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Taffi: welcome to "changing your world" broadcast.
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I am so excited today to continue our conversation with
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Andrea crayton, and i'm telling you, you are going to be
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Blessed, and if you didn't hear or watch the previous episode,
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Go back and take a look at it, but welcome andrea.
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Andrea: thank you for having me back, pastor taffi.
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It's an honor to be here on the couch with you.
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Taffi: oh my goodness, we really, really, i think provided
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Some answers before.
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Andrea: i believe so and freedom.
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Taffi: yes, and so today let's talk some about insecurity
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Because that is very, very common.
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People are insecure in so many areas of their life, insecure
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Relationships, insecure in
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Finances, insecure just as
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Individuals, as relates to callings and all the things that
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We were discussing on the other episode.
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And so is that something that you can relate to just as far as
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Being insecure?
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Andrea: and i'll say this.
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I did the opposite ends.
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You know, i think anything that's done at both extreme
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Ends, it's an automatic indication it's in the flesh,
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But i remember being so insecure that i came off
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Extremely confident.
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So you know, because it's like you're overcompensating and
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You're trying to make up for how you really feel on the inside.
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And so i mean, you just come overly prepared and always on
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And, you know, it would just be this constant thought in my mind
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Never let them see you sweat, you know, don't cry on set.
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Like, we just have something to do and eventually all it does is
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Just lead to burnout.
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And i got to this place, i'm like, "why am i so burned out?"
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You know, you do something great that received the applause of
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Everyone and everyone's excited for you and it's like, "why
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Can't i even enjoy what just happened?"
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It's because i overcompensated so much i'm completely
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Burned out.
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I'm on empty.
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Taffi: oh my goodness.
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So was that like, would you say when you were dealing like with
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College or was it a certain area with finances or relationships?
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Andrea: i would say in every area that you could think of:
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Relationships, going to college, where am i gonna go to college?
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What am i majoring in once i get there?
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You know, especially in relationships, i never felt
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Good enough.
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I always felt like they're gonna find out who i really am and i'm
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Not gonna measure up to what they want.
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And so it was just extremely insecure.
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So i used to say, i used to do this thing where whatever the
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Guy was or presented as, i would just adjust to that.
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That's how insecure.
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So let's say he is into sports.
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Okay, now i'm wearing j's.
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You know, let's say he's an intellectual, so now i have
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Glasses and now i'm really interested in books and, you
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Know, documentaries, and i'm like, "why does my identity keep
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Shifting with different people that i'm dating?"
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And it was all--the root of it was just insecurity.
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You're not secure enough to stand in who you are at all
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Times without feeling the pressure to adjust because
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Someone else entered the storyline or someone else
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Entered the picture.
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I didn't feel like it was good enough to just present me.
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And so insecurity has always been a thing and especially when
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I got into the preacher space.
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Oh gosh, you got all that.
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Taffi: tell us about that.
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Andrea: you just have all of these bishops and apostles and
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Pastors, and they call and tell us like, "all right, now i wanna
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Tell you some wisdom.
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If i were you, i would do this."
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And i'm like, "oh, okay, check.
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All right, let me put that on my list," and then, you know,
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Bishop emeritus, and let me put that on my list, and you know,
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The apostle of the fifth church, let me put that on my list.
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And so now i'm carrying all of these you need to's, you know,
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And that's what the religious mindset always says is do more
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When grace is always saying receive more from what already
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Is on the inside of you.
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So i really had to adjust because i'm like i'm just
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So insecure.
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I'm out here confused.
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I don't know what to do.
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I don't know what everybody wants and so i always showed up
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Trying to figure out and interpret what does everybody
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Want from me?
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It led me to burn out, and i'm like--
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Taffi: that's draining.
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I could see that just based on what you said in all those
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Different areas that it comes to an end and it's like, "oh my
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Goodness, i can't do this anymore."
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Andrea: i can't do this anymore.
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Taffi: enough is enough and it's like, "okay, yeah, i'm exhausted
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And i don't know where to turn to from here."
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So where did that lead you?
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Andrea: to absolute burnout.
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And so now this is where i'm rude, i'm lashing out at people,
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I'm angry and they're like, "what?
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You were so sweet.
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What is wrong with you?"
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But it's like i feel like i have to keep pretending every room i
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Go in and i don't have a grasp on who i am and what i'm
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Supposed to do.
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And it wasn't until the scripture that we really honed
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In on on the last episode, my grace is sufficient, i had to
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Get a revelation on that, you know, and i'm like, "lord, you
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Gotta make that, that's what it--you have to make that real
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To me."
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Like what does that mean for me?
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I get it and i understand people can preach it and stuff, but
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What does that mean for me, you know?
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And he said, "what it means is when i entered into your life, i
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Provided everything you need down from your personality to, i
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Mean, just everything that you're concerned about, i've
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Already figured out, and it's on the inside of you and it's grace
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That you can draw from."
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And so he just kinda--we just started working together on that
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Just me and holy spirit, and he was just like, okay, and when
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You feel depleted when you try to do this, it's because you
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Have no grace for that.
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You have no capacity.
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So it's almost like a, it's a steer for you.
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So you know, i started learning just because you can do things
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Doesn't mean you need to, doesn't mean you're assigned
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To them.
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And so i just started navigating with the grace that i already
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Had on the inside of me.
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And it became such an easier life to just receive instead of
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Do more, do more, do more, do more, get better, get better you
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Can all--relax, rest, and just receive from what already is.
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Our lives have been laid out.
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And so it just--it helped me operate in the spirit of
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Ease now.
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I never overthink anything now.
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I'm like, even if i start overthinking, i'm like, "oh, i
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Already have grace for that.
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I have grace for that."
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Taffi: you have to talk to yourself and tell yourself, "i
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Have--it's okay.
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I have grace for this.
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I don't have to earn anything.
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It's already been freely given from the foundations of
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The world.
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He knows me.
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Fearfully, wonderfully made in and out, up and down he--from
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The, i mean, before i was in the womb, before i was
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Even conceived."
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These things we have to just remind ourselves of it when
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We--those fleeting thoughts and want to just arrest us, it
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Causes us to feel anxious, to be uncertain and to even run and
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Hide and avoid.
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Andrea: suppression.
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I think on that journey that i was referring to, i kind of got
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To this spot where now i started avoiding.
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Well, i mean, we'll get to that later.
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And i'm like, you still end up at the same destination burnout
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Because whatever is not dealt with will eventually deal
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With you.
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And so it's okay to slow down and say, "now, this is
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An issue."
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Like this--i keep running into this pattern.
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This is a cycle that the enemy wants me to be stuck in, but i
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Just choose freedom.
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Like lord, show me what is this about, you know, why am i here?
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You know, even in the patterns of relationships, like
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Relationally, i'm like, why do i end up with the same person with
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A different face in the same situation?
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And he said, "there's a hole in your soul."
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He said, "your spirit is complete.
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It's all the truth you need, but when you have holes in your
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Soul, the truth is being filtered through that.
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And so what you think is normal is dysfunctional."
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And so it just took me into a whole another journey with the
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Holy spirit like, okay, well let's heal those, let's heal
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Those holes.
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You know, 'cause i'm thinking it's normal, and just because
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It's normal doesn't mean that it's wrong or it's not wrong,
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And so i'm like, oh, but holy spirit
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Just highlights it, highlights.
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'cause i'm--and it's because i just asked the question, "what
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Is wrong?
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What am i doing wrong?"
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Taffi: why am i attracting this or what is bringing this
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Insecurity into my life or this pattern that i'm seeing over and
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Over and over again.
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I would deal with that a lot of times just in marriage and
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Observing myself and my response, my reactions, and just
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The fear, and fear of being taken advantage of, fear of
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Being hurt or whatever the case may be, and so i would find
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Myself being on defense and it's just like, "okay, take the
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Boxing gloves off.
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You don't have to be defensive.
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It's okay, you're safe."
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And we have to remind ourselves and really acknowledge that
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Insecurity is an invitation to intimacy with god.
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We can use it as a platform, our weaknesses as a platform to say
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"god, i wanna present this to you.
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I recognize this about myself.
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We talked about self awareness in the other episode and we will
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Do ourselves a favor when we know ourselves, and the more we
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Know ourselves in him, that's when we're really coming into
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The authentic self--
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Andrea: there it is, yes.
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Taffi: and not this facade of who we want people to believe.
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And so it's okay to acknowledge i have insecurities, i have
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Inadequacies, i have-- just it's okay.
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Andrea: it's okay.
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Taffi: and he loves me just the same.
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Andrea: and he still loves me.
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And it's not like, "oh, i gotta love."
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He's madly in love with us.
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I realized this.
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There's a level of our relationship with jesus that we
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Don't even--we miss out on when we don't invite him into the
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Areas of suffering.
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Paul says, "i wanna know him in the fellowship of
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His suffering."
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And i read that and i said, "what does that mean?"
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Because sometimes we suffer and we just wanna get out.
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First thing smoking, like, "how do we get out of this right now?
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You're a present help in times of trouble.
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Get me out of this."
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But there's a part of the relationship that you miss just
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In suffering.
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Taffi: what does that look like?
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Andrea: what does that, you know, this is a perfect example.
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Imagine if there was someone newly divorced on the left side
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Of the room and then someone on the right side had been divorced
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Maybe three months.
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If they got together at the cafe and just happened to swap
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Stories and say, "i just got divorced too, oh, i did too."
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Do you imagine the bond that they just created just sharing
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The stories and the intimate-- 'cause we're talking about it's
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An invitation into intimacy.
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There's no fluff, there's no--because, why?
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I know what you've been through.
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I know what i just came out of, so there's about to be a bond
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That's about to be unbreakable.
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Now, you've sat next to the person on the left the entire
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Conference and you barely know their name, but because they
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Share the same suffering, there are barriers in what they were
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Sharing that just broke down.
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That's what it is.
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That's how i visualize it when you fellowship with him in
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Suffering because it says that he experienced everything that
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We have.
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Taffi: that's true.
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Andrea: he's not distant and unfamiliar and say, "oh, i
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Feel sorry for you."
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He said, "i've done exact--every thing."
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Taffi: the exact same thing. that's right.
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Andrea: so fellowship with him in it.
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That means talk it through, talk it out.
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I mean down to the detail.
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"god, i was so hurt that this person would do this to me at
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This time.
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That is not fair.
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God, da da da," you talk it out like you would talk in that same
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Situation that i just gave you because there's an intimacy
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That's developed, and where there's intimacy, there's trust.
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Taffi: that's so good.
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And a lot of times we're trying to compare ourselves instead of
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Recognizing that we're more alike than we are
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Different, yes.
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Andrea: we are. we are.
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Taffi: and it's okay that we can relate on these things and
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Encourage each other in that thing or paul said, "i boast in
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My infirmities.
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I boast in my weaknesses because when i'm weak, then
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He's strong."
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And it's an opportunity for him to come in and sit with us to
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Sit in the pain.
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He'll sit with us, won't he?
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Andrea: and it's okay because we just wanna run, just run out the
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Pain and run, and many times, sometimes when you escape a
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Season, a lesson too fast, there's a lesson that you leave
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Behind, and you wonder why, where patterns come from, where
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Cycles come from, there's something that you're not
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Grasping, but it's different when you sit in it and he starts
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Revealing it and it's not just a traumatic event.
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There was revelation that you grasped from that.
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And that now revelation goes beyond us.
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So now it's not just a lesson i learned.
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I can minister and share that with someone else.
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I can encourage someone else 'cause i got the revelation from
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That, you know.
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I didn't just experience this and all my life is just
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Stuck here.
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Because most people are still stuck at their last
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Traumatic moment.
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They're aging, they probably moved homes, they probably
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Changed careers, but spiritually, mentally, and
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Emotionally they are still at the same place of their greatest
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Traumatic moment.
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Taffi: and what do you think that comes from 'cause it's
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Fearful in and of itself the experiences that we go through
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In life.
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It could be, you know, grief, the pandemic, it could be
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Relationship, finances, the rug just pulled out from up under
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You, and you're thinking, "oh my goodness, i don't know how to
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Move forward.
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I'm afraid to move forward.
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Is it safe to move forward?
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Is it okay to get up and try again, or will i fall and make
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Another mess?"
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Andrea: i call it the rocking--i like to use the rocking
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Chair analogy.
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Because most of those people, you know, a rocking chair,
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You're having a lot of movement, but you're not going anywhere.
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Taffi: nowhere, you're in one place.
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Andrea: and it's because you haven't dealt with the root of
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What just took place, but you've continued on in life.
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And you see those--most people, they'll do extreme things next.
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Just go get a motorcycle, sir, not.
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Not right now, not in this-- and so why?
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Because we're so adamant about movement--
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Taffi: and masking the pain. andrea: to mask the pain.
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Taffi: yeah, we do that too.
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Andrea: and when i mask the pain, there is no progression.
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So this is why it's such a vital point to fellowship.
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I wanna know him and the fellowship of his suffering.
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Taffi: oh, my goodness.
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Andrea: i'm not moving.
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I'm not moving until i can move, i can progress in a healthy way.
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I don't wanna move forward and be dysfunctional.
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Taffi: our emotions are so real and it's okay to
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Acknowledge them.
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Like you said earlier in the other episode, they're not
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The finality.
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They do not dictate.
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They are not to govern our life.
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They're not the conductor, you know, they're the caboose.
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We don't allow them to drive and take the steering wheel.
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And but we know that they're there.
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Andrea: they're there.
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I like to say it this way, pastor taffi, let your feelings
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Be deciders and not definers.
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They don't define this moment and they don't define you.
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But they can decide because why?
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It could--it actually--my feelings could be used in a
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Positive way to move me up and towards the will of god for my
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Life and they also could be moving me up in a way.
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So they're deciders, not definers.
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So many times if we would just selah, pause, take a moment
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Instead of make an action out of the feeling, we would come in to
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Much better destinations.
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We just wouldn't land and say, "well, i just got dealt a bad
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Deck of cards."
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And it's like, no, no, no, no.
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You let your feelings get into the driving seat.
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You can say, "okay, i know i feel this, but what is
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The truth?"
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And you can have that moment of swapping when you take a selah,
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When you take a pause, when you take a moment, take a breath,
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Step into the corner.
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Okay, feelings are saying this, but the truth says this, and the
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Truth never changes, so i need the truth to override my
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Feelings right now.
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Taffi: like jesus did in the garden of gethsemane.
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I remember how he was praying, you know, he was there with
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The disciples.
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He's like, "yeah, y'all wait, watch."
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They fell asleep and he said, you know,
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"this cup is too much."
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And the scripture just talks about how he prayed and as a
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Result of praying he was able to move forward and he got some
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Strength in the midst of just being overwhelmed.
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The bible talks about how he almost sweat blood and tears and
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Just all the--i can't even imagine like you were just
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Saying the emotions that he has dealt with that we deal with at
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The same time, it's not like anything that he cannot
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Relate to.
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And so it's us recognizing even in those moments, "okay,
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All right."
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Andrea: there it is.
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Taffi: "tomorrow is gonna be a different day.
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Today was a rough day, but i'm believing tomorrow will
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Be better."
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Andrea: and truth changes facts, so you can acknowledge facts,
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But you can lead with the truth because truth always
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Trumps facts.
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So today was rough.
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This, this, this happened.
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But then bring in the triumph, bring in the truth because truth
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Changes facts.
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But you know, i say this, pastor taffi, believers have
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To believe.
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That's what we--the mission is in the title.
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As a believer we believe.
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I just believe that this is not what it's gonna--it's not gonna
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Always be.
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I don't matter--it doesn't matter what it looks like, what
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It seems like, what it feels like right now.
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I call this this way.
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God's word in my mouth is the same as god's word in his mouth,
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Because he's in me and i'm in him.
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Taffi: and that's the truth.
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Andrea: and that's the truth that's gonna change this fact.
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Taffi: yeah, the truth will change the facts.
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I love that.
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And he says if we continue in it we'll be the disciples, we'll be
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The disciplined ones and continuing in that, staying with
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It, not throwing in the towel, not being focusing in on that
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Over there but just, "okay, lord, i'm gonna give this
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Another try."
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Andrea: and i wanna add one other point and it sounds so
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Churchy 'cause i remember hearing this years ago, but they
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Say, "run to the throne and not the phone."
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You know, and it sounds so churchy, but it's so true
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Because sometimes our phone call that we make, it can either
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Dismantle those feelings or validate them and make them and
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Just magnifies them 'cause whatever you focus on magnifies.
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So, "i just feel this way."
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"as you should and you need to.
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And if i were you i would do--"
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And so now here it is your feelings are magnifying,
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Magnifying and you're so far away from the truth.
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You're so far away from the power and the authority that you
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Have to speak into this fact to change it.
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And now you're just in your feelings and now you've wasted
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A day.
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And now that day and then i couldn't rest the night and the
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Next, i'm so tired.
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Oh, i've been in spiritual warfare.
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No, you've just been on the phone.
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Taffi: instead of running to the throne.
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Andrea: instead of running to the throne.
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And what happens at the throne?
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At the throne, there is an exchange.
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He says, "come boldly before the throne of grace."
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Why?
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"that you may obtain."
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So as i arrive there, i'm giving and i'm also obtaining.
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So there's a great exchange happening at the throne room
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Of grace.
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On the phone we're just--
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Taffi: venting.
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Andrea: and can i say this?
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Most of our venting is killing us.
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Because our words were used for creation, not communication.
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And so you think you're getting it off your chest and you're
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Actually bringing it into your life.
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So a lot of our venting, when it's not mixed with truth or
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It's not trumped with truth, is killing us.
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It's causing us to remain in our situation.
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You're like, "god, what's up?
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Do you not care for me?"
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He's like, "yes, and i've given you all the grace, all of the
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Tools, all of the spiritual blessings, all of my--i've given
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You my word which is so powerful to change anything that you can
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See and hear and touch and taste and smell.
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My word is more powerful than that.
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But you used to use idle words and it's keeping you in
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Remain--and it's keeping you in the place that you're trying to
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Avoid and get out of."
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We have more power than we feel.
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Taffi: we do.
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Right here, the dominion.
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It's in our words, it's in our tongue, it's able to change our
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World just through us recognizing that we are not
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Alone and reminding--you have to remind yourself he is jehovah
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Shammah, he is the ever present one.
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I am not alone, i'm not helpless, i'm not stranded.
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I have everything that i need and we have to rehearse and just
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Put ourselves in remembrance.
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Andrea: that's it.
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What you hear the most, you believe the most, so it's not
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Enough for you to come on a sunday morning or to watch this
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Episode one time.
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What you end up believing is what you hear over and over and
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Over again.
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A lot of people, "oh, i got new information," and it's right
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There in your conscious, but what's leading your life is
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Your subconscious.
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As a man thinks in his heart, those are things that you've
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Heard repetitively.
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So this is why you're saying, pastor taffi, you gotta
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Rehearse this, why?
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Because we're getting it at the heart level where i know that i
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Know that i know that i know it doesn't matter what this looks
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Like right now.
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I know this looks very bleak.
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But this thing is turning for me.
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Taffi: oh, that's so good.
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I remember just immersing myself, andrea, when i dealt
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With fear, just so afraid of being protected, feeling unsafe
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All the time, just stuff that triggers back from childhood,
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And as a result nightmares and all kinds of waking up in hot--
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Just sweating and i said, "you know, enough is enough."
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And at some point you have to just be fed up with feeling
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Fearful, fed up with just gotta get sick and tired of the
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Thoughts and the things that are running our lives to the point
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Where it really causes us to go to the throne of grace to get
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The help that we need--
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Andrea: i love that.
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Taffi: that's available for us.
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And so we don't have to just, you know, be dominated, but we
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Can walk in dominion.
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So we are out of time.
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Andrea: already.
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Taffi: already out of time. where did the time go?
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So thank you so much for tuning in today.
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We pray that you were blessed.
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You may feel unequipped, but we wanna remind you, andrea and i,
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That you are graced to be here.
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God chose you knowing exactly where you feel weak, and his
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Answer is the same for you today, that "my grace is
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Sufficient for you."
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You're not too broken, you're not too late, you're not
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Too anything.
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You are exactly where his grace will meet you and carry
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You forward.
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So stay tuned to these upcoming announcements and we'll be back.
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God bless.
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Male announcer: today's offer is the practical living bundle,
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Male: it's so great to have dr. dollar here, the spirit and
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Female: just about everybody that gave their testimony and
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Asking questions and getting answers, i was getting some of
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The answers i needed.
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Female: it was like an atmosphere of freedom.
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I would encourage people to come.
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Announcer: the spirit and grace tour with creflo dollar is
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Taffi: jesus died to save the entire world.
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Today he's training us in grace so that we can go out and
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Influence someone else's life.
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That's why i'm so grateful for the friends and partners of this
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Ministry who freely and cheerfully give financial
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Offerings to support us.
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You understand our vision and you help us in so many ways to
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Reach those who are searching for hope in the midst
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Of darkness.
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Thank you for empowering us to expand god's kingdom worldwide.
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Announcer: if you'd like to support our efforts to save the
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Lost, you may call in or visit
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God bless you.
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Announcer: the preceding program was brought to you in part by
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The partners and friends of creflo dollar ministries.
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Taffi Dollar - When You Feel Unequipped (Part 2)

March 18, 2026 | 27:29

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