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How to Love Difficult People - Episode 1105

October 10, 2025 | S7 E1105 | 52:34

How to Love Difficult People - Episode 1105
"Love your neighbor as you love yourself." The radical love of God challenges us to love others with the same measure we have received. But what does that look like when neighbors are arguing and coworkers are causing drama? | TBN Prayer Line: 714-731-1000
#Community #Love #Grace #Forgiveness #Boundaries #Relationships #Hatred #Hurting #Betrayal #Abuse #Offense #LoveyourNeighbor #Wisdom

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Better Together | How to Love Difficult People - Episode 1105 | October 10, 2025
  • Today we are answering your questions about how to love
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  • Difficult people.
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  • And how to find the balance between having healthy
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  • Boundaries and extending grace.
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  • Come on, let's talk about it.
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  • ♪ (music playing) ♪
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  • - today we are doing something a little
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  • Different.
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  • We are switching it up.
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  • Going to switch up a little bit.
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  • We are going to be answering some viewers' questions.
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  • Oh.
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  • And the questions are real so are you already?
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  • We can't hold back.
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  • - i'm kind of nervous.
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  • - so a lot of this centers around basically understanding
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  • The context of neighbor, what it means, who is your
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  • Neighbor, you know this whole book that i just finished
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  • Talking about this whole intro of loving your neighbor and
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  • Really in the context of scripture, where the lord is
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  • Saying love your neighbor as you love the lord.
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  • He's talking about any person near or far, the same family
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  • Or not, christian or not, the broadest sense of the
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  • Word.
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  • But some of these questions are really good because they
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  • Are talking about actual neighbors.
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  • This person lives next to me above me and i think that's
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  • Interesting because while jesus is telling us to love
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  • Your neighbor as yourself in a very broad generic sense
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  • Clearly your actual neighbor fits into that and sometimes
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  • In that small circle the small space is where we get to really
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  • Test that.
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  • You got a stranger or someone you might not be close with
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  • And now how do we really test how we are going to love this
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  • Person who may not go to our church or may not have things
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  • In common, this is like relational evangelism and what
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  • Does it really look like?
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  • So i'm going to jump in and i cannot wait.
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  • I have no doubt because there is a wealth of wisdom in the
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  • Circle today, and we are better what?
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  • Together.
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  • Okay so first question leslie hey leslie, leslie writes how
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  • Do you love your neighbor when your neighbor does not love
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  • You?
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  • Now i don't know if this is our next-door neighbor or
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  • She's just maybe talking about a relationship where love
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  • Does not feel reciprocated.
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  • How can we keep the faith when there's so much hate going on?
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  • And i think we have touched on this in some previous
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  • Conversations, but part of it is with leslie i want to
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  • Encourage you to first ask yourself do you feel a divine
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  • Assignment to love well, because love cannot come from
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  • Emotion or experience, or the person doing the right thing
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  • At the right time, that's great i call that gravy
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  • That's extra but the meat of it is god is saying agape love
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  • Is a chosen benevolent.
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  • That's what it is, a designated value, before you
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  • Prove who you are before you disprove who you are, i am
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  • Deciding that i value you, and because it's my decision
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  • Nothing you do can change it.
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  • Now how we lived that out can change but i would first want
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  • To encourage anyone who has a hard time loving a neighbor
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  • That feels unlovable is to see yourself as a partner in a
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  • Divine assignment.
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  • You know like me and god we are about to change your life.
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  • And so i would encourage you to really reconnect with god
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  • Because he can give you the insight into loving those
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  • Difficult people.
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  • - so i was thinking about when someone is unkind, there is a
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  • Deficit of kindness within them.
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  • You cannot give what you don't have.
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  • And so where we have an opportunity, is we have an
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  • Opportunity to in some ways lend them what they do not
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  • Have.
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  • And that's where that divine assignment of love comes in is
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  • We are now giving someone what they don't have and
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  • Unfortunately there are some people who are in such a
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  • Deficit of kindness maybe they have been abused, traumatized,
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  • They are dealing with stress they're in such a deficit that
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  • They are taking a lot, it's going to take a lot to get
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  • Them to a place where they can now have something to give and
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  • I think that's where prayer comes in is like god i need
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  • You to give me the supernatural fruit of the
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  • Spirit something interesting, i was studying you know fruit
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  • Trees i'm not a gardener at all, by any stretch of the
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  • Imagination at all.
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  • - we are currently killing a snake plant right now.
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  • - a snake plant?
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  • - unfortunately i'm not a gardener but preparing for a
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  • Message where the lord told me to study how to grow fruit
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  • Trees and come to find out that if you want to grow
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  • Thriving fruit trees, the best fertilizer to use is
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  • Fertilizer that is high in nitrogen.
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  • What are the fertilizers that are highest in nitrogen?
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  • Blood meal, and animal manure.
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  • What is a blood meal?
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  • Blood meal is a dry powder that is created from
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  • Slaughtered cows and pigs.
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  • It is literally blood.
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  • What is animal manure?
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  • It's literally what i'm saying.
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  • There is feces and urine, so if you want to grow the best
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  • Fruit, you have to use the worst fertilizer.
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  • So people who are offending us, people who have no
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  • Kindness, that's the environment that the fruit of
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  • The spirit grows in is offense, is unkindness, is
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  • Chaos, so i just want to encourage whoever needs to
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  • Hear that to hear that.
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  • - prayer is so important, when it comes to loving difficult
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  • People, because otherwise we will have a tendency to do
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  • Things that make sense to us or come naturally to us, based
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  • Out of our experience.
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  • But prayer really calls in the creator the divine god to
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  • Say how do i best love this person and god may call us to
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  • Do something we may never do.
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  • He may call us to send a card rather than a phone call, or
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  • Send a text rather than a card, or show up like things
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  • That might not be our first choice.
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  • God can give us the insight to love others well so then we
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  • Can really represent him.
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  • - the other thing too when i read this the second question
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  • Honestly the question that she asked is how can we keep the
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  • Faith when there's so much hate going on so it's making
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  • Me feel like leslie may be in a situation where there's some
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  • Repetitive things that are happening that you know there
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  • Could be perceived hate, but because the actions have
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  • Repeated she's got a lot of evidence for it.
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  • But it does make me wonder now obviously using wisdom if
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  • That's a safe environment, if she were to make the first
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  • Move, to reconciliation or peace i wonder what that would
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  • Look like, if it could be that she's sitting around talking
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  • To friends later going you know i thought she hated me
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  • She did this, she did this, but i invited her over for tea and
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  • I got to know her story and it was not towards me at all.
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  • She's a very broken person and she's hurting whatever it
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  • Makes me wonder of course she would have to assess the
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  • Safety of it.
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  • But i do wonder when we are told to love our enemies, if that's
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  • A perceived enemy can she ask yourself what can i do to love
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  • Them and make that first.
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  • - there's a quote that i preach all the
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  • Time i love it so much it just says we are imperfect and
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  • Wired for struggle but still worthy of love and belonging
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  • And i joke around the whole much about it so easy to love
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  • Like the susan's in your life.
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  • The one that bring the charcuterie and she smiles all
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  • The time.
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  • It's so easy to invite them to the small group and all the
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  • Things, we know the susan's they just smile all the time
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  • All the things.
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  • But then i know that we all have that other person who is
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  • Like we are not inviting her, she can't come.
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  • She cannot come.
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  • She will mess it up.
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  • Leave her at the house.
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  • And i joke you don't even invite her here it's a church.
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  • In the hopes that she would change.
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  • - they call her the un-susan.
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  • - i like that.
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  • She's un-susan.
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  • The un-susan's in life are very difficult to love in when you
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  • Invite them anyways.
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  • When you love them anyway.
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  • It changes them whether they show it to you or not it changes
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  • Them because we have all been the un-susan.
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  • We have all been the person that did not get the invite,
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  • That says something foul, that broke someone's trust and
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  • How much more is that we are still worthy of love and
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  • Belonging?
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  • I just think that it transforms us when we are the
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  • Un-susan.
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  • And now we get put in situations where we get to
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  • Love that person.
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  • And i guarantee you it changes them.
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  • Whether we see it or not, you may never see it.
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  • But it changes them and we know that because god's love
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  • It's what it does.
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  • - everything we are talking about even what you mentioned
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  • Earlier you're going to be working and walking in the
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  • Supernatural thing.
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  • It's not natural for us to be talking this way.
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  • And when someone is mean to us or evil to us that we should
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  • Love them.
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  • It is supernatural.
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  • You have to have the power of the lord to do that but we
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  • Know it's actually what brings transformation.
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  • We can never in all of our words and lofty the actions
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  • That's where the supernatural comes in.
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  • We have to live a life that is leaving room for the
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  • Supernatural to move in us and move through us.
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  • - and 100% sweet leslie my girl, how can we keep the faith when
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  • There's so much hate going on because our faith is not
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  • Tethered to a human being that hates.
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  • Our faith is tethered to a god that loves unconditionally.
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  • So we don't even have to honestly worry about our faith
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  • When it comes to people because our faith is not in
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  • Them.
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  • And i think we refocus our energies on putting our faith
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  • In the one who can actually hold it who is trustworthy
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  • Enough and from that place of overflow, i think that's how
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  • We keep going on sweet leslie girl.
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  • - i think when we choose to love people that we believe
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  • Are difficult, we really just choose to love the way jesus
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  • Loved us.
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  • And it should come from a place of deep connection and
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  • Longing and joy, not from pity or lording over someone like
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  • They are so difficult let me help them out.
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  • It should come from a place of being deeply seen, i see you
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  • Because the lord saw me.
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  • In my brokenness, in my pain and he loves me the same and i
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  • Want to be like jesus so i'm going to do the same.
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  • An interesting thing is leslie i'm saying two things, the
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  • Situation you're in, you're equipped for.
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  • And so you may think this person is draining the life
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  • Out of you, god is putting you in that person's path because
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  • He knows you can represent well.
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  • So you may not feel like it, god is not ever setting his
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  • Name up to be embarrassed he is setting you up for success
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  • And so asking for that insight to divine partnership and
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  • Realizing that because so much he is going on is why we need
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  • Faith.
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  • People need to see the flipside, and this kind of
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  • Dovetails into laura's question laura says how do you
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  • Forgive unkind neighbors?
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  • - you all got some unkind neighbors because people are
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  • Unkind.
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  • - i have never experienced that before.
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  • Does that happen?
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  • - like neighbor neighbors?
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  • - i don't know but we are just saying neighbor so we're going
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  • To try to hit it from the generic and specific, the unkind
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  • Neighbor this neighbor who does not love you back both of these
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  • Questions are kinda similar and one thing practically that
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  • Has helped me is the lord has really given me a new grace to
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  • Try to see people as a whole person and not the aspect that
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  • I interact with.
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  • And so even if the person i don't have a good working
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  • Relationship with my coworker or my neighbor, i'm like
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  • That's still somebody's daughter, somebody's son,
  • 00:12:04.747 --> 00:12:06.582
  • They had a childhood, they had dreams, there is a whole story
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  • To that person i know who they are today, in a very narrow
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  • Focus.
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  • This year, this address, this job i know very narrow slice
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  • Of that person and so the lord is challenge me to say just
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  • Imagine because the person that drives you the craziest
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  • If you find out that they are taking care of their mother
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  • Whose terminally ill, which one piece of information about
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  • You changes the way people treat you.
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  • You can deal with their bad attitude a little bit
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  • Differently so the lord has really impressed upon me what
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  • I call divine imagination i think it's the same c.s. lewis
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  • Kind of thing he would just be like just imagine the server
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  • That's not kind the neighbor, just imagine that there's
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  • Something going on in their life that would change the way
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  • You see them.
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  • You just assume that is true.
  • 00:12:58.734 --> 00:13:00.002
  • You treat them like they're part of a whole person, not
  • 00:13:00.002 --> 00:13:01.871
  • Just the interaction with you.
  • 00:13:01.871 --> 00:13:03.339
  • - so jesus shows us how to love people and show them
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  • Kindness even when they are not kind, by really
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  • Demonstrating that it is the kindness of the lord that sets
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  • Us up to love others with realistic expectations, the
  • 00:13:13.849 --> 00:13:17.286
  • Bible says it is the patience and the kindness of the lord
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  • That leads to repentance so it is in the times where it is
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  • Most difficult because you've been hurt or betrayed or
  • 00:13:23.959 --> 00:13:27.663
  • Someone's been unkind, that the lord gives us this divine
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  • Power to show compassion and grace.
  • 00:13:31.500 --> 00:13:32.801
  • People don't change because of condemnation and shame, it's
  • 00:13:32.801 --> 00:13:35.137
  • Compassion and grace and kindness that can soften even
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  • The hardest of hearts.
  • 00:13:40.676 --> 00:13:41.977
  • - so let me tell you i wish i truly wish that i could just
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  • Get a download of love and gentleness and kindness and
  • 00:13:46.582 --> 00:13:50.185
  • All the fruit of the spirit but unfortunately it is not a
  • 00:13:50.185 --> 00:13:56.258
  • Download over the air of the fruit of the spirit that
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  • Allows us to exhibit those things, it is as james tells
  • 00:13:59.795 --> 00:14:03.432
  • Us it is through trials that we actually grow the character
  • 00:14:03.432 --> 00:14:07.069
  • Of perseverance, and we truly need the supernatural fruit of
  • 00:14:07.069 --> 00:14:11.473
  • God in order to do what god is calling us to do.
  • 00:14:11.473 --> 00:14:15.244
  • So i think we have to just pray and ask the lord to give
  • 00:14:15.244 --> 00:14:19.281
  • Us what we cannot get on our own but trials produce when we
  • 00:14:19.281 --> 00:14:21.784
  • Are patient.
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  • - you said something about weakness versus wickness toni
  • 00:14:48.527 --> 00:14:51.496
  • Which i thought was great.
  • 00:14:51.496 --> 00:14:52.531
  • Because that gets in one of our youtubers.
  • 00:14:52.531 --> 00:14:54.800
  • They wrote this question: how do you love your neighbor,
  • 00:14:54.800 --> 00:14:57.569
  • Well and still have boundaries for yourself, like you've been
  • 00:14:57.569 --> 00:15:00.472
  • Exposed to the weakness of the person and how many times can
  • 00:15:00.472 --> 00:15:02.841
  • You forgive for the same sin?
  • 00:15:02.841 --> 00:15:06.011
  • I think we talked about that, forever infinitely, don't count,
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  • Don't even count.
  • 00:15:08.513 --> 00:15:09.781
  • I want to please god but i also want to have healthy
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  • Boundaries.
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  • Where's the balance?
  • 00:15:12.985 --> 00:15:13.719
  • This is a great question.
  • 00:15:13.719 --> 00:15:15.220
  • It's a great question and i think we have discussed this
  • 00:15:15.220 --> 00:15:17.823
  • Week what it means to have boundaries that are
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  • Self-centered and self protective versus god led, and
  • 00:15:22.127 --> 00:15:26.098
  • God will give you wisdom.
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  • God wants to honor himself god wants people to see his love.
  • 00:15:29.034 --> 00:15:30.836
  • So he only god can show you the boundary to said that
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  • Still points the person that god still leaves room for god
  • 00:15:33.672 --> 00:15:40.045
  • To work in their heart, keeps you safe but also gives room
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  • For his grace like he just works out all the things so
  • 00:15:42.681 --> 00:15:45.550
  • Boundaries are really great but we have to submit them to
  • 00:15:45.550 --> 00:15:48.854
  • The wisdom of the lord, have you guys had situations where
  • 00:15:48.854 --> 00:15:52.291
  • You had to set some boundaries?
  • 00:15:52.291 --> 00:15:54.092
  • And maybe revisit, or were they permanent, what's been your
  • 00:15:54.092 --> 00:15:58.664
  • Experience with boundaries?
  • 00:15:58.664 --> 00:15:59.965
  • - i have to be honest, i'm not really great at boundaries.
  • 00:15:59.965 --> 00:16:02.034
  • I am a recovering people pleaser, and i just really
  • 00:16:02.034 --> 00:16:05.470
  • Love people.
  • 00:16:05.470 --> 00:16:08.507
  • I actually needed friendships to help me do this really
  • 00:16:08.507 --> 00:16:12.010
  • Well.
  • 00:16:12.010 --> 00:16:13.745
  • I have needed people to say toni, you've gone back a few
  • 00:16:13.745 --> 00:16:17.916
  • Times now, like i've just needed friends to help me
  • 00:16:17.916 --> 00:16:24.423
  • Shape those boundaries which is why our community is so
  • 00:16:24.423 --> 00:16:27.259
  • Powerful.
  • 00:16:27.259 --> 00:16:28.527
  • Because if you really do have great godly loving friends
  • 00:16:28.527 --> 00:16:31.897
  • They are going to step in and help guide you and lead you
  • 00:16:31.897 --> 00:16:33.098
  • Like hey i don't think is healthy.
  • 00:16:33.098 --> 00:16:34.666
  • That actually be concerned if you did not leave if you do
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  • Not put a boundary in place, and so for me it's been really
  • 00:16:38.337 --> 00:16:41.473
  • Important to have accountability and friendship
  • 00:16:41.473 --> 00:16:43.108
  • And openness and friendship so that i am able to say hey this
  • 00:16:43.108 --> 00:16:46.912
  • Is happening like in my tripping, drawing you to set a
  • 00:16:46.912 --> 00:16:49.614
  • Boundary here, etc. so i think we also have to define what it
  • 00:16:49.614 --> 00:16:52.617
  • Means to have a boundary.
  • 00:16:52.617 --> 00:16:54.686
  • Because what many people do is they use that term to
  • 00:16:54.686 --> 00:16:58.657
  • Basically say i'm cutting you off.
  • 00:16:58.657 --> 00:16:59.958
  • The way that i think of boundaries as i think of them
  • 00:16:59.958 --> 00:17:04.162
  • As property lines so it's like i have my house, this is the
  • 00:17:04.162 --> 00:17:05.831
  • Land, that i am responsible for within the boundary line.
  • 00:17:05.831 --> 00:17:09.167
  • I am responsible for everything that happens on
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  • This piece of property that is what i own.
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  • When we get over the boundary line now were talking about
  • 00:17:15.207 --> 00:17:18.610
  • What you own and you are responsible for and so we need
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  • To have mature conversation with somebody, who we need to
  • 00:17:21.480 --> 00:17:26.651
  • Establish a boundary because the boundary is basically
  • 00:17:26.651 --> 00:17:28.587
  • Saying look here's what i'm accountable for this is what i
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  • Own this is the piece you are accountable for this is what you
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  • Own.
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  • Now if you decide that you are not to be responsible for your
  • 00:17:34.359 --> 00:17:37.496
  • Piece that's totally fine but that creates a scenario where
  • 00:17:37.496 --> 00:17:39.030
  • Now we have to talk about well what does that look like?
  • 00:17:39.030 --> 00:17:43.368
  • - i'm still going to cut my grass.
  • 00:17:43.368 --> 00:17:45.737
  • But what you're not going to do is not come over on my
  • 00:17:45.737 --> 00:17:52.043
  • Property and throw trash and all the stuff.
  • 00:17:52.043 --> 00:17:53.345
  • I would say that at least in the church, i think sometimes
  • 00:17:53.345 --> 00:17:56.181
  • We have the opposite problem, which is enmeshment.
  • 00:17:56.181 --> 00:17:59.484
  • It's like instead of me saying here's what i own here's what
  • 00:17:59.484 --> 00:18:04.389
  • You own, it's oh my gosh you're not taking care of
  • 00:18:04.389 --> 00:18:07.192
  • Yourselves will be take care of yourself and i'm resentful
  • 00:18:07.192 --> 00:18:12.631
  • Because i'm taking care of your stuff.
  • 00:18:12.631 --> 00:18:13.899
  • And you didn't acknowledge that i took care of your stuff
  • 00:18:13.899 --> 00:18:15.200
  • But the person never asked you to do that but you also did
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  • Not clarify where i end and where you began.
  • 00:18:16.234 --> 00:18:19.171
  • Clarity is kindness in relationships and boundaries.
  • 00:18:19.171 --> 00:18:22.107
  • I also think that we love to turn really holy things into
  • 00:18:22.107 --> 00:18:27.379
  • Really unhealthy things like boundaries are biblical, the
  • 00:18:27.379 --> 00:18:30.115
  • Lord put boundaries on adam and eve, you can do all of
  • 00:18:30.115 --> 00:18:37.189
  • This over here but you can't do this right here.
  • 00:18:37.189 --> 00:18:38.390
  • And really i think boundaries can be healthy if you
  • 00:18:38.390 --> 00:18:41.660
  • Recognize that boundaries are really a guide for how people
  • 00:18:41.660 --> 00:18:47.732
  • Should treat you.
  • 00:18:47.732 --> 00:18:49.000
  • One of the boundaries that i have in friendship is that i
  • 00:18:49.000 --> 00:18:51.303
  • Don't like joking on each other.
  • 00:18:51.303 --> 00:18:53.872
  • I don't like that.
  • 00:18:53.872 --> 00:18:56.608
  • Now some people love ragging on each other kind of like
  • 00:18:56.608 --> 00:18:59.711
  • Joking, making fun of me, i came from a verbally
  • 00:18:59.711 --> 00:19:01.780
  • Abusive background, it is not good for me.
  • 00:19:01.780 --> 00:19:05.550
  • I can politely say to a friend because i know that this is
  • 00:19:05.550 --> 00:19:08.620
  • Not good for me, i can politely say hey i would love
  • 00:19:08.620 --> 00:19:11.623
  • To make this relationship a little bit deeper would love
  • 00:19:11.623 --> 00:19:14.493
  • To get intentional, i also know that clarity is kindness
  • 00:19:14.493 --> 00:19:17.362
  • And i want to be really good at being kind to you by
  • 00:19:17.362 --> 00:19:19.965
  • Explaining to you some of the boundaries that i have around
  • 00:19:19.965 --> 00:19:22.367
  • My heart.
  • 00:19:22.367 --> 00:19:23.702
  • Like i just don't do well with joking on each other, i don't
  • 00:19:23.702 --> 00:19:27.172
  • Do that i will never do that to you, i would really
  • 00:19:27.172 --> 00:19:30.742
  • Appreciate if you didn't do that to me it makes me feel
  • 00:19:30.742 --> 00:19:32.911
  • Very unsafe, well now i've given people a boundary that
  • 00:19:32.911 --> 00:19:35.514
  • Does not exclude them from loving me it actually helps
  • 00:19:35.514 --> 00:19:38.416
  • Them love me better.
  • 00:19:38.416 --> 00:19:39.518
  • And that's kindness.
  • 00:19:39.518 --> 00:19:41.353
  • - the kindness to cross that boundary line.
  • 00:19:41.353 --> 00:19:44.856
  • You could say the approach to them is much easier because we
  • 00:19:44.856 --> 00:19:51.830
  • Talked about this before.
  • 00:19:51.830 --> 00:19:53.231
  • - i think that it's great for us to give unconditional love
  • 00:19:53.231 --> 00:19:58.336
  • Like god gives to us.
  • 00:19:58.336 --> 00:20:00.005
  • And the truth is boundaries are biblical and so god set
  • 00:20:00.005 --> 00:20:03.675
  • Boundaries with us as well.
  • 00:20:03.675 --> 00:20:06.311
  • So we should try to be like god.
  • 00:20:06.311 --> 00:20:09.714
  • Give unconditional love and also have boundaries that are
  • 00:20:09.714 --> 00:20:12.450
  • Biblical and of him.
  • 00:20:12.450 --> 00:20:14.052
  • So what does it look like?
  • 00:20:14.052 --> 00:20:17.055
  • For you to ask the lord how can i love your son or the
  • 00:20:17.055 --> 00:20:18.924
  • Daughter with the same love that you love me and how can i
  • 00:20:18.924 --> 00:20:20.992
  • Set boundaries like you did god with my best intention not
  • 00:20:20.992 --> 00:20:25.630
  • To exclude me or to hurt me, but actually to protect me,
  • 00:20:25.630 --> 00:20:29.868
  • How can i protect the people in my life like you do lord.
  • 00:20:29.868 --> 00:20:32.737
  • - a boundary without consequences is a suggestion.
  • 00:20:32.737 --> 00:20:39.411
  • It's actually not a boundary at all, and again that's a
  • 00:20:39.411 --> 00:20:42.714
  • Weakness of mine.
  • 00:20:42.714 --> 00:20:45.717
  • It's like it's okay even with my children if you do that
  • 00:20:45.717 --> 00:20:48.687
  • This is going to happen and then it doesn't happen.
  • 00:20:48.687 --> 00:20:50.655
  • And then i'm still buying stuff in the mall from looking
  • 00:20:50.655 --> 00:20:52.824
  • Around.
  • 00:20:52.824 --> 00:20:54.893
  • And it's actually not doing my kids a service at all, it's
  • 00:20:54.893 --> 00:20:56.995
  • Doing them a disservice because they are not
  • 00:20:56.995 --> 00:20:59.798
  • Understanding the boundaries come with consequences.
  • 00:20:59.798 --> 00:21:01.166
  • - oh see to me though, the faith piece becomes important, the
  • 00:21:01.166 --> 00:21:06.304
  • Boundary should also benefit the other person.
  • 00:21:06.304 --> 00:21:09.507
  • It should not just be how i'm protecting myself.
  • 00:21:09.507 --> 00:21:12.577
  • - the boundary should not hurt them, it should be something
  • 00:21:12.577 --> 00:21:17.582
  • That's either going to help them grow or mature but it
  • 00:21:17.582 --> 00:21:20.318
  • Should not be that you crossed this line.
  • 00:21:20.318 --> 00:21:23.722
  • - this is a good example of what you said.
  • 00:21:23.722 --> 00:21:26.725
  • I mean really in friendship we should not be being unkind
  • 00:21:26.725 --> 00:21:28.526
  • In a funny way, it's actually making that person a better
  • 00:21:28.526 --> 00:21:35.066
  • Friend to every friend they have.
  • 00:21:35.066 --> 00:21:38.503
  • - so youtuber when it comes to setting your boundaries, we
  • 00:21:38.503 --> 00:21:42.707
  • Just say pray ask the lord for wisdom and then decide what is
  • 00:21:42.707 --> 00:21:45.944
  • Reasonable what's the nature of your relationship, but how often
  • 00:21:45.944 --> 00:21:48.913
  • Do you interact with this person what's wise you need to say
  • 00:21:48.913 --> 00:21:52.083
  • Something verbally or decide something nonverbally until
  • 00:21:52.083 --> 00:21:55.153
  • You all agree on it?
  • 00:21:55.153 --> 00:21:56.521
  • I think there is not a right or wrong way to do it but if
  • 00:21:56.521 --> 00:21:59.457
  • You do approach it with prayer and wisdom, with the goal of
  • 00:21:59.457 --> 00:22:02.127
  • Honoring god, then it will work itself out.
  • 00:22:02.127 --> 00:22:05.196
  • And be willing to change.
  • 00:22:05.196 --> 00:22:06.631
  • Right, okay.
  • 00:22:06.631 --> 00:22:08.133
  • So leah has a really good question, how do you love your
  • 00:22:08.133 --> 00:22:12.337
  • Physical neighbor who was dealing drugs?
  • 00:22:12.337 --> 00:22:15.473
  • - i'm sorry leah, this is really sad.
  • 00:22:15.473 --> 00:22:18.343
  • - putting your own family at risk.
  • 00:22:18.343 --> 00:22:21.846
  • We have tried to show lovingkindness but they're lost
  • 00:22:21.846 --> 00:22:24.549
  • And their brokenness.
  • 00:22:24.549 --> 00:22:27.719
  • So i don't know if this is like the laws involved.
  • 00:22:27.719 --> 00:22:31.823
  • - yes i would think that there is something that needs to be
  • 00:22:31.823 --> 00:22:32.824
  • Considered at least there about the law.
  • 00:22:32.824 --> 00:22:34.092
  • - the thing is, there are some things that lead to really
  • 00:22:34.092 --> 00:22:35.727
  • Dysfunction.
  • 00:22:35.727 --> 00:22:38.129
  • I think in christian spaces we think that god wants us to be
  • 00:22:38.129 --> 00:22:41.299
  • Unsafe.
  • 00:22:41.299 --> 00:22:42.634
  • Like that is not that kind of unconditional love you have a
  • 00:22:42.634 --> 00:22:44.536
  • Family to protect.
  • 00:22:44.536 --> 00:22:46.504
  • So i don't know if you can move, but i would first
  • 00:22:46.504 --> 00:22:50.041
  • Honestly be praying for the lord's protection.
  • 00:22:50.041 --> 00:22:52.410
  • That he is your advocate, pray the lord's protection all
  • 00:22:52.410 --> 00:22:55.547
  • Over that family because if you are in a place where you
  • 00:22:55.547 --> 00:22:58.616
  • Cannot control your environment, that is when you
  • 00:22:58.616 --> 00:23:01.152
  • Are calling down the advocacy of the lord like nobody's
  • 00:23:01.152 --> 00:23:03.421
  • Business.
  • 00:23:03.421 --> 00:23:04.723
  • And maybe right now the lord is not giving you something to
  • 00:23:04.723 --> 00:23:09.360
  • Do for this person, it might just be trusting his
  • 00:23:09.360 --> 00:23:12.297
  • Protection and then at the right time you know there
  • 00:23:12.297 --> 00:23:14.799
  • Might be some opportunity to witness to share the gospel
  • 00:23:14.799 --> 00:23:17.368
  • But man not at the risk of safety.
  • 00:23:17.368 --> 00:23:20.405
  • And we are going to pray for you leah because that is rough
  • 00:23:20.405 --> 00:23:26.411
  • To be put in that situation and obviously be praying for
  • 00:23:26.411 --> 00:23:29.514
  • This person who is taking part in the illegal activities but
  • 00:23:29.514 --> 00:23:32.851
  • I mean seriously.
  • 00:23:32.851 --> 00:23:34.786
  • - it's literally a danger to you and your family anything can
  • 00:23:34.786 --> 00:23:38.556
  • Pop off any time someone could break-in, that is to me
  • 00:23:38.556 --> 00:23:40.892
  • A significant boundary violation.
  • 00:23:40.892 --> 00:23:43.728
  • - because you are in a spot where you can't move because
  • 00:23:43.728 --> 00:23:46.598
  • That's not always an option, you have to believe that the
  • 00:23:46.598 --> 00:23:49.667
  • Protection of the lord is greater than the danger of
  • 00:23:49.667 --> 00:23:53.004
  • Man.
  • 00:23:53.004 --> 00:23:54.172
  • That he can somehow create this hedge of protection,
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  • His bubble around your family so you're not going to sleep
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  • At night worrying and wondering you can still be in
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  • A situation where maybe you can't control it and god can
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  • Still come through with protection and coverage and it
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  • Will be a testimony.
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  • - let me just quickly say about my mom.
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  • My mom was a widow at 33 and never remarried and a few
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  • Years ago she was in what we call counsel houses, housing
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  • Provided by the government.
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  • But there's a flat above and she's below, and the guy above
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  • Was bringing back prostitutes every night and the walls are
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  • So thin, and my poor sweet mom it was really because i went
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  • And stayed with her for a few days just to see what it was
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  • Like.
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  • It was awful.
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  • And what we ended up, the guy is not an easy guy to talk to
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  • Is not like we could even sit and reason with him and say
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  • Hey do get this, so what i did, actually anointed my
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  • Mom's doorpost, went around and anointed with oil for her
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  • Sleep and prayed for supernatural intervention by
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  • The lord because at that moment there is nothing else
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  • She could do and out of the blue the lord provided another
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  • Place and she moved but until then peace is not the absence
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  • Of trouble it is the presence of christ so my thing was on
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  • Praying for the presence of christ in the midst of
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  • Trouble.
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  • - one of the things that god promises us in scripture if we
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  • Ask for is wisdom.
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  • It says in several places if anybody lacks wisdom as god
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  • And he will gladly give it.
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  • Sometimes in relationships we need to have that too.
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  • You know we know that we been called to love sometimes it
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  • Can be in situations with people who are just not safe,
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  • I had to draw a kind of line with somebody once who was
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  • Just lying to me constantly and then coming to my home,
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  • Stealing things doing all sorts of things and it was not
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  • That i stopped loving that person but i drew a line
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  • And said at some point if things shift, it will be
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  • Lovely for us to walk together again, but just now, that kind
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  • Of behavior is just not acceptable, you are in a
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  • Relationship with someone and it's not safe, it's totally
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  • Okay to say you know what, i just need a little space right
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  • Now, god does not expect you to put yourself in the
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  • Situation where you're not safe.
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  • Particularly i think of women who maybe are in a situation
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  • Where they are being abused that is never god's plan for
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  • You, that is never never what god wants god wants more than
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  • That for you, talk to someone else that you trust, find a
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  • Trusted friend find a pastor and share that burden
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  • Galatians chapter 6 is bear one another's burdens and so
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  • Fulfill the love of christ don't walk through it alone.
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  • - so i got to go to st. quinton the prison in a couple
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  • Months, if it does get to the point where it's
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  • Unsafe, and there really is no other option the authorities
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  • Need to be called, i heard a pastor say to prisoners this
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  • Prison is god's grace for you.
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  • - i was hoping somebody would say that.
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  • - because he stopped you instead of continuing to let
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  • You go on into eternity in this way.
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  • He literally stopped you from doing your illegal activities,
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  • And changed your life, literally giving you a detour
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  • So that the holy disruption and so all i want to say is i
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  • Know it can be difficult to call the authorities, it can
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  • Feel very convincing, to have someone to get someone in
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  • Trouble.
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  • And it can be god's grace for that person's life, acting
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  • Through you, to put a roadblock in their life
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  • Instead of continuing to let them live in sin.
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  • We thank you so much for these amazing questions that you
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  • Have sent and we could not get all of them but i know we will
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  • Be doing this again and i want to pray for those of you who
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  • Submitted questions and those of you still have questions
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  • That this whole conversation about community and love and
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  • Forgiveness would just resonate and show up in the real
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  • Practical way.
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  • So it doesn't feel like out of reach spiritually, real
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  • Practical and we can be different because of it.
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  • Let's pray.
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  • Father we are so grateful for the privilege to interact with
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  • Your sons and daughters and to hear what they have to say, we
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  • Thank you for their hearts that want to know the right
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  • Way to handle hard situations, sometimes it can feel
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  • Overwhelming to try to love like you, and forgive like you
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  • And be kind like you, when we are facing unkind people or
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  • Dangerous situations or just chaos that surrounds us, so i
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  • Thank you so much for each question i thank you for the
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  • Insight you have given us in this conversation, and i just
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  • Pray lord that you would give us a dependency a renewed
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  • Dependency as we look at all the kinds of people you have
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  • Asked us to love and all of the situations with
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  • Forgiveness and offense and kindness and understanding and
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  • Compassion, it is impossible to try to navigate and make
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  • The right decisions on our own.
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  • We pray for the guidance of the holy spirit.
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  • Would you just guide us all in our day-to-day decisions so
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  • That we honor your love well and ultimately point people
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  • Back to you.
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  • In jesus' name we pray amen.
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  • - connect with us on social media and let us know how our
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  • Team can pray for you.
  • 00:29:11.456 --> 00:29:12.657
  • - prayer can be such an expression of love and
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  • Sometimes it feels like prayer is not as much doing so it's
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  • Like oh well i want to serve them and i'll pray for them
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  • And say what if prayer is the most important thing you can
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  • Do for someone for our relationship for even a
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  • Relationship for the two of you to grow, i think we
  • 00:29:30.608 --> 00:29:33.544
  • Underestimate what that space that we hold for intercession
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  • For someone what god can really do to move in their
  • 00:29:37.982 --> 00:29:41.152
  • Life to move in the heart and not only that but how prayer
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  • For someone else will connect your heart to them and their
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  • Situation, so don't underestimate the power prayer
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  • In every friendship.
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