In this long-awaited follow-up, Dr. Chapman and Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott take the world-changing concept of the 5 Love Languages® one step further. They reveal why love often gets lost in translation—and how learning to speak the right dialect at the right time is the key to deeper connection.
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| Gary Chapman and Les & Leslie Parrott: How Do You See Love? | The Love Language That Matters Most | February 7, 2026
- Like a way that people like to see love and receive it?
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- I have no idea.
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- Not really. no.
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- I mean, i assume that it could be some kind of code
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- Or symbolic gift giving or things to say.
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- Quality time. gifts.
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- Physical touch.
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- Acts of service.
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- Notes of encouragement or something.
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- Words of encouragement. yeah.
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- No. i didn█t know that
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- I guess... not really.
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- Me?
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- Flowers.
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- I have a garden, and i'd like to grow flowers.
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- And i like to cut them.
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- And i did that yesterday.
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- Put them in vases and put them out for her.
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- Gifts and acts of service.
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- I think my mom love language is gifts.
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- For example, if i take her out or give her a purse
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- Or something on her birthday, she'll like it.
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- But if i give her something sentimental,
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- She█ll appreciate it too.
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- It just makes her feel like we thought of her.
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- Doesn't matter what we give her, she'll like it.
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- You know, when it comes to gifts
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- I almost make this connection between like, a gift and
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- An act of service in my mind, especially around gifts
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- That i like.
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- It does not need to be sentimental.
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- It does not need to be, you know, special.
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- Remember when we were here?
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- No, i don't, because i was thinking about the future.
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- But i love gifts around hobbies.
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- I like to cycle. i like to play hockey.
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- I love playing drums.
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- So anything in that realm, anything that supports something
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- That i like to do with my time is a ten out of ten win for me.
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- Any time you've leaned
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- Into that around my hobbies or my activities, skiing,
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- Outdoor stuff, that's a great gift.
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- Completely.
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- Growing up, i got presents when i was supposed to
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- For my birthday and for christmas.
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- And outside of maybe getting a surprise
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- Ice cream treat or something like that.
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- Didn't really get surprise gifts.
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- So to now be married and you love gifts
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- And you sometimes have expensive hobbies. always.
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- And so those gifts.
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- Oh, wow, a new pair of skis, babe.
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- That's, not -
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- That's a great gift.
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- That's not a trip to get an ice cream cone.
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- That's been an adjustment for sure.
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- To learn to see things the way that he does
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- And love them in that way.
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- Yeah, and vice versa.
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- Going to the drive-thru and getting an ice cream cone,
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- It's the best thing in the world. blows my mind.
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- But my wife is thrilled. (laughter)
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- So here we are. yeah.
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- On this episode of
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- The love language that matters most,
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- Receiving gifts.
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- And it's kind of, one that
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- I don't have any real,
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- Doctor chapman, connection to.
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- I understand it, it isn't my primary thing at all.
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- Help me understand this not being.
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- You know, after taking the assessment,
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- It was very, very low in my assessment.
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- So, it's super important to some people.
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- Obviously, it's their main love language is.
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- I just don't understand it.
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- Well, it's universal to give gifts as an expression of love.
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- My academic background before i started
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- Counseling was cultural anthropology.
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- I did an undergrad and a master's in that area,
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- Studying cultures all over the world.
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- We've never discovered a culture anywhere in the world
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- Where gift giving is not an expression of love.
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- Really- it's universal. yeah.
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- So for some people, you're right.
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- This is their primary language.
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- It's not mine, it█s number five for me.
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- But there are individuals for whom this is their primary
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- Love language.
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- But also, again, in this book, what we're really talking about,
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- It's not just any old gift.
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- They have a dialect.
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- That person, if that's their language,
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- They have a dialect or maybe two of those
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- That are really, really important for them.
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- That's what really communicates to them.
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- So not only learning their love language,
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- But learning the dialect that's most meaningful to them
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- Is going to help you fill their love tank.
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- We are diving into the love language
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- Of receiving gifts.
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- For some, gifts are more than objects.
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- They're tangible expressions of love.
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- And within this love language, there are dialects.
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- A gift can be simple or extravagant,
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- Heartfelt or practical.
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- If it's extravagant and heartfelt,
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- A fanciful gift speaks best to them.
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- Or, if it's extravagant and practical,
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- They would love a functional gift.
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- Simple and heartfelt, the sentiment is
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- What speaks the loudest.
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- And lastly, if it's simple and practical,
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- A sensible gift shines.
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- The goal is to discover which of these speaks
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- Most clearly to you or your loved one.
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- Because that is the love language that matters most.
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- And keep in mind
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- It's a tangible representation of love.
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- For some people that see something
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- And it reminds them, i am loved. because they gave me that.
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- Yeah.
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- And it can be an extravagant gift.
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- It can be a small gift.
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- It's about being seen. yes.
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- There's a little clip in a movie.
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- Someone opens a birthday present,
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- And it's a pair of bumblebee stockings.
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- Yellow and black stripes.
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- And she's an adult.
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- But the person knew they mattered to her
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- Because they were nostalgic
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- From her childhood, and she never found them again.
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- Her whole heart lit up, right?
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- And it meant more to her
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- Than an expensive piece of jewelry
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- That somebody who wasn't really tuned in to her picked out.
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- Yes, you.
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- Like you said, i see you, right?
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- And this is a tangible representation of that.
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- The love language that matters most to me
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- Is gifts, gift giving.
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- And i think part of that is really just
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- The intentionality behind that.
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- There's a great depth of intentionality
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- To a little tiny gift,
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- And i think most people think, oh, i don't.
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- I'll just throw it away.
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- I'll get rid of it.
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- But for me, i keep things for a long time.
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- I'm very sentimental in that way.
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- Where someone gave me, like a little flower pot,
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- Doesn't even bave a flower in it.
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- And it's just a little flower pot.
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- And i still have it on my dresser,
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- Because it was
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- That intentionality of, like, she saw that and thought of me.
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- It had a little daisy on it.
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- It's things like that that i, i will keep for a long time.
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- And it means a lot to me.
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- It's not just, oh, it's a material thing.
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- It's i think a lot of it was.
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- I grew up, my mom was a big gift giver.
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- She would give me these little gifts
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- Just throughout my life.
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- Like when i would come
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- Home from school on a rainy day, there would be these socks
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- With like little dogs or hearts on them.
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- And it was little things.
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- It wasn't
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- Always a massive thing, but it was these little gifts.
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- It could literally be at a gas station,
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- Seeing something or on the beach. right?
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- They see that seashell or something tiny,
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- Or they could make something like a craft
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- Or draw something for me or write something.
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- And that's what fills my love tank.
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- And again, i wouldn't have known that if i
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- Didn't take that assessment, because that really highlighted,
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- Okay, it's more simple gifts
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- And these types of heartfelt gifts
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- That actually fills your love tank.
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- Even more than you know.
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- And the other gifts are great too.
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- But i'm not like, oh, i need this- like, no,
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- You don't have to.
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- Just something that reminds me that you know me
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- And you love me.
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- In the assessment.
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- So we have, you know, this book,
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- The love language that matters most
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- We have this premium assessment.
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- Yeah, that we have we spent a lot of time researching.
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- What does it take
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- To really speak another person's love language.
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- And there are four dialects when it comes to gifts.
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- And it has to do with weather.
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- First of all, do you like a heartfelt gift
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- Or a practical gift?
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- How would you answer that? heartfelt or practical?
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- Even if gifts isn't your love language?
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- I'd say practical. sorry.
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- Okay, a practical gift. how about for you, lori?
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- Heartfelt or practical?
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- Probably heartfelt. okay.
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- And and then the second kind of big category
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- You learned about heartfelt from me,
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- The first married christmas
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- When you picked out the sewing machine.
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- Okay. we don't have time right now
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- (laughter)
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- Oh that█s cute.
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- I think it was a stack of jim dobson books
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- And the sewing machine.
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- So, that is a true story friends.
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- Very good.
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- You're awesome.
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- Yeah, i am awesome. yeah.
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- And then is it, heartfelt or practical or is.
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- And then the next one is simple or extravagant.
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- Now, some people want a gift that really is a big deal.
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- Make sure you spend
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- Some money on that one, or i don't need you to spend money.
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- I just a simple thing.
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- That's what it is. what would you.
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- How would you guys answer that?
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- Extravagant.
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- If you're going to get a gift,
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- You want it to be extravagant or simple.
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- Extravagant gifts.
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- Every time i'm about to say something.
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- I get it wrong?
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- Every single time.
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- Cause i love both.
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- That's the problem.
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- I was about to say- don█t stop doing what you do.
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- Ok, i was about to say
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- We just had our 40th anniversary
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- And she doesn't like to exercise, okay?
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- She's never exercised.
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- She weighs 90 pounds and she never exercises.
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- And i have to exercise all the time.
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- So i go, you know, a mile and a half down the beach,
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- But i see this rock. aww.
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- That was really an interesting rock.
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- Her heart█s already lighting up.
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- Yes. yeah.
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- So i see this rock and it is an unusual rock.
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- I'll get a picture of it and show it to you.
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- And i basically go to my shop
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- And i form it into a heart.
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- So i put it on so good lathe
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- And sander and i work with it till it turns into a heart.
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- And the weirdest thing is, it turned out perfect.
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- I mean, i was really like shocked, like,
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- How did i do that?
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- And it looked like something you bought, you know?
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- And she knew i picked up the rock because
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- Oddly, it had a partial outline of a like a half formed heart.
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- That's what made me think of it.
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- So i pick it up, put it in my pocket, is a big ole
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- Rock, you know, and end up
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- Giving it to her for our anniversary.
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- Along with something else.
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- But just that rock was was something that
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- I felt like i wanted to put some time into.
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- And it's sitting on one of the cabinets
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- Prominent to where she is
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- All the time, going in and out of that part of the bathroom.
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- And and it's sitting there and it's on display and it's great.
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- And so i understand doing that kind of stuff, but
- 00:11:50.800 --> 00:11:55.337
- That's kind of a weird blend of receiving or giving a gift.
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- And- it's- it's a tangible representation of your love
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- For laurie.
- 00:12:03.679 --> 00:12:04.313
- But it's simple, super
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- And talk about heartfelt.
- 00:12:05.381 --> 00:12:06.749
- Yeah, absolutely.
- 00:12:06.749 --> 00:12:08.017
- So, so when it comes to this, premium five love assessment,
- 00:12:08.017 --> 00:12:13.189
- It's simple or extravagant, practical or heartfelt
- 00:12:13.189 --> 00:12:16.158
- Will help you kind of identify your dialect.
- 00:12:16.158 --> 00:12:19.929
- I think what was interesting in taking this test
- 00:12:20.896 --> 00:12:23.899
- And learning a little bit more about each other,
- 00:12:23.899 --> 00:12:26.235
- It became clear that i like just a sentimental gift.
- 00:12:26.235 --> 00:12:29.572
- Some of the most thoughtful things jono has done for me
- 00:12:29.572 --> 00:12:32.908
- Is write in a card.
- 00:12:32.908 --> 00:12:34.777
- His genuine thoughts towards me,
- 00:12:34.777 --> 00:12:36.879
- And those are the things i value more
- 00:12:36.879 --> 00:12:39.014
- Than any other extravagant gift that he's given me.
- 00:12:39.014 --> 00:12:41.283
- So hopefully now that it's clear to you,
- 00:12:41.283 --> 00:12:43.452
- You see it on paper that i'm pretty simple. yeah.
- 00:12:43.452 --> 00:12:46.155
- It's fun.
- 00:12:46.155 --> 00:12:47.356
- Like to do the best i can to express my feelings in a card
- 00:12:47.356 --> 00:12:51.193
- And that to be the.
- 00:12:51.193 --> 00:12:52.761
- And i guess the more accepted gift than the actual gift itself
- 00:12:52.761 --> 00:12:56.265
- Is again, a bit of a foreign thing, but kind of fun.
- 00:12:56.265 --> 00:12:58.968
- So. but my primary love language is words of affirmation,
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- So it makes sense to me that just a simple card
- 00:13:02.104 --> 00:13:04.974
- With your words written in it.
- 00:13:04.974 --> 00:13:10.512
- It is a bit. yeah, yeah.
- 00:13:11.080 --> 00:13:24.026
- I was,
- 00:13:24.260 --> 00:13:25.461
- Yeah i figured this was- jasmine was the one and i knew it.
- 00:13:25.461 --> 00:13:28.797
- So i tried to put my best foot forward
- 00:13:28.797 --> 00:13:30.699
- And do all the right things, but, yeah, like,
- 00:13:30.699 --> 00:13:33.168
- I don't particularly enjoy receiving
- 00:13:33.168 --> 00:13:36.205
- Extravagant gifts, so it was a bit of a shift.
- 00:13:36.205 --> 00:13:39.508
- I had some help in the planning, so.
- 00:13:39.508 --> 00:13:41.210
- I'd given jono
- 00:13:41.210 --> 00:13:42.444
- A couple of gifts, and i, and i can tell in that
- 00:13:42.444 --> 00:13:44.880
- It doesn't make him comfortable to receive them.
- 00:13:44.880 --> 00:13:47.783
- So that's something that we've kind of learned.
- 00:13:47.783 --> 00:13:50.986
- Like for example, recently
- 00:13:50.986 --> 00:13:52.187
- I had mentioned that i had bought
- 00:13:52.187 --> 00:13:53.756
- One of his christmas presents for him,
- 00:13:53.756 --> 00:13:55.391
- And he immediately became stressed by that.
- 00:13:55.391 --> 00:13:57.626
- And i'm like, oh, this is just a simple thing.
- 00:13:57.626 --> 00:14:00.029
- I got you one of your christmas presents.
- 00:14:00.029 --> 00:14:01.430
- It's no big deal,
- 00:14:01.430 --> 00:14:02.665
- But he hears that and it causes and stress because, yeah,
- 00:14:02.665 --> 00:14:06.035
- Birthdays, christmas, they█re stressful events
- 00:14:06.035 --> 00:14:08.570
- For for the gift giving side of things.
- 00:14:08.570 --> 00:14:10.105
- I think it's sweet though, because i know it's
- 00:14:10.105 --> 00:14:13.375
- Because you care so much you don't want to mess it up.
- 00:14:13.375 --> 00:14:16.512
- But what's funny
- 00:14:16.512 --> 00:14:17.379
- Is i really appreciate simple things,
- 00:14:17.379 --> 00:14:19.848
- And i'm telling you that all the time.
- 00:14:19.848 --> 00:14:21.016
- I'm like, i'm really, like, easy to please.
- 00:14:21.016 --> 00:14:23.319
- I'm low maintenance.
- 00:14:23.319 --> 00:14:24.820
- You don't have to do a lot.
- 00:14:24.820 --> 00:14:25.854
- And i'll feel, you know, so grateful by it.
- 00:14:25.854 --> 00:14:28.190
- It's funny, we're both more low maintenance than we realized.
- 00:14:28.190 --> 00:14:30.926
- Maybe,
- 00:14:30.926 --> 00:14:33.295
- So if you like a gift that is extravagant
- 00:14:34.196 --> 00:14:36.665
- And heartfelt, we call that a fanciful dialect.
- 00:14:36.665 --> 00:14:40.536
- You like things like jewelry, a spa day
- 00:14:40.536 --> 00:14:44.373
- Golf getaway, upscale restaurant dinner.
- 00:14:44.373 --> 00:14:47.843
- You know, those kinds of things.
- 00:14:47.843 --> 00:14:49.111
- Those are fanciful kind of gifts
- 00:14:49.111 --> 00:14:52.281
- Come down and it's still heartfelt.
- 00:14:52.281 --> 00:14:54.316
- But now it's simple. and we call that sentimental.
- 00:14:54.316 --> 00:14:56.986
- Yeah, that's, you know, more of the handmade card you know,
- 00:14:56.986 --> 00:15:01.190
- A poem. the poem, from the heart- sewing machine.
- 00:15:01.190 --> 00:15:04.293
- (laughter)
- 00:15:04.293 --> 00:15:06.428
- No, you're failing matt
- 00:15:06.428 --> 00:15:07.563
- You█re failing.
- 00:15:07.563 --> 00:15:09.465
- Wait, who█s failing?
- 00:15:09.465 --> 00:15:11.133
- (laughter)
- 00:15:11.133 --> 00:15:13.135
- That was 40 years ago.
- 00:15:13.135 --> 00:15:15.270
- I would say the heart was sentimental.
- 00:15:15.270 --> 00:15:18.474
- Thank you doctor, it was.
- 00:15:18.474 --> 00:15:20.142
- Okay,
- 00:15:20.142 --> 00:15:21.043
- And then the other two are functional.
- 00:15:21.043 --> 00:15:23.112
- Some people just like a functional gift.
- 00:15:23.112 --> 00:15:25.214
- It's extravagant. right.
- 00:15:25.214 --> 00:15:26.849
- And it is practical.
- 00:15:26.849 --> 00:15:28.350
- I mean, an iphone. exactly.
- 00:15:28.350 --> 00:15:30.019
- A car, right? a car.
- 00:15:30.019 --> 00:15:32.254
- Yeah. yeah, exactly.
- 00:15:32.254 --> 00:15:33.355
- Right, a power tool, whatever.
- 00:15:33.355 --> 00:15:35.124
- And then the sensible is the last one.
- 00:15:35.124 --> 00:15:38.027
- And those are practical and simple, like,
- 00:15:38.027 --> 00:15:40.329
- I don't know, an umbrella.
- 00:15:40.329 --> 00:15:41.530
- Cookbook, you know, something that they want to use.
- 00:15:41.530 --> 00:15:44.366
- But no one would look at that and go,
- 00:15:44.366 --> 00:15:46.268
- Oh, isn't that isn't that a sweet umbrella? you know?
- 00:15:46.268 --> 00:15:51.473
- My main,
- 00:15:51.707 --> 00:15:52.841
- Primary love language is gift giving, receiving gifts.
- 00:15:52.841 --> 00:15:56.545
- And i think a lot of that the specific sort
- 00:15:56.545 --> 00:16:00.015
- Of branch within that is heartfelt.
- 00:16:00.015 --> 00:16:02.718
- So receiving heartfelt gifts, there's
- 00:16:02.718 --> 00:16:04.620
- Something about having like
- 00:16:04.620 --> 00:16:05.754
- A tangible thing that represents your love for someone.
- 00:16:05.754 --> 00:16:09.058
- That means a lot to me,
- 00:16:09.058 --> 00:16:10.526
- And it's
- 00:16:10.526 --> 00:16:11.727
- Less of a superficial like, oh, i need material things.
- 00:16:11.727 --> 00:16:14.296
- It's more just the idea that someone thought of me
- 00:16:14.296 --> 00:16:17.933
- Enough to make something for me, or like,
- 00:16:17.933 --> 00:16:20.602
- Buy that little thing at the gas station
- 00:16:20.602 --> 00:16:22.604
- Really touches my heart in a way
- 00:16:22.604 --> 00:16:24.139
- That i think has shaped who i am and how i also give love.
- 00:16:24.139 --> 00:16:27.810
- Like i try to buy little things
- 00:16:27.810 --> 00:16:29.244
- And or make something for someone just to honor them
- 00:16:29.244 --> 00:16:32.347
- And show that i was, you know, thinking about them too.
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- Doctor chapman,
- 00:17:47.389 --> 00:17:48.457
- Are we kind of zeroing in on a point here,
- 00:17:48.457 --> 00:17:51.560
- It feels like that- you can know
- 00:17:51.560 --> 00:17:55.964
- That your spouse or your loved one,
- 00:17:55.964 --> 00:17:59.168
- They're, you know, love
- 00:17:59.168 --> 00:18:01.904
- Language is receiving gifts, but you can give the wrong gift.
- 00:18:01.904 --> 00:18:04.907
- Yeah, you can do it wrong.
- 00:18:04.907 --> 00:18:06.542
- Then even the the idea of giving it in
- 00:18:06.542 --> 00:18:10.712
- A very public way or a private way that that kind
- 00:18:10.712 --> 00:18:13.949
- Of goes to personality, there's all sorts of now
- 00:18:13.949 --> 00:18:17.586
- Kind of nuance in these,
- 00:18:18.086 --> 00:18:21.423
- Different, dialects, as we're calling them.
- 00:18:21.423 --> 00:18:24.493
- Yeah, the dialect kind of what we're dealing with.
- 00:18:24.493 --> 00:18:26.862
- Absolutely.
- 00:18:26.862 --> 00:18:27.930
- Dialects and personality, as you say it, you know,
- 00:18:27.930 --> 00:18:30.599
- So how you present it to them, you know, if it
- 00:18:30.599 --> 00:18:33.068
- If they're extroverts,
- 00:18:33.068 --> 00:18:34.336
- You can give them this elaborate gift in front of everybody
- 00:18:34.336 --> 00:18:38.173
- In a restaurant or whatever, you know, are you.
- 00:18:38.173 --> 00:18:41.910
- But if they're introverts,
- 00:18:41.910 --> 00:18:43.278
- They would much more like to receive it
- 00:18:43.278 --> 00:18:45.614
- Just in person, you know, just just the two of you.
- 00:18:45.614 --> 00:18:48.717
- So it's a personality.
- 00:18:48.717 --> 00:18:50.385
- And dialects help you be really, really effective in speaking.
- 00:18:50.385 --> 00:18:55.157
- This love language
- 00:18:55.157 --> 00:18:56.625
- Gary, laurie said something
- 00:18:56.625 --> 00:18:58.460
- A second ago
- 00:18:58.460 --> 00:18:59.194
- That made me want to ask you this
- 00:18:59.194 --> 00:19:00.596
- Because i've heard your answer,
- 00:19:00.596 --> 00:19:01.463
- But i think it's really important.
- 00:19:01.463 --> 00:19:02.864
- Some people, especially guys ago, you know,
- 00:19:02.864 --> 00:19:05.734
- Her love language-
- 00:19:05.734 --> 00:19:06.735
- It's all five of them, right?
- 00:19:06.735 --> 00:19:08.537
- What do you say about that?
- 00:19:08.537 --> 00:19:10.138
- Well, i would say that 2 different
- 00:19:10.138 --> 00:19:12.274
- Kinds of people would say that all five of their languages.
- 00:19:12.274 --> 00:19:15.644
- One is the person who in childhood received all five,
- 00:19:15.644 --> 00:19:19.715
- And they always felt loved.
- 00:19:19.715 --> 00:19:21.650
- They get married and their spouse
- 00:19:21.650 --> 00:19:23.218
- Is speaking all five and they feel loved.
- 00:19:23.218 --> 00:19:25.554
- And i say to those people, don't worry about it.
- 00:19:25.554 --> 00:19:27.856
- You feel love.
- 00:19:27.856 --> 00:19:28.890
- That's the whole purpose, right?
- 00:19:28.890 --> 00:19:30.692
- But the other is the person that never felt loved growing. it.
- 00:19:30.692 --> 00:19:34.796
- They didn't receive any of these, or
- 00:19:35.564 --> 00:19:37.165
- If they did, they were minimal and they just never felt loved.
- 00:19:37.165 --> 00:19:40.569
- So as adults, they don't quite
- 00:19:40.569 --> 00:19:43.171
- Know what what what makes them feel loved.
- 00:19:43.171 --> 00:19:46.408
- And that's where i think this book can be very helpful.
- 00:19:46.408 --> 00:19:49.478
- If they take this quiz, it will help their spouse
- 00:19:49.478 --> 00:19:52.514
- Have some insight into what may be most meaningful.
- 00:19:52.514 --> 00:19:56.184
- In the meantime, if you're married to
- 00:19:56.184 --> 00:19:57.586
- Somebody like that, i say give them all five.
- 00:19:57.586 --> 00:20:00.255
- Yeah. and and you're bound.
- 00:20:00.255 --> 00:20:02.291
- You're doing.
- 00:20:02.291 --> 00:20:03.225
- But if you
- 00:20:03.225 --> 00:20:04.426
- If you give them all five in a dialect thats meaningful
- 00:20:04.426 --> 00:20:06.895
- You go hit a home run and they're going to begin
- 00:20:06.895 --> 00:20:09.164
- Feeling something they█ve never felt before.
- 00:20:09.164 --> 00:20:10.666
- I love that answer because so many times
- 00:20:10.666 --> 00:20:12.668
- I hear a guy and it's kind of like,
- 00:20:12.668 --> 00:20:14.469
- Like a throwaway, oh, it's just all five, you know?
- 00:20:14.469 --> 00:20:17.205
- What am i supposed to do?
- 00:20:17.205 --> 00:20:18.440
- Yeah, dude, you're on easy street.
- 00:20:18.440 --> 00:20:20.442
- Yeah. choose one.
- 00:20:20.442 --> 00:20:21.910
- Right. you can't go wrong.
- 00:20:21.910 --> 00:20:23.378
- Anything you do is going to count? yeah.
- 00:20:23.378 --> 00:20:26.782
- I knew my love language was gifts,
- 00:20:27.549 --> 00:20:29.418
- But once i took the premium
- 00:20:29.418 --> 00:20:31.420
- Assessment, my eyes were opened up to a whole new world of.
- 00:20:31.420 --> 00:20:35.624
- There were layers to that gift giving.
- 00:20:35.624 --> 00:20:37.793
- And there's specificities within that that i didn't see
- 00:20:37.793 --> 00:20:41.263
- Before of, oh, there's actually different types of gifts.
- 00:20:41.263 --> 00:20:44.366
- Right.
- 00:20:44.366 --> 00:20:45.567
- And so you can lean more, heartfelt or practical, right.
- 00:20:45.567 --> 00:20:48.870
- It could be like an umbrella on a rainy day
- 00:20:48.870 --> 00:20:50.672
- That doesn't fill my love tank as much as that little seashell
- 00:20:50.672 --> 00:20:54.409
- That someone found when they went surfing at the beach.
- 00:20:54.409 --> 00:20:56.645
- And they're like, oh, this reminded me of you
- 00:20:56.645 --> 00:20:58.146
- Because the stripes on it matched your shirt.
- 00:20:58.146 --> 00:21:00.182
- That kind of thing really speaks to me.
- 00:21:00.182 --> 00:21:02.384
- And so taking the assessment, i was just uncovered
- 00:21:02.384 --> 00:21:05.420
- All of these layers of, oh my goodness.
- 00:21:05.420 --> 00:21:07.155
- That's why
- 00:21:07.155 --> 00:21:08.090
- When my friend wrote me that poem last week,
- 00:21:08.090 --> 00:21:10.258
- That's why that touched me so much,
- 00:21:10.258 --> 00:21:11.793
- Is that speaks directly into that part of like,
- 00:21:11.793 --> 00:21:14.529
- Okay, this is heartfelt and meaningful.
- 00:21:14.529 --> 00:21:16.732
- And it also opened my eyes to see the other love languages,
- 00:21:16.732 --> 00:21:20.102
- Not just gifts,
- 00:21:20.102 --> 00:21:20.802
- But the other ones
- 00:21:20.802 --> 00:21:21.870
- Too, of wow, like i do care about these as well,
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- But there are some that are less important to me.
- 00:21:24.706 --> 00:21:27.409
- It's not that they're not important,
- 00:21:27.409 --> 00:21:28.543
- But they're just less meaningful.
- 00:21:28.543 --> 00:21:29.978
- And i'm like, that makes sense
- 00:21:29.978 --> 00:21:31.146
- In the context of certain friendships.
- 00:21:31.146 --> 00:21:33.315
- Even where i've had conflict,
- 00:21:33.315 --> 00:21:34.983
- Where people really wanted more quality time,
- 00:21:34.983 --> 00:21:37.419
- And then i'm over here, like sending them like little poems.
- 00:21:37.419 --> 00:21:40.455
- But i haven't seen them in weeks because i've been working
- 00:21:40.455 --> 00:21:42.891
- And i'm like, oh, i see that.
- 00:21:42.891 --> 00:21:44.126
- That's why that created tension
- 00:21:44.126 --> 00:21:45.927
- In the friendship was just because he or she didn't want
- 00:21:45.927 --> 00:21:49.865
- Didn't have me there physically with them,
- 00:21:49.865 --> 00:21:51.867
- But i didn't even think that that was as important
- 00:21:51.867 --> 00:21:54.403
- As long as like we were talking or like,
- 00:21:54.403 --> 00:21:56.671
- You know, showing up in little ways.
- 00:21:56.671 --> 00:21:58.173
- So that has really opened my eyes to even just see how
- 00:21:58.173 --> 00:22:01.243
- The context of my friendships have also been affected
- 00:22:01.243 --> 00:22:04.346
- By love languages.
- 00:22:04.346 --> 00:22:07.482
- Final thoughts on receiving giving gifts.
- 00:22:08.350 --> 00:22:10.786
- All that category?
- 00:22:10.786 --> 00:22:11.787
- Well, on giving gifts.
- 00:22:11.787 --> 00:22:13.455
- I know we've all encountered this in counseling sessions
- 00:22:13.455 --> 00:22:16.625
- Where it's like, oh, it's gifts.
- 00:22:16.625 --> 00:22:19.060
- We don't have enough money for me to love you, right?
- 00:22:19.060 --> 00:22:21.630
- And it doesn't require a big check
- 00:22:21.630 --> 00:22:24.933
- To write for a gift to have.
- 00:22:24.933 --> 00:22:27.302
- Can you tell me a story real quick of
- 00:22:27.302 --> 00:22:31.006
- I told you one about the guy with the twig.
- 00:22:31.006 --> 00:22:33.842
- Told you that just last week, right?
- 00:22:33.842 --> 00:22:35.110
- You want to tell that real fast guy on a little hike and his
- 00:22:35.110 --> 00:22:39.147
- Wife's love language is gifts.
- 00:22:39.147 --> 00:22:41.216
- And he brought it home from this little hike, a little twig,
- 00:22:41.216 --> 00:22:44.085
- And gave it to her.
- 00:22:44.085 --> 00:22:45.187
- And you're thinking, are you kidding me?
- 00:22:45.187 --> 00:22:47.322
- But what he said about it
- 00:22:47.322 --> 00:22:48.523
- Kind of tied-in some words of affirmation
- 00:22:48.523 --> 00:22:50.492
- And he said, i'm giving you this gift.
- 00:22:50.492 --> 00:22:52.627
- She said, well, what's this about?
- 00:22:52.627 --> 00:22:53.829
- He said, it
- 00:22:53.829 --> 00:22:55.030
- Just kind of represents me so many times i feel so fragile,
- 00:22:55.030 --> 00:22:57.732
- Like i could break. but the way you hold me.
- 00:22:57.732 --> 00:22:59.935
- Oh, yeah.
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- There you go, there you go. the way you hold me right?
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- So i gave her a rock
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- (laughter)
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- It worked buddy.
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- No, you gave her a hand carved heart.
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- Yeah.
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- Hey, it's sticks and stones.
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- But guess what?
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- She put that on her little kitchen desk,
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- And it's been there for years, right? right.
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- That's the power of a tangible representation of a gift.
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- That's right. making love visible.
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- That's what gifts does.
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- You know, all these
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- All of these languages do that in their own way.
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- But gifts does that in a very unique way.
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- It's something that is, solidly speaking, love over time.
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- And so i'm going to go to the beach and find a rock.
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- (laughter)
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- Good idea. of saying you're good.
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- And give it as receiving gifts.
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- The love language that matters most.
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- Receiving gifts.
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- We'll see you next time.
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- It's been very encouraging to see how god has used
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- The five love language books all over the world,
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- Which has amazed me.
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- And that's why people, when they ask me,
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- How do i explain the fact that in over 50 languages around
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- The world has sold 20 million copies?
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- I say, to me, the short answer█s god. and the long answer is god.
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- I could not have made that happen
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- If i wanted to make it happen.
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- God has used this simple concept
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- To help people understand how to meet
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- One of our deepest emotional needs, the need to feel loved.
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- And so when you apply that in a marriage,
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- Or when you apply that with children,
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- When you apply that with any close relationship,
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- You're going to create an emotional climate
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- That's going to enrich the life of the other person
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- And going to enrich your life.
- 00:24:37.265 --> 00:24:38.934
- And so that, to me, is the greatest legacy.
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- And i hope that many people will come to recognize
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- That the attitude of love comes as a gift from god.
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- If we allow god into our lives and we are following him,
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- We seek to follow the example of christ who loved us
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- When we were unlovely.
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- And so with his help, we can love a spouse or a child
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- Or someone else that we want to have
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- A positive relationship with.
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- We can love them
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- Even when they're unlovely
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- And have a positive influence on their life.
- 00:25:09.531 --> 00:25:12.000
- So if god can continue to use this to create an attitude
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- Of love in the hearts of people, it will greatly impact
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- Not only the immediate family, it will greatly impact
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- Our culture.
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- Hello, i'm doctor gary
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- Chapman, author of the five love languages.
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- For 33 years, i've watched love languages change
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- Lives and heal relationships all around the world.
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- That discovery has led me to write a brand new book,
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- The love language that matters most.
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