Dr. Robert Jeffress

Robert Jeffress - Graze In Your Own Pasture - Secret #5 (Part 1)

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Dr. Robert Jeffress | Robert Jeffress - Graze In Your Own Pasture - Secret #5 (Part 1) | July 20, 2026

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With dr. robert jeffress.
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Dr. robert jeffress: hi, i'm robert jeffress, and welcome
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Again to "pathway to victory."
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Nobody enters into a marriage with plans to have an affair, at
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Least i would surely hope not, yet in today's
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America an alarming number of couples
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Are filing for divorce due to infidelity.
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Why are so many marriages coming to this untimely end?
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Today, i'm going to address the highly sensitive topic of
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Extramarital affairs, why they happen, and how we
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Can keep them from destroying our lives.
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My message is titled "graze in your own pasture"
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On today's edition of "pathway to victory."
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Announcer: god wants you to experience his best in every
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In "the solomon's secrets," dr. robert jeffress draws on the
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Life of the wisest and most successful man who ever lived to
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Bring you ten life-changing principles from proverbs.
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Jeffress: i read the account of a group of florida teenagers
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Who were found guilty of a brutal murder.
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They had taken the lives of three innocent citizens.
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Their weapon was neither a gun nor a knife.
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In fact, these teenagers were not even present when their
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Victims were killed, but they were guilty of the crime.
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As a prank, these teenagers had removed the
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Stop signs at a four-way intersection.
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The result was motorists when they
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Should have stopped, they proceeded.
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The result was a fiery crash that cost them their lives.
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Today, we're living in a culture in which people are trying to
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Remove the stop signs that god has put
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Into place, stop signs for our benefit.
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Our culture is telling us that it's okay to
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Proceed when god has said to stop.
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They're telling us it's okay to engage
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In behavior which god has forbidden.
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And whenever we ignore god's stop signs, god's boundaries in
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Our life, the result are much more catastrophic
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Than even a fiery automobile crash.
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Today as we continue our series on the book of proverbs, we're
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Going to look at one of those stop signs that
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God has put into effect for our benefit.
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It's a stop sign that is being routinely ignored today.
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But if we are going to master the art of living well, which is
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What proverbs and this series is all about,
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We have to pay attention to this stop sign.
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Our sexual behavior,
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And the stop sign is very clear.
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It's very simple.
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God's word says no sex outside of marriage.
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That boundary, that stop sign has been put into effect for our
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Benefit yet when we ignore it we're putting our emotional, our
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Spiritual, and even our financial well-being at risk.
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Instead of ignoring that stop sign, solomon, the wisest man
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Who ever lived, learned the hard way that the best way to
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Experience emotional and sexual fulfillment in life is to follow
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God's guideline, which is simply to graze in your own pasture.
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Let's look at that in the scripture today.
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If you have your bibles, i want you to turn to
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Proverbs chapter 5, proverbs chapter 5.
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Once i was speaking at a family conference, and one evening i
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Spoke on the subject of adultery, and i closed my
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Message by saying to the audience that night, "there are
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Some of you here this evening who are engaged in an affair, in
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A relationship with someone other than your mate.
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You think nobody knows what you're up to.
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That may or may not be true, but god knows,
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God's watching, and god will judge."
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And i closed with proverbs 5:21, "for the ways
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Of a man are before the eyes of the lord,
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And he watches over all of his paths."
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We finished the conference, and amy and i were
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Walking down to the ice cream stand where people
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Would gather after the evening conference.
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And amy always gives me good feedback on my messages,
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And she said, "now, robert, wasn't that a
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Little over the top, a little melodramatic?
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I mean, how do you know somebody in that conference
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Was engaged in an extramarital affair?"
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Thirty minutes later we're standing there eating our ice
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Cream and socializing with the conference people,
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The conference director comes up to me
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And he says, "how did you know?
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How did you know?" i said, "how did i know what?"
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Said, "how did you know that this week one of the
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Conference participants has been engaged in
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An open affair with somebody else's wife?"
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Well, the fact is i didn't know, but i knew in a crowd that size,
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I know in a crowd this size that there are some of you who
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Are engaged in sexual sin right now.
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I've seen it for 30 years in ministry over and over again, a
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Father locked in a bitter custody battle for his children
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Because his wife has left him for another man or even another
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Woman, or a wife who feels belittled and betrayed because
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Of her husband's addiction to pornography, or a christian
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Leader who has to give up his ministry all because of an
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Improper relationship with a counselee.
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All we have to do is look around and see
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The effects of sexual immorality.
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They are everywhere.
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Solomon understood perhaps better than
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Anyone the cost of sexual immorality.
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Do you remember the circumstances
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Regarding solomon's life?
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Remember his parents, king david and the woman bathsheba?
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Bathsheba and david had been involved in that illicit affair
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That was the scandal of the kingdom of israel.
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As a result of that illicit affair, they produced a child
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Who died as a result of god's judgment.
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They later tried to legitimize their relationship,
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And they got married, david and bathsheba,
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And they produced a child named solomon.
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But even though god forgave david of his
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Affair with bathsheba, david spent the rest of
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His life suffering the consequences of that affair.
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Those consequences included the divided kingdom,
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A disloyal son, and a dead child.
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You would think that solomon would
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Have learned, but he didn't.
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The fact is solomon inherited his father's
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Proclivity for sexual immorality.
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By the way, dads here today, if you're living an immoral life,
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Don't be surprised when your sons and
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Daughters fall into immorality as well.
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They learn that behavior from you.
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I'm reading right now the new biography on joseph kennedy sr.,
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The patriarch of the kennedy clan.
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If you want to understand the sexual--the well
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Documented sexual immorality of john f. kennedy
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And his older brother joe jr. and ted kennedy, all you
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Have to do is look at what they saw in their father.
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In fact, the book says that the sons when they came of age and
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Began to get involved sexually, they talked about their dad and
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All of his young girlfriends that he kept around him.
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They learned that behavior from their dad,
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And, dads, the same thing is true of you.
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If you're engaged in sexual immorality,
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Your kids will pick up on it.
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There are some things that are better caught than taught.
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That's both true positively and negatively.
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Your kids are watching you, and they are
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Going to imitate your behavior.
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That's exactly what happened to solomon.
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Late in life he collected these proverbs and he talked
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About the cost of sexual immorality.
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What happens to a person who falls into sexual immorality?
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Just jot down some of these verses.
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Proverbs 5, verses 3 to 5 and 8 to 9.
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"for the lips of an adulteress drip honey, and smoother than
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Oil is her speech; but in the end she is bitter as
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Wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword.
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Her feet go down to death.
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Her steps lay hold of sheol.
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Keep your way far from her; and do not go near
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The door of her house, lest you give your vigor to
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Others and your years to the cruel one."
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Or proverbs 6, verses 26 and 27, "for on account
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Of a harlot one is reduced to a loaf of bread,
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An adulteress hunts for the precious life.
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Can a man take fire in his bosom and others and not be burned?"
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Verses 32 and 33 of proverbs 6, "the one who commits
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Adultery with a woman is lacking sense.
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He who would destroy himself does it.
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Wounds and disgrace he will find, and his
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Reproach will not be blotted out."
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Or proverbs 22, verse 14, "the mouth
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Of an adulteress is a deep pit.
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He who is cursed of the lord will fall into it."
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You get the idea.
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Why is it that intelligent men and women many of whom claim to
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Be christians, why is it so many of them are willing to
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Jeopardize their career, abandon their families, and
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Even reject their faith in order to follow and
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Fall into a relationship that is destined to fail?
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Remember the bible says as a man is in
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His heart that is his mind so is he?
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All immorality begins in the mind.
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There is wrong thinking that leads a person into sexual
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Immorality, and today for the few minutes that we have, we're
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Going to look at what i call five fatal fallacies found in
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The book of proverbs, five fatal fallacies in our thinking that
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Lead to sexual immorality and especially adultery.
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Let's jot those down today.
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Number one, what's the fallacy, the error
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That leads us into sexual immorality?
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It's the thought that, "it could never happen to me.
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It could never happen to me."
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Now, speaking of stop signs, i need to stop
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Here and give a word of explanation.
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When solomon writes about sexual immorality, he is primarily
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Referring to adultery, but this stop sign that says
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No sex out of marriage talks about any kind of
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Sex outside of the marriage relationship.
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In 1 corinthians 6, verse 18 paul wrote, "flee immorality for
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Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but
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The immoral man sins against his own body."
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That word immorality in greek is the word porneia.
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We get our word pornography from it.
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And the word porneia is an umbrella term.
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It refers to any kind of sexual activity
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Outside of the marriage relationship.
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For example, for single adults it would be fornication.
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When a single adult engages in sex with someone
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Other than his mate, that is fornication,
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Sex outside of the marriage relationship.
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Homosexuality, that is sex with somebody of the same sex.
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That is without, out of the bounds of god's relationship.
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Pornography, porneia, immorality; graphe, writing;
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That is receiving sexual fulfillment from sexual writing
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Or in today's world the internet or digitally.
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Any sex outside of the marriage relationship
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Is classified as immorality.
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And the reason i mentioned that is because today we're going to
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Talk about what solomon says specifically about adultery, but
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What he says about adultery is also true about fornication,
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Premarital sex, it's true about homosexuality,
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It's true about pornography as well.
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Now, what does the bible say about this?
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Well, first of all, the bible says don't ever fool yourself
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Into saying, "it could never happen to me."
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Some of you are already starting to feel
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A little self-righteous right now.
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You say, "well, pastor, i could never fall into doing that."
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Don't fool yourself.
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The fact is any one of us is capable
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Of falling into sexual immorality.
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I'm capable of falling into sexual immorality,
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And the reason is twofold.
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The reason all of us are susceptible to sexual
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Immorality is, first of all, because we
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Have all inherited a corrupt nature.
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In romans 5, verse 12 paul says, "for through one man," adam,
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"sin came into the world, and death spread
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To all men because all men sinned."
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Every one of us have inherited this proclivity
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Toward immorality, toward sin.
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We have this corrupt nature.
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The russian dissident, aleksandr solzhenitsyn, said, "the line
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That divides good and evil runs through the heart of every man."
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Every one of us is capable because
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Of this inherited corrupt nature.
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But there's a second reason we're all susceptible to this
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Sin, and that is because we have an active opponent.
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We have an enemy who has set his sights
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To destroy every one of us.
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In ephesians 6, verses 11 and 12 paul writes,
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"put on the full armor of god, that you may be able to
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Stand firm against the schemes of the devil.
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For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the
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Rulers, against the powers, against the world
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Forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces
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Of wickedness in the heavenly places."
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Did you get that word in verse 11?
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We're to stand firm against the schemes of the devil.
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Remember that word schemes, methodeía
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In greek, literally means the blueprint.
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Do you understand that satan has
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A blueprint for your destruction?
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Satan has a unique, custom-made plan to bring you down.
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He has a plan to destroy everything important to you in
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Life, and part of that plan not only includes the destruction of
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Your faith but the dissolution of your marriage.
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He wants to bring you down morally, and he has a
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Plan to do just that, and it's a plan that
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Is uniquely crafted just for you.
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You know, some people ask, "well, is satan omniscient?
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Does he know everything?" no.
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"is he omnipotent? can he do all things?"
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No, he's not. "is he omnipresent?
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Is he everywhere at once?" no.
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But even though satan isn't omniscient, even though he can't
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Read your mind, the fact is he doesn't have to because he
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Watches you very carefully and he knows exactly when you are
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Most vulnerable towards sexual immorality.
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Listen to what james said in james 1:14.
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"but each one of us is tempted when he is carried
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Away and enticed by his own lust."
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That refers to our corrupt nature that we have.
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What is it that causes sin?
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It's, first of all, our own corrupt nature.
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We're tempted when we are carried away, that
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Is drawn, but also when we are enticed.
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That word enticed, you've heard me say
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Before, is a fishing term.
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You know how a fisherman does his thing.
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He'll take a piece of bait and he will put it on
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A hook and he drops a--plops it in the water
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At just the right spot hopefully.
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And when that fish who is blinded by hunger sees that
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Bait, that fish snaps at the bait not realizing that in the
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Middle of it is a hook that's going to destroy him.
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Listen to this.
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Satan is a master fisherman.
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He already knows you have that hunger.
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We all have that hunger toward emotional and sexual
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Fulfillment, and he knows just the right time to plop that
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Piece of temptation right in front of us.
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He knows when we're hungriest.
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He knows when we're most vulnerable, and at that most
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Vulnerable time in our life when we are most craving that
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Emotional and sexual fulfillment, he drops that
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Bait in front of us and people snap at it.
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They bite at it not realizing that right in the center is a
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Hook that will cost them their life.
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That's how sexual temptation works.
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My friend and late mentor, dr. howard hendricks, told me one
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Time that he used to keep with him a little black book,
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Not the kind you're thinking about.
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It was a different kind of little black book.
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In that black book he had recorded the names of every
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Pastor he knew, every friend, every colleague
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Who had fallen into sexual immorality.
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He said one day he was on a plane and he took that book out
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And started looking at that list of names.
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It had grown to 100 people, 100 pastors and christian leaders.
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And he said, you know, "i wondered is there any common
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Denominator among these 100 men?"
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And there was.
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He said the common denominator was every one of
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Them thought it could never happen to him.
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Don't let yourself think that you are above this,
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That it could never happen to you.
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In proverbs 18, verse 12 solomon says, "before
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Destruction the heart of a man is haughty,"
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Prideful, "but humility goes before honor."
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Listen to me.
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Our corrupt nature that we all have, our active opponent, satan
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Himself, whom we all have means not one of us here today is
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Exempt from the possibility of sexual immorality.
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Fallacy number two that leads to immorality
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And destruction, "we are only friends.
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We are only friends."
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You know, most affairs, most sexual immorality
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Begins as a friendship that is set to meet some
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Great emotional need that we have.
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Marriage counselor and author, dr. carlfred broderick, has
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Interviewed dozens of couples, all of whom had pledged
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Themselves to sexual fidelity and marriage and
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All of whom fell into sexual immorality, and after
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His study this is what he concluded.
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He said, "i'm convinced that more people get themselves into
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The pain of infidelity through empathy, concern,
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And compassion than through any base motive.
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The world is full of lonely and vulnerable people hungry for a
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Sympathetic ear and a shoulder to cry on."
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Solomon understood that.
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He knew how easy it was for friends to turn into lovers, and
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That's why he said in proverbs 4, verse 23, "watch over your
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Heart with all diligence, for from it,"
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Your heart, "flow the springs of life."
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You see, the fact is, ladies and gentlemen,
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Most affairs don't begin in the bedroom.
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They begin in the heart.
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Usually somebody or both parties are looking for fulfillment
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Outside of the relationship that they're engaged in and what
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Happens is they find a sympathetic and empathetic ear
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And very quickly it degenerates into sexual expression.
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In fact, it's interesting to me how many times in proverbs
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Solomon connects sexual immorality with the spoken word.
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Jot these verses down.
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Proverbs 2, verse 16, "to deliver you from the strange
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Woman," that's the adulteress, "from the
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Adulteress who flatters with her words."
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Or proverbs 5, verse 3, "for the," what?
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"the lips of an adulteress drip honey,
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And smoother than oil is her speech."
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Or proverbs 7, verse 5, "that they may keep you from an
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Adulteress, from the foreigner who flatters with her words."
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Now, i'm not saying for those of you who are married that that
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Means you never ever engage in a conversation with somebody of
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The opposite sex, but what i am saying and more importantly what
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God's word is saying, you better be very careful.
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You better be very careful about speaking to someone of the
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Opposite sex who is not your mate because what can begin as
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An innocent superficial conversation can suddenly turn
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Into an intimate conversation that meets some deep emotional
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Need that you or that other person has, forming an emotional
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Bond that eventually expresses itself sexually.
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And that's why we need to be very careful
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About friendships with those people of the
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Opposite sex who are not our mate.
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How do you know?
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How can you know if a friendship you have with somebody of the
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Opposite sex is wrong, is dangerous?
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You know, i have found in my experience as a pastor that when
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It comes to this idea of having relationships with people other
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Than your mate, there are two groups of people,
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Basically.
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There's one group of people who get as close to the line
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As possible without crossing over it.
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The other people, the other group,
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Are those people who run as far as they can from that line.
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They're always on guard.
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Jeffress: solomon shared this wisdom with married couples.
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Drink water from your own cistern
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And fresh water from your own well.
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Such an eloquent way to describe the benefits
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Of faithfulness in marriage.
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Well, there's much more we need to discover from proverbs
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Chapter 6, so i hope you'll make plans to join us next time.
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But right now i want to share how grateful i am to have such a
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Jeffress: solomon had more wealth and opportunity than
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Anyone of his era.
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Build your life on the wisdom god provides.
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In my book, "the solomon secrets," i'll show you how to
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Your career, your finances, and so much more.
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With the light of god's word.
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Jeffress: god's word clearly says no sex outside
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Of marriage, and for good reason.
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When we ignore that boundary, we put our spiritual, emotional,
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And even our financial well-being at risk.
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Both solomon and his father david learned
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That lesson the hard way, and their painful
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Experiences serve as a warning to us today.
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We don't have to make that same mistake.
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Make plans to join us again next time as
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We continue to work through these five
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Fatal fallacies that lead to immorality.
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Stay tuned for a preview of what's coming
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Up next on "pathway to victory."
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Jeffress: no, it's time to start telling the truth about sin,
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Especially the truth about sexual immorality.
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Sexual immorality is fun, it's stimulating,
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It's exhilarating, for a season.
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For a season.
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Robert Jeffress - Graze In Your Own Pasture - Secret #5 (Part 1)

July 20, 2026 | 27:30

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