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Gary Chapman and Les & Leslie Parrott: How Do You Receive Love? | The Love Language That Matters Most

February 13, 2026 | S1 E6 | 26:0

Gary Chapman and Les & Leslie Parrott: How Do You Receive Love? | The Love Language That Matters Most
In this long-awaited follow-up, Dr. Chapman and Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott take the world-changing concept of the 5 Love Languages® one step further. They reveal why love often gets lost in translation—and how learning to speak the right dialect at the right time is the key to deeper connection.
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| Gary Chapman and Les & Leslie Parrott: How Do You Receive Love? | The Love Language That Matters Most | February 13, 2026
  • My love language is acts of service.
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  • My love languages are words of affirmation and physical touch.
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  • Myself, i'd say probably the love and affirmation
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  • Definitely service. my love language is
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  • Words of affirmation.
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  • I know that he needs physical touch.
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  • Lots of hugs,
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  • But i think he actually gives out a lot of acts of service.
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  • I'd say i probably need some improvement on that area.
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  • Communication. probably.
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  • We could be off a little bit.
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  • I could definitely be better
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  • At being preemptive about the acts of service,
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  • Instead of just doing when things are told for me to do.
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  • I always try to do things when she asks me to do them.
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  • I don't leave those things undone,
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  • But if i could be preemptive,
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  • I think she would feel even more loved.
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  • Most mornings i get up earlier than her.
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  • Not super early,
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  • But i make breakfast, so it's just a way
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  • That she can wake up and she's got breakfast ready.
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  • So it's an act of service that she appreciates.
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  • Hopefully.
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  • And though not on the list, food
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  • Is actually my top love language.
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  • So that does speak to me as well.
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  • My love tank today is probably,
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  • Let's say, 85% full. my love tank
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  • I'd say it is pretty full.
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  • I would say my cup runneth over because
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  • My wife is just an amazing person,
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  • And we both know how to give and take from one another
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  • When when one person is low, the other person gives and
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  • Vice versa.
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  • Ther have been so many people
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  • Who said to me, dr. chapman, when we walked into your office,
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  • We had no hope for our marriage.
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  • We were just hoping you would affirm
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  • That it was time for us to get a divorce.
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  • But one of the things you said to us originally was,
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  • I understand how you can get to the place where you have
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  • No hope, but i want you to know i have hope for your marriage,
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  • If you're willing.
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  • We began to meet and begin to share some things
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  • And try some things, and we can see what will happen.
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  • And over and over again, i've seen individuals
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  • Who were that place in their marriage ready to give up.
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  • When we finally get around to the love language concept,
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  • Because that's not necessarily where we start
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  • And then help them discover their love language.
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  • And the lights come on
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  • And then they come back in the next session or two and say,
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  • You know, doctor chapman, this is really changing things.
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  • This is amazing what's happening. and so
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  • Two months later, three months later, nine months later,
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  • Depending on the difficulties that they're coming out of,
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  • They walk out of my office holding hands and saying,
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  • We just want to thank you.
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  • We never, ever dreamed that we could have
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  • The kind of marriage we have now.
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  • The love language that matters most.
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  • This episode we're talking about acts of service.
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  • And let's say that dialects that exist in that
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  • One of the original five love languages.
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  • Talk to me a little bit-
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  • Acts of service and the dialects that now we're learning
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  • About in the love language that matters most.
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  • Well, acts of service is my wife's primary love language.
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  • Before i knew anything about love languages,
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  • I gave her words of affirmation
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  • Because that's what makes me feel loved.
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  • And one night she said, you keep saying i love you.
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  • If you love me, why don't you help me?
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  • And i said, what do you mean?
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  • She said, you don't ever offer to wash the dishes or vacuum
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  • The floor or clean the toilet. you don't offer to do anything.
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  • I didn't say anything,
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  • But i was thinking, woman, what are you talking about?
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  • My mother did those things, you know.
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  • So way back then, she was trying to tell me her love language.
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  • And she was giving me three dialects specifically
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  • On how to do it.
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  • So i am really excited about this new book because i think
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  • It's going to help people learn not only the concept
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  • Acts of service is doing something
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  • For the other person that's meaningful to them,
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  • But it's also identifying the different dialects within that.
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  • There's all kind of those.
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  • And that's why i'm really happy
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  • That i brought les and leslie on,
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  • Because they've been a big part of this book.
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  • And so i'm excited about this.
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  • Give some other illustrations.
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  • I will tell you, i love talking about this love language
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  • Because it's mine. right.
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  • All right. and it's yours too. is. yes. yeah.
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  • And anything that makes life easier for me
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  • When she can do something that makes my life easier,
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  • It fills up my love tank.
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  • That's so true.
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  • Just this last week, you had a flight back from nashville.
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  • It was delayed. it got late.
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  • You had been planning to just.
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  • Yes, i know, take the light rail home.
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  • But you dialed in late at night from the airport,
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  • And i said, i know.
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  • I said i was going to take the train back to our place.
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  • Can you come pick me up?
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  • Yeah.
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  • I just can't do 45 minutes on the plane after getting home.
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  • And she did.
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  • She showed up
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  • Through the traffic in seattle and picked me up.
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  • Oh, man, my love tank soars
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  • When you know that's making my life easier, right?
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  • Because acts of service make you feel like someone cares
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  • For your well-being.
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  • My love language is acts of service.
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  • My love language is physical touch.
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  • Acts of service feel like.
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  • I think at the bottom of it, there's a desire for, like,
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  • Stability below everything or security below everything.
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  • And when mary loves me through an act of service,
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  • It feels like that security need is
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  • Is hit that stability needs.
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  • So whether it's simple
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  • But important things down to the house is in order.
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  • Or i thought of this thing that would save you time
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  • So you didn't have to use energy
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  • There at the bottom of that, i feel so loved,
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  • I think because it hits on a security thing for me,
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  • Or it means now that that's done, we can
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  • Relax on the couch or enjoy this awesome night together.
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  • We don't have to do the other things.
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  • For me, there's like a the other things
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  • Have to happen first and then that can happen.
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  • So when mary steps into that gap,
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  • It feels like we get to experience
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  • The great fruit of that.
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  • That is time together where nothing else needs to happen.
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  • I think of our last trip and you taking the reins on.
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  • I'm going to plan these aspects of the trip or these things,
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  • Or where we'll stay,
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  • Or how we'll travel down the very practical logistics.
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  • I am like
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  • In heaven.
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  • Yeah.
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  • And so it sounds silly to say, but it's truly a big way.
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  • I feel love.
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  • Yeah.
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  • You know the comedian seth meyers,
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  • He did a routine on love languages,
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  • And this is such a ubiquitous thing.
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  • Five love languages.
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  • Gary just brought this into our vernacular.
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  • You see trucks that go by
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  • From amazon that say, next day delivery is our love language.
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  • You know, it's just it's everywhere.
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  • So, seth, i saw this routine that he did
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  • And he said, whoever came up with these five love languages,
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  • He said he must have had acts of service as his number one
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  • Love language
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  • Because, my wife says, that's her her love language.
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  • And he says, what's the deal? like?
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  • How does he say that? he says, he goes
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  • There's something off here because mine's quality time
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  • So she can fill my tank.
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  • If we take a ten minute walk around the block after dinner,
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  • And she doesn't want to take the walk
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  • Until i've cleaned all the gutters on the roof,
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  • And there is something off about this
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  • Because acts of service is more involved. so.
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  • Yeah, so that's not really what access services is about.
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  • Something huge like that, but it is making your life easier.
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  • Now you guys have taken the assessment
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  • And you asked about dialects, right?
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  • And gary, we spent a lot of time researching
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  • What are the dialects that help you speak this love language
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  • Fluently. right.
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  • But the person that you love
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  • And one of those is it conveys care.
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  • Oh yeah. right.
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  • I mean, one of those and and,
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  • You know, these are the little things
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  • That someone thought about me beforehand.
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  • So i knew that you are acts of service.
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  • And so that was the way i expressed it.
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  • I would turn down your sheet.
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  • If you're not coming to bed when i do- pick me up at the airport.
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  • That was an act of care. yeah, right.
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  • And it's that's not my primary dialect within acts of service.
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  • Saving time is my number one. yes it is.
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  • Do you sense that at all? do you get it?
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  • I'm starting to understand that inside of the five
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  • Love language of acts of service that between us,
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  • She abhors
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  • Going to the store or running smaller errands.
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  • Yeah.
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  • You know, you you
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  • You ordered some food, and i'm going to pick it
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  • Up on the way home. yeah, that kind of thing.
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  • See that kind of stuff? i mean, think about it.
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  • Yeah, that's easy for me to do.
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  • It's natural for me to do.
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  • I would volunteer to do that.
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  • But what if all she thinks about inside of acts of service
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  • Is something
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  • That saves her time, that is either doing it right or
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  • Not doing it right?
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  • So what it feels like you guys have done
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  • In the love language that matters most is
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  • Is broken down and given certain specific
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  • Sayings that there are categories
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  • Or what you're calling dialects inside of acts of service.
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  • We█re talking about the love language, acts of service.
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  • When you know the types of actions
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  • That really meet your needs, you can help others better
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  • Understand how you experienced this love language
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  • So that they're likely to fill up your love tank,
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  • First: conveying care.
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  • This demonstrates affection and dedication, like breakfast
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  • In bed or
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  • Waiting patiently to pick you up after a delayed flight.
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  • Second, saving time like happily
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  • Running an errand or picking up your prescription.
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  • Third, instilling security.
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  • This is anything that relieves responsibility by saying,
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  • I've got this. don't worry.
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  • It gives you just a sense of being on the same team.
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  • And fourth, alleviating stress.
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  • This is when you can anticipate a need
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  • Without even being asked.
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  • When the right act of service meets the right need.
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  • Love isn't just felt, it truly resonates.
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  • Laurie█s is acts of service.
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  • That's a strong one.
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  • Okay, words of affirmation is up there.
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  • Words- very close for words.
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  • And according to what you answered on the assessment,
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  • That's what it's says.
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  • And now help me one more thing.
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  • What type is it?
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  • Saving time or can you tell?
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  • Yea. for laurie it was alleviating stress
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  • That was your number one dialect.
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  • I love that because here's here's the beauty of that.
  • 00:11:02.218 --> 00:11:06.355
  • Your spouse notices, hey, you're feeling overwhelmed right now.
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  • They step in
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  • And do something that wouldn't normally be their role,
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  • But because they noticed you, they really saw you.
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  • Now they did something that alleviated your stress.
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  • Okay, now i get it.
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  • So mine is acts of service.
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  • Absolutely.
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  • I'm very much about efficiency and saving time.
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  • So mine is absolutely like acts of service
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  • And helping things to be more efficient
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  • So that i can do the other things better or well.
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  • I've known that,
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  • Acts of service is really important to delvon
  • 00:11:45.761 --> 00:11:48.330
  • But after taking this premium assessment,
  • 00:11:48.330 --> 00:11:50.399
  • I can see now that like specifically for him,
  • 00:11:50.399 --> 00:11:53.102
  • Whatever i can do that will save time for him
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  • And our family
  • 00:11:56.372 --> 00:11:57.673
  • Is my way to show love or how he receives love from me.
  • 00:11:57.673 --> 00:12:01.510
  • I honestly,
  • 00:12:01.510 --> 00:12:02.711
  • I did not know that at all until taking this assessment.
  • 00:12:02.711 --> 00:12:05.214
  • It's going to actually
  • 00:12:05.214 --> 00:12:06.282
  • Help me to be more mindful now of how i show him
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  • My love in a more specific way than just like acts of service.
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  • Because, you know, in my previous way of doing things
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  • Would be like, you know, cooking dinner for him or,
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  • You know,
  • 00:12:16.759 --> 00:12:17.827
  • Making sure that the house is as clean as possible,
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  • That i can make it.
  • 00:12:20.496 --> 00:12:21.597
  • But now, like specifically knowing that like,
  • 00:12:21.597 --> 00:12:23.532
  • Anything that i can do that will save him time
  • 00:12:23.532 --> 00:12:26.068
  • Will actually fill his love tank quicker.
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  • Yeah.
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  • So with my love language being acts of service like
  • 00:12:30.005 --> 00:12:31.941
  • Elizabeth is very discerning and she is a planner.
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  • She even added, a calendar to our refrigerator
  • 00:12:35.077 --> 00:12:38.981
  • After we had kids because we would
  • 00:12:38.981 --> 00:12:40.349
  • We need to be more organized and plan things like that.
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  • Change my life because she was like,
  • 00:12:43.018 --> 00:12:44.920
  • Okay, what█s your work schedule,
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  • This is the dinner meals for this week.
  • 00:12:46.689 --> 00:12:48.791
  • That act of service was like very powerful for us
  • 00:12:48.791 --> 00:12:52.528
  • Because like, she she would ask the right
  • 00:12:52.528 --> 00:12:54.363
  • Questions to be able to plan ahead.
  • 00:12:54.363 --> 00:12:56.732
  • That really meant a lot. and i realized that.
  • 00:12:56.732 --> 00:12:58.734
  • So since she's very discerning and she thinks ahead to be able
  • 00:12:58.734 --> 00:13:02.104
  • To do those acts of service in such a thoughtful way,
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  • I didn't know that it was like that meaningful to you.
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  • Yeah.
  • 00:13:08.444 --> 00:13:09.311
  • But i guess i see that it was something
  • 00:13:09.311 --> 00:13:10.579
  • That was like saving time for me.
  • 00:13:10.579 --> 00:13:12.448
  • Yea, absolutely.
  • 00:13:12.448 --> 00:13:13.582
  • Stuff that i don't have to think about and don't want to.
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  • So that's beautiful.
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  • Oh, i would say it's probably
  • 00:14:30.359 --> 00:14:32.761
  • Never full, but about 90% it's pretty up there.
  • 00:14:32.761 --> 00:14:36.598
  • Probably 90%.
  • 00:14:36.598 --> 00:14:41.270
  • Keep learning because we're changing.
  • 00:14:42.104 --> 00:14:43.439
  • We're getting older. so things
  • 00:14:43.439 --> 00:14:45.975
  • You never arrive and it's- it just changes what you deal with.
  • 00:14:45.975 --> 00:14:50.279
  • And the older you get you're dealing with new circumstances.
  • 00:14:50.279 --> 00:14:53.549
  • It's always something new and something different.
  • 00:14:53.549 --> 00:14:55.317
  • And you think you're going to
  • 00:14:55.317 --> 00:14:57.286
  • Empty nest, you're going to be freed up or retired.
  • 00:14:57.286 --> 00:14:59.455
  • We go and play and then life, life happens.
  • 00:14:59.455 --> 00:15:03.792
  • And so you adjust.
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  • You walk with the lord and you do the best you can.
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  • If someone's
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  • Coming to our house she stressed out.
  • 00:15:17.206 --> 00:15:20.442
  • Okay. so i'm coming over.
  • 00:15:20.442 --> 00:15:22.444
  • So the idea that there would be you know some kind of little
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  • Fresh flower thing or something like that,
  • 00:15:27.216 --> 00:15:30.019
  • Some kind of lighting the candles,
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  • Those types of things, are stressors
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  • That an act of service
  • 00:15:39.528 --> 00:15:42.664
  • That me emptying a trash can that they're not going to
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  • See because it's way back on the other side of the house,
  • 00:15:46.168 --> 00:15:49.304
  • Doesn't matter. this is a good one.
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  • He- what he does.
  • 00:15:51.473 --> 00:15:53.042
  • So well as he designs things and he can place things right.
  • 00:15:53.042 --> 00:15:58.514
  • I can do it.
  • 00:15:58.514 --> 00:15:59.515
  • And he'll look at me and go, why'd you do that?
  • 00:15:59.515 --> 00:16:01.417
  • You know, so he's always right about that.
  • 00:16:01.417 --> 00:16:04.319
  • I'll just get that out in the open.
  • 00:16:04.319 --> 00:16:06.255
  • I can just put a bunch of knickknacks out,
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  • Set them there.
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  • I don't even have to say anything.
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  • I'll come back, you know, later in the day or something.
  • 00:16:11.794 --> 00:16:15.164
  • And those are gone.
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  • And i look around,
  • 00:16:16.398 --> 00:16:17.399
  • And he has put those beautifully and arrange them
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  • Around the house.
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  • That's a natural thing.
  • 00:16:22.037 --> 00:16:23.105
  • Could i see a big wide shot of the studio really is
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  • Just kind of just as big as wide as you can get.
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  • Yeah, i designed this set.
  • 00:16:27.910 --> 00:16:29.645
  • So, based upon just spatially,
  • 00:16:29.645 --> 00:16:33.515
  • The things that that come so naturally me to, to design
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  • A set and do this and lights and do all this kind of stuff
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  • So that there's a,
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  • A beautiful heart
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  • Over your shoulder or this or that or
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  • This big giant acts of service.
  • 00:16:45.327 --> 00:16:47.029
  • This is all kind of stuff that she doesn't like to do.
  • 00:16:47.029 --> 00:16:50.666
  • But you could be doing acts of service wrong.
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  • Is that kind of what we're saying?
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  • And if that's something that you do
  • 00:16:54.803 --> 00:16:56.605
  • Well and you do naturally, that makes it very easy for you.
  • 00:16:56.605 --> 00:17:00.342
  • But now, if alleviating stress
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  • And organizing things like that when someone comes over
  • 00:17:02.811 --> 00:17:05.848
  • Was not natural for you, it would take effort.
  • 00:17:05.848 --> 00:17:08.650
  • You'd have to think about it.
  • 00:17:08.650 --> 00:17:10.085
  • And this is the thing, we think, primarily, we think about
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  • What would be meaningful to me in this area
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  • And what's natural for me. and that's what we do.
  • 00:17:16.291 --> 00:17:18.360
  • That's why i was giving my wife words of affirmation
  • 00:17:18.360 --> 00:17:20.729
  • When what was she wanted
  • 00:17:20.729 --> 00:17:21.663
  • Was me to alleviate some of her stress.
  • 00:17:21.663 --> 00:17:23.999
  • She was doing all these things, and she was asking me
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  • To do something to alleviate her stress.
  • 00:17:25.834 --> 00:17:27.936
  • Now wait a second.
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  • In your professional opinion, now as a doctor,
  • 00:17:29.138 --> 00:17:31.807
  • You're saying people think about themselves.
  • 00:17:31.807 --> 00:17:33.909
  • Is that what you're saying? absolutely,
  • 00:17:33.909 --> 00:17:35.410
  • (laughter)
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  • I know you do.
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  • Always picking on me.
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  • When mary takes something off of my to do list,
  • 00:18:01.003 --> 00:18:04.173
  • I feel loved, seen, supported, cared for,
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  • I feel like i've got space.
  • 00:18:08.143 --> 00:18:10.078
  • The assessment totally opened my eyes to
  • 00:18:10.078 --> 00:18:13.849
  • If i can save him time,
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  • That's the act of service he's looking for.
  • 00:18:14.983 --> 00:18:17.519
  • Otherwise, it kind of felt like, oh, okay, just any act i do.
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  • Okay, i guess i just have to do everything.
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  • Having it broken down where?
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  • Luke i didn't realize he has this list in his head.
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  • Of all the things that he needs to do
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  • Today, you're laughing because you know it's true
  • 00:18:32.367 --> 00:18:34.670
  • And he can't rest
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  • Or have downtime until all those things are done.
  • 00:18:35.938 --> 00:18:38.807
  • So when i unload the dishwasher,
  • 00:18:38.807 --> 00:18:41.443
  • Not my favorite thing to do, but that was in his head.
  • 00:18:41.443 --> 00:18:44.313
  • Had to happen.
  • 00:18:44.313 --> 00:18:45.747
  • When i do that,
  • 00:18:45.747 --> 00:18:46.915
  • Something gets ticked off that internal list
  • 00:18:46.915 --> 00:18:49.017
  • And it means we can connect sooner.
  • 00:18:49.017 --> 00:18:52.020
  • Little things like leaving the house.
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  • We're going to leave the house at 815.
  • 00:18:54.156 --> 00:18:56.291
  • You know, we have different
  • 00:18:56.291 --> 00:18:57.292
  • Opinions on what 815 might mean at certain times.
  • 00:18:57.292 --> 00:19:01.096
  • And so,
  • 00:19:01.096 --> 00:19:02.331
  • Mary, a very practical way that i experience that love is,
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  • Hey, i'm ready.
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  • The morning things that need to happen,
  • 00:19:05.767 --> 00:19:07.936
  • Be it housework or personal or work, things are done.
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  • I feel like
  • 00:19:11.440 --> 00:19:13.041
  • Best marriage of all time.
  • 00:19:13.041 --> 00:19:15.143
  • There's a calm that returns.
  • 00:19:15.143 --> 00:19:17.746
  • There's almost like this. wow.
  • 00:19:17.746 --> 00:19:20.882
  • What else could we fill our evening with now?
  • 00:19:20.882 --> 00:19:23.085
  • Now that that's done,
  • 00:19:23.085 --> 00:19:24.353
  • We can connect and we can be us and exist
  • 00:19:24.353 --> 00:19:27.623
  • In in a space differently than we could have before.
  • 00:19:27.623 --> 00:19:31.059
  • Final thoughts on kind
  • 00:19:31.560 --> 00:19:33.795
  • Of what we're trying to help people
  • 00:19:33.795 --> 00:19:36.965
  • With on this particular episode, acts of service.
  • 00:19:36.965 --> 00:19:40.736
  • What's your kind of final thoughts on that?
  • 00:19:40.736 --> 00:19:42.404
  • I think what i would say
  • 00:19:42.404 --> 00:19:43.639
  • Is just trying to help them focus in and use their energy,
  • 00:19:43.639 --> 00:19:47.175
  • Because it takes energy to do acts of service and time,
  • 00:19:47.175 --> 00:19:50.612
  • Using it in the most positive way that would be meaningful to
  • 00:19:50.612 --> 00:19:54.082
  • That person, not just generally, but what specifically,
  • 00:19:54.082 --> 00:19:57.819
  • What dialect would that say is a particular way of expressing
  • 00:19:57.819 --> 00:20:01.590
  • Acts of service would be most meaningful to them?
  • 00:20:01.590 --> 00:20:04.092
  • Less this, assessment?
  • 00:20:04.092 --> 00:20:06.762
  • Yeah. if you do it, you get a roadmap, don't you?
  • 00:20:06.762 --> 00:20:11.833
  • I mean, isn't that kind of kind of a helper piece?
  • 00:20:11.833 --> 00:20:16.071
  • It is. because it feels like sometimes
  • 00:20:16.071 --> 00:20:19.274
  • Your spouse expects you to kind of be prophetic
  • 00:20:19.274 --> 00:20:22.644
  • And know exactly how they want to hear it.
  • 00:20:22.644 --> 00:20:25.280
  • Maybe. yeah. yeah. and and maybe we're not.
  • 00:20:25.280 --> 00:20:28.050
  • And and so this assessment really helps
  • 00:20:28.050 --> 00:20:31.420
  • You kind of have a guidepost to getting
  • 00:20:31.420 --> 00:20:35.324
  • Acts of service done right. yeah.
  • 00:20:35.324 --> 00:20:37.459
  • And so if you're curious to kind of almost like x-raying
  • 00:20:37.459 --> 00:20:41.129
  • Your love language. right.
  • 00:20:41.129 --> 00:20:42.497
  • What is it all about? that's what this will do for you.
  • 00:20:42.497 --> 00:20:45.133
  • It doesn't just identify your love languages
  • 00:20:45.133 --> 00:20:47.369
  • Helps you understand the people in your life,
  • 00:20:47.369 --> 00:20:49.137
  • How full their love tanks are.
  • 00:20:49.137 --> 00:20:51.006
  • From them, how full in relationship you are.
  • 00:20:51.006 --> 00:20:53.909
  • But then gets into all those dialects.
  • 00:20:53.909 --> 00:20:55.677
  • But on acts of service, this is the page right here
  • 00:20:55.677 --> 00:20:58.747
  • And as you can see,
  • 00:20:58.747 --> 00:21:00.048
  • Saves time, alleviates stress, instill security, conveys care.
  • 00:21:00.048 --> 00:21:04.086
  • It not just puts them in the order for you,
  • 00:21:04.086 --> 00:21:06.722
  • But shows you the percentage how important they are right?
  • 00:21:06.722 --> 00:21:12.761
  • I think it was interesting
  • 00:21:13.328 --> 00:21:14.763
  • Learning under acts of service, but my dialect was care.
  • 00:21:14.763 --> 00:21:17.933
  • I think it kind of connects back to that.
  • 00:21:17.933 --> 00:21:20.736
  • My primary love language is words of affirmation.
  • 00:21:20.736 --> 00:21:23.238
  • It's like
  • 00:21:23.238 --> 00:21:24.539
  • You doing things for me because you care about my well-being.
  • 00:21:24.539 --> 00:21:27.576
  • You care about taking care of me.
  • 00:21:27.576 --> 00:21:29.311
  • You care about how i'm feeling, if i'm sick or if i'm tired
  • 00:21:29.311 --> 00:21:33.782
  • Or whatever that is.
  • 00:21:33.782 --> 00:21:34.816
  • Those are times where i feel like you come in
  • 00:21:34.816 --> 00:21:36.785
  • And do nice things for me, and that's really important.
  • 00:21:36.785 --> 00:21:40.655
  • Yeah, i think for me that's the way i show,
  • 00:21:40.655 --> 00:21:43.558
  • I guess, the words of affirmation.
  • 00:21:43.558 --> 00:21:45.494
  • For me, it's like the actions count for more.
  • 00:21:45.494 --> 00:21:47.996
  • So it's the caring actions
  • 00:21:47.996 --> 00:21:49.498
  • Instead of the words of affirmations.
  • 00:21:49.498 --> 00:21:50.966
  • But i can remember one time, very early in our marriage,
  • 00:21:50.966 --> 00:21:54.102
  • It was probably one of the first times
  • 00:21:54.102 --> 00:21:55.570
  • That we were staying at our new house together,
  • 00:21:55.570 --> 00:21:58.140
  • And we were getting ready to go to bed, and i go, oh!
  • 00:21:58.140 --> 00:22:01.176
  • And he was like, what?
  • 00:22:01.176 --> 00:22:02.411
  • And i said, oh, i forgot my water bottle in the living room.
  • 00:22:02.411 --> 00:22:04.413
  • I'm going to go get it.
  • 00:22:04.413 --> 00:22:05.547
  • And he was like, what? no. and he shot up out of bed.
  • 00:22:05.547 --> 00:22:07.849
  • He goes,
  • 00:22:07.849 --> 00:22:08.850
  • Why do you have a husband if you have to go
  • 00:22:08.850 --> 00:22:10.152
  • Get your own water bottle?
  • 00:22:10.152 --> 00:22:11.586
  • And he went out and he brought me my water.
  • 00:22:11.586 --> 00:22:13.255
  • And i just sat there and i thought,
  • 00:22:13.255 --> 00:22:14.923
  • How do i what how did i get so lucky?
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  • It was such a simple thing.
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  • It showed me so much how much he cared for me.
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  • And i think about that simple moment all the time.
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  • And you probably don't even remember that.
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  • This makes you an expert at loving, right?
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  • It's amazing because so often we want to love.
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  • We want to work at loving, but we don't work smart.
  • 00:22:37.112 --> 00:22:39.948
  • So you can speak the love language fluently.
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  • The love language that matters most,
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  • The one they speak and it feels like in addition,
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  • Then you've added some kind of personality traits
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  • That an extrovert
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  • Or an introvert, and the way that even an act of service done
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  • Kind of for the right reason, but done wrong, you know,
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  • It feels like we're getting, kind of love language.
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  • You know, the five
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  • Love languages 2.0 is kind of what it feels like to me.
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  • Love languages that matters most.
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  • Acts of service. final word is yours, sir.
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  • I think i would say yes.
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  • Acts of service personality also has a factor here,
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  • And we deal with that in the book.
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  • And it's also if you take the premium assessment,
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  • It will tell you
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  • What their personality is and how that impacts
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  • The particular one.
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  • If it's acts of service, how the personality fits into that.
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  • And so that's why i think this book
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  • And the premium assessment are going to really help
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  • People be effective in communicating love.
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  • Les, can i get you some more water?
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  • Please do.
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  • I think one of the most common things
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  • That people have misunderstood about the five love languages
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  • Is that they read the book, and they're focused
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  • Only on themselves.
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  • They're thinking in terms of,
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  • Oh, this is what i've been needing
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  • For all these years from my spouse.
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  • And so
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  • They've spent all their efforts trying to convince their spouse
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  • That you need to be speaking this love language.
  • 00:24:16.878 --> 00:24:18.947
  • To me, that's self-centered.
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  • I understand the need.
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  • We have a need to feel loved.
  • 00:24:23.752 --> 00:24:25.587
  • But if we're focusing totally on ourselves, rather than saying,
  • 00:24:25.587 --> 00:24:29.424
  • You know, i read this book
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  • And i realized that we have different love languages,
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  • And i'm beginning to wonder
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  • If i even know your love language
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  • Or if i am speaking your love language.
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  • See? it's other-centered,
  • 00:24:40.769 --> 00:24:42.804
  • And i think that's probably the most common mistake
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  • People make,
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  • Is they're thinking of themselves, rather
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  • Than thinking of how they can enrich
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  • The life of the other person.
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  • Hello, i'm doctor gary
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  • Chapman, author of the five love languages.
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  • For 33 years, i've watched love languages change
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  • Lives and heal relationships all around the world.
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  • That discovery has led me to write a brand new book,
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