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Creflo Dollar - Graced To Parent (Part 1)

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Creflo Dollar | Creflo Dollar - Graced To Parent (Part 1) | February 18, 2026

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Announcer: coming up next on "changing your world."
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Kendra ketter chavis: i have written on our mirror the fruit
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Of the spirit, right?
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And i look at that every morning.
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Am i exercising these things with my kids and with my
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Husband, right?
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Am i showing love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness,
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Faithfulness, self control, like, and i have to remember
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That because i'm like, god has given me like humans, like real
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Humans to actually care for.
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Taffi dollar: welcome to the "changing your world" broadcast,
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I'm so excited about you tuning in today.
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And today's message is really going to be a blessing to your
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Life, particularly for every parent biological, adoptive
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Foster, spiritual, or even a community leader who's ever
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Thought that, "i am not enough."
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Whether you're raising toddlers, teenagers, you probably had
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Moments where you thought, "i have no idea what i am doing."
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Some of you may have felt unequipped to raise the children
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Who are in your care, but i want to remind you and inform you
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Today that you are graced, grace to parent, not grace to be
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Perfect, but grace to parent.
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And so, i'm joined today by kendra ketter chavis and you are
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Going to be so blessed.
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She has been a blessing to my life in so many different ways
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By blessing our women's ministry and coming and sharing, and
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Helping me with books and all kinds of things on
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Biblical equality.
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So, please welcome, kendra, you are welcome to the "changing
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Your world" broadcast.
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We're so glad to have you.
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Kendra ketter chavis: i'm happy to be here.
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Thank you, i love it.
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I love that we get to talk about something so special to me and,
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Of course, you've done this.
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You are farther down the road, and so i'm here to learn
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And talk.
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Taffi: well, let's get into it.
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So, tell us about your family and you have expanded
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Your family.
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I remember when you were believing god to have children.
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Kendra: i know, right? isn't that crazy?
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For six years, like, just praying, and fasting, and all
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The things, right?
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And driving from nashville to atlanta trying to make it happen
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And by the grace of god, the kindness of god, now we have
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A two-year-old and a three-year-old, so we're in the
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Thick of it.
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We are in the toddler stage full on, and so, you know, i have a
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Little girl, a two-year-old, noor, and a three-year-old named
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Titan, and so we are doing it.
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We're in here figuring it out.
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Taffi: figuring it out.
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How are you feeling?
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Can you have those days and share where you didn't
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Feel enough?
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Just--i'm sure even being able to conceive, we didn't even
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Touch on that, to even become a parent.
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Kendra: yeah, it's all of the things right?
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Because you ask so many questions like you're asking for
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Something and you're like, but can i do?
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Right?
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If you give me what i asked for, can i do it?
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That's the first thing, then you get it and you're like, wait,
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No really, can i do it?
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And so, just walking through, you know, the things that moms
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Walk through like, lord, am i doing this right?
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I have a phenomenal mom, so i'm so blessed.
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I feel like i have, i'm biased, but i feel like i have the
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Greatest mother in the universe.
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And that adds a little pressure because you're like, well, you
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Know, can i do it like that and then you look at other moms
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You're like can i do it like that.
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And so, just having to be really aware of like god has graced me
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To be the mother that my kids need and just having a--i mean
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It's every day, for me at least, it's every day that kind of
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Reminder, you know what i mean?
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Taffi: yeah, so, comparisons.
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Kendra: comparison.
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Taffi: that is real because as you mentioned your mom and just
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Wanting to maybe emulate the same experience for
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Your children.
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Kendra: and it wasn't all perfect, but you know, you--
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It's the pressure, right?
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And then we're in the age of internet, so there's
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Internet moms.
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And so, just having to be really aware of, like, there's no need
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To compare because it's just gonna steal all of the joy of
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Parenting, right?
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And so, sometimes just like unfollowing accounts like, you
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Know what they are happy over there, let me focus on what i'm
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Doing over here, yeah.
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But it's been a joy.
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Overall, i have to say like, as much as we complain on any given
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Day because they are toddlers, right?
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It's been a joy to be able to just learn with them.
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That's what i find i'm doing a lot of, just learning as they
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Learn, you know what i mean?
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Taffi: yeah, so they're teaching you.
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Kendra: a lot.
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Taffi: and just about their world and bringing you into
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Their world.
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Kendra: yeah, teaching me about them, teaching me about god,
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Like, right?
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Like that's been one of the things for me, it's changes me
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Even in my faith walk, right, just being aware of how i see
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Myself as a daughter, being aware of, right, how do i see
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Myself as a steward, thinking about how my ex--i mean, i have
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Written on our mirror, the fruit of the spirit, right, and i look
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At that every morning.
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Am i exercising these things with my kids and with my
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Husband, right?
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Am i showing love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness,
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Faithfulness, self-control, like, and i have to remember
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That because i'm like, god has given me like, humans, like real
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Humans to actually care for.
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And so, that, you know, that's a weight even it--even in and of
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Itself and so just being like, lord you know these are your
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Fruit, first of all.
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Taffi: that's right.
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They belong to you.
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Kendra: they belong to you.
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Taffi: and i'm giving them back to you for you to show me
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What to do with them.
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I have learned so much about myself just as a parent too.
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And, you know, our children teach us so many things and help
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To, as you mentioned, develop the fruit of the spirit just
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Patience, and long-suffering, and gentleness, kindness.
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Kendra: how to be gentle when you're being long-suffering,
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All the things, right?
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Taffi: all those things.
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Kendra: how do i be gentle while the child is not being gentle?
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All of the things, yeah, it's been a--it's been a real
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Spiritual exercise.
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I feel like that's probably been the biggest--i don't know if
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It's a full surprise, but maybe it is a little bit of a surprise
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How much of a spiritual exercise parenting has been.
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Yeah, it's like bible study 24 hours a day.
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That's what it feels like.
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Taffi: i love it. i love it.
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And so, grace meets us at our weakest point when it comes to
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Parenting too, because--i mean, it really helps us to make the
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Right decisions when we feel weak and don't quite know what
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To do or not enough.
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We were talking earlier about mommy guilt.
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Just when we make mistakes, which we're going to make, but
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Thank god for his grace.
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Kendra: yes, yeah, yeah.
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How have you learned to bounce back from those in terms of like
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Make--you know what i mean?
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When you're--that guilt kicks in, how have you learned how to
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Balance not drowning in the guilt?
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Taffi: i'm just learning not to take everything so serious.
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And i think that i said in 2024, 2023 that i was going to just
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Learn to breathe, just learn to relax and reminding myself every
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Day not to overthink and it's made such a big difference to
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Not be so intense about parenting and even just to put
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It on the table, mommy's gonna make mistakes.
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I'm not perfect.
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We have all adults, but still it's an ongoing journey and an
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Ongoing walk of recognizing that the mistakes that were made and
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Not waddling in those things that were made from the past and
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Just saying, okay, lord, it's under the blood and today is
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A new day, and we have a chance to get it right again and show
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Up in a better version of ourselves with more love and
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More patience.
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Kendra: yeah, no, that's good advice.
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I need that. i needed to hear that.
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Don't take it so ser--because it can--it does feel--it is
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Serious, right, to a certain extent, but not the--it's not
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Supposed to feel so heavy but i'm gonna receive that, right?
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Don't take yourself so seriously because i also don't wanna miss
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Any of the joy, right, of the parenting.
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I don't wanna miss any of that.
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Because i--you know what i mean?
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Like, recognizing the grace that's offered in it just allows
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Us to have the joy, so yeah, that's good.
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Taffi: because if we weren't, you know, in that place of
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Recognizing his grace, it's almost like it would rob or
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Steal from us those moments of being just present, being there,
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You know, and not physically being there, but our mind is
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Somewhere else.
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Kendra: already thinking about the mistakes we're making, yes.
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Taffi: from the past.
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Kendra: or even the future.
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A friend and i, another mom friend and i were talking just
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Yesterday and we were chatting about, we were like, lord, you
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Know, how am i traumatizing my child because we think about
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All--we're just from the generation, right?
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We go, we love therapy, we go, we do the things, it's great,
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But then we think, we review all the things and we're like this
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Was trauma, and i'm like, lord, how am i already traumatizing
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My kids?
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I was like, i just pray in advance like god.
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Just help them get through it.
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Send a good therapist for them in the same way you sent it for
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Me, please, you know.
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Taffi: i love it, i love it.
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Hopefully they won't need it.
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Kendra: i hope that, but you know, here we are doing
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Our best.
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Taffi: but if they do, that god will send the right one.
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I'm reminded of the scripture that talks about, as arrows are
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In the hand of the mighty man, so are the children of
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Our youth.
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And it's interesting that you know god has chosen us and
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Assigned us those who have been entrusted into our care and into
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Our families and it just amazes me in that how an arrow can be
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Directed and and guided in a certain way.
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And so, it's a beautiful thing that we have this opportunity to
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Mold and impart, and to provide wisdom and just all the time in
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Every way when you're sitting around or when you're
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Intentionally doing different things.
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Kendra: teaching these little lessons.
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Taffi: yes.
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Kendra: especially if the--for us, we have these toddlers just
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Trying to--they're sponges.
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We're noticing they're little sponges and so, trying to figure
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Out like okay lord, what do you want me to say?
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Because they pick it up and they take it and so just be like,
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Lord, what is it that you want me to say?
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Just trying to be intentional, right?
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Like, trying to think about what am i--what are the conversations
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I'm having with my three-year-old who thinks that
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He can, you know, carry on a full conversation with me and,
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You know, in his mind.
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So, just being really thoughtful, like, okay, lord,
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What is it that you want me to say to him, right?
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In those random quiet moments where it's just us in the
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Car, yeah.
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Taffi: and being able to even trust and building trust, that's
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One of the things i was thinking about and learn, just as
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A teenage parent, was giving my children more opportunities
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To demonstrate trust.
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I think our generation, my generation was dealt with a lot
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Of fear and so as a result of that, i think, there was the
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Fear of something bad happening or, something--you know, the
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Boogeyman is out there.
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So, not being able to be trusted with doing different things.
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So, i just remember one of my daughters just saying, well i
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Want the opportunity for trust to be trusted by making my own
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Decisions and knowing where to be, and if something happens,
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What to do and to be able to prove that, you know what
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I'm saying?
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And so, that's something that really stands out and
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It's--really can be developed when they're younger too, but
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Sometimes, we project on our children our own fears and it
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Kind of affects the dynamic of our relationship with them
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Because of maybe things that we've experienced too, yeah.
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Instead of kind of working through and talking and, like
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You were saying, maybe sitting on someone's couch.
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Kendra: you know, all the things.
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Taffi: getting it all out, getting healed from that horror
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Or whatever it was. and just saying--
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Kendra: so, you're not pouring it into them, yeah.
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Did that--did you see that impact, how you trust
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God, right?
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Like, having to learn to trust them, right?
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Were you able to kind of connect those things or?
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Taffi: it was almost like two separate worlds where i was
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Wanting to trust god, but when it came to trusting them, just
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Relying more on their level of maturity outweighing that god
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Can speak to a child, or he has indwells them, and we pray in
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The spirit and do all the things, spend time in the word,
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So they're good.
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So, just being able to trust that, what you've instilled just
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Every stage of their life and not thinking that it should be
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Minimized or reduced to something insignificant.
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Because the word of of god is incorruptible.
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It's--yeah, it's in there.
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And so, when it seems like it's--
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Kendra: like, it's been planted,
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It's not coming back void, it's in there, just give
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It a chance, right?
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I think maybe it's the fear of like, what if it does, right?
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We don't--we know that, right, the word of god doesn't go out
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In return where we're like, but also, what if, right?
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Because there are our babies and i think even having toddlers, i
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Already just think about--it's just such a heavy--it can be
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A heavy thing, but it's so-- you don't want to--you're like,
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Lord, i don't wanna mess up this thing you trusted me
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With, right?
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I wanna get it right.
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I wanna honor you, right?
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I think that's what i think about often, like, lord, i wanna
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Honor you in the way i'm treating these kids, but i have
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To remember he loves them more than me.
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Like, that was--that thought when i got that like you love
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Them way more than i do, right?
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Like, when it came to sending our three-year-old off to a
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Little school and i was just so concerned.
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I was like, i don't know these people, they don't love him like
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I do.
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They don't know his little quirks like they--what if he,
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You know, gets scared and asks all the things.
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And it was just this reminder of like, "you don't even love them
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As much as i do, like don't you think i have him taken care of?"
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And so, it's just i have to remind myself of that often like
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I could never love them as much as god already does, you know
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What i mean?
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Taffi: how did that make you feel?
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Taffi: did you-- kendra: humble.
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Taffi: --have a sigh of relief and say okay.
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Kendra: i think it was humbling like, you know, it's kind
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Of--god has a way of gently checking us and you're like
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Okay, i'm in your business, right?
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Like, i love them, but at the end of the day, we're stewarding
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What belongs to him, right?
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And so, its that sort of check of like, okay, yes i love it,
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And it's also refreshing because there's also the reality of
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Like, oh wow, because i can't imagine anybody loving them more
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Than me, right?
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And to think that god has that fully covered is just like okay,
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Like okay, you got it i'm sending him and he was fine.
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Entertaining the people, he's fine.
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Taffi: wow, that's a really good point.
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That is really good, and i wanna remind our viewers today that
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You are parenting someone who god-designed, and like kendra
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Just said, god loves your child more than you do.
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Let that be a sobering thought.
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Your child is not a random assignment, they are
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A divine creation.
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Kendra: and it's great.
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Taffi: it really is.
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Kendra: fought for him, begged for him.
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And still, even that, even though six years can't compare
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To the fact like he's always had them in mind, right?
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Like, he--they were already these wonderfully fearfully made
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Creatures before i had anything to do with it, right, before i
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Got involved, they were already a part of the plan, right?
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And so, it's like those reminders, like, well before
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There was even me, god was already thinking about them.
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Taffi: so, he's already taking care of their future, it's
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Already been planned out that it's gonna be well, their
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Safety, their protection, their security.
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The provision, everything that they need.
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Kendra: yeah, he's good, he's generous, and thoughtful,
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And kind, and yeah.
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I think seeing god--even seeing god as father, right?
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Like, that parental language has taken on a new weight, a new
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Meaning, a new light, right?
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Just like, oh wow, right?
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Because my husband is very much--his identity is really
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Strong in fatherhood even before he had kids.
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I, as a teenager--and i--you know, we knew each other and i'm
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Like, what do you wanna do with your life?
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And you know, i was a really ambitious teenager.
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What do you wanna do?
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What's your plan for your life?
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And he's like, i wanna get married and i wanna have kids.
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And i was like, that's not a plan.
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What do you wanna do?
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And so, it's just been one of those things, like, seeing him
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Be a father and that reminded me even then, like, seeing how
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Loving he is but then going and even more than that.
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Even more than that, and it's like, oh, you got this, right?
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Like, we're all being, you know, used to do the lord's work.
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That's it.
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That's the assignment.
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Like, lord, take my hands, take these kids.
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You see them yelling, you see them tearing up my house, you
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See the things, right?
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You see it all.
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You see us wanting to pull our hair out, but you've graced us
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For this, even when we wanna, you know, run out of the house
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And leave them there to just have their way with it.
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You've graced us for the moment.
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Taffi: he really has, and i think about just the father's
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Love and wanting to keep us close.
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And there was distance under the law and, you know, people
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Thought that the father was just angry, and mad, and upset all
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The time, in bad moods, you know.
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And i remember my kids telling him like, you were in all these
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Different moods all the time i was just--i was overwhelmed but
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I think about just the closeness that god wants us to have with
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Him, you know?
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And how we can cultivate that, too, with a sense of recognizing
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That there are flaws and we can still come as we are, not
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Feeling like we gotta cover up the lie or pretend like
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Something is really not there.
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It's like, just bring it all, you tore up the toy, it's okay.
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[both laughing]
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Kendra: we're working on that, like, the importance of truth,
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The importance of, you know--and not--and them not walking in
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Fear, right?
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I was listening to a mom recently and it just--it was one
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Of those things that hits you and just this understanding of
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Like what my children will think about god has a lot to do with
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What--how they see me, right?
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Because if i'm constantly telling them about god,
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Especially somebody in ministry, if they're hearing me constantly
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Talk about i'm following jesus and the spirit of god is in
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Me, right?
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And then i am mishandling them or i'm, you know, not handling
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Them with grace, then what am i telling them about the god that
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I serve or the god that i'm trying to point to?
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And it's just been one of those things like, yeah, i'm--as i'm
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Talking to them, i'm also teaching them this is what god
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Is like, right?
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Like, do i show them that god working through me works with
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Tenderness, or do i show them that he's got a short temper
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Like you said?
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Because that is often what we--just that kind of religious
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Mindset, right?
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God is angry and he's just waiting for you to slip up so he
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Can punish you and put you in time out, yeah.
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Hell is our, you know, our grown up
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Time out and so it's just one of those things
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Of like, is that really the message that we wanna send
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About god?
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Is that what i want them to think, right?
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Not even just about me because again, it's like it's not--
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It's not just about me, right?
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Another overarching message and just like, no, i want them to
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Know that god is gracious, right?
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God is forgiving.
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God is not looking and lurking for this opportunity for you to
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Slip up and having got-you moments, right?
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And so, i don't wanna do that with them like, i knew you were
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Gonna do that again like.
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He probably is gonna do it again because he's three so he'll do
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It again, right?
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And so, there's grace for that, right?
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Like, we love you, we love you, just let's not do it
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Again, yeah.
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Taffi: i love that.
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Another opportunity to get it right and not be so quick to
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Find fault to accuse and--
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Kendra: yeah, we try--and i say
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To him often that a woman heard us in the airport before and i
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Was telling--he was like--he got kind of frustrated and he, you
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Know, snapped and i said let's try that another way, let's try
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It again, and she was like, "oh, that's a great thing to say as
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A parent."
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I was thinking, yes, we could ask our kids let's
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Try again, right?
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Because we don't--we don't always do that, sometimes we
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Forget and we just snap and like, "you better not," and it's
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Like, "let's try again."
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What if we had a chance to do it again?
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And so, it's difficult to do that when we're
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Frustrated, but--
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Taffi: that's true.
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Kendra: but i think it's having to remember how much grace
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I need, right?
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Because there's no way to give grace that you don't even
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Recognize that you need yourself.
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Taffi: how did that turn out?
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Kendra: he--because we do it often, he does.
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He'll go, [deep breath], so we practice, you know,
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Deep breaths.
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I don't know if it's generational.
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My mother did not ask me to take a deep breath, but we'll go take
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A deep breath, try it again, right?
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And he does.
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He knows like, okay, [deep breath], and then
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He'll go, "mommy, i'm frustrated."
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And that's fine, well, we're gonna do what mom's asking you
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To do, but we don't have to yell, we--right?
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And so, just trying to practice that sort of exchange where it's
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Not--i don't wanna be harsh.
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I don't want my children remembering me as harsh, and
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Unyielding, and unforgiving, you know, yeah.
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And so, it's just something i'm trying to be mindful of and it's
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A lot of work because you gotta do a lot of inner work while
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You're doing that outer work.
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Taffi: and that's the routine, it's the regimen because
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Children do thrive in routine, they thrive in consistency,
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Doing the same thing over and over and over and over again.
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That's the training, making it narrow in the hebrew--the way in
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Which they should go, you know, and not just being inconsistent
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And it's confusing and one day is this and another day is that,
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Or--but just it begins to click over time, that consistency.
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And like you mentioned, just the consistent love showing up as
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The best version of yourself.
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Kendra: trying, trying. taffi: trying.
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Kendra: trying my best to do it and realizing like, oh, we have
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Many years ahead of this, right?
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Like, seeing that for myself like not only we have many years
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Of him learning, many years of me learning while teaching all
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Of the things, yeah, so--
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Taffi: learning, it's a journey of it out together, isn't it?
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Kendra: it is, being kind to ourselves.
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Taffi: every child is different.
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And knowing, and just--lord, help me to not duplicate in the
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Same way.
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If you have more than one child, these are things that have to
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Sink into our hearts and have to remind ourselves, okay, i can
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Look at the father.
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I'm growing and he's doing it with me.
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Kendra: even hearing that--hearing you say that,
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I heard it in a different way because i feel like lots of moms
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Have tried to say that like every child is different and now
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Having two, i'm like they're so different, they are so
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Different, but even hearing you say that just now i'm just
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Thinking about, yeah, because with god he has to--right,
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That's that same sort of thing, right?
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Like, thank you lord for not, you know, treating me as
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This--because we're not the same.
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And so, it's like if god has this sort of infinite capacity
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To love us individually and independently, right, surely we
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Can try.
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We can try to exercise a little bit of that in our own house.
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Yeah, it's--we're gonna do our best.
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Taffi: well, that's all we can do.
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Kendra: and grace for it.
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Taffi: that is all we can do.
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So, i wanna remind all of our viewers today--thank you kendra
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So much.
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Just want you to be reminded that you are not ill-equipped,
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You're graced.
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God chose you because he knew you'd lean on him, so lean on
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Him today, he knows your imperfections and he has created
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Space for it.
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He's not asking you to raise someone perfect, there's no
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Perfect agenda, there's no perfect manual, we are just
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Relying and depending on his grace to raise our loved ones.
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And so, kendra and i, let's just pray together.
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Father, we just thank you for every person watching.
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Lord, we just believe that they will experience good in
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Parenting in this season in which they are in.
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Lord, help them to be mindful of the great love that you have and
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That you'd love us more and that love that causes us to just be
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All that has been deposited on the inside of us to show that
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Love in return, to reciprocate.
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And so, we just thank you for the undying, unfailing,
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Unconditional love that you have towards us that we can dispense
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And share with our children, and with our loved ones, and all the
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Things that are so pivotal in our community that we can
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Fulfill the highest version of ourselves and be the best
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Version of ourselves.
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So, thank you for it in jesus's name.
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Thank you for watching today.
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I pray that you were blessed.
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Announcer: tomorrow on "changing your world."
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Taffi: thank god that he can parent us and help us along
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The way.
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Kendra: parent me, god. taffi: parent me, god.
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Kendra: please. taffi: tell me what to do.
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Creflo Dollar - Graced To Parent (Part 1)

February 18, 2026 | 27:29

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