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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - The Foundation | April 8, 2026
- I never rode to school in my life.
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- I walked in from the first grade
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- All the way through high school.
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- We walked there up and coming when i would come home,
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- I'd hear my mother
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- Singing thousands of times the same chorus.
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- In the morning i see his face.
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- In the evening, his form i traced in the darkness
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- His voice i know i see jesus everywhere i go. are.
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- Life moves and seasons.
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- Their mountaintop moments of joy.
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- And their valleys.
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- Where faith is tested.
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- But just as winter gives way to spring,
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- No season lasts forever.
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- The bible tells us there is a time
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- For every purpose under heaven.
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- So whatever season you're walking through right now,
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- Trust this god is in the middle of it.
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- God is present in it, and he is shaping
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- You and me in this season and will carry us beyond it.
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- Thank you for joining
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- Me today on the winning walk.
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- What is a world view?
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- Somebody will say, well, i don't know.
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- Let me tell you exactly what it is.
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- It is a philosophy of life.
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- It is how you and i look on life.
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- All of life.
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- Animal life.
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- Homo sapiens.
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- Human life
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- And how we relate
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- To the universe
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- And to the earth.
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- Basic definition of worldview.
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- A christian worldview begins
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- In genesis one two, three,
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- And there are four.
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- Cornerstones
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- Got me of a worldview.
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- Four cornerstones
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- Of how those who are in christ
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- See and view the world in which we now live.
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- In the 21st century.
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- For cornerstones.
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- This is the foundation,
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- Our worldview, these cornerstones
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- Upon which we have to stand
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- Before we can proceed to any other assumptions.
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- Our decisions in life.
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- If the
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- Foundation are being destroyed.
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- What shall the righteous do?
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- We've looked at that verse before,
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- And i think all of us can agree, as we look
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- At these foundations, that they're being destroyed.
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- That is a central attack
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- Of slue foot, the evil one destroy the foundations,
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- And we see around us all of those foundations
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- Upon which western civilization, and of which
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- All of us really have basically stood for most of our lives.
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- They're being systematically destroyed.
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- Here's the foundation.
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- That's our christian worldview.
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- There are one, two,
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- Three, four cornerstones.
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- And the foundation.
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- The first cornerstone.
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- Jesus tells us
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- He was asked in matthew 22
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- By lawyer.
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- Difficult, isn't it?
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- By lawyer.
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- What is the great commandment according to
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- The law?
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- And jesus answered,
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- You shall
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- Love the lord thy god with all of your heart,
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- With all your soul, with all your mind.
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- That is the first cornerstone.
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- And then we look in the new testament
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- And we discover that
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- If we love god with all of our heart, our soul
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- And our mind, with our emotions,
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- With our conscience, with the total essence
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- Of who we are and with all of our strength
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- That enables us to understand how god loved us
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- And bringing his son jesus christ into the world,
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- Who gives us abundant life now
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- And a full life forever.
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- So the first cornerstone
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- Is to love god
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- And to love jesus christ and this enables us
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- To do the next thing, the next cornerstone.
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- Remember what jesus said
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- Love the lord
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- Thy god with everything you got.
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- That's the first commandment, the first cornerstone.
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- The second cornerstone is to love your neighbor.
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- Love other people.
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- We're not able to love only as we have been loved.
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- Some people have a tough time loving
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- Because they haven't understood
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- The total love of god, and they haven't been loved by others.
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- So we do not
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- Have the total capacity to love first cornerstone.
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- Love god. love jesus christ.
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- Second cornerstone.
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- We're unable to do that,
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- To love our neighbors and to love people
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- Because we have been given
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- Love to christ and to the love of god.
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- Second cornerstone.
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- Third cornerstone is
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- Marriage.
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- You love your wife.
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- You love your husband.
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- And we've talked about this in many places,
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- But particularly in ephesians chapter five.
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- Third cornerstone love god, love jesus christ.
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- Love your neighbor.
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- Love other people.
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- And finally, husbands, love your wife and wives.
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- Love your husbands.
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- Fourth cornerstone
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- Love your children.
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- Love your kids.
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- So where do we start?
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- I think we start with a most familiar verse
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- We have about family and kids and all the bible.
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- Most of us are familiar with found in proverbs.
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- We all know it, but i'm going to read it
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- In order to be accurate.
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- How do we love our kids?
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- We train up a child, a kid,
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- And the way he should go,
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- And when he is old,
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- He will not depart from it.
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- That's how we love our kids.
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- We train, not down.
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- We train up
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- Our children.
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- I want to put this into a grid.
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- And by the way, it begins the first season of training.
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- Please.
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- Ashley says there's a season forever.
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- And with our children, there are seasons.
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- There is 0 to 3
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- In that season.
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- I call it the season of being a servant.
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- It's the servant season because that's
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- When the parents especially, particularly mother.
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- 90% of it looks like to that little one
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- In every way, health, food,
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- Care, sleep, nurture.
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- That's when the child follow me closely
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- Is the center of everything.
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- And the mother and the dad surrogate.
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- The mother is a total servant
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- Of the child for the child to survive.
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- Now other animals,
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- When they're born, by the way, they can survive,
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- They can make it. humans cannot.
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- Maybe we have a longer period of time
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- In order to be safe
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- And secure than other animals.
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- And we are not an animal in the general sense,
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- But in the particular sense made in the image of god.
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- God planned, evidently, for it to take more time.
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- It takes more
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- Time for mom to be in this servant role.
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- Where guess what?
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- The child
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- Is the center of everything and the life of that mom.
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- Health, safety, food,
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- Temperament, everything.
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- Now, the mother here misunderstands what i'm saying.
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- It's a time of being a servant.
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- And then the second year you begin to move
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- Into the wonderful experience of toilet training.
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- You see, you begin to require something of the child.
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- Then the child begins to,
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- You know, to to eat, maybe get something on the
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- Maybe they begin the second year,
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- But try to put on their clothes and we develop that.
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- And all of this is involved as those first two years.
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- Now season number two
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- Goes from 3 to 13,
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- Ten years.
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- And now things totally change.
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- Parents.
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- No longer are you
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- The servant and the child is the sinner.
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- But now mom and dad are the center.
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- Stay with me.
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- Some people do not make this transition.
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- And the child becomes an idol.
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- Mom and dad are the center.
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- And the child begins to feel this.
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- All of a sudden, they're required to
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- Eat at a certain time. i don't want to eat now.
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- This is where we eat.
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- They get up at a certain time.
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- I don't want to get up. there's.
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- When we get up,
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- We go to bed a certain that this is the second stage.
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- The first stage. your servant.
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- The second stage.
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- You are a leader
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- And you teach that child
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- Obedience and submission.
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- You are in control.
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- Now the modern world says,
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- You know, you got to tell your chair.
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- No, no, no, no.
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- You didn't explain anything. why?
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- Just because i told you that.
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- Set period from 3 to 13.
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- If you try to go into something else, you're not ready.
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- It's just because i told you so.
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- Stop.
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- Turn around. don't do that.
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- When god gave the ten commandments
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- That he asked the israelites,
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- Well, let's talk about the word about the one on adultery,
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- Y'all, for that one hour stealing?
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- No, god said this is it.
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- So, parents
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- 3 to 13.
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- What do you say?
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- What do you command?
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- That is when you are authoritative.
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- Well, you will be me.
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- No, that's a sign of love.
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- We'll talk about discipline later on.
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- It's a sign of love.
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- You love that which you discipline.
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- That what you require.
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- And we'll see that developing in our study.
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- So this is a time of leadership,
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- A time which mom and dad
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- Takes the role of god in their life.
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- 313 unquestioning obedience.
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- Well, you're being hard.
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- I want my children to love.
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- Listen, your child doesn't need a buddy
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- Buddy mother or a buddy buddy daddy.
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- They need a dad and a mom who teaches them obedience.
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- They're 3 to 13.
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- This is god's plan.
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- Will develop my own discipline.
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- We'll talk about this later, but indicates you really love.
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- So this is a time in which you spell it out.
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- You explain it and say,
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- This is how we do things in our house, in our family.
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- And you do it because you love them.
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- Everybody wants a happy home.
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- But let's be honest.
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- A happy home doesn't just happen.
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- It's built.
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- It's shaped.
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- Day by day by day.
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- That's why i want to encourage you to read
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- This little booklet, cardinal rules for a happy home.
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- This 90 day devotional is from
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- Decades of real life pastoring,
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- Counseling, and building my own home and family.
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- In the page of this book each day
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- You will find a simple rhythm
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- As of scripture,
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- Practical, down to earth navigation,
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- And a guided prayer to help you bring it all home.
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- We're not talking about something complicated here.
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- We're talking about just 15 minutes a day.
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- 15 minutes.
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- Did you can strengthen your marriage and refocus
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- Your home on what matters the most in christ
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- Centered, foundation, practical, down to earth.
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- Your life.
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- Because when christ is at the center, guess what?
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- Everything else changes.
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- Conversations change.
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- Priorities change.
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- Hearts begin to change.
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- Take that first step today.
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- Call the number or visit the website below
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- And get cardinal rules for a happy home
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- And begin your 90 day journey right now.
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- Stage three
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- This is from 13 to 18.
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- And this is when you give reasons, folks.
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- This is when you explain what you're doing.
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- Now you reason with them.
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- 3 to 13.
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- Don't do any explanation. you don't need to explain.
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- You don't ask me for the actual.
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- They won't do any good.
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- They're beyond that point of reasoning.
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- They just.
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- This is it. and this is that.
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- You see, if we do these things in these stages.
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- Stage one.
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- Stage two.
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- We're ready for stage three.
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- They're growing up.
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- They they make the savior their own.
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- Primarily. you're still there.
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- But the cherokees had a wonderful way
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- When when a young brave would come a certain age,
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- They would take that brave out in the middle of the forest.
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- They would say they would blindfold him,
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- And he would have to sit there on a stump
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- For no reason, taking the blindfold off.
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- Rain, snow, sleet, cold wind.
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- Never take the blindfold off
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- As the sun went down until the sun came up the next morning.
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- And you can imagine a 13 year old young man out there
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- In the forest, surrounded by bears and lions.
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- And you know what?
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- In that day in snakes, the fear that had come
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- With that blindfold all night long and the.
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- And the child was instructed never to tell anybody
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- What happens as you go through this transition into manhood.
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- And they sit there all night long with all the animals,
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- All the possibilities
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- Coming down
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- When the sun comes up, then they can
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- Take off their blindfold.
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- And when the young cherokee takes off the blindfold,
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- He looks, though he did not know it.
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- There was his father sitting on a stump about ten feet away.
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- See? that's it.
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- Parents did.
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- Did you get the picture?
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- And so this is when you begin to give them independence.
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- You begin them a way to make their own decisions.
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- You build the right stuff in their life.
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- You've gone through season one,
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- And now you've gone through season two,
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- When you
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- Were the commander in chief, the role of god in their life,
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- And they obeyed without question, without pouting.
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- You didn't negotiate.
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- I'll give you this if you'll do that.
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- Parents don't do that. that's stupid.
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- You're losing the battle of being a godly parent.
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- So let's not cover all of it.
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- This is a general introduction to our whole study
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- Of parenting.
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- But let's see.
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- The third thing i want to look at is
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- What is the goal of parenting?
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- What is the goal,
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- By the way?
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- It's helping them find out god's purpose for their life.
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- And this is the goal that parents have that
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- Lead him into that.
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- Let me say something just to the side.
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- You know what?
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- Being unsuccessful, somebody is unsuccessful
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- Is somebody who was a success
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- And it didn't have any meaning.
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- Do you get that
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- Unsuccessful person is
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- Somebody who was a success, but their success
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- Has no lasting meaning of significance,
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- That somebody who has unsuccessful success
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- Without meaning.
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- Parents, we have an obligation to say to our children,
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- God has a purpose for your life,
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- Has a plan for your life and agenda for your life,
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- And you will find it when you and we point them
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- Toward the goal.
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- What is the bullseye
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- That parents have?
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- Let me say, by the way, i'm not including everything.
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- Let me say, by the way, sometime parents can do
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- Everything that's possible to do it, all right?
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- And still a child will go astray.
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- Some will come back, some will not.
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- And we use this verse, by the way, in appropriately
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- Training of a child, the way he used to go.
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- And when he is old, he'll not depart from me.
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- Well, my child,
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- I tried to train him, but now he's out there.
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- He is drinking and he's had 16 marriages,
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- But he's going to come back home.
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- Listen, that verse is not a promise.
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- It's a principle.
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- Get the difference?
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- Train of a child the way you go.
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- And when they're old, they're not debarred from it.
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- That's not a promise. that is a principle.
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- Was god a good father?
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- Adam and eve,
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- What happened to them?
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- Because they had the freedom of choice.
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- They made a decision that affected them
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- And affect all of humanity.
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- So we have to realize
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- There's a way to parent,
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- If not the way of cain.
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- Read the old testament, look what happened.
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- All this is ended,
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- Killed his brother.
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- Look at the other child, says, look at all
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- This, this and this.
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- They followed in god's way.
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- Cain followed in his way.
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- Look at what happened and the results.
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- Then take somebody, phi beta kappa to figure that out.
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- So what is god's method of parenting?
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- I'll be quick.
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- Number one, the goal is
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- To let them imitate
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- Jesus, to be like jesus.
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- Well, that is so high up there.
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- It is.
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- Romans 828.
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- All things work together for good to those
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- Who love the lord.
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- Those who are the called according to his prayer.
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- Doesn't that sound great? i love that verse.
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- Whatever is happening,
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- All things are going to
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- Work out for god's glory and for god's good.
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- I love that verse that romans 828,
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- But romans 829 said,
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- Your children are to conform.
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- To the lord jesus christ.
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- Oh, for all things work together for good,
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- And then your children are to conform.
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- In other words, they are to follow jesus christ
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- And we are to build in their lives
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- Godly principles, morals and manners,
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- A love and a respect and a reverence for god.
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- Deuteronomy six. tashima.
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- That's what a jewish father did every day with
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- Their children, every night with their children.
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- What does it say?
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- He said, hear ye, o israel.
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- There is one lord, one god.
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- And you are to build these
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- Godly principles in their life when they go to bed.
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- Remember, when they get up in the morning,
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- When they eat their meals, when they go out the door?
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- Well, that sounds awful hard.
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- And super powers.
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- No, it's just the atmosphere of a christian home.
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- I came up on the christian home because of my mom.
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- My mother saw to it
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- That we prayed when we ate, sat down at eat a meal.
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- We had a blessing, three meals.
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- We prayed every night we went to bed.
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- Didn't matter when i came in.
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- My mom be there with the bible.
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- You missed with the bible.
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- And she would read it and i would read it.
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- And we would pray for missionaries and for people.
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- I did that every night of my life.
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- When i was old,
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- When i was born, all the way until the last night
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- I spent with my mom before she went to heaven.
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- We did that in our home and i would come in every day.
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- I never rode to school in my life.
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- I walked in from the first grade
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- All the way through high school.
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- We walked there up and coming when i would come home,
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- I'd hear my mother
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- Singing thousands of times the same chorus.
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- In the morning i see his face.
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- In the evening, his form i traced in the darkness
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- His voice i know i see jesus everywhere i go.
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- He didn't just pour it into us.
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- It was the atmosphere of our home,
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- The atmosphere.
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- It wasn't a super pies kind of thing.
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- It was the atmosphere.
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- Therefore, we're teaching our children
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- To follow jesus, to let him be their example.
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- That's the first goal.
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- At the second goal is
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- Is for the parent, particularly the father,
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- To be a serious follower of jesus.
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- Some of you, dad would say, boy,
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- I'd do anything for my children that i could.
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- The best thing you can do is to be a genuine man of god.
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- That's the best thing you could do for your job.
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- Nothing else.
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- All these kinds of parenting.
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- Helicopter. precisely. parenting.
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- You want to keep your child from having
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- Any pain or challenges or any shortcomings or fail.
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- No, no no no.
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- That's a part of 3 to 13 growing up.
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- So they'll
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- Be able to be a man or woman when they get in their teens,
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- And they'll make right choices themselves.
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- That's our goal.
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- Nothing.
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- We need more.
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- Than for a mom and dad.
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- To say
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- What paul said in first corinthians, he said,
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- Oh, you children, you're my children.
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- He said, i want you to imitate me.
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- Can you say that day?
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- Can you say that?
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- Children do what we require them to do
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- Until they're about 14.
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- Then they begin to do and live like we live.
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- I'll do anything for my kids.
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- Be a godly man.
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- Be a godly woman. love your wife.
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- Love your husband.
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- The highest priority.
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- So much to say.
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- We've only just begun.
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- We've laid down the principles you got gotta
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- Foundation is being destroyed.
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- We see the role of parents, strategic role of parents
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- As to how to parent, how to bring up a child
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- God's way.
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- First two years.
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- Remember your servant to the child.
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- Next ten years, 13 to 13.
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- You are a leader.
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- You become the authority figure of your child
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- Without a lot of explanation.
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- You don't do that.
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- Then 13 up you see your child begin to grow and develop
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- And make choices on their own, by and large.
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- But you're still sitting there on the stump
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- When they go through it all.
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- You get that.
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- Train up a child in the way.
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- Not many ways god's way they should go.
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- And when they're old,
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- When they're older, when they mature, the g.p.s.
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- System will be built in their heart in their life,
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- And they'll make the right choices.
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- Everybody wants a happy home.
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- But let's be honest.
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- A happy home doesn't just happen.
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- It's built.
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- It's shaped.
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- Day by day by day.
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- That's why i want to encourage you to read
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- This little booklet, cardinal rules for a happy home.
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- This 90 day devotional is from
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- Decades of real life pastoring,
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- Counseling, and building my own home and family.
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- In the page of this book each day
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- You will find a simple rhythm
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- As of scripture,
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- Practical, down to earth navigation,
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- And a guided prayer to help you bring it all home.
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- We're not talking about something complicated here.
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- We're talking about just 15 minutes a day.
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- 15 minutes.
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- Did you can strengthen your marriage and refocus
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- Your home on what matters the most in christ
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- Centered, foundation, practical, down to earth.
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- Your life.
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- Because when christ is at the center, guess what?
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- Everything else changes.
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- Conversations change.
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- Priorities change.
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- Hearts begin to change.
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- Take that first step today.
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- Call the number or visit the website below
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- And get cardinal rules for a happy home
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- And begin your 90 day journey right now.
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- Before we go, remember this
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- A happy, successful flowering home
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- Begins with a heart that's focused on god.
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- As you spend time in his word and apply his truth.
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- Even the smallest changes can lead to something beautiful.
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- Over a period of time.
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- So stay faithful.
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- Be encouraged.
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- And i look forward to seeing you next time
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- On the winning walk with jesus christ.
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