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Seeing God When Seasons Change - Episode 1111

November 3, 2025 | S7 E1111 | 52:34

A new job, a big move, a loss, or a celebration--our lives are constantly changing. In every season, God is at work. He equips every new beginning, reminds us of our true identity, and reveals His purpose step-by-step. | TBN Prayer Line: 714-731-1000

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Better Together | Seeing God When Seasons Change - Episode 1111 | November 3, 2025

- scripture tells us there's a time and a season for
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Everything.
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Seeing god when seasons change can help us stay present and
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Learn all that he has for us right now.
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Come on, let's talk about it.
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♪ (music playing) ♪
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- there's some verses in the bible, you know, ecclesiastes
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3, most of us would know them.
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You know, it starts out saying there's a time for everything
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And a season for every, i think one translation says, a
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Season for every activity under heaven.
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So when i look at that, it means that there's a right
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Time for something and a wrong time for something, right?
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And then it lists all these at time to's, right?
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A time to be born, a time to die, time to plan, a time to
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Weep, a time to laugh, castaway stones, a time to
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Fight, refrain from fighting.
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Although i might lean more toward the fighting parts over
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Refrain.
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But it lists all these time to's.
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And so for me, it makes me think that we're like, you
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Know, trapped in the realities between those two extremes.
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And i think that's life on planet earth, right?
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And yet, at the end of all those the time to's, it says
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That he's put eternity in our heart.
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So while we feel trapped, there's this longing in us for
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Something that's beyond that.
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And so i started just even thinking about how this verse
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Might relate just to my life.
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And, you know, philip and i pastored a church in los
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Angeles for 35 years.
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And, you know, we birthed that baby, you know, in home bible
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Study and went through all of the, you know, had our kids
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While we were doing that.
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We gave our life to building a church in a very secular city.
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It was an urban city.
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This was, everybody else was running for the suburbs and
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Certainly not in l.a., and we hunkered down and built the
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Church in los angeles.
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And so gave our life to do that.
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And then a few years ago, we just realized that it was time
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To hand it over to the next generation.
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You know after 35 years it was time for somebody else,
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Another couple to take it and lead.
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And i think it sounded so good and it is good sometimes
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People hold on too long to things they need to let go and
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I'm sure that will be our conversation we talk about so
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We handed it off and it was fine until i realized that was
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Such a change and realized that had been my identity.
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That had been what i'd done for so long.
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And now i'm in this new season.
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And the season, there's weeping and joy all in the
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Same moment, right?
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Because there's joy, because it was the right thing, and
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I'm excited, and i mean, and they're crushing it.
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They're doing great.
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But then there's just sad because this was what i had
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Known.
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Right.
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This was where i was.
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And so i think sometimes when we are stepping into something
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New, when a change is happening, i don't know.
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And we instigated it, sometimes change we instigate
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You tend to like more.
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Nobody appreciates change that you inflict on you but you
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Like it more but still.
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And still, there was just that tension between the time to's,
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And it was the right thing it was the right time to.
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Right?
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And still there was all the emotions that come with
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Change.
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I had to navigate some of that.
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And the good thing, like it freed me up, and there was
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Always things that were desires in my heart that i
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Wanted to do and accomplish that now i feel like i can,
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That i didn't have the time to when i was doing the day in
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And day out of leading a church.
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So there's great things that have come out of that.
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But man, for the first few months after that, it was
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Tricky for me.
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Yeah.
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It was tricky just kind of navigating a change that
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Philip and i instigated.
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Right?
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- change can come a variety of ways.
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Sometimes it's because of decisions we make.
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Sometimes it's what god allows.
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But what i have learned to see over time is that god weaves
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Things together for our good.
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That's the truth of romans 8:28.
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It doesn't always feel good when you're in the middle of
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It, but if you get past it and you choose to believe that,
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When you look back at it, you can see god's hand.
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Sometimes it takes a week, sometimes it takes a year,
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Sometimes it takes a decade.
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But the question is that i always ask myself anyway,
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Where was god?
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Where is god in my story?
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And if i look and believe i find him, i always do.
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- it's interesting when you talk about something you and
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Philip both knew, it was the right time.
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But there's still this shift.
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You suddenly wake up the next morning and you're not the
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Pastor of, da, da, da, da.
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And for me, it was a different kind of thing because i was, i
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Co-hosted the 700 club for five years.
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And then my life kind of crashed, and i ended up in a
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Hospital.
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And, i actually remember the psychiatrist saying to me, who
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Are you?
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And i said, i'm the co-host of the 700 club.
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And he said, no.
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That's not who you are.
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That's what you do.
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And he said, so who are you?
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And i said, i don't know.
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And he said, i know that.
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And that's why you're here.
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And it was so interesting because rather than, i mean, i
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Was there for a month, but rather than going back into
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Business as usual, i thought, you know what, lord, i went to
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Seminary when i was 19, and consciously to learn
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Everything i need to do to make sure you never stop
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Loving me.
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Because i really thought god's love was transactional.
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Because my father had loved me and then didn't love me,
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Apparently.
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So i thought the same could apply to god.
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Wow.
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I thought, no.
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And so i actually went back to seminary and i'm gonna write
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Down everything that you've already done, you know.
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But it was still this huge shift of, you know, waking up,
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Knowing where i'm going, a salary, a position, all this
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Stuff, suddenly that was all gone.
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But it actually was really good for me, because it made
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Me feel like it's just me, you know, here we go, lord.
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Let's start all over.
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- you know, that, in the end of that portion in
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Ecclesiastes, it says, i think, in verse 11, it says
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That he's made everything beautiful in its time.
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And one translation of that verse says, basically, beauty
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Takes time.
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And so a life that's beautiful, it actually takes
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All of the seasons.
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I mean, i want to focus on the left side of that, a time to
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Laugh, a time to be born, a time to you know, i like all
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Those.
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But a beautiful life takes, it takes all of them.
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It takes the change that comes from laughing to weeping.
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And, ugh, i just don't like that, though.
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Sometimes we might be, like, overwhelmed with whatever
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Season that we're in the middle of, and so we just want
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To get through it fast.
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We want to rush through it.
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And i understand that feeling.
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It's you know, when i was navigating cancer and i was
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Dealing with radiation, i just wanted to get through that
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Season.
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And and understandably, who wants to deal with that and at
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The same time i realized i was in that season that the people
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I got to care for and love on and pray for were in that
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Radiation waiting room, so it was the tension between trying to
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Rush through something and yet being alert and awake to the
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Season that i'm in right now, because here i am, so might as
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Well love these people.
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And so i just want to caution you.
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I know you might be in the middle of a hard season, but
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Why don't you just pray and ask god for wisdom?
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Like what?
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And he says he'll give it to us freely.
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That's what it says in the book of james, right?
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He'll give it to us freely.
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And so maybe ask him for, you know, wisdom, for how to
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Navigate this season, or is there anything that you need
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To learn while you're here?
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Because it will change.
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This season will change.
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And so i just want to make sure we get from the season
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That you get from the season what you need to get from it
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So don't rush through it, let's just ask god what we
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Need to learn as we're navigating.
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- i was listening to both of you it was drudging up all
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These memories because over the last year i have navigated
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A pretty significant transition in my own life.
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And, you know, i've been in executive leadership at some
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Really large companies for the last, like, 20 years, and the
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Lord called me away.
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Now, here's the thing.
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I knew maybe two years ago that that season was over.
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Like, i knew that the lord was calling me into ministry in a
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Very vocational way.
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- how did you know?
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Like, how did you know?
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- oh, well, it was, it was a sense that, and again, it's
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Just, it was a sense that i had done all that i could do.
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So you'd finished, like, it was almost, like, i had
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Finished.
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- yeah, it was like, i found myself kind of lifting out of
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One organization into another organization, and it was
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Basically like a copy-paste situation, you know?
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It's like i wasn't learning new things.
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I wasn't being stretched.
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It was basically just porting what i did in this season to
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Another season, well, the lord called me away.
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And i remember when i was very, when i was very sure
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That that whole part of my life was over, the first
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Question that popped up in my mind was, but if i'm not an
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Executive, what am i?
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You know, if i'm not the chief of this, if i'm not, you know,
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Senior vp of that, like, what am i?
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And as i reflect over this last year, i realize now,
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Because the first few months of it was very disconcerting,
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Very disconcerting.
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I mean, i didn't have meetings.
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I didn't have reports.
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You know, i didn't have all these big projects that i was
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Stewarding.
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I didn't have all of that.
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It was literally just me.
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And so i found myself creating work for myself because i...
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- that was comfortable.
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It was comfortable.
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It was familiar.
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And as i sit here, you know, a year later, i realized that
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The lord was not calling me away from a job.
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He was literally calling me away from an identity.
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And the thing about seasons changing and you both kinda
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Mentioned this.
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What i realize now is when the lord changes a season he isn't
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Just changing your vocation he isn't just changing your title
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He is changing your identity so we cannot take your old
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Identity into a new season.
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And it made me think about moses.
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I was actually as we were having this conversation, when
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The lord called moses, when he called him, it says in exodus
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Chapter 4, verse 10, he's going back and forth with god,
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And he's like, you got the wrong guy, right?
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So he says to god, he says, pardon your servant, lord, i
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Have never been eloquent, neither in the past, nor since
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You have spoken to your servant, i am slow of speech
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And tongue.
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And the lord said to him, who gave human beings their
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Mouths?
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Who makes them deaf or mute?
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Who gives them sight or makes them blind?
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Is it not i, the lord?
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Now go.
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I will help you speak and will teach you what to say.
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I think what caused moses to question what god was calling
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Him to is who he had been in the past.
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And i think that is what limits us from being able to
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Change, is our understanding of who we are in the past,
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What we were not able to do in the past.
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But when god calls us to a new season, he gives us exactly
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What we need for the new season, and we have to trust
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Him.
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And so i just want to encourage anyone who's
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Navigating a season now where you're like, i just don't feel
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Equipped for this season.
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It's okay.
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- and the old season wasn't wrong.
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Right.
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Sometimes i think that's what people do is so then they step
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Into something new and they go, oh, because that was bad.
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No, no, no.
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It got you here.
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Absolutely.
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There's something in it.
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- i think of it in terms of assignments.
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I know in a transition that my husband and i went through, it
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Was so helpful for me when i started thinking in terms of,
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If you think of a student going to a classroom where a
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Teacher gives an assignment and you go home and you do the
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Assignment, you turn the assignment in, and you're not
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Finished, but you also don't redo that assignment.
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You get a new assignment.
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And when i thought of that in kingdom terms, that some
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Assignments are short.
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Ours was 20 years long.
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I mean, you don't know the different times of the
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Assignment, but when it's time to turn that assignment in, if
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You will, the joy there is understanding that you always
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Get a new assignment.
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And if you can see it that way, that assignment was great
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For the time, but it's also great when that time ends and
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You get a new one.
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And it's because god has a new thing for you.
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We always, sometimes, i don't want to say always, but
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Oftentimes we're so aware of what we've lost that it's hard
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For us to really embrace what we're gaining.
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Because it's familiar to us, you know.
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And even what i was hearing you guys say, some of the
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Biggest shift, i think, for people, is because rhythm gets
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Off.
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You've been in a rhythm for so long.
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So, yes, it is your identity, but it's also just your
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Comfortability of the rhythm you're living.
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It's the life you were living.
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Yes.
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And sometimes whatever your new assignment is creates new
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Rhythms that feel uncomfortable.
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Yeah.
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And it's getting more familiar and comfortable with living
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With new rhythms.
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- you might feel as if you're kind of stuck in a season.
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You know, you watch other people getting new
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Opportunities or stepping into new things, and you feel like
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You've just been doing the same thing kind of over and
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Over and over again.
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When i've been in a season like that, one of the things
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The lord has taught me is just to stay faithful in that until
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The lord opens another door.
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And sometimes it takes longer than we think, but when you
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Trust god's timing, his timing is perfect.
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So even though it might seem like you're waiting for a
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While, wait with him.
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- listen, if you are thinking you've wasted a season or
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Seasons and have ignored the lessons god has been trying to
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Teach you, the good thing is we quote it all the time in
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Church, but it's so true.
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Romans 8:28, he uses all things to work together for
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The good of those who love god.
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And if you have wasted seasons like, let's not pretend that
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That's not the truth.
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But then use that as fuel to be super intentional in the
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Season that you're in.
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If you've fallen behind in a race, you don't give up.
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You just run faster, run with more intentionality and more
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Focus in the season that you're in.
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So know that god can use everything, even failures, to
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Accomplish his purposes in the world and in your life.
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And don't think that because you haven't done it right in
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The past, that that is an indicator of what god can do
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With your present and your future.
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- i remember at one point being almost angry with god
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- i remember at one point being almost angry with god
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Because i was thinking about what i lost.
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I was like, but the prestige and the resources and you got
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The paycheck and you got the team, you got the whole thing.
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The resume.
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I was angry.
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And the lord basically took me to the verse where it talks
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About blessed are those who mourn for they will be
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Comforted and he said no there's a difference between
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Grieving and mourning.
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He said right now you're grieving which means you're
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Looking at what you lost, which makes you angry, he said
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Mourning however you still have a sense of loss but
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There's also gratitude for what you had.
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And i was not taking inventory of the goodness of god in the
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Previous season.
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So i wasn't mourning.
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I was grieving.
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And he said, nona, when you get to the place that you're
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Actually thankful for what i did in the previous season,
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You will still mourn the loss.
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But there won't be the anger.
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There won't be the bitterness.
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There won't be the, why did you do this?
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Like, why?
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And i think that really freed me.
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And i was able to then begin mourning what was lost as
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Opposed to being angry.
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I think gratitude is so important for all the reasons
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That we know right, for one we are told in the word to be
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Grateful but i want to just give a different perspective
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That imagine that in a day you have so many thoughts in a day
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And your thoughts are going to be filled with something good,
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Bad, we even talked in the show that the majority of the
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Thoughts we have if we're not conscious of it could be
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Negative imagine you go through the whole day and
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Those are going to be filled with something.
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If you do not choose gratitude, i do believe that
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The default of human nature is to fill those thoughts every
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Day with something negative.
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So i want to encourage you and it's not just because
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We're told to in the bible, but there is a quota of
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Thoughts that you have all day that is a non-negotiable you
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Do not go through your day not thinking.
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So if you're going to be thinking i want to encourage
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You to make sure those thoughts are full of
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Gratitude.
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- dharius daniels i love him, i love listening to him, he
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Has an entire teaching on mastering the art of exits
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And so much of mastering the art of exits is about that.
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One of the things you have to master to make your exits
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Well, knowing that exits are going to be a part of life.
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Just if entrances are, then exits are.
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- we want the entrance, but not the exit.
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- that's right.
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And gratitude.
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Gratitude is one of the greatest things you have to
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Master when you exit is being so grateful for what god did
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In that season.
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And sometimes we start telling ourselves that because a
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Season ends, either we've fallen out of favor or we've
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Done something wrong or something that- there's a
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Reason.
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There can't ever just be, well, no, a season ends.
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Even though we live, our human experience is in seasons.
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So we know that seasons change.
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Yet when ours change, we think, well, what did i do
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Wrong or why does god's favor left me?
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That kind of thing.
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- don't you think we have to like normalize?
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We have to normalize transitions and change.
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Right.
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Normalize it.
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I just remember even leading a staff, leading a team, you
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Know, people would get all freaked out or bothered when
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Somebody's gonna leave the team and move across the
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Country and then they're like, no, this is normal.
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It's like normalizing change and transition.
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So then when it happens, we're not shocked, although i find
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Ourselves always shocked.
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Now, you probably never had to navigate change.
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Ever, ever.
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Never, ever.
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- no, i think, i love what you were saying because i, you
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Know, in our conversation about the seasons, it is
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Normalized.
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Yeah.
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And so we expect it.
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In fact, everything that we're saying mimics the calendar the
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Way it works.
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We cannot wait in the heat of summer for it to start to cool
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Off.
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And then it cools all the way off and we can't wait for it
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To start to warm up.
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And then we get into the spring and we're like, oh my
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Gosh, when will it stop raining?
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I mean, there's always-we were glad for it to come, and then
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We get into it, and we can't wait for it to be over.
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And if you live your life hoping that the last season
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Ends, only to get into the new season, to hope that that
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Season ends, this is how people get to the end of their
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Life and realize that it all went fast.
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So you engage in each season, choosing to show gratitude and
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Enjoying what the season holds because this season won't
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Last.
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I mean, we all know that, you know, when you, and you
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Probably have heard someone say to you and you're raising
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Your kids, they're like, enjoy it.
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You know, the days are long, but the years are short.
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And when you're in it, you want to slap whoever says it.
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You know what i'm saying?
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And then you realize, oh, the days are long and the years
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Are...
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And there's a realization where we're always behind the
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Eight ball in our natural enjoyment and appreciation for
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The season that we're in.
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So it takes gratitude, it takes intentionality to kind
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Of double down and seeing what there is to be seen,
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Appreciating what there is to appreciate, and learning that
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This is just the way it goes.
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I think, you know, when you mentioned moses, you know, the
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Bible talks in exodus 3 and 4 about his struggle of
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Insecurity.
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And, you know, who me?
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I can't do that.
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And later on in the new testament, the bible speaks
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Very clearly about how he was eloquent and he did command
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The space.
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So either god saw something in him that he did not see or god
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Developed something in him that was a seed.
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Either way, god always sees in a future season something that
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We don't see in our current season.
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- so i want you to think about the way god uses change this
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Way.
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If you were to sit with your legs crossed, and let's just
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Say you sit that way for, i don't know, five or six
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Minutes, there's going to come a point where you're going to
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Feel some discomfort and that's going to cause you to
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Change position.
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Discomfort is what god uses to cause us to change position in
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The natural, and he uses that discomfort as almost like a
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Signal that something has to change.
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So i often tell people when you feel that sense of being
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Unsettled don't forsake that because the lord is speaking
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Through it.
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- the israelites weren't grateful.
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And, you know, they left and they were like, how are we
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Going to eat?
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And then god gave them men, and they were like, but we
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Missed the leaks.
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Right.
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You know, and then god gave them quail and then our
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Stomachs are upset.
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I mean, we have mastered the art because we are imperfect
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Creatures of being unappreciative and ungrateful,
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Which lends us to not appreciating the season that
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We're in.
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So it is all about reframing.
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It's all about learning to reframe in the current season
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So you can see what there is to be seen.
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So when you were talking about people in your life, i mean,
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Yes, it is devastating.
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I remember i read it on twitter that's now x or, you
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Know, whatever we call it, i still call it twitter.
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But i don't know who this pastor was, but he made the
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Statement that he was exiting the ministry, he said, because
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Of how painful it was to have to keep receiving people and
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Giving them your whole heart to only have to release them
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And say goodbye.
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He said it is, he said, nobody talks about how painful and
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How raw my heart is from having to do this over and
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Over and over again.
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For years.
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They come into the church, you give them your whole heart,
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And then they leave sometimes disgruntled.
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The church isn't meeting my needs.
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You know, there's some people factor, whatever it is.
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He said, i just over and over it, he said, and i can't take
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The ongoing grief of the change of the seaons.
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He said, i just can't take it.
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And i've been thinking about what that looks like in my own
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Life because i think whether it's people that i have the
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Opportunity to work with in ministry or even my children
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As they leave and they go or relationships that end.
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And i thought, you know, we were going to be in it
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Forever.
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The grieving and the morning, both shades of that, that
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Happened in my own life.
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But there's a level of acceptance that i have learned
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To have and even with people as they come and go, to look
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At them when they walk in the door and to be able to say to
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Them as i say to my children, i don't know how long you'll
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Be here but for the time that you're here let's talk about
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How we can the most out of this, how this is good for
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You, how this is good for me.
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It's the, you know, the conversation i have with my
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Kids.
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Like, the seasons are changing and learning how to recognize
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The seasons are changing.
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The thing that has helped me to kind of connect with many
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Of the things we've been talking about is to realize
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That if i feel disconnected from a season, if i feel
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Disconnected from a person, if i'm feeling lament and loss,
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It's to check my attachment.
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And i'm thinking about john 15 when the bible says, i'm the
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Vine, you're the branches.
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If i am feeling disconnected, which is a lot of times what
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The season change is, it's a sense of disconnection, okay,
00:24:26.845 --> 00:24:29.414
Can i check my connection to the lord?
00:24:29.414 --> 00:24:32.450
Because every season is designed to take me from glory
00:24:32.450 --> 00:24:35.387
To glory and every season is designed for me to become more
00:24:35.387 --> 00:24:37.989
Like christ.
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So if i'm feeling that loss, where am i needing attachment?
00:24:39.658 --> 00:24:43.628
Good.
00:24:43.628 --> 00:24:45.564
So that i am getting my sense of connection and consistency
00:24:45.564 --> 00:24:48.466
From the one who i will be connected to forever because
00:24:48.466 --> 00:24:50.869
Eternity is in our hearts.
00:24:50.869 --> 00:24:53.438
- i think one of the things has helped me recognize god's
00:24:53.438 --> 00:24:56.174
Hand in seasons of change is simply looking back a little
00:24:56.174 --> 00:24:58.910
Bit.
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Because even when i go back to my childhood and all the years
00:25:02.013 --> 00:25:03.782
Since i've been in relationship with the lord, i
00:25:03.782 --> 00:25:08.587
See that god's hand shows up in ways that surprised me at
00:25:08.587 --> 00:25:10.755
Times, ways where the timing was not expected.
00:25:10.755 --> 00:25:13.391
But the one thing that i could tell you, absolutely, is that
00:25:13.391 --> 00:25:18.797
God has been faithful.
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And i know that if god shows up once, god is going to show
00:25:20.098 --> 00:25:22.767
Up again.
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- and then the question would be to also ask, have i made an
00:25:24.369 --> 00:25:25.870
Attachment to the person or the job or the whatever too
00:25:25.870 --> 00:25:30.008
Much, that that maybe was an idol in my heart?
00:25:30.008 --> 00:25:33.244
- because you're here.
00:25:33.244 --> 00:25:34.713
I can touch you, i can see you.
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The situation is easy.
00:25:37.449 --> 00:25:38.817
And so when the situation of the person is gone, it's like,
00:25:38.817 --> 00:25:40.051
Oh, where was i building in that way?
00:25:40.051 --> 00:25:42.220
- there was this movie that came out, maybe 20 years ago
00:25:42.220 --> 00:25:45.090
Or so called click.
00:25:45.090 --> 00:25:48.526
And the lead actor was given this remote that whenever
00:25:48.526 --> 00:25:52.497
Things got uncomfortable, do you remember this?
00:25:52.497 --> 00:25:56.501
He could fast forward it.
00:25:56.501 --> 00:25:57.802
He could fast-forward through it.
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And so at first, it was just a hard season.
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But then he started doing it more and more and more.
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So that he was fast-forwarding.
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And so while he's busy fast-forwarding, then he's
00:26:08.179 --> 00:26:11.049
Present, but not present with people.
00:26:11.049 --> 00:26:13.184
And so by the end of his life, everybody around him said, i
00:26:13.184 --> 00:26:17.555
Never felt like you were here.
00:26:17.555 --> 00:26:19.991
You were present with us.
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And so i started thinking.
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He was always somewhere else.
00:26:23.728 --> 00:26:24.696
He was always going ahead.
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Because it was a season that that was hard.
00:26:25.730 --> 00:26:28.266
And i started thinking, hello, childbirth.
00:26:28.266 --> 00:26:29.367
Wouldn't you like to go on?
00:26:29.367 --> 00:26:30.669
Just get to the end or, you know, cancer diagnosis or you
00:26:30.669 --> 00:26:35.440
Want to just quick get to the end of it.
00:26:35.440 --> 00:26:37.575
But if we believe that like a life of beauty takes all the
00:26:37.575 --> 00:26:39.878
Seasons, then it's what you said, it's being present in
00:26:39.878 --> 00:26:41.646
All the seasons.
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- well, there was a study done i don't know how many years
00:26:44.082 --> 00:26:48.887
Ago this was, but it found that so we have about 12,000
00:26:48.887 --> 00:26:51.823
Thoughts a day if not more.
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And at least 85% of those thoughts are negative and they
00:26:53.258 --> 00:27:01.766
Are consumed either with a past we cannot change or a
00:27:01.766 --> 00:27:05.336
Future we don't control.
00:27:05.336 --> 00:27:08.540
And so we don't live our lives in the present and what's
00:27:08.540 --> 00:27:13.978
Amazing is all we have is now.
00:27:13.978 --> 00:27:16.548
This moment is all we have and i was thinking about as you
00:27:16.548 --> 00:27:19.584
Were talking about attachment, attachment is really about
00:27:19.584 --> 00:27:22.687
Grounding because when you are connected to something it's in
00:27:22.687 --> 00:27:29.527
The moment and when i think about the lord and our
00:27:29.527 --> 00:27:33.098
Connection to god, when we are truly grounded in the lord,
00:27:33.098 --> 00:27:36.334
It's like he calls us to the moment because we can only
00:27:36.334 --> 00:27:39.137
Represent him in the moment.
00:27:39.137 --> 00:27:42.173
We can only minister to someone in the moment, when we
00:27:42.173 --> 00:27:44.576
Pray we are praying in the moment, studying in the moment
00:27:44.576 --> 00:27:46.678
All we have is the moment.
00:27:46.678 --> 00:27:48.613
We can't change the past you can't change the future, all
00:27:48.613 --> 00:27:51.282
You can do is shape the future in the present and you can
00:27:51.282 --> 00:27:55.320
Affect the past in the present.
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But even that requires the grace of god.
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- that is so good so just how many times have you like,
00:28:00.692 --> 00:28:04.162
Heard a song, and it takes you back.
00:28:04.162 --> 00:28:07.332
Yes, yes.
00:28:07.332 --> 00:28:08.566
Right, it takes you back to the moment that isn't now.
00:28:08.566 --> 00:28:10.769
Right.
00:28:10.769 --> 00:28:11.936
So you just reminded me, okay, so 20 years ago, i was
00:28:11.936 --> 00:28:14.572
Diagnosed with breast cancer, right?
00:28:14.572 --> 00:28:16.207
So i began that journey.
00:28:16.207 --> 00:28:18.343
And recently, i had just a checkup, just a regular
00:28:18.343 --> 00:28:21.446
Oncology checkup, and i go in to that room.
00:28:21.446 --> 00:28:24.783
Wow.
00:28:24.783 --> 00:28:28.586
I smell the smells, and i was taken, and i'm fine, i'm fine,
00:28:28.586 --> 00:28:30.088
But it just like took me back.
00:28:30.088 --> 00:28:36.194
Sometimes guys, perhaps more, you know, they relive their
00:28:36.194 --> 00:28:39.697
High school days.
00:28:39.697 --> 00:28:41.533
If they hadn't blown out their knee, that'd be a professional
00:28:41.533 --> 00:28:42.867
Advocate or whatever.
00:28:42.867 --> 00:28:45.370
And so then they have like the big statue or trophy, reliving
00:28:45.370 --> 00:28:47.338
A day that isn't today.
00:28:47.338 --> 00:28:48.807
Okay, so in 1979, some of you watching weren't born, pipe
00:28:48.807 --> 00:28:55.246
Down.
00:28:55.246 --> 00:28:56.114
So i won, like, a beauty pageant.
00:28:56.114 --> 00:28:57.949
Not surprising.
00:28:57.949 --> 00:29:00.285
I know.
00:29:00.285 --> 00:29:00.919
- can i see the wave?
00:29:00.919 --> 00:29:01.786
Do you have a wave?
00:29:01.786 --> 00:29:02.821
- i love that.
00:29:02.821 --> 00:29:03.822
World peace.
00:29:03.822 --> 00:29:04.622
I was dared, yeah, world peace.
00:29:04.622 --> 00:29:07.025
I was dared to enter it.
00:29:07.025 --> 00:29:08.726
So anyway, it was a long story.
00:29:08.726 --> 00:29:10.428
But i won this.
00:29:10.428 --> 00:29:12.297
But how weird would it be?
00:29:12.297 --> 00:29:14.799
And it was fun.
00:29:14.799 --> 00:29:15.400
I enjoyed the year.
00:29:15.400 --> 00:29:16.401
It was like, and i'm done with all that.
00:29:16.401 --> 00:29:17.936
But how weird would it be if today i showed up with crown
00:29:17.936 --> 00:29:19.904
And my banner for you know 40 years later as if it's that
00:29:19.904 --> 00:29:23.541
Normal but how many times do we do that that just reminded
00:29:23.541 --> 00:29:27.812
Me we bring yeah.
00:29:27.812 --> 00:29:29.681
- we can see it in other people because if you showed
00:29:29.681 --> 00:29:32.450
Up with a crown and a and banner we'd be like holly we'd
00:29:32.450 --> 00:29:34.819
Be like girl let it go you're like if you are in a season of
00:29:34.819 --> 00:29:38.122
Your life and you were trying to dress like you're 18 people
00:29:38.122 --> 00:29:40.792
Will look at you and be like what does she do yeah so we
00:29:40.792 --> 00:29:43.895
Can recognize it in other people.
00:29:43.895 --> 00:29:46.664
Yes, but it's hard to recognize.
00:29:46.664 --> 00:29:47.866
Yes.
00:29:47.866 --> 00:29:49.167
- but when we hold on to that, what we do, and this is the
00:29:49.167 --> 00:29:51.135
Heartbreaking part of it, and it gets back to identity, when
00:29:51.135 --> 00:29:54.706
We hold on to who we were, we actually can't lay hold of who
00:29:54.706 --> 00:29:58.576
God is calling us to be.
00:29:58.576 --> 00:29:59.711
Yes.
00:29:59.711 --> 00:30:01.846
No, you're right.
00:30:00.979 --> 00:30:03.181
Who we are to become is always connected to who we are in the
00:30:03.181 --> 00:30:05.350
Moment.
00:30:05.350 --> 00:30:06.651
So you can't even become what god is calling you to if you
00:30:06.651 --> 00:30:09.721
Are not already who he has called you to be.
00:30:09.721 --> 00:30:11.923
And i think that's where we, that's where, again, that's
00:30:11.923 --> 00:30:15.860
The enemy's playground, is to make you think, well, if you
00:30:15.860 --> 00:30:19.130
Were still the co-host of the 700 club, then you would
00:30:19.130 --> 00:30:22.000
Matter.
00:30:22.000 --> 00:30:23.234
And so now you're grieving because that is what gave me
00:30:23.234 --> 00:30:26.638
Identity and worth, not recognizing that god released
00:30:26.638 --> 00:30:28.539
You from that because there's something else he's calling
00:30:28.539 --> 00:30:31.743
You to, which is equally, if not more significant.
00:30:31.743 --> 00:30:34.646
Because think about it, i mean, the lives that you've
00:30:34.646 --> 00:30:37.015
Touched, that the people who have found hope because of
00:30:37.015 --> 00:30:40.685
What god took you through had nothing to do with you
00:30:40.685 --> 00:30:44.589
Cohosting the 700 club.
00:30:44.589 --> 00:30:45.823
Because you didn't fast forward through a season that
00:30:45.823 --> 00:30:47.892
Was horrible.
00:30:47.892 --> 00:30:50.028
You walked through the season so god was able to create
00:30:50.028 --> 00:30:52.897
Something in you that now became a platform for other
00:30:52.897 --> 00:30:54.532
Peoples' healing.
00:30:54.532 --> 00:30:55.833
But imagine if you would've said but i was the co-host of
00:30:55.833 --> 00:30:57.235
The 700 club and you never stepped into that new
00:30:57.235 --> 00:30:59.203
Identity.
00:30:59.203 --> 00:31:00.972
- it's so, so good, nona, because i remember the last,
00:31:00.972 --> 00:31:04.442
Very last day when you check out of a psych hospital, i've
00:31:04.442 --> 00:31:07.378
Been there for a month, my doctor called out of his
00:31:07.378 --> 00:31:10.815
Office window.
00:31:10.815 --> 00:31:12.083
I'm walking back to my car, got my car keys back, i'm an
00:31:12.083 --> 00:31:13.985
Adult again.
00:31:13.985 --> 00:31:15.720
And he said to me, sheila, and i turned around and he said,
00:31:15.720 --> 00:31:19.190
Who are you?
00:31:19.190 --> 00:31:20.792
I said, i'm a daughter of the king.
00:31:20.792 --> 00:31:22.493
It was just this, and that sounds like a very easy thing
00:31:22.493 --> 00:31:25.730
To say it, but it was a huge thing for me because growing
00:31:25.730 --> 00:31:27.832
Up, if you wanted to be- in my heart if you wanted to be
00:31:27.832 --> 00:31:31.035
Significant for god you were in ministry.
00:31:31.035 --> 00:31:32.804
Because i was brought up in the baptist church that was
00:31:32.804 --> 00:31:34.272
Very traditional, i couldn't be a pastor, so my only choice
00:31:34.272 --> 00:31:36.307
Was to be a missionary so that's why i went to seminary.
00:31:36.307 --> 00:31:38.710
To train to be a missionary in india.
00:31:38.710 --> 00:31:40.678
Because then i would be full time work, i would be in
00:31:40.678 --> 00:31:47.418
Ministry and god would love me.
00:31:47.418 --> 00:31:48.586
And when everything fell apart, and i was finally, i
00:31:48.586 --> 00:31:52.056
Came to a place of realizing, if i work in walmart, i'm in
00:31:52.056 --> 00:31:56.394
Ministry.
00:31:56.394 --> 00:31:58.029
It doesn't matter anymore.
00:31:58.029 --> 00:31:59.263
There was this sense of, you know, you talk a lot about
00:31:59.263 --> 00:32:02.900
Identity.
00:32:02.900 --> 00:32:03.601
It's huge.
00:32:03.601 --> 00:32:04.302
It's everything.
00:32:04.302 --> 00:32:06.404
Yeah, it absolutely is.
00:32:06.404 --> 00:32:07.605
Because even it's like it's not enough for me to be
00:32:07.605 --> 00:32:09.240
Christian's mom or barry's wife.
00:32:09.240 --> 00:32:11.509
Any of those things can shift in a moment.
00:32:11.509 --> 00:32:14.245
Things can change.
00:32:14.245 --> 00:32:15.446
People can be gone.
00:32:15.446 --> 00:32:16.748
But who i am, when you have eternity written all over your
00:32:16.748 --> 00:32:19.984
Heart, is something that just keeps you taking the next step
00:32:19.984 --> 00:32:22.720
Into the next season and not being afraid.
00:32:22.720 --> 00:32:24.689
- and that, see, that's the part that helps you navigate
00:32:24.689 --> 00:32:30.161
The change of the season because god doesn't change.
00:32:30.161 --> 00:32:31.796
Right.
00:32:31.796 --> 00:32:33.464
So the season may change.
00:32:33.464 --> 00:32:34.866
- i prayed that this morning in the car.
00:32:34.866 --> 00:32:37.168
I'm coming here and i'm like, lord, here's one of my
00:32:37.168 --> 00:32:38.870
Problems.
00:32:38.870 --> 00:32:39.871
I change all the time, and you never do.
00:32:39.871 --> 00:32:42.240
And i just want to pause here on the way to the studio
00:32:42.240 --> 00:32:45.243
Before i get to better together and say, thank you,
00:32:45.243 --> 00:32:48.046
You never change.
00:32:48.046 --> 00:32:49.847
And i'm still in a place where i'm thinking, i think god
00:32:49.847 --> 00:32:52.850
Thought i did better yesterday than i did the day before.
00:32:52.850 --> 00:32:55.453
And i'm like, god is not like that.
00:32:55.453 --> 00:32:58.256
You know, the way that we try and project onto god,
00:32:58.256 --> 00:33:01.192
Significance, personal based on what kind of day we
00:33:01.192 --> 00:33:04.862
Had, as opposed to just...
00:33:04.862 --> 00:33:07.799
I mean, i just...
00:33:07.799 --> 00:33:10.001
I had a moment in my car.
00:33:10.001 --> 00:33:10.902
I was just like, i could just...
00:33:10.902 --> 00:33:12.103
- you're having church in your car.
00:33:12.103 --> 00:33:12.703
- yes!
00:33:12.703 --> 00:33:13.905
I wonder how much of our time is spent, thinking about
00:33:13.905 --> 00:33:17.275
Things that happened in the past that we wish we could
00:33:17.275 --> 00:33:20.378
Change and thinking about things that might happen in
00:33:20.378 --> 00:33:22.847
The future that we have no control over.
00:33:22.847 --> 00:33:24.849
One of the things that god is teaching me, and i say
00:33:24.849 --> 00:33:27.952
Teaching me, because it's taking time, is to really be
00:33:27.952 --> 00:33:30.021
Present, to really live in the present moment.
00:33:30.021 --> 00:33:33.057
I love the fact that when jesus was teaching his friends
00:33:33.057 --> 00:33:36.227
To pray he said give us this day our daily bread, not our
00:33:36.227 --> 00:33:39.931
Weekly bread, or monthly bread, give us our daily
00:33:39.931 --> 00:33:43.101
Bread.
00:33:43.101 --> 00:33:44.602
So as much as you can try to live in the moment and see god
00:33:44.602 --> 00:33:47.505
Showing up where you are right now.
00:33:47.505 --> 00:33:49.640
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- can we just speak to that tension that some women feel
00:34:00.918 --> 00:34:02.992
- can we just speak to that tension that some women feel
00:34:02.992 --> 00:34:08.392
When, you know, watching others move forward into a new
00:34:08.392 --> 00:34:11.863
Season and they feel stuck?
00:34:11.863 --> 00:34:13.965
Yeah, that's real.
00:34:13.965 --> 00:34:15.366
That's very real.
00:34:15.366 --> 00:34:16.400
Right.
00:34:16.400 --> 00:34:17.602
So somebody else is stepping into a new season, you're
00:34:17.602 --> 00:34:18.836
Like, i've been in this season forever.
00:34:18.836 --> 00:34:20.438
It's called comparison.
00:34:20.438 --> 00:34:22.173
Yeah, comparison.
00:34:22.173 --> 00:34:23.407
So why don't we talk about that?
00:34:23.407 --> 00:34:24.675
One of the revelations the lord gave me about identity is
00:34:24.675 --> 00:34:26.277
That insecurity we tend to think insecurity is about low
00:34:26.277 --> 00:34:29.780
Self-esteem.
00:34:29.780 --> 00:34:31.048
So what we do is say these positive affirmations you know
00:34:31.048 --> 00:34:34.018
I'm good enough, i'm smart enough, people like me.
00:34:34.018 --> 00:34:36.020
And we say these things thinking that is going to
00:34:36.020 --> 00:34:38.222
Somehow you know change how we feel, but insecurity is not
00:34:38.222 --> 00:34:41.659
About low self-esteem.
00:34:41.659 --> 00:34:43.661
It's about what your identity is secured to.
00:34:43.661 --> 00:34:45.696
And so if you are looking at everyone else and what they're
00:34:45.696 --> 00:34:49.167
Doing and the applause that they're getting and the likes
00:34:49.167 --> 00:34:51.903
That they're getting on their posts and all those things,
00:34:51.903 --> 00:34:55.039
You will start to feel like you're less than, which is why
00:34:55.039 --> 00:34:58.709
You have to always check what is my identity secured to?
00:34:58.709 --> 00:35:02.613
Is it secured to who god says i am?
00:35:02.613 --> 00:35:05.049
Yeah.
00:35:05.049 --> 00:35:06.284
Or is it secured to the affirmation of man?
00:35:06.284 --> 00:35:07.985
Because that changes.
00:35:07.985 --> 00:35:09.120
You can be the best thing since sliced bread.
00:35:09.120 --> 00:35:11.222
People can be inviting you to all the exclusive events.
00:35:11.222 --> 00:35:13.958
You can get invited to all the big platforms one day.
00:35:13.958 --> 00:35:16.160
And then the next day, they're like, whatever happened to
00:35:16.160 --> 00:35:18.529
Nona jones, i remember her from what ever happened to
00:35:18.529 --> 00:35:20.665
Her?
00:35:20.665 --> 00:35:22.166
But if you don't know who you are, that's right.
00:35:22.166 --> 00:35:24.535
I'm telling you, it doesn't matter what everybody else is
00:35:24.535 --> 00:35:27.705
Doing.
00:35:27.705 --> 00:35:28.906
You're going to always feel like you're not enough.
00:35:28.906 --> 00:35:30.341
- let me first tell you, if you find yourself comparing
00:35:30.341 --> 00:35:33.911
Yourself to other people when it seems like they're winning.
00:35:33.911 --> 00:35:36.547
It seems like they're in just an amazing season and it feels
00:35:36.547 --> 00:35:41.419
Like you have lost or that things aren't going the way
00:35:41.419 --> 00:35:43.454
That you would like them to go.
00:35:43.454 --> 00:35:45.456
I want you to pause.
00:35:45.456 --> 00:35:46.657
I want you to realize that just because it seems like
00:35:46.657 --> 00:35:49.193
They're winning, that doesn't mean that you are losing.
00:35:49.193 --> 00:35:51.629
Change is an opportunity for god to build and grow
00:35:51.629 --> 00:35:55.600
Something new within you.
00:35:55.600 --> 00:35:57.868
And so even though it doesn't show up on the outside all the
00:35:57.868 --> 00:36:00.571
Time, you have to trust that there is something god is
00:36:00.571 --> 00:36:03.441
Working within you.
00:36:03.441 --> 00:36:04.542
So be encouraged.
00:36:04.542 --> 00:36:06.043
Their win is not your loss.
00:36:06.043 --> 00:36:08.279
Their success is not your failure.
00:36:08.279 --> 00:36:12.850
- i can think back to seasons where i was raising three kids
00:36:12.850 --> 00:36:15.486
And they were little.
00:36:15.486 --> 00:36:17.188
And so that, like you said, the seasons, that felt like a
00:36:17.188 --> 00:36:18.789
Long time because just as soon as you get one out of diapers,
00:36:18.789 --> 00:36:22.960
Another one came and then another one, you know, and i
00:36:22.960 --> 00:36:24.962
Remember that time when we had like a party when the very
00:36:24.962 --> 00:36:28.165
Last child was out of diapers.
00:36:28.165 --> 00:36:31.002
And i remember sitting in nursing mother's rooms or
00:36:31.002 --> 00:36:33.170
Whatever with these young moms that we were all in the same
00:36:33.170 --> 00:36:35.606
Season thinking, will i ever be anything more than the
00:36:35.606 --> 00:36:39.043
Nursing mom or the play date mom or any of that?
00:36:39.043 --> 00:36:42.580
And i remember a time when my kids were a little bit older,
00:36:42.580 --> 00:36:48.052
They were school-aged, even though we had a homeschool
00:36:48.052 --> 00:36:50.221
Component to their education.
00:36:50.221 --> 00:36:52.290
But i had a little bit of time that i could start dreaming
00:36:52.290 --> 00:36:56.494
Again about something that was maybe more mine, that wasn't
00:36:56.494 --> 00:36:59.997
Just mothering and giving.
00:36:59.997 --> 00:37:01.265
And i remember thinking, is that, i mean, is that okay?
00:37:01.265 --> 00:37:05.069
Can i do that?
00:37:05.069 --> 00:37:06.537
Is there more to me than just that mother?
00:37:06.537 --> 00:37:08.939
I had gotten so much into seeing myself just as that
00:37:08.939 --> 00:37:14.111
Thing, even though i knew inside of me, i had things
00:37:14.111 --> 00:37:16.147
Like screaming to come out, you know, desires.
00:37:16.147 --> 00:37:18.249
And so i would say to somebody who is feeling like they're in
00:37:18.249 --> 00:37:22.086
A season, if they can, i mean, i look back and i think my
00:37:22.086 --> 00:37:26.624
Kids are all now...
00:37:26.624 --> 00:37:27.925
I've got one married with a grandkid on the way, a baby on
00:37:27.925 --> 00:37:30.027
The way, and two in college.
00:37:30.027 --> 00:37:33.130
And i think, why would i have ever wanted those seasons,
00:37:33.130 --> 00:37:36.133
That season of the littleness to go away so quickly?
00:37:36.133 --> 00:37:38.669
So i would just maybe even say to somebody watching who's
00:37:38.669 --> 00:37:41.505
Thinking, is this ever going to-- and now i'm comparing it
00:37:41.505 --> 00:37:43.474
To motherhood.
00:37:43.474 --> 00:37:45.242
It could be whatever season.
00:37:45.242 --> 00:37:45.943
Could be single.
00:37:45.943 --> 00:37:46.544
It could be single.
00:37:46.544 --> 00:37:47.912
- because you got single people who want to be married and you
00:37:47.912 --> 00:37:49.914
Got married who want to be single.
00:37:49.914 --> 00:37:51.148
That's another show.
00:37:51.148 --> 00:37:55.319
That is really true.
00:37:54.452 --> 00:37:58.389
And but i think you have to, it's that it's the gratitude
00:37:58.389 --> 00:38:01.726
Thing is huge.
00:38:01.726 --> 00:38:03.427
But i think you also have to just, you have to check
00:38:03.427 --> 00:38:06.097
Yourself on where is my trust?
00:38:06.097 --> 00:38:07.832
Do i trust that if i am supposed to move on to another
00:38:07.832 --> 00:38:11.369
Season, god will let me know.
00:38:11.369 --> 00:38:12.803
He will make me aware he'll start burning things inside of
00:38:12.803 --> 00:38:15.139
Me.
00:38:15.139 --> 00:38:21.078
He'll start giving me interest.
00:38:21.078 --> 00:38:22.346
He'll start, you know, i'm thinking of the single person,
00:38:22.346 --> 00:38:24.715
You know, i think, oh, i can understand that that is such a
00:38:24.715 --> 00:38:29.487
Long season.
00:38:29.487 --> 00:38:30.654
But i do believe that god will begin to move in that
00:38:30.654 --> 00:38:34.558
Direction when it's time.
00:38:34.558 --> 00:38:37.428
Otherwise, it's almost like if you haven't heard a new thing
00:38:37.428 --> 00:38:40.798
To do, do the thing that you know you're told to do last.
00:38:40.798 --> 00:38:45.302
Just keep doing that thing.
00:38:45.302 --> 00:38:47.138
And just don't get disgruntled.
00:38:47.138 --> 00:38:49.106
I mean, it's talked about so often in the bible about
00:38:49.106 --> 00:38:51.542
Contentment.
00:38:51.542 --> 00:38:52.977
And what does it look like to be content knowing that any
00:38:52.977 --> 00:38:55.446
And every season?
00:38:55.446 --> 00:38:57.715
In any and every season.
00:38:57.715 --> 00:38:59.984
He knew how to be content with much and knew how to be
00:38:58.816 --> 00:39:03.053
Content with little.
00:39:03.053 --> 00:39:04.388
And there are seasons that you feel like you maybe are in the
00:39:04.388 --> 00:39:06.657
Much and seasons you feel like you're in the little.
00:39:06.657 --> 00:39:09.226
- my husband and i have three grown children.
00:39:09.226 --> 00:39:12.897
It was just last year we went through that season of
00:39:12.897 --> 00:39:15.366
Becoming empty nesters.
00:39:15.366 --> 00:39:17.435
We have a married child and then two that were in college
00:39:17.435 --> 00:39:20.971
And it was a very jarring season for me and in the
00:39:20.971 --> 00:39:25.443
Process of what felt like grieving and mourning because
00:39:25.443 --> 00:39:29.280
It's interesting right it's all you ever pray for your
00:39:29.280 --> 00:39:31.415
Kids you know that they would soar that they would take that
00:39:31.415 --> 00:39:35.119
Next step into adulthood and then they actually do it and
00:39:35.119 --> 00:39:38.222
You're like why did it have to be like this but when i was
00:39:38.222 --> 00:39:40.090
Kind of evaluating asking the lord to help me see his
00:39:40.090 --> 00:39:45.629
Perspective of this season it really was one of gratitude
00:39:45.629 --> 00:39:49.233
Because every time a child went into a different season,
00:39:49.233 --> 00:39:54.605
When they graduated from diapers into not having to
00:39:54.605 --> 00:39:58.309
Wear diapers anymore, when they graduated from crawling
00:39:58.309 --> 00:40:00.845
To walking, you never felt lost about that thing because
00:40:00.845 --> 00:40:03.314
You were so excited about what was ahead for them and in the
00:40:03.314 --> 00:40:06.617
Same way for me, i realized, even though it did feel like
00:40:06.617 --> 00:40:11.822
Lost, my home was quieter, i could sense their presence not
00:40:11.822 --> 00:40:15.259
There, i knew that where they were is exactly where god had
00:40:15.259 --> 00:40:20.631
Placed them, and they were flourishing in the place that
00:40:20.631 --> 00:40:23.067
They were.
00:40:23.067 --> 00:40:24.735
They were doing the next thing god had for them, and that
00:40:24.735 --> 00:40:27.705
Brought me so much peace as a mom because it's exactly what
00:40:27.705 --> 00:40:30.674
I had prayed for them.
00:40:30.674 --> 00:40:32.409
- i think there is also a generation that things get
00:40:32.409 --> 00:40:35.212
Uncomfortable or hard so they want to change.
00:40:35.212 --> 00:40:40.351
Like marriage gets hard, i'm changing to the next guy as if
00:40:40.351 --> 00:40:42.820
That's going to make it better.
00:40:42.820 --> 00:40:44.688
This job is hard.
00:40:44.688 --> 00:40:45.856
God's leading me somewhere, maybe, but maybe not.
00:40:45.856 --> 00:40:47.324
Yeah.
00:40:47.324 --> 00:40:49.460
Just because something's hard doesn't mean it's time to
00:40:49.460 --> 00:40:52.630
Change.
00:40:52.630 --> 00:40:53.731
We use that as just try to get out of something.
00:40:53.731 --> 00:40:56.567
And then to me, then you'll just be stuck in the next
00:40:56.567 --> 00:41:00.371
Thing until you figure out what you were supposed to
00:41:00.371 --> 00:41:02.506
Learn in this thing.
00:41:02.506 --> 00:41:03.841
So sometimes just our change, we cause change to get out of
00:41:03.841 --> 00:41:06.810
Something uncomfortable.
00:41:06.810 --> 00:41:09.513
And i don't always think that was god.
00:41:09.513 --> 00:41:11.181
- so this is actually good.
00:41:11.181 --> 00:41:12.583
How do you know if the hard is the favor is up, the time is up,
00:41:12.583 --> 00:41:17.621
The season's changed, or the hard is asking you to find
00:41:17.621 --> 00:41:20.424
Some grit and go deeper?
00:41:20.424 --> 00:41:23.527
Like, how do you judge?
00:41:23.527 --> 00:41:24.728
I want to hear chrystal's thought on this, because...
00:41:24.728 --> 00:41:26.764
- first thing i thought when you were saying that is am i
00:41:26.764 --> 00:41:31.769
Being stretched or am i striving?
00:41:31.769 --> 00:41:34.171
And knowing the difference because being stretched says i
00:41:34.171 --> 00:41:40.344
Am growing and developing because of this.
00:41:40.344 --> 00:41:42.880
Striving says i am constantly reaching for something that's
00:41:42.880 --> 00:41:48.218
Out of my grasp.
00:41:48.218 --> 00:41:49.520
One of the indicators for me, if i'm envious or jealous or
00:41:49.520 --> 00:41:52.890
Comparing myself to other people to the seasons that
00:41:52.890 --> 00:41:56.026
They're in, i think it's a good thing to feel that
00:41:56.026 --> 00:41:58.529
Because it's an indicator it's an opportunity for you to look
00:41:58.529 --> 00:42:02.666
At what is that telling me about me so i can look at
00:42:02.666 --> 00:42:05.903
Somebody and look at what they're showing me on
00:42:05.903 --> 00:42:09.006
Instagram and say i feel something.
00:42:09.006 --> 00:42:10.708
Why do i want that?
00:42:10.708 --> 00:42:14.211
What is that telling me that i don't have that i am coveting
00:42:14.211 --> 00:42:18.215
Or desiring?
00:42:18.215 --> 00:42:20.184
Because it doesn't have to be negative.
00:42:20.184 --> 00:42:22.052
It could be, there is actually something about that life that
00:42:22.052 --> 00:42:26.056
I want.
00:42:26.056 --> 00:42:27.191
So i can see some, you know, all on social media.
00:42:27.191 --> 00:42:29.193
People got their chickens.
00:42:29.193 --> 00:42:30.861
They're living on compounds.
00:42:30.861 --> 00:42:32.029
Listen, i have my children together.
00:42:32.029 --> 00:42:34.098
- they're picking their tomatoes and their peas.
00:42:34.098 --> 00:42:36.634
I'm like, how?
00:42:36.634 --> 00:42:37.801
- they make their own almond milk and all the things.
00:42:37.801 --> 00:42:40.437
It's like, you know, so i can look at that.
00:42:40.437 --> 00:42:43.173
Is it that i want the chicken and the, whatever, what is it
00:42:43.173 --> 00:42:45.209
That i want?
00:42:45.209 --> 00:42:46.310
Okay, maybe i want to be closer to family.
00:42:46.310 --> 00:42:48.178
Yes.
00:42:48.178 --> 00:42:49.680
So that's not a bad thing.
00:42:49.680 --> 00:42:51.148
The problem is wanting what they have, but is it telling
00:42:51.148 --> 00:42:54.785
Me something that would not be bad, that it actually could be
00:42:54.785 --> 00:43:00.758
God honoring for me to be intentional about time with my
00:43:00.758 --> 00:43:02.726
Family, right?
00:43:02.726 --> 00:43:04.028
And do i need to stretch something in my life in order
00:43:04.028 --> 00:43:05.996
To accommodate something that is god honoring?
00:43:05.996 --> 00:43:09.867
Striving would be, now i'm out here looking for land and i'm
00:43:09.867 --> 00:43:13.270
Trying to learn about chickens because that actually wasn't
00:43:13.270 --> 00:43:15.372
Connected.
00:43:15.372 --> 00:43:17.341
- yeah.
00:43:17.341 --> 00:43:18.742
That's the point.
00:43:18.742 --> 00:43:20.644
- that's really good.
00:43:20.644 --> 00:43:21.979
So i think about david in the field and not even being there
00:43:21.979 --> 00:43:23.947
When samuel came to jesse and said, where are your sons?
00:43:23.947 --> 00:43:26.383
Because one of your sons is going to be a king.
00:43:26.383 --> 00:43:28.118
Okay, david was always taking care of his sheep, killing the
00:43:28.118 --> 00:43:32.189
Bears and going against the lions and all those kinds of
00:43:32.189 --> 00:43:35.292
Things.
00:43:35.292 --> 00:43:36.427
And so when he was asked or anointed to be king, he
00:43:36.427 --> 00:43:39.163
Brought all of those same things.
00:43:39.163 --> 00:43:40.597
He brought it when he killed goliath.
00:43:40.597 --> 00:43:42.399
He brought it when he was a mighty warrior.
00:43:42.399 --> 00:43:43.867
He brought all of those same things.
00:43:43.867 --> 00:43:46.070
So doing those same things was a stretching of the capacity,
00:43:46.070 --> 00:43:48.439
But it wasn't striving because he always showed up to the
00:43:48.439 --> 00:43:51.508
Next battle, fighting a battle like goliath.
00:43:51.508 --> 00:43:54.511
He was like looking around like, are we gonna, are we not
00:43:54.511 --> 00:43:57.081
Gonna do anything about this?
00:43:57.081 --> 00:43:59.016
Because it was not him striving to do it.
00:43:59.016 --> 00:44:01.418
He was stretching a capacity that god had already put in
00:44:01.418 --> 00:44:04.655
Him.
00:44:04.655 --> 00:44:05.956
So the question is when i feel envious or jealous, is what
00:44:05.956 --> 00:44:08.592
Did god already put in me?
00:44:08.592 --> 00:44:10.627
And am i supposed to use something that i already have
00:44:10.627 --> 00:44:12.730
Or be obedient to the word that god has already given me
00:44:12.730 --> 00:44:15.599
To stretch myself in a capacity that's already god
00:44:15.599 --> 00:44:17.735
Given?
00:44:17.735 --> 00:44:19.336
Or am i striving to do something that was never in my
00:44:19.336 --> 00:44:21.004
Capacity to be given.
00:44:21.004 --> 00:44:22.539
- it makes me even think whenever you use david as the
00:44:22.539 --> 00:44:25.375
Example, and you think about when they put the armor on
00:44:25.375 --> 00:44:26.744
Him, that's almost like the example of striving.
00:44:26.744 --> 00:44:29.146
That was going to be striving.
00:44:29.146 --> 00:44:30.447
And so what you have to conclude there is stretching
00:44:30.447 --> 00:44:34.418
Is always a dependence on god.
00:44:34.418 --> 00:44:37.054
Because when he took the armor off and he just had his little
00:44:37.054 --> 00:44:39.690
Knapsack of rocks, and that was him being stretched, but
00:44:39.690 --> 00:44:43.794
He was absolutely reliant that god would find that battle.
00:44:43.794 --> 00:44:47.564
- dependent on god and dependent on what god has
00:44:47.564 --> 00:44:49.900
Already deposited, which is either what he's put in you
00:44:49.900 --> 00:44:53.437
And that needs to continue to be developed, or it's a
00:44:53.437 --> 00:44:56.273
Deposit in something you don't think you have, but you're
00:44:56.273 --> 00:44:59.276
Walking in obedience to his word.
00:44:59.276 --> 00:45:01.211
- the question you had asked in terms of how do i know,
00:45:01.211 --> 00:45:05.482
Right, if the favor of god has left me or if this is just a
00:45:05.482 --> 00:45:07.885
Hard season, immediately took me to john 15.
00:45:07.885 --> 00:45:10.154
So i'm the true vine and my father is the gardener.
00:45:10.154 --> 00:45:13.757
It says he cuts off every branch in me that bears no
00:45:13.757 --> 00:45:15.626
Fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit, he prunes so
00:45:15.626 --> 00:45:17.795
That it will be even more fruitful.
00:45:17.795 --> 00:45:21.365
I think one of the greatest signs to me is whether or not
00:45:21.365 --> 00:45:24.902
There is fruit.
00:45:24.902 --> 00:45:27.504
- you're doing all that you can do, and nothing is
00:45:27.504 --> 00:45:28.639
Happening.
00:45:28.639 --> 00:45:29.940
- it says he cuts off every branch that bears no fruit and
00:45:29.940 --> 00:45:32.576
He prunes the branches that do bear fruit.
00:45:32.576 --> 00:45:34.912
So you're cut either way, right?
00:45:34.912 --> 00:45:36.446
You're gonna cut either way.
00:45:36.446 --> 00:45:38.148
But the difference is, is that there is fruit.
00:45:38.148 --> 00:45:40.717
Now, that could be internal.
00:45:40.717 --> 00:45:43.253
I'm learning, i'm growing.
00:45:43.253 --> 00:45:44.655
My faith is stretching.
00:45:44.655 --> 00:45:45.589
I'm experiencing a new level of god.
00:45:45.589 --> 00:45:48.292
It could be tangible fruit.
00:45:48.292 --> 00:45:51.094
But there's going to be fruit, and there's going to also be
00:45:51.094 --> 00:45:54.898
Grace.
00:45:54.898 --> 00:45:56.567
- it goes back to what you were saying about, like, somebody
00:45:56.567 --> 00:45:57.534
Wanting to leave a job too soon.
00:45:57.534 --> 00:45:59.169
It's like, i'm not getting what i want.
00:45:59.169 --> 00:46:01.972
I may not be getting the pay or i may not be getting the
00:46:01.972 --> 00:46:04.441
Title or not getting promoted.
00:46:04.441 --> 00:46:06.243
But one of the questions you can always ask yourself is,
00:46:06.243 --> 00:46:09.780
But am i learning?
00:46:09.780 --> 00:46:10.314
Am i growing?
00:46:10.314 --> 00:46:11.648
Is god doing something in this position where i'm not getting
00:46:11.648 --> 00:46:14.618
What i want?
00:46:14.618 --> 00:46:15.919
I'd like to move on to a next season of responsibility or
00:46:15.919 --> 00:46:17.888
Title or money, but is he giving me something he wants
00:46:17.888 --> 00:46:22.025
For me?
00:46:22.025 --> 00:46:23.227
- or what if you're in a season where what you're doing
00:46:23.227 --> 00:46:26.163
Is affecting someone else?
00:46:26.163 --> 00:46:28.098
You're there for someone else.
00:46:28.098 --> 00:46:29.466
- oh, see, oh, there's a thought.
00:46:29.466 --> 00:46:31.635
Oh, it's not about me?
00:46:31.635 --> 00:46:34.004
Right.
00:46:34.004 --> 00:46:35.272
- some indicators that god might be calling us into a new
00:46:35.272 --> 00:46:37.574
Season are doors that you think should be opening and
00:46:37.574 --> 00:46:41.745
They're not.
00:46:41.745 --> 00:46:44.915
Doors that you would hope that would close and they are not.
00:46:44.915 --> 00:46:48.585
Repetition that you're hearing and seeing the same thing in
00:46:48.585 --> 00:46:52.155
The podcast, in the sermon, in your bible study through a
00:46:52.155 --> 00:46:55.592
Trusted friend.
00:46:55.592 --> 00:46:56.894
God uses our circumstances often to teach us to guide us
00:46:56.894 --> 00:47:00.964
And to lead us.
00:47:00.964 --> 00:47:02.733
So definitely paying attention to that.
00:47:02.733 --> 00:47:04.501
And then just something that you can't shake.
00:47:04.501 --> 00:47:06.303
As you study god's word, as you pray, as you listen to
00:47:06.303 --> 00:47:09.039
Good wisdom in your life, something you just can't
00:47:09.039 --> 00:47:11.642
Shake.
00:47:11.642 --> 00:47:13.577
But here's the beauty.
00:47:13.577 --> 00:47:16.680
When you don't feel like you're sure about following
00:47:16.680 --> 00:47:18.248
God...
00:47:18.248 --> 00:47:19.416
But you're sure making that your aim god can hit a
00:47:19.416 --> 00:47:23.253
Bullseye with a crooked stick and the longer you make your
00:47:23.253 --> 00:47:25.455
Best effort to follow god's leading, the better you get at
00:47:25.455 --> 00:47:28.058
Hearing, understanding and decoding his communication
00:47:28.058 --> 00:47:31.962
Through the spirit of god in your life.
00:47:31.962 --> 00:47:33.297
- there's this scripture in judges three, this random
00:47:33.297 --> 00:47:38.635
Little verse and basically, this is when joshua, you know,
00:47:38.635 --> 00:47:41.204
They're in the, you know, on the edge of stepping into the
00:47:41.204 --> 00:47:44.641
Land of promise.
00:47:44.641 --> 00:47:45.842
And it says that god left enemies in the land because
00:47:45.842 --> 00:47:48.378
There was a generation stepping into it that didn't
00:47:48.378 --> 00:47:51.181
Know how to fight.
00:47:51.181 --> 00:47:52.916
And so i think god could have wiped them all out.
00:47:52.916 --> 00:47:55.218
- absolutely.
00:47:55.218 --> 00:47:57.187
- but he left him in the land.
00:47:57.187 --> 00:47:58.388
And so i think there is a generation who doesn't know
00:47:58.388 --> 00:48:00.257
How to stand, who doesn't know how to stay, who uses phrases
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Like, it's my seasons come to an end as a religious phrase
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To get out of something.
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When you just need to stay the course and push through.
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So we're all going to go through season changes that is
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Biblical but we just have to be mindful of that being an
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Excuse because we need a generation to carry the baton
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Of his word into the future which it's going to be hard,
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It's going to be hard.
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Alright so i'm going to pray.
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Father, you are the god who is present.
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Our seasons change but our savior doesn't.
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You are present with us in every moment and every season.
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And for that we are eternally grateful and i ask god that
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You will open our eyes to see perhaps when a season change
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Is coming, and also give us the wisdom to know when it's
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Time to put our heels down and stay the course.
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Keep us from being distracted in a very
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Distractable culture.
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I thank you father for the wisdom that comes from your
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Word, and from your people in jesus name amen.
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Amen.
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- connect with us on social media and let us know how team
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Can pray for you.
00:49:13.263 --> 00:49:21.304
- so bekah asks this question.
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She watches on youtube.
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She says, i just graduated from college and i need
00:49:25.375 --> 00:49:29.179
Direction on my next steps.
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There's no safety net anymore.
00:49:29.946 --> 00:49:31.214
I feel like i'm completely free and freedom is great, but
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It's also scary.
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I know god guides our steps, but i need a reminder that i'm
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Not going to mess up what he has for me.
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What is your wisdom for bekah?
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- hey, well, first of all, congratulations.
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Like, well done.
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Well done, finishing something that you started.
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If you're a follower of jesus, it says that he orders our
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Steps.
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So you don't have to feel like you're in a free fall.
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Now, it will be different now because some of these
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Decisions you get to make.
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It's not about you have to show up at your 8 o'clock
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Class.
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It might be to show up to work.
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So it will be different, and there will be some choices
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That you get to make that perhaps you didn't get to make
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Before.
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Find a church that you can connect with people who are in
00:50:10.687 --> 00:50:14.091
The season that you're in and the season just ahead of you.
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Because we're not designed to do life on our own, and i
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Think you use the words you're in a, feel like you're in a
00:50:20.230 --> 00:50:21.898
Free fall or something, but you don't have to feel like
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That.
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So get in a community, if you don't like the first church,
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Find another one, but find one that you can connect with
00:50:26.670 --> 00:50:29.439
People, get in some small groups.
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So there are people who can help you as you face some of
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The decisions, because i promise you, there will be
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People that you'll meet who have navigated the season that
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You're navigating.
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- join the conversation on our better together youtube
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Seeing God When Seasons Change - Episode 1111

November 3, 2025 | S7 E1111 | 52:34

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