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Robert Jeffress - Moving From Bitterness To Forgiveness

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Dr. Robert Jeffress | Robert Jeffress - Moving From Bitterness To Forgiveness | July 16, 2025

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[announcer] from the pulpit of the first baptist church
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Of dallas, texas, this is "pathway to victory"
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With dr. robert jeffress.
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Hi, i am robert jeffress.
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Welcome again to "pathway to victory".
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When someone offends us, anger is a natural response,
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But when we allow that anger
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To simmer the real problems, begin.
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Unresolved anger festers into bitterness
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And bitterness is like a deadly poison.
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Today we're going to talk about how to overcome resentment
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Before it completely destroys the blessed life
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God has planned for us.
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My message is titled,
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"moving from bitterness to forgiveness".
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As we continue our series "invincible"
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On today's edition of "pathway to victory".
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Obstacles like doubt, bitterness,
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It's an old story, but it's still one of my favorites.
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The story about the man who was bitten
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By a dog was later discovered to have rabies.
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They rushed the man to the hospital and did test
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And discovered that he too
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Had contracted the dreaded disease.
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This was in the day before there was any cure for rabies.
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So the doctor had the choice of informing his patient
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That his case was both terminal and incurable.
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We'll try to do everything we can
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The doctor said to make you comfortable,
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But i strongly urge you to get your affairs together
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As quickly as possible.
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Well, the patient was stunned, he couldn't believe it.
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Finally, he summoned the strength to ask for some paper
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And a pen, and he began to write as fast as he could.
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About an hour later, the doctor came by
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To check up on his patient
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And he saw that the man was still writing.
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The doctor said, well, i'm glad
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To see you're getting your will together.
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The man looked up and said, doc, this ain't no will.
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It's a list of all the people
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I'm going to bite before i die.
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(audience laughing)
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You know, we all carry around a list
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Like that in our minds, don't we?
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People we want to bite or at least get even with
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Before we die.
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Your list might include an employer who has mistreated you,
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Maybe a friend who betrayed you,
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Maybe a mate who abandoned you,
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Possibly even a relative who abused you.
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Have you discovered that you cannot control
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What other people do to you?
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As hard as you try?
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You cannot control what people do to you,
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But you can control your response
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To those hurts that come into your life.
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You can either release them, let them go,
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Or you can hold over onto them and turn them over
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And over again in your heart
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Until they metastasize into a tumor of bitterness.
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That's why the writer of hebrews said in hebrews 1215,
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"see to it that no one of you comes short
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Of the grace of god,
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That no root of bitterness bringing up causes trouble,
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And by it many be defiled."
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Bitterness is a deadly acid
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That not only destroys the container
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In which it's kept the heart,
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But when it seeps out, it destroys everyone
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And everything it comes into contact with.
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And today we're going to discover how to conquer,
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How to scale the mountain of bitterness
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By moving from bitterness to forgiveness.
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I can say without any hesitancy
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That no decision you make affects your physical, emotional,
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Or spiritual health anymore
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Than the issue we're talking about today.
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Moving from bitterness to forgiveness.
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If you have your bibles, turn to ephesians chapter four.
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Ephesians chapter four.
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First of all, what is the source of bitterness?
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Two words, unresolved anger.
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In fact, on your outline i put a little formula
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That will help you understand bitterness and it's cause.
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Unresolved anger plus time equals bitterness.
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Now, what is anger?
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Anger is the natural, physical
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And emotional reaction to perceived injustice.
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It is a natural, physical
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And emotional reaction to a perceived injustice.
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Let me ask you a question.
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Is love wrong?
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Well, it depends, doesn't it?
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If you're talking about loving your mate, loving god,
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Loving your children, no love isn't wrong, it's right.
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But if you're talking about loving somebody else's mate
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Or loving greed or loving pornography, then love is wrong.
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It depends.
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But notice about anger, you could say the same thing.
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Is anger wrong?
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Well, it depends.
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In ephesians chapter four, verses 26 and 27, look at this.
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Paul says, "be angry and yet do not sin."
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"do not let the sun go down on your anger
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And do not give the devil an opportunity."
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Isn't that interesting?
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Be angry, but don't sin.
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Never in the bible does it say, be lustful,
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But don't sin or be greedy but don't sin.
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Greed and lust are always wrong, but not anger.
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It depends upon how we respond to that anger.
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We talk about people in a blind rage,
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They can't even control themself.
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But other times when you get angry with somebody,
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Better sense prevails.
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Maybe it's with an employer or a maid,
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And you decide to internalize that feeling of anger.
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That's what malice is.
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Malice is that inward ill will you feel for another person.
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You're not overtly angry with them.
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In fact, people brag on you for
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How well you're controlling your anger,
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But inside your seething
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And you look for any opportunity to act
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Or speak against the other person
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Or to do them ill, that's malice.
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And the bible says, if you contain malice in your heart
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For a long enough period of time
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That turns in to bitterness.
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Make no mistake about it,
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Anger suppressed is just as deadly in your heart
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As anger expressed.
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And that's why again, hebrews 1215 says,
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"see to it that none of you come short
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With the grace of god,
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That no root of bitterness brings up and defiles many."
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What are the consequences
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Of long-term unresolved anger of bitterness?
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First of all, there are real physical consequences
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To bitterness.
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The late christian psychiatrist dr. frank minirth
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Noted that anger decreases the lymphocytes
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In our bodies and result in depressed antibodies necessary
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To fight infectious diseases.
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In fact, dr. minirth made this comment.
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He said, quote, "pent up anger is probably the leading
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Cause of death in america."
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Isn't that amazing?
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A doctor, a psychiatrist saying,
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"the leading cause of death in america is unresolved anger."
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Secondly, beyond physical consequences,
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There are emotional consequences.
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It gnaws at your very soul.
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But the physical emotional consequences
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Of bitterness pale in comparison
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To the spiritual consequences of bitterness.
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What happens spiritually when you refuse to forgive another?
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Remember the parable told in matthew chapter 18, by jesus,
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There was a slave who owed the king
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10,000 talents of gold.
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A talent was about 70 or 80 pounds of gold,
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And here was a slave who owed the king 10,000 talents.
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I did a calculation that would be about $16 billion
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In today's dollars.
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The slave owed him and the king said,
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"i want my money and i want it now."
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And the slave said, "king, please be patient
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And i will repay you everything."
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I'm not sure exactly how he planned to repay $16 billion,
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But he begged for mercy.
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And that hardened king, seeing that slave bow down
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And begged for his life, something was moved inside
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Of that hardened king.
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He had mercy on him and jesus said he forgave him.
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He released the slave of what was owed.
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The bible says, "the slave got up, thanked the king,
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And off he went."
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And his first stop was to a friend of his, a fellow slave
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Who owed him 100 denarii.
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A denarius was 16 cents, 100 denarii would be $16.
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And he grabbed that fellow slave by the nape of the neck
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And began to choke him and say, "repay me what you owe me."
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And that second slave said,
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"be patient with me and i will repay you everything."
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But unlike the king,
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This first slave was unwilling to forgive.
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And when the king heard about what had happened,
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He had that first slave dragged into the palace
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And seething with anger the king said,
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"how is it that you who have been forgiven
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So much could refuse to forgive so little?"
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And then the king ordered that the slave be turned over
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To the torturers in prison until he should repay everything.
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And then jesus added this to his audience.
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Matthew 1835, "so shall my heavenly father
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Do the same to you,
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If each of you does not forgive your brother
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From your heart."
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Don't try to explain away what jesus said.
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He was very clear.
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If you don't forgive others,
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God will not forgive you.
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Forgiveness is the obligation of those
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Who have been truly forgiven.
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But how do we move from bitterness to forgiveness?
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The bible gives us four important steps
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On that road to forgiveness.
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Number one, you have to acknowledge first of all
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That you have been wronged.
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You have to acknowledge you have been wronged.
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Some people try to be more spiritual than god is
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And they want to just say, well,
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Forgiveness means i'll just play like this never happened.
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I'll do this mind game and just erase this from my memory.
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No, that's not what forgiveness is.
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You cannot forgive somebody you're not willing to blame.
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Forgiveness is a debt.
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When somebody wrongs you, they owe you a very real debt.
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And until you acknowledge the wrong
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And the debt, you can never release somebody from it.
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I think about, for example, the story of joseph.
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We're going to look at the story of joseph this summer,
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But remember his story when he was a teenager,
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He was sold into slavery by his brothers
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And through a series of miraculous circumstances,
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He ended up being the second in command to pharaoh
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And egypt decades after his brothers wronged him
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And left him for dead.
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They were reunited with joseph.
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And remember what joseph said to them in genesis 50 20,
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He didn't say, guys, it's good to see you again.
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Let's just let bygones be bygones.
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Maybe you all were having a bad day
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And that's why you did what you did,
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But let's just forget about it.
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Did he say that?
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No.
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In genesis 50:20, joseph said to his brothers,
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"and as for you, you meant it for evil."
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He's very clear.
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What they did was wrong.
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And until you're willing to acknowledge what was done
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To you was wrong, you'll never be able to forgive again.
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You cannot forgive those.
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You're not first willing to blame.
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Acknowledge that you have been wronged.
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Secondly, trust in the sovereignty of god.
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Joseph didn't stop there.
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He said, "you meant it for evil,
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But god used it for good
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To bring about this present circumstance
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And to preserve many people alive."
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You remember the story because joseph ended up in egypt
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And became pharaoh's right hand man.
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He was able to provide food when there was a worldwide
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Famine, not only for egypt but for his brothers
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And father who were the nucleus of the nation of israel.
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I mean, think about it.
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Had there not been a joseph in egypt,
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This nucleus of the israelite nation,
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The 12 sons and jacob, they would've been obliterated.
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There would've been no israel.
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There would've been no jesus the savior of the world
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Who came from the line of david.
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None of that would've happened if joseph
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Had not ended up in egypt.
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And joseph wouldn't have been in egypt if his brothers
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Had not sold him into slavery.
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You meant it for evil, but god used it for god.
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You know what joseph was saying to his brothers?
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He said, "what you did was wrong,
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But thank god i serve a god who's bigger than you are,
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A god who has the power to take the worst things
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You did to me and still use them for good."
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Ladies and gentlemen, let me just say this.
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You will never be able to truly forgive
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Until you trust in the sovereignty of god,
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To believe in a god who is so big, so powerful, so loving.
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He can take the worst things people have ever done to you
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And use those things for your good and for his glory.
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Now, i want to be very careful here
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'cause i know this is a sensitive topic.
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They are some of you who are struggling right now
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With forgiving somebody who may have abused you
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Even as a child.
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I've talked to people who have gone through that horror
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And they said, pastor, i just can't believe in a god
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Who would have the power to have prevented that abuse
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Or have stopped that abuse and yet chose not to stop it.
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I can't believe in a god like that.
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And i understand that.
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I understand that sentiment,
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But i always try to gently say to them,
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Do you find more comfort in believing in a god
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Who wasn't able to stop the abuse?
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A god who doesn't have the power
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To control the circumstances of your life?
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Do you really want to serve a god that makes you nothing
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But a victim of random circumstances and random people
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And people are free to hurt you
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However they want to without any purpose at all?
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No.
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The comfort comes from believing in the god of the bible.
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The god who works in ways we don't understand.
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A god who would never condone evil or create evil,
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But is able to use evil
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To achieve his purpose in your life and for his glory.
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A god that paul described in romans 8:28,
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"a god who causes all things
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To work together for good to those who love him
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And those who are called according to his purpose."
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Sometimes like joseph, we get to see some good
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That comes out of the hurt we experienced.
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As an old man he was able to look back
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And say to his brothers, you meant it for evil.
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God used it for good.
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Many times we live
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And die without ever seeing the ultimate plan of god.
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It won't be till heaven that we get to see
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What that ultimate plan was.
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But whether we see it
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Or not, our healing comes from believing in that kind
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Of sovereign god who causes all things
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To work together for good.
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Third, how do you move from bitterness to forgiveness?
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Admit your own failures and receive god's forgiveness.
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You cannot give away something you don't have yourself.
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It is impossible for you
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To truly forgive others if you've not been forgiven by god.
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In the bible, there's an inseparable link
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Between receiving god's forgiveness
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And extending that forgiveness to others.
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I think about it as an emotional seesaw.
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You remember playing on seesaws when you were little.
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You know how it works.
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You get on one end and then hopefully somebody
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Of equal weight gets on the other end.
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And as long as you are balanced,
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The seesaw remains in equilibrium.
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But remember what would happen that jerk you were playing
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With would get off first
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And let you come crashing down the other side.
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Remember that?
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No, to maintain equilibrium,
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You had to maintain the weight on both ends of the seesaw.
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Now, think about that picture.
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Each one of us carries an emotional seesaw in our minds.
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On one end is guilt that we feel
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For things we've done wrong.
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And the only way we can keep from crashing down
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Is if we balance our guilt with blame toward other people
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Who have wronged us.
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And as long as we have the same amount of guilt
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And blame, we're able to rationalize things.
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But whenever you ask somebody to forgive another person,
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It's like asking that person on the blame end
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To get off the seesaw.
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And all you're left with is your guilt over what you've done
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And you come crashing down.
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No, the only way to keep an equilibrium is
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Before you forgive somebody else for what they've done
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And get rid of the blame.
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You have to get rid of your guilt.
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And the only way to get rid of your guilt
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Is through faith in jesus christ.
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The moment you trust in god for the forgiveness
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Of your sins, it removes the guilt that you have.
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And only then can you quit blaming other people
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For what they've done.
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And that's why ephesians 4:32 says,
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"be kind to one another,
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Tenderhearted, forgiving one another
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Just as god in christ has forgiven you."
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Does that make sense?
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You cannot give to others
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What you have not experienced yourself.
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And then finally, and most critically,
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Moving from bitterness to forgiveness,
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There has to come that time when you choose
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To forgive your offender,
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Just as there is a moment in time you choose
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To receive forgiveness.
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When you trust in christ as your savior,
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There has to be an actual time when you choose
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To release your offender of what they've done to you.
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Now remember, when you're forgiving,
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You're not denying the reality of the hurt.
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You're not diminishing it in any way.
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You're not even letting go of your desire to see
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That other person experience justice
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For what they've done to you.
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When you forgive what you're giving up is your right
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For vengeance, your right
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To hurt somebody else for hurting you.
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When you forgive somebody, what you're saying is, god,
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What this person did to me was terrible, it's wrong.
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They deserve to suffer for it,
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But i'm going to let you settle the score.
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Today i'm surrendering this offense
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To you so that i can be free to get on with my life.
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And by the way, you can do that regardless of
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What the other person does or doesn't do.
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Remember in matthew or mark 11:25, jesus said,
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"whenever you stand praying,
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Forgive if you have anything against anyone
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So that your father who is in heaven will also forgive you
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Of your transgressions."
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You can be sitting here in the pews
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Of first baptist church of dallas.
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You can be sitting watching on your laptop or television.
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It may be you haven't seen your offender in years.
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It may be they're even dead,
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But you and you alone have the power to forgive.
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You don't have to wait until that person asks
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For your forgiveness.
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You don't have to wait until they repent.
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You don't have to wait until they make some change.
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When you put conditions on your forgiveness,
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You're making yourself an emotional slave
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To that other person.
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But when you forgive, you're letting go
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So that you can be free to experience the abundant life
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That god has for you.
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And here's the best part, as louis mead says,
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"when you forgive, you set the prisoner free
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And the prisoner you set free is you."
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Perhaps you're listening right now
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That's in disrepair
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If there's one truth i want you
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To take away from today's program it's this,
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Forgiveness is a choice you make to let go
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Of your right to hurt someone else who has hurt you.
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Until the age of 18.
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I spent my life angry at my mother.
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Robert Jeffress - Moving From Bitterness To Forgiveness

July 16, 2025 | 29:0

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