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Kendra Ketter Chavis - Graced To Parent (Part 2)

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Creflo Dollar | Kendra Ketter Chavis - Graced To Parent (Part 2) | February 19, 2026

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Taffi dollar: i thank god that he can parent us and help us
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Along the way.
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Kendra ketter chavis: parent me, god, please.
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Taffi: tell me what to do.
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♪ this is your world, ♪
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Announcer: previously on "changing your world."
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Taffi: for every parent biological, adoptive, foster,
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Spiritual, or even a community leader who's ever thought that
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"i am not enough," whether you're raising toddlers,
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Teenagers, you probably had moments where you thought "i
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Have no idea what i am doing."
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Some of you may have felt unequipped to raise the children
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Who are in your care, but i want to remind you and inform you
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Today that you are graced, graced to parent, not graced to
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Be perfect, but graced to parent.
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Kendra: walking through, you know, the things
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That moms walk through like, "lord, am i doing this right?"
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I have a phenomenal mom, so i'm so blessed; i feel like i
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Have--i'm biased but i feel like i have the greatest mother in
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The universe and that adds a little pressure 'cause you're
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Like, "well, you know, can i do it like that?"
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And then you look at other moms you're like, "can i do it
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Like that?"
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And so just having to be really aware of like god has graced me
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To be the mother that my kids need and just having a, i mean,
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It's every day.
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Taffi: let that be a sobering thought.
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Your child is not a random assignment, they are a
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Divine creation.
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Kendra: it's before i had anything to do with it, right?
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Taffi: before the foundations of the world.
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Kendra: before i got involved, they were already a part of the
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Plan, right?
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And so it's like those reminders, like, well before
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There was even me, god was already thinking about them.
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It can be a heavy thing, but it's so serious.
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You don't want to.
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You're like, "lord, i don't wanna mess up this thing you
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Trusted me with, right?
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I wanna get it right.
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I wanna honor you," right?
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I think that's what i think about often like, "lord, i wanna
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Honor you in the way i'm treating these kids, but i have
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To remember he loves them more than me."
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Like that was--that thought when i got that like, "you loved them
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Way more than i do," right?
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Like when it came to sending our 3-year-old off to a little
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School and i was just so concerned.
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I was like, "i don't know these people.
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They don't love him like i do.
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They don't know his little quirks like they--what if he,
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You know, gets scared?" asked all the things.
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And it was just this reminder of like, "you don't even love them
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As much as i do.
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Like don't you think i have him taken care of?"
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And so it's just i have to remind myself of that often like
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I could never love them as much as god already does, you know
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What i mean?
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Taffi: and it's made such a big difference to not be so intense
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About parenting and even just to put it on the table, i'm just
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Gonna make mistakes.
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I'm not perfect.
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We have all adults, but still it's an ongoing journey and an
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Ongoing walk of recognizing that the mistakes that were made and
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Not waddling in those things that were made from the past and
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Just saying, "okay lord, it's under the blood and today is a
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New day.
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And we have a chance to get it right again and show up in a
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Better version of ourselves with more love and more patience."
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Kendra: am i exercising these things with my kids and with my
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Husband, right?
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Am i showing love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness,
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Faithfulness, self control like and i have to remember that
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'cause i'm like god has given me like humans, like real humans to
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Actually care for, and so that, you know, that's a weight even
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In and of itself and so just being like, "lord, you know,
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These are your fruit first of all."
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Taffi: that's right.
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They belong to you.
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Kendra: they belong to you.
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Taffi: and i'm giving them back to you for you to show me what
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To do with them.
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Kendra: often a woman heard us in the airport before and i was
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Telling--he was like he got kind of frustrated and he, you know,
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Snapped and i said, "let's try that another way.
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Let's try it again."
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And she was like, "oh, that's a great thing to say as a parent."
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I was thinking, yes, we could let's try again, right, because
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We don't always do that.
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Sometimes we forget and we just snap and like, "you better not!"
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And it's like let's try again and it's like, oh you got
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This right?
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Like we're all being, you know, used to do the lord's work.
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That's it.
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That's the assignment.
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Like, "lord, take my hands, take these kids, you see them
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Yelling, you see them tearing up my house, you see the
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Thing," right?
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You see it all.
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You see us wanting to pull our hair off, but you've graced us
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For this, even when we wanna, you know, run out of the house
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And leave them there to just have their way with it.
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You've graced us for the moment.
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Taffi: he really has, and i think about just the father's
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Love and wanting to keep us close and there was distance
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Under the law and--
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Taffi: welcome to "changing your world" broadcast.
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I'm so elated to have our special guest kendra ketter
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Chavis again on set today to talk more about parenting.
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She has been such a blessing to my life, and i believe you are
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Going to be blessed today.
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Welcome. welcome back.
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Kendra: thank you. i'm glad to be back.
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I love to be with you.
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Taffi: so let's continue.
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We're just gonna pick up where we left off, and i mean we are
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On this journey of figuring out as we go.
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We talked about so many different things.
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Let's start with the different styles of parenting because
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There are different ways in which we label ourselves, "i'm
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This, i'm not that i'm old-school, i'm new-school.
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Kendra: yes, a lot of--and there's a lot of temptation for
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Moms to even pit ourselves against each other, right?
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Like my style is better when there's already so much pressure
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To figure out what, you know, what is my style gonna be?
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Am i gonna be like my mom?
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Am i gonna be everything but my mom?
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Am i gonna be like my favorite auntie who i thought was the
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Best mom because she wasn't my mom, right?
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Like, and we're trying to figure out, do i follow all the cyber
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Moms and pick one of those, right?
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Am i a gentle parent am i, you know, a strong disciplinarian
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And i think it's really--like it, it has to boil down to
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Praying, right?
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I mean, and that sound--i hate that it sounds simplistic in
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Today's, you know, kind of context, but it is the most
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Important key right?
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Praying like, "god, how do you want me to raise this
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Child?" right?
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And i think we hit on that last time in terms of each child is
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So different so even the way i'm learning to parent my son versus
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My daughter and their personalities are so different.
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And so it's like, okay, god, well, we thought we had it.
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Just when we thought we were figuring it out, here's somebody
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Else, right, with a whole another personality.
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How do we do this?
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And it's, you know, not getting drowned in all of the styles
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And feeling that need to be something, you know,
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That you just aren't, right, 'cause there's no better mom for
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My kids than me.
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And so just figuring out how do i drown out the noise and just
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Zero-in?
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Taffi: and let's talk about the success too because we see on
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The internet the moms who are from a to z doing everything and
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We think, oh wow, they have all those followers and they're
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Checking every box.
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So a lot of times as parents we think that defines our success.
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Kendra: you're like, how many cookies did i make today?
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Did i make my children's clothes from scratch?
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And i'm like, i have to work also, right?
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Like, and so it can feel a lot of pressure 'cause you're like,
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"well that is cute.
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Well, maybe i can learn how to sew their little clothes," and
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You're like, "you better go to work."
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So it's just trying to figure out like what's for you because
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It does--there are these--i think you forget that it's a
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Curated picture as well--that we're only getting glimpses of
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People's lives, right?
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They're not sitting down 24 hours a day making snacks and,
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You know, knitting sweaters and shearing sheep, like they're
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Not doing that, right, they're living life just like you are.
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Their kids are also throwing the bowls off the table.
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Their kids are also plugging and unplugging the tv.
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They're doing that.
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Taffi: they just won't show it to us.
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Kendra: and they don't show it and so it's like having to
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Remind yourself like these people have a real life too.
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I get this curated picture and so i can't make my full life
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Look like a snapshot, you know what i mean, of their life and
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Try and be something that's just not even realistic, right?
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'cause where are we even learning if we're having this
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Perfect, right, picture?
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Like, where are we learning anything?
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And that's just not how--you know that's not how god
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Works, right?
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In discipleship itself.
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Taffi: i remember just thinking that my success was based on how
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My child's behavior was.
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If they, you know, had a good report card and were kind and
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Didn't--weren't mean to the--didn't bite anybody or you
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Know what i mean?
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So it's kind of like, oh, i must be failing 'cause they're being
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Mean or they're disobedient or they're being unruly in class.
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And i think sometimes about the prodigal father, right, and just
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Even as he had an adult child, which we have, creflo and i.
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Sometimes it's whether or not the prodigal father, it wasn't
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Where his child's decisions dictated his success, you know
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What i mean?
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When we start looking at our job as parents because our children
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Have their own mind.
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Kendra: and their own journey.
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Their own journey of having to learn how to listen to god for
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Themselves, right?
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And it's like they have to learn--you hit it.
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I mean, and it's so amazing how that starts from such a small
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Age of trying--because you can have things like getting
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Embarrassed in the store.
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You're like--because you spend so much time looking at other
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People's kids acting up and you're like, "ooh that is never
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Gonna be me."
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And then your child gets in the store and they're like, "you
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Wanna bet?"
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And so i remember one time we went into a store and before we
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Even got to the shopping carts, i was like, "why are you on
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The floor?
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Why?" right?
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And so you're having to learn like i can't allow this to be
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The measuring stick for how i respond.
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Like even in that, right, like because this isn't a picture of
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Who i am as a parent, this is a child being a child, right?
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And so it's like those constant reminders like this isn't a
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Reflection of who i am as a parent.
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This is a child having a child's moment and my job is just to
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Kind of redirect and move on, yeah.
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Taffi: redirect, move on, recognize this is not about me.
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Maybe they're tired or they're sleepy or they're just wanting
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To explore and be away and it's just maybe some biological
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Things--the hormones, the teens, they're going through puberty or
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Whatever the case may be, you know what i mean?
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Kendra: and it's hard, it's tough, right?
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It's such a tough thing.
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I have so much compassion and empathy for even parents that
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Are dealing with children with like exceptional needs, right,
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Because that battle is even greater to have to, you know,
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Because your kids, they really are, you know, they're just
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Trying to function in the best way that they can.
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And so my heart always goes out to those parents who are just
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Like, you know, going through it, and we walked in on this,
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Walked up on a situation like that in the store once and i was
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So proud of the parents in the line because it was clearly a
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Child that had a need and he was just--he was overstimulated and
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Losing it, and i was so proud of all the parents in the line
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Because everybody was like, "just go, it's fine."
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And no one was doing it, even like--it wasn't even pity, it
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Was just like, "go ahead, do what you gotta do."
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And i was looking like i'm so proud of y'all, right?
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There were no judgmental stars, and i feel like there's such a
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Temptation to do that, to judge other parents and forget that
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You've been that parent.
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And so i'm just, yeah, my heart always goes out just in those
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Situations, like, no.
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'cause it's an even steeper hill to climb, right?
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Like, "this is not who i am.
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This is just what my child is walking through."
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Taffi: and thank god that he can parent us and help us along the
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Way in those moments where we're overwhelmed or feel unequipped,
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Inadequate, insecure.
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Kendra: parent me, god, please.
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Taffi: tell me what to do so i can provide whatever is
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Necessary for this very moment, you know, and particularly if we
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Can make that a routine and a habit, you know, and make it a
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Part of our everyday lives when those moments come around.
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Kendra: i'm writing that down as we leave here today.
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I need to.
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'cause there's, you know, some things that you think and you're
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Like, no, i need to write, "parent me, god," you know,
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'cause sometimes you need that is a stress is--in those moments
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Where it's stressful or it's a lot, right, you're like, "i
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Also needs-- i need somebody to come and be in charge of me.
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I don't wanna be the adult who's in charge of me right now."
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And it's like we have that, right?
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I think we forget it but it's like we have that.
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Taffi: some days i feel like that.
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I need a babysitter.
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Kendra: right, who's deciding what i'm eating?
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Taffi: i need somebody to watch me.
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I need somebody to make sure that i don't venture off too
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Far, yes, and i'm okay.
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Some days i have to laugh at myself and not take it too
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Serious, you know, because it's comical 'cause i know...i know
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Myself, so it's like, okay...just breathe and god is
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With you and no need to be defensive, or when you know, you
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Need to remove yourself and say, "okay, i'm not 'peopling' today.
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I'm just going to take some time for myself because i'll be a
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Better parent if i just do this at the start of the day or go
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Out and just have a friend to meet me for coffee and come back
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Or go to the gym and get a workout in.
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Kendra: yes, a grown-up time out.
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Yeah, you know, i mentioned that and i talk about that all the
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Time, you know, i'm thinking about parenting styles and
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There's a big push against like time outs and things like that,
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Which is fascinating.
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'cause i remember we used to--when i was growing up,
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People thought that was the joke, like, discipline, time
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Out and now it's considered like so bad but, you know, i'm such a
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Big fan of it because i feel like it's so important to teach
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Children, right?
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Like love looks like knowing when to give a little bit
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Of space.
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Love, it means that knowing like, hey, "i need a little time
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For me to take a few breaths," right?
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And i think that's so important for us to even model for kids
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Because it's really modeling self-control--
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Is teaching our kids how to be self disciplined, right?
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Like i'm gonna invite you to go over and like calm down, right?
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And i think it's one of the best--to me it's one of the
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Better ways to teach them self discipline, right?
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I'm not just yelling at you and throwing you in the room.
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I'm saying i want you to go over there and take some time, and
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I'm gonna take some time and then we'll come back together,
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You know what i mean?
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Because there's just the fruit of the spirit, right, they are
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Of god, but there are things, right, that also as we mature in
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Christ, right, they're supposed to grow--fruit grows, and so you
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Start from a child.
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How do i teach them how to cultivate that fruit?
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How do i teach them how to grow in self-discipline, yeah.
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Taffi: that's good.
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Jesus probably took time out.
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For we knew that he withdrew from the crowds.
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Kendra: yes, and just like children do, they were
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Finding him.
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He was like, "i just need a moment," they're like, "but the
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People are hungry," right?
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And so it's one of those things.
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I love that you said that.
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It's so true, he took time out.
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Taffi: he did.
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Kendra: yeah, and he modeled it for us.
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He gave us a great example of just love looks like knowing
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That i need to be refilled.
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Taffi: and boundaries.
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Kendra: yeah, and boundaries.
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Taffi: i think you have to learn those, even incorporating them
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Into your parenting.
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Kendra: have you learned how to draw boundaries, even as a--so
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As an adult child of my parents, i still, you know, i still creep
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On their boundaries just a little bit.
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Like i call, i'm like, i know it's 11 o'clock, how do
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You learn--
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Taffi: but i need, can you help me right now?
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Can you come over?
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Kendra: can you do something?
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Have you learned that-- or have you?
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Taffi: i have and i'm still learning them because i
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Realize, okay, boundaries are where i begin and where i end
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And where this other person or situation or line picks up.
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So it's almost as if, okay, i'm going to do my part and i'm
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Gonna make sure that i do my best not to go over what is
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My responsibility.
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Kendra: over-functioning.
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Taffi: over-functioning.
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Been the helicopter mom and been the pushover mom and just all
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The labels, you know what i mean?
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So it's like, okay, well, that's not, that's not
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My responsibility.
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I want you to pick up the slack on what you're supposed to do
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Cleaning your room, i'm not gonna do it for you.
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These are your bills and these are things that you're supposed
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To do, you know, so it's like understanding that it's
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Important for people to develop and they really can't if we're
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Always going beyond the boundaries and not giving them
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The opportunity, like we said, to grow and to mature, they can
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Do it.
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But sometimes we're in the way and we do it for them, you know?
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God, he's like, "okay, i'm gonna let you go through this
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Situation so you can grow.
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You can do it."
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Kendra: we're always being discipled, and it's the same
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Way, right?
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That, i guess that journey, it sounds like it never
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Ends, right?
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Taffi: it never ends.
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Kendra: and it's a loving action, right?
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I'm discipling, showing you discipline, showing you how to,
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Right, function well.
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That means sometimes it's tough.
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Taffi: it is tough 'cause you want to, it's just like, oh,
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I wanna.
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Kendra: i wanna do it for you.
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Taffi: but you'll never learn if i keep doing it for you.
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You can tie your shoe, you know, you can feed yourself, you can
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Keep up with your things, you can--you know what i mean?
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It's just like, yes, you can do your homework, you can do, make
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Your own friend group, you know, it's healthy.
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Kendra: yes, and god does do that with us.
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If you think about it, right?
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And we complain even as adults, when we have to wait on
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Something and when the answer is not the answer we want and god
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Is like disciplining us and training us and discipling us,
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Right, in the way that we need to be going.
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We can get frustrated like, oh no, "but you can do, well, god,
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Can't you just fix it," right?
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It's so interesting how those things kind of parallel and line
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Up against each other and it's like, no, i gotta to kind of
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Tell, no, i don't want to.
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But if i love her, maybe this time i have to say no.
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Taffi: and it's okay.
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Gotta have that strong no muscle.
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I'm working on keeping it developed and keeping it strong.
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You have to.
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We develop muscles and that's a muscle that it doesn't mean that
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You're mean or you have to be rude about it.
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It's a complete sentence and sometimes it just has its place
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That's not acceptable, yeah.
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Kendra: it's hard to remember that, but it's important to
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Remember that.
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Sometimes, no, it just means i love you.
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Taffi: so true.
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Kendra: i believe in you, right?
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It says all those things that it doesn't say, right?
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Taffi: that's good.
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No means i love you and i believe in you.
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Kendra: come on, come on, the same way god did this.
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Come on, i've taught you.
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I've shown you.
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Let's see.
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Taffi: yeah, the parameters there.
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That's so good.
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Well, i'm telling you, you are in the position to be equipped
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To do the things that are entrusted with your care, so i
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Wanna encourage you today to start every day with a grace
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Prayer, something simple.
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God give me grace for this day, for this child that you've
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Entrusted me with and to be able to pour my heart into them and
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Them know my heart and my intentions and just not
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My actions.
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Number two, another thing, respond, don't react.
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Grace is slow to anger.
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Take a pause before you parent from frustration.
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We have to learn to just ask god to help us in the area of
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Responsibility and to be the best version of ourselves.
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Another point is to apologize often, be quick to apologize.
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Don't be afraid to just say, "i've made a mistake and i got
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It wrong.
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It was not the best version of myself.
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I could have handled it differently" versus
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Being defensive.
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So just apologizing.
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And then lastly, another point we wanna leave with you today,
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Create moments, not just rules.
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Grace is how you laugh with them, you listen and you speak
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Life after the discipline.
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And so we are so thankful for you tuning in today and pray
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That you were blessed by the conversation with kendra and
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Myself and get a hold of the tools that are available.
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There's so much content that we can utilize, resources that are
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Available, and as a result we can be successful in the eyes of
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God and just have the peace that we've done the best that we knew
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To do and we see a wonderful outcome.
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Taffi: world changers is making such a huge difference in
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Our community.
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And one of the ways in which we're making a huge difference
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Is through the ministry of prestige.
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For over 16 years, we've gone out to local strip clubs in the
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City of atlanta, motels, hotels, all kinds of establishments, and
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Minister to women who are being prostituted, women in
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Prostitution, and in essence, we take them flowers, we take them
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Toiletry kits, we take them food, resources, information,
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And more importantly, we take them the love of god because
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That's what it's all about.
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Female announcer: through your support, impactful programs like
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Prestige are able to thrive.
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Programs that empower women in the adult industry to rebuild
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Their lives, restoring self-worth, and offering them a
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Path forward with spiritual and practical resources.
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Marla dillingham: our ministry reaches out to them in a
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Nonjudgmental way, letting them know that god loves
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Them, period.
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Announcer: every dollar helps provide housing, educational
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Opportunities, life skill classes, and spiritual
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Mentorship for these precious women, showing them the
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Unconditional love of jesus christ.
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Taffi: and so i just wanna thank everyone for their support,
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For the ministry of prestige; it's making a huge difference.
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We know that lives will be changed and that we will make a
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Mark that can never be erased.
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Announcer: thank you for partnering with us to change
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Lives through love and generosity.
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Male announcer: because of you, creflo dollar ministries is
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Providing a new understanding of grace and empowering change in
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The lives of millions of people every day.
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Thank you, partners and friends.
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Your love and financial support makes it possible to bring this
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Message into millions of homes all across the globe.
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Announcer: the preceding program was brought to you in part by
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The partners and friends of creflo dollar ministries.
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♪♪♪
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Kendra Ketter Chavis - Graced To Parent (Part 2)

February 19, 2026 | 27:29

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