • Now, let's go a little deeper.
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  • Words are not only personal, words have potential.
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  • As we look at the verses that are before us with our open
  • 00:16:25.170 --> 00:16:28.130
  • Bibles, we can look at them, and we can surmise that there is
  • 00:16:28.140 --> 00:16:32.280
  • great potential in the tongue.
  • 00:16:32.290 --> 00:16:35.130
  • Now, here the potential is seen negatively.
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  • It's put in a negative form.
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  • You shall not do this, so the reason it's put in negative
  • 00:16:39.110 --> 00:16:44.100
  • form, "you shall not," is for impact and to restrain the
  • 00:16:44.110 --> 00:16:50.020
  • improper use of the tongue and to redirect a proper use
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  • of the tongue, right?
  • 00:16:55.160 --> 00:16:57.040
  • So, if we reverse these negative commands, we can see
  • 00:16:57.050 --> 00:17:01.040
  • the potential instantly.
  • 00:17:01.050 --> 00:17:02.160
  • For example, look at verse 11.
  • 00:17:02.170 --> 00:17:04.010
  • We're told in the second verse--second part of that verse
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  • that we're not to lie to one another.
  • 00:17:07.010 --> 00:17:09.040
  • Okay, so that's what we're not supposed to do.
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  • "Don't do this. Don't lie to each other."
  • 00:17:12.010 --> 00:17:14.040
  • Now, turn that around.
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  • If we're not supposed to lie to each other, it also means
  • 00:17:16.090 --> 00:17:18.290
  • we can what?
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  • Tell the truth, be truthful, be honest.
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  • That's the potential.
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  • We can lie or we can be truthful.
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  • We can be honest. We can be wholesome.
  • 00:17:29.030 --> 00:17:31.230
  • Also, look at verse 12.
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  • "You shall not swear by my name falsely."
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  • There is another negative. Don't do that.
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  • Don't swear by God's name falsely.
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  • Okay, now turn that around.
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  • We can't swear by God's name falsely, so that means
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  • we can pray.
  • 00:17:49.150 --> 00:17:51.090
  • We can worship.
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  • We can offer intercession.
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  • We can bless in the name of the Lord.
  • 00:17:55.010 --> 00:17:59.090
  • Go down to verse 15. There is no negative.
  • 00:17:59.100 --> 00:18:01.080
  • There is just a positive.
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  • It says, "In righteousness you shall judge your neighbor."
  • 00:18:02.280 --> 00:18:07.140
  • Now, just think of the incredible potential to make
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  • personal judgments of human beings, personally or civilly
  • 00:18:12.000 --> 00:18:18.030
  • in a courtroom.
  • 00:18:18.040 --> 00:18:20.170
  • So, all of this incredible potential can be summed up
  • 00:18:20.180 --> 00:18:23.030
  • by a single verse in the book of Proverbs,
  • 00:18:23.040 --> 00:18:25.000
  • verse--chapter--Proverbs 18, verse 21, that says,
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  • "Death and life are in the power of the tongue."
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  • There is the potential, death and life.
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  • You can say a word that destroys.
  • 00:18:35.120 --> 00:18:37.020
  • You can say a word that delights.
  • 00:18:37.030 --> 00:18:39.100
  • You can say words that enrich.
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  • You can say words that kill.
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  • Incredible potential.
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  • Let me give you another verse out of Proverbs.
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  • Does the same thing.
  • 00:18:48.220 --> 00:18:50.020
  • It wraps all of this potential up both negatively and
  • 00:18:50.030 --> 00:18:52.220
  • positively in one little nugget.
  • 00:18:52.230 --> 00:18:55.230
  • Proverbs 12, verse 18.
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  • "There is one who speaks like the piercings of a sword,
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  • but the tongue of the wise promotes health."
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  • You see how you got a bad way to use your tongue,
  • 00:19:07.080 --> 00:19:10.060
  • a good way to use your tongue.
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  • There is the potential. Which way are you gonna choose?
  • 00:19:11.250 --> 00:19:14.270
  • "There is one who speaks like the piercings of a sword."
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  • I bet all of you know a sharp-tongued individual.
  • 00:19:17.270 --> 00:19:21.250
  • You can see that person in your mind's eye.
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  • It might be somebody you saw in the mirror today.
  • 00:19:23.180 --> 00:19:26.230
  • Might be yourself.
  • 00:19:26.240 --> 00:19:29.000
  • Sharp-tongued people.
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  • Verbal terminators, I call them. They just blah.
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  • It's like a fire-breathing dragon.
  • 00:19:32.260 --> 00:19:36.010
  • "There are those who speak like the piercings of a sword,"
  • 00:19:36.020 --> 00:19:39.080
  • or a snail, "but the tongue of the wise promotes health."
  • 00:19:39.090 --> 00:19:46.150
  • That's potential.
  • 00:19:46.160 --> 00:19:49.050
  • Now, the book of James also does this, and if you feel so
  • 00:19:49.060 --> 00:19:52.190
  • inclined--if not I'll just read it to you, but the third chapter
  • 00:19:52.200 --> 00:19:55.040
  • of the book of James.
  • 00:19:55.050 --> 00:19:56.190
  • If you're quick with your thumbs, in the New Testament
  • 00:19:56.200 --> 00:19:58.140
  • you can find James chapter 3.
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  • James spends a chapter talking about our mouth, talking about
  • 00:20:00.210 --> 00:20:07.130
  • how we use our tongues as Christian men and women,
  • 00:20:07.140 --> 00:20:14.080
  • and he addresses the potential.
  • 00:20:14.090 --> 00:20:17.210
  • James chapter 3, verse 2.
  • 00:20:17.220 --> 00:20:20.140
  • He says, "For we all stumble in many things."
  • 00:20:20.150 --> 00:20:23.110
  • Can I get an amen?
  • 00:20:23.120 --> 00:20:25.030
  • We all do, don't we all?
  • 00:20:25.040 --> 00:20:26.160
  • We blow it in a lot of different ways.
  • 00:20:26.170 --> 00:20:28.160
  • "If anyone does not stumble in word, he is a perfect man,
  • 00:20:28.170 --> 00:20:32.210
  • able also to bridle the whole body.
  • 00:20:32.220 --> 00:20:34.280
  • Indeed, we put bits in horses' mouths that they may obey us,
  • 00:20:34.290 --> 00:20:40.020
  • and we turn their whole body.
  • 00:20:40.030 --> 00:20:42.210
  • Look also at ships: although they are so large and driven by
  • 00:20:42.220 --> 00:20:46.230
  • fierce winds, they are turned by a very small rudder wherever
  • 00:20:46.240 --> 00:20:52.160
  • the pilot desires.
  • 00:20:52.170 --> 00:20:54.150
  • Even so the tongue is a little member and boasts great things.
  • 00:20:54.160 --> 00:21:00.160
  • See how great a forest a little fire kindles!"
  • 00:21:00.170 --> 00:21:05.050
  • Down in verse 8, James 3, "But no man can tame the tongue,"
  • 00:21:05.060 --> 00:21:09.200
  • inferring only God can do that.
  • 00:21:09.210 --> 00:21:12.140
  • "It's an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.
  • 00:21:12.150 --> 00:21:16.030
  • With it," now listen to this potential, "with it we bless our
  • 00:21:16.040 --> 00:21:20.120
  • God and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in
  • 00:21:20.130 --> 00:21:25.150
  • the likeness of God.
  • 00:21:25.160 --> 00:21:27.240
  • Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing.
  • 00:21:27.250 --> 00:21:30.260
  • My brethren," speaking to believers, my brethren, "these
  • 00:21:30.270 --> 00:21:34.120
  • things ought not to be so."
  • 00:21:34.130 --> 00:21:37.270
  • Amazing, James says, the potential in a human tongue.
  • 00:21:37.280 --> 00:21:43.160
  • In Greek mythology there is a character named Proteus, and
  • 00:21:43.170 --> 00:21:46.010
  • Proteus was the old man of the sea.
  • 00:21:46.020 --> 00:21:48.180
  • He was the being that was subservient to Poseidon in the
  • 00:21:48.190 --> 00:21:51.160
  • Greek myths, but Proteus had a very interesting ability.
  • 00:21:51.170 --> 00:21:56.060
  • He could change form.
  • 00:21:56.070 --> 00:21:58.180
  • He could morph.
  • 00:21:58.190 --> 00:22:00.070
  • He could change appearance, so he could be a tree.
  • 00:22:00.080 --> 00:22:02.130
  • He could be a pebble, could show up as a lion or a dove, a
  • 00:22:02.140 --> 00:22:07.000
  • serpent or a lamb.
  • 00:22:07.010 --> 00:22:09.260
  • That's like the tongue.
  • 00:22:09.270 --> 00:22:12.270
  • The tongue can bless and curse, bless and blast.
  • 00:22:12.280 --> 00:22:19.120
  • It can sing, it can slander.
  • 00:22:19.130 --> 00:22:23.140
  • It can encourage, it can discourage.
  • 00:22:23.150 --> 00:22:28.260
  • As an illustration let's compare two people in relative recent
  • 00:22:28.270 --> 00:22:33.060
  • history and compare how both of them known for their speech used
  • 00:22:33.070 --> 00:22:40.060
  • it in two different ways.
  • 00:22:40.070 --> 00:22:41.200
  • Let's compare Adolf Hitler and Dr. Billy Graham.
  • 00:22:41.210 --> 00:22:48.040
  • Adolf Hitler swayed people with his speech,
  • 00:22:48.050 --> 00:22:50.240
  • great masses of people.
  • 00:22:50.250 --> 00:22:52.060
  • He turned a nation with his speeches, with his words.
  • 00:22:52.070 --> 00:22:56.240
  • So, when Adolf was growing up, he was tutored in giving
  • 00:22:56.250 --> 00:23:01.290
  • speeches, in communication, and in mass psychology by a renowned
  • 00:23:02.000 --> 00:23:09.060
  • European astrologer and occultist by the name
  • 00:23:09.070 --> 00:23:13.210
  • of Erik Jan Hanussen.
  • 00:23:13.220 --> 00:23:16.250
  • He taught Adolf how to speak, how to speak to crowds, how to
  • 00:23:16.260 --> 00:23:21.110
  • win crowds in his favor, how to turn their thinking around,
  • 00:23:21.120 --> 00:23:25.200
  • and you know the results.
  • 00:23:25.210 --> 00:23:27.080
  • It's been estimated that for every single word in Hitler's
  • 00:23:27.090 --> 00:23:32.060
  • book, "Mein Kampf," that 125 people lost their lives
  • 00:23:32.070 --> 00:23:36.240
  • in World War II.
  • 00:23:36.250 --> 00:23:38.240
  • He's responsible for the death of millions of people.
  • 00:23:38.250 --> 00:23:43.170
  • Compare that to Dr. Billy Graham, who used his tongue for
  • 00:23:43.180 --> 00:23:46.240
  • nothing else than proclaiming the gospel of Jesus Christ
  • 00:23:46.250 --> 00:23:50.280
  • around the world.
  • 00:23:50.290 --> 00:23:52.160
  • Billy Graham has preached to more people than any single
  • 00:23:52.170 --> 00:23:55.050
  • human being who has ever lived in human history.
  • 00:23:55.060 --> 00:23:58.150
  • Dr. Billy Graham has shared the gospel of Christ to over 215
  • 00:23:58.160 --> 00:24:03.100
  • million people in the stadiums of 185 different countries.
  • 00:24:03.110 --> 00:24:10.030
  • Think of the different potential between those two individuals,
  • 00:24:10.040 --> 00:24:14.080
  • so words have the potential to affect people for
  • 00:24:14.090 --> 00:24:17.040
  • good or for evil.
  • 00:24:17.050 --> 00:24:18.190
  • So, words are personal, words have potential.
  • 00:24:18.200 --> 00:24:20.190
  • Let's take it down a level.
  • 00:24:20.200 --> 00:24:23.030
  • Not only that, but words are powerful and that's the thought
  • 00:24:23.040 --> 00:24:25.200
  • in verse 16.
  • 00:24:25.210 --> 00:24:27.080
  • Listen to the power.
  • 00:24:27.090 --> 00:24:28.190
  • "You shall not go about," this is a direct command, "you shall
  • 00:24:28.200 --> 00:24:33.250
  • not go about as a talebearer among your people."
  • 00:24:33.260 --> 00:24:39.290
  • Now, what is a talebearer? It's pretty easy.
  • 00:24:40.000 --> 00:24:44.220
  • A talebearer is somebody who bears a tale.
  • 00:24:44.230 --> 00:24:50.180
  • I know you're going, "Duh."
  • 00:24:50.190 --> 00:24:53.170
  • Think about it.
  • 00:24:53.180 --> 00:24:54.270
  • He's carrying, he's bearing a tale.
  • 00:24:54.280 --> 00:24:56.100
  • He has a story that he's bearing.
  • 00:24:56.110 --> 00:24:58.230
  • He's carrying a story, and it's a story about someone, and a
  • 00:24:58.240 --> 00:25:04.030
  • talebearer has a story about someone usually he doesn't like
  • 00:25:04.040 --> 00:25:06.240
  • or she doesn't like and there may be traces of truth
  • 00:25:06.250 --> 00:25:10.250
  • in the tale that they bear.
  • 00:25:10.260 --> 00:25:13.060
  • Maybe certain parts that are true, many parts that are not.
  • 00:25:13.070 --> 00:25:16.150
  • It's a spin on the facts, but this person is telling the tale
  • 00:25:16.160 --> 00:25:23.210
  • not to reveal the truth.
  • 00:25:23.220 --> 00:25:25.120
  • The purpose is not to reveal the truth.
  • 00:25:25.130 --> 00:25:27.070
  • The purpose is to ruin a person.
  • 00:25:27.080 --> 00:25:30.190
  • The purpose is when I bear this tale in your hearing, you're
  • 00:25:30.200 --> 00:25:34.120
  • gonna hear it and change your thinking about the person
  • 00:25:34.130 --> 00:25:36.150
  • I'm telling you about.
  • 00:25:36.160 --> 00:25:37.270
  • You're gonna change what you think about them.
  • 00:25:37.280 --> 00:25:41.020
  • Someone might say, "Well, let me tell you what he's really like.
  • 00:25:41.030 --> 00:25:46.060
  • Let me tell you what I heard her say when I was eavesdropping.
  • 00:25:46.070 --> 00:25:53.050
  • Well, you don't know all the facts.
  • 00:25:53.060 --> 00:25:54.220
  • Let me tell you what really happened."
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  • And people lean in.
  • 00:25:56.190 --> 00:25:59.020
  • The difference between a talebearer and a concerned
  • 00:25:59.030 --> 00:26:03.180
  • friend is the difference between a butcher and a surgeon.
  • 00:26:03.190 --> 00:26:08.120
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