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Ed Young - A Foundation of Marriage

February 24, 2025 | 27:29

Ed Young - A Foundation of Marriage
Pastor Ed Young emphasizes the importance of following God's plan for marriage. He highlights three key principles: leaving, cleaving, and transparency. By leaving behind financial and emotional dependence on parents, couples can establish exclusivity and unity in their relationship.
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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - A Foundation of Marriage | February 24, 2025
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  • Pastor ed young: god has a plan for marriage.
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  • And i've discovered that every time we follow god's plan,
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  • It always works.
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  • There are positively no exceptions to that.
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  • And there are three kinds of marriages.
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  • There are bad marriages, there are okay marriage, okay
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  • Marriages, and there are great marriages.
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  • If you're not married, what kind of marriage would you
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  • Like to have?
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  • If you are married, what kind of marriage would you like to have?
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  • So we have to decide.
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  • And so god, in his clarity-- people always say, "a lot of the
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  • Bible i don't understand."
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  • That's not your problem.
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  • The problem that you and i have in the bible is the part
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  • We do understand.
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  • So it's very clear.
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  • God has given us a formula, a design, a dream, a way in which
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  • A marriage, marriages, can be all that he designed
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  • For them to become.
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  • And so we look back and see the essential relationship.
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  • There's no other human relationship that is greater
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  • Than marriage.
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  • Certainly our relationship with god in jesus christ would be
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  • First, but marriage is absolutely there.
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  • Nobody here as humans will make a more profound, important
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  • Decision in your life by saying, "i do and i will."
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  • "i now pronounce you--" that has pre-eminence over
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  • Everything else.
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  • So let's just look back and see the history a little bit.
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  • Let's go to the book of genesis.
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  • Genesis chapter number 1 tells us what god did.
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  • In the beginning, god.
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  • Let there be.
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  • Let there be. let there be.
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  • Let there be.
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  • And he had seven "let there be's" and he said every time,
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  • "it is good."
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  • And the seventh one, he said, "it is very good."
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  • And then we see the beautiful, beautiful story.
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  • And god said, "it's not good for man to be alone."
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  • And adam says, "i sure get that."
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  • He said, "i will make a helper suitable for him."
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  • Now, the females get upset at the word "helper," but the word
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  • "helper" in the hebrew means that something is missing.
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  • It's the rest of that which should be there.
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  • That's a better translation, not some subservient.
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  • It is something that will be there.
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  • It's something that is missing.
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  • And then he said, "i will make a helper,"
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  • That part that is missing.
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  • "now the lord god had formed out of the ground all the wild
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  • Animals and all the birds of the sea.
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  • And he brought them to the man to see he would name them, and
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  • Whatever the man called the living creatures,
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  • That was a name.
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  • And so the man gave the name to all the livestock, and the birds
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  • In the sky, and the wild animals.
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  • But adam, no suitable helper," the rest of something,
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  • "was found.
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  • So the lord god called man to fall into a deep sleep, and
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  • While he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and then
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  • Closed up the place with flesh.
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  • Then the lord god made a woman from the rib.
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  • He had taken out of man and he brought her to man.
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  • And adam said--" notice, god brought that woman to man.
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  • Ladies, god brought your husband to you.
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  • Men, god brought your wife to you.
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  • Same thing.
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  • The man said, "eureka!
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  • That's the rest of me.
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  • This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh, and she
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  • Shall be called woman."
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  • By the way, what is the purpose of all this, of creation,
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  • All the universe?
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  • What is the purpose of all the animals?
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  • What is the climax of all this magnificence that has come
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  • Into being?
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  • Ex nihilo, out of nothing, god's creative act.
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  • What is the purpose?
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  • Here it is.
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  • Guess what?
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  • Marriage.
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  • You say, "well, i'll doubt that."
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  • Then you don't know your bible.
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  • Marriage, we've already discovered, begins right here in
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  • Genesis 1--ends up the marriage feast of the lamb
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  • In revelation, right?
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  • And we know this particular plan for marriage is repeated in the
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  • Bible by jesus in the sermon on the mount in matthew 5,
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  • Matthew 18.
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  • He comes back and deals with it again in ephesians 5. and all
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  • The way through the bible, there's marriage, and marriage,
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  • And marriage, and marriage, and marriage.
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  • Now, those of you who are single, just hold on.
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  • We're not going to cover every relationship.
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  • We'll get to that very clearly, what that role is, so don't get
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  • Bent out of joint.
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  • We're talking about relationships, and the highest,
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  • And most sacred, and beautiful, and magnificent relationship god
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  • Has given to us is marriage.
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  • And we can follow the formula, the plan, and the design.
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  • And when we do, guess what?
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  • It works every single time.
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  • I was speaking last night and i got carried away, and i said,
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  • "look, if anybody who is married follows this formula, both
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  • Partners are christians, and your marriage doesn't sing, and
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  • Work, and soar, i will personally go find $100,000 and
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  • Write you a check, so you'll make some quick money."
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  • And i wish i could say $1 million or $10 million, because
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  • I am confident, i know beyond words.
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  • So you can have a bad marriage, an okay marriage, or you can
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  • Have a great marriage that god designed.
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  • You say, "well, i bounce between one and one."
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  • No, no, no, under the great marriage doesn't mean everything
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  • Is always violins and roses.
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  • I'm not saying that, but i'm saying your marriage will be
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  • Bountiful, and beautiful, and growing, and significant, and it
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  • Will be the center point of your life if we do it god's way.
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  • Now, we have to decide.
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  • Some people say, "well, it's too late for me."
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  • No, it's not, not by god's grace and by god's power.
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  • So what is this formula?
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  • Let's look at it.
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  • It's right here.
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  • "she shall be taken out of man, and that is why a man leaves his
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  • Father and his mother."
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  • The first thing we have to do, we have to leave.
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  • We have to leave your parent, you see?
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  • Leave father, leave your mother, and what does that mean?
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  • It means in marriage there has to be an exclusivity.
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  • It's an exclusive thing.
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  • It's a private thing.
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  • It's you and me, babe.
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  • Exclusivity is a part of it.
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  • You leave.
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  • What does it mean to leave?
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  • You leave your parents, all other relationship.
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  • You have your parents, you have other relationship, but the
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  • Number one relationship, there's nothing challenging it, so you
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  • Have to leave the financial support you have for
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  • Your parents, hello.
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  • Doesn't mean parents do not help, but it means that parents
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  • Back up and let those married children begin to fend for
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  • Themselves as early as possible.
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  • You back up and let them decide.
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  • Don't make that house payment.
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  • Don't buy that car.
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  • That'd be my recommendation.
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  • Back up.
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  • Let there be some struggle.
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  • Let there be some discipline financially.
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  • Don't overtake that.
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  • There is exceptions here for a while, but that is what we must
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  • Do as parents, as grandparents.
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  • Back up.
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  • You have to back up emotionally.
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  • I heard a marriage tape this week.
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  • I just flipped it in and the story was told that this young
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  • Couple got married.
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  • Boy, they were having a great time.
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  • It was perfect.
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  • It was ken and barbie and the bells were ringing.
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  • They had everything going for them.
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  • And then they were married about six months and they had their
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  • First real fight, not physically,
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  • But the first real debate.
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  • And i'm telling you, it went from bad to worse.
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  • And she said, "i didn't know you when i married you."
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  • And he said, "i didn't realize you were like this."
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  • And they called old things, old grudges, old ideas.
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  • And it goes on and on, and she gets hysterical,
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  • And she's crying.
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  • And females, i want you to know your tears are like nuclear
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  • Weapons at this time.
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  • And she's crying, she's hysterical, and they go
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  • On and on.
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  • And it gets worse and worse, and, "i don't know how we can
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  • Live together.
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  • We didn't make it.
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  • Let's get outta here."
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  • It gets overwhelming, until finally he said, "i'm outta
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  • Here," and he gets up, and goes out, and closes the door, and
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  • Starts walking up the street.
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  • And she's just outrageously upset, and she goes and gets a--
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  • Puts on a robe over her gown, and gets on some shoes, and gets
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  • In the car, and packs out of the car, and takes off down the
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  • Road, and sees him walking, and doesn't even look left or right,
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  • And she's going home.
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  • Though her mother and dad live about two hours from her,
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  • She's going home to mama.
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  • She takes off. she gets there about, oh,
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  • 4 a.m. in the morning, knowing her mother gets up early.
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  • She's still crying.
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  • She goes to the front door and she rings the bell.
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  • She rings the bell, banging on the door.
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  • "mama, mama, mama!"
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  • And mother comes to the door and pulls that little, you know, the
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  • Little screen, the little curtains back, and looks at her,
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  • And closes it.
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  • "oh, let me in, mother."
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  • And she--mother pulls it back, looks at her again, closes it.
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  • She's still hysterical on the porch.
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  • And the mother goes and cracks the door, and puts her foot in
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  • It, and says, "you've had your first fight, haven't you?"
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  • "oh yes, mother."
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  • She says, "go home and make it right."
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  • Bang, closes the door, that was it.
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  • About 10 or 12 years went by, this couple's marriage
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  • Was just blossoming.
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  • And she told a friend, "you know, the best thing that ever
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  • Happened in my marriage was when my mother slammed the door and
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  • Said, 'go home and make it right.'"
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  • You see, there's an exclusivity in marriage.
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  • An exclusivity in marriage.
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  • So we got to watch all the financial support, we've gotta
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  • Cut away the emotional support, and realize that god has put you
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  • Together, and you have the ability, particularly and
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  • Especially if you're in christ, to go through
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  • Every single crisis.
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  • Number one, leave.
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  • There is an exclusivity there that we must honor,
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  • First principle.
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  • The next principle in here, i want you to look at it very
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  • Accurately here in the account.
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  • It says, "this is why a man leaves his father and mother,"
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  • Because of marriage.
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  • And he says, "and is united with his wife and they
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  • Become one flesh."
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  • That's a singularity.
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  • In other words, two become one.
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  • And when this happens, here is the kingdom of self meeting
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  • The kingdom of self.
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  • Here is the kingdom of the male meeting the kingdom of the
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  • Female, and you mean they are to become one?
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  • And so, many times there is a kingdom battle that goes on for
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  • A long, long time, not understanding that both kingdoms
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  • Are to be dissolved and destroyed.
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  • And now they're to have one kingdom that is operating
  • 00:13:33.969 --> 00:13:37.606
  • In marriage under the very kingdom of god.
  • 00:13:37.606 --> 00:13:43.245
  • You see, two becoming one is a tremendous challenge.
  • 00:13:43.245 --> 00:13:51.153
  • But when it happens, it is a magnificently beautiful thing
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  • To observe.
  • 00:13:57.259 --> 00:13:58.627
  • Do you know the most powerful witness for christ that anybody
  • 00:13:58.627 --> 00:14:02.164
  • Here can make, myself included, is to see when two become one?
  • 00:14:02.164 --> 00:14:07.970
  • They become one flesh.
  • 00:14:07.970 --> 00:14:10.806
  • And that's where we would say gorilla glue or super glue
  • 00:14:10.806 --> 00:14:14.009
  • Comes into being.
  • 00:14:14.009 --> 00:14:15.711
  • And we're so intertwined with one another in every way, in
  • 00:14:15.711 --> 00:14:19.481
  • Every attitude, in every situation.
  • 00:14:19.481 --> 00:14:22.418
  • And that marriage that is alive for god in christ is the most
  • 00:14:22.418 --> 00:14:27.222
  • Powerful witness we can give to the world.
  • 00:14:27.222 --> 00:14:29.758
  • There's nothing more powerful than that.
  • 00:14:29.758 --> 00:14:32.294
  • To see a couple that's got it, that's glowing,
  • 00:14:32.294 --> 00:14:38.167
  • It's a beautiful thing.
  • 00:14:38.167 --> 00:14:40.903
  • That intertwineness.
  • 00:14:40.903 --> 00:14:42.671
  • There's no secret agendas.
  • 00:14:42.671 --> 00:14:44.606
  • There's nothing hidden there.
  • 00:14:44.606 --> 00:14:46.275
  • There's nothing that the other one doesn't know.
  • 00:14:46.275 --> 00:14:48.544
  • And there's no areas you can't talk about.
  • 00:14:48.544 --> 00:14:49.979
  • "well, we can talk about everything but sex
  • 00:14:49.979 --> 00:14:52.147
  • And finances."
  • 00:14:52.147 --> 00:14:53.515
  • Oh no, two become one.
  • 00:14:53.515 --> 00:14:55.617
  • And the reason we have so many tragic divorcees when people
  • 00:14:55.617 --> 00:15:01.023
  • Have been married for a long time and there's that empty nest
  • 00:15:01.023 --> 00:15:03.993
  • Is because they wake up and said, "who is this woman?
  • 00:15:03.993 --> 00:15:09.598
  • Who is this man?"
  • 00:15:09.598 --> 00:15:12.034
  • In the process of child rearing, and raising, and bringing them
  • 00:15:12.034 --> 00:15:16.405
  • Up, they got where they didn't know each other and they didn't
  • 00:15:16.405 --> 00:15:19.708
  • Give the highest priority to one another.
  • 00:15:19.708 --> 00:15:23.145
  • It was the children.
  • 00:15:23.145 --> 00:15:24.513
  • It was the job.
  • 00:15:24.513 --> 00:15:25.848
  • It was other people.
  • 00:15:25.848 --> 00:15:27.216
  • It was hobbies. it was activities.
  • 00:15:27.216 --> 00:15:29.018
  • And they wake up and therefore they say, "i'm not gonna live
  • 00:15:29.018 --> 00:15:30.753
  • The rest of my life with him or her."
  • 00:15:30.753 --> 00:15:32.621
  • Bang, they're out of here.
  • 00:15:32.621 --> 00:15:33.989
  • It happens all the time.
  • 00:15:33.989 --> 00:15:38.527
  • Two become one, what a beautiful thing.
  • 00:15:38.527 --> 00:15:43.198
  • Two become one, operating with the very principles of god
  • 00:15:43.198 --> 00:15:47.469
  • In jesus christ.
  • 00:15:47.469 --> 00:15:49.571
  • It works every time.
  • 00:15:49.571 --> 00:15:51.106
  • It is a powerful witness to this world.
  • 00:15:51.106 --> 00:15:53.976
  • They'll say, "boy, what do they have that we don't have?"
  • 00:15:53.976 --> 00:15:56.745
  • What do they see?
  • 00:15:56.745 --> 00:15:58.580
  • It's because there is an exclusivity there.
  • 00:15:58.580 --> 00:16:02.551
  • It's because now there's a singularity there.
  • 00:16:02.551 --> 00:16:07.056
  • And that is a magnificent thing and almost a rare thing in the
  • 00:16:07.056 --> 00:16:13.362
  • Culture in which we live.
  • 00:16:13.362 --> 00:16:15.864
  • Because some of us, even as christians, we use the bible
  • 00:16:15.864 --> 00:16:19.668
  • As a hammer.
  • 00:16:19.668 --> 00:16:21.403
  • Oh yeah, "oh, you don't know the bible like this."
  • 00:16:21.403 --> 00:16:24.006
  • And we call out the word of god as if it's a sledgehammer to win
  • 00:16:24.006 --> 00:16:28.210
  • Some kind of argument.
  • 00:16:28.210 --> 00:16:29.545
  • We try to--some wives or husbands try to out-pious
  • 00:16:29.545 --> 00:16:32.481
  • One another.
  • 00:16:32.481 --> 00:16:33.816
  • You know any situations like that?
  • 00:16:33.816 --> 00:16:35.217
  • Oh yeah, i do.
  • 00:16:35.217 --> 00:16:36.552
  • I've seen it many times.
  • 00:16:36.552 --> 00:16:38.587
  • There was a couple that got married, newlyweds.
  • 00:16:38.587 --> 00:16:41.957
  • Both of them were christians.
  • 00:16:41.957 --> 00:16:43.959
  • And so the bible teacher that the man had sat under for many
  • 00:16:43.959 --> 00:16:48.063
  • Years asked this young guy, just married, "how are things goin'
  • 00:16:48.063 --> 00:16:53.602
  • With your marriage?"
  • 00:16:53.602 --> 00:16:55.938
  • He said, "wow, she's having a tough time
  • 00:16:55.938 --> 00:17:01.977
  • Following my leadership.
  • 00:17:01.977 --> 00:17:05.814
  • She's not really submissive to my leadership."
  • 00:17:05.814 --> 00:17:10.486
  • And so the bible teacher says, "well, show me that verse
  • 00:17:10.486 --> 00:17:13.255
  • In the bible."
  • 00:17:13.255 --> 00:17:14.957
  • He said, "my goodness, you mean you don't know that verse?
  • 00:17:14.957 --> 00:17:17.459
  • You've been teaching me the bible all these years.
  • 00:17:17.459 --> 00:17:19.761
  • You know that verse."
  • 00:17:19.761 --> 00:17:21.096
  • He said, "no, show me the verse that says that your wife needs
  • 00:17:21.096 --> 00:17:23.499
  • To submit to your leadership."
  • 00:17:23.499 --> 00:17:24.867
  • He said, "well, it's right here."
  • 00:17:24.867 --> 00:17:26.201
  • And he went got his bible out of his desk and he said,
  • 00:17:26.201 --> 00:17:28.470
  • "i want to read it to you.
  • 00:17:28.470 --> 00:17:30.506
  • It's in ephesians. you know it.
  • 00:17:30.506 --> 00:17:32.875
  • Chapter number 22, it says, 'wives, submit that--'"
  • 00:17:32.875 --> 00:17:34.243
  • "wait a minute.
  • 00:17:34.243 --> 00:17:35.744
  • Wait a minute.
  • 00:17:35.744 --> 00:17:37.079
  • What'd you say?" "it says, 'wives submit.'"
  • 00:17:37.079 --> 00:17:39.515
  • He said, "no, no, that verse is not for you.
  • 00:17:39.515 --> 00:17:40.949
  • Didn't you say it began with, 'wives.'
  • 00:17:40.949 --> 00:17:42.284
  • Did you notice that?"
  • 00:17:42.284 --> 00:17:43.652
  • "oh," he said.
  • 00:17:43.652 --> 00:17:44.987
  • He said, "look at some of those verses that are for you."
  • 00:17:44.987 --> 00:17:46.922
  • He got the bible.
  • 00:17:46.922 --> 00:17:48.257
  • He said, "look here, 'husbands, love your wives just as christ
  • 00:17:48.257 --> 00:17:50.959
  • Loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her
  • 00:17:50.959 --> 00:17:54.029
  • Holy, cleansing her by the washing of water through
  • 00:17:54.029 --> 00:17:56.798
  • The word.'"
  • 00:17:56.798 --> 00:17:58.167
  • Said, "it sounds like a husband should be willing to die and
  • 00:17:58.167 --> 00:18:01.570
  • Should be living a death-defying life in the presence of the
  • 00:18:01.570 --> 00:18:05.407
  • Wife, doesn't it?"
  • 00:18:05.407 --> 00:18:06.775
  • It sure does.
  • 00:18:06.775 --> 00:18:08.110
  • Christ died for--"oh, that's how the husbands should live,
  • 00:18:08.110 --> 00:18:10.379
  • A sacrificial, a crucified life to please the wife."
  • 00:18:10.379 --> 00:18:14.316
  • "oh."
  • 00:18:14.316 --> 00:18:15.684
  • Said, "here's another verse that's for you.
  • 00:18:15.684 --> 00:18:17.019
  • Look at verse 28, 'in this very same way, husbands ought to love
  • 00:18:17.019 --> 00:18:20.989
  • Their wives as their own bodies.'"
  • 00:18:20.989 --> 00:18:22.758
  • Oh.
  • 00:18:22.758 --> 00:18:24.126
  • "he who loves his wife loves himself.
  • 00:18:24.126 --> 00:18:25.894
  • After all, no one ever hated his own body, but they feed and care
  • 00:18:25.894 --> 00:18:29.331
  • For their body."
  • 00:18:29.331 --> 00:18:30.699
  • Oh, that's for you.
  • 00:18:30.699 --> 00:18:32.935
  • And said, "by the way, while you're talking about biblical
  • 00:18:32.935 --> 00:18:35.003
  • Principles of marriage, did you notice that all these job
  • 00:18:35.003 --> 00:18:38.707
  • Assignments for the husband and a wife begin with this verse?
  • 00:18:38.707 --> 00:18:42.377
  • Look at this.
  • 00:18:42.377 --> 00:18:43.745
  • He read to him verse 21, 'submit to one another out of reverence
  • 00:18:43.745 --> 00:18:52.020
  • For christ.'"
  • 00:18:52.020 --> 00:18:53.355
  • It all begins with wives submitting to their husband,
  • 00:18:53.355 --> 00:18:56.892
  • The husband submitting to their wives.
  • 00:18:56.892 --> 00:18:59.561
  • That's the pre-amble before you have the specific assignments
  • 00:18:59.561 --> 00:19:03.832
  • Given to a husband and wife.
  • 00:19:03.832 --> 00:19:05.701
  • So remember, we talked about that.
  • 00:19:05.701 --> 00:19:07.936
  • We position ourself under.
  • 00:19:07.936 --> 00:19:09.938
  • We position us under.
  • 00:19:09.938 --> 00:19:11.640
  • The husband positions himself under the wife.
  • 00:19:11.640 --> 00:19:13.041
  • The wife position herself under the husband.
  • 00:19:13.041 --> 00:19:16.812
  • You see what i'm talking about?
  • 00:19:16.812 --> 00:19:19.314
  • God's formula really works, folks.
  • 00:19:19.314 --> 00:19:22.584
  • It cuts across pride and ego.
  • 00:19:22.584 --> 00:19:25.187
  • It cuts across my desires, your desires.
  • 00:19:25.187 --> 00:19:27.055
  • And the number one thing in life you don't want, the kingdom of
  • 00:19:27.055 --> 00:19:30.158
  • Self versus the kingdom of self.
  • 00:19:30.158 --> 00:19:32.561
  • You want the kingdom of selflessness operating in that
  • 00:19:32.561 --> 00:19:37.599
  • Marriage, in that home, in that relationship.
  • 00:19:37.599 --> 00:19:42.004
  • Did anybody ever have a marital debate, or dispute, on the basis
  • 00:19:42.004 --> 00:19:48.910
  • Of, well, you're not being treated fairly.
  • 00:19:48.910 --> 00:19:54.716
  • It was all the disputes come, "i'm not getting what i deserve.
  • 00:19:54.716 --> 00:19:59.655
  • I'm not getting what ought to be here."
  • 00:19:59.655 --> 00:20:02.457
  • It's self.
  • 00:20:02.457 --> 00:20:03.792
  • And when a marriage begins to increasingly increase and become
  • 00:20:03.792 --> 00:20:06.228
  • Selflessness, powerful things take place.
  • 00:20:06.228 --> 00:20:11.433
  • This is not my idea.
  • 00:20:11.433 --> 00:20:13.635
  • Don't say, "well, i don't agree with the preacher."
  • 00:20:13.635 --> 00:20:15.837
  • It has nothing to do with me. it's just god's word.
  • 00:20:15.837 --> 00:20:18.540
  • You can take it and throw it out and not believe it, or you can
  • 00:20:18.540 --> 00:20:20.042
  • Put it into practice and fire will come into your marriage,
  • 00:20:20.042 --> 00:20:23.545
  • Guaranteed every single time.
  • 00:20:23.545 --> 00:20:26.982
  • So, we leave.
  • 00:20:26.982 --> 00:20:30.052
  • Your marriage, my marriage becomes a touch of exclusivity.
  • 00:20:30.052 --> 00:20:34.990
  • Man, it's--we leave.
  • 00:20:34.990 --> 00:20:37.359
  • We become one.
  • 00:20:37.359 --> 00:20:38.727
  • There's singularity.
  • 00:20:38.727 --> 00:20:40.996
  • No hidden agenda.
  • 00:20:40.996 --> 00:20:42.331
  • There's nothing backward, nothing back there.
  • 00:20:42.331 --> 00:20:43.932
  • We deal, we talk about it all, and we become one.
  • 00:20:43.932 --> 00:20:48.003
  • And then finally, look at the last part, and this has to do
  • 00:20:48.003 --> 00:20:51.807
  • With transparency.
  • 00:20:51.807 --> 00:20:57.112
  • "adam and eve were both naked and they felt no shame."
  • 00:20:57.112 --> 00:21:02.784
  • Isn't that great?
  • 00:21:02.784 --> 00:21:04.286
  • Transparent.
  • 00:21:04.286 --> 00:21:06.855
  • Here i am, open, honest, with you, on your team,
  • 00:21:06.855 --> 00:21:15.030
  • Cheering for you, cherishing you.
  • 00:21:15.030 --> 00:21:19.000
  • Transparency.
  • 00:21:19.000 --> 00:21:20.469
  • What would it be like to live in a family where everybody always
  • 00:21:20.469 --> 00:21:25.674
  • Told the truth in love?
  • 00:21:25.674 --> 00:21:29.778
  • What kind of family would that be?
  • 00:21:29.778 --> 00:21:31.947
  • Well, that's the way it's gonna be in heaven.
  • 00:21:31.947 --> 00:21:34.182
  • We have the opportunity to have a little touch of heaven right
  • 00:21:34.182 --> 00:21:35.984
  • Now, folks.
  • 00:21:35.984 --> 00:21:37.319
  • Just tell the truth in love.
  • 00:21:37.319 --> 00:21:39.621
  • And your wife and your husband can reprogram how you see
  • 00:21:39.621 --> 00:21:43.625
  • Yourself and how others have have seen you.
  • 00:21:43.625 --> 00:21:48.130
  • There's a reprogramming there.
  • 00:21:48.130 --> 00:21:51.233
  • If people have said, "well, you know, he's not very smart," but
  • 00:21:51.233 --> 00:21:55.704
  • Your wife says, "hey, man, i know you've got a lot of stuff.
  • 00:21:55.704 --> 00:22:00.675
  • I think you're very bright," it reprograms you.
  • 00:22:00.675 --> 00:22:04.813
  • Somebody, says, "well, you know, you're sort of slow and you
  • 00:22:04.813 --> 00:22:09.951
  • Don't really look too sharp."
  • 00:22:09.951 --> 00:22:11.620
  • Your wife says, "man, you're the sharpest thing i've ever seen."
  • 00:22:11.620 --> 00:22:15.123
  • Same way with a husband.
  • 00:22:15.123 --> 00:22:16.591
  • We reprogram one another because there's that mirror out there
  • 00:22:16.591 --> 00:22:20.095
  • In front.
  • 00:22:20.095 --> 00:22:21.430
  • And we can tear down, we can build up, we can speak the truth
  • 00:22:21.430 --> 00:22:25.867
  • In love, and there's an open and a candidness.
  • 00:22:25.867 --> 00:22:30.305
  • All of a sudden, things happen in marriage.
  • 00:22:30.305 --> 00:22:33.508
  • Wonderful things happen in marriage.
  • 00:22:33.508 --> 00:22:37.679
  • So we got the formula there: leave, cleave,
  • 00:22:37.679 --> 00:22:45.487
  • No shame, transparency.
  • 00:22:45.487 --> 00:22:50.225
  • Well, how do we get there?
  • 00:22:50.225 --> 00:22:51.993
  • Remember, i talked about you.
  • 00:22:51.993 --> 00:22:54.329
  • In marriage, you talk, talk, talk, you listen, listen,
  • 00:22:54.329 --> 00:22:57.999
  • Listen, then you pray, and pray, and pray.
  • 00:22:57.999 --> 00:23:01.336
  • Marriage involves work and worship, worship and work, work
  • 00:23:01.336 --> 00:23:06.508
  • And worship, and when a couple genuinely begins to pray
  • 00:23:06.508 --> 00:23:10.011
  • Together, that marriage will soar every single time because
  • 00:23:10.011 --> 00:23:16.151
  • You can't fool god.
  • 00:23:16.151 --> 00:23:17.752
  • You may try to, but you can't.
  • 00:23:17.752 --> 00:23:21.323
  • Now, somebody here, or many here, would say, "man, it's just
  • 00:23:21.323 --> 00:23:28.563
  • Too late for me.
  • 00:23:28.563 --> 00:23:30.732
  • My marriage is down in a pit.
  • 00:23:30.732 --> 00:23:34.402
  • It's down there 20 feet deep." i'm going to tell you something.
  • 00:23:34.402 --> 00:23:39.975
  • God has a rope that's 21 feet long, and he'll put it down
  • 00:23:39.975 --> 00:23:48.917
  • In that pit.
  • 00:23:48.917 --> 00:23:51.920
  • You say, "well, my marriage is-- well, you don't know.
  • 00:23:51.920 --> 00:23:56.825
  • My marriage and my kids, my wife, i'm down in a pit
  • 00:23:56.825 --> 00:24:00.929
  • 1,000 feet deep."
  • 00:24:00.929 --> 00:24:03.498
  • Let me tell you something.
  • 00:24:03.498 --> 00:24:04.866
  • God has a rope that's 1,001 foot, and he'll put it down.
  • 00:24:04.866 --> 00:24:11.006
  • I'm going to tell you something more exciting than that.
  • 00:24:11.006 --> 00:24:13.508
  • He'll not only, by his grace, put that rope down for you if
  • 00:24:13.508 --> 00:24:17.612
  • You're down in that pit, but jesus christ will go down that
  • 00:24:17.612 --> 00:24:21.416
  • Rope just like he did in bethlehem, and meet you, and
  • 00:24:21.416 --> 00:24:24.786
  • Bring you back up so you can have a marriage that begins to
  • 00:24:24.786 --> 00:24:28.023
  • Flourish, and grow, and sing in harmony like god intends
  • 00:24:28.023 --> 00:24:32.527
  • For it to do.
  • 00:24:32.527 --> 00:24:38.099
  • Choices.
  • 00:24:38.099 --> 00:24:40.802
  • Just keep on doing it the same old way.
  • 00:24:40.802 --> 00:24:45.941
  • "my marriage is okay.
  • 00:24:45.941 --> 00:24:47.776
  • I'm holding on.
  • 00:24:47.776 --> 00:24:50.478
  • I'm here for the kids, or for a family, or reputation,
  • 00:24:50.478 --> 00:24:53.949
  • Or whatever."
  • 00:24:53.949 --> 00:24:55.283
  • Or you can begin, by his grace and by his power,
  • 00:24:55.283 --> 00:25:03.992
  • To do it god's way.
  • 00:25:03.992 --> 00:25:07.662
  • Female: we have the promise that god
  • 00:25:09.297 --> 00:25:10.865
  • Will direct all our paths.
  • 00:25:10.865 --> 00:25:12.968
  • Male: plus the guarantee of a long life.
  • 00:25:12.968 --> 00:25:15.103
  • Female: the assurance of our family's protection.
  • 00:25:15.103 --> 00:25:17.505
  • Male: the promise of creative wisdom.
  • 00:25:17.505 --> 00:25:19.107
  • Female: and he will never leave us or forsake us.
  • 00:25:19.107 --> 00:25:22.477
  • Male announcer: the promises of god are available
  • 00:25:22.477 --> 00:25:24.045
  • For all believers in christ.
  • 00:25:24.045 --> 00:25:26.381
  • Each day is an opportunity to live in the fullness of what
  • 00:25:26.381 --> 00:25:28.016
  • He's already pledged to us in his word.
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  • Pastor ed: in today's study, we discover that god wants
  • 00:26:07.555 --> 00:26:09.858
  • You and me to have a marriage that grows and flourishes.
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  • But the reality is that some marriages are in trouble.
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  • So how do you fix what seems unrepairable?
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  • The answer is to turn to god and ask him to give you
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  • A fresh beginning, a clean start,
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  • Even the most difficult of marriages.
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  • God offers his grace.
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  • Jesus went all the way to the cross for us.
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  • He could bring you
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  • And your marriage back to where you can begin again.
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  • The wonderful moment.
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  • And if you would like to speak with someone who could counsel
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  • And pray for you and your marriage,
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  • Then call the number on your screen.
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  • Godly men and women are just waiting to take your call.
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  • And let me personally thank you for joining me today
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  • And make plans to tune in next time right here
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  • On the winning walk with jesus christ.
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