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When Women Speak Truth - Episode 1028

January 15, 2025 | S7:E1028

There is power in YOUR words! God has equipped us to speak His truth with great love. When we embrace God's authority, He helps us lead with boldness, strength, and purpose. | TBN Prayer Line: 714-731-1000

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Better Together | When Women Speak Truth - Episode 1028 | January 15, 2025

You have influence.
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We are called to be women of action, who speak
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God's truth with great love.
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Today we're talking about how to use our voice with
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Wisdom and grace.
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Come on, join us.
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♪♪
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What is our purpose?
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Why do we have a voice?
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And i love that it says, for this purpose was the
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Son of god manifest to destroy the works of
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The evil one.
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And so jesus went around doing good, freeing
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People that were oppressed with the devil,
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Healing the sick, opening blind eyes.
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And i feel like right now his purpose is also
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Our purpose.
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But then i feel like there's this another
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Layer, and we find this, i love this in matthew
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Chapter five, verse nine says, you are blessed.
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When i hear you are blessed,
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I feel like god's saying, you're equipped, you're
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Anointed, you're empowered, you are
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Blessed when you can show people how to cooperate
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Instead of compete or fight.
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It's really good, lisa.
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That is when you discover who you really are.
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So it's interesting, we discover who we really
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Are helping other people discover who they are, and
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Your place in god's family.
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I love that. as a mother, all of my boys, they're
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Better fathers, they're better husbands, they're
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Better christians.
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I watch them.
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They're better in every way than john and i were.
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And remember feeling like my leadership as a mother
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Was to lift my boys to go higher and to go further.
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And so we all have purpose.
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And this crazy thing with women like, okay, well
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You can lead, but you have authority because
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This is the thing.
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So you can speak, but don't speak with
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Authority because then you're having authority
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Over men and the kind of hoops that we
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Have to go through.
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For some, remember that's so terrifying.
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No, it is.
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And we're daughters of god.
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We don't want to disappoint our father.
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If his scripture says, i suffer a woman at to
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Preach or teach or have authority over a man, you
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Read that and then your husband's get up and say
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Something in front of the youth, you're like, i'm
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Going to hell.
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I'm going to hell if i do that.
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And so you have this conflict going on
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In your mind.
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And so i remember i used to preach with great
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Boldness in front of women, but not in
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Front of men.
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And so i was speaking at a church and this pastor
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Was, i said, hey, we don't believe in women
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Preaching at our church.
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My church doesn't believe in that.
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He said, well, you're not at your church.
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You're at my church, and at my church we believe
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Women should speak.
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And i was like, okay, this is a problem.
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So i remember i got up and i ministered the most
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Ridiculous message.
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It was a one and done where i put everything as
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A question.
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Could it be that possibly, maybe jesus
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Might want to--
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I had to have everything as a question and maybe
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Possibly-- it was like mental gymnastics, me
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Trying to speak without authority.
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And the pastor afterwards sat me down.
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We were actually in the car and i was with chris
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Caine and he said, you know, embarrassed me today.
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Wow.
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I know, i know, thank you.
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And i said, well, what do you mean?
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He said, you are all bold with the women and you
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Get up in front of my congregation and you act
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Like you don't even know what you're talking about.
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And i hot flashed and looked at him--
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Well, yeah, maybe different language.
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Yes, exactly.
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And i go home to john and i'm like, john, this is
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What happened.
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And john said, okay, lisa, let's talk about this.
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He said, jesus spoke as one who had authority and
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He said he didn't speak like the pharisees.
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And he said, the pharisees put question
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Marks where jesus put periods.
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The pharisees put question marks where
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Jesus put exclamation marks.
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And he said, when you are trying to do the
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Religious loopholes, you are actually a pharisee.
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I'm like, what?
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You're calling me-- it's not a good speech really.
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No, he's the perfect catalyst person for me.
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And he said, this is what you have to do
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As a woman.
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He said, i sit with some female ministers and they
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Are so kind and they are so nurturing.
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And he said, i just sit there and i'm like, feel
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So safe, but i don't feel challenged.
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And he said, then i'm with other ones and i
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Feel challenged, but i don't feel safe.
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And he said, you're going to have to find a way to
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Speak to men where they feel challenged and safe.
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And i said, i don't know how to do that.
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And he said, yes you do.
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You have four sons.
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That's right.
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And he said, you have four sons.
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He said, you know how to speak strength into men.
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And so if we're trying to lead to dominate, if
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We're trying to lead to overcompensate because
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Somebody else told us we couldn't lead,
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If we're trying to lead from a religious posture
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Of trying to jump through all the head covering
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Loopholes, we're going to have a problem.
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But if we are leading to actually bring people
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Into the freedom that jesus for his purpose was
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Manifest and to bring people into who they
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Really are, their identity in christ, then
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We're actually serving.
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The practices that help women speak truth with
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Authority are the same practices that help women
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Deepen their relationship with the lord.
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And i think they are the disciplines that lead you
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Into the presence of the lord.
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So studying scripture, finding time to worship
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And then prayer, those three things i think are
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Major disciplines that are the launchpads for
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Anything and everything you will want to do
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In life.
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And so when it comes time to speak with authority,
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What's going to come out is what you've put in.
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Yes, the word of god. if you've been studying
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Scripture and inviting the holy spirit into
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Those moments so that you're not just reading
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Like it's just regular prose or poetry, but that
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God himself is coming into the moment and
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Sparking questions in you that make you study in
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This direction or highlighting something
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That you've never seen even though you've read
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This passage 300 times before.
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So i think those disciplines are really
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What give you the confidence when it's time
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To speak, that you've already been speaking to
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The lord and about the lord in such truthful
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Ways that when it comes time to speak with
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Authority, what's going to come out of you
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Because that's what you're full of.
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And when you're squeezed, what's going to come out
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Is what's in there.
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Well, then the next time i went to the same church,
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Sure enough, he asked me to speak again, the pastor,
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And it was, i told him, i said, well, i don't have
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My bible.
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He was like, we can find your bible, but it's not
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My bible.
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My bible has everything highlighted.
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I know where the page is.
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So no, i can't do it.
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The pastor said to me, the hand of god is on
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Your life to speak lisa, and i'm going to push
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You out until
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You actually do it.
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And that was actually a man.
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And when i think about that, there's so many men
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That yes, they've oppressed women, but your
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Dad, ssaying baby girl, janice, you can do
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Whatever god has called you to do.
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And i feel like just like your dad said that to
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You, just like my husband said it to me, he was
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Saying, do it, but do it as a woman.
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Don't take on the man's voice.
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Don't take on the man's demeanor.
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Be a nurturer.
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Be a mother.
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Make sure that you're speaking in a place where
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You are a mother. in israel, deborah, prophet
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And judge.
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But nothing changed until she became a mother.
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And mothers want more for their children than they
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Ever experienced themselves.
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Sometimes if we're not careful, we feel like
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It's our authority.
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But if you go back to genesis, god told adam
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And eve that he had given them both authority
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To steward.
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So it's god's authority that he's given us
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Already over demonic forces, over lies, over
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Whatever it is that now we are stewarding.
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And when we keep it to ourselves, then we are
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Prohibiting any kind of harvest god wants to
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Bring from whatever we speak.
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And so it doesn't have to be angry, it doesn't have
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To be yelling.
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It's just having this quiet faith or strong
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Faith that you know who you are.
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You know what god's called you.
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You know that you're a daughter of the king and
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There's nothing that will limit his power flowing
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Through you because you are stewarding what he
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Died for you to have.
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When jesus died on the cross for us, he died
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For everything.
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He died for the salvation of our souls, for the
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Healing of our bodies, for the peace in our
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Mind, for our sins that we would commit
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In the future.
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He paid the price for everything.
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And he said after he rose again for us, he said,
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All power and all authority belongs to me.
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Now you go and you make disciples of
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Many nations.
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And he said, i'll go with you.
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And so as children of god, we get christ
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Within us.
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We get the holy spirit within us to empower us
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With the authority that he says, i have all power
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And all authority.
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That means that there is nothing left for
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Anybody else.
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There is nothing else that has power and
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Authority over your life or over my life to rule
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Or reign in our hearts or in our minds or in our
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Thoughts or in our circumstances.
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It all has to bend its knee to the name of jesus.
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And that's the authority that jesus paid for on
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The cross to give it to us, to walk in the things
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That god has paid for already.
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We already have the victory and we get to
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Walk in that.
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I mean, i wrestled a lot with just speaking with
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Authority as well.
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Lisa, same thing.
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I didn't want to sound angry, but i just wanted
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To sound confident.
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And i think we lack difference confidence
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When we don't know who we are in christ.
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So i think it goes back to who have you
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Called me to be?
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And aside from the fact i'm stewarding what you
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Died on the cross for me, to have that authority
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Over the enemy.
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So whether that's from a platform or whether
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That's over your kids, i am daily declaring over
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My kids with the authority,
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I'm stewarding whatever the bible says
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Over my children.
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It's a daily declaration. when our son was, he's so
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Strong-willed, he's also very handsome and single.
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So i feel like i should throw that out there on
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Tv, tv right now.
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But anyways, he was such a mess when he was
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Literally, he didn't listen to anybody.
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He didn't listen to any--
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I was being called into his classroom weekly
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Having team meetings and he was being kicked out
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Of our own children's program and we were
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The pastors.
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And you know how you can go down the downward
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Spiral? if we're not careful, he is going to
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End up in prison.
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He doesn't listen to authority and you're down
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There. orange jumpsuits don't look good on--
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Just imagining the worst, adorable.
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And i think he is adorable.
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But i talking to a friend one day and she's like,
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What is he doing?
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I say, he just won't shut up.
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He talks all the time.
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He won't listen to anybody.
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And she said, oh, he's got a gift
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Of communication.
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So that which appeared to be an intimidator was
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Actually an indicator of a gift.
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And he's an incredible communicator now, but
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Dennis and i, we've done this with all of our
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Kids, was we took the authority god had given
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Us as parents to steward and
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We took scriptures, some of them for jessica, our
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One daughter,
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I just wrote them on her ceiling.
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I wanted the first thing she saw in the morning
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And the last thing at night to be what god was
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Saying over her, not what people were saying over her.
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We did this with evan.
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We declared it daily so that we took authority
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Over anything the enemy was trying to do to
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Rob and steal.
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So whether it's in your home, whether it's on a
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Platform, whether it's you're a ceo in a
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Business or whatever it is, you're an
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Entrepreneur, you have been given authority
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To steward.
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It doesn't have to be angry, it shouldn't
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Be angry.
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It should be coming out of the confidence of who
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Christ says you are.
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I think one of the best ways to discover your
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God-given entrustment or your unique gifts is
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Oftentimes it comes as a problem.
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So we're waiting for an opportunity to arise and
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We're like, i don't see any opportunities.
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I did this for years, but oftentimes i could see
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Problems that needed to be fixed and didn't
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Realize that those opportunities that were
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Being given to me to see something changed often
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Came as a problem.
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So i just want to encourage you that if you
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Are seeing something that's creating tension
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Inside of you or something that you think
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Needs to be changed, pray about it.
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Ask god how he can use you to serve in that
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Situation to bring change to it.
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Not like you're running in and railroading it,
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But you're just coming in with a submissive heart
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And how can i serve in this situation getting
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God's heart in discernment for whatever
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That is. three- quarters of the time
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I'm telling right now where god wants to use
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You, it's going to look like a battle.
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It may even look like a failure.
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It may be an obstacle.
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Whatever it is, god's going to use you.
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He's giving you the eyes to see it.
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Ask him for the solution.
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I struggle with the angry part or just because as i
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Read and i'm like, okay, the lord turned over
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The tables.
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I'm talking taking money changers and their money
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Buckets out.
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And the part that always gets me is that he took
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Time to make a whip.
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No, you're right.
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It's like that's some real-- i don't know if
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Anybody else, i mean, i got spanked as a kid and
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My mom, anytime a black mother says, go get my
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Belt or go get a switch, you're like, man, dang,
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This is it.
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You know what i'm saying?
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So to think of him standing there making the
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Whip that he's about to use to drive out the
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Animals. i think of the fact where is the place
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For the anger when you're talking about something
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That is very intense with authority, and have you
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Ever had to and employ anger to talk about an
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Issue that was intense that you had to speak up for?
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And how did you do it?
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Well, i can imagine scenarios with a little
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Kid because i have little kids where it's like you
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May not push your brother off of the bunk bed.
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You know what i mean?
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And that i'm angry because that's intense
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And you may not do that, but i need to let you see
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That emotion so that you know, actually do not get
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To do that.
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That is dangerous and that is more than a game
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And et cetera.
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This idea even that we don't get to be angry.
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I think we may not be angry with sin, right?
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That's a righteous anger,
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But there is a righteous anger.
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But help me, what does that actually look like?
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One of the ways that i kind of confronted that,
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And i'm thinking a few years back, but i'm
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Working with a ministry and i was put in a
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Leadership position, but i was told that women had
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Their desks in this one particular area and where
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Was all these little cubicles?
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And the person who was my boss, my spiritual
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Authority said, sheila, if you'll do that for a
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Year, then after a year if you still feel this is
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Where god wants you to be, then we'll move you
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Into your own office.
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I was like, yep, absolutely.
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So at the end of the year i went back to that
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Person and said, i love being here.
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I really feel this is where god's called me, so
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Can i move?
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And they said, well, actually, i'm really
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Sorry, but the men here are not comfortable with
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A woman having an office because they call this
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Mahogany row and it's only men who have
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Offices here.
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And i said, i want to tell you, first of all, i
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Have loved working with you.
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I have huge respect for you and i'm going to miss
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Being here, but i was serious.
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And he was like, what do you mean?
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I'm like, because well, you gave me your word and
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I was happy to submit to that.
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It made total sense.
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So if you're no longer able to do that, then i
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Need to leave.
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And so by
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The following week i had my office and the
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Person who came after me immediately went into an
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Office even though she was a woman.
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And it wasn't like a, i'm a pioneer.
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Fighting for something.
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It was like i was fighting for a position
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Or fighting to be.
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It was simply a recognition of--
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It was the principle.
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The principle of something.
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When someone's given you your word and they want
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To do something.
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And i think also the spirit of how we're
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Sharing something. i've learned not to react but
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To respond.
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It's tempting to react and that's when i can
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Tell that i'm not in a good place.
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If i react, it's usually not, it doesn't
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Help anybody.
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I like that.
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But if i can spend time and pray about something
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And think about it deeply and then respond from a
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Place where it's-- and it was no big deal after
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That, it was like, well, of course this should
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Have happened.
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Well that makes sense
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To me because anger, displayed anger is always
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An indicator of what we care about or something
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That we're standing up for that matters to us.
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Counselors will say that depression, the root of
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Depression, the emotional root of it is
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Actually anger. suppressed anger.
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That when you feel like you cannot or
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There's nothing for you to do to protect
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That that you care about.
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And so i love the idea of responding and saying,
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Hey, i care about this so much
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I'm willing to leave because it's
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Upsetting to me.
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And then him having an opportunity to
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Respond to that.
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I love that.
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We are encouraged to speak the truth in love.
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And that's a very powerful combination
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Because sometimes i remember there was a girl
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In our youth group when i was growing up and she
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Was very straightforward and at times it was kind
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Of unkind because i can remember once saying to
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Her, does this dress make me look a little fat?
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She said, yes, and you are a little fat.
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And i was like, okay, well thank you for that.
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There's ways that we can speak truth to one
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Another but do it in kindness.
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And i always know in my own life, if i feel an
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Immediate reaction to want to say something
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Straight back, i pause because i don't think
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We're called to react to one another.
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I think we're called to respond.
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So if someone, whether it's just in your own
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Home or your work environment or your
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School says something that you think that's not
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Truth, first of all help 'em to understand that
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You heard them.
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I think it's very important for people to
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Feel that they were heard, but then be able
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To make sure that you respond from a place of
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Love wanting them to end up in a better place
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Rather than you just proving your point.
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I've been angry about what's happening to women
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Right now, and i feel like we need to speak the
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Truth as women on two levels.
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I feel like we need to say men don't get to be
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Women, but then i think we also need to say, how
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Has this happened?
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What have we vacated in our lives?
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When you're talking about women thinking, oh, i
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Just stay home or i just do this or i have to, and
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We've diminished certain roles and we've listened
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To counsel that says, if we want to be powerful
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Women, we need to act like men.
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I feel like for so many years there's been this
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Feminist agenda that says, go into the man's
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World, push him aside, beat him at his own game.
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The man is the problem.
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Well, the man is not the answer, nor is he the problem.
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God is our answer.
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I've had to say, what have we done as women
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That we've sometimes devalued this god
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Entrustment. you're talking about when you
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Became a mother, all of a sudden you saw something,
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Something wakes up in your life and you're
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Like, wait, this is divinely woven.
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I could tear somebody's head off if i try and
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Mess with my child.
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And god says that, he says like a mama bear
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Robbed of his cubs like a lioness.
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And there's this attack right now against women
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Where we have culture sexualizing what it means
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To be a woman.
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It's a costume and then we have the church
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Silencing the voice of its daughters.
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We become spectators of our own culture.
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Absolutely.
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And so we need to fight for, not fight against,
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We need to fight for.
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And so i find when people are really angry, there's
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Three stages of anger.
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There's anger and then there's rage
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And there's wrath.
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Rage always looks for a target.
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Anger is like something is not right.
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It's a heightened sense of awareness that
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Something is not right.
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And then rage says, i'm looking for a target, and
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Then wrath says i'm going to punish.
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And god says, the wrath of man or woman never
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Works as righteous purposes.
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So we don't go into the place of punitive
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And judgment.
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We make place for god to do that.
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But i love the anger as an indicator, and for me,
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Anger was a mass for something deeper,
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Which was fear.
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And behind the fear was unbelief.
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And so right now i feel like it's so crucial that
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We pioneer like you did for
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Our daughters because
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If we continue to forfeit what it means to be a
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Woman, that divine entrustment, and i'm not
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Saying we're feminine goddesses. i'm saying god
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Wove us in our mother's womb to be women.
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We've stepped aside in some ways despised our
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Birthright and said, oh women, that's weak.
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No women is beautiful.
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It's the image of god.
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I love how we've been bringing this
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Back to genesis.
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It was ish and isha, they were so closely related
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That their names reflected to one another,
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But we have forgotten that we're an answer and
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We've began to at some level think we're a problem,
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And so can we actually have a voice?
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And then when you think you're a problem, you act
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Like a problem.
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But when you know you're an answer, you act like
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An answer.
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And god is looking for the answer of woman right
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Now and the enemy is terrified that we'll wake
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Up and discover how powerful we are as women,
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As daughters of god, not as pretending to be men.
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There's such a beautiful revelation of the wonder
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Of woman when adam sees her, he says she shall be
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Called woman.
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Now, god had already given adam this
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Incredible job to name every single creature.
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Imagine the brilliance to be able to just
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Make up names.
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That what he saw said, oh, that's what that's
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Going to be called.
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When he saw her, he said, this is bone of my bone.
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This is flesh of my flesh.
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This is woman.
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Woman is our creation name and we're not going
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To be unnamed.
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It is a god-given name.
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And i want to kind of talk about how it's ish
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And isha in the hebrew and this is the
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Beautiful thing.
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It's was so reflective, man, woman, ish, isha, so
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Reflective of each other.
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I like to think of them as two sides
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Of the same coin.
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If you're a coin collector you know that if
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One side is in pristine condition and the other
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Side is all scratched up, the entire coin
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Is devalued.
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God is saying both male and female have equal
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Value in my sight.
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So we need to understand genesis is our
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Divine origin.
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And remember, no matter what the enemy says, he
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Cannot take away that you were created in the
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Image of god.
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It's so funny, my seven-year-old came to me
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After watching seeing a cartoon because he'll
00:24:20.650 --> 00:24:24.086
Search on youtube kids for scripture stories,
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Bless his heart, so precious.
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And he came over and he said one day when of
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Course my husband ej was out of town and it's just
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Me getting the boys ready for school and my
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7-year-old comes over and he said, boys are
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Supposed to rule over girls.
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And i said, hey babe, that's not really the
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Sentiment, but we'll talk about it later. i'm pulling
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Clothes and--
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He's getting excited.
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Combing girls and he's just like, no, but i just
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Saw it on the video.
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God said, after they sinned, boys are supposed
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To rule over with girls.
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And so i stopped and i thought, doggone it ej, you
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Should be here right now, set this straight.
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But i said, babe, right?
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That's not god's saying that that's what's
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Supposed to happen.
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I said, is that how god created them to interact?
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And he said, no.
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I said, so then it's not a supposed to.
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It's god saying, oh man, now that you've done
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This, this is how it's going to play out.
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And he said, huh.
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And i thought, wow, there are a lot of people that
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Didn't get past
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The 7-year-old boys are supposed to rule over
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Girls moment.
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All it takes is a, i'm like, well, i know who i
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Am and if i let you think this in my house, well
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I'm getting you ready for school,
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You are going to eventually think you get
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To rule over me, little boy.
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And the answer is huh-uh, and i thought, i have to know
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Who i am and god right now so that you can know
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Who you are right now in god and that this is a
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Community that the lord has built.
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I think even with questioning our little
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Kids coming up with all kinds of stuff from
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School, our grandkids, it's the truth of god's
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Word of who he created us to be.
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It's not sin can no longer lord it over us.
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God's word is his design for us is the answer to
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Every question, to every problem.
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What did he do?
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He created male and he created female. that was
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God's best design for all of us.
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And so growing up, questioning or wondering
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Isn't good for that person.
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That's right.
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God has created so much freedom and that was just
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God's perfect design and it is because of the
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Fall of men.
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But if you have our kids questioning that kind of
00:26:46.328 --> 00:26:50.366
Stuff, we have the responsibility to set
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That straight and to answer back with the
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Truth of god's word that will set them free
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For their life.
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That's right.
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We have to know what this says so that when our
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Kids and our grandkids are asking questions, we
00:27:03.212 --> 00:27:05.047
Can tell 'em who they are.
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We can tell 'em who they were born to be.
00:27:06.882 --> 00:27:08.818
We can tell 'em who god created them to be so
00:27:08.818 --> 00:27:12.221
That they don't have to go through this life just
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Questioning and feeling burdened by that.
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Oh, there are so many ways to instill respect
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For women's voices when you're trying to do that
00:27:20.930 --> 00:27:24.800
Amongst children, right?
00:27:24.800 --> 00:27:26.569
I have a 7-year-old and 4-year-old boy, almost
00:27:26.569 --> 00:27:29.538
Eight, almost five, and some of the ways i do
00:27:29.538 --> 00:27:34.977
That are i purposely buy books that most people
00:27:34.977 --> 00:27:37.313
Just buy for their daughters, but i buy
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Books so that my sons can see that authority in
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Women is not scary and that women can be and
00:27:44.286 --> 00:27:49.191
Will be leaders as well.
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And because i want them to not only be
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Comfortable with it, but when they get older and
00:27:53.796 --> 00:27:56.265
It's time to find a wife, i want them to value
00:27:56.265 --> 00:28:01.137
These qualities, but also conversations.
00:28:01.137 --> 00:28:04.874
My kids, oh, at least my eldest asks a lot of
00:28:04.874 --> 00:28:07.943
Questions and they're questions that the
00:28:07.943 --> 00:28:09.545
Younger one wants to know.
00:28:09.545 --> 00:28:11.113
He just lets his big brother be
00:28:11.113 --> 00:28:12.381
The spokesperson.
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But i try to answer those questions.
00:28:13.582 --> 00:28:16.318
I try to pause and ask the holy spirit to come
00:28:16.318 --> 00:28:18.220
On in and help me answer that question so that the
00:28:18.220 --> 00:28:21.390
Answer goes decades past me so that this is not
00:28:21.390 --> 00:28:27.563
Just me trying to hurry up and give an answer
00:28:27.563 --> 00:28:32.401
That will allow me to get out of the moment always
00:28:32.401 --> 00:28:35.171
During a time that's not convenient.
00:28:35.171 --> 00:28:37.873
It's like it's bedtime.
00:28:37.873 --> 00:28:38.941
You want to ask that theological question now.
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Happens every time, and so i think i get them
00:28:41.043 --> 00:28:43.913
Books, but i also have these conversations with
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Them and then my choices are in full view of
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My children. today,
00:28:50.119 --> 00:28:51.987
They know that i'm talking about jesus and
00:28:51.987 --> 00:28:55.257
They know that that's mommy's job and that it
00:28:55.257 --> 00:28:58.060
Is important that mommy does this job and it's
00:28:58.060 --> 00:29:01.163
Outside of them, right?
00:29:01.163 --> 00:29:04.133
Because their whole world is not just me caring
00:29:04.133 --> 00:29:06.302
For them.
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They realize that my husband and i are people
00:29:07.503 --> 00:29:09.805
That belong to god.
00:29:09.805 --> 00:29:11.707
And so then we talk about what we do.
00:29:11.707 --> 00:29:13.909
And so trying in every way to be a woman who is
00:29:13.909 --> 00:29:19.548
Comfortable in my purpose, in full view of
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Them has a lot to do with that.
00:29:22.618 --> 00:29:25.855
There's a conversation that goes on that's very
00:29:25.855 --> 00:29:27.723
Applicable to america or to europe, but what about
00:29:27.723 --> 00:29:30.759
Some of our sisters who watch in different
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Cultures where it's much more of a challenge for a
00:29:32.995 --> 00:29:36.799
Woman to even have a voice and be acknowledged
00:29:36.799 --> 00:29:39.068
As having a voice.
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It's a privilege in this country to say you
00:29:40.703 --> 00:29:42.471
Have a voice,
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To show up and say, i feel differently than how
00:29:46.308 --> 00:29:48.310
I appear in the room, which across the world
00:29:48.310 --> 00:29:49.945
That's not even possible in many ways.
00:29:49.945 --> 00:29:53.249
Then just declaring the purpose of our creation,
00:29:53.249 --> 00:29:55.117
That we were not an afterthought, that we
00:29:55.117 --> 00:29:56.619
Were a necessity, that we were a god idea before
00:29:56.619 --> 00:29:59.822
Adam even realized that he needed-- before the man
00:29:59.822 --> 00:30:02.524
Realized he needed the woman,
00:30:02.524 --> 00:30:03.993
God was like, i got your answer.
00:30:03.993 --> 00:30:05.861
She's inside of you, but she needs to come out and
00:30:05.861 --> 00:30:08.731
Have her own expression and her own voice, and
00:30:08.731 --> 00:30:11.634
There are things for the men to speak to and there
00:30:11.634 --> 00:30:13.802
Are things for the women to speak to.
00:30:13.802 --> 00:30:15.504
And when god gave them dominion, he gave them
00:30:15.504 --> 00:30:17.673
Dominion over everything but each other.
00:30:17.673 --> 00:30:20.276
And we have somehow taken on the fall nature that
00:30:20.276 --> 00:30:25.114
Your desire will be for your husband and he will
00:30:25.114 --> 00:30:26.749
Dominate or lord it over you.
00:30:26.749 --> 00:30:29.718
That wasn't like, oh, thank you.
00:30:29.718 --> 00:30:31.553
It was actually god saying this is what's going
00:30:31.553 --> 00:30:33.155
To happen.
00:30:33.155 --> 00:30:34.590
As i've gotten older, one of the things i've
00:30:34.590 --> 00:30:36.091
Realized as a woman who is also black and there
00:30:36.091 --> 00:30:41.397
Are tons of limitations to be found, right?
00:30:41.397 --> 00:30:44.199
There are tons of ways to see where racism has said
00:30:44.199 --> 00:30:49.805
Something about me that isn't true or is still in
00:30:49.805 --> 00:30:53.475
A system that means that i don't advance as fast.
00:30:53.475 --> 00:30:57.913
But one of the things i have learned about god,
00:30:57.913 --> 00:31:00.349
And this is, i say this for the women around the
00:31:00.349 --> 00:31:02.351
World, one of the things i've learned about god is
00:31:02.351 --> 00:31:04.653
He has actually never for me been limited by any
00:31:04.653 --> 00:31:07.990
Of those things.
00:31:07.990 --> 00:31:09.224
That's so good.
00:31:09.224 --> 00:31:10.259
And when i read scripture, i realize it's
00:31:10.259 --> 00:31:11.961
Not that i, and i'll speak up and say things
00:31:11.961 --> 00:31:15.664
About that because god is also about justice, but i
00:31:15.664 --> 00:31:19.101
Am at the same time holding, standing up for
00:31:19.101 --> 00:31:24.773
Justice and righteousness with the fact that god is
00:31:24.773 --> 00:31:27.910
So creative in his word to actually make sure
00:31:27.910 --> 00:31:32.281
People are seen no matter what culture is doing
00:31:32.281 --> 00:31:35.851
That there is, i would say to the women around
00:31:35.851 --> 00:31:39.221
The world, look out for the ways in which god is
00:31:39.221 --> 00:31:41.523
Making a way for you to look at the roman soldier
00:31:41.523 --> 00:31:48.664
And say, that was a mile.
00:31:48.664 --> 00:31:50.265
Would you like me to carry it two?
00:31:50.265 --> 00:31:52.301
Which in that day it almost seems like rolling
00:31:52.301 --> 00:31:54.970
Over and letting somebody just walk over you.
00:31:54.970 --> 00:31:57.706
But what's powerful about that portion of the
00:31:57.706 --> 00:32:01.276
Sermon of the mount is the lord is saying, i
00:32:01.276 --> 00:32:04.146
Want you to stand up and like you did, respond
00:32:04.146 --> 00:32:08.317
Well when there's injustice at play, when
00:32:08.317 --> 00:32:10.519
You know i've given you a word and culture around
00:32:10.519 --> 00:32:13.455
You doesn't let you give it, but i want you to do
00:32:13.455 --> 00:32:16.325
It creatively so that what you're doing is
00:32:16.325 --> 00:32:20.329
Planting a seed for the person that you're
00:32:20.329 --> 00:32:22.364
Encountering to actually have to answer the
00:32:22.364 --> 00:32:24.767
Question for themselves without you answering it
00:32:24.767 --> 00:32:27.770
For them.
00:32:27.770 --> 00:32:28.904
When it was cultural for jewish people to have to
00:32:28.904 --> 00:32:32.041
Carry, if a roman guard said, carry my belongings
00:32:32.041 --> 00:32:35.010
For a mile, they would have to, and jesus
00:32:35.010 --> 00:32:37.513
Saying, carry it,
00:32:37.513 --> 00:32:38.547
That ask if you can carry that second mile is
00:32:38.547 --> 00:32:43.352
Almost dignifying a person saying, actually,
00:32:43.352 --> 00:32:44.853
You're not the reason i carried it.
00:32:44.853 --> 00:32:46.955
I was in charge.
00:32:46.955 --> 00:32:48.023
I was in charge of whether or not i carried it.
00:32:48.023 --> 00:32:50.225
I like that.
00:32:50.225 --> 00:32:51.293
So much so that i'll offer to carry it again
00:32:51.293 --> 00:32:54.329
Because this is not a thing that you are doing
00:32:54.329 --> 00:32:56.165
To me so good because i actually belong
00:32:56.165 --> 00:32:58.267
To the master.
00:32:58.267 --> 00:33:00.202
And so there is a way always. we find in scripture
00:33:00.202 --> 00:33:02.604
Over and over and over again where the lord goes out
00:33:02.604 --> 00:33:06.775
Of his way to go to samaria to find a woman
00:33:06.775 --> 00:33:09.545
Who's going to be the first messenger about him
00:33:09.545 --> 00:33:12.347
Being the messiah, right?
00:33:12.347 --> 00:33:13.649
He goes out of his way to make space in culture for
00:33:13.649 --> 00:33:17.286
The people who might be marginalized
00:33:17.286 --> 00:33:19.621
At any given time.
00:33:19.621 --> 00:33:21.256
And he says, i want you and the people around you
00:33:21.256 --> 00:33:24.560
To know that i've made you in my image.
00:33:24.560 --> 00:33:27.729
And that's what i would say to the women around
00:33:27.729 --> 00:33:28.864
The world.
00:33:28.864 --> 00:33:30.099
Look for the ways in which god has gotten
00:33:30.099 --> 00:33:31.733
Creative and you step into that place boldly
00:33:31.733 --> 00:33:35.571
And with confidence that he'll meet you there.
00:33:35.571 --> 00:33:39.208
One of the great privileges of my life has
00:33:39.208 --> 00:33:42.144
Been being able to travel so much.
00:33:42.144 --> 00:33:44.913
I've been able to travel all across europe, across
00:33:44.913 --> 00:33:48.317
Australia and new zealand, been to so many
00:33:48.317 --> 00:33:50.519
Different countries in africa, spend a lot of
00:33:50.519 --> 00:33:53.655
Time in south africa, and one thing that became
00:33:53.655 --> 00:33:56.325
Clear is that there are many
00:33:56.325 --> 00:33:57.626
Cultural differences.
00:33:57.626 --> 00:33:58.927
I noticed that when i came from scotland where
00:33:58.927 --> 00:34:01.196
I was born and then i was educated in england and
00:34:01.196 --> 00:34:03.832
Then i came to america, cultures were
00:34:03.832 --> 00:34:06.101
Very different.
00:34:06.101 --> 00:34:07.369
I had to learn new ways of understanding, new
00:34:07.369 --> 00:34:10.172
Ways of speaking, new ways of relating
00:34:10.172 --> 00:34:11.874
To people.
00:34:11.874 --> 00:34:12.975
And i think sometimes i think of women who are
00:34:12.975 --> 00:34:15.010
Watching our show and maybe you are watching
00:34:15.010 --> 00:34:16.979
From a place where you don't have a lot of
00:34:16.979 --> 00:34:19.081
Freedom to speak.
00:34:19.081 --> 00:34:21.116
Our prayer for you is that god by the holy
00:34:21.116 --> 00:34:23.752
Spirit would give you wisdom.
00:34:23.752 --> 00:34:26.488
The bible says if anyone lacks wisdom, ask the
00:34:26.488 --> 00:34:29.625
Lord who will gladly give it.
00:34:29.625 --> 00:34:31.493
Ask for wisdom to be able to know how to speak and
00:34:31.493 --> 00:34:34.830
When words are not appropriate or when words
00:34:34.830 --> 00:34:37.833
Are not permissible, let your light shine.
00:34:37.833 --> 00:34:41.403
There's something so compulsive about someone
00:34:41.403 --> 00:34:43.472
Who is in love and when you're in love with jesus
00:34:43.472 --> 00:34:46.041
And that that's clear to those around you, your
00:34:46.041 --> 00:34:48.277
Life speaks volumes.
00:34:48.277 --> 00:34:52.014
I would say to the woman who's hesitant to use her
00:34:52.014 --> 00:34:54.616
Voice, she feels like she has nothing valuable to
00:34:54.616 --> 00:34:57.219
Share that that's most likely impossible, that
00:34:57.219 --> 00:35:01.423
You don't have anything valuable to share.
00:35:01.423 --> 00:35:04.293
I think being a human on this earth, you walk a
00:35:04.293 --> 00:35:07.462
Day and you've learned something, right?
00:35:07.462 --> 00:35:10.732
Babies learn how to get what they need.
00:35:10.732 --> 00:35:13.001
Even newborns have experienced life enough
00:35:13.001 --> 00:35:15.871
To change their behavior and figure out how they
00:35:15.871 --> 00:35:19.274
Get what they need.
00:35:19.274 --> 00:35:20.876
And so if you are walking this earth, if you are
00:35:20.876 --> 00:35:23.212
Living on this earth and have lived some days, you
00:35:23.212 --> 00:35:25.948
Have something to share.
00:35:25.948 --> 00:35:28.717
And so that's not a function of gifts or
00:35:28.717 --> 00:35:32.020
Talents, that's a function of humanity and
00:35:32.020 --> 00:35:35.557
There's somebody who needs to hear from you.
00:35:35.557 --> 00:35:43.031
When we read the scriptures, when we see
00:35:43.031 --> 00:35:45.200
How jesus spoke to women and actually told them to
00:35:45.200 --> 00:35:49.238
Go and speak to his disciples who happen to
00:35:49.238 --> 00:35:53.041
Be men, when we see this reflected in the
00:35:53.041 --> 00:35:56.378
Scripture, then we know that we are empowered to
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Use our voice.
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One of the things that was so impressed upon me
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When i was reading through the book of acts
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Was the realization that the pharisees had
00:36:05.821 --> 00:36:08.657
Forbidden peter and john to preach or teach in the
00:36:08.657 --> 00:36:12.894
Name of jesus.
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And there came this moment where they had to
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Make a decision.
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They said, we forbid you to preach or teach in the
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Name of jesus.
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They called him back and said, come on.
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No, you can't do that.
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And peter says, whether we obey god or whether we
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Obey you. you decide what is best.
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But as far as we are concerned, we are going
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To obey god.
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And i believe an entire generation of god's
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Daughters have been released to preach the
00:36:40.022 --> 00:36:43.058
Gospel and the pharisitical religious
00:36:43.058 --> 00:36:46.161
Spirit, the enemy of our souls is saying, come on
00:36:46.161 --> 00:36:48.764
Back, come on back.
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I forbid you to preach our teach in the
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Name of jesus.
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But the last days are not like the first days, and
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God is pouring out his spirit on all flesh, and
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He wants his sons and daughters to prophesy and
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Preach his word.
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So when you look at the scripture, you have to
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Make a decision.
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Are you going to live by the fear of man or are
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You going to live in obedience to christ?
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You think that god is limited by
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Our limitations?
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That's right.
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And he is not.
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He is not.
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And you look throughout the scriptures, even
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Romans chapter 16 where paul talked about the
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Women that led with him in a culture where women
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Had no voice.
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That's right.
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They had no value.
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Their voice was never even, i mean, that was
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The powerful thing about mary as well, is a
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Woman's testimony wasn't allowed in a court of
00:37:43.619 --> 00:37:46.522
Law, but paul partnered with these women.
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Did they rebel against the system?
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No, i think they served humanity.
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And i think that's even as a female,
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So being in leadership for 40 plus years, i was
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Often the only female in the room.
00:37:58.601 --> 00:38:01.104
I was often times not qualified because of
00:38:01.104 --> 00:38:04.307
My gender.
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I remember in the early days saying to dennis,
00:38:05.408 --> 00:38:07.377
Well, here, i've got the whole strategy.
00:38:07.377 --> 00:38:08.911
Why don't you speak it?
00:38:08.911 --> 00:38:10.079
He's like, you speak it.
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I was like, no, they won't hear me say it.
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They're going to hear you say it because
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You're a man.
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But i had to learn in the process of how to speak
00:38:15.118 --> 00:38:17.220
In a way that served the table in the best way
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That i could.
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So god is aware to the women around the world,
00:38:20.990 --> 00:38:24.060
Our heart breaks for you and
00:38:24.060 --> 00:38:26.329
Some of the limitations that you have to face.
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That's right.
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And we are so blessed in the world that we live in
00:38:29.966 --> 00:38:31.634
Right now, and i pray for you daily that you're
00:38:31.634 --> 00:38:34.370
Able to access fully what god has already entrusted
00:38:34.370 --> 00:38:37.407
You with in this moment.
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He sees where you are.
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That's the main thing is that just like hagar
00:38:42.412 --> 00:38:45.081
Said, he's the god who sees me and the thing
00:38:45.081 --> 00:38:47.250
That i loved about hagar and the wilderness, how
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Powerful is that moment where she's in the
00:38:49.318 --> 00:38:51.621
Wilderness, not of her own doing.
00:38:51.621 --> 00:38:53.389
She's limited by her circumstances, yet
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There's a well that she did not see
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Until she was in the wilderness.
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Yeah.
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Well, and what i love about that story is that
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He told abraham, i'll make you a great nation.
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Yes, that's right.
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And so hagar has ishmael, i love this because she
00:39:07.804 --> 00:39:10.940
Goes out and i can just cry about this because
00:39:10.940 --> 00:39:14.010
Hagar takes her baby and goes out to the
00:39:14.010 --> 00:39:17.146
Wilderness to die and puts him across over
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There because i can't watch him die,
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Watch him die.
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And then she goes over here and she weeps before
00:39:24.187 --> 00:39:26.522
The lord, and god hears the lad crying and says
00:39:26.522 --> 00:39:33.863
To hagar, what ails you, hagar?
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What's wrong?
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And she says, i can't watch my baby die.
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And he said, i told you i would make a
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Great nation.
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And what did he do for hagar?
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Made a great nation.
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He made a great nation out of her son.
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So god keeps his promises.
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He is a faithful god to every generation.
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He sees you where you are, he knows your name.
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And so there's hope on every level.
00:39:59.722 --> 00:40:03.993
There's hope across the board.
00:40:03.993 --> 00:40:06.095
There's hope all around, up and down.
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Wherever you are, god sees and god knows and
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There's hope.
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That's right.
00:40:13.002 --> 00:40:14.036
And your stake in the ground in this space may
00:40:14.036 --> 00:40:16.439
Not be as far along as you want it to be, but
00:40:16.439 --> 00:40:18.908
You're putting a stake in the ground for
00:40:18.908 --> 00:40:20.910
Generations coming after you.
00:40:20.910 --> 00:40:22.211
That is--
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She had nothing.
00:40:23.145 --> 00:40:24.013
Exactly.
00:40:24.013 --> 00:40:25.715
She had nothing.
00:40:25.715 --> 00:40:26.782
She had nowhere to go.
00:40:26.782 --> 00:40:28.150
We're both going to die.
00:40:28.150 --> 00:40:29.552
And i just can't take it to watch him die.
00:40:29.552 --> 00:40:31.654
And there she was and god,
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But there was a well
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In the wilderness and then there's the well,
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So i think for me, the deepest wells i've found
00:40:38.928 --> 00:40:40.663
Have always been in the hardest wilderness,
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Hardest seasons.
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Well, and then she saw you wouldn't
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See it otherwise.
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Well, yeah, that's what i mean.
00:40:45.768 --> 00:40:46.802
It was there the whole, it was always there.
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It was there the whole time.
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But you can't see it sometimes.
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So to anybody who's facing that persecution,
00:40:50.439 --> 00:40:53.009
There's a well where you are right now, jesus.
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Because suffering can blind you to god's provision.
00:40:55.978 --> 00:40:57.580
That's right.
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And i think of the way that jesus himself is
00:40:58.748 --> 00:41:00.716
Appearing to women in certain parts of the
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World where there is no freedom, where there's no
00:41:02.385 --> 00:41:05.054
Place they can go.
00:41:05.054 --> 00:41:06.522
And christ himself shows up and shows himself and
00:41:06.522 --> 00:41:09.692
Some of the powerful bible studies that are
00:41:09.692 --> 00:41:11.827
Going on around the world with women that probably
00:41:11.827 --> 00:41:14.697
Wouldn't be able to even watch this program, but
00:41:14.697 --> 00:41:17.400
That christ is with them because they too are
00:41:17.400 --> 00:41:19.702
Better together because jesus is with them.
00:41:19.702 --> 00:41:22.972
As a woman, i have had quoted to me possibly
00:41:22.972 --> 00:41:26.842
More than any other scripture in all of the
00:41:26.842 --> 00:41:28.711
Bible, i suffer a woman not to preach or teach or
00:41:28.711 --> 00:41:32.114
Have authority of a man, that paul commanded women
00:41:32.114 --> 00:41:34.517
To be silent in the church.
00:41:34.517 --> 00:41:36.752
So here's the thing, if we are truly going to
00:41:36.752 --> 00:41:41.390
Have women be silent in the church, that means
00:41:41.390 --> 00:41:44.093
From the moment they step in the building, there's
00:41:44.093 --> 00:41:46.629
To be no talking.
00:41:46.629 --> 00:41:48.097
We need to pass notes to turn in our kids.
00:41:48.097 --> 00:41:50.700
We need to be able--
00:41:50.700 --> 00:41:51.801
So we have to actually say, is that really the
00:41:51.801 --> 00:41:54.570
Spirit of what paul was writing?
00:41:54.570 --> 00:41:58.374
See, i believe that paul was saying for the women
00:41:58.374 --> 00:42:00.610
To be quiet for a number of reasons, number one,
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They were not educated.
00:42:03.212 --> 00:42:05.147
These were greek and roman.
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These were heathens had just now gotten saved.
00:42:07.116 --> 00:42:09.485
They were not bible reading women.
00:42:09.485 --> 00:42:11.621
They didn't even have a bible at the time.
00:42:11.621 --> 00:42:13.222
They just had a few letters.
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And this day is not their day.
00:42:14.657 --> 00:42:18.561
And i think when we put the culture of their day
00:42:18.561 --> 00:42:21.731
On top of the culture of our day, we're making
00:42:21.731 --> 00:42:24.667
A mistake.
00:42:24.667 --> 00:42:26.268
And sometimes even when i look where it says, when
00:42:26.268 --> 00:42:28.037
He says, hey, women need to have their
00:42:28.037 --> 00:42:31.107
Heads covered.
00:42:31.107 --> 00:42:32.208
Is it not a shame for men to have long hair?
00:42:32.208 --> 00:42:33.743
I have to think.
00:42:33.743 --> 00:42:35.144
Wait a minute, samson had long hair.
00:42:35.144 --> 00:42:37.279
Absalon had long hair.
00:42:37.279 --> 00:42:39.115
What do you mean? john
00:42:39.115 --> 00:42:40.116
The baptist had long hair.
00:42:40.116 --> 00:42:41.283
What do you mean is a shame?
00:42:41.283 --> 00:42:42.685
Well, it's not a shame for men to have long hair
00:42:42.685 --> 00:42:45.121
In the jewish culture, but it was in the greek
00:42:45.121 --> 00:42:49.625
Culture because for a man to have long hair was
00:42:49.625 --> 00:42:53.029
Communicating a very different thing.
00:42:53.029 --> 00:42:55.264
So we need to say, do all of these cultural
00:42:55.264 --> 00:42:58.334
Restrictions apply to us today?
00:42:58.334 --> 00:43:01.837
Or is god saying that the last days are not like
00:43:01.837 --> 00:43:05.107
The first days?
00:43:05.107 --> 00:43:06.442
And in these last days, i need both my sons and my
00:43:06.442 --> 00:43:08.544
Daughters, the young and the old to speak my word
00:43:08.544 --> 00:43:12.481
And make disciples.
00:43:12.481 --> 00:43:14.450
And jesus loved women.
00:43:14.450 --> 00:43:16.152
And at the end of the day, we, we talked about
00:43:16.152 --> 00:43:18.454
Your son coming and saying, well, we're
00:43:18.454 --> 00:43:19.455
Supposed to be the boss.
00:43:19.455 --> 00:43:20.356
You're like, that wasn't the original.
00:43:20.356 --> 00:43:22.191
And jesus always took it back.
00:43:22.191 --> 00:43:25.261
We are so good about declaring that jesus came
00:43:25.261 --> 00:43:29.365
To seek and save the lost, but he actually
00:43:29.365 --> 00:43:32.601
Came to seek and save that which was lost.
00:43:32.601 --> 00:43:36.539
And so everything that was lost in the fall.
00:43:36.539 --> 00:43:39.308
That's right.
00:43:39.308 --> 00:43:40.276
Yeah.
00:43:40.276 --> 00:43:41.277
That's a good-- jesus wants to come back.
00:43:41.277 --> 00:43:42.645
So he wants us because his hands and feet to
00:43:42.645 --> 00:43:45.047
Preach redemption to male and female, that
00:43:45.047 --> 00:43:47.550
Relationship that used to be one and multiplication
00:43:47.550 --> 00:43:52.254
And has become division.
00:43:52.254 --> 00:43:54.090
He was like, no, no, no.
00:43:54.090 --> 00:43:55.357
I want you to preach to that to parents and
00:43:55.357 --> 00:43:57.326
Children that suffered loss.
00:43:57.326 --> 00:43:59.195
We see that with brother to brother.
00:43:59.195 --> 00:44:02.331
You talk about racism, that's a loss.
00:44:02.331 --> 00:44:03.666
That's a loss. huge.
00:44:03.666 --> 00:44:05.101
We are not supposed to be like, well, you're over
00:44:05.101 --> 00:44:06.736
There and we're over here.
00:44:06.736 --> 00:44:07.670
We're supposed to be together.
00:44:07.670 --> 00:44:09.505
And we celebrate one another's differences.
00:44:09.505 --> 00:44:11.373
Just like a man and a woman,
00:44:11.373 --> 00:44:12.775
We are one, but we're not same.
00:44:12.775 --> 00:44:15.111
Exactly.
00:44:15.111 --> 00:44:16.545
And the differences is what makes us one.
00:44:16.545 --> 00:44:18.114
And so we're supposed to preach the gospel so that
00:44:18.114 --> 00:44:20.483
This world flourishes because jesus paid the
00:44:20.483 --> 00:44:23.319
Price for everything.
00:44:23.319 --> 00:44:24.420
I remember this powerful woman, and you would've
00:44:24.420 --> 00:44:27.823
Thought like what you talk about finding a well
00:44:27.823 --> 00:44:29.658
At the worst point in your life, this woman has
00:44:29.658 --> 00:44:32.027
Been a banner for my life.
00:44:32.027 --> 00:44:33.963
She was a youth pastor's wife, and her husband was
00:44:33.963 --> 00:44:37.233
Arrested for soliciting male prostitutes.
00:44:37.233 --> 00:44:39.835
And the police came to the door, told her
00:44:39.835 --> 00:44:41.604
16-year-old son. devastation.
00:44:41.604 --> 00:44:44.206
And the church said, if you stay with your
00:44:44.206 --> 00:44:46.175
Husband, we will cast you out of our church.
00:44:46.175 --> 00:44:49.311
If you divorce him, then we'll keep you
00:44:49.311 --> 00:44:51.347
In the church.
00:44:51.347 --> 00:44:52.948
And she said, she went before god and said, i
00:44:52.948 --> 00:44:54.717
Don't know what to do.
00:44:54.717 --> 00:44:56.418
I'm so wounded right now.
00:44:56.418 --> 00:44:58.020
I'm so betrayed by my husband, but i also feel
00:44:58.020 --> 00:45:00.055
Abandoned by the church.
00:45:00.055 --> 00:45:01.657
And god said, if you stay with him, i will doubly
00:45:01.657 --> 00:45:05.060
Bless you, and if you leave, i will bless you.
00:45:05.060 --> 00:45:07.797
He said, there's a blessing either way.
00:45:07.797 --> 00:45:11.033
He said, if you stay with him, it will be harder,
00:45:11.033 --> 00:45:12.434
But if you go, it'll be easier at first.
00:45:12.434 --> 00:45:15.104
And i met her when she was in her late sixties
00:45:15.104 --> 00:45:19.708
And the blessing of the lord on their life.
00:45:19.708 --> 00:45:23.779
And then they pastored a church and she was
00:45:23.779 --> 00:45:26.215
Helping somebody.
00:45:26.215 --> 00:45:27.349
She stayed with him.
00:45:27.349 --> 00:45:28.584
And she said, though, in that moment, she said she
00:45:28.584 --> 00:45:31.320
Saw a banquet table.
00:45:31.320 --> 00:45:33.422
And she said, the lord said, my death provided
00:45:33.422 --> 00:45:36.025
All of this for my sons and daughters, but you
00:45:36.025 --> 00:45:38.828
Pick and choose.
00:45:38.828 --> 00:45:40.229
Wow.
00:45:40.229 --> 00:45:41.096
And he said, take it all.
00:45:41.096 --> 00:45:42.231
Wow.
00:45:42.231 --> 00:45:42.798
Take it all.
00:45:42.798 --> 00:45:43.766
And his daughters, i mean, we're god's
00:45:43.766 --> 00:45:46.502
Daughters and you're listening to us.
00:45:46.502 --> 00:45:48.204
You're god's daughters, first and foremost,
00:45:48.204 --> 00:45:50.039
Not minister.
00:45:50.039 --> 00:45:51.874
Our identity is daughter of the most high god. that
00:45:51.874 --> 00:45:54.777
Has nothing to do with our, that has nothing to
00:45:54.777 --> 00:45:57.780
Do with our race, that has nothing to do with
00:45:57.780 --> 00:45:59.448
Our economic position.
00:45:59.448 --> 00:46:00.916
We are welcomed in the courts of a king.
00:46:00.916 --> 00:46:05.154
And you have every right as the daughter of the
00:46:05.154 --> 00:46:08.057
Most high to go to your father.
00:46:08.057 --> 00:46:10.259
I believe that we have not only the ability, but
00:46:10.259 --> 00:46:14.263
I think we have the responsibility to speak
00:46:14.263 --> 00:46:17.233
Truth and life into every situation.
00:46:17.233 --> 00:46:22.004
I know that every situation doesn't go
00:46:22.004 --> 00:46:24.073
Exactly the way we want it to go, but i think i
00:46:24.073 --> 00:46:29.278
Am required as a child of god to still believe, to
00:46:29.278 --> 00:46:33.115
Still act on faith, to still believe that
00:46:33.115 --> 00:46:37.286
Whether i die, jesus is still the healer.
00:46:37.286 --> 00:46:40.556
Jesus is who he said he was no matter what i see.
00:46:40.556 --> 00:46:44.827
And so my responsibility, i believe as a child of
00:46:44.827 --> 00:46:49.198
God is to speak truth in life into every situation
00:46:49.198 --> 00:46:52.334
And just see what god does, what he chooses thy
00:46:52.334 --> 00:46:54.904
Will be done.
00:46:54.904 --> 00:46:56.839
And so we just want
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To pray for you.
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You're out there and you say you don't understand
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The challenges.
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No, i don't.
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But i do understand the one who will meet you in
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Those challenges.
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And i do know that he has given you the power and
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The authority to pray prayers that will begin
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To shift things in your life.
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So father, we just thank you for the women.
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We thank you for the women that are near.
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We thank you for the women that are far.
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We thank you for the women that are
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Frightened, and we thank you for the women that
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Are courageous.
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Father, we thank you that we live in a day and a
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Time where the very idea, very concept of womanhood
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Is being assailed by the enemy.
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And so father, we take back our place in the
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Spirit as daughters of the most high god.
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That is not an afterthought.
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That is a divine assignment.
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Father, you said it's not good for man to be alone.
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You created woman as the answer to the very
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First problem.
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So father, we ask that you would just anoint us
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Afresh so we can see the answer on the other side
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Of these problems that we see in our world
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Right now.
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We know that god, you have your hand on your
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Daughters right now, and father, we thank you for
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Freedom to preach.
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We thank you for freedom, to put exclamation marks
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Where you want to put exclamation marks in our
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Life, that we would not speak with hesitancy, but
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We would speak with divine authority.
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And god anoint us to help other women find out who
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They are in jesus christ.
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Father, we just thank you that you are breaking
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Down the barriers that you are pouring out your
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Spirit on all flesh, on sons and daughters, old
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And young, and that you are the one that is going
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To show yourself great in these last days.
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In jesus' name, amen.
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Amen.
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Connect with us on social media and let us know how
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Our team can pray for you.
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Hi everybody.
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I'm sheila here with lisa, and we're behind
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Scenes at better together answering some of
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Your questions.
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So here's the first question for you, and
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This is from laura.
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She emailed us asking us, what is the woman's role
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In the modern church and family?
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What does it look like to live a godly life in
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Today's world?
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Your perfect person to answer that with four
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Sons, daughters-in-law and grandkids.
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Oh, wow.
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Well, first of all, thank you for your question.
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One of the things i'm just going to say how
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John and i look at it is really that is the
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Decision as far as what it looks like in your
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Family between you and your husband.
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So there's couples that it looks very different
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For them than it looks for us, but i don't see
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The roles of being a mother and being a
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Wife changing.
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Sometimes it just looks different, but i don't
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See the role changing. where it's needing to
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Have some addressing is the modern church.
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In the past, we've heard a lot about
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Women to be silent.
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Women are not to teach or not to have authority.
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And in the early church, and we've talked about
00:49:53.082 --> 00:49:55.217
This a lot as well, there was reasons for paul to
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Say that, and yet there were cultural things
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Going on that are not going on nowadays.
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Women weren't educated.
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They were brand new.
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There was no bibles, there was no seminaries
00:50:06.228 --> 00:50:08.230
For women.
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There was nothing for them to be able to
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Go and learn.
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And so paul was like, be quiet in the church.
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Do not have authority of our men.
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You don't even know what you're talking about.
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But we are not in first days anymore.
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No, they weren't even allowed to study the
00:50:21.243 --> 00:50:22.644
Talmud at that time.
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No, that was something that was preserved
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For a man.
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In fact, any jewish man, one of their prayers was,
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Thank god that i was not born a woman.
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But days are changed.
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And so i agree with you.
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I think that god has given us both the
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Privilege and the responsibility of
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Living our lives well.
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Join our conversations anytime, anywhere.
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When Women Speak Truth - Episode 1028

January 15, 2025 | S7:E1028

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