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Robert Jeffress - Good Grace and Divorce

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Dr. Robert Jeffress | Robert Jeffress - Good Grace and Divorce | April 24, 2026

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[announcer] from the pulpit of the first baptist church
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Of dallas, texas, this is pathway to victory,
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With dr. robert jeffress.
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[robert] hi, i'm robert jeffress,
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And welcome again to pathway to victory.
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One of the saddest moments in anyone's life
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Is the dissolution of a cherished relationship,
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And none is more painful than a broken marriage
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That ends in divorce.
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But to think that followers of christ
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Would never encounter such a tragedy
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Is blissfully ignorant.
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It can happen to anyone.
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Today i want to show you exactly what the bible says
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And doesn't say about the volatile issue of divorce.
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My message is titled, "good grace and divorce"
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On today's edition of pathway to victory.
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[announcer] some christians use grace
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What biblical grace actually looks like,
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[robert] well, in our current series, 'grace gone wild,'
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We're looking at god's amazing gift of grace
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And how some people have perverted that gift, grace,
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Into a licensed to sin.
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If i'm forgiven, why can't i do whatever i want to do?
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And we've talked about the difference
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Between good grace that encourages obedience
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Out of gratitude,
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And bad grace that perverts
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The doctrine of forgiveness.
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Last time we begin looking at how
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A proper understanding of grace
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Should impact our view of marriage.
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And we said the perversion of grace,
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Bad grace, promotes three lies about marriage.
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We looked at the first two last time.
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Lie number one deals with the formation of marriage.
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It's the lie that says,
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I can marry whomever i want to marry,
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Grace gives me the freedom to do that.
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The second lie has to do with fidelity in marriage.
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Bad grace says i can cheat on my mate
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Without any lasting consequences.
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And today we're going to look at the third lie
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About marriage that deals with the finality of marriage.
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Bad grace says i am free to divorce
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If i am unhappy.
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If i'm unhappy in my relationship,
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Grace gives me the freedom to divorce.
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Now, to introduce this topic today,
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I thought i would give you three different scenarios,
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And see how you would respond to each one.
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Scenario number one.
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You're the member of a large church
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With a well-known pastor.
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One sunday morning he carefully announces
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To the congregation that his marriage of 25 years is ending
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Due to irreconcilable differences.
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He assures the members that there is no immorality involved,
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But divorce seems to be the only option.
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The church is divided on whether he should remain as pastor.
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Some argue that if his own home is in disarray,
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He's disqualified from serving
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According to 1 timothy 3.
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But others say the pastor needs grace, not judgment,
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During this difficult time in his life.
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Even if he hasn't been an ideal husband,
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Who among us has been a perfect marriage partner?
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Doesn't god's grace cover all of our inadequacies?
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A church business meeting is scheduled to vote
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On whether or not to retain the pastor.
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How will you vote?
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Scenario number two.
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A close friend confides to you that she has discovered
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Her husband is addicted to pornography.
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She also has discovered receipts in his pockets
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Indicating that he has visited
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Some upscale gentleman's clubs
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While out of town on business.
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While there's no indication
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That he has slept with other women,
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Your friend is devastated by her husband's betrayal.
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When she confronts him about it, he says,
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"i'm sorry for hurting you but i can't help myself."
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He refuses to seek counseling
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And makes no promises to stop his behavior.
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Your friend says, "i don't know how i can ever
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Allow him to touch me again.
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Even though he's not guilty of adultery, technically,
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Hasn't he committed spiritual adultery
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By lusting after these other women?
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I want a divorce."
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What advice would you give to your friend?
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Third scenario.
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Your recently married daughter calls you in tears,
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"i just can't take it any longer.
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Ken is abusing me and i don't want to live any longer
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If it means staying married to him."
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Alarmed, you ask if he's physically assaulting her.
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"no, it's worse than that," she says,
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"he is always berating me, telling me i'm worthless.
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He goes into uncontrollable fits of rage.
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Although he has not hit me yet,
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I'm afraid that he will,
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That he'll eventually hurt me or even kill me.
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I want out of this marriage."
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What counsel would you provide for your daughter?
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Few topics generate as much controversy in the church
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As the subject of divorce.
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The hottest deacons meeting i ever attended
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In my last church
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Had nothing to do with church government,
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Or eschatological issues.
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It had to do with the subject of whether a divorced man
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Ought to be able to serve as a deacon or not.
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Some in the group argued
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That even though the bible may allow
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For divorce and remarriage,
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We ought to have a higher standard for leaders.
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Others in the group argued,
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Shouldn't we be dispensers of grace,
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Especially to those who are hurt by an unwanted divorce?
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And on and on the argument raged.
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How does a proper understanding of grace
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Relate to divorce and remarriage?
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Admittedly, there are some who want
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To set an unreasonable standard.
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They say, no divorce and remarriage
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For any reason whatsoever,
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And when they're shown passages in the bible
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That seem to allow for divorce, they'll say,
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"well, that may be true,
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But we ought to seek god's best,"
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Or they'll give some tortured interpretation
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Of the text that makes no sense at all.
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There are those who want to raise god's standard.
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On the other hand, there are those who try to lower
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God's standard in this area of divorce.
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They say that grace gives us a free pass to exit
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A troubled marriage in search of greener pastures.
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It's not just adultery.
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What if you and your mate are incompatible?
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Or what if you have different life goals?
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Or what if you're mate is a financial time bomb
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Getting ready to explode?
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What if you're unhappy?
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Doesn't grace allow you to exit an unhappy marriage?
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Certainly god doesn't want you to spend
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The rest of your life unfulfilled, does he?
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I remember reading an article
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About a well-known christian singer.
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She had left her husband,
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And the father of her three children,
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To pursue a married man and they ended up getting married.
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And the end of the profile of this christian artist said,
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"at last, so and so is happy."
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In other words, that's the highest standard.
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What is it that makes me happy?
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For a follower of jesus christ,
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The issue is not what makes me happy,
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But what makes god happy.
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And so today we're going to look at what the bible says
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About grace and divorce.
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Now i want to offer this disclaimer
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For those of you here,
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And watching or listening to this service.
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I realize i'm talking to many of you
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Who have already divorced and perhaps remarried.
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And you're maybe a little bit defensive right now,
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A little fearful about what i'm going to say.
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The purpose of this message
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Is not to heap a pile of guilt upon you.
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But there are others of you
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Who are contemplating divorce right now.
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Maybe now or sometime in the future.
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Or you're giving counsel to somebody
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Who is seeking a divorce.
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This message is a warning
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About the consequences of divorce and remarriage
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For other than biblical reasons.
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Yes, every sin can be forgiven,
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But i don't know of any mistake
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That has more lasting consequences
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Than divorcing for non-biblical reasons.
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And so today we're going to be balanced
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In what we say about grace and divorce.
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When you look at the scriptures,
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There are two principles about grace and divorce
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That we need to understand.
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Principle number one, write it down,
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Good grace recognizes that divorce and remarriage
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Are permissible in two situations.
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Not three situations, not one, not none.
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There are two situations
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In which god allows divorce and remarriage.
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The first situation is adultery. adultery.
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Let's go back and turn to matthew 19 for a moment.
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Remember, the pharisees were trying to trick jesus.
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They were trying to test him, discredit him.
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"and so some of the pharisees came to jesus,
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Testing him and saying,
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'is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife
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For any cause at all?'"
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Why was this a trick question?
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Because the jews were divided on it.
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There was a popular rabbi of the day named rabbi shammai
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And he was in the school of,
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No divorce for any reason whatsoever.
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However, there was another rabbi, rabbi hillel,
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Who had a following of jews and he said
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You can divorce your wife for any reason.
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So when they asked this question of jesus,
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They were saying, which camp do you fall in?
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No divorce at all or divorce for any reason.
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Whatever he answered,
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He was guaranteed to offend half of his audience.
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But notice how jesus responded.
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Verse four, "he answered them and said,
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'have you not read?'"
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You're supposed to be experts in the law, pharisees,
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Go back to the beginning.
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"'have you not read that he who created them
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From the beginning made them male and female.'
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Then he said, 'for this cause a man
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Shall leave his father and mother
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And be joined to his wife,
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And the two shall become one flesh.
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They are no longer two but one.
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What therefore god has joined together,
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Let no man separate.'"
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That's god's plan,
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One man with one woman in a lifetime commitment
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Called marriage.
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Well, the pharisees asked the question,
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"but what about the old testament law?
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There were allowances for divorce in that?"
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Jesus said in matthew 19:9,
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"i say to you, whoever divorces his wife,
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Except for immorality,
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And marries another woman, commits adultery."
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Jesus said there's one exception
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To this one man with one woman for life,
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And it is immorality.
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Immorality.
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What is he talking about?
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Again, remember i said there's some people
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Who try to give this tortured interpretation.
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Some people say, "well, what jesus was talking about
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Was the betrothal period, the engagement period."
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If one of the mates is unfaithful
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During the engagement period,
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You can break off the marriage,
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Just like joseph was tempted to do with mary.
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Well, that's illogical because it's clear,
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He's not talking about the betrothal period,
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He's talking about marriage.
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That's what the pharisees question was about.
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No, it means what it says.
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Immorality refers to adultery.
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If your mate commits adultery,
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You're not commanded to get divorced,
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But you're allowed to get divorced.
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Now, the bible gives one additional exception,
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Allowance for divorce and remarriage
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And it's found in 1 corinthians 7.
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Turn there to 1 corinthians 7.
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Remember, jesus ministered in the early 30s ad,
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20 years later, paul started ministering.
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And there are all kind of questions in the corinthian church
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About divorce and remarriage,
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And here's why.
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During that 20 years since the time of christ
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And the apostle paul,
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Christianity began to spread like wildfire
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Through the roman empire.
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And it created all kind of problems
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That jesus didn't address,
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But paul addressed them.
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And the major problem was, okay, what happens.
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With all these people becoming christians,
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What if they are married to a non-christian?
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What if both were unsaved,
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One spouse becomes a christian
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And is still married to a non-christian?
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What are you supposed to do in that situation?
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And so in verse 10, paul starts by affirming
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What jesus said.
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He said "to the married, i give instructions.
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And by the way, this is not i, it is the lord,
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That is that the wife should not leave her husband."
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Paul was affirming what jesus said.
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The people are to remain married.
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But by embracing what jesus said,
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Obviously he was embracing the exception
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Of adultery as well.
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Look at verse 11.
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She's to remain married.
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"but if she does leave,
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She must remain unmarried,
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Or else be reconciled to her husband,
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And that the husband should not divorce his wife."
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This is a case of where a woman,
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A christian wants to leave her non-christian husband
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For some other reason than adultery.
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Maybe again, it is physical abuse.
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Paul said, "if you find yourself having to leave
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And you do leave, you can leave,
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But you have to remain unmarried."
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I want to be very clear here.
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Nowhere in the scripture
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Does the bible tell women who are suffering physical abuse
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To stay in that situation.
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Women, if you are listening to this message right now
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And you are suffering or you are being threatened,
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Or your children are with physical abuse,
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Get out of that house.
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God does not require you to live in that situation.
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The sanctity of life refers more
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Than just to life inside the womb,
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Life is sacred outside the womb too.
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God hates violence.
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Genesis 6 says that the reason god destroyed
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The entire world with a flood
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Was because of violence.
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God hates it when people commit violence
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Against one another.
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You are free, under scripture,
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To get out of that house and to protect yourself
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And your children.
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But if you end up divorcing,
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Paul's instruction was you have to remain unmarried
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Or go back to your husband.
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Verse 12, "but to the rest i say, not the lord,
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If any man has a wife who's an unbeliever
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And she consents to live with him,
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He must not divorce her."
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If you are married to an unbeliever right now,
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And he or she wants to continue the marriage,
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You are obligated to stay in that marriage situation.
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Situation number three,
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What if a christian is deserted by his non-christian mate?
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There are some teachers, i've heard them say this,
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"oh, you ought to do whatever you can
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To keep that marriage together.
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The marriage relationship is the most important thing
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In the world, and if that means quit going to church,
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Then quit going to church.
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If it means quit tithing, quit tithing,
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But keep that marriage together,
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Because after all, you might even end up winning
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That un-christian mate to the lord."
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Is that what paul says? not on your life.
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In verse 15 he says,
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"if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave."
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Let him leave, let him go.
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The brother or sister is not under ******* in such cases,
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For god has called us to peace.
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In fact, paul goes on to say,
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Why would you compromise your faith?
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How do you know if you are going to win
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That mate to christ ever?
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How do you know if they'll ever become a christian?
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No, if they threaten to leave, let them leave.
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You are no longer under *******.
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And we saw that in verse 39 of 1 corinthians 7,
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That means you're free to remarry.
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To not be under ******* means a freedom to remarry.
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Now the question always comes up,
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Well, this deals with an unbelieving mate who leaves?
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What about your mate who is a christian who leaves?
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What about that situation?
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I would just say,
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They may say they're a christian.
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You don't know if they're a christian or not.
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But one thing is for sure, if they leave you,
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They're acting like a non-christian.
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And i believe under that situation, the same words apply.
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You're not under *******,
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You can't control what somebody else does or doesn't do.
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God gives you the freedom to remarry.
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But even though good grace
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Allows for divorce and remarriage in those situations,
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There's a second principle about good grace
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That we need to understand,
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And that is that good grace emphasizes god's desire
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For permanence in marriage.
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We ought to always emphasize god's desire
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For permanence in marriage.
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Look at genesis 2:24.
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"therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother
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And shall cleave unto his wife,
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And they shall be one flesh."
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That word cleave in hebrew
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Means to stick together in an indissoluble bond.
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You become one flesh,
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One emotionally, spiritually with that other person.
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It's an indissoluble bond.
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In fact, interestingly, that same hebrew word
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Is used elsewhere in scripture to describe
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Our relationship with god.
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In deuteronomy 10:20, god said,
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"you shall fear the lord your god.
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You shall serve him and cling to him,
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Literally cleave to him and you shall swear by his name."
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Look, when you become a christian, you are cleaving to god,
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He is cleaving to you.
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When you become a christian,
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And you cleave to god, you say,
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"god, i'm going to love you with all of my heart.
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I'm going to serve you with all of my heart.
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Unless of course i find another god i like better.
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In case we fall out of love with one another, god,
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Then we're free to go pursue whoever we want to."
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No, that is unthinkable.
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It's an indissoluble bond we have with god
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And he has with us.
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The same is true with our marriage partner.
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Malachi 2:16 god says, "i hate divorce."
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He didn't say, i hate divorced people.
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He said, i hate the process of divorce.
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And the reason god hates divorce
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Is because of what it does to the people
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Inside that marriage.
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Divorce is not just the destruction of a marriage,
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It's the destruction of the people
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Who make up that marriage.
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Arthur philip yancy, his catalog,
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Just some of the natural results of the divorce
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And what it does to people,
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He writes,
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"divorce dramatically increases
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The likelihood of early death from strokes,
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Hypertension, respiratory cancer, and intestinal cancer.
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Astonishingly, being divorced and a non-smoker
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Is only slightly less dangerous
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Than smoking a pack or more cigarettes every day
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And staying married.
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Divorce also disrupts mental health, especially for men.
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The suicide rate for white males
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Goes up by a factor of four with divorce,
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And they have 10 times the probability
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Of needing psychiatric care.
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Divorce also takes a devastating toll on children.
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Proportionately, twice as many criminals
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Come from single parent homes.
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Indeed, a family structure proves more effective
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Than economic status
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In predicting a life in crime for children.
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Children from broken homes are also more likely
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To do poorly in school,
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Abuse drugs and attempt suicide."
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That's why i say divorce not only destroys a marriage,
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It destroys the people inside of that marriage.
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And that's why good grace always will emphasize god's desire
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For permanence in a marriage relationship.
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Good grace acknowledges that divorce is unavoidable
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In some circumstances.
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Good grace doesn't heap guilt
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On those who divorce for biblical reasons.
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But good grace will also treat divorce as a last resort,
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Not a first resort for a troubled marriage.
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And when given the opportunity to extend grace,
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Good grace will always encourage us
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To be dispensers of grace
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For those who ask for it,
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Instead of dispensers of justice.
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After all, isn't that what we desire from god,
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Grace, not justice.
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[robert] there are too many christians today
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Who have taken this marvelous gift of grace
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And perverted it.
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[robert] divorce is one of the most painful experiences
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A person can go through.
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And whether you've lived it yourself,
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Or you've watched someone you love walk through it,
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God's word offers both clear boundaries
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And genuine compassion.
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Well, very few churches today practice biblical discipline.
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Some christians even argue that we have no right
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To correct a fellow believer.
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But next time we'll discover
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That we not only have the right
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To confront sinning christians,
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We have the responsibility to do so.
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Stay tuned for a preview of what's coming up next
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In our series, "grace gone wild."
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Church discipline.
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I mean, do we really want to go around
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Correcting others sinning members in the church?
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Don't most of us have enough planks in our own eyes
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To be concerned about the speck
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In other people's eyes?
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Bad grace, the perversion of grace teaches
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That christians have no right to ever judge the behavior
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Of other members in the church.
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Robert Jeffress - Good Grace and Divorce

April 24, 2026 | 27:29

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