1. TBN
  2. Programs
  3. Creflo Dollar
  4. Episodes
  5. Creflo Dollar - The Spiritual Progression of Offense
Creflo Dollar

Creflo Dollar - The Spiritual Progression of Offense

July 13, 2026 | 27:29

Creflo Dollar - The Spiritual Progression of Offense
Join the dynamic leadership and teaching of Dr. Creflo and Taffi Dollar.
#Bitterness #Self-Denial #Forgiveness #Anointing #Grace #Hurting #Soul #PersonalStory #CrefloDollar

Closed captions

Show Timecode
Creflo Dollar | Creflo Dollar - The Spiritual Progression of Offense | July 13, 2026
  • ...
  • 00:00:00.633 --> 00:00:00.413
  • Male announcer: this program is brought to you in part by the
  • 00:00:01.481 --> 00:00:03.483
  • Partners and friends of creflo dollar ministries.
  • 00:00:03.616 --> 00:00:07.087
  • Announcer: coming up next on "changing your world."
  • 00:00:08.221 --> 00:00:10.390
  • Creflo dollar: the spirit of division just didn't show up.
  • 00:00:11.524 --> 00:00:12.559
  • Offense was the beginning of division.
  • 00:00:13.460 --> 00:00:17.063
  • Offense is the beginning of resentment.
  • 00:00:17.063 --> 00:00:25.105
  • Offense is the beginning of racism and sexism, and all the
  • 00:00:25.105 --> 00:00:30.376
  • -isms started with that little seed, excuse me, of offense.
  • 00:00:30.376 --> 00:00:36.583
  • Female announcer: inspired, empowered, connected.
  • 00:00:40.286 --> 00:00:42.956
  • It's time to take your faith to the next level with the
  • 00:00:42.956 --> 00:00:45.391
  • "changing your world" podcast with creflo dollar.
  • 00:00:45.391 --> 00:00:47.827
  • Wherever life takes you, at the gym, in your car, or on your
  • 00:00:47.827 --> 00:00:51.698
  • Morning walk, you can stream powerful, uplifting messages
  • 00:00:51.698 --> 00:00:54.868
  • That will keep god's word front and center.
  • 00:00:54.868 --> 00:00:57.170
  • Every episode is packed with fresh revelation and practical
  • 00:00:57.170 --> 00:01:00.273
  • Wisdom to help you live in the fullness of god's grace.
  • 00:01:00.273 --> 00:01:03.843
  • Hit subscribe on apple podcasts, spotify, or wherever you listen.
  • 00:01:03.843 --> 00:01:08.281
  • ♪ this is your world, ♪
  • 00:01:10.550 --> 00:01:13.286
  • ♪ so let's vow to make it a better place. ♪
  • 00:01:13.286 --> 00:01:18.424
  • ♪ let every heart that needs to know, ♪
  • 00:01:18.424 --> 00:01:23.563
  • ♪ your love is here to stay. ♪
  • 00:01:23.563 --> 00:01:25.999
  • ♪ oh-oh, it's time we live a new life. ♪
  • 00:01:25.999 --> 00:01:30.036
  • ♪ oh-oh, let his love shine bright in you. ♪
  • 00:01:30.036 --> 00:01:34.107
  • ♪ oh-oh, we're saved by his grace, ♪
  • 00:01:34.107 --> 00:01:37.343
  • ♪ so we embrace your love today. ♪
  • 00:01:37.343 --> 00:01:40.880
  • ♪ we are changed. ♪♪
  • 00:01:40.880 --> 00:01:44.217
  • Creflo: this morning i want to teach you
  • 00:01:46.953 --> 00:01:49.689
  • About the spiritual progression of offense.
  • 00:01:49.689 --> 00:01:54.627
  • In other words, what comes first, what comes second, what's
  • 00:01:54.627 --> 00:01:57.764
  • Going to happen after that, what's going to happen
  • 00:01:57.764 --> 00:01:59.299
  • After that.
  • 00:01:59.299 --> 00:02:00.934
  • The spiritual progression of offense.
  • 00:02:00.934 --> 00:02:05.205
  • All right, so, something happened to you, word or action.
  • 00:02:05.205 --> 00:02:11.578
  • Offense came from the outside, you took it.
  • 00:02:11.578 --> 00:02:14.447
  • Now, you don't have to take it, but most of the time you
  • 00:02:14.447 --> 00:02:17.150
  • Receive it.
  • 00:02:17.150 --> 00:02:18.484
  • And when you receive offense, the first thing that happens
  • 00:02:18.484 --> 00:02:24.190
  • When you receive offense is the offense turns into hurt.
  • 00:02:24.190 --> 00:02:30.997
  • The offense turns into hurt or disappointment.
  • 00:02:30.997 --> 00:02:35.868
  • The offense turns into hurt or disappointment.
  • 00:02:35.935 --> 00:02:42.308
  • So offense begins as a wound.
  • 00:02:42.308 --> 00:02:47.180
  • You've been wounded.
  • 00:02:47.180 --> 00:02:48.514
  • Offense begins as a wound, a moment when expectations are
  • 00:02:48.514 --> 00:02:54.220
  • Not met.
  • 00:02:54.220 --> 00:02:55.588
  • That's what offense--that's what hurt and disappointment
  • 00:02:55.588 --> 00:02:57.257
  • Is about.
  • 00:02:57.257 --> 00:02:58.625
  • Disappointment is when what you expected didn't come to pass.
  • 00:02:58.625 --> 00:03:04.030
  • Hurt or disappointment, expectations that were not met,
  • 00:03:04.030 --> 00:03:08.434
  • When somebody's words or actions strike us in a sensitive place.
  • 00:03:08.434 --> 00:03:17.243
  • Words or actions strike us in a sensitive place.
  • 00:03:17.243 --> 00:03:21.848
  • And in some cases, somebody's words, they said it ignorantly,
  • 00:03:21.848 --> 00:03:25.652
  • They didn't know it, but it struck you in a sensitive place.
  • 00:03:25.652 --> 00:03:29.722
  • An unmet expectation.
  • 00:03:29.722 --> 00:03:33.226
  • For example, a pastor forgets to acknowledge
  • 00:03:33.226 --> 00:03:36.763
  • Someone's contribution.
  • 00:03:36.763 --> 00:03:40.199
  • I remember when i was in a methodist church, and they used
  • 00:03:40.199 --> 00:03:42.435
  • To have fish fries on friday.
  • 00:03:42.435 --> 00:03:44.337
  • And a lot of them did it because they were motivated to hear the
  • 00:03:44.337 --> 00:03:47.774
  • Pastor express appreciation for what they did.
  • 00:03:47.774 --> 00:03:50.476
  • And when he didn't do it, it was disappointing and it hurt.
  • 00:03:50.476 --> 00:03:56.616
  • Another example, a friend fails to show up when needed.
  • 00:03:56.616 --> 00:04:01.354
  • And in some cases, they didn't even know they were needed, but
  • 00:04:01.354 --> 00:04:05.658
  • For some reason you had this thing about, "well, you're my
  • 00:04:05.658 --> 00:04:08.328
  • Friend, you should've known," and that causes disappointment.
  • 00:04:08.328 --> 00:04:13.066
  • It causes hurt, because you expected for them to be there.
  • 00:04:13.066 --> 00:04:20.206
  • Proverbs chapter 18 verse 19, "a brother offended is harder to be
  • 00:04:20.206 --> 00:04:28.081
  • Won than a strong city," listen to these words, "and their
  • 00:04:28.081 --> 00:04:32.552
  • Contentions are like the bars of a castle."
  • 00:04:32.552 --> 00:04:38.791
  • Now, the hebrew implies, "a person touched in a sensitive
  • 00:04:38.791 --> 00:04:43.896
  • Place becomes fortified like a city under siege."
  • 00:04:43.896 --> 00:04:50.336
  • I started thinking about that.
  • 00:04:50.336 --> 00:04:52.271
  • A person that's touched in a sensitive place, and they got
  • 00:04:52.271 --> 00:04:55.975
  • Hurt, or they were disappointed, the hebrew language describes it
  • 00:04:55.975 --> 00:05:03.816
  • As that hurt or that disappointment becomes fortified
  • 00:05:03.816 --> 00:05:07.887
  • Like a city under siege.
  • 00:05:07.887 --> 00:05:09.822
  • In other words, hurt begins forming walls.
  • 00:05:09.822 --> 00:05:16.129
  • "i'm hurt, i'm not going to try to let too many people do it."
  • 00:05:16.129 --> 00:05:21.734
  • A couple of us were talking yesterday, a couple of us
  • 00:05:21.734 --> 00:05:24.070
  • Talking yesterday, and we were talking about how amazing it is,
  • 00:05:24.070 --> 00:05:26.439
  • When men get hurt, their pride and ego won't let them confront
  • 00:05:26.439 --> 00:05:32.512
  • The hurt.
  • 00:05:32.512 --> 00:05:33.846
  • They just go ahead and build a wall.
  • 00:05:33.846 --> 00:05:37.683
  • And pride and ego is sitting at everybody's table.
  • 00:05:37.683 --> 00:05:39.886
  • You just got to make sure it's not sitting at the head of the
  • 00:05:39.886 --> 00:05:41.754
  • Table, calling the shots.
  • 00:05:41.754 --> 00:05:44.891
  • Just like, "i ain't no punk," you know, "i ain't gonna sit up
  • 00:05:44.891 --> 00:05:47.527
  • Here and tell you you hurt me."
  • 00:05:47.527 --> 00:05:50.530
  • Boy, hurt is building walls.
  • 00:05:50.530 --> 00:05:55.435
  • And a hurt heart can easily lock itself behind walls.
  • 00:05:55.435 --> 00:06:00.773
  • I wonder how many of us today have allowed our souls to become
  • 00:06:00.773 --> 00:06:05.645
  • The storage closet for all of our hurts.
  • 00:06:05.645 --> 00:06:09.315
  • And that's dangerous.
  • 00:06:09.315 --> 00:06:12.084
  • I did that in my life for years.
  • 00:06:12.084 --> 00:06:15.121
  • I had all the hurt and i put it in the closet because, you know,
  • 00:06:15.121 --> 00:06:17.590
  • I'm a preacher, i'm not really supposed to even get hurt.
  • 00:06:17.590 --> 00:06:20.593
  • I put this in the closet, put that hurt in the closet, put the
  • 00:06:20.593 --> 00:06:23.396
  • Hurts of the past in the closet, put the hurts of relationships
  • 00:06:23.396 --> 00:06:26.499
  • In the closet, put the hurts of people in the closet.
  • 00:06:26.499 --> 00:06:29.669
  • And one day i went to close that closet, and it wouldn't latch.
  • 00:06:29.669 --> 00:06:33.739
  • You know one of those closets where you close but they never
  • 00:06:33.739 --> 00:06:35.374
  • Did--lock it.
  • 00:06:35.374 --> 00:06:37.743
  • And then the stuff starts spilling out.
  • 00:06:37.743 --> 00:06:39.579
  • I mean, i had a vision, me seeing that, the stuff start
  • 00:06:39.579 --> 00:06:42.915
  • Falling out of the closet.
  • 00:06:42.915 --> 00:06:45.618
  • And when that stuff was falling out of the closet, my emotions
  • 00:06:45.618 --> 00:06:48.154
  • Started coming out like i didn't even know what happened.
  • 00:06:48.154 --> 00:06:52.124
  • I remember one time i ran to the store, i had to turn around real
  • 00:06:52.124 --> 00:06:54.494
  • Quick because i felt like i'm getting ready to burst out in
  • 00:06:54.494 --> 00:06:56.629
  • Emotions, and i had to run in the house and just grab my wife,
  • 00:06:56.629 --> 00:06:59.465
  • And this sobbing came from somewhere, and she's like, "you
  • 00:06:59.465 --> 00:07:02.168
  • Need to deal with this."
  • 00:07:02.168 --> 00:07:06.973
  • I wonder how many of us have that same storage closet for all
  • 00:07:06.973 --> 00:07:11.043
  • Of the hurt and all of the pain and all of the disappointment,
  • 00:07:11.043 --> 00:07:14.247
  • And because you're just a really nice person, you just don't
  • 00:07:14.247 --> 00:07:16.516
  • Wanna, you know, mess up nothing for nobody.
  • 00:07:16.516 --> 00:07:20.419
  • You can take it, you can handle it.
  • 00:07:20.419 --> 00:07:24.223
  • Until you can't handle it.
  • 00:07:24.223 --> 00:07:26.592
  • This is where it starts.
  • 00:07:26.592 --> 00:07:29.161
  • Offense.
  • 00:07:29.161 --> 00:07:32.498
  • It's all beginning with words.
  • 00:07:32.498 --> 00:07:36.235
  • It begins with actions.
  • 00:07:36.235 --> 00:07:38.404
  • It begins with unmet expectations.
  • 00:07:38.404 --> 00:07:42.141
  • Offense happens when we interpret other
  • 00:07:42.141 --> 00:07:47.079
  • People's actions.
  • 00:07:47.079 --> 00:07:48.814
  • Now, listen to this.
  • 00:07:48.814 --> 00:07:51.751
  • Offense happens when we interpret other people's actions
  • 00:07:51.751 --> 00:07:55.254
  • Through the lens--listen to this--of insecurity.
  • 00:07:55.254 --> 00:08:01.394
  • We interpret the other person's actions through our own
  • 00:08:01.394 --> 00:08:04.830
  • Insecurities, instead of our identity in christ.
  • 00:08:04.830 --> 00:08:10.136
  • So when you have insecurity all about yourself, and you haven't
  • 00:08:10.136 --> 00:08:12.738
  • Dealt with that either, we're being affected.
  • 00:08:12.738 --> 00:08:16.175
  • Everything that's happening, the disappointment and the hurt, is
  • 00:08:16.175 --> 00:08:19.045
  • Going through the filter of our insecurities.
  • 00:08:19.045 --> 00:08:22.481
  • We're already insecure.
  • 00:08:22.481 --> 00:08:24.383
  • We're not even secure enough to believe that lie that we're
  • 00:08:24.383 --> 00:08:28.921
  • Telling ourselves.
  • 00:08:28.921 --> 00:08:30.289
  • And so, best thing to do is to just let the walls continue to
  • 00:08:30.289 --> 00:08:35.661
  • Be built.
  • 00:08:35.661 --> 00:08:37.396
  • And when they're high enough, let me tuck the hurt behind the
  • 00:08:37.396 --> 00:08:41.334
  • Walls, instead of understanding our true identity.
  • 00:08:41.334 --> 00:08:47.273
  • "that's not me anymore.
  • 00:08:47.273 --> 00:08:48.708
  • That's not me anymore.
  • 00:08:48.708 --> 00:08:50.209
  • I don't hold this offense."
  • 00:08:50.209 --> 00:08:51.544
  • And it all started because you took offense.
  • 00:08:51.544 --> 00:08:53.713
  • That's where it started from.
  • 00:08:53.713 --> 00:08:55.615
  • Somebody says, "oh, you have an emotional issue."
  • 00:08:55.615 --> 00:08:57.550
  • Yeah, you took offense.
  • 00:08:57.550 --> 00:08:59.352
  • I'm telling you, it's one of these little things the devil
  • 00:08:59.352 --> 00:09:02.755
  • Has done.
  • 00:09:02.755 --> 00:09:04.090
  • I discovered that the devil really doesn't cause offense as
  • 00:09:04.090 --> 00:09:06.726
  • Much as he inflames it.
  • 00:09:06.726 --> 00:09:09.762
  • In other words, if you take the offense, he'll inflame it.
  • 00:09:09.762 --> 00:09:14.000
  • He'll do something to make it grow and get bigger and bigger
  • 00:09:14.000 --> 00:09:16.902
  • On the inside of you.
  • 00:09:16.902 --> 00:09:19.705
  • So it starts with offense, and then offense moves into hurt
  • 00:09:19.705 --> 00:09:24.777
  • And disappointment.
  • 00:09:24.777 --> 00:09:26.912
  • And then hurt, number two, hurt and disappointment, here's the
  • 00:09:26.912 --> 00:09:32.151
  • Next progression, it moves into bitterness.
  • 00:09:32.151 --> 00:09:35.988
  • Offense, hurt, and then it moves into bitterness.
  • 00:09:35.988 --> 00:09:42.495
  • Hurt that is unprocessed becomes bitterness.
  • 00:09:42.495 --> 00:09:49.902
  • See, it's not all right for the hurt to be stuck in the closet,
  • 00:09:49.902 --> 00:09:52.872
  • Because all you're doing is sticking hurt in a place where
  • 00:09:52.872 --> 00:09:55.508
  • It can marinate.
  • 00:09:55.508 --> 00:09:58.878
  • And over time, it transfers from hurt to bitterness.
  • 00:09:58.878 --> 00:10:03.616
  • It's unprocessed.
  • 00:10:03.616 --> 00:10:05.818
  • And when it's unprocessed, it becomes bitterness.
  • 00:10:05.818 --> 00:10:08.087
  • It's the internal replaying of that offense.
  • 00:10:08.087 --> 00:10:12.525
  • Internally, you're just replaying that offense.
  • 00:10:12.525 --> 00:10:17.396
  • Bitterness is hurt that's marinated in time.
  • 00:10:17.396 --> 00:10:23.903
  • So how long is it going to be there?
  • 00:10:23.903 --> 00:10:25.504
  • It's hurt that's marinated in time.
  • 00:10:25.504 --> 00:10:29.041
  • Oh, lord.
  • 00:10:29.041 --> 00:10:32.144
  • Look at hebrews 12:15 in the esv and then the same scripture in
  • 00:10:32.144 --> 00:10:38.384
  • The niv.
  • 00:10:38.384 --> 00:10:39.719
  • I want to read these two translations, the esv and then
  • 00:10:39.719 --> 00:10:41.487
  • The niv, hebrews 12:15.
  • 00:10:41.487 --> 00:10:43.155
  • Verse 15 says, "see to it that no one fails to obtain the grace
  • 00:10:43.155 --> 00:10:47.793
  • Of god."
  • 00:10:47.793 --> 00:10:52.231
  • That's the only way we're gonna get out of this stuff, just
  • 00:10:52.231 --> 00:10:54.133
  • Through the grace of god.
  • 00:10:54.133 --> 00:10:55.468
  • "that no root of bitterness spring up and causes trouble."
  • 00:10:55.468 --> 00:11:02.108
  • See, understand something.
  • 00:11:02.108 --> 00:11:03.442
  • "well, that's the devil causing the trouble."
  • 00:11:03.442 --> 00:11:05.010
  • He's saying the bitterness is causing the trouble.
  • 00:11:05.010 --> 00:11:09.849
  • "and the root of bitterness springs up, causes trouble, and
  • 00:11:09.849 --> 00:11:15.221
  • By it many become defiled."
  • 00:11:15.221 --> 00:11:20.559
  • So your bitterness becomes something that can contaminate
  • 00:11:20.559 --> 00:11:28.234
  • Other people's lives, including your own.
  • 00:11:28.234 --> 00:11:33.005
  • And then in the niv he says, "see to it that no one falls
  • 00:11:33.005 --> 00:11:37.977
  • Short of the grace of god and that no bitter root grows up to
  • 00:11:37.977 --> 00:11:42.314
  • Cause trouble and defile many."
  • 00:11:42.314 --> 00:11:46.152
  • Think about it.
  • 00:11:46.152 --> 00:11:47.486
  • The bitterness that comes in, that's growing in you, he says,
  • 00:11:47.486 --> 00:11:50.656
  • "here's the problem, it's going to cause trouble and it's going
  • 00:11:50.656 --> 00:11:53.559
  • To be an infection in other people's lives," because you
  • 00:11:53.559 --> 00:11:58.330
  • Didn't deal with it.
  • 00:11:58.330 --> 00:11:59.865
  • Bitterness always spreads.
  • 00:11:59.865 --> 00:12:02.067
  • It spreads to your attitude.
  • 00:12:02.067 --> 00:12:05.171
  • You're going to be able to see bitterness spreading in you, and
  • 00:12:05.171 --> 00:12:07.940
  • Then it hits other people, but it spreads in your attitude.
  • 00:12:07.940 --> 00:12:11.443
  • It spreads in your conversations.
  • 00:12:11.443 --> 00:12:13.479
  • Listen to bitter people talk.
  • 00:12:13.479 --> 00:12:16.148
  • And it spreads in your relationships.
  • 00:12:16.148 --> 00:12:19.218
  • Your relationships failing and not being the way they could be,
  • 00:12:19.218 --> 00:12:24.390
  • Because bitterness is spreading.
  • 00:12:24.390 --> 00:12:26.926
  • Your attitude, your conversations.
  • 00:12:26.926 --> 00:12:29.595
  • You can hear bitterness being used in words and then
  • 00:12:29.595 --> 00:12:32.498
  • Ultimately your relationships.
  • 00:12:32.498 --> 00:12:35.334
  • Somebody says, "that's not me."
  • 00:12:35.334 --> 00:12:36.702
  • Let's look at some examples real quick.
  • 00:12:36.702 --> 00:12:41.473
  • You can tell that you're entering into business--or
  • 00:12:41.473 --> 00:12:44.443
  • Excuse me, yeah, the business of bitterness.
  • 00:12:44.443 --> 00:12:46.912
  • You can tell you're entering into bitterness when you, number
  • 00:12:46.912 --> 00:12:49.615
  • One, retell the offense to others.
  • 00:12:49.615 --> 00:12:57.423
  • How often are you retelling the offense to others?
  • 00:12:57.423 --> 00:13:03.696
  • And they didn't call you to hear your offense.
  • 00:13:03.696 --> 00:13:05.698
  • "hey, i'm just calling to check in on you."
  • 00:13:05.698 --> 00:13:07.132
  • "well, i'm all right, you know.
  • 00:13:07.132 --> 00:13:09.068
  • I guess you heard what happened."
  • 00:13:09.068 --> 00:13:13.873
  • You're bitter.
  • 00:13:13.873 --> 00:13:15.674
  • Retelling the offense to others.
  • 00:13:15.674 --> 00:13:21.013
  • Here's another way you can tell that you're walking
  • 00:13:21.013 --> 00:13:22.781
  • In bitterness.
  • 00:13:22.781 --> 00:13:24.149
  • You rehearse the hurt internally.
  • 00:13:24.149 --> 00:13:28.988
  • You're rehearsing the hurt internally.
  • 00:13:28.988 --> 00:13:32.791
  • You rehearse it, you're nursing it, but you're not
  • 00:13:32.791 --> 00:13:36.896
  • Dispersing it.
  • 00:13:36.896 --> 00:13:38.230
  • You're rehearsing it internally.
  • 00:13:38.230 --> 00:13:41.400
  • You're rolling it over and over and over again, internally.
  • 00:13:41.400 --> 00:13:45.604
  • Here's a third way you can tell that bitterness is rising up.
  • 00:13:45.604 --> 00:13:49.875
  • You feel the pain, even when the person's not present.
  • 00:13:49.875 --> 00:13:54.880
  • You feel the pain, i mean, that hurt you.
  • 00:13:54.880 --> 00:13:58.417
  • That hurt now has--because you wouldn't deal with it
  • 00:13:58.417 --> 00:14:02.755
  • Immediately, and you allowed it to find refuge behind the walls
  • 00:14:02.755 --> 00:14:09.328
  • Of your soul, then that bitterness, even when the
  • 00:14:09.328 --> 00:14:15.668
  • Person's not present.
  • 00:14:15.668 --> 00:14:19.805
  • See, i'm trying to show you, this may be the reason why
  • 00:14:19.805 --> 00:14:23.809
  • You've been derailed, or, "why is this not happening?"
  • 00:14:23.809 --> 00:14:27.713
  • Because when you get bitter, it blocks you from embracing and
  • 00:14:27.713 --> 00:14:32.217
  • Receiving the grace of god.
  • 00:14:32.217 --> 00:14:33.953
  • And i--here's the thing that motivates me to forgive quickly:
  • 00:14:33.953 --> 00:14:38.023
  • No matter what, i cannot afford to be derailed.
  • 00:14:38.023 --> 00:14:43.295
  • I just am not going to allow this human thing to cause me to
  • 00:14:43.295 --> 00:14:48.000
  • Take it, and then i'm going around thinking i'm okay, and
  • 00:14:48.000 --> 00:14:52.104
  • There are things that are not happening in my life because i
  • 00:14:52.104 --> 00:14:57.176
  • Let it in the storage room and i'm thinking it's cool because i
  • 00:14:57.176 --> 00:14:59.445
  • Put it in storage.
  • 00:14:59.445 --> 00:15:01.080
  • And i'm going to show you in a minute how you put it on ice.
  • 00:15:01.080 --> 00:15:06.719
  • Are y'all listening to me this morning?
  • 00:15:06.719 --> 00:15:09.888
  • And so, if offense is not released, bitterness begins to
  • 00:15:09.888 --> 00:15:18.664
  • Take root.
  • 00:15:18.664 --> 00:15:20.966
  • Bitterness spreads, contaminating not only you, but
  • 00:15:20.966 --> 00:15:27.773
  • Others around you.
  • 00:15:27.773 --> 00:15:31.210
  • I wonder how long you've been carrying something that you've
  • 00:15:31.210 --> 00:15:33.946
  • Been in denial that you've carried.
  • 00:15:33.946 --> 00:15:37.516
  • I have.
  • 00:15:37.516 --> 00:15:38.884
  • I was like, "oh yes, i've forgiven them."
  • 00:15:38.884 --> 00:15:40.219
  • Well, why am i still rehearsing it?
  • 00:15:40.219 --> 00:15:42.521
  • Well, why am i still talking about it?
  • 00:15:42.521 --> 00:15:45.324
  • Why is it still coming up?
  • 00:15:45.324 --> 00:15:48.093
  • And you're all going to have an opportunity to be offended.
  • 00:15:48.093 --> 00:15:51.263
  • I mean, i was doing a meeting in philadelphia this past week, and
  • 00:15:51.263 --> 00:15:55.434
  • Right in the middle of doing a meeting, right in the middle of
  • 00:15:55.434 --> 00:15:57.503
  • The anointing, i had an opportunity to take offense.
  • 00:15:57.503 --> 00:16:00.339
  • And the only thing i could think of was, grace people have to be
  • 00:16:00.339 --> 00:16:03.075
  • Gracious people.
  • 00:16:03.075 --> 00:16:04.543
  • And if i take this offense, i take something home with me that
  • 00:16:04.543 --> 00:16:07.312
  • I don't want to take home with me.
  • 00:16:07.312 --> 00:16:09.882
  • So i'm going to be full of love and i'm going to be polite and
  • 00:16:09.882 --> 00:16:14.386
  • I'm going to move on.
  • 00:16:14.386 --> 00:16:15.754
  • But a little of it got in, because i talked about it about
  • 00:16:15.754 --> 00:16:18.924
  • Seven times.
  • 00:16:18.924 --> 00:16:23.128
  • Time i walked in the house, "taffi, let me tell you what."
  • 00:16:23.128 --> 00:16:27.633
  • Time i saw aunt--i said, "boy, you wouldn't believe
  • 00:16:27.633 --> 00:16:29.768
  • What happened."
  • 00:16:29.768 --> 00:16:31.670
  • I'm like, "that thing, that thing."
  • 00:16:31.670 --> 00:16:33.172
  • And i'm thinking, like, wow, you really have to open your eyes
  • 00:16:33.172 --> 00:16:37.009
  • To stuff.
  • 00:16:37.009 --> 00:16:38.577
  • And all of a sudden you'll be sitting there and you're praying
  • 00:16:38.577 --> 00:16:41.313
  • About releasing the hurt, and you realize, oh my gosh, there's
  • 00:16:41.313 --> 00:16:46.552
  • Some hurt still in there.
  • 00:16:46.552 --> 00:16:47.886
  • It's like i'm cleaning the closet out, i took this out, and
  • 00:16:47.886 --> 00:16:51.290
  • Something else fell over and i'm like, "whoa, i didn't know this
  • 00:16:51.290 --> 00:16:53.258
  • Was in here," and, "whoa, i didn't know that was in here."
  • 00:16:53.258 --> 00:16:55.994
  • And i'm like, "okay, god, i set my will to forgive."
  • 00:16:55.994 --> 00:16:59.498
  • I'm not going to be waiting until i discover it.
  • 00:16:59.498 --> 00:17:01.567
  • I set my will to forgive anybody for anything, no matter what
  • 00:17:01.567 --> 00:17:04.937
  • It is.
  • 00:17:04.937 --> 00:17:06.271
  • I set my will to do that.
  • 00:17:06.271 --> 00:17:07.639
  • I am not going to be derailed, and i'm not going to let offense
  • 00:17:07.639 --> 00:17:10.976
  • Stop what god has wired and anointed me to do, and it ain't
  • 00:17:10.976 --> 00:17:14.780
  • Happening because i am carrying a secret thing in the walls of
  • 00:17:14.780 --> 00:17:20.853
  • My soul, and i deny it and i don't want to admit that it
  • 00:17:20.853 --> 00:17:25.257
  • Is there.
  • 00:17:25.257 --> 00:17:26.592
  • You ain't doing yourself no good by not admitting that
  • 00:17:26.592 --> 00:17:27.993
  • It's there.
  • 00:17:27.993 --> 00:17:31.263
  • Or your wife said something to you a year ago, and it don't
  • 00:17:31.263 --> 00:17:36.368
  • Come out until y'all get in an argument when everybody is ready
  • 00:17:36.368 --> 00:17:39.004
  • To get honest.
  • 00:17:39.004 --> 00:17:40.472
  • "well, since you said that!"
  • 00:17:40.472 --> 00:17:42.841
  • And then you've been keeping up with a list.
  • 00:17:42.841 --> 00:17:48.981
  • And married couples do that, keep up with a list.
  • 00:17:48.981 --> 00:17:51.884
  • Because i really don't like you telling me like it's just me,
  • 00:17:51.884 --> 00:17:54.853
  • It's you too.
  • 00:17:54.853 --> 00:17:56.221
  • And then you run out of stuff to argue about, you just say, "you
  • 00:17:56.221 --> 00:17:58.090
  • Too, you too, you too."
  • 00:17:58.090 --> 00:18:07.966
  • Number three.
  • 00:18:11.370 --> 00:18:13.238
  • So offense turns into to hurt.
  • 00:18:13.238 --> 00:18:17.409
  • Hurt, if you keep it, turns into bitterness.
  • 00:18:17.409 --> 00:18:20.112
  • Keep it in the storage room.
  • 00:18:20.112 --> 00:18:21.880
  • It's marinating in time.
  • 00:18:21.880 --> 00:18:23.782
  • Think about that phrase.
  • 00:18:23.782 --> 00:18:25.150
  • It's marinating in time.
  • 00:18:25.150 --> 00:18:26.985
  • Not in water, it's marinating in time.
  • 00:18:26.985 --> 00:18:29.254
  • The more time you give it, the more opportunity it has
  • 00:18:29.254 --> 00:18:31.590
  • To marinate.
  • 00:18:31.590 --> 00:18:35.160
  • And now the bitterness turns into, number three, resentment
  • 00:18:35.160 --> 00:18:40.566
  • And division.
  • 00:18:40.566 --> 00:18:42.801
  • Resentment and division.
  • 00:18:42.801 --> 00:18:44.903
  • I started looking at this and i'm like, "satan is so sneaky."
  • 00:18:44.903 --> 00:18:51.643
  • And that's why we got to know who we are.
  • 00:18:51.643 --> 00:18:54.813
  • Don't let him diagnose you like he knows you more than you
  • 00:18:54.813 --> 00:18:57.849
  • Know yourself.
  • 00:18:57.849 --> 00:18:59.985
  • And don't play these little church games about, "well, i'm
  • 00:18:59.985 --> 00:19:02.554
  • Not supposed to get offended."
  • 00:19:02.554 --> 00:19:04.323
  • Well, you did.
  • 00:19:04.323 --> 00:19:08.126
  • I wasn't supposed to get offended in the middle of a
  • 00:19:08.126 --> 00:19:10.395
  • Meeting where people are getting healed and lives are being
  • 00:19:10.395 --> 00:19:12.831
  • Changed, and there's this one thing happened and i'm like,
  • 00:19:12.831 --> 00:19:15.601
  • "uh-uh," and you know, i was gracious, but i still took some
  • 00:19:15.601 --> 00:19:19.071
  • With me.
  • 00:19:19.071 --> 00:19:23.976
  • I'm like, "no."
  • 00:19:23.976 --> 00:19:25.544
  • Anointing, put to the side because i take offense and won't
  • 00:19:25.544 --> 00:19:30.282
  • Get rid of it?
  • 00:19:30.282 --> 00:19:31.617
  • Nah, i ain't doing that.
  • 00:19:31.617 --> 00:19:32.985
  • I ain't doing that.
  • 00:19:32.985 --> 00:19:34.319
  • And so, a couple of things have to happen.
  • 00:19:34.319 --> 00:19:35.687
  • You have to recognize your capacity.
  • 00:19:35.687 --> 00:19:41.126
  • What are you talking about?
  • 00:19:41.126 --> 00:19:43.762
  • I used to come in the office and try to do everything.
  • 00:19:43.762 --> 00:19:46.832
  • Then i'd go home messed up, tired.
  • 00:19:46.832 --> 00:19:50.702
  • I've given the best at the office, so i'm not really ready
  • 00:19:50.702 --> 00:19:53.939
  • To give the best when i get home, 'cause i've already given
  • 00:19:53.939 --> 00:19:56.275
  • It away at the office.
  • 00:19:56.275 --> 00:19:57.643
  • And so i made a decision.
  • 00:19:57.643 --> 00:19:59.011
  • I'm going to go until i reach my capacity, and that's it.
  • 00:19:59.011 --> 00:20:02.881
  • And when that's it, you can be talking, but i'm walking to
  • 00:20:02.881 --> 00:20:05.117
  • My car.
  • 00:20:05.117 --> 00:20:06.451
  • And i ain't listening to nothing you're saying, because i've
  • 00:20:06.451 --> 00:20:09.221
  • Reached my capacity.
  • 00:20:09.221 --> 00:20:11.423
  • "well, it's an emergency."
  • 00:20:11.423 --> 00:20:12.758
  • No, it's your emergency.
  • 00:20:12.758 --> 00:20:14.126
  • I've reached my capacity.
  • 00:20:14.126 --> 00:20:15.460
  • 'cause if i go past my capacity, then i'm going to have
  • 00:20:15.460 --> 00:20:17.262
  • An emergency.
  • 00:20:17.262 --> 00:20:22.701
  • Some of y'all ain't hearing what i'm saying.
  • 00:20:22.701 --> 00:20:24.770
  • I don't have this crazy thing about, you know, "you're the
  • 00:20:24.770 --> 00:20:28.407
  • Pastor, you're supposed to--"
  • 00:20:28.407 --> 00:20:29.875
  • Uh-uh, no, i'm a human first, filled with the holy ghost,
  • 00:20:29.875 --> 00:20:33.912
  • Praise god, and then i'm a pastor.
  • 00:20:33.912 --> 00:20:35.647
  • But i don't believe in pastor abuse, so i have to recognize my
  • 00:20:35.647 --> 00:20:39.051
  • Capacity for what i'm dealing with.
  • 00:20:39.051 --> 00:20:41.586
  • Like, you know, people ask me, "why are you limiting the tour
  • 00:20:41.586 --> 00:20:44.189
  • To 500 people at a time?"
  • 00:20:44.189 --> 00:20:45.524
  • That's my capacity.
  • 00:20:45.524 --> 00:20:48.393
  • I can handle 500, to do what god instructed me to do.
  • 00:20:48.393 --> 00:20:52.864
  • That ain't mean where i can handle thousands.
  • 00:20:52.864 --> 00:20:57.102
  • What's your capacity?
  • 00:20:57.102 --> 00:20:58.804
  • And are you continuing to ignore your capacity?
  • 00:20:58.804 --> 00:21:01.106
  • Or you didn't even set your capacity.
  • 00:21:01.106 --> 00:21:03.275
  • And so the reason why you can't set boundaries is because you
  • 00:21:03.275 --> 00:21:05.310
  • Didn't set your capacity level.
  • 00:21:05.310 --> 00:21:09.147
  • Y'all understand what i'm saying?
  • 00:21:09.147 --> 00:21:11.383
  • See, we play these little church games, you know, "i can do all
  • 00:21:11.383 --> 00:21:13.552
  • Things through christ who strengthens me."
  • 00:21:13.552 --> 00:21:15.454
  • True, but i want to make sure i'm doing what christ wants me
  • 00:21:15.454 --> 00:21:18.323
  • To do and not me doing what i want to do.
  • 00:21:18.323 --> 00:21:21.393
  • And that's when you get into problems.
  • 00:21:21.393 --> 00:21:22.761
  • You start doing what you want to do, and you ain't asking christ
  • 00:21:22.761 --> 00:21:25.464
  • What he wants you to do.
  • 00:21:25.464 --> 00:21:31.403
  • Then you somewhere dying, trying to figure out, "lord, why?"
  • 00:21:31.403 --> 00:21:38.643
  • So now that bitterness turns into resentment and division.
  • 00:21:38.643 --> 00:21:47.018
  • Wow.
  • 00:21:47.018 --> 00:21:48.353
  • The spirit of division just didn't show up.
  • 00:21:48.353 --> 00:21:50.455
  • Offense was the beginning of division.
  • 00:21:50.455 --> 00:21:54.059
  • Offense is the beginning of resentment.
  • 00:21:54.059 --> 00:22:02.100
  • Offense is the beginning of racism and sexism, and all the
  • 00:22:02.100 --> 00:22:07.372
  • -isms started with that little seed, excuse me, of offense.
  • 00:22:07.372 --> 00:22:14.246
  • I think i said "forgiveness," but it started with that seed
  • 00:22:14.246 --> 00:22:17.516
  • Of offense.
  • 00:22:17.516 --> 00:22:22.854
  • So let's look at resentment.
  • 00:22:22.854 --> 00:22:26.892
  • Here's what resentment does.
  • 00:22:26.892 --> 00:22:28.226
  • Resentment is bitterness that now assigns motives, and then it
  • 00:22:28.226 --> 00:22:37.669
  • Starts justifying separation.
  • 00:22:37.669 --> 00:22:40.806
  • Resentment is the bitterness that now starts assigning a
  • 00:22:40.806 --> 00:22:45.811
  • Motive for what happened, and then starts
  • 00:22:45.811 --> 00:22:49.347
  • Justifying separation.
  • 00:22:49.347 --> 00:22:51.283
  • Announcer: offense can get into the heart and begin to affect
  • 00:22:55.487 --> 00:22:59.090
  • Your peace, your relationships, and the way you move forward
  • 00:22:59.090 --> 00:23:02.594
  • In life.
  • 00:23:02.594 --> 00:23:03.929
  • Today's offer is a special collection of digital resources
  • 00:23:03.929 --> 00:23:07.098
  • Featuring creflo dollar's new four-message series, "breaking
  • 00:23:07.098 --> 00:23:11.002
  • Free from the trap of offense," along with the digital series,
  • 00:23:11.002 --> 00:23:14.773
  • "exercising godly emotions" and "how to experience the love of
  • 00:23:14.773 --> 00:23:18.610
  • God," and the e-book, "healing the brokenhearted," to help you
  • 00:23:18.610 --> 00:23:22.147
  • Guard your heart from disappointment and forget.
  • 00:23:22.147 --> 00:23:24.516
  • Give through grace, recover your peace, protect your purpose, and
  • 00:23:24.516 --> 00:23:28.820
  • Learn to live free from offense through the grace and finished
  • 00:23:28.820 --> 00:23:31.990
  • Work of jesus christ.
  • 00:23:31.990 --> 00:23:33.592
  • Creflo: offense will open the doors to betrayal and division,
  • 00:23:33.592 --> 00:23:37.929
  • And it pulls people out of the will of god.
  • 00:23:37.929 --> 00:23:41.733
  • Announcer: for your love gift of $42 us dollars or more, this
  • 00:23:41.733 --> 00:23:45.270
  • Collection can be yours today.
  • 00:23:45.270 --> 00:23:47.138
  • Scan the qr code, visit creflodollar.org and click
  • 00:23:47.138 --> 00:23:50.976
  • E-store, or call the number on your screen.
  • 00:23:50.976 --> 00:23:53.778
  • Announcer: columbia and the midlands prepare for a powerful
  • 00:23:55.747 --> 00:23:58.283
  • Encounter with the message of grace.
  • 00:23:58.283 --> 00:24:00.819
  • Friday, july 24th, the spirit and grace tour with creflo
  • 00:24:00.819 --> 00:24:04.422
  • Dollar is coming to columbia, south carolina.
  • 00:24:04.422 --> 00:24:07.492
  • From blythewood in the north to cayce in the south, from sumter
  • 00:24:07.492 --> 00:24:10.929
  • To lexington, this is your invitation to gather for a
  • 00:24:10.929 --> 00:24:14.065
  • Life-changing experience centered on faith, identity,
  • 00:24:14.065 --> 00:24:17.702
  • And truth.
  • 00:24:17.702 --> 00:24:19.037
  • Come hear grace explained in a clear, practical, and
  • 00:24:19.037 --> 00:24:22.073
  • Personal way.
  • 00:24:22.073 --> 00:24:23.408
  • Receive answers about the finished work of jesus, who you
  • 00:24:23.408 --> 00:24:26.478
  • Are in christ, and how to live strengthened by grace every day.
  • 00:24:26.478 --> 00:24:30.415
  • Female: since the message of grace has been instilled into me
  • 00:24:30.415 --> 00:24:34.786
  • By dr. dollar, it has helped me to look at things differently.
  • 00:24:34.786 --> 00:24:39.157
  • Male: these meetings have greatly impacted my life.
  • 00:24:39.157 --> 00:24:42.227
  • We're standing in grace, walking in faith.
  • 00:24:42.227 --> 00:24:44.496
  • Announcer: register today.
  • 00:24:44.496 --> 00:24:45.931
  • Text spiritgrace to 51555 or visit spiritandgracetour.com.
  • 00:24:45.931 --> 00:24:53.438
  • Creflo: by the grace of god we feed and clothe people, provide
  • 00:24:55.707 --> 00:24:59.945
  • Houses, visit hospitals and prisons, and do so, so
  • 00:24:59.945 --> 00:25:04.883
  • Much more.
  • 00:25:04.883 --> 00:25:06.217
  • Every time you make a financial donation to support us, you do
  • 00:25:06.217 --> 00:25:09.688
  • These things as well.
  • 00:25:09.688 --> 00:25:11.923
  • The tangible relief we provide to god's precious people is only
  • 00:25:11.923 --> 00:25:16.361
  • Possible because of your faithful support.
  • 00:25:16.361 --> 00:25:19.631
  • Thank you for supporting us as we strive to reach a lost and
  • 00:25:19.631 --> 00:25:23.201
  • Dying world for the lord jesus christ.
  • 00:25:23.201 --> 00:25:25.870
  • Announcer: if god has placed it on your heart to support the
  • 00:25:25.870 --> 00:25:28.373
  • Vision of this ministry to reach the world with the gospel of
  • 00:25:28.373 --> 00:25:31.443
  • Grace, you may call in to make your financial donations or log
  • 00:25:31.443 --> 00:25:34.846
  • On to creflodollarministries.org.
  • 00:25:34.846 --> 00:25:37.415
  • God bless you.
  • 00:25:37.415 --> 00:25:38.783
  • Creflo: we never want to assume that all of you are
  • 00:25:42.053 --> 00:25:44.322
  • Born-again christians.
  • 00:25:44.322 --> 00:25:46.191
  • Being born again is the key to experiencing god's promises in
  • 00:25:46.191 --> 00:25:50.028
  • Your life.
  • 00:25:50.028 --> 00:25:51.396
  • It's the most important decision you can make.
  • 00:25:51.396 --> 00:25:54.232
  • I want to say a prayer of salvation with any of you who
  • 00:25:54.232 --> 00:25:58.336
  • Would like to receive it right now, receive the gift
  • 00:25:58.336 --> 00:26:02.173
  • Of salvation.
  • 00:26:02.173 --> 00:26:03.575
  • Pray with me and just repeat after me.
  • 00:26:03.575 --> 00:26:05.176
  • "heavenly father, i believe that jesus died for my sins.
  • 00:26:05.176 --> 00:26:10.148
  • I believe that jesus was the payment for my sins, that he was
  • 00:26:10.148 --> 00:26:14.753
  • The sin offering.
  • 00:26:14.753 --> 00:26:16.488
  • And i receive him as my peace offering.
  • 00:26:16.488 --> 00:26:21.192
  • Jesus, come into my heart.
  • 00:26:21.192 --> 00:26:24.462
  • Save me.
  • 00:26:24.462 --> 00:26:25.830
  • And today, by faith, i receive you and declare that i am saved,
  • 00:26:25.830 --> 00:26:32.537
  • In jesus's name, amen."
  • 00:26:32.537 --> 00:26:36.041
  • Well, if you prayed that prayer with me, i wanna welcome you to
  • 00:26:36.041 --> 00:26:39.511
  • The kingdom of god.
  • 00:26:39.511 --> 00:26:41.379
  • Announcer: because of you, creflo dollar ministries is
  • 00:26:44.249 --> 00:26:47.052
  • Providing a new understanding of grace and empowering change in
  • 00:26:47.052 --> 00:26:50.922
  • The lives of millions of people every day.
  • 00:26:50.922 --> 00:26:53.291
  • Thank you, partners and friends.
  • 00:26:53.291 --> 00:26:55.293
  • Your love and financial support makes it possible to bring this
  • 00:26:55.293 --> 00:26:58.863
  • Message into millions of homes all across the globe.
  • 00:26:58.863 --> 00:27:03.201
  • Announcer: the preceding program was brought to you in part by
  • 00:27:03.201 --> 00:27:05.537
  • The partners and friends of creflo dollar ministries.
  • 00:27:05.537 --> 00:27:08.740
  • ♪♪♪
  • 00:27:08.740 --> 00:27:21.286
  • Cc by aberdeen captioning 1-800-688-6621 www.aberdeen.io
  • 00:27:13.278 --> 00:27:21.286