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Creflo Dollar - Transactional Relationship vs. Relational Relationship

January 28, 2026 | 27:29

Creflo Dollar - Transactional Relationship vs. Relational Relationship
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Creflo Dollar | Creflo Dollar - Transactional Relationship vs. Relational Relationship | January 28, 2026
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  • Creflo dollar: "god, i'm mad at you.
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  • I prayed that my loved ones would be healed, but they died.
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  • I don't know if i can have anything else to do with you."
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  • 'cause you took the cheaper, the transactional relationship, and
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  • Ignored the greater or the deeper the relationship
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  • Creflo: if you have your bibles, go with me to the book of
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  • Deuteronomy chapter 30.
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  • Deuteronomy chapter 30, verses 15 through 20 in the nlt.
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  • Deuteronomy chapter 30, verses 15 through 20 in the nlt.
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  • Let's begin by--and i'll do it several times, defining what do
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  • I mean when i talk about a transactional relationship.
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  • In a transactional relationship with god, the focus is often on
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  • Actions, what i do, and outcomes, what god does.
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  • And it's based on a cause and an effect mindset.
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  • This thing, this effect came and i give a cause of why it
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  • Came, okay?
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  • And this is what you see in deuteronomy 30, verse 15 through
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  • 20 in the nlt.
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  • With the cause and effect
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  • It's like, "well, i did this and that's why god did that."
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  • It's like make a deal.
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  • You know, if you live holy, then god gonna bless you.
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  • And if you don't, then you're not.
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  • That's a transactional relationship, okay?
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  • He says here in verse 15, "now listen!
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  • Today i am giving you a choice between life and death, between
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  • Prosperity and disaster."
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  • I'm giving you a choice now.
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  • "for i command you this day to love the lord your god and to
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  • Keep his commandments, his decrees and regulations by
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  • Walking in his ways.
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  • And if you do this, you will live and multiply and the lord
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  • Your god will bless you and the land you are about to enter in
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  • And occupy."
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  • So in the old covenant it was, there's a transaction that will
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  • Take place if you do this.
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  • And for the most of the church, that's how we've been, we've
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  • Been trained.
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  • If you do this, then god says, i promise the effect of what
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  • You did.
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  • I promise the result of what you did.
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  • But now if you don't do this, then this is not gonna happen.
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  • So the focus was not on a relationship with god, it was on
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  • A transaction with god.
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  • All right, now watch this.
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  • "but if your heart turns away and you refuse to listen, and if
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  • You're drawn down to serve and worship other gods, then i warn
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  • You now that you will certainly be destroyed.
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  • You will not live a long, good life in the land you are
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  • Crossing the jordan to occupy."
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  • There again, it's like, okay, so if you don't do this, then
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  • Here's the effect of not doing this, okay?
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  • And that's not so when we get in the new covenant.
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  • In the new covenant, jesus was like, you know, i'm gonna bless
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  • You and that's it.
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  • You just have to believe it.
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  • What you do will never determine what i have already done.
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  • But here, it's a transactional relationship.
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  • He said, "today i have given you the choice between life and
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  • Death, between blessings and curses.
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  • Now i call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make.
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  • Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants
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  • Might live!"
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  • Verse 20.
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  • "you can make this choice by loving the lord your god.
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  • You can make it by obeying him, you can make it by committing
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  • Yourselves firmly to him.
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  • This is the key to your life.
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  • And if you love and obey the lord," condition, "if you love
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  • And obey the lord, you will live long in the land the lord swore
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  • To give your ancestors, abraham, isaac, and jacob," but you've
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  • Got to meet the condition.
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  • Without the condition, you're not gonna get the results.
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  • All of that was true and was mandated in the old covenant.
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  • But when jesus came, shed his blood, died for us, and we got a
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  • New covenant, it was not based on you.
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  • In fact, hebrews said the covenant that i make with you
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  • Now is not like the old one.
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  • When you decided not to obey me and did your thing, then i did
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  • What i did, he was saying this is not a
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  • Transactional relationship.
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  • It has changed.
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  • I've decided to do for you what i've done 'cause i wanted to and
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  • I'm not waiting to see what you do or what type of transaction
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  • Or deal you wanna make.
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  • I already set the deal regardless of what you do, all
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  • You got to do is receive and it's available to everybody.
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  • All you got to do is receive what i've decided to do.
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  • I am not depending on a transaction from you to do what
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  • I've already decided to do, all right?
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  • You might not be in agreement yet, but are you still on
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  • The bus?
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  • You got to stay on the bus because most of the church, this
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  • Is what we do.
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  • This is our relationship with god.
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  • It's transactional, okay?
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  • If i can go and do these things, then god will bless me.
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  • If i can go to church on easter, then god might--i might be able
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  • To get that job, and you're depending on the transaction to
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  • Come through.
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  • But my question is, what happens if the transaction doesn't
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  • Come through?
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  • What happens when you did that thing and nothing happened?
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  • Now, all of a sudden you're, ready to leave god because "god
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  • I'm mad at you.
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  • I prayed that my loved one would be healed, but they died.
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  • I don't know if i can have anything else to do with you."
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  • 'cause you took the cheaper, the transactional relationship and
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  • Ignored the greater or the deeper the relationship
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  • With god.
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  • All right, now watch this.
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  • Watch this.
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  • So you might give, for example, or perform certain actions
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  • Expecting specific results from god like blessings or answers
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  • To prayer.
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  • The relationship can feel conditional, and it is.
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  • And we just read that it was like, you know, based on these
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  • Conditions, then you get the results or you get the blessing.
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  • It feels conditional.
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  • It's based on what you do or it's based on what you give.
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  • And that's the whole basis of that old covenant agreement.
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  • It's based on performance, it's based on self-effort, it's based
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  • On what you do.
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  • It's based on what you give and then god, we'll look at it when
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  • We get to it, but it's all based on what you do.
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  • And most of the church, if you go to most of the churches in
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  • America or the world, they're telling you this is what you got
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  • To do in order for god to do this.
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  • We've gone so far to say, "if you don't forgive, god won't
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  • Forgive you."
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  • That's an old covenant issue.
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  • God has already forgiven you when jesus died and shed his
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  • Blood, you are forgiven.
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  • Watch this, is it important for you to give?
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  • Yeah, because you're hurting and messing with your own insides.
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  • So we're not saying, well, just go on and hold on to it.
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  • You got to learn how to walk in forgiveness.
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  • It is for your sake that you do that.
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  • But what is not true is that god won't forgive you because he's
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  • Waiting on you to forgive somebody else.
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  • That's a transactional.
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  • What we're saying is you gotta make a deal with god.
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  • I'll forgive them and then god will forgive me.
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  • And then we make you feel full of shame and condemnation to
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  • Say, "well, you know, the reason why you got that sickness in the
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  • Hospital is 'cause you hadn't forgiven.
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  • If you'll forgive, then god will do that.
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  • Now, god already did that, he just needs you to align yourself
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  • With what he already did, and please don't use this as an
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  • Excuse to hold on to something i'm telling you not to hold
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  • On to.
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  • I'm just saying don't use that to make a deal with god.
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  • "let's make a deal."
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  • Are you listening to me?
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  • All right now, go to genesis 39, verse 1 and let's look at the
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  • Relational relationship in contrast to what we just said.
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  • Does everybody understand a transactional relationship?
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  • I didn't ask whether you agree with it or not 'cause some of
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  • Y'all are convinced, you've convinced yourself you're gonna
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  • Continue to live by the law because you can't let go
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  • Of control.
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  • You want to be in control of what happens to you, and i am
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  • Telling you jesus has already settled the issue and you need
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  • To turn the control over to him.
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  • But you don't want to do that.
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  • Even in your serving of god, you still want to have a
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  • Little control.
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  • If i can fast for ten days, then god is gonna do
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  • That transaction.
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  • If i can pray for three more hours, then god gonna do
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  • That transaction.
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  • And what jesus is trying to get you to see is i've already done
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  • It all.
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  • It's all done.
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  • I need you to align yourself with what's finished and watch,
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  • Watch what has already been made available begin to flow and
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  • Manifest in your life.
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  • And if it doesn't, he's already done enough for you.
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  • See, a relationship is not based on what you do.
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  • I love you and if you don't do nothing else for me, i'm in it
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  • For the relationship.
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  • So if you married your husband because you found out he had
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  • Seven or eight figures in the bank, and i hear people
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  • Say this, "what love got to do with it?"
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  • Because a transaction has been discussed.
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  • I will be your sugar daddy if you provide certain services.
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  • I don't care about you loving me, i just want you to agree to
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  • The transaction.
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  • And so 80 year old man, you know, walking in hawaii with a
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  • 24 year old girl, i know a transaction has taken place.
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  • Somebody gonna get paid after this.
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  • You understand transaction now?
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  • All right, now, let's look at the relational aspect of it,
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  • All right?
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  • So in contrast, a relational relationship with god emphasizes
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  • Connection, love, and trust.
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  • Regardless of actions or expectations, it emphasizes
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  • Connection, love, and trust.
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  • You see, god is a loving parent or friend, and your
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  • Actions flow from that relationship, a loving parent
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  • Or friend.
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  • Not as a mean to an end.
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  • You trust that god's love and grace are constant and any
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  • Blessings or outcomes are a natural result of
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  • The relationship.
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  • In other words, i trust that god is good.
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  • So his goodness to me flows out of the relationship.
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  • That he's good to me, not because of my transactions, but
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  • He's good to me because that's his character and that's who he
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  • Is and i'm connected with him and that's gonna flow, it's
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  • Gonna flow naturally.
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  • I wish i had a better word, but it's going to flow naturally to
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  • Me without having to do a transaction.
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  • It comes with the relationship.
  • 00:13:33.993 --> 00:13:37.329
  • 'cause when you're in a relationship with somebody, what
  • 00:13:37.329 --> 00:13:39.932
  • Flows from you, glory to god.
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  • Glory to god.
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  • So if you decide to marry an older gentleman, it's not
  • 00:13:44.570 --> 00:13:47.406
  • Because of relationship, it's out of love i flow.
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  • I don't need a prenup.
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  • My love won't stop what i wanna give for you 'cause that's
  • 00:13:52.411 --> 00:13:57.016
  • My character.
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  • Be careful when you marry somebody that's always
  • 00:13:59.018 --> 00:14:02.688
  • Shaming you because you ain't making six figures yet.
  • 00:14:02.688 --> 00:14:07.393
  • She might not be the one.
  • 00:14:07.393 --> 00:14:09.995
  • She needs to go make a transaction with somebody.
  • 00:14:09.995 --> 00:14:11.664
  • You're looking for a relationship, a relationship, a
  • 00:14:11.664 --> 00:14:14.800
  • Relational relationship.
  • 00:14:14.800 --> 00:14:16.168
  • You're not looking for a transactional
  • 00:14:16.168 --> 00:14:17.770
  • Relationship, okay?
  • 00:14:17.770 --> 00:14:20.839
  • And pretty ain't pretty all the time.
  • 00:14:20.839 --> 00:14:23.342
  • 'cause once you look up on the inside, they don't look, they
  • 00:14:23.342 --> 00:14:26.345
  • Don't--outside look prettier, although--i just need to leave
  • 00:14:26.345 --> 00:14:31.183
  • That alone.
  • 00:14:31.183 --> 00:14:35.154
  • Oh, let's just let that go.
  • 00:14:35.154 --> 00:14:40.025
  • All right, so here's an illustration of a
  • 00:14:40.025 --> 00:14:43.062
  • Relational relationship.
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  • "and joseph was brought down to egypt; potiphar, an officer of
  • 00:14:44.797 --> 00:14:49.034
  • The pharaoh, captain of the guard, an egyptian, bought him
  • 00:14:49.034 --> 00:14:53.572
  • Of the hands of the ishmaelites."
  • 00:14:53.572 --> 00:14:55.908
  • So now he was being sold into slavery here, "which had brought
  • 00:14:55.908 --> 00:15:00.379
  • Him down hither."
  • 00:15:00.379 --> 00:15:01.714
  • So he's on the slavery slave block.
  • 00:15:01.714 --> 00:15:04.149
  • Potiphar purchased him as a slave.
  • 00:15:04.149 --> 00:15:06.986
  • Now, i noticed this, he says, "and the lord was with joseph,"
  • 00:15:06.986 --> 00:15:13.058
  • But they had a relationship, joseph and the lord.
  • 00:15:13.058 --> 00:15:15.160
  • The lord was with joseph.
  • 00:15:15.160 --> 00:15:16.895
  • And notice what he said about a man who had a relationship
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  • With god.
  • 00:15:21.133 --> 00:15:22.568
  • "and he was prosperous."
  • 00:15:22.568 --> 00:15:26.105
  • He was prosperous because of the relationship.
  • 00:15:26.105 --> 00:15:33.579
  • And the bible says he was prosperous 'cause the lord was
  • 00:15:33.579 --> 00:15:35.681
  • With him.
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  • He was a slave.
  • 00:15:37.316 --> 00:15:38.684
  • He was a slave.
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  • He wasn't prosperous because he had a lot of money.
  • 00:15:40.853 --> 00:15:42.988
  • He wasn't prosperous because he had a luxurious chariot.
  • 00:15:42.988 --> 00:15:46.892
  • He wasn't prosperous because he had a big house.
  • 00:15:46.892 --> 00:15:50.829
  • The physical things did not define him as a prosperous man.
  • 00:15:50.829 --> 00:15:58.437
  • Money didn't define him as a prosperous man.
  • 00:15:58.437 --> 00:16:02.107
  • We got it mixed up here.
  • 00:16:02.107 --> 00:16:03.876
  • We allow the manifestation of stuff to declare that we're
  • 00:16:03.876 --> 00:16:08.947
  • Prosperous, and you don't have the manifestation of a
  • 00:16:08.947 --> 00:16:12.251
  • Relationship with god.
  • 00:16:12.251 --> 00:16:14.553
  • It is the manifestation of a relationship with god that makes
  • 00:16:14.553 --> 00:16:17.890
  • You prosperous.
  • 00:16:17.890 --> 00:16:23.562
  • Mm-mm, them church folks ain't gonna like this.
  • 00:16:23.562 --> 00:16:29.835
  • It is a--
  • 00:16:29.835 --> 00:16:39.878
  • It is a, "the lord was with him, and he was a prosperous
  • 00:16:42.915 --> 00:16:46.985
  • Man; and he was in the house of his master."
  • 00:16:46.985 --> 00:16:50.823
  • Here's a slave that was called prosperous.
  • 00:16:50.823 --> 00:16:56.061
  • With no wealth, with no money, with none of that.
  • 00:16:56.061 --> 00:17:01.433
  • Now, it's impossible for that relationship not to eventually
  • 00:17:01.433 --> 00:17:05.304
  • Release all of that, but prosperity is not prosperity
  • 00:17:05.304 --> 00:17:10.876
  • Until wholeness invade your life.
  • 00:17:10.876 --> 00:17:15.214
  • 'cause you're gonna have money, but not have health.
  • 00:17:15.214 --> 00:17:18.117
  • That's not prosperous.
  • 00:17:18.117 --> 00:17:19.485
  • You're just a sick man with money.
  • 00:17:19.485 --> 00:17:25.190
  • You're gonna have money but no relationships.
  • 00:17:25.190 --> 00:17:29.328
  • You're a sad, lonely man with a bunch of money but can't nobody
  • 00:17:29.328 --> 00:17:35.334
  • Stand yourself.
  • 00:17:35.334 --> 00:17:40.272
  • You got a lot of money and you're riding in a sharp car,
  • 00:17:40.272 --> 00:17:43.041
  • But ain't nobody want to ride with you.
  • 00:17:43.041 --> 00:17:46.445
  • That's not prosperity.
  • 00:17:46.445 --> 00:17:49.548
  • We gotta get this out of our head.
  • 00:17:49.548 --> 00:17:52.117
  • It's not stuff.
  • 00:17:52.117 --> 00:17:57.256
  • Neither should you go around and be critical of somebody who has
  • 00:17:57.256 --> 00:18:02.194
  • Stuff, but they didn't get it from a transaction.
  • 00:18:02.194 --> 00:18:05.531
  • It came from a relationship.
  • 00:18:05.531 --> 00:18:08.200
  • I just want you to get it right.
  • 00:18:08.200 --> 00:18:09.601
  • It ain't nothing wrong with having stuff, just as long as
  • 00:18:09.601 --> 00:18:12.204
  • The stuff don't have you.
  • 00:18:12.204 --> 00:18:14.206
  • But it wasn't from a transaction 'cause i got to be honest with
  • 00:18:14.206 --> 00:18:16.475
  • You, unsaved people who don't know the lord can get stuff.
  • 00:18:16.475 --> 00:18:22.314
  • They just can't figure out how to get the peace that's supposed
  • 00:18:22.314 --> 00:18:24.683
  • To be going with that stuff or the wisdom that's supposed to be
  • 00:18:24.683 --> 00:18:28.053
  • Going with that stuff.
  • 00:18:28.053 --> 00:18:30.055
  • So stuff by itself don't define you as a prosperous stuff 'cause
  • 00:18:30.055 --> 00:18:33.659
  • Some people wanna use their stuff to make it seem like the
  • 00:18:33.659 --> 00:18:37.062
  • More stuff you have, the more holier you are.
  • 00:18:37.062 --> 00:18:40.032
  • That your relationship with god is now based on your stuff.
  • 00:18:40.032 --> 00:18:44.503
  • It depends on your relationship.
  • 00:18:44.503 --> 00:18:47.539
  • So you ain't gonna make me feel guilty because god has blessed
  • 00:18:47.539 --> 00:18:51.210
  • Me materially 'cause you don't know what kind of relationship i
  • 00:18:51.210 --> 00:18:55.714
  • Had for that to show up.
  • 00:18:55.714 --> 00:19:02.521
  • "did nobody have time to pray for that.
  • 00:19:02.521 --> 00:19:04.590
  • Did nobody have time to ask god for that."
  • 00:19:04.590 --> 00:19:07.192
  • No, i just kept having a relationship with god and stuff
  • 00:19:07.192 --> 00:19:11.396
  • Invaded my life.
  • 00:19:11.396 --> 00:19:12.731
  • It scared me when it first started.
  • 00:19:12.731 --> 00:19:14.099
  • I'm trying to figure, "oh lord jesus, do you know what the
  • 00:19:14.099 --> 00:19:15.801
  • People are going to say?"
  • 00:19:15.801 --> 00:19:18.170
  • I got so messed up that i sold one of the cars that the
  • 00:19:18.170 --> 00:19:21.873
  • Church gave me on anniversary because i'm like, "oh lord, i
  • 00:19:21.873 --> 00:19:24.676
  • Don't want people to think i got this the wrong way."
  • 00:19:24.676 --> 00:19:26.979
  • And the lord said, "that was a gift from me."
  • 00:19:26.979 --> 00:19:31.016
  • I said, "oh, lord have mercy."
  • 00:19:31.016 --> 00:19:32.884
  • See, you can't be in bondage to folks 'cause some folks treat
  • 00:19:32.884 --> 00:19:36.922
  • Themselves mean and then they're gonna try to treat you mean.
  • 00:19:36.922 --> 00:19:41.093
  • And you got to know when it's from the lord and when it's from
  • 00:19:41.093 --> 00:19:44.630
  • A fake transaction that you had.
  • 00:19:44.630 --> 00:19:48.133
  • Either way, time will tell 'cause if it weren't from the
  • 00:19:48.133 --> 00:19:51.370
  • Lord, it won't last long.
  • 00:19:51.370 --> 00:19:58.610
  • Some of y'all looking for the bus stop.
  • 00:19:58.610 --> 00:20:03.882
  • Looking for that little cord.
  • 00:20:03.882 --> 00:20:05.417
  • I think the last time i rode the bus you had this little
  • 00:20:05.417 --> 00:20:07.185
  • Cord, ding...
  • 00:20:07.185 --> 00:20:08.820
  • That means stop on the next stop.
  • 00:20:08.820 --> 00:20:10.322
  • I'm getting off here.
  • 00:20:10.322 --> 00:20:15.594
  • Yeah, lord.
  • 00:20:15.594 --> 00:20:19.431
  • All right, now watch this, watch this.
  • 00:20:19.431 --> 00:20:22.868
  • He said he was in the house of his master.
  • 00:20:22.868 --> 00:20:26.705
  • Verse 3, he said, "and his master saw that the lord was
  • 00:20:26.705 --> 00:20:30.776
  • With him."
  • 00:20:30.776 --> 00:20:32.144
  • When people look at you, can they see the lord with you or
  • 00:20:32.144 --> 00:20:35.914
  • Is you going to work cussing folks out, acting all ghetto
  • 00:20:35.914 --> 00:20:38.984
  • And messy?
  • 00:20:38.984 --> 00:20:42.521
  • You got that nice nasty arm.
  • 00:20:42.521 --> 00:20:46.491
  • Can the lord look at you and tell--i mean, can people look at
  • 00:20:46.491 --> 00:20:49.161
  • You and say the lord is with you?
  • 00:20:49.161 --> 00:20:50.562
  • And that "the lord made, the lord made all that he did to
  • 00:20:50.562 --> 00:20:54.232
  • Prosper" or be successful.
  • 00:20:54.232 --> 00:20:56.335
  • Just everything he did.
  • 00:20:56.335 --> 00:20:57.669
  • What are you doing?
  • 00:20:57.669 --> 00:20:59.037
  • You should be the best employees in the company because the lord
  • 00:20:59.037 --> 00:21:02.541
  • Is with you.
  • 00:21:02.541 --> 00:21:04.176
  • You should not be the problem in the company.
  • 00:21:04.176 --> 00:21:06.611
  • You should be a light.
  • 00:21:06.611 --> 00:21:07.979
  • They should be coming to "world changers" and saying, "listen,
  • 00:21:07.979 --> 00:21:10.682
  • We need some more of them kind of folks that we got working for
  • 00:21:10.682 --> 00:21:13.585
  • Them right now."
  • 00:21:13.585 --> 00:21:14.920
  • Not the embarrassment of we got folks who say they're saved and
  • 00:21:14.920 --> 00:21:17.856
  • They're late for work and they do just enough to get by and
  • 00:21:17.856 --> 00:21:21.293
  • They complain all the time and they murmur all the time and
  • 00:21:21.293 --> 00:21:24.629
  • Then they wanna throw a scripture up when the problem
  • 00:21:24.629 --> 00:21:27.099
  • Comes and they're going to let you go.
  • 00:21:27.099 --> 00:21:29.735
  • They fired you, but you told everybody else, "the lord's
  • 00:21:29.735 --> 00:21:32.070
  • Leading me to another."
  • 00:21:32.070 --> 00:21:41.713
  • You see god as a loving parent, i see him as a loving friend.
  • 00:21:45.917 --> 00:21:54.226
  • Wow.
  • 00:21:54.226 --> 00:21:55.560
  • You trust that god's love and grace are constant and any
  • 00:21:55.560 --> 00:22:00.499
  • Blessings or outcomes are the natural result of
  • 00:22:00.499 --> 00:22:03.935
  • That relationship.
  • 00:22:03.935 --> 00:22:06.705
  • So here's the key difference.
  • 00:22:06.705 --> 00:22:08.073
  • The key difference is in the motivation and the perspective.
  • 00:22:08.073 --> 00:22:15.313
  • In a transactional relationship you might act out of a sense of
  • 00:22:15.313 --> 00:22:19.384
  • Obligation or expectation and focusing on "if i do this, then
  • 00:22:19.384 --> 00:22:27.726
  • God will do that" kind of a mindset.
  • 00:22:27.726 --> 00:22:31.496
  • And this can sometimes lead to a transactional view of your
  • 00:22:31.496 --> 00:22:35.100
  • Relationship with god.
  • 00:22:35.100 --> 00:22:37.302
  • If you get used to doing this, now you're viewing your
  • 00:22:37.302 --> 00:22:39.838
  • Relationship with god as transactional.
  • 00:22:39.838 --> 00:22:41.807
  • God, i'm gonna do this and i expect you're doing that.
  • 00:22:41.807 --> 00:22:44.976
  • And then you start fleecing god.
  • 00:22:44.976 --> 00:22:47.879
  • Look at this. look at this.
  • 00:22:47.879 --> 00:22:49.247
  • Deuteronomy 28, verses 1 through 2.
  • 00:22:49.247 --> 00:22:50.749
  • Deuteronomy 28, verses 1 through 2.
  • 00:22:50.749 --> 00:22:55.921
  • All right.
  • 00:22:55.921 --> 00:22:58.123
  • Now, watch this.
  • 00:22:58.123 --> 00:23:00.292
  • "and it shall come to pass if," every time you see if there's
  • 00:23:00.292 --> 00:23:03.528
  • A condition.
  • 00:23:03.528 --> 00:23:05.263
  • If you see if, there's a condition, there is a
  • 00:23:05.263 --> 00:23:08.066
  • Transaction that's gonna be talked about.
  • 00:23:08.066 --> 00:23:10.001
  • You can go into the gospels, matthew, mark, luke, and john,
  • 00:23:10.001 --> 00:23:12.504
  • And you can see them talking about if you forgive and if you
  • 00:23:12.504 --> 00:23:16.842
  • Do that, then that's transactional.
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  • Jesus, come into my heart.
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  • Save me, and today by faith, i receive you and declare that i
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  • Am saved.
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  • In jesus's name, amen."
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  • Well, if you prayed that prayer with me, i wanna welcome you to
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  • The kingdom of god.
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  • Announcer: because of you, creflo dollar ministries is
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  • Providing a new understanding of grace and empowering change in
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  • The lives of millions of people every day.
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  • Thank you, partners and friends.
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  • Your love and financial support makes it possible to bring this
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  • Message into millions of homes all across the globe.
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  • Partners and friends of creflo dollar ministries.
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