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Creflo Dollar | Taffi Dollar - Crazy Expectations | July 31, 2025
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- Taffi dollar: parenting demands attention, being a wife, being
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- A mother demands attention.
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- And so you wanna get from the spirit of god how to go about
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- Doing these things and how to operate in the grace for your
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- Life, the grace that is available for your family, and
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- The things that god is calling you to do.
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- Not to try to duplicate maybe what you saw somebody else do
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- Effortlessly, but no, getting before god and saying, "god, i
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- Can't do all the stuff, can't do what big mama used to do, i just
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- Need to know what you want me to do," okay?
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- Taffi: i'm going to jump into some things that i believe the
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- Lord has placed on my heart to share with you today, and we're
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- Going to continue on some things that we started, really dealing
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- With some inner areas of our lives and things that perhaps we
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- Can often overlook, but it has the potential to affect areas of
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- Our life, the harvest, and the things that we're standing on,
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- And the promises that we're believing god for.
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- And so we talked about, a few days ago, or sunday before last,
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- About this era of being crazy busy, and we talked about
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- Crazy demands.
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- And so, today, we wanna talk about crazy expectations, and to
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- Look at this area of our life, because so many times, the
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- Things that spoil the vine are the little things, it's the
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- Little things that keep our harvest.
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- And so we wanna shine the light on this area because i
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- Understand that we're all in the position to experience
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- God's promises.
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- We're all positioning ourselves to avail to the things that god
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- Has promised to us.
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- And we realize that there's not a whole lot of time left, we
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- Know that jesus is coming sooner than we think, and so this thing
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- Is the church's opportunity to be its finest hour, to shine
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- Brighter than ever before for the glory of the lord, to be
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- Everything that god destined for it to be.
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- And so we wanna look at this area of our life because
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- Demands, expectations, the busyness of our heart, the
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- Busyness of our life, in many instances has the opportunity,
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- As i said earlier, to rob us.
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- And so, in preparation for what we wanna look at today, we wanna
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- Look at some things concerning this.
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- Turn with me to your bibles in galatians chapter 2, verse 19.
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- And i want us to understand some things about expectations
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- Because they have the opportunity in many instances to
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- Affect what we do, the expectations that we place not
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- Just on other people, but it's the expectations that we place
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- On ourselves.
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- Sometimes it's the unspoken, the unmet expectations that we take
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- Into areas of our life.
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- When we become born again and we receive jesus as our lord and as
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- Our personal savior, it's easy to think that there are things
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- That we must do and place on ourselves, and be, and become
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- Active about, as it relates to god's expectations for us.
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- And so religion has played a part of that, our upbringing has
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- Played a part with that.
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- It is what we receive and what we can easily internalize from
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- External environment that has a part to play in that.
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- And so these are things that we really wanna get over into, the
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- Rules, the rule-keeping, because if it were not for god's grace,
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- How many of you know we'd be so caught up in trying to remember
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- And memorize and internalize all the rules?
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- And so i'm so thankful for this opportunity that we can spend
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- Today over grace and understanding, that we have this
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- Rest that god wants us to enter in, to cease from striving, and
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- To understand that god loves us and he is already impressed with
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- Us, and it is god's opinion that matters in our life, he has the
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- Final say-so in our life.
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- And so, when we look at this area of galatians 2, i think we
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- Wanna look at the message translation of this just so we
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- Can kind of establish some things as it relates to this
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- Area of rule-keeping.
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- Somebody say, "rule-keeping."
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- And so, he says here, in verse 19, "what actually took place is
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- This: i tried keeping rules and working my head off to please
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- God, and it didn't work."
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- He says, "i tried keeping the rules."
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- I don't know about you, i tried.
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- When i married my husband, i knew he was called to ministry
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- And i tried to understand, "okay, what are the rules?
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- I hadn't grown up in church, so i just need to understand what,
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- What is this, and how are the rules going to pan out, and what
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- Are the expectations for me as your wife?
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- I don't sit on the front row, i don't wear hats, i don't play
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- The piano, i don't go and do all these churchy things."
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- So i tried to understand what the rules are.
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- So, he says, "what actually took place is this: i tried keeping
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- The rules, working my head off to please god, and it
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- Didn't work."
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- Keeping the rules doesn't produce the satisfaction, and he
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- Says, "it didn't work.
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- So i quit being a 'law man,'" or law woman, "so that i could be
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- God's man," or god's woman.
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- "christ's life showed me how, and enabled me to do it.
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- I identified myself with him," he says.
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- "indeed, i have been crucified with christ.
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- My ego is no longer central."
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- So i hope you checked your ego at the door when you got out of
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- Your car, because you know what?
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- It's no longer central here, amen?
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- But the busyness of our heart, the busyness of our lives can in
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- Many instances be a reflection of our ego, taking pride in the
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- Activity of our lives to do what we think is going to please god,
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- All the acrobats, all the activities, all the
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- Different things.
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- You gotta understand, when i came into understanding, i would
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- Always think, "okay, how much time have i spent in prayer?
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- How many people have i won to the lord?
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- When was the last time i fasted, when was the last time?"
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- And so, i put these expectations, because you
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- Know what?
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- That's what i thought.
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- That's what i assumed measured the degree of my christian life
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- And whether i was being a good christian.
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- And so he says, "my ego is no longer central."
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- And granted, i'm not saying that we should do away with all these
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- Things, but there's a pressure that comes from religion to do
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- These things, and if you don't do, do, do, do, do, you are not
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- Measuring up.
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- And so there's this striving that god wants us to avoid, and
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- Get into a place of ease.
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- And so he says, "it's no longer important that i appear
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- Righteous before you," think of that, church, "or have your good
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- Opinion, and i am no longer driven to impress god."
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- How many of you know he is already impressed?
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- If i got up here and started tap dancing, you'd probably be so
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- Impressed, "my god," but god's not impressed, he doesn't care.
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- If i did a backwards flip and all these kinds of things, god
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- Is like, "okay, i love you, you do not have to do all these
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- Things in order to impress me."
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- But it's the affirmation, it's the pride of life, it's the
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- Bondage to people, it's the need to impress people that we get so
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- Caught up in all of these things, and god is saying to us,
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- "that's not central."
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- How many of you know, i want the central thing to be the
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- Main thing?
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- And what's not central to god, i don't want it to be a part of
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- My life.
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- So, he says, "christ lives in me.
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- The life you see me living is not 'mine,' but it is lived by
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- Faith in the son of god, who loved me and gave himself
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- For me.
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- I'm not going to go back on that.
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- It is clear to you that to go back to that old rule-keeping,
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- Peer-pleasing religion would be an abandonment of everything
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- Personal and free in my relationship with god?"
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- He says, "i refuse to do that, to repudiate god's grace.
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- If a living relationship with god could come by rule-keeping,
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- Then christ died unnecessarily."
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- You know, when i would go grocery shopping, i don't do as
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- Much grocery shopping as i used to, but i would ask the lord
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- Because i had this rule that i placed on myself that i would
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- Soul-win to the person who would help me take my groceries to
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- My car.
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- And i would be thinking, "okay, how, lord, am i going to witness
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- To this person in a matter of maybe a minute?"
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- And i made that vow to god,
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- And i would always be cognizant of that,
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- Trying to figure out what opportunity.
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- "are you having a good day?"
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- That would always be a lead-in, right?
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- "how's your day going?"
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- Sometimes you just have to dive right in, "you know jesus as
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- Your lord and personal savior, are you saved?"
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- We're at the car now.
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- "okay, taffi, it's too late, land the plane."
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- And i had these rules, and i never was really good about
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- Rules in the first place, because i just had to wrap my
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- Brain around just rule-keeping in general because i just didn't
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- Understand and didn't feel the respect, per se, that was
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- Associated with so many rules and things that were impressed
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- Upon people.
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- So i've, to a certain degree, had that kind of free spirit, to
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- A certain degree.
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- But i was amazed, when it came to religion and church, how many
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- Rules, how many hoops, how many things in order to measure up,
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- In order to reach the standard into pleasing god and pleasing
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- People, pleasing those.
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- And so this has been a journey, the things that i'm sharing
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- Today, because i think, as a christian, so many times we can
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- Place these on ourselves, these rules, because they provide an
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- Objective measure to see how well we're doing and a mechanism
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- To evaluate how not-so-good others are doing.
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- And as a result, it can cause shame and remind us that we're
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- Not perfect.
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- And if we don't follow those rules or if we're corrected,
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- We can easily cause ourselves to get into a place of guilt and
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- Condemnation and the things that god wants us to avoid.
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- And so we wanna look at this area of crazy expectations.
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- Somebody say, "crazy expectations."
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- And so the expectations are the fact that we must meet a list of
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- Shoulds, demands, expectations, that we've set for ourselves or
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- That others have set for us.
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- It's the list, it's the to-do list in our minds, that we
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- Think, in order to please other people, instead of enter into a
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- Place where we're seeking god and we're asking god
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- For permission.
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- A lot of times we do things,
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- And then we want god to bless it,
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- We get into all kinds of situations and relationships or
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- Doing different things, and then we wonder why we're not seeing
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- God in those relationships, because we're asking
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- Him to bless it.
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- And so, today, i want us to take a step back and kinda look at
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- Our lives, and look at the area of the expectations that perhaps
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- We're placing on ourselves, and the measure that we're doing to
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- Evaluate, and that mechanism of whether we're doing good or not
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- Doing so good.
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- Because these are things that create an internal, a mental
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- List of all the things that we should and should not do to
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- Measure ourselves, how close we're able to follow these
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- Practices and be the best at them, to be the best that we
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- Would endeavor to be.
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- Now, let's look at some things here.
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- Of course, i am so thankful, i never thought that our ministry
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- Would get as large as it has.
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- Creflo never went to bible school, never went to seminary,
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- So surely,
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- He did not have the rules as a man of god
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- To be successful at this.
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- So when y'all just kept coming and kept coming and kept coming
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- And kept coming, i'm like, "what is going on?
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- Go home."
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- But i'm thinking, wow,
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- It's something about just getting in a place
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- Where we're allowing god to lead us and we don't look to
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- Manmade methodologies, and that we're being spiritually led from
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- The inside out and not based on self-effort and putting pressure
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- On ourselves.
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- Let's look at this, turn over to 1 corinthians chapter 7, and
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- Then we're gonna look at chapter 9.
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- I wanna read these kind of quick,
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- Try not to cover a lot of scriptures this morning, but if
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- We do, we do.
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- If we don't, we don't, but i think it'll help to paint the
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- Expectations that we must put some thought into as it relates
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- To our personal relationship with god and living a
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- Successful life.
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- So, 1 corinthians, look at chapter 7, verse 32, and then
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- We're gonna go to chapter 9, verse 19, verse 23.
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- So, 1 corinthians 7, let's look at the message translation,
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- Let's pull that up if we could.
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- Keep in the message translation, please.
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- So, he says, "i want you to live as free of complications
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- As possible."
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- Isn't that good?
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- We could just say, "selah, let's just go home."
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- "live free from all complications," because with
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- Church, religion, it could be, not this church, but just
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- Religion in general can be very complicated.
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- Now, what do you do, and how you do that, and why you do that,
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- Why are we praying to a man to pray to god when i can go to
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- God myself?
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- And so, what is--and so, anyway, "i want you to live as
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- Free of complications as possible.
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- When you're unmarried."
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- He's talking about those who are single, because there are
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- Expectations as it relates to relationships, and so god is
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- Talking about this here, the expectations in many instances
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- That go inside or coincide as it relates to committing to the
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- Marriage institution.
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- He says, "when you're unmarried, you're free to concentrate on
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- Simply pleasing the master."
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- He says, "marriage involves you in all the nuts and bolts."
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- Sound like some carpentry, serious work going on, and it's
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- Work, good work.
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- "nuts and bolts of domestic life and in wanting to please your
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- Spouse, leading to so many more demands."
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- Someone say, "demands."
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- So there are demands, there are expectations, in many instances,
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- That we can put on ourselves, that we can put on our spouse,
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- That we can put on our family members.
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- And he says those things, he says, "the time and the energy
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- That married people spend on caring for and nurturing each
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- Other, the unmarried can spend in becoming whole and holy
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- Instruments of god.
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- I'm trying to be helpful and make it as easy as possible for
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- You, not make things harder."
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- So i had all these expectations when i got married, i thought i
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- Was gonna have to do all these things, i had tried to carry out
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- What i'd seen in the past concerning my mother and our
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- Parents, and other people who were over us spiritually in
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- The lord.
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- And so it was this area of demands and crazy expectations
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- That are associated with these areas of life.
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- And so he talks about calculating the cost,
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- Understanding the unmarried versus the married life and the
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- Things that go along with it.
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- Look over to chapter 9, verse 19, verse 23.
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- These things will demand our attention, parenting demands
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- Attention, being a wife, being a mother demands attention.
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- And so you wanna get from the spirit of god how to go about
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- Doing these things and how to operate in the grace for your
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- Life, the grace that is available for your family and
- 00:22:34.699 --> 00:22:37.903
- The things that god is calling you to do.
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- Not to try to duplicate maybe what you saw somebody else do
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- Effortlessly, but no, getting before god and say, "god, i
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- Can't do all the stuff, i can't do what big mama used to do,
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- I just need to know what you want me to do, okay?
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- Can't do what dr. betty did.
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- I need to know the assignment for my life, amen?
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