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Ed Young - Lasting Relationships

May 28, 2025 | S25:E128

Ed Young - Lasting Relationships
The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young is the international on-air and online teaching ministry of Dr. Ed Young. The Winning Walk proclaims the proven truth of God’s Word to give men and women the world over a winning way to live life.
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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - Lasting Relationships | May 28, 2025
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  • Ed young: let me ask you a question: would you let someone
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  • Speak in this pulpit, this evangelical, bible-believing
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  • Church, if they had been a part of persecuting a lot of
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  • Christians in the middle east, they had seen a lot of people
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  • Executed and they'd applauded it, and they had organized
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  • Groups to carry out this terrorist activity to persecute
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  • Christians, and that person came to know christ?
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  • Would you let them stand in the pulpit here?
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  • What if somebody, somebody looked at a beautiful woman,
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  • Sorta looked through the window and she was taking a bath and he
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  • Lusted after her, and he went and invited her out on a social
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  • Situation and had sex with her and fell madly in love with her
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  • And arranged for a hitman to kill her husband so that he
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  • Could marry her, and he married her.
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  • Would you let that person stand and speak in this pulpit?
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  • Well, we just excluded the apostle paul and david.
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  • My point, god heals, god forgives, god cleanses and gives
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  • Those who follow christ a brand-new, fresh beginning.
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  • That's the gospel, that's the good news.
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  • We don't cancel out people.
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  • We say, "come to him for his healing, forgiving grace."
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  • So paul takes these first 6 chapters, and it's almost a
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  • Shotgun approach, he deals with this, with this, with this.
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  • And in the 7th chapter, remember the context, he's answering
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  • Specific questions that the church had asked him as their
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  • Founding pastor.
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  • And then he gets to chapter 7, and look what he says.
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  • "and now concerning the things of which you wrote to me."
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  • It was about time.
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  • He said, "now i'm gonna answer those specific questions."
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  • And then he begins, in chapter 7, and he deals with marriage,
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  • With singleness, and with divorce.
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  • The first thing paul talks about in 7 is marriage, listen to it.
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  • "it is good for a man not to touch a woman.
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  • Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have
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  • His own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
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  • Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and
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  • Likewise also the wife to the husband.
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  • The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the
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  • Husband does.
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  • And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own
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  • Body, but the wife does.
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  • Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time,
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  • That you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come
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  • Together again so that satan does not tempt you because of
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  • Your lack of self-control.
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  • But i say this as a concession, and not as a commandment."
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  • Let me stop here and help us understand 7, paul is answering
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  • Specific questions, okay?
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  • We don't know exactly what the questions are, we surmise.
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  • And therefore, you can take a verse here and you could say,
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  • "the bible says, 'a man is not to touch a woman,'" and somebody
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  • Would take that and say, "boy, this is what god says
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  • In his word."
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  • In context we have to understand things.
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  • He's talking about the body, and he's talking about the body and
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  • The culture of corinth in that day.
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  • For example, there's a whole understanding of the body, that
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  • The body is a morally neutral zone.
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  • What does that mean?
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  • It means that the body doesn't mean anything, the important
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  • Thing is the soul.
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  • What is a soul?
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  • It's everything that is not flesh.
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  • Get that?
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  • Everything about you and about me that is eternal, that is not
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  • Flesh, that is your soul and that is my soul, this body is
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  • Not made for eternal existence.
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  • You got it?
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  • So what he's saying here, there was a whole philosophy that the
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  • Body is a moral neutral zone.
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  • Therefore, you can do anything you want to do.
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  • And that's hedonism, sex anywhere, anytime, consenting
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  • Adults, we've heard that.
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  • There's a hedonistic view of life, the body is neutral,
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  • Doesn't make any difference, only important thing's the soul.
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  • And the other extremity is that the body is a evil zone, an
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  • Evil zone.
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  • The body is so evil you have to practice celibacy.
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  • Celibacy, no relation with the opposite sex.
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  • That's the two extremes, celibacy or promiscuity.
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  • Now, that was the culture.
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  • Now, understand what's happening, these people come
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  • From all the world, all kind of view of marriage and sex and
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  • Relationships, and paul is trying to establish and saying
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  • You've got two extremes in the church, some are celibate and
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  • Some are hedonistic.
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  • And then he comes and says what happens in intimacy in marriage,
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  • In marriage, body and soul come together.
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  • That's the magnificent view of physicality in marriage and sex
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  • In marriage that you have in the church, and that's the beauty of
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  • A christian marriage.
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  • Paul is dealing with this, and then he deals with singleness.
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  • What if paul had been married with children?
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  • Could he have done for god what he did, traveling all the world,
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  • Bringing the gospel out in europe, could that?
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  • No, no, no, he'd be so limited.
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  • He'd have a higher responsibility to his wife and
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  • His family, would he not?
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  • So paul is saying, "i wish you could be single, as i am, 'cause
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  • I'm free to do things."
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  • So you've got the married life and the single life, and by the
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  • Way, the married life is much more complex than the
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  • Single life.
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  • We could not run this church without single men and women,
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  • It would be impossible.
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  • If we listed all the things that these tremendous singles do for
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  • Us, we'd sit back and say, "whoa."
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  • Now, for the first time in the history of the united states,
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  • There are more people single in america today than there
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  • Are married.
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  • First time in history, so singleness is in.
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  • And in the crisis that they saw in corinth, paul is saying, "it
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  • Is best that i am single, and some of you who have the gift of
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  • Singleness, it's best that you be single."
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  • Now, others would say, "well, i don't have the gift.
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  • I don't have the gift of singleness, i want to
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  • Be married."
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  • But then we understand spiritual gifts, follow me carefully.
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  • I do not have the gift of hospitality in the sense that i
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  • Love preparing all of that and cooking and doing.
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  • A lot of men do, i just don't have that gift.
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  • I like people, i like to meet people, i like the conversation
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  • That goes around hospitality, but the gift of all the
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  • Preparation, that's not me.
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  • But many times, i have got into hospitality preparation and
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  • Doing things and preparing things, i didn't like it because
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  • It was my duty, but i'm not gifted.
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  • I didn't enjoy it, it's my duty.
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  • So you may not have the gift of singleness, but at this time it
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  • Is within you, your capacity, to be pure and chaste and to
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  • Be single.
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  • This lifestyle is blessed of god, the married lifestyle is
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  • Blessed of god.
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  • So that's important that we understand the whole thing
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  • Of singles.
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  • Let me say, to those who are single, whether you're divorced
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  • Or widowed or you've never married, handle your dating
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  • Relationship biblically and sensibly.
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  • I suggest you read c.s. lewis's book "four loves."
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  • It's a little dated, but c.s. lewis talks about four greek
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  • Words that can be translated love.
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  • He talks about eros, that's sexual love and attraction.
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  • He talks about storge, that's an affectionate kind of love.
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  • You feel an affection there.
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  • And he talks about agape, that's that total committed love that
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  • You have in marriage, total commitment.
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  • Then he talks about phileo or philos, and that is that
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  • Friendship love that you have.
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  • Philadelphia, city of brotherly love, philos, "four loves."
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  • Now, if you're single and you go in a room and there's seven or
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  • Eight people in there of the opposite gender, okay?
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  • And you're single, who do you tend to gravitate to?
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  • Probably, be honest, you would gravitate toward the chemistry,
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  • Toward the eros, or maybe toward storge, you know, somebody who'd
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  • Be warm and affectionate, you go that way.
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  • And that's where people make mistakes, we start off with that
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  • Attraction, that chemistry, that eros, that storge, and all of a
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  • Sudden we approach this relationship backwards.
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  • We need to shuffle those loves and take--in dating and
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  • Relationship if you're single-- eros, sexual love, and put it to
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  • One side.
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  • And what do you look for in that room of eligible singles that
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  • You're in?
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  • What do you look for, first of all?
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  • You look for philos, phileo, friendship.
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  • You're looking for somebody who would be your friend, your best
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  • Friend for the rest of your life, that's where you start.
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  • It's true in genesis, god created, "it's good, it's good,
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  • It's good, it's good, it's good, it's good, it's very good."
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  • Then he said, "it's not good for adam to be alone."
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  • Okay, what's adam's problem?
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  • He's lonely.
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  • What's the answer?
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  • Eve.
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  • What does god say in their marriage?
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  • "leave and cleave."
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  • He doesn't start off with, "be naked."
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  • You start with friendship.
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  • If your wife, your husband is not your best friend, if you've
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  • Got somebody, "oh, that's a better friend than you are,"
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  • You're in trouble.
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  • Start with friendship, and then you get the order of these
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  • Loves right.
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  • You start with phileo, you start with friendship, and then that
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  • Friendship warms and becomes storge, it becomes affection,
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  • And then finally it becomes agape, and then you make that
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  • Commitment, everything you have, highest priority of your life,
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  • Total commitment of love, and then comes a total expression
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  • Of eros.
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  • You get that backwards, and you will be fouled up so many times,
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  • Not every time, because we know today divorce is in decline
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  • Because there's so much cohabitation.
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  • You know, "let's live together, and we'll see if it works out."
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  • Those who cohabitate, they get married about 63% of the time,
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  • But only about 36% of those marriages last.
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  • So if you want your marriage to last, you don't begin
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  • With cohabitation.
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  • You don't begin there.
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  • So what am i saying?
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  • I'm saying that the sexual relationship in marriage is
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  • Expression and celebration and sacred.
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  • I'm saying outside of marriage it is zero and null.
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  • I'm saying in dating relationship you're looking for
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  • Somebody who will be your best friend and confidant in
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  • Your life.
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  • Because marriage is dangerous.
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  • Your mate completely reprograms your life and your self-image.
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  • If you get married, and you think, "well, i'm fairly
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  • Intelligent," and your wife and husband says, "you are stupid,
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  • You just can't think clearly," that mate is reprogramming you.
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  • And they can reprogram you positively or negatively.
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  • They can say, "man, you know, i think that you have this and you
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  • Didn't know it," and it works both ways.
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  • Ladies and gentlemen, marriage is the biggest decision anybody
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  • Makes outside the decision to receive jesus christ.
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  • So make sure, if you want your marriage to sing, we've been
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  • Talking about that for about five weeks now, go back and
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  • Listen and study and it'll work every single time.
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  • We talk about singleness, and then we talk about divorce, and
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  • What happens in divorce is a devastating thing.
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  • Because remember, i've already told you, what is divorce?
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  • It is suicide.
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  • Two become one and that one dies.
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  • That's divorce, it is suicide.
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  • So we look at the bible, and we say, "well, what does god say
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  • About divorce?"
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  • And i want you to see god says there are three areas, three
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  • Areas in which god speaks clearly about divorce in several
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  • Different passages.
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  • Number one, jesus says--the pharisees ask him about divorce,
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  • Trying to trap him between the two extremes.
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  • Remember the extremes of that day?
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  • In roman culture, for 500-plus years, there was not a single
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  • Divorce in the roman empire that any record is kept, and they
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  • Keep records about everything.
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  • Did you get that?
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  • 500 years, no divorce in the roman empire, why?
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  • The father was king kong, the father determined everything,
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  • And marriages were handled by negotiation between the father
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  • Of this female and the father this male, and a dowry was
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  • Set up.
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  • And this happened when, usually, the children were about three
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  • Years old.
  • 00:15:56.645 --> 00:15:57.980
  • Hello?
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  • "and i will give you my daughter when your son comes of age, and
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  • I will give you this dowry, this amount of money to take care of
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  • Her and keep up with her," and there is where the negotiation
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  • Took place, right there.
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  • And therefore, in rome, they didn't have divorce.
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  • But remember, the romans conquered the greeks but the
  • 00:16:19.735 --> 00:16:23.806
  • Greeks conquered the romans' culture.
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  • And in greece, "hey, man, i don't like the way you cooked my
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  • Eggs this morning, i'm outta here, we're getting a divorce."
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  • Bang, it was done.
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  • Promiscuous society.
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  • And then when the romans came down to corinth and they began
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  • To fill up other parts of world, suddenly the greek culture,
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  • Though they lost the war, the greeks won the culture and now
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  • Divorce was rampant there in corinth.
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  • And so we see this is what happens.
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  • You know about buyer's remorse?
  • 00:16:56.839 --> 00:17:01.877
  • Buyer's remorse?
  • 00:17:01.877 --> 00:17:03.579
  • You may not know that everything that is purchased--a study has
  • 00:17:03.579 --> 00:17:07.816
  • Been given--everything that had been purchased by all of us in
  • 00:17:07.816 --> 00:17:13.155
  • America, 486 billion items are returned.
  • 00:17:13.155 --> 00:17:19.194
  • That's 10.6% of everything we buy is returned.
  • 00:17:21.997 --> 00:17:28.504
  • And they have studied, realtor groups and sales groups, and
  • 00:17:28.570 --> 00:17:33.542
  • They study all this very carefully and they said, "why?"
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  • And for two reasons.
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  • Unmet expectations, number one.
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  • It didn't work as simple for you as it did on television, right?
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  • It didn't cure st. vitus disease as they thought he would, right?
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  • Whatever.
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  • Unmet expectations.
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  • Number two, i got a better product.
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  • I got a better product.
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  • And does this sound like marriage today?
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  • Getting married, "unexpected expectation, didn't live up to
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  • It, therefore i'm getting divorced," or, "man, i've got
  • 00:18:14.483 --> 00:18:17.719
  • This fine, handsome guy, and he's interested in me, and i'm
  • 00:18:17.719 --> 00:18:21.790
  • Just moving away from you, partner, i've got a
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  • Better thing."
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  • Interesting in all of this, in the secular market, men usually
  • 00:18:26.628 --> 00:18:33.368
  • Realize first of all, in the secular buying and selling
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  • World, they usually recognize, "it's not meeting my
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  • Expectations," and they usually exercise the understanding
  • 00:18:40.542 --> 00:18:44.646
  • There's a better deal.
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  • Men are fast at that but men rarely, compared to women,
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  • Order refunds.
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  • They don't send it back.
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  • Women, man, they send it back, they want a refund, and the same
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  • Way in marriage relationships.
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  • Women file for divorce many times more than men do, though
  • 00:19:00.495 --> 00:19:04.900
  • Men realize the expectations aren't met and, "man, there may
  • 00:19:04.900 --> 00:19:08.704
  • Be a better one or a cuter one out here, a richer one
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  • Out here."
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  • Interesting.
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  • Just like in divorce in ancient days, i'm sending her back, and
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  • Here's the dowry that i gave you in the first place.
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  • Divorce is deadly.
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  • Biblical grounds for divorce, number one, the pharisees asked
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  • Jesus, "what about divorce?"
  • 00:19:34.463 --> 00:19:36.265
  • Jesus says, "no divorce except," matthew 19, "for pornea, for
  • 00:19:36.265 --> 00:19:42.304
  • Sexual, for adultery."
  • 00:19:43.238 --> 00:19:45.774
  • But the pharisees wanted to trap him, they said, "oh, whoa, wait
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  • A minute.
  • 00:19:49.144 --> 00:19:50.479
  • Moses said all you had to do is get two witnesses and give a
  • 00:19:50.479 --> 00:19:53.982
  • Certificate and you're divorced."
  • 00:19:53.982 --> 00:19:56.485
  • And jesus says, "it was not like that in the beginning, divorce
  • 00:19:56.485 --> 00:20:00.255
  • Takes place now because of hardness of heart."
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  • Hardness of heart, what in the world is that?
  • 00:20:05.927 --> 00:20:09.931
  • Dispute with your wife, your husband, there's a bruised
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  • Heart, right?
  • 00:20:13.835 --> 00:20:15.170
  • We all know that, and it sticks around for a while and that
  • 00:20:15.170 --> 00:20:18.573
  • Bruised heart becomes a cool heart.
  • 00:20:18.573 --> 00:20:22.544
  • We talk but it's very formal, "most certainly, i'll be happy
  • 00:20:22.544 --> 00:20:26.214
  • To do that."
  • 00:20:26.214 --> 00:20:27.582
  • It's a coolness, you know?
  • 00:20:27.582 --> 00:20:29.384
  • "don't sit there so pious, you're with me, i know."
  • 00:20:29.384 --> 00:20:32.988
  • There's a cool heart, and then that can move to a hard heart,
  • 00:20:32.988 --> 00:20:37.659
  • Arguing, fighting, ah-ah-ah.
  • 00:20:37.659 --> 00:20:40.295
  • And then it can move to an apathetic heart, that's a really
  • 00:20:40.295 --> 00:20:45.233
  • Big problem, "i don't care, what he does, i don't care what
  • 00:20:45.233 --> 00:20:47.803
  • She does."
  • 00:20:47.803 --> 00:20:50.238
  • But a hard heart, jesus said this is allowed because of
  • 00:20:50.238 --> 00:20:54.810
  • Marriages there comes this hard ungodly heart, and it's
  • 00:20:54.810 --> 00:20:58.613
  • Expressed through adultery, a grounds for divorce.
  • 00:20:58.613 --> 00:21:02.951
  • And then paul elaborates on this in our passage in this 7th
  • 00:21:02.951 --> 00:21:08.623
  • Chapter corinthians.
  • 00:21:08.623 --> 00:21:09.958
  • He talks about desertion, and that's a wide, expanding word.
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  • You have to be careful how we use it, but it means here
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  • Someone who is brutal, they're someone who goes to physical or
  • 00:21:16.965 --> 00:21:21.670
  • Overwhelming emotional put-downs, they deserted, they
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  • Leave, they're not a part, they're there in body but
  • 00:21:26.341 --> 00:21:28.677
  • They're not there at all.
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  • There's desertion is a ground, paul deals with that.
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  • And then finally, the third ground is, it's found in 2
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  • Corinthians chapter number 5, "if anyone is in christ, they're
  • 00:21:39.721 --> 00:21:45.761
  • A new creation."
  • 00:21:48.196 --> 00:21:50.265
  • All things are new.
  • 00:21:50.265 --> 00:21:53.268
  • What does it mean for all things to be new?
  • 00:21:53.268 --> 00:21:55.737
  • It means all things are new.
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  • It means prior to being a christian there could be a
  • 00:21:59.107 --> 00:22:03.912
  • Divorce, and that divorce in god's sight no longer existed
  • 00:22:03.912 --> 00:22:08.350
  • Because you are a new man or a woman.
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  • Now, let me tell you how serious this says, and i'll read you a
  • 00:22:12.654 --> 00:22:18.260
  • Tragic letter.
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  • "i'm one of those sorry--" blankety-blank, profanity--
  • 00:22:20.729 --> 00:22:26.001
  • "that cheated on his wife of 20 years, and two kids, with her
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  • Best friend.
  • 00:22:30.172 --> 00:22:31.973
  • I married the best friend the day after my divorce was final,
  • 00:22:31.973 --> 00:22:36.344
  • And i regretted it ever since, every second of my life.
  • 00:22:36.344 --> 00:22:41.550
  • Yep, you get what you deserve in this life.
  • 00:22:41.550 --> 00:22:44.886
  • My divorce regret is immense.
  • 00:22:44.886 --> 00:22:48.123
  • I would give anything to go back in time knowing what i know now
  • 00:22:48.123 --> 00:22:53.361
  • And love my first wife like she's never been loved, honored,
  • 00:22:53.361 --> 00:22:56.698
  • Appreciated, respected, or admired in her life,
  • 00:22:56.698 --> 00:22:59.301
  • But i can't.
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  • I've fouled up beyond words.
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  • I had the best life anyone could have asked for, a beautiful,
  • 00:23:02.637 --> 00:23:06.208
  • Loving, caring, dedicated wife, two beautiful, sweet kids, an
  • 00:23:06.208 --> 00:23:10.912
  • In-law family that loved me dearly, but i was bored with
  • 00:23:10.912 --> 00:23:14.449
  • All that.
  • 00:23:14.449 --> 00:23:16.318
  • People kept telling me how blessed i was, but i couldn't
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  • See it.
  • 00:23:19.020 --> 00:23:20.355
  • I was blinded by selfishness, so i threw it all away to someone
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  • That i thought was my soulmate.
  • 00:23:24.759 --> 00:23:27.262
  • Oh, how wrong i was, so wrong.
  • 00:23:27.262 --> 00:23:31.600
  • Five years later, i still can't ignore the overwhelming guilt
  • 00:23:31.600 --> 00:23:36.037
  • And shame of what i did.
  • 00:23:36.037 --> 00:23:38.039
  • Only for a couple of minutes a day does a memory of my first
  • 00:23:38.039 --> 00:23:41.810
  • Wife and kids and family leave my mind.
  • 00:23:41.810 --> 00:23:45.947
  • I can't watch a movie or listen to music without thinking
  • 00:23:45.947 --> 00:23:49.184
  • Of her.
  • 00:23:49.184 --> 00:23:50.519
  • See, i was already married to my soulmate and my true love, but i
  • 00:23:50.519 --> 00:23:55.924
  • Threw her away.
  • 00:23:55.924 --> 00:23:58.193
  • Oh, if only life was like the movies, where sometimes we get
  • 00:23:58.193 --> 00:24:03.098
  • Second chances.
  • 00:24:03.098 --> 00:24:04.966
  • I can't put into words how much pain i feel, but i know it pales
  • 00:24:04.966 --> 00:24:09.137
  • In comparison to how i broke my wife's heart.
  • 00:24:09.137 --> 00:24:13.675
  • I'm so sorry, sweetness.
  • 00:24:13.675 --> 00:24:16.077
  • If you ever read this, i'm so sorry, so very, very sorry.
  • 00:24:16.077 --> 00:24:21.983
  • The irony of what i've done is this: i've broken my own
  • 00:24:21.983 --> 00:24:27.322
  • Heart, anonymous."
  • 00:24:27.322 --> 00:24:32.527
  • Now, folks, don't let divorce define your life.
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  • Whatever, guilty, not guilty, whatever.
  • 00:24:41.403 --> 00:24:46.174
  • God and jesus christ heals, restores, forgives, and gives us
  • 00:24:46.174 --> 00:24:51.913
  • A brand-new start, and with the power of christ in your life and
  • 00:24:51.913 --> 00:24:56.685
  • The holy spirit, there can be joy in the days to come.
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  • That is the thrust of god's word.
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  • Ed: at some point, every marriage will run into
  • 00:25:10.031 --> 00:25:12.734
  • Tough times.
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  • Whether it's miscommunication, money, sex, or in-laws, every
  • 00:25:14.235 --> 00:25:17.872
  • Marriage goes through a rocky patch.
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  • Far too often, those rocky patches end up ruining otherwise
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  • Great, potentially super marriages.
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  • But it does not have to be that way.
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  • God designed marriage, and he gave us the keys to have a
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  • Marriage that works, a marriage that sizzles.
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  • In my book, "the ten commandments of marriage", i lay
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  • Out ten practical principles to make your marriage super.
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