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Words Can Change Your Life - Episode 1112

November 4, 2025 | S7 E1112 | 52:34

The words you speak are powerful! Declaring God's truth and choosing our words wisely can inspire change, bring hope, and align hearts with God’s purpose. A simple word of encouragement can silence jealousy and remind us that our God is more than enough! | TBN Prayer Line: 714-731-1000

#Encouragement #Inspirational #Prophecy #Wordswespeak #Faith #Purpose #Transformation #Truth #Wisdom #Leadership #Affirmation #Testimony #Community #PersonalStory #Seed #Envy

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Better Together | Words Can Change Your Life - Episode 1112 | November 4, 2025

Words can change your life.
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If negative words have turned your own mind into its biggest
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Bully, it's time to replace your thoughts with god's word.
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Come on, join us.
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♪♪
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After i spent a month in a psych hospital, i went back to
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Seminary because i felt like,
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Lord, i feel like a baby, you know?
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Even though i'm 34, i feel like i just want to start again and
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Learn everything.
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What does it mean to be loved by you?
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What does it mean to have a future and a hope?
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All the different, different things.
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And so i actually never intended to go back into
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Ministry again because i thought that was season was
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Over, and my only background was in television.
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I used to work with the bbc in london and then the 700 club.
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So it was television and music came over here as a
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Contemporary christian artist.
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Then barry and i meet and we get married, and i'm 38 and
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He's 31, which he loves to
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Remind me that he's seven years younger,
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But i realized the other day, do you know that women tend to
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Live seven years more than men?
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So there's a really good chance we'll pop off on the same day.
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[laughter] okay.
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There you go. i didn't see that coming.
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Um, and then, you know, i get pregnant, so i'm 40 and i'm
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Pregnant, and the phone rings and it's a guy called steve
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Arterburn, and he said, hey, we've started this thing called
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Women of faith.
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It's just like for women speaking.
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Would you like to join the team? and i'm like, oh, thank you.
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But no, i don't-- i don't do that.
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I'd never in my life stood up with a microphone and spoken.
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I mean, the thought of that was just terrifying.
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I once did it when i was ten, and we had to present a
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Wedding gift to our sunday school teacher, and i forgot my
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Whole speech, and i was humiliated and locked myself in
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The bathroom until everyone went home.
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So the thought of speaking was like, are you nuts?
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So i said, no.
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But thank you so much for thinking of me.
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Two weeks later, he calls back and he said, i cannot
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Get this off my heart.
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I feel as if god has put something in you that
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You should share.
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And i'm like, steve, i've enjoyed getting to
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Know you a little bit over the past
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Few years, but this is not my thing.
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I don't speak.
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And he said, okay, let me ask you a question.
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Would you be willing to come
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And meet some of the other speakers?
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And i'm like, yeah, sure.
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I mean, that'd be fun.
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So i went and i met these other women.
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There was luci swindoll, barbara johnson,
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They're both home with jesus
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Now, marilyn meiburg and patsy claremont.
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And i sat there thinking-- because they all looked like
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Speakers to me.
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I mean, patsy had on a flowery dress.
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I've never owned a flowery dress in my life, and they just
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Looked like women speakers to me of what i thought.
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And steve said to them, why don't you tell sheila a little
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Bit about your story?
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So i sat there and patsy talked about her agoraphobia, how
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She'd never hadn't been able to leave the house in ten years,
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How she had to hide under the chair in a storm, how she
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Smoked three packs of cigarettes a day.
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This anxiety that plagued her life till jesus intervened.
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Then barbara johnson talked about what it was like as a
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Mom of boys--
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And at that point, i'm expecting a boy,
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So i'm so excited-- to have to bury two sons.
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And i'm like, oh my gosh.
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And then marilyn meiberg talked about giving birth to a little
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Girl who lived for nine days.
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And i remember sitting there thinking, what is this?
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And then it was marilyn who said to me, why don't you tell
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Us a little bit about your story?
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And i'm thinking, well, what bit do i tell you?
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Because, i mean, i was just released from a psych hospital
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About a year ago.
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So i tell them a tiny little bit.
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And they were like, you know, do you realize there's power in
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Telling your story and how jesus met you in your story?
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And i honestly never thought about that.
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I thought women's speakers were those,
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I read all these books and had three points and had flowery
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Dresses and had this whole thing.
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It was like a job. yeah.
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But i suddenly began to say, no, this has nothing to do
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With being a job.
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This is about talking about jesus
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Because the thing that was a common thread in the room was
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None of us were the hero of our own stories.
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Jesus was the hero of every single story.
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And i remember going home and reading paul's letter to the
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Church in thessalonians, because i love reading it,
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Because he loved them. some letters,
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He's like, dudes, get your act together.
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But this church he just loved.
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And he said in first thessalonians 5, i think he
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Said, we loved you so much that determined among you not just
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To share the gospel, but our very lives.
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And i began to see this is a different way to live.
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You know, i don't need a title. i don't need a job.
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I don't necessarily need a salary.
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It's like, but could you tell people what god has done?
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And just having that word spoken into my life, it shifted
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Everything because it was nothing to do with ministry.
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It was all to do with jesus.
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And i remember the very first conference, it was in hawaii.
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Christian was six weeks old at the time, and the woman who
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Came to pick us up was in a convertible and i'm like, he'll
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Fall out and blow out the car, blow out the car and it'll
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Just be a disaster.
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And listening to the two speakers who spoke before me,
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I thought, oh gosh, i can't do that.
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And then i felt god say, you don't need to do that.
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Run in your own lane. remember what we're doing.
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We're just telling the truth.
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We're telling the truth about how i met you in the worst
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Place of your life and changed everything.
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Now your story is is different than mine.
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Each of us have a unique story.
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God has done something unique in your life that i haven't--
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Perhaps i haven't experienced.
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And i think you and i, we each have an obligation to open our
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Mouth and share our story.
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You know, our friend nancy alcorn says that your past
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Can be used to give someone else a future.
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And then i add, but only if you open your mouth.
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So you have to open your mouth and share your story so you
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Can't let perhaps the shame or
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Guilt from your past keep you from opening your mouth
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To share your story.
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You know, maybe you're someone who, um, you know, navigated
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Bankruptcy and you've come through it.
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Well, i imagine there's some things you could share to that
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Young woman in your circle of
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Influence who is struggling financially.
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He could probably help her.
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But you can only help her if you open your mouth.
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Or maybe you've navigated abuse.
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I imagine some of you have navigated real painful abuse.
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And you, you made it through it.
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Well, what i know is that there is a young woman in your circle
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Of influence who's still struggling.
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She's still trapped. she needs to know what you know.
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So you need to open your mouth, share your story.
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Because that will give her--
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It'll give her encouragement as she begins to step to freedom.
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So just let's just make sure we're telling the story of what
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Jesus has done in our life.
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I don't know you all as well as-- me and holly
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I've known since noah got off the boat, but yes.
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A long time. yeah, but i'd love to know
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Were there moments where somebody spoke into your life
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Or spoke a word that just shifted everything and the
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Fruit that that produced?
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This past weekend, i was in california and i was i released
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A book, the gift of rejection, like a year ago.
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This church, the entire women's ministry, read the book.
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And, uh, i, i haven't preached on that message since i
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Released the book, but they specifically asked me to preach
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On the gift of rejection.
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You know, i wrote the book, i released the book, and a bunch
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Of people bought it, and i did bible plans and all this stuff.
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I have people tell me like, wow, you know, i love your
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Ministry and all of that.
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And i hear it.
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I hear them say it, but i don't receive it.
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And i just realized as i was listening to you, part of the
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Reason why i don't receive it, there's two reasons.
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One is i never want to steal glory from god, ever.
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So i'm always extremely
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Cautious when someone gives a compliment.
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I say, you know, praise god, because i always want to
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Reflect the glory back to him.
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And i'm not i'm not doing that in like, humble, you know,
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In false humility.
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I sincerely mean that.
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But i now also realize as i sit here, that the other reason why
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I do that is because i don't often believe it.
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I don't believe that that what i do really matters.
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Right.
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And just this past weekend, i was thinking there was this
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Woman came up to me.
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She said, i just want to tell you,
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She said, you are essential.
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She said, um, i read your book.
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And she said it healed things in me that i didn't even know
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Were still there. i heard what she said,
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And i said, you know, well, praise god.
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And as i'm sitting here now, it's almost like i literally
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Just now received what she said. wow.
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It is so healing to know that the lord would prompt her
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To speak that word to me, even though i didn't receive it
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In the moment.
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God is so good that he would take something thing that
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Was so painful-- i wrote out of pain--
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He would take something that was so painful and turn it into
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Something that would bless so many people.
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And for them to think that i'm essential.
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Isn't that amazing. that's beautiful.
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That is incredible.
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And i literally just now received that.
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And it did something to me.
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As i'm sitting here, i reflect all the glory to god.
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And there is something about someone speaking life.
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Yeah.
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And i think we don't, we don't do it enough.
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We'll see someone and they'll be dressed nice
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And we'll think it. oh, wow.
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She looks nice, but we won't say it.
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God, at the end of the day, uses people.
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That's his prescription through all of time.
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And one of the ways god uses his people is to speak
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Encouragement and life into the lives of other people
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Which means we have to use our words intentionally, because
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The words we speak may be the words that we speak on
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Assignment from god in the life of someone else.
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So the bible tells us to speak truth in love.
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The bible also tells us that we should approach each other with
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Songs, spiritual songs, so that we are always cultivating an
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Atmosphere of life-giving experiences for other people
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Through our words which give life.
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Proverbs 18:21,
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The power of life and death is in the tongue.
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The lord got on me
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Maybe about, i don't know,
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2 or 3 years ago to say what i think.
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I was in a whole foods the other day.
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There was this gorgeous woman,
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Like absolutely stunningly gorgeous.
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And i thought that i said, wow, she's gorgeous.
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And i went up to her and i said, i just want to tell you,
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You are gorgeous. she got tears in her eyes.
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She said, you just made my day.
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And i'm thinking to myself, like, how could i make your--
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Like, look-- you know you're gorgeous. you know what
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You look like.
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But the fact that i spoke that, that did something to her.
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So all of that to say there is power and just declaring the
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Goodness of a person over a person
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Because the enemy works overtime to tell us nobody
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Cares about what you have to say.
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Nobody cares about your voice. you're not good enough.
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Nobody's going to read the book. nobody cares.
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And then to have one person-- i've had thousands actually--
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Have one person say that.
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I started doing that with my son, too.
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I mean, christian's almost 29, and when he was a little boy, i
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Would always every night before he would go to sleep, when he
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Was tucked up and we'd read our stories, i would walk to the
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Door and i'd turn around and say, excuse me, which boy
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Does mommy love?
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And he'd put his hand in his face and he'd say, this boy.
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And i have started--
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I mean, he's a clinical psychologist, but every day
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Now, i'll send him a little thing and i'll just say, do you
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Know how amazing it is for me to get to be your mom?
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Like when i get to heaven after thank jesus for the first
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Thousand years, then i'm going to say thank you for letting
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Me be christian's--
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And i cannot tell you the number of times he'll write
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Back and say, mom, you've no idea how that made my day.
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I think we don't take enough time to speak those words over
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People around us because we think, well, you know that.
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But maybe you don't know that. or maybe you've forgotten that.
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Or maybe the negative--
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Outweighs.
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Outweighs it, right?
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Because it does.
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I mean, the truth is we are so critical of ourselves, right?
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The self-talk that we can do can be so bad.
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So then that's why one person breaking through, and like you
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Said, you would think that even that beautiful woman
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Would have known that. but no, the self-talk can.
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Sometimes i do--
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I do think our mind can be our biggest bully sometimes.
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I mean-- that's what i mean.
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We're our own worst bullies.
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Words are powerful.
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And i think some of the words that we speak over our own life
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Or over our family, you know,
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Can have real, lasting consequences.
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Used to be years ago that
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One of the kind of recurring thoughts in my own head was i'm
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Too broken to be loved.
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And so what i began to do was with every negative thought
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That i had like that, i would
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Find a scripture to counter that.
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And whenever i felt that, i would say, you know, no, i have
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Been loved with an everlasting love.
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And i would i would counter all those negative thoughts with
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Something positive from scripture.
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And honestly, the word of god is alive and it's powerful.
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Hey everyone, so glad you're here.
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And right now nona and i are going to answer some questions
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Behind the scenes.
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So yes, here's a question that
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Alice sent us a facebook message.
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Okay. she said, my husband is negative about everything.
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He says he's a realist and it
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Causes a lot of tension and strife.
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Any suggestions for how i deal with this?
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Yeah.
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So, um, i actually understand a little bit about this because,
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Um, first of all, my husband and i will celebrate 22 years
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Of marriage next year. um, amen.
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Thank you, thank you lord.
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And we also have very different approaches to faith.
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So my husband's a pastor and we're in ministry.
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But he also prides himself on similarly being a realist.
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And so there are some times the lord will speak to me and he'll
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Be like, i don't think that's going to work because he
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Can't figure it out. he can't calculate it.
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What i've had to learn to do is don't submit everything that
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The lord shows you to him, because that will end up
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Discouraging you.
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You can pray for him, for god to give him eyes to see, but
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You have to guard your heart and guard your faith.
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It's not about changing him, it's about protecting what
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God is showing you.
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And so through doing that, i believe that you'll actually
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Soften his heart.
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And i've seen that in my own husband.
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He's become a man of great faith
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Um, after the lord did some miraculous things that i didn't
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Even tell him about because i knew he wouldn't believe it
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If i said it.
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You don't have to share everything that you think when
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You think it. and i've made that mistake, too.
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So sometimes it's more talking to god about it.
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Absolutely. right.
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I have a specific story that i can tie to a transition and a
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Season change where somebody's words really changed
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Everything for us.
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So we have a dear friend and he operates in the prophetic and
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His name is wayne drane and just love him dearly.
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He's a good guy. his name is wayne drane?
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That is his name. he's a great guy.
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That is his name.
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And he he goes around and it's really his ministry.
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And he has a ministry of giving prophetic words, and he
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Just has a prophetic voice in the world.
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And so it's precious that he's a friend of ours and he just
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Probably in 2020, maybe 2020 gave my husband-- he writes
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On a yellow legal sheet of paper.
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That's how you always you always know you're getting a word from
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Wayne drane, because it's on this yellow legal pad and he
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Writes out all of his words, and he gave my husband a word
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That he felt like the lord gave him.
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But he wrote it out because he lives in a different place,
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A different city. so he gave it to todd.
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Todd read it.
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And, you know, sometimes
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The word immediately doesn't resonate.
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It's like, i don't know about this word.
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And it was all about change.
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It was all about transition.
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And todd was like, he was in a going in the job.
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Not having it.
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He was not having it because this was-- all i know is
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This was before, i believe this was before covid.
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Anyway, he put it in a, in a little file because he, you
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Know, loves wayne but just decided i don't
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Understand that word, so i'm just putting it away.
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Anyway, fast forward to 2022 when my husband is
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Transitioning out of a place that we'd been for 20 years and
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A specific job he'd had for seven.
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There was a lot of identity that we really always were very
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Cognizant along the way.
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We didn't want our kids to have identity in what dad did
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Or what we were doing.
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We didn't want to have that.
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But inevitably some of that residue gets on you, you know,
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When you've been there for 20 years.
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And so he's just at his desk and we've been-- you know, we
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The transition was a little bit of a blindside for us.
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And so we were kind of reeling and trying to figure out
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What god was doing.
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And he is in his desk and he's just starting to clean out some
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Things or whatever.
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And he sees this yellow sheet
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And everybody knows the yellow sheet.
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So he sees it and he's like, what is that?
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I don't remember what that is.
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So he picks it up.
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This has been in there for 2 or 3 years.
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He picks it up and he reads it.
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And it is so specific.
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It is all about transition.
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It is all about change, and it is all about that
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God is orchestrating it.
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There was a, part of it was a metaphor about pots, and it was
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Like, you will be going from one pot.
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But the reason he has to repot you is because you need
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A larger pot.
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Where you're headed is so much about his influence and things
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That we'd be doing in the future, and what he didn't like
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In 2020 when he read it, was because all he saw was the
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Shift and the change.
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He wasn't ready for the change, but when the shift has
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Happened, all he's reading now
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Is the opportunity and the promise.
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He couldn't see that at first, and he called me into his
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Office and he's like, blynda, i have to read you--
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I have to read you this word from wayne.
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And i'm like, okay, did you just get it?
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He's like, no, i've had it for years.
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I just stuffed it away and the lord just showed it to me
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And he reads it to me.
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And he said, blynda, i have struggled with the idea that
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What has happened to us, that we are victims of something and
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That it caught all of us off guard, especially god, and that
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We are all just like, can you believe this happened?
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And this tells me we are not victims because god has
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Orchestrated this change from the beginning. he has been
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Writing this story, and he knew that we would need a word put
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On paper to remind us that we aren't victims of the change.
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Nothing was done to us.
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This is all for us.
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And god is a win-win god.
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So if it was the right thing for the place we were at
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To transition us out, if it was right for them, then it's also
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Right for us because he's a win-win.
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So if it was a win for them that we needed to transition
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Out, then it's a win for us for what god has ahead.
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And i tell you what, from that moment, we literally did not
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See anything that was in our current situation.
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We were not a victim.
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We laid down every identity.
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It was like that. we literally laid it down.
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Our eyes were focused forward and that's the only--
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We've just been onward and upward since.
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So for us, a word literally changed everything. for us,
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It was powerful and it changed everything.
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It is really important.
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Christianity is a communal
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Faith, meaning it's it's about community.
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It's not just you and god.
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It's about community.
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So it's hugely important that we work out our faith, that we
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Talk about our faith in community.
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And at the same time, we want to make sure that the people
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That speak into our life, uh, have a track record.
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So you can't just let everybody you meet, tell you who you are,
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Or offer you advice.
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You just want to make sure that the people that you're
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Listening to and leaning into that they have some longevity
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To them, that they have earned
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The right to speak into your life.
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How about if we like just be intentional about speaking
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Words over people?
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I mean, whether it's in the prophetic, which obviously
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That man operates in, but what if it's just something as
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Simple like, you know what sheila, the enemy meant for
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Evil in your life,
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I've watched god turn it around, and not only have you
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Impacted my life, but i've seen the tens of thousands of women
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That you impact because you're telling your story because
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Of who you are.
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What if we just say stuff like that?
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It's just like nona. i know your story.
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The first time i met you over the phone, we had conversations
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About your story.
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And so the fact that you're here today and doing what
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You're doing, only god--
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But here's what also, you said. yes.
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Right. and you keep saying yes.
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So yes, we give the acknowledgment to god because
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Fame is not ours, it's his.
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And yet he uses us.
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Right? so you said yes to him, and you keep saying yes to him
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Even when it's uncomfortable,
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Even when it's hard. i see that.
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Yeah. right.
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And you, you know, just like who you are.
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Like the thing that, i mean, you're very articulate.
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And we were talking about that kind of before we got to this.
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But yes, you're articulate and the way the words come out of
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Your mouth, i am in awe of and so glad i'm on the same team as
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You, because i feel like if i'm struggling for a word, you'll
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Find it because that's who you are.
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And also, i just want to say
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Your heart to actually mentor people.
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Yes.
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Most people don't, aren't willing to take the time to do
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That because they're so focused on their own life and their own
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Self and their own issues, they're not willing to take
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Their past to give someone else a future.
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And you are like, you're like mentoring people.
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And it's such a gift.
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And i think every woman who gets to be a part of your
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Podcast or in your small groups, what an incredible
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Gift that is for her.
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And it's setting her up for something that she doesn't even
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Know you're a part of, that you're a part of saving
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Her from something.
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So you're helping people when they come to the crossroads,
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Decide which path to take
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And what a gift that is.
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And then, blynda, your ability to navigate seasons with grace
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Is inspiring to me.
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Yeah. and and i also think you're a real friend.
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Like some people, i think, play at that.
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But you're a real friend.
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You're one of those friends that i know,
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Come hell or high water, there you are.
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And i think what an incredible gift that is to me in my life.
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I love all of you.
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And i'm just thinking, i'm so grateful that i get to be here
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Today with you.
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Well, what you just modeled is so important, holly.
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Proverbs 18:21 tells us life and
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Death is in the power of the tongue.
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That word power is a hebrew word, yodh, which means hand.
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And the hand of the tongue can
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Either bring forth life or death.
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We can choose to either shape what is going to bring forth
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Destiny, or we can shape what will bring forth curses.
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And you use your tongue not only to encourage us, but to
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Encourage generations.
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I mean, people have no idea.
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Like they see a sliver of your life, but they have no idea how
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Much of your life is literally
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Dedicated to shaping generations.
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And you haven't just started doing that.
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You've been doing that the entirety of your ministry.
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And so what that means is there are thousands of lives, not
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Even the ones that you've directly influenced, but there
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Are thousands of lives that are connected to the ones you've
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Influenced, who are connected to influencers, who are
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Influencing others.
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And that reverberates throughout the kingdom.
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That's the power of the words.
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And we know this.
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We see in the beginning, god spoke.
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It was the word that created. it was the word that created.
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But we tend to use our words to tear down.
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We have to learn how to listen to what we say, not just say
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It, because words are not just empty things.
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We have to listen to what we say and hear
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If what we are saying is truth oriented and building up
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Yourself and the body of christ.
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If your words come out and they are full of fear, if they are
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Full of concern, if they are full of hesitation, while we
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Want to speak the truth, those words need to then come in the
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Light of scripture and if needed, they need to be
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Reframed to agree with what god says.
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So you've got to constantly be viewing and reviewing what
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You're saying, what you're writing down, the conversations
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That you are having to make sure that they are standing up
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According to the word of god.
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And we serve a god whose hands are full, who does exceedingly
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Above and beyond all that we can ask or think,
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Who is for us who didn't just want our good, but also
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Sacrificed his only son, who owns everything, who can speak
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The worlds into existence.
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And when you realize the kind of god that you serve, then
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You've got to compare what you're saying
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According to the god you say you love and believe in.
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When you were talking, i was thinking, is anybody else
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Having a problem receiving what she's saying?
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Crystal? i was going to say the same thing.
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I wanted to actually pause everybody and say, how did
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That make you feel? correct.
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Now, this passage of scripture is not talking about
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That, but the principle is the same.
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It says in james 1:21,
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Putting aside all the filthiness and wickedness,
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So in humility you can receive the word implanted.
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That's so good.
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And this concept that you can hear a word and not receive it
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Because it can make you feel uncomfortable, which is also
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The feelings that we have.
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We don't let them govern us, but they do guide us.
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What does that mean
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If you have a problem receiving it?
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It's probably there's an issue of belief.
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That's it. but it has a concept that there
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Can be a word that hasn't sprouted.
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There can be a word that is not growing.
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And so we have to look at are we saying the words but also
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Are we receiving them.
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And sometimes words that are said there are different
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Seasons for them to be received because we can get the word and
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We don't know what to really do with it.
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We don't know how to apply it.
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There are so many things that i can think about, um, where
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Words have been shared with me that i didn't know what to do
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With it until the season came for me to use it.
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So sometimes we give words because we see it, even if it's
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Not needed to be activated or it's not the season for it to
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Be activated, it doesn't mean we don't say that.
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My mother said to me one year,
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And i was complaining about something,
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But she just said, that's because you're a trailblazer.
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And i said, well, i don't wanna be a trailblazer because the
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Trailblazer has to go first. the path isn't cut.
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All the twigs that are on the trees, they leave me bleeding.
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Right, right. why? you know,
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But over time, that has become a word that has become a
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Part of identity.
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Yeah. because i've seen god over and over again
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Have me go first.
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But that's attached to something that is a gift that
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He's given me about seeing something that needs to be done
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And having the wherewithal or the stamina or the ability, the
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History or skill to do it.
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So sometimes we can't attach ourselves to the words because
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There is not enough of the history to believe and to
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Then activate it.
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Sometimes we hear a word and we won't lean into it, because we
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Don't want the word until we see that there's so much beauty
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And power and strength and glory of god attached to that.
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Again, it makes me think about moses.
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We were talking about him yesterday.
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He received a word and really struggled with that word
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Because he could not attach himself to what was inevitably
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Attached to that word.
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And so i think listening to you, it felt uncomfortable,
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But it also felt empowering because sometimes there's a
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Word that is bigger than what we think we can attain to.
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You know, we're just out here doing what we're doing, living
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Our lives thinking that a lot of the things we do are peonic,
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And then somebody puts a word on it and we're like, oh,
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But that's not what it is. you know what i mean?
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Or it's actually--
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And so sometimes our receipt of words, when we feel
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Uncomfortable, we need to ask ourselves, which is what i was
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Asking myself as you were talking,
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Like, am i walking in full receipt of that word?
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Well, here's a question and i would love i want us to
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Like process through this because yes, i, i find myself
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Almost like bracing myself.
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I brace myself in both cases where i'm getting critical
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Feedback and what i'm getting praise.
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I brace myself and i wonder--
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For me, i know that it is a protective defense mechanism.
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On the one hand,
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I think when you're used to being criticized, you can
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Create this almost like, here we go.
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Mhm.
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And so it's hard to receive both criticism and praise
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Because you're just expecting that.
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But the other piece for me is i am deathly, i don't want to say
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Afraid, but i'm deathly
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Cautious about becoming lifted up.
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You know, like i just, and i know you aren't going to believe
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This, but there are people in ministry who have egos.
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Yeah, i know, i know, i know, i know--
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Say it ain't so.
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I don't want to be that.
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Like i don't want to be the
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Person that drinks my own kool-aid.
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Right. and so that's the tension that i walk in.
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And i would love if you all have figured it out.
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Can i give you a thought about this?
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Please. okay.
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So we sort of mentioned this, um, just a second ago
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Is that, our dna is not designed to live underwater.
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Our dna is also not designed for fame. right.
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It is not designed for fame. it's not.
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Because only he is famous.
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But we all want to hear, well done.
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Yes, yes, yes. well done.
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Yes. well done.
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I mean, we are going to hear that eventually, right?
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Well done.
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So if in the quiet places of our heart we don't like,
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Deflect it to him-- in revelations, it talks about
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That we will receive, that talks about the elders and they're
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Going to receive crowns.
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And so the crown and it's based on the doings.
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Yeah. right.
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So the crown's received.
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But then just a few verses later, it says that the elders
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Take the crowns off and lay it at the feet.
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So here's a practice, if that's a concern,
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And fair enough, because we've seen people who have messed up--
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Right. so because they're-- we can talk about why,
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But they have. right.
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So at the end of every day you can be like, god,
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Thank you so much that i heard
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Today that people appreciate my yes.
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Thank you god that i heard today that i was enough.
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And i'm going to lay that crown at your feet.
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Really good.
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You know, just the visual.
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Just the visual of--
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And so that you don't go to bed--
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I think i heard earl mcclellan say this,
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You don't go to bed with crowns on your head.
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Yeah, yeah.
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Right? that you lay them at his feet.
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So in the moment you receive it.
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Receive it because he--
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Like, that's where i think we get into this weird humility.
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People say you did a great job. only jesus.
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No, no, no, you had to open your mouth.
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You had to study. you had to study.
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You had to prepare.
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You're right, you're right. you had to do the work.
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It's almost a false humility making yourself so small.
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Yeah. so let me let me-- practice this.
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Receive and release.
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You did a really great job today.
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Receive it, and say thank you.
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Thank you.
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I'm literally like-- [laughter]
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Yes. right?
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Yes. receive and receive it.
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Just receive it, and at the end of your day--
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I love that. and then at the end of the day,
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You lay it at the feet of jesus.
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So imagine that you're on in a desert, right?
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And there's not much water.
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There's a few of you there.
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And you found, like this small bowl of water.
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I know. just go with me here.
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And, um, you were able to, you know, give everybody a drink,
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But nobody gave you a drink of water.
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And you're sitting there thinking, how is it that
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Everybody gave themselves a
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Drink, but nobody gave me a drink?
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I am so thirsty for some water.
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Okay, so in that same way, if you can think about it in terms
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Of what if you're the one with the bowl of water and somebody
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Around you is like, i just wish somebody would give me a drink
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Of water, you would not hesitate to help them.
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You would give them water. that's just who you are.
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You would give them water.
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Well, what if in the same way, all they are is desperate
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For an encouraging word?
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They just haven't heard
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Well done in a long time.
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They haven't heard,
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Hey, you're a good mom. they haven't heard--
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They're so thirsty for some good words, some encouragement.
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And what if you're the one that could give that to them?
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So instead of thinking of it in terms of i'm too timid, what
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Are they going to think of me? i'm too shy.
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I have too much pride. i can't do that.
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What if you thought about their heart?
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What if they are longing and aching for someone to see them,
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For someone to encourage them?
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And what if god places you in, in their path because you are
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That answer to their prayer?
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So just want to encourage you.
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Maybe today you can step out of your comfort zone, and the best
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Way to do it is think about you less and think about how you
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Can be someone else's answer to prayer.
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It's always hard when you are in conversations and there's
00:33:31.824 --> 00:33:34.760
Maybe a debbie downer.
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You know that person who's
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Always taking the conversation negative.
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And the question would be, what do i do?
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Do i have to stay in those situations?
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How can i make it a different situation?
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And i would say, first, the encouragement i want to give
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You is realize that you can set
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The tone, any conversation that happens.
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If somebody is wanting to be negative or maybe even take it
00:33:52.311 --> 00:33:55.314
To a gossip situation or something like that,
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You can set the tone.
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You can be the voice of encouragement.
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You can be the one that takes it to scripture.
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You can be the one that kind of takes it out of the dark moment
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And brings it to light.
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Just remember that you carry authority.
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You carry the spirit of god in you.
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So don't forget that you can set the tone.
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The other thing i would say is, if that is a situation that
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Doesn't really stop, even if you try to carry the tone and
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To change the tone, then you may need to create some space.
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It may be a relationship that isn't edifying for you, and
00:34:24.076 --> 00:34:27.279
Really won't be a good relationship for you
00:34:27.279 --> 00:34:29.448
To have long term.
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These are just questions you would have to ask yourself,
00:34:30.849 --> 00:34:32.484
But this would be the encouragement i would give you.
00:34:32.484 --> 00:34:35.354
You said, you know, we do affirmations.
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You know, i'm this and i'm that.
00:34:40.659 --> 00:34:41.827
I don't know a scottish person
00:34:41.827 --> 00:34:43.195
Who's ever looked in the mirror and thought,
00:34:43.195 --> 00:34:45.631
I'm beautiful, i am loved, but culturally, that's just not
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Who we are at all.
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And so for me-- it's like when you spoke to me, holly, because
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You said, how did it make you feel?
00:34:54.573 --> 00:34:56.775
I received every single word you said.
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A, because i love you and i trust you and i know you,
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But b, because i get it.
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It's like, you know, that's that's who god is.
00:35:04.883 --> 00:35:07.786
It's in the ashes of what we
00:35:07.786 --> 00:35:09.621
Thought were going to be our demise,
00:35:09.621 --> 00:35:11.590
That's where god makes something beautiful.
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And it's so clear then to everybody that-- it's like i
00:35:13.992 --> 00:35:17.963
Used to-- the thought of getting up in front of people,
00:35:17.963 --> 00:35:20.899
You know, was terrifying.
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But now i always, i always do the same thing.
00:35:23.101 --> 00:35:25.871
And i don't go out speaking as much as i used to,
00:35:25.871 --> 00:35:27.706
But i still do sometimes.
00:35:27.706 --> 00:35:28.807
But even just coming here today, or if i'm hosting
00:35:28.807 --> 00:35:32.744
Praise at night, i have this thing where i'll consciously
00:35:32.744 --> 00:35:35.614
Find a quiet moment just by myself with the lord,
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And i'll do like this.
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And i'll say, lord, under catered one more time, because
00:35:39.151 --> 00:35:42.821
I think of that little boy in the hillside.
00:35:42.821 --> 00:35:45.123
There was no way that was enough.
00:35:45.123 --> 00:35:47.192
But jesus didn't ask if they had enough.
00:35:47.192 --> 00:35:49.361
He asked, what do you have?
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Yeah, yeah. what do you have?
00:35:50.629 --> 00:35:52.831
And i love that mark tells us that detail.
00:35:52.831 --> 00:35:54.566
The others don't, even though
00:35:54.566 --> 00:35:55.467
The story is in all four gospels.
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So it has to be significant.
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But what do you have?
00:35:59.137 --> 00:36:00.505
So we bring what we have, which is clearly not enough.
00:36:00.505 --> 00:36:03.842
And then god blesses it and
00:36:03.842 --> 00:36:04.977
Breaks it and he feeds his people.
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That's really good.
00:36:07.145 --> 00:36:08.380
It's learning how to see, obviously god rightly and then
00:36:08.380 --> 00:36:10.716
Just seeing ourselves rightly. yes.
00:36:10.716 --> 00:36:12.351
We don't have to diminish ourselves to be humble.
00:36:12.351 --> 00:36:15.621
I love that idea that we always just know the place that we
00:36:15.621 --> 00:36:19.358
Take, and we're just--
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We're just servants of the most high king.
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And what an honor that we get to do that.
00:36:24.329 --> 00:36:26.798
And when you partner, truly,
00:36:26.798 --> 00:36:29.234
I would want the work i do to be effective.
00:36:29.234 --> 00:36:32.337
I would hope that the work i'm doing is essential or is
00:36:32.337 --> 00:36:36.541
Helping in some way, because
00:36:36.541 --> 00:36:38.343
It's all leading to the kingdom.
00:36:38.343 --> 00:36:39.811
I'm wanting to introduce everyone i know to the savior
00:36:39.811 --> 00:36:43.115
Who changed my life.
00:36:43.115 --> 00:36:44.516
And so i would hope that it's effective.
00:36:44.516 --> 00:36:46.285
I would hope that out of a contact that i've had with
00:36:46.285 --> 00:36:49.988
Someone, they left feeling encouraged or-- and i was
00:36:49.988 --> 00:36:52.924
Even reading here, it took me a second to find it.
00:36:52.924 --> 00:36:55.661
But in first corinthians 14, the whole idea about the
00:36:55.661 --> 00:37:00.465
Prophetic that we were talking about earlier.
00:37:00.465 --> 00:37:01.867
But really, if you break the prophetic down, it basically
00:37:01.867 --> 00:37:05.070
Says this is your gauge for how you can offer a prophetic or
00:37:05.070 --> 00:37:09.675
Encouraging word even is, does it comfort?
00:37:09.675 --> 00:37:13.145
Does it encourage?
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And does it edify?
00:37:14.613 --> 00:37:16.315
We think sometimes like, oh, i'm not a wayne drane like i
00:37:16.315 --> 00:37:19.418
Spoke about earlier, i don't hear these amazing words that
00:37:19.418 --> 00:37:23.789
Help somebody's future. that idea,
00:37:23.789 --> 00:37:26.692
Well, can you encourage, can you edify, can you--
00:37:26.692 --> 00:37:29.895
When somebody is hurting, can you comfort them?
00:37:29.895 --> 00:37:32.264
When we make it into those simple terms, that is the way
00:37:32.264 --> 00:37:36.468
That god says, this will change someone's life is when you see
00:37:36.468 --> 00:37:40.105
Them, you comfort them. you build them up.
00:37:40.105 --> 00:37:42.808
You, you show them a part about them that you see that they
00:37:42.808 --> 00:37:45.644
Don't see yet so that instills a belief in them.
00:37:45.644 --> 00:37:49.081
Something that was really important to me as a wife
00:37:49.081 --> 00:37:52.250
And as a mom, to make sure that the words that i use in my
00:37:52.250 --> 00:37:55.654
Own home produce fruit that's good.
00:37:55.654 --> 00:37:58.290
You know, it's so easy to speak a word because you're exhausted
00:37:58.290 --> 00:38:01.059
Or you're frustrated
00:38:01.059 --> 00:38:02.594
That kind of can crush someone because sometimes, you know,
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Particularly with men, with boys, it seems like
00:38:05.864 --> 00:38:08.967
Everything's sliding off them.
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But often it often it wounds them and hurts them.
00:38:10.202 --> 00:38:13.071
So i really ask every single day, lord, help me to be
00:38:13.071 --> 00:38:16.074
Careful with my words today, that the words i speak will
00:38:16.074 --> 00:38:18.977
Produce good fruit.
00:38:18.977 --> 00:38:21.480
I think we have to own that we can see things that other
00:38:21.480 --> 00:38:24.950
People don't see.
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And i think that's a part of why we may hesitate to say
00:38:26.151 --> 00:38:28.353
Something because we're like-- that's really good.
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Do i have the right to say something?
00:38:30.255 --> 00:38:31.857
Is it going to be weird if i say something?
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I don't really know them.
00:38:33.425 --> 00:38:34.726
You know what if what i'm
00:38:34.726 --> 00:38:35.794
Thinking is actually not correct?
00:38:35.794 --> 00:38:37.896
Um, like, it's like, you know,
00:38:37.896 --> 00:38:39.131
You're seeing the person in the store.
00:38:39.131 --> 00:38:40.399
You could tell yourself it'd be weird if i walk up to this
00:38:40.399 --> 00:38:42.801
Person and just say they're beautiful.
00:38:42.801 --> 00:38:44.536
But if you are a believer and understand that the presence of
00:38:44.536 --> 00:38:49.541
The holy spirit allows you to be connected in heavenly places,
00:38:49.541 --> 00:38:53.812
The word that pops into your head, all of the questions that
00:38:53.812 --> 00:38:57.649
You have about that can be a barrier to what
00:38:57.649 --> 00:39:00.452
God deposited in you to say.
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It's almost like, you know, getting back to the word
00:39:01.853 --> 00:39:04.289
Being implanted in this concept of seed.
00:39:04.289 --> 00:39:06.825
You know, the way you plant seed,
00:39:06.825 --> 00:39:09.294
One of the ways to plant seed is, you know, we have that
00:39:09.294 --> 00:39:11.329
Vision of the woman who would come out in her apron and she
00:39:11.329 --> 00:39:13.131
Has all this seed, and you're just tossing it out there, and
00:39:13.131 --> 00:39:16.234
Some of that seed flourishes and some of it doesn't.
00:39:16.234 --> 00:39:18.703
That doesn't-- you don't decide, though.
00:39:18.703 --> 00:39:21.106
You just put it out there so that it can be planted and
00:39:21.106 --> 00:39:24.342
Something can come up.
00:39:24.342 --> 00:39:25.644
So if you believe that the holy spirit is in you, which means
00:39:25.644 --> 00:39:28.680
That there are going to be things that god is saying to
00:39:28.680 --> 00:39:31.950
You, your job is to toss it, cast it so that it can be
00:39:31.950 --> 00:39:37.756
In the ground.
00:39:37.756 --> 00:39:38.690
You let god worry about the watering,
00:39:38.690 --> 00:39:40.892
What god is going to do with it. that's good.
00:39:40.892 --> 00:39:42.727
You let god worry about who else is going to say the same
00:39:42.727 --> 00:39:44.796
Thing you said, so that the person actually starts to hear
00:39:44.796 --> 00:39:47.098
God because multiple people
00:39:47.098 --> 00:39:48.800
Have been saying the same thing.
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If we worry too much about is this the right word,
00:39:50.735 --> 00:39:53.271
Is this the right seed,
00:39:53.271 --> 00:39:54.272
Did i put it in the ground the right way,
00:39:54.272 --> 00:39:56.174
When god is just like, can you just be a part of the process
00:39:56.174 --> 00:39:59.177
Of edification and encouragement?
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That's so good.
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Be obedient because i will worry about
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What to do with the seed.
00:40:03.014 --> 00:40:04.816
I wonder if sometimes if the reason that we don't-- now, not
00:40:04.816 --> 00:40:08.720
You guys, because you're all practically perfect.
00:40:08.720 --> 00:40:10.889
But sometimes the reason that people don't say encouraging
00:40:10.889 --> 00:40:15.727
Things is because they're envious of them.
00:40:15.727 --> 00:40:18.997
So i've been i've been in settings where people whether--
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I mean, i first moved to los angeles as an actress.
00:40:22.501 --> 00:40:25.570
So i've been in plenty of environments with entertainers
00:40:25.570 --> 00:40:28.306
And actors, and they're all so jealous and competitive with
00:40:28.306 --> 00:40:31.276
One another about getting a part,
00:40:31.276 --> 00:40:33.278
They're not going to say, hey, you look awesome today.
00:40:33.278 --> 00:40:35.480
Well, the good thing is that doesn't happen in church.
00:40:35.480 --> 00:40:37.015
So yeah, exactly. yeah, that--
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But i think to your point, i think it
00:40:40.852 --> 00:40:43.054
Spills over into church.
00:40:43.054 --> 00:40:44.122
So we get into environments,
00:40:44.122 --> 00:40:45.957
And so rather than me coming up and saying, hey, you're
00:40:45.957 --> 00:40:48.493
Amazing, you look awesome today,
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We don't do that because we
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Think it takes away. scarcity mentality.
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Yes, yes 100%. yes.
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I want to tell you, the lord, the lord had to deal with
00:40:55.333 --> 00:40:57.335
Me about that specific thing.
00:40:57.335 --> 00:40:59.104
This was some years ago, so i released this book that's
00:40:59.104 --> 00:41:01.806
Dealing with insecurity and comparison.
00:41:01.806 --> 00:41:03.508
And right around the time i was about to release the book--
00:41:03.508 --> 00:41:05.644
Now, mind you, i've written this book, all right, talking
00:41:05.644 --> 00:41:08.346
About how to release comparison and jealousy and all this stuff.
00:41:08.346 --> 00:41:11.283
Right. and then here it comes.
00:41:11.283 --> 00:41:12.284
Here it comes. so it's about, i don't know,
00:41:12.284 --> 00:41:14.553
Two, three weeks before release.
00:41:14.553 --> 00:41:16.555
And another friend of mine was releasing a book at about the
00:41:16.555 --> 00:41:19.190
Same time. she was getting all this national media attention
00:41:19.190 --> 00:41:22.394
And like, she's on like, you know, good morning america and
00:41:22.394 --> 00:41:25.363
Cnbc and this whole thing.
00:41:25.363 --> 00:41:26.898
And i start to hear the voice of the enemy.
00:41:26.898 --> 00:41:28.667
See, nobody's going to buy your book.
00:41:28.667 --> 00:41:29.668
Nobody's going to read your book.
00:41:29.668 --> 00:41:30.669
Nobody wants to interview you.
00:41:30.669 --> 00:41:31.836
Nobody cares about the message.
00:41:31.836 --> 00:41:33.004
Like, [mimics chatter]
00:41:33.004 --> 00:41:34.406
But because i had already been doing the work, because i
00:41:34.406 --> 00:41:37.676
Really understood what the nature of insecurity was,
00:41:37.676 --> 00:41:40.312
In the past, i would have been like,
00:41:40.312 --> 00:41:42.314
Yep, nobody wants to buy my book.
00:41:42.314 --> 00:41:44.015
I would have come into agreement with that. instead
00:41:44.015 --> 00:41:46.685
Because i knew it was a lie,
00:41:46.685 --> 00:41:48.153
I went over to amazon. i bought her book.
00:41:48.153 --> 00:41:51.089
Good job.
00:41:51.089 --> 00:41:52.357
Um, then i went and grabbed my cell phone and i sent her
00:41:52.357 --> 00:41:54.593
A text message,
00:41:54.593 --> 00:41:55.527
Hey, just saw you on whatever program.
00:41:55.527 --> 00:41:57.829
Really excited for you.
00:41:57.829 --> 00:41:58.763
I said, look at what the lord is doing.
00:41:58.763 --> 00:42:00.532
Then i went and i prayed, god, continue to favor her.
00:42:00.532 --> 00:42:04.002
Continue to bless her.
00:42:04.002 --> 00:42:05.203
Take this book to the far corners of the earth because
00:42:05.203 --> 00:42:07.505
People need this message.
00:42:07.505 --> 00:42:08.440
I'm praying, i'm praying and praying.
00:42:08.440 --> 00:42:09.608
And then i stand up and i literally, audibly said,
00:42:09.608 --> 00:42:12.711
Take that devil.
00:42:12.711 --> 00:42:14.279
You will not have me over here thinking that someone else's
00:42:14.279 --> 00:42:18.750
Win is my loss, that someone else's success is my failure.
00:42:18.750 --> 00:42:21.353
You will not have me believing that somehow i am going to come
00:42:21.353 --> 00:42:26.024
Up short, because there's only so many books that can be sold.
00:42:26.024 --> 00:42:28.994
Yeah. come on. and i had to work through that.
00:42:28.994 --> 00:42:31.396
And i'm telling you, that freed me from something to where it's
00:42:31.396 --> 00:42:34.399
Like, look, if i see somebody crushing it, you better believe
00:42:34.399 --> 00:42:37.202
I'm going to call you. i'm going to text you.
00:42:37.202 --> 00:42:38.837
Cheer you on. cheer you on
00:42:38.837 --> 00:42:40.271
Because-- the opposite of scarcity. that's the opposite.
00:42:40.271 --> 00:42:43.842
So when you find yourself in a season of comparison,
00:42:43.842 --> 00:42:47.045
Especially one that triggers feeling like, oh gosh, i'll
00:42:47.045 --> 00:42:51.049
Never be good enough, or look at what's happening in that
00:42:51.049 --> 00:42:53.385
Person's life, i encourage you to remember that the words that
00:42:53.385 --> 00:42:57.155
You speak not only have power, but they also create.
00:42:57.155 --> 00:43:01.993
The lord spoke a light into existence.
00:43:01.993 --> 00:43:05.263
The lord he spoke living things into existence.
00:43:05.263 --> 00:43:08.733
Your words have power.
00:43:08.733 --> 00:43:10.168
So when you start to feel like, oh my gosh, they're getting
00:43:10.168 --> 00:43:12.904
Ahead, i'm behind,
00:43:12.904 --> 00:43:14.239
Instead you need to say, lord, i thank you that you are
00:43:14.239 --> 00:43:17.275
Positioning me exactly where i need to be for the purpose
00:43:17.275 --> 00:43:20.378
That you are calling me for.
00:43:20.378 --> 00:43:23.114
Unpack that chrystal for people, what is a scarcity,
00:43:23.114 --> 00:43:25.917
Scarcity mentality?
00:43:25.917 --> 00:43:27.719
Yeah, it says god does not have enough for me,
00:43:27.719 --> 00:43:30.922
That there is a limit.
00:43:30.922 --> 00:43:32.390
And so if there's a limit, then if nona gets more people to buy
00:43:32.390 --> 00:43:37.362
Her books, and god forbid, if our books come out on the same
00:43:37.362 --> 00:43:40.832
Day, that there will be less people to buy my book.
00:43:40.832 --> 00:43:44.536
That if my friend gets married,
00:43:44.536 --> 00:43:47.639
Oh my gosh, i can't be excited for her
00:43:47.639 --> 00:43:49.774
Because that means there's one less man for me in the world.
00:43:49.774 --> 00:43:53.211
You know, if i am hoping one day to have children and she
00:43:53.211 --> 00:43:56.848
Has a baby, well, that just means there's one less baby
00:43:56.848 --> 00:43:59.617
For me in heaven.
00:43:59.617 --> 00:44:00.852
It says the opposite of what the bible tells us, which is
00:44:00.852 --> 00:44:04.456
That god owns the cattle on a thousand hills.
00:44:04.456 --> 00:44:06.758
It says the opposite of what the bible tells us when jesus
00:44:06.758 --> 00:44:10.628
Came to provide salvation for everyone.
00:44:10.628 --> 00:44:13.431
The thing is, we serve a god that has enough.
00:44:13.431 --> 00:44:16.868
And whatever is for me is for me.
00:44:16.868 --> 00:44:19.604
And i don't have to be jealous or envious of someone else
00:44:19.604 --> 00:44:22.741
Because if god was blessing her, that that means there's
00:44:22.741 --> 00:44:25.910
Somehow less for me.
00:44:25.910 --> 00:44:28.046
And so the goal is to continue to tell yourself by what you
00:44:28.046 --> 00:44:31.483
Say to yourself, to confess to the lord and also to operate,
00:44:31.483 --> 00:44:36.488
Which is what you did. yes.
00:44:36.488 --> 00:44:37.889
You got your body in alignment with your belief to
00:44:37.889 --> 00:44:41.292
Say, because i believe that there's enough for all of us,
00:44:41.292 --> 00:44:44.262
I can celebrate someone else because my celebration of her
00:44:44.262 --> 00:44:48.833
Does not mean that there's less for me.
00:44:48.833 --> 00:44:50.935
And can we say that not only does god have enough, god can
00:44:50.935 --> 00:44:54.572
Speak into nothing and create.
00:44:54.572 --> 00:44:56.775
It's ephesians 3:20, exceedingly above and beyond.
00:44:56.775 --> 00:45:00.612
There is above and beyondness.
00:45:00.612 --> 00:45:01.980
Creates out of nothing.
00:45:01.980 --> 00:45:05.416
So just because somebody is winning doesn't mean that the
00:45:05.416 --> 00:45:09.354
Pie is shrinking. right.
00:45:09.354 --> 00:45:11.156
God can create.
00:45:11.156 --> 00:45:12.423
And not to forget that what we're called to as believers
00:45:12.423 --> 00:45:15.593
Is to lose our life.
00:45:15.593 --> 00:45:17.262
And so much about the scarcity mentality is actually trying
00:45:17.262 --> 00:45:21.633
To hold on to every little piece,
00:45:21.633 --> 00:45:23.601
Trying to hold on to every little thing that i have,
00:45:23.601 --> 00:45:25.436
Because there's not going to be enough when we're
00:45:25.436 --> 00:45:27.071
Called to lose it.
00:45:27.071 --> 00:45:28.373
So if we really lived as people who were losing their life, we
00:45:28.373 --> 00:45:32.177
Were taking up our cross daily, then it would be easier to
00:45:32.177 --> 00:45:36.681
Approach the person with an encouraging word because we
00:45:36.681 --> 00:45:38.550
Don't care about our pride.
00:45:38.550 --> 00:45:40.451
It would be easier to edify or encourage somebody else instead
00:45:40.451 --> 00:45:44.656
Of being jealous of them, because my whole calling is
00:45:44.656 --> 00:45:47.725
That i am less in the sense of everything is about him.
00:45:47.725 --> 00:45:53.097
I'm not doing any of this for me.
00:45:53.097 --> 00:45:54.933
So what does it matter?
00:45:54.933 --> 00:45:56.634
It could be something as simple at in a grocery store, you see
00:45:56.634 --> 00:45:59.704
Someone with three kids and you just go, hey, you're doing
00:45:59.704 --> 00:46:02.207
A great job. you've got this.
00:46:02.207 --> 00:46:03.942
Doesn't have to be, like, so deeply spiritual.
00:46:03.942 --> 00:46:07.378
Thus says the lord.
00:46:07.378 --> 00:46:08.646
Yeah. at your homework today on better together is find one
00:46:08.646 --> 00:46:13.151
Person and say an encouraging word to her.
00:46:13.151 --> 00:46:14.319
Encourage them or edify them. today.
00:46:14.319 --> 00:46:17.255
Let me read to you in proverbs 16:24 says...
00:46:17.255 --> 00:46:25.263
What if a word given to you is what the lord wants to use to
00:46:25.263 --> 00:46:31.903
Mend your soul and to heal your bones?
00:46:31.903 --> 00:46:34.505
What if it's the prayer that
00:46:34.505 --> 00:46:35.974
The answered prayer that you need?
00:46:35.974 --> 00:46:38.109
So i really want to encourage you, one, to get into the habit
00:46:38.109 --> 00:46:42.547
Of giving encouraging words.
00:46:42.547 --> 00:46:44.382
But two, when you receive a
00:46:44.382 --> 00:46:46.184
Word, come into agreement with that.
00:46:46.184 --> 00:46:48.386
If it passes the test of being a word that
00:46:48.386 --> 00:46:52.257
Checks out and it's from a trusted source.
00:46:52.257 --> 00:46:54.826
I really want to encourage you
00:46:54.826 --> 00:46:56.027
Because i know there is the temptation
00:46:56.027 --> 00:46:58.630
When you hear a word to say immediately, i don't, i don't
00:46:58.630 --> 00:47:02.567
Believe that about.
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Myself or i don't see that in me or that can't be
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What god is going to do, or whatever the word might be.
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There might be the
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Deflection might be the first response.
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And what i would ask is, would you first take that word with
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Open hands and take it to the lord and say, lord, show me the
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Truth in this word and show me the truth about me?
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I want to align my heart with this word because i want to
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Walk in every destiny you have for me, every purpose
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You have for me.
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And i want to be all that you have created me to be.
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The illustration i had when you were talking about you're
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Trying to hang on to something,
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If you think about it, if you're hanging on to something,
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How in the world are you going to receive?
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You cannot. you can't receive.
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That's very good.
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This open handedness is how you receive.
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I was reading that verse that you referenced there.
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This is how it reads in the message paraphrase.
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This is matthew 16:24...
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Come on.
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Mm. let's pray.
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Thank you.
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Lord, sometimes i just even just want to pause in your
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Presence before i say a word
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Because i'm so aware of the greatness of who you are and my
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Limited understanding of the greatness of who you are and
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Your plans and your ways.
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But, lord, i think it would be so great if every one of us who
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Claimed your name, who has committed ourselves to
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Following you all the way home, became like your boots on the
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Ground where we just spoke life over people, where we kept our
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Eyes fixed on you.
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Because that's what you did.
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You kept your eyes fixed on where you were going.
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But even though you had your eyes fixed on that, you never
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Missed a soul.
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You saw the one person who would cry out.
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You heard the one person when everybody else was telling them
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To be quiet.
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Lord, help us to be your agents of grace and mercy and kindness
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And beauty in this world.
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So many people are hurting.
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Lord, help us to be part of the healing.
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In jesus' name, jesus' name, amen. amen.
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Connect with us on social media and let us know how our team
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Can pray for you.
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So i have a message here from belinda, one of our viewers.
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Let me read it.
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Sheila, thank you so much for sharing your testimony of god
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Being with you when you entered psychiatric care.
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I've never been able to share my story because of the shame i
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Still feel after all these years.
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Hearing you speak changed the way i see it
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Because he checked in there with you.
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Belinda, well done.
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Thank you for reaching out.
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Thanks for telling us that.
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And i understand what that's like.
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I mean, i felt the same way at first.
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It was like, i don't want to tell anybody where i've been
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Because they're going to think less of me,
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Until i realized that the god really brought me to that place
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To give me the help that i needed.
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And i also discovered the truth, that it's a beautiful thing
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That god will do with a broken
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Life if you give him all the pieces.
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One of my dearest friends gave me a little, um, it's a little
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Ceramic dish, but it's the old japanese kind of.
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It's called kintsugi, where it's been broken, but all the
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Little cracks have been repaired with gold.
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So it actually looks even more
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Beautiful after it's been broken.
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That's something god can do.
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So well done, belinda, and i can't wait to see what else
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God's going to do through your life.
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Words Can Change Your Life - Episode 1112

November 4, 2025 | S7 E1112 | 52:34

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