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Steven & Holly Furtick - Do Not Reverse Your Circumcision (Part 2)

February 13, 2026 | 27:29

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Steven Furtick | Steven & Holly Furtick - Do Not Reverse Your Circumcision (Part 2) | February 13, 2026

An encouraging message
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From pastor steven furtick
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Of elevation church.
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If you're looking
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To strengthen your faith
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And shift your perspective,
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Stay tuned.
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♪ ♪
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>> i love what shaunti feldhahn
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>> i love what shaunti feldhahn said in her book,
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Said in her book, "for women only,"
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"for women only," she said she surveyed
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She said she surveyed hundreds of married people
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Hundreds of married people and asked them,
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And asked them, what is the only most important
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What is the only most important thing you wished your spouse
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Thing you wished your spouse understood about you,
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Understood about you, but feel that he or she doesn't?
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But feel that he or she doesn't? and she said,
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And she said, the overwhelming response was,
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The overwhelming response was, "i wish she knew how much
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"i wish she knew how much i truly love her."
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I truly love her." and if we could just
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And if we could just go back to that
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Go back to that and filter everything through --
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And filter everything through -- you know, you did this
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You know, you did this this morning and you might
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This morning and you might not have even known it,
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Not have even known it, but like i was rushing
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But like i was rushing to get ready
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To get ready and kind of let the time
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And kind of let the time get ahead of me.
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Get ahead of me. and rather than,
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And rather than, you go into this like,
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You go into this like, she doesn't respect my time,
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She doesn't respect my time, you were very patient
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You were very patient and you were like, "okay,
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And you were like, "okay, are you ready?"
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Are you ready?" >> i just had me a spoon
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>> i just had me a spoon of peanut butter and...
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Of peanut butter and... [laughter]
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[laughter] came on out.
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Came on out. let's go to the next point.
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Let's go to the next point. [laughter]
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[laughter] i'm called to --
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I'm called to -- i'm called to live
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I'm called to live with contentment.
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With contentment. how huge is this in our world
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How huge is this in our world of constant comparisons today?
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Of constant comparisons today? live with contentment.
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Live with contentment. i mean, i'm gonna
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I mean, i'm gonna preach about this,
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Preach about this, at least every other week
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At least every other week for the next ten years,
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For the next ten years, in some way or another,
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In some way or another, this thing of contentment.
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This thing of contentment. this thing about enjoying
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This thing about enjoying where you are on the way
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Where you are on the way to where god is taking you.
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To where god is taking you. i'm gonna preach on it
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I'm gonna preach on it because i need it.
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Because i need it. i gonna preach on it
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I gonna preach on it because our world
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Because our world is antithetical to it.
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Is antithetical to it. i'm gonna preach about it
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I'm gonna preach about it because comparison
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Because comparison kills contentment.
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Kills contentment. >> yeah.
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>> yeah. >> and with no contentment
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>> and with no contentment there can be no joy,
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There can be no joy, i don't care how much
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I don't care how much stuff you have.
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Stuff you have. and so, i'm called
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And so, i'm called to live with contentment.
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To live with contentment. like that great bible verse,
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Like that great bible verse, philippians 4:13,
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Philippians 4:13, where it says,
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Where it says, “i can do all things
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“i can do all things through christ
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Through christ who strengthens me.”
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Who strengthens me.” and we use that verse
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And we use that verse to set goals for ourselves,
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To set goals for ourselves, you know, i can do this,
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You know, i can do this, and i can do that,
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And i can do that, but the verse right before it,
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But the verse right before it, he says, “i've learned
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He says, “i've learned the secret of being content
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The secret of being content in any situation.
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In any situation. no matter if i have a little,
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No matter if i have a little, if i have lot,
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If i have lot, if i'm abounding,
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If i'm abounding, if i'm in need.”
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If i'm in need.” i can do all things,
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I can do all things, what i can do all things
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What i can do all things because i'm content.
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Because i'm content. so, in any situation,
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So, in any situation, i am called to contentment.
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I am called to contentment. and i guess, i'm not trying
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And i guess, i'm not trying to divide men and women
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To divide men and women in this because we respond
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In this because we respond in different ways,
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In different ways, but like when i don't feel
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But like when i don't feel like you're content
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Like you're content i feel like that that is you
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I feel like that that is you saying that i'm a bad provider
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Saying that i'm a bad provider and i probably shouldn't
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And i probably shouldn't feel that way,
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Feel that way, shouldn't make it about me,
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Shouldn't make it about me, but i do and then
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But i do and then i become miserable.
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I become miserable. >> yeah.
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>> yeah. it's taken me a long time
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It's taken me a long time to figure this out,
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To figure this out, because i didn't
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Because i didn't understand that,
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Understand that, at his core,
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At his core, at a man's core is just --
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At a man's core is just -- is this need to provide;
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Is this need to provide; to provide for his wife,
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To provide for his wife, to provide for his family.
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To provide for his family. but i always took that
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But i always took that to mean, like,
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To mean, like, he just wants to make sure
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He just wants to make sure that our bills are paid
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That our bills are paid every month.
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Every month. but it really goes way
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But it really goes way beyond him providing financially
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Beyond him providing financially for us every month.
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For us every month. i mean, you have this need to,
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I mean, you have this need to, yeah i mean, obviously,
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Yeah i mean, obviously, provide for our needs
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Provide for our needs every month,
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Every month, but then you wanna
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But then you wanna provide stability for us,
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Provide stability for us, you wanna provide
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You wanna provide for our future,
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For our future, but even more than that,
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But even more than that, a man feels like he wants
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A man feels like he wants to provide happiness for
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To provide happiness for his wife and for his family.
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His wife and for his family. and i think for women,
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And i think for women, we really struggle with this
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We really struggle with this because it's so easy
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Because it's so easy to let one thing upset us
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To let one thing upset us and let it just set it
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And let it just set it the trajectory of our day
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The trajectory of our day in a terrible direction.
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In a terrible direction. and i think sometimes
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And i think sometimes i really fight this
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I really fight this because it feels unfair
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Because it feels unfair because whether
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Because whether i like it or not,
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I like it or not, as a woman
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As a woman i am the thermostat of my home.
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I am the thermostat of my home. >> true.
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>> true. >> i set the tone.
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>> i set the tone. i set the mood.
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I set the mood. >> it's true.
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>> it's true. [applause]
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[applause] >> and you can either --
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>> and you can either -- i mean, it is what it is.
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I mean, it is what it is. is that fair?
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Is that fair? no.
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No. why can't i be in a bad mood?
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Why can't i be in a bad mood? why can't i just have
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Why can't i just have a bad day?
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A bad day? and everybody else just
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And everybody else just not be in a bad mood too.
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Not be in a bad mood too. it's just not the way
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It's just not the way that it works.
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That it works. ad so, the way that i feel
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Ad so, the way that i feel is setting the tone
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Is setting the tone for our whole family
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For our whole family and when he feels
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And when he feels like i'm unhappy,
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Like i'm unhappy, then he feels like
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Then he feels like he's failing.
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He's failing. and i didn't even
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And i didn't even realize this,
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Realize this, early on in our marriage,
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Early on in our marriage, we had a conversation
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We had a conversation that was really helpful for me.
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That was really helpful for me. i was going through
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I was going through a really difficult
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A really difficult stage of life,
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I was knee deep in babies.
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I was knee deep in babies. we had elijah and graham,
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We had elijah and graham, are two years apart,
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Are two years apart, so i spent over a year
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So i spent over a year where i had two children
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Where i had two children in diapers,
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In diapers, and so, i was just
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And so, i was just knee deep in diapers,
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Knee deep in diapers, and mommy-ness.
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You know, like, where these
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You know, like, where these little things just controlled
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Little things just controlled everything about your life.
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Everything about your life. they tell you
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They tell you when you wake up,
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When you wake up, they tell you
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They tell you when you can go to sleep,
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When you can go to sleep, they tell you when
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They tell you when you can take a shower,
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You can take a shower, they tell you
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They tell you when you can eat.
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When you can eat. and after awhile it just was
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And after awhile it just was just compounding on me
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Just compounding on me and i was just,
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And i was just, just feeling disappointed
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Just feeling disappointed with motherhood.
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With motherhood. like, why --
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Like, why -- this isn't what i thought
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This isn't what i thought it was gonna be
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It was gonna be and i was just --
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And i was just -- everyday, you know,
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Everyday, you know, when you come home,
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When you come home, i was just overwhelmed
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I was just overwhelmed with how long the day had been
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With how long the day had been and you're finally here.
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And you're finally here. and he sat me down one day,
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And he sat me down one day, and he was like, "i just --
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And he was like, "i just -- i feel like you're not happy
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I feel like you're not happy and i feel like you're
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And i feel like you're not happy with me and --
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Not happy with me and -- this has nothing to do with you,
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This has nothing to do with you, but then i realized it does have
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But then i realized it does have everything to do with him.
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Everything to do with him. and because he's feeling like
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And because he's feeling like he needs to help me --
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He needs to help me -- "how can i help you get happy?"
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"how can i help you get happy?" and i realized in that moment
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And i realized in that moment that i can change
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That i can change the way that i feel.
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The way that i feel. i can --
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I can -- it's all about my perspective
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It's all about my perspective and what i'm looking at.
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And what i'm looking at. philippians 4:8 says,
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Philippians 4:8 says, “finally, brothers and sisters,
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“finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true,
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Whatever is true, whatever is noble,
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Whatever is noble, whatever is right,
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Whatever is right, whatever is pure,
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Whatever is pure, whatever is lovely,
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Whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable -
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Whatever is admirable - if there is anything excellent
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If there is anything excellent or praiseworthy -
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Or praiseworthy - think about such things."
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Think about such things." and sometimes,
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And sometimes, it just takes
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It just takes a few seconds to just hit
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A few seconds to just hit the reset button
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The reset button and say, "wait, wait,
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And say, "wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
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Wait, wait, wait. i have two healthy kids,"
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I have two healthy kids," >> yeah.
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>> yeah. >> well now, i have three.
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>> well now, i have three. "and i have a husband
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"and i have a husband that loves me,
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That loves me, and this is good,
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And this is good, this is good.
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This is good. in this moment
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In this moment i'm feeling frustrated,
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I'm feeling frustrated, but i'm happy."
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But i'm happy." and being able
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And being able to communicate that to you
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To communicate that to you and just being able
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And just being able to say to you like,
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To say to you like, "i just --
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"i just -- i love our family.
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I love our family. i love my life."
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I love my life." and just taking a moment
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And just taking a moment to express to him
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To express to him that i am content.
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That i am content. >> ‘cause i wanna help
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>> ‘cause i wanna help the men out
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The men out and say something
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And say something to your women.
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To your women. most of us feel like
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Most of us feel like we're failing,
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We're failing, most of the time.
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Most of the time. we don't show you that,
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We don't show you that, but at least in one area
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But at least in one area and maybe you can relate,
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And maybe you can relate, maybe you can't.
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Maybe you can't. but we live by scorecards.
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But we live by scorecards. and we feel like we're
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And we feel like we're failing at everything
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Failing at everything if we're failing at anything.
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If we're failing at anything. so, if we're doing well at work
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So, if we're doing well at work we probably feel like
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We probably feel like we're cheating something
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We're cheating something that needs to happen at home
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That needs to happen at home and if we're doing
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And if we're doing great at home, you know,
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Great at home, you know, we're making pancakes,
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We're making pancakes, but we're broke.
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But we're broke. and we always feel like
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And we always feel like we're failing somewhere,
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We're failing somewhere, you have the power
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You have the power to give your man a win,
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To give your man a win, just by pointing out something
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Just by pointing out something that you like that he made
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That you like that he made possible for you.
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Possible for you. and if you want him --
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And if you want him -- [applause]
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[applause] and if you want him
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And if you want him to be a winner,
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To be a winner, give him a win.
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Give him a win. if you want him to be
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If you want him to be a winner give a win.
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A winner give a win. but the power of this
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But the power of this is not when you
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Is not when you really do love everything
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Really do love everything that's happening in your life
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That's happening in your life and you're content,
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And you're content, men and women now.
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Men and women now. >> yeah.
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>> yeah. >> it's when you do
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>> it's when you do what paul said.
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What paul said. he said, "in any situation,"
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He said, "in any situation," in any situation.
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In any situation. "i can find something
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"i can find something to celebrate in that situation."
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To celebrate in that situation." [applause]
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[applause] and you just,
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And you just, you do a touch down dance,
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You do a touch down dance, you know, even if you're not
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You know, even if you're not anywhere near the end zone
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Anywhere near the end zone and it's amazing
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And it's amazing how that energy
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How that energy just energizes that
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Just energizes that thing of contentment.
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Thing of contentment. but it's hard --
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But it's hard -- i think it's hard
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I think it's hard to live with contentment.
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To live with contentment. i appreciate though that
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I appreciate though that you've made me feel this way
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You've made me feel this way at every season of our life,
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At every season of our life, because, you know,
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Because, you know, god has blessed
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God has blessed in a lot of ways, now.
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In a lot of ways, now. we pastor a church
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We pastor a church that's growing,
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That's growing, a large church.
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A large church. god has blessed us
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God has blessed us in ways materially,
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In ways materially, god has blessed us
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God has blessed us with influence,
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With influence, but i felt like you,
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But i felt like you, aside from that one six months
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Aside from that one six months where i --
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Where i -- you seemed very sad,
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You seemed very sad, and i felt bad for you.
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And i felt bad for you. i feel like unbalance's
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I feel like unbalance's not every day,
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Not every day, but you've always made me feel,
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But you've always made me feel, when we moved into that
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When we moved into that apartment at juniper terrace,
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Apartment at juniper terrace, you made me feel like
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You made me feel like that 720 square feet
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That 720 square feet was a palace.
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Was a palace. i was proud
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I was proud because i was able
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Because i was able to put down the security deposit
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To put down the security deposit and i felt like the man.
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And i felt like the man. >> yeah.
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>> yeah. >> and in that season
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>> and in that season we got furniture
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We got furniture from eric phillips dad,
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From eric phillips dad, who's gone to be
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Who's gone to be with the lord, mr. rob.
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With the lord, mr. rob. he had a mobile --
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He had a mobile -- he would go repossess furniture
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He would go repossess furniture from mobile homes.
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From mobile homes. that's our first furniture.
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That's our first furniture. that was our first bedroom.
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That was our first bedroom. did i get that right?
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Did i get that right? that was our first --
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That was our first -- i was so proud
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I was so proud of that furniture.
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Of that furniture. ‘cause i had the hook up,
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‘cause i had the hook up, i had the street smarts,
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I had the street smarts, to find the man
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To find the man who repossesses the furniture
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Who repossesses the furniture from the mobile homes.
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From the mobile homes. c'mon, that takes skills.
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C'mon, that takes skills. that's og.
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That's og. c'mon.
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C'mon. [applause]
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[applause] and we were celebrating
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And we were celebrating that ugly furniture,
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That ugly furniture, that nasty furniture.
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That nasty furniture. and so, contentment breeds,
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And so, contentment breeds, you know, celebration,
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You know, celebration, which breeds success
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Which breeds success and if you get happy about
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And if you get happy about what you have,
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What you have, and where you are...
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And where you are... >> so good.
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>> so good. >> i'm called to live
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>> i'm called to live with contentment.
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With contentment. next one.
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Next one. we gotta move,
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We gotta move, ‘cause i preached
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‘cause i preached so long-winded last week.
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So long-winded last week. all of you are gonna stop
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All of you are gonna stop coming to church here
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Coming to church here if i make you miss
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If i make you miss football games.
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Football games. i'm called
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I'm called to let god be god.
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To let god be god. let's talk about that, holly,
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Let's talk about that, holly, let god be god.
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Let god be god. tell ‘em that story the mom
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And the pancakes,
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And the pancakes, great story.
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Great story. >> okay so, there's this mom,
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>> okay so, there's this mom, you may have heard
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You may have heard this story before,
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This story before, she was making pancakes
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She was making pancakes for her two little boys
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For her two little boys and they started to argue about
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And they started to argue about who would get the first pancake.
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Who would get the first pancake. and so, the mom said to herself,
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"i'm gonna take this --
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"i'm gonna take this -- make this a teachable moment."
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Make this a teachable moment." she looked at her boys
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She looked at her boys and she said,
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And she said, "boys, you know,
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"boys, you know, if jesus were here
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If jesus were here he would want his brother
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He would want his brother to have the first pancake."
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To have the first pancake." and the older little boy
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And the older little boy looked at his younger brother
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Looked at his younger brother and said, you be jesus.
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And said, you be jesus. [laughter]
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[laughter] >> nice.
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>> nice. >> that's what we do
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>> that's what we do in marriage, you know,
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In marriage, you know, we don't wanna focus
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We don't wanna focus on our own calling,
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On our own calling, we don't wanna do
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We don't wanna do the things that god
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The things that god has called us to do,
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Has called us to do, we wanna look at our spouse
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We wanna look at our spouse and say, "you be jesus,
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And say, "you be jesus, you say i'm sorry.
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You say i'm sorry. i'm not saying
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I'm not saying i'm sorry first.
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I'm sorry first. i'm gonna wait this out,
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I'm gonna wait this out, you be jesus."
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You be jesus." but then the second part
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But then the second part of it is, you be jesus,
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Of it is, you be jesus, so, i'm not saying,
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So, i'm not saying, don't tell him --
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Don't tell him -- you, you be jesus
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You, you be jesus to your spouse
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To your spouse and then let god be god.
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And then let god be god. and i love how
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And i love how philippians 2:8 says,
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Philippians 2:8 says, about jesus.
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About jesus. “and being found
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“and being found in appearance as a man,
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In appearance as a man, he humbled himself
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He humbled himself by becoming obedient to death,
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By becoming obedient to death, even death on a cross.”
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Even death on a cross.” so, jesus did his part
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So, jesus did his part he was obedient and then god,
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He was obedient and then god, exalted him to the highest place
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Exalted him to the highest place and gave him the name
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And gave him the name that is above every name.
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That is above every name. when i focus on
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When i focus on what god wants me to do,
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What god wants me to do, then i can let god
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Then i can let god work on him.
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Work on him. and i love --
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And i love -- my boys always
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My boys always remind me of this,
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Remind me of this, because inevitably
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Because inevitably this happens probably
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This happens probably once a week --
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Once a week -- >> i'm being like jesus?
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>> i'm being like jesus? >> no.
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>> no. of letting god be god.
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Of letting god be god. inevitably, probably
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Inevitably, probably about once a week, i'll say,
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About once a week, i'll say, "boys, go clean your room."
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"boys, go clean your room." they share a room together.
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They share a room together. and, you know,
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And, you know, they'll go upstairs, "ahh,"
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They'll go upstairs, "ahh," you know, they do
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You know, they do the whole thing.
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The whole thing. they go upstairs
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They go upstairs and a few minutes will pass by,
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And a few minutes will pass by, it'll be quiet
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It'll be quiet and then, inevitably,
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And then, inevitably, you start to hear
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You start to hear this fight brewing.
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This fight brewing. and then you start
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And then you start to hear them
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To hear them yelling at each other
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Yelling at each other and then the yelling
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And then the yelling gets louder
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Gets louder and then in our house graham,
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And then in our house graham, who is the younger one,
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Who is the younger one, he starts to cry
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He starts to cry and it's just this loud,
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And it's just this loud, like i'm hurt cry
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Like i'm hurt cry and the whole drama thing.
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And the whole drama thing. and so, i go upstairs
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And so, i go upstairs and the room is clean,
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And the room is clean, it looks exactly the same
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It looks exactly the same as it looked before.
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As it looked before. graham's on the floor, you know,
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Graham's on the floor, you know, in a puddle of tears and drama
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In a puddle of tears and drama and he's saying he punched me
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And he's saying he punched me and i'll look at elijah, like,
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And i'll look at elijah, like, "what's going on?
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"what's going on? and he'll say, "graham
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And he'll say, "graham wouldn't clean up."
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Wouldn't clean up." >> you look at him like what?
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>> you look at him like what? say it the way
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Say it the way you really say it.
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You really say it. >> "what did you do?"
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>> "what did you do?" [laughter]
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[laughter] >> that's halfway there.
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>> that's halfway there. [laughter]
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[laughter] >> and he'd say, "graham,
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>> and he'd say, "graham, wouldn't clean up.
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Wouldn't clean up. he wouldn't clean up."
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He wouldn't clean up." "well, elijah,
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"well, elijah, your bed is unmade,
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Your bed is unmade, your drawers are
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Your drawers are all still opened,
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All still opened, your towel is on the floor.
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Your towel is on the floor. you've got to let me be the mom,
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You've got to let me be the mom, you're not the mom,
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You're not the mom, i'm the mom.
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I'm the mom. you do what you need to do
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You do what you need to do and let me take care of graham
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And let me take care of graham if he's not gonna
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If he's not gonna clean up his part."
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Clean up his part." and don't you feel like
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And don't you feel like that's what god is
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That's what god is looking down at us saying?
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Looking down at us saying? >> oh my god, preach.
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>> oh my god, preach. preach sister, holly.
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Preach sister, holly. [applause]
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[applause] god looks down on his children
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God looks down on his children fighting and say,
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Fighting and say, "would you let me be
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"would you let me be the father.
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The father. quit trying
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Quit trying to straighten them out,
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To straighten them out, maybe i'd like
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Maybe i'd like to straighten you out.
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Don't make me come downstairs.
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Don't make me come downstairs. i'll straighten
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I'll straighten y'all both out."
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Y'all both out." [applause]
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[applause] let god be god.
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Let god be god. we gotta go
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We gotta go to the next point,
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To the next point, we could talk
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We could talk about that all day,
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About that all day, but let god be god.
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But let god be god. he's way better at his job
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He's way better at his job than you could ever be.
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And some of us are engaging
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And some of us are engaging in things of trying
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In things of trying to fix people and marriages
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To fix people and marriages that are above
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That are above our pay grade, frankly.
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Our pay grade, frankly. and god wants his job back.
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And god wants his job back. and if you be jesus,
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And if you be jesus, let god be god
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Let god be god and he'll take care --
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And he'll take care -- he's way better
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He's way better at fixing that person,
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At fixing that person, than you are.
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Than you are. if you get out of the way,
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If you get out of the way, he might do it.
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He might do it. the very thing that
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The very thing that you're freaking out about.
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You're freaking out about. >> he can whisper in a minute,
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>> he can whisper in a minute, something that would take me
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Something that would take me months to nag you about.
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Months to nag you about. >> say it again,
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>> say it again, and everybody in the church
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And everybody in the church tweet it at once.
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Tweet it at once. he can do --
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He can do -- he can --
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He can -- say it, i don't remember.
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Say it, i don't remember. >> he can whisper in just
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>> he can whisper in just a snap of a finger
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A snap of a finger he can whisper into
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He can whisper into my husband's ears,
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My husband's ears, something that i've been
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Something that i've been nagging to him for months about.
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Nagging to him for months about. if you would just --
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If you would just -- if i would just focus on me
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If i would just focus on me and let god work on him,
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And let god work on him, and trust that god
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And trust that god will work on him.
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Will work on him. >> god can do it.
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>> god can do it. it's true.
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It's true. god wants to whisper
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God wants to whisper what you've been
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What you've been trying to shout,
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Trying to shout, if you'll shut your mouth.
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If you'll shut your mouth. [laughter]
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[laughter] this is getting good.
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This is getting good. this is getting good.
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This is getting good. i'm called to, next one,
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I'm called to, next one, encourage your strengths.
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Encourage your strengths. we're almost home now.
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We're almost home now. i'm called to
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I'm called to encourage your strengths.
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Encourage your strengths. we need to point this out,
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We need to point this out, because as we've been saying
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Because as we've been saying our tendency is to feel
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Our tendency is to feel that i'm called to fix
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That i'm called to fix your weaknesses
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Your weaknesses or expose your weaknesses.
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Or expose your weaknesses. and there's times in marriage
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And there's times in marriage to talk about things.
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To talk about things. you know, holly
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You know, holly helps with my temper,
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Helps with my temper, but not in the middle
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But not in the middle of my temper tantrum.
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Of my temper tantrum. as she said,
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As she said, it's about timing.
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It's about timing. >> yeah.
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>> yeah. >> she helps me.
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>> she helps me. and one of the greatest ways
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And one of the greatest ways that she helps me
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That she helps me is not by going
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Is not by going straight to the c's,
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Straight to the c's, d's and f's on my report card,
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D's and f's on my report card, but talking about the a's.
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But talking about the a's. we call this --
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We call this -- and i got this from a book
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And i got this from a book about changing things
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About changing things when change is hard
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When change is hard and the book is
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And the book is called, “switch”
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Called, “switch” and the talk about bright spots.
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And the talk about bright spots. and they talk about an epidemic,
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And they talk about an epidemic, there was a starvation epidemic.
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There was a starvation epidemic. somebody went in to fix it
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Somebody went in to fix it they couldn't fix it,
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They couldn't fix it, somebody else came in
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Somebody else came in to try to fix it,
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To try to fix it, they couldn't fix it,
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They couldn't fix it, somebody else came in
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Somebody else came in and tried to fixed it
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And tried to fixed it they couldn't fix it.
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They couldn't fix it. one person can in
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One person can in and they tried to fix it
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And they tried to fix it and they began to fix it.
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And they began to fix it. because everybody came in
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Because everybody came in the first several times,
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The first several times, trying to fix what was wrong,
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Trying to fix what was wrong, they would find out
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They would find out the problems,
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The problems, why were these people starving,
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Why were these people starving, trying to fix it,
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Trying to fix it, couldn't fix it systemically.
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Couldn't fix it systemically. but then one person
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But then one person had the foresight
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Had the foresight to find one family
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To find one family that was in the same situation,
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That was in the same situation, with limited resources,
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With limited resources, that was not starving
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That was not starving and find out what
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And find out what they were doing right,
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They were doing right, and then teach that
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And then teach that to the surrounding village.
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To the surrounding village. bright spots.
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Bright spots. if you look for
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If you look for the bright spots --
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The bright spots -- like somebody said to me
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Like somebody said to me the other day,
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The other day, "who tells you
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"who tells you when your sermon isn't good.
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When your sermon isn't good. and i'm like god,
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And i'm like god, the holy spirit,
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The holy spirit, i feel that way --
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I feel that way -- you know i did a survey
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You know i did a survey of preachers --
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Of preachers -- i'm getting way off track
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I'm getting way off track and we gotta close.
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And we gotta close. but i did a survey of preachers,
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But i did a survey of preachers, and i was telling you this,
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And i was telling you this, of some of the top preachers
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Of some of the top preachers that you would know their name
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That you would know their name and i've been asking ‘em,
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And i've been asking ‘em, "how many times do you feel like
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"how many times do you feel like you feel like you preached great
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You feel like you preached great when you walk off the stage?"
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When you walk off the stage?" and the most common answer
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And the most common answer was one out of five, at best.
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Was one out of five, at best. "oh, that's crazy
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"oh, that's crazy these are the best guys
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These are the best guys in their whole field,
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In their whole field, and he said, 'one out
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And he said, 'one out of five at best.'"
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Of five at best.'" so, somebody was asking one day,
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So, somebody was asking one day, "who tells you
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"who tells you when your sermon isn't great?"
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When your sermon isn't great?" usually, i don't think
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It is anyway
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It is anyway so, nobody has to tell me,
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So, nobody has to tell me, i'm beating up on myself
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I'm beating up on myself way more than
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Way more than anybody else could.
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Anybody else could. and they said, "well,
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And they said, "well, i bet your wife does,
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I bet your wife does, i bet you she tells you."
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I bet you she tells you." and i said, "no,
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And i said, "no, she's my ceo."
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She's my ceo." that's just for
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Chief encouragement officer.
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Chief encouragement officer. and you can do what
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And you can do what you wanna do,
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You wanna do, you don't have
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You don't have to listen to us,
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To listen to us, but there's something about
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But there's something about when i walk off that stage
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When i walk off that stage with her and she tells me,
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With her and she tells me, "you know, that was a word."
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"you know, that was a word." >> yeah.
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>> yeah. >> "that was powerful."
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>> "that was powerful." and, you know,
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And, you know, she doesn't just say it.
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She doesn't just say it. i think that would be
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I think that would be one thing,
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One thing, but she shows it,
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But she shows it, shows encouragement.
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Shows encouragement. >> yeah.
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>> yeah. >> like, encourage means
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>> like, encourage means put courage in
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Put courage in and she puts courage in me
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And she puts courage in me by her presence.
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By her presence. did you know that every weekend
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Did you know that every weekend she sits through
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She sits through and three of my sermons?
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And three of my sermons? it's the same sermon every time.
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It's the same sermon every time. of course, i change it a lot.
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Of course, i change it a lot. >> it's good every time.
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>> it's good every time. >> but she -- and you like,
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>> but she -- and you like, "oh, she says it.
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"oh, she says it. oh, yeah, right."
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Oh, yeah, right." she talks to me that way
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She talks to me that way all the time.
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All the time. and you know what's weird?
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And you know what's weird? you can trick a man into
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You can trick a man into believing he's brilliant.
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Believing he's brilliant. [laughter]
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[laughter] "he doesn't have
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"he doesn't have any strength."
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Any strength." make something up
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Make something up and he'll get good at it,
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And he'll get good at it, with enough repeat --
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With enough repeat -- you can, i mean, i'm just --
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You can, i mean, i'm just -- it's like inception,
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It's like inception, women you have power
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Women you have power to just plant stuff.
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To just plant stuff. we'll think we're
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We'll think we're good at stuff.
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Good at stuff. "you're such a great dad."
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"you're such a great dad." "why?"
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"why?" "you came home."
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"you came home." [laughter]
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[laughter] >> it's so true.
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>> it's so true. >> yeah, encourage.
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>> yeah, encourage. and so, what gives me
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And so, what gives me a lot of boldness
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A lot of boldness a lot of times is,
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A lot of times is, you know, we run around in life
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You know, we run around in life looking for likes from
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Looking for likes from a bunch of people.
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A bunch of people. >> yeah.
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>> yeah. >> social media analogy.
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>> social media analogy. but if you get the right like
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But if you get the right like from the person
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From the person that you love the most,
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That you love the most, you don't need
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You don't need all the other stuff.
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All the other stuff. [applause]
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[applause] and you have the power
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And you have the power and i have power to tell her,
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And i have power to tell her, "i love the way you look.
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"i love the way you look. i love the way you look.
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I love the way you look. >> yeah.
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>> yeah. >> i love the way --
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>> i love the way -- no, i love the way you cook."
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No, i love the way you cook." i love she does more than
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I love she does more than just cook and look good,
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Just cook and look good, i have the power --
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I have the power -- you're doing a great job
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You're doing a great job of creating the culture
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Of creating the culture at our church for staff spouses,
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At our church for staff spouses, which is what she focuses on.
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Which is what she focuses on. and i am called
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And i am called to encourage your strength.
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To encourage your strength. what if you change
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What if you change your job description
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Your job description as a spouse today
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As a spouse today and wrote at the head --
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And wrote at the head -- the top of the thing,
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The top of the thing, the job description
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The job description that you're gonna make,
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That you're gonna make, and said ceo;
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And said ceo; chief encouragement officer.
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Chief encouragement officer. >> yeah.
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>> yeah. >> you think god will bless
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>> you think god will bless your marriage more?
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Your marriage more? you think some stuff
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You think some stuff will come alive?
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Will come alive? what if that was
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What if that was the main thing.
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The main thing. what if you started
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What if you started with what you could --
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With what you could -- >> it means so much
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>> it means so much when it comes from your spouse
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When it comes from your spouse because i know everything
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Because i know everything there is to know about you,
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There is to know about you, but yet, "i'm telling you
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But yet, "i'm telling you that was a great message."
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That was a great message." or, "you're doing a great job."
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Or, "you're doing a great job." or, i want him to go to work
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Or, i want him to go to work and feel like i believe in him.
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And feel like i believe in him. i want my husband to know
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I want my husband to know that i believe him,
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That i believe him, but i have to tell him.
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But i have to tell him. and i also have to show him
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And i also have to show him with my actions
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With my actions and with my attitude.
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And with my attitude. and i can encourage him
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And i can encourage him like no one else can.
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Like no one else can. >> you can do it verbally.
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>> you can do it verbally. >> yeah.
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>> yeah. and i can do it none verbally
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And i can do it none verbally by my attitude
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By my attitude and my physically,
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And my physically, like, supporting him.
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Like, supporting him. >> yes.
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>> yes. yes you can.
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Yes you can. [laughter]
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[laughter] >> you can, you know, written.
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>> you can, you know, written. not just notes,
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Not just notes, but text messages.
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But text messages. >> put a little more time
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>> put a little more time on my clock,
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On my clock, let's talk about that part.
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Let's talk about that part. >> talk about
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>> talk about physical encouragement?
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Physical encouragement? >> yes.
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>> yes. yes, let's talk about it.
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Yes, let's talk about it. it's amazing.
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It's amazing. [laughter]
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[laughter] it really is so important.
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It really is so important. encourage your strengths.
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Encourage your strengths. you know, i try to preach
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You know, i try to preach in that way.
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In that way. we're aware of our weaknesses
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We're aware of our weaknesses and we gotta cover each other,
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And we gotta cover each other, but i'm encourage --
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But i'm encourage -- i'm not jumping on
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I'm not jumping on the one thing you did wrong.
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The one thing you did wrong. i wanna be like god,
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I wanna be like god, who takes us
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Who takes us from strength to strength,
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From strength to strength, from glory to glory.
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From glory to glory. you are not my project,
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You are not my project, you are my partner.
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You are my partner. >> yes.
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>> yes. >> we're in this together.
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>> we're in this together. >> we're a team.
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>> we're a team. >> and i wanna build you up.
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>> and i wanna build you up. not puff you up.
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Not puff you up. that's when i use flattery
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That's when i use flattery to get my way.
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To get my way. that's when i use
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That's when i use encouragement as a tool
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Encouragement as a tool to manipulate a situation,
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To manipulate a situation, not that.
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Not that. but build you up
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But build you up with the truth
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With the truth of who god says you are.
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Of who god says you are. i'm called
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I'm called to encourage your strengths.
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To encourage your strengths. and finally, most important,
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And finally, most important, i'm called to do it anyway.
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I'm called to do it anyway. >> yeah.
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>> yeah. >> because, everything
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>> because, everything i just said
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I just said will not work if you only
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Will not work if you only do when you feel like it.
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Do when you feel like it. >> right.
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>> right. >> if they only do it,
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>> if they only do it, when they deserve it.
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When they deserve it. listen to me at every location,
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Listen to me at every location, the success of this relationship
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The success of this relationship is built on my decision
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Is built on my decision to do it anyway.
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To do it anyway. everybody say that loud,
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Everybody say that loud, “do it anyway.”
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“do it anyway.” >> do it anyway.
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>> do it anyway. >> sometimes i don't
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>> sometimes i don't feel like saying,
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Feel like saying, i'm sorry,
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I'm sorry, when i feel like
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When i feel like i only contributed 25%
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I only contributed 25% of the problem
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Of the problem and you were 75%,
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And you were 75%, but i'm gonna do it anyway.
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But i'm gonna do it anyway. sometimes, i don't feel like
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Sometimes, i don't feel like pointing out the thing
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Pointing out the thing that was right,
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That was right, ‘cause i have a file
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‘cause i have a file of 15 things
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Of 15 things that i've been wanting
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That i've been wanting to get around to.
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To get around to. but i see that you're struggling
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But i see that you're struggling so, i gonna speak to something
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So, i gonna speak to something that you did well.
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That you did well. i'm gonna...
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I'm gonna... >> do it anyway.
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>> do it anyway. >> touch somebody say,
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>> touch somebody say, “do it anyway.”
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“do it anyway.” >> do it anyway.
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>> do it anyway. >> if you're gonna fulfill
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>> if you're gonna fulfill your assignment,
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Your assignment, if you're gonna do this,
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If you're gonna do this, if this is a special assignment,
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If this is a special assignment, if you're gonna have
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If you're gonna have super powers in marriage.
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Super powers in marriage. and i believe that this union
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And i believe that this union is meant to be something
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Is meant to be something that we can do more together
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That we can do more together than we can apart,
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Than we can apart, god put us together
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God put us together for a reason.
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For a reason. i'm better because
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I'm better because you're in my life,
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You're in my life, but if we're gonna fulfill
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But if we're gonna fulfill god's purpose together,
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God's purpose together, it's not just going to be
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It's not just going to be through the times
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Through the times that we feel it.
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That we feel it. we gotta fake it sometimes,
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We gotta fake it sometimes, until we feel it,
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Until we feel it, and have faith in god.
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And have faith in god. do it anyway.
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Do it anyway. do it anyway.
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Do it anyway. let's review,
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Let's review, i am called.
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I am called. i'm called.
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I'm called. everybody say,
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Everybody say, “i am called...
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“i am called... >> i am called.
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>> i am called. >> to carry your burdens.
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>> to carry your burdens. >> congregation: to carry
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>> congregation: to carry your burdens.
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Your burdens. >> to assume the best.
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>> to assume the best. >> congregation: to assume
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>> congregation: to assume the best.
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The best. >> to live with contentment.
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>> to live with contentment. >> congregation: to live
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>> congregation: to live with contentment.
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With contentment. >> to let god be god.
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>> to let god be god. >> congregation: to let
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>> congregation: to let god be god.
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God be god. >> to encourage your strengths.
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>> to encourage your strengths. >> congregation: to encourage
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>> congregation: to encourage your strengths.
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Your strengths. >> and to do it anyway.
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>> and to do it anyway. >> congregation: to do
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>> congregation: to do it anyway.
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It anyway. >> what does it spell?
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>> what does it spell? >> congregation: called.
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>> congregation: called. [applause]
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>> i'm so excited to share
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>> i'm so excited to share something special with you
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Something special with you that i believe will have
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That i believe will have a big impact on your life.
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A big impact on your life. it's called
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It's called “relationship essentials,”
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“relationship essentials,” and this set combines
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And this set combines two of my absolute favorite
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Series from my husband.
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Series from my husband. we all know that relationships
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We all know that relationships can be complicated.
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Can be complicated. navigating love and friendships,
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Navigating love and friendships, and family can sometimes leave
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And family can sometimes leave us feeling lost and confused.
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Us feeling lost and confused. and you could be surrounded
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And you could be surrounded by friends and family yet feel
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By friends and family yet feel completely alone.
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Completely alone. that's why this set
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That's why this set is so important.
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Is so important. it offers real insights
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It offers real insights and practical tools to help you
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And practical tools to help you strengthen your connections
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Strengthen your connections and heal from past hurts.
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And heal from past hurts. each sermon provides guidance on
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Each sermon provides guidance on building healthier relationships
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Building healthier relationships that are grounded
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That are grounded in biblical principles.
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In biblical principles. the bible shows us that
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The bible shows us that god intended for you
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God intended for you to have people in your life,
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To have people in your life, people who support you
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People who support you and challenge you, and help you
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And challenge you, and help you to grow in your faith.
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To grow in your faith. you were not meant
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You were not meant to live life alone.
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To live life alone. i truly believe that
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I truly believe that “relationship essentials”
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“relationship essentials” will be a game changer for you
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Will be a game changer for you and your relationships.
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And your relationships. to receive this set,
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To receive this set, all you have to do
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All you have to do is call or go online.
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Is call or go online. it's available for your gift
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It's available for your gift of any amount.
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Of any amount. together we can get
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Together we can get our relationships
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Our relationships back on track and make sure
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Back on track and make sure that they stay strong.
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That they stay strong. so, don't wait, call
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So, don't wait, call or go online right now
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Or go online right now and i'll see you
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And i'll see you back here next time.
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>> relationship essentials
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Features two of
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Pastor steven furtick's
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Most requested series,
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“meant to be,”
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And “the other half”.
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"meant to be" is a powerful
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Five-part series
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Uncovering the bible's
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Best kept secrets about sex,
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Marriage and being single.
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And “the other half”
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Is a four-part series
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That provides practical steps
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To shift your focus
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In relationships
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And prioritize what
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Matters most.
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Together, these two series
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Provide the tools you need
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For healthier relationship
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God's way.
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"relationship essentials"
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Is available for your
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Gift of any amount.
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Call or visit us online now
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To request your copy.
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>> if you love watching sermons
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>> ♪ better than you ♪
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>> ♪ oh there's nothing yeah ♪
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>> ♪ nothing is better ♪
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♪ than you ♪
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>> ♪ i've searched ♪
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♪ and not found ♪
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♪ oh there's nothing ♪
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♪ better than you ♪
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♪ there's nothing ♪
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♪ better than you ♪
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♪ lord there's nothing ♪
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♪ nothing is better than you ♪
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♪ oh come on ♪
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♪ if he turned your grave ♪
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♪ into a garden say ♪
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♪ you turn graves into gardens ♪
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♪ you turn bones into armies ♪
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♪ you turn seas into highways ♪
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♪ you're the only one who can ♪
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♪ turning graves ♪
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♪ you turn graves into gardens ♪
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♪ he's turning bones ♪
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♪ into an army ♪
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♪ you turn bones into armies ♪
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♪ he's makin' waves ♪
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♪ through the seas ♪
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♪ you turn seas into highways ♪
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♪ you're the only one who can ♪
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♪ he's the only one ♪
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♪ you're the only one who can ♪
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♪ ♪
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>> somebody give him praise
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In this house.
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♪ ♪
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♪ i don't think ♪
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♪ we're finished yet come on ♪
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♪ i think he's turning ♪
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♪ some things over tonight ♪
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♪ ♪
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♪ you turn my mourning ♪
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♪ into dancing ♪
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♪ come on ♪
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♪ you turn mourning ♪
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♪ to dancing ♪
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♪ yeah ♪
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♪ you give beauty for ashes ♪
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♪ shame into glory ♪
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♪ you turn shame into glory ♪
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♪ you're the only one who can ♪
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♪ oh he's turnin' my grave ♪
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♪ you turn graves into gardens ♪
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♪ you turn bones into armies ♪
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♪ he's makin' waves ♪
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♪ through the seas ♪
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♪ you turn seas into highways ♪
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♪ you're the only ♪
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♪ you're the only one who can ♪
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♪ come on one more time ♪
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♪ you turn my grave ♪
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♪ into a garden ♪
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♪ you turn graves into gardens ♪
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♪ you're resurrectin' bones ♪
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♪ you turn bones into armies ♪
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♪ you're makin' waves ♪
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♪ through my sea ♪
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♪ you turn seas into highways ♪
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♪ shout it out you're the only ♪
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♪ you're the only one who can ♪
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♪ you're the only ♪
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♪ you're the only one who can ♪
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Steven & Holly Furtick - Do Not Reverse Your Circumcision (Part 2)

February 13, 2026 | 27:29

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