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Robert Jeffress - Choosing Companionship Over Loneliness (Part 2)

March 27, 2026 | 27:29

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Dr. Robert Jeffress | Robert Jeffress - Choosing Companionship Over Loneliness (Part 2) | March 27, 2026

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From the pulpit of the first baptist church
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Of dallas, texas, this is "pathway to victory"
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With dr. robert jeffress.
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Hi, i'm robert jeffress,
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And welcome again to "pathway to victory."
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Satan loves nothing more than to get us isolated
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From our friends and family.
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When we're left to our own thoughts,
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He can attack our heart and soul with destructive ideas,
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Including self-doubt and insecurity.
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Well, today i want to show you
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How god has designed his children
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To flourish through relationships.
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My message is titled,
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"choosing companionship over loneliness,"
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On today's edition of "pathway to victory."
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♪ there is a day coming ♪
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♪ when the old will pass away ♪
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♪ and every wrong will be made right ♪
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♪ no darkness, no night ♪
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♪ the sun will light the way ♪
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♪ there is a king coming ♪
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♪ the one who conquered death and grave ♪
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♪ no more pain and no more sorrow ♪
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♪ this hope for tomorrow ♪
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♪ as our hope for today ♪
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♪ he who was, he who is ♪
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♪ he who was, he who is ♪
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♪ he who is to come is christ the son of man ♪
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♪ is riding on the clouds ♪
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♪ with a crown upon his head ♪
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♪ and every eye will see him ♪
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♪ with the nail scars in his hand ♪
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-♪ hallelujah ♪ -♪ we sing hallelujah ♪
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-♪ hallelujah ♪ -♪ he who is to come ♪
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♪ is christ the son of man ♪
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♪ he's riding on the clouds with a crown upon his head ♪
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♪ and every eye will see him ♪
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♪ with the nail scars in his hand ♪
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-♪ hallelujah ♪ -♪ sing hallelujah ♪
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-♪ hallelujah ♪ -♪ yes, hallelujah ♪
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-♪ hallelujah ♪ -♪ yeah, hallelujah ♪
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Life doesn't always go the way we plan,
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But here's the good news.
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We get to choose how we respond.
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In "choose your attitudes, change your life,"
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Dr. robert jeffress shares 11 biblical attitude choices
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That can transform your health, your relationships,
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And even your eternity.
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You may not be able to control what happens to you,
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But you can learn
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How to make your circumstances strengthen you
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Rather than destroy you.
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Request "choose your attitudes, change your life"
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There's an old swedish proverb that says,
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"shared joy is a double joy.
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Shared sorrow is half a sorrow."
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And that's what solomon is saying here.
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Imagine two people walking along together.
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If one stumbles, the other one is there to lift him up,
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To keep him from stumbling.
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Rarely do two people stumble at the same time.
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And it's the same way with going through life.
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When you're going through life with a companion,
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Or a group of friends, if you fall into temptation,
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If you fall into despair or to depression,
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Chances are the other person
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Isn't going through that at the same time,
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They're able to lift you up.
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And that's why we need to go through life
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In the companionship of other people.
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Not only that, secondly, companionship offers support
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When we feel alone.
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Look at verse 11.
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"furthermore, if two lie down together, they keep warm.
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But how can one be warm alone?"
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Now, i admit that sounds a little *****,
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You know, two people lying down
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And huddling together to keep warm.
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He's not talking about body temperature here.
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What he's talking about is those cold times of life
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That you experience.
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All of us experience them.
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Maybe the move to a new city or the beginning of a new job,
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Or the death of a loved one.
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During those cold moments of life,
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You need a companion to provide warmth.
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Remember the old testament story of ruth and naomi?
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Ruth had suffered the loss of her husband,
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And her mother-in-law.
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Naomi was also a widow.
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And after ruth's husband died, naomi said,
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You need to move back with your parents
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And find yourself a husband.
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Ruth wouldn't hear of it.
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She needed naomi and she believed her mother-in-law
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Needed her as well.
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And one of the most beautiful passages of all of the bible,
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Ruth said to naomi, "do not entreat me to leave you,
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Or to keep me from following after you for where you go,
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I will go.
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Where you lodge, i will lodge.
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Your people shall be my people.
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Your god, my god."
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During that cold time of her life, ruth knew she needed
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The warmth of her mother-in-law.
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We all need other people for those cold times in life.
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Thirdly, companionship offers us protection
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When we are under siege.
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Look at verse 12.
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"and if one can overpower him,
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One who is alone, two can resist him.
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A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart."
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You know, you take a rope, if it's just one little strand,
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You can break that real easily.
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Two strands a little harder,
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Three strands, almost impossible.
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It's the same thing with people.
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Have you ever felt like the apostle paul
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When he said we were afflicted on every side,
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Conflicts from without fears from within?
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Have you ever felt like you had attacks coming
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From every direction at work, at home,
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In this relationship, circumstances, your health, finances,
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You know, problems rarely come alone.
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They come in bunches.
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And when those attacks come,
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How much better to have somebody stand with you?
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You know, i'm so grateful.
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As i look back on the churches, amy and i have served
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In the three churches, we've had the privilege
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To serve as under shepherds,
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And every one of those churches, there were always people
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Who were ready to stand with us, to provide assistance
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When we felt like we were under siege.
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If i was being unfairly attacked,
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I had friends and leaders in the church
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Who would stand up to defend me.
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If i was being attacked by circumstances,
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People who are willing to help me gain perspective,
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Who would say, you know what, robert?
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This isn't normal.
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This is something spiritual is going on.
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We're going to pray for you and for your protection.
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I hate to think what it would've been like
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To go through those attacks without the benefit
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Of other people to offer protection.
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You know, pastors aren't the only ones
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Who experience those kind of attacks.
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We all have circumstances that conspire against us.
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We have an enemy who's out to destroy us and listen to me.
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One thing i've discovered as a pastor for 40 years,
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One of satan's favorite tactics in your life
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Is to isolate you from other people.
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And once he gets you alone, separated from the church,
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Separated from your family members, once he gets you alone,
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I mean you're spiritual roadkill before you know it.
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He has a much more difficult time attacking you
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And succeeding if there are two of you standing together,
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And if there're three or four standing together,
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Praying together, protecting one another, it's impossible.
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And that's why we need other people.
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They provide protection when we are under siege.
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Number four, companionship offers accountability
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When we are prone to wander from the faith.
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Accountability, when we are prone to wander from the faith.
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I cannot tell you the number of christian leaders
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I have known through the years who have suddenly fallen
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Into immorality or disbelief,
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And left thousands of people disillusioned as a result.
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Correction, i shouldn't have said that.
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They didn't fall suddenly into immorality or disbelief,
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It was a long process that most people didn't see.
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See, that's how spiritual defection and sin occurs.
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There's a gradual erosion in our life,
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A little compromise here and there.
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More and more times skipped spending with god in prayer
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And reading his word, growing cynicism toward other people
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And the things of god.
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Many times those things are happening apart from the eyes
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Of anybody else, but then our final
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And sudden fall is spectacular.
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It's seen by everyone.
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That's what happened to solomon.
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Solomon had started out, remember when he was named king,
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He said, "lord, i'm going to serve you with a whole heart
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And the only thing i want, not riches, not power,
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I just want wisdom from you." remember that?
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And solomon and god was so pleased
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That he gave him all those other things as well.
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That's how solomon started.
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Unfortunately, it's not how he ended.
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1 kings 11:4 records his downfall.
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"for it came about when solomon was old,"
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When he was old.
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Not when he was young,
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When he was old is when he fell away from god.
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Don't think getting old is any guarantee of godliness.
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You know, being old doesn't make you godly automatically,
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Being old doesn't exempt you from sin and temptation.
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It was when solomon was old
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That his wives turned his heart away from other gods,
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And his heart was not holy devoted to the lord his god,
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As the heart of david his father had been.
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You know, the tragedy of solomon's life.
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There was nobody to call his hand on those small defections
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That were taking place in his faith.
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Nobody who cared enough about solomon to say, you know what?
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I've noticed something in your life.
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I love you. i care about you.
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But if you keep going down this road,
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You're going to end up in a bad place.
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Do you have somebody like that in your life?
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Somebody who loves you enough, is concerned about you enough
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That they're willing to tell you the truth?
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That's what companionship does.
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It offers us accountability when we're prone to wander.
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You say, well, pastor, you've convinced me,
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I know i need friends.
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I need companions.
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Where do i go to find those kind of friends
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Who'll give me assistance and encouragement,
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And provide accountability?
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Where do you go?
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Well, the bible says god has created three realms
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To satisfy our need for companionship.
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And in the final few minutes we have,
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Let me just mention the three realms of relationships
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That come from god.
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First of all, marriage.
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Marriage, god's plan is for us
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To find companionship in marriage.
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Genesis 2:18.
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Remember after god finished his crowning work
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Of creating man, god said, genesis 2:18, "it is not good
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For the man to be alone.
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I will make him a helper suitable for him,"
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Opposite him, to compliment him.
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Now, i've always thought that was strange
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That god said it's not good for adam to be alone.
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Adam wasn't alone.
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Surrounded by all those animals.
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More importantly, a right relationship with god,
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I mean, he and god were having a great time together
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In the garden.
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No sin anywhere, perfect fellowship.
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But you know what god was saying,
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Fellowship with me, adam isn't enough.
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You need something more.
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And by the way, that's true of you.
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Don't be super spiritual.
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Don't be more spiritual than god is.
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Say i don't need anybody except god.
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Yes you do.
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God created you as a human being.
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You need other humans, not just animals
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And not just the spirit.
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You need other people.
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And that's why god said, i'm going to make a helper for adam.
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And by the way, that wasn't unique to adam.
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At the end of genesis 2:24-25, moses said,
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"this is god's plan for most people.
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For this cause, a man shall leave his father and his mother
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And shall cleave to his wife
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And they shall become one flesh.
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And the man and his wife were both naked,
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And were not ashamed."
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Now i said, this is god's plan for most people.
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There are some people, 1 corinthians 7, paul says,
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"who have the gift of being single."
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Not everybody's plan...
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God's plan for everybody is to be married.
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For most people, yes, there are some people
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Who have what paul calls the gift of celibacy.
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I remember when we were teenagers growing up,
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We'd hear people tell that and we would just pray, oh god,
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Please don't give me that gift.
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(congregation laughing)
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A gift nobody wants.
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Well, that's not really true.
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There's some people who do want that gift,
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And that's the way to know
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If you have the gift of singleness, if you enjoy it
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And that's what you want, that means you've got the gift.
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But marriage is not the only place to find companionship.
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In fact, if you're depending on your mate
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To provide every need for companionship you have,
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You're placing a burden on them they cannot meet
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And your marriage can't survive.
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God wants you to have friends as well as a mate.
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And that leads to that second realm
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Of relationship, friendships.
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Again, proverbs 17:17, "a friend loves at all times."
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You know there are four different levels of friendship
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That might help you understand god's plan for your life.
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You know, they're what we call acquaintances.
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These are people you meet, you know, at the grocery store
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And the checkout line.
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Most people make an average of 500
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To 2,500 new acquaintances every year.
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Just people they meet randomly.
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And these are people you don't know their name,
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And probably will never have any relationship
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With, acquaintances.
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Secondly, these are casual friends. casual friends.
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These are people that you know on a first name basis,
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You may or may not socialize with,
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But usually your conversations are very superficial.
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The weather, sports and so forth.
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Those friendships may last only months
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Or may last a lifetime.
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Thirdly, there are close friends,
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And these are people who have a mutual agreement
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On things like spiritual issues, politics, so forth.
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That number is anywhere from five to 25 people,
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People who are considered to be close friends,
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But finally there are intimate friends.
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Usually people only have anywhere from one,
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No more than five intimate friends.
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These are friendships that last a lifetime.
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These are friendships that span geographical boundaries,
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Even if you move away from one another
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And are separated for a period of time.
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When you are with that person,
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It's just like you pick up where you left off.
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These are the people that you are most likely to call
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In times of a crisis in your life, intimate friends.
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And god's plan is for us to have friends at all levels.
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The trouble is when you expect, you know, a casual friend
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To be an intimate friend and they're not.
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But god's plan is to have all those levels of friendships,
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And that leads to a third realm of relationship.
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And that is the church. the church.
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You know what's interesting about the church
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Is you find all four levels
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Of friendship right there in the church.
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Acquaintances, people you don't know,
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You don't even know their name.
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People you know on a first name basis,
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People you feel comfortable talking to,
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And share agreement about spiritual issues
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And then your intimate friends as well.
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But what's interesting
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Is even though you have all four levels in the church,
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Collectively, those four groups form a power
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That help keep you grounded spiritually
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As well as emotionally.
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There is power in being connected
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To a body of believers.
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Now last week, last week, phil robertson was here
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And i was listening again to the interview
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On the way to church, and he said some tremendous things,
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But there's one thing he said, i know what he meant,
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But i'm afraid it could be misconstrued.
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And that's the idea
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That somehow coming to church isn't important.
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He didn't say that.
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He was talking about the need for us to leave the church,
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And go out to be a witness to other people.
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And it's true, the world isn't going to get saved
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By our coming to church.
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The purpose of our coming to church is to get equipped
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To go out to where people are, but more importantly,
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Coming together as a church is absolutely vital
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To our own spiritual health.
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It's not optional,
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And that's why the writer of hebrews said
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In hebrews 10:24-25, "let us consider how can we stimulate,
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Motivate one another to love and good deeds
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By not forsaking our own assembling together,
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As is the habit of some,
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But encouraging one another all the more
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As you see the day drawing nearer."
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The writer of hebrews is saying,
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The reason we're not to forsake coming to church
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And assembling together, the reason we come
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To church is not to satisfy some legalistic,
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Cold, sterile requirement,
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It's to meet the need we have to encourage one another
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And motivate one another to faith and to good deeds.
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Let me illustrate that for you.
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Have you ever watched a fire burning in a fireplace,
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And seeing the wood in there, the wood embers,
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And how that wood grows and glows bright red
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When it's burning in the fire.
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And yet, if you take that piece of wood out of the fireplace
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And set it aside so quickly,
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It goes from red to gray, to a steely black.
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But when you take that cold piece of wood
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And put it back in the fireplace,
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It ignites again and begins to glow brightly.
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It's the same way with christians in the church.
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When you isolate separate a christian
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From other believers,
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That christian's faith can grow cold very, very quickly.
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But it's when we're in the presence
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Of other believers worshiping,
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Being instructed in god's word praying together,
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That's what continues to stimulate us to love
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And to good deeds.
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We need one another.
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I was reading this week the words
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Of the french existentialist, john paul sartre.
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Sartre said, "hell is other people."
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How's that for cynical?
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Hell is other people.
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Yes, other people can be a nuisance.
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They can be annoying.
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But i'm here to tell you this morning,
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What real hell is, is loneliness.
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In fact, that's going to be the final state
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Of those who die without christ.
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They're not just going to be separated from god,
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They're going to be separated from other people.
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Yes, there'll be billions of people in hell jesus said,
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If you go to hell,
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There'll be a mass of people with you there.
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The only thing is you won't know it,
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Because it's a place of utter darkness
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And you'll spend eternity not just separated from god,
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But from other people as well.
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Where there's weeping, wailing,
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And the gnashing of teeth.
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Hell is loneliness.
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But god's cornerstone plan for most of us is companionship,
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So that we can experience the emotional
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And spiritual fulfillment that god desires
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For each one of us.
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♪ music ♪
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We're not meant to lead lives
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Of lonely desperation cut off from the ones we love.
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God has created his children for companionship and nothing,
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And separate us from the love of god.
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Now, in closing today, i thought you'd be encouraged
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By this letter i received recently,
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One of our friends in pennsylvania wrote:
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"all through this past summer,
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I have listened to pathway to victory
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On my commute home from work.
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I've been physically sick with anxiety
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While enduring the mess of my life,
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But i began to trust in god.
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Eventually in a massive crying mess on my knees,
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I gave my life to christ and i put my full faith in him.
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Since then, i've purchased a bible
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And i'm reading it frequently.
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My wife and i have grown closer
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Than we've been in 19 years of marriage.
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May god bless you and your entire staff
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For sending the word out to people like me."
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Isn't that wonderful?
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That's what a changed life is all about,
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And his gratitude extends beyond me and our great staff.
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It belongs to every one of you
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Who support pathway to victory.
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Thank you for your partnership
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In piercing the darkness with the light of god's word.
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Now stay right there.
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I'll be back with more pathway to victory in just a moment.
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When unexpected challenges hit,
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It's easy to feel defeated and robbed of joy.
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But while we can't always choose our circumstances,
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We can always choose how we respond to them.
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In "choose your attitudes, change your life,"
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Dr. robert jeffress shares 11 proven attitude choices
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That will help you experience
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The abundant life god desires for you.
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The bible tells us that "as a person thinks
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Within himself, so is he."
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Our attitudes impact everything, our health,
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Our relationships, our work, and even our eternity.
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In my book, "choose your attitudes, change your life,"
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I walk you through 11 essential choices like purpose
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Over aimlessness, perseverance over defeat,
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And faith over worry.
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These biblical principles have transformed countless lives
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And they can transform yours as well.
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Request your copy
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Our attitude determines our destiny.
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Attitudes profoundly impact our life, our death,
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And our eternal destiny.
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Thank you for your generous support of pathway to victory.
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Your partnership helps us bring practical life-changing
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Biblical truth into homes across the nation
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And around the world.
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Just as wooden logs burned brightly when stacked together,
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Christians thrive when gathered in unity.
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I hope that you belong to a community of believers
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That's committed to keeping the flames
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Of fellowship burning brightly.
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Well, relationships are essential in the christian life,
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But none is more important than the one you enjoy
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With god himself.
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Next time we're talking about choosing intimacy
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With god over isolation.
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Stay tuned for a preview of what's coming up next
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On pathway to victory.
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You have to come to the understanding that true fulfillment
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Is really impossible apart from god.
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You know, nothing will block intimacy
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More than divided affections.
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We build our life around one thing, not many things.
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Set your dvr and join us next time for the message,
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Choosing intimacy with god over isolation
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Here on pathway to victory.
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Picture this, waking up to snow capped peaks
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Robert Jeffress - Choosing Companionship Over Loneliness (Part 2)

March 27, 2026 | 27:29

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