Better Together

Your God-Given Name - Episode 1096

September 22, 2025 | S7 E1096 | 52:34

Bossy. Lazy. Not enough. Too much. What labels are you wearing? If you have received "names" that do not reflect the heart of God, remember that He calls you loved and chosen. Replace lies with His truth to embrace your true identity! | TBN Prayer Line: 714-731-1000

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Better Together | Your God-Given Name - Episode 1096 | September 22, 2025

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- god knows your name, and when he looks at you, he sees
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His precious child.
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Today we're dropping old labels and we're choosing to
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See ourselves through our father's eyes.
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Come on, join us.
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♪ (music playing) ♪
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- i recently joined the glasses club.
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- yes!
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- so good, baby.
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- looks so good.
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- it's new.
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It's new.
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Thank you.
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We're on a journey.
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I remember when i went to my doctor and she showed me
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Something and she said, can you see this?
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And i said, can anybody see this?
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[laughing] and she said, yes, everybody can see this.
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Except people who need glasses.
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And she started to ask me all these questions, like when you
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Go into rooms like this, do you feel limited in this way?
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When you go into environments like this, do you feel limited
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In this way?
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And i said, yes.
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I feel limited in all of those ways.
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But i thought everybody lived that way.
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And she looked at me and she said, you have been living
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With limitations.
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That you don't have to live with anymore.
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- wow.
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- and i said, you know, i'm really ok.
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I've lived my whole life this way.
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I drive.
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I work.
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I write with tiny little words.
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I'm actually ok.
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I'm used to living this way.
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And she said, just because you've grown used to it
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Doesn't mean that's what's best for you.
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- oh wow.
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- and then she prescribed me these glasses, and everyone
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Looks better in 3d now.
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So this is great.
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But i wonder in what ways in our lives, have we been seeing
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Ourselves through the wrong lens.
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- wow.
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- or perhaps a broken lens that someone else gave to us.
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Perhaps we got the wrong lens from words that were spoken to
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Us.
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Or the wrong lens from things that were done to us or taken
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From us.
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Or maybe even the wrong lens because we did something we're
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Not proud of.
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And then we live with all this guilt and all this shame, so
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We see ourselves one certain way.
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I wonder if some of us might be, answering to names that
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Are not our real names.
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I wonder if some of us might be living with limitations
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That we don't have to live with anymore.
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And i think when you see yourself through the wrong
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Lens, if you think you're unworthy.
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You'll start living like you are.
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You might try to prove yourself to people or try to
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Impress people.
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If you believe that you're a burden to be loved.
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You might always just live like you are.
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Thinking no one wants to invite you.
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You don't want to invite other people.
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Nobody wants to hear what you're really going through.
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Maybe if you believe that you will always be a failure.
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You'll always pick the wrong people.
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You'll always make the wrong choices.
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You might have trouble opening up to anybody or starting
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Anything or praying for anything.
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You might think everything you touch will be a failure, and
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This is what i think the enemy knows who we really are.
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He knows how valuable our lives are.
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He knows that god has a purpose on our lives.
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So he's on this whole mission to make sure we don't find out
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Too.
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Because he knows that what we think about ourselves
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Determines how we live.
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Your lens of yourself will determine how you live, and he
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Knows what we need to know.
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Which is who we really are in christ, what god says about us
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So that we can have the right lens.
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You might say, i'm unworthy, i'm garbage, i'm trash.
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I'm not good enough.
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I'm unworthy to be loved.
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But just because you've grown used to believing the wrong
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Name.
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Just because you've grown used to that broken lens doesn't
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Mean that's what's best for you.
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I just kind of want to start from this place for anyone
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Watching that might have believed a lie about yourself
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Or believed a name about yourself that god did not give
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To you.
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We want to help kind of expose the lies and help you see what
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God really thinks about you.
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So you can live as who you really are and we've all
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Listened to lies we've all listened to the wrong names
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About ourselves we've lived with limitations we weren't
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Supposed to live with.
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And i wonder if that comes to mind for any of you if any of
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You have ever listened to a name.
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About yourself that wasn't true, if it impacted how you
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Lived.
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And then how did it change how you lived when you realized
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Who you really were?
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Do any names maybe come to mind?
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- yeah, i mean, i, i think of two, and then they're kind of
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A dichotomy because i think when i was growing up, when i
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Was in junior high and high school.
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The beautiful thing is my parents always instilled in me
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A godly confidence.
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So i, it was like, i love the lord so much and, and i was,
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I, i felt like i was a confident kid.
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But in junior high and high school.
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I found myself getting left out of a lot of just
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Relationships.
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The narrative that i began to tell myself was that you're
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Not wanted.
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And so it was like, well, why am i not wanted?
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Like, because i had always grown up with just this
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Confidence.
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I, i was well loved by my parents.
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That was my story.
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And so i just started, i think, listening to the
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Narrative of, you're not wanted.
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And so then the response was like this, i need to prove why
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I'm worthy to be wanted.
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So there was a little bit of like a hustle.
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For my worthiness that came in.
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I remember that that narrative just kind of trickled as i was
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Becoming a young adult.
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And i'll never forget, i was standing in the hallway of our
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Church, and i was a young adult.
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My husband and i were about to be married.
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We got married as babies.
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We were just babies.
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We were about to be married and our pastor was walking
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Down the hall, and he stopped and he began to tell me all of
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The awesome things about my husband, which was so true.
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Like they were amazing things about him.
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And he began to say all that, and he's going to do amazing
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Things.
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And i remember that my initial response was, well, what about
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Me?
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And i hate that that was my response because everything he
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Was saying about my soon to be husband was so true.
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But that narrative had been so ingrained inside of me that
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You're not wanted.
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That i felt like i had something i had to prove to
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Everyone else, like that i am good enough.
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That i am worthy of being wanted.
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And so the dichotomy of that is, i feel like after we got
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Married, the hustle for my worthiness became like, i'm,
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You know, just striving.
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Just constantly striving to make sure that the people
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Around me wanted me.
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And, and then now you're too much.
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Like it was like you're-- - can't win.
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- yeah, i felt like i couldn't win.
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I felt like i couldn't win.
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And so it was such a journey for me of having to identify
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The lies and identify the hustle for my worthiness that
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I didn't have to own any longer.
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And, and settling in to know, like i'm exactly who god
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Created me to be.
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I'm exactly the girl with the personality.
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I am, i'm loud, i'm extra.
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I'm all of those things, but it's how god wired me.
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And so that's been a journey.
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And i feel like it's a journey i still today have to remind
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Myself of.
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I mean, even gathering with a group of friends, you have to
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Go, ok, but who are you, megan?
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Who has god called you to be?
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And so i 1000% identify with what you're sharing.
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- you know, i think a lot of times people want to put on us
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Things that maybe they're guilty of or their
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Insecurities and their fears.
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We should never listen to what names people call us.
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Our identity is found in christ and in christ alone,
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And the more we get that, the better off we're going to be.
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- i think you can grow up with a name that's negative, but
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It's actually true.
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It's just not the whole truth.
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Um, because when you were talking, what came to my mind
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Was fatherless.
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That's what i believed about myself growing up.
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And it was highlighted, you know, my dad died when i was
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5.
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And so it was highlighted in a couple of ways.
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I'll never forget being in primary school in scotland,
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Which is like--
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- elementary?
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- elementary school.
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And it was coming up on father's day and the whole
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Class were making father's day cards, and i didn't know what
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To do.
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I was the only person, i mean nowadays there's a lot of
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Broken families and there's a lot of people who are not
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Living with a completely intact family.
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Back then i was the only one.
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And i remember thinking i'm never gonna belong because
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There's a club that i will never be part of.
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And just sitting there and feeling absolutely wretched.
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And there was a girl in my class who.
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I mean, i'm sure she's changed over the years, but she has--
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Please jesus, let her have changed over the years.
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[laughing] she just delighted in kind of rubbing salt and
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Anyone who had an open wound.
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And i remember we went on a school trip and we were
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Staying for a weekend in these, you know, kind of
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Cabins, and our parents were gonna come on the sunday for
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Us and we were gonna have a service together.
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And i was sitting on the top bunk bed looking out the
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Window waiting for my mom.
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And she shouted out, oh sheila, look, there's your dad
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And i looked.
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And it just, and i remember spilling, and she laughed.
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And i remember just feeling like, oh gosh, i just think in
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God's sovereignty, some of these things happen and
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They're not good.
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But they shake what's not true off a tree.
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Because what has been part of my life is discovering no, i
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Do have a father.
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I am not fatherless.
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I have a father who sees everything i do.
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Who knows everything, who loves me.
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So sometimes the word can be something that is true.
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But it's not the whole truth.
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- that's very good.
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- yeah.
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- i don't know if you've ever been labeled by someone.
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I think we all have.
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You know, we've all been given labels.
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And how do you differentiate between a label that somebody
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Else puts on you.
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And the identity that you're given in christ?
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I'll just ask you one question.
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Is it eternal?
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Will it last forever?
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Because your identity in jesus is eternal.
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It means that you are a daughter of the king for
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Eternity.
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Things like being so and so's wife, or somebody else's mom,
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Or the person who works in the library or the school teacher.
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All of those things can be gone in a moment.
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But your identity that nobody, nobody can touch is that
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You're a child of god.
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- and this all resonates.
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I think a bit of what you were sharing i think for me it's,
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It's the like you're too much, you're not enough tightrope,
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And i, i feel like maybe i'm not the only one on that
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Tightrope but it's a horrible one and you can't win on it.
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You have no mobility it's terrifying.
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But i feel like a lot of my life has been lived on this
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Tightrope of like you do something and it's lackluster
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And then you do something else and it's like, oh wow, that
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Was a bit a bit excessive.
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And what it does is it-- for a lot of my life, just this
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Navel gazing, this introspection, it's like
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Beating myself up, questioning everything that's coming out
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Of me.
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According to these two that hold you and it's impossible.
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You can't.
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There's one bully staring at you from, from either side,
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You know?
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And i feel like i've heard it from a lot of women that those
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Two kinds of voices, if it's not one, the other meets you.
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And, um, and i think for a long time, the way that i, you
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Know, dealt with that was.
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Yes, like managing, just like criticizing, that was a dumb
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Thing to say.
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Oh, that was, that was not enough.
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And eyes here and just not, not with the kindness, not
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With the awareness of obviously who, who i am.
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And then it also turned outward.
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Where i would do something and rather than just existing with
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The people that i was with.
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I was watching their reaction to tell me about who i was.
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So i'm not even enjoying the togetherness of what's
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Happening because all you are to me is like a mirror back
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About who i am.
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And it never answers the question.
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It was never meant to.
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And you never will answer that question and it really was a
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Beautiful process of the lord beginning to unfold.
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But i remember this one particular moment where i was
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Just really feeling in the crossfire of those two voices.
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I think i was probably getting up to lead worship or
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Something and i poured my heart out and i was like, oh,
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That was probably too much.
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That, that's, uh, that was a lot, you know, and, um, but
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Then also maybe not enough, you know.
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And all of that and i just was sitting in the vulnerability
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Of, i hate these too.
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I hate them.
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I hate these options.
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The storm is not settling.
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And i remember the lord just came with such kindness to
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That swirl and his voice cut through and he said, hey,
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You're not little, little one.
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- oh wow.
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- you're not little, little one.
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And all of a sudden, i felt big before him.
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I loved before him.
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I felt enough.
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- not reduced.
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- yeah, not walking this horrible.
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What do you think?
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What do you, what do i think?
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Like i'm on trial or like i'm trying out for my own life.
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Do you know what i'm saying?
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Like i'm auditioning.
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For the role of me.
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Do you know what i'm saying?
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And what i felt from that was the simultaneous like, hey
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Callie, i didn't ask you to be all of it.
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The weight of the world that you feel on your shoulders
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Like.
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I can take that one, you know.
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You're my little one.
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I'll hold all of that for you and to the things that we're
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Still growing and developing in.
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You're my little one and, and we'll get there, but i'll
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Never talk down to you.
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I'll never speak to you the way that you've made a habit
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Of speaking to yourself.
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I'll never look at you with the eyes that you've met from
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Other people.
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You're not little, little one.
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I love you.
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I love you and i don't critique the moves that you
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Make.
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I don't look at you that way.
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And the invitation was could i, could i bask in those
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Words?
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Could i stand up tall?
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Into what he is saying and could i be held close as his
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Daughter all at the same time.
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And it just felt like it hit those two horrible phrases
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Those voices that you'll never win.
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And his fathering his kindness came and it was the only voice
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That broke that thing.
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Nobody else's opinion over me, not my own voices, nothing.
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It was the voice of the father.
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You're not little, little one.
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- that's very good.
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- i love you i love you.
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- you know, knowing god as our father is what helps shape our
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Identity as his children.
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When we recognize that god is our father, we can get a
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Picture in our minds of a father who loves us, who
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Provides for us, who cares about us in our every need.
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And for me as a daughter, that is so encouraging because
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There are some times where i feel unlovable.
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There's some times where i feel like i don't have enough.
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But knowing that i have a father in heaven who loves me.
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Who champions me, who believes in me, it gives me a sense of
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Purpose and identity.
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And maybe you're listening, and you haven't had an earthly
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Father play that kind of role.
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Maybe it's something that you've deeply desired that
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You've been missing out on.
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Can i tell you that that doesn't stop your heavenly
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Father from being the father that you hoped for and dreamed
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Of.
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He is more than enough for you.
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He loves you beyond measure.
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He's chosen you.
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He's got good plans for you.
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He's your strength when you're weak.
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He's your peace in the midst of storms.
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I'm telling you.
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No matter what your experience has been here on this earth,
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You've got a father in heaven who reminds you that you're
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His.
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- understanding our identity in jesus changes everything,
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Particularly when it comes to things like shame.
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This is how i differentiate between guilt and shame.
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I think if i said something unkind to you.
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I would feel guilty until i could sit down and say, please
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Forgive me.
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I'm so sorry.
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That was all me.
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The shame, if guilt tells me i've done something wrong,
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Shame tells me i am something wrong.
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So then that's when you find your identity in jesus and you
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Think, no matter what she might want to tell me, i know
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Who i am.
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I am a daughter of the king.
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You know what i love about god is that he says i'm your
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Foundation, you know, and our lives are like this so the
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Opinions of man and and the labels and whatever and we
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Think god's, you know, in the middle and we meet him up and
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Down here but really he's here and he's the foundation of
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Everything so that you're not rocked to and fro, carried.
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Out you're you're stable.
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And so i don't look to you to make me feel good right now.
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I don't look to anybody to make me feel whole or
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Satisfied or complete because god is my foundation.
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He's called me daughter.
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Yes, i am daughter.
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You are daughter.
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But this week of identity, i think is so powerful because
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It gives us a foundation.
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To live by and so no matter the abused one, the felon, the
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Overweight, the skinny, the too much, all of those labels
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That come to us very unwelcome at times, you know, don't have
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The ability to pierce us because.
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We're covered by daughter by who god says we are and if we
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Can just get that in our hearts, get it in our minds,
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Get it in our thoughts, then nothing in life don't matter
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It's who god says i am.
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I'm chosen.
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I'm beloved.
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I am the daughter of the most high god.
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And so even though we might not feel it sometimes, that's
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The truth of god's word that settles us.
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- when we understand what we've been given now that we
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Are alive with christ, understanding what it means to
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Be an adopted son and daughter of god there is complete life
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Transformation that happens there we we don't do anything
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The way that we had done prior new creation completely that
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Includes freedom.
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Why?
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Because the lord is freedom.
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I am found in him.
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I belong to him.
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He has marked my life.
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That means his freedom is now my freedom.
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The way i go about my life is through the filter of who god
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Is and and freedom is one of the hallmarks, one of the
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Things that he offers, so it marks every part of our lives.
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- i love that you mentioned that like the opinions of
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People flowing and needing a foundation, a good question
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For all of us to ask would be who are you listening to?
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Who are the people you're going to to give you your
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Value?
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Who are you performing for?
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Who are the judges at your table that you feel you have
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To audition for?
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We can't keep going to people's opinion.
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To tell us who we are because people's opinions are always
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Changing.
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We can't keep going to the trends of culture to tell us
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Who we are because trends are always changing.
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We need something that is secure.
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We need something that has withheld the test of time.
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We need to know what god says about us and this doesn't
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Change.
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I need something greater than what i'm feeling today.
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My identity can't be if i feel like i'm hot stuff this day or
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I feel like i'm nothing this day.
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It has to be something more stable than what i'm feeling.
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I need to know what god, the creator of the universe who
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Created me says about me.
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Whose voice are you listening to?
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- how do you find the balance too of i wonder how many of
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Our audience have had their voices silenced because of
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What people say to them, have had their gifts kind of
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Suppressed.
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When i, i was growing up in a fairly small church in
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Scotland and we would do these little musicals, and i usually
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Would get the solo part.
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And i remember one day this girl saying to me, why do you
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Always get the solo?
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Why doesn't somebody else get the solo, and i'm thinking, oh
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Gosh, i don't know.
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And it made me stop showing up for things and it made me
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Stop.
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In fact, this is gonna sound ridiculous.
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I still have it.
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I still have that same thing.
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I was speaking at something a couple of weeks ago just
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Locally, and the person wanted me to sing, and i mean i could
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Still sing.
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I mean, i'm not barbra streisand, but i can still
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Sing.
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And but my first thought is always, oh gosh, no, no, i'm
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Not gonna do that, and i'm thinking.
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Where did that come from- from all these years that i'm
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Thinking because i read this thing about timothy keller.
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I wrote it down last night.
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The bible says that our real problem is that every one of
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Us is building our identity on something besides jesus.
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And when you build your identity on anything besides
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Jesus.
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You're in trouble because then it's like as you say, if
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You're doing really well, you think, well, you know,
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Everybody's approval, but it's never quite, there's always
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Something a little suspect about it whereas if you build
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Your identity on jesus, that can't be shaken but the
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Ripples that go on for years are kind of interesting to me.
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- i feel like you have to really keep yourself in check
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With that though, because it's so easy to, it's so easy to
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Look to the approval of men and women and people around
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Us.
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It's, i just think that's the nature of our fallen fallen
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Flesh, right?
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Like we just, we naturally are looking to others to affirm
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What we what we want to be and who we want to be.
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And i was so convicted about that because, as i was
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Sharing, i, i felt like there was a long struggle for
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Figuring out my identity and the wrestle was real.
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And so for me, i had to get really practical because i
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Knew that the truth was, i've got to get back to what does
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God say about me?
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But it was a daily wrestle.
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And so i got to the point where i had to put in my
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Phone, you know, you can set your phones with the alarms or
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The alerts that go off daily.
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So i plugged into my phone an alarm to go off daily with the
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Scripture, galatians 1:10 and it says, "for am i now seeking
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The approval of man?
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Or of god?
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Or am i trying to please men?
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If i were still trying to please man, i would not be a
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Servant of christ." and it's like i just needed that in my
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Face reminder, like, what are you doing today, megan?
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Are you trying to please the people around you?
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Are you trying to get their approval?
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Or do you want my approval?
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Can you be obedient to be who i've asked you to be?
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And for me, i had to get super practical and make it a daily
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In your face reminder because i feel like it's something we
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All struggle with.
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- absolutely.
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- some practical ways that we can be intentional, making
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Sure we find our identity in christ and constantly building
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Our identity on christ alone is one i would take a self
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Audit of your time.
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How much time are you spending listening to other people,
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Scrolling through the opinions of people talking about what
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Other people think about you, versus how much time you're
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Spending with god and in his word.
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I would take a self audit of your time.
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I would take a self audit of the voices you're listening
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To.
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Who are you going to give you your value?
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Is it people that you know?
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Is it people you don't know that you've heard of and
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You've heard that they're talking about you?
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Is it people online?
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Is it what other people say about you.
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Take a self audit of your time.
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Take a self audit of who you're listening to and know
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That no one has the power to define you, but the one who
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Created you.
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I would spend more time listening to what god says
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About you reading his word than you do listening to other
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People say about you.
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And i would turn up the volume of god's voice in your life
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Through his word, through surrounding yourself with
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Other people who know his word and turn down the voices, turn
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Down the volume of the people in your life that don't have
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The power to define you.
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You can go to other people for lots of things, but don't go
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To them for your value and worth.
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And as you continue to do that, you will start to
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Realize who you really are and just knowing who you are in
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Christ will become more natural.
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- i think too like i love this about like whatever is rooted
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In the reality of jesus christ when we came into this kingdom
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Whoever i was before, whatever my name was, whatever history
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I brought with me, i am now hidden in christ.
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So this is a full and complete exchange of identity.
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That's what happened at the cross.
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That that old person died.
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It died with him and we are now alive in christ.
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And so for me, it's remembering like, oh, when the
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Father looks at me, he sees his son.
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That actually happened.
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Like that transfer occurred.
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And so it would, for me, i'm like, where else- where else
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Could i go to find who i am if not what the word of god is
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Saying, and you have all throughout like the new
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Testament and like the pauline epistles this phrase in christ
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In christ, who are you?
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You're hidden in christ for a new creation in christ.
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The old is gone, the new has come.
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We had a categorical shift happen at that moment of
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Salvation.
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It is and i live and move and have my everything has changed
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And i think sometimes when we just grow up in it, we don't
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Recognize, we don't have the appreciation of that old all
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The old is gone.
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It's buried it went underwater in the baptism, and we rose
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Into new life with christ.
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And that therefore, whatever he is, whoever he is, which we
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Find here, we know him, that, do i deserve it?
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Absolutely not.
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Did i earn it?
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Absolutely not.
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That is the gift.
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Whether i feel it or not does not make it true.
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I am in christ, a new creation.
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And i just think even i'm a pastor's kid.
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I grew up in all this, but it's almost like we need to
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Learn all over again, wake up to the reality of like, this
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Is the truth about me.
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I can walk about my day and think i am identified by this,
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This this this.
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But the most foundational transformative part of who i
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Am is who jesus christ is.
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- even as you're talking and unpacking that, it's huge.
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I remember the night i was baptized when i was 16.
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And it was so emotional, it was maybe 7 of us, and i wept
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From the minute the service started i wept and when i came
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Out the water and went in, i said to my mum, take a photo
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Of me.
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She was like, do you want to dry your hair first?
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I'm like, no, take a photo of me because i'm gonna look
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Different.
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It was like a huge thing.
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I thought, you know, because i understood this whole thing,
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You're buried with christ in baptism, so whatever all that
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Is buried and you're raised to newness of life and it was
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Like.
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Wow, take a photo, you know, but i think you get so used to
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Thinking that's just a phrase as opposed to, no, that's the
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Kingdom we're living in.
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That is our kingdom.
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That's where we live.
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- yeah, that's good.
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Yeah, i think i struggled with knowing what that meant for a
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Long time too.
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Sometimes the phrases that you hear and you like believe but
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You don't fully understand and for many of us when we
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Understand it more, man, it changes our faith like it
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Transforms how real it is for us.
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If you've never heard the concept of getting a new name,
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This is what it literally means.
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This doesn't mean that when you put your faith in jesus,
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He changes who you are.
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The truth is that he's revealing to you who you've
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Always been.
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These new names aren't brand new identities.
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They're your real names.
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They, they're who god actually created you to be.
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He created you, loved and chosen and with a purpose and
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To be free.
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But because we have sinned and we have separated ourselves
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From god, we've listened to the wrong name.
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We've believed we're unworthy, unwanted.
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We have made mistakes in our lives.
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We've done things that we regret.
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We carry shame because we have listened to so many of the
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Wrong names, we start living lives that are less than what
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God's called us to live.
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But when you put your faith in jesus and you receive
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Salvation for your soul.
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Now god, the new name he gives you is actually the name
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You've always been.
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He's helping you discover who you already are.
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Your new name is your real name.
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You will now start to unlearn some of the lies you've
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Believed, and you will start to discover who you really
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Are.
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- second corinthians 5:17 says this exactly what callie was
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Saying.
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Second corinthians 5:17.
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Therefore, if anyone is united with the anointed one, that
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Person is a new creation.
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The old life is gone, and see a new life has begun.
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This means that when you put your faith in jesus.
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Jesus is the lens god sees you through, so everything that
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Applies to jesus applies to you and jesus is sinless and
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Jesus is blameless and so god sees you through the lens of
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His son.
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So even if you have done things that you regret, even
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If you lived a life you're not proud of, even if people
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Called you names you called yourself names, do you want to
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Know the lens god sees you through?
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He sees you through the lens of jesus.
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So if you're here today and you're thinking, man, i just
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Don't have faith in myself, you don't have to have faith
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In yourself.
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You just have to have faith in jesus, right?
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Do you believe jesus is worthy?
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Do you believe jesus is enough?
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You put your faith in jesus and you accept what god says
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You are, and i think it changes how you think about
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Yourself, i think it changes how you think about other
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People.
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I think it changes how you think about god because when
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You're not living your life trying to prove yourself to
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Other people then you're also not trying to tear other
00:29:42.238 --> 00:29:44.306
People down either and then you can start to be someone.
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When you are healed from your old names and you realize your
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New name in christ you become empowered and more aware of
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Your ability to tell other people their new names too.
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So you don't become a part of the problem.
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You become a part of the solution.
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- which is this verse immediately proceeding from
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Now on, therefore we regard no one, not even ourselves,
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According to the flesh, according to what had been
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Before this transformation occurred, right?
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So we once regarded christ according to the flesh, we
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Regard him thus no longer.
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So the idea of like, i treat you in accordance, with what
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God says about you, his prize, his joy, and actually going
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About your day asking, god, what name have you given them?
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Because what if i am the mouthpiece to speak i think
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Even all the way back in the beginning, what brought
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Everything forth it was the power of word, name, creates
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Things.
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It makes worlds, right?
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And so when it says, therefore we regard no one, not even
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Ourselves, according to what we were.
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I have the power to speak and to remind the people around
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Me.
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This is the nature of who god says you are now.
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This is your identity and we become partakers in this
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Reconciliation.
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You're powerful.
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- no, that is so powerful because just like all of us
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Have heard the wrong names about ourselves, we have that
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Power to give other people the wrong labels too, to give them
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A label or a lens or an identity that god did not give
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To them so we have to be very mindful of the words that we
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Use and if there's someone that we're struggling to love
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Or if there's someone who has maybe even hurt our hearts or
00:31:28.077 --> 00:31:31.146
Maybe a hard relationship or a hard conversation that we're
00:31:31.146 --> 00:31:34.316
About to have, it would be helpful to pray to god and say
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God, would you help me have your lens?
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Would you help me have your lens in this situation?
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Would you help me have your lens of this person, would you
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Help me as i speak to them, speak to them as the loved and
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Chosen and uniquely made child of god that they are.
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That doesn't mean you can't have hard conversations, but
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To see someone the way god sees them will help you have
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Better conversations.
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- and seeing the way god sees them.
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I mean, i think that's, i think i actually prayed that
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This morning.
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God, i want to see the way you see.
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I'm prone to pray for others that god changes them, people
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Around me that affect my life.
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I'm always going, god, pray.
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I just pray for my husband, god that he'll do whatever it
00:32:18.794 --> 00:32:22.297
Is, whoever it is in your life, my children or my mom or
00:32:22.297 --> 00:32:26.668
People around me, and i've finally gotten to where i've
00:32:26.668 --> 00:32:30.506
Just prayed, god, let me see these people through your eyes
00:32:30.506 --> 00:32:35.577
And the way that you see them.
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Their gifts and their callings, god, help me see
00:32:37.780 --> 00:32:41.183
Their talents in all the good things and let me be able to
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Speak life over them.
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And i just find that that's a better way to go.
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You know, i remember you were talking about your glasses.
00:32:49.391 --> 00:32:53.095
I had literally my lens changed in both of my eyes, my
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Lenses changed and the day before they do one eye and
00:32:56.899 --> 00:33:01.303
Then they wait a couple days and then they do the other
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Eye.
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So i was in nashville and he said, we'll take off your
00:33:05.741 --> 00:33:07.943
Cataracts at the same time.
00:33:07.943 --> 00:33:09.078
I said, cataracts?
00:33:09.078 --> 00:33:10.145
He goes, yeah, he goes, you have cataracts.
00:33:10.145 --> 00:33:11.613
I was like, i do?
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I don't recall him ever telling me i had cataracts.
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I'm like, oh, ok, you know, never seemed to bother me and
00:33:16.585 --> 00:33:21.190
I remember, so i had one eye done and i'll never forget it
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Was bright and sunny in my room when i woke up and when i
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Opened my eyes, my left eye, they started with this one and
00:33:28.397 --> 00:33:33.802
I could not believe how clear everything was and the the
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Ceiling was so bright and white and i was just blown
00:33:39.541 --> 00:33:43.145
Away so i was, you know, doing this looking through my it
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Looked like you're looking through mud or swamp water,
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You know, and, and then it's so clear and i think if we can
00:33:49.351 --> 00:33:53.455
Get that lens changed, if we can get a perspective and when
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You're having a hard time with somebody, if you're having a
00:33:56.992 --> 00:34:00.229
Hard time with your husband or your friends or so god just
00:34:00.229 --> 00:34:04.199
Let me see them through your eyes and you know so many
00:34:04.199 --> 00:34:08.036
Times god changed people's names in the bible, you know,
00:34:08.036 --> 00:34:12.407
And gideon's one of the favorite, you know, he was the
00:34:12.407 --> 00:34:15.277
Scaredy cat that was in the wine, you know, the wine press
00:34:15.277 --> 00:34:19.181
Or wherever he was just staying out of the way and god
00:34:19.181 --> 00:34:22.784
Says, oh mighty man of valor, and he's like, who?
00:34:22.784 --> 00:34:26.421
You know, who you talking to?
00:34:26.421 --> 00:34:28.824
He says i'm talking to you, and god has spoken over each
00:34:28.824 --> 00:34:33.629
One of us and given us a new name.
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We're under his rule and his reign and his fatherhood, you
00:34:37.266 --> 00:34:42.137
Know, he's our father and he's given us this new name of
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Overcomer.
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Well, god's word and his voice and his his overcoming voice.
00:34:47.075 --> 00:34:51.046
That overcomes everything is the victorious thing that we
00:34:51.046 --> 00:34:55.250
Can have if we can just change our lens, change the things
00:34:55.250 --> 00:34:59.655
That so easily beset us, that we so easily and it's like
00:34:59.655 --> 00:35:04.793
Every morning we get that chance when we wake up of what
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Am i going to believe today?
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How am i going to live today?
00:35:09.765 --> 00:35:12.134
And i think even through the day, do you ever forget that,
00:35:12.134 --> 00:35:16.205
Ok, tomorrow i'm going to stop eating something.
00:35:16.205 --> 00:35:18.941
Ok, and i just- it's gonna be a new day.
00:35:18.941 --> 00:35:22.678
- i relate to this.
00:35:22.678 --> 00:35:24.346
- and first thing in the morning you get up- - that's
00:35:24.346 --> 00:35:28.083
The one thing you want, yeah, and you walk through and you
00:35:28.083 --> 00:35:32.187
Grab that handful of fruit or whatever it- it could be even
00:35:32.187 --> 00:35:36.258
Healthy grab it and eat it and then you go, i forgot yeah i
00:35:36.258 --> 00:35:40.996
Wasn't gonna eat today, or i wasn't gonna eat that today.
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I've already blown it, you know i love that god's god can
00:35:44.733 --> 00:35:48.804
Just take that and just erase that and go it's all right.
00:35:48.804 --> 00:35:53.342
We don't have to be shamed into rightness...into anything
00:35:53.342 --> 00:35:58.847
Because god is our father and there is no shame and there's
00:35:58.847 --> 00:36:02.317
No guilt and there's no condemnation you know and we
00:36:02.317 --> 00:36:06.188
Can just start anew any moment of the day.
00:36:06.188 --> 00:36:09.758
- one of the interesting things in the old testament,
00:36:09.758 --> 00:36:12.160
The number of times that god renamed people.
00:36:12.160 --> 00:36:15.597
He renamed abraham from abram.
00:36:15.597 --> 00:36:18.734
He renamed serii to sarah, and each time there was a
00:36:18.734 --> 00:36:22.371
Particular significance.
00:36:22.371 --> 00:36:24.172
It was almost like, here's the next chapter of your movie.
00:36:24.172 --> 00:36:27.776
Here's the next chapter of your story, and he told them
00:36:27.776 --> 00:36:30.445
What god was doing in their lives to abraham, it was going
00:36:30.445 --> 00:36:33.915
To be, you're going to be the father of many nations.
00:36:33.915 --> 00:36:36.451
And so i think god does that in many ways now simply
00:36:36.451 --> 00:36:40.222
Through our relationship with jesus.
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Because once jesus came and paid the price for our sin.
00:36:42.591 --> 00:36:45.761
That who we are, once we've put our trust in him, i'll
00:36:45.761 --> 00:36:48.930
Never forget the night i was baptized.
00:36:48.930 --> 00:36:51.233
It was such a profound understanding of being buried
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With christ and raised to walk with him in newness of life.
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If you've given your trust to jesus, he has given you a new
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Name, and revelation tells us that there will come a day
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When we will be given a white stone with a name on it, and
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It's the name that god knows you by.
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- one of my daily prayers is every single morning i pray,
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- one of my daily prayers is every single morning i pray,
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Lord, give me eyes to see what i'm gonna miss today because
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I'm gonna miss a lot without you, and give me ears to hear
00:37:29.171 --> 00:37:33.909
What's really going on behind some of these words because
00:37:33.909 --> 00:37:37.579
Some of these people, i remember i was speaking
00:37:37.579 --> 00:37:40.849
Somewhere and a woman came up and asked to talk to me at the
00:37:40.849 --> 00:37:44.419
End and she said, i'm just so sick of hearing about your
00:37:44.419 --> 00:37:47.322
Perfect family, and i was like, wow, you should come
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Home and meet us in the morning, you know, not so
00:37:50.359 --> 00:37:52.260
Great, but that prayer had been on my lips that morning
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And so i'm praying the lord, help me to hear behind that
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Because there's something behind that.
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I said to her, let's go for a little walk.
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So we went for a little walk outside the church and we
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Stopped and i turned and i asked her, i said, what
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Happened to you?
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And i thought, honestly, i thought she was going to hit
00:38:07.909 --> 00:38:10.679
Me.
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But she collapsed into my arms because she's buried two
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Children.
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And i had spoken that night about something about my son
00:38:15.484 --> 00:38:18.453
And what joy it was to be a mother of a son.
00:38:18.453 --> 00:38:20.489
And so her pain came out in a different language than what
00:38:20.489 --> 00:38:26.395
Was really going on, you know, i think if we as god's
00:38:26.395 --> 00:38:30.232
Daughters and sons could become those who don't just go
00:38:30.232 --> 00:38:35.203
With what we see naturally and don't just go with what we
00:38:35.203 --> 00:38:37.439
Hear naturally.
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And that's the beauty of the holy spirit, you know, that we
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Can hear.
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No, there's something else going on here.
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- one of the things that has come into my mind is everyone
00:38:44.513 --> 00:38:47.115
Is sharing just this whole idea of asking god to give us
00:38:47.115 --> 00:38:50.619
The lens to see people, not just ourselves, but others as
00:38:50.619 --> 00:38:55.323
He sees them and to call them by the names that he calls
00:38:55.323 --> 00:38:58.226
Them.
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And i was just thinking of that in relation to being a
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Mom and the privilege that we have with our children and
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Shaping them and watching them be formed and how easy it is
00:39:04.699 --> 00:39:08.403
To see the faults or the flaws, or, you know, the
00:39:08.403 --> 00:39:12.240
Moments i remember my daughter avery, she's my youngest, and
00:39:12.240 --> 00:39:16.178
She is feisty and just like strong willed, and she's a
00:39:16.178 --> 00:39:22.484
Fighter and she's all of these things.
00:39:22.484 --> 00:39:24.453
And there were moments where, oh my gosh, she just pushed
00:39:24.453 --> 00:39:27.389
Every boundary.
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And you know, there's a tendency inside of you to want
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To like just like stop being bad, you know?
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Or if she's lying, like, you're a liar.
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And i just remember having this conviction from the holy
00:39:37.866 --> 00:39:40.368
Spirit that she may be choosing something that wasn't
00:39:40.368 --> 00:39:44.072
Wise, but i had to speak to who she was.
00:39:44.072 --> 00:39:46.875
So we just started giving avery the names that we knew
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God had given her.
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Like we've called her our compassionate warrior since
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She was little, because she's always loved people deeply,
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But man, she's willing to fight for what she wants and
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Believes in.
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And, and so rather than getting irritated at some of
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The sass and the fight and the strength that was in her, it
00:40:02.190 --> 00:40:05.827
Was like, you know, you're our compassionate warrior, and i
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Love this about you.
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This behavior doesn't line up with who you're called to be.
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And i don't know, as you guys were talking, i was just
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Thinking there might be a mom or a grandma that's listening
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That's seeing something in their child or grandchild.
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That is really frustrating and just causing you to want to
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Throw your hands in the air, like, what is wrong with this
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Child?
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And i just was thinking, you know, there's something
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Powerful about saying, god, give me eyes to see them as
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You see them, so that we can begin to be a voice that helps
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To shape the next generation with the truth of what god
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Says.
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So that's just- - and you know how kids can hang around
00:40:42.397 --> 00:40:45.834
Another kid and all of a sudden start acting like that
00:40:45.834 --> 00:40:47.936
Kid.
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And that reminder of that's not who you are that's not who
00:40:49.237 --> 00:40:52.674
You are that's not like you.
00:40:52.674 --> 00:40:54.910
I remember telling kaylin and cody, oh that's not like you
00:40:54.910 --> 00:40:58.880
You're the compassionate warrior you're the you know
00:40:58.880 --> 00:41:01.983
And speaking that, that's such life over our kids to just
00:41:01.983 --> 00:41:05.186
Remind them, oh yeah.
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- but it's so good and it's so daily but i think as mothers
00:41:07.656 --> 00:41:11.726
That's such a beautiful thing to do to be able to even like
00:41:11.726 --> 00:41:15.764
I remember the reason we called our son christian was
00:41:15.764 --> 00:41:17.899
When i found out it was a boy, we went to a big bookstore and
00:41:17.899 --> 00:41:21.169
We went through all the children's name books.
00:41:21.169 --> 00:41:22.671
But then i found this children's copy of a pilgrim's
00:41:22.671 --> 00:41:25.640
Progress by bunyan and and i bought it and i wrote in it, i
00:41:25.640 --> 00:41:29.244
Found it the other night and i wrote in it, dear christian,
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We're calling you this because you're on a journey and dad
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And i will walk beside you and who you're gonna become.
00:41:34.015 --> 00:41:37.185
And there's something about the privilege of being able to
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Speak into that, even in their worst times.
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- maybe you're feeling like i want a new name from god.
00:41:42.524 --> 00:41:44.926
Is that ok to ask for?
00:41:44.926 --> 00:41:47.429
I would say i like to come to the lord with any questions
00:41:47.429 --> 00:41:51.232
That i have any sort of hunger, any desire.
00:41:51.232 --> 00:41:54.002
I know that i can bring those to him.
00:41:54.002 --> 00:41:56.304
He may answer by giving me a new name or he may speak into
00:41:56.304 --> 00:42:00.575
The name that i have into an area that maybe i haven't
00:42:00.575 --> 00:42:03.612
Discovered yet, something that i haven't stepped into the
00:42:03.612 --> 00:42:06.414
Fullness in but whatever it is he always has more and to the
00:42:06.414 --> 00:42:10.986
Hunger of wanting more you just simply bring it to him
00:42:10.986 --> 00:42:14.923
You ask and he is so good at coming and filling that desire
00:42:14.923 --> 00:42:18.693
With good things.
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- and i think there's something too i would
00:42:20.929 --> 00:42:22.330
Challenge like to the literal name that we have.
00:42:22.330 --> 00:42:25.834
I mean it is all throughout the world where it's like- it
00:42:25.834 --> 00:42:29.037
Even marked like seasons and times in the old testament
00:42:29.037 --> 00:42:31.773
It's like if when there's some crazy names but it's like we
00:42:31.773 --> 00:42:34.676
Went through a drought, your drought, you know it's like
00:42:34.676 --> 00:42:36.745
It's crazy but it's like there is...
00:42:36.745 --> 00:42:40.382
Exactly.
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But i think there is something.
00:42:41.216 --> 00:42:42.450
It's like a first prophetic statement about who we are,
00:42:42.450 --> 00:42:45.587
That is our name.
00:42:45.587 --> 00:42:46.855
And, if yours doesn't feel like a good one, i guess maybe
00:42:46.855 --> 00:42:50.725
I just wanted to share.
00:42:50.725 --> 00:42:51.993
So i grew up and it wasn't until i did y wam, use of the
00:42:51.993 --> 00:42:56.931
Mission in like maybe i was 19 or 20, until i was 19 or 20, i
00:42:56.931 --> 00:43:01.136
Had always heard that my name means death.
00:43:01.136 --> 00:43:06.074
It's, yeah, depending on the spelling, cause it's an
00:43:06.074 --> 00:43:08.276
Unusual name.
00:43:08.276 --> 00:43:09.177
There's like a goddess of death.
00:43:09.177 --> 00:43:11.479
And like, wow, talk about- and i didn't ever like get in my
00:43:11.479 --> 00:43:15.417
Head about it, but it was like, you know, you go to like
00:43:15.417 --> 00:43:17.852
A gas station on a vacation, and there's like the name
00:43:17.852 --> 00:43:20.789
Cards with the meaning and i'm like, i don't want mine.
00:43:20.789 --> 00:43:23.925
I don't want that.
00:43:23.925 --> 00:43:25.093
I'm not picking that one up.
00:43:25.093 --> 00:43:26.494
Um, but i just kind of always had that in the back of my
00:43:26.494 --> 00:43:28.863
Head.
00:43:28.863 --> 00:43:29.864
Kalley means death, goddess of the dead.
00:43:29.864 --> 00:43:31.866
And i went to this ministry school.
00:43:31.866 --> 00:43:34.302
I'm 19 years old.
00:43:34.302 --> 00:43:35.670
I get this name card and they're talking about the
00:43:35.670 --> 00:43:39.140
Significance of our actual names, because i think god
00:43:39.140 --> 00:43:41.810
Meets in these names and i'm like, oh, i don't want my
00:43:41.810 --> 00:43:44.112
Card.
00:43:44.112 --> 00:43:44.913
I know exactly what it's gonna.
00:43:44.913 --> 00:43:45.513
You can keep my card.
00:43:45.513 --> 00:43:46.815
And they're like, what do you mean?
00:43:46.815 --> 00:43:48.950
I'm like, oh, well, because you know, all this.
00:43:48.950 --> 00:43:50.785
And they're like, go take a peek at your card.
00:43:50.785 --> 00:43:52.387
And i picked it up.
00:43:52.387 --> 00:43:54.089
And i was shocked.
00:43:54.089 --> 00:43:55.890
It said lark.
00:43:55.890 --> 00:43:57.258
And i said, where did you find, where did you find this?
00:43:57.258 --> 00:44:02.731
And they're like, well, we found it here in this book.
00:44:02.731 --> 00:44:06.101
There's a whole study of birds that's kind of linked to to my
00:44:06.101 --> 00:44:09.804
Name, but a lark, i dove into it.
00:44:09.804 --> 00:44:12.874
It's used all over in like shakespearean literature as
00:44:12.874 --> 00:44:16.111
The bird that sits at heaven's gates and calls forth the
00:44:16.111 --> 00:44:19.614
Dawn.
00:44:19.614 --> 00:44:20.515
- oh, wow.
00:44:20.515 --> 00:44:21.249
Wow.
00:44:21.249 --> 00:44:21.916
So i'll go with that one.
00:44:21.916 --> 00:44:24.686
But look at the violation.
00:44:24.686 --> 00:44:27.155
Look at the- i was hearing almost this curse on top of my
00:44:27.155 --> 00:44:32.560
Name and if i wouldn't have pushed in and if somebody
00:44:32.560 --> 00:44:35.430
Didn't see i would have lived under this even if i wasn't
00:44:35.430 --> 00:44:39.400
Cognitively doing it.
00:44:39.400 --> 00:44:40.702
I wouldn't have been called into propelled into this part
00:44:40.702 --> 00:44:43.304
Of my destiny, literal destiny as a song bird that calls
00:44:43.304 --> 00:44:48.143
Forth the dawn from heaven.
00:44:48.143 --> 00:44:50.245
What an invitation.
00:44:50.245 --> 00:44:53.748
And i just, so even the encouragement, dive in on your
00:44:52.514 --> 00:44:56.885
Actual and there's some funny.
00:44:56.885 --> 00:44:58.119
Ones.
00:44:58.119 --> 00:44:59.320
My husband's middle name is philip, which is lover of
00:44:59.320 --> 00:45:00.722
Horses, and i have a great time with that one.
00:45:00.722 --> 00:45:03.391
I'm like, man, do you, do you really love them?
00:45:03.391 --> 00:45:06.327
But if you go in, it actually means nobility.
00:45:06.327 --> 00:45:08.930
And so i would encourage actually dive in.
00:45:08.930 --> 00:45:11.332
There's significance on these names.
00:45:11.332 --> 00:45:13.268
Dive in first, middle, and last, and who knows what god's
00:45:13.268 --> 00:45:16.638
Hidden in there?
00:45:16.638 --> 00:45:17.539
Who knows all these labels matter.
00:45:17.539 --> 00:45:20.008
Who knows what's in there?
00:45:20.008 --> 00:45:21.276
- i think that's beautiful, like practical takeaway for
00:45:21.276 --> 00:45:23.211
Anyone like some fun homework this week, like go online and
00:45:23.211 --> 00:45:26.681
Discover that.
00:45:26.681 --> 00:45:28.016
Different layers of your name, your spouse's name, your kids'
00:45:28.016 --> 00:45:30.785
Names, your friends' name that would be like a fun thing to
00:45:30.785 --> 00:45:32.720
Do this week as we're talking about identity.
00:45:32.720 --> 00:45:34.455
What is your real physical earthly name and your friends
00:45:34.455 --> 00:45:38.359
Mean?
00:45:38.359 --> 00:45:39.594
That could be a really fun thing for us all to do this
00:45:39.594 --> 00:45:41.062
Week.
00:45:41.062 --> 00:45:42.363
So do it do it online, tag us at better together, but also
00:45:42.363 --> 00:45:45.066
If you feel like you're not sure who you are deep inside
00:45:45.066 --> 00:45:48.169
Yourself, so much more than your physical name, if you're
00:45:48.169 --> 00:45:50.038
Not sure what god says about you, if any of these names
00:45:50.038 --> 00:45:52.207
Unwanted, fatherless, if any of these names stirred up
00:45:52.207 --> 00:45:55.743
Something in you and you've thought.
00:45:55.743 --> 00:45:57.145
How do i discover who i really am?
00:45:57.145 --> 00:45:59.214
We just want to encourage you today, just some practical
00:45:59.214 --> 00:46:01.683
Ways.
00:46:01.683 --> 00:46:02.984
What are some quick practical things we can give people to
00:46:02.984 --> 00:46:04.552
Do this week to help them know who they are.
00:46:04.552 --> 00:46:07.455
Read god's word.
00:46:07.455 --> 00:46:08.756
God's word.
00:46:08.756 --> 00:46:09.958
Surround yourself with people who also know god's word.
00:46:09.958 --> 00:46:13.027
- i think getting some scriptures that you memorize
00:46:13.027 --> 00:46:15.363
Like what does god- you can even google what does god say
00:46:15.363 --> 00:46:18.666
About me.
00:46:18.666 --> 00:46:19.334
You can.
00:46:19.334 --> 00:46:20.535
I mean, i don't recommend googling everything, but you
00:46:20.535 --> 00:46:22.971
Can, and it's going to pull up some scripture verses that you
00:46:22.971 --> 00:46:25.340
Can hold onto that reminds you that you're a child of god,
00:46:25.340 --> 00:46:29.043
That you're his masterpiece created in christ jesus to do
00:46:29.043 --> 00:46:32.080
The works he planned in advance for you to do.
00:46:32.080 --> 00:46:33.915
And there's some scriptures to memorize and hold on to that i
00:46:33.915 --> 00:46:36.584
Think help us in the process.
00:46:36.584 --> 00:46:39.354
You know, i think if we are going to walk in confident
00:46:39.354 --> 00:46:42.891
Identity in christ, we've got to find ways to daily remind
00:46:42.891 --> 00:46:46.194
Ourselves what he says about us.
00:46:46.194 --> 00:46:48.563
So the biggest encouragement that i have for you is to
00:46:48.563 --> 00:46:51.232
Daily spend time in the word of god.
00:46:51.232 --> 00:46:54.335
If you want to know what god says about you, you've got to
00:46:54.335 --> 00:46:57.605
Dive into and read his word.
00:46:57.605 --> 00:46:59.841
There's so many beautiful scriptures that remind us of
00:46:59.841 --> 00:47:02.944
Who he created us to be.
00:47:02.944 --> 00:47:04.879
Psalm 139 reminds us that we were formed and fashioned in
00:47:04.879 --> 00:47:08.216
Our mother's womb, which means that he created you exactly as
00:47:08.216 --> 00:47:11.819
The person you are supposed to be.
00:47:11.819 --> 00:47:14.555
Ephesians 2:10 says that we are god's masterpiece, that he
00:47:14.555 --> 00:47:18.226
Created us in christ jesus and prepared us in advance for
00:47:18.226 --> 00:47:22.463
Good works that he has for us to do.
00:47:22.463 --> 00:47:24.666
There's so many different scriptures that remind us of
00:47:24.666 --> 00:47:27.335
Who god says that we are.
00:47:27.335 --> 00:47:28.770
So the first and the best thing that you can do is daily
00:47:28.770 --> 00:47:33.141
Spend time in the word of god.
00:47:33.141 --> 00:47:35.176
And then another thing you can do is surround yourself with a
00:47:35.176 --> 00:47:38.413
Community of faith, with other believers who are going to
00:47:38.413 --> 00:47:41.316
Encourage you, champion you and remind you what god says
00:47:41.316 --> 00:47:44.285
About you.
00:47:44.285 --> 00:47:45.520
Those are two practical steps that you can do to remind
00:47:45.520 --> 00:47:49.023
Yourself who god created you to be.
00:47:49.023 --> 00:47:51.659
- i think that's beautiful.
00:47:51.659 --> 00:47:52.694
So that's our encouragement to you today.
00:47:52.694 --> 00:47:53.895
Get in god's word, maybe memorize some of the names
00:47:53.895 --> 00:47:56.898
God's given you, be around other people that know god's
00:47:56.898 --> 00:47:59.233
Word, and we just wanna pray for you today too.
00:47:59.233 --> 00:48:01.669
If you're here today and you're tuning in today and
00:48:01.669 --> 00:48:04.939
You're struggling with knowing who you are, we also wanna be
00:48:04.939 --> 00:48:06.908
People who are coming alongside of you who also know
00:48:06.908 --> 00:48:09.077
God's word and we wanna pray for you.
00:48:09.077 --> 00:48:10.878
So can we pray for everyone watching today.
00:48:10.878 --> 00:48:13.681
God, thank you.
00:48:13.681 --> 00:48:15.383
That we are who you say we are, and god, i just pray for
00:48:15.383 --> 00:48:20.088
Every person who's joining us today.
00:48:20.088 --> 00:48:21.889
God, i just pray against any lie that we may have been
00:48:21.889 --> 00:48:25.259
Told.
00:48:25.259 --> 00:48:26.561
I pray against any lie that we may have believed, anything
00:48:26.561 --> 00:48:29.097
That's causing a limitation on our life that we're not
00:48:29.097 --> 00:48:31.366
Supposed to live with.
00:48:31.366 --> 00:48:32.700
God, i just pray that even now you would speak truth to lies,
00:48:32.700 --> 00:48:35.570
That you would whisper to every person.
00:48:35.570 --> 00:48:37.372
Watching right now how loved they are god that as we open
00:48:37.372 --> 00:48:40.708
Up your word, god, to discover the names you give us, may we
00:48:40.708 --> 00:48:44.345
Discover that we are your friend, chosen, masterpieces,
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Temples, messengers, brand new, greatly loved, free
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Indeed.
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God i just pray even now that you would stir within hearts.
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The names that you are calling us to answer to today that
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Directly defy the lies we have been living in.
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God we wanna know who we really are we wanna live as
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Who we really are and god, we wanna be a part of telling
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Other people who they are today too we just pray that
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You would set chains free now in the name of jesus.
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We love you god.
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Thank you for giving us a new name through jesus christ.
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In your name we pray.
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Amen.
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- connect with us on social media and let us know how our
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Team can pray for you.
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- benjamin sent us this question on facebook hosanna,
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I have learned so much from you about the source of your
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True identity.
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Praise god.
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Can you talk about how to find our identity in god's word and
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Not in our broken worldviews?
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Sometimes i think that the world's idea of us is more
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Accessible to us than god's word, maybe using language we
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Understand better, maybe even more aesthetically pleasing or
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Entertaining.
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I think you need to figure out a way to engage in god's word
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In a way that you enjoy.
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In a way that you understand, start scrolling through the
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Words of god in a way that brings your soul to life.
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Maybe consider a different translation, a different fun
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Cover, maybe underline names that god calls you with gel
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Pens, maybe listen to the audio book at the gym, maybe
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Get a group of friends where you discuss the word of god,
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Together because maybe you're more of a social person than
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An introspective person.
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I don't know what the answer is for you, but consider who
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You are and what your schedule is and make time to enjoy god
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Exactly as you are where you are in your real life and i
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Promise you your life will never be the same.
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- stream full episodes of better together on demand.
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Go to bettertogether.tv to stream all of our latest
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Conversations.
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Your God-Given Name - Episode 1096

September 22, 2025 | S7 E1096 | 52:34

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