Better Together

The Family that Prays Together | Better Together Episode 1139

January 29, 2026 | S8 E1139 | 51:1

Prayer builds UNITY! When a family prays together, the atmosphere shifts, and mountains move! God always hears the cries of our hearts and responds with love and grace.| TBN Prayer Line: 714-731-1000

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Better Together | The Family that Prays Together | Better Together Episode 1139 | January 29, 2026

- throughout scripture god reminds us that unity
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Is powerful.
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And when families worship and pray together,
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We come into agreement with heaven and we watch
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Mountains move.
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Come on let's talk about it.
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(music playing)
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- i say families that pray together stay together.
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I come from a long line on both sides.
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My husband's side and mine of prayers.
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And as i was thinking about different times in our
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Family's life of prayer.
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I have some prayers that went answered in the way
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That we had hoped.
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And prayers that were answered in a different way,
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Yet prayer was always the vehicle that we used to get
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Into the presence of god.
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And so, i was thinking about my mother-in-law,
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My husband's mom had breast cancer.
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And i remember the moment that she had gotten the diagnosis
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We all literally dropped everything.
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Came to the house, grandkids and all.
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And we're just on our face before the lord.
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That was our first inclination,
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Our first instinct was to just pray.
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And miraculously, i mean they, she did have a double
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Mastectomy, but miraculously like every bit of cancer gone,
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Never even had to go through chemo.
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It was a miraculous healing.
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She's perfectly healthy today.
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On my side of the family, my father,
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Who passed away in 2019 from lung cancer.
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And really had 20 years of health issues.
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He had malignant melanoma, he had thyroid cancer,
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And he had als, lou gehrig's disease for nine years.
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Very cruel disease, but my dad-- and i've spoken about
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Him many times because he's the most faithful man
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I've ever known.
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And prayer was this was literally his, his lifeline.
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And it wasn't just for him but he saw it as his
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Responsibility to instill that in his kids
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And in his grandkids.
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That this is how you commune with god but not just
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Personally we're going to make this a family affair.
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And i remember after he passed away,
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We found this box he had bought off amazon.
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A box of those communion, the ones that have the wafer
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And the juice.
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I mean they come with like probably 200.
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And so, we were never going to get through them all.
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But that box was still sitting there,
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And it was a representation when i saw that box full of
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These communion things.
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This is what my dad did.
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He would sit us down.
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And we would take communion together and we would pray.
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And unfortunately for us, not for him, he's, with jesus.
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And we'll see him again soon and he's alive so.
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But for us we miss him on earth and we,
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We're sad that we had to say goodbye.
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And somebody listening could say we'll see what was
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On the prayer for?
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You didn't get your answered prayer.
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Except to remind you that i said he had cancer
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20 years ago.
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And so, his life for 20 years, he had 3 different kinds
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Of cancer.
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Lou gehrig's disease, which kills you, you truly,
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You have 3 to 5 years to live.
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He lived with it 9 years.
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There were so many miracles.
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I cannot even tell you in that 20 years that we saw
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As a family.
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And the lord did call him home,
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But not before what was instilled in us was such deep
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Faith and it was all because my dad,
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We believed so much in prayer.
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We saw it with my, my mother-in-law,
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Like prayer has just been and think about it,
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We don't have to make it really complicated.
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Prayer is inviting the presence of god into your
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Family to commune with him.
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To communicate with him.
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To allow him to speak to us as a family.
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I can't imagine anything more precious ever really than
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Being able to sit around as a family and saying this is,
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This is an opportunity we have to talk to jesus together.
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- you know, i think there's just such power in in unified
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Prayer and you think about the, the family of god.
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I mean, when there's a lot of people at church and stuff
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And everyone starts praying for something.
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You can like tangibly feel the power of the holy spirit.
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You can find that in your own home when you come together
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With your family and you start praying.
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It does something inside of, i think every person
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Standing there.
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I think mom and dad's feel it.
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I think grandma and grandpas feel it.
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I think the kids feel it.
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When you all come together and you believe for something
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And you worship together.
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It's a powerful thing in your house.
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- i have a lot of joyful memories of our
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Family praying together.
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And so much that we instilled them into our kids.
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I'm not even talking about, of course,
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Praying at dinner or those things.
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If that's just all you've ever done, somebody listening,
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That's a great place to start.
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But i am just really grateful for these moments where
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I think our family was knit together in a stronger way.
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In a way that we never would have been,
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Had we not allowed prayer to be such a strong part
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Of our story.
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So as we start off such a fun and great episode about prayer
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And how a family prays together.
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I would love to hear as parents how you've done
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That for your kids.
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Or if that was part of your story, the greater family,
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The bigger family.
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That you grew up in.
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- we really tried to normalize prayer as being part of
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Everything when christian was growing up,
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When he was little.
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Like, because when i was little,
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I thought prayer was something you did as opposed to somebody
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Who you are.
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To me, it's off my to do list or on my who i am list.
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- yeah, totally.
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- and so we would do that with christian.
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And if, when he was little, if something happened,
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Like if it was something bad at school.
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Or his dad wanted something and i wanted something
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Slightly different.
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We would just make that a point of saying, well,
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You know, let's, let's just talk to the lord about it.
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Because he's bigger than all of us.
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And i, i love the fact that to this day, like today,
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Knowing that i was going to be here today with you guys.
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He texted me this morning, just know i'll be praying
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For you, mom.
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That, you know, and i love the fact that god gets woven into
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Our story, you know, it's not just something we do
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Occasionally, and there's a special place where you go.
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But that is something we do together as part of our
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Family, and we've done that since he was a little boy,
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And i think i learned that from my mum,
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Because she would pray for the most practical things,
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Being a widow, you know, she had a very limited income and
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Sometimes we technically on paper didn't have enough.
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She would write out our list and write out what we had and
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Then she'd bring it before the lord and you'd say, lord,
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Here you are, do what only you can do.
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But i actually think it was almost a gift.
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To grow up with very little, because then even in other
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Seasons, it's like paul, you learn, whatever,
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Whatever season you're in, you just learn that god
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Is right present.
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What i learned from my mom is there's nothing too small
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To talk to god about.
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And, and i saw that in my son from when he was a little boy,
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That his first instinct would be, well, ok,
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Let's talk to the lord.
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We're in trouble here, mom, let's talk to the lord.
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One of the lessons i learned as a child was that there is
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No prayer too small for god.
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Think about it.
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There's nothing going on in your life right now that god
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Doesn't care about.
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Every single thing.
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And i saw that growing up because my mom was a widow
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And was raising three young children,
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Had very limited finances.
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That she would pray for, for meals,
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She would pray for not just for thanking god for meals,
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She would pray for the provision of a meal sometimes.
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And, and i grew up knowing that god is a god who loves to
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Answer prayer.
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Sometimes we think we're just supposed to pray for the big
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Things, but i want you to know.
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There's nothing in your life right now that god doesn't
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Care about, and you can bring it all to heaven for prayer.
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- when my dad passed away because he had als for 9
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Years, my kids really only knew my dad sick.
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They never knew my healthy dad that i knew my whole life,
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You know, which was very sad.
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And so after he passed away, i had me and harrison,
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My son were, just in the living room talking and i said
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That sentiment to him.
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I said, you know, i'm just a little sad that the papa
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That you will remember was sick, you know,
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He wasn't his healthiest.
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And he said, you know, mom, this is what i think he's
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Definitely my thinker child for sure.
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So the fact that he said this was awesome, but he said,
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"if papa had been sick a lot of his life and had
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Been healed.
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And then i knew him healthy..." and so,
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He just spoke about the things god did, he said,
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"i really think i would have thought, well,
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That's great that god healed, you know,
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That's part of his story, but this is the papa i have
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And this is what i know."
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He said, "but the fact that i didn't get to know papa healthy.
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I only knew him sick.
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The papa i know he's somebody who always spoke about the
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Faithfulness of god he was an overcomer.
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He always prayed to see god move he always counted on god
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For that next breath.
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Like he was able to see that the faith that he has now to
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Believe that god can do anything is because he saw
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Somebody who believed in god but had to struggle."
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He had to see the struggle, and i think sometimes we would
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Love our kids to not have to see the struggle.
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But it really meant a lot to my son that he actually got to
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Witness somebody living through something hard.
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And yet still having the faith that that god is faithful.
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That god is trustworthy.
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And so even for you as a young girl,
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You watched your mom pray for all these little things.
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And you can call god faithful because you saw her pray
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For those things and i mean that's beautiful.
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- i didn't see that growing up, sheila.
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So i do think what you have given to your son
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Is so amazing.
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You know, we were kind of the prayer list family,
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And i'm sure anyone listening is like,
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I'll put you on my prayer list, which is awesome.
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I mean, that's so good.
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We prayed at meals, but no one showed me how to pray
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Powerfully.
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And i think it was because i really didn't understand,
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It says the prayers of the righteous are powerful
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And effective.
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Well, i don't really believe i thought i was righteous.
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I thought that was something that i needed to again,
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Perform and achieve.
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I didn't realize that the blood of jesus made me
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Righteous and it wasn't something i needed to earn.
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Because righteousness felt like a behavioral
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Modification plan.
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It felt like sanctification and righteousness kind of were
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The same thing to me.
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And at the end of the day, once i realized that the
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Gospel made me righteous in the blood of jesus.
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It made my prayers feel a lot more effective that i didn't
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Have to like be something before my prayers were
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Effective.
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And i think so many people listening,
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If you're listening, you're like, well,
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My prayers aren't effective.
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Well, do you, do you know you're righteous because
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You are.
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You're not because of anything you did,
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And i didn't realize that i had that kind of power in me.
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And so that made me believe on a whole another level that not
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Only are our prayers effective.
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But they're powerful.
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And i mean, i'm telling you, anybody listen,
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The name of jesus is enough.
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- one of the things i loved about my own childhood was
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That even though i lost my father when i was young.
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I had a mom who believed in prayer.
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I had a grandmother who believed in prayer.
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And as a family, that was just something that was as common
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Among us as brushing our teeth in the morning.
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But maybe you're in a place where you think, well,
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I'm glad for you lady, but i don't have that.
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I, i don't come from a family that even believes in prayer.
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I would suggest you just, why don't you start where you are?
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Like make it just this incredible relationship
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Between you and the lord and then ask the lord very
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Specifically.
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And write it down and write the date and say, lord,
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Would you bring somebody into my life that i can pray with?
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You know, maybe you want, i don't know if you go to
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Church, but maybe you could find a church where they're
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Loving and they love god's word.
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Don't look for the perfect church because it doesn't
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Exist down here.
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Because we're all still human.
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But find a place where you can--make it a specific
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Prayer.
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God loves to answer prayer.
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Scripture says you have not because you haven't
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Even asked.
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Why don't you ask the lord, lord,
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Would you bring somebody into my life so that we can start
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Being people who pray together.
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Family isn't always biological;
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Some days it's simply the family of god.
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- my parents were pastors.
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And i remember as little kids, you know,
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In this little house on southwest side of
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Tucson, arizona.
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We would gather and sit on the floor.
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And we would pray and my dad was very prophetic and would
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Declare things over us.
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And i remember as a ¤-year-old little girl my
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Dad would say.
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I see you in front of kings and queens and presidents.
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And you know as a little kid i'm sitting in this you know
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Old little home and just going, ok, dad's lost it,
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You know.
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But i really didn't.
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I just would think, well, wow, what, what does that mean.
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You know, never having any idea of what god would do.
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And my mother-in-law, my mom and dad, people of prayer,
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Absolutely my mother-in-law.
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When you called her on that phone,
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She would instantly go into prayer.
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And if you ever needed something you call mom,
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You know.
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I want to be that i want to be that for my kids when
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Something happens.
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We just start praying because god knows all about it.
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God knows where we are it's nothing takes him by surprise.
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Everything was planned just for this moment.
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And so now how do we see god in this?
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How are we supposed to see this tragedy, this situation,
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All those things because god knows.
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- you know it's never too late to start modeling prayer
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In your home.
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Prayer is vital for us as christians, as believers.
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It is our source to connect with god on a daily basis.
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And i would say if you are looking to grow your
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Relationship, start with prayer,
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Start with that conversation with the lord today.
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- one of the things that was hardest for my mum when i was
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Growing up was.
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She was comfortable praying with my brother and my sister
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And i.
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But if ever we had a small group at our house,
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She had a hard time praying out loud.
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She felt like, what if she didn't say the right thing?
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And what if she didn't know the right words.
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But you know what, there are no right words.
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There's nothing that delights god's heart more than simply
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You praying where you are.
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It's not like some fancy conversation where you have to
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Get the right words.
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In fact, one of my favorite scottish writers said,
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'it's better to have a heart with no words than words
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With no heart.
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You get to come as you are.'
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- the question of where do i start on my prayer journey
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Is a good one.
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And i think it's important to think about the word journey.
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I think oftentimes we think about destination.
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We want to be at the place.
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We want to arrive somewhere.
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But i think all of us who are believers know that our
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Christian walk is a journey.
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And our prayer life is the same thing.
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So the best thing i would say to you is when you start on an
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Actual journey.
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You start with the one step at a time, you take strides,
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But you also just take it one day at a time.
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So i would say for you start by just learning
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How to quiet yourself.
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Sometimes in this really loud world it's hard to do that.
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And then just start in every moment that you can just start
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Talking to god.
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Don't try to use big words don't try to say important
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Sentences.
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I just talk to him like you would a friend.
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And i think the more that you begin to do that and then
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Taking a few moments to listen to see if you hear
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Anything back.
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Maybe even turning on some worship music as you do it,
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Anything like that, just start taking steps to talk to him,
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To converse with him like you would a friend.
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And i think before you know it,
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It'll be kind of second nature that you include him into
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Every part of your life.
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- you know, when i told the story many times,
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But cody and audrey lost a baby in jerusalem at 27 weeks,
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Gave birth and lived for a little bit,
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And then he passed on.
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Sheila and i were together.
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And i just remember at the moment my, my little boy cody,
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Who's not a little boy, just said, "i made a mistake.
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We shouldn't have come."
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And in that instant, it was like, whoa.
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The god we serve knew that jesse was going to be born
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Today in jerusalem and we all had to just get here.
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So we have to calm down.
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And just look at the situation because all things work
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Together for good.
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God has a plan for every situation that we go through,
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And we just have to trust.
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So when you know god's the pilot and the turbulence is
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Raging, you know, my dad's the pilot.
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God the father is the pilot of your situation.
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And to instill that in your kids where we don't all have
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To grab our hair.
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Which my husband says well just stand there and grab your
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Hair that's great, that's going to work.
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Just instilling that calm peace of mind that god says
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I will take everything.
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Whether you see it as one of the most horrible days
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Of your life.
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God will work through that and mold and shape it to where
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First of all you're ok.
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And everything's going to be ok.
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- i've had some really difficult moments where i have
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Cried out to the lord in prayer,
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And god has been so faithful to be just that listening ear
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Of a friend.
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And i feel like whether i'm praying and it's been through
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Tears, or i'm praying and it's been through laughter.
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God has proven that that is where my strength is built,
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That having a relationship with god is what has driven me
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To go further and to try harder and to forgive
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And love more.
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And so my faith has been strengthened as i continue to
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Seek that relationship with the lord in prayer.
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- when i have prayed for something and it doesn't turn
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Out the way i had hoped or maybe even the,
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The worst-case scenario happens.
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I have seen in myself temptation to not with
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Everything i am jump into prayer again believing you
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Know that that's the safest and best place to be.
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Because i go oh but last time we prayed about this thing.
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And we serve a sovereign god he knows what he's doing.
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We see short we're short minded.
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We're in the wood, we're in the trees.
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We can't see the beginning from the end.
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And i know that so often we pray for things that don't
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Work out the way we want them to.
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But you know, so many people, i think when,
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When there is what we would call unanswered prayer.
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Or you know and someone does die.
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They died in faith.
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Your dad died in faith.
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So here's the martyrs over here that were killed because
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They were preaching the gospel.
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Here nowadays sometimes when someone goes ahead and dies of
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Or is taken home because of cancer or something like that.
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You know, well, was there sin in their life?
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Did they not do enough?
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Did we not pray hard enough?
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All this stuff that is just a lie of the enemy,
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They died in faith.
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So why is it that martyrs can die in faith.
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And people that believe to the end can't?
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- that's really good.
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- so well done, good and faithful servant.
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Enter in.
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And they died in faith.
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I mean, look at all the promises of god throughout
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The bible with moses.
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Moses is a heartbreaking story to me.
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Because he was caught in the backside of the desert.
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All that that he did that god good through him and then
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He never entered was all accounted to him
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For righteousness.
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So this is on the job training.
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For what that's really good for what the kingdom of god
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Looks like.
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We trust and believe to the very end.
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No matter what.
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And our spirits never die, right?
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The spirit that raised christ jesus from the dead is alive
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In me right now, which is never going to die.
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So i've kind of like untethered myself from the
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Whole death thing.
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I've just partnered with, i'm going to live forever
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And i'm just going to take one breath here and another
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Breath in the presence of the lord.
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- which i say it now.
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- where is your sting?
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I always think when someone dies, death,
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Where is your sting?
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Died in victory, you know, it's the way i see it.
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- i think prayer helps us see things from god's perspective
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By taking us out of our own navel gazing.
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I mean, honestly, it's, it's like when you're looking at
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Yourself and your problems and the world around you,
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You're not looking up.
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And so, i think prayer is the ultimate look up.
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It is, look what i've done, look at the heavens,
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Look at the stars.
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Just like abraham, he looked up and he saw the heavens.
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And i think the lord invites us to do that through prayer.
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He's like, look how big, and remember,
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I think he also invites us into remembering what
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He's done before.
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Because he will do it again.
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And that has been such a consistent thing.
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Don't forget what i did for you last year and the year
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Before, because he will deliver again.
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- i think because i have young children, they at bedtime,
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Always at bedtime, are ready for really deep theological
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Questions.
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And many of them are around dying.
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Like they're always like, well, you know, what if i die?
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Ruby is my youngest.
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And always right at bedtime, she'll just be like, mom,
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I have a question.
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One more question as you're, you know,
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Walking out the door after we've prayed and we've done
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All the things.
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She's like, i've got one more question.
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I'm like, ok, ruby, what is it?
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And she's like, well, if i died, right?
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And i'm like, oh, ruby.
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- but she loves drama.
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- she's wanting a little bit of drama for the
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For the evening.
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But we often will talk about, you know,
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Living as righteously as we can with the lord's help.
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And you know, we talk about what it means to live
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For jesus.
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And then when we die and we open our eyes in heaven,
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I'm like, there is nothing to fear in that.
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I was like, so if there's anything that i can be praying
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For you about, i will be praying for you about that.
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I was like, but you need to go to bed.
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You know.
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But we do build foundationally her prayer life.
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It's one of those things where we're saying, you know,
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We pray, of course, at night, we pray over for meals,
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You know.
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We're definitely in those learning stages.
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And one thing that will really ramp up your prayer life is,
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I think becoming a mom and, you know,
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Caring for these children.
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And then of course, grandchildren that come later.
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I can remember walking the halls of our home,
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Praying over their doors.
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Just that the lord would be with them,
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That he would create a path for them that's just far
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Different from the life that i've known that you know,
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It really grow them up to be women that chase and follow
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After him.
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It really was a thing when i became a mom that praying
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For my children was such a privilege.
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And even now when something goes wrong,
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I look at them and say, well, have you prayed about that?
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Can i be praying about that for you?
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And so they know that it's like whatever is coming up,
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If you under your own strength can't do it,
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Then we go to jesus about it.
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We can go talk to him and that god is not far.
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He's just a prayer away.
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- it makes me think of deuteronomy 6,
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I love this scripture 6:5.
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Love the lord your god with all your heart and with all
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Your soul and with all your strength.
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These commandments that i give you today are to be upon your
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Hearts, impress them on your children.
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Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk
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Along the road and when you lie down and when you get up,
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Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them
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On your foreheads.
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Write them on the door frames of your houses and on your
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Gates, and that's exactly what you're doing.
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And as parents it is our responsibility.
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And our privilege that prayer is just communication with the
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All knowing all powerful god and if we can make that big
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Concept something so tangible like let's talk about him
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At dinner.
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Let's pray before dinner and let's talk, let's talk to god,
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Ok, you, you have these big questions before bed,
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Let's talk about god, like bringing and weaving god into
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All of those conversations where it becomes just
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Second nature.
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That your children learn they can come to him for anything
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Any time with any question and they can look to him for their
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Peace for their joy.
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I just think it's so important that as parents we're doing
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That maybe we overcomplicate it that it needs to be this
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Big you know hold hands sit around the circle prayer.
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But i think i mean the scripture says pray
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Continually.
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Rejoice always.
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Take it all to the lord let's make it part of our life.
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- and if you can't get your family together and just have
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A big prayer time every day, it's ok.
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I think praying with our kids before bed or maybe at the
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Breakfast table or we would do it on the way to school.
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Those times are priceless and just thanking god for
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This beautiful day.
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And knowing that our kids and teaching our kids that they
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Can go to jesus any time of the day because he's
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With them.
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My parents were very we were in ministry together like
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I said and then we would pray as a family for things.
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What we were believing god for.
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And the obedience and the steps of faith and that has
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Never changed with us and our children.
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We are all on this journey together.
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We're all believing god for great things.
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And we have to navigate a whole lot of stuff, you know.
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But knowing that it all belongs to the lord,
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There's no time wasted in the kingdom of god.
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There's nothing lost in the kingdom of god.
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It all belongs to him anyway.
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So however he chooses, our job is to be obedient and
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Surrender everything to him.
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When you live like that, then you can be happy and glad
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And have the joy of the lord in every circumstance.
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Paul says in whatever circumstance i find myself in,
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I am content because there's nothing to worry about there
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Really isn't.
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- i think letting my kids be on their journey has been such
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A process for me.
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Because i think when you are in ministry and you, you know,
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My husband's pastor, i'm in ministry.
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You want your kids to be more advanced than they should be.
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You're just like, we talk about this all the time.
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Don't you?
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Like, don't you just want to be the demonstrator
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Of the gospel?
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And i, i think letting my children be on their own
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Journey.
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But then watching as they come back.
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And i'll never forget my son's senior year in high school,
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He, he casually said, i'm going to take some time
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And pray about that.
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And i thought, i have won the race.
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I have finished listening.
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I have finished.
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I have won the race.
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This is the epitome of what you want for your children
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Is to say, i'm going to pray about this.
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You are not the ultimate answer for me, mom.
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And your thoughts about this, i know his thoughts about this
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Are better than yours.
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And i thought, if i, that is all i do in my life.
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I mean, honestly, like i was like,
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I could die today and just be, i know that they are going to
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Make it in this life.
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But i really do believe as a ministry family,
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Sometimes we put undue pressure on our kids
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To be something.
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I'm like, the thought of me being like i am today at 18,
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That is so unrealistic.
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Like, there just has to be life lived,
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I think sometimes to really understand that we're not just
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Repeaters of the gospel.
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That we're really supposed to demonstrate the gospel.
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Which is stopping in the grocery store and praying for
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Somebody who says my foot's hurt or whatever that is,
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You know.
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But to hear my son say that i was just like, oh my goodness.
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It took the pressure off me.
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I was like, he's going to be ok.
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He knows i'm not his source.
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God has called us to not just repeat the gospel.
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He's called us to demonstrate the gospel,
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And i look at god's minis at jesus' ministry,
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And 2/3 of it, he was praying for people.
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And i'm like, wow, ok, lord, when i hear a need stopping
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Immediately and praying where my kids are whether they see
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It or not.
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It becomes a lifestyle and it becomes a habit.
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And your kids catch a whole lot more than you will ever
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Teach them and so just letting them catch on to the fact
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That we're going to demonstrate the gospel.
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- i'm wondering about the women watching,
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Or men watching who feel like, you know what,
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I am not a spiritual giant.
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I am not a prayer warrior.
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I don't even know where to start.
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I remember a few years ago when i was writing a book
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On prayer.
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I just went onto facebook one night and i just threw out
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A question.
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I said, ok, when i tell you the word prayer,
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What comes to mind?
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And i said, now please don't tell me what you think i want
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To hear.
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Please tell me what you really think.
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And it was so interesting because some people would be
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Like, i get bored.
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I get distracted.
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I'm halfway through praying and i think,
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Did i defrost the chicken?
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And things like, but then more serious ones, you know,
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I prayed for this and it didn't happen.
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I prayed that god would heal my child and my child died.
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I think sometimes we get so confused by prayer;
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We make it very complicated.
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Whereas for me it's, i think god wants it to be the most
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Natural thing on the earth that from the moment
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We wake up.
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That there's not an area of our life that god's not
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Interested in, that we don't get to talk to him about,
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Process through.
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You know when you're in high school and you have like a
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Best friend, like you do everything with this friend.
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And then life moves on and you get busy and i thought the
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Other day when i wake up in the morning,
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I take my wee dog maggie out for a walk.
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And i was thinking, you know, lord,
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This is actually kind of nice because you're like
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My best friend.
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Like there's just not a thing i wouldn't talk to you about
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If i feel like i'm messing up.
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I talk to you about that.
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If i feel like barry's buying more christmas ornaments
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Than anybody in the world could need,
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I'll talk to you about that.
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But it's just getting this understanding of we get to be
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Part of this conversation with our father.
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And so, i'm thinking of anybody thinking i'm not good
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At this, just start, you don't have to be good at it,
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There's no such thing as being good at prayer, you know,
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It's just literally a conversation.
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- just that communion with god as someone that's with you all
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The time.
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You know, and i think instilling that in our kids,
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God is with you all the time and you can at any moment say,
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Jesus, can you help me?
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He's not far, he's right there with you.
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- i believe we can approach god boldly in prayer because
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He says come like a child.
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And i know as a parent, my children,
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When they were when they were children,
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There were no disclaimers about what they were coming
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And asking.
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They just asked boldly and most of it was outrageous,
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But they didn't care.
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It was the thing they wanted, and they would come and they
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Would ask for that christmas present,
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Or they would ask to go do that fun thing or whatever it
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Was they asked boldly.
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They didn't have any pretense about the relationship
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Between us.
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Because they just saw us as their loving, caring parents.
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And i believe that god as father wants you to come to
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Him the same way.
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That's why you can come boldly because there's no shame.
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There's no perfection.
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You don't have to act in a certain way to come to god.
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You can come exactly like you are.
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With all your baggage and ask boldly for him to heal you,
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For him to, to free you.
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All of these things are because he gives us access
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To him.
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But he wants access to our hearts exactly like we are.
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And i think it's important to, i remember trying to teach
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This concept to my children.
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But even realizing in my own life i didn't have it mastered
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Very well is the idea that in any communication,
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Any conversation.
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If i went and had coffee with you and all i did was talk the
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Entire time and then i was like, well this is great.
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Thank you for meeting me, sheila,
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This is great and you're like, i, i didn't say one thing.
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I know for me that is part of that prayer journey that i've
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Had to learn is that time with him where i can bring
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Everything and anything.
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And i can say all the things, but he also has some things
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He'd like to say back.
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And stilling my heart and my spirit to listen sometimes
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Truly the pick me up the joy i need for that day is because i
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Remembered to just let him talk and let him say the thing
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That would encourage me because he knows exactly where
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You are.
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I mean, i went through a time where i tried the practice of,
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Ok, i'm not, i'm not going to say any of the same things i
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Was praying the same things over and over because i wasn't
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Seeing any answer prayer not today.
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Today i'm just going to let you talk so just let him talk,
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Let him talk.
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And i couldn't even as we're ending, it's like, ok,
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But you know, right?
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Before we go, before we go, you know, right?
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One more thing, one more thing.
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Like i try to try to just let him talk, but i had to, right,
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You know, though, like i have to feel like i have to say all
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The things.
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But it's just, it's a good practice to just thinking
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About those who don't know how to pray.
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Sometimes be quiet and see if you can even hone in on
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That skill of listening.
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Because a lot of people, i think like for somebody,
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Right, i think, i don't know how.
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I think hearing god, like how do i hear god is one of those
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Big questions believers have always asked.
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Even if you've been a believer for decades,
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It sounds weird to say, but i think there's a practice
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To it.
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I think the more you do it, the more comfortable you
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Become in hearing.
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And so for me that would be giving myself a few minutes to
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Truly just quiet everything.
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Even my house will be quiet.
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Like quiet everything so i can hone in on the skill of
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Listening and then that thing that i feel inside.
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I'm going to first ask, is that biblical what
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I've just heard?
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Is that loving?
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Would jesus say that to me?
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And then if so, i'm going to, i'm going to receive it
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In my spirit and be encouraged by it.
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And believe that i heard from the lord.
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I'm going to build on that the next day and build on that the
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Next day where i start, it feels familiar the voice that
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I'm hearing and that and that turning in my spirit.
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Oh wait, that feels familiar to me.
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My sheep know my voice.
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- i'm really fortunate that i have, you know,
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So many years of life, right?
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I'm not a young, teen anymore.
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I'm an older woman.
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I've got children of my own, and my life has been marked
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By prayer.
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Prayers that god has answered and prayers that god has
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Stayed silent.
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And when god stays silent in those moments,
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I know that i have to stay faithful and that i have to
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Stay consistent.
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Because it's not that god isn't listening.
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It's not that god didn't hear me.
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It's just god is asking me to wait.
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And so i know that in my life, as i look back on all the
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Prayers that god has answered and where god has given me
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Clear direction.
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That if i just wait on the lord,
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That the next one is still coming.
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And so i have to remain positive,
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Seeking his face each and every day,
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And that that is where i will find my strength.
00:35:01.089 --> 00:35:04.059
- i think that teaching our kids to pray powerfully is one
00:35:04.059 --> 00:35:10.566
Of the greatest gifts that you can give them.
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But i also know that as a mom, you've got to pray powerfully
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And be confident that you are enough.
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And so for me, go after your own healing,
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Go after the reasons why you don't feel powerful.
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And that is going to transfer to your children because they
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Need you to know that you have resurrection power flowing
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Through your veins and that they have it through
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Their veins too.
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- one of the hardest things i think as a mother or a father
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Is when you have a child whose kind of wandered away.
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Everything you knew, you brought them up in church,
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You prayed with them, but now they've just gone off.
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My number one thing to you would be don't give up hope.
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Keep praying, because the amazing thing about prayer is
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God's spirit can go where you can't.
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You might not even know where they are today,
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But the lord does.
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So find somebody you really love and trust and make them a
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Prayer partner with you.
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You know, where the two of you can agree on earth as touching
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Something in heaven and watch god do what only he can do.
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- i always hear the lord the loudest when i'm drying my
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Hair, when i'm in the shower, and when i'm driving.
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So i love when the power of habit takes over.
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That's why it's so easy to hear the lord.
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So i'm just like, i'm just going to take a shower
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Every 30 minutes.
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But i, but i genuinely like crave those times because i
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Can hear him so loudly.
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And i think till i, learn to tune in.
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I mean, that, the dial was on, you know,
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91.6 and it was just a little tweak to 91.7 and then it
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Became so much clearer.
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And how you were wired to hear the lord.
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Are you literally hearing?
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Are you seeing pictures?
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I mean, we've all talked about having visions and dreams and
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I mean, that's your wiring.
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And so i think turning, you know,
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Turning my attention to how am i wired?
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I'm going to see.
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I'm a hearer and i'm a knower.
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And so for me, i just know things.
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Well, that's holy spirit going, hey,
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This is me communing with you.
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I'm telling you things.
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I'm letting you know things you didn't know a few
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Minutes ago.
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And i just, i don't think we, we don't get taught that
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Typically at church.
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I don't know why, but i, i think a lot of times it's just
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That tiny little tweak of learning how he's speaking
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To your unique person.
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I did not know how to hear from god.
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So i have learned, i have had on the job training because it
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Was, it was the lifeline, right?
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It has absolutely been a lifeline,
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And i saw other people hearing god.
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And i was like, i want to hear god like that.
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And a woman actually prayed for me about 13 years ago,
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Which absolutely undid me, changed my life.
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But i will say when you're learning to hear
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God, if you're asking the lord, lord, speak to me,
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Who is on your heart today?
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In the first 1-2 seconds, typically a picture, a name,
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A scripture.
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I mean, if you're asked, he says, ask.
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He was like, i long to give you the desires of your heart.
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And if you are wanting to hear god,
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I promise he's going to deliver.
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But just tuning in the dial, seeing a picture.
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Knowing something in your spirit, an emotion can be,
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From the lord, and then, and hearing his voice.
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But it's not audible, it's just a still small voice.
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It's beautiful and once you, once you get a taste, you,
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You can't you can't unknow it, right?
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And so god wants to just show you more and more and more.
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- also, i would say if you have a trusted believer
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In your life.
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Even start maybe by saying, hey,
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I'm learning this part of praying and hearing god.
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I felt like i heard the lord say this.
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Does this sound like something the lord would say like,
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Does this, you know, maybe even asking somebody who can
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Walk beside you to.
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You know, it's just, i think part of it is just we just
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Don't ever arrive, so don't think you have to be in,
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You don't have to be anywhere with it be exactly where you
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Are in your relationship with jesus and just start talking
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To him.
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- also, if you're not sure where to start.
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I think a great thing to do is to reach out to friends and
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Ask if they need prayer.
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And be willing to share something that you need
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Prayer for.
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You know, i started a family group text the other day and
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It was asking my family, like i've realized in
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This moment like.
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Hey, they might have stuff they're going through.
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Maybe i don't know about it if we're, you know,
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All busy doing things.
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And so, i reached out, but i made sure that that the first
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Thing i put on there was a way they could be praying for me.
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Because i wanted them to know, like,
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This is kind of where i'm at.
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These are some things that i would love for you to join me
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In prayer over.
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And i think when we tell people we're going to,
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You know, hey, i'll pray for you, i'll pray for you,
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We'll really do it.
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And if you're looking to, you know, grow your prayer life,
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Having something that you can go to the lord about maybe.
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It feels selfish sometimes to just be praying for things
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For yourself.
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But if you go on behalf of a friend or a family member and
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Say, you know, lord, i really need you to move in my friend
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Or family's life in this way.
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And, you know, i'm believing with them,
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I think that really helps open a door of just making
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It a conversation.
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And not feeling so structured or that it has to be something
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So perfect, but it's really just on behalf of another
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Person that, you know--
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- people hardly turn down you asking if you ask.
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Is there anything i can pray with you about?
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I remember my dad would send out prayer teams all
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Over tucson.
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And just go to the door and just ask them if,
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And not one person would turn us down.
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Sometimes i go, well, i don't, well, wait,
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Could you pray for my mom?
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My mom's not feeling very good.
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And they always had something to pray for, you know,
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Or just pray and they weren't believers, you know, but boy.
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If someone pray for me, you know, that was amazing.
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But we always say more is caught than taught, right?
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And so if we're taking things to the lord and just those
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Small prayers for somebody during the, you know,
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Somebody is in a hurry that flies past you.
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And so, father, whatever they're doing right now,
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Help them get there safe.
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Or just those little touches throughout the day
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With your kids.
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They'll learn that i had an experience with my youngest
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One time he was probably 4 or 5.
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He could be in the in the service and i would look down
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And he would be on his knees coloring or something.
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And then i'd look back again and he would have his head up
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And just tears flowing during worship and stuff and he was
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Always just super tender to all of that.
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And i put him to bed.
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I went into the laundry room, and i was doing some laundry
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And cody comes all of a sudden it's just at the door going
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Mommy we need to pray.
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We need to pray.
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It was like ok you know and so i just grabbed him up and i
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Took him into our guest room and we sat there and i sat him
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On my lap.
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It was the wildest experience i think i'd ever had.
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Because i was watching my little child pray.
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So i knew that was a holy moment and i'm not disrupting
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This and i would have given a million dollars for a camera,
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You know, to capture what i was experiencing
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At that moment.
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And he was pouring out his heart to god.
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He was praying for nations.
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He was praying so prophetically and about
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Something tomorrow at 2 o'clock and just this
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Experience, and he was just crying out to god and then he
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Said, god, he said, i remember the moment that i opened
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My eyes up here.
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And you touched me and you made me look just like them.
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It just shook me, you know, and.
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And i thought this is the heart of god right here or
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Whatever's happening right here as this childlike faith
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The bible says you can't even enter the kingdom of god
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Without being childlike.
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That childlike faith and the kingdom of god being here
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Right now.
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You know that moment with cody just reminded me that children
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Are a gift from god.
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I believe they come straight from heaven.
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And in the moment where he said,
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Where you touched my face and you made me look just like
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Them, i believe that was our family.
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And it just reminded me of the innocence of the kingdom of
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God, the innocence of a child.
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And that's the way we're supposed to live,
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The faith of that child.
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The innocence that i live in the kingdom of god,
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And i'm here for purpose.
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I'm here for destiny.
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I'm here to help build a kingdom here on earth,
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And you know, i think we make life so difficult.
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And if we could just remember, i am god's child.
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I am here on earth to do something wonderful.
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Whether that's just being nice to people.
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Sharing god's love with people,
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Being his hands and feet in any way possible.
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You are here for a purpose.
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You are here for destiny.
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You are here on the job training right now.
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And you don't think you're not here for anything.
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Don't ever forget that you are loved,
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You are a gift from god.
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Children are a gift from god, and you know what?
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You're a child.
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You're a child of god.
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And so just don't forget your purpose and your destiny and
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That you make a difference.
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We can teach our kids we are living the kingdom of god here
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On earth.
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It's not in heaven.
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Jesus brought the kingdom here to earth.
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He said, my kingdom is at hand.
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He didn't take it back with him.
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He left it here on earth to rule and reign,
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Subdue the earth, be fruitful and multiply right here.
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And that is what we live in and that's what we live
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Under right?
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The governments on his shoulders.
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So all that freedom in christ and being able to do what
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We've called here to do.
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The purpose and destiny that each one of them have this
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Amazing purpose here on earth and destinies on the inside
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Of them.
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And that there's nothing that can stop that.
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There's no ruler or power other than god
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There's no authority.
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Accept god in our lives and teach them that.
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And that's who they are.
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And that there's nothing that's impossible with god.
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And so when things come that challenge that,
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That's just a time to grow and a time to get revelation.
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I'll turn on tv and i'll open my bible and there's just
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Something there that god wants to speak to me.
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And it's so funny because oftentimes my kids will walk
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In and say something that it's like, ok,
00:45:48.204 --> 00:45:50.573
I just read that or i just saw that those moments that open
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Up a doorway to talk.
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About the goodness of god or what you feel god is doing in
00:45:58.147 --> 00:46:01.417
The family or what he's doing in someone's life.
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You know, so i think those moments that we take,
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They watch us show them how to do it.
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- and i think too we can help children process their grief
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When they don't understand.
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I remember when my father-in-law who had lived
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With us when he passed away.
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Christian was at first, he was sad.
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Which i expected, and then, i saw that he was angry one day
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Because he pushed our gigantic cat off the sofa,
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And he loved that cat.
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And so we went for a walk and i said to him, babe,
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Are you angry?
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And he said, yeah.
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And i said, well, talk to me about it.
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He said, mum, you told me god answers prayer.
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And so when we followed the ambulance to the hospital,
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I prayed, god, please don't take my papa, and he did.
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So i don't like him and i'm not talking to him anymore.
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And i said to him, you know, the amazing thing about god is
00:46:44.660 --> 00:46:46.896
You get to tell him that.
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I've said this before, but i bought him a punching bag and
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Boxing gloves that day.
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And i said, when you're angry, you hit that thing till
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You're exhausted.
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But then you get to fall into the arms of the god who's big
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Enough for you to be angry.
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You get to bring all of who you are.
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- i love that, it's so beautiful.
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And i, i do think of the person listening who has
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Unanswered prayers or heart heartbroken prayers because
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They just didn't see things going this way.
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And i love that imagery of, hey,
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Physically it's ok to be angry, get that out.
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But when you're tired and when you don't have nowhere else to
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Go fall into his arms.
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So we'll just end by praying that over.
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The listeners, lord, we just thank you first we're just
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So grateful.
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What a friend you are to us.
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What a friend you are that you would enter into our world and
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Let us commune with you.
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It's such a beautiful imagery that you're a friend that we
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Can tell everything to.
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And so for those today whose hearts are heavy.
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Lord, i pray, father, right now that you would reveal to
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Them that you are sitting next to them right now,
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Your presence is with them.
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And they can say anything to you.
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They can cry out for help and you'll be there.
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They can tell you all of their worries and anxieties and
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You'll help them.
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Lord, i pray, father, for the person who believes, father,
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That you are their healer.
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Lord, i pray over them, father,
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That they would not lose hope, that they would continue
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Crying out to the only god who can heal.
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Lord, i thank you god that you answer every prayer.
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It may not be in our human understanding the way we
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Understand it or wanted it.
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But father, we thank you that not one prayer goes unheard
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Or unanswered.
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We praise you jesus lord we just pray for generations and
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Generations of families to be rising up as prayer
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Warriors lord.
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Over our country, over our children, over our families,
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God that you would raise up the generation now that is
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Learning and hearing about you.
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You would raise them up to be prayers.
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Father, that they would enter into your kingdom through
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Prayer they would they would speak to you in a way father
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Where they get visions and they hear things not even
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Understandable in in human terms.
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Lord we know that you have this on your heart, father,
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And so we just pray it we believe it we receive it and
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We're going to walk in it in jesus' name amen.
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- amen.
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- connect with us on social media and let us know how our
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Team can pray for you.
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- we are going to answer a few more questions.
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Myra asks, can you share some bible verses to pray for and
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Over your adult children?
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My children are living their life,
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And i'm praying for god to meet them where they are.
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- that's hard, myra.
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I know it's hard to see a child not exactly where you
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Would hope them to be.
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So i actually did look up some, some verses for you.
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So i'm going to just read those now.
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I may not read all of them fully,
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But i'm going to give you where they are.
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Philippians 1:6 being confident of this that he who
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Began a good work and you will carry it on to completion
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Until the day of christ jesus.
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Proverbs 22:6, train up a child in the way he should go,
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And when he is old, he will not depart from it.
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And so even if they are older, then you can keep praying that
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The old hasn't happened yet.
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It's coming and then this is a little bit longer one,
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But psalm 139: 13 and 7-10.
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So i'll say it again so you can look it up.
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Psalm 139: 1-3 and 7-10.
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But it says, where can i go from your spirit?
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Where can i flee from your presence?
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If i go up to the heavens, you are there.
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If i make my bed in the depths, you are there.
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If i rise on the wings of the dawn,
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If i settle on the far side of the sea,
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Even there your hand will guide me,
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Your right hand will hold me fast.
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Don't give up hope, keep praying the lord has
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Your kids.
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The Family that Prays Together | Better Together Episode 1139

January 29, 2026 | S8 E1139 | 51:1

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