Ed Young - The Secret To A Healthy Family

May 15, 2025 | S25:E117

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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - The Secret To A Healthy Family | May 15, 2025

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Dr. ed young: "all right!
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You want a healthy family,
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A healthy marriage -here's the list!
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Where are you failing? try harder!"
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Isn't that what you expect?
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That's not what you're gonna get...
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Because if you've been around for a while,
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We never get there by trying harder.
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Have you noticed that?
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Huh?
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Used to write down our new year's resolutions.
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I've got a perfect score on all of my new year's resolutions
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I've failed every single time!
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So, we just throw up our hands and say,
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"you know, what's the use?
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You know we can't improve! we're locked in here.
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We're surrounded by the irrational love of god."
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But i want to go back and let us look at,
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To how we can indeed have a healthy family.
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We have to go back to the beginning,
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All the way back to genesis.
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Look at genesis.
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You, you gentlemen can find that.
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It's the first book in the bible.
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Look at chapter 1.
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Chapter 1 in genesis for just discussion
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And understanding is basic.
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It tells us what god did in creation.
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That's chapter 1.
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Chapter 2 is a commentary basically on chapter 1,
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Which illustrates and tells us something of the purpose that
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Was behind god's creation and how it all began to transpire.
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So chapter 1-this is what god did in creation.
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It's good, it's good, it's good, it's good, it's good, it's good,
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It's good, it's good, it's very good.
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Then he said, "it's not good for man to be alone..."
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The first "not good" in the bible.
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And you move to chapter 2 as a commentary.
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And then you have a picture in
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Chapter 2 of the pre-apple garden.
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Now, don't write me and say,
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"the bible doesn't say it's an apple..."
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I know that.
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It's a fruit, but we're gonna use the apple, okay?
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That's all right...
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The pre-apple garden.
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What's it like?
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Ohh! listen!
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Look at verse 22, chapter 2: the lord fashioned into a woman the
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Rib which he had taken from the man and brought her to him.
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By the way, remember "brought her to him"?
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That's a picture in weddings when the father brings the bride
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To the altar to give to the groom?
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That is god bringing eve to adam.
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That's all pre, pre-supposed here, all taught here.
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Then verse 22: the man said, "now, god, you have provided
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With me a slave to meet all my needs, and to be at my beck and
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Call 24/7, and to do everything i want to do and to be totally
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Bowed before me at all times."
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Audience laughs.
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Nooo.
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What does it say?
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When adam saw eve, he said, "this is bone of my bones,
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And flesh of my flesh.
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She shall be called woman because
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She was taken out of man."
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And this verse 24: "for this reason shall a man leave his
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Father and his mother and be joined to his wife,
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And they shall become one flesh.
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That the man and his wife were both naked,
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And they were unashamed."
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How beautiful that is!
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In the pristine garden of eden, pre-apple, adam and eve became
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One, and they were mutually in charge.
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They were mutually superintendent.
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They were the ruler.
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They had supremacy, and they reflected together the image of
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God, and in their love and their two becoming one,
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They reflected god's perfect image in that garden.
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What a magnificent thing. we can't even imagine!
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Eye has not seen, ear has not heart, neither has entered the
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Heart of man what god has prepared for those who love him.
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They loved god; god loved them!
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They had the whole universe under their control.
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What a magnificent, pristine world of love and freedom and
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Spontaneity, and creativity, and joy, and celebration,
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And worship, and praise!
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God met with him daily, continuously.
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What a moment in history!
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Now you have mutuality.
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You have mutual supremacy over all of creation.
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An intimacy!
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Two become one. no shame!
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Beautiful!
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Beautiful, beautiful.
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Pre-apple.
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Now the fall...
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Oh, ho, ho...
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The fall.
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That decisive moment in history of civilization and the creation
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When something unbelievably tragic took place
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-the fall of mankind.
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And we read about it with words that are hard to believe.
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Verse 6, chapter number 3:
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When the woman saw the tree was good for food...
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The woman saw the tree was good for food.
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God said, "you can eat of all the trees.
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Don't eat of this tree..."
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The woman saw it was good for food.
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Ohhh, it was good for food -she figured that out
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In her mind, didn't she?
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She looked to her mind! oh me!
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Have we run into kant again in genesis?
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She decided it was good for food.
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She used her head! she used her common sense.
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That tree's okay -it's good for food.
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She's lost her mind.
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Then she saw that it was a delight to her eyes.
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Delightful.
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Uh, emotion, passion, the heart.
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Man, we're back with rousseau again!
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Man, she saw a delight in her eyes.
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Whoo-hoo-ho!
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Emotion must be all right because it'll taste good,
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And it'll feel good.
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Okay.
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That's-i want to make my decision about right
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And wrong on that basis.
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And look at the next thing.
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...and that the tree was desirable to make one wise.
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Ohh ho!
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Wisdom is power!
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"oh, and i'll be wise! i'll be in control."
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What happened in the fall here? what happened?
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It is, adam and eve decided that we're tired of
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Being dependent on god.
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We want to be independent from god.
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We don't want to be subject to what god wants.
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We want to run our own show and run our own lives,
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And that's the same guise that satan uses to bring you down
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And to bring me down.
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Satan has no new game plans, ladies and gentlemen,
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Because it keeps on working every time with human beings,
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Exactly in the garden.
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You go all the way to i john, chapter number 2.
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What is the deal?
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The lust of the eye, the lust of the flesh,
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The pride of life, the same thing.
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Man, use your mind to decide what's right and wrong.
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Use your feelings to decide what's right and wrong.
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Boy, if you're powerful enough to do it, you can do it!
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Same play, same game plan over and over and over again.
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You can trace it through history in the bible,
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And the history of your life and my life.
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The fall of man!
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The fall of man...
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And now, everything changed.
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Everything changed.
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And now, we have the curse that is placed-the penalty on god
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Backing up from man as man backed up from god, and man
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Declared his independence instead of being dependent,
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And look at the curse.
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We see this in chapter number 3, verse number 16: to the woman,
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He said, "i will greatly
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Multiply your pain in childbirth.
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In the path, you will bring forth children; in the pain,
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You will bring forth children."
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(this is it).
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"yet, your desire will be for your husband and
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He will rule over you."
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(there's the curse).
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"your desire will be for your husband."
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That's the curse on the woman.
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And by the way, the word "desire" here is the same word
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Found in the very next chapter in the 7th verse.
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It says, god says, "cain, sin is crouching at your
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Door and sin desires you."
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In other words, sin desires to control you.
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And the idea of the woman and desire is not related to
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A sexual thing; it's the idea here,
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The curse is, the woman wants to control things.
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The woman wants to control the relationship.
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And then in the next verse, the curse on the man is the man
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Wants to rule over the woman.
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So you have both of them wanted to be in charge.
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That's the curse that came upon us.
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And by the way, we don't have to live under that curse.
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But a lot of us do.
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Genesis 3:16 tells us the curse we're under in declaring our
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Independence and saying, "i want to be in charge."
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"no, i want to be in charge..."
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The answer for the curse is john 3:16.
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Genesis 3:16 is following the fall, and the curse is placed
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There; ah, but the answer is john 3:16.
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But even when we come to christ individually,
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Still a lot of marriages and a lot of families operate
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Under the auspices of the curse.
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So, how do we reverse the curse and move from a curseful
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Relationship in marriage to a
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Spiritful relationship in marriage.
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We go to ephesians chapter 5.
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Now, i have taught this and heard this in
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So many, many ways.
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Let me say something up front:
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Most of the time, ephesians 5 is taught like this-follow me.
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Ephesians 5 said here is god's chain of command, and here's the
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Husband, and the wife is to be submissive to the husband.
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He runs the home.
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That's how it's taught.
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Then the next channel is, well here's the parents and the
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Children ought to be submissive to the parents
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-they run the home.
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In our vocabulary, instead of slave and servant,
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It would be here's an employer and the employees are to be
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Submissive to the employer.
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That's how we've heard ephesians 5 taught most every time.
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I can tell you there's nothing wrong with that,
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Except it's not biblically true.
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That's how the ephesians operated anyway!
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How did the pagan culture operate?
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Man, the father's in charge of the wife.
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He could just throw her out, get rid of her, marry somebody
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Else-man, that's how the pagan culture operated, didn't it?
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That's nothing new, if that's what paul is teaching.
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There's nothing new, that parents are over there children
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And their children are to be subject to them.
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Why, that's what they taught.
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If you didn't want a little girl, just throw her away!
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Mad at the boy-just kick him out-kill him!
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Total life or death over children.
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That was a pagan culture. nothing new about that.
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Employer, employees, slave owners, slaves
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-nothing new about that.
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So what is paul saying?
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If he's not setting up some kind of dogmatic chain of command,
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What is he saying?
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And the key verse is found here
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-look at ephesians chapter 5.
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Stay with me!
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This is rich territory. 'nuff said!
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Verse 18: "and do not be drunk with wine,
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For that is dissipation, but be filled with the spirit."
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Now somebody said, "well, being filled with
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The spirit is like being drunk."
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No, it's the very opposite of being drunk.
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When you're drunk, you don't hear very well.
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You certainly don't see very well.
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You can't speak very well, and you certainly don't have
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Compassion over anybody else.
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That's being drunk.
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Being filled with the spirit, you've got new ears;
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You've got new eyes; you've got a new tongue,
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And you've got new compassion over everybody else.
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It's totally different.
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He says, "don't be drunk like you used to be."
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He said, "be filled and you're brand new."
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And by the way, "be filled" is a command, and it's a command
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-it means "continually keep on being filled."
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But it is in the, the passive voice.
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It means you don't command -"fill me, lord!"
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It's not something you do.
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It's not something really you request be done.
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You make yourself as a christian available to be filled.
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That's how it happens.
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"i am available to be filled by the holy spirit.
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I don't command it.
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There's nothing i can do to get it.
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I'm just available as a son and daughter of god.
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It's availability to be filled by the holy spirit.
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See, that's different.
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Filled by the holy spirit.
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And it's like wind is filling a sail...
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When, when a sailboat is tracking, some of you know,
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You go sort of diagular with the wind,
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Or even against the wind, and what happens?
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The wind fills the sail and it fills a vacuum behind the sail,
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And the wind doesn't compel the sail-push it forward;
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It's the vacuum on the other side of the sail that is empty
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That leads it forward, see?
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Be filled with the holy spirit
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-little high school physics.
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God must have known physics. isn't that amazing?
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So the holy spirit doesn't drive
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Us so much as it, it le, it leads us...
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And then the characteristics of a spirit-filled life.
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Speaking.
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You say, "well, i'm spirit filled.
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I've got to speak. oh no.
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It's a by-product of being full of, full of the holy spirit,
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Full of christ, full of god, see?
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I'm speaking. i'm gregarious.
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And there's singing.
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And that's what we want. we want our homes to sing.
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We want our marriages to sing.
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Maybe not just musically, but to have a rhythm,
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And a purpose, and a rhyme, and a joy, and a freedom,
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And a light in it!
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We ought to-we're, we're singing now.
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The spirit gives us ability.
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It's just a natural-we can't help but sing and,
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And work things out together.
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Then there's thanking. there's gratitude.
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I like to be around people who are grateful.
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"man, i'm thankful for this...
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I'm, i'm thrilled with this. i thank god for that.
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I am privileged to be your friend..."
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I love being around people...
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An attitude of gratitude is
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A distinguishing mark of a christian.
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And then finally, look at this verse.
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Here's our verse we've been trying to get to all the time.
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Look at verse 21: and be subject to one another in the fear,
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In the worship, in the reverence of god."
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In other words, it says we are to be mutually submissive to
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One another and to be subject means to
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Position yourself under-listen carefully:
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To be subject means to position yourself under.
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And then you have the very next verse.
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It says, "wives, be subject to your own
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Husbands as to the lord."
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You notice in your bible, the word "subject" is in italics?
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It's kind of written different?
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Do you see that? look at your bible.
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You know what that means?
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It's not there in the original. it's not there-it was added.
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Oh, oh-really? yeah.
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Look how it would be translated.
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It said, "wives, be to your own husbands as to the lord."
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I've married a lot of couples say,
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"well, boy, you gonna put that part in there about the wives,
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Wives being submissive, pastor"?
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It's not in the book.
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Not in the book.
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It says, "wives, as un to the lord..."
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Before you run off and say,
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"he doesn't know what he's talking about..."
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Stay with me.
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I'm going to show you something else...
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"...for the husband is the head of the wife as christ is the
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Head of, head of the church, he himself being the savior of the
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Body; but as a church is subject to christ, so also the wives
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Ought to be to their own husbands in everything.
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Husbands, love your wife as christ loved the church."
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Now watch this!
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This is important.
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The verse says, "be subject one to another" right?
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You get that verse?
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Other words, we're to position ourselves under one another.
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Okay?
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Then it says, "wives, as unto the lord..."
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And really, it would say, "husbands as unto the lord."
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Now i want to ask you something:
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How did you get under the authority of jesus christ?
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How'd you get there?
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Did jesus come and say, "i'm taking authority over your life.
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I am your savior and your lord!" didn't happen that way, did it?
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How did you and i become subject to the lord?
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It's when we bent the knee, and it's when we placed
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Ourself under him as our lord and our savior.
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How did the lord reach a place where we placed
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Ourself under him?
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Did he come out of heaven and god say,
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"this is my beloved son.
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You bow and scrape to him. he is in charge!
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He is the ruler of the universe!"
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What did he do? no!
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God in christ came and placed himself with us, under us.
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Took our sin upon himself.
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Died for us.
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Jesus came under us, and he made such statements as,
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"the first shall be last, and the last shall be first."
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Whoever heard of such a thing?
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"if you lose your life, you'll find your life..."
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Man, that's crazy thinking!
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"somebody asked you to go one mile; go with him two miles!"
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What kind of deal?
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How did jesus come to a position of lordship over the church?
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He placed himself under by the giving of
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His own life and his blood.
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Hhhmm.....
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So what does this say about the relationship with the husband to
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A wife, and a wife to her husband?
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How is leadership there?
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It is when we, full of the holy spirit, and the fullness
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Of the holy spirit as we're available to him...
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By the way, its incorrect to say,
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"there goes a man that's spirit filled."
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Oh no. see, we're spirit filled now.
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We're spirit filled now. we're spirit filled now.
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It's present.
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It's ongoing, and when we're full of the holy spirit,
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Then we're able to place ourself under our husband and place
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Ourself under our mate, and by the way,
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To place ourselves under our children.
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It doesn't say, parents say, "all right, here's the
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-the bible says, 'children obey your parents.'"
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Oh no, no, no, no, no!
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Parents place themselves under their children too,
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Is the way they get to authority and leadership.
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Say, "how does this work?
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What gives any parent authority over children?
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It's that you love more than your child does.
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And what is the beginning of wisdom?
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The beginning of wisdom is humility.
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If your child has more love and more hu, humility than you do;
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You need to place yourself under your child and just sit there.
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"oh, he's rebellious!" doesn't matter.
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Just place there and just listen, because your child may
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Have more of godliness than you do.
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Unless we have the faith of a child, the humility of a child,
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The purity of a child...
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So parents have to get under their children to this extent
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And be humble enough to see and discern
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How god has bent their life.
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The wisest thing anybody can do is to be humble.
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That's the wisest thing any of us can do, and we have to be
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Humble enough, even to get under our children.
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Now look what happens when a wife gets under her husband,
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And a husband gets under the wife,
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And this whole attitude of submission and submissive...
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I want you to see what happens.
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Look at your screen, and i want you to nail down these words.
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This is what happens, first of all.
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Look at it: "when the wife places herself under her husband
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And puts to his service everything about her that is
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Female, to enable her husband to become everything
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God created him to be..."
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Now watch this. that's, that's not double talk.
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Stay with me. i want you to na...
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Forget everything, but remember this: when a wife places herself
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Under husband-submissive, subjective to him-and gives to
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Her husband everything that is female about her-not just
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Physical-everything-men need everything that is female to be
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In service to their life.
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Then look what happens: then the man is enabled to
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Become everything god wants him to be.
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Now, flip it over.
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When the husband places himself under the wife-look at it-and
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Puts to her service everything about himself that a male is...
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In other words, here is a husband who places himself under
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His wife and gives to his wife everything that is male about
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Him; wives need that male ingredient in their lives.
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Then what happens-look at the rest of it.
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Then his wife becomes everything god intended for her to be.
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This is revolutionary, ladies and gentlemen!
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You see, what happens then, we give a chance for god to change
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Your husband and change your wife when we put themselves
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Under them, and there is love there, and there is the fullness
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Of the spirit there, that we're available for him to fill and
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Change the curse that is operated, even in homes
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Inhabited by two christians.
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And all of a sudden, there is a spiritful home.
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Let me tell you-that home is electric.
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God does the changing.
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And then all of a sudden, the inside of our life is full, and
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The outside of our life is full, and the inside of you is
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Identical with the outside of you; and the inside of me is
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Identical with the outside of me, and suddenly,
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We're whole people in a broken world, and we have marriages
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That are on fire for god.
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Charles spurgeon said, "an angel should be able
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To visit into a home of christian people,
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And that angel should feel right at home."
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Isn't that it?
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Place yourself under. you're spirit filled.
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You're able to do it, and place yourself under.
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Give, give to your husband everything that is feminine.
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He needs everything that's feminine.
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And then you become all god intended you to be, wives.
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Men, place yourself under your wife.
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Give to her everything that is masculine, and then guess what?
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God will make her into that person that
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He intends for her to become.
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He does the changing.
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He's the only one does the changing.
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We can't cover it up; we can't fix ourselves.
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We certainly can't fix anybody else.
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God does it.
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God does it...
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And this revolutionizes marriage.
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How do you sum it up?
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Well, i want everybody here to become a glass octopus.
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Hhmmm...
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I want you, i want to become a glass octopus.
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You say, "well boy, that's great..."
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Now if you know anything
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About octopuses-by the way, that's the right, that's the
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First pronunciation-octopuses.
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It can be octopi, i guess, you know...
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But octopuses.
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Octopuses generally stay at the bottom of the sea.
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They're dark; they camouflage themselves because they're
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Leading uh, they're food for sharks,
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So they, and they had octopuses...
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They have those eyes that almost go 360 degrees where they can
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Defend themselves, and they know how to hide and get out of way
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Of those sharks and other, other fish that would prey on them.
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That's the typical octopus.
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But there is a glass octopus that's a different species.
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You, you, you rarely see them.
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They're almost never photographed because
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They're virtually translucent.
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And the glass octopus, they stay at the surface of the ocean,
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And they're eyes are, are tubular.
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They're eyes are little rectangles.
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They have virtually no peripheral vision, and their
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Eyes look up into the light, and when those eyes look up,
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They could really be in the middle of a school of sharks
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And not be seen and be totally safe because
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They're always looking up into the light.
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Did you get it?
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If you and i will look up to god and look up to the light and
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Allow him, jesus christ to come and be lord and savior of our
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Lives, because he placed himself under us on the cross,
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And we placed ourself under him within the church.
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And then what happens, we're available to be filled by the
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Holy spirit, and then i can place myself under my wife,
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And you can place yourself under your husband.
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We can place ourselves under the children, and suddenly,
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There is not a curseful home; there is a spiritful home,
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And god then will change everything!
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Ed: at some point, every marriage will run into
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Tough times.
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Whether it's miscommunication, money, sex, or in-laws, every
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Marriage goes through a rocky patch.
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Far too often, those rocky patches end up ruining otherwise
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Great, potentially super marriages.
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But it does not have to be that way.
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God designed marriage, and he gave us the keys to have a
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Marriage that works, a marriage that sizzles.
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In my book, "the ten commandments of marriage", i lay
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Out ten practical principles to make your marriage super.
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I hope that you will get this resource today.
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Female announcer: to get your copy, call the number on your
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Screen or go online at winningwalk.org.
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It's our gift to you for your financial support
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Of this ministry.
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Marriage may not always be bliss, but with god's help, it
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Can be amazing.
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Ed: i can remember when i first learned how to swim.
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Perhaps you can remember the moment when you began to
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Learn how to swim, i certainly do.
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My dad taught me in a muddy, muddy lake.
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I stepped in the water filled with fear
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And stiff and abnormally cold.
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He said, "relax son.
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I'll put my arms under you.
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And when you begin to sink, i'll be right there and lift you up."
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Sure enough, i started to sink but felt his sturdy arms holding
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Me up and everything changed.
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I trusted and relaxed, knowing that my father was there.
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Remember, when you swim in life's deep holes and muddy
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Waters, your lord god almighty, your heavenly father's arms
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Are just below the surface ready to hold you.
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And if necessary, just lift you right up.
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♪♪♪
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Ed Young - The Secret To A Healthy Family

May 15, 2025 | S25:E117

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