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Creflo Dollar - Defining Self-Deception

February 23, 2026 | 27:29

Creflo Dollar - Defining Self-Deception
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Creflo Dollar | Creflo Dollar - Defining Self-Deception | February 23, 2026
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  • Creflo dollar: self-deception is kind of tricky because we're
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  • Often not aware of it when we're doing it, okay.
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  • It's tricky because we're not aware of it when we're doing it.
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  • I mean, that's how good we are at it.
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  • We're so good at deceiving ourselves, we're not even aware
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  • Of it when we're doing it.
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  • Please hear that.
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  • We're so good at deceiving ourselves, we're not even aware
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  • Of it when we're doing it.
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  • Creflo: when we deceive ourself, we become our own enemy posing
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  • As a friend.
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  • I need to say that again.
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  • When we deceive ourselves, we become our own enemy posing as
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  • A friend.
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  • It's not gonna end up right.
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  • Eventually you're going to have to see the sabotage, and you're
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  • Gonna have to see the destruction of what comes when
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  • You keep doing that.
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  • Self-deception can involve denial of a hard truth,
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  • Minimizing of painful matters.
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  • See that defense mechanism?
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  • Or projection of faults onto others.
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  • A lot of times when people are in self-deception, blame becomes
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  • The name of their game.
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  • I'm in self-deception, so is you and you and you.
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  • And it's you and it's you.
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  • And it's y'all, and it's what y'all did, and y'all--if y'all
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  • Done raise me right, then i wouldn't have no problems.
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  • Can i get a witness in here?
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  • Okay, i never claimed to be a perfect father or parent, so
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  • Whatever i didn't do right, 'cause i had a parents and my
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  • Parents were not perfect and they were not flawless, and they
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  • Did things that i wondered about and, you know, but, you know,
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  • I wasn't allowed to express myself.
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  • See, the kids today, they're being trained to express their
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  • Selves and their parents are raising them up so they can--
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  • Now i understand that you wanna--you want your kids to be
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  • Able to express themselves, but they need to know--they need to
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  • Have some wisdom.
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  • See, i had--i tried expressing myself one morning when i was on
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  • My way to school, and that was the days when you had to get
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  • Your parents to sign your report card, and my dad looked at the
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  • Report card and signed it, and i did pretty good, but i had a c
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  • On something.
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  • It was a, it was a hard subject, physics or something, and he
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  • Said, "you need to bring that up."
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  • I'm like, you--i said, "well, you probably couldn't have did
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  • No be--no better than what i did."
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  • Oh yeah, i did. i did.
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  • And there was something sudden that happened.
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  • All of a sudden, blackness filled the room.
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  • I felt like i was floating, and stars came.
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  • And i realized i had been knocked out.
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  • I was never enthusiastic about expressing myself after
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  • That day.
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  • And so, even though i got knocked out i didn't call nobody
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  • And say that was abuse.
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  • I thought it was a necessary correction.
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  • It worked.
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  • I don't advise anybody to do that.
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  • Don't go around here talking about, "pastor recommending for
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  • His church to knock they children out."
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  • Well, you know in the old testament when the children
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  • Acted up, they would bring them out of the house in the village
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  • And everybody in the village would stone them to death.
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  • I ain't saying do none of that.
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  • What i am saying is, is that whatever they did wrong or
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  • Didn't do right, it was up to me to grow up, meet jesus, and
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  • Whatever i lacked from their parenting, he would take
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  • Care of.
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  • And so the same way is true here.
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  • Don't beat your parents up because you heard something on
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  • Tiktok, and you got to see because they told you, you need
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  • To do this with your parent, you need to do that with
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  • Your parent.
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  • Don't do none of that. don't do none of that.
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  • Respect them 'cause they gave you life.
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  • Oh, ain't nobody clapping. they gave your butt life.
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  • "well, i ain't ask to be here." but you is.
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  • My mama made me go see my grandmama every week.
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  • I ain't feel like going to see grandmama.
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  • "you need to go see her." "why?"
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  • "she ain't gonna be here always. you need to go see her."
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  • That's the kind of stuff we were raised with.
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  • So, we're not perfect parents.
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  • You can take that off the plate.
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  • Nobody in here is a perfect parent.
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  • Everybody in here--
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  • [laughter]
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  • And i don't know why our kids think we're perfect.
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  • It's like, "well, such and so such and so's mom and dad, they
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  • Didn't do that."
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  • "well go live with such and so such and so."
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  • That's what my daddy would say, "you don't like it here, you can
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  • Go live with such and so such and so."
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  • None of us are perfect, so, you know, i'd have to tell my kids,
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  • Whatever we did wrong or didn't do to your liking, make jesus
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  • The lord of your life, and he'll fix whatever we didn't do right.
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  • You need to trust in the lord.
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  • But we got, we got, we got strange deception going on, and
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  • This generation is rising up.
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  • They're moving into the job market now, and they don't wanna
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  • Go to work, and they don't wanna be on time, and they wanna dress
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  • Like they wanna dress, and they wanna act like they wanna act,
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  • And they wanna look at videos while they're at work, and right
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  • Now there is a large number of gen zs that have been dismissed
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  • From the job market because people ain't ready to deal
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  • With that.
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  • Now on the other hand, they can start their own business and
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  • They can do all that.
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  • I don't wanna work for you 'cause i'm a planner, but the
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  • Generation--the gen z generation, two things
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  • Are happening.
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  • At the same time they're leaving church, there's a revival
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  • Going on.
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  • I don't understand it.
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  • Whole bunch of gen zs getting saved and a lot of them leaving
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  • Church, but a whole bunch of them getting saved.
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  • I trust god with this next generation, that it is gonna be
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  • One of the greatest generations that have ever entered the
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  • Planet, i do.
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  • And you know what i asked god?
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  • Give me patience.
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  • Okay, so self-deception can involve denial of hard truths,
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  • And you do that to minimize the painful matters, projections of
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  • Faults on to other people.
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  • Look at 1 corinthians chapter 3:18 in the nlt.
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  • 1 corinthians 3:18 in the nlt.
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  • I wanna make sure this first series goes--this first teaching
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  • Goes well so that you'll know what we're talking about
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  • Throughout this thing.
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  • 1 corinthians 3:18 in the nlt.
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  • He says, "stop deceiving yourselves."
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  • "stop deceiving yourselves."
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  • We need to figure out, how do you know when you're
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  • Deceiving yourself?
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  • He's telling us to stop.
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  • It's pretty clear so far, he's saying, "stop fooling yourself,
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  • Stop deceiving yourself."
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  • Eventually we're gonna have to talk about, well, how do we know
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  • We deceiving ourselves?
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  • Now look at galatians chapter 6 and verse 3 in the nlt.
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  • Galatians 6 and verse 3 in the nlt.
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  • "if you think you are too important to help someone, you
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  • Are only fooling yourselves.
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  • You are not that important."
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  • Can i read that again?
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  • If you think you are too important to help someone,
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  • That's a form of deception, and there are people in the church
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  • Who think that they're too important to help someone.
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  • That's a deception.
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  • There are people who are born again, who think that they're
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  • Too important to serve somebody.
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  • That's deception.
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  • He says, "you are only fooling yourself.
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  • You are not that important."
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  • God is trying to get us to see.
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  • Let's go to the word, because the words you're gonna find--in
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  • The word you're gonna find ultimate truth.
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  • If you keep going to all of the sources, and not the word,
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  • You're gonna get further and deeper and deeper in deception.
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  • I love this part.
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  • It humbles me.
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  • "you are not that important."
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  • That does something to me.
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  • "you are not that important," dude.
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  • Don't let people think you are that important, that you can't
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  • Help somebody.
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  • Wow, god.
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  • I need to put that in my, in my pocket.
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  • I am not that important.
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  • Now go and help somebody.
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  • I am not that important.
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  • Now go and bless somebody.
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  • I'm--sometimes people just always sit back and wait on
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  • Somebody to do something for them.
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  • Now, i think it'd be a good time to talk about some examples.
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  • Let's look at some examples of self-deception, because
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  • Self-deception is kind of tricky because we're often not aware of
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  • It when we're doing it, okay.
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  • It's tricky because we're not aware of it when we're doing it.
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  • I mean, that's how good we are at it.
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  • We're so good at deceiving ourselves, we're not even aware
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  • Of it when we're doing it.
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  • Please hear that.
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  • We're so good at deceiving ourselves, we're not even aware
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  • Of it when we're doing it.
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  • Now let's look at some things here.
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  • Let's pick three examples of self-deception.
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  • Ignoring obvious red flags in a relationship because you don't
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  • Want to face the possibility of it ending.
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  • There are things so obvious right in your face that this
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  • Woman or this dude don't want you.
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  • They're telling you that.
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  • Somebody just had a ignited moment.
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  • Almost like she was saying, "i'm letting him go today, 'cause
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  • I've been wondering about that.
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  • I felt that."
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  • Obvious red flags.
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  • Lying to you.
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  • Having you to pay for everything.
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  • Every time y'all have an argument, it's your fault.
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  • It's obvious that relationship is toxic.
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  • But, "i don't care, i don't care, i don't care.
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  • The lord told me that's my husband.
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  • I don't care, i don't care, the lord told me."
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  • All right, so two things about that.
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  • Number one, god didn't say nothing to you, okay, and number
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  • Two, look at what--you're dealing with toxicity and you're
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  • Saying, "i'm willing to settle for toxicity.
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  • I'm willing to settle for somebody that doesn't really
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  • Love me."
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  • Have you ever heard this thing?
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  • "well, i love her, but i ain't in love."
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  • What the? what that mean?
  • 00:13:58.307 --> 00:14:01.844
  • What that mean?
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  • "i love him, but i'm not in love."
  • 00:14:03.212 --> 00:14:06.649
  • What does that mean?
  • 00:14:06.649 --> 00:14:07.983
  • And now relationships today are--it's--you ain't even got to
  • 00:14:07.983 --> 00:14:12.121
  • Have no love.
  • 00:14:12.121 --> 00:14:15.758
  • If you have lots of money and no love, they say, "we can make
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  • This work."
  • 00:14:19.795 --> 00:14:22.998
  • You're deceived, it ain't gonna work.
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  • It's not gonna work.
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  • After you finished spending all you can spend and buying all you
  • 00:14:28.404 --> 00:14:31.407
  • Can buy, and you keep looking at him trying to make it work.
  • 00:14:31.407 --> 00:14:36.578
  • It just ain't in the heart.
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  • You don't want them, and it's gonna come out in what you say,
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  • It's gonna come out in what you do.
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  • They put their hands on you, you're gonna pull the hand away.
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  • I just don't, oh, it just makes me feel oh when you--don't touch
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  • Me, i don't wanna be touched, and you sitting up there talking
  • 00:14:51.527 --> 00:14:54.797
  • About, "i don't care.
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  • I don't care.
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  • The lord told me that's my husband."
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  • That's a simple definition, but that's the basis of it.
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  • You're ignoring and choosing to ignore obvious red signs that
  • 00:15:06.976 --> 00:15:13.449
  • This dude don't want you.
  • 00:15:13.449 --> 00:15:17.987
  • The only reason he with you is 'cause you got a good job,
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  • Insurance, nice house.
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  • He don't want you, and you're gonna settle for that, while on
  • 00:15:26.562 --> 00:15:32.067
  • The other side, down the street, around the corner, behind the
  • 00:15:32.067 --> 00:15:35.170
  • Building, you can't see what god got for you, because the time
  • 00:15:35.170 --> 00:15:38.674
  • Hadn't come yet.
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  • Timing hadn't taken place yet.
  • 00:15:40.009 --> 00:15:41.510
  • But when you settle, you disrupt the blessing that god had for
  • 00:15:41.510 --> 00:15:46.281
  • You, because you decided to walk in self-deception.
  • 00:15:46.281 --> 00:15:54.957
  • "okay, so, pastor, i ain't know all this before i got married
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  • And now that i know it.
  • 00:15:58.427 --> 00:16:07.069
  • Come on, pastor, answer it, answer it, answer it."
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  • I have an answer for you.
  • 00:16:11.273 --> 00:16:15.044
  • Ask god, 'cause everything we do in our life is gonna be based on
  • 00:16:15.044 --> 00:16:21.917
  • Our relationship we have with the holy spirit, and that's why
  • 00:16:21.917 --> 00:16:23.952
  • I need--you need to have a relationship with the holy
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  • Spirit, 'cause all the answers are just not plain.
  • 00:16:25.454 --> 00:16:27.790
  • You're still looking for some more laws like they had in the
  • 00:16:27.790 --> 00:16:29.825
  • Old testament, and under this new testament it is the
  • 00:16:29.825 --> 00:16:33.295
  • Leadership of the holy spirit, it is his guidance, it--he's the
  • 00:16:33.295 --> 00:16:36.999
  • Administrator of the holy spirit, and you gotta get a
  • 00:16:36.999 --> 00:16:39.368
  • Relationship with him so you'll know what to do and what not
  • 00:16:39.368 --> 00:16:41.370
  • To do.
  • 00:16:41.370 --> 00:16:42.971
  • 'cause there ain't nothing that's messed up that god
  • 00:16:42.971 --> 00:16:44.873
  • Can't fix.
  • 00:16:44.873 --> 00:16:46.208
  • We were messed up and look what he's done for us.
  • 00:16:46.208 --> 00:16:48.610
  • We were a mess and he's making us a masterpiece.
  • 00:16:48.610 --> 00:16:51.814
  • You need a relationship with the holy spirit.
  • 00:16:51.814 --> 00:16:56.218
  • I'm not gonna sit up here and quote a bunch of rules to you.
  • 00:16:56.218 --> 00:16:58.520
  • "well the bible says that god hates divorce and"--well he
  • 00:16:58.520 --> 00:17:01.990
  • Hates, he hates divorce because of what it does to people who
  • 00:17:01.990 --> 00:17:05.027
  • Getting divorced.
  • 00:17:05.027 --> 00:17:06.395
  • He don't hate you 'cause you get one.
  • 00:17:06.395 --> 00:17:11.567
  • What does that mean? there you go again.
  • 00:17:11.567 --> 00:17:13.235
  • You're waiting on somebody to give you a law.
  • 00:17:13.235 --> 00:17:15.804
  • I'm not gonna give you no law.
  • 00:17:15.804 --> 00:17:17.172
  • I don't preach the law no ma--more.
  • 00:17:17.172 --> 00:17:18.540
  • I preach the gospel of grace.
  • 00:17:18.540 --> 00:17:20.409
  • I preach the spirit of grace.
  • 00:17:20.409 --> 00:17:24.413
  • Go get you one of them relationships with the holy
  • 00:17:24.413 --> 00:17:26.849
  • Ghost, and let him lead and guide you into all the truth.
  • 00:17:26.849 --> 00:17:32.654
  • You're gonna be blaming me for the mishaps in your life,
  • 00:17:32.654 --> 00:17:35.424
  • Talking about what i said.
  • 00:17:35.424 --> 00:17:39.094
  • You better have the holy ghost while i'm saying what
  • 00:17:39.094 --> 00:17:42.264
  • I'm saying.
  • 00:17:42.264 --> 00:17:50.205
  • Here's another one.
  • 00:17:50.205 --> 00:17:52.040
  • Believing you're overqualified for a job when the feedback
  • 00:17:52.040 --> 00:17:55.310
  • Shows you otherwise.
  • 00:17:55.310 --> 00:18:02.518
  • Are you telling everybody, "oh, well, i'm overqualified for
  • 00:18:02.518 --> 00:18:04.586
  • This job."
  • 00:18:04.586 --> 00:18:05.921
  • Well, not according to the--boy, you can't even read good.
  • 00:18:05.921 --> 00:18:09.858
  • What you, what you--how you figure you're overqualified
  • 00:18:09.858 --> 00:18:11.393
  • For that?
  • 00:18:11.393 --> 00:18:13.562
  • That's self-deception.
  • 00:18:13.562 --> 00:18:15.964
  • Somewhere in your head you have convinced yourself of the lie of
  • 00:18:15.964 --> 00:18:20.802
  • The story you've been telling yourself.
  • 00:18:20.802 --> 00:18:26.975
  • Here's another one.
  • 00:18:26.975 --> 00:18:28.644
  • Downplaying personal responsibility by blaming others
  • 00:18:28.644 --> 00:18:33.982
  • For your failure.
  • 00:18:33.982 --> 00:18:35.484
  • Now i wanna spend a little time with this.
  • 00:18:35.484 --> 00:18:37.019
  • Galatians 6:5 in the nlt.
  • 00:18:37.019 --> 00:18:39.288
  • Downplaying personal responsibility by blaming others
  • 00:18:39.288 --> 00:18:43.125
  • For failures.
  • 00:18:43.125 --> 00:18:44.493
  • When you blame other people for your failure, you are
  • 00:18:44.493 --> 00:18:47.095
  • Downplaying your responsibility for that thing, okay, and what
  • 00:18:47.095 --> 00:18:52.367
  • He says in galatians 5 and--6 and 5, he says, "for we are each
  • 00:18:52.367 --> 00:18:56.505
  • Responsible for our own conduct."
  • 00:18:56.505 --> 00:19:00.375
  • We are each responsible for our own conduct.
  • 00:19:00.375 --> 00:19:04.913
  • You've got to stop downplaying your personal responsibility.
  • 00:19:04.913 --> 00:19:10.118
  • You can't continue to say, "it's my parents' fault.
  • 00:19:10.118 --> 00:19:13.355
  • It's my friend's fault."
  • 00:19:13.355 --> 00:19:14.856
  • You can't keep saying, "it's the job's fault.
  • 00:19:14.856 --> 00:19:17.226
  • It's the people at work's fault."
  • 00:19:17.226 --> 00:19:18.961
  • You know, 80% of your success is based on how well you deal
  • 00:19:18.961 --> 00:19:22.030
  • With people.
  • 00:19:22.030 --> 00:19:23.398
  • You know that, don't you?
  • 00:19:23.398 --> 00:19:24.733
  • You can't keep downplaying it.
  • 00:19:24.733 --> 00:19:26.101
  • You can't be going around talking about, it's every--it's
  • 00:19:26.101 --> 00:19:27.569
  • Always everybody's fault.
  • 00:19:27.569 --> 00:19:29.271
  • It's always somebody else.
  • 00:19:29.271 --> 00:19:31.406
  • Something's wrong with that!
  • 00:19:31.406 --> 00:19:32.774
  • It's never you!
  • 00:19:32.774 --> 00:19:35.410
  • It's always them!
  • 00:19:35.410 --> 00:19:36.979
  • "them church folks, they hurt me, and them folks over there in
  • 00:19:36.979 --> 00:19:39.948
  • The choir, they didn't let me sing."
  • 00:19:39.948 --> 00:19:41.316
  • Them, then it's always somebody else.
  • 00:19:41.316 --> 00:19:44.786
  • There's a problem when it's always somebody else.
  • 00:19:44.786 --> 00:19:48.490
  • The problem is self-deception.
  • 00:19:48.490 --> 00:19:52.494
  • You won't, you won't accept personal responsibility
  • 00:19:52.494 --> 00:19:54.463
  • For nothing.
  • 00:19:54.463 --> 00:19:56.131
  • That's a problem.
  • 00:19:56.131 --> 00:19:58.233
  • And if you know somebody that that's all they do, it's
  • 00:19:58.233 --> 00:20:02.304
  • Everybody else's issue and you have none?
  • 00:20:02.304 --> 00:20:07.276
  • And then if you decide to accept it, it's always just a
  • 00:20:07.276 --> 00:20:09.511
  • Little bit.
  • 00:20:09.511 --> 00:20:10.846
  • "now i know i do that, but."
  • 00:20:10.846 --> 00:20:12.514
  • And still shift back to blaming somebody else.
  • 00:20:12.514 --> 00:20:17.219
  • I want to deal in lessons of us getting better, so we can have
  • 00:20:17.219 --> 00:20:24.259
  • Impact, and not keep throwing the church stuff to you so you
  • 00:20:24.259 --> 00:20:28.997
  • Can go, "hallelujah."
  • 00:20:28.997 --> 00:20:30.365
  • I wanna get in your business.
  • 00:20:30.365 --> 00:20:31.700
  • I wanna come to you, get in your house.
  • 00:20:31.700 --> 00:20:33.235
  • I wanna, i wanna get around the corner, not in your bedroom, but
  • 00:20:33.235 --> 00:20:37.139
  • Around the corner in your bedroom.
  • 00:20:37.139 --> 00:20:39.274
  • And me and taffi, we going there.
  • 00:20:39.274 --> 00:20:41.643
  • We're going there, because we were talking about couples who
  • 00:20:41.643 --> 00:20:45.147
  • Are talking about getting a divorce, and we were like,
  • 00:20:45.147 --> 00:20:50.319
  • Saying, "okay, well, what do we do?"
  • 00:20:50.319 --> 00:20:52.688
  • I said, "well, i stopped looking at the marriage like it's an
  • 00:20:52.688 --> 00:20:57.025
  • Institution," and it is.
  • 00:20:57.025 --> 00:20:58.527
  • You know, the marriage is not doing well.
  • 00:20:58.527 --> 00:21:00.996
  • The marriage is having problems.
  • 00:21:00.996 --> 00:21:02.698
  • It ain't the marriage, it's you.
  • 00:21:02.698 --> 00:21:06.034
  • The marriage?
  • 00:21:06.034 --> 00:21:08.937
  • I said, "so, taffi, what--do you remember what we did?"
  • 00:21:08.937 --> 00:21:11.106
  • She said, "yeah, we put the marriage on the shelf and we
  • 00:21:11.106 --> 00:21:15.677
  • Started dealing with the individual."
  • 00:21:15.677 --> 00:21:18.647
  • She said, "you remember, you went and did your work, i went
  • 00:21:18.647 --> 00:21:21.516
  • And did my work," and because both of us was doing our work,
  • 00:21:21.516 --> 00:21:24.753
  • When we got back together, the marriage was able to come off
  • 00:21:24.753 --> 00:21:27.956
  • The shelf and be what it needed to be because we were able to do
  • 00:21:27.956 --> 00:21:31.693
  • What we needed to do, because we found out that we as
  • 00:21:31.693 --> 00:21:35.230
  • Individuals, we had some issues in our past life that have not
  • 00:21:35.230 --> 00:21:39.768
  • Been dealt with yet.
  • 00:21:39.768 --> 00:21:43.505
  • I didn't even remember that i was in the middle of a shootout.
  • 00:21:43.505 --> 00:21:47.275
  • That my dad came and picked me up, i was about eight, from my
  • 00:21:47.275 --> 00:21:50.712
  • Grandma's house, and in college park, in college park we had
  • 00:21:50.712 --> 00:21:53.648
  • Pads everywhere.
  • 00:21:53.648 --> 00:21:54.983
  • We--there was always a quick way to the next street.
  • 00:21:54.983 --> 00:21:58.854
  • And we were on--leaving columbus avenue.
  • 00:21:58.854 --> 00:22:01.790
  • That's the real college park.
  • 00:22:01.790 --> 00:22:03.125
  • College park was a city that was named after colleges, and we
  • 00:22:03.125 --> 00:22:06.995
  • Were on columbus avenue going to princeton, and my dad
  • 00:22:06.995 --> 00:22:10.232
  • Was walking.
  • 00:22:10.232 --> 00:22:11.566
  • I don't know what--we didn't have a car, the car was messed
  • 00:22:11.566 --> 00:22:13.301
  • Up or something, and so he walked and picked me up
  • 00:22:13.301 --> 00:22:15.604
  • And--'cause stayed with grandmama and then walked me
  • 00:22:15.604 --> 00:22:17.639
  • Back home, and then one of our neighbors, he saw somebody
  • 00:22:17.639 --> 00:22:21.443
  • Breaking in the house, and he had his uniform on, gun,
  • 00:22:21.443 --> 00:22:23.712
  • Everything, and he said, "i want you to, you know the curb?
  • 00:22:23.712 --> 00:22:29.284
  • I want you to get next to the curb, hold your head down, put
  • 00:22:29.284 --> 00:22:32.954
  • Your fingers on your ear, and don't move until i come
  • 00:22:32.954 --> 00:22:35.657
  • Get you."
  • 00:22:35.657 --> 00:22:37.459
  • And all of a sudden i'm hearing pop, pop!
  • 00:22:37.459 --> 00:22:39.027
  • And you know, gun live sounds really loud.
  • 00:22:39.027 --> 00:22:44.933
  • Pop, pop, pop, pop, pop, pop!
  • 00:22:44.933 --> 00:22:47.569
  • And i'm a eight year old kid and i'm traumatized, what!
  • 00:22:47.569 --> 00:22:54.242
  • And i had totally forgot all about that, but when i went to
  • 00:22:54.242 --> 00:22:58.713
  • Start doing my work, i realized that from that
  • 00:22:58.713 --> 00:23:03.051
  • Traumatic moment i built up a resistance to anybody that would
  • 00:23:03.051 --> 00:23:09.057
  • Attempt to try to hurt me, so i was always on the ready, and so
  • 00:23:09.057 --> 00:23:15.163
  • When i get married, if taffi would say something that seemed
  • 00:23:15.163 --> 00:23:17.899
  • Like it was attacking me, i was always on the attack, always on
  • 00:23:17.899 --> 00:23:20.368
  • The ready, and my god said, "listen, that's over with.
  • 00:23:20.368 --> 00:23:26.141
  • You didn't get hurt.
  • 00:23:26.141 --> 00:23:27.976
  • Nobody's trying to fight you anymore."
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  • Heavenly father, i believe that jesus is the son of god, and
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  • That he died and was raised from the dead, and has forgiven all
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  • Of my sins, and i receive him into my life right now as my
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  • Lord and personal savior.
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  • So by faith i declare that i am saved.
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  • Praise god.
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  • Now, that simple prayer changed your entire eternal destination,
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  • And we want to welcome you to the family of god.
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  • Your love and financial support makes it possible to bring this
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  • Message into millions of homes all across the globe.
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